Im 45. I became a mom at 17. And, since then I never paused. I didn't rest . Thus is the first year where my boundries became my priority. Thank you Mel. You literally teach me something every day
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care 🙌🏼
I am a recovering high functioning codependent. Was doing everything for everyone but myself. Check out Terri Cole new book Too Much. She also has great RUclips
I go through this also and yes, no one asked me to do all of this, but I feel all of this needs to be done. And sometimes, yes, I want a thank you or I appreciated that or some type of acknowledgement. Now, why I need the thank you or acknowledgement? I haven't figured that out yet.
Would like to heard the next step with boundaries, with family members. The tough decisions to refuse to take phone calls that upset your days, or being drawn into the role of fixing other’s mistakes. I really enjoyed this video about boundaries, keep them coming.
My light bulb moment: I studied and passed the test to hold a certain position in my state. The pass rate is less than 20% but I could have my own practice. I did it, first try! I was excited-proud- for about a month. The realized the real reason I did it was to prove to the community that I could. That im not the dumb kid they thought I was in school (40 years ago btw) Not sure what I expected but obviously no one said “wow you are not dumb!” No one thinks that, no one else remembers. Yes, I still have work to do on the childhood trauma thing. But being conscious of the why I’m doing things is a key.
How on earth can I explain how MUCH your podcast helps me?!?!?!? Mel this was a HOMERUN...I needed this soooooooo desperately!! Thank you and Pooja with all my heart! Every time I think, Mel cant possibly top this podcast, you do another one like this! I am truly blessed that you do what you do, we all are! XOXO MEL
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care
Oh god, it feels just SO GOOD, to hear, that we have to redefine our boundaries again and again. I thought it will stop, but obviously it does not. I thought, once I am „there“, they will just be there.
Oh wow…I am the one with no boundaries….i want to go to a quiet place..far in the woods and live a simple life..always wanted to do this ..eye opening..thank you so much 🙏🏻
I just found your video at 4 AM while doing some home cleaning and organizing-and I’m so happy I did. As I reflect on everything that was presented, I couldn’t be more pleased that I chose 2024 as my sabbatical year to rest, reconnect with myself, and set boundaries. There’s so much to continue doing on this journey of self-care, but I couldn’t agree more with the doctor’s statements about guilt. In my case, I sometimes have to shut out those whispers, or they overpower my ability to decide what is best for me!
Beautiful episode. I wish I had it 20 years ago! My 15 year marriage contributed to my Hashimotos Thyroiditis and now I struggle daily with energy and now guilt. This episode has shown me that whether it is my teaching career, my personal life, etc... I need to establish boundaries for myself and my future self! Thank you Mel for all you do and to bring health and wellness to all of us easily and seamlessly! Your podcast got me through my divorce and I so look forward to my 5:00 am walks with Henry (my golden retriever) every Monday and Thursday to listen to you drop some knowledge! You are the best!
Hey there. What do you mean by your marriage contributed to your hosimotos? I also have this and am curious. I really don't know anything about it. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago
I’m so glad to hear the way boundaries were redefined and explored here. I feel like it’s become a way of just blocking, canceling, opting out anything that’s uncomfortable or inconvenient for us, and I think there’s so much more to it than that. I love the idea of understanding where these feelings of guilt and responsibility or obligation are coming from so that the decisions we make to do something or not come more from exploring our intentions and being conscious of why we’re doing these things in the first place. So helpful.
Wow, this is so timely! It's easy to lose ourselves in caring for others, but recognizing the signs of overextending is crucial. Remember, self-care isn't selfish-it's essential.
It comes down to self identity. Seeing yourself as worthy and that your needs are just as important as everyone else. That self sacrifice is not a badge of honour if it goes on for longer than a season ❤And guess what? Nobody died from guilt. You’ll get over it
My takeaway is all about following your intuition and feeling what is right for YOU. The yoga is such a great example. I try new things and find what truly feeds me ❤
Thank you for this amazing episode, Mel! Dr. Pooja has opened new portals of thinking and self care. Love her for saying that you doing everything for your family and expecting a thank you for it is an unrealistic expectation. They didn't ask you to do that. This and many mire points she mentioned that has helped me understand self care on a deep level. And yes, the biggest take away is the WHY of self care. Thank you. Xoxo
Well Mel, just as common as others are saying your timing in my life is impeccable. I'm working through a very difficult situation with my daughter and definitely need the Pause before trying to find solutions.
