That we’ve spent decades separating humans from their inter-personal ecosystem, the first animals to try and do so. And we’ve turned into the human equivalent of zoo animals.
The best thing a girl can do is make herself approachable. While it's true that it's become less common for guys to approach, far too many girl walk around with a scowl on their face or their face buried in thier phone. I miss the days of flirty eye contact being a common thing.
@joshuaosborne9203 before smart phones. I'm 42 but can clearly remember living in the city in the early 2000's and on my 10 minute walk to the subway I would usually get at least 2 or 3 cute girls lock eyes and smile. Or at the very least it was obvious we were checking each other out. Yeah I'm 42 now but people always mistake me for 10 years younger and I'm in the best shape of my life but that shit rarely ever happens now.
Met my current girlfriend off a dating app and can confirm that 99% of women on dating apps are trash. Went on a streak of real bad dates, and all the ghosting/mind games got exhausting. I genuinely think most women on dating apps just want casual sex with attractive men and free attention they aren't actually looking for something serious, they just tell people they do. I noticed that the moment I would tell a girl I wanted to take her out on a date, it went nowhere or she'd lose interest; but if I asked if she wanted to come over watch a movie with drinks she'd be over easy and we'd hookup. If me and my girl breakup, I'm in absolutely zero rush to get back on dating apps.
I have no luck on dating apps. Did you ask your current gf to come over or on a date? Do you ask girls to come over in the first message or chat a bit then ask? Planning for when I become hot xD
@@LukeDickerson1993 I asked her on a date. We moved things to Snap and we met at a Cafe for coffee. You can't ever ask girls to come over within the first few messages and actually succeed unless you're a model or a celebrity, you have to work your way towards that. My code is to casually talk for 2-3 days to feel them out and get them out the same week. If I can't get them out within a week after matching, I'll move on because they'll more than likely waste your time.
Man, the social media effect you speak about is massively true. It becomes SO apparent when you date a girl that never relied on social media and still doesn't. Both times I've had a non-social media gf, they've given equal or more effort, didn't do sleezy shit like party and get drunk every weekend, and are just actual good partners. It's for that reason if I find a girl who doesn't use much if any social media, she shoots up to the MVP list. It seriously adds 2-3 to the attractiveness scale.
Or just date girls with private accounts that have little to no posts & be familiar with technology so that hackers and online doxxers can’t fuck with your phone or your girlfriends’ phone.
@@desuretard8654 The first was already in the onboarding process for the Army when we met and the distance apart eventually made things too difficult for her. The 2nd just had some other incompatibilities that I knew would only get worse down the road, so I broke up with her.
Where the hell did you even find a person like that today, let alone a girl!?!? I am literally the only person under 30 I know that doesn't have a chronic reliance on social media and the internet. People don't go out and do anything anymore without feeling the need to check their phone and tell the rest of the world about it. It's really depressing.
@@Dave5400 Don't worry dawg, you aren't crazy. The non-social media girls are rare as hell. I've only encountered 3 so far, so they do exist, but rarer than a shiny legendary pokemon.
This is why anyone who dates will fail at dating. Too many unrealistic expectations and insecurities in people to form a lasting committed relationship.
@@williamlevy6964 That selfishness is why you will not do well in relationships. Also there are women who do not want a committed relationship and men who do, do not think it is because of your sex silly.
@@msarilyn7677 I don't really know where any of either the bullshit comes from. Sounds like personal preference and personal purpose to keep something going while living individually
The whole dating game is broken. Used to want a girlfriend, but now I'm genuinely under the impression that being single and focusing on my own priorities is far more attractive than any woman.
14:45 - I am never attracted to men with committed relationships with other women. Anyone who leaves another woman for me will leave me for another woman. It’s straight logic.
For a guy who studies history, sure seems like you missed the chapter on women dropping a handkerchief on the sidewalk near a man she admired, as an invitation to meet. Modern women need to be more creative at offering an invitation to meet than, “I looked at him and smiled in a bar, so he should know I’m interested.”
He also missed the white feather bit from the WW1. Where women would give men at war time a white feather to indicate to others that he was a coward for not going to war to die. History has many lessons.
Don't just assume that and get discouraged. Get a job (if you are working) or go to a college (if you are studying) where there are a lot of women around. Try looking for "choosing" signals when you are there. Not all women want tall and handsome. Its the media trying to brainwash you. By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women.
@@roninenlightened6350I can agree with you that stepping outside you’ll find that it’s not that bad as social media portrays. But there is an ego issue that’s become increasingly apparent with the rise of social media/dating apps. Most people are average, but average women are now believing they’re the top 1% because women have entered this unspoken social contract that they all refer to each other as 10s, and all tell each other that they deserve the top 1% of men. All of them. It doesn’t help that there are plenty of insecure men with low self esteem out there that inflate the egos of these women further average, above or below, they’re all too aware of their options. I know how this sounds, but I’m not anti women or anti men or any of that. Someone said it in another comment but the blame for the modern dating world and its pitfalls falls on both sides.
@@roninenlightened6350 "try looking of choosing signals" -- nah we good. we not doing none of that anymore. stop throwing hints like a grade school girl. if you like a guy, be a mature adult, open your mouth & introduce yourself. close mouths don['t get fed. "By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women." --- hypergamy. most average women are going for men 2 to 3 points more attractive than themselves. which results in multiple women being in situationships with one man.
I used to have "friends " who shamed me looong time for not going along with their hooking up game' now I understand that they were ashamed of themselves and wanted everyone join in their own misery to feel better about themselves. Glad I never did tho lol
Why is the one with no power or control in the situation the one forced to take the initiative? It's completely backwards. Women are the gatekeepers. They should be the approachers. Men being the approachers is a remnant from a time when men had all of the power and control in the situation. Now that the situation is reversed, approaching also needs to be reversed. I agree with all your other points though.
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He's referring to the power to dictate the terms of the relationship. Prior to social media and dating apps, men were in this position of power. Since then, the balance has shifted, and relationships are suffering as a result.
“If she doesn’t give you a sign don’t approach” is only partly true. A lot of times, you have to start a conversation with her before you’ll get a sign, especially if you both have just made eye contact with one another. If you get one, great. If not, you still get to workout your social muscles. Win win.
Ooohhhh yes....no signs or green light to approach...I'm not going anywhere!! But honestly, I LOVE getting choosing signals from women...makes life so much easier....getting laid too😂
I have experienced the opposite case, women who literally groped me (I always had this thing about having a big butt and chest) but they became uncomfortable with the simple action of touching their elbow. I don't understand what is a sign and what is something else -
Men approach without a sign the vast majority of the time. Women are awful at giving hints and men are terrible at giving hints. If men didn’t have dumb courage there’d be way more single people right now.
No. There's no way to be sure she's giving you a sign, unless she comes up to you. Harassment is legally defined as unwanted attention, so it depends entirely on the victims thoughts. Approach someone who doesn't want to be approached, best case, she says something like "not interested" or "f off." Worse cases, she screams, pepper sprays you, a bouncer (or other white knight type) beats you up, drags you outside and/or you get arrested.
36 yo here and spaniard. I started approaching girls 6 years ago because the online and app scheme here in Spain is soooo frustrating. Even with real life approach the reject rate was soooo high for me at least that my self stem got destroyed at some point last year and I had to go on therapy and now I can say that I’m still single, I still get rejection, but I’m super happy. Living my second youth and being happy for the first time in many years. Just stop putting all the pressure on you guys. Just be cool with yourself, irradiate your own super fun masculine energy and don’t let anybody else’s opinopinion to change your own perception. You are all whole and incredible, enjoy your friends and the little pleasures of life and don’t be needy of women. Just enjoy the fucking awesomeness of everything around and everyone will notice that glow. Ciao!
Wish u better luck than mine. Even tho the process itself is worth. You will feel like a social horsepower and better valued facing the fear to rejection and the fear to awkwardness. And also don’t became anxious when you feel unable to approach. You will be able next day no problem. Speak kind to yourself
In a way, they are, but western society has also been teaching them from their youth that they are the prize, and the insane amount of positive attention they get from thirsty men naturally inflates their egos. The blame falls in all directions.
@@BasedChadmanterrible take. Absolutely no consideration on how men can also be neurotic narcissists as is commonly seen throughout the entire red pill. Could it be possible that there are good people on both sides, but we allow shit arguments to justify dehumanizing the other side?
Does limb lengthening count as changing destiny? Your forgetting how it's already over for alot of men based on things they can't change(easily) like height
@straighter100 it does and i will do it by getting a job in i.t. to get that and jaw surgery for better teeth and face then get a better option girl in Phillipines or mexico 🇲🇽 they didnt want me along the journey but wait at finish line.. gtfo
To Jack Denmo: My problem with approaching women is not going up to them, but I freeze up during the conversation & run out of things to say. My mind goes completely BLANK, I get nervous and the whole situation gets awkward. My conversational skills when talking to women just suck man.
Watch videos from Bartek Social. This guy is great. He approached with full honesty, no smart things and catch phrases. This actually works if you have such problems with conversation.
The way I always approached it, was that it's a friend, but it's been years since I've seen them. Since it's been so long, you of course have to ask what they do for work, if they're in school, blah blah blah. Then when you get past the simplicities, slowly travel between "oh what music are you into", "you watch sports", "what shows you watching right now", and as the one asking the questions, ALL you have to do to make it interesting by agreeing with a couple things and disagreeing with a couple others, and the convos will be interesting from both sides.
Dont worry about running out of things to say. Juat ask her questions and she will do all the talking. Always build rapport with these: who, what, where,how and what. Always works
Good talk but the biggest problem is the legal system and divorce rate. If men were divorcing 70-90% of the time and basically robbing the women who were providing most of the money id agree. As someone who doesnt have a couple million to split in half and pay to her. Most men are barely above water and all they hear when they get online is a list of demands from the already extemely demanding world.
I went to a concert over the weekend, saw this two women who were together...I approached to the older one with hi, are you enjoying the show, turns out the other girl was her daughter and de facto bodyguard and swooped in and said get out of here. I said cool 😎, did not mean nothing just saying hi. I know its a numbrrs game, but man, we are not all creeps. I'll keep approaching cause dating apps are trash.
