How to Build the Life You Want: Timeless Wisdom for More Happiness & Purpose

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  • Опубликовано: 2 янв 2025

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  • @memesfarmhousedesigns9254
    @memesfarmhousedesigns9254 8 месяцев назад +134

    Happiness is a choice! My mom had a mental breakdown when I was 6 and fractured my hip. She was in and out of the mental hospital growing up and a psychiatrist sat us four girls down and said one of us would most likely to have this as well. I remember clearly saying “Oh, hell no!!”. I was not getting that death sentence. I believe I have a predisposition for chemical imbalance, but I have the CHOICE to keep my brain healthy! Thank you for pouring this health into us daily!

    • @woojinlee7749
      @woojinlee7749 8 месяцев назад

      ㅅ😮ㄱㄴ2😢ㄷ🎉😮

    • @biancaquijano1360
      @biancaquijano1360 8 месяцев назад

      100 %

    • @Wiseamphibian87
      @Wiseamphibian87 8 месяцев назад +7

      I Agree ; mental illness in our families is the worst thing ever ; especially when that Family member doesn’t believe they’re ill; refuses Treatment, therapy . I have made A conscious decision to seek Therapy during traumatic periods of my life , exercise & eat healthier, do Yoga 🧘, meditate & exceterA. I hope to God I don’t ever get Schizophrenic or bipolar disorder; it’s A terrible illness. Positive mindset & gratitude 🙏🏿 is key to Happiness in Life!!

    • @mariaciobanu9882
      @mariaciobanu9882 8 месяцев назад

      I am blessed to have bipolar now. In the past, I was cursed.

    • @lisaaamoun3520
      @lisaaamoun3520 8 месяцев назад +2

      I am so glad that the stigma around mental health is changing through education. Also so much has been learned about addiction. My mom had mental health issues but was never diagnosed because she blamed everyone else for her problems so she never got help. My worst fear is that I will be like her. It’s hard because I loved her but she caused so much suffering to all of us kids and I’m angry. I remind myself “ but there by the grace of God go I “. LET IT GO!!!!! I am blessed beyond anything someone can due to me because of my greatest gift of faith. Amen. Sermon over !

  • @LaurenTuong
    @LaurenTuong 8 месяцев назад +39

    Time stamps for you guys
    00:00 Intro
    05:51: The two questions that ultimately led to Dr. Ben-Shahar's career.
    10:17: The research that cautions about what you promise yourself in the morning.
    13:22: The 5 major elements of happiness.
    18:22: How having a goal makes you happier.
    22:35: Where do you begin if you don't even know what happiness feels like?
    24:06: The shocking but honest answer Dr. Ben-Shahar gave about happiness.
    25:47: Try one of these 5 one-minute activities when you're feeling depressed.
    32:12: How can you be happier if you feel lonely?
    34:58: Research finds doing this for just 2 minutes makes you happier and healthier.
    40:55: What does a morning look like for a happiness researcher?
    43:07: One essential truth to know about happiness.
    46:43: What does it mean to be "anti-fragile?"
    52:21: How to have more hope when you're going through a hard time.
    55:26: The key to systems thinking and why it matters.
    1:04:43: What does the research say about LASTING change?
    1:06:07: The 3 Rs of Change that should be at the core of all habit changes.
    1:10:07: Two essays that Dr. Beh-Shahar recommends if you want to be happier

    • @lizielita
      @lizielita 8 месяцев назад +1

      TY

    • @LaurenTuong
      @LaurenTuong 8 месяцев назад

      @@lizielita

    • @1979France
      @1979France 8 месяцев назад

      12:34 is the correct timestamp for the “5 major elements of happiness”

    • @bptdawg
      @bptdawg 7 месяцев назад

      Xx😊x̌xxx99xxxxx😊

  • @jenniferbalogh4090
    @jenniferbalogh4090 8 месяцев назад +42

    Honestly, I never heard before about PTG (post traumatic growth). In this video I heard about it the first time. And it really interests me, I really admire those people who can grow from their unlucky situations. If I thinking about it a little it's about you have two way when you are in a miserable situation: 1. option: You start thinking you will never get out of this, and you become pessimistic, and you say to yourself "this is what life gave to me, so I just have to accept it". OR 2. option: You try to start thinking in a positive way, you become more optimistic and saying to yourself: " now I'm going to get out of this sh*t, no matter what, and I am going to throw away my victim mentality because it just makes me more miserable, and I want to feel strong and powerful" !