This resonates with my current situation. I am a single mom, taking care of my 78 year old single aunt, and supporting my 70 year old parents. I am grateful I learned a lot from you Mel! ❤ We all need to set boundaries. I love watching your episodes. ❤❤ ❤
Mel, I feel like I could be your best friend. I love how open and honest you are about your own life in all of your interviews. It’s always shocking to hear you because we look at people like you who are successful as not having these feelings. Thank you for always being so real and asking the real questions
It's hard when we feel guilted into helping out a family member we truly love. I have mother issues and as much as I have tried to set healthy boundaries and to have the courage to say No, my heart just breaks and I give in. I am an empath and I hurt when I see people who need help. But, nobody helps me and that is unfair.
Great podcast. Taking 15 minutes outside of any work to walk or have lunch is not a small risk. It is a right. We only perform better when we feel better. If no one does that in a company, that cannot be called a risk that you do it. That is a default right and basic need and someone has to start. If you become fearful of your work environment or what you might loose in case you take care of your self and your health, you have lost your sense of freedom.
Mel, I adore you… I feel like you are talking about me. Everything that you are touching on, I do the same .. husband in bed… doing everything BUT what I intended to do . Thank you for being you and transparent and real. I listen to you most days when I’m getting ready for my work day. God bless you. Having boundaries is important and this pod cast is helping me so much. You are not alone. Trust me I tell the truth, I was thinking that I was the only one that thought that way.. space and learning how to create it.. we can do this Mel❤❤❤
Mel, I just got my boundary/pause when I watched this video. I think I even exceed 20mins. (1:20:02). Omg! This is my first time just sitting and drinking my coffee while listening to this podcast. AMAZING! I feel so calm like I'm having my vacation "that moment" is so special to me. I don't even think of anything else aside from me listening and enjoying my coffee. I love watching your show. I'm an ofw, I been 2 years away from my family I been depress on and off. Your show is such a blessing to me. Thank you for all the kind words and for giving us (listener) a good mindset to keep going. MORE POWER TO YOUR SHOW and to your FAMILY ❤❤❤
Dear Mel and Pooja Omg - how much insight I got from this episode. I was always not good at boundaries and self care as I really did not know how to address them. Always felt the guilt and confusion of why I don’t feel good when I take that yoga class or walk or sit and take a cup of coffee at a coffee shop, buy some good clothes. The constant nagging why “ I don’t feel better “ “ it feels awkward” all these made me think I am made weird or wrong or I am selfish or what do others think of me. Being raised in India with all the strong rules of how a woman should be and behave - always found stuck and hard to breathe. I am going to set 20 mins today to breathe in what Pooja said and set what is bothering me and take action. Always loved you shows Mel - you always nail the questions that we want to ask, simple and straightforward . It has given me more clarity to what and why and how I am in this life - you are totally like a big sister I never had. If no one tells you today - I love you, I deeply respect you and I believe that you will live long and healthy to help many people struggling to get answers and walk with them hand in hand to lead them to happier and more fulfilling lives. Thank you Mel.
Thank you for this awesome podcast! True Self care helps you move forward with your desired outcome. It’s when you make choices that help you attain your goals.
This was terrific Mel (and team) & Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. I have just realized that I have very few boundaries. I'm always in servant mode, trying to make everyones life as waveless as possible to the detriment of my own waves. I love your podcasts, I'd love to have you on the show. We are just starting out here on YT. @ConsultingCrones is the channel, we are a small eclectic group of middle aged spiritual practitioners chatting once a week about making changes for the betterment of our second half of life. All changes. Your show is amazing! I appreciate you!
Just read "Hidden Manifestation" by Oliver Mercer and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. Methods in this book are next level, it needs more attention!
286 likes but this is what I found on 2 minutes of Google 🤔: "After exposing the scam surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever marketers or scammers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both RUclips and TikTok. They’re using a more […]"
After exposing the sc@m surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever m@rketers or sc@mmers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both RUclips and TikTok. They’re using a more […]
Really enjoyed this episode. I'm definitely struggling with feelings of guilt since my perimenopause as left me with crippling symptoms that mean I can't drive or go many places with my kids. And then there is my relationship with my new partner which has been under a lot of strain and stress because of this, but also because his ex wife is horrible and wont let me be around their daughter. Not exactly sure what I did wrong, but that is one of those 'situations' that is constantly draining me. I'm going to take some time this weekend (while my kids are with their dad) to really reflect and see where I can draw some boundaries and start to work on more self care.
I've been all about that self-improvement grind! Setting goals, staying motivated, and pushing myself to be the best version I can be. It's all about that positive mindset and drive to achieve those dreams.
