Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.
"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?" Yeah, they're called politicians.
I've been called a liar by a government investigator, and I knew perfectly well I wasn't lying. The air of confidence that people like this speaker present is how they convince decision-makers that they know what they're doing. But they can be wrong too, and their mistakes cost careers.
Half of what she was saying didn't make much sense to me as it doesn't have to mean anything. The kid yelling at his parents they don't trust them, that's probably coz they are fed up of the policing haha, or the example of attacking a third party, maybe that employee had been warning them for ages to add CCTV for example, or someone going angry from 0 to 100, tons of reasons...so yeah she speaks with so much confidence, .. reminds me of ChatGPT haha it answers with so much confidence you believe even the wrong answers 🤪✌
Exactly. And that's exactly what I was thinking when I saw the title of this show. If these people were so expert at everything they do, how come there have been so many miscarriages of justice, with innocent people going to prison for long stretches all the time, only to be vindicated years later?
This is so true. One time, when applying for a job as a police dispatcher, I had to take a polygraph test. I was so nervous I failed. The guy thought I was hiding something, but it all amounted to me being a young 21-year-old that was freaked out, and I kept thinking, “What if there’s something that I’ve done that I don’t remember?” I didn’t get the job, but I did learn that those tests are not reliable. Anyone with confidence and assurance can pass a polygraph. But if you’re nervous or anxious, you will fail.
@@BlackSeranna True. In fact Joe Kenda (of the Homicide Hunter series) told the story of how a guy was identified by name after a shooting, Kenda brought him in, questioned him, gave him a polygraph test (which he failed) and then let him go without charge. His colleagues went crazy with him, but his reasoning was simple: he could tell when someone was lying and he believed the kid was telling the truth. As it turned out the kid had been wrongly identified (because he had long hair, like the shooter): and the actual shooter was caught. This is what irritates me about the one giving the talk there, too. If they were so flawless in their work how come so many innocent people still end up in prison.
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I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them. One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. Too many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.
I was a CO for a few years. I learned so much working there. Psychology, behaviors, why people do the things they do, etc. more than I did at any school or job. I absolutely dreaded taking that job initially; I was one of the rare ones that did LE first. Had moved to a backwards state that was rife with cronyism and nepotism. But looking back, I actually miss that CO job. Definitely stressful, but with a good group of coworkers it was fun, every day different, and learned a whole lot of everything and anything that's helped me out in so many other ways. Will definitely make you take the rosy colored glasses off as to how the world really is.
@@Christy.1 ... You're totally right. A C/O wears many hats while working an institution. You're a C/O. You're a psychologist, you're a mentor, you're a "parental" figure. You're a protector. You're a detective. An observer. At times medical emergency responder. I would say 90% it is actually boring. But that 10% ...man, we earned our check. So my motto was "boring is good in prison". I too saw working there as a daily challenge. You Never know what's going to happen that day. Alot of mind games. Some you win, some you lose. We took losing as a learning experience for next time. I still have dreams of wearing my uniform and working there. I do really miss the comradery of my co-workers. Miss the friendships we developed during our whole careers. The dark spots and the exciting events that we all experienced together. Prison is a WHOLE different world than ours. If only regular civilians knew the daily drama and the evil that exists in there. I worked there for 8 to 12 hours a day. Would never want to live in there 24/7.
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I hate liars and find it extremely difficult to lie. In my life I found that people do not believe you're honest because they themselves are dishonest.
I worked for a particular retail company for a long time, and I sat in on many interviews with the guy who was in charge of loss prevention for almost 200 stores. He was very good at getting people to admit that they stole cash and merchandise. Then we found out HE was stealing!
I worked for a school where this guy always seemed to be so happy and boisterous around his office mates, but when he was alone, he didn’t interact with anyone else and he almost seemed upset. He’d been working at the school for decades and was looking at retirement. Then one day, one of my workmates (different department) found a safe open. He turned it in. They watched the security tape, and this guy had been stealing from the safe after each ball game and people hadn’t noticed somehow. I can’t imagine losing my job and retirement over something like that. There was this other guy, I noticed that he was only animated and happy with his fellow coaches and students. With regular people like me, he didn’t even look at me and barely said hello in reply. I wondered at this, as this was not usual either. Turns out that guy had been grooming a sixteen year old track girl, and he had even gone so far as to buy a house just down from her parents’ house. Her parents saw that something was wrong and went through her phone and found the evidence. I feel like you can get a good feel for a person if you see how they treat others who they think are lesser than themselves.
You’re possibly right. The more we know, the more we think we know :) we’ll become arrogant people and sometimes dangerous, both in our careers or in personal life. We all judge and missjudge. But probably many times we need this kind of people.
Well usually the lying spotting is only used to try to find possible suspects and then they try to find the truth. Or at least that's how it's supposed to be. They can't build a case around "Well it looked like she was lying". However if they are telling different stories and stuff that doesn't or just details that are don't work together then that can be an argument in court
SOOOO TRUE! I played a game of two truths, one lie in a team-building activity. I guessed EVERYONE else's lies, and no one guessed mine. They looked at me with a side-eye for the rest of day. Part of my ability came from listening to them before the session. SO many were bragging about their personal accomplishments without asking anyone else anything, their competitive nature worked against them. I used know biases to formulate my answers. There is great power in being underestimated. Your point about jail is spot on!!! The same thing happens in the classroom. Some children get punished for what someone 'THINKS' the child is going to do, versus what they've actually done.
This would've been so much more valuable if it had actually included the slides she's referring to as "this", "that over there", "this one", "that one" etc.
23:51 When you ask someone a question and they talk for 10 minutes, & then you realize they never answered the question...this means they passed the First Practical Test for becoming a POLITICIAN!!
she is just as capable of lying as anyone, and probably does quite a lot,considering the line of work she was in lol. there are better videos on this subject.
When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.
When I'm asking a to question I'm making eye contact if they don't it's cause a story must be imagened the truth can be spoken with solid steady eye contact
@@tommerphy1286 Actually that is not true either. Many persons that are trying to manipulate are looking you directly in your eyes to see how you react to their lie and if you believe it or not, so they can adjust accordingly.