    • @Wiseamphibian87
      @Wiseamphibian87 8 месяцев назад +4

      I have been practicing that #2 choice daily. I don’t have everything I want in life but I am surely blessed & grateful for everything Good in my life right now . If we dwell on the negative aspects of our lives ; we’ll never be Happy or content !!! I love these Podcasts, they remind me to practice mindfulness & gratitude!!!

  • @homeagainonroute66
    @homeagainonroute66 8 месяцев назад +11

    Becoming anti-fragile! Finally a term for what I'm always trying to do....sometimes with much success, sometimes with less success....but always getting at least a wee bit stronger. I have felt hopeless at times, but eventually I realized I did still have a choice left, but it was one I thought I'd never have to make and didn't want to have to make. Realizing it gave me the strength to make the choice, and once again have hope. It was HARD and PAINFUL, but I did grow by making that choice and following through! And am happier after having gone through it.

  • @Gingersnp13
    @Gingersnp13 4 месяца назад

    Thanks!

  • @ShannonSchavillie-cw6re
    @ShannonSchavillie-cw6re 8 месяцев назад +11

    You are such a passionate, empathic, educated female. My daughter suggested podcasts a while ago, and it has really been helpful. Printing & savoring every word!! 🎉🎉 Celebrating Recovery 🎈🎈 Making life 🧬 work for me🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @ms.m2410
    @ms.m2410 8 месяцев назад +13

    Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar for this amazing podcast! I do understand now that it is natural to experience pain and to believe that someday I'll get over it. Taking care of my well being is important in order to be happy in life. Taking small action in my present moment can make changes in my situation. Happiness is when I take simple steps in improving myself until I notice that I am are no longer in a difficult situation and moving forward. :)❤🤗 God Bless both of you!🙏👍❤

  • @Katrowlyn
    @Katrowlyn 8 месяцев назад +3

    Such a great listen- and I loved the last part about Helen Keller since my daughter found out she is going blind. And as difficult as it will be for her, I want to embrace the idea that through the difficulty of it, she will become an amazing woman she is meant to become. ❤

  • @glendawilliams7453
    @glendawilliams7453 8 месяцев назад +5

    This was painful. I guess my expectations were high. I usually get a lot from your podcasts. This episode is like mining for gold. Three quarters in he said something very important about even meditating for one minute will change your life. Meditate for a minute three different times a day will give one the happiness of a 45 minute workout. It’s possible. If I can last through a 45 minute workout or any length workout for me it’s an achievement. For me recovering from the death of someone close means you get through it. But for me & another I talked to, you never get over it. Definitely my challenge is to establish the routines for goals that I could be in repetition. Then I will have resilience & happiness. I will have conquered the hard thing & thrived. Thanks.

  • @patriciagarcia9618
    @patriciagarcia9618 2 месяца назад +1

    I enjoy volunteering at my local food bank not possible every week but at least once a month brings me a sense of joy and purpose I also meet new people with similar interests

  • @lolaibrahim
    @lolaibrahim 8 месяцев назад +10

    I cried!!!! This one has to be ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CHANGING LIFE-SOULS EPISODE!!! I gonna share with everybody!!!! Profund as the sea aand so easy to understand😭😭😭😭 ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥 I LOVE YOU BOTHHH!!!! THANKKKKSSSS ♾♾♾♾♾♾♾!!!!!!!

