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"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?" Yeah, they're called politicians.
I've been called a liar by a government investigator, and I knew perfectly well I wasn't lying. The air of confidence that people like this speaker present is how they convince decision-makers that they know what they're doing. But they can be wrong too, and their mistakes cost careers.
Half of what she was saying didn't make much sense to me as it doesn't have to mean anything. The kid yelling at his parents they don't trust them, that's probably coz they are fed up of the policing haha, or the example of attacking a third party, maybe that employee had been warning them for ages to add CCTV for example, or someone going angry from 0 to 100, tons of reasons...so yeah she speaks with so much confidence, .. reminds me of ChatGPT haha it answers with so much confidence you believe even the wrong answers 🤪✌
Exactly. And that's exactly what I was thinking when I saw the title of this show. If these people were so expert at everything they do, how come there have been so many miscarriages of justice, with innocent people going to prison for long stretches all the time, only to be vindicated years later?
This is so true. One time, when applying for a job as a police dispatcher, I had to take a polygraph test. I was so nervous I failed. The guy thought I was hiding something, but it all amounted to me being a young 21-year-old that was freaked out, and I kept thinking, “What if there’s something that I’ve done that I don’t remember?” I didn’t get the job, but I did learn that those tests are not reliable. Anyone with confidence and assurance can pass a polygraph. But if you’re nervous or anxious, you will fail.
@@BlackSeranna True. In fact Joe Kenda (of the Homicide Hunter series) told the story of how a guy was identified by name after a shooting, Kenda brought him in, questioned him, gave him a polygraph test (which he failed) and then let him go without charge. His colleagues went crazy with him, but his reasoning was simple: he could tell when someone was lying and he believed the kid was telling the truth. As it turned out the kid had been wrongly identified (because he had long hair, like the shooter): and the actual shooter was caught. This is what irritates me about the one giving the talk there, too. If they were so flawless in their work how come so many innocent people still end up in prison.
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Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.
I hate liars and find it extremely difficult to lie. In my life I found that people do not believe you're honest because they themselves are dishonest.
Peter C ... "Excuse ME!!!!" I was a Car Salesman and I didn't lie... (even though my manger wanted me to)... You can be a Car SalesWOMAN and not have to lie... I studied the Cars I was selling and sold that... Thank you very much!!!
Judi Christopher Typical response by a woman. Overreact to everything. No one cares that you sold cars. If I were you, I'd keep quiet because selling cars is nothing to brag about, you cackling hen.
Obviously to you Chris Kneelson Mr Ford never sold any cars, at all, ever. Sales is a process of matching a product to the customers need and building trust. It has nothing to do with lieing. Some people cant sell because they have no personality. Or are ashamed of their own unique personality and therefore not able to build relationships.
At about 16:00 she points to a list off screen and references it several times . It would have been helpful to see the things on the screen she is pointing to.
I worked for a particular retail company for a long time, and I sat in on many interviews with the guy who was in charge of loss prevention for almost 200 stores. He was very good at getting people to admit that they stole cash and merchandise. Then we found out HE was stealing!
I worked for a school where this guy always seemed to be so happy and boisterous around his office mates, but when he was alone, he didn’t interact with anyone else and he almost seemed upset. He’d been working at the school for decades and was looking at retirement. Then one day, one of my workmates (different department) found a safe open. He turned it in. They watched the security tape, and this guy had been stealing from the safe after each ball game and people hadn’t noticed somehow. I can’t imagine losing my job and retirement over something like that. There was this other guy, I noticed that he was only animated and happy with his fellow coaches and students. With regular people like me, he didn’t even look at me and barely said hello in reply. I wondered at this, as this was not usual either. Turns out that guy had been grooming a sixteen year old track girl, and he had even gone so far as to buy a house just down from her parents’ house. Her parents saw that something was wrong and went through her phone and found the evidence. I feel like you can get a good feel for a person if you see how they treat others who they think are lesser than themselves.
CIA are more than a disgrace. Down right satanists. All the satanism is the issue. Just like this disgraceful CIA actor. Scot Peterson, Susan Smith, all FBI setups.
If you don't have a lawyer you might ask for your Constitutional Rights and they will persecute you to the fullest extent to make an example of you. But if you are famous, they will pretend that you have rights to keep people from knowing the truth. I've been there. My lawyer kept me from getting 3 years in jail for a felony charge because of a tiny closet of pot plants. He basically told me to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to stay out of jail for 3 years. I paid him $8,000 and was happy to be free.
Im not really into the _"spiritual philosophy"_ if you will, and I fully acknowledge ive made poor judgements but my gut has practically a perfect record...And I read some "hippie shit" that said trust your gut because its one of your chakras picking up on negative energy which is why it materializes as a "gut feeling" makes sense to me 🤷🏻♂️
That moment when you realize that you have invested 17 minutes of your life on a random video only to discover that they never actually SHOW the list of behaviors. I want my time back.
@@Rickety3263 everyone learns differently and they may need more visual cues to understand the material better. Calling someone an entitled millenial is simply rude and a closed minded judgement. Try directly someone towards a place that can help them instead of being a dick next time ...
Most Doctors and ALL Psychiatrists. They're still lying to the American public claiming you may have a 'chemical imbalance' and need to take our neurotoxic, extremely addicting, dangerous, deadly drugs to treat it. Everything they tell us a one big fat LIE.
When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.
When I'm asking a to question I'm making eye contact if they don't it's cause a story must be imagened the truth can be spoken with solid steady eye contact
@@tommerphy1286 Actually that is not true either. Many persons that are trying to manipulate are looking you directly in your eyes to see how you react to their lie and if you believe it or not, so they can adjust accordingly.
@@thecakebaker3769 when I hear what they say, I have a question, and if they go into evade and escape . Depending on the subject to me their on the witness stand and better have an idedic memory.
I was thinking this while watching the video. Aggression or anger from children (or anyone, in the case of repeated accusations) is often a strong indicator of truth. [Though usually it's paired with a reiteration of the facts they've already told you instead of a redirection (No 'Well, everyone does it!'s or 'Why are you always on my case?'s)] I always think of a classroom I was in where somebody was accused of stealing another student's TI-84 calculator because the missing calculator "had the same chipped key on it". The accused got more and more flustered and upset as the teacher and members of the class interrogated him, but stuck to his story that it was his. The other kid eventually found his calculator, and when compared, both had chipped in exactly the same place in the same way. Honestly, in that situation, who wouldn't get defensive? I guess that's why she specifically says that aggression is a deceptive indicator "when all you did was calmly ask a question".
Sometimes it just hurts when people accuse you of something...especially if its the sort of thing you would never do or the accusation comes from somebody you THOUGHT knew you better than that. I don't get angry or even try especially hard to refute it. I just go away and don't return...
This would've been so much more valuable if it had actually included the slides she's referring to as "this", "that over there", "this one", "that one" etc.
CIA Or other agents Will not come out and tell you Your a liar Thier whole point of questioning is to gather as much info to present in a court of law It starts when you see them coming to you Where you were What you were doing at the time How you reacted to them being there And at that point They already know something you don't Or maybe your on a equal playing field And it ends when a judge slams the hammer This is why the first thing you hear from law enforcement say : You have the right to remain slient - Most don't have the ablilty....This is why you have Good cop Bad cop roles to find what makes you tick and spill your guts even if its a lie or the truth
I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them. One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. Too many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.
I was a CO for a few years. I learned so much working there. Psychology, behaviors, why people do the things they do, etc. more than I did at any school or job. I absolutely dreaded taking that job initially; I was one of the rare ones that did LE first. Had moved to a backwards state that was rife with cronyism and nepotism. But looking back, I actually miss that CO job. Definitely stressful, but with a good group of coworkers it was fun, every day different, and learned a whole lot of everything and anything that's helped me out in so many other ways. Will definitely make you take the rosy colored glasses off as to how the world really is.
@@Christy.1 ... You're totally right. A C/O wears many hats while working an institution. You're a C/O. You're a psychologist, you're a mentor, you're a "parental" figure. You're a protector. You're a detective. An observer. At times medical emergency responder. I would say 90% it is actually boring. But that 10% ...man, we earned our check. So my motto was "boring is good in prison". I too saw working there as a daily challenge. You Never know what's going to happen that day. Alot of mind games. Some you win, some you lose. We took losing as a learning experience for next time. I still have dreams of wearing my uniform and working there. I do really miss the comradery of my co-workers. Miss the friendships we developed during our whole careers. The dark spots and the exciting events that we all experienced together. Prison is a WHOLE different world than ours. If only regular civilians knew the daily drama and the evil that exists in there. I worked there for 8 to 12 hours a day. Would never want to live in there 24/7.