@@thecakebaker3769 when I hear what they say, I have a question, and if they go into evade and escape . Depending on the subject to me their on the witness stand and better have an idedic memory.
I was thinking this while watching the video. Aggression or anger from children (or anyone, in the case of repeated accusations) is often a strong indicator of truth. [Though usually it's paired with a reiteration of the facts they've already told you instead of a redirection (No 'Well, everyone does it!'s or 'Why are you always on my case?'s)] I always think of a classroom I was in where somebody was accused of stealing another student's TI-84 calculator because the missing calculator "had the same chipped key on it". The accused got more and more flustered and upset as the teacher and members of the class interrogated him, but stuck to his story that it was his. The other kid eventually found his calculator, and when compared, both had chipped in exactly the same place in the same way. Honestly, in that situation, who wouldn't get defensive? I guess that's why she specifically says that aggression is a deceptive indicator "when all you did was calmly ask a question".
Sometimes it just hurts when people accuse you of something...especially if its the sort of thing you would never do or the accusation comes from somebody you THOUGHT knew you better than that. I don't get angry or even try especially hard to refute it. I just go away and don't return...
When you are asked "how are you doing ", 9 times out of 10 it is a simple greeting and they don't want you to give them your medical issues. So the question is a lie.
@@thomasgallegos2832 I have made the mistake of that, or partly and it became clear that they had lost intrest so now I just say fine unless I'm speaking to my doctor.
@@MrTripleXXX I actually ask to get the real answers of how someone is and I’m prepared for the possibility of a 45 min answer bc I asked “ how are you” . Some people really need someone to talk to
I know. She refers to all these things we can't see while we are watching the video. I cry fowl...even though those people that are sitting there paid to be there.
Feet tapping and blinking a lot mean nothing. Everyone acts differently when they lie, tell the truth, are annoyed, scared, etc. It's about fact checking the lie.
Agree that there are no absolutes However there is ‘the general rule’. The lady is explaining the ‘general rule’. Ie the most common patterns displayed when people lie
Thats what control questions are for. Asking people simple questions with no incrimination. Compare responses to responses of incrimnating questions. Molly always looks around when she replies, but she shifts sitting position everytime shes asked if she knew of the counterfeit operation.
A lot of people have some sort of issues, I myself have adult ADD and a lot of times when I am being as honest as honest can be, hell, I think I am lying.
I have awful social anxiety and ADHD. I'm an AWFUL liar, so I don't tell lies that'd get me in trouble. But I swear I probably exhibit all of the red flags in just a normal conversation. There's no way this can be used universally.
❤Exactly! "typical" reactions are just that. >/=20% of the population is neurodivergent. Plus really scary liars have None of these symptoms-they have zero concience.
Most Doctors and ALL Psychiatrists. They're still lying to the American public claiming you may have a 'chemical imbalance' and need to take our neurotoxic, extremely addicting, dangerous, deadly drugs to treat it. Everything they tell us a one big fat LIE.
In her world, everyone is guilty till innocent. I was a security Investigative field for over 33 years. Sure there are basic things to look for but often I've been wrong quite as few times. The facts are what count. If you ask someone a question that you have the facts to, you will pick up a lie immediatley in their answers.
@@truthseekersmedia Democrats? u still stuck on the false L/R paradigm? R&L are two different sides of the Same Scheckel. ADL has spent their money on disinfo well. Ur answer is proof.
@@truthseekersmedia and how do you feel about the fact the Republicans suck so bad; it's paving the way for a one party system. If the idiot Republicans actually had something to believe in, you all would not be loosing. Thank you for your thoughtful consideration. I'm not lying.
@Peter Rossiter 👍👍👍👍👍👍 Facts are facts, and they stubbornly remain facts no matter what people secretly want to happen, the same can't be said of trying to intuit whether someone is bullshitting.
The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.
Also, telling someone you're "Fine" when you have a headache isn't a lie. You are fine, relatively. If you felt good, you'd say good. If you felt great, you'd say great.. If you have a headache or you're upset you have to work late, it's not good or great.. but you're still "fine."
A n-size large group of people will mostly react with a x-behaviour. Its a statistical estimate, and if you sum up how often you got an estimated behaviour from a person, one can pretty sure say if one is lying.
My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.
"the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie." You told your son that he should be honest so that he could be a more convincing liar in the future.
that is terrible parenting. Your son should be instilled with speaking the truth for the right reason. You literally just told him to be truthful only so he could get away with a big lie. We should speak the truth because that is right thing to do. I understand the utility of what you said but it's sooo wrong
It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.
That moment when you realize that you have invested 17 minutes of your life on a random video only to discover that they never actually SHOW the list of behaviors. I want my time back.
@@Rickety3263 everyone learns differently and they may need more visual cues to understand the material better. Calling someone an entitled millenial is simply rude and a closed minded judgement. Try directly someone towards a place that can help them instead of being a dick next time ...
I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.
You can still look for those signs of deception. Some may be sociopaths or pathological liars where they won’t have those “tells” but those are the exceptions.
@@jonny8790 The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.
Never take a lie detector test because the man giving you the test can trick you or make you feel uneasy and read the lie behind the lie detector...plus if you pass they don't count and if you don't it goes against you.
The problem is psychopaths, Everything a psychopath says is a manipulation, They even have super human hypnotic and deceiving capabilities. If law enforcement don't persecute so harsh, Psychopath can lie their way out of every judicial system. This is why sometimes law enforcement have to completely ignore the law and even break it, Not helpful though, Because psychopaths are also attracted to Police jobs.
You mean " ….. Their statements" and not "There statements". Learn how to use *there, their and they're" as it's basic English. Examples in sequence are: 1.)There are many positive replies. Next: 2.) Those are their qualifications, not yours', and 3.) They're so bad at English that I might as well give up and then they're going to get a grade F. Remember that an apostrophe takes the place of a letter or letters. So the word 'they're' means *they are*.
