Temper Tantrums in Toddlers | Why They Happen & How to Keep the Peace | Malayalam | Dr. Mary Matilda
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- Опубликовано: 29 июл 2021
- Even before a child is born parents have hopes, dreams and expectations for their son or daughter. We want our kids to grow into independent, responsible and caring individuals. When they are toddlers they try to do things on their own. This independence is an essential and positive part in the development stage of an individual. However, very often, parents and caregivers call it as bad temper or temper tantrums. Yes, we may not agree with everything the child wants. But, instead of complaining about these tantrums let us patiently find out some constructive ways to tackle them. Dr Mary Matilda's daughter shares her experiences and techniques to manage toddlers when they become aggressive or grumpy.
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Dr. Mary Matilda is the former Principal of Maharajas College Ernakulam. She is a well known motivational speaker, corporate trainer & life skills/soft skills coach. She has Master’s degrees in Mathematics (MSc & M.Phil), Education (M.Ed), Business Administration and Management (MBA), Women Studies (MWS), Applied Psychology (M.Sc), and Ph.D. in women’s studies. She is also a Graduate in Law (LLB).
Well planned, well packed, and very informative to all parents. Thank you teacher and Asha. 🙏👍👍👌
Thank you so much🙂
This is one of the best videos I have watched in recent times . I have a daughter who is 2 year old too . The points you have shared here are absolutely right. I follow couple of them as you have mentioned and they really work .
Thank you so much🙂
Thank u so much. ഇപ്പോൾ ഞാൻ അനുഭവിക്കുന്ന same problem. എന്റെ മകനും രണ്ടു വയസ്സ് ആണ്. അവൻ ഒത്തിരി ഹൈപ്പർആക്റ്റീവ് ആണ്.ഇതിലെ മിക്കതും ഞാൻ ഫോളോ ചെയ്യുന്നതാണ്. എന്നിട്ടും endhe അവൻ ഇങ്ങനെ എന്ന് ഒത്തിരി വിഷമിച്ചിട്ടുണ്ട്. But ഇപ്പോൾ എനിക്ക് അതിന്റെ യഥാർത്ഥ റീസൺ കിട്ടി. അവനു അവന്റെ എനർജി റിലീസ് ചെയ്യാൻ വേണ്ടി ആയിരുന്നു. ഇപ്പോൾ ഓർത്തു നോക്കിയപ്പോൾ, എന്റെ വീട്ടിൽ ചെല്ലുമ്പോൾ അവിടെ ഒത്തിരി ഉണ്ണികൾ ആണ്. അപ്പോൾ ഫുൾ ടൈം കളിയും ചിരിയും ആണ്. ഒരു വിധ വാശിയും ഇല്ല . തിരിച്ചു വീട്ടിൽ എത്തിയാൽ വീണ്ടും ചെറിയ ചെറിയ കാര്യങ്ങൾക്ക് പോലും . Really thank u so much for this video
നല്ല അമ്മയുടെ നല്ല മകൾ ,നല്ല മകളുടെ അതിലും നല്ല കുട്ടിയായി നിയ മോൾ വളരട്ടെ .നോ പറഞ്ഞാൽ നോ തന്നെ ആയിരിക്കണം .👌
എത്ര നല്ല വാക്കുകൾ റെജിന. ❤❤🙏
Thank you so much 😊
It was a Valuable and informative session...Great Thanks to Dear Mary Matilda Teacher and Asha Mam 🙏🙏🙏
Great to hear from you Mejo. ❤🙏
Thank you so much 😊
Asha.Thank u very much for this valuable message
നല്ല രണ്ട് അമ്മമാർ. ഇതിൽ പറഞ്ഞ എല്ലാം വളരേ മൂല്യമുള്ളവയാണ്. ചിലതൊക്കെ ഞാനും പരീക്ഷിച്ചു വിജയിച്ചവയാണ്. എല്ലാം വിധ ആശംസകളും 🥰
Thank you🙂
Asha, really loved ur message and these tips or guidelines will definitely help me esp with my kidoos🤗🤗Thankyou soo much👍👍👍
Dear Mereen
Thanks a lot for your support and encouragement.❤❤🙏
Thank you so much dear😊
I was glad to watch this valuable video.😊 It was highly informative. Thank you Ma'am &Asha.🥰
Asha molude ee message kunjungale valarthunna ammamarku othiri prayojanappedum. Thanks molu.
