15 Savage Reasons WHY MEN ARE USED By Women!
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- 15 Savage Reasons WHY MEN ARE USED By Women!... In the modern dating world, women use men quite often, and this dating advice will help you understand why men are used by women. Women use men on the first dates, while online dating, and sometimes elsewhere in the relationship. Embrace this dating advice for men and watch to the end to understand why women use men.
I want you to learn why men are used by women to gain insight into the underlying motivations that can lead to manipulation in relationships. Understanding why men are used by women will empower you to identify red flags early on and establish boundaries that safeguard your emotional health. Pay attention to this dating advice to learn why women use men.
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I get used aye
I am pissing of what women do, or try to manipulate, I am not their "wishlist"
Absolutely amazing and straight to the point, lovely look btw
I was involved with a woman like this. She brutally discarded me on our last date in late October and discovered she celebrated Valentine's day with the guy I found she left me for. A day that we planned to make things official.
I turn 40 in a few days and this experience was the final straw and I no longer have any interest in wanting to get involved with another woman again.
I now plan to spend my remaining time on this earth selfishly pursuing life on my own terms and living a meaningful and happy life alone.
*Pursuing life on your own terms and living a meaningful and happy life* helps build the self-respect a man needs to set and follow through on boundaries, thereby being able to attract better quality women while also filtering out the throwbacks.
@@YourWingmam I honestly don’t care. If she shows up, she’s happy to hop on board or leave. I’m no longer exerting any energy into a woman knowing you can never really make her happy.
You may not feel that now but one day you will find the person who will change your life there will be another you and her not ready to meet Ive been there
I was discarded the week before Valentine's Day and she was with him right after.
Thankfully we were not together long and it turned out she wasn't who I thought so it's actually been to my benefit she left.
I saw a couple red flags early on so I wasn't surprised at all.
If she was secretly shopping around she would have left eventually imo.
@@RetroCaptain Meh, they always do, if they're young enough and ambitious enough. Mine was old, tired, and had enough medical issues to keep her from wandering.
Gentlemen, NEVER allow yourself to be put in a situation that would not allow you to walk away immediately with no negative consequences.
For example in Is..am religion that right is secured by need to tell to woman face in public in presence of relatives that "I do not want you" three times It is absolutely valid divorce without st...id court and is approved by society. Effects in woman return to her family. Chiudren stay with "provider" - there it is obviously husband It is more moral than what we see in western law with all hurting both sides gimmicks and fight for money division and rights to claim from "provider" money for children. ,. In Is...m is much less divorces. The same more moral is asking for divorce to catholic church which do not judge about wealth, money and do not decide about future and financing of children beacause it supposed to be according to catholic religion.
This statement sounds like a sad and weak way to live life.
@@D_Jilla LOL But it's the truth that men need to know.
This is called a marriage, unfortunately
@@JL-yt5hy We should market a T-shirt that resembles the Nike T-shirt ("Just Do IT") that states "Don't Do It" LOL
My mother waited for her boyfriend to put the last peice of flooring down and then told him he wasnt good enough and dumped him.
Duh! Happens all the time, believe me.....
Ouch! Poor man who got played by your mother. Amazing that you noticed, hope you don't do the same to women.
I would have torn the floor up and walked out.
@@jackkonnof4106 I thought of that too.
Wow that's really cold
Today kindness doesn't attract people anymore
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I respectfully disagree... Kindness doesn't attract the WRONG kind people. Which is a good thing!! It does attract the right kind 😊
Being an active "man of action" and living a good life will attract a woman. Kindness seals the deal - but doesn't create it.
I think men are not kind to good women, only to good-looking women.
THAT is exactly it, being kind, and loving means nothing to MOST OF THEM
That's why I walk alone
🙏 ❤️
As do I. Drama-free, Sigma male. Your time is you time. Your money is your money. A few friends, maybe an occasional FWB - but I'll never get married.
@@davek5777 You love your money and don`t whine everywhere about women. You don`t love women.
@@marguskiis7711 HeyA-Hole. Shut your pie trap. This is a discussion forum and ppl voice their opinions. This is my opinion. Troll elsewhere
Maybe you walk alone because you're broke!!