  • @LadyChissell
    @LadyChissell 8 месяцев назад +14

    Happiness is a choice

    • @LadyChissell
      @LadyChissell 8 месяцев назад

      ​@Silence_between_waves it's good to explore positive things to uplifts Humanity. Happiness is an expression of feelings but it is not a part of the humans six senses. Our six senses are feeling, taste, touch, think, see, and smell. I am a spiritual being having a human experience.
      Happiness is a virtue and doesn't originate from our feelings and also can be accessed by your higher consciousness. When you refer to feelings, thoughts, etc. those are simply the faculties of the human senses. Happiness can be experienced through the six senses but happiness comes from our higher consciousness and occurs when we are in harmony with the truth of spiritual laws and virtues. These spiritual laws have been practiced by thousands of religions, and cultures for over 6,000 years. Ease and Grace to all!

  • @michaelp8856
    @michaelp8856 8 месяцев назад +8

    i've been out of work for 2 years now since i moved back home to take care of my elder mother. i had to move back to my old home town that is a beat down old steel mill town near pittsburgh. i moved away after high school to make and get a better life and live. i got a MS degree from a top university and was lucky to work for Pfizer for 18 years. But having to move back to a place i grew up in and worked hard to get out has been taken it's toll. there is no work here other than working in a hot dog shop standing in front of a french fryer. i had to give up my whole career and life. it's gettting harder every day....

    • @elizabethwilk9615
      @elizabethwilk9615 6 месяцев назад +1

      I take care of my mom and developed a digestive issue due to stress. May I suggest if possible moving to a place close to doctors and friends. I have my church near by and friends. I can’t go out too much due to being with mom a lot. I try to meditate besides prayer. I plan to get visiting angel or some other neighborhood service where the elderly are picked up by vans and taken to the mall to walk. I hear the van deal is free! That way I have some time to go to the gym at least. I’ve done it on my own too long and it’s making me ill. Now she also gets very rattled and lashes out at times. Other than that Am fortunate she can walk. She’s 92. Good luck.

    • @michaelp8856
      @michaelp8856 6 месяцев назад

      @@elizabethwilk9615 elizabeth - i'll pray for you. i seem to feel i'm in the exact same situation as you. at least AARP magazine backs us up - indicating that we are stressed out caring for elder parents living longer these days. stay in touch

  • @olgaquiros3032
    @olgaquiros3032 8 месяцев назад +4

    I LL TELL YOU WHAT......................i am pursuing happiness for a long time I believe I in our human nature but I found out that being grateful, is the key to happiness and enjoying every moment, embracing every day looking forward to waking up tomorrow and having God in your heart is for me Happiness..........................
    doing what you love as for me making my dolls, listening my favorite country music , and is possible WE CAN FEEL HAPPY INDEED

  • @TaDAbyKAT
    @TaDAbyKAT 8 месяцев назад +7

    Be present in the NOW mindfully

  • @glendawilliams7453
    @glendawilliams7453 8 месяцев назад +4

    On the subject of happiness. I have in the past been so unhappy that I just focused intently that I am going to be happy for 30 minutes. It worked 15 minutes in I realized I was happy. Sometimes I got a little too happy & became goofy like I drank 8 cups of coffee in a row. Unintentionally drank 8 cups of coffee in a row vibing through conversation with friends at a small town cafe.

  • @paulamoors
    @paulamoors 2 месяца назад +8

    When I’m drawing sometimes I get this peace that washes over me and I know this where I am supposed to be. This is happiness to me. Doing what I love.

  • @kaylasembly6590
    @kaylasembly6590 8 месяцев назад

    My goodness, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar just put everything into perspective. What an eye-opening discussion. I'm so glad this popped up on my RUclips feed. Thanks for facilitating this talk @Mel Robbins.

  • @victoriavandoren3999
    @victoriavandoren3999 5 месяцев назад

    I loved this interview. Mel Robbins speaks very clear and Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar explanations about happiness could have not been more simple to understand. I will be sharing it many times. Thank you!!!

  • @efhessar7703
    @efhessar7703 2 месяца назад +1

    That was brilliant
    Whole time i smile and listen and had lots of aha moments 🎉🙏thank you mell
    by the way i am learning english with your podcast also❤❤❤

  • @SamBo-y6f
    @SamBo-y6f 8 месяцев назад +2

    Happiness is ever changing according to circumstances, our perceptions and ability to interpret emotions and the details of our reality.

