Plus they ignore your texts after they start ( create) chaos. Or only reply to any unimportant trivia but ignore any important questions. They live to create instability. They hate peace.
they also text you first and even when you reply almost instantly they stop replying to you and start doing something else. And when you confront them about this behavior they reply saying "I didn't know we were actually talking"
Truly I believe they thrive in chaos! Late hubbie used to concoct dramas at work, upset the apple cart of hos own doing, then " solve" the drama and stormed about like a stroppy teen, when his bosses didn't praise him! They saw right through him, but he never could see that. Yup was only truly happy in chaos cause then everybody else was as miserable, stressed and as unhappy as him!
I once was head over heels for a guy; one day after months I realized he never once asked me, “how are you doing”. Not a single time. It was always about him
100% saw this too! When son was really ill in hospital and getting attention, he coughed " ya know I think I've a cold coming on and nobody's bothering " I didn't know where to look! He wanted to cancel a meeting with a pal... couldn't as I was " blue lighted away to hospital" ( I was actually having coffee with his pal's wife so you can imagine how that went down) Then as you say they want attention no matter how busy you are..fabricate an emergency and actually tell you they fabricated it as though it were a flaming badge of honour! Jeezo eh!
After a week from breakup, my ex texted me, telling me she was in a car accident where "no one got hurt, but she lost control of the car, and doesn't know what to do." I told her "I'm glad you're OK and no one is hurt. Call your insurance company, and call a tow truck if the car isn't drivable, and call a family member if you need help." As it would turn out, she was 10 minutes away from my house (lives an hour away), then texted me again saying "just call me please," followed by a "just give me another chance." I started to wonder if she produced a lie just to get me to come "save her".
From my experience, there are nothing in their calls actually except tantrum, blaming, shaming, passive attack, gash lighting and many more. It’s disgusting 🤮🤮🤮
That is why I avoid calling them or answering their calls like plague! You can also play on a trick on them - pretend you're talking to someone and say something like " Well done! I will be with you straightaway" and then rush the conversation and finish it fast. Or something more imaginative just to irritate them😂
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Holy crap. I thought I was getting better… then I woke up re experiencing finding out I was being cheated on the whole entire relationship. I’m so mad I’m shaking
You are not alone They think they can pull the wool over your eyes or your not smart enough to catch on what they are up to but sooner or later we figure them out Then it's bye byey narc
I’m so sorry you guys experienced this too. You deserve so much better than that. Cheating is not ok… ever. Good riddance. I’ll take this temporary pain over tears and false promises any day. But man it hurts.
Another annoying tactic they use is always starting in the middle of a "story". Using names of people you've never heard of. Telling the end of a story without a beginning. When you ask for clarity, you get treated like an idiot who can't comprehend the simplest things. They do this deliberately for exactly that purpose: constantly setting up their victims for further abuse, gaslighting, and crazy-making.
Oh yes I remember that feeling How dare you question their story Your not listening to me Didn't I just tell you Go off and sulk to the room or off in the car and leave you alone When you ask where have they been to be told none of your business
My former Husband who I help look after tells me part of a story over the phone. He then treats me as if I can't follow a simple story when I've never heard of some of the people he's mentioned. Then he reckons he just has a bad habit of leaving key parts of a story out. It's very frustrating and annoying.
My blood was boiling watching this. It's a true eye-opener, especially the part about not reading the entire text but only look for things to use against you. I think I've had an experience like that recently.
Texted;I love you He texted back; I love me too! This was so true,but at that time I didn't know, I was confused,thought he made an error! Thank God it ended!
Mine did this often or I would say - I love you. I miss you. I wish you were here and his response would be - happy to hear it! 😮 I’m so glad I’m finally over him and able to discuss things without anger or hurt! Yes I still think about things - him - the us that never really existed but I thank Yeshua for helping me through this healing giving me strength and courage to let go and move forward I pray all beautiful things for you!
I blocked my narcissist father for a while, then thought it was my mom so I started talking to him again briefly. He texted with this weird air of self-pity and I picked up right away he was parentifying me because he was always showing off what he was doing, going on vacations, visiting relatives, doing things with the kids, etc, and when I told him about my life, he literally said “lol, I have no response.” Really, dad? No response for your oldest son telling you about his affairs in life? I thought he was just being an awkward old guy in his 50s who didn’t know text lingo, but looking back he was actually trying to make me jealous and when I excitedly shared about my life, had 0 hesitation to dismiss me completely. Don’t let their “poor me” demeanor fool you! If they make you feel like you are less valuable, cut them out!
@@JCTBomb Forget about him. He is not worth it. Why cry for someone who is not worth a penny and who doesn't care about you? Set up to enjoy your life ☺
@@user-q992 that’s a good point my friend, and you know, it has been worth every tear because every time I cry, I get over him and the father he never was to me a little more. Thanks for your support 💙
Don’t forget this one 🙄 This one comes when you overreact from their little mind games and then apologize, Oh how bout 🙋🏻 This one comes whenever they are bored! “Good morning” texts everyday have become a red flag for me as well. It’s almost as if they want to be in your head first thing every morning to steal your day! You know, I have actually stopped using emojis in my texting because of this batten nonesense and I’m about to take the whole keyboard off my phone!
Im.sorry. I just this minute deleted someone, and I'm done. I also have a half sister I found that was so cold I dropped her too. I'm down to 1 friend 200 miles away and my husband.
Send her long detailed descriptions about your latest bowel movement. I've been doing that in person. It works. Cracks me up. I just look at her and say we're just talking about shit" HAHAHA I love to frustrate her.
My narc spouse never texted me back until his break when he was at work, but he texted his married adultery partner 60+ times a day while delivering mail. Then he told me I was just jealous. It's so deranged that it's almost funny.