Thank you very much Anna.
Thank you 😊
യൂട്യൂബിൽ വളരെ ഫലപ്രദവും പ്രായോഗികവും ആയ നിർദ്ദേശങ്ങൾ: ''Yes Parenting is a intellectua creative Job......
Thank you🙂
Valuable msg dear maam ,when i feel demotivated i used to watch maams josh talk episode ,pls do a video like that ❤️🥰...മകൾ ആഹ്ണെങ്കിലും maamite talking oru friendinodu samsaarikunnapole 😄😄😄😄😊☺️🥰🥰🤩🤗
I was waiting for your feed back.Thank you very much ❤❤🙏
Really wonderful....
Happy to see you both.....
Thank you sir 😊
Ajmal❤❤🙏
Thank You Mam and Asha. The video is very helpful.
Thank you so much. Glad to know that.
Very informative Asha dear! You've turned out to be such an awesome parent! So many useful and practical takeaways 😊👍
Thank you so much Fen for the kind words. I'm still trying to be a good parent 😊
Thanks a lot. ❤❤🙏
Very informative from two generations together
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It was really good message from both of you 🥰🥰. A big love from NY
Really superb, I really appreciate your content, beautiful parenting 👍 👏
Thank you 🙂
Very valuable and informative talk. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much🙂
Great tips asha..thank you :)
Thank you so much 😊
Very informative and helpful in the present day life style🙏
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Thank you so much😊
Very good information !!
I love that postive discipline 👌👌
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Very good parenting tips.. Aa mol nalla kutty ayi valarate.. May God bless your family ❤
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Very well explained Asha.
Thank you very much Latha. ❤❤🙏
Thank you so much 😊
Excellent talk Asha
Thank you so much 🙂
Nalla oru vivaranagal thankuuu
Thank you so much🙏
You are welcome.
Thank you for your valuable information, please please upload a video of " how a working father should be "
Thanks for the feedback.
One of the best video i ever seen
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Very good video. This is first time i am commening about a video...on utube
Good Morning teacher and Asha Mam.
Very Very useful and valuable tips and information really help to deal with children with psychological view.
Teacher my humble request is can u give some tips to deal with teenaged children especially in between 16 yrs and upto 19 yrs. We parents feel that our children are very much reserve type, wishing to remain alone and not wish to participate in social functions which invites tension in family. Especially son who s n plus two Always find in furious mood,not taking adequate interest in his studies and all. This tendency put we in tension about his future. I and my wife both are serving. I am requesting some useful tips,guidance or advice on this please.
Really a useful information. Thank you.
Thank you🙂
Very useful വീഡിയോ 👍🏻❣️
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Super asha. Brilliant. Me too tried all these.
Thank you 😊
Thank you mam ...very very nice talk
Thank you🙂
When the child is small everything works. But when they grow up they get influenced a lot from outside. Hope even then things work as we plan.
Yes. But at least we can do what's in our hands.
something i use is "diversion". When she goes cracky, i try to divert to some other interesting things,. They forget things fast and situation gets settled in seconds.
Thankyou ❤️ this was very halpful :)
Glad to know that😊
Valuable experience 👍
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Iam always a fan of aunty's talk..And Asha...you rocked.Loved the way you both complement each other.Was so natural and could easily relate..Waiting for more videos.Superb dear..Love to you and aunty
So sweet of you Hanna. Thank you.
Dear Hanna you made us very happy. Thank you. ❤❤🙏
Nice tips Asha...keep it up.