This happened to me as a child and as a young man....I am a 62-year-old veteran I have NEVER been unfaithful….I have been married once and my ‘body count’ is one….. In 1992 I REFUSED to continue risking my life in defence of especially woman and their offspring......this was after MANY years of abuse from woman....all I wanted was a DECENT and KIND woman to start a family with…. I've seen MANY good men broken not by war, but by woman that lust after bad men, and then the good men found themselves out of pocket, home and 70% of the time faced with the fact that their children are actually another man's children
My friend came back from Iraq he was in the service and came back to an empty house.. His Ex ran off with another guy.. I never had good experience with women so I just take care of me
That's why a man must understand female nature. women are not sugar and spice and everything nice. You need to look at them as more independent contractors. As long as its good for me it will be good for you. If not NEXT !
Many of these hit home, but number 15 describes me best. I'm loyal to a fault. She treated me like crap and walked all over me. After she cheated, I filed for divorce, started counseling and never looked back. In rebuild mode now.
Rebuild mode is good. Painful lesson but hopefully you’re past the worst of it. And good for you for taking back your life!
Just about one year ago I got out of a toxic relationship with a covert narcissist. Everything you say is so true. I had 3 short relationships since then and stopped online dating 6 months ago and now am happy being alone and concentrating on myself and my friends and family and am so much happier and content.
It was really hard letting go of her and she contacted me a few times since and I ignore her.
I would never let myself fall back into a situation like that again. I am totally fine being on my own and am a lot healthier and happier. I am no longer anxious. These people bring out the worst in you and you will find yourself losing your temper and realizing this isn’t who you are. Be strong and get out. It isn’t easy but it is so worth it.
Good for you. You got out. Narcissistic relationships are tough to heal from, I've been through one myself. The narcissist can and will drain you of "who you are" in a sense - through manipulation. After I got out of my relationship, I didn't realize how much she had taken from me (not in a literal sense) - I had abandoned my hobbies, my interests, even my family through her almost constant manipulation. So, I felt absolutely vulnerable. It was almost as if I had to train myself back to my hobbies and interests.
But, in the end, it was almost like a "re-birth". I had learned a hard lesson but saved my sinking ship. Since then, I've had a few relationships but they too weren't healthy (single mothers). Now, I've been single for 6 years. I've got/had a few FWB's along the way - But, I continue to focus my attention on the most important thing in my Life - Me.
Online dating is a trainwreck for men. The odds are so lopsided against the average guy (even if he's worthy) that it's almost impossible to find a meaningful relationship that way.
Awesome video... but There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
welcome
"there's always a way to fix things"...no. just no. if your spouse married you for a soft place to land, never cared about you, and pretended they did to lock down a source of income and health insurance, nothing you do will ever be enough to fix it. If BOTH people want to work through the problems, sure, there's a way. But it needs TWO dedicated parties.
Young men need to be educated about female nature, relationships and how handle conflicts with women. Why? The 15 reasons Anna talked about will result in men being taken advantage of. Walking away from a bad situation is the most successful move and man can make.
It takes a lot of strength and courage to walk away but it is sometimes necessary. Try to pay attention to red flags early on and avoid a bad situation if possible.
Exactly, its hard to do oftentimes but, if you're committed to it, it will solve so many problems.
Starting over after the healing process begins is really healthy and comforting.
Young man are not educated at home . He is rised by opressive mother who teach him to obey to her , (whatever she is woman) and make all her wishes. It works ok with mother who cares for her own son and for home, and do not want to cheat or use him But it is no solution for woman who has other man to choose according to her expectations and usefulness
Even if in family is father he is marginalized by wife and law and is one more bad example that it is ok to be not equal to wife. The reason is sick family.
@@YourWingmam Walking away is easy if you are dating or living in an apartment together with no kids, but once you are in a home that you own with kids....forget it. The guy gets screwed every time. Been in two relationships where my women professed eternal love, they'd never take advantage of me if things went south, they would never screw over their man like Sally/Jane did to their men, they were appalled by their friends behaviour, not them, never, they would just leave. As soon as they realize the gravy train is at the end of the line, and had a chat with a lawyer, they turned into venomous, vindictive snakes.
@@Mikexception Yes, correct. 👍 Young men need an older male influence in their lives.
A lot of men, especially young men these days, were raised primarily by a single mother and didn't have an older male influence in their lives. An older man could give young men and boys advice on how to deal with women.
You're very correct in your statement. Broken families are devastating especially to boys - and the absence of a father figure compounds it.
I was "Uncle Dave" to 4 boys (2 girlfriends had 2 boys each) for a total of 11 years - and was there for them through thick and thin. I helped when they were heartbroken, taught them to fish and how to respect others, to name a few. I never did get married or have children - but the time spent with these boys I will always cherish.
But the men are too scared. They can lose it all. For nothing.