I’m having that problem with mine. Sumter a new job never calls or text anymore but watches porn with co workers and does Gods knows what else while on the clock
Texting has become the best friend of narcs. I am a single adult woman who refuses to monitor your phone, your texts, or email, etc. Too many liars, cheaters, scammers. Your text will mostly be criticized as too long, too short, ignored, receive no response, misconstrued, used by cowards to cancel meetings at the last second, or straight out lie bcs you cant see their face or hear their voice. I pay no attention to emojis unless you are under 12 yrs old. Texting encourages inability to use proper grammar, spelling, punctuation or i telligent conversational skills.
My sister puts me in group texts for news that has NOTHING to do with me!! I don't know how to make it end. he says I need to learn how to work my phone. I say" I KNOW HOW TO BLOCK YOU!! This happens repeatedly.
She's also mad cause I don't take the phone with me while doing errands. I don't answer while driving, and I won't answer while grocery shopping. I AM INCOMMUNICADO for an hour or so!! SHe says I should take phone anyway so I can check it. SMH
Other text uses: - Start a conversation with “good morning”, then, no more messages - Ignore your questions, answer with other question not related - answer with “????”, making you ask for more - Answer with simple words, measuring you interest to keep the conversation
I don't know if it is part of it. My Narcissist would text me a lot during my working hours and I would try to answer but of course, I was also working and this would cause a lot of stress, I would lose concentration and by the moment the conversation was over. I was the bad guy.
I can't believe I have been experiencing this type of behavior from men who claim to like me or care about me a lot. It got to the point that when I looked at my cellphone, I would suddenly become very anxious, and now I know why. I had deep abandonment wounds from my son's father who brutal discarded me like a piece of trash and would ghost me for weeks and months at a time with no explanation. Recently I went very low contact until I can safely go no contact with a guy that exhibits covert narcissistic behavior. He was supposed to take me out on a date when I noticed it was running late I called, and my call was sent to voicemail again and again for hours. After staying awake all night and calling every hour because I thought something happened to him he answered and accused me of standing him up. That's why these days I just want to be alone after all that I have been through. Thank you sooooo much for discussing this! 🙏
He may not be a narc, just think that if the date was important, you’d be on time. I’m the same way but didn’t understand this about myself when I was young. Some say he could have abandonment issues, but maybe not.
Omg I get the “respond almost immediately” and if I don’t it’s “are you there?” If I say I’m in the middle of something they keep texting. And the use of emojis! Yes! Ugh also, she always always HAS to have the last word. If I text something back, she will HAVE to text me something. She will continue this until I stop texting back to make sure she has the last word. So frustrating!
Nothingthem! After you block them, don’t get the message and behave or stop calling. It works over here. My phone gets blocked sometimes three months at a time.
my used to tell me he couldnt answer because he was working. Yet he would answer anyone else at anytime. also he would say he couldnt use the phone he was driving, yet ive seen him driving and using his phone all the time.
My main experience texting a narcissist is lack of response. If they want you to do something or need a response they will spam you with calls or messages 😂 their responses are almost always limited or one word respones.
Cryptic messages with incomplete sentences, misspelled words and nonsensical language was my experience with a narcissistic until I was "allowed" to go no contact when I finally pushed back on the bullshit, my narcissist finally stopped calling to unload on me.
Thank you Danish for opening up over and over again about your horrible childhood and also thanks to all the other survivors who share their expiriences with narcs. You are truly helping me to understand what happened to me, I feel seen, understood and not so terrible lonely anymore and I really love the community here, you are making my life so much richer and better and I love you all ❤ Consentual hugs to everyone who wants and needs it right now, you are awesome my fellow survivors ❤❤❤
Yes instant reply in ordered , if you dont reply they delete them, rage when you finnaly repy or sarcasm/more rage reply etc etc etc,,, your message can take 4,6,8,10 hours to read or the next day ( I was busy) blah blah blah if at all, the solucion is dont message them unless critical, all 100% correct Danish❤
The best thing about a text is you can delete it without reading it an/or turn off your phone if they're really annoying. I do both because I've been in NO CONTACT mode for three years and my narc still tests me every few months. I refuse to let the devil back in my life.
I have come through all of this ‘communication’. The personal explanations from my heart. My result: ‘No, you’re wrong.’ At least a dozen times. Clarity comes crashing in intermittently when I watch and listen to you Danish. You have helped 🙏 and have experienced a slightly different abuse that I have. I know and understand. ❤
Mine sent me a text telling me our dogs were barking their heads off and had woken him up and i must come home to settle them. At the time i was sitting at home drinking a hot chocolate with my dogs peacefully at my feet. When i questioned him in the morning he said there were more important things to talk about.
Definitely true all the points mentioned & they love to use video calls also to either show their locations like they are doing great things or if they’re wanting attention they’ll call while laying in bed sick & exaggerated coughing or sniffing etc. & they make sure you see them sick, they never have limits to the games they play using the phone, it’s just another tool in their world to utilize to gaslight people.
My ex was violent, hurt the kids & kidnapped them. I wish I had your coparenting with a narcissist back then. I had to divorce and take sole custody in order to protect them. Been over 2 years since she disappeared with them for 8 months, I’ve had the kids all the time for 1 1/2 years now still struggling with the ptsd. But it weighs on my heart all the time that my kids are already hindered from losing their mom permanently, but also weighs on me for my ex because we trauma bonded (I didn’t realize that at the time) I was recovered from an abusive upbringing and I she was 30 years old still trapped at her parents farm where very extreme abuse went on. I tried to walk her through the healing, offered to get her professional help but she declined it. She screwed up big but I don’t judge her, I feel horrible for her. Love your videos, I’ve learned a lot from them. Always very organized and well explained using minimal words. Thank u for your content
Can i add another weird texting behaviour? A former 'friend' used to text me or leave comments on my social media posts saying something like "you know that what I say is always sincere and well-meaning." She honestly believed that she was sincere, but sadly for her, I didn't believe her. In fact, the truth was quite the opposite. She is an uncaring, insensitive person wanting control of me. She didn't get it.
He's always known that I control my phone! He gets all mad, I ignore him longer! Now that he's an annoying roommate, half the time I don't acknowledge he texted/called my phone.