I go to concerts and I'll be a dick to the friend Idc.... I'm not talking to you im talking to the more attractive one. I'll ruin her night I really don't care. Usually the girl I like will give and let me talk to her then I'll work my way in, in one case I got the friends to not talk to each other 😂
Beyond ridiculous. There is a whole world outside of miserable social media influencers. Women and men are above all individuals with personalities, emotions, dreams and fears shaped by their lived experiences, interactions, upbringing, etc. Y'all need to touch grass and work on yourself to be more likeable and self-aware. Fact is older is wiser. Being young implies a degree of shallowness and supidity, and its fine. Thats part of the cycle of life. Please stop oversimplifying other people and reducing them to stereotypes and surface level concepts.
I've never had problems getting laid. I'm just old enough now to realize it's not worth all the problems that come with it. You WILL pay for it, one way or the other.
I’m old. I’m out of the loop. Women don’t want me to initiate anything, so I don’t. The only people I talk to are other men or women that I would not have anything to do with, mostly some light-hearted joking. Low risk.
People talk about MGTOW but there's also TFL/MSTOW. True Forced Loneliness/Men Sent Their Own Way. The signs never come. The interest is never there. You're basically run away from. And so yeah. It's not that men are scared. It's that we see terrified females, who paradoxically seem completely satisfied, who are not friendly. And thus, we don't continue to try over and over. Even if the signs come, it's usually an ego boost. She wants somebody to get the ball rolling and you might be it. After she rejects you she's looking at the older, taller or cuter men she really wants. And then she laughs at you when or if she gets it.
@@abel4776 "Incels admit the issue, not sure why we use it as shaming when they embrace it as red pill?" -- i'm not shaming incels, i'm just saying what he described in his comment, was an incel.... he's using all these alternative terms & movements that incels are a part of, movements like true forced loneliness & men sent their own way, the actual term he was looking for is incel. "Those who shame others as incels are posers themselves in fear of becoming one. Pretty stupid." --- I assume you're talking to me? but thats weird because I never shamed incels... not even once.
Parts of this are good, but many of these issues are multivariate. Guys don't refuse to approach women solely because no one ever taught us how. Most of us have done it in the past and have now stopped. Entitlement, hypergamy, and general lack of quality in modern women modern women are all perfectly reasonable, defensible reasons to change one's approach (or to eliminate it). There are worse things men can be than single, and one of those worse things is to be perpetually taken advantage of. Many things can be causing this simultaneously.
Man, I just finished it, and this takes a nose dive off a cliiiiiiff. By the end you are bragging about running through young women with Daddy issues while simultaneously calling everyone else narcissists. And....I mean... I'm not sure whether it was you "getting rich" that did it, but you're right about one thing. Sometime definitely made you an asshole.
what's the point of courting a 304? sex isn't special anymore. I'm not committing my time, attention and resources who's already slept with like 6 guys before me. Recreational use is one thing, but the whole point of dating is to marry... wtf is the point of marrying someone who is ran-through and forever has her exes living rent free in her brain? who knows this person is? 5 years....10 years down the line she could wake up one day, realize she doesn't love you anymore, divorce you and take half.
That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen. As an attractive fit woman in her 50's single I can tell you 30 40 yr olds something. Don't loose hope, I still get hit on by men as young as 30. Keep yourself up, and just enjoy men's company, don't be bitter and put yourself out there. Unconditional love is still love, and I love all my friends guys and gals. Sometimes your friends are the loves of your life! LOVE YOURSELF so important!
"That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen." --- casey zanders explanations are even more detailed. "I still get hit on by men as young as 30." --- they only want sex, they're not offering commitment.
I’m 18 and had no parents role models. Trying to grow myself up since 3 years and it’s working. I’m happy being single but I know it will be better with a beautiful woman that I’m trying to find. 2 days ago after school I wanted to approach chicks on the street but during P.E. I had broken my leg so I’m not able to put any work now
I just turned 30 this year. I agree with most things you said in the video. I will say that the thing between this video and the other video made for men is missing, is that most people don't know how to focus on their own goals and desires. Like you said in the video, we have these attention drainers(phones/social media) that tell/show us the "lives we should be having". Most of it is all fake and everyone including you(Denmo) are trying to get views as well for money. Nothing is wrong with that. I won't say to completely stop watching videos and using social media, but you really have to take the bits of the information and things you're consuming that really resonate with you as a person. Everyone is different, so the content they produce may be true for them, but it may not be true/work for you. It's up to you to figure that out for yourself. This is also true for books and other things you consume. My advice, do what you can, focus on your goals, meet people without expectations, and just be a kind human being. This will solve 90% of your problems in my opinion. If you solely focus on yourself, you don't have time for the bullshit. If you focus on trying to bang/date/sleep with whoever, it's going to get you nowhere. Just meet people who resonate with you and keep them in your life. Maybe you may meet that girl/guy, that you will marry and spend the rest of your life with (relationships are difficult and communication/trust is literally the most important thing). Lastly, I really think who you choose to keep around your circle and especially who you marry is super important. Make sure those people align with you as well. This doesn't mean that you can't be friends with people with different opinions, I actually encourage the opposite. The more differing opinions and viewpoints you are exposed to, the more well-rounded of a person you will be because you will learn more about the world around you. Everyone is so vastly different with different backgrounds. Keep a circle that is likeminded in the sense that you can talk about your viewpoints and work together(essentially communication).
As a female, I felt like this video gave me a new perspective. Some of the points you made were a bit depressing to acknowledge, but also very important to understand. I am trying to gain a better understanding of how men think and your channel has been very helpful so far
Women like men with emotional intelligence. They speak with intelligence and maturity. They conform to social norms involving taking women on normal dates to dinner which is about respect- not money, they have normal manners. They dont speak about physical intimacy quickly when dating. They can hold an intelligent conversation. They are responsible.
I see him, but I honestly think he has good points, Jack. Maybe you could go over the points some time? And tirle it "why men don't want to put themselves out there" or something... like we all see it. It's fear. Men have no reason to feel confident anymore. We all need a fucking mediator.
Low birth rate and later childbearing age are issues in almost all countries with a high standard of living. For example, here in Finland, the birth rate is less than 2 children per woman, which means extinction of our people in the longer term unless we do something to improve it. There is only one country in the world with a high standard of living and same time natural population growth, and that is Israel.
@@channel1_channel You are right. Even if the number of Finns dropped by a million in this case, it still wouldn't be such a bad thing. But our declining population combined with mass immigration from third countries makes it worse. Currently, more immigrants move to Finland than Finns are born here per year. This development consciously made by politicians has its own name, people replacement.
When women find you attractive, they will let you know. Same for men. Y'all so in a rush to be liked by someone, you don't allow time for someone to decide if they like you. Love at first sight does not always need to happen. When you show signs of desperation, the person you like is not going to magically like you more...& the biggest reason yall keep feeling like "dating is failing" is because you keep listening to people tell you the same line over & over so they can sell you stuff lol. People who are out enjoying life & being social don't have a problem smh.
And then year after year, self improvement and going out while nooobody cares. What are we supposed to think? But I'm sure glad I got to watch a lot of my generation being degenerate or date old men. Sure, sure.
1) Most women at the grocery store are there for groceries not men. Don't approach if you're not firmly within her league or above. Otherwise, she'll be annoyed which is when those risks of approaching kick in. Also, no one thinks dating apps are cringe anymore. Like half of all relationships start on dating apps and people are being more open about where/how they met online.
That's crazy. I only know one person in my real life that met someone they stayed with permanently from dating apps, and women really aren't on them statistically. And you can't control how other people act (if she gets really offended about you approaching her take and move on). Not worth wasting anymore time on. Might as well shoot your shot though than be potentially stuck in online dating hell where women can easily choose a dude way richer and better looking than you. Their personalities can be awful online but if they are hot and pull the right punches your luck if you aren't way above average is pretty low.
No shit sherlock. Basically no woman goes out specifically to meet men anymore. If a dude approaches them though, it's up to them to be receptive or not.
As a 29 year old woman I spent my 20s working on myself and handling situations in a bad way. I didnt go out much cause im a introvert. I was pretty but looked awkward at the same time. Turning 30 I handle situations better and look so much better than my 20s. I am also saving myself for marriage. My life has gotten so much better. I think everyone’s values goes up as you get older. You lose value when you’re a terrible person.
Women have basically made society polygamous then gets upset when the 6'7 chad thundercock the club DJ whos a convicted felon won't be loyal to them. Meanwhile the average man can't even get a text back. Men typically value youth, beauty, fertility, purity. So the day women become an adult she basically has everything men value. Hence the reason women are born with value but men are not. ''get better with age'' That sounds good on paper. But when surveyed men from 18-60 they all said women between 18-25 were most attractive. That's also women's peak fertility window. While the things women value men have to spend decades getting. Evolutionary attractions are real.
I'm 36 and delusional but think it just started. Had girlfriends in the past but being single the last five months the right lady will approach me and ask me out sometime this year! I'm so optimistic about this.
Living in the UK I can assure all that even thinking about approaching a women could get you bad attention from the authorities. This does not deter some elements who simply regard it as an occupational hazard and will simp all day long. So it means women for ordinary men are strictly off limits but good sport for those that don't care about the possible consequences. The game goes on...
men used to approach but today they don't. why? clearly something has changed, men are responding, they were not born like this. But like all you started the video blaming men stating women are waiting and pissed, women are waiting for someone else, they don't like nice guys. this is not the case. I'm Unsubscribing.....
And it's funny that his approaches on cam are reallyyyyy nottttt that successful. But he'll say. See? Wasn't so bad. Uh yeah it was ok but it wasn't GOOD either.
Girls want ATTRACTIVE guys to approach not UNATTRACTIVE guys. ATTRACTIVE guys rarely ever get rejected. Popularity is for guys. Girls are BORN with popularity status.
25M, I’ve definitely had troubles because I never had a girl like me in high school despite many attempts of asking girls out, I’ve somewhat made it out of this but recently I’ve been freezing up trying to approach more despite previous experiences
The only way is forward my friend. Keep trying!!! Im struggling too. But we gotta keep going until we get one. And your still young dude, men reach their prime in their 30's, so you early in the game as long as you keep putting in the effort.
Same for me back in college and now that I am out of college, life gets much harder to meet kind beautiful and chill women who won't give me cold energy
Damn, is that a real statistic? Canada had 39 million people before the pandemic. About 20m were female. They must have let in 200 million exclusively male immigrants to make the ratio 10:1 since the pandemic. It's weird that I see a tonne of Filipino and Indian girls working at every Tim's, Wal-Mart and McDonald's. What I find is that anti-immigration people are always high IQ and up to date on the statistics, and didn't just decide to be xenophobic based on their emotions.
