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How do you build confidence in yourself? I hardly have friends growing up and alone. I am all most 40 no girlfriend. I don't have a drive license because i can't focus or pay attention correctly . Due to my intellectual disability and speaking disability.
Anna's hips! I knew your upper half was human, but now...our world will never be the same. Listen, usually I'd consider your advice, but I don't want my date to see me in a red skirt, babe.
It does not matter what a women finds attractive, she will get bored of you in a few years and leave. If your married with kids, she takes house, children, money, dog and savings when she leaves. The courts supports her 100 % and she knows it.
@@jawbrace I think the opposite... If you want to be a loner you will become that. It is our job as men to compliment women and make them feel needed. Like a man on a dance floor you have to ask her to dance with you.. Otherwise she has no idea you find her attractive...
A suggestion to guys ..... If you're at the end of the date and she says something to the effect of "I don't think we are a match." Reply with "Oh Thank God! I was trying to figure out how to end this without hurting your feelings." It throws her off and has her wanting to figure out what is wrong with her.
Ok good come back. But I am used to be a very good match to my dates. If I was told that, I better kick myself for not following my reason and gut and getting such a date. In other words I disagree with pursuing women to the point that I went out with someone that wrong for me.
I’m an average , healthy 70 yr old guy. Got married for the first and only time at 59. No kids. Everything still going great! My advice: don’t get married too early in life!
Been married 30 yrs! She still likes me and wouldn’t know what to do without me! Women in their 40’s and 50’s can’t “do better.” I just turned 60. We have 3 kids together. We are a family. The sum total is worth more than the parts. I love my wife!
There are plenty of relationships that go south from men not giving their lady the attention they need and they get way too comfortable letting themselves go and assuming their wife cant do better. Lots of competition out there. Ever see the neighbor guy checking out or even talking to your wife when you were doing something with your beer gut hanging out, your beard all long and disheveled and your overall messy appearance? I had a couple neighbors like this where their wives would come talk to me, make comments and even invite me into their house to check on some sort of plumbing issue or something while their husband was away. My wife trusted me but I made sure I came over with one of my Daughters to see what the problem was….usually I could tell it was a set up just to get me over there. Women also like the thrill of the chase. A married man is more of a motivator than a single guy that is eager for attention. Chicks love to start crap.
I have to confess what I love most about ANY woman is her smile and laughter. Time and times are hard on us all. When a woman you are attracted to smiles and laughs.....it's like adding colour to the entire universe. The opposite is also true!
Saying "I'm sorry" was definitely a problem I had in the past. When I removed that from my vocabulary; my interactions with women went much smoother. Great advise Anna
In order to win any argument, you have to say:"Oh yeah??? Well f*ck you!" I noticed that shuts people up and they don't expect any apologies from you. :)
The part of apologizing is absolutely true. My girl told me long ago "Dont ever apologize to me unless you physically hurt me" which i know you wont ....
My woman recently spent a couple of hours telling me things I had done wrong. I just agreed with her but never apologized. The next day she tearfully apologized to me. I told her it is ok, baby, we all have bad days. It is nice to be respected.
Thank you, Ana. I'm not especially interested in dating right now but I've spent most of my life downplaying my personal appearance/personality. I'm 61 now and I'm pretty much finished with dismissing any advantage I have and you're really helping pull me out of that.
I was raised to be courteous, and to apologize when I make a mistake. I always thought that most other people are kind of rude because they don’t apologize. I like your advice to thank her for being patient. I would add, don’t do things you have to apologize for. That is, show that you’re responsible and can be on time.
"I was raised to be courteous, and to apologize when I make a mistake." that's for life in general, but not for attracting women they fail to teach boys that
I’m way past my prime and very happily married, but back in the day (70s -90s) women were constantly initiating conversations with me. In bars, on the subway, fast food joints and restaurants. I love talking to women..it’s one of life’s greatest pleasures. But I was so clueless that I didn’t even realise many of these women ever flirting with me..doh 😅. For years I just believed that women were naturally friendly. Now I’m married to a woman who possses the biggest, kindest heart, and the greatest smile ever in the history of smiles. I sometimes wonder what the hell she sees in me, but I’m always grateful and humbled that she loves me. But I still enjoy having conversations with women..they’re just so interesting.
Bottom line..."Be Yourself!"...At the end of the day...Nobody really cares about what you think...do...or say except YOU!...Follow your own 🌟star and always stand up for what you believe in! Be a high value, high standard & higher principle person who never settles for anything LESS!!!...You only live once...
Evaluate them and be yourself. The more you try to impress a woman, the more you'll move away from who you are...you can still put yourself together and take care of your health. That will make you feel better.
@@YourWingmam No not 100%. If i would be myself 100 percent i would not have a steady job or had any relationships. I have to pretend every day to be someone i would rather not be and i am pretty good at it. If you are social person and have lot´s of friends and are amicable i would agree but for a lot of people this is the worst advice. I am not only talking about men this applies also for females. Society demands that you act in a particular way if not you wil be an outcast! This lesson i had to learn the hard way. The funny thing here is your video proves what i am saying.
When it comes to apologizing…my best friend, a married woman that I’ve worked with since I was 19(I’m 41 now)…told me a long time ago…”don’t say your sorry..just say you won’t do it again”…wise words from one of the smartest, wisest women I’ve ever met…she’s become a sister and mentor to me over the years…and when I do get married I want someone not just like her(because I can only handle one of her in my life lol)…but definitely someone similar…
Thank you for the wisdom in finding a solid relationship. I lost my wife of 26 years to COVID. I will fly to the Philippines next week to visit a lady who is a widow and has been doing daily WhatsApp video chats for several months. She is 54. nice looking, a little overweight, super attractive inner person. One key thing I look for in a woman for marriage is when her friends make statements about her like This is a woman of high character, or This is a quality woman. That catches my attention. If people do not give testimony of their friend, their sister, their daughter, or their mother, I suspect there is something to be aware of. If this Filipina proves to be the one, we will be hiking & scuba diving around the world for as many years as God gives us.
I have no plans or intentions on following your advice, which I think is generally good, because I’ve decided not to deal with all this relationship BS. However I watch your videos because I like your presentation, sense of humor, and you appear to be a nice person.
I appreciate the compliment!! And it learning about women isn't wasted as you probably have some in your life regardless (work, family etc) Thank you for being here!
@@YourWingmam thank you for replying. In retrospect I still wouldn’t meeting someone. I suppose I wouldn’t watch your video podcast if I didn’t…a little. I was just being pessimistic at the time. Wishing you a very happy New Years Wingma'm Anna!!
I've been happily married for 21 years, so I'm not looking for any romantic attachment. I watched this because romantic relationships are not the only reason that you want to make a good impression with woman. Even if they don't want romance, women still like attractive men, just like I still like attractive women. It never hurts to be liked! A lot of what you say about grooming and clothes is basic, but I see you also do have some subtle observations. I'm still continuing to up my game in the grooming and dress. It really does up peoples impression of you in a noticeable way. They may not notice that perfect manicure or that your jacket is Harris tweed, but they will get the general impression that you are put together. The nodding is good, but I'm not so sure about the head to toe look. I don't want to give the wrong impression, but if I was single ... Yes, it is a great test! Hey, I still flirt with my wife. I'm sure she'd love some butterflies! I agree with what you say about apologizing. When we first got married, my wife kept doing that, and it is annoying! Fortunately, she broke that habit! However, I think apologizing and admitting that you're wrong when appropriate is a strength. People who never apologize or admit that they are wrong seem very weak to me, but I know not everybody agrees with me on this. Obviously, you do agree. I do like the idea of changing the apologies to thank you. I'm in sales, and it's all about framing! Thank you for taking the time to read through this!
I am married to a woman 32 years younger. At time we were dating I was a well established man in terms of what I like, and dislike, who I am, whom I do not want to be etc. She described me, at first date, as a very masculine. Somehow I met all requirements you mentioned in your video. We dated shortly and get married. It is already 12 anniversary of our marriage and going strongly. Very wise and useful advises of yours. Thank you.
My motto, dating after a long marriage and divorced at 50 yrs. Go with the flow... If your initial encounter is mutually smith, then it might be worth while to follow up. Don't chase the butterfly crazy with a net "needy", let the butterfly choose to land on your shoulder.
Reminds me of a friend I no longer am friends with. During a telephone conversation with her, about my then relationship with another woman, the friend asked me a series of questions about my relationship. She didn’t like how happy I was about my relationship. Her response was to offend me and yell in frustration. I was taken aback. Speechless, too. Following day, I mentioned her rude comments to her. Instead of saying sorry, she responds with, “I’m such a B.” The entitlement in her voice and inability to say sorry ended an eight year friendship. Now free from her toxicity.
Very nicely done! At my age I think I've figured most of it out by now but it was still good to have it validated. One thing I found out is one of the most difficult, and that is to reject anyone who might be really interested in me but to not be able to reciprocate it, as egoistic as that might sound. Just the opposite in fact - I feel terrible when that happens, especially to someone who might be vulnerable because I've been on the receiving end of that myself! All we can do is be the best that we can.
My top 3 list from experience. 1.Confidence 2. High Emotional IQ 3. Taking charge of the initial sexual courtship process. Bonus: retaining an aura of mysteriousness to keep her constantly guessing about me, it is sexually alluring for most women. Why they are the biggest market for the mystery romance books.
Just started to think about Dating again. My wife has passed awhile ago, so thanks for the tips. Things seemed to have changed from what I see, I'm older...for one. I would hope I'm more sophisticated than at 20, (We'll see). Thanks for your insight.
Before I was married , I did very well in the dating scene and I will say , everything she has touched upon, is spot on , especially the eye contact and apologizing.