  • @LoriMiller1111
    @LoriMiller1111 16 дней назад

    Wonderful interview thank you both!

  • @DianeLCohen
    @DianeLCohen 8 месяцев назад +2

    bravo - excellent podcast - love the SPIRE, MVI, three Rs, Helen Keller's essays ... - thank you thank you thank you to both of you, Mel and Tal. 💙

  • @christinacardona5694
    @christinacardona5694 13 дней назад

    Happiness is a state of mind

  • @LoriMiller1111
    @LoriMiller1111 19 дней назад

    Thank you great interview. It made me happier.

  • @lacresha625
    @lacresha625 8 месяцев назад +2

    Always grateful for this podcast!

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 8 месяцев назад +4

    Dr. Ben-Shahar's breakdown of the five elements of happiness is a powerful reminder of the multi-dimensional nature of well-being. Integrating these elements into daily life can transform personal satisfaction and effectiveness, particularly in the realm of entrepreneurship. 🌟

  • @sabamisghina7076
    @sabamisghina7076 5 месяцев назад +1

    I agree his compliment Mel ! You are.❤️❤️Love you both.

  • @ashleyannephd
    @ashleyannephd 8 месяцев назад +1

    I am so grateful for your lessons and knowledge, my own teaching resonates with your podcast. Thank you for continuing to support your people.

  • @RebbeccaLotts
    @RebbeccaLotts 8 месяцев назад +2

    I love your podcast 😊 the segments always insure me that I'm doing what's best for me and my future self 💖❤

  • @myaalberto2959
    @myaalberto2959 Месяц назад

    One of your TOP Podcast!!!! Loved it what a unique perspective to Happiness!!!!

  • @nancymurphy6344
    @nancymurphy6344 7 месяцев назад

    This episode was AMAZING! I am going to rewatch the whole thing and take notes! This brought tears to my eyes a few times, just knowing there are actionable things that can help us (me) get through a very trying time in my life that is currently happening. THANK YOU MEL for bringing this to us. You are the best!!

  • @marcelapintado3290
    @marcelapintado3290 8 месяцев назад

    We are alive with emotions up and down. Being happy , sad is a moment an experience not a state of mind. The power of acceptance is the key

  • @Raqueld333
    @Raqueld333 7 месяцев назад +1

    I'd love to hear a discussion on the matter of hope being the greatest hindrance to healing from a narcissistic relationship (in your recent podcast with the fabulous Dr. Ramani) and the difference of hopefulness for a better outcome being connected to post traumatic growth.

    • @alynncurran6250
      @alynncurran6250 7 месяцев назад +1

      I just watched both of these episodes back to back and had the same thought as well... I suppose it’s a matter of strategy in targeting what you’re hopeful for. In other words, you can direct your mindset and energy into the idea that you have hope that you will not be as emotionally entangled in the actions of the narcissist in the future (NOT that you’re hopeful they will change. You know they will not change and you accept it and the hope is that you have hope you’ll make more educated choices in choosing who to let into your life next, for example.).

  • @loisjackson6572
    @loisjackson6572 8 месяцев назад

    Another interesting and inspiring podcast by you Mel Robbins! Sharing this! Thank you for your time, energy, being courageous and for being so genuine! The content and wisdom you share changes lives for the better! 🎉🎉😊

  • @raquelnakayama3575
    @raquelnakayama3575 8 месяцев назад +1

    Mel, thank you for your podcasts !

  • @donnaraeschwartz5457
    @donnaraeschwartz5457 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for all you do❤

  • @ritagrey3295
    @ritagrey3295 3 месяца назад

    More guests with a real approach on life experience. Keep happiness in the time of stress that comes from economic struggles with day by day. Someone that can do that, keep happiness in the middle of a life earthquake.

  • @mslwinters
    @mslwinters 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this amazing interview! Love you and your guests Mel. 💜💜💜💜

  • @stewartg7673
    @stewartg7673 8 месяцев назад

    Phenomenal interview Mel !!!!!
    I think my life has just been changed. ❤

  • @davidlgomes7120
    @davidlgomes7120 Месяц назад

    I have a bipolar i treat it daily, this podcast helps!