6:40 and this is why AI girlfriends are gonna get more popular in 5-10 years. Companies can use self driving cars and self driving trucks to offset the financial costs and risks from having a human driver because they don't have to be paid a high salary and they are also way less likely to get into an accident. Same deal with most of these human women.
You are so right about how girls would be more attracted to taken men, I’ve experienced countless of times where women will flirt with my fiancé in front of me and it’s sad that most of them want this kind of validation and attention and sometimes it’s like a natural thing to them for something 🤦🏽♀️
19M, I find that it’s practically impossible to maintain a relationship these days due to this viscious cycle. It’s stopped being Men and Women and turned into Men vs Women and it’s having a terrible effect on both men and women.
Yeah but laydayz also don't realize how much we get C_ensored even when saying good things to try to make it make sense. People don't realize the state of CTRL.
If you're a reasonably normal looking guy, acting like an a..hole works. It doesn't help you find "the one," because the girls who'll go for you probably won't be the kinds you want to keep. Also helps to lower the standard as much as you can stand. Older women are usually a lot easier to bed.
I was recently in costa rica sipping on a martini at a hotel pool and heard an interesting convo between two good looking woman behind me. She was saying how she passed a cute guy on the beach and when she came back that way he was still there.. she said how she wanted him to talk to her and how now adays shes makes it very clear when she is interested because she knows how hard it must be for a guy to get rejected 4-5 times and after a while they must want to just give up. and the other girl was saying how if she got rejected even once she would probably go to her bed and cry for the day and how "we have almost done it too ourselves at this point". They were both very attractive woman as well
I don’t need to be rejected in public to feel bad, any rejection anywhere is bad; hence a slow approach feels more manageable than a fast approach. Getting to know a woman first can eliminate a lot of ‘she will say no’ boxes.
Ah the good ole long game. A respectable strategy. Hard to do outside of school though, unless you are trying to work on your coworker *don’t recommend shitting where you eat*
Doesn't work. This is why they call it the friend zone. Basically, women don't date/sleep with/marry their male friends. They use them to get emotional comfort during bad times, like break ups, to pay their bills occasionally, to give them attention. Not a two way street. I recommend either dumping any female friends or just recognizing that this form of seduction does not work anymore, if it ever did.
38 incel here. Thanks for this balanced video. It is better to adapt to a life without women, it is extremely costly and litigious and far too unstable. There's a lot of satisfaction that can be had devoting your time to fitness, health, and networth/skill expansion. I think this gender rift will continue until we end up in a (civil) war scenario, society becomes more dysfunctional, debts rise, economy worsens as fertility craters and aggregate demand drops. Not going in a good direction, check up the labour force participation of men, it's dropping, many are giving up. Women hold the cards to this as they control the sexual marketplace, so I doubt the trend will change. In the meantime we can expect people to fare far worse financially/mentally/spiritually/healthwise as society continues deteriorating. My day-to-day is happy, maybe it's from working out or just learning new things/skills. Worldview may be depressing but that just seems to be externalized to 'others'. I do not expect to date, nor do I want to now anyway, seems like it's a bigger headache than it's worth.
This definitely helps me. Granted I already understood both sides, but I find myself getting emotional when I see attractive women putting in 0 effort and getting everything in life handed to them. I’m currently 24, I’m 6’1, I work out daily, I have a full beard, I have a business with my step dad, and I just bought a house yet I’m still invisible to women or I get rejected when I try so I just don’t anymore and keep to myself. I have really dry humor and people in my career love my personality.. but the only thing that makes me so bitter is that pretty women don’t even have to try and they get it all handed to them while I bust my ass and get nothing or the scraps. I understand it takes time to get stable, but I don’t want women waiting on me and only wanting me at the finish line. At that point I’m not interested, I need loyalty, not vanity and a me me me wife who’s only pretty and can’t have wife qualities.
Looks so matter for men. Esp. For the top range girls “9’s & 10’s” not all of course. But they just won’t be attracted no matter how “useful” you are. Nice face, hairline, good hygiene, grooming, good sense of style, and #1 is height and physique of course. So you are wrong. And you throw out the word “model” too easily. On Instagram every girl is a model - despite the fact that she’s a 6 or 7 (maybe even below), and her dress size is let’s say 8 or 10, and she has no sense of style. That’s akin to saying you’ve “dated models”. Just because she calls herself a model, doesn’t mean she is recognized by others of that caliber. The bottom line is… people should [GENERALLY] date their equal or their MATCH in terms of physical appearance, culture, interests, socioeconomic standing, education level. And I see it as an issue on both sides. Everyone wants “better”. But you’re not gonna get better than your level… bcus the person at the top wants their equal (or better). So many times I hear ppl say “ I don’t want to settle” which many times means - they want a partner that is out of their league, they don’t want their equal. So I guess the alternative is to stay single - which I personally think is quite fine.
It's a female thing. Only a small minority of men are always wanting better, like maybe 5-10% of men. For women it's more like 50% that will always want more than they deserve. The majority of men are always going to be happy to settle. I think women assume that tinder and IG affects men in the same way as them by becoming hyper-hypergamous but again, only a tiny fraction of men are able to take advantage of this, for the rest of them it just makes them into depressed incel simps or some sort, i.e. guys that would be happy to get anything they can get.
@@asdfxcvbn746women say this regarding personality and/or other non-physical attributes. Men don’t say this, they just don’t regard non-attractive women as potential lol. They may fall in love with one, but that was never the plan for them.
This is why I don't try anymore. I've been called movie star handsome by random strangers and have always kept in good shape, but I'm only 5'7 which seems to disqualify me in the eyes of 90% of women. Still, one out of ten is not the worst odds for a guy, but you still have to have tight game among other things and I'm just like why bother. People are lame.
To simply answer the video title without watching the video: Because of their lack of social skills and the consequential inability to flirt. That goes for guys too, by the way, although less so. How did they come to lack this trait? Through their overexposure to the digital world (understand social media) and underexposure to the real one.
I think people forget that you can build something together with someone, like my fiancé and I dated each other when we were 19 and 18 & now it’s coming up to 8yrs together. And we help each other improve our mental health and physical - I’m 26 y/o
yeah that's why im not happily single because it'd be better and easier if i could support someone and they support me. for that reason i dont think anyone is happily single.
@@MegaGraceiscooltrue intersectional feminism absolutely, but that died in the 70s-90s This is no longer feminism , it’s gender superiority and socially accepted hatred. Disagree all you want idc , I have no problem with original feminism but the evolution of it is very very bad for society and women
Still not much sympathy to be honest .... tons of women lack insight, and actually proactively analyse and self reflect on their trajectory and life choices .... most of their problems are self inflicted .....
What a terrible attitude, you act as if women aren't even human. Do you think that men are perfect beings who are all doing self-reflection and meditation every day?
@@MegaGraceiscooloverreaction he didn’t portray women as subhuman at all, he’s actually very accurate and I 100% have nothing against women. And no some men definitely lack self reflection but the issue is they don’t have the privilege of lacking self reflection. They’ll be punished for it in one way or another, women get kid gloves therefore don’t need to be accountable for themselves. Nobody will hold them accountable. This is why they lack self reflection, not because they’re subhuman, it’s because society treats them like children
I normally wait till women start talking to me and then I'll ask her because then I know she might be interested. I don't approach women like I did in highschool and before because things have changed a lot.
26, single, and definitely a little angry but as far as i can tell i have every right to be. One thing thats a bit annoying about your videos is that you still assume that a lot of the problem is dumb stuff like men not being masculine or brave enough where i think the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them. Supply and demand plus society being set up to prioritize making life easy for women at the expense of men in the modern era is making women’s attitude more toxic than any dude i’ve seen because they are wholly self unaware in most cases. These days you cant even get a girl that notifies you if she wants to cancel plans or she’s no longer interested because they think they and their time is worth so much more than you that they cant send a message. The rug of society needs to be pulled out from under modern women until they stop acting like they’re better than men.
What do you mean by "the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them"? As far as statistics go birthrate of men and women is basicly 50/50. I mean globally and excluding nations where 1-child policy was and other weird alterations leading to dominance of one gender. It might seem like there are too many men just because majority is constantly being rejected by women and all the women want to date small percentage of top-tier men. Leading to small percentage of men having majority of women while the rest of the men struggle - leading to a situations where if there is some opportunity to get a women those places are riddled with men - bars, events, and finally dating apps. So yeah you are kind of right but not because of nature or imbalance in numbers of each gender.
@@lubomirkurpel9757 pretty sure the population charts show otherwise for many countries. If theres significantly more men than women for any given population there’s more men that are going to be around to vy for or serve women in general; so the attention of men becomes cheap even if many of the men are realistically on the same level as the woman. She feels (maybe jot consciously) as if she can just treat men poorly because if she takes advantage of one man there’s another around the corner who will still give her a chance, and in general the society she lives in will bail her out of situations she could end up in as a result of poor life decisions and these bailouts are worked and paid for off the backs of men. There’s basically no way you can realistically lose as a woman in modern society without completely and consciously throwing away all your opportunities, there will always be a lot of guys interested in dating you and the government will subsidize your finances so you have no incentive to behave well towards men.
on six of these points I can genuinely and completely empathize with what women are going through. and specifically with point 3. but on the other hand, it's a bit tough for me to really give a fuck about the first point with women's annoyance with men. metoo aside, men's social anxiety aside, fear of rejection aside etc etc. women have literally told men for the past several years in no uncertain terms that they don't want to be approached, talked to etc. but now that men listened and granted them their wish, they're annoyed at the lack of attention because they put a little effort in dressing up? give me a break that's some bullshit. that same behavior comes up in multiple places on societal and personal levels. even the whole topic of feminism and being an independent woman is an example first it's "we wanna work and be independent" now it's "okay I don't wanna do this anymore, it's annoying, someone come pay my bills". point being you can't make demands them get pissed at receiving what you wanted. you literally asked for it
@@StuJones-gn7te The ones she is interested, usually have a bunch of girls like her around him, who actually make the effort to attract his attention. So why the hell would he waste his time approaching her?
You are using narcissism as a synonym for vanity. Narcissism contrary to popular belief is NOT interchangeable with vanity, hardcore narcissists are not necessarily vain about their looks. It's more about controlling others and seeing them as an extension of your will, glorifying and exaggerating your own accomplishments, being cold hearted and petty, and having a vicious ego that cannot take criticism without lashing out and attacking the hearts of others
women get annoyed when they dont get approached? what???? more like they get annoyed when they get approached by a guy they actually like... You know that is the truth
Woman comes back from club, after being approached all night be dozens of men. Her complaint? "There were no guys there!" She means that there were no Chads there. Can't see the rest of us.