The "check out" is a winner. It's my preferred MO, and it's worked for me many times. I've actually tried to teach it to my buddies. This works best with a group of friends. Keep notice of the door. When an attractive woman walks in that you might be interested in, make SURE that she catches you looking her up and down briefly with that "Mmm, mmm" look. Then, casually look away, turn back to your friends, start talking to them, and just ignore her. By doing this, you've created a win/win situation for her. She knows you're interested, but you aren't pursuing her, putting her on the defensive. It also makes you look good because you don’t appear desperate, raising your social value in her eyes. If she's interested, she'll usually walk over eventually and start a conversation with YOU. This works. I've had many women come to me and start the conversation.
Just re-watched this. #3 epiphany. And it's so logical it's really scary. Glad you are on our side Anna. Don't know why I never made this connection consciously. #3 explains why it is so damaging when you look away when you get caught checking out a woman. She doesn't think "shy", she thinks either disinterested or no confidence. So, inversed logically, if you ham it up a little, or even just have a wry smile and wink, she doesn't just think you are interested, she thinks you are confident. I have lived that out so many times in my youth, cursed myself for looking away many times. But now, it's not just a solution (never look away if you like her), but a strategy to move forward. The 'ham it up' you choose could win the moment. Wink at her and get up and moonwalk. (or equivalent) But maintain eye contact with her when you do it, smile. Once you get attention and start some amusement, chemistry flows. Laughing is a stimulant. Endorphins and Adrenalin. Now there's a let's get together cocktail.
@@williamonderlinde5068 It is a universal truism that pursuing women at work is generally a really bad idea. But yes, I was pulling a compilation from my younger days in dance clubs. I've always been able to use humor for a lure...anywhere.
"when you get caught" .... That is a wrong interpretation. We have all learned that you only can sneaky look at a woman to enjoy her. Now we know it is bullshit ! Indeed it shows you are confident. You are interested. It is okay to do that. In my (new) world it is okay to do that... A woman also needs these moments of attention: "Do men still notice me?" She can decide for herself if she wants to look at men to see if she is being noticed. If she wants peace for herself then she just will not check and look around if a man/men is checking on her... It is that simpel.
Personally, I find the many women who refuse to apologise and opt for passive aggression/victim playing when challenged totally repel me. I had to confront my boss over a mistake and the response was: ‘that’s because I f&&&&&& up’. I thought it was hot - showed transparency and ownership. Turn on for me
Whoever you are I agree with you I take you face value play I don't play games and plus you don't know if she's the right one my mom always told me it'll come when it's ready she also say no she's the right one for u
Exactly. What our host is describing here is from her limited frame of reference. Her approach may work for many or even most, but some not at all. I approached things as you do. Before I met my wife now, and after my first nightmare, I unfortunately had a number of situations that did not work. The one thing i did not do, and is my advice to any man reading this, NEVER EVER DO IT HER WAY. There is some thing to gleam from this video. But like this gentleman posted, DO IT YOUR WAY. Any woman you date, know your key elements you want. Today, and I know 100% from experience, women absolutely want to dominate. As a believer in traditional values (our host here I sense has a different version of that) I make judgements on tge viability of the relationship by my agenda. Not hers. End of story.,
I hate the eye contact crap. Don’t try to lock eyes with me or I’ll straight up reject you for failing to just ask for what you want. Use your F-ing words if you want something. I don’t play those stupid mindless games.
John, LOL i guess i am at that age myself. actually been there for some time, impress them, and go broke keeping them happy. not me not anymore. i am free to do and go any where, anytime i want.
You continue to be the most grounded and sensible of any one giving advice on RUclips. You are so self aware and you make it easy to understand what is happening in a social situation. It makes all this advice very good and practical.
I've always been told when younger that these things were repulsive, creepy, that being too dominent or bold was bad but more and more videos like you prove me the opposite, that women want dominance, boldness and standards. About standards, how can one show standards without looking obnoxious, boastful or anything like that?
I’ve noticed that I have two traits that saves a lot of effort: 1. Extremely deep voice 2. Assertiveness but polite These get me a ton of comments and interest from the ladies!
I learned that long ago. Women fall for the good bad boy. They like a man who is rough on others, but kind to them. Makes them feel like a queen around a king. I used that for my benefit. Then I came to Christ and changed. Now I keep it in my pants and go about my life. Eternity is forever and God doesn't accept fornicators or the unloving, unkind.
I can't argue, I saw that red skirt in the thumbnail and was immediately intrigued about what you had to say. Red skirt and white blouse are always a classic combination, at least for me. Good video.
You really are a good friend to dudes Anna. You have an audience of people that appreciate your work and have learned from it. .Your videos have improved exponentially. Although that could be pillow cats influence. I'm grateful to have found you.
*11 Stoic Traits I Wish I Knew In My 20s:* 1. Take a short term loss in order to have a 5-10 year play ⏱ 2. Will look for one quality woman 3. Alpha by own definition (you set your own rules, guidelines, etc.). 4. The real troubles (hell) these men go through, but others won't know it. Ability to weather the storm. 5. Intimacy becomes Child's play and a crutch. This is many men's Achilles heal. 6. Consider legacy. Name, reputation and legacy are the only things men have. 7. Wealth accumulation is used for an internal strategy for comfort, not for an external validation of the world. Only comes when playing the long game. 8. Focus on skills NOT focus on the hours. 🎯 9 Talent finds you. 10. Nothing scares you. 11. Strong ability to control all sorts of different urges (from drinking, smoking, dirty websites to nail-biting/nail picking) - if you relapse. Learn and study everything to control your mind… (or it controls you = NOT GOOD). Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.
Women like sarcasm, it's comedic confidence. It makes you appear witty and that's a plus. Comedy is also good overall, she wants an experience, take her on an emotional rollercoaster that keeps her guessing.
@@YourWingmam You're welcome, and likewise. Frequent apologies. And explaining myself too much. And a crippling modesty. That all had to be sorted out. It's a bucket of confidence with a big hole in the bottom. The keystone, imo, is this question. If you're new to confidence how do you prevent the leap towards arrogance? (Healthy ego becoming egotism)
Dating advice is a waste of time. The reason why is because it puts the man in a position where he is selling in order to get a woman to buy the social contract. The problem is that the selling can't stop, even if successful. If a woman has to be convinced through a hard sell to date a man, she's never going to be satisfied either with him or his efforts in the relationship and will induce misery through endless sh!t testing. If a woman isn't seriously attracted to you from the onset, you're wasting your time, your energy, and your money. Stress is the #1 killer and nothing can stress a man like an unhappy woman (which seems to be their standard operating procedure in this era.)
@@YourWingmam best of luck. My opinion is not based out of misogyny, but rather of the opinion that communications technology has reached a level to where it has induced a behavioral sink and the human species is pursuing a Calhoun Experiment through it. The zombie apocalypse is spreading, one smartphone at a time. Take care out there and don’t worry about these people. We’re all about to have much graver concerns than whether we can fulfill a social contract that is undergoing deconstruction through corporate sponsored pop culture. (Nods, walks off in search of a rousing game of Tiddlywinks)
I am ex-biker/ ex-hippy/ ex-new age traveller, still have [really quite] long hair, bushy [but trimmed] beard and still wear tatty jeans, biker jacket and army boots. I've never been [at all] 'mainstream' but have still managed to attract women. I think the culture you're a part of, and the sort of people you mix with, must be a factor in your 'social success'.
As far as eye contact is concerned, I have noticed something about photos of women wearing face masks. The only three things I perceive coming out of their eyes are confusion, anger, and fear. For eye contact to work properly, it would appear that the entire face must be exposed. For the time being, we have no choice other than to use this as a possible learning experience, unless I'm wrong. My hypothesis can be tested by your commenters, Anna, if you do an entire video while wearing a mask. But no cheating allowed: don't try to force different emotions and feeling out of your eyes to avoid emotions and feelings of confusion, anger, and fear while wearing the mask.
That's an odd observation. I wear a mask all day. So do my clients. I'm smiling most of the time, and so are they. I can see it in their eyes, they really are the window to the soul. There is much more to facial expression than the mouth.
@@jamestragle9504 I understand your point. But a smile requires lips, along with the rest of the face. You yourself use the term "facial expression" as opposed to "eye expression." It's a personal thing. A lot of people actually enjoy wearing masks and are comfortable with other covered people. I personally think masks are creepy, but necessary in certain situations we find ourselves in at the unfortunate present time. Where I live, most people wear masks outdoors. They look like giant insects walking on their hind quarters wearing clothes while they access their mobile devices. And I'm not so sure about the accuracy of "the eyes are the window to the soul." There's a lot of truth there, but I once had a good friend who was totally blind. I never had any trouble perceiving his emotions and feeling. But this was long before mask days arrived. If he had been forced to wear a mask, I would have had to rely completely on the 7% of communication that's verbal.
@@roberthagedorn290 put a mask in and go to a mirror. Start out deadpan blank. Then frown, grimace, grin, smile. Note your eyebrows and crow's feet. There's also context of a conversation, voice tone, laughter, etc.
Definitely true about the put together part. Here’s an anecdote of my experiences. First off, let me say that I’m not that ‘gorgeous guy’, not by any means. I spent a lot of time at work, going to the company cafeteria in my blue Nomex flight suit. Not one woman ever gave me a second look in the 23years of test flying. I left flight test and went to the airlines for the last few years of my career, and got constant looks while going to the gate. The uniform was always pressed, Silver wings, four stripes and a clean shirt and tie. My facial hair was groomed and hair trimmed. I called it the ‘uniform effect’ but it sure made the ladies very quick to return the smile.
It has been my experience if you want a woman to go to bed with you, that night, you completely ignore her. Never tell them that they are pretty or beautiful. You can make eye contact in a bored way. You will have so many women around you, you can put them to work. I did. Believe me. Anything that would work with a cat will work with a woman.
Anna, once again a great weekly segment. I’ve been a subscriber for quite a while. I have a topic you may be able address. Seems that many middle aged women (40’s+) still feel as much SMV (market value) as when they were in their 20’s, and often have more baggage and greater limitations, yet often even higher expectations of when they were younger. The Better Bachelor describes this well from a man’s point of view. You have commented recently about his podcasts. I’m an early 50’s middle class, called handsome though average joe looking in reality, clean cut, full head of hair, teddy bear frame, homeowner with a career, goals and nearly a millionaire, just not ready to retire. Maybe I need a better internet match profile, or something. Maybe it’s just the south Florida way of life. Is there a way to neutralize this false level of hypergamy among those that just don’t have the same ass,ets from 20 yrs ago.? Yet of course in a tasteful way that resonates to a mutual appreciation of each other.
