I am an Etsy seller. I had a corporate job in accounting and felt like my spirit was dying. I started making jewelry and selling at shows. I kept stopping myself from going online because I didn't know how to photograph jewelry. I took the plunge and now I have 21,000 sales on Etsy and my husband quit his job and works with me. You can do it!!!
My husband and I own and run a furniture repair / refresh business from home. I can't tell you how many shitty jobs I had and was barely making ends meet and I was miserable. I had dreamed of doing what I do and one day I just did it. We're doing very well and there's nothing that compares to waking up when you want to, working when you want to, taking a bike ride when you want to. If you want it, go for it!!!
Women over 50 are the BEST teachers! They don’t care what other people think anymore, they have come into their own, they’re experienced, and have emotional intelligence way better than men. The “youngsters” have saturated the online social media industry (good for them) but we need more awesome experienced women out there! You GO ladies, you got this! The most incredible wisdom comes from these women 🎉
I’ve heard of so many successful entrepreneurs who figured it out in their late 40s and 50s. Because we have the experience and know what we do and don’t want. Not caring is a big plus! And surrounding yourself with big thinkers is a must!!
I agree. This podcast came at the exact time that I needed to hear all of this. I definitely will keep re-watching this as it gives great guidance on what to do. Also thanks to Mel, a lot of us needed this information.
I just wrote a book for newly diagnosed diabetes patients/family.....I have been procrastinating about launching it. I've sent it to doctors and pharmacists and diabetes coaching clients and so far I've received excellent feedback. In fact one practitioner told me "this has EVERYTHING I wish I had enough time to teach my patients...the world needs this book!" My friend from graduate school said "Every day you don't get this done and out there you are robbing the public of the gifts that you have, you have helped so many people already, you know your shit like the back of your hand, get it done!!" And yet, I've been procrastinating. Not sure what that's all about....other than fear of success or some other subconscious bullcrap. This video today has launched me in to 5-4-3-2-1 mode and I'm gonna spend my day figuring out how to launch TODAY!!!!!
This came at the exact right moment in my life! As I get dressed to go into the worst job I have ever had in my entire life, this was the kick-start I needed to get over my fear and gather my courage to become self-employed where I could make my own hours and do something I actually enjoy for once. It's only been myself and my fear holding me back. It's time to do it!
Thank you Mel. Your video was exactly what I needed as I lay awake at 3:18 AM worrying about my life and wanting more control and freedom. Thank you for being you and helping us out here ! !
Thank you both so much!!!! (Mel and Amy) One word "FREEDOM" changed my life today. No more 9-5. My 9-5 took EVERYTHING from me because I let it. I hated that career - it left me with no mental and physical energy even on my most successful days at work. I'm selling my condo in Chicago that's become impossible to afftord (even after 20 years of ownership and 3% mortgage interest rate) to afford as a single 51 yr old woman, cashing out, leaving the horrible crime, sky rocketing costs due to idiot politians, etc. and a career I HATE. Unbossing and putting a plan together to move, set up a cheaper camp - and starting a business PERIOD. Done with the 9-5 I freaking HATE, HATE HATE. Freedom - you ladies f-ing kick ass!!!!! I needed this kick. I feel alive again for the first time in prob 15 years!! I love me, I love you, I believe in me, I believe in Mel and Amy and everyone else that wants to change their lives, we can change our lives!!" You can do it!! Here I go.....
Hi! Wow!! Last night I saw 11:11. Looked up the spiritual meaning. Be open to opportunity…life can be different! Pay attention to the signs that will present themselves to you. This morning I open utube and find this podcast! Wow! How inspiring!! I’m 65 years old. Was fired from my job at 55. Couldn’t find a job so decided it was okay to retire. Financially I was lucky enough, that I could…and I’m grateful. But lately I feel like I want more. I want to be of service. I want to make my own money. I want to be happier. I need a purpose! Thank you for this podcast. I went right to Audible and bought Amy’s book! Mel I have bought a couple of yours!
I was washing dishes. Instead of songs, I listened this video. I am glad I watched this because I am done with my recruiter's job and trying to become a data scientist. I really want to be my own boss. This was really great informative based video... Once again thank you Mel and Amy❤❤
Same here! I enjoy doing the dishes at night. It's a form of therapy listening to videos like this. ( I also don't know how to fix my dish washer and am dragging my feet to buy a new one lol) Listening is one thing but action is key. What do we have to lose?
Hi Mel, I am a 23-year-old Texan, who got let go a few months ago. The journey has not been a "walk in the park." I have definitely experienced new emotions and thoughts that I have never thought existed. I have been (like most) gone through a loophole where you push everything to the side: Job search, digging into feelings and thoughts, shifting your mind to just "living life." It has been really challenging coming out from it and not blaming the universe for everything, you know.. So in light of a book club I am in, which takes place every Friday evening, there was a quote that just kept playing in my head: "Your Future Matters MORE Than Your Past." I didn't know what it meant and why my brain was circling back on it for a hot minute. I mention it to the rest of the participants and a good man responds "You need to reimagine your future, it seems like you want to look back into the old routine that has worked in your past, and now it doesn't seem to work." Reimagine.. what even?? So I went on RUclips and your video was the first to appear. At first, it was a little hard to not have biases on these kinds of videos when they are everywhere. But you had this energy of simplicity and humbleness. I stayed longer, and then I started to take notes.. A whole bunch of notes. I haven't felt in a long time my writing to be meaningful and intentional. There was something obviously going on inside that said "idk why I am doing this, but keep writing and listening." So in conclusion, I feel like I've been lifted and a part of my brain has reappeared back to the surface. A part that has been lost for years. I believe this is the start to a change. Thank you for being special in your own way, and believing in everyone who wants to succeed and feels lost.
About a month ago, before I even found you and started following you, I was Up North (Michigan) and found a beautiful heart shaped rock... I picked it up and put it in my purse. I had no reason to pick that rock up or carry it with me. I have been struggling with a lot of different things with life lately and for whatever reason, I knew I needed to keep that rock close to me. Now I have found you and am actively learning from you. Sometimes things just fall into place, exactly as they were meant to! You are giving me so much hope for a brighter future and all the things I am capable of! Love you and proud of you for continuing to help so many people every day!
I think one of the reasons the interviewee does well is simply the way she communicates. She uses subtle tools like word stressing to get her simple messages across in a powerful way. That means she is more engaging and can be more successful, no matter how good the content is.
So thankful for catching this podcast subject. Woke up this morning with "I am so tired of going to work" my (Ah Ha Moment). 62yrs old, thinking about what I want to do outside my work being so close to retirement.
I'm at work right now and am losing this job in a few days to go to a job that's worse and I'd love to do something else but I'm hitting 60 this year and my house won't be paid off for three years and I am single. So I feel kinda trapped. If this podcast changes anything for me, i would love to share good news. Thank you so much for these podcasts
love this ❤ 24 years working in a physical, high stress job in Healthcare, I'M DONE!!!! I'm handing in my resignation on April 1st. My 3 sons are grown, my parents are aging, I need more flexibility and LOWER STRESS!!!! I've got the steps in place. I will NOT work another Christmas day and be without my family. Oh, and to throw a wrench into my plans, my husband was permanently laid off 3 days ago. Nope, I refuse to let that stop me.
was about to hand my resignation letter last April 1st, but my supervisor rejected so i will try again after a week. I can’t wait to start something new, I’m done doing desk jobs, I felt trap and unfulfilled 😞
This episode speaks to my soul. I have been self employed for almost 20 years commission only career and I have been burnt out for many years. Trying to figure out what I want to do, my purpose and then how to do it and make money! So many opportunities in this digital age! It’s truly an amazing time if you’re willing to follow your gut!
Thank you Mel. I've only recently found you at a very difficult time of my life. But I love listening to you and I actually still shed a tear when you say at the end "in case no one day it today, I love you" thank you.
In 2020, when I was 50, I co-wrote a book with my childhood friend. It was published in 2021🎉🎉 Chapter 2 of life now after 23 yrs of being an employee ...
I am so poised and ready for this video, this moment. I am a Retired RN, (burned out tbh) I am in a new state & city after a family tragedy relocated me, Currently self-employed in home organization/deep cleaning service But… My calling and gift to my fellow human beings is that of a midwife to the dying: I am a Death Doula, after 10 years as a Hospice Case Manager, and I simply need to launch my service and create a business doing so. I’ve only worked as a Doula for friends and family, by word of mouth. Stumped at the marketing and business framework ideas but I know for certain this is what I want to do, it brings me the utmost fullfillmemt and my clients are immensely satisfied with my interventions, and I realize I am absolutely graced by my Creator with this skill, it’s a specific calling I am uniquely equipped for and I want to do only this for income and ministry.
