How to be a lot more interesting
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00:00 - Introduction
01:56 - I. Being present
04:08 - II. Being open minded
06:00 - III. Knowing stuff
06:36 - III. Having opinions of ones own
07:56 - V Telling stories
09:15 - VI Being authentic
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What's one thing you think makes a person interesting?
The thing makes a person interesting for me is that they have different thoughts than mine in various subjects.
Every one has there only story,that is interesting
Be "In like Flynn" 😉
Someone who is COMFORTABLE in their own skin no matter what stage, place, or situation they find themselves in life. They are genuine and at peace with themselves/others each day. They are interesting BECAUSE they interesting in and of themselves. They don't need expensive clothes, flashy job title, etc. to project positivity and happiness onto others. They can . . . JUST BE ❤
Hi Lana, to me it's the way they express what they think and feel, even if I don't agree at first. I value that they put themselves out there and share it with me. And also the authenticity they project.
'Imagine having to spend your entire life with a person and you're that person'. That just made me pause the video and think for a while. I really like your perspective about life in general.
@@fella4739 I couldn't agree more!
That is definitely one long lasting relationship in our life 🤷🏻♀️🤗☀️
i paused the video and left my own body
that's why now I am so so ready to date Lana - I know she would go into thinking mode.
If I have to live with myself, I would hate every minute of it tbh.
1.Being present
2.being open-minded
3.knowing stuffs
4.Having opinions of ones own
0. Be attractive
and being authentic
especially that last one "having opinions of one's own"
so many people today get influenced by a lot of factors, whether it be close family, friends, social media, society etc, etc.
to be able to forget all of that for a second to truly know your thoughts and ideas is a very important step to making you YOU.
@@socaranectien1933 attractive ppl are not inherently interesting.
edit: at all.
@@spacebar9733 but people will be more interested if you are.
To be interesting .. is to be interested 💭
I find myself not being interested enough in the world around me, not because I don’t care but because I’m too caught up in my own thoughts and worries. I realize this holds be back from having meaningful interactions.
valid problem frr
and the only way to be interested is to stay present... being present for me is a difficult habit but I'll try my best
So true, thank you for sharing that
So do i like force myself to be interested、 in reality i do not really care about some thing’s revolving around me at all
i like the way you put that in words bc i feel like i can relate to that so much. english is not my first language so i could never describe it so well
“Journalling makes life more vivid, just like how being present does, because it forces you to stop, to reflect, to go back, to think, to try and understand, rather than just zombying your way through life“. This video feels like listening to a friend, sharing of themselves, giving you their best advice. Feeling grateful to know that people like that exist in the world 🙏
My FBI agent recommended this video barely 10 minutes after it was uploaded. He does really know me well
Same but 17 minutes…
@@deeluis Lol what?
Or they find you boring 🤧
@@quantum_net219 are you being a feminist? Women can be FBI agents too, equality for all is the way to go man
11 hrs. Probably because i was sleeping when it was uploded
I've stopped worrying about being "more interesting" to other people. Life is too short! It comes naturally by focusing on self-improvement using the techniques you've mentioned!! For example, based on your points:
1. Putting the phone away
2. Embracing new experiences
3. Learning something new (language, instrument etc)
4. Backing yourself, being self-confident with your decisions
5. Sharing stories with a stranger, and trying to empathise with them
6. Just being unapologetically yourself and not forcing it
I've been trying to put these into practice - it's hard but we gotta keep improving ourselves ✌️💪🔥
yess!! samee
I think we naturally are that way when we are pursuing our goals and are 💯 true to ourselves
@@intentionalliving7326 ^exactly this! 😊
@@shar.k290 I love hearing the birds singing in my garden! But of course, each to our own! And you're right, there's no time for toxic people in your life!! We just gotta continue striving to be our best :)
I think, what Lana ment to say is how we can be a good company ("interesting") to ourselves, not to others - because we are the only person we are necessarily bound to be with for the rest of our lives.
Being interesting means being yourself unequivocally. There's no one else in the world like you, you're truly one a kind, and that novelty is enough for someone to find interesting IF you’re genuine and confident in you.
I find asking the question “What are your thoughts on…” is a very good way to get to know someone and start conversations
“Living in the moment is a gift, that is why it is called the present” Ted Lasso quote
~ Master Oogway, Kung fu Panda :)
@@Sara-ej8mk Really? The first time I heard it was in the Ted Lasso show, I guess you are right.