If women mirror your feeling/emotional state I think you would do well to reflect your own back to them(even if they are 40+) by simply STATING a genuine "Ouch" when (ideally) in the BEGINNING of the relationship they start "projecting" a list of impossible (if not, at least unrealistic) standards onto you. It may be they were raised to believe they were incapable of being denied every single wish of their heart and no one has ever bothered to tell them that's not part of the real world. Hope you find something here useful, as was intended.
Heck with that. I'm no fashonista. My clothes are clean and fit me the way that I'm comfortable. Giving up on life - no. Giving up on trying to satisfy the never-ending list that women have on men - yes. Too many women think showing so much skin or skintight clothing is what honest men are looking for. Looks are fleeting though being clean and otherwise being healthy looking is a somewhat major requirement. The world does not revolve around women nor are they princesses by any means. Women who are based in reality backed by facts are the ones we men are looking for. The Chads and Tyrones are the ones looking for the other women. At least for a hook-up anyways.
So it's 1. Appearance because she want's to feel good about being seen with you, 2. Eye contact because she want's emotional commitment and 3. Confidence because she doesn't want or need a wuss.
I’m not sure how this video comes into my feed but the narrator is easy to like. Somehow I listen to her advice. My advice to men is do not care too much about a woman likes. Less effort boys.
Dear Anna: Well, we went from private school teacher (you still looked good) to sexy teacher, in a week; well played. Also, thank you for wearing your hair with one side cascading to the front and one side back. I know you do it for me, but you don't have to admit it. Well, I must say I used to be terrible as far as wardrobe was involved. I have always been a clean cut, showered guy, but I always had a terrible eye for fashion. I am getting better though. Real quick; cat is in the chair peeking over the table. You are getting better every week. Any plans for New Year's? Whatever they are I hope you have a blast. Thank you for all the amazing videos this year, Anna. I know many of us learned quite a bit, and that info has been put to good use. I definitely did notice you in red, and I must say, you looked very beautiful today. Happy New Year's, Anna!! Hug, and a peck on one cheek, long eye contact, kiss on the other cheek.
Most women aren't too concerned about men wearing the latest fashions. As long as you put in a little effort, that's usually good enough! (More when it's a special occasion. Women are particular about those.) Thank you for the compliment! Stealthy Cat: check ;)
Anna can you do a video on women with mommy issues as sometimes depending on how a woman was raised with a bad mother it can have a direct influence in her adulthood. 2ndly why do women who are broken always attract bad guys who mistreat them?
I’m 100% myself in word and deed. Some woman like it some not. You’re beautiful and funny, right my type. It’s kind hard to find somebody like you these days.
Ok , I feel sorry for all the young men out there . Today's gauntlet of dating might be the worst of times , so much media bombardment of what is out there for her TV shows , Reality shows Sitcoms great looking men with everything . A confused world so many empowered women my heart goes out to you guys I hope you don't find out you have invited a wild one into your home. Maybe after WW 2 when most wanted nearly the same thing for the most part...A Mom was a Mom at home a Father had the job kids were in the yard and down the street till the street lights came on. Most everyone pulling together to have a real life...Oh well rant over...Well old Dollar looks like it's you and me again riding off into the sunset alone...again....Lots of good info AJ for those brave enough to step into the crossfire....prepared with your help...
Its literally a shit show , every girl even the ugly ones have ten dudes lined up , and if you do hook up she's probably cheating on her bf with you..and if you do get into a relationship they still have ten dudes in her backups. this been my experience
@@thebunker6350 Try Filipino Cupid.....free membership only....look at women more than 20 years younger than you...wait till you get there to chat up and meet them....go low profile
My friend, young people don't watch TV like we did or maybe continue to do. They are wireless but connected to streaming apps and services, social media and RUclips, TV isn't their primary source of entertainment.
Also, you mentioned something about relationships always needing "tension," but I've had a good deal of flings/relationships that lasted anywhere from 2 months to 2 years that involved no tension. What they did involve, however, was a huge physical attraction on both ends before either of us even opened up our mouths, and or they really liked my sense of humor, and or we had a lot of shared interests and values, and they really liked how I had my shit together from the time I was in my mid 20s (51 now). We played no games and each genuinely wanted to be in a healthy relationship. Now, maybe if I created "tension" with the many other women who had no interest after one date, I would have gone further with them, as well, but from what I understand from other supposed dating coaches is that you create tension by doing things that are akin to when little boys pull the hair of little girls, via back handed compliments and playful jabs at women. And that's just not my style. For example, I've been told that if you meet a woman, and she tells you she's an actress, you should then reply, "Oh, so you mean you're unemployed." Or if she's not exactly skinny, you should say something like, "I actually like women who are thick with wide hips, so I hope you don't lose weight." Smh.
So at the end of those relationships, no tension? Saying this: "I actually like women who are thick with wide hips, so I hope you don't lose weight." to most women who are seemingly always concerned about their weight is so wrong. I like curvy women myself but you are saying to them in specifics that you like what they often despise. That's just not a good strategy. "I like you just the way you are" leave out the wide hips/thick stuff, you are telling them. There are few things more difficult than convincing a voluptuous woman that she's fine (body wise), and you prefer her just like she is. Instead of being appreciative of a man who likes her the way she is, she my think you a weirdo for it (faced that a few times), though the body positive movement as helped some in that regard. I haven't found a male dating coach I can tolerate for more than a few minutes. Most of them make me want to barf. They always seem to degrade into macho bravado dick measuring contestants. Some dude driving around in a McClaren bragging about all his masterful way with women but if you put him in a Corolla he'd go home alone most of the time. That guy (and those similar) are ZERO help to the average guy who punches a clock and/or drives a pickup truck. Bump it.
@@x-man5056 nope, no tension, unless you consider frequent bickering over silly issues to be "tension." And with my two best relationships, by far, there was no such bickering.....we just realized we were incompatible due to different life goals. I agree with you, hence why I've never been able to bring myself to give a woman a comment like that just to create initial tension and show her I'm not the "typical ass kisser she's used to" (which is why the so called dating experts recommend that we men say such things)
@@Lonstermash So-called is right. When you initially meet someone, "body talk" shouldn't be brought up I think. If she brings it up, be very selective with your choice of words. It's a thin ice subject to be left for discussion after you have some sort of a thing going first, IMO. I've never had to "try to create tension" in a relationship. Tension is a little sparsely defined here. Sexual tension yes, but otherwise, tension never seems to need help from me. The "typical ass kisser she's used to", sounds like something the McClaren guy would say. Same guy she woman complains about would be a real Romeo to her if he was handsome and/or wealthy. Don't kid yourself.
@@x-man5056 yes, and no regarding your last comment. I'm considered very handsome and in fantastic shape by many women, and I make over 6 figures, yet I get friend zoned almost half the time on first dates (especially ones I meet from dating sites), and when I try to start a conversation with a woman at a bar, night spot, or the gym, talking as a regular person (no simpy ass kissing OR, as the so called experts recommend, back handed compliments), I barely get the time of day much of the time. And my older brother IS super wealthy, 6 ft 4, and still good looking at 60, and he has similar bad results
@@Lonstermash 6 figure could be $999k or 100K. that's a huge difference that makes a difference. The average $200K guy is not driving a super car I'd guess. But you can only rely on looks as a door opener. If you have a $500k income you can be generous without simping, but if it looks like you are trying to buy affection that's a red flag for her if she's high value, but for many others, fine. So you've got looks and you've got money. Query yourself for being too high minded. Not an accusation, just a guess.
I'm a mature man and pretty confident about who I am, but I'm out of practice (dating, etc.) so these videos really help. By the way, I feel like I have a new friend (you). 🙂
Oh I did pause when you said "pause" but couldn't guess what The Almighty Turn-Off might be 🤔 (Don't reek of smoking? No, that was covered under grooming.) When you said [SPOILER] it was unexpected to me because when a girl does the same thing it's kinda charming 🙈 But it makes sense and "turn your sorries into thank yous" is a good mind trick to use. A lot of us don't swagger naturally- while a lot who shouldn't do- so we need such tricks!
Somewhat related: when you want something to happen, pose your question as a statement. Don't ask "would you like to do something Friday night?". Instead, say "let's do something Friday night". This has a better effect in so many ways that it warrants its own video.
I like your presentation style and vocalization. Yours points seem sort of reasonable also. The Eye stuff caught my attiention as eye contact made more than one woman turn back and get to know me. I never knew this sort of stuff in the day and just had to go on my feelings. It was fun to be young and ignorant.
@@YourWingmam +1 to this video. I would like to know what approach to take when women don’t wanna meet right away, but you’ve got their number and you’re texting.
I don’t say I’m sorry I say I was wrong and I won’t do it again. I change my attitude and live by spiritual principles. I own up to my wrongs and walk the walk. Truth and confidences. The ladies like it😉
The funniest part about the apologizing part is that my mom, out of all people, told me that women like it when a man admits fault and says that he's sorry. I didn't realize that by apologizing, it makes us appear weak and powerless. Well, at least I now know what not to do! Thanks, Wingmaam!!
This type of confusing narrative is a one of the reasons men like me don’t bother trying to impress women. I live for myself and do what makes me happy. The best way to attract women is to appreciate them when present but do not overvalue them. Just don’t give a sh*t. Always be a gentleman, but always project that you don’t need them.
Anna, Great job as always. You brought back memories of me getting caught smelling a woman's hair while standing in line. She turned around and smelled me, with a "not bad" facial expression. The whole night between us was eye contact, head nods and laughing. Hilarious!
ooooooo DNA mother nature chemistry, heart pumping, electrical tzzzt fantasticness. Ever wondered how mother nature programmed you both? It's all in the honey beez.