This video felt like a hug from an older sister, saying "It's gonna be okay, you can do this!" ❤ Mel, this video is changing my life. I am not joking in the slightest. You and your lovely guest are giving me the Courage to say "To hell with my old miserable life. It's time to live my best life." Thank you for making this video, thank you for all the wisdom you've both shared, thank you for opening my eyes to the possibilities that were always there, waiting for me. ❤
Went though a critical situation in December that ripped to the bottom of my soul A awaking I have found you in that time Dec 24 I manifested my own company with my certification 2008 I’m on Disability started my business with with my grocery money and I was given a months free rent for the incident My buddy had a office he has rented me 100. for 2 months I had business cards and a name tag made out of the rent money! So from manifesting, to having my business open licensed and insured was a 2 months Thank you for what you do Mel
I hate my job and left. After sometime I end up doing the same job and being miserable. I think I’m ready to be my own boss. Thanks Mel😊 I am ready to embark on my new journey creating the life I want for me…
Thank u Mel.. I have been struggling at a job where i barely make ends meet. Im 47 and in a city that i dont like . I dream of going to a beach but am so afraid to move . I know that I have been called to help others and also be a writer.. This video has helped me tremendously and gave me some much needed courage . Thank u so much Mel. Love u and love what u do. God bless u
Just to push back a little bit....I know many business owners and they all say it's WAY harder and more stressful than working for someone else. Yes, they don't have to ask a boss's permission, but if they don't work it all comes crashing down. It's not all sunshine and roses being your own boss. Sometimes the stress is overwhelming. Business owners are "free" but also they are NOT free at all because they are accountable to all their clients and their staff and their family!
Agree. In my opinion working 9-5 or so call minimum wage jobs or being an entrepreneur is all very valid option. At the end it all come down to what suited best for that person. Stop with the stigma being an entrepreneur is the best "job", but if it suited you go for it babe.
There's some truth to what you're saying but as a former business owner I can let you know I have cried more on my 9:00 to 5 that I have now than I ever did running my Med-Spa. I was a lot less stressed running my business I worked 9 to10 hour days but it was way less stressful than my current 9 to 5:00 job. I often work a lot of overtime with my 9:00 to 5:00 and I don't enjoy my work. I really think it depends on the person and their personality. Some people thrive clocking in and out from work and love to come home and not think about anything.. I prefer having my own business. if I wanted to take a 2-hour lunch break because that's what I needed I could totally do it on my job now we only have 30 minute lunch breaks which is ridiculous . I have to accrue PTO time to get time off work where as with my own business I could just mark my calendar.
Having your own business is not for everyone. It can be scary for sure. This is also good advice to check on what you're good at and how you'd like to spend your days. Maybe there's another position within your company or at another business that would let you do what you want. Think outside the box with this advice and see how you can improve your life.
I got laid off 7 months ago (even though the company made it look like it was on mutual agreement) from a job that I thought it was the opportunity of a lifetime. It turns out it wasn't, and even though it has been rough because I do feel bad and like a big fat looser, I know that it wasn't the right place for me, I was not happy and the company does not match my values. This has made me acknowledge something that I knew deep inside of me for a longtime: I am not made for the corporate world, I don't like 9 to 5, I don't like to fit in cases like everyone else, I am the round peg in a square hole! I like to be free and independent! I know that is the opportunity to change my life into the life that I really want! While I was listening to your episode, I started listing what I like to do and might be good at doing, and this is where the however part comes up: how do I transform that into to a business? That has been my big question. I am not afraid to take the necessary steps to transform my life, I just don't know how...how do I get there? How do I transform all that into a business? In any case, it's always good to listen to people who have been where I am, it makes me feel that I am not alone. ☺
I really enjoy your podcast. Loving the sisterhood! ❤ I'm totally broke too! My anxiety is off the charts. I'm 53 and going back to college to finish my psych degree. I was scouted by Harvad after I was initiated PTK. The only thing is I'm not sure I want to finish my PhD now. I really really want to start my own business. After my Awkening, lost all of my attachments after a series of events. I have found, that after a lot of reflection with no phone that I threw in the Trent River in Bew Bern, NC for 6 mths. I started off with a red blanket and pillow WITH my daughter and dog after my half sister, I'm his only child, took EVERYTHING he left so more daughter and I would be safe. Needless to say after EVERY unimaginable circumstance out there in the wilderness could happen. My daughter and I went way off the grid in Northern FL down a dirt road with only cows and chicken around, well deer and bunnies too. I di b r want to go back into all the bullshit. I have a fst ass now and it's great! I have roots in my hair and live barefoot. After all the shock wore off, I doubt ME! Trying to think how i can still work remotely, online, so u can homestead in all pots for herbs so we can move further when we can. I need to figure out how to use the internet too. I'm kinda out of the whole label things rather that mental health gifts. NEEDED to here this today sisters in light. I mean I'm Ramon noodles broke...lol, but I grew my first two tomatoes! What?????? I'm so getting the book when I can. Really guys, you guys are frigging badass. Trying to catch up! So much GRATITUDE ❤ I really want to thank you for the sincere authentic challenges. That's it! The betrayel. I was the caregiver for both of my parents as their surragets,,so whatever my dad left my daughter and I, including the house, my half sister is an accountant and ran all of my daughters and my college money, EVERYTHING! So I'm really in the deficiet just trying to pay electric with little stupid jobs which is NOT me. I really still want to help ppl and leave my legacy behind and have my daughter look up to me again. No child should ever have to see a parent blind sided, let alone watching her cry from hunger pains and the loss of her dreams. We have safe shelter now. I'm going to keep watching you guys because I really really need to kick ass. I couldn't even take a loan out on my car, they out a line against it so I couldn't pay for an attorney. I feel like I need to tell someone though because the other half sister set herself on fire and killed herself because of all the same toxic shit. It's hard to move on because my dad was in Korea and a NYCF so he was old school and put everything in stocks. It's always in the back of my mind to be my full creative self when I feel that her half sister should be held accountable or my the nice half sisters death would have been all in vain. They took 2.5 million in stocks. Do I walk away for my own sanity, or do I walk away my for my other half of sanity? Free! OK, the light bulb just went off. Libraries even! I do need a side hustle. Thank you so much for the recipes. Yeah, pity parties got to be done with. Sooo glad you guys did this!!!!🎉
Mel, you are truly inspirational. Your examples and explanations were easy to relate and understand. You are absolutely right that our beliefs create our lives. I remembered a Buddha quote “what you think. You become..”. A simple little quote yet so deep and profound in the message, but yet so many of us lost sight of it. Our mindset or beliefs truly dictate what is in our lives and we can change course from a path filled with negativity to joy with simply changing the sunglass lens. Thank you for sharing this powerful message and please continue to do what you do. ❤❤
Omg, thank you. I so needed this podcast today. I'm 49 and Amy is right about the age and getting a retail job. I took this podcast to heart and as soon as my shift is over, gonna start asking what I want, may get some help from my 12 year old daughter. I'm looking forward to see what Brite lite shines and ready for action. Love u Mel.
Thank you ,Mel, for you and all those guests you bring! I'm changing mylife right this moment and for the duration of last week ,I wake up and I turn on one of your videos instead of doing meditation. This makes me feel supercharged and helps shut down the negative talk in my head. I'm so glad I came across you and it inspires me to become someone who people would be coming across and change things in their lives! Love you, Mel!
"We're not going to chase confidence anymore." @amyporterfield This was such a genius sentence. Just an amazing gem in a diamond-filled podcast. I loved every minute of this! Thank you! @melrobbins There is room for everyone. Rise together! 💕
Oh Mel, today I was just feeling miserable about my job. I've had my photography business on the side for a decade now. I have the feeling that I need to take it to the next level and make it my number one job. As a mother of a three year old I need the flexibility of being my own boss. When I'm taking photos and interacting with people and then retouching the pictures I feel so fulfilled. This episode gives me the strength to take the steps I need to do that. Thank you!
You definitely should do that as your career! Please, please, listen to these ladies and me haha, I know I'm just a person you don't know, but please consider my opinion (there are many reasons for that) 🌞. I know it's scary leaving a "stable job", especially when you have responsibilities for your child, but please just take an hour or even a few minutes to sit and think how you can do it efficiently, so you are finally free of that burden and are doing what you love. One more thing, photography pays well 🌸
@@ariadnawildmoser6426 there you go! Suffice to take that first step, which always seems to be the most difficult and then you will see. When it's something "yours" everything will unroll for you, you will start meeting people who will talk about this or something specific you need or different things will pop out here and there. It will seem like good coincidences, but they are not 🌞
I recently got laid off from my company and believe me it really feels bad. I have got a terrible anxiety thinking about it again and again .I hope I get better with time.
