That's exactly her words. Lots of people are able to do that (what You've done). It was said bitterly. I just heard I'll dress like my last supply,! That was exactly how ignorant they think. That's it they want to see you miserable. That's exactly what she said. You said it twice. You don't know her but YET YOU DO!
I'm very sad and grieving my daughter is a narcissistic I had to cut all contact but iam missing my 9 year old grandson 😢can someone please tell me how to get through this?
I even questioned myself was I the Narc am I crazy am I asking for too much NO it was him all I ever asked for the basic needs a person needs in a relationship to be loved , cared, for given emotional attention , their time compassion support someone to rely on NEVER GOT NONE OF THAT..😢
They are not able to give you that. They can´t emotional attach with you (they have zero emotional empathy). They can give you lots of gifts but never love.
They KNOW you will question your reality...another reason why they do the 360 deal. Just to make sure their narrative that they painted sticks to the cockroach wall that they warned everyone about. It's a whore lifestyle.
I left 5 months ago. My covert narcissist husband nearly destroyed me. Im starting over. Was homeless. But now i have a small mobile home and peace. But i am still reeling from it. Trying to process it. My mom and my sister are narcissists as well. Life has been incredibly sad for me
Admiringgreyelephant.....how would you know as this information was not readily out there decades ago. Your words are powerful. You are stronger than you know 👍
#1) Sounded like my whole year of 2023. I finally got free of him in December 10th 2023. The police took him away in handcuffs. I always thought...if I can just prove he's cheating, he'll just leave. ( Please don't do that) He attacked me & choked me until I passed out. I didn't attack him, I was trying to run away. I didn't think he would do that.
Dr. Danish,This was so powerful. You speaking in 1st person as the narcissist really spoke to my heart. You are very gifted and you have the gift of healing. Thank you so much for this.
Hi Hahaha , ya know, I could hear his words in my head saying " why are you Not Destroyed " . I had to keep a straight face. I didn't feel anything but on guard. But that was the truth. He destroyed himself, by himself.
Sir I'm on holidays I think I listened your every video I don't know my specific person narcissist or not but I feel really relax to watch your videos I'm really In pain can't understand his behavior
Seriously,we should raise our voices so that government should make some rules regulations and charges on such devilish entities because they gave us mental torcher. Which comes under crime. By disscussing with mental advisors both will be clear who is guilty and than punishment should be given to the culprit. Which should be start from than and there only. So others should take some lessons. 😡 Because i am suffering from Last 17years. Problem is i have no where to go at this age.
I’m not , I know one who is in this sort of upbringing and everything about you describe is ticking the boxes . The thing this people don’t accept they have problems , they think they are better than you .
They never wants me to be happy. I remember my father yelling at me because he didn't like the way I laugh and when I am doing my things he suddenly invades my space and mock me, blame me for things may be i did in his fucked up head. I am almost 30 and until now I don't remember any valid reason why he use to hit me with whatever he could get his hands on and i don't remember doing what he insist that I did. My question is does narcissistic people have hallucination or my parents are another kind of fucked up ? I for sure know they are pathological liar.
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
narcissists view the world in a very competitive way. they need you to feel small - so they can feel big. they need you to feel broken - so they can appear whole. they need you to doubt yourself - so they can be the source of all knowledge. they’re trying to fix themselves by breaking you. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
they like to pretend they are not, they LIE TO THEMSELVES as well as to you, it's how they operate. get away, work on yourself so that you are no longer susceptible to evil. period. end of story. get healing for your self.
@@heatherhall3452 we are here to learn lessons.....and we have our part to play, so yes, working on Self to evolve spiritually instead of blaming others for where we find ourselves is the way. but you don't have to do that, you can just sit around and do nothing if you want, God has eternity to wait for you to wake up as to why you are here....He gave you free will after all. sooner or later you will start to see if you are open to God's directing you and teaching you thru circumstances in your life. God bless. it isn't easy but it's what we are here to do, it's called, "waking up spiritually". God helps those who help themselves.
@@heatherhall3452 I am pretty sure they hear voices..........prompting them to do things. it's because they are open and if you are weak spiritually, well, things can happen because you allow it. God is our protection........
they may not tell you "how evil they are" but at first if you are paying attention, they DO tell you LOTS of things, maybe it's bragging and it's certainly arrogance. I have had men brag about cheating on their wives and how they got off on leaving signs right in front of her, I have had women tell me about cheating and going after multiple men and they have kids and are married and they do not care, I have had a woman tell me how she aborted her 3 kids like, "no problem" and not too long ago, a woman told me how she scammed and manipulated her own grandmother into stealing the family fortune, just blithely saying how she pressured her and threatened her and that she was fragile and had dementia, etc. no remorse, not anything. I have had some admit to murder *yes, true story. and much more. I guess they like to brag in a way, but if you act like it's wrong, they quit telling you things. I am just pointing out here that they DO tell you but they won't "say" it's evil but they delight in it, no remorse, nothing. it's when you say something about it or don't act like you go along with their evil that they stop telling you. fact. I know of each one and they always tell you things they are doing or have done *their particular evil - and if you go along, or don't say anything, they just delight in keeping on telling you. maybe it's to see if you are like them or do the same things. like a fellow cohort in doing bad things. but they DO tell you things if you pay attention and if you don't go along, they start hiding. darkness hates the Light, remember.
