Thank you Rick. Your words are like oxygen when I’ve felt like I’m drowning in grief. My story is very mild in comparison to yours but I think even one act of infidelity has the ability to cause huge hurt and heartache, especially when you realise how you both let such a strong and special relationship get taken for granted and get neglected for so long. I’ve been through pain I never imagined I would in the past 3 months but I also feel so much gratitude for where this pain is taking me and how it’s bringing my wife and I back together in a way I could never have imagined. Thanks for your words Rick 🙏
This has been the most helpful thing I have found! Healing from my infedility has been hard. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your advice. It has been incredibly insightful and spot on! Your series has shown me so much of my mistakes. I truly appreciate your honesty and the hope you've given me.
Your differentiation of shame and guilt is very insightful. The closest and most helpful comment on guilt I had heard before yours was that guilt, acted upon to alleviate it is good, but beyond that it only serves to drag us down deeper and therefore at some point it must be let go. I think you give a more nuanced view by defining shame and guilt more clearly.
Thank you for sharing your story of hope, recovery, faith in God, and healing from infidelity. We are 9 months since D-day, completed full disclosure, therapy with CSAT's, 12 step program, sponsors, and are committed to learning everything we can about this horrific affliction. Our marriage has changed completely and we have experienced true intimacy for the first time. Infidelity has been a catalyst for both of us to change. We celebrated 37 years of marriage this week and we both agree our marriage is worth salvaging. We are committed to moving forward with faith and hope that His purpose will be revealed to us. Thank you for affair recovery and may you continue to be blessed.
congratulations on your recovery! thank you for sharing these difficult and sincere message, and for all the work you do. These videos have helped me heal lots of my childhood trauma ( parents toxic unfaithful marriage) and my personal experience with infidelity. It's a long road but it is going to be worth every step
Good information here. Something that has stood out to me is the unique nature of the pain experienced by the betrayed of infidelity. It's a pain that is simply unimaginable until you have suffered infidelity or been genuinely terrified that it's taking place....... On the other hand, I would love to hear an expert analysis on the psychology of these weird people you find online who fetishize being cheated on and even go as far as to pretend that it's an honor. Simply trolls? Too much time abusing internet pornography? I respect big time that this channel focuses on empathy and sympathy for the injured but I imagine many of us run into these strange people while seeking answers.. 🙄
My husband won't admit there is a problem. There is some extreme sexual abuse issues, beyond me, as well. My daughter will not allow me around and around her kids because she thinks I am the problem. Can one go to affair recovery by themselves? I cannot continue in this abuse.
I’m in same position, and with daughters too. They don’t know why I can fall into deep depression when I can get anywhere with him. We have since separated and they cut me off even though he admitted sexual abuse on me. The projection is fully endorsed by them. So only the partner can be the issue? Wrong. But here we are, trying to help this partner and being more and more isolated. While they enjoy this fake life they play, they sleep like a baby, and make us feel crazy.
You’re story is so similar to mine but can’t tell my husband he will leave me I’m scare 😭 I Need so much help . He had a fair first but I never thought I will do it.
I would love to speak with you on an affair that I had that came out recently. Would love some advise from you Rick as I feel we are the same. Just like you, I feel I am not the only one. Would love to speak with someone that could relate. Well I think my situation might actually be worst. And now we are trying to cope with it and I'm trying to understand her point of view on things and she is trying to understand mine. But we fall back to square one because of actions. Could really use some advice.
I would love for you to speak with someone. Take my free Affair Analyzer and leave your number. One of my staff will schedule a time to contact you and speak with you specifically about your situation - www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0.
Is it feasible to stay friends with the AP? Were you able to stay in the friendship with that couple? I and working on forgiveness but I don't think I can keep a friendship due to the mistrust.