So women have all the options when they’re young, and spent the last decade telling men to stop approaching them while also falsely accusing innocent men for absolutely nothing, but it still falls on men to risk everything by approaching women? No thanks. Women asked for the modern daring landscape, it’s now their responsibility to approach men and choose the best one available while they still have time for it.
Women prefer to get attention in real life because it's natural. Think about it this way. You, as a guy, can't get attention in real life. You'll obviously get desperate. As a result, you go to dating apps. Same thing goes with women but with slight difference from there on.
38yo single guy here, only had one relationship in my early thirties which only started because she was the persueer and it fizzled out a few years later. Never have I asked a women out or even contact information. Only recently I fully understand whats up, I researched a lot about cptsd and childhood trauma. I definitely did not have a good childhood and was neglected and abused by both parents. I have disorganized attachment style and low self worth because of what I want through. I just stay away from women and do my own thing and keep my peace. Might be something else worth looking into to further your biz.
@@DenmosocialI did that! And I only did it with men who weren't desperate, not on dating apps, kind, loving, intelligent, funny, into videogames.. Basically the male versions of myself. We still exist.
20:00 "women mature quicker".....um...NO! Women don't have to mature as much as men do, they can act childish until they're 30...when they lose their looks, and men are no longer infatuated with them.
@@jenmorgan8131 a woman's prime is 18-30. after that is the decline. at 40 she becomes invisible to quality men. no amount of cope will change biology.
Like MOST men I simply got tired of the childish games and being used. Treated like an option. I started by refusing to use online dating, then I just kinda stopped approaching altogether. Just like ALL the guys I know , we hit 30 and gave up trying to have a relationship.
As an older retired man, I kind of believe this explains current state of man-woman relationships. As a younger man in the 60s and 70s, when women went on the birth control, then there were many good-looking girls, who were pretty easy to date. Before all this entitled and raging women took over. It was much more peaceful. Back then women loved what man did for them.
8:48 - they don’t put themselves out there at all. They buy cars and houses and all sorts of other shit on debt thinking they don’t need anyone, while fucking chad. Then at 25-35 think holy shit, I don’t want to pay this off!!!
As a woman, I agree with so much of what he’s saying. However, I wish he talked more about the problems women face in the world of online dating. I think men could benefit from knowing what women go through online, just as I benefited from learning what men go through with online dating.
"However, I wish he talked more about the problems women face in the world of online dating." --- women's issues are covered exhaustively in media... its men's issues that are never addressed. also he's a male dating coach, what did you expect? "I think men could benefit from knowing what women go through online" --- we've heard enough about it. men are far more familiar with what women go through in dating than the other way around. women don't care about men's issues & they call them incelsfor complaining about it. women's issues in dating are paradox of choice. so many options makes women far more likely to choose the wrong one. & women always chase bad boys so women are cursed with always liking a guy that doesn't like them back. giving up sex to get a hot guys attention & then getting ghosted & dealing with the mental trauma of feeling used. chasing guys out of their league & having to deal with low effort men that have lots of options, so they never want to settle down. most of women's dating issues are self inflicted.
As a man who used to get hit on by gay guys, I can appreciate this to some extent. The persistence of some of those guys was pretty annoying. None of those guys from the club ever grabbed.or groped me, but one did kiss me once, against my wishes and in a different situation, a guy groped me. While I can appreciate your problems, I can't let them jeopardize my life. Approaching or even talking to women is quite hazardous these days. A woman's word is all the evidence needed for a trial. Best if no woman knows my name or anything about me.
If she thinks you're hot, she wants you to approach. If she thinks you're not hot, she wants to be left alone. She'll never tell you (or any man) that she thinks you're hot, so you'll never know. Since approaching is now a virtual crime, except for the "hottest" guys, you have to ask if trying with some random woman is worth risking not only rejection but possible jail time is worth it. I'd say it probably isn't.
What do you think is the biggest problem with modern dating?
Women.
That we’ve spent decades separating humans from their inter-personal ecosystem, the first animals to try and do so.
And we’ve turned into the human equivalent of zoo animals.
@@LukeGilroy this is honestly so true... You have cracked the code.
Men for sure , have to admit hah
Men
i don't hate the 1%, i hate the 99% of simps who inflate womans egos
facts
This
Agreed
Simps are like drug dealers, giving the attention addict their fix.
oh sh*t!!!! I'm 42, i remember it like it was yesterday when that 'inflation' started.
The best thing a girl can do is make herself approachable. While it's true that it's become less common for guys to approach, far too many girl walk around with a scowl on their face or their face buried in thier phone. I miss the days of flirty eye contact being a common thing.
When was that?
@joshuaosborne9203 before smart phones. I'm 42 but can clearly remember living in the city in the early 2000's and on my 10 minute walk to the subway I would usually get at least 2 or 3 cute girls lock eyes and smile. Or at the very least it was obvious we were checking each other out. Yeah I'm 42 now but people always mistake me for 10 years younger and I'm in the best shape of my life but that shit rarely ever happens now.
@@danielbezjak1479 oh, I’m 25 and never experienced that.
So you would pass by a girl with you both smiling at each other, then how would you start that conversation?
I am super jealous of you. I can't even talk to beautiful cool women on trains anymore due to their headphones and faces buried in their iPhones
Met my current girlfriend off a dating app and can confirm that 99% of women on dating apps are trash. Went on a streak of real bad dates, and all the ghosting/mind games got exhausting. I genuinely think most women on dating apps just want casual sex with attractive men and free attention they aren't actually looking for something serious, they just tell people they do.
I noticed that the moment I would tell a girl I wanted to take her out on a date, it went nowhere or she'd lose interest; but if I asked if she wanted to come over watch a movie with drinks she'd be over easy and we'd hookup.
If me and my girl breakup, I'm in absolutely zero rush to get back on dating apps.
I have no luck on dating apps. Did you ask your current gf to come over or on a date? Do you ask girls to come over in the first message or chat a bit then ask? Planning for when I become hot xD
Facts. Ive found it better to talk to them in irl situation. I think all men should practice doing that
Yes because a lot of fools be thinking they pimps on dating apps
@@LukeDickerson1993 I asked her on a date. We moved things to Snap and we met at a Cafe for coffee. You can't ever ask girls to come over within the first few messages and actually succeed unless you're a model or a celebrity, you have to work your way towards that.
My code is to casually talk for 2-3 days to feel them out and get them out the same week. If I can't get them out within a week after matching, I'll move on because they'll more than likely waste your time.
dating apps are the worst. the women are rude as hell and give the bluntest answers, it wasn't always like this
Man, the social media effect you speak about is massively true. It becomes SO apparent when you date a girl that never relied on social media and still doesn't. Both times I've had a non-social media gf, they've given equal or more effort, didn't do sleezy shit like party and get drunk every weekend, and are just actual good partners. It's for that reason if I find a girl who doesn't use much if any social media, she shoots up to the MVP list. It seriously adds 2-3 to the attractiveness scale.
Or just date girls with private accounts that have little to no posts & be familiar with technology so that hackers and online doxxers can’t fuck with your phone or your girlfriends’ phone.
Why didn't you keep either of those girls?
@@desuretard8654 The first was already in the onboarding process for the Army when we met and the distance apart eventually made things too difficult for her. The 2nd just had some other incompatibilities that I knew would only get worse down the road, so I broke up with her.
Where the hell did you even find a person like that today, let alone a girl!?!?
I am literally the only person under 30 I know that doesn't have a chronic reliance on social media and the internet. People don't go out and do anything anymore without feeling the need to check their phone and tell the rest of the world about it. It's really depressing.
@@Dave5400 Don't worry dawg, you aren't crazy. The non-social media girls are rare as hell. I've only encountered 3 so far, so they do exist, but rarer than a shiny legendary pokemon.
This is why anyone who dates will fail at dating. Too many unrealistic expectations and insecurities in people to form a lasting committed relationship.
Yo F the loop F the game focus is n your self.. she will leave
Men don't actually want committed relationships. The commitment comes from us not them. Nothing to gain from it.
@@williamlevy6964 That selfishness is why you will not do well in relationships. Also there are women who do not want a committed relationship and men who do, do not think it is because of your sex silly.
@@msarilyn7677 I don't really know where any of either the bullshit comes from. Sounds like personal preference and personal purpose to keep something going while living individually
Women look for security
The whole dating game is broken. Used to want a girlfriend, but now I'm genuinely under the impression that being single and focusing on my own priorities is far more attractive than any woman.
Idgaf about girls. Just straight hustling
I agree. I feel the same as a woman in the dating world. I'm so over it
Sorry to break it to you but maybe you’re batting for the same team?
Better to have a roster instead of just one 😂 less headaches, just casual.
Well the way the economy is now days, your better off looking after yourself and your close immediate family.
This video removed the women of their own decision-making and their responsibility to be mature. There are too many excuses. Infantilizing them.
And it's sad because it's actually all part of the game they're playin
Manosphere grifters like Denmo are women worshipers
Bro you would not last as a woman one day
This has been the problem with men since the garden of Eden. Always pandering to women. There is nothing new under the sun.
Hey, but 20-some-yearl old girls ARE immature. So are the boys. ;-)
The game was invented by guys in their 20s for people in their 20s, please notice.
14:45 - I am never attracted to men with committed relationships with other women. Anyone who leaves another woman for me will leave me for another woman. It’s straight logic.
So, you always know when you look at a guy?
@@StuJones-gn7te haha, most guys run away from me; those who remain tend to be loyal. Lucky.
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Yes you are and no men don’t leave the eir main woman. You’re looking at the situation from your lens
@@StuJones-gn7teshe’s looking at the situation from her POV.
For a guy who studies history, sure seems like you missed the chapter on women dropping a handkerchief on the sidewalk near a man she admired, as an invitation to meet.
Modern women need to be more creative at offering an invitation to meet than, “I looked at him and smiled in a bar, so he should know I’m interested.”
He also missed the white feather bit from the WW1. Where women would give men at war time a white feather to indicate to others that he was a coward for not going to war to die.
History has many lessons.
That's it I'm going to start dropping handkerchiefs
Women are waiting for a guy to approach them. Uh-huh. You gotta be tall and handsome. If not, you'll get rejected.
For sure.