A really great talk, though it helps that I have a very deep interest in this subject, particularly since seeing the LIE TO ME series and reading the work of PAUL EKMAN. And I have great respect for Susan owing to her skills, competence and proven experience and track record. And when she talked of those who can go on for 25 minutes (in reality it can be considerably longer than that) but never answer the question asked, I immediately thought of the majority of politicians, particularly when they are invited to take part in televised debates in the run-up to elections. I would like to say that I have 2 negative remarks: 1) There were a couple of times when Susan pointed to examples of what she was saying and which were obviously displayed off-camera, and it was regrettable that the camera didn't move to enable us to see what was on the screen; 2) I do wish Susan could speak without saying "Right!", "Alright!", "You know?" or "OK!" in every sentence.
As a result of being the child of a narcissist (mother, psychopath (father) with a sibling who is bipolar/schizophrenic, I am pathologically honest. I do not/will not participate in dishonesty, without exception. In this world of perpetual deception, I am not very popular. I am okay with that.
well you can't say because of certain ppl in a way we are all psychopathic and narcissistic a lot of us just tend to hide it or not realize it,but it's true. ofc some cases are serious, but like it's common human behavior that we tend get whatever we want.
Interesting. My mother exhibited, I believe, borderline personality disorder and munchausen by proxy (me being the primary target of the latter). Somewhere between 10 and 17 I began making up outlandish stories for attention - outright fabrications with no material motivation. At some point when I was 17 it occurred to me how much damage I was doing to my life, and I quickly worked on restricting myself from participating in dishonesty or dishonest behavior. It is perhaps nearly a borderline obsession for me. Can I claim to *never* lie? Well, no. Nobody is perfect. But I try god damn hard!
Now, go watch Biden say that Afghanistan would not be taken over from a month ago. Like...wow! That sob knew all along. Many, many indicators in under 2 seconds.
Truth is ..we all lie Some more than others Yet lies are saving circumstances . Truth sets one free but chains the others .. Balancing is the very key here
@Redrustyhill damn you hear him talk about his mother and you already psychoanalyzed why she acts the way she does? You may be a world renowned psychologist!
@Redrustyhill You are guilty of that yourself because youre applying your experiences onto his mom right now ,just as you explained in your comment, when his mom could be doing it for a number of reasons. I think projection is certainly a possibility but how do you know that, for example, the original poster proved himself, to his mom, to be an untrustworthy person whether that be when he was younger or currently? thats just one of many possibilities besides projection You could definitely say im being nit picky and unnecessarily confrontational right now but as a person who studies psychology its the golden rule to not assume but to listen and make judgements based on what you hear
I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect. No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.
Angie. I love your response. I totally agree. If my kid's (especially my little one's) were missing I'd be a basket case and could never do any kind of Interview's at all!
And she knew when it was thought a black man did it the media would empathize with her, she was slick... the description she made matched a local man who lost his job and his life was ruined for awhile
I remember it and thought the same thing!! It actually stopped me in my tracks when I saw her on TV. The way she talked, "cried" and blamed a black man. I knew immediately she was guilty!
Mr. Navarro, who has conducted many, many hundreds of interrogations, says there really is no way to tell for sure if a person is lying. i believe him! 🌷🌱
Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.
I had a childhood similar to that. Even to this day I still repeat myself over and over in different ways, provide all the facts I’m able, be as logical and reasonable as possible just to prove the point that I’m telling the truth. And that thought pattern my parents had with me thinking that I always lie, taught me to think that most important people in my life are lying to me about things I’m serious about. Leaves me begging for the truth even when someone tells me they are being truthful. Damn, I wish parents knew how much the f*** their child up with stuff like this lol
Yeah you over explain with a clear and fully detailed account of what happened and it makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be believed by garnishing the answer so heavily. Its shit! Im literally so black and white and direct and straight forward, Ill give you my full account to squash any chance of there being doubt, but thats not how normal people communicate, because most people didn't have to microexplain their every thought and movements and be told their lying when they were telling the truth. You have no where to go then, so it teaches you to do your best to explain in totality.
I’m so glad that someone else knows what this feels like. Not like it’s a good thing for either of us, but knowing I’m not alone brings me some comfort. Even while I’m telling a story to someone I am consistently pausing and spacing out so I can reflect on what happened and put it in the exact words that describe exactly what happened so I know I am being honest, I’m so careful when I’m talking because I am always afraid of lying even unintentionally by leaving out important information. I’m always afraid of lying, and when I’m being honest and I know I’m being honest I wonder if it’s because I am lying to myself.
Im not really into the _"spiritual philosophy"_ if you will, and I fully acknowledge ive made poor judgements but my gut has practically a perfect record...And I read some "hippie shit" that said trust your gut because its one of your chakras picking up on negative energy which is why it materializes as a "gut feeling" makes sense to me 🤷🏻♂️
Governor Pritzker actually told Illinois that I would never lie to you while completely and utterly lying, he has a venture capitalist firm that makes money from the tests which have just now been recalled by the CDC. Dude has constantly been caught lying. When someone says I will not lie to you and proceeds to talk chances are they are lying.
Idk about anyone else but sometimes I get aggressive when someone is saying that I am lying when I most definitely am not lying. It sets me off like none other when called a liar while telling the truth. However, there are other times when I am just like, "believe what you want, i don't care." It really just depends on my mood and all the various factors that come with being a human. So, I don't necessarily agree with the "aggressive" aspect that was presented in this video. All in all this is still valuable information. Thank you! 🙏🏻
However they should be aware of this. Maybe a lot of innocent are in prison because of lack of proper training, racism and some people in authority being corrupt or just not caring
I’ve watched this before, and this time around, I appreciate the guidance on understanding our own biases when communicating with people. Working with effective interpersonal communication skills through DBT. Very helpful in understanding myself & others. Thank you.
You absolutely can not tell a lie through someone's body language. That is a fallacy. Any experienced FBI interrogator will tell you that. You can only tell if that person is experiencing mental stress. Then, you need to figure out why that person is in that state.
Very true. I've always been amazed by the claims of (can I say charlatans?) like the speaker. Especially coming from an agency that's known for how nefarious it is lol.
There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.
I am one of those people you describe. I could lie my way out of anything.... but accuse me of guilt when I am actually innocent... I come across as liar/guilty I am told. My whole life. 🤷♂️ I couldn't tell the truth to save my life in court.