@@matlabatt Don't marry. I never did. Watch your step with single mothers - the relationships tend to turn sour esp. if there's "competition" with her kids (esp. male). Always have options, like a plan "b".
I did it for 11 yrs, never will again. Now, it's single life, I'm happy & relaxed - with a fwb on the side.
@@davek5777 yeah man. I never did get married . Thanks for the advice. You are correct. Plus im not religous. My parents were together until my dad died . They didnt need marriage. Its a trap and system set upnto fail and our children are the victims.
@@matlabatt Probably the best thing that ever "didn't happen" to you and I was to get married. I mean, divorce rates, alimony/child support - it's nuts. My family used to look at me as the "black sheep" of the family. My uncle told me that i was the "smart" one lol. Now, as I see my family marriages on the rocks - I'm happy to be the black sheep. :)
Anna brings up a lot of good points. In my 70 plus years I've came up with what I consider the biggest red flag that us guys overlook. You need to understand that women are survivores and quite the chameleons. This also answers the question why women are so attracted to all the bad boys like Chad and Tyrone, might as well add in a Pedro into the mix.
Ever heard the expression" Birds of a feather flock together" ? This applys to women . All these bad boy lovers are simply the female equivilant of Chad and Tyrone.
Don't really believe in that ? Then ask yourself this,,,, would any high value women or even average value waste their time or reputation with either Chad or Tyrone ??
Next consider the women that have children with Chad and Tyrone's. We all know that these guys are poor providers. Now whats a gal to do ? These children are now their high prioriy. Do not get sucked in being the nice guy provider here. After all would you invite Chad or Tyrone types to live under your roof ??? My opinion only , your mileage may vary but consider it.
Great comparison! ✔️
Who gives women this imprimatur of value and who values the high falutin opinion
I'm about 2 years behind you, but agree. They want the genetic material, but they turn to the rest of us to support that choice, because, like you said, they KNOW deep down in their coal black hearts that the providers of said genetic materials are NOT going to be the ones to support them and their spawn.
It's actually discouraging, and even at my age, our age, somehow I was under the delusion that humans should somehow be above that kind of primal behavior. I really should know better.
The really sick thing is that society, via the legal profession, will FORCE men to pay for a child, even when it is PROVEN genetically that that child is not his.
@@tetedur377 Agreed ! Another point that I should have made is that people really don't change. Go to a 40 year class reunion, you will find that your talking to people with the same mannerism and attitudes the day you graduated.
Food for thought. I think you’re onto something with the comparison. Bad girls like bad boys, that’s why they themselves cheat and abuse the good guys they come across. Birds of s feather, indeed.
Boundaries are definitely needed. I started talking to a lady and it came out that she still talked to her ex at times. They had nothing together besides the relationship. I told her if she wanted me to take her seriously in the relationship she had to completely cut him off. Month later found out she was still talking to him ‘because their kids played together 🙄’. I said ok, that’s all needed to know and that was the end of it.
Stand by your values. ✔️
Good for you dude, "no therapy" just a man with some balls!
Great job, don't put up with that type of BS!
So she was not even a good ride?
It’s amazing how so many guys here sound just like women! 🤣
Many of us have had our asses hand to us, but I would never ever put details a/o my emotion on front street. At this point, I’m just glad that I got to try the many different rides I did. Furthermore, I know of quite a number of guys who are married, but miserable and others who were married and divorced with kids and half the pension. Guys better learn to count their blessing if the woman that they are with pulls the trigger early in the relationship. And, while I wish that I had found my “soul mate” and had had a kid or two, I am glad that I did not with the women that I thought that I was in love with at the time, bc they turned out to have gotten married and divorced later on.
The end of what? You threatening her about talking to her ex or you not caring anymore since the kids played together?
Most women today, I've noticed, expect you to support them. As if they don't think they should even have to work. And if I was extremely wealthy, that might be okay. But I need someone who is self-sufficient. And there seems to be an extreme lack of those women nowadays.
I have known women who have never even had a job, because they just lived off of men all their lives. 🙄
I'm not going to pay any woman to be my girlfriend. That's not how this works.
Have standards, stick by them. :)
If a woman is not kind nor helpful towards me, she immediately is disqualified as a potential partner/friend.
Yep, it's like, I don't want to be your daddy. That's one of the major reasons I didn't have any children. I can support myself. You need to be able to support yourself.
Woman often push to more investments in all that goods which may be claimed in divorce which apparently is not at table (yet). It may be treated as red flag.