@@guillermosahuquillo4499 haga First time I heard it was watching Kung fu panda 🐼
That quote has been around a lot longer
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That’s why they call it the present.- master oogway
Or at least that’s how I remember it
*“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
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i decided to live to watch just how worse my life gets
"I like to think of presence as color, and when we're not fully presence, we are desaturated" -that is so eye opening. I am going to remember that
I love the comments section to help me journal what I learnt from you.
1. Be present
2. Don't zombie your life away
3. Journaling helps
4. Be a storyteller
5. Be genuine
6. Might need to practice to be an organized story teller (not to be all around the place)
7. Story telling makes you reflect and enjoy life more .
Thank you , beautiful human being.
People love stories. They remember your stories more than just talking.
That’s an interesting perspective 🤔
@@intentionalliving7326 I think of how Jesus told parables.
Yeah I agree , that’s a pretty good point.
I hate stories
But some ppl are really bad at telling stores
"It is the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it."
-Aristotle
Explain please!
@@Imdb007 to accept information but not to completely believe it basically in simple terms
Supposedly Aristotle never said that
@@Anna-tq1ox okay say i accept that gravity exists because i've been told my entire life there's a force that keeps us on the ground but i never quite believed it and decided to test that by jumping off a cliff to see if there was no chance i'd float or fly and not just get pulled down by this "force", would that be the mark of an educated mind?
@@ridgefrost no because there are simpler and less dangerous ways of testing and deciding upon that for your self ... Aristotle words weren’t meant to applied to everything also but rather on certain situations eg if someone shares a fact but you remember it differently don’t go along with it. use your own mind and do some research.. hope that helps
01:38 1. Being present
04:05 2. Being open-minded
05:58 3. Knowing stuff (general knowledge)
06:36 4. Having opinion of ones own
07:55 5. Telling stories
09:14 6. Being authentic
Happy watching the explanation. 🥰❤️🥳😘
The first one is teeny bit out of touch and could be considered ableist to those of us who have ADHD, SCT, Maladaptive Daydreaming Syndrome, Anxious Attachment or Avoidant Attachment Personality, Dissassociative Personality, Narcoleptic Disorder, CPTSD, Manic Depression, etc. The list goes on and on. "Being present" is a full-on battle for alot of people whose brains aren't wired to stay fully engaged in many of our waking moments.
@@YourMajesty143 she didn't say to be present 100% of the time. in life nowadays we are surrounded by so many constant distractions. anyone can take a few minutes out of their day to try their best to focus on the present moment. this can even mean trying to multitask less (eg: not watching tv and eating at the same time, but actually appreciating your food and thinking about what it tastes like, the smell, the nutrients etc.).
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thanks I will not watch the video now. Naw fr thanks lol that helpful
@@YourMajesty143LMAOOOO
I believe you become interesting when you deliver the best version of yourself. Be focused on how to learn that skill thats always on your mind , have interests of your own, cz when the fire burns within, trust me everyone can see it through your eyes.
Trying to be more interesting to others used to be my goal when I was younger so I tried to do a lot of different things but I realised something similar, it doesn't matter what you do but rather your ability to be present in the moment and interact meaningfully, with a sort of curiosity with the world
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”
―C. S. Lewis
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Wow I love this.
Glad you ended with the "yeah that might be a bit too much." No one really sat me down and told me there was such thing as being "too much" and that's been a really difficult lesson to learn and implement as an adult. There needs to be clarification in the wider world of improving social skills on how to be authentic without being too much.
"Don't zombie your way through life" - that's a very important reminder
Sitting around all day (on a routine basis) doesn't leave you much to talk about when you meet people. Finding new hobbies and getting out and doing stuff is a surefire way to have more of a life to talk about, and more opportunity to have yet another thing or two to connect with people about.
I also agree with you shahdokt😊
'What makes someone interesting? How someone interacts with the world' - thats an insightful perspective, I guess you could also add their demeanour and worldly perspective
08:30, so true about story telling. Nobody likes to be taught by someone, but everyone is willing to learn something meaningful via a story. That's the magic of story telling.
Be yourself, embrace who you are and have fun!
You don't need to be interesting. Just enjoy this life and remember to be kind to one another.
We're all way too weird to not be interesting in some form.
These tips right here will not only make you interesting to people but yourself. You will sit one day and you will say wow! I am interesting. Thanks, Lana.♥
Exactly!
And interesting to your own self it is where it is at 🙌🏻
Love how your eyebrows go: 🔼⬇️🔼⬆️🔽
Bruuh. Now I can't un-see that.
ppl are so used to seeing actors etc. with botox that normal facial expressions are seen as unique or weird lmao
Omg I just now noticed 😂 it’s so cute thooo
The best thing about being authentic is the permission it gives to the people you come in contact with to also be authentic. Also, love the ending :)
The most interesting and attractive attribute is passion. This can be something one loves that gives direction and focus to one's life, e.g. an art form, hobby, or even a fandom. Or passion can be more general for any random thing one enjoys. Whatever you love, love it with your whole heart and you will shine.