@@geraldinebyrnes3298 it's my cat Houdini & my dog Ben, oh my adult son is there too! He makes sure the animals are ok, he moved back home to help ME out, I'm getting older. It's hard for me to let my kid help me, I'm trying to age with a bit of grace, but it's hard! I REALLY don't want to be a "mean" ole biddy 🤣
My former Husband who I help look after, texts using a public call box, so the person he's targeting can't call him, or text him back. He's an expert wordsmith, and he loves to send his poisonous letters, cards, emails and texts. Meanwhile he never tells people his address, he has no landline, mobile or Computer with an internet connection. He uses internet Cafe's. He loves to be elusive, strike someone with words, then he's gone, and they can't reply. He loves the power and control this gives him. Also, it gives him time while his victim cools down. He's such a coward.
Thank you so much. Bless people like you who could understand and deliver the pattern of these toxic people. Let's healing since we're not confused anymore. ❤❤❤
He cries i never call him. So i call him and he yells- im busy i dont have time to talk to you!! Then i stop calling him and he cries i never call him. He tells everyone i dont love him because i dont call him.
I have experienced that texting with my mother and a friend who when I told them I was busy they went - no, you are not. You never do anything of importance. Pick up when we call
Wow! Your videos have helped me so much!! I’ve experienced everything you say from a narcissist driving instructor I had 😫Since watching your videos, I’ve cancelled further lessons with him. He literally made the same excuse that his spouse was in the hospital when he didn’t come to pick me up for lessons and it’s become a trend with him. I’m really glad I came across your videos, saving me so much money.
If I ever said anything in reaction to my narcissist ex, he would immediately say that I was verbally abusive to him or that I was abusing him in some way when I was just trying to have normal conversation.
Emojis yes. Every emoji they use is to show that they are superior to you. I can remember friends who did that. A subtle insult/sarcasm with the wink emoji. And when you clap BACK. Its always the “ 🥱 you cant take a joke “
I’ve had number five happen to me, and i had a Narcissist also send me texts that were meant for another girl but he “accidentally “ sent it to me, the first time I was very shocked and hurt, but after the second, 3rd, 4th, 5th and probably up to the 10th time this happened approximately I realized this was a toxic pattern of behavior, I tried to ask him once why he was doing that and I couldn’t even get him to look me in the eyes, then he just said quietly, I don’t know, it was very odd.
I have experienced this. The narc will text me to see if am around but if I tried to have an actual conversation they would completely avoid me. The narc would act as if they are bored and say they aren’t in mood for a conversation. I am sure the narc sends a text just to get a reaction. The narc will also ignore you once you respond so they can make you feel on the edge. It’s draining and frustrating.
thank you for the video. very good observed, especially the emoji issue. they are not able to express emotions in words, because of, as i their lack of empathy. instead they are using emojis a lot - mostly in a way that doesn't fit correctly to the context. the emojis are most of the time a bit too much or not making really the point. and yes, even the "devil" emoji was used in a way of trying to be "funny" but actually it showes who she really was. emojis are a perfect example of their lack of emotional connection, understanding and punishment. it is just horrible.
I appreciated your explanation of how serious pain , life has changed and you have been treated with disrespect 💯 Friendship is fickle when a friend is needing love and support at the worst time of their lives I have been unlucky. Friendship left me Sent me their pictures of their lives in positive glee and joy . My family left me in their actions that became pushing me out.... My mother betrayed me by not including me in her will . I felt it was bad special treatment given to me and I was really a good person
They replied with *"hmm"* on text everytime an uncomfortable talk occurred showing Passive aggressiveness towards me, not addressing the root cause of issues, in order to END the convo.😂😅
What about texts that say, "are you thinking of me", are you gonna "attack" me tonight?", "are you missing me?" "Do you love me?" I get those all the time n never know how to respond besides anger inside
All of this is spot on! My soon to be ex. I absolutely hate texting or even talking to him. He talks the entire time 😩. And the text messages are just manipulation. And don’t even get me started on when they call back to back until you pick up “I just wanted to see how are doing” 🙄
Mine text me at work, I'm caregiver. He has called my mom freaking out, so afraid something happened to his sugar mommy. Totally on point. I'm killing with kindness. I get one response text back when I text them
So true m a doctor and my narcissistic partner whenever I am in emergency or doing 30 hrs duty he would just start arguing me over nothing would sometimes ask me to leave my job immediately just to give him tht attention and if I don't do this he would start saying tht you don't put me as your no 1 priority.This is so weird but dangerous at the same time!!Plus all other points are also true.
Listening to this totally triggers my anxiety despite being free from he narc for 4 years, I feel validation from hearing all of this as I always felt like the crazy person. Always asking myself am I wrong....am I the narc?
You are point on! Thanks for putting it into words. And that texting habits really made me feel that I am the one who is loosing it. Thanks for explaining it, so now I am sure it wasn't just 'my imagination or my hypersensitivity', like he told me. No, it was exactly like I experienced it.
My narcissistic , will ignore my texts till it suits her, then pretends she never received it, even though she keeps her phone up her nose. And if I mirror her & don’t answer her in a timely manner, she starts calling/texting the whole family in a drama scene saying something has happened to me! 🤦🏻♀️
Dude! That explains everything damn. 😢To begin with, This body is autistic and got osdd from cptsd from multiple narc relationships. Well the last guy went "I only hear from HER alone", "you took the person I live for away", "SHE's always about love but YOU are only seeing PURE BENEFITS" and straight up refused to have any conversation unless I act like a self destructive people pleaser. i couldn't even do my own thesis and had to quit uni to stay in hospital for severe mental impairment. He was extremely obsessed with the chat strike on the app we chat thus demanded me to unblock him just to keep that strike going＼(;´□｀)/
Wow I once ignored my ex and told him I was blocking hom on social media and not answering his calls. Ambulance turns up at my door. " your partner rang 999 to say you must be un
Unconscious!"..err no I was fine. They rang police who went to his flat...he said quite emphatically, well as shd wasn't answering her phone to me, something must of been seriously wrong with her!" The gall ...he truly believed himself that important!