My mother (woman of previous generation) was a good observer and before she passed her predictions about my wife were proven accurate as I did not expect even when I apparently excused wife.
I think I was the loyal type , anyway my loyality could not be eternal. and already since 22 years I am her ex.
Good for you. 🙏🙏🙏
Anna Jørgensen - Your Wingmam
"15 Reasons why men are used by women"
-- Where being used often starts (1:32)
-- Reasons why men are used by women:
01. Low self-esteem (3:35)
02. Fear of loneliness (3:49)
03. Desire for validation (4:05)
04. Emotional attachment (4:19)
05. Financial dependence (4:36)
06. Hope for change (5:01)
07. Laziness (5:21)
08. Fear of conflict (5:40)
09. Romantic idealism (5:54)
10. Sexual gratification (6:10)
11. Lack of awareness (6:28)
12. Emotional manipulation (6:44)
13. Past trauma (7:19)
14. Caretaker role (7:33)
15. Misguided loyalty (7:51)
-- How to stop being used (8:14)
... just used 🙃
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
@@YourWingmam Now I don't watch the whole video ahahahhahahhaahahhhahahahahahh
#1 Because you allow it.
We teach people how to treat us by what we allow! ✔️⭐️
Which is why boundaries are so important.
Sounds like victim-blaming
Boundaries are important , even if the relationship is deep.
@@MaekcseN
It's a simple take responsibility for your actions technique that focuses on things that you can control that can lead to a different result.
Or you can act like a beta repeat the same errors over and over and cry "I'm a victim" and wear it on your sleeve as if it is something to be proud of.
Being content by yourself and with yourself is the secret. Don’t change yourself for someone else. If someone wants to come along for the ride, great, but if they don’t show respect or use you, you cut them out of your life and move on.
Exactly. It’s easy to get manipulated when you don’t have an independent mindset which is cultivated through self awareness and financial security.
There's a epidemic of nice guys, low self-esteem, and simps! Break out of it, men!!!
To be nice does not mean you have to have low self esteem. Far from it. Stick with who you are guys...dont change your morals for women that are not worth it.
@@andym9571 Of course! Without question. "Nice Guy" has just become a euphemism for a pushover.
72, trying to at this age, alone at last.
I totally get it. "nice guy" = can be a Simp or a MGTOW male. Low self-esteem = Simp. And, yes, I wish all Simps would snap out of it too.
Simps turn pretty girls into old boilers real quick. Just something I have noticed.
All relationships are transactional - fact
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Likely, since it's said that, "marriage is a business".
@@bobfeller604 Exactly, a wealth tranfer !
I'm so closed off that I've become invisible to women. It's kinda ironic. Can't get used if you never acknowledge their existence or are too weird and awkward.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
It's a tactic, but you're worth being known. Don't let them force you into a discard pile either.
Sounds like a good life.
bitch resting face is what most men see if passed by a woman,make that 99procent for men over 40..she makes it direct clear what she thinks of you
When women see you are happy, not interested, and living your best life they both hate it and avoid you. Women can tell when a man is finally over it and won't waste their time trying. I love it. Life really is easier alone. I have been 8 years without having female drama in my life and I would not trade it for anything!
This happened to me, I'm not proud to admit. It was a result of a few items in this list. I discovered that through reflection. It's good to be seeing some content that validates these few months I've spent reflecting
Be proud! Self-accountability (when warranted) is a super power and super empowering. It requires a ton of vulnerability, courage, and strength to admit where we need to change. Bravo!
@@YourWingmam you're right. I should be glad I figured this out on my own, and I'm really glad you have this RUclips channel. This is something the USA needs, men and women. A+. It makes me want to advertise for you and a few of your counterparts. The divorce rate in the USA has been on the news as a problem, since I was a teenager in the 1990s. Content like this would have been helpful.
95% of women admit to having used men ...
The other 5% said they were dating them new ...
* Moscow, Russia .
The Apostle Paul to young Timothy. " But mark this Timothy. There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to any laws,ungrateful, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without any self control, brutal, not lovers of good,treacherous, rash,conceited, lovers of pleasure...swayed by all kinds of evil desires, always "learning" but never able to acknowledge the truth....
Over the 30 plus year of being married and divorced, probably would qualify for all 15 mistakes that I have made, just trying to avoid divorce.
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Women has been always an enigma for me till I started watching your videos. Thanks Anna !