We are interesting in our own ways, we limit ourselves by not telling our story clearly to others.
I think it was Dale Carnegie that suggested that who we often consider the most interesting people are those that show genuine interest in us; what was your most memorable travel experience? who is your favorite author? what's your favorite movie? What kind of music do you like? Those people that asks us about our interests are often the ones we remember as being the most interesting. So, are individuals innately interesting or is it their actions that we find interesting? Being present, asking open ended questions, listening and mirroring our responses back to us to establish connection and to ensure a clear understanding?
thats an amazing opinion!! I try zo always ask as good as i can and also i try to form valuable questions which are intersting
Honestly, there's nothing I hate more than boring questions like "What's your favourite movie/author/band etc". That's NOT how you have a meaningful conversation with someone. You actually need to be able to discuss stuff and have opinions to have a conversation, merely reciting your interests doesn't help.
@@emmagorington4559 agreed
@@emmagorington4559 if you elaborate on why they're your favorite or analyze characters, it can lead to interesting conversations
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You remainding me to slow down, to breathing, to walk in nature,to soften my voice and speak slower, to enjoy in the moment with a cup of tea...you sharing that peace that is I assume inside of you. Thank you so much.
I totally agree being authentic is just the most important thing. Stop trying to be something you’re not. Everybody’s different and yes we’re not meant to vibe with every person we meet, it’s just what it is. It doesn’t make you less of a person if you don’t vibe with another person. You don’t need to be more. That just means this person is not a match for you
You do have a very captivating presence and energy. I think part of being interesting is to own who you are and embrace your uniqueness in a calm and secure way. Blessings to everyone 💠🙏
Hi
My social anxiety makes my mind BLANK so I find myself being boring, hence me being zero interesting. So I think i’ll be forever alone :(
I feel that..
yeah same youre no alone 😩
You don't have to have social anxiety, it can be improved. I used to have it really bad and now I'm more apologetically myself.
How did I get over it? I changed my mindset. Some people think I'm an amazing person, and others find me boring, weird, even a bad person. How is it that there are so many different perceptions of me. Shouldn't everyone see me the same way?
No matter what, it will never be that way. Even if you find yourself to be boring, there are people who won't, so there's no point in being self-conscious about what people think. All that matters is that you shape yourself into a version of yourself you're satisfied with
me too. after lockdown i started to get very anxious and would freeze when spoken to and let my mind wander and my vison blur s lot and i would not speak and eventually i had a hard time focusing on the present and on coming up with things to say in conversations and i would just do nothing and i lost my only two friends :(
10:16 i love what you said about honesty. Most people and myself included are afraid of being honest in front of new people even in times when it's totally normal to feel that way
Lana that realization from excerpt 10:10, is so beautiful. It just reminds me of that quote from Ayn Rand, that 'You can fake virtue for an audience. You can’t fake it in your own eyes. Your ego is your strictest judge. They run from it. They spend their lives running.' oh God I love this episode, thanks for sharing Lana, you challenge the boundaries of my perspectives again, Thank you!
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I usually watch all youtube videos on 1.75x, but when you said at the beginning people should pay more attention when somebody is speaking I realized that youtube videos are also a conversation.
Just finished the video and I leave to sleep, a lot more interesting than yesterday.
Apparently I'm extremely interesting, humans are always trying to get pictures of me and make casts of my footprints
After reading your name it makes more sense now
I saw you over on Myra West’s channel. *takes photograph. Hey, get back here!
getting better at storytelling is a big one... My sister expresses pretty mundane stuff in such a way that it's entertaining to hear about
storytelling is the most powerful communication skill. listening is the most overlooked communication skill.
*4 Things that Should Guide You:*
*1) Your goals.*
*2) Your passion.*
*3) Your faith.*
*4) Your courage.*
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Your videos are always so hypnotic to me, and they really resonate with my soul. Thankyou for always opening up my eyes, especially to things I knew on the inside but could never put into words 😊
Thank you!! ☺️
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funny how we can apply these tips right now watching the video. being present and paying full attention to what you’re saying, being open minded about the stuff we are consuming, having our own opinions and thoughts about this. thank you so much for this!!
I love how your videos are so content oriented. Its sooo calm and tranquil that it feels slightly scary at some point.
You never cease to impress me! I keep coming back to this video, not necessarily to learn how to be more interesting but more free. (And it's only been a week, lol). Thank you, Lana!
