@@t1redguyAsk how and ask why. Be concerned. Literally treat others as you want to be treated. If you are with a friend you really aren’t doing the best and you want them to ask how you are, first ask them how they are. Let yourself be curious.
@@greylemann Treat people the way they should be treated, not how you wanted to be treated by them. Focus on what you have some chance of control not on thing you cant which is most of the things in life, try to form a reason why people behave the way they do and compare those reason with yours. The more you understand the human behaviour the way it is, more interesting the world becomes for you.
@@DanteXMLBBI agree but that doesn't make you more interesting. That has nothing to do with learning to be a more interesting person. Its about trying different things and learning how to o different things. Exposing yourself to all sorts of things. A human stew. That makes you more interesting. Be Stew my friend
@@Rufio1975 being intereting is like planting a flower, you dont make the flowers. let the timeless way guide you, if you are trying to be interesting you are doing it wrong. and i agree with your statement about the human stew , exposing ourselves is what we called observing the patterns of human behaviour. so the next step is to practice the patterns and adapt the patterns in your own life, people with or without knowing the patterns will find you more interesting and confident with a deep sense of meaning or purpose in life.
I like your example of talking about the Chicago bears and how to make small chat go deeper by asking questions. I will definitely try this! It is so true that people’s favorite thing to talk about is themselves, so it makes sense to use this to help conversation go from meaningless to meaningful and learn something about the other person.
Just stumbled upon your videos today. I love journals and writing and you've given me a lot to think about 🤔 for how I can fill them and organize my thoughts, ideas, and inspiration.
Listening and asking meaningful questions is just as important as talking in a conversation. It’s good to learn how other people see the world since every individual is inherently stuck in their own perspective, even if we disagree with their worldviews.
Great video! Thanks for not falling into the myth that asking other people to talk about themselves somehow makes you interesting. The only thing I’ll add is show people you are interesting early and often. The most interesting people I know launch into good stories early and often without being asked. Also it’s ok to exaggerate some details to make your stories more interesting. Everyone else is doing it.
Random weird fact but that "peterson first guide to reptiles and amphibians" book in the thumbnail is a source I used for my very first research paper as a little ten year old 😂
Off topic to this video but I just started journaling several topics in a travelers notebook and I have one that basically falls under “book journal” I give me thoughts on passages on books/stories as a whole etc. and I know you like your fancy words so if you stretch this one’s definition it works perfectly as a name for this type of journal. MARGINALIA - the notes or comments left in the margins of books Which is exactly why I have the journal to leave those notes without having to leave ink on the pages of whatever work I’m reading. Great word honestly
I started doing this too recently for books that I don't want to write in. Love it. And I love marginalia. Great word haha. I think I talk about mine in this video: ruclips.net/video/_bToCXlmfGo/видео.html
All your videos, that I have listened to so far have been very helpful and educational. Since earlier this year, I became interested in journaling, journals, and Stoicism. Oh, and fountain pens LOL. Along with your videos, I have been listening to Ryan Holiday (Stoicism), and Ryder Carroll (Bullet Journaling). All 3 of you have influenced me on this new, exciting adventure.
I watched this video not to become interesting but figure out why people see me as so interesting in the first place when I feel so normal (or feel uncomfortable with how I unintentionally become such a people magnet). This video answered my question to the why but also inspired me to pick up old hobbies that I've been itching to mess around with too :] It also explained why my best friend and I click so well. We both find each other to be mutually interesting and can provide each other with stimulating conversations.
Great advice! Ive always had a reticence nature but been getting out of my shell the last few months. English is my second and always used at as en excuse since some grammar is flip flopped. Wouldn’t like to have conversations because I didn’t like how I would say some things and shied away. But with no practice theres no perfection. Anyways, will definitely try these examples🤔 Happy prosper new year’s y’all!!
I'm told that I tend to ask questions that are near to impossible to answer. Lol! Questions like what makes a good person turn evil and such. Spent two decades pondering that one...researching behaviors of some not so savory individuals who started their lives in a better place. Mom said I started asking those kind of q questions before I started preschool.