Thank you😊
To be very open ente maka 14 months oru tasteum illlathe (sugar/salt/spices)1 um illathe kodthad ..avan athokke kazhiyukkum bt avan bayyynkara picky eater now he is 18 months
Hmm...As per the doctor's instruction, I had introduced the family pot to my daughter by 1 year of age. So around 1 year, I introduced to her whatever food was cooked for the rest of the family, as it is. Kids are generally picky eaters. All we can do is keep offering good food of different kinds and leave the rest to them.
Thanks for watching and commenting🙂
അമ്മ മെറ്റിൽഡ, മകൾ ആഷ സൂപ്പർ. അതിലും സൂപ്പർ ആകും കൊച്ചു മകൾ നിയമോൾ. 👍👍 സൂപ്പർ ടിപ്സ്.
Thank you so much😊
Well done Asha👍🏻👌 very informative & valuable msg. Thank you😄
Dear Lizy thank you very much. ❤❤❤
Thank you so much aunty 😊
Very nice and useful tips...
Thank you 😊
Thank you very much Yahyakhaan..
Very informative and useful video. Will try implementing the tips and techniques that you have shared. I am going through similar phase with my 2year old baby boy. Thanks again for posting such videos☺️🙏
Well done Asha😄nice topic
Thanks Mini. Love to hear from you.❤❤❤
Thank you so much😊
Today I subscribed this channel
Today I got valuable informations
Thank you mam and asha
@@praseethamohan5716 Thank you🙂
Thnk u mam for d valuable msg... dis is d situation nw I'm facing.... 🙏
Thank you for watching and commenting🙂
Very valuable msg.
Thank you❤
Hai Sherine❤❤🙏
well said Asha
Thank you 🙂
Great mothers make great children... madam Matilda and madam Asha are wonderful mom's.....l too long If l were a Niya..
Thank you Anil❤❤🙏
Thank you so much😊
സൂപ്പർ very. Useful vidio. 👍👍👌👌👌
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"NO yude ennam kurakkuka" very good point
Superb asha😍
Hai Deepika thanks a lot. ❤❤🙏
Thank you so much 😊
Great msg...
Thank you.
മക്കളെ വളർത്തിയ കാലത്ത് ഇങ്ങനെയൊന്നും പറഞ്ഞു തരാൻ ആരുമുണ്ടായില്ലല്ലോ. ഒത്തിരി പാളിച്ചകൾ വന്നു പോയി. Really sorry babes. കൊച്ചുമക്കളെയെങ്കിലും നന്നായി വളർത്താൻ കഴിയട്ടെ
Thanks for watching and commenting 🙂
Thank you❤
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very informative video
Great to hear that. ❤❤🙏
Thank you so much😊
Good video...
My kid is nowadays becoming more aggressive😔
Aval vikruthi kooduthalanu, akramavasana athum ettavum ishtam ullavare nannai vedanippikkum, avalkk ishtam ulla dress mathrame idukayullu ... Snehathode paranju nokki onnilm rakshayillathe vanna situations il thirichu cheria shikshkal koduthu....ennitum prashnam kooduthal vashalakunnath allathe kurayunnilla
Any suggestions ma'am ..she is 2.5 years ols
Hi Hiba! Thank you for the comment. It is quite normal for kids of this age to be aggressive. There are a few things you could try:
1. Areyenkilum physically harm cheyumbo udane avare gently and kindly aa situationil ninnu maatua. Ennitu avarude feelings validate cheyua,i.e. say things like " Deshyam varunundalle. eniku ariyam ee karanam kondu deshyam undavumennu. Njan koode irunnu samadhanipikam." Give her a hug if she allows you to. Otherwise just be with her and ensure her safety as well as others'. Physical aggression padillennu parayunnathinte koode deshyam express cheyan vere options paranju kodukua. E.g. Deshyam varunundennu verbally parayan padipikua, Idikan thonnundenkil soft surfaces il idikan parayam, like on the bed, deshyam varumbo Hibayodu paranjal mathi apo samadhanipikam ennu parayua.