I’ve been “doing “ yoga consistently for 24 years. It took me 20 years to actually start taking the class. When I see newbies that start at age 50-60, I fear they will never actually attend a yoga class. Quite a journey. We call it “monkey brain” Our brains jump from limb to limb with zero focus on what we are doing. This is in and out of yoga. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is be still and present.
This episode hit home to me in so many ways. I am a TA in the Kindergarten at an International school who is going through perimenopause while I have an 8 and 6 year old, the first of which is in a crucial academic stage in our primary school system while I still work part time remotely for my old job also while this weekend I tried to restart the Montessori toddler program that I used to have before covid by offering a pop up class while having deadlines for: my second job, anecdotal notes for my lead teacher's reports, an assignment for a literacy course that I am enrolled in as a part of PD and I have to help my 8 year old complete homework and it's already 1pm on Sunday with the work week ahead right on my heels. I am SUPER guilty of constantly seeking the escape - every week I say I am going to sell all of my possessions and live on a remote island in the Outer Hebrides and sell Caribbean delicacies to the local fishermen 😄 I definitely need to "take the pause" so I will be finding those 20mins today to read my book - as simple as that. Thank you for this episode
Wow I love how you reflected and voiced that reflection about time you go to sleep. I followed that thought processed and resonate with it. Thank you 🙏
Those were some really great insights Pooja. It definitely changed the way we interpret situations. It made me think on a deeper level. This video came at the right time when I wanted to learn about setting boundaries or more like prioritise myself.
Thank you Mel Robbins for your podcast. I saw this post yesterday but went by it. Saw it again today in my feed and knew I needed to listen. I really needed to hear this. Boundaries are a big issue for me and helped me alot. Thank you!! Have an amazing day and weekend!! ❤
Super helpful questions: Do I feel motivated to tackle my tasks, or am I overwhelmed or apathetic? 19:33 Are there any situations that are constantly draining me? Do I make time for rest or am I always pushing through and gritting my teeth? Do I ask for help and actually receive it? Am I making time for things that truly matter to me, not to society or boyfriend but me, or am I constantly caught up in things that don’t serve me?
It sounds like you have met me! Mel, we are so much alike! Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one! I did this with my kids and now I am doing this with my parents. My husband always says "this was my choice". I don't see it this way. I grew up Catholic and certain things seem like the right things to do.I feel like If I am in the position to help, It is my purpose to do it. I have tried to back off but now my parents are dependant on me. My parents are divorced, my mom has dementia and lives with me and my dad is also in need and has been since they divorced. Don't suggest therapy, already doing it.
This soooooo applies to my life. Being overwhelmed can make you do something devastating. Just a few days ago i was thinking that trying to do my best, be best, and give my best is NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER AND THAT MAYBE ENDINF MY LIFE IS REALLY THE ONLY "PAUSE" IM GOING TO GET. Im a 65 year old grandmother, mom, wife, sister and past caregiver to my Mom and i just feel as if im just at the end if the Rope and i dont have the strength, the ability or energy left to climb back up the rope, so therefore letting go and dying is the Only thing left. Yes i need Help but No one hears ir listens 😪😪😪😪😪😪❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
This was exactly what I needed to hear. The biggest benefit for me was gaining an understanding of the emotional aspect, as I wasn’t sure how to feel or if it was okay to feel the way I did when saying no to someone or setting other boundaries.
All the idea of self care has done has made people selfish. Not everyone is able to do all things. As a society we need to work with each other and share our gifts and strengths. Some people need help in society and we are abandoning them with this ideology. This trend needs to go. It's over. I am so tired of hearing about influencers and all their self care rituals. In order for society to evolve and for humanity to become more conscious we need to focus instead on things like selflessness and humility. In this day age people who have these traits are the real superheroes.
23 minutes into the video she's talking about the reset with the rubber band example that mel talked about on a short I watched on linkedin which is totally something I need to focus on and the craziest thing is 23 is my fav number its the number for end and change in numerology and i just feel like all this is too meant to be. I love you Mel you have changed my life in so many ways in just a few weeks you are a great role model and your motivational videos are so inspiring and I thank God you have been brought into my life I love you!! Seriously and not in a weird way but in a kind spiritually healthy way lol
Wow love this episode so much! And it’s coming at the right time as I’ve noticed so many people are understanding self care wrong. I was the one lying down on the yoga mat feeling guilty that I said no to more work or not cleaning the house! Real Self care is being aligned with the action we decided to take to look after our mental and physical wellbeing. If taking a bubble bath and going back to working until late, you simply void the bubble bath effect.