@@les8518 ... As I'm sure you know, you could actually "feel" when something was wrong even without the inmates being verbal. The tension, the out of the normal activities (inmates are very habitual in their daily routines), their sudden quietness, their sneaky stares... You could instantly feel something happened, about to, or did happen. At times all I had to do was to look at their faces to observe where else they were looking, and I could likely pinpoint where the problem was located. Inmates too are constantly observing your manners and style. One thing I could not understand is how as a C/O I could manage societies worst, yet when I came home... I couldn't control my own kids. Lol.
That's not the list. That is your list of responsibilities. The list of 'deceptive behaviors' was not given. She goes through each behavior one at a time in her lecture; saying "maybe, probably, generally' etc; movement of points (feet, elbows) during or five seconds after the question; aggression; not directly denying the question; using statements such as "I would never do that" instead of a yes or no, and so forth. Those are the list of behaviors that we couldn't see and were not given. If I would've taken notes, I'd have them all. But she even started by saying this would only give you enough information to make you dangerous and not to use it on a spouse.
Mathew Russo that is true. But again, this video serves as nothing more than a basic introduction to Agent Phillip Houston's developed techniques for deception detection. If you want a more detailed understanding of these techniques, I highly suggest purchasing their collaborative book "Spy the Lie". It is around $12 at most book stores.
Governor Pritzker actually told Illinois that I would never lie to you while completely and utterly lying, he has a venture capitalist firm that makes money from the tests which have just now been recalled by the CDC. Dude has constantly been caught lying. When someone says I will not lie to you and proceeds to talk chances are they are lying.
It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.
When you are asked "how are you doing ", 9 times out of 10 it is a simple greeting and they don't want you to give them your medical issues. So the question is a lie.
@@thomasgallegos2832 I have made the mistake of that, or partly and it became clear that they had lost intrest so now I just say fine unless I'm speaking to my doctor.
@@MrTripleXXX I actually ask to get the real answers of how someone is and I’m prepared for the possibility of a 45 min answer bc I asked “ how are you” . Some people really need someone to talk to
MrJohnnyDistortion The questioner will not accuse you of lying . He/she will only ask you questions but instead of answering the question if you get aggressive , then that means you are afraid of being exposed .
+haris haneef I have been questioned before and I became angry because I was innocent so, I disagree that aggressive behaviour is a sign of one being concerned/afraid of being exposed. I've seen completely guilty individuals express serene calm.
Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.
I don't think there's any consistent pattern in eyebrows. People shouldn't rely on this kind of gunk. It's not consistently true and it's resulted in a lot of misery for a lot of innocent people.
A good sign is when a person crosses their arms when you are speaking to them. It's a subconscious reaction of building a shield with your arms telling the other person he is not welcomed in the conversation. It's a defensive position that he is close-minded to what ever you want to say to him. Or when you ask a question. Does he repeated it. His way of buying time to conjur up a lie. He gulps hard. His eyes blink real fast. Or he fails to make eye contact when he responds. Or suddenly starts scratching his face or arms repeatedly. Could also slide or stutter his responses. Or just give out TOO much information when not asked for.
@@oldschoolfunkster1 Yes! Arm-crossing is a guarded position that stems from the need to protect as much of our vital organs as our arms can when we feel threatened. Obviously we won't do this if we are faced with a bear, but it can relate to more subtle feelings of threat... Totally unrelated, another sign is the feet. If you are talking with someone while standing up and their feet are facing you, that means they want to be talking with you. Conversely, if their feet are not facing you, that indicates they do not or are in a rush to get somewhere else. While sitting, you can look at signs like crossed legs or feet, hyperflexed knees where the feet are far under the chair, or the jitters.
@@markh2826 ... You got it. All those are exact signs as you defined them. People don't know they do this, but their body automatically sets its position to tell you what they are thinking. Of course it's not correct 100% of the time, but one has an idea on how to continue the meeting. I'm a retired officer and this was a good thing to know. From reading a liar or guilty person, to someone that was ready to get violent. If I saw someone with one foot in front of the other, he was getting ready to start swinging. The clenched fists to their sides were a dead giveaway too. And we always looked into their eyes to anticipate their next move. We were trained to also take a slight defensive stance (not aggressive) to keep our balance in case. In other words, a body talks without the person speaking. You just have to know how to decipher the language. And you know how to read that. Very interesting perception to have available.
There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.
I am one of those people you describe. I could lie my way out of anything.... but accuse me of guilt when I am actually innocent... I come across as liar/guilty I am told. My whole life. 🤷♂️ I couldn't tell the truth to save my life in court.
I am the type of person that would appear as lying when i tell the truth. I have a problem with a nervous type of smirk or if i do not take the person serious i will smirk. The smirk is often taken as me being a lier when i am infact telling the truth. Body language is never perfect and neither is using movement or any other measure to determine deception. The problem is people assume it is a one size fits all approach to determining if someone is lying. Their is no one size fits all approach and at best you can have general rules that do not apply universally. For instance when someone asked me something and i was asked a question my answer had a long pause. They assumed I was lying when in reality my mind just went blank in the middle of a question. So I can had a pause until I remembered what the right answer to the question was. My mind sometimes just goes blank in mid sentence on rare occasions.
You know someone is about to lie if they start their answer to a question with “So, blah, blah, blah.” Then they evade answering the question and ramble on about something totally unrelated. Another sign of dishonesty is; when a person is accessing a memory, they look up and to the right, when they are lying, they look up and to the left to try to think of a story or lie they can tell.
You’re possibly right. The more we know, the more we think we know :) we’ll become arrogant people and sometimes dangerous, both in our careers or in personal life. We all judge and missjudge. But probably many times we need this kind of people.
Well usually the lying spotting is only used to try to find possible suspects and then they try to find the truth. Or at least that's how it's supposed to be. They can't build a case around "Well it looked like she was lying". However if they are telling different stories and stuff that doesn't or just details that are don't work together then that can be an argument in court
SOOOO TRUE! I played a game of two truths, one lie in a team-building activity. I guessed EVERYONE else's lies, and no one guessed mine. They looked at me with a side-eye for the rest of day. Part of my ability came from listening to them before the session. SO many were bragging about their personal accomplishments without asking anyone else anything, their competitive nature worked against them. I used know biases to formulate my answers. There is great power in being underestimated. Your point about jail is spot on!!! The same thing happens in the classroom. Some children get punished for what someone 'THINKS' the child is going to do, versus what they've actually done.
@@Aggrobiscuit " She's so wrong about this part. Getting angry is usually a sign someone is innocent." You're both wrong. Making a baseless asumption about innocence or guilt based on things that are *by definition* irrational and then trying to apply an ostensibly rational concept like law or deductive reasoning towards that assumption is bullshit.
@@helpimslow973 Again, baseless assumption. You don't get to apply how you *think* you would react to a baseless accusation and retroactively assume guilt. This woman uses baseless assumptions as well, but she uses about a dozen at a time to attempt to build a profile. Asking a single question and deducing a "lie" from that singular question is never going to be a valid logical mechanism for truth or lies.
I know. She refers to all these things we can't see while we are watching the video. I cry fowl...even though those people that are sitting there paid to be there.
I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.
You can still look for those signs of deception. Some may be sociopaths or pathological liars where they won’t have those “tells” but those are the exceptions.
@@jonny8790 The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.
@@michselkatok6073 so having a reason to lie makes it okay? Why not speak the truth all the time? Even if it goes against oneself. This is following a better path. Wouldn't you agree? Because along with the lies comes deceit and bad suspicions. Trust is lost. These are but a few wrongs from a long line of ills that come from lying.
I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect. No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.
Angie. I love your response. I totally agree. If my kid's (especially my little one's) were missing I'd be a basket case and could never do any kind of Interview's at all!
And she knew when it was thought a black man did it the media would empathize with her, she was slick... the description she made matched a local man who lost his job and his life was ruined for awhile
I remember it and thought the same thing!! It actually stopped me in my tracks when I saw her on TV. The way she talked, "cried" and blamed a black man. I knew immediately she was guilty!
Well, you do lie. If you have held your tongue because you did not want to offend, due to fear of the repercussions, then you have lied. We all lie. It is not acceptable but we all lie.
@@fitnesspoint2006 I think here they're talking about deliberate/ intentional lies not circumstantial omission to avoid confusion. I prefer to be silent than utter things i can't verify.
@Redrustyhill damn you hear him talk about his mother and you already psychoanalyzed why she acts the way she does? You may be a world renowned psychologist!
@Redrustyhill You are guilty of that yourself because youre applying your experiences onto his mom right now ,just as you explained in your comment, when his mom could be doing it for a number of reasons. I think projection is certainly a possibility but how do you know that, for example, the original poster proved himself, to his mom, to be an untrustworthy person whether that be when he was younger or currently? thats just one of many possibilities besides projection You could definitely say im being nit picky and unnecessarily confrontational right now but as a person who studies psychology its the golden rule to not assume but to listen and make judgements based on what you hear
Now I know why I've been taken advantage of so many times, both financially and otherwise. I have an erroneous belief that everyone is telling the truth unless I notice signals pointing toward someone lying. And because I so strongly believe that people are inherently good.