The deletion of chat was true.. They did it to me last week after he ignored me for weeks. But the difference is I didn’t fall for it and just ignored it. One thing that is consistent in their behavior, they always got negative comments and rants. It always about them… stay away from them.. do not absorb the negativity.
I would share news with my mother (completed masters degree, for example) and she would act like I said nothing and turn it into a conversation about herself. No matter how many times I tried, she would immediately turn it around to herself. I don’t know how I survived her. But it was survive, not thrive.
Yes I have regularly experienced all of these things! The other thing that happens each time I ask for an explanation or I have a question is he texts an answer, but messes up the spelling of the words so it answers my question but doesn't tell me anything like "I am going to be late home because of qrsggiv." he doesn't answer at all if I tell him that doesn't make sense or say anything to correct it. If I question him later he just laughs it off saying that he made a mistake, and why am I getting defensive??
Had a narcissist always get upset when I didn't answer her texts and calls immediately. She even talked to a doctor we shared at the time about how worried she was about me because I slept during the day. She knew my health issues and yet accused me of being lazy.
Most of these conversations in the comments talk about "My" narc or "Mine does this" , these people are not "Yours" at all. In fact no one belongs to you. Words matter. Calling them Yours is like owning them. Owning a NARCISSIST should not be part of your life.
It’s all cool with me, I’ve written that before. It’s better than “my” yes “my” what do you call your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend “ the husband/ wife”? Well we are all not objects?. Plus, some texts have word limits. So, instead of saying “my ex husband, fully divorced, fuck head, evil parasite due to predominantly narcissism mixed with goof…”. It’s easier, and everyone gets it who is reading to just state “my narc ex, dad, boss, corporation….” Lighten up, and quite looking for something that isn’t really there. Have a good afternoon.☀️🌈
I can't speak for everyone, but in my opinion, when people say "my" it's simply an abbreviated way of saying "the narcissist in my life", not an expression of ownership.
The phone company literally shut his phone off. Said he was using it as a monitoring device. But honestly me as a trauma bond survivor was calling constantly
yes i was with a man who got mad if i didnt answer him immediately. he ended up cheating on me, but made it look like i was the one cheating. ugh. i was with at least 3 or 4 narcs in the past. i finally found a great guy and was so surprised at how a real man should treat a woman.
Is it better to block or ignore the narcissist? We are no longer in a relationship, but the phone calls (not answered) and texting (I don't respond) continue.
They share news and articles about people who have succeeded in academics, about job openings and postings, about achievements of people in specific fields to make you feel insecure and random achievements of some organisations related to you conveying that it's coming to you through them
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Plus they ignore your texts after they start ( create) chaos. Or only reply to any unimportant trivia but ignore any important questions. They live to create instability. They hate peace.
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OMG exactly!
they also text you first and even when you reply almost instantly they stop replying to you and start doing something else. And when you confront them about this behavior they reply saying "I didn't know we were actually talking"
@@kashishdholpuria4200 Absolute psychos.
Truly I believe they thrive in chaos! Late hubbie used to concoct dramas at work, upset the apple cart of hos own doing, then " solve" the drama and stormed about like a stroppy teen, when his bosses didn't praise him! They saw right through him, but he never could see that. Yup was only truly happy in chaos cause then everybody else was as miserable, stressed and as unhappy as him!
I once was head over heels for a guy; one day after months I realized he never once asked me, “how are you doing”. Not a single time. It was always about him
Same. It's hurtful
My wife hasn’t asked me how I’m doing or how my day is going once in 17 years of marriage.
"I see that you're trying to do something important, so I manufactured an emergency to get your attention"
^ this ^
100% saw this too! When son was really ill in hospital and getting attention, he coughed " ya know I think I've a cold coming on and nobody's bothering " I didn't know where to look! He wanted to cancel a meeting with a pal... couldn't as I was " blue lighted away to hospital" ( I was actually having coffee with his pal's wife so you can imagine how that went down) Then as you say they want attention no matter how busy you are..fabricate an emergency and actually tell you they fabricated it as though it were a flaming badge of honour! Jeezo eh!
After a week from breakup, my ex texted me, telling me she was in a car accident where "no one got hurt, but she lost control of the car, and doesn't know what to do." I told her "I'm glad you're OK and no one is hurt. Call your insurance company, and call a tow truck if the car isn't drivable, and call a family member if you need help." As it would turn out, she was 10 minutes away from my house (lives an hour away), then texted me again saying "just call me please," followed by a "just give me another chance." I started to wonder if she produced a lie just to get me to come "save her".
This is why I barely answer phones.
From my experience, there are nothing in their calls actually except tantrum, blaming, shaming, passive attack, gash lighting and many more. It’s disgusting 🤮🤮🤮
So true 👍
That is why I avoid calling them or answering their calls like plague!
You can also play on a trick on them - pretend you're talking to someone and say something like " Well done! I will be with you straightaway" and then rush the conversation and finish it fast. Or something more imaginative just to irritate them😂
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You missed the big one. Information collecting. Asking all the questions that they will build their twisted story to start a new attack.
my narc ex used to love having her gash lighted
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Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
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Holy crap. I thought I was getting better… then I woke up re experiencing finding out I was being cheated on the whole entire relationship. I’m so mad I’m shaking
You are not alone They think they can pull the wool over your eyes or your not smart enough to catch on what they are up to but sooner or later we figure them out Then it's bye byey narc
Mine cheated on me our whole relationship as well
Sweetie, I think we all did!! They are known for living double lives!! And having multiple partners!!🙄🙄 THEY ARE DISGUSTING SERIAL CHEATERS!!
Same here.
I realised it after the final discard.
Throughout the relationship, 9 months😢
I’m so sorry you guys experienced this too. You deserve so much better than that. Cheating is not ok… ever. Good riddance. I’ll take this temporary pain over tears and false promises any day. But man it hurts.