🤔 Great tips about asking deeper questions. I get pulled into a lot of small talk at work. If I have time to chat, I try to shift to deeper conversation. 🙂
Great observations and delivery, Parker! Also, you definitely piqued my interest with Skillshare. There are tons of business/marketing/art/photography/music courses on there that I am excited about learning. Now, I just have to figure out which one I have to do first. 😅
I took the shortcut and got born with ADHD. That means I've had 4 careers, 3 of which have nothing to do with my college degree. I've tried half the hobbies on the planet and I know endless trivia about everything lol. Maybe I should be less interesting.
🤔 Small talk can be nice and safe, in my opinion, and it's a good place to start a conversation when you don't know the people around you. I find it less intrusive than someone popping out strange questions, or asking about the extremes one has encoutered through out life. I guess that's because I'm introvert, in a way. I never know why someon I just met would want to know what's the most interesting place I have visited and why. What do they want to do with that info? Are they really interested? Will my answer actually have an impact? Or is it a sort of competition where the person with the most interesting answer wins? I think the most interesing people make you feel at ease and can seamlessly turn small talk into a philosophical conversation. Interesting people stumble upon connections you can follow, that uncover the deep thoughts behind the mundane.
The title is 100% clickbait but the first 15 second 100% redeems it. I completely agree that wanting to be more interesting leads to being more interested in the world around you.
In my country Mexico people simply ask, "How was it?" and they expect you to respond with everything you did that day instead of asking a deeper or more interesting question.
Honestly #3 is great dating advice for men! In 52 years of life, I've met maybe 2 men who ever actually asked me any questions about myself, let alone interesting ones. Honestly, though, I don't know that one can just magic up a *genuine* interest that leads to interesting/deep questions. I think the root of the problem is that most men just truly are not that interested in women as full, complex human beings.
@@ParkerNotes for the record, autocorrect swapped out what was supposed to be synthetic fluff for authentic fluff lol.. way to steal my moment to shine @ phone 😒 thank goodness for the edit button, golly!
🤔vast knowledge and being a genuine listener are great skills. Growing a beard helps 🧔♂. Notebooks I have been exploring: Field Note type that I can carry easily in my back pocket. Current combo, Bellroy notebook cover with Moleskine cashier journal and Pentel R100-c pen in blue. Moving away from Field Notes brand. Work setup is Plotter A5 Pueblo leather binder, with calendar and notes sections. Moving away from Hobonichi Techo sneaker mega. Desk meeting notes and below keyboard is Bindewerk Clipper A4 writing pad. Moving away from Clairefontaine spiral bound. Tech I have been exploring PLAUD AI
Why? Because I’m in sales. Maybe it’ll lead to good side bar convos with my customers to strengthen relationships. That and I love writing jokes - maybe it’ll help there too. Thanks man!
It's simple people are interesting because their either do or think unusual things. No matter how many questions I ask the clerk at the gas station I am never going to find them interesting because they have never done anything other than the mundane. So in closing if you want to be interesting go out and do something interesting.
I'm based in the UK and have followed your videos for quite a while. We have the Open University over here. It's a university for people studying at home. An offshoot is Open Learn. 100s of free courses that you can enrol on and get a certificate of learning at the end. Open Learn is easy to do as most of the courses ar 9 - 20hrs long. Trying new things is easy when it is on your doorstep.
@@ParkerNotes Very worthwhile. Your dreams are a theatrical display of your subconscious, the more you write down your dreams, the more you’ll be able to remember them and gain control. Eventually you will realize that it all comes from you, the nightmares all of it stems from and is a display of you. I write down as much information as I can, even if I didn’t have a dream it is good to log it down.
You know what’s funny @parkernotes is I wanted to create a channel that focuses on learning more skills and gain knowledge together and then in turn become more interesting people
I like your example of talking about the Chicago bears and how to make small chat go deeper by asking questions. I will definitely try this! It is so true that people’s favorite thing to talk about is themselves, so it makes sense to use this to help conversation go from meaningless to meaningful and learn something about the other person.
The first 500 people to use my link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/parknotes09241
If you are more interested in the world around you, you become more interesting yourself.