The older we get & the more betrayals we face the more cynical we become. Its sad that we lose our innocence through the dishonesty of others due to our trusting natures. My heart has known this betrayal & i fight cynicism daily. 😢
Been there, been taken advantage of, and I’m done. I don’t mind helping people a little but it will be on my own terms. I feed the neighborhood cat some snacks. That’s about where I am with making friends. People are complicated, and there are so many out there that can figure out who they can take advantage of.
23:51 When you ask someone a question and they talk for 10 minutes, & then you realize they never answered the question...this means they passed the First Practical Test for becoming a POLITICIAN!!
she is just as capable of lying as anyone, and probably does quite a lot,considering the line of work she was in lol. there are better videos on this subject.
My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.
"the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie." You told your son that he should be honest so that he could be a more convincing liar in the future.
that is terrible parenting. Your son should be instilled with speaking the truth for the right reason. You literally just told him to be truthful only so he could get away with a big lie. We should speak the truth because that is right thing to do. I understand the utility of what you said but it's sooo wrong
I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one. I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting. I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying. Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something. You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.
Wich exactly what the intire world seen the democrats in office and civilian population do to a real American Trump when its actually the democrats who are colluding with Russia and selling out America to china and trying to get people to hate each other and helped china create the virus and proven to be child predators all over the USA and thrives on sex trade and getting Americans killed from poison from China and help from Mexico..
If you watched the video none of the behaviours by themselves are a way to identify a lie. It only happens when many of them happen just after being asked a question. Like for example, if you are moving your leg all the time instead of just when you are being asked it could mean you are just nervous, you are cold or that you just want to pee.
What I learned, besides how to lie, is that if you are a former CIA agent, you can open your own company and convince others you know something that they don't because you were CIA.
Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.
I had a childhood similar to that. Even to this day I still repeat myself over and over in different ways, provide all the facts I’m able, be as logical and reasonable as possible just to prove the point that I’m telling the truth. And that thought pattern my parents had with me thinking that I always lie, taught me to think that most important people in my life are lying to me about things I’m serious about. Leaves me begging for the truth even when someone tells me they are being truthful. Damn, I wish parents knew how much the f*** their child up with stuff like this lol
Yeah you over explain with a clear and fully detailed account of what happened and it makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be believed by garnishing the answer so heavily. Its shit! Im literally so black and white and direct and straight forward, Ill give you my full account to squash any chance of there being doubt, but thats not how normal people communicate, because most people didn't have to microexplain their every thought and movements and be told their lying when they were telling the truth. You have no where to go then, so it teaches you to do your best to explain in totality.
I’m so glad that someone else knows what this feels like. Not like it’s a good thing for either of us, but knowing I’m not alone brings me some comfort. Even while I’m telling a story to someone I am consistently pausing and spacing out so I can reflect on what happened and put it in the exact words that describe exactly what happened so I know I am being honest, I’m so careful when I’m talking because I am always afraid of lying even unintentionally by leaving out important information. I’m always afraid of lying, and when I’m being honest and I know I’m being honest I wonder if it’s because I am lying to myself.
If you're lying you were somewhere but actually weren't, just imagine yourself there whilst giving the lie for example, nothing elaborated, very simple actually. If you were lying about something you didn't do, imagine yourself actually doing whilst lying, believe in it, there's a difference between lying and bullshiting.
Yeah this was ridiculously filmed. Good subject matter destroyed by thoughtless filming/editing. Totally pointless w/o seeing wtf she's pointing out...do these idiots not vet what they're putting out there? Oh, wait, yeah. No. Clearly not.
A person's behavior under questioning frequently has a great deal to do with their childhood and how they were raised, and it is totally unrelated to the subject matter of the questioning. This is particularly true for a person who has a history of being emotionally or physically abused as a child by a parent or as an adult by a spouse. While in such an abusive childhood or relationship, they are constantly on trial in the court of their abuser and are assumed to be guilty unless they prove themselves innocent. And ultimately no matter what they prove to that abusive parent or spouse as to their innocence, they nevertheless constantly remain guilty in the eyes of the abuser. As a result, anyone growing up under that evil abusive tongue or hand of a parent will mostly likely make for a highly-insecure adult. That insecurity will yield nervousness long answers to yes/no questions. Also, because they get so tired of a life of constantly being on trial and constantly being wrongly disbelieved and wrongly assumed and found to be guilty, they finally get fed up and reply in anger under interrogation.
This very thing cost me a job when I had to do a poly with an interrogator who was convinced I'd done drugs at some point in life. No matter what I said, how much I denied, he was going to keep pushing, and eventually changing the question, to get his "confession". The fact that I became fatigued and upset at being questioned for THREE HOURS about some imagined behavior that he believed I must've done (remember, this is for a job, not an actual crime that had been committed) was "proof" that I was lying. I always hated being accused of things as a child and would become very emotional, because I knew I hadn't done anything wrong, but I was blamed and punished anyway. Plenty of innocent people have shown these "telltale signs" and gone to jail, only to be exonerated later, but they keep trying to convince us that their hocus-pocus is "science" and not to be questioned.
@@tvdavis This is the thing anyone claiming to know for sure when someone is lying will typically not be able to tell when their method is ineffective on a person. Simply put no method to detect deception is going to apply to everyone universally. This women in this video assumes aggression is such a big factor in being deceptive when in reality you could just be tired of being accused of something you did not do. Furthermore a smirk could simply be because you are nervous or do not take the person asking seriously. Hell my mom could think i did something and question me and make all kinds of faces in the process. What do you think my response is while telling the truth? If you guessed smirking you got it right. All though their is two reason's why i smirk when i am being questioned 1 is being nervous and 2 is i don't take you serious. Me not taking someone serious may be because of who they are or maybe they are making funny faces.
@@Raiden-the-Goat32 I see your point but from watching the video she explains its more about timing and clusters not just 1 sign. Also the 1st 5 seconds. I'm not sure your story reaches that level of deceptive signs.
Never take a lie detector test because the man giving you the test can trick you or make you feel uneasy and read the lie behind the lie detector...plus if you pass they don't count and if you don't it goes against you.
The problem is psychopaths, Everything a psychopath says is a manipulation, They even have super human hypnotic and deceiving capabilities. If law enforcement don't persecute so harsh, Psychopath can lie their way out of every judicial system. This is why sometimes law enforcement have to completely ignore the law and even break it, Not helpful though, Because psychopaths are also attracted to Police jobs.
You mean " ….. Their statements" and not "There statements". Learn how to use *there, their and they're" as it's basic English. Examples in sequence are: 1.)There are many positive replies. Next: 2.) Those are their qualifications, not yours', and 3.) They're so bad at English that I might as well give up and then they're going to get a grade F. Remember that an apostrophe takes the place of a letter or letters. So the word 'they're' means *they are*.
The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.
Also, telling someone you're "Fine" when you have a headache isn't a lie. You are fine, relatively. If you felt good, you'd say good. If you felt great, you'd say great.. If you have a headache or you're upset you have to work late, it's not good or great.. but you're still "fine."
A n-size large group of people will mostly react with a x-behaviour. Its a statistical estimate, and if you sum up how often you got an estimated behaviour from a person, one can pretty sure say if one is lying.
I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.
... It sounds to me like you were "gangstocked" at work... I've had something similar to that happen to me years ago. I was harassed until I walked off the job one day... In hind sight, I wish I would have sued them ..., (I'm glad I left, tho ). Point is, you may want to check into a lawsuit if the statute of limitations hasn't yet expired. If they've created a hostile work environment, that alone is grounds for a law suit. I wish you the very best.
same here. i feel people just watch too many movies and basically everyone believes they can play amateur psychologist. this lie spotting thing is bullshit.
@@akiamini4006 Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.
i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..
I don't lie 10 times a year.. In rare times I'll scale things or dumb it down or make a joke to spare someone's feelings if I don't think they can handle the truth anout something. BUT if you ask me something you WILL get the truth 100% of the time!
I'm not sure aggression is correlated to deception. One can get angry if a question is asked over and over while the person is telling the truth, it's when they are not angry they lack conviction of their story. For example if you are innocent and police obtain you and insist you know something or you had a malicious intent even though it's not true, you are going to at the very least get angry because they are not believing you. So you shout out loud (" I swear to God! I left Tony at the store and I had no clue what he was up to!, why don't you guys believe me!?") I hope you get the gist.
Your absolutely right, aggressiveness is not a sign of deception. Like me . I just want to be left the hell alone and do my job and or what ever . Lying is an insult to a persons on intelligence .
Micscience if this is true what she said it would mean I always lie. I find myself to be a pretty honest person . when I listen to her it seems that everything is a lie. this is pure crap. sure it works on some people.
So now liars will know how to lie! F%^&ing great!
Zinger hahaha
And yet she debunked that conclusion by saying that a liar cannot hide all the signs. Watch it again.
*****
Good liars can, but you'd never know - that's the point.