I am the type of person that would appear as lying when i tell the truth. I have a problem with a nervous type of smirk or if i do not take the person serious i will smirk. The smirk is often taken as me being a lier when i am infact telling the truth. Body language is never perfect and neither is using movement or any other measure to determine deception. The problem is people assume it is a one size fits all approach to determining if someone is lying. Their is no one size fits all approach and at best you can have general rules that do not apply universally. For instance when someone asked me something and i was asked a question my answer had a long pause. They assumed I was lying when in reality my mind just went blank in the middle of a question. So I can had a pause until I remembered what the right answer to the question was. My mind sometimes just goes blank in mid sentence on rare occasions.
You know someone is about to lie if they start their answer to a question with “So, blah, blah, blah.” Then they evade answering the question and ramble on about something totally unrelated. Another sign of dishonesty is; when a person is accessing a memory, they look up and to the right, when they are lying, they look up and to the left to try to think of a story or lie they can tell.
Anyone who has dealt with the trauma of being falsely accused will tell you. It sucks and, its infuriating to have someone look you in the eye and lie on you. You feel like you are getting ready to get victimized.
You seem shady. I'm pretty sure I spotted a microexpression, and your face looks shiny I think that means you're about to start sweating. Verdict: Deception indicated.
I feel you 100% on this . I get super angry when wrongly accused but I need to work on it and learn to remain calm cause my anger reinforces their accusations if anger is perceived as being un- truthful
@@natureslogic7074 you can't win, what happens is an investigator has already formed an opinion and then he notices that you seem too agitated or too calm or that you're shaking or sweating. Idiots like the one in this video give investigators false confidence in their 'gut instincts' and a set pathetic rules that put people in a situation where they can't be sick or annoyed or cold or hot or exhausted or just have a bad attitude and also be truthful. I hope one day someone falsely accuses her of a crime and detains her for 24 hours and questions her and connects her to a box which spits out a docket that says she's full of shit.
Exactly what I was thinking. There's a lot of phases of emotion that I have been through when I was falsely accused of something. I felt disrespected, anger, sadness, confidence and so DEFENSIVENESS and in this presentation she automatically correlated that with guilt. I don't believe this presentation would fly. Matter of fact most of companies that participated and applied these I guarantee have paid millions in settlements listening to her. Everyone is not a good person including the ppl managing others so you'd have to take in race, sexual, and gender discrimination and biases. It was interesting to watch and still not sure why it showed up in my algorithm lol
"If someone gets angry then you got a problem." She basically said this is a red flag? An innocent person would get angry if their accused or questioned for no reason. Also she said don't have a bias then admits that this is one she has. Contradicts herself a few times.
This kind of stuff causes peoples lifes to be spent in prison.. we dont know when people are lying or not as I myself have been in situations where I've been asked if I've done something wrong and I've been nervous, fidgety ect and done no wrong.. thankfully it was something silly and not a murder ect or I would be in prison right now!! Everyone is different and deal with situations differently! If people believe in lie detector machines WHY ISNT THERE ONE IN THE COURTS!!
EXACTLY. Like, say your loved one goes missing and you're worried sick, and the police call you in to say "we've heard you might be a pervert, now listen to us grill you for five hours about whether you murdered them!" *of course* you'd get upset, *especially* if you were innocent. Maybe her advice works in corporate/espionage type situations but it's natural to have a defensive reaction when accused of emotionally loaded things?
You know, I could trust you...a random person on the internet with unclear credentials, or someone screened by the Cia with 20 years of experience. Is she going to be perfect? No. Is she more accurate than you? Yes. Yes she is. Because you don't get PAID to do this for a living. Any single behavior cannot be linked to truthfulness. But having talked to many sociopaths over the years, some quite intelligent, I've learned that reading human behavior--if you have that gift, and manipulating it, is SHOCKINGLY easy. Humans are nowhere close to as deep as you think think are. With respect to anger ...NO. Most people DO NOT get angry at being interrogated when innocent. Why? Because they're innocent. Inconvenient? Yes. But often one is interrogated because they are close to (physically or via relarionship to the company/affected persons) to the crime or issue. You don't get questioned for no reason. At the end of the day people don't get angry when they are being interviewed and not lying because they want the person who DID do the bad thing to be caught. Sure, some people do get angry. But it's not a single behavior that strong people readers latch to. It's a combination of several factors, and accounts for knowledge of their baseline mannerisms. Either because you know them personally already, or because you've asked questions to establish that baseline: what's your name, how old are you (etc). Stuff that you couldn't lie about. Notably if I asked what you had for breakfast today, you COULD lie to throw off the trail. Can't lie about your name, age, occupation (etc) since it can be looked up. When we lie, we generally don't think of our body acting on the whole. Because we are thinking of the lie. What to say. Sometimes, lack of movement can indicate lying. Good deception detection means knowing when to spot movement when there shouldn't be...AND, no movement when there SHOULD be. Basically there's a lot more to this than a 48 minute Ted talk. And while it can't be communicated in that video, your brain is physically incapable of covering *all* of the muscles in your body, and your vocal pitch, your speaking speed, intonation, breathing rate, eye movement or lack of eye movement, muscle twitches and microexpressions ALL at the same time. That's how you tell. And the purpose isn't to be 100% accurate. It's to get closer to the truth. And therby ask closer to home questions which eventually get the person into a corner where they DO tell you the truth in a way that IS admissible.
If you don't have a lawyer you might ask for your Constitutional Rights and they will persecute you to the fullest extent to make an example of you. But if you are famous, they will pretend that you have rights to keep people from knowing the truth. I've been there. My lawyer kept me from getting 3 years in jail for a felony charge because of a tiny closet of pot plants. He basically told me to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to stay out of jail for 3 years. I paid him $8,000 and was happy to be free.
My mom and I are very close and she called me out for lying. At first, I was hurt and angry and in denial. But, when I was less emotional, I did sort of an inventory of my day to day and where I lie, and why I lie. I also had the stark realization that munipulation is also a form of lying. As I've grown older, I'm 41, integrity has become very valuable to me. It was several years ago that my mom confronted me in love, and I am proud to say that I have worked diligently to think before I speak. I also began counseling with respect to using munipulation as a tool, and I took a deep dive into my childhood and adulthood. Anyways, I encourage anyone who values integrity to take an inventory of their own lives. Just thought I'd share my little story with y'all.