@@Yummypoison0 it is my father. I detached emotionally. I spent my time with him making good use of it in every way possible. The thing is. Don’t get emotionally invested.
Feeling alone physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically all the time - I dropped my jaw down literally how accurate this is. My cats and dogs give me more connection, support and love than he has ever given me.
Danish, you’re getting me through a dark time and I thank you. It is heartbreaking knowing someone I loved so deeply is a Narcissist. But realizing this brings me to healing. 😊
"They are technically there..." I was married to someone for 12 years. I was isolated and alone for 12 years. It's a profound observation that could only be understood by those who experienced it.
I can't wrap my head around the way they think and feel. I can't believe someone can get so messed up in childhood to think in the ways that they do. They are truly demons.
Yes they truly are demons.. But it's not always because of a messed up childhood, some ruined their own childhood because of their narc behavior because they are born like that, it's inheritable and so it's in their DNA. They will feel like a victim even tho they had a good childhood, but they made their childhood miserable for themselves and sometimes even for their whole family too because they always got them in trouble by misbehaving.
@@luna.1409 I agree. Many people grow up in bad and sometimes even terrible childhoods and turn out to excellent people. Some even get into the field of counseling to help others. People can’t blame everything in their childhood. Some people are just scummy people because they choose to be. My view is that it is all choice.
What you’re describing is a demon, these kind of ppl have a wicket demon inside of them, these is why they cannot love you, demons hate us, and when a person hates u secretly and there’s a lot of these kind of ppl out there. These is awful
they DO attract evil attachments, call it what you will. they could be inhabited as well, they certainly do NOT want God anywhere near them this is why they hate good. get it yet?
There actually are no real demons, just patterns of the mind which are explained as demons. Just saying the experience is the same and responsibility is with 'the demon'.. be certain of that
Secrets are their life. Their actions never match their words...I resonate with the competition and achievements things the most. Everything you do will be downgraded. Those people can´t lose they get literally crazy when they lose. (They always want to be better than everyone around them). They create an atmosphere to compete (they need the drama and supply out of those environments).
I unknowingly married a histrionic narcissist woman, foolishly fell in love and had a beautiful daughter with her only to be betrayed hurt and broken. I realized it was only a mirage, I fell in love with a mannequin. everything is on the surface, nothing deep, nothing spiritual. I was taken advantage of and used and eventually cheated on. She was involved with another man 2 streets over who I knew for about 5 years. Right under my nose. She was able to give me kisses and hugs, tell me what a wonderful husband and father I was while simultaneously visiting another man atleast 4 times per week. She was hiding her affair in plain sight
This scenario is common nowadays, when much emphasis is put on looks, image. Knowing narcs as I do, I bet she didn’t even like the neighborhood Lothario, just enjoyed the intrigue. Danish says they don’t care about anyone.
It hard to find out you have been together with a 2-year-old and traumatised baby in a full grown adult body, but being cunning, cheating and empty inside ...having a child with a narcissist is the worst to think of because the child will have to suffer trauma growing up with the manipulative narcisisist...I am in the same situation and had to leave everything to protect myself from breaking down..and now my daughter is with a monster. I have tried ti do everything to save my daughter but ender up having to sacrifise my daughter because I live far away...I can only wait and hope for the best for my daughter and maybe one day see her again and take her into my arms and help her to heal and become normal
My late hubbie was on every dating site, straight and gay and he catfished. He would sit holding my hand watching TV, stroking my face/ hair, saying how much he adored and loved me...whilst texting " a work thing" phone fell outta his pocket...I picked it up...he was an airline pilot just landed.... I put phone back on floor and said nothing...too shocked. Eventually he catfished a friend of a friend so was caught out! Everyone does it, it means nothing, it's a bit of fun, I need people to see me as wonderful or I feel crap and every other excuse you can think of BUT accepting NO liability. I threw him out and took him back a year later when he was dying of cancer...yup hrs before he died he was still at it..all there on his phone and tablet! They simply cannot change ...they also cannot see how their actions hurt you, they cannot empathise.
Yup don't go for mannequins, how do you think those drags fool guys, hubby was saying how much he hated that, I said blame yourself, your idea of what we're to look like!
@@triciacarolkilbride2993wow I knew someone who went through that it was her dad who told me, the dad moved in with her and the kids so she could afford to eat properly, unbelivable!
I divorced a decade ago , No love no relationships since . Before her plenty .Crazy how it effects you ,Not bad looking too,Good man ,Honest, A Protector, Yet still alone . Should be a AA style place for us lol Sounds fun ;)
Was discarded by a narcissist boyfriend 20 days ago all of a sudden him saying we have no future together and our relationship will not workout in future after spending 3 relationship’s anniversaries together…he gave me a silent treatment and I gave him super silent treatment and looook few hours ago he came showering with all his love on my instagram posts as if nothing really happened between us. Allah save us from these a*******. NEVER AGAIN GOING BACK TO HIM.