Zinger lol!
Zinger my ex-husband was the best liar I knew! The only way I could tell if he was lying was if his son was in the room & I noticed that if my ex was lying, his son would not confirm it! If my ex told the truth, his son would stick up for him. The boy did this because his grandmother always lied to him & the boy hated to be lied to! My saving grace! AMAZING!!!! My ex believed some of his own lies, I believe! 🤔
She is describing the system that lies to us
Any former CIA officer should be able to spot a liar. They are surrounded by each other all day.
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@John Balled Yup!!!
Narcissism is much more that just lies, and you should know that
"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?"
Yeah, they're called politicians.
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, TOOK THAT RITE OFF MY KEYBOARD, IM SURPRISED THE ENTIRE PLACE DIDT YELL THAT OUT!!!!! GOOD ONE! THANKS.
@Tanish Bermola its a direct quote from the video.
That was awesome!!!!!! You are correct. God Bless.
What type of personn is that thou. Deception?
The biggest lie I tell myself is "you don't need to write that down you'll remember it".
Judy, I’m so bad I forget stuff I did write down
LOL
Don't forget the ever so faithful "the conversation will get there when I see it, and then I wouldn't have drifted off"
I’ve been called dumb got writing down what person was telling me
@Cyndi Rothrock YES!
I've been called a liar by a government investigator, and I knew perfectly well I wasn't lying. The air of confidence that people like this speaker present is how they convince decision-makers that they know what they're doing. But they can be wrong too, and their mistakes cost careers.
Half of what she was saying didn't make much sense to me as it doesn't have to mean anything. The kid yelling at his parents they don't trust them, that's probably coz they are fed up of the policing haha, or the example of attacking a third party, maybe that employee had been warning them for ages to add CCTV for example, or someone going angry from 0 to 100, tons of reasons...so yeah she speaks with so much confidence, .. reminds me of ChatGPT haha it answers with so much confidence you believe even the wrong answers 🤪✌
Exactly. And that's exactly what I was thinking when I saw the title of this show. If these people were so expert at everything they do, how come there have been so many miscarriages of justice, with innocent people going to prison for long stretches all the time, only to be vindicated years later?
This is so true. One time, when applying for a job as a police dispatcher, I had to take a polygraph test. I was so nervous I failed. The guy thought I was hiding something, but it all amounted to me being a young 21-year-old that was freaked out, and I kept thinking, “What if there’s something that I’ve done that I don’t remember?” I didn’t get the job, but I did learn that those tests are not reliable.
Anyone with confidence and assurance can pass a polygraph. But if you’re nervous or anxious, you will fail.
@@BlackSeranna True. In fact Joe Kenda (of the Homicide Hunter series) told the story of how a guy was identified by name after a shooting, Kenda brought him in, questioned him, gave him a polygraph test (which he failed) and then let him go without charge. His colleagues went crazy with him, but his reasoning was simple: he could tell when someone was lying and he believed the kid was telling the truth. As it turned out the kid had been wrongly identified (because he had long hair, like the shooter): and the actual shooter was caught. This is what irritates me about the one giving the talk there, too. If they were so flawless in their work how come so many innocent people still end up in prison.
So many law enforcement officers believe truth for lies and vice versa. It’s mind blowing.
We don't have all day
Great now I can effectively lie.
Couldn't you lie before this?
No. Not because i'm ethical. But because I"m lazy. It's far easier to spill the truth.
this is the worse, shes not good at all
Why? Explain, please. What would you advise her on?
i have this video of this guy that's ten times better made in the 80's ill find it and post it for you guys to see.
Time is running out Ms. Smith. It has been 8 hours, hurry the fuck up or your fired and I'll find someone else to find the goddamn video.
You are so fucking pretty
Because I see no negative consequences to it.
Why so Give-A-Fuckey?
"We'll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the American public believes is false." 1981 CIA Director William Casey
Buster Brown I love your dog pic!
That's a cat
Joshua Nelson Weirdest looking cat I've ever seen. Ah! You're not "being candid' - gotcha!
To set the record straight: I'm a Boston Terrier half chocolate, half white with big ears - no relation.
Buster Brown And very clever you are too Buster. Surely you're not using a touch screen - it must be difficult with 🐾 paws. I wouldn't worry, I don't think 'Joshua' really thought that you were a cat. Merry Christmas Buster🎄
Susan all 💕
She's lying.
TacomaPaul you're lying about that. Lol
My life is a lie.
your so clever
Miles Mchugh That would be "you're".
Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.
Well, they are dumb for doing it! They should ask an open-ended question to test your honesty.
@@irenashiloh8808 it depends
A woman yes 😂😂😂😂😂
It's what attorney lives by: know the answer
Ask me no questions, l will tell you no lies
I hate liars and find it extremely difficult to lie. In my life I found that people do not believe you're honest because they themselves are dishonest.
True and Blue the Blue cafhppp
I pride myself with being honest. I actually had one employer tell me I was too honest and I told him I didn't think that was a bad thing
The government lies to you every day. Get over it
Yes!!!!
@@judydendy1697 My attorney told me the same damned thing. An attorney. Imagine that 😂
Narcissists are the worst kind of liars.
She is lying, she in car salesperson.
Peter C how did she get in that person?
Peter C ... "Excuse ME!!!!" I was a Car Salesman and I didn't lie... (even though my manger wanted me to)... You can be a Car SalesWOMAN and not have to lie... I studied the Cars I was selling and sold that... Thank you very much!!!
Judi Christopher Typical response by a woman. Overreact to everything. No one cares that you sold cars. If I were you, I'd keep quiet because selling cars is nothing to brag about, you cackling hen.
Obviously to you Chris Kneelson Mr Ford never sold any cars, at all, ever.
Sales is a process of matching a product to the customers need and building trust. It has nothing to do with lieing.
Some people cant sell because they have no personality. Or are ashamed of their own unique personality and therefore not able to build relationships.
"How come no one told me all throughout history. The loneliest people are the ones who always spoke the truth..." -Kings of Convenience
Idk liars are pretty lonely.
I just re found this song yesterday from another comment on a video. That's a crazy coincidence.
@@jaketester9555 refound what song?
@@jaketester9555 refound what song?
Misread by kings of convenience
At about 16:00 she points to a list off screen and references it several times . It would have been helpful to see the things on the screen she is pointing to.
Great TED Talk!!
A politician is only lying when their mouth is moving.
What if the politician calls himself a politician
The only reason I clicked on this video was to put an almost identical comment. I was going to say person on TV, but whatever. You ruined it.
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No. A politician is always lying to themselves to there family. Non stop rabbit holes..red n blue need to be purpled
Politics --
Root word 'poli' - a great many'
"Tics" - blood sucking insects
I worked for a particular retail company for a long time, and I sat in on many interviews with the guy who was in charge of loss prevention for almost 200 stores. He was very good at getting people to admit that they stole cash and merchandise. Then we found out HE was stealing!
Woah. That's a story I'd like to hear.
I worked for a school where this guy always seemed to be so happy and boisterous around his office mates, but when he was alone, he didn’t interact with anyone else and he almost seemed upset.
He’d been working at the school for decades and was looking at retirement. Then one day, one of my workmates (different department) found a safe open. He turned it in. They watched the security tape, and this guy had been stealing from the safe after each ball game and people hadn’t noticed somehow.
I can’t imagine losing my job and retirement over something like that.
There was this other guy, I noticed that he was only animated and happy with his fellow coaches and students. With regular people like me, he didn’t even look at me and barely said hello in reply.
I wondered at this, as this was not usual either.
Turns out that guy had been grooming a sixteen year old track girl, and he had even gone so far as to buy a house just down from her parents’ house.
Her parents saw that something was wrong and went through her phone and found the evidence.
I feel like you can get a good feel for a person if you see how they treat others who they think are lesser than themselves.
Lol
It's comforting to know the CIA would never lie...
phillyflash43 ---funny, the CIA is a terrible joke
phillyflash43 "and the
funny....you still live free....lying to liars is a comendaple compramise and an all too nessesary evil.
CIA are more than a disgrace. Down right satanists. All the satanism is the issue. Just like this disgraceful CIA actor. Scot Peterson, Susan Smith, all FBI setups.
Good👍💯💯🎉🎉
This is my actual photo.After watching this video you'll be able to tell if I'm lying or not.
You are cuz you're using a deceptive photo.
manutor - you mean he's not a koala bear- oh my gosh
Holy shit, a Koala on the internet.
Easy lesson, If a politician, salesman, or lawyer are talking, its a lie,
and CIA op.
freedomisfromtruth THESE DAYS ESPECIALLY IF IT'S A DEMON-RAT
She IS a life long DEMON-RAT!!
Some lawyers are honest. I know some.
Trey Gowdy comes to mind.
The biggest lie you'll ever hear--- "You don't need a lawyer..."
truuuuu
If you don't have a lawyer you might ask for your Constitutional Rights and they will persecute you to the fullest extent to make an example of you.