2. Aggression kanikunna samayathu blaming or shaming cheyathirikua. Or advices kodukathirikua. Aa samayathu ithonnum beneficial alla. When she is calm and happy, tell them lovingly that hitting others is not allowed because it hurts. Also tell her safe ways to express anger. Keeping doing this on a regular basis.
3. Kunjine ithinte peril adikano vazhakku parayano onnum cheyathirikan shramikua. That contradicts the message that hurting others is bad. Try to be as calm as you can. I know it's hard.
4. Try to engage her in physical activities as much as you can. Let her run and play outdoors. angane energy release cheyan nokua.
5. Find out the root cause behing agression. Chilapo kunjinu kooduthal attention kitan ayirikam. Angane anenkil spend more alone time with her- without phone or anything. Positive ayitulla karyangal kunju cheyumbo athinu attention kodukua, e.g. when she requests something in a kind tone, appreciate her for that saying the specific reason why you appreciate it.
6. Adhikam no parayathirikua. You can also watch my video on positive discipline for some other tips.
Most important, don't worry. These are normal phases of development. 🙂 But if you're very concerned, do not hesitate to talk to your paediatrician. It will help to relieve your stress.
@@ashamathew8981 Thanku ma'am for replying , I already watched the video on positive discipline and currently be trying to incorporate the ideas , I can see some small changes in her behaviour ...once again Thanku Ma'am
@@hiba60164 You're welcome🙂
Really helpful♥️
Glad to know that🙂
Nice video..Can u Pls share niya mol's daily routine
I will try to do that in a video. Thanks for watching and commenting🙂
Excellent dear Mam
Thank you😊
Super...Asha...
Thank you so much😊
Very good info
Thank you.
The actions we take affect children. Whenever possible we should try to behave in a positive way.
Yes. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Very good talk mam...niya is so lucky to get a good mom like you .and u r very very lucky to b the daughter of your mom
@@amruthas5740 Thank you for the kind words. I hope Nia agrees with you when she grows up😊
100% correct❤️😊
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I will try to do a video on it.
Great 😊🥰🥰🥰👏👏👏👏
Very nice talk
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Asha is rocking like you Matilda. Keep it up Asha
Thank you so much aunty😊
Ningal oru AMMA aanu 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really wish to be one🙂
എല്ലാം പുതിയ അറിവുകൾ. കഴിഞ്ഞ ആഴ്ച്ച പറഞ്ഞത് പോലെ ഒരു സ്പെഷ്യൽ വീഡിയോ.
നിങ്ങൾ രണ്ട് പേർക്കും താല്പര്യവും സമയമുണ്ടെങ്കിൽ ഒരു പോഡ്കാസ്റ്റ് തുടങ്ങാവുന്നതേ ഉള്ളു.
Good suggestion. Content ഇടുമ്പോൾ എന്താണെന്നറിയില്ല സ്വാദിക്കു ഇഷ്ടപ്പെടുമോ എന്ന ചിന്ത കടന്നു വരാറുണ്ട്. Thank you for your suggestion. ❤❤🙏
Thank you so much 😊
Thank u mam njanum 3 vayasulla kuttiyude ammayanu njanum ithil paranja pala karyangalum try cheyarullathayirunnu ennal veettil athinulla support vere aarum tharilla njan kuttiyude karyathil vaasi pidikunnathu poleyaa ellarum parayane pothuve kanduvarunna oru reethi athayathu kondum aavam
Hmm..I understand.
Thank you mam
You are welcome.
Valare nalla msge
Useful video
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Good informations
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Ashamole supper ayittund
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Thank you😊
I have a query madam... How to smoothly stop breastfeeding.. My child is an active child.. Loves my care and breast milk . Couldn't stop myself from giving him milk. He is 2 1/2 year.. When to stop and how. Tips.