Wow, you summarized my 25 yrs with him. Every year gets worse. My ms was caused by the abuse and now he does not want to care for me as I become disabled. I only have my God Jehovah to support me because no one believes he is the demon I claim he is. But God sees it all. So Danish, you get it. Thank you for the knowledge and support. May God bless you as well.❤
Yes, Our God, Jehovah see him, knows what he's really doing to you and will hears YOU and will help You to be strong, victorious!!! Please, stay calm..take care of your health Be blessed!
He brags to others that I'm a doctor, while putting me down "you think you're so important ". Actually, HE feels its important, not ME. He's an embarrassment.
I felt like I was in the midst of hell and that loneliness was the strangest feeling I’ve ever felt. I never even felt that way single! Energy is real. So are evil people
Danish, he said to me, you very strong....and then I realise, why he notice that and tell me. So he tried a lot to destroy me and you helping me to awake, thank you so much.
My ex boyfriend started talking like me, playing the fake empath to people who didn't know him well enough. People began getting attracted to him more than before, thinking he was an empath, a bonus to his good looks and charming personality. But, every single thing he said was actually borrowed from me. Of course, this would not work for long, because his empathy performance was totally derivative. I left him after being with him for 8 months, the moment I started doubting him. I approached a friend who's a psychologist and she decoded his character for me. My boyfriend had both NPD and HPD. Apart from borrowing empathy language from me, he did a lot of other things which Danish has pointed out as examples of textbook narcissism. In fact, his mother was the master narcissist in their terribly enmeshed family and the family's dysfunctionality was cleverly covered up by their public performance of grandiose behaviour which easily impressed others. I was saved because I had an awareness of what NPD could lead to. I called him out, and, totally cut him off within 8 months, even before it had become too toxic.
I went through all this 9 months off work with mental health issues he enjoyed me being totally helpless always felt alone more alone then actually being alone you are so accurate..thank you...danish
Being alone is being alone and you get to choose what you do, say, and hear. Being with them is more lonely because there is another himan so you expect companionship, but receive loneliness. You also are not in control of what goes on so you cannot express yourself because they have to control all.
@@naowright9308 Even if you express yourself they don´t care (that´s the whole problem). They don´t care about the other person only use it for their benefits.
Narcissists are absolutely brilliant to play with! If you know what you’re doing you can have a lot of fun fucking with their heads. The secret is to not give a shit.
All of them! When we always change to to make this person happy over and over and over. It is Never Enough! It will never be enough. I love you. You are beautiful. You belong.
I don’t know how I coped for so many years, walking on egg shells, believing everything was my fault, no intimacy, thinking I was a freak, because he said so. Finding these videos has been a life saver. Your pain is my joy, indeed.
One thing my mom instilled in me was that life was not all about me. She did her dead level best to make me see that other people's feelings are valid and I need to be mindful of that. Thank you, Mom, for keeping me from becoming a narcissist and for teaching by word and example how to give of myself to make things better for everyone.
My narc parents used to tell (accuse) me all the time: “the world doesn’t revolve around you, [name]!” said very nastily. I was still quite young when I realized they were projecting (of course I didn’t know these words/definitions yet) onto me bc it became very clear that they thought the world actually revolved around them and everything I did, every thought of mine needed to be about them. Truly disgusting behavior coming from “adults” who were (and still are!) willing to blame their daughter for all their problems and their own words and actions. I can’t trust anyone like this and I certainly cannot respect them.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ u rescued me with ur videos from the 3rd narcicisst... Its now one week since i block him and today i start feeling a little better again😊 they disconnect u so much from urself, u regocnize this first after some time alone 😊❤
It was not till the end that I even understood what was wrong with her now that I know I can’t shake it. Every single one of the traits they described is her behavior day-to-day. And I saw a lot of red flags even in the dating stage. Now I know that her mother, her and her children are all narcissist. I cannot run away fast enough.
You're doing an excellent job at describing everything in detail. Thank you for the validating those who are hurting the most. Thank you for being honest with us. And thank you for taking the time to let us know that we need to care for ourselves better and not listen to the bull crap
I have finally come to understand at 56 that my mother is simply data collecting when she asks about me and my life. To get anything she can use against me. And I have finally learned not to give her any information.
Yep. Loneliness is how they control you. Then they breadcrumb you so you're stuck in this constant loop of feeling alone but then getting just enough attention to keep you looking for validation from them.
You be spot on every time. I resonate with most of them with my ex narc but, the one that impacted me the most was the lying, withholding information and mulnipilation. My withheld the fact that he was married in the beginning and throughout our relationship. I made it clear that I don't date married men or men in a serious relationship so, he withheld the truth bc, he knew I would have left him earlier on or right in the beginning. He strung me on for almost 15 years.
Thank you for your work. Two of these were what I mostly experienced with my first husband. First, he seemed to be a chameleon: to have very few firm opinions of his own. He'd quickly flex to accommodate people he wanted favors or recognition from. I had this growing unsettling sensation that there was no one actually there, in his skin. Secondly, the gaslighting was exhausting. I was strong and sometimes argumentative; I'd fight with him and insist he said or did whatever he said or did, while he'd angrily try to convince me that as ever, I had it all wrong. During the divorce, my attorney went through our finances and discovered things he'd done without my knowledge or agreement. It only strengthened my belief that I was doing a very good thing for myself to get away from him forever.