Thank you Mel. I really appreciate your podcast. I will sometimes put my spiritual meaning instead of evolution is all. But you are very knowledgeable and it helps me out tremendously 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
Wow! This is so awesome. Everything was explained in detail. Thank you dr and Mel. Didn’t think this applied to me at all, but it did. Can’t wait to take my 15 minute breaks and a few other things!
Since the very beginning I knew she would say interesting and worth hearing words!Thank you for proving what self care really means. Not today's world but for ever's world if we want to live well for no matter how long.Thank you Mel for thinking ahead and bring such amazing people in your podcast!
Bubble bath is self care of your body and mind as you experience relaxation. It is self care but there is more to self care. It is about body, mind, soul and heart, all of them.
This is great! There's a lot of good reasons why Mel Robbins is getting so much appreciation and recognition. So glad to witness these conversations and recognize how relevant they can be as an aid to understanding my own human struggles and use as a tool to help me learn and grow. Thank you Mel Robbins.💜
The timing my god, i am little affected and sponges it and ruminate it and i was like, i need to break this pattern, and it's an opportunity to really grow.
I sometimes ditch the physical self care just because of this, because I know I will still be the same person after the massage, nails etc. 😀 But it also has its merits even if just at the physical level.
Wow what an amazing listen this morning!!! This is so powerful and life changing as someone who has been on a self healing journey. Thank you for this perspective that I needed to help me in the places I was stuck which is doing all the things that are supposed to make me feel well and just make me feel guilty and bad when I don’t do them and really are not helping when I do. Everyone should listen to this!
Omg I was trying to watch this yesterday I didn't get around to and I was in the shed working on something and venting to the talk and I looked at him and was like so what do you think and he just looked at me and was like wow mom you need a chill pill. And that is what I learned from this is to pause and take a minute listen to myself and dig dipper and just breath. Great episode.
This really brought a lot of value to me, thank you so much for sharing this, I took out my journal and wrote out some tips and tools I took from this when I’m defining my boundaries. ❤ amazing, this was so clearly explained
People without kids are suffering too. And having kids needs to be a financial decision too- too many people complain about the cost of kids who did not consider the finances carefully before doing so
I don't expect a ' thank you ' but I deserve it. So I create a boundary towards people who don't appreciate my efforts and don't give back!
Very powerful statement
Very powerful statement
Just make sure that before you get too upset with them that you’re not doing stuff for them that they never asked for
what if thats your boss
Wonderful lines 👏❤️
Im 45. I became a mom at 17. And, since then I never paused. I didn't rest . Thus is the first year where my boundries became my priority. Thank you Mel. You literally teach me something every day
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Yesss with you here. ❤
I like that Real self care is Not about a bubble bath 🛀 it’s the principles, and perspective
Exactly
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care 🙌🏼
Trust me it happens with me and many time to time
I am a recovering high functioning codependent. Was doing everything for everyone but myself. Check out Terri Cole new book Too Much. She also has great RUclips
It's sad and I go through this so frequently.
@@ananyaaiyer5290same here 😢
I go through this also and yes, no one asked me to do all of this, but I feel all of this needs to be done. And sometimes, yes, I want a thank you or I appreciated that or some type of acknowledgement. Now, why I need the thank you or acknowledgement? I haven't figured that out yet.
I couldn't agree more, that self-care is more about emotional self-care, than about bathes, face masks and other beauty routine .
Would like to heard the next step with boundaries, with family members. The tough decisions to refuse to take phone calls that upset your days, or being drawn into the role of fixing other’s mistakes.
I really enjoyed this video about boundaries, keep them coming.
My light bulb moment: I studied and passed the test to hold a certain position in my state. The pass rate is less than 20% but I could have my own practice. I did it, first try! I was excited-proud- for about a month. The realized the real reason I did it was to prove to the community that I could. That im not the dumb kid they thought I was in school (40 years ago btw) Not sure what I expected but obviously no one said “wow you are not dumb!” No one thinks that, no one else remembers. Yes, I still have work to do on the childhood trauma thing. But being conscious of the why I’m doing things is a key.
How on earth can I explain how MUCH your podcast helps me?!?!?!? Mel this was a HOMERUN...I needed this soooooooo desperately!! Thank you and Pooja with all my heart! Every time I think, Mel cant possibly top this podcast, you do another one like this! I am truly blessed that you do what you do, we all are! XOXO MEL
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care
Oh god, it feels just SO GOOD, to hear, that we have to redefine our boundaries again and again. I thought it will stop, but obviously it does not. I thought, once I am „there“, they will just be there.