Great advise. I compare dating in the USA like having a second job. You are always studing about the latest way to win over a woman and the months of hard work to finally win the prize. International dating is when you meet 100's of beautiful women that really want to be with you and the tables are turned as to where the women are actively chase you.
What about 'Oops', or 'My bad' instead of 'Sorry'? I think it's also about timing. Styling it out to turn something into a positive. I suppose it invariably depends on the context of the situation.
Women will also instantly notice if you are fit and consider you potentially high value. If you are able, work on your diet and exercise. You will feel better, look better, and raise your "potential" hahaha, and yes, I follow my own advise! (boasting I know)...although I struggle to get below 20% body fat!
Fit, yes, obsessed with fitness not necessary for most high value women interested in a LTR so no worries on getting under 20%! I mentioned fit in my other video on what she notices first: ruclips.net/video/2nllp1hubi0/видео.html
@@YourWingmam Yes, better to be well rounded vs obsessed! And I agree with the subtitles in your other video. In fact, I think those factors are more important! You should do more videos from your bedroom! hahahaha
I always ask my women where they buy their clothes from and what brand of make up do they like. I then proceeded to ask them if their menstrual cycle is normal. If they don’t know how to answer you or get offended, ask for the check and say it was nice meeting you.
Here's the one thing you do to appeal to women: dress and act like you don't give a shit....oh, and one more little thing, have a 7-figure bank account.
These 'reasons' to quickly reject someone may be why the divorce rate is 50% or why the majority of relationships are short-lived. Women are too quick to judge when they don't really know the man & aren't thinking about what creates happiness in the long run. Sad!
When you first meet a woman don’t treat her as a woman, treat her as a person and you will see the difference in her reaction. Treating her as a person creates trust because many women erroneously think that your only interest in her is sexual.
She'll instantly notice and will judge you (men) if you're: 1) Short (Height) 2) Broke 3) Dusty 4) Fat 5) Awkward 6) Lazy 7) Shy 8) Ugly 9) Nice guy 10) Too skinny 😉👍
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Love it. TY. Unfortunately eye contact is very tricky especially if you are a large muscular uber confident Sigma male as it intimidates and frightens everyone especially females so eye contact is nowhere near as straight forward as you would think but all points are effective. To those of us with large offspring >6'3", we unfortunately much teach this as its critical in interviewing, business development and easily scoring new personal stuff whenever you want.
True. The more the height or muscle the more a soft smile or expression is needed and cautious eye contact. A delicate balance difficult to describe in words.
@@YourWingmam l don't know why, but women say...very nice pants when l have on a good tee shirt tucked in with camouflage pants. I only wear them new and never battered looking which brings out nice dark color patterns.
Correction: (Men! This is why, you NEVER ask women about dating advice!!) 1) Height / Tall is better (women wear high heels to weed out short men, obsession with height) 2) Good Looking / halo effects 3) Rich Looking/status Any opposit combo: short, not good looking, poor / living in parents basement = not attractive. Eye contact, confidence BS's, etc..just noises and virtual signaling! Imagine you're short, fat and ugly = being confident, keeping eye contact with a women is called being creepy...if a tall and good looking men don't need to do all that. When it comes to mate selection, women are very brutal and visual - they don't want to admit it.
Anne, I love these videos. We men are dogs and need to know the other perspective. My first girlfriend was nuts on....forearms. I know, but there you have it. I'm classical guy, I love stockings and skirts on a woman. My woman loves forearms. What women really love.....confidence and a BMW. Not picking your nose is a bonus after those two big boys.
@@YourWingmam Ya gotta leave them smiling. When you are only 5'8" tall you have to perform like a pocket battleship and punch WAAAY above your weight. being a 'wee guy' means getting the turbo afterburner on charm because the tall guys just breeze in and grab the gal. Watch women looking at tall guys, it's like some genetic 'well hello ladies', meanwhile I'm jumping on a trampoline next to him!
I've been married for 46 years now. Not saying sorry when I've messed up, or forgot to do something, always get me the "well don't say sorry or nothing!" sharp remark instantly. If I find myself facing that head wind, I counter attack with a reverse hug and a gentle "sorry my love" in her ear. Works most times, but how she reacts to that is a good indicator of just how badly I messd up. 😅
I find the same. BUT.....when the ladies have been having a wee sherry their confidence and nosiness can lead to what women call, 'upskirters'. Boy, do you need a pair of balls to ride that one out.
I have been trying to be romantic and nice for almost 4 years now without any results.Trying to please a female never works. I finally realized that the only way I get a response is by using No Contact after I meet someone, then I get lots of attention. I have a healthy life style, been told I'm nice looking, dress appropriately, am friendly and outgoing to everyone. I'm finding that it's not what you think of me - it's what I think of you as a potential partner that's important.
Yes how you look is important but what's the first question they ask ? What do you do for a job second question where do you live 3 Question do you own your home or are you renting if you pass the test Hi my name's what's yours this is just my personal experience many many years ago
Yes you are correct, women do notice clothes. I sew as a hobby and often modify my clothes to suit my tastes. I had a woman notice this and called these "REPAIRS." I set her straight but women who wear pants with holes in them are no position to rag on my tailored clothes.
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@@billhoward4082 welcome, thanks for watching!
Nails should always be number one. Surprised it wasn’t there.
How do you build confidence in yourself? I hardly have friends growing up and alone. I am all most 40 no girlfriend. I don't have a drive license because i can't focus or pay attention correctly .
Due to my intellectual disability and speaking disability.
Anna's hips! I knew your upper half was human, but now...our world will never be the same. Listen, usually I'd consider your advice, but I don't want my date to see me in a red skirt, babe.
It does not matter what a women finds attractive, she will get bored of you in a few years and leave. If your married with kids, she takes house, children, money, dog and savings when she leaves. The courts supports her 100 % and she knows it.
It isn't n easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Facts hurt.
Yes. I'm living through it now
Son thats what good lawyers are for ( before you get married )
Jesus Christ how about a cat dogs make to much damn noise
I'm so glad that I'm not interested about impressing women at this point in my life.
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You are damaged goods... Probably die alone at this point..
@@renelaizer6518 Why are you so bitter? Is it the haircut?
@@jawbrace I think the opposite... If you want to be a loner you will become that. It is our job as men to compliment women and make them feel needed. Like a man on a dance floor you have to ask her to dance with you.. Otherwise she has no idea you find her attractive...
@@jawbrace sorry in a strange place this evening
Top three things women notice about a man: 1) Money, 2) Bank Account, 3) Credit card limits.....
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All three of those are basically the same thing. It's more like:
1) Financial status
2) Social status
3) Her chances of obtaining his resources
Absolutely....facts👌👌👌
😂😂😂
No. Height. Face. Status.
A suggestion to guys .....
If you're at the end of the date and she says something to the effect of "I don't think we are a match." Reply with "Oh Thank God! I was trying to figure out how to end this without hurting your feelings." It throws her off and has her wanting to figure out what is wrong with her.
Thats' Gold!!
Or just smile and reply, “Great minds think alike,” and wink.
Oh lord
A keeper piece of advice.
Ok good come back. But I am used to be a very good match to my dates. If I was told that, I better kick myself for not following my reason and gut and getting such a date. In other words I disagree with pursuing women to the point that I went out with someone that wrong for me.
I’m an average , healthy 70 yr old guy. Got married for the first and only time at 59. No kids. Everything still going great! My advice: don’t get married too early in life!
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Been married 30 yrs! She still likes me and wouldn’t know what to do without me! Women in their 40’s and 50’s can’t “do better.” I just turned 60. We have 3 kids together. We are a family. The sum total is worth more than the parts. I love my wife!
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Yeah, they can do better. Definitely.
There are plenty of relationships that go south from men not giving their lady the attention they need and they get way too comfortable letting themselves go and assuming their wife cant do better.
Lots of competition out there.
Ever see the neighbor guy checking out or even talking to your wife when you were doing something with your beer gut hanging out, your beard all long and disheveled and your overall messy appearance?
I had a couple neighbors like this where their wives would come talk to me, make comments and even invite me into their house to check on some sort of plumbing issue or something while their husband was away.
My wife trusted me but I made sure I came over with one of my Daughters to see what the problem was….usually I could tell it was a set up just to get me over there.
Women also like the thrill of the chase.
A married man is more of a motivator than a single guy that is eager for attention.
Chicks love to start crap.
What a loser.
@@Billybo-22 She'll leave you immediately if there is a better situation without effort
I have to confess what I love most about ANY woman is her smile and laughter. Time and times are hard on us all. When a woman you are attracted to smiles and laughs.....it's like adding colour to the entire universe. The opposite is also true!
True story!
I completely agree. A giggle can undo me.
@@momohnasiru8119 Idk sir, If it did not work the first time why bother?. Things didnt work out for a reason, theres plenty of other girls out there
Dope
Oh god, another soy boy wimp/simp.
Saying "I'm sorry" was definitely a problem I had in the past. When I removed that from my vocabulary; my interactions with women went much smoother. Great advise Anna
Thanks for sharing your experience! And for watching! :)
Same...replaced with very infrequent....my bad
In order to win any argument, you have to say:"Oh yeah??? Well f*ck you!" I noticed that shuts people up and they don't expect any apologies from you. :)
@@evilinside6327 Thats a good debate and argument killer. Lol
@@evilinside6327 hahahahahah…..unless it is responded by a fist to the chin 😂
I recently met a nice young lady who works as the general manager of a local zoo. I think she's a keeper.
Zoo keeper
@@Filipp81 Correct
That last tip of making everything “thank you” instead of “sorry” is GOLD!
Glad you think so!
The part of apologizing is absolutely true. My girl told me long ago "Dont ever apologize to me unless you physically hurt me" which i know you wont ....
Kudos, she's more self-aware than most women! :))
Not even for farting under the sheets?
But maybe you should!