I don't understand. Why would someone torture you emotionally on a daily basis (with cheating, silence,contempt,push and pull, ghosting etc), but each time you leave, they try to make you go back? Makes no sense.
Because they are vampires and you are simply the best supply of blood they've been able to get, but trust me the whole time he or she has been cheating, and just hasn't found a greater supply of blood to replace you with! If you don't get out while you can you'll be on the street!
"Thank you from the heart!" I've been dealing with a Narcissistic stalker for over 12 years now. Watching your videos has given me the tool I needed to heal myself. I've been trying your technique for days and already I have noticed a difference. I did every wrong. Now I see and fell I have got a chance to free myself.
I'm literally laughing out loud from how truly ACCURATE this is, how truly REAL this is within my family and amongst so-called friends. This is amazzziiing!!....These people love to sit and wait for your demise or some sort of downfall, all the while, you're steady being blessed and overcoming these things and behaviors after finally coming to know the truth about these sad individuals. I used to think that I'd lost my damn mind when actually it was this horrible behavior and insecurity in these people that was the core of the problem. These narcs get pleasure from waiting and plotting the other's downfall, but they are only digging their own hole deeper, and deeper and DEEPER....Wow. Thank You, God for opening my spiritual eyes.
Workshop on "Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent"
www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/pna
Is there any way this can be recorded and be watched and paid for that way?
@@chosenforgreatness08 yes. you don't have to attend the live workshop. you can watch the recording later
Where we get recording
That's exactly her words. Lots of people are able to do that (what You've done). It was said bitterly. I just heard I'll dress like my last supply,! That was exactly how ignorant they think. That's it they want to see you miserable. That's exactly what she said. You said it twice. You don't know her but YET YOU DO!
I'm very sad and grieving my daughter is a narcissistic I had to cut all contact but iam missing my 9 year old grandson 😢can someone please tell me how to get through this?
Our pain is their joy . Our joy is their PAIN . 💯 .
Brilliant. Thank you!
We'll said 👍.
Ha ha not rocket science aye, you got this! Happiness comes from within, they've none and out to choke ours!
That is a sadist.
Thank you
He constantly tells me I’m the problem. He doesn’t do anything wrong
I ruined everything when we would plan dates. She was never happy in my presence.
NEVER, NEVER NEVER ANY ACCOUNTABILITY!
Leave him and don't look back !
We need to be able to charge narcissists with FRAUD.🤨
I am a Fan of that idea!
So am i @@sunnyadams5842
Yes! That’s excellent 😄
It would keep the lawyers in work.
You can sue for emotional, verbal, psychological abuse, etc. Keep a journal, recordings, signed statements from witnesses . . . . especially exes!
I even questioned myself was I the Narc am I crazy am I asking for too much NO it was him all I ever asked for the basic needs a person needs in a relationship to be loved , cared, for given emotional attention , their time compassion support someone to rely on NEVER GOT NONE OF THAT..😢
They are not able to give you that. They can´t emotional attach with you (they have zero emotional empathy). They can give you lots of gifts but never love.
They KNOW you will question your reality...another reason why they do the 360 deal. Just to make sure their narrative that they painted sticks to the cockroach wall that they warned everyone about. It's a whore lifestyle.
I also asked myself the very same question.He used to call me bipolar and I checked the word it matches him perfectly 😂😂
@pulengmokhele4933 😂😂😂😂
All true
Gone gone. The damage done. It’s been more than 50 years, but it took me more than 50 years to figure it out.
Same here.....over 50 years to figure out
I left 5 months ago. My covert narcissist husband nearly destroyed me. Im starting over. Was homeless. But now i have a small mobile home and peace. But i am still reeling from it. Trying to process it. My mom and my sister are narcissists as well. Life has been incredibly sad for me
Deberacaldwell, it took me longer than that. I am ashamed to say i had three of these demons in a row. I am only just learning about narcs
Admiringgreyelephant.....how would you know as this information was not readily out there decades ago. Your words are powerful. You are stronger than you know 👍
One can look back. I aim to survive. They really didnt win, even after all this time i am quietly proud of myself.
I have ptsd and isolate
#1) Sounded like my whole year of 2023. I finally got free of him in December 10th 2023. The police took him away in handcuffs. I always thought...if I can just prove he's cheating, he'll just leave. ( Please don't do that) He attacked me & choked me until I passed out. I didn't attack him, I was trying to run away. I didn't think he would do that.
My ex lied about everything his identity his work his addictions he lied about everything i dont want to go through that again.Aweful relationshit.
We "the narc survivors are the Power,Energy,that they will never possess! Stay Strong,Powerful,they cannot handle it!🙏💜🙏❤️
Dr. Danish,This was so powerful. You speaking in 1st person as the narcissist really spoke to my heart. You are very gifted and you have the gift of healing. Thank you so much for this.
The way they can convince all about mental health and all negative things that are not real
It's demonic
Hi
Hahaha , ya know, I could hear his words in my head saying
" why are you Not Destroyed " .
I had to keep a straight face.
I didn't feel anything but on guard. But that was the truth.
He destroyed himself, by himself.
I have never heard more accurate and presice description of all those ,,gifts,, narcissist bring into our lives. Thank you so much!