Don't just assume that and get discouraged. Get a job (if you are working) or go to a college (if you are studying) where there are a lot of women around. Try looking for "choosing" signals when you are there. Not all women want tall and handsome. Its the media trying to brainwash you. By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women.
@@roninenlightened6350I can agree with you that stepping outside you’ll find that it’s not that bad as social media portrays. But there is an ego issue that’s become increasingly apparent with the rise of social media/dating apps. Most people are average, but average women are now believing they’re the top 1% because women have entered this unspoken social contract that they all refer to each other as 10s, and all tell each other that they deserve the top 1% of men. All of them. It doesn’t help that there are plenty of insecure men with low self esteem out there that inflate the egos of these women further average, above or below, they’re all too aware of their options. I know how this sounds, but I’m not anti women or anti men or any of that. Someone said it in another comment but the blame for the modern dating world and its pitfalls falls on both sides.
@@roninenlightened6350 "try looking of choosing signals" -- nah we good. we not doing none of that anymore. stop throwing hints like a grade school girl. if you like a guy, be a mature adult, open your mouth & introduce yourself. close mouths don['t get fed.
"By the pareto principle, most people are average which also includes women." --- hypergamy. most average women are going for men 2 to 3 points more attractive than themselves. which results in multiple women being in situationships with one man.
News flash tall and handsome isn’t enough anymore too
You got the wrong friends if they seriously criticize your virginity as either gender.
what about co workers who overheard a private conversation, and harassed me for a couple of months driving me to be suicidal
I used to have "friends " who shamed me looong time for not going along with their hooking up game'
now I understand that they were ashamed of themselves and wanted everyone join in their
own misery to feel better about themselves. Glad I never did tho lol
@@ninjablade-kk1eh that shit is crazy
Why is the one with no power or control in the situation the one forced to take the initiative? It's completely backwards. Women are the gatekeepers. They should be the approachers. Men being the approachers is a remnant from a time when men had all of the power and control in the situation. Now that the situation is reversed, approaching also needs to be reversed.
I agree with all your other points though.
Women are the one with no power in a relationship, we shouldn’t be the ones to initiate it.
PREACH!!!!!! Best comment here I SWEAR!!!💯👏🏽💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
They got what they wanted men’s jobs and pay and lifestyle, PLUS they can get sex and relationships much easier than men so this should be the era of women making the first move💯💯💯💯💯
What power are you talking about
He's referring to the power to dictate the terms of the relationship. Prior to social media and dating apps, men were in this position of power. Since then, the balance has shifted, and relationships are suffering as a result.
“If she doesn’t give you a sign don’t approach” is only partly true. A lot of times, you have to start a conversation with her before you’ll get a sign, especially if you both have just made eye contact with one another.
If you get one, great. If not, you still get to workout your social muscles. Win win.
Ooohhhh yes....no signs or green light to approach...I'm not going anywhere!! But honestly, I LOVE getting choosing signals from women...makes life so much easier....getting laid too😂
Never got any signs so I just walk pass by them and eat a nice hamburger
I have experienced the opposite case, women who literally groped me (I always had this thing about having a big butt and chest) but they became uncomfortable with the simple action of touching their elbow.
I don't understand what is a sign and what is something else -
Men approach without a sign the vast majority of the time. Women are awful at giving hints and men are terrible at giving hints. If men didn’t have dumb courage there’d be way more single people right now.
No. There's no way to be sure she's giving you a sign, unless she comes up to you.
Harassment is legally defined as unwanted attention, so it depends entirely on the victims thoughts.
Approach someone who doesn't want to be approached, best case, she says something like "not interested" or "f off." Worse cases, she screams, pepper sprays you, a bouncer (or other white knight type) beats you up, drags you outside and/or you get arrested.
I like that you addressed the whole "The worst thing she can say is no". I still remember being told that I could be charged with sexual harassment.
36 yo here and spaniard. I started approaching girls 6 years ago because the online and app scheme here in Spain is soooo frustrating. Even with real life approach the reject rate was soooo high for me at least that my self stem got destroyed at some point last year and I had to go on therapy and now I can say that I’m still single, I still get rejection, but I’m super happy. Living my second youth and being happy for the first time in many years. Just stop putting all the pressure on you guys. Just be cool with yourself, irradiate your own super fun masculine energy and don’t let anybody else’s opinopinion to change your own perception. You are all whole and incredible, enjoy your friends and the little pleasures of life and don’t be needy of women. Just enjoy the fucking awesomeness of everything around and everyone will notice that glow. Ciao!
I’m 30 just 2 months ago. It would seem I’m already following the same path as yours
I’m feeling great being single.
Wish u better luck than mine. Even tho the process itself is worth. You will feel like a social horsepower and better valued facing the fear to rejection and the fear to awkwardness. And also don’t became anxious when you feel unable to approach. You will be able next day no problem. Speak kind to yourself
This just made women sound like neurotic narcissists.
In a way, they are, but western society has also been teaching them from their youth that they are the prize, and the insane amount of positive attention they get from thirsty men naturally inflates their egos.
The blame falls in all directions.
@@BasedChadmanterrible take. Absolutely no consideration on how men can also be neurotic narcissists as is commonly seen throughout the entire red pill. Could it be possible that there are good people on both sides, but we allow shit arguments to justify dehumanizing the other side?
They are
Why do you think dam near every woman wants everything in the divorce and will do just about anything to get it
Don't help anyone by telling the truth?
The system is fucked for both sides. At least men can change their destiny. If they actually put in the work.
What system?
@@MarijuanaSmog13Socioeconomic system
@@Aubatron Figures
Does limb lengthening count as changing destiny? Your forgetting how it's already over for alot of men based on things they can't change(easily) like height
@straighter100 it does and i will do it by getting a job in i.t. to get that and jaw surgery for better teeth and face then get a better option girl in Phillipines or mexico 🇲🇽 they didnt want me along the journey but wait at finish line.. gtfo
To Jack Denmo:
My problem with approaching women is not going up to them, but I freeze up during the conversation & run out of things to say.
My mind goes completely BLANK, I get nervous and the whole situation gets awkward.
My conversational skills when talking to women just suck man.
there is a video from denmo where he tells you how to never run out of things to say
Watch videos from Bartek Social. This guy is great. He approached with full honesty, no smart things and catch phrases. This actually works if you have such problems with conversation.
Owen Cook and Todd V had good videos on never running out of things to say
The way I always approached it, was that it's a friend, but it's been years since I've seen them. Since it's been so long, you of course have to ask what they do for work, if they're in school, blah blah blah. Then when you get past the simplicities, slowly travel between "oh what music are you into", "you watch sports", "what shows you watching right now", and as the one asking the questions, ALL you have to do to make it interesting by agreeing with a couple things and disagreeing with a couple others, and the convos will be interesting from both sides.
Dont worry about running out of things to say. Juat ask her questions and she will do all the talking. Always build rapport with these: who, what, where,how and what. Always works
Good talk but the biggest problem is the legal system and divorce rate. If men were divorcing 70-90% of the time and basically robbing the women who were providing most of the money id agree. As someone who doesnt have a couple million to split in half and pay to her. Most men are barely above water and all they hear when they get online is a list of demands from the already extemely demanding world.
I went to a concert over the weekend, saw this two women who were together...I approached to the older one with hi, are you enjoying the show, turns out the other girl was her daughter and de facto bodyguard and swooped in and said get out of here. I said cool 😎, did not mean nothing just saying hi. I know its a numbrrs game, but man, we are not all creeps. I'll keep approaching cause dating apps are trash.
This is the right attitude. Love to see it
It's the bodyguard's loss and lack of empathy
I go to concerts and I'll be a dick to the friend Idc.... I'm not talking to you im talking to the more attractive one. I'll ruin her night I really don't care. Usually the girl I like will give and let me talk to her then I'll work my way in, in one case I got the friends to not talk to each other 😂
@@britneyt9253 no.
have some self respect & stop approaching low value women like single mothers.
Beyond ridiculous. There is a whole world outside of miserable social media influencers. Women and men are above all individuals with personalities, emotions, dreams and fears shaped by their lived experiences, interactions, upbringing, etc. Y'all need to touch grass and work on yourself to be more likeable and self-aware. Fact is older is wiser. Being young implies a degree of shallowness and supidity, and its fine. Thats part of the cycle of life. Please stop oversimplifying other people and reducing them to stereotypes and surface level concepts.
He talks like a rich guy that never had serious problem, so the only interactions and bonding he has is through nightclubs
I've never had problems getting laid. I'm just old enough now to realize it's not worth all the problems that come with it. You WILL pay for it, one way or the other.
I’m old. I’m out of the loop. Women don’t want me to initiate anything, so I don’t. The only people I talk to are other men or women that I would not have anything to do with, mostly some light-hearted joking. Low risk.
People talk about MGTOW but there's also TFL/MSTOW.
True Forced Loneliness/Men Sent Their Own Way.
The signs never come. The interest is never there. You're basically run away from.
And so yeah. It's not that men are scared. It's that we see terrified females, who paradoxically seem completely satisfied, who are not friendly. And thus, we don't continue to try over and over. Even if the signs come, it's usually an ego boost. She wants somebody to get the ball rolling and you might be it. After she rejects you she's looking at the older, taller or cuter men she really wants. And then she laughs at you when or if she gets it.
@@SartorialisticSavage65 "but there's also TFL/MSTOW." --- the word you're looking for is INCEL.
@@asdfxcvbn746 well yeah but that's not what I meant
@@SartorialisticSavage65 i'm just going off what you said. you're describing incels.
@@abel4776 "Incels admit the issue, not sure why we use it as shaming when they embrace it as red pill?" -- i'm not shaming incels, i'm just saying what he described in his comment, was an incel.... he's using all these alternative terms & movements that incels are a part of, movements like true forced loneliness & men sent their own way, the actual term he was looking for is incel.
"Those who shame others as incels are posers themselves in fear of becoming one. Pretty stupid." --- I assume you're talking to me? but thats weird because I never shamed incels... not even once.
Parts of this are good, but many of these issues are multivariate. Guys don't refuse to approach women solely because no one ever taught us how. Most of us have done it in the past and have now stopped. Entitlement, hypergamy, and general lack of quality in modern women modern women are all perfectly reasonable, defensible reasons to change one's approach (or to eliminate it). There are worse things men can be than single, and one of those worse things is to be perpetually taken advantage of. Many things can be causing this simultaneously.