Another annoying tactic they use is always starting in the middle of a "story". Using names of people you've never heard of. Telling the end of a story without a beginning. When you ask for clarity, you get treated like an idiot who can't comprehend the simplest things. They do this deliberately for exactly that purpose: constantly setting up their victims for further abuse, gaslighting, and crazy-making.
Yep, 100%
You wind up being ‘stupid’ and they are on top. In more ways than one…
They are profusive liers and delusional
Oh yes I remember that feeling How dare you question their story Your not listening to me Didn't I just tell you Go off and sulk to the room or off in the car and leave you alone When you ask where have they been to be told none of your business
My former Husband who I help look after tells me part of a story over the phone. He then treats me as if I can't follow a simple story when I've never heard of some of the people he's mentioned. Then he reckons he just has a bad habit of leaving key parts of a story out. It's very frustrating and annoying.
My blood was boiling watching this. It's a true eye-opener, especially the part about not reading the entire text but only look for things to use against you. I think I've had an experience like that recently.
Texted;I love you
He texted back; I love me too!
This was so true,but at that time I didn't know, I was confused,thought he made an error! Thank God it ended!
Mine did this often or I would say - I love you. I miss you. I wish you were here and his response would be - happy to hear it! 😮
I’m so glad I’m finally over him and able to discuss things without anger or hurt! Yes I still think about things - him - the us that never really existed but I thank Yeshua for helping me through this healing giving me strength and courage to let go and move forward
I pray all beautiful things for you!
I blocked my narcissist father for a while, then thought it was my mom so I started talking to him again briefly. He texted with this weird air of self-pity and I picked up right away he was parentifying me because he was always showing off what he was doing, going on vacations, visiting relatives, doing things with the kids, etc, and when I told him about my life, he literally said “lol, I have no response.”
Really, dad? No response for your oldest son telling you about his affairs in life?
I thought he was just being an awkward old guy in his 50s who didn’t know text lingo, but looking back he was actually trying to make me jealous and when I excitedly shared about my life, had 0 hesitation to dismiss me completely.
Don’t let their “poor me” demeanor fool you! If they make you feel like you are less valuable, cut them out!
That's awful. Sounds like my dad, You are soooooooo much better than he is, and he knows it.
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Fucking hurts knowing he doesn’t care about me, makes me cry 😭💔
@@JCTBomb Forget about him. He is not worth it. Why cry for someone who is not worth a penny and who doesn't care about you? Set up to enjoy your life ☺
@@user-q992 that’s a good point my friend, and you know, it has been worth every tear because every time I cry, I get over him and the father he never was to me a little more.
Thanks for your support 💙
Don’t forget this one 🙄
This one comes when you overreact from their little mind games and then apologize,
Oh how bout 🙋🏻
This one comes whenever they are bored!
“Good morning” texts everyday have become a red flag for me as well. It’s almost as if they want to be in your head first thing every morning to steal your day!
You know, I have actually stopped using emojis in my texting because of this batten nonesense and I’m about to take the whole keyboard off my phone!
Sister would send long texts about her health issues but when i mention mine,she wants to get off the phone
Im.sorry. I just this minute deleted someone, and I'm done. I also have a half sister I found that was so cold I dropped her too. I'm down to 1 friend 200 miles away and my husband.
Send her long detailed descriptions about your latest bowel movement. I've been doing that in person. It works. Cracks me up. I just look at her and say
we're just talking about shit" HAHAHA I love to frustrate her.
My ex malignant narcissistic possesed with evil spirits did that to me. I blocked him! 😅
Love you, Danish! You are amazing ❤
My narc spouse never texted me back until his break when he was at work, but he texted his married adultery partner 60+ times a day while delivering mail. Then he told me I was just jealous. It's so deranged that it's almost funny.
Mine gave himself away by texting a lot. Then would laugh at things said. When I asked what he was laughing at he would clam up.
Yep. Same here. I knew he would drop everything for her, but if I needed something or had a question about something, I was " bothering him at work"
I’m having that problem with mine. Sumter a new job never calls or text anymore but watches porn with co workers and does Gods knows what else while on the clock
Dillysional justification do you have evidence I was told specific times and when to call asked like puplit 😊
@@Goexitfnaway What you said is illegible. What were you saying?
Texting has become the best friend of narcs. I am a single adult woman who refuses to monitor your phone, your texts, or email, etc. Too many liars, cheaters, scammers. Your text will mostly be criticized as too long, too short, ignored, receive no response, misconstrued, used by cowards to cancel meetings at the last second, or straight out lie bcs you cant see their face or hear their voice. I pay no attention to emojis unless you are under 12 yrs old. Texting encourages inability to use proper grammar, spelling, punctuation or i telligent conversational skills.
YES I AGREE WITH THIS STATEMENT SOOOO MUCH MY GOD YOU GOT ALL RIGHT!!!!
Trueee. It happened to me.
My sister puts me in group texts for news that has NOTHING to do with me!! I don't know how to make it end. he says I need to learn how to work my phone. I say" I KNOW HOW TO BLOCK YOU!! This happens repeatedly.
She's also mad cause I don't take the phone with me while doing errands. I don't answer while driving, and I won't answer while grocery shopping. I AM INCOMMUNICADO for an hour or so!! SHe says I should take phone anyway so I can check it. SMH
Absolutely correct 💯!!!!
Other text uses:
- Start a conversation with “good morning”, then, no more messages
- Ignore your questions, answer with other question not related
- answer with “????”, making you ask for more
- Answer with simple words, measuring you interest to keep the conversation
This is exactly why I don't text. It's just a game for most people.
I've experienced each one of these personally and it breaks my heart every time I think of it. No one deserves to be treated so poorly.
I don't know if it is part of it. My Narcissist would text me a lot during my working hours and I would try to answer but of course, I was also working and this would cause a lot of stress, I would lose concentration and by the moment the conversation was over. I was the bad guy.