Why wouldn't you hurt her? :O
@@JonathanGillies squeeze the neck she'll love it during rub time!
My woman recently spent a couple of hours telling me things I had done wrong. I just agreed with her but never apologized.
The next day she tearfully apologized to me. I told her it is ok, baby, we all have bad days. It is nice to be respected.
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"my woman", "baby" ,LOL you have no future with women dude
Thank you, Ana. I'm not especially interested in dating right now but I've spent most of my life downplaying my personal appearance/personality. I'm 61 now and I'm pretty much finished with dismissing any advantage I have and you're really helping pull me out of that.
Glad I could help 🙏
I was raised to be courteous, and to apologize when I make a mistake. I always thought that most other people are kind of rude because they don’t apologize. I like your advice to thank her for being patient. I would add, don’t do things you have to apologize for. That is, show that you’re responsible and can be on time.
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There’s a difference between apologizing, and acknowledging an error. Never apologize. Freely acknowledge error.
"I was raised to be courteous, and to apologize when I make a mistake."
that's for life in general, but not for attracting women
they fail to teach boys that
I’m way past my prime and very happily married, but back in the day (70s -90s) women were constantly initiating conversations with me. In bars, on the subway, fast food joints and restaurants. I love talking to women..it’s one of life’s greatest pleasures. But I was so clueless that I didn’t even realise many of these women ever flirting with me..doh 😅. For years I just believed that women were naturally friendly. Now I’m married to a woman who possses the biggest, kindest heart, and the greatest smile ever in the history of smiles. I sometimes wonder what the hell she sees in me, but I’m always grateful and humbled that she loves me. But I still enjoy having conversations with women..they’re just so interesting.
Bottom line..."Be Yourself!"...At the end of the day...Nobody really cares about what you think...do...or say except YOU!...Follow your own 🌟star and always stand up for what you believe in! Be a high value, high standard & higher principle person who never settles for anything LESS!!!...You only live once...
100%!
Evaluate them and be yourself. The more you try to impress a woman, the more you'll move away from who you are...you can still put yourself together and take care of your health. That will make you feel better.
@@YourWingmam No not 100%. If i would be myself 100 percent i would not have a steady job or had any relationships. I have to pretend every day to be someone i would rather not be and i am pretty good at it.
If you are social person and have lot´s of friends and are amicable i would agree but for a lot of people this is the worst advice. I am not only talking about men this applies also for females. Society demands that you act in a particular way if not you wil be an outcast! This lesson i had to learn the hard way.
The funny thing here is your video proves what i am saying.
@@bartrazin The older I get, the more impractical being myself becomes
What you win them with is what you keep them with.
When it comes to apologizing…my best friend, a married woman that I’ve worked with since I was 19(I’m 41 now)…told me a long time ago…”don’t say your sorry..just say you won’t do it again”…wise words from one of the smartest, wisest women I’ve ever met…she’s become a sister and mentor to me over the years…and when I do get married I want someone not just like her(because I can only handle one of her in my life lol)…but definitely someone similar…
Wise counsel indeed! :))
" I won't do that again". ( and your cheque is in the post)!
Here's a tip don't ever get married its a death sentence nowadays
Thank you for the wisdom in finding a solid relationship. I lost my wife of 26 years to COVID. I will fly to the Philippines next week to visit a lady who is a widow and has been doing daily WhatsApp video chats for several months. She is 54. nice looking, a little overweight, super attractive inner person. One key thing I look for in a woman for marriage is when her friends make statements about her like This is a woman of high character, or This is a quality woman. That catches my attention. If people do not give testimony of their friend, their sister, their daughter, or their mother, I suspect there is something to be aware of. If this Filipina proves to be the one, we will be hiking & scuba diving around the world for as many years as God gives us.
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Sorry for the loss of your late wife. Good luck with your new lady friend.
For God sakes be careful! Don’t give money before you know for sure.
Tell us how it went.
You built her a house on the family land yet m8?
I have no plans or intentions on following your advice, which I think is generally good, because I’ve decided not to deal with all this relationship BS. However I watch your videos because I like your presentation, sense of humor, and you appear to be a nice person.
I appreciate the compliment!! And it learning about women isn't wasted as you probably have some in your life regardless (work, family etc) Thank you for being here!
@@YourWingmam thank you for replying. In retrospect I still wouldn’t meeting someone. I suppose I wouldn’t watch your video podcast if I didn’t…a little. I was just being pessimistic at the time.
Wishing you a very happy New Years Wingma'm Anna!!
Ridiculous, this is why this 58 year old woman is single still.
I've been happily married for 21 years, so I'm not looking for any romantic attachment. I watched this because romantic relationships are not the only reason that you want to make a good impression with woman. Even if they don't want romance, women still like attractive men, just like I still like attractive women. It never hurts to be liked! A lot of what you say about grooming and clothes is basic, but I see you also do have some subtle observations. I'm still continuing to up my game in the grooming and dress. It really does up peoples impression of you in a noticeable way. They may not notice that perfect manicure or that your jacket is Harris tweed, but they will get the general impression that you are put together. The nodding is good, but I'm not so sure about the head to toe look. I don't want to give the wrong impression, but if I was single ... Yes, it is a great test! Hey, I still flirt with my wife. I'm sure she'd love some butterflies! I agree with what you say about apologizing. When we first got married, my wife kept doing that, and it is annoying! Fortunately, she broke that habit! However, I think apologizing and admitting that you're wrong when appropriate is a strength. People who never apologize or admit that they are wrong seem very weak to me, but I know not everybody agrees with me on this. Obviously, you do agree. I do like the idea of changing the apologies to thank you. I'm in sales, and it's all about framing! Thank you for taking the time to read through this!
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I am married to a woman 32 years younger. At time we were dating I was a well established man in terms of what I like, and dislike, who I am, whom I do not want to be etc. She described me, at first date, as a very masculine. Somehow I met all requirements you mentioned in your video. We dated shortly and get married. It is already 12 anniversary of our marriage and going strongly. Very wise and useful advises of yours. Thank you.
My motto, dating after a long marriage and divorced at 50 yrs. Go with the flow... If your initial encounter is mutually smith, then it might be worth while to follow up. Don't chase the butterfly crazy with a net "needy", let the butterfly choose to land on your shoulder.
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Reminds me of a friend I no longer am friends with. During a telephone conversation with her, about my then relationship with another woman, the friend asked me a series of questions about my relationship. She didn’t like how happy I was about my relationship. Her response was to offend me and yell in frustration. I was taken aback. Speechless, too. Following day, I mentioned her rude comments to her. Instead of saying sorry, she responds with, “I’m such a B.” The entitlement in her voice and inability to say sorry ended an eight year friendship. Now free from her toxicity.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Women do this stupid kid shit they always make decisions with emotions
Sounds like my mother that I cut off
She probably secretly liked you, wanted you to herself, but didn't want to commit.
Very nicely done! At my age I think I've figured most of it out by now but it was still good to have it validated. One thing I found out is one of the most difficult, and that is to reject anyone who might be really interested in me but to not be able to reciprocate it, as egoistic as that might sound. Just the opposite in fact - I feel terrible when that happens, especially to someone who might be vulnerable because I've been on the receiving end of that myself!
All we can do is be the best that we can.
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My top 3 list from experience.
1.Confidence
2. High Emotional IQ
3. Taking charge of the initial sexual courtship process.
Bonus: retaining an aura of mysteriousness to keep her constantly guessing about me, it is sexually alluring for most women. Why they are the biggest market for the mystery romance books.
What do you mean taking charge of initial sexual courtship process? Arranging the dates etc?
1. Shit
2. Bollocks
3. Bugger it
1. Just
2. Bee
3. Yourself
Just started to think about Dating again. My wife has passed awhile ago, so thanks for the tips. Things seemed to have changed from what I see, I'm older...for one. I would hope I'm more sophisticated than at 20, (We'll see).
Thanks for your insight.
They're also the biggest audience for true crime stories, particularly gory murders.
Before I was married , I did very well in the dating scene and I will say , everything she has touched upon, is spot on , especially the eye contact and apologizing.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Having confidence but NOT cocky!
The "check out" is a winner. It's my preferred MO, and it's worked for me many times. I've actually tried to teach it to my buddies. This works best with a group of friends. Keep notice of the door. When an attractive woman walks in that you might be interested in, make SURE that she catches you looking her up and down briefly with that "Mmm, mmm" look. Then, casually look away, turn back to your friends, start talking to them, and just ignore her. By doing this, you've created a win/win situation for her. She knows you're interested, but you aren't pursuing her, putting her on the defensive. It also makes you look good because you don’t appear desperate, raising your social value in her eyes. If she's interested, she'll usually walk over eventually and start a conversation with YOU. This works. I've had many women come to me and start the conversation.
Just re-watched this. #3 epiphany. And it's so logical it's really scary. Glad you are on our side Anna. Don't know why I never made this connection consciously.
#3 explains why it is so damaging when you look away when you get caught checking out a woman. She doesn't think "shy", she thinks either disinterested or no confidence. So, inversed logically, if you ham it up a little, or even just have a wry smile and wink, she doesn't just think you are interested, she thinks you are confident.
I have lived that out so many times in my youth, cursed myself for looking away many times. But now, it's not just a solution (never look away if you like her), but a strategy to move forward. The 'ham it up' you choose could win the moment. Wink at her and get up and moonwalk. (or equivalent) But maintain eye contact with her when you do it, smile. Once you get attention and start some amusement, chemistry flows. Laughing is a stimulant. Endorphins and Adrenalin. Now there's a let's get together cocktail.
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I hope she said this was in a social/casual setting. Do this at work, civilian or in the military, & I'd say look out.
@@williamonderlinde5068 It is a universal truism that pursuing women at work is generally a really bad idea. But yes, I was pulling a compilation from my younger days in dance clubs. I've always been able to use humor for a lure...anywhere.
In today's solipsistic world, she may also think "Stalker", kidding of course but in some cases...