Oh wow…I am the one with no boundaries….i want to go to a quiet place..far in the woods and live a simple life..always wanted to do this ..eye opening..thank you so much 🙏🏻
Really , I think the same way
Ditto ❤
One day I just did it! ❤
I have been treated like shit my whole life was nice to people who are just crappy I can’t take it anymore!
Concentrate on yourself from now on You were not put on this earth to serve everyone. Be kind to yourself you are worth it. Strive to be happy❤
I understand I go through the same at times.Hang in there ❤
I just found your video at 4 AM while doing some home cleaning and organizing-and I’m so happy I did. As I reflect on everything that was presented, I couldn’t be more pleased that I chose 2024 as my sabbatical year to rest, reconnect with myself, and set boundaries. There’s so much to continue doing on this journey of self-care, but I couldn’t agree more with the doctor’s statements about guilt. In my case, I sometimes have to shut out those whispers, or they overpower my ability to decide what is best for me!
Beautiful episode. I wish I had it 20 years ago! My 15 year marriage contributed to my Hashimotos Thyroiditis and now I struggle daily with energy and now guilt. This episode has shown me that whether it is my teaching career, my personal life, etc... I need to establish boundaries for myself and my future self! Thank you Mel for all you do and to bring health and wellness to all of us easily and seamlessly! Your podcast got me through my divorce and I so look forward to my 5:00 am walks with Henry (my golden retriever) every Monday and Thursday to listen to you drop some knowledge! You are the best!
what if thats your boss
Hey there. What do you mean by your marriage contributed to your hosimotos? I also have this and am curious. I really don't know anything about it. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago
I’m so glad to hear the way boundaries were redefined and explored here. I feel like it’s become a way of just blocking, canceling, opting out anything that’s uncomfortable or inconvenient for us, and I think there’s so much more to it than that. I love the idea of understanding where these feelings of guilt and responsibility or obligation are coming from so that the decisions we make to do something or not come more from exploring our intentions and being conscious of why we’re doing these things in the first place. So helpful.
Wow, this is so timely! It's easy to lose ourselves in caring for others, but recognizing the signs of overextending is crucial. Remember, self-care isn't selfish-it's essential.
I completely lost myself....in thinking that my boyfriend was more important than I was....A wake-up call! ❤
@@virginiaglubisz5627
It comes down to self identity. Seeing yourself as worthy and that your needs are just as important as everyone else. That self sacrifice is not a badge of honour if it goes on for longer than a season ❤And guess what? Nobody died from guilt. You’ll get over it
43:28 Man..."the guilt is not ours" theory sounds spot on
I've struggled with boundaries & understanding what they are & how to create them & this talk simplified it & made it totally doable.
My takeaway is all about following your intuition and feeling what is right for YOU. The yoga is such a great example.
I try new things and find what truly feeds me ❤
Thank you for this amazing episode, Mel! Dr. Pooja has opened new portals of thinking and self care. Love her for saying that you doing everything for your family and expecting a thank you for it is an unrealistic expectation. They didn't ask you to do that. This and many mire points she mentioned that has helped me understand self care on a deep level. And yes, the biggest take away is the WHY of self care. Thank you. Xoxo
Well Mel, just as common as others are saying your timing in my life is impeccable. I'm working through a very difficult situation with my daughter and definitely need the Pause before trying to find solutions.
This resonates with my current situation. I am a single mom, taking care of my 78 year old single aunt, and supporting my 70 year old parents. I am grateful I learned a lot from you Mel! ❤ We all need to set boundaries. I love watching your episodes. ❤❤ ❤
Wow, hope you care for you too! I discovered that being superwomen leads to illness. When cancer struck I retired!
Mel, I feel like I could be your best friend. I love how open and honest you are about your own life in all of your interviews. It’s always shocking to hear you because we look at people like you who are successful as not having these feelings.
Thank you for always being so real and asking the real questions
I loveee that Mel was actually lowkey having a therapy session and we saw how she was aware of things she felt about .
I love how she went deep and talked past the "doing" part. Thank you Dr Puja!
It's hard when we feel guilted into helping out a family member we truly love. I have mother issues and as much as I have tried to set healthy boundaries and to have the courage to say No, my heart just breaks and I give in. I am an empath and I hurt when I see people who need help. But, nobody helps me and that is unfair.
Praying for you.
I’ve never had this topic explained so clearly before!
Great podcast. Taking 15 minutes outside of any work to walk or have lunch is not a small risk. It is a right. We only perform better when we feel better. If no one does that in a company, that cannot be called a risk that you do it. That is a default right and basic need and someone has to start. If you become fearful of your work environment or what you might loose in case you take care of your self and your health, you have lost your sense of freedom.