Man, I just finished it, and this takes a nose dive off a cliiiiiiff. By the end you are bragging about running through young women with Daddy issues while simultaneously calling everyone else narcissists. And....I mean... I'm not sure whether it was you "getting rich" that did it, but you're right about one thing. Sometime definitely made you an asshole.
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what's the point of courting a 304? sex isn't special anymore. I'm not committing my time, attention and resources who's already slept with like 6 guys before me. Recreational use is one thing, but the whole point of dating is to marry... wtf is the point of marrying someone who is ran-through and forever has her exes living rent free in her brain? who knows this person is? 5 years....10 years down the line she could wake up one day, realize she doesn't love you anymore, divorce you and take half.
Actually, they take more then half. It's more like 75% when you factor in child and spousal support.
Most men don’t approach because they’re nervous. If you deny that you’re either naive to your surroundings or you’re in denial.
That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen. As an attractive fit woman in her 50's single I can tell you 30 40 yr olds something. Don't loose hope, I still get hit on by men as young as 30. Keep yourself up, and just enjoy men's company, don't be bitter and put yourself out there. Unconditional love is still love, and I love all my friends guys and gals. Sometimes your friends are the loves of your life! LOVE YOURSELF so important!
"That was the most through and accurate explanation I've seen." --- casey zanders explanations are even more detailed.
"I still get hit on by men as young as 30." --- they only want sex, they're not offering commitment.
Its generally believed that older (40+) women are easier to bed. That's why men as young as 18-19 "date" women in that age range.
@@asdfxcvbn746 I get hit on, but I never take them up on it. It’s too damn ridiculous. I’m not into babysitting.
I’m 18 and had no parents role models.
Trying to grow myself up since 3 years and it’s working.
I’m happy being single but I know it will be better with a beautiful woman that I’m trying to find.
2 days ago after school I wanted to approach chicks on the street but during P.E. I had broken my leg so I’m not able to put any work now
Dave the type of dude to give play by play commentary on a Denmo video
😂
I just turned 30 this year. I agree with most things you said in the video. I will say that the thing between this video and the other video made for men is missing, is that most people don't know how to focus on their own goals and desires. Like you said in the video, we have these attention drainers(phones/social media) that tell/show us the "lives we should be having". Most of it is all fake and everyone including you(Denmo) are trying to get views as well for money.
Nothing is wrong with that. I won't say to completely stop watching videos and using social media, but you really have to take the bits of the information and things you're consuming that really resonate with you as a person. Everyone is different, so the content they produce may be true for them, but it may not be true/work for you. It's up to you to figure that out for yourself. This is also true for books and other things you consume.
My advice, do what you can, focus on your goals, meet people without expectations, and just be a kind human being. This will solve 90% of your problems in my opinion. If you solely focus on yourself, you don't have time for the bullshit. If you focus on trying to bang/date/sleep with whoever, it's going to get you nowhere. Just meet people who resonate with you and keep them in your life. Maybe you may meet that girl/guy, that you will marry and spend the rest of your life with (relationships are difficult and communication/trust is literally the most important thing). Lastly, I really think who you choose to keep around your circle and especially who you marry is super important. Make sure those people align with you as well.
This doesn't mean that you can't be friends with people with different opinions, I actually encourage the opposite. The more differing opinions and viewpoints you are exposed to, the more well-rounded of a person you will be because you will learn more about the world around you. Everyone is so vastly different with different backgrounds. Keep a circle that is likeminded in the sense that you can talk about your viewpoints and work together(essentially communication).
9:31 - BETAS need to pay off her debt at 30, hot guys do not need to provice shit. I’ve lived on both sides
OH ok 🙄
As a female, I felt like this video gave me a new perspective. Some of the points you made were a bit depressing to acknowledge, but also very important to understand. I am trying to gain a better understanding of how men think and your channel has been very helpful so far
32 male, trying to date but it's tough. very competitive
Ok… 32 women are old
Why? Gave up at 30 .
stop competing. get in the gym & attract. 90% of men don't work out so getting buff will put you in the top %
I dated a 19 year old (5-6, 130 lbs) when I was 40.
Yes @@LoneWolf-bz2id
Women like men with emotional intelligence. They speak with intelligence and maturity. They conform to social norms involving taking women on normal dates to dinner which is about respect- not money, they have normal manners. They dont speak about physical intimacy quickly when dating. They can hold an intelligent conversation. They are responsible.
This dave guy is losing his mind in the comment section boys somebody check in on him lol
It's fascinating 🍿
I see him, but I honestly think he has good points, Jack. Maybe you could go over the points some time? And tirle it "why men don't want to put themselves out there" or something... like we all see it. It's fear. Men have no reason to feel confident anymore. We all need a fucking mediator.
@@nathan_somethingy’all have no reason to feel confident, I’m proud of myself and the improvements I’m making
@@nathan_somethingWhy don’t you feel confident?
@@33Danso3xAgreed. Accomplishments and competency breed confidence.
Low birth rate and later childbearing age are issues in almost all countries with a high standard of living. For example, here in Finland, the birth rate is less than 2 children per woman, which means extinction of our people in the longer term unless we do something to improve it. There is only one country in the world with a high standard of living and same time natural population growth, and that is Israel.
USA too
Finland's population used to be less than 20% of what it is today. Chill out.
@@channel1_channel You are right. Even if the number of Finns dropped by a million in this case, it still wouldn't be such a bad thing.
But our declining population combined with mass immigration from third countries makes it worse. Currently, more immigrants move to Finland than Finns are born here per year.
This development consciously made by politicians has its own name, people replacement.
@@juhoseppala1343 Destruction is easier than construction. Yes, these nations are being dismantled.
Don't worry, your nation will stay native unlike England, but the composition of natives will different, probably Laestadian
When women find you attractive, they will let you know. Same for men. Y'all so in a rush to be liked by someone, you don't allow time for someone to decide if they like you. Love at first sight does not always need to happen. When you show signs of desperation, the person you like is not going to magically like you more...& the biggest reason yall keep feeling like "dating is failing" is because you keep listening to people tell you the same line over & over so they can sell you stuff lol. People who are out enjoying life & being social don't have a problem smh.
And then year after year, self improvement and going out while nooobody cares.
What are we supposed to think?
But I'm sure glad I got to watch a lot of my generation being degenerate or date old men. Sure, sure.
That only works for women and chad. Imagine trying to be a subhuman 5 ft 2 Indian janitor and see if this still works
@@Halo4beatsB02They are still getting partners, no idea what you are on about
@@Novacaine_m cope
"I got 21 questions....would you love me if I flipped burgers at Burger King?"- 50 Cent
1) Most women at the grocery store are there for groceries not men. Don't approach if you're not firmly within her league or above. Otherwise, she'll be annoyed which is when those risks of approaching kick in. Also, no one thinks dating apps are cringe anymore. Like half of all relationships start on dating apps and people are being more open about where/how they met online.
That's crazy. I only know one person in my real life that met someone they stayed with permanently from dating apps, and women really aren't on them statistically. And you can't control how other people act (if she gets really offended about you approaching her take and move on). Not worth wasting anymore time on. Might as well shoot your shot though than be potentially stuck in online dating hell where women can easily choose a dude way richer and better looking than you. Their personalities can be awful online but if they are hot and pull the right punches your luck if you aren't way above average is pretty low.
@@Madchris8828 Are you guys talking about the free hookup apps? I'm not,
Women go to the grocery store for groceries…brilliant!
No shit sherlock. Basically no woman goes out specifically to meet men anymore. If a dude approaches them though, it's up to them to be receptive or not.
Because they knows, they can't have rich guys at grocery store
Single and unready to mingle
I'm single bilingual and not ready to mingle
As a 29 year old woman I spent my 20s working on myself and handling situations in a bad way. I didnt go out much cause im a introvert. I was pretty but looked awkward at the same time. Turning 30 I handle situations better and look so much better than my 20s. I am also saving myself for marriage. My life has gotten so much better. I think everyone’s values goes up as you get older. You lose value when you’re a terrible person.
Female brain
@@cristobal.ashton It's a beautiful brain isn't it? It's full of compassion, nurturing, intuition, creative, and empathic ❤
@@misscleo_ yeap
Women have basically made society polygamous then gets upset when the 6'7 chad thundercock the club DJ whos a convicted felon won't be loyal to them. Meanwhile the average man can't even get a text back. Men typically value youth, beauty, fertility, purity. So the day women become an adult she basically has everything men value. Hence the reason women are born with value but men are not.
''get better with age'' That sounds good on paper. But when surveyed men from 18-60 they all said women between 18-25 were most attractive. That's also women's peak fertility window. While the things women value men have to spend decades getting. Evolutionary attractions are real.
Yeap
61. It’s over
😊
It's ovvvverrrrrrrrrr 🖤💙⚡
64. It never started.
It was over for me and my friends at 30.
I'm 36 and delusional but think it just started. Had girlfriends in the past but being single the last five months the right lady will approach me and ask me out sometime this year! I'm so optimistic about this.
Hi Denno, I feel this is all pretty accurate. Especially the part about social media!
I like what You said,what are women good at. Being self centered,selfish,proud,cheating,lieing.etc...
Living in the UK I can assure all that even thinking about approaching a women could get you bad attention from the authorities. This does not deter some elements who simply regard it as an occupational hazard and will simp all day long. So it means women for ordinary men are strictly off limits but good sport for those that don't care about the possible consequences. The game goes on...
Before man approach women, women should give man a sign! Always beem like this.
that is not happening today
Not gonna do it
@@MarbleCat. Pussy (you don't get it)
men used to approach but today they don't. why? clearly something has changed, men are responding, they were not born like this. But like all you started the video blaming men stating women are waiting and pissed, women are waiting for someone else, they don't like nice guys. this is not the case. I'm Unsubscribing.....
nobody like nice guys...people like to get manipulated.
Psyhology isn't taken seriously.
All dating advices are actually manipulation techniques.
@@Yuri-nc9vl exactly, it's all manipulation
@@Yuri-nc9vl In general, everything is sales.
@@zebec518 I know man.
And it's funny that his approaches on cam are reallyyyyy nottttt that successful. But he'll say. See? Wasn't so bad. Uh yeah it was ok but it wasn't GOOD either.
Girls want ATTRACTIVE guys to approach not UNATTRACTIVE guys. ATTRACTIVE guys rarely ever get rejected. Popularity is for guys. Girls are BORN with popularity status.
dudes doesnt want unattractive, unfit women oh pls
both genders can upgrade their looks with going to
gym and eat clean
Great... Yet another infomercial. Just what the world needs...