Wow that's great just wish we could get the press ,polititions, lawyers, judges, ac repairmen , mechanics, oil change shops dentists scientists,history profs, and insurance salesmen to do the same
Good for you! I was raised in a family with siblings who lied so often that they believed their own lies. I know I lied when I was younger, then I had a son & taught him that lying was wrong, of course, & I tried very hard to never lie. I do believe it's ok to lie in order to protect ourselves or others.
I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one. I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting. I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying. Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something. You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.
Wich exactly what the intire world seen the democrats in office and civilian population do to a real American Trump when its actually the democrats who are colluding with Russia and selling out America to china and trying to get people to hate each other and helped china create the virus and proven to be child predators all over the USA and thrives on sex trade and getting Americans killed from poison from China and help from Mexico..
If you watched the video none of the behaviours by themselves are a way to identify a lie. It only happens when many of them happen just after being asked a question. Like for example, if you are moving your leg all the time instead of just when you are being asked it could mean you are just nervous, you are cold or that you just want to pee.
i got arrested for something I obviously didn't do about 18 years ago and i was the one telling the truth and the cop was lying. I was out walking my dog and this ine cop was looking for someone who had stolen a bike. having no experience of police or anything like that, it was spinning my head - i was like what the hell is going on? Luckily and i'm so thankful of this, I had seen a documentary where a lawyer explained your rights on arrest and said you must not say anything until you have a lawyer present, it is your right, it is the law and it is a legal principle that has to be adhered to. Once i realised, holy sh*t this cop is actually trying to fit me up and he arrested me - i shut my mouth, because of that documentary. If i hadn't seen it I probably would have gone on and on saying this is a mistake. There is no mistake if the police are tying to pin something on you, they know you didn't do it - they are just looking for ways to prove you did to get a result. Anyway, got to the police station, as soon as i got processed by the desk officer he asked do you want a lawyer and a relative contacted which they have to do (in the UK) i said yes to both and the cop who arrested me looked p*ssed. He said, well you'll be here for hours waiting, we can get this straightened out in a few minutes! So i got put in a cell waited for 4 hours or so, my solicitor came and we went to an office. She said no matter what I am here to work for you so just tell me exactly what happened. Which i did which was I was out walking my dog as usual, next thing I know a police car pulls up starts asking me questions next thing i'm arrested etc etc. She basically said OK, you've never been in trouble with the law, never committed a crime so this may come as a shock, but yes he is trying to fit you up. Growing up you may have been taught the police are your friend and they are there to protect you. The police are not your friends, he knows or doesn't care if you didn't do it - this isn't the issue, he is just doing what he can to gather evidence that make you appear guilty. She then said next thing is he'll interview you with me, say no comment to every single question. If you do need to say something other than this - say i wish to speak with my lawyer privately and he will have to leave the room. I did that and was out a few hours later no charge no nothing because i hadnt done anything wrong. I had a short meeting with my lawyer afterwards, she explained how he had zero evidence so what happens if a person doesn't get a lawyer and the police have no evidence and you are innocent is they will take every single thing you say and use it and twist it in a way that makes you look guilty. - i was really p*ssed off, but it was a brilliant life lesson. I tell the story to people all the time, and to my kids - but it is amazing how many people still say well if i've done nothing wrong there won't be problem, well ok good luck. You wouldn't believe how many innocent people have talked themselves into being guilty of a crime they absolutely did not do.
This video would have been much better had we been able to not only hear what the audience is saying but also when she would refer to the video we could actually see what she's talking about
EXACTLY!!!! This woman is a fraud. There is no way to tell for certain if someone is lying based on their behavior under questioning. That is why every civilized society has courts of law; to find OBJECTIVE PROOF of accusations.
Yeah, when someone falsely accuses me of doing something I didn't do, I get pissed off. Why would she think that's suspicious? How could you NOT get pissed off by a false accusation? My mind is blown by her implication that that's somehow an indication of guilt.
It happens to me. When I am speaking truth. The other is lying and they always think it is me that is lying. Abused children grow up not showing emotions like the average person. That doesn't make them liers.
@@ernietbone4168 its generally because its believed if someone is not guilty then they ultimately believe that they will not be punished for it and have no reason to show emotion but that doesn't really take into account the personal insult or social shame that comes along with being falsely accused.
Bad for introverts. I tend to look away, look down, or look to the side from strangers. It's out of anxiety/awkwardness, depending on the situation. If it was a boss, I got nervous.
@Scalding 110 😄 I hear you. Thankfully my husband & son understand my quirks. They understand why I do the things I do. For example: I don't like strangers nor many people in my personal space. If there are more than 2 people in aisle, I'll go shop in another & then go back 🤣
Yeah, Lady C.I.A. - tell me, show me - Milner Benedict III, how to spot a lie fron a liar... and we can compare notes when I come to see your friends at Langley, Virginia.
Former correctional officer and police officer here and here’s a big tip - don’t talk to the police, or anyone else for that matter. You have a right to not talk, and you should use that right. Lawyer up instead or wait for the public defender to represent you! Let someone else talk for you on your behalf. What you say can and will be used against you. If I’d been Jamy, I’d have refused to talk. And while that may appear like she has something to hide, and would draw my suspicion to her even more, I can’t prove anything and it’s her right to not talk so I can’t use it against her. But once she started talking by answering the questions she began self incriminating herself. Never ever do that, whether you know in your mind you are innocent or guilty. Always let your representative do your talking. With that said, anything you’ve told others is the next step for law enforcement. Then we’d be asking your family and friends the questions we wanted you to answer and we’d be trying to use their answers against you. They too can refuse to talk but most of them will talk because they know they’re not in trouble themselves. Plus any physical evidence is going to be used against you also. So everyone and everything is against you. But you are your own worst enemy when you talk. That’s like half (or more) of the battle to prosecute you with, just handed to law enforcement right away when you talk. Make law enforcement work hard to prove your guilt by not talking to them. Now, you DO want to come clean to your attorney if you know you’re guilty and they will do their best to minimize your punishment by seeking a plea deal with the prosecutor if they can’t find another way to defend you. Of course a prosecutor doesn’t have to offer a plea deal, but they usually will when they think it’s gonna be tough to prove your guilt. They may have a lot of evidence to use against you, but if they don’t have your words from your lips to use against you then, their job is MUCH harder to prove and they’re more likely to offer a decent plea deal. See, the difference between a decent plea deal and no plea deal or getting a prison sentence and getting acquitted often comes down to whether you talked to law enforcement or others in the first place. So be smart and shut your mouth! And you should take comfort in that right because nothing is more unbearable than having to answer questions when you’re all shook up and nervous. I’ll never understand idiots like Scott Peterson and Alec Baldwin and many others that go onto TV shows to answer questions about alleged crimes. They are all idiots for doing that and stand nothing positive to gain for themselves by doing so.