Dr. Pooja is amazing! Great guest❤
Mel, I adore you… I feel like you are talking about me. Everything that you are touching on, I do the same .. husband in bed… doing everything BUT what I intended to do . Thank you for being you and transparent and real. I listen to you most days when I’m getting ready for my work day. God bless you. Having boundaries is important and this pod cast is helping me so much. You are not alone. Trust me I tell the truth, I was thinking that I was the only one that thought that way.. space and learning how to create it.. we can do this Mel❤❤❤
Those last words at the end of the podcast “I love you” really make a difference ❤❤❤
Mel, I just got my boundary/pause when I watched this video. I think I even exceed 20mins. (1:20:02). Omg! This is my first time just sitting and drinking my coffee while listening to this podcast. AMAZING! I feel so calm like I'm having my vacation "that moment" is so special to me. I don't even think of anything else aside from me listening and enjoying my coffee. I love watching your show. I'm an ofw, I been 2 years away from my family I been depress on and off. Your show is such a blessing to me. Thank you for all the kind words and for giving us (listener) a good mindset to keep going. MORE POWER TO YOUR SHOW and to your FAMILY ❤❤❤
I love the yes, no, negotiate options when you don't answer the phone or whatever.
Dear Mel and Pooja
Omg - how much insight I got from this episode. I was always not good at boundaries and self care as I really did not know how to address them. Always felt the guilt and confusion of why I don’t feel good when I take that yoga class or walk or sit and take a cup of coffee at a coffee shop, buy some good clothes. The constant nagging why “ I don’t feel better “ “ it feels awkward” all these made me think I am made weird or wrong or I am selfish or what do others think of me. Being raised in India with all the strong rules of how a woman should be and behave - always found stuck and hard to breathe.
I am going to set 20 mins today to breathe in what Pooja said and set what is bothering me and take action.
Always loved you shows Mel - you always nail the questions that we want to ask, simple and straightforward . It has given me more clarity to what and why and how I am in this life - you are totally like a big sister I never had.
If no one tells you today - I love you, I deeply respect you and I believe that you will live long and healthy to help many people struggling to get answers and walk with them hand in hand to lead them to happier and more fulfilling lives. Thank you Mel.
Thank you for this awesome podcast! True Self care helps you move forward with your desired outcome. It’s when you make choices that help you attain your goals.
This was terrific Mel (and team) & Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. I have just realized that I have very few boundaries. I'm always in servant mode, trying to make everyones life as waveless as possible to the detriment of my own waves. I love your podcasts, I'd love to have you on the show. We are just starting out here on YT. @ConsultingCrones is the channel, we are a small eclectic group of middle aged spiritual practitioners chatting once a week about making changes for the betterment of our second half of life. All changes. Your show is amazing! I appreciate you!
The sushi tray comparison was da bomb! I don’t have to take and reject it the feeling, I can just let it pass…
The highest principle is love and you are the source of love.
Just read "Hidden Manifestation" by Oliver Mercer and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. Methods in this book are next level, it needs more attention!
Que?
Pdf ?
Where can I find this book???
286 likes but this is what I found on 2 minutes of Google 🤔:
"After exposing the scam surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever marketers or scammers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both RUclips and TikTok. They’re using a more […]"
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Damn. She was powerful straight out the gate. I'm so impressed with her conviction and presence. What a great interview!
Really enjoyed this episode. I'm definitely struggling with feelings of guilt since my perimenopause as left me with crippling symptoms that mean I can't drive or go many places with my kids. And then there is my relationship with my new partner which has been under a lot of strain and stress because of this, but also because his ex wife is horrible and wont let me be around their daughter. Not exactly sure what I did wrong, but that is one of those 'situations' that is constantly draining me. I'm going to take some time this weekend (while my kids are with their dad) to really reflect and see where I can draw some boundaries and start to work on more self care.
I've been all about that self-improvement grind! Setting goals, staying motivated, and pushing myself to be the best version I can be. It's all about that positive mindset and drive to achieve those dreams.