"when you get caught" .... That is a wrong interpretation. We have all learned that you only can sneaky look at a woman to enjoy her. Now we know it is bullshit ! Indeed it shows you are confident. You are interested. It is okay to do that. In my (new) world it is okay to do that... A woman also needs these moments of attention: "Do men still notice me?" She can decide for herself if she wants to look at men to see if she is being noticed. If she wants peace for herself then she just will not check and look around if a man/men is checking on her... It is that simpel.
Personally, I find the many women who refuse to apologise and opt for passive aggression/victim playing when challenged totally repel me. I had to confront my boss over a mistake and the response was: ‘that’s because I f&&&&&& up’. I thought it was hot - showed transparency and ownership. Turn on for me
When you married you sign a death certificate.
Change the law.
@@itsme-sq5rd LOL!
I’m in zombie mode
Well you do promise "till death us do part".
Until death does she part with the credit cards.
I don't care want a woman thinks about me. I want a woman to like me for what kind of person I am.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that 🙏
Whoever you are I agree with you I take you face value play I don't play games and plus you don't know if she's the right one my mom always told me it'll come when it's ready she also say no she's the right one for u
Exactly. What our host is describing here is from her limited frame of reference. Her approach may work for many or even most, but some not at all. I approached things as you do. Before I met my wife now, and after my first nightmare, I unfortunately had a number of situations that did not work. The one thing i did not do, and is my advice to any man reading this, NEVER EVER DO IT HER WAY. There is some thing to gleam from this video. But like this gentleman posted, DO IT YOUR WAY. Any woman you date, know your key elements you want. Today, and I know 100% from experience, women absolutely want to dominate. As a believer in traditional values (our host here I sense has a different version of that) I make judgements on tge viability of the relationship by my agenda. Not hers. End of story.,
A contradiction of not caring to I want women to like me, lol which is it?
I hate the eye contact crap. Don’t try to lock eyes with me or I’ll straight up reject you for failing to just ask for what you want. Use your F-ing words if you want something. I don’t play those stupid mindless games.
I'm so unburdened to have finally grown up and transcended this need to impress or attract a woman. Yep. I'm older. And free.
what happened to b yourself? how long do you keep this act up? If she does not love me as I'am ...then forget her eh bye~~~!
@@howardlawrence9882 Can you rephrase your question?
Pfttt… hearts are breaking…. Not
John, LOL i guess i am at that age myself. actually been there for some time, impress them, and go broke keeping them happy. not me not anymore. i am free to do and go any where, anytime i want.
@@davidbreen4727 A real does whatever the fuck he wants.
You continue to be the most grounded and sensible of any one giving advice on RUclips. You are so self aware and you make it easy to understand what is happening in a social situation. It makes all this advice very good and practical.
Thank you so much! I appreciate your generous words!
Well done, useful, and on-point with a very enjoyable delivery. This women is a gem to uphold.
Its only human nature.
It cannot be taught.
I've always been told when younger that these things were repulsive, creepy, that being too dominent or bold was bad but more and more videos like you prove me the opposite, that women want dominance, boldness and standards. About standards, how can one show standards without looking obnoxious, boastful or anything like that?
Women want fried ice. Stop trying to impress a frigid abyss and a bottomless pit.
Probably Media lies.
Women always say the opposite of what they mean. Lying.
Greatness of wisdom when it comes from an honest and intelligent lady to learn from.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I’ve noticed that I have two traits that saves a lot of effort:
1. Extremely deep voice
2. Assertiveness but polite
These get me a ton of comments and interest from the ladies!
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Treat 'em mean, to keep 'em keen. That's ALL any man needs to know.
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Um. No.
I learned that long ago. Women fall for the good bad boy. They like a man who is rough on others, but kind to them. Makes them feel like a queen around a king. I used that for my benefit. Then I came to Christ and changed. Now I keep it in my pants and go about my life. Eternity is forever and God doesn't accept fornicators or the unloving, unkind.
I can't argue, I saw that red skirt in the thumbnail and was immediately intrigued about what you had to say. Red skirt and white blouse are always a classic combination, at least for me. Good video.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
You really are a good friend to dudes Anna.
You have an audience of people that appreciate your work and have learned from it. .Your videos have improved exponentially. Although that could be pillow cats influence. I'm grateful to have found you.
What a lovely compliment, Kevin! Thank you for being here and appreciating my work .. and my cat lol
@Robert Chavez I love jealous people
*11 Stoic Traits I Wish I Knew In My 20s:*
1. Take a short term loss in order to have a 5-10 year play ⏱
2. Will look for one quality woman
3. Alpha by own definition (you set your own rules, guidelines, etc.).
4. The real troubles (hell) these men go through, but others won't know it. Ability to weather the storm.
5. Intimacy becomes Child's play and a crutch. This is many men's Achilles heal.
6. Consider legacy. Name, reputation and legacy are the only things men have.
7. Wealth accumulation is used for an internal strategy for comfort, not for an external validation of the world. Only comes when playing the long game.
8. Focus on skills NOT focus on the hours. 🎯
9 Talent finds you.
10. Nothing scares you.
11. Strong ability to control all sorts of different urges (from drinking, smoking, dirty websites to nail-biting/nail picking) - if you relapse. Learn and study everything to control your mind… (or it controls you = NOT GOOD).
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.
underrated comment
Great list!
@@heathjoints9845 For sure buddy
@@Farmerownia Thanks:)
@@YourWingmam Thank you!
Women like sarcasm, it's comedic confidence. It makes you appear witty and that's a plus. Comedy is also good overall, she wants an experience, take her on an emotional rollercoaster that keeps her guessing.
I'm so far from being ready to get back in the flirting game. But Wingmam's videos reassure me that I'm facing the right direction.
If you keep watching the info will stick to your subconscious and be there for you when you are ready! Thank you for being here!
@@YourWingmam You're welcome, and likewise.
Frequent apologies. And explaining myself too much. And a crippling modesty. That all had to be sorted out. It's a bucket of confidence with a big hole in the bottom.
The keystone, imo, is this question.
If you're new to confidence how do you prevent the leap towards arrogance?
(Healthy ego becoming egotism)
She's just a Chameleon DON'T take dating advice from a girl EVER..
@@zenzombie72 Work out as much as you can.... if your male body is jacked then nobody can intimidate you!
Dating advice is a waste of time. The reason why is because it puts the man in a position where he is selling in order to get a woman to buy the social contract. The problem is that the selling can't stop, even if successful. If a woman has to be convinced through a hard sell to date a man, she's never going to be satisfied either with him or his efforts in the relationship and will induce misery through endless sh!t testing. If a woman isn't seriously attracted to you from the onset, you're wasting your time, your energy, and your money. Stress is the #1 killer and nothing can stress a man like an unhappy woman (which seems to be their standard operating procedure in this era.)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@@YourWingmam best of luck. My opinion is not based out of misogyny, but rather of the opinion that communications technology has reached a level to where it has induced a behavioral sink and the human species is pursuing a Calhoun Experiment through it. The zombie apocalypse is spreading, one smartphone at a time. Take care out there and don’t worry about these people. We’re all about to have much graver concerns than whether we can fulfill a social contract that is undergoing deconstruction through corporate sponsored pop culture. (Nods, walks off in search of a rousing game of Tiddlywinks)
You're so helpful... wise in your understanding, balanced in your perspective, and practical in your application. Thanks!! 🙂
You are so welcome!
I am ex-biker/ ex-hippy/ ex-new age traveller, still have [really quite] long hair, bushy [but trimmed] beard and still wear tatty jeans, biker jacket and army boots.
I've never been [at all] 'mainstream' but have still managed to attract women.
I think the culture you're a part of, and the sort of people you mix with, must be a factor in your 'social success'.
2021 ends soon enjoy your new year eve. its so good hear your weekly pep talks. 🤗
I have had a few problems in this regard. I am forever apologising for never being wrong about anything.
I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best ❤️ 🙏🏼
LOVE YOUR VIDEOS! I am married and your advice is great for staying "on point" in my relationship. Thanks! Happy New Year!
Happy new year! Thanks for watching!
Love your videos, thanks so much for all of the wisdom that you pass on. Have a great day and New Year! ❤️
Thank you so much for watching! I hope 2022 is good to you!
YW, your analytical and differentiating ability with alpha vs sigma males are refreshingly spot on 💓
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
As far as eye contact is concerned, I have noticed something about photos of women wearing face masks. The only three things I perceive coming out of their eyes are confusion, anger, and fear. For eye contact to work properly, it would appear that the entire face must be exposed. For the time being, we have no choice other than to use this as a possible learning experience, unless I'm wrong. My hypothesis can be tested by your commenters, Anna, if you do an entire video while wearing a mask. But no cheating allowed: don't try to force different emotions and feeling out of your eyes to avoid emotions and feelings of confusion, anger, and fear while wearing the mask.
That's an odd observation. I wear a mask all day. So do my clients. I'm smiling most of the time, and so are they. I can see it in their eyes, they really are the window to the soul. There is much more to facial expression than the mouth.
@@jamestragle9504 And there is much more to facial expression than the eyes.
@@roberthagedorn290 of course. But you can see a person's smile without seeing their mouth and nose. Give it a whirl.
@@jamestragle9504 I understand your point. But a smile requires lips, along with the rest of the face. You yourself use the term "facial expression" as opposed to "eye expression." It's a personal thing. A lot of people actually enjoy wearing masks and are comfortable with other covered people. I personally think masks are creepy, but necessary in certain situations we find ourselves in at the unfortunate present time. Where I live, most people wear masks outdoors. They look like giant insects walking on their hind quarters wearing clothes while they access their mobile devices.
And I'm not so sure about the accuracy of "the eyes are the window to the soul." There's a lot of truth there, but I once had a good friend who was totally blind. I never had any trouble perceiving his emotions and feeling. But this was long before mask days arrived. If he had been forced to wear a mask, I would have had to rely completely on the 7% of communication that's verbal.
@@roberthagedorn290 put a mask in and go to a mirror. Start out deadpan blank. Then frown, grimace, grin, smile. Note your eyebrows and crow's feet. There's also context of a conversation, voice tone, laughter, etc.