But if you are famous, they will pretend that you have rights to keep people from knowing the truth.
I've been there. My lawyer kept me from getting 3 years in jail for a felony charge because of a tiny closet of pot plants.
He basically told me to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to stay out of jail for 3 years.
I paid him $8,000 and was happy to be free.
Lol IKR
I'm 55 and this is true
@@TheMacdod LOL or I'm 18 and that's no lie..
Very nice madam
The more honest/truthful you are, the more your gut lets you know, when some bs in the game
Im not really into the _"spiritual philosophy"_ if you will, and I fully acknowledge ive made poor judgements but my gut has practically a perfect record...And I read some "hippie shit" that said trust your gut because its one of your chakras picking up on negative energy which is why it materializes as a "gut feeling" makes sense to me 🤷🏻♂️
@@heyitsthatoneguy91 Sure does.
So true x
@Driss Ogunbowale initiated into what?
@Kenny Strawser couldn't find references to that.
That moment when you realize that you have invested 17 minutes of your life on a random video only to discover that they never actually SHOW the list of behaviors. I want my time back.
i know. totally agree.
this is the type of fbi officer in every crime movie / series
Put on your listening hat, take some notes, problem solved. 😅 Entitled whining millenial
@@Rickety3263 everyone learns differently and they may need more visual cues to understand the material better. Calling someone an entitled millenial is simply rude and a closed minded judgement. Try directly someone towards a place that can help them instead of being a dick next time ...
Bryan Beswick I’m sorry 😐 but I thank you for this comment 🙏🏽
She is describing 98% of politicians perfectly when she is explaining how liars behave.
Excuse me, but you are being too kind. I woud say 99.9 and not only those but olso, bankers and C.Os of all Multinationals!!!
@@adelinopaulino6635 Agreed. Let’s add all the NGOs also.
@@joshgalt2022 sorry, i forgot those thieves!
You're not surprised, are you?
Most Doctors and ALL Psychiatrists. They're still lying to the American public claiming you may have a 'chemical imbalance' and need to take our neurotoxic, extremely addicting, dangerous, deadly drugs to treat it. Everything they tell us a one big fat LIE.
biggest lie
"i have read the terms and conditions"
Edit:too many likes
@@SirSaturnine8008 tru that
✓ "I am not a robot"
The even bigger lie is that you understand the terms and conditions !
@@keithtodd8631 hahaha so true 😛
@@SirSaturnine8008 I do , I’m not lying eighther
If you always tell the truth you never have to remember what you said.
Yes,....that's a huge help in life. @Eliena
In Jesus Christ name!!! AMEN!!!
So that's why Trump keeps forgetting sh!t.
works for me
@@user-lq4gx3uy1k Peace be with you brother may Jesus Christ open your eyes to the truth seek it and you will find it!!! AMEN!!!
I used to lie. Now I am just blunt and say what I feel
Love this :)
Ironically people would prefer you to lie than deal with reality.
Liar
I just smile and walk away; people think what they want to think and the truth does not matter.
that's what a liar would say
I think we all lie to keep peace. Betrayal, lying is so hurtful 😢
When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.
When I'm asking a to question I'm making eye contact if they don't it's cause a story must be imagened the truth can be spoken with solid steady eye contact
@@tommerphy1286 Actually that is not true either. Many persons that are trying to manipulate are looking you directly in your eyes to see how you react to their lie and if you believe it or not, so they can adjust accordingly.
@@thecakebaker3769 when I hear what they say, I have a question, and if they go into evade and escape . Depending on the subject to me their on the witness stand and better have an idedic memory.
I was thinking this while watching the video. Aggression or anger from children (or anyone, in the case of repeated accusations) is often a strong indicator of truth. [Though usually it's paired with a reiteration of the facts they've already told you instead of a redirection (No 'Well, everyone does it!'s or 'Why are you always on my case?'s)]
I always think of a classroom I was in where somebody was accused of stealing another student's TI-84 calculator because the missing calculator "had the same chipped key on it". The accused got more and more flustered and upset as the teacher and members of the class interrogated him, but stuck to his story that it was his. The other kid eventually found his calculator, and when compared, both had chipped in exactly the same place in the same way. Honestly, in that situation, who wouldn't get defensive?
I guess that's why she specifically says that aggression is a deceptive indicator "when all you did was calmly ask a question".
Sometimes it just hurts when people accuse you of something...especially if its the sort of thing you would never do or the accusation comes from somebody you THOUGHT knew you better than that. I don't get angry or even try especially hard to refute it. I just go away and don't return...
I learned NOTHING. I already knew all this shit, and it doesn't help you determine if someone is lying.
This would've been so much more valuable if it had actually included the slides she's referring to as "this", "that over there", "this one", "that one" etc.
Thank you!!!!!!
IKR
That sounds right !!!
V W truth! 😄
James clapper lies
Remember one thing and one thing only...Lies have legs and they All wonder home..❤
I get mad when people insinuate I'm a liar so I wouldn't pass her test.
CIA Or other agents Will not come out and tell you Your a liar Thier whole point of questioning is to gather as much info to present in a court of law It starts when you see them coming to you Where you were What you were doing at the time How you reacted to them being there And at that point They already know something you don't Or maybe your on a equal playing field And it ends when a judge slams the hammer This is why the first thing you hear from law enforcement say : You have the right to remain slient - Most don't have the ablilty....This is why you have Good cop Bad cop roles to find what makes you tick and spill your guts even if its a lie or the truth
I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them.
One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. Too many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.
I was a CO for a few years. I learned so much working there. Psychology, behaviors, why people do the things they do, etc. more than I did at any school or job. I absolutely dreaded taking that job initially; I was one of the rare ones that did LE first. Had moved to a backwards state that was rife with cronyism and nepotism. But looking back, I actually miss that CO job. Definitely stressful, but with a good group of coworkers it was fun, every day different, and learned a whole lot of everything and anything that's helped me out in so many other ways. Will definitely make you take the rosy colored glasses off as to how the world really is.
@@Christy.1 ... You're totally right. A C/O wears many hats while working an institution. You're a C/O. You're a psychologist, you're a mentor, you're a "parental" figure. You're a protector. You're a detective. An observer. At times medical emergency responder.
I would say 90% it is actually boring. But that 10% ...man, we earned our check. So my motto was "boring is good in prison".
I too saw working there as a daily challenge. You Never know what's going to happen that day. Alot of mind games. Some you win, some you lose. We took losing as a learning experience for next time.
I still have dreams of wearing my uniform and working there. I do really miss the comradery of my co-workers. Miss the friendships we developed during our whole careers. The dark spots and the exciting events that we all experienced together.
Prison is a WHOLE different world than ours. If only regular civilians knew the daily drama and the evil that exists in there. I worked there for 8 to 12 hours a day. Would never want to live in there 24/7.
I was a Corrections Officer for 25 . I agree with you all CO's. We had to learn to read people.
@@les8518 ... As I'm sure you know, you could actually "feel" when something was wrong even without the inmates being verbal. The tension, the out of the normal activities (inmates are very habitual in their daily routines), their sudden quietness, their sneaky stares... You could instantly feel something happened, about to, or did happen. At times all I had to do was to look at their faces to observe where else they were looking, and I could likely pinpoint where the problem was located.
Inmates too are constantly observing your manners and style.
One thing I could not understand is how as a C/O I could manage societies worst, yet when I came home... I couldn't control my own kids. Lol.
@@Christy.1l
I was always told the best lie to tell is the truth because nobody is going to believe it anyway.
Gerald West omg so trueeee!
Gerald West that was epic
Gerald West that was moronic, truthfully.
Thanks Kev! ; )
nice quote, like the photo of duane too
She is telling the truth
Remember this, the fish that doesn't open it's mouth, doesn't get caught.
That's the BEST DAMN ANSWER...I ever read...
TEXANLEON - wise words my friend ✌🏻😎
Nets.
Heard of nets and trawling?
Also remember he/she who picks their noses must use tissue if not its nastyyyyy
The video fails to show the lists/video portion of her presentation she refers to often. :(
Mathew Russo Right! I was like... WHAT AM I MISSING! Oh well, I'm at the 19:00 mark and time to turn this video off. Don't waste ur time here.
Mathew Russo
The list was towards the end. 44:43 I take it you didn't watch it till the end before you wrote the comment?
That's not the list. That is your list of responsibilities. The list of 'deceptive behaviors' was not given. She goes through each behavior one at a time in her lecture; saying "maybe, probably, generally' etc; movement of points (feet, elbows) during or five seconds after the question; aggression; not directly denying the question; using statements such as "I would never do that" instead of a yes or no, and so forth. Those are the list of behaviors that we couldn't see and were not given. If I would've taken notes, I'd have them all. But she even started by saying this would only give you enough information to make you dangerous and not to use it on a spouse.
She referred to a list throughout the video--and there was no list visible during those portions.