============== Keys to Success • Analyze vs. speculate • Manage your bias • Recognize evasiveness • Beware of aggression • Differentiate between convince vs. convey • Know what non-verbal cues mean ================ Analyze vs. Speculate • Disregard global behaviors • Identify the stimulus • Focus on behaviors directly associated with the response • Rely on: - Timing - Clusters ================ Timing Question Answer (stimulus) (response) |---------> |0--1--2--3--4--5--> Initial deceptive behavior must begin within the first five seconds ================== Clusters Question Answer (stimulus) (response) |---------> |0---1--2--3--4--5--> N N V V V N N Start of deceptive verbal and non-verbal behaviors V = Verbal N = Non-Verbal/Non-verbal =========================== Manage Your Bias • Ignore truthful behavior • Avoid self-fulfilling prophecy • Guards against the halo effect ============================= Recognize Evasiveness • Failure to provide information asked for • Failure to deny • Use of exclusionary qualifier(s) ============================= Beware of Aggression • Attacking the questioner • Attacking third party • Demonstrating an inappropriate level of concern ============================= Differentiate Between Convince vs. Convey • Convincing statements • Referral statements • Invoking religion • Perception qualifiers ============================== Know What Non-verbal Cues Mean • Behavioral pause • Verbal/Non-verbal disconnect • Anchor point movements • Grooming gestures • Hand to face ======================== Suspect Is she lying or telling the truth? ========================== Summary - Keys to Success • Analyze vs. speculate • Manage your bias • Recognize evasiveness • Beware of aggression • Differentiate between convince vs. convey • Know what non-verbal cues mean ===========================
CIA Or other agents Will not come out and tell you Your a liar Thier whole point of questioning is to gather as much info to present in a court of law It starts when you see them coming to you Where you were What you were doing at the time How you reacted to them being there And at that point They already know something you don't Or maybe your on a equal playing field And it ends when a judge slams the hammer This is why the first thing you hear from law enforcement say : You have the right to remain slient - Most don't have the ablilty....This is why you have Good cop Bad cop roles to find what makes you tick and spill your guts even if its a lie or the truth
Not only do they believe their own lies, but others do, too. The average pathological liar sounds very convincing to most people. It is only when you take them to task that you discover they are lying. I've done this several times, and their personalities changed significantly as they were taken to task. After a while they suddenly wake up and realize that this person is leading them down a path of destruction, so they start taking evasive maneuvers. With a pathological liar, though, this happens toward the end, because they continue thinking that they can bullshit themselves through the ordeal. Only if you are armed with the right information, can prove it, and are willing to go the distance can you crack a pathological liar. Case in point. Remember Casey Anthony? When she was being questioned by the police, they asked her where she worked to establish a timeline of where she was at certain times. She responded by saying she worked at Disney. They asked her if she could take them to her desk or work station, and she said yes but she had lost her badge (common pathological liar bullshit). So they put her in a car and drove to Disney. They radioed ahead to let Disney know what was going on, so they gained full access. They went inside, and she led them through a tunnel and many hallways. They finally reached a point where they couldn't go any farther, and only then did she admit she was lying.
If you only knew how many innocent people have been prosecuted based almost entirely on these sort of b.s. behavioral analyses. Yeah SOMETIMES what she's saying holds true, but I can think of so many instances where I've personally done the opposite of what she assumes someone would do.
oh i know, right? not only do i never lie, but i neither know how, nor would i be any good at that, so it's easy for me, yet some people just never believe me, haha!
Because it's always always just a percentage and if that percentage is higher than the other they will assume the higher percentage always it's how things work
But she is so confident that her system is foolproof . In my case there is nothing right in what she said. I move my legs merrily when I have nothing to fear but keep still when I am worried about the question.
Yeah body language isn't straightforward at all, I was constantly being falsely accused of bs as a child because I would involuntarily smile when I was being falsely accused of something. There is always more then one interpretation to things. On one hand I could have been smiling because I got caught, on the other I could have been smiling because I thought it was funny that these idiots thought I did something that I knew I didn't do, which I was. Furthermore Lie Detectors are BS too and I can say this because I passed a polygraph last year while straight up lying out my ass. I lied on about 6 questions and yet I passed with flying colors.
I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.
... It sounds to me like you were "gangstocked" at work... I've had something similar to that happen to me years ago. I was harassed until I walked off the job one day... In hind sight, I wish I would have sued them ..., (I'm glad I left, tho ). Point is, you may want to check into a lawsuit if the statute of limitations hasn't yet expired. If they've created a hostile work environment, that alone is grounds for a law suit. I wish you the very best.
same here. i feel people just watch too many movies and basically everyone believes they can play amateur psychologist. this lie spotting thing is bullshit.
@@akiamini4006 Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.