I’ve been “doing “ yoga consistently for 24 years. It took me 20 years to actually start taking the class. When I see newbies that start at age 50-60, I fear they will never actually attend a yoga class. Quite a journey. We call it “monkey brain” Our brains jump from limb to limb with zero focus on what we are doing. This is in and out of yoga. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is be still and present.
wish i knew this info sooner cause then i wouldn't be burnt out for the past 2 years. Thank you both for educating us all in 2024. ❤
This episode hit home to me in so many ways. I am a TA in the Kindergarten at an International school who is going through perimenopause while I have an 8 and 6 year old, the first of which is in a crucial academic stage in our primary school system while I still work part time remotely for my old job also while this weekend I tried to restart the Montessori toddler program that I used to have before covid by offering a pop up class while having deadlines for: my second job, anecdotal notes for my lead teacher's reports, an assignment for a literacy course that I am enrolled in as a part of PD and I have to help my 8 year old complete homework and it's already 1pm on Sunday with the work week ahead right on my heels. I am SUPER guilty of constantly seeking the escape - every week I say I am going to sell all of my possessions and live on a remote island in the Outer Hebrides and sell Caribbean delicacies to the local fishermen 😄 I definitely need to "take the pause" so I will be finding those 20mins today to read my book - as simple as that. Thank you for this episode
Wow I love how you reflected and voiced that reflection about time you go to sleep. I followed that thought processed and resonate with it. Thank you 🙏
this was FREAKING AMAZING. i am always working on learning boundaries. the definition was so helpful and Pause.
Those were some really great insights Pooja. It definitely changed the way we interpret situations. It made me think on a deeper level. This video came at the right time when I wanted to learn about setting boundaries or more like prioritise myself.
Thank you Mel Robbins for your podcast. I saw this post yesterday but went by it. Saw it again today in my feed and knew I needed to listen. I really needed to hear this. Boundaries are a big issue for me and helped me alot.
Thank you!! Have an amazing day and weekend!! ❤
Super helpful questions:
Do I feel motivated to tackle my tasks, or am I overwhelmed or apathetic? 19:33
Are there any situations that are constantly draining me?
Do I make time for rest or am I always pushing through and gritting my teeth?
Do I ask for help and actually receive it?
Am I making time for things that truly matter to me, not to society or boyfriend but me, or am I constantly caught up in things that don’t serve me?
This lady explains in way ! She is super nervous ! And she wants to inspire!
It sounds like you have met me! Mel, we are so much alike! Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one! I did this with my kids and now I am doing this with my parents. My husband always says "this was my choice". I don't see it this way. I grew up Catholic and certain things seem like the right things to do.I feel like If I am in the position to help, It is my purpose to do it. I have tried to back off but now my parents are dependant on me. My parents are divorced, my mom has dementia and lives with me and my dad is also in need and has been since they divorced. Don't suggest therapy, already doing it.
This soooooo applies to my life. Being overwhelmed can make you do something devastating. Just a few days ago i was thinking that trying to do my best, be best, and give my best is NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER AND THAT MAYBE ENDINF MY LIFE IS REALLY THE ONLY "PAUSE" IM GOING TO GET. Im a 65 year old grandmother, mom, wife, sister and past caregiver to my Mom and i just feel as if im just at the end if the Rope and i dont have the strength, the ability or energy left to climb back up the rope, so therefore letting go and dying is the Only thing left. Yes i need Help but No one hears ir listens 😪😪😪😪😪😪❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Get help you deserve it talk to someone who will listen 🙏
We do this because we don't feel good enough and then we burn out.
Please get help 🙏
@@ritaowens7378 I hear you. Please talk to a social worker or counselor. Sending love❤
27:56 Wow! The truth of that hit me hard, yet lifted so much unrealized weight at the same time!
Thank you, sincerely!
This was exactly what I needed to hear. The biggest benefit for me was gaining an understanding of the emotional aspect, as I wasn’t sure how to feel or if it was okay to feel the way I did when saying no to someone or setting other boundaries.
All the idea of self care has done has made people selfish. Not everyone is able to do all things. As a society we need to work with each other and share our gifts and strengths. Some people need help in society and we are abandoning them with this ideology. This trend needs to go. It's over. I am so tired of hearing about influencers and all their self care rituals. In order for society to evolve and for humanity to become more conscious we need to focus instead on things like selflessness and humility. In this day age people who have these traits are the real superheroes.
23 minutes into the video she's talking about the reset with the rubber band example that mel talked about on a short I watched on linkedin which is totally something I need to focus on and the craziest thing is 23 is my fav number its the number for end and change in numerology and i just feel like all this is too meant to be. I love you Mel you have changed my life in so many ways in just a few weeks you are a great role model and your motivational videos are so inspiring and I thank God you have been brought into my life I love you!! Seriously and not in a weird way but in a kind spiritually healthy way lol
Wow love this episode so much! And it’s coming at the right time as I’ve noticed so many people are understanding self care wrong. I was the one lying down on the yoga mat feeling guilty that I said no to more work or not cleaning the house! Real Self care is being aligned with the action we decided to take to look after our mental and physical wellbeing. If taking a bubble bath and going back to working until late, you simply void the bubble bath effect.