Mathew Russo that is true. But again, this video serves as nothing more than a basic introduction to Agent Phillip Houston's developed techniques for deception detection. If you want a more detailed understanding of these techniques, I highly suggest purchasing their collaborative book "Spy the Lie". It is around $12 at most book stores.
Politicians are the experts when it comes to flat out lying.
experts in lying, but noobs in hiding it lolz
Governor Pritzker actually told Illinois that I would never lie to you while completely and utterly lying, he has a venture capitalist firm that makes money from the tests which have just now been recalled by the CDC. Dude has constantly been caught lying. When someone says I will not lie to you and proceeds to talk chances are they are lying.
@@paolomutini4699 he can't help it,itz in his blood.
And guess by whom there are teached of lol
I think they are the worst liars. I don't know how so many people can possibly be dumb enough to believe anything they say
To catch lies, you must first become the master of that particular domain
Narssist can lie without any of this...and they are all over the place.🙄
because they believe so much that they have right.
And psychopaths. Who are in politics a lot.
@@Mo-uy5ds true and most of the official who raise to power.
A lot of them have watched this video and others like it already.
Ever known anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder? They have the potential to ruin your life, for no reason other than the disease.
She believes her 16 years old son is lying most of the time? Scary thing to grow around mother like this.
That says more about how *she* behaved at 16 than anything to do with her son.
@@tzera_rhuon gosh, just listen to you two do-gooders. If you didn’t like her free content then you should have moved on. The internet is a big place.
@@meganstewart6318 triggered
Why you watching
@@yvonnesanchez1370 why you asking
It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.
It's maddening
She is obviously an experienced cop. I almost wanted to question bad guys after watching this.
Okay... so to spot a lie, we should listen to the words? Great insight!
Just assume everyone’s lying and you’ll be fine
They r believe nothing thats 3rd hand info speculation to bs at best.
That's a lie :)
lol..Lier!
Thats what I came to say, lol
Believe nothing you hear
Only believe half what you see
A woman doesn't need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a few kids, that'll teach ya everything you need to know.
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Kids!? Ha! Just have yourself a boyfriend.😁
@@christopherford1539
Or a girlfriend for guys... 🤣
Ain't dat da truth 😇
A man doesn’t need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a couple of kids, that’ll teach ya mostly everything you need to know.
When you are asked "how are you doing ", 9 times out of 10 it is a simple greeting and they don't want you to give them your medical issues. So the question is a lie.
You mean they didn't want my life story ?😂
@@thomasgallegos2832 I have made the mistake of that, or partly and it became clear that they had lost intrest so now I just say fine unless I'm speaking to my doctor.
Well people don't answer honestly cus it's just a social thing to just say "I'm good" otherwise people think you're weird. Fuck society right.
@@MrTripleXXX I actually ask to get the real answers of how someone is and I’m prepared for the possibility of a 45 min answer bc I asked “ how are you” . Some people really need someone to talk to
@@RealReeseElDon good for u
Sad Machine is a great song to open with.
I can't see how aggression is a sign of someone lying. I become angry/aggressive when someone accuses me of lying when I am not.
MrJohnnyDistortion The questioner will not accuse you of lying . He/she will only ask you questions but instead of answering the question if you get aggressive , then that means you are afraid of being exposed .
+haris haneef I have been questioned before and I became angry because I was innocent so, I disagree that aggressive behaviour is a sign of one being concerned/afraid of being exposed. I've seen completely guilty individuals express serene calm.
Totally agree, Johnny. Getting angry about being accused of something you didn't do is totally acceptable.
JD
+John Denning And if I'm ever accused of wrong doing I'll gladly take a poly AND sodium thiopental on the spot.
If someone falsely accuses me of harming my family or stealing - You better believe I will get angry at the accuser! I agree with Mr JohnnyDistortion.
You know somebody is a liar, when they work for the CIA...
Epic, the claim that everybody lies comes from the people who turned lying into a career, like the Cocaine Importing Assassination agency.
Check out Shaun Attwood RUclips channel, the interviews with the Epstein Expert Ryan Dawson are straight fire. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@bubbajones8061 His channel got deleted...
@@lyns2541 i believe his channel is still Up.🙏🏼✌🏼
@@lyns2541 Lies! lol, I'm kidding
Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.
I learned more from your comment than this entire video!
I don't think there's any consistent pattern in eyebrows. People shouldn't rely on this kind of gunk. It's not consistently true and it's resulted in a lot of misery for a lot of innocent people.
A good sign is when a person crosses their arms when you are speaking to them. It's a subconscious reaction of building a shield with your arms telling the other person he is not welcomed in the conversation. It's a defensive position that he is close-minded to what ever you want to say to him. Or when you ask a question. Does he repeated it. His way of buying time to conjur up a lie.
He gulps hard. His eyes blink real fast. Or he fails to make eye contact when he responds. Or suddenly starts scratching his face or arms repeatedly. Could also slide or stutter his responses. Or just give out TOO much information when not asked for.
@@oldschoolfunkster1 Yes! Arm-crossing is a guarded position that stems from the need to protect as much of our vital organs as our arms can when we feel threatened. Obviously we won't do this if we are faced with a bear, but it can relate to more subtle feelings of threat... Totally unrelated, another sign is the feet. If you are talking with someone while standing up and their feet are facing you, that means they want to be talking with you. Conversely, if their feet are not facing you, that indicates they do not or are in a rush to get somewhere else. While sitting, you can look at signs like crossed legs or feet, hyperflexed knees where the feet are far under the chair, or the jitters.
@@markh2826
... You got it. All those are exact signs as you defined them. People don't know they do this, but their body automatically sets its position to tell you what they are thinking. Of course it's not correct 100% of the time, but one has an idea on how to continue the meeting.
I'm a retired officer and this was a good thing to know. From reading a liar or guilty person, to someone that was ready to get violent. If I saw someone with one foot in front of the other, he was getting ready to start swinging. The clenched fists to their sides were a dead giveaway too. And we always looked into their eyes to anticipate their next move. We were trained to also take a slight defensive stance (not aggressive) to keep our balance in case.
In other words, a body talks without the person speaking. You just have to know how to decipher the language. And you know how to read that. Very interesting perception to have available.
She crossed her arms and it was the attitude in her voice
There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.
You are in fact telling the truth.
I am one of those people you describe. I could lie my way out of anything.... but accuse me of guilt when I am actually innocent... I come across as liar/guilty I am told. My whole life. 🤷♂️ I couldn't tell the truth to save my life in court.
I am the type of person that would appear as lying when i tell the truth.
I have a problem with a nervous type of smirk or if i do not take the person serious i will smirk.
The smirk is often taken as me being a lier when i am infact telling the truth.
Body language is never perfect and neither is using movement or any other measure to determine deception.
The problem is people assume it is a one size fits all approach to determining if someone is lying.
Their is no one size fits all approach and at best you can have general rules that do not apply universally.
For instance when someone asked me something and i was asked a question my answer had a long pause.
They assumed I was lying when in reality my mind just went blank in the middle of a question.
So I can had a pause until I remembered what the right answer to the question was.
My mind sometimes just goes blank in mid sentence on rare occasions.
@@Baneslayereven this comment is a lie
You know someone is about to lie if they start their answer to a question with “So, blah, blah, blah.” Then they evade answering the question and ramble on about something totally unrelated.
Another sign of dishonesty is; when a person is accessing a memory, they look up and to the right, when they are lying, they look up and to the left to try to think of a story or lie they can tell.
Would the CIA really want to give away a valuable technique like this? Unless the technique itself is a lie. An interesting dilemma.
Twister PLUMP VB I
sharp
The FBI and the CIA have mastered this by talking to each other too much
its against the law for the cia and fbi to communicate... it's called "the wall", look it up
@@MMC.Official he meant talking to each other not in the literal sense
@@MMC.Official they do it anyway.
It's like they are looking for a lie more than the actual truth🤔🤦♀️🙊🙈🙉
@@MMC.Official it's illegal for elections to be stolen too
The eyes say it all..
Imagine how many Indian people were found guilty of doing something they didn't before they figured out that Indian people nod the same way yes or no.
Lol. Why are you this way!!! Lmaooo
Yep. That’s how innocent people end up in jail. Because of arrogant people believing they can spot a liar. Then build a case around their beliefs.
She is speculating and seems like on a marketing campaign for consultation jobs
You’re possibly right. The more we know, the more we think we know :) we’ll become arrogant people and sometimes dangerous, both in our careers or in personal life. We all judge and missjudge. But probably many times we need this kind of people.
Well usually the lying spotting is only used to try to find possible suspects and then they try to find the truth. Or at least that's how it's supposed to be. They can't build a case around "Well it looked like she was lying". However if they are telling different stories and stuff that doesn't or just details that are don't work together then that can be an argument in court
And just think . Detectives like her are aggressively marathon interrogating vulnerable adults and children during major crimes
SOOOO TRUE! I played a game of two truths, one lie in a team-building activity. I guessed EVERYONE else's lies, and no one guessed mine. They looked at me with a side-eye for the rest of day. Part of my ability came from listening to them before the session. SO many were bragging about their personal accomplishments without asking anyone else anything, their competitive nature worked against them. I used know biases to formulate my answers. There is great power in being underestimated.