Ugh, thanks for the very accurate reminder. I pity his new supply.
Thank you Danish and God bless you, Amen! 😊
I agree because it is theft to steal anything- including the truth which is fraudulent. Great insight!
Yup. “Why are you so happy around others but fall apart around me?”
So true. Thank you!
Sir I'm on holidays I think I listened your every video
I don't know my specific person narcissist or not but I feel really relax to watch your videos
I'm really In pain can't understand his behavior
You just hit the nail on the head
Seriously,we should raise our voices so that government should make some rules regulations and charges on such devilish entities because they gave us mental torcher. Which comes under crime. By disscussing with mental advisors both will be clear who is guilty and than punishment should be given to the culprit. Which should be start from than and there only. So others should take some lessons. 😡 Because i am suffering from Last 17years. Problem is i have no where to go at this age.
😢😢😢
Spot on! ❤
I’m not , I know one who is in this sort of upbringing and everything about you describe is ticking the boxes . The thing this people don’t accept they have problems , they think they are better than you .
And to those strong enough let their pain ( narccissists) be your joy.😅
😂❤👍🌹u .r 200 percent true..now I understood all. He failed.Did anyone can win over original love?? Original empathy?? Love means God itself. 🙏
3:40 2 Co 12:10 Therefore ... in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when *I am weak, then am I strong.*
I appreciate you a lot Danish ❤you validated all the points for me and healed me ❤thank you so much for precious guidance ❤jai maa kali❤
Thank you💜❤️🩷
All of them are correct best video of your channel ❤
Wow 😲. All of them I can relate to. WOW 😲
How can we covertly help a narcissist help him or herself - most especially if they are a family member you love?
Manish, my friend's narcissistic husband is using your videos to gain even more power. 😢
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank You
They never wants me to be happy. I remember my father yelling at me because he didn't like the way I laugh and when I am doing my things he suddenly invades my space and mock me, blame me for things may be i did in his fucked up head. I am almost 30 and until now I don't remember any valid reason why he use to hit me with whatever he could get his hands on and i don't remember doing what he insist that I did.
My question is does narcissistic people have hallucination or my parents are another kind of fucked up ? I for sure know they are pathological liar.
Every one
I am married to a narcissistic person. Glad I filed for divorce but don't know how to prove it please help me sir 🙏
Every single one
Sir my wife is a covert narcicist
My horror, realising I was a wife with no husband even though there was a warm body laying next to me every night.
It’s a weird feeling, you’re sleeping with a stranger.
All 7 of them🤦
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️
narcissists view the world in a very competitive way. they need you to feel small - so they can feel big. they need you to feel broken - so they can appear whole. they need you to doubt yourself - so they can be the source of all knowledge. they’re trying to fix themselves by breaking you.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
They are trying but hopefully don´t succeed...
Sick and twisted, but true.
@@IsabellaPiesch they cannot ever succeed, but they never stop trying.
So true
Sick!
They will never never tell you how evil they are
they like to pretend they are not, they LIE TO THEMSELVES as well as to you, it's how they operate. get away, work on yourself so that you are no longer susceptible to evil. period. end of story. get healing for your self.
@@heatherhall3452 we are here to learn lessons.....and we have our part to play, so yes, working on Self to evolve spiritually instead of blaming others for where we find ourselves is the way. but you don't have to do that, you can just sit around and do nothing if you want, God has eternity to wait for you to wake up as to why you are here....He gave you free will after all. sooner or later you will start to see if you are open to God's directing you and teaching you thru circumstances in your life. God bless. it isn't easy but it's what we are here to do, it's called, "waking up spiritually". God helps those who help themselves.
@@heatherhall3452 I am pretty sure they hear voices..........prompting them to do things. it's because they are open and if you are weak spiritually, well, things can happen because you allow it. God is our protection........
they may not tell you "how evil they are" but at first if you are paying attention, they DO tell you LOTS of things, maybe it's bragging and it's certainly arrogance. I have had men brag about cheating on their wives and how they got off on leaving signs right in front of her, I have had women tell me about cheating and going after multiple men and they have kids and are married and they do not care, I have had a woman tell me how she aborted her 3 kids like, "no problem" and not too long ago, a woman told me how she scammed and manipulated her own grandmother into stealing the family fortune, just blithely saying how she pressured her and threatened her and that she was fragile and had dementia, etc. no remorse, not anything. I have had some admit to murder *yes, true story. and much more. I guess they like to brag in a way, but if you act like it's wrong, they quit telling you things. I am just pointing out here that they DO tell you but they won't "say" it's evil but they delight in it, no remorse, nothing. it's when you say something
about it or don't act like you go along with their evil that they stop telling you. fact. I know of each one and they always tell you things they are doing or have done *their particular evil - and if you go along, or don't say anything, they just delight in keeping on telling you. maybe it's to see if you are like them or do the same things. like a fellow cohort in doing bad things. but they DO tell you things if you pay attention and if you don't go along, they start hiding. darkness hates the Light, remember.
@heatherhall3452
The TRUUUTH ‼️💯
"You will always feel alone with me, even lonlier then you feel when you are by yourself."
This statement gave me an eerie feeling.