Thank you Mel. I really appreciate your podcast. I will sometimes put my spiritual meaning instead of evolution is all. But you are very knowledgeable and it helps me out tremendously 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
Wow! This is so awesome. Everything was explained in detail. Thank you dr and Mel. Didn’t think this applied to me at all, but it did. Can’t wait to take my 15 minute breaks and a few other things!
What a blessing this podcast is. Thank you so much❤
Since the very beginning I knew she would say interesting and worth hearing words!Thank you for proving what self care really means. Not today's world but for ever's world if we want to live well for no matter how long.Thank you Mel for thinking ahead and bring such amazing people in your podcast!
Tack!
As always, THANK YOU Mel and guest! I love tuning in and growing!
I’ve never understood this topic so well before, thanks!
Thank you so much! This New Year 's Eve weekend I'm going to start practicing your method 🙂
Perfect Spa Day listen...just in the nick of time....THANK YOU....ESCAPING AND SHARING WITH MY PEEPS!!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😂
Bubble bath is self care of your body and mind as you experience relaxation. It is self care but there is more to self care. It is about body, mind, soul and heart, all of them.
One of the best episodes so far!😇 Mind-blowing!
That part about, “ feeling like you were shoved into a can and shot out of it🎉”..😂 I sooo felt that
This is great! There's a lot of good reasons why Mel Robbins is getting so much appreciation and recognition.
So glad to witness these conversations and recognize how relevant they can be as an aid to understanding my own human struggles and use as a tool to help me learn and grow.
Thank you Mel Robbins.💜
This was so what I needed Mel 😊❤ I love you too sweet lady 😍
Mel is cute witty honest n brilliant
Thanku
Absolutely good, Nutrition food is things that our body needs, such vitamins, minerals and fibre. Good Afternoon to you all 🎉
This was amazing Mel, love this episode, could associate with my day.
Im 3/4 into this podcast just wanted to say thank you both of you for this meaningful conversation 🙏 i am so needing this im sure other as well! ❤
I loved this topic. My sleep schedule is 9-5. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Thanks Mel!
Beautiful! As always🙏
Appreciate all your endeavors.
The timing my god, i am little affected and sponges it and ruminate it and i was like, i need to break this pattern, and it's an opportunity to really grow.
This is really taking back your power and stop being a control freak.
I sometimes ditch the physical self care just because of this, because I know I will still be the same person after the massage, nails etc. 😀
But it also has its merits even if just at the physical level.
Wow what an amazing listen this morning!!! This is so powerful and life changing as someone who has been on a self healing journey. Thank you for this perspective that I needed to help me in the places I was stuck which is doing all the things that are supposed to make me feel well and just make me feel guilty and bad when I don’t do them and really are not helping when I do. Everyone should listen to this!
LETS MAKE EVERYTHING SO MUCH MORE CONFUSING!!!! Seriously
Excellent discussion and guest. Thank you for sharing resources and tools to improve our lives.
Thanks to both you for giving your best and helping us.
Thank you Mel ❤ I loved this episode and will listen to it again!
Omg I was trying to watch this yesterday I didn't get around to and I was in the shed working on something and venting to the talk and I looked at him and was like so what do you think and he just looked at me and was like wow mom you need a chill pill. And that is what I learned from this is to pause and take a minute listen to myself and dig dipper and just breath. Great episode.
Wow, this was exactly what i needed to hear 😅 thabk you so much ❤
This really brought a lot of value to me, thank you so much for sharing this, I took out my journal and wrote out some tips and tools I took from this when I’m defining my boundaries. ❤ amazing, this was so clearly explained
What a great discussion! 👏
Pause to feel the emotions about what / why you are picking up from “The Sushi Train”! 😊
People without kids are suffering too. And having kids needs to be a financial decision too- too many people complain about the cost of kids who did not consider the finances carefully before doing so
For all of you people telling Mel how to host. Get your own podcast or stop listening
Excellent Episode! Thank you. This Episode has been very informative for me. I look forward to starting with “20 minutes” today (Thanksgiving).
One of your best Mel ❤
Wow you are now above the three million mark in subscribers, congratulations to you and your team.🎉
Love this podcast, learned so much and subscribed too ❤
I will listen to this again. So helpful. Sharing…
Mel another download episode Pudja is a well source of inspiration.
Thank you for a superb conversation! ❤
This is what i’ve needed to hear!
Thank you!! 👍