Your point about jail is spot on!!! The same thing happens in the classroom. Some children get punished for what someone 'THINKS' the child is going to do, versus what they've actually done.
CEOs that lie for 25 minutes on one question?? Amateurs. Politicians lie their entire careers
I'll sign it right now
Getting angry doesn't necessarily mean you're lying because lawyers will deliberately anger a witness to give the impression that the witness is lying
i agree, i get angry when accused of something i didnt do and can be quite nonchalant if i did do it
But there are plenty of people that DO get upset just to deceive the person questioning them.
“You’re cheating” “YOuu JUsT DOnT TRuSt mE!” Or any variation of that is a liar just not all liars do that
@@Aggrobiscuit "
She's so wrong about this part. Getting angry is usually a sign someone is innocent."
You're both wrong. Making a baseless asumption about innocence or guilt based on things that are *by definition* irrational and then trying to apply an ostensibly rational concept like law or deductive reasoning towards that assumption is bullshit.
@@helpimslow973 Again, baseless assumption. You don't get to apply how you *think* you would react to a baseless accusation and retroactively assume guilt. This woman uses baseless assumptions as well, but she uses about a dozen at a time to attempt to build a profile. Asking a single question and deducing a "lie" from that singular question is never going to be a valid logical mechanism for truth or lies.
This would be more helpful if we could see the example she's pointing at when she's talking about it.
If she was so loyal it would not have been so easy for her to tell on her colleague.
Ss...but she herself was evading information...she found 26 hot spots but only highlighted few that too incompletely.
I know. She refers to all these things we can't see while we are watching the video. I cry fowl...even though those people that are sitting there paid to be there.
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Why? She's lying.
I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.
A R G E N T I N A U B E R A L L E S
You can still look for those signs of deception. Some may be sociopaths or pathological liars where they won’t have those “tells” but those are the exceptions.
so just don't lie lol
Is that…a paradox? It doesn’t seem self-contradictory that an experienced liar is harder to catch in a lie or vice versa.
@@jonny8790 The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.
Sad Machine is such a good song.
Here's the irony, CIA detecting people who lie.
Perfecting how to lie.
Touche
Lies in life are inevitable, but purpose makes the difference.
@@michselkatok6073 so having a reason to lie makes it okay? Why not speak the truth all the time? Even if it goes against oneself. This is following a better path. Wouldn't you agree? Because along with the lies comes deceit and bad suspicions. Trust is lost. These are but a few wrongs from a long line of ills that come from lying.
Lies are inevitable and OK !
PURPOSE , that what makes a DIFFERENCE!..
I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect.
No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.
Angie. I love your response. I totally agree. If my kid's (especially my little one's) were missing I'd be a basket case and could never do any kind of Interview's at all!
Re: Susan Smith. I agree. It was also noticeable that when she “cried”, no tears fell. Dry crying doesn’t get it!
And she knew when it was thought a black man did it the media would empathize with her, she was slick... the description she made matched a local man who lost his job and his life was ruined for awhile
She was a great example of crying, but no tears, as well.
I remember it and thought the same thing!! It actually stopped me in my tracks when I saw her on TV. The way she talked, "cried" and blamed a black man. I knew immediately she was guilty!
I don't lie. It's too much work to remember what I lied about to keep things straight.
Me too and i never associate with liers.
@@justinamusyoka4986 you guys are the biggest liars
Well, you do lie. If you have held your tongue because you did not want to offend, due to fear of the repercussions, then you have lied. We all lie. It is not acceptable but we all lie.
@@deanpd3402 completely agree, a verbal omission is still a lie
@@fitnesspoint2006 I think here they're talking about deliberate/ intentional lies not circumstantial omission to avoid confusion.
I prefer to be silent than utter things i can't verify.
Telling the truth 100%
I decided to study the art of lying, after studying many hours of political speeches I am now an expert.
They're ALL lying, where is the hard part, lol
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We all know this and yet we do nothing about it, shame on us.
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Phill , that is a easy one. If the lips are in motion = The Bastards are LYING !!!
My Mom also assumed I was lying every time I opened my mouth. It did not inspire me to trust her.
Your name is my name too 😃
....no lie.
Oh that's so sad 😥 ❤
@Redrustyhill damn you hear him talk about his mother and you already psychoanalyzed why she acts the way she does? You may be a world renowned psychologist!
@Redrustyhill You are guilty of that yourself because youre applying your experiences onto his mom right now ,just as you explained in your comment, when his mom could be doing it for a number of reasons. I think projection is certainly a possibility but how do you know that, for example, the original poster proved himself, to his mom, to be an untrustworthy person whether that be when he was younger or currently?
thats just one of many possibilities besides projection
You could definitely say im being nit picky and unnecessarily confrontational right now but as a person who studies psychology its the golden rule to not assume but to listen and make judgements based on what you hear
@Redrustyhill thats inaccurate.
Now I know why I've been taken advantage of so many times, both financially and otherwise.
I have an erroneous belief that everyone is telling the truth unless I notice signals pointing toward someone lying.
And because I so strongly believe that people are inherently good.
Yes it’s wild but I’m just getting to the point in life where I’m not looking at people that way anymore.
I feel for you. I've tried to look at the world like that but I've had to learn a little bit more... proactivity.
😢It's sad to loose naive and beautiful viewpoints, but it may just save your life.
The older we get & the more betrayals we face the more cynical we become. Its sad that we lose our innocence through the dishonesty of others due to our trusting natures. My heart has known this betrayal & i fight cynicism daily. 😢
Been there, been taken advantage of, and I’m done. I don’t mind helping people a little but it will be on my own terms.
I feed the neighborhood cat some snacks. That’s about where I am with making friends.
People are complicated, and there are so many out there that can figure out who they can take advantage of.
I can do it in a heartbeat 💓
23:51 When you ask someone a question and they talk for 10 minutes, & then you realize they never answered the question...this means they passed the First Practical Test for becoming a POLITICIAN!!
The second test is being a major arse hole - they all pass that one with flying colours.
Mill Wright AGREE!!
This lady worked for the CIA 20+ years? Then I would have to say she is more than likely lying.
she is just as capable of lying
as anyone, and probably does
quite a lot,considering the line
of work she was in lol. there are
better videos on this subject.
Zoid71 Pickle2007 could you link me?! O: im keen to see these
There is no such thing as a “former“ CIA officer .
Exactly!!!!!
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Custodian from CIA
@@Tienphamvan1968 what the fawk does this mean? R u a robot
@@Tienphamvan1968 ok
My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.
@bellazenya yes to cry wolf is to seek attention
"the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie." You told your son that he should be honest so that he could be a more convincing liar in the future.
@@muchmore99 good life lesson tbh
That is too dangerous. He will even deceive himself.
that is terrible parenting. Your son should be instilled with speaking the truth for the right reason. You literally just told him to be truthful only so he could get away with a big lie. We should speak the truth because that is right thing to do. I understand the utility of what you said but it's sooo wrong
Because to many Truth Hurts
I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one.
I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting.
I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying.
Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something.
You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.
Wich exactly what the intire world seen the democrats in office and civilian population do to a real American Trump when its actually the democrats who are colluding with Russia and selling out America to china and trying to get people to hate each other and helped china create the virus and proven to be child predators all over the USA and thrives on sex trade and getting Americans killed from poison from China and help from Mexico..
If you watched the video none of the behaviours by themselves are a way to identify a lie. It only happens when many of them happen just after being asked a question. Like for example, if you are moving your leg all the time instead of just when you are being asked it could mean you are just nervous, you are cold or that you just want to pee.
@@wassup4532 but that's when you must open the breed case and show syringe with scalpel and pics with some dry blood still on.. just for deception
After reading that, I'm pretty sure you are guilty of something.
The younger girl was missing her parents that's why she was crying what seemed for nothing.
What I learned, besides how to lie, is that if you are a former CIA agent, you can open your own company and convince others you know something that they don't because you were CIA.
So like all the “political experts” on every major “news” network?
Jeff Kohn....Your last name is a hedge against dishonesty! Thats not meant in disrespect.
and you can simply lie about you being a former secret CIA agent: nobody would even bother to check your background because it cannot be verified
Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.
I can relate to this. I'm always afraid I'm going to appear guilty, which just makes it worse and then I probably act guilty. Gotta love anxiety.
Same here. I spent most of my life feeling guilty, for no particular reason, except that I might have THOUGHT about doing something similar.