Teacher, ente mon 1yr&4month aayi, enne mon upadravikunnu(mudiyil pidikunnu,kadikunnu.. Etc) ath engane ozhivakum,
Athu pothuve kunjungal cheyarullathanu. Ente kunju angane cheyumbo njan udane avale maati iruthum. Angane cheyaruthu ennu deshyapedathe parayum . Kadikan safe ayitulla vere sadhanam kodukum ( anganeyulla teething toys vangan kitum). Ethayalum vere orale hurt cheyunnathu sammathikaruthu. Valuthavumbo ithoke maarananu sadhyatha.
@@ashamathew8981 thank you ❤️
Ente monu ne 1year 5month ayi EEG eduthapo tampertantrum anennu paranju kure time vashi pidichu karayum enit njagal purathoke poyi bikil kodupovumbol kurayum urakka kuravum ude... Pinne normal avum pls reply
Good video ma'am so inspiring my daughter!s name also niya 😁
Thank you so much. Love to Niya❤
Good video
Thank you Priya❤❤🙏
Thank you😊
Very usefula
Thank u both Asha and Matilda for the useful and informative session
As a grandma I also got some tips.May God bless u to present more sessions like this. 👍👍
Thank you so much 😊
Hema dear thank you.❤❤🙏
Thank you. Othiri help cheythu....nerathe ariyan pattiyillallo ennoru vishamamundu
Thank you🙂
Nalla topic
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madam,teenage conflicts and 3rd child below 10 ,pls explain one episode for good methods.
നല്ല അമ്മ നല്ല മകൾ
Thanks for the suggestion.
@@shailajavg9808 Thank you 🙂
Positive thoughts ..
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Thank you
Ente monk 3vayass avarayi avanu bhayankara vashi upadravam pole anu ... Inikk ippo manage cheyyan pattunnilla engottenkilum povan thonnunu😥
Same . Mom of 3 year old boy.. Njn daily karayaranu avante vashi karaanm. Ipo ok aayo kunj?
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Chechee aa rutine enganeyaa onnu vishadheekariko
എൻ്റെ ചേച്ചിയുടെ മോൻ 2 വയസ്സാണ്. അവൻ വെറുതേ കരയും. കരയുമ്പോ കാണുന്നതൊക്കെ വലിച്ചെറിയും. തല കൊണ്ട് ഭിത്തിയിൽ ഇടിപ്പിക്കും. അക്രമ വാസന കാണിക്കും. അത് മാറ്റിയെടുക്കാൻ എന്തെങ്കിലും tips ഉണ്ടോ?
ഇവർ ഒരിക്കലും ഈ ചോദ്യത്തിന് മറുപടി തരില്ല
അവരുടെ കുട്ടിയുടെ കാര്യം നമ്മളെ കേൾപ്പിക്കുന്നു
പുട്ടിനു തേങ്ങ വയ്ക്കുന്ന പോലെ അമ്മ ഇടക്ക് ഓരോന്ന് പറയും
അനുഷ കുഞ്ഞിനെ നടക്കാൻ പോകുമ്പോൾ കാഴ്ചകൾ കാണിക്കാൻ കൂടെ കൊണ്ടു പോകൂ
Hi Anusha! Thanks for watching my video. I can share what I do. I try to make sure that my daughter gets enough time for free play and physical activity. I also try to reduce the number of times I say no to her. I try to say yes and let her do things according to her wish whenever possible. Also, when she is angry or upset, I show empathy and validate her feelings. I try to find the actual problem behind the crying and I tell her I know how it feels for her etc. That makes her feel better. Then I hug her and console her. Sometimes when she is very angry she doesn't like me hugging her. So I sit with her and wait until she is ready for a hug. If the child is trying to hurt herself or someone else, she has to be immediately removed from the situation before trying the above things. Sometimes, she gets upset when she feels she is not given attention. So I make sure I spend quality time with her everyday, without getting distracted by anything else. I keep away the phone and everything else. Then, I sing with her, cuddle with her, draw with her, read books, play with her etc. I also crack silly jokes and laugh with her.
@@harik8424 Thanks for commenting🙂
Good message
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ohh god oru pad ariv kittiyadh pole . thank you
Thank you so much🙂
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So simple is your dauhter dear mam
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