Happy to help! :))
Solid list today! Points 1,2,12-14 are being used by a guy with a widow in my family (and, yes, I've discussed it with her; 1&2 are currently too strong for her to break free). I've certainly seen a number of men who are currently fighting the items on this list, and I have had to isolate and deal with certain of these in years past. This is a must-see video for people (men especially) in the dating market. Anna's look today: conservatively stunning. Nothing over the top, but everything absolutely in-place and lovely. Gorgeous presentation, dear lady! Is that the house-sitting apartment from a few weeks ago used now as a virtual background? Seems similar. Praying for you. -- Russ P
Good of you to be a wise advisor to those you care about! Don't take it personally if they have difficulty changing. Change is difficult. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Still house sitting. :)
I stayed in a horrible relationship where I felt religiously obligated to stay in the relationship. I knew that I needed to breakup with this woman but because I had the belief that you date with the goal of marriage I ignored the hundreds of red flags. I did actually think about breaking up with her . She ended up breaking up with me about three months later because she was going to college. I thought to myself I didn’t want to give up just because things are tough but I was a freaking idiot. I am working through some stuff now. I guess I have to be somewhat thankful that she left because I learned about things that I had to work on and stuff that I wanted and did not want in a relationship.
This is a very important video and everything what you said about how "men are being used by a women" are true. The men who has low self esteem is the one who really allow others to hurt him without knowing that others are using him. The culture is going downhill since the sexual revolution back in the 60s. The romantic idealism is one of the important reason is why many men are being used by women atleast that's the case most of the time. The solution you gave in the end is the perfect one as well. Setting boundaries is how we can protect our hearts from being hurt by others. I should have done this before, but now I respect others boundaries as well I set boundaries for myself as well. So, thanks for the video Anna.
Excellent understanding of a touchy topic, good for you! Hard earned, I'm sure. :)
Setting boundaries is hard
I agree this is one of the things that you should learn as a child but all too often parent see their child’s boundaries as superfluous or even a challenge to their authority which needs to be squashed immediately
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True. Such a delicate balance. Parenting should require a mandatory “how to” course
Spot on! just discovered this channel and that list is accurate, straight to the point, and there is no fluff.
Fantastic talk;
Thank you for posting this list.
It is spot on!!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Thanks for all your kindness and it really is appreciated by us men.
My pleasure, thank you for watching!
I really like your videos Anna. That being said: Please discuss in some video how emotional development occurs during adolescence. If trauma interrupts adolescence then a person's emotional development stops prematurely and a person never fully matures.
Wow, thank you for this great video lesson. I’m 66 yrs young, gonna forward this to my 23 yo son who’s in a relationship (lives with) a 41 yo woman. She has 3 children. And she’s still married. Her douche bag husband mistreats her and has his own girlfriends. Very strange situation. He’s my youngest of 8 kids. His mom, all his siblings and I have tried to minister to him with tough love, gentleness, and patience. 3 of his 5 older brothers are ministers. We are all Christians and he knows it’s wrong. He just doesn’t know how to walk away from her. 😐🙁. She is definitely using and manipulating him. He told me a few times in the last couple years, she treats him crappy. I’ve tried explaining most of your 15 points to him. But sometimes it makes more sense to a person, when they hear from someone outside their own family. Thank you again so much. God bless you
I've fallen victim to more than a few of the items on your list. But, what I've learned from these mistakes holds more weight (my opinion) than the actual mistake itself. I've not only learned "Not" to travel down that particular path again, but I learned something about myself along the way. I've learned what my weaknesses were, what I fell victim to, and learned what my "tolerance" level was in each instance. Now, these revelations did not come overnight - what they did was set up outermost-boundaries (based on the tolerances) and raised prominent Red Flags when those boundaries were getting close to being met or exceeding.
I guess we all live and learn - which would be a better way to say what I just mentioned - but We Men need to establish these boundaries to protect ourselves from being taken advantage of. Sometimes, living the nightmare of a bad decision makes you realize the lesson learned that much more - versus being told.
If only us women who have gone thru the same and have healed can meet these lovely men in the same situation, in real life.
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@@YourWingmam No worries, it is just as hard for kind women to find kind men, they don't approach us.
Haha, give me a ring..
@@douwe4549 Thanks for the offer (or is it pity?).
Are you kidding? Kind women love the bad boys. Then complain about it😂😂
Man Talks has a great quote, "When you don't feed love by the spoonful, you learn to lick it from knives"...
Today it's like trying to lick a mixer while it's running. Just a bad idea that will end badly.
@@DeadCat-42 Hahahahahhahaha!
@@DeadCat-42 Really clever!