I had a childhood similar to that. Even to this day I still repeat myself over and over in different ways, provide all the facts I’m able, be as logical and reasonable as possible just to prove the point that I’m telling the truth. And that thought pattern my parents had with me thinking that I always lie, taught me to think that most important people in my life are lying to me about things I’m serious about. Leaves me begging for the truth even when someone tells me they are being truthful. Damn, I wish parents knew how much the f*** their child up with stuff like this lol
Yeah you over explain with a clear and fully detailed account of what happened and it makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be believed by garnishing the answer so heavily. Its shit! Im literally so black and white and direct and straight forward, Ill give you my full account to squash any chance of there being doubt, but thats not how normal people communicate, because most people didn't have to microexplain their every thought and movements and be told their lying when they were telling the truth. You have no where to go then, so it teaches you to do your best to explain in totality.
I’m so glad that someone else knows what this feels like. Not like it’s a good thing for either of us, but knowing I’m not alone brings me some comfort. Even while I’m telling a story to someone I am consistently pausing and spacing out so I can reflect on what happened and put it in the exact words that describe exactly what happened so I know I am being honest, I’m so careful when I’m talking because I am always afraid of lying even unintentionally by leaving out important information. I’m always afraid of lying, and when I’m being honest and I know I’m being honest I wonder if it’s because I am lying to myself.
If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember what you have lied
If you believe in the lie so much, how could someone else tell you're lying?
That's psychology 101
You can only believe it to a certain level. Plus you'll try and convince people that you are right and get too elaborated and then get caught
Both true. Too much detail will give it all away.
If you're lying you were somewhere but actually weren't, just imagine yourself there whilst giving the lie for example, nothing elaborated, very simple actually.
If you were lying about something you didn't do, imagine yourself actually doing whilst lying, believe in it, there's a difference between lying and bullshiting.
It would be nice to see where she is pointing during her examples.
Or hearing the questions during the talk.
Seriously this seems almost pointless, not showing us what she is using as visual examples of her points.
Why?
@@melanierockliff6043 why what? Why see what she is pointing to? Because without that it’s hard to get the full understanding of what she is saying.
Yeah this was ridiculously filmed. Good subject matter destroyed by thoughtless filming/editing. Totally pointless w/o seeing wtf she's pointing out...do these idiots not vet what they're putting out there? Oh, wait, yeah. No. Clearly not.
This lecture is also known as...
How to fool yourself into thinking you can spot lies in order to reinforce your existing biases during interrogation
C'mon, if anyone knows how to lie it's the CIA.
@@pokerone6489 this lecture is proof they even lie to themselves.
Easier than evidence or proof. And the search for easy rather than right is far too common in security and law enforcement.
@@MrMcCawber this kind of thinking is a slippery slope.
It's okay to beat a confession out of someone if they won't stop lying.
@@theParticleGod I agree
the ones with mind powers i can make you stronger.
A person's behavior under questioning frequently has a great deal to do with their childhood and how they were raised, and it is totally unrelated to the subject matter of the questioning. This is particularly true for a person who has a history of being emotionally or physically abused as a child by a parent or as an adult by a spouse. While in such an abusive childhood or relationship, they are constantly on trial in the court of their abuser and are assumed to be guilty unless they prove themselves innocent. And ultimately no matter what they prove to that abusive parent or spouse as to their innocence, they nevertheless constantly remain guilty in the eyes of the abuser. As a result, anyone growing up under that evil abusive tongue or hand of a parent will mostly likely make for a highly-insecure adult. That insecurity will yield nervousness long answers to yes/no questions. Also, because they get so tired of a life of constantly being on trial and constantly being wrongly disbelieved and wrongly assumed and found to be guilty, they finally get fed up and reply in anger under interrogation.
This very thing cost me a job when I had to do a poly with an interrogator who was convinced I'd done drugs at some point in life. No matter what I said, how much I denied, he was going to keep pushing, and eventually changing the question, to get his "confession". The fact that I became fatigued and upset at being questioned for THREE HOURS about some imagined behavior that he believed I must've done (remember, this is for a job, not an actual crime that had been committed) was "proof" that I was lying. I always hated being accused of things as a child and would become very emotional, because I knew I hadn't done anything wrong, but I was blamed and punished anyway. Plenty of innocent people have shown these "telltale signs" and gone to jail, only to be exonerated later, but they keep trying to convince us that their hocus-pocus is "science" and not to be questioned.
Interesting
@@tvdavis This is the thing anyone claiming to know for sure when someone is lying will typically not be able to tell when their method is ineffective on a person.
Simply put no method to detect deception is going to apply to everyone universally.
This women in this video assumes aggression is such a big factor in being deceptive when in reality you could just be tired of being accused of something you did not do.
Furthermore a smirk could simply be because you are nervous or do not take the person asking seriously.
Hell my mom could think i did something and question me and make all kinds of faces in the process.
What do you think my response is while telling the truth?
If you guessed smirking you got it right.
All though their is two reason's why i smirk when i am being questioned 1 is being nervous and 2 is i don't take you serious.
Me not taking someone serious may be because of who they are or maybe they are making funny faces.
@@Raiden-the-Goat32 I see your point but from watching the video she explains its more about timing and clusters not just 1 sign. Also the 1st 5 seconds. I'm not sure your story reaches that level of deceptive signs.
I agree with this @FOG
Perfect reason why you should never talk to law enforcement officers because whatever you say can and will be used against you
Stay in the trash can Oscar.
Never take a lie detector test because the man giving you the test can trick you or make you feel uneasy and read the lie behind the lie detector...plus if you pass they don't count and if you don't it goes against you.
The problem is psychopaths, Everything a psychopath says is a manipulation, They even have super human hypnotic and deceiving capabilities. If law enforcement don't persecute so harsh, Psychopath can lie their way out of every judicial system. This is why sometimes law enforcement have to completely ignore the law and even break it, Not helpful though, Because psychopaths are also attracted to Police jobs.
My advice - just say "titties!"
You mean " ….. Their statements" and not "There statements". Learn how to use *there, their and they're" as it's basic English. Examples in sequence are: 1.)There are many positive replies. Next: 2.) Those are their qualifications, not yours', and 3.) They're so bad at English that I might as well give up and then they're going to get a grade F. Remember that an apostrophe takes the place of a letter or letters. So the word 'they're' means *they are*.
The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.
Also, telling someone you're "Fine" when you have a headache isn't a lie. You are fine, relatively. If you felt good, you'd say good. If you felt great, you'd say great.. If you have a headache or you're upset you have to work late, it's not good or great.. but you're still "fine."
She talks about that issue at around 9 minutes in. You didn't even watch the whole thing.
focus on the eyes and go with your gut/ aka intuition
A n-size large group of people will mostly react with a x-behaviour. Its a statistical estimate, and if you sum up how often you got an estimated behaviour from a person, one can pretty sure say if one is lying.
@john doe no, this crusty comment isn't
Love the sad machine intro
How can I lie ten times a day if I don't talk to anyone for weeks lol.
curtis Schroh You should get out more! Lol
curtis Schroh how is that possible?
Raul Alonso How isn’t it possible?
You lie to yourself in your thoughts. Ego protection.
faismasterx I barely lie. I guess people need to deal with that.
I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.
... It sounds to me like you were "gangstocked" at work... I've had something similar to that happen to me years ago. I was harassed until I walked off the job one day... In hind sight, I wish I would have sued them ..., (I'm glad I left, tho ). Point is, you may want to check into a lawsuit if the statute of limitations hasn't yet expired. If they've created a hostile work environment, that alone is grounds for a law suit. I wish you the very best.
same here. i feel people just watch too many movies and basically everyone believes they can play amateur psychologist. this lie spotting thing is bullshit.
The lessons of success resonates within Amongus game bro . NGL
Blake be Lying yall.
@@akiamini4006 Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.
I've been lied to so much for so long until I want to know the truth. Also, call them out on the lie with grace and elegance and full-grown wisdom.
Or, after the second lie your gone.
I detest lier's.
i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..
@@kurtbuxton9776 and bad grammar
Some people are dislexic, not everyone is as perfect as you gracious one.
I don't lie 10 times a year..
In rare times I'll scale things or dumb it down or make a joke to spare someone's feelings if I don't think they can handle the truth anout something. BUT if you ask me something you WILL get the truth 100% of the time!
I'm not sure aggression is correlated to deception. One can get angry if a question is asked over and over while the person is telling the truth, it's when they are not angry they lack conviction of their story. For example if you are innocent and police obtain you and insist you know something or you had a malicious intent even though it's not true, you are going to at the very least get angry because they are not believing you. So you shout out loud (" I swear to God! I left Tony at the store and I had no clue what he was up to!, why don't you guys believe me!?") I hope you get the gist.
Your absolutely right, aggressiveness is not a sign of deception. Like me . I just want to be left the hell alone and do my job and or what ever . Lying is an insult to a persons on intelligence .
Micscience it's all about the clusters
Micscience if this is true what she said it would mean I always lie. I find myself to be a pretty honest person . when I listen to her it seems that everything is a lie. this is pure crap. sure it works on some people.