You have helped me so much. I was 72 when I left my husband. One day I decided whatever time I had left on this earth was going to be peaceful. He can’t believe I did this.
Thats a beautiful thought. And really inspiring and motivational. ❤🙏🏻 It doesnt matter what happened. I decide from this second, I shall never ever suffer again.
Sad. I'm so sorry. I can relate. That's what mine did. Always talking about the girlfriends that rejected him. I'm wishing now I was one of those girlfriends that rejected him instead of marrying him. It's been hell since I discovered who he really is and am going through a horrific divorce.
Be careful with that though. You actually can't get through to them. That is the point. You literally never will. Kill the hope and truly move on. Hoping or having any thoughts about whether you got through to them means you are still vulnerable to them. They are not capable of being reached.
I’m going to didn’t, I left my marriage after 29 years and 3 months. I’m 4 years out and going through a divorce because he keeps getting it held over. Just last month he called and asked me to work on our marriage and cancel our divorce. If you’re only 35 days free it’s because he’s giving you breathing room while he decides how to work you over in a nice way to get you back! I’m sorry but that’s the truth.
Hey Danish! I resonate the most with the triangulation. My ex kept comparing me with his ex wife! I also stopped talking with my narcissistic mother, even tho I loved her so much! Thank you for everything ❤❤❤
No, they knows us very well, very well from other people. They know they can mess up with us because we are empaths. Narcissists hunt for empaths, good hearted, ambitious, intelligent and strong people. How could we become a narcissist supply if a narcissist doesn't knows us. A narcissist wants to ruin our life because this asshole knows that what we can achieve. A narcissist never let us live alone & freely because he knows that once we get independent, we can easily show them his place. So in my opinion, narcissists know us way better than any other people.
If you leave them, they have no closure, they may have won battles but you won the war that they started. You will always be remembered as the challenge that got away. Freedom, yeah!
Hey guys, this scripture reminds me of a question I have: I have been a victim of deception when it comes to girlfriends/deception. I also had a mom who was a narcissist. I'm christian, and it is embarrassing. But what scriptures are there available for me to stand on re: deception? And what can I do, practically, to overcome deception?
Thank you, had 53yrs of marriage with a narcissist, he left me as I stood up to him. I broke him after all those years of being controlled and put down by him.
@@amankhandelwal7386 it has a deeper meaning than what it looks like on a surface level. We do not face what we haven't made others face in past lives. And to understand the other side we take birth and experience how it feels like on the receiving end. That way your soul experiences the full cycle of yin and yang. When your cycle is completed, you stand up for yourself and break that equation.
I am going to simplify the reason why a narcissist won't forget you it's because you are still standing you haven't been totally and utterly destroyed so some of the narcissist will obsess about you because they want you to be of no use to your self that's how truly truly evil narcissist are.never ever forget it's the actual devil who you are dealing with and that's the truth!! Positivity peace and love ♥️
Good!! My ex will never find someone like me!!! That's why he steals our mail so he can control what we get and see what is coming!! My ex NEVER EVER thought I would leave......I planned it and my son saved me!!! I told my ex that the WORLD will figure him out someday!!! His new supply has no clue and I'm happy it's not me anymore!! I can relate to all your posts!!
@user-pg8jj6cs9c save your cash and invest in a safe P.O Box address and fillout a Change of Address for all your mail ! Stealing your mail is a felony ! He could go to jail for a long time for that alone. Stop trusting anything and be smart . Go silent and keep your private life private !
If one of your parent is a narcisist, they'll never forget you. My narc demon father is still doing the same things he used to do when I couldnt even think for myself: order someone to do black magic on me and badmouth me behind my back. I still get shocked when I get to talk to random relatives and they tell me. I can just pray for justice. I want justice before dying. My entire life has been so fked up. The worst is when you get out of abuse and start healing, the first thing you realize and see and feel is the damage done to you. The most painful thing about healing. I just fking want justice.
Justice will come, one way or the other, in this life or the other, whether you see it or not. Focus on healing and being happy. Enjoy all your achievements!
@@vaninaredondi9580 Thank you. I firmly believe in justice. And yes, I value the other advise as well to not sit and wait for justice and waste time, energy and hope, yearning for justice. But I believe in justice. There is a God in charge, who is the eternal witness and he makes things right.
I survived 3 narcissists , father and 2 older brothers. Migration from India to USA and Primal scream therapy helped a lot. Abuse did not stop even in America.
So sorry that you went through that. My younger sister and brother are Narcissists that had my parents walking on eggshells. I moved a few thousand miles away and cut them off, now life is so much much better. I hope you can find peace
My brother was a narcissist, my husband but never knew because years ago this want exposed and explained. Then I met a man that I thought was nice…. Another narcissist
Ohhh, India...especially when Indian & Asian cultures always give more social-status benefits to males over women, due to family lineage & inheritance passed to sons...I understand what you go through, as I'm Asian myself. Keep going strong there & be brave to cut contact with them. So that they no longer can use you for any bullying & scapegoating purposes anymore! Although they're family by blood, peace & meeting your own needs is more important, in your case - they have & won't let you choose anything for yourself without their permission & will give you chaos so that your suffering gives them "peace". Time to stop that cycle of abuse💪👍👌
Simply try this. Crush/mash 21 garlic cloves to pulp, fill a bucket with enough water to bath, mix the garlic with the water. Bath about 9pm is. Pray, disconnect every thought ill- centred relationship and bond you had with that person. See how you feel 2 days later let me know
my father was physically n mentally n emotionally abusive to both me n my mother. my mom endured it for 10yrs but u know what he applied for divorce. thinking my mother would beg. but guess what we were donne with his bs. we accepted the courts order for acceptance of divorce n the minute he got to know he came begging me n my mother tried so hard to pursue back to that hell again. but we stood strong . after fighting court battle n healing from the ptsd we are finally healing after 14yrs.
I wish your words were true for me. My covert ex narcissist husband forgot me. I never wanted to leave him, but the pain pushed me away, far away. I feared him. I love him and pray for his salvation as he needs Jesus, he is lost. I realize he chose me because I was a door mat. He told me if I leave that I will take the salt from his life, yet he remarried and moved on. I never dated nor remarried, he was my last. I broke contact with everyone in my life except my children as they need me. I bond myself with God as he is my only protector and best friend.
i hope you find someone. Its good that you price your kids above anything else, that makes you a great mom. breaking contact with everyone in your life seems radical and unhealthy. Im sure your kids would love you to have an healthy relationship with an healthy good guy. don't carry everything on your own. The guy that you want doesnt want you to want to carry everything on your own. He wants you to be happy.
Just because he "moved on" doesn't mean he forgot you. It's like the movie Ever After when Cinderella tells her stepmother, "From this moment on I will forget you. But I'm sure you will remember me for the rest of your life." Evil doesn't forget what good they lost and they despise them every day for "winning" and leaving. Your ex may play the part in public, but deep down they are miserable. I think that's part of their punishment in remembering every day what miserable bastards they are. They know, and remember what they did, but they will never let on that they do. God knows and sees all. He is just and fair and won't let them get away with it in the long run. Keep your head up high and keep your eyes on Him. You deserve better. I can relate to having to go no contact with most people because the narcissist gains many supporters through his flying monkeys. It's a living Hell. I left a very abusive relationship with a man who manipulated the legal system and took my children full time. He is also hurting them and no one will listen. There are some things worse than death -- in knowing your children are being harmed and nothing you can do to stop it. You are lucky to still have your children. I pray that they will also see what he is someday. We don't need any other relationship. I believe that's where God wants us to be, to where we can rely on and trust completely in Him. I believe He is the only one who has given me the strength and the endurance to take one painful breath and day at a time. Suffering I believe helps us understand what Christ went through for us and to be able to be with Him someday, something abusers will never understand. God bless and take care. ❤
Today marks 2 years that I cut out my malignant abusive narcissistic son! He has been pure hell to me and my daughter since he was 15yrs old (he’s 23yrs old now). I suffer from extreme PTSD from that kid and what he’s done to us. The first year of cutting him out of my life, I slept with a knife next to my bed in fear he’ll come for revenge on me and my daughter. He was not raised this way at all, and people automatically attack and blame me for his behavior!! Nobody will ever know what it’s like to fear your own child and what they are capable of unless you’ve experienced the absolute paralyzing FEAR they’ve taunted you with for years!!!