Thank you Rick. Your words are like oxygen when I’ve felt like I’m drowning in grief. My story is very mild in comparison to yours but I think even one act of infidelity has the ability to cause huge hurt and heartache, especially when you realise how you both let such a strong and special relationship get taken for granted and get neglected for so long. I’ve been through pain I never imagined I would in the past 3 months but I also feel so much gratitude for where this pain is taking me and how it’s bringing my wife and I back together in a way I could never have imagined. Thanks for your words Rick 🙏
I hope you are your wife are doing well
This has been the most helpful thing I have found! Healing from my infedility has been hard. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your advice. It has been incredibly insightful and spot on! Your series has shown me so much of my mistakes. I truly appreciate your honesty and the hope you've given me.
Your differentiation of shame and guilt is very insightful. The closest and most helpful comment on guilt I had heard before yours was that guilt, acted upon to alleviate it is good, but beyond that it only serves to drag us down deeper and therefore at some point it must be let go.
I think you give a more nuanced view by defining shame and guilt more clearly.
Thank you for sharing your story of hope, recovery, faith in God, and healing from infidelity. We are 9 months since D-day, completed full disclosure, therapy with CSAT's, 12 step program, sponsors, and are committed to learning everything we can about this horrific affliction. Our marriage has changed completely and we have experienced true intimacy for the first time. Infidelity has been a catalyst for both of us to change. We celebrated 37 years of marriage this week and we both agree our marriage is worth salvaging. We are committed to moving forward with faith and hope that His purpose will be revealed to us. Thank you for affair recovery and may you continue to be blessed.
congratulations on your recovery! thank you for sharing these difficult and sincere message, and for all the work you do. These videos have helped me heal lots of my childhood trauma ( parents toxic unfaithful marriage) and my personal experience with infidelity. It's a long road but it is going to be worth every step
The only way to deal with shame is to expose it
Right on
Wow. Your story is so close to my own.
Good information here. Something that has stood out to me is the unique nature of the pain experienced by the betrayed of infidelity. It's a pain that is simply unimaginable until you have suffered infidelity or been genuinely terrified that it's taking place....... On the other hand, I would love to hear an expert analysis on the psychology of these weird people you find online who fetishize being cheated on and even go as far as to pretend that it's an honor. Simply trolls? Too much time abusing internet pornography? I respect big time that this channel focuses on empathy and sympathy for the injured but I imagine many of us run into these strange people while seeking answers.. 🙄
Is there a way to get private online couple's counseling with you Rick? We live in Saudi Arabia
Appointments can be made here: crossroads-counseling.net/appointments/
Thank you for sharing!
My husband won't admit there is a problem. There is some extreme sexual abuse issues, beyond me, as well. My daughter will not allow me around and around her kids because she thinks I am the problem. Can one go to affair recovery by themselves? I cannot continue in this abuse.
Yes. See our Programs and Courses: www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses.
I’m in same position, and with daughters too. They don’t know why I can fall into deep depression when I can get anywhere with him. We have since separated and they cut me off even though he admitted sexual abuse on me. The projection is fully endorsed by them. So only the partner can be the issue? Wrong. But here we are, trying to help this partner and being more and more isolated. While they enjoy this fake life they play, they sleep like a baby, and make us feel crazy.
You are the best but my Huby will not cooperate , I can I do the counselling all alone ?
You’re story is so similar to mine but can’t tell my husband he will leave me I’m scare 😭 I Need so much help . He had a fair first but I never thought I will do it.
I would love to speak with you on an affair that I had that came out recently. Would love some advise from you Rick as I feel we are the same. Just like you, I feel I am not the only one. Would love to speak with someone that could relate. Well I think my situation might actually be worst. And now we are trying to cope with it and I'm trying to understand her point of view on things and she is trying to understand mine. But we fall back to square one because of actions. Could really use some advice.
I would love for you to speak with someone. Take my free Affair Analyzer and leave your number. One of my staff will schedule a time to contact you and speak with you specifically about your situation - www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0.
Did you ever get to apologize to your bet friend?
I did - I was able to apologize to him immediately after and he was receptive. My AP was able to make amends to Stephanie as well.
Is it feasible to stay friends with the AP? Were you able to stay in the friendship with that couple? I and working on forgiveness but I don't think I can keep a friendship due to the mistrust.
@@camuyana no, we were not able to continue that relationship on either side. It wasn't safe for us.