How to get interested in the world
@@t1redguyAsk how and ask why. Be concerned. Literally treat others as you want to be treated. If you are with a friend you really aren’t doing the best and you want them to ask how you are, first ask them how they are. Let yourself be curious.
@@greylemann
Treat people the way they should be treated, not how you wanted to be treated by them.
Focus on what you have some chance of control not on thing you cant which is most of the things in life, try to form a reason why people behave the way they do and compare those reason with yours.
The more you understand the human behaviour the way it is, more interesting the world becomes for you.
@@DanteXMLBBI agree but that doesn't make you more interesting. That has nothing to do with learning to be a more interesting person. Its about trying different things and learning how to o different things. Exposing yourself to all sorts of things. A human stew. That makes you more interesting. Be Stew my friend
@@Rufio1975 being intereting is like planting a flower, you dont make the flowers. let the timeless way guide you, if you are trying to be interesting you are doing it wrong. and i agree with your statement about the human stew , exposing ourselves is what we called observing the patterns of human behaviour.
so the next step is to practice the patterns and adapt the patterns in your own life, people with or without knowing the patterns will find you more interesting and confident with a deep sense of meaning or purpose in life.
I like your example of talking about the Chicago bears and how to make small chat go deeper by asking questions. I will definitely try this! It is so true that people’s favorite thing to talk about is themselves, so it makes sense to use this to help conversation go from meaningless to meaningful and learn something about the other person.
Personally #1 Hack: Read more good stuff. Period.
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It helps if you start with an interesting mustache, I bet.
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We need a video series on moustache care 👀
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Just stumbled upon your videos today. I love journals and writing and you've given me a lot to think about 🤔 for how I can fill them and organize my thoughts, ideas, and inspiration.
Really glad you found my stuff and glad you like em! Thanks!
Listening and asking meaningful questions is just as important as talking in a conversation. It’s good to learn how other people see the world since every individual is inherently stuck in their own perspective, even if we disagree with their worldviews.
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Great point about "even if we disagree with their worldviews" !!
Great video! Thanks for not falling into the myth that asking other people to talk about themselves somehow makes you interesting. The only thing I’ll add is show people you are interesting early and often. The most interesting people I know launch into good stories early and often without being asked.
Also it’s ok to exaggerate some details to make your stories more interesting. Everyone else is doing it.
Interesting people do not just have stories, they are good to great story tellers. It’s an art form for sure.
Definitely!
You grew an amazing moustache!!! I love it!!!
Haha thank you!
Random weird fact but that "peterson first guide to reptiles and amphibians" book in the thumbnail is a source I used for my very first research paper as a little ten year old 😂
Haha that's awesome!! It's one of my all-time favorite books
I always find myself much more interested in people who ask good questions 🤔
@@brxtndog 100% with you
Off topic to this video but I just started journaling several topics in a travelers notebook and I have one that basically falls under “book journal” I give me thoughts on passages on books/stories as a whole etc. and I know you like your fancy words so if you stretch this one’s definition it works perfectly as a name for this type of journal. MARGINALIA - the notes or comments left in the margins of books
Which is exactly why I have the journal to leave those notes without having to leave ink on the pages of whatever work I’m reading. Great word honestly
I started doing this too recently for books that I don't want to write in. Love it. And I love marginalia. Great word haha. I think I talk about mine in this video:
ruclips.net/video/_bToCXlmfGo/видео.html
All your videos, that I have listened to so far have been very helpful and educational. Since earlier this year, I became interested in journaling, journals, and Stoicism. Oh, and fountain pens LOL. Along with your videos, I have been listening to Ryan Holiday (Stoicism), and Ryder Carroll (Bullet Journaling). All 3 of you have influenced me on this new, exciting adventure.
I watched this video not to become interesting but figure out why people see me as so interesting in the first place when I feel so normal (or feel uncomfortable with how I unintentionally become such a people magnet).
This video answered my question to the why but also inspired me to pick up old hobbies that I've been itching to mess around with too :] It also explained why my best friend and I click so well. We both find each other to be mutually interesting and can provide each other with stimulating conversations.