@@maryanne7161his father died when my son was 11. He passed away in a fatal car accident in 2012. I made sure to line up all resources for my son and daughter as well as myself (grief counseling and therapy) to help us through the loss. My son dug his heals every step of the way and downright refused to allow anyone (even me) to help him. A therapist can’t help someone who won’t talk which is what he did. He either would stay quiet and not say anything, or he would say exactly what he knew they wanted and needed to hear to ‘get us off his back’ as he put it. I’ve had to put my own grief on the back burner to do everything humanly possible as a mother to help my child, only for him to look at me with so much hate and rage and threaten my life! He destroyed my property by throwing a can of paint all over my fence. Kicked in my dishwasher and put holes in my walls. Then he started to get physical!
Was lookin for this comment n now ain’t gotta type it. It explains the constant bitch face I had to stare at for 6 yrs. Now I know what was on her mind it’s what I speculated all along
Yes exactly. He was keeping in contact with ALL the ex's and non ex's. Over 30 women he would text/call in our first 5 months together including the wife I thought was the ex wife! Smh
if you were a grade A top-flight supply that provided something that the narcissist cannot replace either easily or at all, the narcissist will definitely not forget you. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
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I agree a million percent I left the narc I married after I have gone no contact for almost a year he is reaching out so many times me i. remain silent forever I refuse to deal with him in anyway
The narcissist had lied to me and manipulated for 9 yrs. I lost myself but I gave him the final Mat position. He has many girls and lied that I am the only one. I saw through him from the start. It goes to cyrcles, lies and my "believes". I'm the lightworker I saw what he was/is doing. I reject him and trying to heal myself. Thank you!
''He has many girls '' ''I saw through him. * from the start.'' I don't feel sorry for you! Why? You admit that you ''saw through him from the start'' and yet despite this you still got involved with him. Why? Because he was a 'Chad' ...a 'Bad' boy. You are no different to the many females who sleep with Leo DiCaprio hoping that they will be the ''one''....even though they know that he has ''many girls''. And then when he doesn't commit (after he has pumped them/you numerous times) he is a 'narcissist'' This is a story as old as time!
they treat everybody the same no one is better than the next just supply them with different types of supply... Low vibration or high long as their needs are met.
Nearly 3mnths No contact ❤ He sent me a box of old clothes and empty body lotion bottles 😂 I have a shipping container full of stock😮 been moved to a farmer's field by him 😂He also has my father's coin collection and book in a box etc, But he saw fit to send me a near empty Very BIG box 😢 It's OK I Have Finally Let Go! He will Not Hold Me to ransom over STUFF, He can Keep It 😘❤️🙏
@cordelia-xd5xf Wow funny you should say that 🤣 I opened the box on the phone to my cousin and amongst the stuff found a bag of dried fruits first thing She said was don't eat them, Then I checked the sealed bag and there was a tiny hole in it, So I threw them in the bin didn't even Feed it to the Birds 🫠 Love wrapped up in a Very BIG HUG 🫂 2U I Send 😘❤️🙏
@@amyshoneye5455I'm glad you responded to my comment 😅. YT removed it, I think. I can't see it. Wonder if they took it as a threat. Can't say " pois**" or something. IDK. Yes don't ever trust anything they send. My lawyers and law enforcement don't get it. They said he was "just being nice." It's also hard to prove, even with tests. I spent $975 on this test only for them to dismiss it and not wanting to go through the process of his lawyer trying to flip it around on me and blame me for putting something in it. They don't get what love bombing is and how it's just part of the abuse cycle. The hoovering they do is disgusting too. They suck you back in only so they can punish you for leaving and trying to expose them.
#2 ~ I dumped him with a big fat door slam. Good riddance. I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The last thing he did was to drive my car 92 miles per hour down a very busy highway at night. We were taking my dog to an Emergency Vet, an hour from my home. That was the final straw. It took everything I had not to react. I went No Contact. He's still driving by my house. Fool. Came to the house on my birthday and kept knocking but I didn't answer. He sat in my driveway and then in front of the house for several hours. He honked the horn of his car, but I could hear that he hadn't gone. He left a gift and the funniest card I've ever received. It wasn't meant to be funny, it was meant to manipulate me into calling and thanking him. I'm sure he thought he was slick. But I've always been able to see right through him. It used to freak him out. He wasn't used to someone who stood firm in her boundaries and would call him out on his BS. We were only together 6 months. During that time I had Covid twice and three autoimmune flares. It feels so good to be free.
Sounds almost like you are describing my year with a narcissist. He even tried to use money to hoover me back in. But gosh, the answer was a firm no!! Blessings to you!
@@sheilakaye9705 Glad you escaped!! He abducted my 21 year old cat and dumped her 27 minutes from home. Just got her back! She was gone four months and 10 days. Stay free! Be happy!!!
I recently ended a relationship with a narcissist. Since then he has been trying to contact me and recently he even wrote in an e-mail that he "dreamed about me". Bloody hell... The guy was my client for 7 years. I've been running a tattoo parlor for the same amount of time. Last year I realized that he was no longer my client but a parasite who intimidated me, came to tell me his pathological life stories and gave vent to his sadistic fantasies. When I discovered it, I started observing it and after a year and a half I managed to get out of this sick system and dependence.. Now he is trying to contact me outside of my professional life by e-mail because I switch of my business Phone to get rid of him and others. Thanks Danish! You have helped many people, you probably don't even know how many...
I resonate with both bc, I was very good to him and we were together 15 years but, at the end when I found out the truth I cut him off suddenly out of the blue, I exposed him and I humiliated and insulted him...I hit below the belt and disappeared. I know all of this had to affect him. He expected me to chase after him like I always did but, instead he got all of this.
If they have new supply I don't think they think about you much if at all. So long as you have no contact then out of sight out of mind. They moved on long before the discard.
Just because people are flawed doesn't mean you should give up on them. I keep my distance from people that are self destructive, if your going down, I'm stepping out of your way, because I don't want to get dragged down too.
I remember the day I finally took a stand and broke up with my ex boyfriend last fall. At the time he was in total denial for the first 24 hours and figured I would come crawling back like I had in the past. Thinking I had nowhere to go or move to....little did he know I was ready to move and leave if his behavior continued. After the initial denial phase, he tried to be fake nice, then that eventually transformed into passive aggression and ultimately rage and him transforming into a full blown alcoholic. After 5.5 years of being verbally, mentally, emotionally, and financially abused he utterly lost his ability to control my life and ended up resorting to crying for the first time ever in a utter ajaring and sudden sideshow on my last day there before finally leaving for good and never looking back.
Luke 12:53 NLT Father will be divided against son and son against father; mother against daughter and daughter against mother; and mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.
Mine turned all of my kids against me. He convinced them that everything was my fault, even his cheating, so they rarely talk to me. They are in their 30s and 40s now. When they do talk to me, it's cold and stiff. And I rarely get to see my grandkids. Yet my kids spend quality time with their dad and his mom, even vacationing together, and the grandkids spend time with them. My grandkids don't even know who I am for the most part. 2 wont speak to me at all. It hurts. I don't know how to fix this. He even tried to kill us a couple of times, but they deny it, even though they saw it happen, are convinced they were accidents, and I'm causing trouble for saying such a thing. I miss my kids and our closeness terribly!