I learned at a very early age, in fact I was 10, I'm 56 now, Mom after telling one too many fibs, stories, etc., my Mom was done with it and I got the worst spanking of my life. Later that day, I went outside and sat down in the shop by my Dad, he was patiently getting his fishing poles ready to go fishing the next day, when he started a conversation with me. He said, "Can I tell you a secret?" I nodded my head yes. He went on to say, "You know, you respect everyone enough to be honest with them. One little lie can, and will, grow so large that the person telling that lie will lose track of what they said and which people they said it to. They forget how many versions of it they've told. When your honest with people, you never have to worry about remembering what you said or who you said it. Be honest with people, always mean exactly what you say, even when you're mad and have an argument with someone. Once the words are out of your mouth, it's too late to take them back." I live by that to this day. Being honest is very liberating. The biggest lies, the only lies I've told since I was 10 years old are "I'm fine", "I'll be fine.", "Don't worry about it." , "It's OK, let's just make it my fault." and variations of those in response to questions asked. My Mom and Dad made sure I'm point blank when I talk with anyone. I've been told by so many people I'm too abrasive, too etc. I have no filter. I'm not mean about it, but when asked by anyone for my honest opinion, no matter how long we've known each other, I remind them what they are, in fact, asking me for and the rules that apply to them. I always say, "Before I give you my opinion, perspective or point of view, take a breath and a step back and ask yourself if you have the shoulders to handle what I'm going to say. We all know I don't sugar coat anything; there's a 98% chance, you won't like what I have to say. We all know plenty of people that will tell us what we want to hear. That doesn't help anyone. I'll tell you what you need to hear. Do you still want to ask for my opinion because there is no going back once I do." Hurt my feelings with the truth. Every time. I have been a student of human nature as far back as I can remember. Numerous people have told me so many times they wish they could "read people like a book the way you do". My family and friends will tell you I instinctively and intuitively know when I'm being lied to before the first sentence is said aloud, whether face to face or on the phone. I'll tell the other person, "Stop...right...there...Let's try this again." I have walked out of meetings at work because of this. You gave every right in the world to waste your breath telling a lie. You do NOT have the right to waste my time while you're doing so. ~ APRIL LIPKE
Jamy was Smiling incessently immediately after making a point of cognizance regarding her knowlege of Right and Wrong and due course and Punishment in accordance with the line of questioning on the Concern. Rather than an exhibiting of caution, fear, disdain, etc. She Smiled proving her trustworthiness... To Herself.
@@Aggrobiscuit " She's so wrong about this part. Getting angry is usually a sign someone is innocent." You're both wrong. Making a baseless asumption about innocence or guilt based on things that are *by definition* irrational and then trying to apply an ostensibly rational concept like law or deductive reasoning towards that assumption is bullshit.
@@helpimslow973 Again, baseless assumption. You don't get to apply how you *think* you would react to a baseless accusation and retroactively assume guilt. This woman uses baseless assumptions as well, but she uses about a dozen at a time to attempt to build a profile. Asking a single question and deducing a "lie" from that singular question is never going to be a valid logical mechanism for truth or lies.
Often the simple fact that you're being accused of something and asked about it, you already feel guilty whether you did it or not. Very tough to not try to convince someone you didn't do something when you already feel guilty of it.
Lie detection whether by using a lie smellar or a contraption that can supposedly spot lies, is all about theatrics. If the person suspected of dishonesty believes that that investigators will be able to tell if they lie, they tend to concoct stories that are closer to the truth in an attempt to have deniability if called out out on their lies. The tragic side effects are that those who are familiar with the song and dance find it easy to pass the test because they know it's a deception, while those who are naive and nervous fail even though they have done nothing wrong because the accusation has made them "feel guilty" of something.
Keep asking the same questions and eventually the liar will fuck up. Honesty is way easier than remembering all your bs lies. This tactic is one of the best, police use it all the time
Ask a Mormon teenager or a NY drag queen about being gay. The Mormon kid can be so nervous that he comes off deceptively. When he isn't. But the drag queen thinks you're an idiot and matter of factly answers that he isn't gay.
They can detect that. There is always a difference and clues. Just like with my kids.... they get a sense of guilt when I asked about who left out the milk... but in 3 seconds I know who did it even though all 3 boys felt or acted guilty
It's only been a few million years and still unrecognizable to all females worldwide have no freaking idea anatomy physiology embryology histology of pregnancy preeclampsia eclampsia, 1-2-3's ABCs of intercourse mating procreating reproduction pregnancy and the importance of breast-feeding except for 1 male, me! 1492, females failed to protect themselves from their male offspring igniting the existence of legalize males mass murdering babies, genocide and blessed by the Pope ethnic cleansing holocausts. Early 1800s The birth of the obstetrician gynecologist, males delivering their own rape incest babies in slaughterhouses should have never been allowed to exist by white females in the 1st place! 4th, July, 1776, the white founding fathers forgot all fetuses deserve to pursue happiness too. 1692, white females forgot to stand up for their birth rights as they were being hung by the neck until dead for pregnancy related problems resolved with grandmothers helping healing hands home cooking herbal remedies delivering babies at home and grandpas security knuckle sandwiches. 1800, Charles Darwin, white females forgot to stand up for females birth rights 1847 the American Medical Association legalize white males delivering all babies in slaughterhouses should have never been allowed by females in the 1st place!
she said "if I was in an optimistic mood, doesn't happen very often (chuckled), but if I were"...atleast she can tell when everyone is lying. no thanks
I had to stop watching 1/2 way through. The length of time it takes her to get to a point is excruciating. Audience participation cannot be heard. Her visuals and list of behaviors are not seen, so this was not really informative. Just irritating.
Poor Waldo I found it to be informative. It sounds like what you're saying is that the camera should've been trained on the audience from time to time, and I agree with that. It did not ruin the overall video for me.
I think as someone who is more self-conscious than they wanted to be, I've always suffered from these kind of behavior analogy. You can spot it when they are underlying an accusation in their question and I get increasingly nervous because I understood why I'd look suspicious from their point of view and I'm now afraid any tiny nervous behavior cue in my answer would throw away my integrity.
The danger is the question asked. It is often the asked question that formulates the lie. It is called leading the witness in legal circles. In research, it's called interviewer bias.
Some people love to talk, in general. Some love to talk to a friend or loved one. Some don't really get a lot of people asking them about anything that's isn't work related (especially men), so when it happens it's like jumpstarting the duracell bunny. Basically, for most who do this, it's more of a social interaction or intimacy sharing need that has gone unfulfilled, a bubble of all that pent up "energy", that burst when you asked that question. So they get _really_ carried away, and somewhere along the way they forget why they started talking and what the question was.
But the question is did he lie? As you just said he never answered the question. Is called avoiding the question. Or more like rerouting you to something else. Like a gps :). Some people do not like lying not saying thats him or try to do the very minimum as to have more honesty in the relationship. Plus religious reasons also. A quick answer would be i dont really want to talk about it. No im not talking about your ex. I am just speaking in general
What I learned, besides how to lie, is that if you are a former CIA agent, you can open your own company and convince others you know something that they don't because you were CIA.