I can't believe I have been experiencing this type of behavior from men who claim to like me or care about me a lot. It got to the point that when I looked at my cellphone, I would suddenly become very anxious, and now I know why. I had deep abandonment wounds from my son's father who brutal discarded me like a piece of trash and would ghost me for weeks and months at a time with no explanation. Recently I went very low contact until I can safely go no contact with a guy that exhibits covert narcissistic behavior. He was supposed to take me out on a date when I noticed it was running late I called, and my call was sent to voicemail again and again for hours. After staying awake all night and calling every hour because I thought something happened to him he answered and accused me of standing him up. That's why these days I just want to be alone after all that I have been through. Thank you sooooo much for discussing this! 🙏
He may not be a narc, just think that if the date was important, you’d be on time. I’m the same way but didn’t understand this about myself when I was young. Some say he could have abandonment issues, but maybe not.
@@ygtbrI think you need to check yourself. The man she mentioned is clearly showing signs of narc behavior.
Omg I get the “respond almost immediately” and if I don’t it’s “are you there?” If I say I’m in the middle of something they keep texting. And the use of emojis! Yes! Ugh also, she always always HAS to have the last word. If I text something back, she will HAVE to text me something. She will continue this until I stop texting back to make sure she has the last word. So frustrating!
Nothingthem! After you block them, don’t get the message and behave or stop calling. It works over here. My phone gets blocked sometimes three months at a time.
Oh they LOVE emojis
my used to tell me he couldnt answer because he was working. Yet he would answer anyone else at anytime. also he would say he couldnt use the phone he was driving, yet ive seen him driving and using his phone all the time.
I really liked the cat meaowing at " they need your attention rigth now." 6:07 time index.😊
My main experience texting a narcissist is lack of response. If they want you to do something or need a response they will spam you with calls or messages 😂 their responses are almost always limited or one word respones.
And #6: they will erase the text history with their new supply, just in case...
🤦🏽♀️
One I dealt with did just that.
Cryptic messages with incomplete sentences, misspelled words and nonsensical language was my experience with a narcissistic until I was "allowed" to go no contact when I finally pushed back on the bullshit, my narcissist finally stopped calling to unload on me.
Thank you Danish for opening up over and over again about your horrible childhood and also thanks to all the other survivors who share their expiriences with narcs. You are truly helping me to understand what happened to me, I feel seen, understood and not so terrible lonely anymore and I really love the community here, you are making my life so much richer and better and I love you all ❤
Consentual hugs to everyone who wants and needs it right now, you are awesome my fellow survivors ❤❤❤
I just remembered the innumerable emojis.
I always found them so creepy.All of them!
Chilly feeling...I hesitated to open my messages.
If someone posts alot of emojis instead of expressing emotions it triggers my narc sense.
Yes instant reply in ordered , if you dont reply they delete them, rage when you finnaly repy or sarcasm/more rage reply etc etc etc,,, your message can take 4,6,8,10 hours to read or the next day ( I was busy) blah blah blah if at all, the solucion is dont message them unless critical, all 100% correct Danish❤
The best thing about a text is you can delete it without reading it an/or turn off your phone if they're really annoying. I do both because I've been in NO CONTACT mode for three years and my narc still tests me every few months. I refuse to let the devil back in my life.
Or there's a block facility! LOL
Yes, block them on phone & text their texts & calls stay in limbo unseen unanswered
Mine would get a new number or use someone's phone, at least 10 new numbers..
That's why I never answer numbers I don't recognize.
I have come through all of this ‘communication’. The personal explanations from my heart. My result: ‘No, you’re wrong.’ At least a dozen times. Clarity comes crashing in intermittently when I watch and listen to you Danish. You have helped 🙏 and have experienced a slightly different abuse that I have. I know and understand. ❤
This is SO validating. Thank you 🙏🏻
i intentionally made you angry because i wanted to talk
Mine sent me a text telling me our dogs were barking their heads off and had woken him up and i must come home to settle them. At the time i was sitting at home drinking a hot chocolate with my dogs peacefully at my feet. When i questioned him in the morning he said there were more important things to talk about.
I had similar...and same response too...when I challenged...I was pathetic bringing up stupid things! Boy my eyes opened then! Weird eh
WTF? I can’t even wrap my head around that.
Definitely true all the points mentioned & they love to use video calls also to either show their locations like they are doing great things or if they’re wanting attention they’ll call while laying in bed sick & exaggerated coughing or sniffing etc. & they make sure you see them sick, they never have limits to the games they play using the phone, it’s just another tool in their world to utilize to gaslight people.
My ex was violent, hurt the kids & kidnapped them. I wish I had your coparenting with a narcissist back then. I had to divorce and take sole custody in order to protect them. Been over 2 years since she disappeared with them for 8 months, I’ve had the kids all the time for 1 1/2 years now still struggling with the ptsd. But it weighs on my heart all the time that my kids are already hindered from losing their mom permanently, but also weighs on me for my ex because we trauma bonded (I didn’t realize that at the time) I was recovered from an abusive upbringing and I she was 30 years old still trapped at her parents farm where very extreme abuse went on. I tried to walk her through the healing, offered to get her professional help but she declined it. She screwed up big but I don’t judge her, I feel horrible for her. Love your videos, I’ve learned a lot from them. Always very organized and well explained using minimal words. Thank u for your content
Damn bro that's heavy, Unfortunately the chances of helping heal someone are very slim...
Yes!! They can’t be bothered reading and in my experience the narcissist I was with always communicated with emojis! I used to find it juvenile.
❤always bringing the nuggets of gold, Danish!
Can i add another weird texting behaviour?
A former 'friend' used to text me or leave comments on my social media posts saying something like "you know that what I say is always sincere and well-meaning." She honestly believed that she was sincere, but sadly for her, I didn't believe her. In fact, the truth was quite the opposite. She is an uncaring, insensitive person wanting control of me. She didn't get it.
From my experiences, those are called convincing statements that the narc must convince you to believe.