I think nac kids can see the truth but don't have the strength to fight him so they side with daddy! They don't want him acting towards them in the same manner!😢 it really sucks
I'm srilankan and my husband is a narcissist I'm suffering 13years toxic marriage life Ur videos very very useful But one problem is I can't understand English words fully I knw little so always I asking others to help me translate to tamil but no one is helping me Now I'm joined spoken English class bcz for I wanna improve my English knowledge
I know ,I hope you get that money cos that’s one of the hardest tasks is to be able to have somewhere to go..nothing worse then being stuck in the same house..I got out in the end 1 1/2 years of hell was like a sentence ..I finally moved out from under his nose gradually ,until one Rainey night I jumped in the car and we drove off with my older kids help..so good to be out of the miserable pos way l.but I’m still suffer fallout to a degree trying to heal ..they are beyond evil..processed I’d say by a wicked evil entity ..mine was that bad..good luck don’t give up things will changed.🇬🇧
I was the most caring, empathetic one, the most understanding, the most chances I gave. The more he took the more I offered. Once he betrayed me, I told him off and went no contact. It Hurst but not as much as it did with how he treated me so peace out, dude. ✌🏾💪🏾💛😍
I wouldn't say I "survived" more so just challenged things that didn't make sense I'm not sure if she is a narcissist but I never felt like we were growing closer because there was nothing to love. It was all fake and I could feel that. That and anytime I mentioned something that bothered me it was always somehow my fault and she never apologized or took accountability for anything negative she did or said. Best advice is what he is saying in the video, just leave.
yeah, this is why my narcissistic dad keeps bringing up my exes (from 5+ years from the past) to me as if I wanted to hear anything about them. I am aroace and I have 0 interest in relationships or men, but he doesn't believe it and thinks that 'deep down I want them". he never forgets his exes and always sees them as a 'canned supply', and he thinks everyone does the same! That's horrifying
Narcissistic abuse is a lot like quitting smoking. Phillip Morris wants my money, my source of supply so much because so many give their hard earned money to kill their health. I am one week into quitting a pack a day habit. They know that my agony quitting is their profit. But I remember one day I saw blood in my phlegm and was terrified, and I know that fear made me start wellbutrin to aid in quitting. Well Danish you are like that medicine helping me stop and remember that fear the narcissist or cigarettes had over me. Im craving them alot cause a pack a day is a deadly amount drilled into my unconscious. But seeing the blood scared me so much. I know I wont go back because I love myself too much to return to them. Its very difficult but I can do it. I really thank you so much.❤
Thank you! He tried to destroy my child. My child is thriving. You learn their game and learn to play it better. Now he has the government after him for fraud. It’s all in timing. I’m glad he can’t forget me! Lol!!!
the best is, not to care, wether they think of you, because it has nothing to do with you. BUT be attentive! it can be that they will continue to try to harm you!
Thank you so much. I'm so proud of you for doing the right thing. I'm following your path by no contact forever. It's been 8 months since my boyfriend left me once again by telling me he can't find a job here and has to move far far away. That was think the 10th time , so I told him no more lovemaking because he's gonna leave me once more. I never ever saw him turning and screaming so loud that he had enough. I actually got scared. He packed his stuff and walked out. Woohoo. I was tired of walking on eggshells and took all of the mental abuse. Giving him money, and he gambled it away. let him stay with me for nothing and for what. So he'll never come near me again. Thank you for waking me up. ❤
3 months no contact...STONE WALLED COMPLETELY its been great! He still calls me names and moans to my children about how horrible and nasty I am for not letting him into my house anymore.. But praise The Lord, my children are on my side, and know all of his tactics...
I'm never sure if my husbands a narcissistic, he's controlling but not isolating, he liked it his way..after 30 yrs it ended and i know he was hoping / thought he would replace me immediately , but he cant, because I now realise he trained me up for 30yrs..he wants me back 5 yrs later..
I just got able to disassociate myself with the ex narc that I was with. This video gives the impression that the ex narc want to come back and that is a nightmare.
Did anyone else experience the narc collapsing during the c.ovid season? We were limited contact as I was curfew closed in a different county.peoles interaction was limited and mostly phone zoom calls would work..he became sickly and couldn't eat yet it wasn't c.ovid on him .when I managed to get back to him he started gaining energy same day. These people are energy vampires I tell you .
@@lindac6919 yes! I know three narcissists. The two males are overt one tried hovering the other resorted to extreme violence. the female narc, a covert, went out and Tried to catch covid.
The best way to take revenge from them is by focusing on your own self-growth. This includes your career, health, loved ones, and your own well-being. Even more importantly, be happy and fulfilled in front of them. When they ask how you have been, which is basically their way of asking how you have been since they gave u hell n caused you pain and mistreated you, answer them with the belief that God is with you and say that you are absolutely fine with a radiant glow. This will make burn them like hell without actually dying🤣
I so agree!I think the only thing was the "revenge" part as I associate revenge with someone still having that control n me to have me resort to a negative emotion. I'd prefer saying not that u got revenge but u took control bk for yourself.afterall as much as we can read these ppls behaviour it won't be changed...they'll just go feed elsewhere eventually and from my experience twice as viciously if they have experienced losing their highest conquest/source
I was a source of supply for someone who used to be my sister (my choice) for 59 years. My tormentor since I was 5-years-old. I cut off this monster 12 years and 6 months ago. My life IMMEDIATELY improved. Last year she sent me a VERY complimentary e-mail saying, "my friends always thought you looked like Catherine Zeta Jones". I did not reply. I wanted to.. . . . something mean, but I stayed away. And yes, I am not telling everybody I know who she knows. Interesting my husband has an older sister who was the exact same way. He refuses to talk to her. She got the message and returned to him all photos she ever had of him from baby to adult, erasing him from her life. Although he didn't give her the supply that my (once) sister got from me (I didn't understand).
Oh, the rage. I diminished contact with my narcissist brother, but he has let me go since he has children to abuse for supply. (why I still have maintained a little contact) But one of the last things he said to my family about me is that I'm "so selfish and just don't care about people." I volunteer taught disadvantaged children for years and I volunteered as a firefighter paramedic for years. But I'm selfish. I don't care about people. I guess he is All people in his world. One thing people should know is narcissists have no memory, you can provide for them for years but they day you are out of attention, time, or money is the day you become their enemy.
Matthew 10:34-39 NKJV Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
I love you Danish from the bottom of my heart, you're the one who truly saving my life from such Demonic predator who are ruining my life, iam still in truamabond to safe my only child.
Ephesians 6:12 NLT For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
Without watching this video I can give you the answer: a desire to put the ex-victim back in shackles, coupled with a desire to punish him for leaving in the first place.
They will try their best to assimilate you into their collection. That deep pocket full of souls that are meant to be used when they have to be forced alone. Mr. Bashir is correct. They remember you even more so if you are the one to stand against them. Vilified and also longed for because when it comes your turn to be pulled from the pocket they can't find you. How dare you not be in there. Regardless of the time it takes them to search for you they will look and be angry.
I'm working with sadism, sociopath personality habits and traits... Figure of speech but, Jesus Christ. I thank you for your words, stand by your word, you have me standing with your word due to my own experience in experiencing exactly as you describe. And I don't even get paid for my word! I give my word, for that is all I have to give. I stand by my word, just as I said that I did! You can take my word for it, until we meet again. You have my word, for my word is all that I am. 😮💨 By, Edward Haren 2022. Titled: what is the word. 🎉
I did research before I presented her initial lie to her less than two months ago. I asked her a simple question-she lied-I asked her a follow up question-not only did she lie-she actually sent a photo. Then I was fed up and didn’t argue-I told her I’m not playing any games became silent and then finally admitted the truth. But my problem was the argument we had 2 months ago that she lied then-then the bword said it was a surprise. For the 1st time I told her that I hate her and she felt it. This is her 7th lie-and I finally got the courage to leave and let her know I talk to other ppl.