Anna, I really appreciate it so much for your work and effort! You have helped many people, thank you!!
Happy to help!
A great video, Anna. I'm a big fan of your work.
Anna's hair always has that radiant Viking appearance.
JORGENSON IS A DANISH NAME. AND HER MOTHER WAS EITHER FIRST NATIONS OR EAST ASIAN.
Not getting the Viking reference. But he does make her hair perfect every week
@@64maxpower Anna gets the Viking reference. BTW, who is "he" that makes her hair perfect every week?
@@haledwards4642 It´s that guy she´s using
@@nerifterafrnam4682 I don't believe you.
Divorce not being an option is a recipe to be a verbal and emotional punching bag for decades until you finally discard that paradigm. Especially since your spouse knows it.
I think I was the only kid in church that interpreted a marriage vow as like a suicide pact. To stand by a person no matter what they turn into.
Final straw for me was seeing my children learning by example. They promised no such vow. If the cost is my soul, I'll pay it for them.
Peace ❤
Thanks Anna. I’ve watched many of your videos and this one comes the closest to aligning with my situation. I may check out your website site and/or wake up to love program. I need even more help
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Discarded like the 3 of clubs. Used, abused and excused.
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My GOALS:
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Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I don't see your comment.
@@YourWingmam you're welcome.
I don't understand why replies are gone
Thankyou, this resonated with me heaps. I got out of a using, unfaithful relationship. when i started turning the boundary's up she started turning up the "turning everyone against me vindictively" thing, so that she gets to keep the house we bought. She won, I lost everything. She successfully got me kicked from my taekwondo club through blatant Haines lies, made my life a living hell at my workplace and even tried to get me kicked out of my rental house that i took on after i dumped her gold digging unfaithful unloyal arse. Im still a wreck but im slowly slowly just being able to get my self out of bed every morn, im slowly being able to work and earn some money like i used too. I dont think I will ever trust a woman again, but im just glad to be alive, She nearly took that from me too. Videos like theses have helped me immensely. Thankyou. (liked and subscribed)
Lovely mix of emotional maturity and wisdom from this lady I haven't seen in a long time. That is what makes someone beautiful.
WOW! You just hit on 13 or 14 of the 15 reasons why I stayed with my now 'x-wife' for 45 years! Being alone and free is VERY hard. I did not just love her, I was IN LOVE with her. 90% angle / 10% demon. She was very religious and I learned that she was a serial cheater. Cheating was the proverbial straw! Now I'm almost 70 and chances of finding a woman who will appreciate a kind and decent hard working guy is almost an impossibility. Thanks.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that and pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Two words: narcissist mother.
Often, yes :(
In my case, I messed with this personality type for a long time because of a narcissistic behaving mom
@MustangsTrainsMowers ...
... Who ... The mother's of the men who get used ?
Or the mother's of the women who use them ?
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Probably both.
Thank you for your love and understanding and wisdom
Thank you 👍 You’ve opened my eyes 🙏😊
Intro rant ends at 3:33
Sorry, should have included the "skip to" bit ...though the intro is key to the bits ;)
That’s a mean and angry way to state it.
@@scograham Sorry, it just seemed a bit long before she got to the point of listing the reasons.
There's only one reason why they get used. They are simps.
Easier said than done but they also they had a bad upbringing by their parents and traumatic childhood experiences that will make it very hard to have an intimate relationship with any woman due to trust issues into their adulthood. Be grateful for what good you have in your life without the need to belittle other people due to their cruel abuse and neglect when they really need it the most as a child with the lack of affection and love of their own parents.
@@Trancymind excuses....you don't think I had a bad upbringing? I was smart enough as a child to know women are bad news. Growing up and being observant just reinforces earlier observations.
I learned this back before there was an internet. Today....there's no excuse.
@@iamtheoffenderofallSome people had it worse than others. This is why I don't try to belittle people even though some of them turned out to be unlikeable. Just because you can have kids does not mean you deserve to have kids. As a 44 year old man, I know I don't deserve to have a partner nor kids because of my flaws. It is better to end my cycle by playing it safe without regrets and I am grateful because of it. Sadly my siblings are struggling with their relationships or decided to end their lives by their own hand.
Awesome video, thank you.
My pleasure ❤️
I am so happy to find your educational videos again
Good video, thank you.
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Dear Anna! Thank you for a sapient lecture! I only identified with 13 of the traits/ Myth beliefs!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Excellent presentation with perspectives that are very rational in dealing with others. I believe that having limits, and not compromising them is an essential; not to do so is dangerous.