  • @teresaheckendorn3871
    @teresaheckendorn3871 27 дней назад

    Happiness creats Happiness...Simple...

  • @Maria-nl3px
    @Maria-nl3px 2 месяца назад

    Thank you both so much 💓

  • @kimberleyformacio865
    @kimberleyformacio865 8 месяцев назад

    Love this episode! I had a rough morning today and listening to this podcast absolutely helped! ❤️❤️ Thank you 🙏

  • @ITOPCU1
    @ITOPCU1 8 месяцев назад +1

    I love this episode like many others:) Also, I wish Launch would be cheaper

  • @Julie-lh9mw
    @Julie-lh9mw 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar what an amazing interview very grateful 🙏 🦋💙

  • @danielahofmeister1671
    @danielahofmeister1671 8 месяцев назад +1

    Happy 😊 to have you 🎉

  • @Lucyrandomvlogs
    @Lucyrandomvlogs 8 месяцев назад +1

    ❤Hi Mel♥ I am watching you while having my lunch~

  • @katyjean862
    @katyjean862 8 месяцев назад +2

    @12:42 If you only have a few minutes, listen to this bit. SPIRE

  • @AprilSpreadLove
    @AprilSpreadLove 8 месяцев назад

    This is the episode I was looking for my entire life! Thank you

  • @poochesnpals
    @poochesnpals 3 месяца назад

    I got so much out of this. Thank you!

  • @yvettedroll5074
    @yvettedroll5074 Месяц назад

    Another Amazing interview ❤

  • @silviadelatorre1490
    @silviadelatorre1490 8 месяцев назад

    Thankyou very much, I listening this video, to reminder every word

  • @imlv2614
    @imlv2614 8 месяцев назад

    So grateful for your podcast❤I am hooked❤Very very much valuable nuggets of wisdom here❤

  • @CBella100
    @CBella100 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you both 🙏 this was fantastic

  • @imlv2614
    @imlv2614 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much, Mel, you are my favourite❤

  • @sima52525
    @sima52525 8 месяцев назад

    Excellent interview!
    Thank you.

  • @jiblalgautam1408
    @jiblalgautam1408 7 месяцев назад

    Great podcast,I appreciate it thank you ma'am Welcome from Nepal

  • @pamelabrown8344
    @pamelabrown8344 8 месяцев назад

    Love all of you content!

  • @created4passion442
    @created4passion442 8 месяцев назад +3

    Humans were never meant to go through painful experience that's just a part of the fall in this broken world. It was perfect at one time but mankind made a selfish choice and here we are

  • @BloodBathandCake
    @BloodBathandCake 8 месяцев назад +3

    True happiness has nothing to do with achievement or the pursuit. That is all ego driven. True happiness is full presence and connection to source.

    • @imlv2614
      @imlv2614 8 месяцев назад

      yessss

  • @monicakaram
    @monicakaram 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you. This is amazing.

  • @gowthami18778
    @gowthami18778 8 месяцев назад +2

    Absolutely true ❤

  • @wandahare8064
    @wandahare8064 8 месяцев назад

    His favorite it my favorite song, too. Everyone sends me videos with that song as the background music. No other can compare. I Will Always Love It!!!! ♥️ Whitney

  • @christinegarcia369
    @christinegarcia369 8 месяцев назад

    Mel IM so Bklessed to see you at work I do learn things .

  • @tranquyen2323
    @tranquyen2323 4 месяца назад

    I love your postcard. I've leaned a lot from you.

  • @brandnewyorker
    @brandnewyorker 8 месяцев назад +1

    Pure perfection 🙏💕

    • @imlv2614
      @imlv2614 8 месяцев назад

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @BellyBreath
    @BellyBreath 8 месяцев назад

    Another wonderful informational podcast full of so much learning. Happiness is a choice.❤

  • @IzabellaRamosSantiago
    @IzabellaRamosSantiago 8 месяцев назад

    Love this!

  • @antje8303
    @antje8303 8 месяцев назад +1

    Mel, can you interview Sally McRae one day ? She is great and I think tje two of you would make a great match !! 🤩

  • @noiphiraksa90
    @noiphiraksa90 6 месяцев назад

    Thankssssssssssss 💕💕 for this. It's amazing!!