I love the fact that he may never forget me. Maybe that is my revenge. He was so abusive mentally, emotionally, and publically so abusive that even those in our social circle were embarrassed for me and wondered how much more abuse I would take before leaving. Narcissism is truly a sickness. Ten years, a survivor!
They have no idea what you've had to put up with. Sooner or later, they will see what the narcissist is really like. Just get away from all of them, they'll see sooner. But it's best to just stay away.
I find strange that he prepared in college to work as a high school guidance counselor. The weekends he had visitation with our son, a grandmother took care of him while the father went out to play baseball or tennis. I finally understand why he was not interested in parenting. His wife initiated custody proceedings to take my son away from me at age 7. Now I realize that my son (53) never really had a father figure in his life to show him what it means to be a parent. He was a 7-year-old who found himself in a new household with two teenage stepsisters, a stepmother, and a father who did not love him.
I'm exactly the person you're talking about. The coward keeps leaving me a message morning and night in my social media account. I'm sick of him. Ignoring him and everything.
I still often think about suicide because of my narcissistic ex-partner (due to the flashbacks mostly), but this video of yours reminded me of the way she behaved towards me and other people when my brother helped me implement no contact with her. Thank you so much, as I believe it is helpful to reiterate or learn about certain mechanics to facilitate the healing process of narcissistic abuse.
I ended it exactly as you said. I spoke up calling them out ,and than left them standing,waiting for my arrival at the airport, with witnesses to See. No contact ,I was just gone...poof...she knows ,that others know...she was stood up and abandoned ..
Congratulations to you ! Your IQ+EQ has helped you to process what’s been done to you and to take a firm stand. I knew a sociopathic narcissist (violent, womaniser, gambler, habitual drunk & a chain smoker) once and I shudder till this day 😢
Thank you. I’ve felt like I brought this horrible and was invisible for half of my life. I needed a balance for this loss that has come with learning about it. It’s like I knew the bad and it didn’t make sense except in light of that my memories were lies and I wasn’t loved ever.
It's 2 years no contact with former friend. Occasionally, I'll get a call from his ex-wife. They have a kid and grandchildren, so they'll always interact. He really put her through some crap. I take a call to offer support knowing what she and their daughter went through. Sometimes, I do wonder if the call is her digging info on me for him. Before ending my friendship with him the phone calls to me from her were help not hi.
Got out off relationships with narcissist over 4 years ago, took a long time to process the trauma and there’re still times when I ruminate over my ex. He used to say that he is the one that always breaks up first and his exes always “beg” him to come back. 😂 How good it feels to know that I won and definitely he’ll remember me.
No doubt. They never consider anyone to have the audacity to walk away from them. It's in their own audacity that they will reap what they sow. They make you believe you are alone. But, when you walk away you'll find that there are others who are victims of these cruel, vile, vulgar creatures too. You will find that you aren't alone. The good and decent people will walk with you. In a world that has Amber Heards', be a Johnny Depp. You'll never walk alone. ✌❤
Danesh, what do you do with the love you still might have for them? I decided to keep it in my heart, but never show it to them. That is my 'business', not theirs. No contact gives a burst of joy, with an accompanying sorrow, about the dream once dreamed. Life does really go on though. Life is for living.
I think of them like I think of a rabid dog. If I had a dog that I loved, and he got rabies...I would have to put him down. It would make me sad; and I would still have love for him. And I would grieve, and let him go.
How about love the person but not their illness. You did not cause it. You cannot control it. You cannot cure it. Pray for them. For your own peace and sanity and even safety, they have to stay away. Let go and learn to love and be happy with yourself. That is the difficult one.
@@butterflyb.9135 I guess that it is the spark of life and their long-forgotten tiny child spirit, looking up from the bottom of the dark, hollow, echoing hole, which I see, but they cant. Imagine practicing singing songs, with a Sociopath and flying kites, with a Narcissist. I too had to give them up, to their fate, hoping that God would intervene, in their world for which a 'do not enter' sign applies to me. A sad visit with them, spoke volumes.
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If its my mom of course she will never froget me
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You have helped me so much. I was 72 when I left my husband. One day I decided whatever time I had left on this earth was going to be peaceful. He can’t believe I did this.
72 New Life🎉😂❤, he is truly shook, no free homecare aide coming from you in the future😂
Thats a beautiful thought. And really inspiring and motivational. ❤🙏🏻 It doesnt matter what happened. I decide from this second, I shall never ever suffer again.
I am so glad for you!
Amazing! 💛💛💛 Wishing you the best life has to offer!
WOW SO proud of you and hope you can heal from the trauma❤
Narcissist are mad because they can’t torture you anymore.❤️
That could be ..
no contact = no control.
Over 40 years my narc husband talked about the fiancé that dumped him. He didn't even care that there was a woman who actually married him! ME!
Sad. I'm so sorry. I can relate. That's what mine did. Always talking about the girlfriends that rejected him. I'm wishing now I was one of those girlfriends that rejected him instead of marrying him. It's been hell since I discovered who he really is and am going through a horrific divorce.
He was abusing you emotionally
And you should know why she dumped him. She escaped. 😂
This is so nasty!! I am so sorry for you. You deserve better.
they could care less. all he was dwelling on was being injured, and whatever he was extracting from her.
I’m 35 days clean without the narcissist that made my life hell for 26 years. Maybe I got through to him this time 🙏
Be careful with that though. You actually can't get through to them. That is the point. You literally never will. Kill the hope and truly move on. Hoping or having any thoughts about whether you got through to them means you are still vulnerable to them. They are not capable of being reached.
@monisolagbadebo8977 good point!
I’m going to didn’t, I left my marriage after 29 years and 3 months. I’m 4 years out and going through a divorce because he keeps getting it held over. Just last month he called and asked me to work on our marriage and cancel our divorce. If you’re only 35 days free it’s because he’s giving you breathing room while he decides how to work you over in a nice way to get you back! I’m sorry but that’s the truth.
Hey Danish!
I resonate the most with the triangulation. My ex kept comparing me with his ex wife!
I also stopped talking with my narcissistic mother, even tho I loved her so much!
Thank you for everything ❤❤❤
M also 35 days clean from him after 1.5 years of marriage so toxic man
they don't forget you but also they never truly know you.
Yes because they never know our true love and empathy for them instead they only see us as a stupid supply😂😂😂😂
No, they knows us very well, very well from other people. They know they can mess up with us because we are empaths. Narcissists hunt for empaths, good hearted, ambitious, intelligent and strong people. How could we become a narcissist supply if a narcissist doesn't knows us. A narcissist wants to ruin our life because this asshole knows that what we can achieve. A narcissist never let us live alone & freely because he knows that once we get independent, we can easily show them his place. So in my opinion, narcissists know us way better than any other people.
I don’t give AF if that fool thinks about me or not! Screw him!
Same here.
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@@jbrown2908 Definitely!
YES!!!! So MUCH
Best answer ❤
If you leave them, they have no closure, they may have won battles but you won the war that they started. You will always be remembered as the challenge that got away. Freedom, yeah!
They leave me lol am soo glad they make the decision cause I cannot make the decision! I was too attached 😢
@@sharinvile5074do not feel bad about him leaving you. It was the best thing ever for you!! I can attest!👐🏾🙌🏾
Big hug to all survivors.
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Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
Hey guys, this scripture reminds me of a question I have: I have been a victim of deception when it comes to girlfriends/deception. I also had a mom who was a narcissist.
I'm christian, and it is embarrassing. But what scriptures are there available for me to stand on re: deception? And what can I do, practically, to overcome deception?
@@clintlandrum9498Your belief in Jesus Christ's finished works should have you fully equipped with the Holy Spirit's discernment. It's intuitive.
@@cassiebennet4262 i don't fully agree with you, but I appreciate your response.
@@clintlandrum9498 What don't you agree with?
@@cassiebennet4262 it's not worth it. It would just lead to an unnecessary argument.