25M, I’ve definitely had troubles because I never had a girl like me in high school despite many attempts of asking girls out, I’ve somewhat made it out of this but recently I’ve been freezing up trying to approach more despite previous experiences
Keep fighting the good fight.. no pressure..
The only way is forward my friend. Keep trying!!! Im struggling too. But we gotta keep going until we get one. And your still young dude, men reach their prime in their 30's, so you early in the game as long as you keep putting in the effort.
Same for me back in college and now that I am out of college, life gets much harder to meet kind beautiful and chill women who won't give me cold energy
stop approaching. get in the gym & attract. women don't chase men who chase...
30 here. Also in Canada right now, because of the mass immigration problem, men now outnumber women 10-1. But that's another issue entirely.
damn didnt even think about that
Damn, is that a real statistic? Canada had 39 million people before the pandemic. About 20m were female.
They must have let in 200 million exclusively male immigrants to make the ratio 10:1 since the pandemic.
It's weird that I see a tonne of Filipino and Indian girls working at every Tim's, Wal-Mart and McDonald's.
What I find is that anti-immigration people are always high IQ and up to date on the statistics, and didn't just decide to be xenophobic based on their emotions.
That's a good statistic.
Those immigrants have family and dont even interact with woman
I noticed this the first time I went out to a club in downtown Toronto after a 10 year hiatus. Sausagefest.
6:40 and this is why AI girlfriends are gonna get more popular in 5-10 years. Companies can use self driving cars and self driving trucks to offset the financial costs and risks from having a human driver because they don't have to be paid a high salary and they are also way less likely to get into an accident. Same deal with most of these human women.
Girls can approach to boys as well. We live in 2024.
im 27 and the only time a girl approached me was back in school when i was like 14-15 years old. never happend after. don't put your hopes into that
if saying Hi is cat calling, I recommend moving out of that country that's insane
Approaching a woman in public! Please stop. That sheet is generally over. In fact, it really used to be pubs, clubs..etc. Not sidewalks or parks!
You are so right about how girls would be more attracted to taken men, I’ve experienced countless of times where women will flirt with my fiancé in front of me and it’s sad that most of them want this kind of validation and attention and sometimes it’s like a natural thing to them for something 🤦🏽♀️
19M, I find that it’s practically impossible to maintain a relationship these days due to this viscious cycle. It’s stopped being Men and Women and turned into Men vs Women and it’s having a terrible effect on both men and women.
Ugh ikr! It’s so toxic
Yeah but laydayz also don't realize how much we get C_ensored even when saying good things to try to make it make sense.
People don't realize the state of CTRL.
I'm 26 and it was like this when I was 19. I've lost almost all desire to date at this point.
It’s a gender war that continues to be perpetuated by the red and blue pill. It’s literally that simple.
If you're a reasonably normal looking guy, acting like an a..hole works. It doesn't help you find "the one," because the girls who'll go for you probably won't be the kinds you want to keep.
Also helps to lower the standard as much as you can stand. Older women are usually a lot easier to bed.
I was recently in costa rica sipping on a martini at a hotel pool and heard an interesting convo between two good looking woman behind me. She was saying how she passed a cute guy on the beach and when she came back that way he was still there.. she said how she wanted him to talk to her and how now adays shes makes it very clear when she is interested because she knows how hard it must be for a guy to get rejected 4-5 times and after a while they must want to just give up. and the other girl was saying how if she got rejected even once she would probably go to her bed and cry for the day and how "we have almost done it too ourselves at this point". They were both very attractive woman as well
@@RichardRider_69 Yeah I was surprised to hear them saying that, was kinda a breathe of fresh air that woman are getting it too
@@RichardRider_69 because in thee Anglo West it's effeddddd
I love it when women give me super clear signs. Most of them only look and make me do all the work and risk.
I don’t need to be rejected in public to feel bad, any rejection anywhere is bad; hence a slow approach feels more manageable than a fast approach. Getting to know a woman first can eliminate a lot of ‘she will say no’ boxes.
Ah the good ole long game. A respectable strategy. Hard to do outside of school though, unless you are trying to work on your coworker *don’t recommend shitting where you eat*
Doesn't work. This is why they call it the friend zone. Basically, women don't date/sleep with/marry their male friends. They use them to get emotional comfort during bad times, like break ups, to pay their bills occasionally, to give them attention. Not a two way street.
I recommend either dumping any female friends or just recognizing that this form of seduction does not work anymore, if it ever did.
38 incel here. Thanks for this balanced video. It is better to adapt to a life without women, it is extremely costly and litigious and far too unstable. There's a lot of satisfaction that can be had devoting your time to fitness, health, and networth/skill expansion. I think this gender rift will continue until we end up in a (civil) war scenario, society becomes more dysfunctional, debts rise, economy worsens as fertility craters and aggregate demand drops. Not going in a good direction, check up the labour force participation of men, it's dropping, many are giving up. Women hold the cards to this as they control the sexual marketplace, so I doubt the trend will change. In the meantime we can expect people to fare far worse financially/mentally/spiritually/healthwise as society continues deteriorating. My day-to-day is happy, maybe it's from working out or just learning new things/skills. Worldview may be depressing but that just seems to be externalized to 'others'. I do not expect to date, nor do I want to now anyway, seems like it's a bigger headache than it's worth.
I'm 35. Dating for the first time after a decade of serious relationships.
Sorry to hear that.
my condolences.
This is why passport bros movement works for many young men. I am moving to Japan. USA ain't it chief
All you said has already been said but you put it all together in a nice video. 👏
This definitely helps me. Granted I already understood both sides, but I find myself getting emotional when I see attractive women putting in 0 effort and getting everything in life handed to them.
I’m currently 24, I’m 6’1, I work out daily, I have a full beard, I have a business with my step dad, and I just bought a house yet I’m still invisible to women or I get rejected when I try so I just don’t anymore and keep to myself. I have really dry humor and people in my career love my personality.. but the only thing that makes me so bitter is that pretty women don’t even have to try and they get it all handed to them while I bust my ass and get nothing or the scraps.
I understand it takes time to get stable, but I don’t want women waiting on me and only wanting me at the finish line. At that point I’m not interested, I need loyalty, not vanity and a me me me wife who’s only pretty and can’t have wife qualities.
Looks so matter for men. Esp. For the top range girls “9’s & 10’s” not all of course. But they just won’t be attracted no matter how “useful” you are. Nice face, hairline, good hygiene, grooming, good sense of style, and #1 is height and physique of course. So you are wrong. And you throw out the word “model” too easily. On Instagram every girl is a model - despite the fact that she’s a 6 or 7 (maybe even below), and her dress size is let’s say 8 or 10, and she has no sense of style. That’s akin to saying you’ve “dated models”. Just because she calls herself a model, doesn’t mean she is recognized by others of that caliber. The bottom line is… people should [GENERALLY] date their equal or their MATCH in terms of physical appearance, culture, interests, socioeconomic standing, education level. And I see it as an issue on both sides. Everyone wants “better”. But you’re not gonna get better than your level… bcus the person at the top wants their equal (or better). So many times I hear ppl say “ I don’t want to settle” which many times means - they want a partner that is out of their league, they don’t want their equal. So I guess the alternative is to stay single - which I personally think is quite fine.
"So many times I hear ppl say I don’t want to settle” --- just say women... you hear WOMEN say that. because men, never say that.
It's a female thing. Only a small minority of men are always wanting better, like maybe 5-10% of men. For women it's more like 50% that will always want more than they deserve. The majority of men are always going to be happy to settle. I think women assume that tinder and IG affects men in the same way as them by becoming hyper-hypergamous but again, only a tiny fraction of men are able to take advantage of this, for the rest of them it just makes them into depressed incel simps or some sort, i.e. guys that would be happy to get anything they can get.
@@asdfxcvbn746women say this regarding personality and/or other non-physical attributes. Men don’t say this, they just don’t regard non-attractive women as potential lol. They may fall in love with one, but that was never the plan for them.
This is why I don't try anymore. I've been called movie star handsome by random strangers and have always kept in good shape, but I'm only 5'7 which seems to disqualify me in the eyes of 90% of women. Still, one out of ten is not the worst odds for a guy, but you still have to have tight game among other things and I'm just like why bother. People are lame.
To simply answer the video title without watching the video:
Because of their lack of social skills and the consequential inability to flirt.
That goes for guys too, by the way, although less so.
How did they come to lack this trait? Through their overexposure to the digital world (understand social media) and underexposure to the real one.
I think people forget that you can build something together with someone, like my fiancé and I dated each other when we were 19 and 18 & now it’s coming up to 8yrs together. And we help each other improve our mental health and physical - I’m 26 y/o
yeah that's why im not happily single because it'd be better and easier if i could support someone and they support me. for that reason i dont think anyone is happily single.
Good talk for those men who are interested in the modern feminist women.
Do you think there are ever any legitimate reasons why women would be a feminist, or do you have no ability to think about their point of view
@@MegaGraceiscool I don’t care, they can be feminists all they like…..I’m in my soft guy era that’s all I care about. Drizzle Drizzle.
@@MegaGraceiscooltrue intersectional feminism absolutely, but that died in the 70s-90s
This is no longer feminism , it’s gender superiority and socially accepted hatred. Disagree all you want idc , I have no problem with original feminism but the evolution of it is very very bad for society and women
Still not much sympathy to be honest .... tons of women lack insight, and actually proactively analyse and self reflect on their trajectory and life choices .... most of their problems are self inflicted .....
What a terrible attitude, you act as if women aren't even human. Do you think that men are perfect beings who are all doing self-reflection and meditation every day?
@@MegaGraceiscooloverreaction he didn’t portray women as subhuman at all, he’s actually very accurate and I 100% have nothing against women.
And no some men definitely lack self reflection but the issue is they don’t have the privilege of lacking self reflection. They’ll be punished for it in one way or another, women get kid gloves therefore don’t need to be accountable for themselves. Nobody will hold them accountable. This is why they lack self reflection, not because they’re subhuman, it’s because society treats them like children
I dont approach because if woman want me, they would approach me. They would message me. ect. Trying to get a woman to like you is too much work.
I appreciate your humility. Keep up your work.
I normally wait till women start talking to me and then I'll ask her because then I know she might be interested. I don't approach women like I did in highschool and before because things have changed a lot.
That's it. Never approach her first.
Men are in love. Women are in the business.