Solid content. I see so many mates fall victim to most of these things, and I myself was guilty of so much of this.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
A great list!! Spot-on!! Women can be ruthless and damaging... but.. inventory YOURSELF! Stop her in her tracks after you fix yourself!!
You're making some valid points here and I admit I do have some of the traits listed here or have experienced some of the issues you talk about here, which have led to poor decisions on my part when it comes to dealing with women. I've now been separated for three years and I'm finding it difficult to get back out there because I don't want to fall into the same traps again and I keep meeting con artists and scammers.
Awareness is the first step to potential change in self accountability is the quickest path to getting your power back. It’s not easy. You might want to look for my red flags playlist, that will help you avoid the throwbacks. And my wakeup2luv program could also help, but there is a lot of homework in it, some of itself reflective, and some of it out in the real world. If curious, the link is in the pinned comment. (60 day no risk full money back policy if it’s not for you.) 🫂
Great Video! Kind lady, you are my "attorney" in the dating world... A women KNOWS how a women "thinks!"
Glad I could help 🙏
I must say your dating advice and (subscriber for years), insight is much better than my mom and sister's advice COMBINED! 🙌
Just want to say thank you for providing a wonderful service
My pleasure ❤️
This video is well researched
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Years, years took me to figure out what she has said in minutes... Great video
I have a huge respect to women who speak honestly on these facts which majority of women will never admit. Thank you
First of all, thanks for all the great advice! Second, I can definitely see seeds of myself in many of these items on the list particularly low self esteem, lack of knowledge and misplaced loyalty - coming from a Christian up bringing, it may have blinded me to other aspects of what was going on in our relationship. Finally, it boggled my mind when she left me for someone who was in a worse predicament than me and she kicked me and my autistic son out of the house. There’s a lot more going on that I can’t explain but it helps to know there are at least some people sympathetic to our plight.
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Awesome great video God Bless to you!!!
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Thanks again for touch a sore spot for us men, have a good one and God bless back at you.
I check 12 out of the 15, especially the awareness one. Spent 25 years before I put together the whole picture. Knew for a long time something wasn't right, but just like you said, thought it was just how women were, am naturally conflict avoidant, couldn't understand that she was gaslighting me (had me doubting things or actions that I could swear were different), was being played because I'm like a typical guy and mind games pretty much leave me scratching my head. But, that has all changed over the last 5 or so years as I saw the patterns and started to grayrock, set boundaries, refused to deny my own reality, and started calling out the passive aggressive manipulation to her face. If you want to understand this dynamic better read the human magnet syndrome. The first part of the book has the author examining his own family, but after that he does a good job laying out the dynamic and ways to deal.
Thank you WingMILF
Ha! First time I’ve seen that one, well played ;)
I was always very direct when it comes to that. I usually simply say something like “That is not ok for me” or something similar. I don’t know if that’s the best what you can do but it makes it very clear that I will not accept it when certain lines are crossed.
Looking very nice Anna! Great advice too!
Glad you think so! Thank you!
Jeez the algo brought me here. A friend is locked in a situation with 3 kiddos his GF and a house. He came up for like 3/4 of the value for the house in cash and own work while he donated afterwards 1/4 of it's value to her - making it a 50/50 posession for both (900k-1mio of worth in total, sale worth ATM +/- 1.2-1.5 mio). While earing roughly double the income than him. After years of a living in a rough relationship now it's the question if she's cheating. After she didn't even took care of him after a burn out, not helping him with one penny. She don't even want to take part with him and the kids to go on vacation to the family abroad. He's letting all of this happen with himself. With this possible cheating situation I encouraged him to take his stance on put it up...and now I'm the bad uncomprehending guy and the blame shift hit me like shit hits the fan. ;)
I hope your friend reaches the point of doing what is truly best 🙏
the "have you ever said that" got me
The Internet Sorely needs people like YOU🎉❤!!!
I appreciate that, thank you for your response!
One person said.. because you allowed it.. Exactly true!!
That only applies if you were not programmed from childhood, assuming you learnt right from wrong. That IS a choice.
@YourWingmam >>> Great video...👍
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thanks Anna a great one , this gift is the result of a lot of hard work, no doubt . And the fear of loneliness is terrifying, how can we reduce it?