Thank you, had 53yrs of marriage with a narcissist, he left me as I stood up to him. I broke him after all those years of being controlled and put down by him.
Wow..!! I applaud you for taking that courageous and victorious step. I'm in my 33rd year and may follow your path.
That's my Girl, ❤🎉🎉😂
They hate it when you stand up to them. They like fear. Straight up demons, they are.
Aap log itne sal tak kase sahan kiye ye samjh nahi aata
@@amankhandelwal7386 it has a deeper meaning than what it looks like on a surface level. We do not face what we haven't made others face in past lives. And to understand the other side we take birth and experience how it feels like on the receiving end. That way your soul experiences the full cycle of yin and yang. When your cycle is completed, you stand up for yourself and break that equation.
I am going to simplify the reason why a narcissist won't forget you it's because you are still standing you haven't been totally and utterly destroyed so some of the narcissist will obsess about you because they want you to be of no use to your self that's how truly truly evil narcissist are.never ever forget it's the actual devil who you are dealing with and that's the truth!! Positivity peace and love ♥️
Yes, a narc always aims to put out your fire.
@@marisinclair7268 without a shadow of a doubt they really do!
They think of you as a lost possession. Explains how they act and why they feel no shame for attempting to reconnect.
thats all you ever were; just something to take from.
Good!! My ex will never find someone like me!!! That's why he steals our mail so he can control what we get and see what is coming!! My ex NEVER EVER thought I would leave......I planned it and my son saved me!!! I told my ex that the WORLD will figure him out someday!!! His new supply has no clue and I'm happy it's not me anymore!! I can relate to all your posts!!
Love and hugs from San Jose CA❤😂🎉🎉😊
She will become you…
Same, he will NEVER find someone like me. Now he is alcoholic 73 year old LOSER!
@user-pg8jj6cs9c save your cash and invest in a safe P.O Box address and fillout a Change of Address for all your mail ! Stealing your mail is a felony ! He could go to jail for a long time for that alone. Stop trusting anything and be smart . Go silent and keep your private life private !
If one of your parent is a narcisist, they'll never forget you. My narc demon father is still doing the same things he used to do when I couldnt even think for myself: order someone to do black magic on me and badmouth me behind my back. I still get shocked when I get to talk to random relatives and they tell me. I can just pray for justice. I want justice before dying. My entire life has been so fked up. The worst is when you get out of abuse and start healing, the first thing you realize and see and feel is the damage done to you. The most painful thing about healing. I just fking want justice.
Black magic???? That's proof that Narcissist are possessed by demons! Keep your distance from along with all of his flying monkeys
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You won't receive justice.
Justice will come, one way or the other, in this life or the other, whether you see it or not. Focus on healing and being happy. Enjoy all your achievements!
@@vaninaredondi9580 Thank you. I firmly believe in justice. And yes, I value the other advise as well to not sit and wait for justice and waste time, energy and hope, yearning for justice.
But I believe in justice. There is a God in charge, who is the eternal witness and he makes things right.
I survived 3 narcissists , father and 2 older brothers. Migration from India to USA and Primal scream therapy helped a lot. Abuse did not stop even in America.
So sorry that you went through that. My younger sister and brother are Narcissists that had my parents walking on eggshells. I moved a few thousand miles away and cut them off, now life is so much much better. I hope you can find peace
Primal scream therapy ✅
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My brother was a narcissist, my husband but never knew because years ago this want exposed and explained. Then I met a man that I thought was nice…. Another narcissist
It's heart warming to know that I am not the only one who has got some nasty pieces of work in my 'family' too.
Ohhh, India...especially when Indian & Asian cultures always give more social-status benefits to males over women, due to family lineage & inheritance passed to sons...I understand what you go through, as I'm Asian myself. Keep going strong there & be brave to cut contact with them. So that they no longer can use you for any bullying & scapegoating purposes anymore! Although they're family by blood, peace & meeting your own needs is more important, in your case - they have & won't let you choose anything for yourself without their permission & will give you chaos so that your suffering gives them "peace". Time to stop that cycle of abuse💪👍👌
I'm 23 Years old I'm a victim.Now also sleepless nights here.1.00 am time. I'm watching this video from Sri Lanka 💙🙌
Stay strong!
Sorry, one day you will breakfree.❤
Soon to be an overcomer ❤
Stay strong. Be well
Simply try this.
Crush/mash 21 garlic cloves to pulp, fill a bucket with enough water to bath, mix the garlic with the water.
Bath about 9pm is.
Pray, disconnect every thought ill- centred relationship and bond you had with that person.
See how you feel 2 days later let me know
My ex narc husband initiated a separation but was probably very surprised when I divorced him.
my father was physically n mentally n emotionally abusive to both me n my mother. my mom endured it for 10yrs but u know what he applied for divorce. thinking my mother would beg. but guess what we were donne with his bs. we accepted the courts order for acceptance of divorce n the minute he got to know he came begging me n my mother tried so hard to pursue back to that hell again. but we stood strong . after fighting court battle n healing from the ptsd we are finally healing after 14yrs.
how could you do that to me. pffffffffffff, real easy.
That is my story too!@@minakumari1515
I wish your words were true for me. My covert ex narcissist husband forgot me. I never wanted to leave him, but the pain pushed me away, far away. I feared him. I love him and pray for his salvation as he needs Jesus, he is lost. I realize he chose me because I was a door mat. He told me if I leave that I will take the salt from his life, yet he remarried and moved on. I never dated nor remarried, he was my last. I broke contact with everyone in my life except my children as they need me. I bond myself with God as he is my only protector and best friend.
i hope you find someone. Its good that you price your kids above anything else, that makes you a great mom. breaking contact with everyone in your life seems radical and unhealthy. Im sure your kids would love you to have an healthy relationship with an healthy good guy. don't carry everything on your own. The guy that you want doesnt want you to want to carry everything on your own. He wants you to be happy.
If you "love him" he still controls you.
@@RebelsBestFriend 😞 It's been nearly 5 years since I left. I need more time.
Just because he "moved on" doesn't mean he forgot you. It's like the movie Ever After when Cinderella tells her stepmother, "From this moment on I will forget you. But I'm sure you will remember me for the rest of your life." Evil doesn't forget what good they lost and they despise them every day for "winning" and leaving. Your ex may play the part in public, but deep down they are miserable. I think that's part of their punishment in remembering every day what miserable bastards they are. They know, and remember what they did, but they will never let on that they do. God knows and sees all. He is just and fair and won't let them get away with it in the long run. Keep your head up high and keep your eyes on Him.
You deserve better. I can relate to having to go no contact with most people because the narcissist gains many supporters through his flying monkeys. It's a living Hell.
I left a very abusive relationship with a man who manipulated the legal system and took my children full time. He is also hurting them and no one will listen. There are some things worse than death -- in knowing your children are being harmed and nothing you can do to stop it.
You are lucky to still have your children. I pray that they will also see what he is someday.
We don't need any other relationship. I believe that's where God wants us to be, to where we can rely on and trust completely in Him. I believe He is the only one who has given me the strength and the endurance to take one painful breath and day at a time. Suffering I believe helps us understand what Christ went through for us and to be able to be with Him someday, something abusers will never understand. God bless and take care. ❤
@@cordelia-xd5xf Amen. Thank you so much for this.
Today marks 2 years that I cut out my malignant abusive narcissistic son! He has been pure hell to me and my daughter since he was 15yrs old (he’s 23yrs old now). I suffer from extreme PTSD from that kid and what he’s done to us. The first year of cutting him out of my life, I slept with a knife next to my bed in fear he’ll come for revenge on me and my daughter. He was not raised this way at all, and people automatically attack and blame me for his behavior!! Nobody will ever know what it’s like to fear your own child and what they are capable of unless you’ve experienced the absolute paralyzing FEAR they’ve taunted you with for years!!!
Put on the full armor of YAH -Ephesians 6.