Sending good vibes your way! I was laid off from a six figure job I loved as a school principal in 2008. Reinvented myself as a an independent consultant and worked for 12 years successfully! Now I’m the CEO of a design & construction corporation with a goal to build 5 million in 1-3 years! Took talents learned as principal and applied those to the business. You can do it! Stay encouraged! 🙏🏼💛
@@LisaDabbs Lisa - so inspiring! Congratulations. I feel stuck at a director of sales I hate in a toxic work environment that has me on meds to cope. I make good money but know it won’t last much longer. My lifelong dream has been to be a builder of homes but although I got my RE license and Builders license at a young age, never did it because the money was better in tech sales. I’m 57 now and miserable wishing I could make the change. How the heck did you ever do it?
Mel. Thank you so much for putting this HUGE masterclass together and presenting it to us for free. Most times, when people are saying the things you both say in the lead in here, they are selling something and the whole time I'm waiting for them to get to the sales point. Which gives me extreme anxiety because I know I don't have money for it. Also, if I were asked what business I'd open, I would SAY that I don't know what business I want to "open", but i actually DO. The reason I would say that, is because I'm conditioned to think that you can't make money doing something that way...or specifically, *I* can't make money making art. (That's an OLD voice from when I was a teen) When I go through old magazine clippings, I always come across this article I tore out about a woman who designs her own fabric. It's what I want to do. Problem is, I haven't developed my artistic skills because of that old message from when I was a teen. When you said to pay attention to when I feel jealous, that feeling of, "I want that"? That's when I look at that article. As my eyes hungrily devour how this woman built her own design company, and works from home, being creative and making beautiful things...that is what I want. I've gone so far as to search what computer programs I'd need for the graphic design portion of that business, I've signed up to get emails from people who are selling information on how to get started in surface pattern design, but because I don't really know anything about it, I'm afraid to pay for their "program" and find afterward that it doesn't really tell me much about it at all. I NEED to be my own boss, I NEED to have autonomy, and I NEED to surround myself with beautiful, creative things. I'll keep listening to this masterclass and see how I can get on with it.
Currently just graduated school and I realized that I really didn’t like what I studied! However, I realized towards the end what I do want and now it’s just breaking away from the opinions of others and praying for God to show me the right way in life! God has been a big part in my journey bc I was confused in what I was doing and trying to figure out what I should do as a job. I realized that i was very burnt out with many jobs I did and tired by what I was studying, but I kept going bc I didn’t want others to say something negative and I’ve realized that is not a ways to live. Do what feels right to you and what gives you hope and peace! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Hey Mel!! This episode resonated with me so much because I got laid off my job two weeks ago right after losing my apartment. I've been sitting around depressed but I am currently doing you 3 part training of #Takecontrolofyourlife and you are opening my mind to unbossing myself. I am grateful to run across you and Amy today. Thank you!
@Mel Robbins. You are an exceptional interviewer. I just need to give credit where it's due I ready do. You really love us, your audience and you do your very best to drive the interview to help us, you know what we are thinking, you ask questions on our behalf. You make her pause so that we take in the learning, you confront what is superficial! And you make it real. You really add the meat to what your guests bring. Thanks Mel, I have actually bought the book this week and started it. You were born to be a life coach and I am so happy that I am here sitting in Botswana and experiencing your raw love for humanity and your authenticity to help us become and I love that you have absolute humility. Keep up the calling.
Hiiii Mel! I'm in absolute AWE of how amazing, creative & truly inspiring your podcast is!!! THANK YOU for being a beacon of Light, Love & Hope for your online community :) Keep changing lives one podcast-at-a time. You have transformed mine forever!!! xoxo
Mel, I LOVE this episode! I 100% have the ambition, desire, and discipline to get out there and make it happen for myself ... BUT, I've been frozen on what the "it" is for me!! I KNOW I want to be my own boss, and I know certain elements I want to incoporate into whatever it is I end up doing (ex: mostly online platform, writing), but have been so stuck on the "what" element to focus those things around. I will now be working through the sweet spot exercise! Thank you :)
thinking about 'unbossing' one self .. the way you described what most of us witnessed as children, Mel ... our parental figures going to work for a paycheck, answering to someone else, temporarily losing personal authority ... it's no wonder: 1) they were more authoritarian at home! They were unknowingly reclaiming their power and the endless power struggle between parent and child. This dispels quite a bit of disturbance around childhood. And 2) why searching for jobs while trying to build a business is a deeply seated survival mechanism that touches more than a concern for money. It's a tactic that resurfaces whenever triggered by the subconscious belief that questions our authority as a leader in our own life. So good! Thank you!
Hi Mel, I've been following you for a while and have been binge watching today whilst doing a major clean up mission after some work on my house. I'm going to email you about the things you've inspired me to do, but I just wanted you to know this. I watched the video on synchronicity and found it fascinating. Then my son phoned me, and we were talking about how he hated his job and how he would really love to do something training dogs. I watched the first 5 minutes of this video, then shared it with him because it seemed to be addressing a lot of the issues we'd been talking about. I could not believe it when the conversation turned to someone who started a business dog training! I sent him the clip immediately - synchronicity or what! ❤ Thank you for all your inspiration🎉
I want to hear about a woman who’s on her own. Every story so far includes…racing home to get family, her husband said, blah blah blah. How do you do it when you have NO backup net
My life & business partner for the past 9 years left very abruptly & I’ve decided to make that into an opportunity to do something new that’s of my choosing. Thank you so much for making this material available for free!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is very inspirational. I'm literally working on my new business as I listen to this podcast. I've been wanting to go Business Coaching for years. I have 35 years experience and its time to stop working for others. Even though I do consulting, I still am in situations where I am reporting to others. I feel I'm more qualified than most employers I consult with and putting myself in frustrating situations. This video is pushing me in the direction of doing a major change on my existing business of being treated as a regular employee to coaching. Enough 9-5 being scrutinized by a boss. 35 years is enough.
Everything about my life is amazing except my career. My career is soul sucking and I want to find a way out. I’m creative and I have skills. I genuinely feel like I’m not going to retire in my current career.
The podcast I needed to hear. I finally built the courage to retire from my current career after 18 years. I am 52 years old but feel like I still have more to offer this world. Don’t know what my next step will be but I’m excited for the next chapter of life- and definitely more freedom. 🙏🏼😊 thank you Mel and Amy - I just purchased Amy’s book too.
I am finally doing it! I am 60 soon to be 61! I am in AZ .....summers yikes, so working at home financially freedom it started during covid 🙃 during covid. I work in student Learning Coach. I am getting a website. I have not been my own boss and realized I wanted it sooo bad. Freedom is my middle name, middle child, it created a different confidence in my blood, my life, myself not comparing.
This is great advice for somebody that wants to run a small business. But not everybody does. Some of us don’t mind working for other people so long as the work is fulfilling and people are cool
I didn't know it, but I did that same process almost 3yrs. I own a cakery and my first 6mos did $10k, the next 12mos $30k, now about to wrap up year 2 and on track to making $40k. My days are filled making people feel seen, creating memories and I love it. I set my own schedule. I work from 4:30am to 7:45am, take kids to school and then I hit the gym and hang out until after school pick ups lol I LOVE IT! Now... to get a brick and mortar and hire employees!
Only time I was ever let go, I thanked them. Was an outgoing call centre and I hated every minute of it. But I was unemployed and game to try anything. Take what you learn about yourself and move on.
Mel and Amy thank you. What a great online lesson. What am I good at? Writing, art, organizing, now what lights me up? A bird singing, beauty, a baby smiling, a grandmother and her granddaughter, laughter, me being able to see. I will add more tomorrow, God Bless You Mel and Amy with Love and Light❤ Thank You💜🖐🏼 high five, 5,4,3,2,1 🚀.
First - I LOVED this episode. The content was pure gold. I wish the title didn't have "hate your job?" - because I don't hate my job - I love it and it pays well, but I still want my forever job to be MY OWN gig. Anyhow - I loved the video but I can't repost it, unfortunately. "Dying to have your own business?" Yes, I am - but I don't hate my job. I do love your podcast, and your content and your guests. I was on Amy's email list back in the day - she's truly a pioneer. This was an excellent episode!
29:30 or so: Ha ha ha. When Mel says she sat at her desk and pretended she was working (knowing she did not know how to do that job she'd talked herself into) so reminded me of when George Costanza in Seinfeld carries around the Penske file, and sits at his desk not doing any freaking work. He doesn't even try though. Finally, the jig is up and he's fired. Love it.
Thanks Mel and Amy , 🎉you enspired me ,retrenched after 20 yrs at the age 59 from the corporate environment i still have my skills can offer cause i loved my job will .put myself out there again . God bless yous ❤
I really enjoy your podcasts and appreciate your commitment to offering insight into ways that we can all become our best selves. I would love to hear more from your guests and their insights when you are interviewing them.