He's always known that I control my phone! He gets all mad, I ignore him longer! Now that he's an annoying roommate, half the time I don't acknowledge he texted/called my phone.
Don't be in a hurry to get back to them
@@geraldinebyrnes3298 it's my cat Houdini & my dog Ben, oh my adult son is there too! He makes sure the animals are ok, he moved back home to help ME out, I'm getting older. It's hard for me to let my kid help me, I'm trying to age with a bit of grace, but it's hard! I REALLY don't want to be a "mean" ole biddy 🤣
My former Husband who I help look after, texts using a public call box, so the person he's targeting can't call him, or text him back. He's an expert wordsmith, and he loves to send his poisonous letters, cards, emails and texts. Meanwhile he never tells people his address, he has no landline, mobile or Computer with an internet connection. He uses internet Cafe's. He loves to be elusive, strike someone with words, then he's gone, and they can't reply. He loves the power and control this gives him. Also, it gives him time while his victim cools down. He's such a coward.
Girlfriend...Stop looking after your ex. He's using you. You're worth more than that. Get help. ❤
You're enabling him...
Yeah…why are You helping him? And if it’s about $$ he’s not Your former husband. Maybe on paper, sounds like not in real life.
Thank you so much. Bless people like you who could understand and deliver the pattern of these toxic people.
Let's healing since we're not confused anymore. ❤❤❤
Thanks Danish for helping to recognise their patterns 🙏
He cries i never call him. So i call him and he yells- im busy i dont have time to talk to you!! Then i stop calling him and he cries i never call him. He tells everyone i dont love him because i dont call him.
Like a stupid child😂
It wont ever stop, they also get more "skilled" with age.. Give up, move on. Wishing you a happy peaceful future.
I have experienced that texting with my mother and a friend who when I told them I was busy they went - no, you are not. You never do anything of importance. Pick up when we call
Wow! Your videos have helped me so much!! I’ve experienced everything you say from a narcissist driving instructor I had 😫Since watching your videos, I’ve cancelled further lessons with him. He literally made the same excuse that his spouse was in the hospital when he didn’t come to pick me up for lessons and it’s become a trend with him. I’m really glad I came across your videos, saving me so much money.
My narcisist brother is always on his phone chatting with someone, he gets angry after chatting and becomes somewhat violent or sleepy
Appreciate your input Danish 💙❤️ very helpful for healing 😊❤️💙
This guy knows what he’s talking about. He’s a TRUE EXPERT. He leads me to the light every single video. Thank you 🙏
If I ever said anything in reaction to my narcissist ex, he would immediately say that I was verbally abusive to him or that I was abusing him in some way when I was just trying to have normal conversation.
Every thing you have mentioned is absolutely right. I am experiencing all of this.
Emojis yes. Every emoji they use is to show that they are superior to you. I can remember friends who did that. A subtle insult/sarcasm with the wink emoji. And when you clap BACK. Its always the “ 🥱 you cant take a joke “
I’ve had number five happen to me, and i had a Narcissist also send me texts that were meant for another girl but he “accidentally “ sent it to me, the first time I was very shocked and hurt, but after the second, 3rd, 4th, 5th and probably up to the 10th time this happened approximately I realized this was a toxic pattern of behavior, I tried to ask him once why he was doing that and I couldn’t even get him to look me in the eyes, then he just said quietly, I don’t know, it was very odd.
This is triangulation technique, they want to créate a challenge to get them, if you don’t react, other (ficcional o real) will do it.
My "newly x-narc is a 3 P's,porn,phone,pot!" Are his addictions!
Mine too😢
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Same.
Wait..is his name Rob??
Yes! This is literally all narcs!!!!!
Wow I’ve never felt so heard or validated
Perfect description 👍🏻
I have experienced this. The narc will text me to see if am around but if I tried to have an actual conversation they would completely avoid me.
The narc would act as if they are bored and say they aren’t in mood for a conversation. I am sure the narc sends a text just to get a reaction. The narc will also ignore you once you respond so they can make you feel on the edge. It’s draining and frustrating.
thank you for the video. very good observed, especially the emoji issue. they are not able to express emotions in words, because of, as i their lack of empathy. instead they are using emojis a lot - mostly in a way that doesn't fit correctly to the context. the emojis are most of the time a bit too much or not making really the point. and yes, even the "devil" emoji was used in a way of trying to be "funny" but actually it showes who she really was. emojis are a perfect example of their lack of emotional connection, understanding and punishment. it is just horrible.
So true! Spot on correct! Im so glad i left. Thank God.
Yes, you were right, when you are most busy with something important, they will beg for your attention for some insignificant issue
Amazing. Thank you. You perfectly described his way of communication and treatment via SMS.
When I thought I heard it all....this is so spot on my ex-narc relationship. He would do this weird texting to everyone 🤯
He does that to me but when I do it back it's all me. Trauma bond
Great informative video. 👍
Thank you for explaining that I’m reacting as the reaction of the abuse
I appreciated your explanation of how serious pain , life has changed and you have been treated with disrespect 💯
Friendship is fickle
when a friend is needing love and support at the worst time of their lives
I have been unlucky.
Friendship left me
Sent me their pictures of their lives in positive glee and joy .
My family left me in their actions that became pushing me out....
My mother betrayed me by not including me in her will .
I felt it was bad special treatment given to me and I was really a good person
You are spot on with your videos ....I so appreciate all the info. Thx keep them coming.
Why addicted to narcissistic videos? It’s been three weeks im watching these videos
Thank you for teaching and telling the truth
Bingo. This has happened to me. Burdensome texts and name calling, gossiping and boring details. It's my life and my time. ❤
They replied with *"hmm"* on text everytime an uncomfortable talk occurred showing Passive aggressiveness towards me, not addressing the root cause of issues, in order to END the convo.😂😅
You are helping a lot of people. God bless you ❤
Very clear explanation 🎉
What about texts that say, "are you thinking of me", are you gonna "attack" me tonight?", "are you missing me?" "Do you love me?"