Where is his father and was he a narc too, if u don't mind?
toxic is toxic, regardless of the relationship. the only cure is completely removing them from your life. no contact=no control.
@@maryanne7161his father died when my son was 11. He passed away in a fatal car accident in 2012. I made sure to line up all resources for my son and daughter as well as myself (grief counseling and therapy) to help us through the loss. My son dug his heals every step of the way and downright refused to allow anyone (even me) to help him. A therapist can’t help someone who won’t talk which is what he did. He either would stay quiet and not say anything, or he would say exactly what he knew they wanted and needed to hear to ‘get us off his back’ as he put it. I’ve had to put my own grief on the back burner to do everything humanly possible as a mother to help my child, only for him to look at me with so much hate and rage and threaten my life! He destroyed my property by throwing a can of paint all over my fence. Kicked in my dishwasher and put holes in my walls. Then he started to get physical!
@@maryanne7161 one or both parents are narcs, whenever a child turns out like this
so if they never forget you they never forget those before you. so they were thinking about them while they were with you
Good point
Was lookin for this comment n now ain’t gotta type it. It explains the constant bitch face I had to stare at for 6 yrs. Now I know what was on her mind it’s what I speculated all along
Yes exactly. He was keeping in contact with ALL the ex's and non ex's. Over 30 women he would text/call in our first 5 months together including the wife I thought was the ex wife! Smh
if you were a grade A top-flight supply that provided something that the narcissist cannot replace either easily or at all,
the narcissist will definitely not forget you.
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Thank you, God bless you ❤🙏
Greetings from San Diego CA
@VictoriaT56 amazing! team healthy is all over canada, the states, and the world 🌎
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@VictoriaT56 thanks for your kind words.
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You are so right!
They need people to "Prop them up."
Yea and that makes them think they actually loved/love you when it’s alll about them and they think they are the injured party.
my ex told me that he loved me so much , he hate me -----go figure
I agree a million percent I left the narc I married after I have gone no contact for almost a year he is reaching out so many times me i.
remain silent forever I refuse to deal with him in anyway
Good for you.
So smart!
All is applicable to me. I was his best supply, he got money, recognition, etc a whole lot. Thank God I’m out.
i am literally crying while watching this video. the accuracy level of these points is 100 percent
Absolutely
The narcissist had lied to me and manipulated for 9 yrs. I lost myself but I gave him the final Mat position. He has many girls and lied that I am the only one. I saw through him from the start. It goes to cyrcles, lies and my "believes". I'm the lightworker I saw what he was/is doing. I reject him and trying to heal myself. Thank you!
''He has many girls '' ''I saw through him. * from the start.''
I don't feel sorry for you! Why? You admit that you ''saw through him from the start'' and yet despite this you still got involved with him. Why? Because he was a 'Chad' ...a 'Bad' boy.
You are no different to the many females who sleep with Leo DiCaprio hoping that they will be the ''one''....even though they know that he has ''many girls''. And then when he doesn't commit (after he has pumped them/you numerous times) he is a 'narcissist''
This is a story as old as time!
they treat everybody the same no one is better than the next just supply them with different types of supply... Low vibration or high long as their needs are met.
Nearly 3mnths No contact ❤ He sent me a box of old clothes and empty body lotion bottles 😂 I have a shipping container full of stock😮 been moved to a farmer's field by him 😂He also has my father's coin collection and book in a box etc, But he saw fit to send me a near empty Very BIG box 😢 It's OK I Have Finally Let Go! He will Not Hold Me to ransom over STUFF, He can Keep It 😘❤️🙏
A Doll can always recomp❤🎉😂
@otismeotisme7987 Why Thank You Sunshine 🌞 😘❤️🙏
Wow. You're actually lucky. Mine sent me food tainted with poison. I had it sent to the lab. 17 different toxins and chemicals found in it.
@cordelia-xd5xf Wow funny you should say that 🤣 I opened the box on the phone to my cousin and amongst the stuff found a bag of dried fruits first thing She said was don't eat them, Then I checked the sealed bag and there was a tiny hole in it, So I threw them in the bin didn't even Feed it to the Birds 🫠 Love wrapped up in a Very BIG HUG 🫂 2U I Send 😘❤️🙏
@@amyshoneye5455I'm glad you responded to my comment 😅. YT removed it, I think. I can't see it. Wonder if they took it as a threat. Can't say " pois**" or something. IDK. Yes don't ever trust anything they send. My lawyers and law enforcement don't get it. They said he was "just being nice." It's also hard to prove, even with tests. I spent $975 on this test only for them to dismiss it and not wanting to go through the process of his lawyer trying to flip it around on me and blame me for putting something in it. They don't get what love bombing is and how it's just part of the abuse cycle. The hoovering they do is disgusting too. They suck you back in only so they can punish you for leaving and trying to expose them.
#2 ~ I dumped him with a big fat door slam. Good riddance. I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The last thing he did was to drive my car 92 miles per hour down a very busy highway at night. We were taking my dog to an Emergency Vet, an hour from my home. That was the final straw. It took everything I had not to react. I went No Contact. He's still driving by my house. Fool. Came to the house on my birthday and kept knocking but I didn't answer. He sat in my driveway and then in front of the house for several hours. He honked the horn of his car, but I could hear that he hadn't gone. He left a gift and the funniest card I've ever received. It wasn't meant to be funny, it was meant to manipulate me into calling and thanking him. I'm sure he thought he was slick. But I've always been able to see right through him. It used to freak him out. He wasn't used to someone who stood firm in her boundaries and would call him out on his BS. We were only together 6 months. During that time I had Covid twice and three autoimmune flares. It feels so good to be free.
what a sh it show. same bs, different narc. good for you for recognizing the abuse early, moving on.
Sounds like my ex narc husband…
Sounds almost like you are describing my year with a narcissist. He even tried to use money to hoover me back in. But gosh, the answer was a firm no!! Blessings to you!
@@sheilakaye9705 Glad you escaped!! He abducted my 21 year old cat and dumped her 27 minutes from home. Just got her back! She was gone four months and 10 days. Stay free! Be happy!!!
I recently ended a relationship with a narcissist. Since then he has been trying to contact me and recently he even wrote in an e-mail that he "dreamed about me". Bloody hell... The guy was my client for 7 years. I've been running a tattoo parlor for the same amount of time. Last year I realized that he was no longer my client but a parasite who intimidated me, came to tell me his pathological life stories and gave vent to his sadistic fantasies. When I discovered it, I started observing it and after a year and a half I managed to get out of this sick system and dependence.. Now he is trying to contact me outside of my professional life by e-mail because I switch of my business Phone to get rid of him and others. Thanks Danish! You have helped many people, you probably don't even know how many...
I WANT them to forget me
They know that!
Same here
I resonate with both bc, I was very good to him and we were together 15 years but, at the end when I found out the truth I cut him off suddenly out of the blue, I exposed him and I humiliated and insulted him...I hit below the belt and disappeared. I know all of this had to affect him. He expected me to chase after him like I always did but, instead he got all of this.
Thankyou for reminding me ❤ I won't feel safe til I move to another state and I should never let my guard down to stay safe
You're naming it clearly. How I wish I had known these things many many years ago. Thank you for sharing!!
If they have new supply I don't think they think about you much if at all. So long as you have no contact then out of sight out of mind. They moved on long before the discard.
Just because people are flawed doesn't mean you should give up on them. I keep my distance from people that are self destructive, if your going down, I'm stepping out of your way, because I don't want to get dragged down too.
That's smart. Pray for them and step to the side. Those demons jump and infect.
being a narc, is not a flaw; its a choice.