Another awesome video Mel! Thanks so much to you and Amy. I’m a 58 yr old woman with 2 online business ideas. I’ve got the companies set up, the business names …. But I got stuck in analysis paralysis and haven’t taken any more action. I’ve been frozen with fear. This video has really motivated me to get going with action. You are never too old to start something new.
Hi Mel. I just recently came to know about you and thank God I did. I was in such a messy place mentally. Your 5 second rule has helped me to start gaining control of my life. God bless you. You are going a great job. I'm also listening to your podcast and it has been such a help to know about all these new things about mental health which I didn't knew before. I feel like I finally get to know some of the answers to why my mind and thoughts work the way they do. I'm going to graduate in about 4 months and feel kinda sad that I won't be seeing my friends after that. I am very attached to them, we spend a lot of time together at college and at hostel and can't imagine the future without having them in my life. It feels scary knowing that eventually we all will go in different directions in life and no matter how much we say that we will meet but we know that we may not get a chance to see each other again. It would help if you could make a podcast episode on how to deal with these thoughts and the sadness and anxiety that follows. And how to detach from people that have to leave and move on with life. It would really help me.
Wow, I was meant to see this podcast tonight. I talked last night and this afternoon to give up on my small mobile tie dye clothing and art business. I suck at the business and bookkeeping side. Great at the tie dye & creating of art part. Was told by husband this afternoon , not to give up just yet.
I stumbled upon this video at the perfect time - almost as if it was fate!!! lol. I am 62 and have been at my job for over 20 years but my boss is 1 1/2 years older than I am and talking retirement in the forseeable future - likely putting me at 64 ish and I am getting a bit paranoid..... this video was just reinforcing my thoughts of late - I bought Amy's book and going to definitely start planning and working on the rest of my life! Thank you SO VERY MUCH!!!
Wow! This episode is THE episode I needed to hear for the last 7 years!!! It hit on ALL the fears I have been having that has been stopping me from just jumping into the life that I’ve been dreaming about for so long. THANK YOU! And I will also share this episode with my kids, family and friends that I know could also benefit from hearing what was said here. Again… thank you.
Mel!!! You’re the Best!! Thanks for this AWESOME PODCAST!! Totally Inspiring, I CAN’T WAIT TO GET STARTED ON SOMETHING!! Thank you for CARING❤❤❤ I know a a few people right now who I’m sending this too🙏🙏
Thank you so much for this message and inspiration. I know I have what it takes deep down. Having you articulate the mental shift that is necessary for the next step was perfect and right on time for me!
I cannot say enough about the message of this podcast! It has been sourcing my Mind since watching it yesterday. I've heard a lot of what Amy shares here before, yet this time your conversation helped it 'click' into place with the rest of my Life. Self-awareness - the wake-up call. I've been feeling the red hot poker to write for SO long but not just the thought .. I want to write ... I mean, when I come into alignment with an career author, the pull is indescribable. My insides twist. This KNOWING urges leadership - unbossing yourself ~ which seems to be the gap for me as I came to see when you mentioned our parents working to earn a paycheck. The insight from that shifted something inside me as I mentioned in my previous comment. Thank you both for your enthusiasm and encouragement! I took action immediately. The thoughts on social media ... BOOM! On it. I made sure I'm connected to people like Anne Lamott and Julia Cameron. Anne lives & writes in a way I can see for myself. Julia .. heck, Julia and I live in the same town! I believe inviting her to join me for tea is my next bold move! Mel .. you've moved mountains for many. Thank you for being you and seeing the light in all of us!
I have been contemplating for a while now about starting my own business. This podcast has definitely gave me the courage I need to follow through and make it happen and start living my best life. Thank you Mel!!!😊
Thanks Mel... I love you and would definitely need this today and trust me this is Gods call because I am a full time researcher but hate my Job and I have actually get some courage to start my life coaching page and planning to teach online and those are actually my thoughts. I am a mother of two young kids both under 2 years and this made me hate my job because I am missing my kids so my inspiration is to do what I love and work whenever I want and wherever I want. So thanks... Lets do it....😊
This was excellent! Gave me a lot to think about and possibly a way out of the funk I'm in. Thanks to the economy and corporate "re-engineering" many of us Boomers found ourselves forced into retirement before we we had retirement plans (and funds) in place. Talk about feeling gutted! There is nothing worse than feeling there is nothing left to accomplish, no more figurative mountains to climb, no real driving purpose. Working a part time job holds no interest for many of us. Slinging burgers or greeting shoppers leaves many of us cold. So, thanks again!
Amy is the BEST! and the first person I started listening to/following on her podcast back in the day. Great video training ladies! You are both ROCKSTARTS!!!
I really appreciate how thoughtful you are in all the questions you ask for your audience. I've listened to quite a lot of podcasts and have to say this one was the most informative and helpful ...thank you
Unboss yourself and Emboss yourself! Raise yourself up .. Give yourself a raise! Stand out from the dull bland background! Xxx I loved this video. I like words and so want to express my dreams. Thank you for your inspiration.
Thank you so much Mel and Amy for sharing these steps and knowledge. It is so helpful, you're podcast is a literal blessing. Amy is seriously so knowledgeable in her field, the insights she shared are just amazing and life changing! Thank you so much, I'm not going to look back from here!!
I learned so much in this one video and gained inspiration and courage from it. Thanks Mel , I can watch your content all day 🥰 Your such an inspiration and your a “you get it type of person” 😁 thank you for bringing up the awareness of how your social media is not for your friends or family. I have had to create different accounts because my friends and family want to follow after attempting to put out the content I want to create lol. But I just want to say thank you for all that you do. God bless you ♥️🙏🏾
Mel, i love you. However, you need to let your guests tell their story. You ask them to start telling their story, then you interject with a story all while telling the audience that the guest is about to blow our mind. Mel, step back and let the guest shine. Love you!
I have the same comment but if you listen carefully you find out that Mel added so much good notes and clears out so much things in a wise understandable way so if we need more we can comment here and ask her to invite the guest or other guests to clear the issue I like her way and the subjects she choose And I think she will take your comment in her consideration Love you too Mel ❤
Are you ready to go after what you want in your life? If so, drop a like and let me know in the comments what your next steps are. YOUR DREAMS MATTER.
thank you.
Y'all are soooo out of my league. I hear y'all. I'm listening but I cant seem to pull anything together.
I am an Etsy seller. I had a corporate job in accounting and felt like my spirit was dying. I started making jewelry and selling at shows. I kept stopping myself from going online because I didn't know how to photograph jewelry. I took the plunge and now I have 21,000 sales on Etsy and my husband quit his job and works with me. You can do it!!!
Wow you are an inspiration! I'm a soapmaker and keep myself playing very small. Thank you so much for your words.
👏 Thanks for sharing your story! I've been putting my own ideas on hold and feel exactly how you described
WOW, congrats!
Thank you for inspiring others! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
God bless you!! You inspire me!♥️
Omg. I'm an accountant in public accounting so burned out and stressed. Thank you for sharing!
My husband and I own and run a furniture repair / refresh business from home. I can't tell you how many shitty jobs I had and was barely making ends meet and I was miserable. I had dreamed of doing what I do and one day I just did it. We're doing very well and there's nothing that compares to waking up when you want to, working when you want to, taking a bike ride when you want to. If you want it, go for it!!!
How lovely x
❤❤❤❤ my dream
@@RochelleJahdiComine too... I’ve just no room to do it so want a workshop and space rent-free 😅
Women over 50 are the BEST teachers! They don’t care what other people think anymore, they have come into their own, they’re experienced, and have emotional intelligence way better than men. The “youngsters” have saturated the online social media industry (good for them) but we need more awesome experienced women out there! You GO ladies, you got this! The most incredible wisdom comes from these women 🎉
Agree 100%.
😂I started not to care before 50. That happened since I started listening to Mel.
I'm 50 and I want it too! Don't want to work for a boss anymore!!! Going for it!
I’ve heard of so many successful entrepreneurs who figured it out in their late 40s and 50s. Because we have the experience and know what we do and don’t want. Not caring is a big plus! And surrounding yourself with big thinkers is a must!!
AMEN!!
This is the best thing I've ever watched. I swear the universe is looking out. I needed this!
I agree. This podcast came at the exact time that I needed to hear all of this. I definitely will keep re-watching this as it gives great guidance on what to do. Also thanks to Mel, a lot of us needed this information.
Ditto!