☹
It’s a harsh realization for sure.
You don’t need to know. Get out as soon as you can. They are just a waste of time. You deserve better.
And when they are your parents growing up? Just run away? Doof
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@@Yummypoison0 it is my father. I detached emotionally. I spent my time with him making good use of it in every way possible.
The thing is. Don’t get emotionally invested.
@@Yummypoison0 You can run away at 18, yes. Wish I had.
Not all narcissists yell and shout although silently show all these traits... Often gaslighting you.. These people are more dangerous
The covert Narc is more evil than
Feeling alone physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically all the time - I dropped my jaw down literally how accurate this is. My cats and dogs give me more connection, support and love than he has ever given me.
Well said.
A narcissist can destroy their family for a new supply. They can have a healthy family life with children, destroy that and feel no guilt.
Sadly the truth!
They should just go to Hell ND stay there......
What a low vibrational person
And they often do just that.
Yes..ofc this is d reality
They will never appreciate you for all you do very well, but will nail you for the little you didn't do
Pure Wichcraft
Yes, they have to criticise, like you are never good enough. In the end I left her.
Danish, you’re getting me through a dark time and I thank you. It is heartbreaking knowing someone I loved so deeply is a Narcissist. But realizing this brings me to healing. 😊
"They are technically there..." I was married to someone for 12 years. I was isolated and alone for 12 years. It's a profound observation that could only be understood by those who experienced it.
That is why I got a dog few years ago not to feel soooo alone in this "relationship". I kept the dog and got rid off N.
I can't wrap my head around the way they think and feel. I can't believe someone can get so messed up in childhood to think in the ways that they do. They are truly demons.
It has much more to do than childhood. They come from all walks of life and it is a choice.
I totally agree.
Yes they truly are demons.. But it's not always because of a messed up childhood, some ruined their own childhood because of their narc behavior because they are born like that, it's inheritable and so it's in their DNA. They will feel like a victim even tho they had a good childhood, but they made their childhood miserable for themselves and sometimes even for their whole family too because they always got them in trouble by misbehaving.
@@luna.1409 I agree. Many people grow up in bad and sometimes even terrible childhoods and turn out to excellent people. Some even get into the field of counseling to help others. People can’t blame everything in their childhood. Some people are just scummy people because they choose to be. My view is that it is all choice.
I had a horrible childhood and def not like this. Some people could choose how they let their trauma affect them.
What you’re describing is a demon, these kind of ppl have a wicket demon inside of them, these is why they cannot love you, demons hate us, and when a person hates u secretly and there’s a lot of these kind of ppl out there. These is awful
Exactly!!!!!!
Yes and more than one demon. Try Anger, Jezebel, Resentment, Hatred, Venom, Cruelty, Control, Manipulation, Fearmongering, etc
they DO attract evil attachments, call it what you will. they could be inhabited as well, they certainly do NOT want God anywhere near them this is why they hate good. get it yet?
There actually are no real demons, just patterns of the mind which are explained as demons. Just saying the experience is the same and responsibility is with 'the demon'.. be certain of that
I have often thought that when he’s raging I pray for god to clean my house of the anger demon
Hie everyone I'm Thandi and I refused to be controlled and manipulated and duped and it almost cost me my life. Run everyone run!!!
Run...RUN! RUN! is right...
Secrets are their life. Their actions never match their words...I resonate with the competition and achievements things the most. Everything you do will be downgraded. Those people can´t lose they get literally crazy when they lose. (They always want to be better than everyone around them). They create an atmosphere to compete (they need the drama and supply out of those environments).
I keep a small table in front of my bedroom door... Scared
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I unknowingly married a histrionic narcissist woman, foolishly fell in love and had a beautiful daughter with her only to be betrayed hurt and broken. I realized it was only a mirage, I fell in love with a mannequin. everything is on the surface, nothing deep, nothing spiritual. I was taken advantage of and used and eventually cheated on. She was involved with another man 2 streets over who I knew for about 5 years. Right under my nose. She was able to give me kisses and hugs, tell me what a wonderful husband and father I was while simultaneously visiting another man atleast 4 times per week. She was hiding her affair in plain sight
This scenario is common nowadays, when much emphasis is put on looks, image. Knowing narcs as I do, I bet she didn’t even like the neighborhood Lothario, just enjoyed the intrigue. Danish says they don’t care about anyone.
It hard to find out you have been together with a 2-year-old and traumatised baby in a full grown adult body, but being cunning, cheating and empty inside ...having a child with a narcissist is the worst to think of because the child will have to suffer trauma growing up with the manipulative narcisisist...I am in the same situation and had to leave everything to protect myself from breaking down..and now my daughter is with a monster. I have tried ti do everything to save my daughter but ender up having to sacrifise my daughter because I live far away...I can only wait and hope for the best for my daughter and maybe one day see her again and take her into my arms and help her to heal and become normal
My late hubbie was on every dating site, straight and gay and he catfished. He would sit holding my hand watching TV, stroking my face/ hair, saying how much he adored and loved me...whilst texting " a work thing" phone fell outta his pocket...I picked it up...he was an airline pilot just landed.... I put phone back on floor and said nothing...too shocked. Eventually he catfished a friend of a friend so was caught out! Everyone does it, it means nothing, it's a bit of fun, I need people to see me as wonderful or I feel crap and every other excuse you can think of BUT accepting NO liability. I threw him out and took him back a year later when he was dying of cancer...yup hrs before he died he was still at it..all there on his phone and tablet! They simply cannot change ...they also cannot see how their actions hurt you, they cannot empathise.