"I'am looking away now" 😂
Thank you for playing your part!
We men thrive when women acts a little submissive from time to time.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Definitely true about the put together part.
Here’s an anecdote of my experiences.
First off, let me say that I’m not that ‘gorgeous guy’, not by any means.
I spent a lot of time at work, going to the company cafeteria in my blue Nomex flight suit. Not one woman ever gave me a second look in the 23years of test flying.
I left flight test and went to the airlines for the last few years of my career, and got constant looks while going to the gate.
The uniform was always pressed, Silver wings, four stripes and a clean shirt and tie. My facial hair was groomed and hair trimmed.
I called it the ‘uniform effect’ but it sure made the ladies very quick to return the smile.
It has been my experience if you want a woman to go to bed with you, that night, you completely ignore her. Never tell them that they are pretty or beautiful. You can make eye contact in a bored way. You will have so many women around you, you can put them to work. I did. Believe me. Anything that would work with a cat will work with a woman.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Anna, once again a great weekly segment. I’ve been a subscriber for quite a while. I have a topic you may be able address. Seems that many middle aged women (40’s+) still feel as much SMV (market value) as when they were in their 20’s, and often have more baggage and greater limitations, yet often even higher expectations of when they were younger. The Better Bachelor describes this well from a man’s point of view. You have commented recently about his podcasts. I’m an early 50’s middle class, called handsome though average joe looking in reality, clean cut, full head of hair, teddy bear frame, homeowner with a career, goals and nearly a millionaire, just not ready to retire. Maybe I need a better internet match profile, or something. Maybe it’s just the south Florida way of life. Is there a way to neutralize this false level of hypergamy among those that just don’t have the same ass,ets from 20 yrs ago.? Yet of course in a tasteful way that resonates to a mutual appreciation of each other.
Changing the mentality of women that feel that way would more work than finding one with her head screwed right.
If women mirror your feeling/emotional state I think you would do well to reflect your own back to them(even if they are 40+) by simply STATING a genuine "Ouch" when (ideally) in the BEGINNING of the relationship they start "projecting" a list of impossible (if not, at least unrealistic) standards onto you.
It may be they were raised to believe they were incapable of being denied every single wish of their heart and no one has ever bothered to tell them that's not part of the real world.
Hope you find something here useful, as was intended.
I referred my two grandsons to your channel. Guys need all the help they can get nowadays.
Thank you! If they use the advice they’ll have far more and better options!
Heck with that. I'm no fashonista. My clothes are clean and fit me the way that I'm comfortable. Giving up on life - no. Giving up on trying to satisfy the never-ending list that women have on men - yes. Too many women think showing so much skin or skintight clothing is what honest men are looking for. Looks are fleeting though being clean and otherwise being healthy looking is a somewhat major requirement. The world does not revolve around women nor are they princesses by any means. Women who are based in reality backed by facts are the ones we men are looking for. The Chads and Tyrones are the ones looking for the other women. At least for a hook-up anyways.
You said it !
So it's 1. Appearance because she want's to feel good about being seen with you, 2. Eye contact because she want's emotional commitment and 3. Confidence because she doesn't want or need a wuss.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Eye contact can be beautiful with someone you love. It is like melting into each other as the rest of the world disappears.
I’m not sure how this video comes into my feed but the narrator is easy to like. Somehow I listen to her advice. My advice to men is do not care too much about a woman likes. Less effort boys.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Dear Anna:
Well, we went from private school teacher (you still looked good) to sexy teacher, in a week; well played. Also, thank you for wearing your hair with one side cascading to the front and one side back. I know you do it for me, but you don't have to admit it.
Well, I must say I used to be terrible as far as wardrobe was involved. I have always been a clean cut, showered guy, but I always had a terrible eye for fashion. I am getting better though.
Real quick; cat is in the chair peeking over the table. You are getting better every week.
Any plans for New Year's? Whatever they are I hope you have a blast. Thank you for all the amazing videos this year, Anna. I know many of us learned quite a bit, and that info has been put to good use.
I definitely did notice you in red, and I must say, you looked very beautiful today.
Happy New Year's, Anna!! Hug, and a peck on one cheek, long eye contact, kiss on the other cheek.
Most women aren't too concerned about men wearing the latest fashions. As long as you put in a little effort, that's usually good enough! (More when it's a special occasion. Women are particular about those.) Thank you for the compliment! Stealthy Cat: check ;)
Anna can you do a video on women with mommy issues as sometimes depending on how a woman was raised with a bad mother it can have a direct influence in her adulthood. 2ndly why do women who are broken always attract bad guys who mistreat them?
Great questions, Jarod! I do have your mommy issues request on the docket, I'll add the other. :))
I’m 100% myself in word and deed. Some woman like it some not. You’re beautiful and funny, right my type. It’s kind hard to find somebody like you these days.
Ok , I feel sorry for all the young men out there . Today's gauntlet of dating might be the worst of times , so much media bombardment of what is out there for her TV shows , Reality shows Sitcoms great looking men with everything . A confused world so many empowered women my heart goes out to you guys I hope you don't find out you have invited a wild one into your home. Maybe after WW 2 when most wanted nearly the same thing for the most part...A Mom was a Mom at home a Father had the job kids were in the yard and down the street till the street lights came on. Most everyone pulling together to have a real life...Oh well rant over...Well old Dollar looks like it's you and me again riding off into the sunset alone...again....Lots of good info AJ for those brave enough to step into the crossfire....prepared with your help...
The good ole days really were better in many ways!
Its literally a shit show , every girl even the ugly ones have ten dudes lined up , and if you do hook up she's probably cheating on her bf with you..and if you do get into a relationship they still have ten dudes in her backups. this been my experience
Glad to see someone else feel the same way. You have to do all this do date someone?
@@thebunker6350 Try Filipino Cupid.....free membership only....look at women more than 20 years younger than you...wait till you get there to chat up and meet them....go low profile
My friend, young people don't watch TV like we did or maybe continue to do. They are wireless but connected to streaming apps and services, social media and RUclips, TV isn't their primary source of entertainment.
Also, you mentioned something about relationships always needing "tension," but I've had a good deal of flings/relationships that lasted anywhere from 2 months to 2 years that involved no tension. What they did involve, however, was a huge physical attraction on both ends before either of us even opened up our mouths, and or they really liked my sense of humor, and or we had a lot of shared interests and values, and they really liked how I had my shit together from the time I was in my mid 20s (51 now). We played no games and each genuinely wanted to be in a healthy relationship. Now, maybe if I created "tension" with the many other women who had no interest after one date, I would have gone further with them, as well, but from what I understand from other supposed dating coaches is that you create tension by doing things that are akin to when little boys pull the hair of little girls, via back handed compliments and playful jabs at women. And that's just not my style. For example, I've been told that if you meet a woman, and she tells you she's an actress, you should then reply, "Oh, so you mean you're unemployed." Or if she's not exactly skinny, you should say something like, "I actually like women who are thick with wide hips, so I hope you don't lose weight." Smh.
So at the end of those relationships, no tension?
Saying this: "I actually like women who are thick with wide hips, so I hope you don't lose weight." to most women who are seemingly always concerned about their weight is so wrong. I like curvy women myself but you are saying to them in specifics that you like what they often despise. That's just not a good strategy. "I like you just the way you are" leave out the wide hips/thick stuff, you are telling them.
There are few things more difficult than convincing a voluptuous woman that she's fine (body wise), and you prefer her just like she is. Instead of being appreciative of a man who likes her the way she is, she my think you a weirdo for it (faced that a few times), though the body positive movement as helped some in that regard.
I haven't found a male dating coach I can tolerate for more than a few minutes. Most of them make me want to barf. They always seem to degrade into macho bravado dick measuring contestants. Some dude driving around in a McClaren bragging about all his masterful way with women but if you put him in a Corolla he'd go home alone most of the time. That guy (and those similar) are ZERO help to the average guy who punches a clock and/or drives a pickup truck. Bump it.
@@x-man5056 nope, no tension, unless you consider frequent bickering over silly issues to be "tension." And with my two best relationships, by far, there was no such bickering.....we just realized we were incompatible due to different life goals. I agree with you, hence why I've never been able to bring myself to give a woman a comment like that just to create initial tension and show her I'm not the "typical ass kisser she's used to" (which is why the so called dating experts recommend that we men say such things)
@@Lonstermash So-called is right. When you initially meet someone, "body talk" shouldn't be brought up I think. If she brings it up, be very selective with your choice of words. It's a thin ice subject to be left for discussion after you have some sort of a thing going first, IMO.
I've never had to "try to create tension" in a relationship. Tension is a little sparsely defined here. Sexual tension yes, but otherwise, tension never seems to need help from me.
The "typical ass kisser she's used to", sounds like something the McClaren guy would say.
Same guy she woman complains about would be a real Romeo to her if he was handsome and/or wealthy. Don't kid yourself.
@@x-man5056 yes, and no regarding your last comment. I'm considered very handsome and in fantastic shape by many women, and I make over 6 figures, yet I get friend zoned almost half the time on first dates (especially ones I meet from dating sites), and when I try to start a conversation with a woman at a bar, night spot, or the gym, talking as a regular person (no simpy ass kissing OR, as the so called experts recommend, back handed compliments), I barely get the time of day much of the time. And my older brother IS super wealthy, 6 ft 4, and still good looking at 60, and he has similar bad results
@@Lonstermash 6 figure could be $999k or 100K. that's a huge difference that makes a difference. The average $200K guy is not driving a super car I'd guess. But you can only rely on looks as a door opener. If you have a $500k income you can be generous without simping, but if it looks like you are trying to buy affection that's a red flag for her if she's high value, but for many others, fine.
So you've got looks and you've got money. Query yourself for being too high minded. Not an accusation, just a guess.
I'm a mature man and pretty confident about who I am, but I'm out of practice (dating, etc.) so these videos really help. By the way, I feel like I have a new friend (you). 🙂
You got this!