I just wrote a book for newly diagnosed diabetes patients/family.....I have been procrastinating about launching it. I've sent it to doctors and pharmacists and diabetes coaching clients and so far I've received excellent feedback. In fact one practitioner told me "this has EVERYTHING I wish I had enough time to teach my patients...the world needs this book!" My friend from graduate school said "Every day you don't get this done and out there you are robbing the public of the gifts that you have, you have helped so many people already, you know your shit like the back of your hand, get it done!!"
And yet, I've been procrastinating. Not sure what that's all about....other than fear of success or some other subconscious bullcrap.
This video today has launched me in to 5-4-3-2-1 mode and I'm gonna spend my day figuring out how to launch TODAY!!!!!
I launched Oct 28th 2023. Is available on Amazon, and I've sold 18 copies so far..... I'm thrilled!!!!!
Have you launched yet?
We are rooting for you. Please keep us updated
@@jovoorheescollinsmphbsnbch6245congratulations 🎉. More wins for you I pray 🙏
This came at the exact right moment in my life! As I get dressed to go into the worst job I have ever had in my entire life, this was the kick-start I needed to get over my fear and gather my courage to become self-employed where I could make my own hours and do something I actually enjoy for once. It's only been myself and my fear holding me back. It's time to do it!
Thank you Mel. Your video was exactly what I needed as I lay awake at 3:18 AM worrying about my life and wanting more control and freedom. Thank you for being you and helping us out here ! !
Thank you both so much!!!! (Mel and Amy) One word "FREEDOM" changed my life today. No more 9-5. My 9-5 took EVERYTHING from me because I let it. I hated that career - it left me with no mental and physical energy even on my most successful days at work. I'm selling my condo in Chicago that's become impossible to afftord (even after 20 years of ownership and 3% mortgage interest rate) to afford as a single 51 yr old woman, cashing out, leaving the horrible crime, sky rocketing costs due to idiot politians, etc. and a career I HATE. Unbossing and putting a plan together to move, set up a cheaper camp - and starting a business PERIOD. Done with the 9-5 I freaking HATE, HATE HATE. Freedom - you ladies f-ing kick ass!!!!! I needed this kick. I feel alive again for the first time in prob 15 years!! I love me, I love you, I believe in me, I believe in Mel and Amy and everyone else that wants to change their lives, we can change our lives!!" You can do it!! Here I go.....
Hi! Wow!!
Last night I saw 11:11. Looked up the spiritual meaning. Be open to opportunity…life can be different! Pay attention to the signs that will present themselves to you. This morning I open utube and find this podcast! Wow! How inspiring!!
I’m 65 years old. Was fired from my job at 55. Couldn’t find a job so decided it was okay to retire. Financially I was lucky enough, that I could…and I’m grateful. But lately I feel like I want more. I want to be of service. I want to make my own money. I want to be happier. I need a purpose!
Thank you for this podcast. I went right to Audible and bought Amy’s book! Mel I have bought a couple of yours!
I’m willing to learn, and I am willing to look into this possibility more! Feeling happier already! I will let you know how it goes! Thanks again ❤
I was washing dishes. Instead of songs, I listened this video. I am glad I watched this because I am done with my recruiter's job and trying to become a data scientist. I really want to be my own boss. This was really great informative based video... Once again thank you Mel and Amy❤❤
I do the same! I listen to Mel Robbins with my air pods in my ear while making dinner!
It definitely was great information. 👍
Same here! I enjoy doing the dishes at night. It's a form of therapy listening to videos like this. ( I also don't know how to fix my dish washer and am dragging my feet to buy a new one lol)
Listening is one thing but action is key. What do we have to lose?
Hi Mel,
I am a 23-year-old Texan, who got let go a few months ago. The journey has not been a "walk in the park." I have definitely experienced new emotions and thoughts that I have never thought existed. I have been (like most) gone through a loophole where you push everything to the side: Job search, digging into feelings and thoughts, shifting your mind to just "living life."
It has been really challenging coming out from it and not blaming the universe for everything, you know.. So in light of a book club I am in, which takes place every Friday evening, there was a quote that just kept playing in my head: "Your Future Matters MORE Than Your Past." I didn't know what it meant and why my brain was circling back on it for a hot minute. I mention it to the rest of the participants and a good man responds "You need to reimagine your future, it seems like you want to look back into the old routine that has worked in your past, and now it doesn't seem to work."
Reimagine.. what even?? So I went on RUclips and your video was the first to appear. At first, it was a little hard to not have biases on these kinds of videos when they are everywhere. But you had this energy of simplicity and humbleness. I stayed longer, and then I started to take notes.. A whole bunch of notes. I haven't felt in a long time my writing to be meaningful and intentional. There was something obviously going on inside that said "idk why I am doing this, but keep writing and listening." So in conclusion, I feel like I've been lifted and a part of my brain has reappeared back to the surface. A part that has been lost for years. I believe this is the start to a change. Thank you for being special in your own way, and believing in everyone who wants to succeed and feels lost.
About a month ago, before I even found you and started following you, I was Up North (Michigan) and found a beautiful heart shaped rock... I picked it up and put it in my purse. I had no reason to pick that rock up or carry it with me. I have been struggling with a lot of different things with life lately and for whatever reason, I knew I needed to keep that rock close to me. Now I have found you and am actively learning from you. Sometimes things just fall into place, exactly as they were meant to! You are giving me so much hope for a brighter future and all the things I am capable of! Love you and proud of you for continuing to help so many people every day!
I think one of the reasons the interviewee does well is simply the way she communicates. She uses subtle tools like word stressing to get her simple messages across in a powerful way. That means she is more engaging and can be more successful, no matter how good the content is.
So thankful for catching this podcast subject. Woke up this morning with "I am so tired of going to work" my (Ah Ha Moment). 62yrs old, thinking about what I want to do outside my work being so close to retirement.
I'm at work right now and am losing this job in a few days to go to a job that's worse and I'd love to do something else but I'm hitting 60 this year and my house won't be paid off for three years and I am single. So I feel kinda trapped. If this podcast changes anything for me, i would love to share good news. Thank you so much for these podcasts
I came across your comment and I’m curious about you update life?
Just what I needed!!! I’ve been asking the universe for an answer and there you are❣️
This is such an important episode of this podcast. Who can't relate to this?! I know I can!!!😊
It’s where your at in life.. whoa is me wont work.. i always think of Cher in that movie, when she slapped the guy said snap out of it..😂, the truth.
love this ❤
24 years working in a physical, high stress job in Healthcare, I'M DONE!!!!
I'm handing in my resignation on April 1st. My 3 sons are grown, my parents are aging, I need more flexibility and LOWER STRESS!!!!
I've got the steps in place.
I will NOT work another Christmas day and be without my family. Oh, and to throw a wrench into my plans, my husband was permanently laid off 3 days ago. Nope, I refuse to let that stop me.
May God bless you and provide everything you need!
was about to hand my resignation letter last April 1st, but my supervisor rejected so i will try again after a week. I can’t wait to start something new, I’m done doing desk jobs, I felt trap and unfulfilled 😞
Haha. Yep! I sent this episode to my kids. I have seven of them. I’m 60 and you just confirmed everything I believe and what I’ve been working on
This episode speaks to my soul. I have been self employed for almost 20 years commission only career and I have been burnt out for many years. Trying to figure out what I want to do, my purpose and then how to do it and make money! So many opportunities in this digital age! It’s truly an amazing time if you’re willing to follow your gut!
Thank you Mel. I've only recently found you at a very difficult time of my life. But I love listening to you and I actually still shed a tear when you say at the end "in case no one day it today, I love you" thank you.
When the universe sends you a video validating your decision to leave your job. Freedom is the goal. Also, I just downloaded her book.
In 2020, when I was 50, I co-wrote a book with my childhood friend. It was published in 2021🎉🎉 Chapter 2 of life now after 23 yrs of being an employee ...
What's the name of your book?
I am so poised and ready for this video, this moment.
I am a Retired RN, (burned out tbh)
I am in a new state & city after a family tragedy relocated me,
Currently self-employed in home organization/deep cleaning service
But…
My calling and gift to my fellow human beings is that of a midwife to the dying: I am a Death Doula, after 10 years as a Hospice Case Manager, and I simply need to launch my service and create a business doing so. I’ve only worked as a Doula for friends and family, by word of mouth.
Stumped at the marketing and business framework ideas but I know for certain this is what I want to do, it brings me the utmost fullfillmemt and my clients are immensely satisfied with my interventions, and I realize I am absolutely graced by my Creator with this skill, it’s a specific calling I am uniquely equipped for and I want to do only this for income and ministry.