Yup don't go for mannequins, how do you think those drags fool guys, hubby was saying how much he hated that, I said blame yourself, your idea of what we're to look like!
@@triciacarolkilbride2993wow I knew someone who went through that it was her dad who told me, the dad moved in with her and the kids so she could afford to eat properly, unbelivable!
I just realised after 40 years that I live with narcisist and have lost myself. It’s so scary.
You need to heal, you need to stand your ground, you need to tell him youre not gonna take his crap anymore
i am so sorry. you’re not alone it has taken me 21 years to finally see the truth. hugs❤
I divorced a decade ago , No love no relationships since . Before her plenty .Crazy how it effects you ,Not bad looking too,Good man ,Honest, A Protector, Yet still alone . Should be a AA style place for us lol Sounds fun ;)
Me too!
A Bag of Dirty Secrets = My Father!
Nice...
Was discarded by a narcissist boyfriend 20 days ago all of a sudden him saying we have no future together and our relationship will not workout in future after spending 3 relationship’s anniversaries together…he gave me a silent treatment and I gave him super silent treatment and looook few hours ago he came showering with all his love on my instagram posts as if nothing really happened between us. Allah save us from these a*******. NEVER AGAIN GOING BACK TO HIM.
May Allah save us from these types yes. I had a narcissist like this. Now I’m planning on marriage and will be vetting any man through my Wali/imam
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Good for YOU! DO NOT GO BACK, YOU WILL REGRET IT.
Wow, you summarized my 25 yrs with him. Every year gets worse. My ms was caused by the abuse and now he does not want to care for me as I become disabled. I only have my God Jehovah to support me because no one believes he is the demon I claim he is. But God sees it all. So Danish, you get it. Thank you for the knowledge and support. May God bless you as well.❤
Yes, Our God, Jehovah see him, knows what he's really doing to you and will hears YOU and will help You to be strong, victorious!!! Please, stay calm..take care of your health
Be blessed!
He brags to others that I'm a doctor, while putting me down "you think you're so important ". Actually, HE feels its important, not ME. He's an embarrassment.
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I felt like I was in the midst of hell and that loneliness was the strangest feeling I’ve ever felt. I never even felt that way single! Energy is real. So are evil people
So true. They love to tear a person down.
All seven. Every single one.
I know the narcissistic better than they know themselves. They cannot keep secrets from this Spiritual Mirror.
Danish, he said to me, you very strong....and then I realise, why he notice that and tell me. So he tried a lot to destroy me and you helping me to awake, thank you so much.
My ex boyfriend started talking like me, playing the fake empath to people who didn't know him well enough. People began getting attracted to him more than before, thinking he was an empath, a bonus to his good looks and charming personality. But, every single thing he said was actually borrowed from me. Of course, this would not work for long, because his empathy performance was totally derivative. I left him after being with him for 8 months, the moment I started doubting him. I approached a friend who's a psychologist and she decoded his character for me. My boyfriend had both NPD and HPD. Apart from borrowing empathy language from me, he did a lot of other things which Danish has pointed out as examples of textbook narcissism. In fact, his mother was the master narcissist in their terribly enmeshed family and the family's dysfunctionality was cleverly covered up by their public performance of grandiose behaviour which easily impressed others. I was saved because I had an awareness of what NPD could lead to. I called him out, and, totally cut him off within 8 months, even before it had become too toxic.
I went through all this 9 months off work with mental health issues he enjoyed me being totally helpless always felt alone more alone then actually being alone you are so accurate..thank you...danish
Being alone is being alone and you get to choose what you do, say, and hear. Being with them is more lonely because there is another himan so you expect companionship, but receive loneliness. You also are not in control of what goes on so you cannot express yourself because they have to control all.
@@naowright9308 Even if you express yourself they don´t care (that´s the whole problem). They don´t care about the other person only use it for their benefits.
What do you do when there are children involved, very small children and he wants custody. Will he hurt them like he is doing to my daughter
Yes, they have lot of secrets! Thanks Danish for revealing those dirty secrets. It'll help us in a greater way.
Narcissists are absolutely brilliant to play with! If you know what you’re doing you can have a lot of fun fucking with their heads. The secret is to not give a shit.
Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding🎉🎉🎉
But what a waste of your time and talent.
All 7!! Cried throughout this video. I was so fooled. It started with my mom. Yikes! Im trying to figure out how to be ok
All of them! When we always change to to make this person happy over and over and over. It is Never Enough! It will never be enough. I love you. You are beautiful. You belong.
I don’t know how I coped for so many years, walking on egg shells, believing everything was my fault, no intimacy, thinking I was a freak, because he said so. Finding these videos has been a life saver. Your pain is my joy, indeed.
Yes we do need to have them arrested for their crimes
They are the ugliest thieves!
My narc used to tell me to run. Who the hell tells you that? He knew!!