26, single, and definitely a little angry but as far as i can tell i have every right to be. One thing thats a bit annoying about your videos is that you still assume that a lot of the problem is dumb stuff like men not being masculine or brave enough where i think the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them. Supply and demand plus society being set up to prioritize making life easy for women at the expense of men in the modern era is making women’s attitude more toxic than any dude i’ve seen because they are wholly self unaware in most cases. These days you cant even get a girl that notifies you if she wants to cancel plans or she’s no longer interested because they think they and their time is worth so much more than you that they cant send a message. The rug of society needs to be pulled out from under modern women until they stop acting like they’re better than men.
What do you mean by "the only problem on the men’s side is that there’s too many of them"? As far as statistics go birthrate of men and women is basicly 50/50. I mean globally and excluding nations where 1-child policy was and other weird alterations leading to dominance of one gender. It might seem like there are too many men just because majority is constantly being rejected by women and all the women want to date small percentage of top-tier men. Leading to small percentage of men having majority of women while the rest of the men struggle - leading to a situations where if there is some opportunity to get a women those places are riddled with men - bars, events, and finally dating apps. So yeah you are kind of right but not because of nature or imbalance in numbers of each gender.
@@lubomirkurpel9757 pretty sure the population charts show otherwise for many countries. If theres significantly more men than women for any given population there’s more men that are going to be around to vy for or serve women in general; so the attention of men becomes cheap even if many of the men are realistically on the same level as the woman. She feels (maybe jot consciously) as if she can just treat men poorly because if she takes advantage of one man there’s another around the corner who will still give her a chance, and in general the society she lives in will bail her out of situations she could end up in as a result of poor life decisions and these bailouts are worked and paid for off the backs of men. There’s basically no way you can realistically lose as a woman in modern society without completely and consciously throwing away all your opportunities, there will always be a lot of guys interested in dating you and the government will subsidize your finances so you have no incentive to behave well towards men.
Womp Womp
@@womansrights6068 Rage bait used to be believable...
@@MK_ULTRA420 Womp Womp
i can't told you what my brother did because he was married and not me, but the pressure was unreal
Saying to women to delete Instagram is the men equivalent to quitting porn.
in other words, it ain't never happening lol smh
100% dop addiction
Lots of men don't watch porn I'm one of them
I dont watch porn lol
on six of these points I can genuinely and completely empathize with what women are going through. and specifically with point 3. but on the other hand, it's a bit tough for me to really give a fuck about the first point with women's annoyance with men. metoo aside, men's social anxiety aside, fear of rejection aside etc etc. women have literally told men for the past several years in no uncertain terms that they don't want to be approached, talked to etc. but now that men listened and granted them their wish, they're annoyed at the lack of attention because they put a little effort in dressing up? give me a break that's some bullshit. that same behavior comes up in multiple places on societal and personal levels. even the whole topic of feminism and being an independent woman is an example first it's "we wanna work and be independent" now it's "okay I don't wanna do this anymore, it's annoying, someone come pay my bills". point being you can't make demands them get pissed at receiving what you wanted. you literally asked for it
I dont understand how you can say that (around 19:00) women get tons of offers but then say they arent getting approached...which is it?
Both are true, from the woman's POV. Lots of guys she isn't interested in approach all the time. The ones she is interested in don't.
@@StuJones-gn7te
The ones she is interested, usually have a bunch of girls like her around him, who actually make the effort to attract his attention. So why the hell would he waste his time approaching her?
This was actually a really interesting watch. Good luck to you all out there!
You are using narcissism as a synonym for vanity. Narcissism contrary to popular belief is NOT interchangeable with vanity, hardcore narcissists are not necessarily vain about their looks. It's more about controlling others and seeing them as an extension of your will, glorifying and exaggerating your own accomplishments, being cold hearted and petty, and having a vicious ego that cannot take criticism without lashing out and attacking the hearts of others
im not looking just for her beauty and attention, i need to make sure she is sane and logical, not a drama queen or a single mom in training.
women get annoyed when they dont get approached? what???? more like they get annoyed when they get approached by a guy they actually like...
You know that is the truth
they 100% get annoyed when they do not get approached
have you not reciprocated a woman giving you the sign? They start behaving crazy
@@ghfudrs93uuu yeah that is my point, they get annoyed if they already like you
@@Sacrengard they get progressively more annoyed instead of taking the hint...
Woman comes back from club, after being approached all night be dozens of men. Her complaint? "There were no guys there!"
She means that there were no Chads there. Can't see the rest of us.
So women have all the options when they’re young, and spent the last decade telling men to stop approaching them while also falsely accusing innocent men for absolutely nothing, but it still falls on men to risk everything by approaching women?
No thanks. Women asked for the modern daring landscape, it’s now their responsibility to approach men and choose the best one available while they still have time for it.
9:00 - they get no attention huh? so they don’t have 2000 followers. 4000 matches and hundreds of messages per day? What delusion land do you live in?
Women prefer to get attention in real life because it's natural. Think about it this way. You, as a guy, can't get attention in real life. You'll obviously get desperate. As a result, you go to dating apps. Same thing goes with women but with slight difference from there on.
Real life is always better than dating apps.
They dont get good attention in real life. Only in Bars or Clubs
Ooh so this is the “Dave guy” 😂😂😂
Right he talking crazy
Very informative! Please take care everyone.
I switched so many times between like and dislike, you said some truths and some opinions I don't agree with, so I won't put a like/dislike.
"Being a virgin at an old age, like if you're 20, 21 and you're still a virgin, that's humiliating"... ouch.
I was 25. Just socially inept.
38yo single guy here, only had one relationship in my early thirties which only started because she was the persueer and it fizzled out a few years later. Never have I asked a women out or even contact information.
Only recently I fully understand whats up, I researched a lot about cptsd and childhood trauma. I definitely did not have a good childhood and was neglected and abused by both parents. I have disorganized attachment style and low self worth because of what I want through. I just stay away from women and do my own thing and keep my peace.
Might be something else worth looking into to further your biz.
that is so true i dont approach because the risk of it being awkward and humiliating is very freakin high lol
Seems like you keep ignoring the most important solution here my guy. Women need to start approaching men more. Like its so fukin simple.
that is never going to happen. Why would they waste their time doing that
@@DenmosocialI did that! And I only did it with men who weren't desperate, not on dating apps, kind, loving, intelligent, funny, into videogames.. Basically the male versions of myself. We still exist.
When you hit your thirties, you'll realize, you'll never be smart
Big win, got a hot date next Tuesday. Wish me luck bros!
First dates are the easy part... Getting to the second and beyond is near impossible so good luck my guy.
I can barely remember dating
and? did you get the notch?
U didn't answer the question
How'd your date go?
Incredibly difficult to watch with ads every 2 minutes. I feel bad for people without adblock. Good stuff though.
20:00 "women mature quicker".....um...NO! Women don't have to mature as much as men do, they can act childish until they're 30...when they lose their looks, and men are no longer infatuated with them.
women dont mature until age 40 when they become invisible to most men that they want.
A women at thirty has barely reached her prime. What you said shows your immaturity.
@@jenmorgan8131 a woman's prime is 18-30. after that is the decline. at 40 she becomes invisible to quality men. no amount of cope will change biology.
@@jenmorgan8131 you and your friends at the beauty parlor keep telling each other that,
@@jenmorgan8131 her prime What ?
1) Everything is too easy, almost free 2) Too many options. Yeah, "life is. so hard for women"...
Like MOST men I simply got tired of the childish games and being used. Treated like an option.
I started by refusing to use online dating, then I just kinda stopped approaching altogether.
Just like ALL the guys I know , we hit 30 and gave up trying to have a relationship.
As an older retired man, I kind of believe this explains current state of man-woman relationships. As a younger man in the 60s and 70s, when women went on the birth control, then there were many good-looking girls, who were pretty easy to date. Before all this entitled and raging women took over. It was much more peaceful. Back then women loved what man did for them.
8:48 - they don’t put themselves out there at all. They buy cars and houses and all sorts of other shit on debt thinking they don’t need anyone, while fucking chad. Then at 25-35 think holy shit, I don’t want to pay this off!!!
This is true, but also, why didn't you just put all your points in one comment? **Someone** would have taken the time to read it (probably me).
victim mentality. become chad
HOW MANY COMMENTS MATE GIVE IT A REST😂😂😂😂
Yep. Go find some loser with more money than brains.
ANSWER: Because these young women age 18-30 are blind; and they are being led by the blind. The blind leading the blind.
As a woman, I agree with so much of what he’s saying. However, I wish he talked more about the problems women face in the world of online dating. I think men could benefit from knowing what women go through online, just as I benefited from learning what men go through with online dating.
It must have been difficult having so many matches and giving one word replies while figuring out which one you want a free meal from.
@@EljadedCynic this
do you mind telling us the issues?
"However, I wish he talked more about the problems women face in the world of online dating." --- women's issues are covered exhaustively in media... its men's issues that are never addressed. also he's a male dating coach, what did you expect?
"I think men could benefit from knowing what women go through online" --- we've heard enough about it. men are far more familiar with what women go through in dating than the other way around. women don't care about men's issues & they call them incelsfor complaining about it.
women's issues in dating are paradox of choice. so many options makes women far more likely to choose the wrong one. & women always chase bad boys so women are cursed with always liking a guy that doesn't like them back. giving up sex to get a hot guys attention & then getting ghosted & dealing with the mental trauma of feeling used. chasing guys out of their league & having to deal with low effort men that have lots of options, so they never want to settle down.
most of women's dating issues are self inflicted.
As a man who used to get hit on by gay guys, I can appreciate this to some extent. The persistence of some of those guys was pretty annoying. None of those guys from the club ever grabbed.or groped me, but one did kiss me once, against my wishes and in a different situation, a guy groped me.
While I can appreciate your problems, I can't let them jeopardize my life.
Approaching or even talking to women is quite hazardous these days. A woman's word is all the evidence needed for a trial. Best if no woman knows my name or anything about me.
Someone I know is in a relationship with a former coworker who left his wife. What you're saying makes absolute sense
Women "Men dont approach us anymore"
Also Women "i choose the bear"
So which one is it ladies do you want us approaching or to leave you alone 🤦
I can tell ya not to familiar with women, its both😂
If she thinks you're hot, she wants you to approach. If she thinks you're not hot, she wants to be left alone.
She'll never tell you (or any man) that she thinks you're hot, so you'll never know.
Since approaching is now a virtual crime, except for the "hottest" guys, you have to ask if trying with some random woman is worth risking not only rejection but possible jail time is worth it.
I'd say it probably isn't.