I really love watching your videos. Not only the topic is interesting and helpful but also you have such a soothing voice that I never get tired hearing of💖
What makes a person interesting is her mysterious aura circulating in a room of many people coz that person probably had great achievements/ experience without bragging/ flaunting it in the crowd.
ur actually so pretty like u just give off such a soft and peaceful vibe omfg
Nice job as always! :’)
Love how you emphasized the importance of staying present. Building connections is like an “adventure” and the here and now approach draws excitement to the present moment.
You know in this era of reels and shorts which have deduced our watching time to mere 15 seconds i am so grateful to have found ur channel and i really complete these 11-15 minute videos with whole of my interest .. thanks for recording urself and sharing such good stuff.
I like this perspective about not focusing on being interesting to others, but being interesting to yourself. That actually makes you go out and do the things you want and make you have fun
I like to define presence as “fully and wholly appreciating the situation around you and where you are” even when it’s not aesthetic or interesting it’s just appreciating
I came here because of Enna Aloutte from Nijisanji English, stayed for the video
Expectations that lead for disappointments, accepting and having the eye's of seeing above what you think it should be is the key for living a wonderful relationship with others and the self.
Your content is something I want to grasp in an instant but just can't. It is too profound that I need to pause even in the middle or after 1 video. You are contagious and these days I am practicing living in the moment and trying be to be as calm as you.
Often, we see ourselves as 'boring' and 'uninteresting' whereas perceive others as 'fun' and 'intriguing'. But what we don't realise we, as humans, are characterised by both of those traits. You are more interesting *than you think* so don't worry, just be yourself! 👌🏻
Happiness is always in the present moment ❤
Love watching your videos, I find you very interesting, love how you express yourself in a calmed manner, educated and original. Every time I hear you it brings me peace.
Hi, listening to your voice alone hit deeply for some reason. I like the calmness in how you speak and inspires me to tell my own story. Peace out and keep being awesome!
That's a super interesting idea. I just moved to Netherlands, far from my home and I see so many of shortcoming in me that I never noticed back home. This might be because I have to focus a lot more on the present and a bit on the future, instead of focusing on past and being grumpy.
Lana looks more mature and at ease here for some reason. Like something has changed in here life or she’s entered a new phase.
Am I the only one noticing this?
The laughing is low casting different shadows on her we’ve never seen and also her hair isn’t done straight or put back . She just looks super comfortable in her own skin. Not even worried about much lol
I love these points on what constitutes being interesting, especially someone simply being present. I've been trying to articulate that myself for a couple of years and have come up short, but this really helps put a point on how it felt to me. I kept describing it as someone being either in the front or back of their head, like they're right at the windows looking out or they're off in the background and just sometimes visible. It can feel like you hardly see a person even when you're talking directly to them. The way you described it is wonderful, thanks so much for that!
i've never really seen this creator before but there's something about her. she's so well-spoken, assertive, and there's something about her that draws me in. she's so beautiful! and this is a great video:)
This is such a good video. I need to express my ideas more instead of just saying yes to ideas I disagree with.
If you know how my heart skips a beat when I see a notification from your channel, you would upload a video everyday. Love you lana ❤
I really needed you in my life right now and I'm so grateful I found you
That last line was such a powerful ending to the talk, really appreciating the deadpan delivery
I like the points you make here. I think presence has become a rare quality in today's world. I also associate presence with a real sense of connection to another person. Writing and self-reflection are great ways to minimise the chances of sleep walking through life.
Your voice is so comforting 🥺👉👈
Passion makes people interesting.
Because when a person is passionate on something they glow and they are usually so excited which leads to openess and joy. It can be something small like gardening, cleaning, reading, painting, building, training, career dreams, job, bugs etc. ^^
God given talents are what makes people interesting. And if you are able to hone or multiply your gifts,the more interesting you become. When one person can paint,play an instrument,sing, write a book all in one, that's a person of interest basically
I’m not very good at expression but this video has really helped me, second week of my freshman yr right now. I could say my first week sucked, social wise. I know it was only the first but I felt really lonely compared to everybody else. Even I’m in drum line, I still struggled to make friends with my bandmates. So before this Monday that passed by, I saw this video, let’s just say it gave m motivation to be more self confident, took like 2 days for this week to put that into reality. Right now, I’m finding myself getting closer with my bandmates and I feel so proud of myself right now, thank you.
You are one of those teachers I wish I had in middle school. Just a basic 'being human 101' would be great as a teen haha.
For me the unexplainable attraction is what makes people interesting. I trust that bit of gut feeling that comes with the connection.