I remember the day I finally took a stand and broke up with my ex boyfriend last fall. At the time he was in total denial for the first 24 hours and figured I would come crawling back like I had in the past. Thinking I had nowhere to go or move to....little did he know I was ready to move and leave if his behavior continued. After the initial denial phase, he tried to be fake nice, then that eventually transformed into passive aggression and ultimately rage and him transforming into a full blown alcoholic. After 5.5 years of being verbally, mentally, emotionally, and financially abused he utterly lost his ability to control my life and ended up resorting to crying for the first time ever in a utter ajaring and sudden sideshow on my last day there before finally leaving for good and never looking back.
the old mask totally slipped off.
I was my narc's premium source of supply. Thank so much for your transparency and message it has helped me tremendously.
Luke 12:53 NLT
Father will be divided against son and son against father; mother against daughter and daughter against mother; and mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.
Mine turned all of my kids against me. He convinced them that everything was my fault, even his cheating, so they rarely talk to me. They are in their 30s and 40s now. When they do talk to me, it's cold and stiff. And I rarely get to see my grandkids. Yet my kids spend quality time with their dad and his mom, even vacationing together, and the grandkids spend time with them. My grandkids don't even know who I am for the most part. 2 wont speak to me at all. It hurts. I don't know how to fix this. He even tried to kill us a couple of times, but they deny it, even though they saw it happen, are convinced they were accidents, and I'm causing trouble for saying such a thing. I miss my kids and our closeness terribly!
I m so sorry. I hate typing. Although i have a lot to say, but... This is all i m writing right now.
Hope it comforts u in some way.
im in the same boat. if they are not intelligent enough to figure things out on their own as adults; they may, or may not, thats on them.
I think nac kids can see the truth but don't have the strength to fight him so they side with daddy! They don't want him acting towards them in the same manner!😢 it really sucks
@@maryanne7161 thanks!
The rumination is torture
Honestly, the only time I want him to remember me is when it's time to pay the child support. So glad he's out of our lives!
keep him out and away from ur child too .these narcs try manipulate kind and sweet children to get revenge over their partner
Narcs cannot be cured. You leave them.
the get worse with age
True
I'm srilankan and my husband is a narcissist
I'm suffering 13years toxic marriage life
Ur videos very very useful
But one problem is I can't understand English words fully I knw little so always I asking others to help me translate to tamil but no one is helping me
Now I'm joined spoken English class bcz for I wanna improve my English knowledge
As soon as I have enough money to support myself, I'm so gone with the quickness!
I know ,I hope you get that money cos that’s one of the hardest tasks is to be able to have somewhere to go..nothing worse then being stuck in the same house..I got out in the end 1 1/2 years of hell was like a sentence ..I finally moved out from under his nose gradually ,until one Rainey night I jumped in the car and we drove off with my older kids help..so good to be out of the miserable pos way l.but I’m still suffer fallout to a degree trying to heal ..they are beyond evil..processed I’d say by a wicked evil entity ..mine was that bad..good luck don’t give up things will changed.🇬🇧
I was the most caring, empathetic one, the most understanding, the most chances I gave. The more he took the more I offered. Once he betrayed me, I told him off and went no contact. It Hurst but not as much as it did with how he treated me so peace out, dude. ✌🏾💪🏾💛😍
You're beautiful 😊
I wouldn't say I "survived" more so just challenged things that didn't make sense I'm not sure if she is a narcissist but I never felt like we were growing closer because there was nothing to love. It was all fake and I could feel that. That and anytime I mentioned something that bothered me it was always somehow my fault and she never apologized or took accountability for anything negative she did or said. Best advice is what he is saying in the video, just leave.
yeah, this is why my narcissistic dad keeps bringing up my exes (from 5+ years from the past) to me as if I wanted to hear anything about them. I am aroace and I have 0 interest in relationships or men, but he doesn't believe it and thinks that 'deep down I want them". he never forgets his exes and always sees them as a 'canned supply', and he thinks everyone does the same! That's horrifying
Narcissistic abuse is a lot like quitting smoking. Phillip Morris wants my money, my source of supply so much because so many give their hard earned money to kill their health. I am one week into quitting a pack a day habit. They know that my agony quitting is their profit. But I remember one day I saw blood in my phlegm and was terrified, and I know that fear made me start wellbutrin to aid in quitting. Well Danish you are like that medicine helping me stop and remember that fear the narcissist or cigarettes had over me. Im craving them alot cause a pack a day is a deadly amount drilled into my unconscious. But seeing the blood scared me so much. I know I wont go back because I love myself too much to return to them. Its very difficult but I can do it. I really thank you so much.❤
Thank you! He tried to destroy my child. My child is thriving. You learn their game and learn to play it better. Now he has the government after him for fraud. It’s all in timing. I’m glad he can’t forget me! Lol!!!
the best is, not to care, wether they think of you, because it has nothing to do with you. BUT be attentive! it can be that they will continue to try to harm you!
Thank you so much. I'm so proud of you for doing the right thing. I'm following your path by no contact forever. It's been 8 months since my boyfriend left me once again by telling me he can't find a job here and has to move far far away. That was think the 10th time , so I told him no more lovemaking because he's gonna leave me once more. I never ever saw him turning and screaming so loud that he had enough. I actually got scared. He packed his stuff and walked out. Woohoo. I was tired of walking on eggshells and took all of the mental abuse. Giving him money, and he gambled it away. let him stay with me for nothing and for what. So he'll never come near me again. Thank you for waking me up. ❤
Rejection, exposing to whole world, confrontation.
For now.
3 months no contact...STONE WALLED COMPLETELY its been great! He still calls me names and moans to my children about how horrible and nasty I am for not letting him into my house anymore.. But praise The Lord, my children are on my side, and know all of his tactics...
I'm never sure if my husbands a narcissistic, he's controlling but not isolating, he liked it his way..after 30 yrs it ended and i know he was hoping / thought he would replace me immediately , but he cant, because I now realise he trained me up for 30yrs..he wants me back 5 yrs later..
I just got able to disassociate myself with the ex narc that I was with. This video gives the impression that the ex narc want to come back and that is a nightmare.
Did anyone else experience the narc collapsing during the c.ovid season?
We were limited contact as I was curfew closed in a different county.peoles interaction was limited and mostly phone zoom calls would work..he became sickly and couldn't eat yet it wasn't c.ovid on him .when I managed to get back to him he started gaining energy same day. These people are energy vampires I tell you .
Yes saw the one I married collapse big time became a nag of homes looked deathly like he would die any day
My narky sis tried to hoover me shortly after covid started. After 13 yrs NC.
She must have lost a big part of her supply.
Very interesting.
@@lindac6919 yes! I know three narcissists. The two males are overt one tried hovering the other resorted to extreme violence. the female narc, a covert, went out and Tried to catch covid.
Don't get back to them, don't look back, get outta there, stay away.
im sorry you had to experience that Danish. im so proud of you.
The best way to take revenge from them is by focusing on your own self-growth. This includes your career, health, loved ones, and your own well-being. Even more importantly, be happy and fulfilled in front of them. When they ask how you have been, which is basically their way of asking how you have been since they gave u hell n caused you pain and mistreated you, answer them with the belief that God is with you and say that you are absolutely fine with a radiant glow. This will make burn them like hell without actually dying🤣
I so agree!I think the only thing was the "revenge" part as I associate revenge with someone still having that control n me to have me resort to a negative emotion. I'd prefer saying not that u got revenge but u took control bk for yourself.afterall as much as we can read these ppls behaviour it won't be changed...they'll just go feed elsewhere eventually and from my experience twice as viciously if they have experienced losing their highest conquest/source
I think I was all of them to my ex husband. Thank you. Sounds like you’ve found peace with your having let go of your father.
I was a source of supply for someone who used to be my sister (my choice) for 59 years. My tormentor since I was 5-years-old. I cut off this monster 12 years
and 6 months ago. My life IMMEDIATELY improved. Last year she sent me a VERY complimentary e-mail saying, "my friends always thought you looked like
Catherine Zeta Jones". I did not reply. I wanted to.. . . . something mean, but I stayed away. And yes, I am not telling everybody I know who she knows.