This video felt like a hug from an older sister, saying "It's gonna be okay, you can do this!" ❤
Mel, this video is changing my life. I am not joking in the slightest. You and your lovely guest are giving me the Courage to say "To hell with my old miserable life. It's time to live my best life." Thank you for making this video, thank you for all the wisdom you've both shared, thank you for opening my eyes to the possibilities that were always there, waiting for me. ❤
Went though a critical situation in December that ripped to the bottom of my soul
A awaking
I have found you in that time
Dec 24 I manifested my own company with my certification 2008
I’m on Disability started my business with with my grocery money and I was given a months free rent for the incident
My buddy had a office he has rented me 100. for 2 months
I had business cards and a name tag made out of the rent money!
So from manifesting, to having my business open licensed and insured was a 2 months
Thank you for what you do Mel
I hate my job and left. After sometime I end up doing the same job and being miserable. I think I’m ready to be my own boss. Thanks Mel😊 I am ready to embark on my new journey creating the life I want for me…
Same here, I’m doing the same job now and struggle daily to go in. Ready to have my own business and more freedom.
If you’re young enough and have shit ton of money saved go for it
Thank u Mel.. I have been struggling at a job where i barely make ends meet. Im 47 and in a city that i dont like . I dream of going to a beach but am so afraid to move . I know that I have been called to help others and also be a writer.. This video has helped me tremendously and gave me some much needed courage . Thank u so much Mel. Love u and love what u do. God bless u
Literally the same. Same age and everything! Wishing you the best
@@Sunny_Day1111 thanks u too
I love all this but I really would like Amy to be able to finish one complete thought. Other wise it is hard to follow and I really need this info.
Just to push back a little bit....I know many business owners and they all say it's WAY harder and more stressful than working for someone else. Yes, they don't have to ask a boss's permission, but if they don't work it all comes crashing down. It's not all sunshine and roses being your own boss. Sometimes the stress is overwhelming. Business owners are "free" but also they are NOT free at all because they are accountable to all their clients and their staff and their family!
You also work WAY more hours for less pay. Unless you are very lucky.
Agree. In my opinion working 9-5 or so call minimum wage jobs or being an entrepreneur is all very valid option. At the end it all come down to what suited best for that person. Stop with the stigma being an entrepreneur is the best "job", but if it suited you go for it babe.
There's some truth to what you're saying but as a former business owner I can let you know I have cried more on my 9:00 to 5 that I have now than I ever did running my Med-Spa.
I was a lot less stressed running my business I worked 9 to10 hour days but it was way less stressful than my current 9 to 5:00 job.
I often work a lot of overtime with my 9:00 to 5:00 and I don't enjoy my work. I really think it depends on the person and their personality. Some people thrive clocking in and out from work and love to come home and not think about anything.. I prefer having my own business. if I wanted to take a 2-hour lunch break because that's what I needed I could totally do it on my job now we only have 30 minute lunch breaks which is ridiculous .
I have to accrue PTO time to get time off work where as with my own business I could just mark my calendar.
Having your own business is not for everyone. It can be scary for sure. This is also good advice to check on what you're good at and how you'd like to spend your days. Maybe there's another position within your company or at another business that would let you do what you want. Think outside the box with this advice and see how you can improve your life.
Tap into courage first!!!
I love how real Mel is. She's right. She's so attune to normal people. Others are living pay cheque to pay cheque and she's bloody real.
I got laid off 7 months ago (even though the company made it look like it was on mutual agreement) from a job that I thought it was the opportunity of a lifetime. It turns out it wasn't, and even though it has been rough because I do feel bad and like a big fat looser, I know that it wasn't the right place for me, I was not happy and the company does not match my values. This has made me acknowledge something that I knew deep inside of me for a longtime: I am not made for the corporate world, I don't like 9 to 5, I don't like to fit in cases like everyone else, I am the round peg in a square hole! I like to be free and independent! I know that is the opportunity to change my life into the life that I really want!
While I was listening to your episode, I started listing what I like to do and might be good at doing, and this is where the however part comes up: how do I transform that into to a business? That has been my big question. I am not afraid to take the necessary steps to transform my life, I just don't know how...how do I get there? How do I transform all that into a business?
In any case, it's always good to listen to people who have been where I am, it makes me feel that I am not alone. ☺
I really enjoy your podcast. Loving the sisterhood! ❤ I'm totally broke too! My anxiety is off the charts. I'm 53 and going back to college to finish my psych degree. I was scouted by Harvad after I was initiated PTK. The only thing is I'm not sure I want to finish my PhD now. I really really want to start my own business. After my Awkening, lost all of my attachments after a series of events. I have found, that after a lot of reflection with no phone that I threw in the Trent River in Bew Bern, NC for 6 mths. I started off with a red blanket and pillow WITH my daughter and dog after my half sister, I'm his only child, took EVERYTHING he left so more daughter and I would be safe. Needless to say after EVERY unimaginable circumstance out there in the wilderness could happen. My daughter and I went way off the grid in Northern FL down a dirt road with only cows and chicken around, well deer and bunnies too. I di b r want to go back into all the bullshit. I have a fst ass now and it's great! I have roots in my hair and live barefoot. After all the shock wore off, I doubt ME! Trying to think how i can still work remotely, online, so u can homestead in all pots for herbs so we can move further when we can. I need to figure out how to use the internet too. I'm kinda out of the whole label things rather that mental health gifts. NEEDED to here this today sisters in light. I mean I'm Ramon noodles broke...lol, but I grew my first two tomatoes! What?????? I'm so getting the book when I can. Really guys, you guys are frigging badass. Trying to catch up! So much GRATITUDE ❤ I really want to thank you for the sincere authentic challenges. That's it! The betrayel. I was the caregiver for both of my parents as their surragets,,so whatever my dad left my daughter and I, including the house, my half sister is an accountant and ran all of my daughters and my college money, EVERYTHING! So I'm really in the deficiet just trying to pay electric with little stupid jobs which is NOT me. I really still want to help ppl and leave my legacy behind and have my daughter look up to me again. No child should ever have to see a parent blind sided, let alone watching her cry from hunger pains and the loss of her dreams. We have safe shelter now. I'm going to keep watching you guys because I really really need to kick ass. I couldn't even take a loan out on my car, they out a line against it so I couldn't pay for an attorney. I feel like I need to tell someone though because the other half sister set herself on fire and killed herself because of all the same toxic shit. It's hard to move on because my dad was in Korea and a NYCF so he was old school and put everything in stocks. It's always in the back of my mind to be my full creative self when I feel that her half sister should be held accountable or my the nice half sisters death would have been all in vain. They took 2.5 million in stocks. Do I walk away for my own sanity, or do I walk away my for my other half of sanity? Free! OK, the light bulb just went off. Libraries even! I do need a side hustle. Thank you so much for the recipes. Yeah, pity parties got to be done with. Sooo glad you guys did this!!!!🎉
Mel, you are truly inspirational. Your examples and explanations were easy to relate and understand. You are absolutely right that our beliefs create our lives. I remembered a Buddha quote “what you think. You become..”. A simple little quote yet so deep and profound in the message, but yet so many of us lost sight of it. Our mindset or beliefs truly dictate what is in our lives and we can change course from a path filled with negativity to joy with simply changing the sunglass lens. Thank you for sharing this powerful message and please continue to do what you do. ❤❤
Omg, thank you. I so needed this podcast today. I'm 49 and Amy is right about the age and getting a retail job. I took this podcast to heart and as soon as my shift is over, gonna start asking what I want, may get some help from my 12 year old daughter. I'm looking forward to see what Brite lite shines and ready for action. Love u Mel.
Thank you ,Mel, for you and all those guests you bring!
I'm changing mylife right this moment and for the duration of last week ,I wake up and I turn on one of your videos instead of doing meditation. This makes me feel supercharged and helps shut down the negative talk in my head.
I'm so glad I came across you and it inspires me to become someone who people would be coming across and change things in their lives! Love you, Mel!
"We're not going to chase confidence anymore." @amyporterfield
This was such a genius sentence. Just an amazing gem in a diamond-filled podcast. I loved every minute of this! Thank you! @melrobbins
There is room for everyone. Rise together! 💕
Thank you ladies!!! The calling is loud! Thank you for your courage to live your dreams and encouraging others to do the same!!!
WOW. So inspiring!!! I feel like I moved through soooooo many blocks listening! Thank you for this!!! 🙏💚
Oh Mel, today I was just feeling miserable about my job. I've had my photography business on the side for a decade now. I have the feeling that I need to take it to the next level and make it my number one job. As a mother of a three year old I need the flexibility of being my own boss. When I'm taking photos and interacting with people and then retouching the pictures I feel so fulfilled.
This episode gives me the strength to take the steps I need to do that. Thank you!
You can do it!!!! 👏🏻💘
You definitely should do that as your career! Please, please, listen to these ladies and me haha, I know I'm just a person you don't know, but please consider my opinion (there are many reasons for that) 🌞.