Glad you enjoyed this one! As with any other fear, the first step to overcoming it is taking action in any small way. A romantic relationship is more challenging to find than a friendship so I would start with that. Which means either cultivating the friendships you have by reaching out more or risking greater emotional intimacy when together and appropriate. Or finding new friends which means doing things where you can meet like-minded people and then taking the risk to be vulnerable to converse with them and maybe suggest doing other similar activities together. Perhaps not the first time you meet unless you both really click but if you join an activity where you meet on a regular basis you’ll become a familiar face which makes it easier. This is more difficult than it is for women.
Thank you Anna for the care you take in responding in detail to so many comments
Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌 👏
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Thank-you.
I walked away from a woman was dating for a while because she was making fun out of me Infront of people.
I did say on several occasions stop doing that, but she didn't, so i walked away and told her why.
Now she's texting me several times a week, sometimes i respond, other times i don't.
Incredibly accurate.
❤ You are the best 🌹
I have already discovered a "law" saying that for whatever happens there is usually more than one reason. Excellent analysis but I would add also the "let us see for a short period longer if she or situation changes.
I’m on the autism spectrum…and one of the things I’ve struggled with because of that in the past is getting too attached too quickly,and definitely did a lot of people pleasing to try and keep the person around…thankfully through a lot of therapy I’ve gotten it under control…but in retrospect I was definitely blind to a lot of times I was really being taken advantage of
It's great to see that you've made progress through therapy. Recognizing past patterns is an important step toward personal growth. :)
@@YourWingmamThanks Anna…It’s been a lot of hard work,but I’ve definitely grown a lot since I started going to therapy…I think every one should do it at least once in their lives!
Hey Anna, Great Insights and Advice on a VERY IMPORTANT Topic. 🙂👍 -70SomethingGuy
Great video. It really hits home. Especially "Hope for Change" and "Misguided Loyalty". Men want to fix things. Including fixing damaged girl boss women. I dated a woman for about 8 months recently. And she was hot and cold after about the 6 month "power struggle" mark in the relationship. I kept taking her back. One of my friends pointed out that I rarely said anything good about our relationship anymore. Another pointedly asked if I just felt sorry for her. Lol. I think I just started thinking of her as a bratty child. And I was parenting her. If that makes sense.
Makes total sense. Men often have the urge to rescue damsels in distress (sometimes those dames are boss babes).
@@YourWingmam I'm a 70's kid and a big Star Wars fan. Maybe I went into Luke Skywalker mode. Thinking I could turn Darth Vader away from the Dark Side and back to the Light. But, then I remember that I have to get my hand cut off. Almost die (twice). And Vader only turns back to the Light Side when he's really old and on the edge of death. *sigh* I bet if Darth Vader had a pet, it would have been a cat. Lol.
Yes, many of them!
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This video resonates with me. The challenges in childhood and now almost everyone I've had in my close circle have used me. Im trying to change but it's hard to. Fear of been alone is overwhelming.
Sometimes in order to heal our inner wounds it takes outer actions. You might benefit from my wakeup2luv program. If curious, the link is in the pinned comment. There is a 60 day no-risk full refund policy if it’s not for you. 🫂
Fear of being alone or lonely? Or do you see them both as the same thing?
@@allanfischer9417 Yeah good point alone and lonely are separate things. I fear both but most people I've met have still let me feel lonely even when together
Thank God I have your wonderful channel. God bless you 💯✨💙🙏🏼
I believe i will gain dating experience.
Thank you for your help.
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Came from a loving home. My dad passed away when I was 6 but, my loving mom and aunt took care of me and my brother. The abusive women I dated, I did not realize what they were doing. I tend to see the good in everyone until, they prove themselves.
This video is the story of my life. I agree totally the origins begin with how one is raised in childhood or the attitude and approach parents / caregivers have toward life and other people.
Change is possible :)) 🫂
That was one excellent summation of the narcissistic and codependent response to growing up in a dysfunctional family. Wonderfully concise while hitting the idea on the mark.
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It's, definitely, a fantastic informative video. I strongly recommend it, mainly because in just few minutes it has all someone needs to know about an abusive relationship.
Personally I dealt with: 1, 6, 8, 9, 10, 12, 14 and 15.
And they say there's no such thing as "toxic femininity"?
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I went on a date with a girl that I thought went well, and then she said she wanted to use the restroom.. a couple minutes later, she came back and said "I'm sorry you're such a good guy. You probably thought I left" when actually never did think that. Whether that was good or not I definitely learned from it and know how to spot the signs she's just using.
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Wow! Bingo! Poor child hood! Mom died when I was young and Dad had problems!
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
“Counting Blue Cars” and “What if God Was One of Us”, also Madonna’s “Ray of Light” with its unconventional harmonics.