Great advice! Ive always had a reticence nature but been getting out of my shell the last few months. English is my second and always used at as en excuse since some grammar is flip flopped. Wouldn’t like to have conversations because I didn’t like how I would say some things and shied away. But with no practice theres no perfection. Anyways, will definitely try these examples🤔 Happy prosper new year’s y’all!!
I think that you are interesting which is what got me to watch your videos and then I liked what you offered and I continue to watch them.
I'm told that I tend to ask questions that are near to impossible to answer. Lol! Questions like what makes a good person turn evil and such. Spent two decades pondering that one...researching behaviors of some not so savory individuals who started their lives in a better place. Mom said I started asking those kind of q questions before I started preschool.
Do people think you're obnoxious because of that?
@@ParkerNotes Not really.... just weird.
Those are definitely“conversation questions”, not “answer questions”!
Thank u for this awesome video🎉
I'm really glad you liked it!
🤔 Great tips about asking deeper questions. I get pulled into a lot of small talk at work. If I have time to chat, I try to shift to deeper conversation. 🙂
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Three main points:
Taking an interest in ourselves,
taking an interest in the world around us,
taking an interest in the people around us.
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Thanks, Parker! Enjoyed it 🤔
Awesome! Thanks for watching!
Great video 🙏
Great observations and delivery, Parker!
Also, you definitely piqued my interest with Skillshare. There are tons of business/marketing/art/photography/music courses on there that I am excited about learning. Now, I just have to figure out which one I have to do first. 😅
🙌🙌 my man. Thank you! And yeah it's seriously crazy how much content they have.
🤔great videos as always!
Thanks for watching!
Fantastic! Thank you! 🙏 🎉🎉🎉
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I took the shortcut and got born with ADHD. That means I've had 4 careers, 3 of which have nothing to do with my college degree. I've tried half the hobbies on the planet and I know endless trivia about everything lol. Maybe I should be less interesting.
Or go on Jeopardy
🤔 Small talk can be nice and safe, in my opinion, and it's a good place to start a conversation when you don't know the people around you. I find it less intrusive than someone popping out strange questions, or asking about the extremes one has encoutered through out life. I guess that's because I'm introvert, in a way. I never know why someon I just met would want to know what's the most interesting place I have visited and why. What do they want to do with that info? Are they really interested? Will my answer actually have an impact? Or is it a sort of competition where the person with the most interesting answer wins? I think the most interesing people make you feel at ease and can seamlessly turn small talk into a philosophical conversation. Interesting people stumble upon connections you can follow, that uncover the deep thoughts behind the mundane.
Take a drama class. Had 2 in high school. Helped me in job interviews and talking to people I don't know. And it's fun. There is no wrong answers
I needed this...I'm boring! LOL
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Boring people are bored. The corollary to this is that interesting people build interest. 🤔
This is a great turn of phrase!
Thanks for interesting video!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you!
Thanks for watching!
🤔 Really nice video !!!
🫡🫡 really glad you liked it!
The title is 100% clickbait but the first 15 second 100% redeems it. I completely agree that wanting to be more interesting leads to being more interested in the world around you.
I think i need to work more on myself, thanks for your advice man 🤔
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In my country Mexico people simply ask, "How was it?" and they expect you to respond with everything you did that day instead of asking a deeper or more interesting question.
Honestly #3 is great dating advice for men! In 52 years of life, I've met maybe 2 men who ever actually asked me any questions about myself, let alone interesting ones. Honestly, though, I don't know that one can just magic up a *genuine* interest that leads to interesting/deep questions. I think the root of the problem is that most men just truly are not that interested in women as full, complex human beings.
🤔 I wonder how many interesting people are not aware of how interesting they are, the majority I'd imagine
Feels weird to call yourself interesting right?
I did it by growing a mustache
The surest way to do it
I could well be a dud 😂. Seriously great topic Parker. I need to intentionally make the effort to be more interesting 🤔
Thanks Jon!
🤔 another great video!!
@@robertgarcia9981 🫡🫡 thank you, so glad you liked it
🤔 great ideas!
Interesting. I liked this.
Who do you’ll think was the most interesting philosopher?
So tough! Maybe Thales, maybe Aristotle, maybe Pascal???