  • @lydie-anneruestbelliveau5608
    @lydie-anneruestbelliveau5608 8 месяцев назад +1

    I love him.

  • @BelLa-up6iz
    @BelLa-up6iz 8 месяцев назад

    I love this man!
    Thank you!

  • @jengillespie7827
    @jengillespie7827 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much!

  • @TaDAbyKAT
    @TaDAbyKAT 8 месяцев назад +1

    Mind Body Spirit...in balance.

  • @BeNaturallyBlessed
    @BeNaturallyBlessed 8 месяцев назад

    Love this! ❤

  • @ReikiRosie
    @ReikiRosie 8 месяцев назад

    Great show thank you Mel!

  • @PaulFerguson-t2x
    @PaulFerguson-t2x 3 месяца назад +1

    Drink every day & be happy

  • @joannechapman6013
    @joannechapman6013 8 месяцев назад +1

    I think this is what has happened to me I hope I can do well in something else. I got a degree but I didn’t excel in that field.

  • @TaDAbyKAT
    @TaDAbyKAT 8 месяцев назад +1

    seek JOY happiness is temporary.

  • @yerankarchikian3620
    @yerankarchikian3620 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you

  • @pilarfernandez5621
    @pilarfernandez5621 8 месяцев назад

    Querida Mel: ¡qué preguntas tan interesantes haces a tu invitado! ❤

  • @rhambn2990
    @rhambn2990 8 месяцев назад

    This is very good!❤

  • @maryirick3579
    @maryirick3579 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks!

  • @kellybrooke9068
    @kellybrooke9068 8 месяцев назад +1

    Another great podcast! So much explained thank you so much Mel for all you do for us listeners. Have a great day 😊!

  • @nanbeck1299
    @nanbeck1299 8 месяцев назад +1

    Happiness is not something you experience, it's something you remember.

  • @levilopez6446
    @levilopez6446 8 месяцев назад

    ThankYou😊😊🤗🙏

  • @Zane618
    @Zane618 8 месяцев назад +4

    "How to develop a better personality/ be a better person that people around you appreciate"
    Think you can make a video about it?

  • @tiffanybittman7523
    @tiffanybittman7523 7 месяцев назад

    Love this,

  • @regcrowder9010
    @regcrowder9010 7 месяцев назад

    😁 Hi Mel! 🎉

  • @aliciabadashian7234
    @aliciabadashian7234 9 дней назад

    Happiness is not sustainable. Joy is my guiding North Star. Find the joy in everyday. It will expand your heart

  • @Chris-hp2gg
    @Chris-hp2gg 8 месяцев назад +2

    The sweet is never as sweet without the sour.😂

  • @Amina-nn5mi
    @Amina-nn5mi 8 месяцев назад

    That's my favorite song too❤

  • @michaelp8856
    @michaelp8856 8 месяцев назад

    Listen to Hole - "Malibu" - good happy song - relatable lyrics - great chords

  • @nechamatk1234
    @nechamatk1234 2 месяца назад

    Mel I love your channel. I hope and pray that you don’t use curse words anymore. Your mouth is Holy. And so is your message. Ty so much.

  • @lucillejones-yw6yp
    @lucillejones-yw6yp 8 месяцев назад

    I guess that's why it's called " The pursuit of happiness."" "

  • @christinegarcia369
    @christinegarcia369 8 месяцев назад

    My name is Christine I did that I didn't wait for my husband or my sons wild hu I really haven't done it yet though is it possible to do that in my head cause I got free in my mind and it made me happy.

  • @shelley3520
    @shelley3520 4 месяца назад

    Antifragility--What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger….

  • @liljanaivanova5255
    @liljanaivanova5255 8 месяцев назад

    Wow❤

  • @AbigailsJoyfulLife
    @AbigailsJoyfulLife 8 месяцев назад +4

    My Rabbi said in a recent Shiur "No, Money Can't Buy You Happiness, But it sure can help you avoid Pain" 😉