I know it's scary leaving a "stable job", especially when you have responsibilities for your child, but please just take an hour or even a few minutes to sit and think how you can do it efficiently, so you are finally free of that burden and are doing what you love. One more thing, photography pays well 🌸
@@KarinaSwan thank you! 🧡🤗
I actually found a place near me that support business owners to become independent. I just enrolled for a course!
@@LisaBookshelf thank you! 🤗
@@ariadnawildmoser6426 there you go! Suffice to take that first step, which always seems to be the most difficult and then you will see. When it's something "yours" everything will unroll for you, you will start meeting people who will talk about this or something specific you need or different things will pop out here and there. It will seem like good coincidences, but they are not 🌞
Thank you Mel! This was very helpful! I was laid off back in February at the age of 58. This is giving me some direction.
Also laid off at 58🤷🏾♂️
I recently got laid off from my company and believe me it really feels bad. I have got a terrible anxiety thinking about it again and again
.I hope I get better with time.
SAME. Good luck to you!
Sending good vibes your way! I was laid off from a six figure job I loved as a school principal in 2008. Reinvented myself as a an independent consultant and worked for 12 years successfully! Now I’m the CEO of a design & construction corporation with a goal to build 5 million in 1-3 years! Took talents learned as principal and applied those to the business. You can do it! Stay encouraged! 🙏🏼💛
@@LisaDabbs OMG that is AMAZING! Thanks for sharing!!!!!!
@@LisaDabbs Lisa - so inspiring! Congratulations. I feel stuck at a director of sales I hate in a toxic work environment that has me on meds to cope. I make good money but know it won’t last much longer. My lifelong dream has been to be a builder of homes but although I got my RE license and Builders license at a young age, never did it because the money was better in tech sales. I’m 57 now and miserable wishing I could make the change. How the heck did you ever do it?
Mel. Thank you so much for putting this HUGE masterclass together and presenting it to us for free. Most times, when people are saying the things you both say in the lead in here, they are selling something and the whole time I'm waiting for them to get to the sales point. Which gives me extreme anxiety because I know I don't have money for it. Also, if I were asked what business I'd open, I would SAY that I don't know what business I want to "open", but i actually DO. The reason I would say that, is because I'm conditioned to think that you can't make money doing something that way...or specifically, *I* can't make money making art. (That's an OLD voice from when I was a teen) When I go through old magazine clippings, I always come across this article I tore out about a woman who designs her own fabric. It's what I want to do. Problem is, I haven't developed my artistic skills because of that old message from when I was a teen. When you said to pay attention to when I feel jealous, that feeling of, "I want that"? That's when I look at that article. As my eyes hungrily devour how this woman built her own design company, and works from home, being creative and making beautiful things...that is what I want. I've gone so far as to search what computer programs I'd need for the graphic design portion of that business, I've signed up to get emails from people who are selling information on how to get started in surface pattern design, but because I don't really know anything about it, I'm afraid to pay for their "program" and find afterward that it doesn't really tell me much about it at all. I NEED to be my own boss, I NEED to have autonomy, and I NEED to surround myself with beautiful, creative things. I'll keep listening to this masterclass and see how I can get on with it.
Currently just graduated school and I realized that I really didn’t like what I studied! However, I realized towards the end what I do want and now it’s just breaking away from the opinions of others and praying for God to show me the right way in life! God has been a big part in my journey bc I was confused in what I was doing and trying to figure out what I should do as a job. I realized that i was very burnt out with many jobs I did and tired by what I was studying, but I kept going bc I didn’t want others to say something negative and I’ve realized that is not a ways to live. Do what feels right to you and what gives you hope and peace! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Hey Mel!! This episode resonated with me so much because I got laid off my job two weeks ago right after losing my apartment. I've been sitting around depressed but I am currently doing you 3 part training of #Takecontrolofyourlife and you are opening my mind to unbossing myself. I am grateful to run across you and Amy today. Thank you!
@Mel Robbins. You are an exceptional interviewer. I just need to give credit where it's due I ready do.
You really love us, your audience and you do your very best to drive the interview to help us, you know what we are thinking, you ask questions on our behalf. You make her pause so that we take in the learning, you confront what is superficial! And you make it real. You really add the meat to what your guests bring.
Thanks Mel, I have actually bought the book this week and started it. You were born to be a life coach and I am so happy that I am here sitting in Botswana and experiencing your raw love for humanity and your authenticity to help us become and I love that you have absolute humility.
Keep up the calling.
I’ve been wanting an online business for the longest time! Thank you Mel and Amy for the motivation and guidance!
Mel, you are such an inspiration. And I am not saying it lightly. Keep going being yourself and inspiring us all!!!
Hiiii Mel! I'm in absolute AWE of how amazing, creative & truly inspiring your podcast is!!! THANK YOU for being a beacon of Light, Love & Hope for your online community :) Keep changing lives one podcast-at-a time. You have transformed mine forever!!! xoxo
Mel, I LOVE this episode! I 100% have the ambition, desire, and discipline to get out there and make it happen for myself ... BUT, I've been frozen on what the "it" is for me!! I KNOW I want to be my own boss, and I know certain elements I want to incoporate into whatever it is I end up doing (ex: mostly online platform, writing), but have been so stuck on the "what" element to focus those things around. I will now be working through the sweet spot exercise! Thank you :)
thinking about 'unbossing' one self .. the way you described what most of us witnessed as children, Mel ... our parental figures going to work for a paycheck, answering to someone else, temporarily losing personal authority ... it's no wonder: 1) they were more authoritarian at home! They were unknowingly reclaiming their power and the endless power struggle between parent and child. This dispels quite a bit of disturbance around childhood. And 2) why searching for jobs while trying to build a business is a deeply seated survival mechanism that touches more than a concern for money. It's a tactic that resurfaces whenever triggered by the subconscious belief that questions our authority as a leader in our own life. So good! Thank you!
Hi Mel, I've been following you for a while and have been binge watching today whilst doing a major clean up mission after some work on my house. I'm going to email you about the things you've inspired me to do, but I just wanted you to know this. I watched the video on synchronicity and found it fascinating. Then my son phoned me, and we were talking about how he hated his job and how he would really love to do something training dogs. I watched the first 5 minutes of this video, then shared it with him because it seemed to be addressing a lot of the issues we'd been talking about. I could not believe it when the conversation turned to someone who started a business dog training! I sent him the clip immediately - synchronicity or what! ❤ Thank you for all your inspiration🎉
I want to hear about a woman who’s on her own. Every story so far includes…racing home to get family, her husband said, blah blah blah. How do you do it when you have NO backup net
My life & business partner for the past 9 years left very abruptly & I’ve decided to make that into an opportunity to do something new that’s of my choosing. Thank you so much for making this material available for free!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is very inspirational. I'm literally working on my new business as I listen to this podcast. I've been wanting to go Business Coaching for years. I have 35 years experience and its time to stop working for others. Even though I do consulting, I still am in situations where I am reporting to others. I feel I'm more qualified than most employers I consult with and putting myself in frustrating situations. This video is pushing me in the direction of doing a major change on my existing business of being treated as a regular employee to coaching. Enough 9-5 being scrutinized by a boss. 35 years is enough.
Everything about my life is amazing except my career. My career is soul sucking and I want to find a way out. I’m creative and I have skills. I genuinely feel like I’m not going to retire in my current career.
The podcast I needed to hear. I finally built the courage to retire from my current career after 18 years. I am 52 years old but feel like I still have more to offer this world. Don’t know what my next step will be but I’m excited for the next chapter of life- and definitely more freedom. 🙏🏼😊 thank you Mel and Amy - I just purchased Amy’s book too.
I am finally doing it! I am 60 soon to be 61! I am in AZ .....summers yikes, so working at home financially freedom it started during covid 🙃 during covid. I work in student Learning Coach. I am getting a website. I have not been my own boss and realized I wanted it sooo bad. Freedom is my middle name, middle child, it created a different confidence in my blood, my life, myself not comparing.
Yes!! I am looking 👀 here for next steps! Financial independence means dreams come true!
This is great advice for somebody that wants to run a small business. But not everybody does. Some of us don’t mind working for other people so long as the work is fulfilling and people are cool
I didn't know it, but I did that same process almost 3yrs. I own a cakery and my first 6mos did $10k, the next 12mos $30k, now about to wrap up year 2 and on track to making $40k. My days are filled making people feel seen, creating memories and I love it. I set my own schedule. I work from 4:30am to 7:45am, take kids to school and then I hit the gym and hang out until after school pick ups lol I LOVE IT! Now... to get a brick and mortar and hire employees!
Only time I was ever let go, I thanked them. Was an outgoing call centre and I hated every minute of it. But I was unemployed and game to try anything. Take what you learn about yourself and move on.