I get those all the time n never know how to respond besides anger inside
All of this is spot on! My soon to be ex. I absolutely hate texting or even talking to him. He talks the entire time 😩. And the text messages are just manipulation. And don’t even get me started on when they call back to back until you pick up “I just wanted to see how are doing” 🙄
This is so eye opening! Thank you
Mine text me at work, I'm caregiver. He has called my mom freaking out, so afraid something happened to his sugar mommy. Totally on point. I'm killing with kindness. I get one response text back when I text them
Oh mylanta.... GAP also possess these preemo text skills
* why i kept my volume down, phone on silent. Such bizzare behaviors......
So glad I found your videos,wow❤
So true m a doctor and my narcissistic partner whenever I am in emergency or doing 30 hrs duty he would just start arguing me over nothing would sometimes ask me to leave my job immediately just to give him tht attention and if I don't do this he would start saying tht you don't put me as your no 1 priority.This is so weird but dangerous at the same time!!Plus all other points are also true.
Listening to this totally triggers my anxiety despite being free from he narc for 4 years, I feel validation from hearing all of this as I always felt like the crazy person. Always asking myself am I wrong....am I the narc?
You are point on! Thanks for putting it into words. And that texting habits really made me feel that I am the one who is loosing it. Thanks for explaining it, so now I am sure it wasn't just 'my imagination or my hypersensitivity', like he told me. No, it was exactly like I experienced it.
Totally on the emojis. I have evidence. Lol
sending important information by text when text have proven to be unreliable (arriving delayed)
Great video. Many Blessings to you
I discarded him after he sent me this :"🤣" after I asked him a serious question
My narcissistic , will ignore my texts till it suits her, then pretends she never received it, even though she keeps her phone up her nose.
And if I mirror her & don’t answer her in a timely manner, she starts calling/texting the whole family in a drama scene saying something has happened to me! 🤦🏻♀️
Dude! That explains everything damn.
😢To begin with, This body is autistic and got osdd from cptsd from multiple narc relationships. Well the last guy went "I only hear from HER alone", "you took the person I live for away", "SHE's always about love but YOU are only seeing PURE BENEFITS" and straight up refused to have any conversation unless I act like a self destructive people pleaser. i couldn't even do my own thesis and had to quit uni to stay in hospital for severe mental impairment.
He was extremely obsessed with the chat strike on the app we chat thus demanded me to unblock him just to keep that strike going＼(;´□｀)/
This has happened to me before as well, it was a nightmare!
Wow I once ignored my ex and told him I was blocking hom on social media and not answering his calls. Ambulance turns up at my door. " your partner rang 999 to say you must be un
Unconscious!"..err no I was fine. They rang police who went to his flat...he said quite emphatically, well as shd wasn't answering her phone to me, something must of been seriously wrong with her!" The gall ...he truly believed himself that important!
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🤣....🤦🏻♀️
The deletion of chat was true.. They did it to me last week after he ignored me for weeks. But the difference is I didn’t fall for it and just ignored it.
One thing that is consistent in their behavior, they always got negative comments and rants. It always about them… stay away from them.. do not absorb the negativity.
I would share news with my mother (completed masters degree, for example) and she would act like I said nothing and turn it into a conversation about herself. No matter how many times I tried, she would immediately turn it around to herself. I don’t know how I survived her. But it was survive, not thrive.
I have just walked away from one, exact things happened as you said, they are really psychos
Yes I have regularly experienced all of these things!
The other thing that happens each time I ask for an explanation or I have a question is
he texts an answer, but messes up the spelling of the words so it answers my question but doesn't tell me anything like
"I am going to be late home because of qrsggiv."
he doesn't answer at all if I tell him that doesn't make sense or say anything to correct it. If I question him later he just laughs it off saying that he made a mistake, and why am I getting defensive??
Had a narcissist always get upset when I didn't answer her texts and calls immediately. She even talked to a doctor we shared at the time about how worried she was about me because I slept during the day. She knew my health issues and yet accused me of being lazy.
Most of these conversations in the comments talk about "My" narc or "Mine does this" , these people are not "Yours" at all. In fact no one belongs to you. Words matter. Calling them Yours is like owning them. Owning a NARCISSIST should not be part of your life.
It’s all cool with me, I’ve written that before. It’s better than “my” yes “my” what do you call your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend “ the husband/ wife”? Well we are all not objects?. Plus, some texts have word limits. So, instead of saying “my ex husband, fully divorced, fuck head, evil parasite due to predominantly narcissism mixed with goof…”. It’s easier, and everyone gets it who is reading to just state “my narc ex, dad, boss, corporation….” Lighten up, and quite looking for something that isn’t really there. Have a good afternoon.☀️🌈
I can't speak for everyone, but in my opinion, when people say "my" it's simply an abbreviated way of saying "the narcissist in my life", not an expression of ownership.
Right. I’ve been wanting to say the exact same thing but didn’t know how. People need to word it as “the narc”.
It's there, we all read it and just '' accept it" .@@Isimplywenttoschool
Well then "my Narc wife" never liked to be called " my wife" MY partner or "my" anything thing it was part of her BS hate tactics.@@nancystewart2686
The phone company literally shut his phone off. Said he was using it as a monitoring device. But honestly me as a trauma bond survivor was calling constantly
yes i was with a man who got mad if i didnt answer him immediately. he ended up cheating on me, but made it look like i was the one cheating. ugh. i was with at least 3 or 4 narcs in the past. i finally found a great guy and was so surprised at how a real man should treat a woman.
Is it better to block or ignore the narcissist? We are no longer in a relationship, but the phone calls (not answered) and texting (I don't respond) continue.
You’re always spot on.
They share news and articles about people who have succeeded in academics, about job openings and postings, about achievements of people in specific fields to make you feel insecure and random achievements of some organisations related to you conveying that it's coming to you through them
They’ll text you then ignore you. When they do finally text, it has nothing to do with what you were saying. Doesn’t make sense.