If this video had a “materials” shirt tag, it would say “100% genuine content, 0% synthetic fluff” 🤔 well done 👏🏼
Haha let's go! That's amazing 😂
@@ParkerNotes for the record, autocorrect swapped out what was supposed to be synthetic fluff for authentic fluff lol.. way to steal my moment to shine @ phone 😒 thank goodness for the edit button, golly!
Hey ! I really like yor voice and I think you could be a good narrator or something like telling poems or other type of literature.
Wow thank you! You may like my Proverb Pedding podcast then
youtube.com/@proverbpeddler
🤔vast knowledge and being a genuine listener are great skills. Growing a beard helps 🧔♂.
Notebooks I have been exploring:
Field Note type that I can carry easily in my back pocket. Current combo, Bellroy notebook cover with Moleskine cashier journal and Pentel R100-c pen in blue. Moving away from Field Notes brand.
Work setup is Plotter A5 Pueblo leather binder, with calendar and notes sections. Moving away from Hobonichi Techo sneaker mega.
Desk meeting notes and below keyboard is Bindewerk Clipper A4 writing pad. Moving away from Clairefontaine spiral bound.
Tech I have been exploring PLAUD AI
Interesting! 🤔
🙌🙌 thank you!
Hey i have a question. If i read fyodor dostoevsky’s works deeply can i become a philosopher or not?
Only one way to find out!
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Hey i hope its not too personal, but do you do anything else for a living except youtube or do you work in a philosophical related field? :)
I will Write about this Video in my journal today😂🤔
Loved hearing your tips! 🤔
Thank you! I'm pumped you like them 🤝🤝 I always get nervous before pushing upload that it's all just trash 😅
🤔 the emojy for you Moustache Guy!
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Why? Because I’m in sales. Maybe it’ll lead to good side bar convos with my customers to strengthen relationships. That and I love writing jokes - maybe it’ll help there too. Thanks man!
@@crestfallenwarrior6996 🙌🙌 my pleasure!
Sounds like you've been reading John Frame - Tri-Perspectivalism!!
Haha I've read almost everything he's ever written
It's simple people are interesting because their either do or think unusual things. No matter how many questions I ask the clerk at the gas station I am never going to find them interesting because they have never done anything other than the mundane. So in closing if you want to be interesting go out and do something interesting.
🤔 thanks
So do as cosplayers. They are skilled in many skills. They know a lot of things about the ting they are cosplaying from
so sad to think of someone that actually thinks of himselfs not being interesting xd
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I'm based in the UK and have followed your videos for quite a while. We have the Open University over here. It's a university for people studying at home. An offshoot is Open Learn. 100s of free courses that you can enrol on and get a certificate of learning at the end. Open Learn is easy to do as most of the courses ar 9 - 20hrs long. Trying new things is easy when it is on your doorstep.
Do you ever log your dreams?
Never. Do you? Worth while?
@@ParkerNotes Very worthwhile. Your dreams are a theatrical display of your subconscious, the more you write down your dreams, the more you’ll be able to remember them and gain control.
Eventually you will realize that it all comes from you, the nightmares all of it stems from and is a display of you.
I write down as much information as I can, even if I didn’t have a dream it is good to log it down.
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Making that preposterous mustache scarce would be a good beginning.
Lol so I can look like everyone else? So interesting.
@@ParkerNotes yes, like every single hipster out there 🤣 postmodern conformists!
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Can you please tell me the name of the book you were reading at 7:21 minutes in this video because I am interested.
Here it is: amzn.to/3zrORTo
@@ParkerNotes Thank you😊
You know what’s funny @parkernotes is I wanted to create a channel that focuses on learning more skills and gain knowledge together and then in turn become more interesting people
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Great video!! You are by far the most interesting person that I know 🤍
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Hahah 9:40, this means having friends
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Tbh you are probably saying something very valuable, but that moustache tho… Can’t keep my focus
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So interesting that you have 1 million bot comments
Lol huh?
I like your example of talking about the Chicago bears and how to make small chat go deeper by asking questions. I will definitely try this! It is so true that people’s favorite thing to talk about is themselves, so it makes sense to use this to help conversation go from meaningless to meaningful and learn something about the other person.
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