I just lost a contract with a company I have been working for, for over twenty years! It DOES feel like a punch in the gut.😔
Mel, this is helping me much. I realize we won't be here forever, but being here is being here..
Mel and Amy thank you. What a great online lesson. What am I good at? Writing, art, organizing, now what lights me up? A bird singing, beauty, a baby smiling, a grandmother and her granddaughter, laughter, me being able to see. I will add more tomorrow, God Bless You Mel and Amy with Love and Light❤ Thank You💜🖐🏼 high five, 5,4,3,2,1 🚀.
First - I LOVED this episode. The content was pure gold.
I wish the title didn't have "hate your job?" - because I don't hate my job - I love it and it pays well, but I still want my forever job to be MY OWN gig. Anyhow - I loved the video but I can't repost it, unfortunately.
"Dying to have your own business?" Yes, I am - but I don't hate my job. I do love your podcast, and your content and your guests. I was on Amy's email list back in the day - she's truly a pioneer. This was an excellent episode!
Freedom to choose how to spend your time for me is choosing your best life. Thanks for a fabulous interview. You are both awesome!❤
29:30 or so: Ha ha ha. When Mel says she sat at her desk and pretended she was working (knowing she did not know how to do that job she'd talked herself into) so reminded me of when George Costanza in Seinfeld carries around the Penske file, and sits at his desk not doing any freaking work. He doesn't even try though. Finally, the jig is up and he's fired. Love it.
Of all the podcasts I've heard of yours, Mel, this one resonated with me the most. I cried twice; the pad Thai story and the gal that got laid off.
This is the best podcast I have ever come across I am so so happy something has been lit up in me.
Thanks Mel and Amy , 🎉you enspired me ,retrenched after 20 yrs at the age 59 from the corporate environment i still have my skills can offer cause i loved my job will .put myself out there again .
God bless yous ❤
Thank you mel
I really enjoy your podcasts and appreciate your commitment to offering insight into ways that we can all become our best selves. I would love to hear more from your guests and their insights when you are interviewing them.
Another awesome video Mel! Thanks so much to you and Amy. I’m a 58 yr old woman with 2 online business ideas. I’ve got the companies set up, the business names …. But I got stuck in analysis paralysis and haven’t taken any more action. I’ve been frozen with fear. This video has really motivated me to get going with action. You are never too old to start something new.
Hi Mel. I just recently came to know about you and thank God I did. I was in such a messy place mentally. Your 5 second rule has helped me to start gaining control of my life. God bless you. You are going a great job. I'm also listening to your podcast and it has been such a help to know about all these new things about mental health which I didn't knew before. I feel like I finally get to know some of the answers to why my mind and thoughts work the way they do. I'm going to graduate in about 4 months and feel kinda sad that I won't be seeing my friends after that. I am very attached to them, we spend a lot of time together at college and at hostel and can't imagine the future without having them in my life. It feels scary knowing that eventually we all will go in different directions in life and no matter how much we say that we will meet but we know that we may not get a chance to see each other again. It would help if you could make a podcast episode on how to deal with these thoughts and the sadness and anxiety that follows. And how to detach from people that have to leave and move on with life. It would really help me.
Wow, I was meant to see this podcast tonight. I talked last night and this afternoon to give up on my small mobile tie dye clothing and art business. I suck at the business and bookkeeping side. Great at the tie dye & creating of art part.
Was told by husband this afternoon , not to give up just yet.
Thank you.... love you Mel ❤
I stumbled upon this video at the perfect time - almost as if it was fate!!! lol. I am 62 and have been at my job for over 20 years but my boss is 1 1/2 years older than I am and talking retirement in the forseeable future - likely putting me at 64 ish and I am getting a bit paranoid..... this video was just reinforcing my thoughts of late - I bought Amy's book and going to definitely start planning and working on the rest of my life! Thank you SO VERY MUCH!!!
I love every day listening to your teaching Mel! I am encouraged and tell everyone I love them with confidence ❤️
I love you Mel! You’re my teacher!
Listened to every word!! " what makes you light up "!!!!!! Spoke volume ❤😊
Wow! This episode is THE episode I needed to hear for the last 7 years!!! It hit on ALL the fears I have been having that has been stopping me from just jumping into the life that I’ve been dreaming about for so long. THANK YOU! And I will also share this episode with my kids, family and friends that I know could also benefit from hearing what was said here. Again… thank you.
Mel!!! You’re the Best!! Thanks for this AWESOME PODCAST!! Totally Inspiring, I CAN’T WAIT TO GET STARTED ON SOMETHING!! Thank you for CARING❤❤❤ I know a a few people right now who I’m sending this too🙏🙏
Thank you so much for this message and inspiration. I know I have what it takes deep down. Having you articulate the mental shift that is necessary for the next step was perfect and right on time for me!
I cannot say enough about the message of this podcast! It has been sourcing my Mind since watching it yesterday. I've heard a lot of what Amy shares here before, yet this time your conversation helped it 'click' into place with the rest of my Life. Self-awareness - the wake-up call. I've been feeling the red hot poker to write for SO long but not just the thought .. I want to write ... I mean, when I come into alignment with an career author, the pull is indescribable. My insides twist. This KNOWING urges leadership - unbossing yourself ~ which seems to be the gap for me as I came to see when you mentioned our parents working to earn a paycheck. The insight from that shifted something inside me as I mentioned in my previous comment. Thank you both for your enthusiasm and encouragement! I took action immediately. The thoughts on social media ... BOOM! On it. I made sure I'm connected to people like Anne Lamott and Julia Cameron. Anne lives & writes in a way I can see for myself. Julia .. heck, Julia and I live in the same town! I believe inviting her to join me for tea is my next bold move! Mel .. you've moved mountains for many. Thank you for being you and seeing the light in all of us!
I have been contemplating for a while now about starting my own business. This podcast has definitely gave me the courage I need to follow through and make it happen and start living my best life. Thank you Mel!!!😊
Thanks Mel... I love you and would definitely need this today and trust me this is Gods call because I am a full time researcher but hate my Job and I have actually get some courage to start my life coaching page and planning to teach online and those are actually my thoughts. I am a mother of two young kids both under 2 years and this made me hate my job because I am missing my kids so my inspiration is to do what I love and work whenever I want and wherever I want. So thanks... Lets do it....😊
This was excellent! Gave me a lot to think about and possibly a way out of the funk I'm in. Thanks to the economy and corporate "re-engineering" many of us Boomers found ourselves forced into retirement before we we had retirement plans (and funds) in place. Talk about feeling gutted! There is nothing worse than feeling there is nothing left to accomplish, no more figurative mountains to climb, no real driving purpose. Working a part time job holds no interest for many of us. Slinging burgers or greeting shoppers leaves many of us cold.
So, thanks again!
This episode is pulling at my soul. Thank you for the intro to Amy!
Such a phenomenal discussion. Thank you Mel and Amy!! 2 of my favorite boss women!! 🔥❤
Amy is the BEST! and the first person I started listening to/following on her podcast back in the day. Great video training ladies! You are both ROCKSTARTS!!!
I really appreciate how thoughtful you are in all the questions you ask for your audience. I've listened to quite a lot of podcasts and have to say this one was the most informative and helpful ...thank you
Hey Mel! I just discovered you the other day. And I would just like to appreciate you for sharing all this powerful insights of life. Thanks a bunch!
Unboss yourself and Emboss yourself! Raise yourself up ..
Give yourself a raise! Stand out from the dull bland background! Xxx I loved this video. I like words and so want to express my dreams. Thank you for your inspiration.
Thank you both. I do deserve to be happy and in control of my life. I am inspired 😊❤😊❤.
Thank you so much Mel and Amy for sharing these steps and knowledge. It is so helpful, you're podcast is a literal blessing. Amy is seriously so knowledgeable in her field, the insights she shared are just amazing and life changing! Thank you so much, I'm not going to look back from here!!
I learned so much in this one video and gained inspiration and courage from it. Thanks Mel , I can watch your content all day 🥰 Your such an inspiration and your a “you get it type of person” 😁 thank you for bringing up the awareness of how your social media is not for your friends or family. I have had to create different accounts because my friends and family want to follow after attempting to put out the content I want to create lol. But I just want to say thank you for all that you do. God bless you ♥️🙏🏾
Mel, i love you. However, you need to let your guests tell their story. You ask them to start telling their story, then you interject with a story all while telling the audience that the guest is about to blow our mind. Mel, step back and let the guest shine. Love you!
Yes! Wish Amy could have talked more without being interrupted😢
I have the same comment but if you listen carefully you find out that Mel added so much good notes and clears out so much things in a wise understandable way so if we need more we can comment here and ask her to invite the guest or other guests to clear the issue
I like her way and the subjects she choose
And I think she will take your comment in her consideration
Love you too Mel ❤