This is exactly what I am looking for right now. I feel like I have been missing something when having conversation with others. These characteristics that you explained are what I need to improve! Great job of putting everything so concisely and straightforwardly. 👏👏
you have such a soft and gentle aura you're gorgeous
i just recently started journaling daily. i hope it’ll help improve my social skills 🙂
I think, everyone could be Interesting, if everyone was just gonna quit the whole social media deal/thing/stuff where basically everyone tries to be the same one person or tries to be happy all the time, but that's just my opinion on it and this especially counts for younger people, I think they have such a great opportunity to be themselves and be interesting because let's face it your only interesting when you're yourself, I mean even if you're 20 no-one is going to judge you 10 years from now for being interesting or yourself
Agree! One has to be themselves!!
Thank you Lana for this video, this made me stop for a moment and reflect about my actual position in life, i find your videos a lot inspirational and interesting.
always feels like to watch your videos over and over it gives me so much clearification of my thoughts
Great show, as someone who's been working though this myself to be more interesting these are awsome ideas. I think one I have been working on myself is story telling or even sharing others stories. I like your insight about story telling.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. It's been some time since I've watched, or in this case more so listened, to a deeper train of thought. Makes me think maybe I'm not so weird for my introspection.
Your voice is so soothing, I watch your videos when I want to sleep. Thank you :)
This is beautiful ❤️ I love how authentic, unique, and relaxing this story telling is. ✨
I sensed your true essence in very word you said. Thank you for sharing your honest reflection.
"be present"
me listening/watching this video while working on a youtube video
All good points. I agree that storytelling is the most important, especially during times of a pandemic!
Awesome video, Lana, as usual! We have to be able to live with ourselves and learn self-love. Don’t we all deserve that? Love the point about being present. So many of us are so distracted we don’t see the miracle in front of us!
YES, the allusive obvious right in front of us is often what can make us most happy
So true! Enjoy the miracle!
Yes, we all deserve self love!
@@DrJustininJapan yes!
@@runningslowgal3506 you got it!
Subbed. You're sweet to listen to and have an earthy/vibey/grounded personality.
This video is so good especially because you talk in more present focused tone and body language
You speak so calmly
First thing i look at when i watch your videos, is your hair. You have such good hair 🤙🏻
This is the content I am rooting for
Deep inside our hearts, we want to be the best version of ourselves and emit positive energy to people around us. It feels so good but we rarely grasp that feeling due to fear of failure, zero confidence and we feel like we're lacking in some way. I hope we all can be that person we always wanted to be.
Some of Flynn's traits are the same as me and in this world full of people I still have very few people that I really enjoy talking to. I'd rather spend time with myself happily. The world is fast and so are people which sometimes feels irritating but I'm hopeful. I think being genuine inside out makes a person interesting. Anyways, I don't know why but your way of talking is so soothing that I love listening to you in a quiet room with a quiet head. Your views actually make sense.
Couldn't agree more!
I have always tried to improve on these qualities in myself, and do find plenty of comfort on my own...
But I also wish I could meet someone who appreciated this way of being....
It's a rare in this society that's so hyper focused on attention and image.
Few people really look for depth in conversation, in my experience
yeah same
To be honest a lot of people are struggling with the exact same issues, so it can be hard to find people who are both in the same stage of their journey engaging with an open mindset but ALSO actively seeking connection, which is what allows you to break through to people.
Also the fact that even people who have started on this journey may still be in the preliminary stages and thus struggle with opening up, or they're anxious and don't knoow what to say or how to say it, or they're in the 'improvement' stage where they're doing self-work to become a person that they feel is worth being around, etc. Which can make it difficult to connect, since they're focused on what they view as the goal (improving themselves to be more interesting) rather than the process (which is being open and connecting - this is what really helps with improvement on a human-to-human level) and that precludes them from getting off the ground in conversation at that particular point in time.
It's hard for me to know how to break through this, but sometimes you have to risk looking like a total idiot to get people to open up. That could mean anything from trying to start a meta conversation and hoping the person is perceptive/open enough to recognize what it is that you're looking for to just putting yourself in environments where there's a higher likelihood to run into people who are willing and able to connect with you personally.
If people could see all that we've each been through and experienced in life, no one would find you uninteresting, because to do so would imply that they themselves were not interesting. When people around you don't find you interesting, that is a sign that you need to surround yourself with new people; you don't need to change yourself to become more interesting. Live your life the way you enjoy it, not in a way that pleases others.
you're just so genuine..thank God i found ur channel
The problem I have with your video's is that the cinematics and shots in these
video's are so beautiful that I have to rewatch because I didn't get the message :D
Great work as always!
Be the change you want to see in world ✨