Oh I did pause when you said "pause" but couldn't guess what The Almighty Turn-Off might be 🤔 (Don't reek of smoking? No, that was covered under grooming.) When you said [SPOILER] it was unexpected to me because when a girl does the same thing it's kinda charming 🙈 But it makes sense and "turn your sorries into thank yous" is a good mind trick to use. A lot of us don't swagger naturally- while a lot who shouldn't do- so we need such tricks!
Extra point for pausing! ;)Glad you found some value in this one. Swagger not needed :)
Somewhat related: when you want something to happen, pose your question as a statement.
Don't ask "would you like to do something Friday night?". Instead, say "let's do something Friday night".
This has a better effect in so many ways that it warrants its own video.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
It's called an open-ended question. That is, a question where the answer isn't yes or no.
I like your presentation style and vocalization. Yours points seem sort of reasonable also. The Eye stuff caught my attiention as eye contact made more than one woman turn back and get to know me. I never knew this sort of stuff in the day and just had to go on my feelings. It was fun to be young and ignorant.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Thanks Ana. I would like more clothing tips and how to go from messaging to actual dating if women take things slowly.
You're welcome! Video suggestions noted :))
@@YourWingmam +1 to this video. I would like to know what approach to take when women don’t wanna meet right away, but you’ve got their number and you’re texting.
I don’t say I’m sorry I say I was wrong and I won’t do it again.
I change my attitude and live by spiritual principles.
I own up to my wrongs and walk the walk.
Truth and confidences.
The ladies like it😉
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Anna, thank you, you're fun to listen to. I'm 65 and it's been a long time.
Glad I could help 🙏
The funniest part about the apologizing part is that my mom, out of all people, told me that women like it when a man admits fault and says that he's sorry.
I didn't realize that by apologizing, it makes us appear weak and powerless.
Well, at least I now know what not to do! Thanks, Wingmaam!!
My pleasure ❤️ Use this alternative for sorry instead 👉 ruclips.net/video/97fjD6LcO70/видео.html
This type of confusing narrative is a one of the reasons men like me don’t bother trying to impress women. I live for myself and do what makes me happy.
The best way to attract women is to appreciate them when present but do not overvalue them.
Just don’t give a sh*t. Always be a gentleman, but always project that you don’t need them.
Mothers and sisters are the worst. Actally, they're great- just do the opposite of what they say.
Women like to say one thing but in reality it's the opposite don't know why so this stupid shit
@@mrsherwood2599 actually
Anna, Great job as always. You brought back memories of me getting caught smelling a woman's hair while standing in line. She turned around and smelled me, with a "not bad" facial expression. The whole night between us was eye contact, head nods and laughing. Hilarious!
ooooooo DNA mother nature chemistry, heart pumping, electrical tzzzt fantasticness. Ever wondered how mother nature programmed you both? It's all in the honey beez.
@@scottmurray5600 That's a good point. Texas gave me 5 years of goodness.
Love that! Fun and playful, always keep those in mind!
Great advise. I compare dating in the USA like having a second job. You are always studing about the latest way to win over a woman and the months of hard work to finally win the prize. International dating is when you meet 100's of beautiful women that really want to be with you and the tables are turned as to where the women are actively chase you.
What about 'Oops', or 'My bad' instead of 'Sorry'? I think it's also about timing. Styling it out to turn something into a positive. I suppose it invariably depends on the context of the situation.
True!
Oops or my bad is not as sincere but like she said don’t use sorry every day only when you really mess up
Women will also instantly notice if you are fit and consider you potentially high value. If you are able, work on your diet and exercise. You will feel better, look better, and raise your "potential" hahaha, and yes, I follow my own advise! (boasting I know)...although I struggle to get below 20% body fat!
Fit, yes, obsessed with fitness not necessary for most high value women interested in a LTR so no worries on getting under 20%! I mentioned fit in my other video on what she notices first: ruclips.net/video/2nllp1hubi0/видео.html
@@YourWingmam Yes, better to be well rounded vs obsessed! And I agree with the subtitles in your other video. In fact, I think those factors are more important! You should do more videos from your bedroom! hahahaha
“Never apologize, mister, it's a sign of weakness.” -- John Wayne.
Thank you for sharing, I think you might like this video 👉 ruclips.net/video/97fjD6LcO70/видео.html
Sounds like a real narcissist or sociopath
It's not always a sign of weakness.
I never apologise... I am sorry but, that's the way I am...
H.simpson
That's easy - the size of the mans wallet - the size of the mans bank account - and the size of the mans cash roll - we are in trouble folks
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
I always ask my women where they buy their clothes from and what brand of make up do they like. I then proceeded to ask them if their menstrual cycle is normal. If they don’t know how to answer you or get offended, ask for the check and say it was nice meeting you.
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@@YourWingmam Seriously? Seems just vulgar trolling.
I had to stop often and absorb what you say. You make SO MUCH sense, and i love the way you say it. Thank you from your latest subsciber
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Here's the one thing you do to appeal to women: dress and act like you don't give a shit....oh, and one more little thing, have a 7-figure bank account.
Todays women, exactly about the $$$$
These 'reasons' to quickly reject someone may be why the divorce rate is 50% or why the majority of relationships are short-lived.
Women are too quick to judge when they don't really know the man & aren't thinking about what creates happiness in the long run.
Sad!
It definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
When you first meet a woman don’t treat her as a woman, treat her as a person and you will see the difference in her reaction. Treating her as a person creates trust because many women erroneously think that your only interest in her is sexual.
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She'll instantly notice and will judge you (men) if you're:
1) Short (Height)
2) Broke
3) Dusty
4) Fat
5) Awkward
6) Lazy
7) Shy
8) Ugly
9) Nice guy
10) Too skinny
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11) Bad attitude. ... *Women mirror your feelings about you aka if you don't think you're good enough, she'll agree.*
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Love it. TY. Unfortunately eye contact is very tricky especially if you are a large muscular uber confident Sigma male as it intimidates and frightens everyone especially females so eye contact is nowhere near as straight forward as you would think but all points are effective. To those of us with large offspring >6'3", we unfortunately much teach this as its critical in interviewing, business development and easily scoring new personal stuff whenever you want.
True. The more the height or muscle the more a soft smile or expression is needed and cautious eye contact. A delicate balance difficult to describe in words.
@@YourWingmam l don't know why, but women say...very nice pants when l have on a good tee shirt tucked in with camouflage pants. I only wear them new and never battered looking which brings out nice dark color patterns.
I have decided that I will no longer pursue a dating relationship and live by myself for the rest of my life. It's the best way for me to live.
Correction: (Men! This is why, you NEVER ask women about dating advice!!)
1) Height / Tall is better (women wear high heels to weed out short men, obsession with height)
2) Good Looking / halo effects
3) Rich Looking/status
Any opposit combo: short, not good looking, poor / living in parents basement = not attractive. Eye contact, confidence BS's, etc..just noises and virtual signaling! Imagine you're short, fat and ugly = being confident, keeping eye contact with a women is called being creepy...if a tall and good looking men don't need to do all that. When it comes to mate selection, women are very brutal and visual - they don't want to admit it.
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Anne, I love these videos. We men are dogs and need to know the other perspective. My first girlfriend was nuts on....forearms. I know, but there you have it. I'm classical guy, I love stockings and skirts on a woman. My woman loves forearms. What women really love.....confidence and a BMW. Not picking your nose is a bonus after those two big boys.
Thanks for sharing your experience! I've talked about forearms in another video and in a new video coming up! Nose picking....LOL
@@YourWingmam Ya gotta leave them smiling. When you are only 5'8" tall you have to perform like a pocket battleship and punch WAAAY above your weight. being a 'wee guy' means getting the turbo afterburner on charm because the tall guys just breeze in and grab the gal. Watch women looking at tall guys, it's like some genetic 'well hello ladies', meanwhile I'm jumping on a trampoline next to him!
I've been married for 46 years now. Not saying sorry when I've messed up, or forgot to do something, always get me the "well don't say sorry or nothing!" sharp remark instantly. If I find myself facing that head wind, I counter attack with a reverse hug and a gentle "sorry my love" in her ear. Works most times, but how she reacts to that is a good indicator of just how badly I messd up. 😅
Edit… just how badly *she thinks* you messed up ;) Reverse hug for the win!
@@YourWingmam With her it's "guilty until proven innocent". 😆
I wear a kilt every day and the ladies love it! Nuff said
I find the same. BUT.....when the ladies have been having a wee sherry their confidence and nosiness can lead to what women call, 'upskirters'. Boy, do you need a pair of balls to ride that one out.
Haha! Kilts are sexy ;)
Hey guys, make sure you do everything you can to make a woman happy! I am very sure you'll get it all back in return.
You're absolutely right!
I have been trying to be romantic and nice for almost 4 years now without any results.Trying to please a female never works. I finally realized that the only way I get a response is by using No Contact after I meet someone, then I get lots of attention. I have a healthy life style, been told I'm nice looking, dress appropriately, am friendly and outgoing to everyone. I'm finding that it's not what you think of me - it's what I think of you as a potential partner that's important.
Thanks, You have a good sense of humor, just divorced, I know some of this stuff, but always good to learn more tips.
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You are so helpful and understanding! I wish everyone else had such a light hearted and humorous attitude.
Confidence, grooming and how you carry yourself. Pretty much what you said !!!!
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Thanks Anna for the good advice...as an old man of 78 i havnt a clue about what you are telling us.
Glad I could help 🙏
Three videos in and subscribed. Fantastic insight and very much appreciated.
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Yes how you look is important but what's the first question they ask ? What do you do for a job second question where do you live 3 Question do you own your home or are you renting if you pass the test Hi my name's what's yours this is just my personal experience many many years ago
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Yes you are correct, women do notice clothes. I sew as a hobby and often modify my clothes to suit my tastes. I had a woman notice this and called these "REPAIRS." I set her straight but women who wear pants with holes in them are no position to rag on my tailored clothes.
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