Interesting my husband has an older sister who was the exact same way. He refuses to talk to her. She got the message and returned to him all photos she
ever had of him from baby to adult, erasing him from her life. Although he didn't give her the supply that my (once) sister got from me (I didn't understand).
I can relate to your torment. I also have a sister who is a narc too.
Oh, the rage. I diminished contact with my narcissist brother, but he has let me go since he has children to abuse for supply. (why I still have maintained a little contact) But one of the last things he said to my family about me is that I'm "so selfish and just don't care about people." I volunteer taught disadvantaged children for years and I volunteered as a firefighter paramedic for years. But I'm selfish. I don't care about people. I guess he is All people in his world.
One thing people should know is narcissists have no memory, you can provide for them for years but they day you are out of attention, time, or money is the day you become their enemy.
Matthew 10:34-39 NKJV
Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
I love you Danish from the bottom of my heart, you're the one who truly saving my life from such Demonic predator who are ruining my life, iam still in truamabond to safe my only child.
Ephesians 6:12 NLT
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
Without watching this video I can give you the answer: a desire to put the ex-victim back in shackles, coupled with a desire to punish him for leaving in the first place.
They will try their best to assimilate you into their collection. That deep pocket full of souls that are meant to be used when they have to be forced alone.
Mr. Bashir is correct. They remember you even more so if you are the one to stand against them. Vilified and also longed for because when it comes your turn to be pulled from the pocket they can't find you. How dare you not be in there. Regardless of the time it takes them to search for you they will look and be angry.
Thank You
Can you do a video on how to move on, it’s extremely difficult to break the trauma bond.
Wow so many truths blew me away. Healing is power.
I'm working with sadism, sociopath personality habits and traits... Figure of speech but, Jesus Christ. I thank you for your words, stand by your word, you have me standing with your word due to my own experience in experiencing exactly as you describe. And I don't even get paid for my word! I give my word, for that is all I have to give. I stand by my word, just as I said that I did! You can take my word for it, until we meet again. You have my word, for my word is all that I am. 😮💨 By, Edward Haren 2022.
Titled: what is the word. 🎉
After 40 years you are so right , I divorced them, I don’t think he thought I would leave 😮, and now he is very bitter 😊😊
I did research before I presented her initial lie to her less than two months ago. I asked her a simple question-she lied-I asked her a follow up question-not only did she lie-she actually sent a photo. Then I was fed up and didn’t argue-I told her I’m not playing any games became silent and then finally admitted the truth. But my problem was the argument we had 2 months ago that she lied then-then the bword said it was a surprise. For the 1st time I told her that I hate her and she felt it. This is her 7th lie-and I finally got the courage to leave and let her know I talk to other ppl.
There are normal people who never forget either, only their reasons for never forgetting you are different.
This completely nailed all the points of the ex I had. Bravo.
Can't wait to see your channel reach a million subscribers!! you are caring individual helping thousands in their silent pain!!
I love the fact that he may never forget me. Maybe that is my revenge. He was so abusive mentally, emotionally, and publically so abusive that even those in our social circle were embarrassed for me and wondered how much more abuse I would take before leaving. Narcissism is truly a sickness. Ten years, a survivor!
Thank you Mr Danish your presentation is perfect I love it ❤️💕🙏🙏🙏
Afer all this everybody blames me for staying so long and let my life be destroyed everytime it hurts
They have no idea what you've had to put up with. Sooner or later, they will see what the narcissist is really like.
Just get away from all of them, they'll see sooner. But it's best to just stay away.
I find strange that he prepared in college to work as a high school guidance counselor. The weekends he had visitation with our son, a grandmother took care of him while the father went out to play baseball or tennis. I finally understand why he was not interested in parenting. His wife initiated custody proceedings to take my son away from me at age 7. Now I realize that my son (53) never really had a father figure in his life to show him what it means to be a parent. He was a 7-year-old who found himself in a new household with two teenage stepsisters, a stepmother, and a father who did not love him.
I blocked and went no contact.
Me too 💪
Same here...so empowering.
I'm exactly the person you're talking about. The coward keeps leaving me a message morning and night in my social media account. I'm sick of him. Ignoring him and everything.
For Me I was the Premium source of supply and I called them out and I went no contact.
Ah thank you for explaining my father’s hateful behavior.
I still often think about suicide because of my narcissistic ex-partner (due to the flashbacks mostly), but this video of yours reminded me of the way she behaved towards me and other people when my brother helped me implement no contact with her. Thank you so much, as I believe it is helpful to reiterate or learn about certain mechanics to facilitate the healing process of narcissistic abuse.
I ended it exactly as you said. I spoke up calling them out ,and than left them standing,waiting for my arrival at the airport, with witnesses to See. No contact ,I was just gone...poof...she knows ,that others know...she was stood up and abandoned ..
my narc husband left me drained financially, emotionally, physically, socially except spiritually, my only hope.
Congratulations to you ! Your IQ+EQ has helped you to process what’s been done to you and to take a firm stand. I knew a sociopathic narcissist (violent, womaniser, gambler, habitual drunk & a chain smoker) once and I shudder till this day 😢
Thank you. I’ve felt like I brought this horrible and was invisible for half of my life. I needed a balance for this loss that has come with learning about it. It’s like I knew the bad and it didn’t make sense except in light of that my memories were lies and I wasn’t loved ever.
I love your show- thank you
This is absolutely true
Thanks, Danish this explains alot.
It's 2 years no contact with former friend. Occasionally, I'll get a call from his ex-wife. They have a kid and grandchildren, so they'll always interact. He really put her through some crap. I take a call to offer support knowing what she and their daughter went through. Sometimes, I do wonder if the call is her digging info on me for him. Before ending my friendship with him the phone calls to me from her were help not hi.
Got out off relationships with narcissist over 4 years ago, took a long time to process the trauma and there’re still times when I ruminate over my ex. He used to say that he is the one that always breaks up first and his exes always “beg” him to come back. 😂 How good it feels to know that I won and definitely he’ll remember me.
No doubt. They never consider anyone to have the audacity to walk away from them. It's in their own audacity that they will reap what they sow. They make you believe you are alone. But, when you walk away you'll find that there are others who are victims of these cruel, vile, vulgar creatures too. You will find that you aren't alone. The good and decent people will walk with you.
In a world that has Amber Heards', be a Johnny Depp. You'll never walk alone. ✌❤
Danesh, what do you do with the love you still might have for them? I decided to keep it in my heart, but never show it to them. That is my 'business', not theirs. No contact gives a burst of joy, with an accompanying sorrow, about the dream once dreamed. Life does really go on though. Life is for living.
I think of them like I think of a rabid dog. If I had a dog that I loved, and he got rabies...I would have to put him down. It would make me sad; and I would still have love for him. And I would grieve, and let him go.
How about love the person but not their illness. You did not cause it. You cannot control it. You cannot cure it. Pray for them. For your own peace and sanity and even safety, they have to stay away. Let go and learn to love and be happy with yourself. That is the difficult one.
@@kerrytaggart8206 Difficult, but there comes a time, when that comes easy and it's not through replacing them either. Time is healing too.
@@butterflyb.9135 I guess that it is the spark of life and their long-forgotten tiny child spirit, looking up from the bottom of the dark, hollow, echoing hole, which I see, but they cant. Imagine practicing singing songs, with a Sociopath and flying kites, with a Narcissist. I too had to give them up, to their fate, hoping that God would intervene, in their world for which a 'do not enter' sign applies to me. A sad visit with them, spoke volumes.
That's true; it's usually not really love. I think they call it limerance. @@butterflyb.9135
Thank you Danish for your pearls of wisdom,you are the best !!God bless you.
Beautiful at the end especially. Thank you!
Mine lost big time! He will never find the needle in a haystack. Great video Danish and thank you for all you do.❤🦋🌺🙏
2nd one I did.thank u for making my life easier. Love from Bangladesh. Forever grateful ❤