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Yes he did know what he was capable of and the destruction he was going to inflict on you. Scary.
Thanks for making these videos. It’s keeping me sane enough to take care of my self more.
One thing my mom instilled in me was that life was not all about me. She did her dead level best to make me see that other people's feelings are valid and I need to be mindful of that. Thank you, Mom, for keeping me from becoming a narcissist and for teaching by word and example how to give of myself to make things better for everyone.
You're an angel. Let the healing continue ❤❤❤
@@seunajayi6612 My mom is an angel.
My narc parents used to tell (accuse) me all the time: “the world doesn’t revolve around you, [name]!” said very nastily. I was still quite young when I realized they were projecting (of course I didn’t know these words/definitions yet) onto me bc it became very clear that they thought the world actually revolved around them and everything I did, every thought of mine needed to be about them. Truly disgusting behavior coming from “adults” who were (and still are!) willing to blame their daughter for all their problems and their own words and actions. I can’t trust anyone like this and I certainly cannot respect them.
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Holy hell! I think he knows my bf! This is the best description I have ever heard! Blown away!
I suspect my narcissist is gay he treats me like a roommate and goes out on dates with his friend
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ u rescued me with ur videos from the 3rd narcicisst... Its now one week since i block him and today i start feeling a little better again😊 they disconnect u so much from urself, u regocnize this first after some time alone 😊❤
Spot on! Describes my ex husband & boyfriend! At this point, I'd rather be single 😃
Danish, I think you are adorable. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with us
It was not till the end that I even understood what was wrong with her now that I know I can’t shake it. Every single one of the traits they described is her behavior day-to-day. And I saw a lot of red flags even in the dating stage. Now I know that her mother, her and her children are all narcissist. I cannot run away fast enough.
Our pain is their Joy. That's nota a secret.
Thank you. After 22 yrs and many videos this is the one that spoke CLEARLY to me 😢 its time
I resonate with each and every dirty secret of a narcissist.
You're doing an excellent job at describing everything in detail. Thank you for the validating those who are hurting the most. Thank you for being honest with us. And thank you for taking the time to let us know that we need to care for ourselves better and not listen to the bull crap
Every single secret I know and the more you pray you can’t deny this fact and not run!!
I couldn't trust my narcissist, she would tell everything and make up stuff to add to it. I only wanted a mother to talk to, but never had it.
I have finally come to understand at 56 that my mother is simply data collecting when she asks about me and my life. To get anything she can use against me. And I have finally learned not to give her any information.
Me too😢
Yep. Loneliness is how they control you. Then they breadcrumb you so you're stuck in this constant loop of feeling alone but then getting just enough attention to keep you looking for validation from them.
You be spot on every time. I resonate with most of them with my ex narc but, the one that impacted me the most was the lying, withholding information and mulnipilation. My withheld the fact that he was married in the beginning and throughout our relationship. I made it clear that I don't date married men or men in a serious relationship so, he withheld the truth bc, he knew I would have left him earlier on or right in the beginning. He strung me on for almost 15 years.
Thank you for your work. Two of these were what I mostly experienced with my first husband. First, he seemed to be a chameleon: to have very few firm opinions of his own. He'd quickly flex to accommodate people he wanted favors or recognition from. I had this growing unsettling sensation that there was no one actually there, in his skin. Secondly, the gaslighting was exhausting. I was strong and sometimes argumentative; I'd fight with him and insist he said or did whatever he said or did, while he'd angrily try to convince me that as ever, I had it all wrong. During the divorce, my attorney went through our finances and discovered things he'd done without my knowledge or agreement. It only strengthened my belief that I was doing a very good thing for myself to get away from him forever.
Danish...wow 100% ...you truly hit the nail on the head with these observations! Brilliant thanks
Speechless! 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Yes. They are silent enemy.
Thanks for sharing this information. You have been a great help.🎉🎉🎉
This is the best description I have heard to describe narcissistic abuse ❤ They ALL resonated with me 😢 Thank you for doing this Danish ❤
I don't understand.
Why would someone torture you emotionally on a daily basis (with cheating, silence,contempt,push and pull, ghosting etc), but each time you leave, they try to make you go back?
Makes no sense.
Because they are vampires and you are simply the best supply of blood they've been able to get, but trust me the whole time he or she has been cheating, and just hasn't found a greater supply of blood to replace you with! If you don't get out while you can you'll be on the street!
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"Thank you from the heart!" I've been dealing with a Narcissistic stalker for over 12 years now. Watching your videos has given me the tool I needed to heal myself. I've been trying your technique for days and already I have noticed a difference. I did every wrong. Now I see and fell I have got a chance to free myself.
I'm literally laughing out loud from how truly ACCURATE this is, how truly REAL this is within my family and amongst so-called friends. This is amazzziiing!!....These people love to sit and wait for your demise or some sort of downfall, all the while, you're steady being blessed and overcoming these things and behaviors after finally coming to know the truth about these sad individuals. I used to think that I'd lost my damn mind when actually it was this horrible behavior and insecurity in these people that was the core of the problem. These narcs get pleasure from waiting and plotting the other's downfall, but they are only digging their own hole deeper, and deeper and DEEPER....Wow. Thank You, God for opening my spiritual eyes.