According to the Bible, the lake of fire is reserved for: 1. Satan (Revelation 20:10) 2. The beast (Antichrist) and the false prophet (Revelation 20:10) 3. Death and Hades (Revelation 20:14) 4. Those whose names are not written in the book of life (Revelation 20:15) 5. Those who worship the beast and receive its mark (Revelation 16:2) 6. The cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars (Revelation 21:8) The lake of fire is described as a place of eternal punishment and suffering, separated from God's presence. It is the final destination for those who reject God's love and salvation, and choose to follow evil and rebellion instead. It's important to note that the lake of fire is not a literal fire, but a symbolic representation of God's judgment and wrath. The Bible uses imagery and symbolism to convey the seriousness of sin and the importance of repentance and faith in God.
Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.
I don't think there's any consistent pattern in eyebrows. People shouldn't rely on this kind of gunk. It's not consistently true and it's resulted in a lot of misery for a lot of innocent people.
A good sign is when a person crosses their arms when you are speaking to them. It's a subconscious reaction of building a shield with your arms telling the other person he is not welcomed in the conversation. It's a defensive position that he is close-minded to what ever you want to say to him. Or when you ask a question. Does he repeated it. His way of buying time to conjur up a lie. He gulps hard. His eyes blink real fast. Or he fails to make eye contact when he responds. Or suddenly starts scratching his face or arms repeatedly. Could also slide or stutter his responses. Or just give out TOO much information when not asked for.
@@oldschoolfunkster1 Yes! Arm-crossing is a guarded position that stems from the need to protect as much of our vital organs as our arms can when we feel threatened. Obviously we won't do this if we are faced with a bear, but it can relate to more subtle feelings of threat... Totally unrelated, another sign is the feet. If you are talking with someone while standing up and their feet are facing you, that means they want to be talking with you. Conversely, if their feet are not facing you, that indicates they do not or are in a rush to get somewhere else. While sitting, you can look at signs like crossed legs or feet, hyperflexed knees where the feet are far under the chair, or the jitters.
@@markh2826 ... You got it. All those are exact signs as you defined them. People don't know they do this, but their body automatically sets its position to tell you what they are thinking. Of course it's not correct 100% of the time, but one has an idea on how to continue the meeting. I'm a retired officer and this was a good thing to know. From reading a liar or guilty person, to someone that was ready to get violent. If I saw someone with one foot in front of the other, he was getting ready to start swinging. The clenched fists to their sides were a dead giveaway too. And we always looked into their eyes to anticipate their next move. We were trained to also take a slight defensive stance (not aggressive) to keep our balance in case. In other words, a body talks without the person speaking. You just have to know how to decipher the language. And you know how to read that. Very interesting perception to have available.
i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..
Well, you do lie. If you have held your tongue because you did not want to offend, due to fear of the repercussions, then you have lied. We all lie. It is not acceptable but we all lie.
@@fitnesspoint2006 I think here they're talking about deliberate/ intentional lies not circumstantial omission to avoid confusion. I prefer to be silent than utter things i can't verify.
If she would know too much would be dead already. In Russia, YOU wouldn't say "I was agency agent". By stating that you would sign the death certificate. You are lucky that not living at NAZI time. You would be 6'under. Wondering WHY you published this for money? Other reason? Are you the US citizen? Than WHY?
I was attacked numerous times and when I told the police, they asked the accused and he said that it was a tree that hit me. And got away with it. Maybe next time he draws blood from me. Wish me luck. I know when someone lies about things that they did to me. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I'm going to disagree with her, on the point of aggression, somewhat. Scenario: my brother called me up one day out of the blue sky I haven't heard from him for quite a long time, accused me of something that I did not do he adamantly insisted that I did I know and God knows I did not immediately I was angry and aggressive and yelling and crying I was hurt my feelings were hurt my heart was hurt! I could not believe my brother accused me of such a thing and to me it deeply hurt my heart. And it made me angry and aggressive therefore I have to disagree with this lady!
Not to mention the fact that people COULD actually feel this way and become aggressive, beCAUSE that is something that had to deal with their whole lives as well. Prime example, I was looking forward to my trip to Europe which I saved a lot for, and when I arrived to Heathrow airport, I got through the metal detectors, though my ride was going to be late, and I was very excited to finally meet up with my support family and friends abroad. My excitement and obsessiveness of being on time, made me seem aggravated, when in reality I was pumped up and ready to meet up with my mates and their family. Needless to say I was detained and sent back to the states in 12 hours, already spent my money on the venue that I couldn't attend, in which I never got my money back for. The group and family said they were so sorry and though I never heard from the airport, they themselves felt they were very much out of line for their presumptions of my person. Another point is those with onset conditions, such as Diabetes or high blood pressure. Both in which can cause massive mood swings, and at the very least cause irritation as well as both mental and physical issues that can be misdiagnosed as behavior issues, rather than the actual aspect in which it derives from. Personally, I would generalize it as sheer ignorance on a person unable to comprehend that. Thoughts...anyone?
I agree, not to mention when you have a person nagging a person with the same nonsense question all the time. People tend to get tired of hearing it and fly off the handle.
I agree. People have asked me questions before instead of giving a simple yes or no answer I've gone into a long explanation or try to convince them of the good side of me because they obviously didn't see it or they wouldn't be questioning me the way they did in the first place. Sometimes you have to kind of convince people that you're a good person and remind them of your credibility that doesn't make you a liar I wholeheartedly disagree with this woman
The biggest lie I tell myself is "you don't need to write that down you'll remember it".
Judy, I’m so bad I forget stuff I did write down
LOL
Don't forget the ever so faithful "the conversation will get there when I see it, and then I wouldn't have drifted off"
I’ve been called dumb got writing down what person was telling me
@Cyndi Rothrock YES!
Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.
Well, they are dumb for doing it! They should ask an open-ended question to test your honesty.
@@irenashiloh8808 it depends
A woman yes 😂😂😂😂😂
It's what attorney lives by: know the answer
Ask me no questions, l will tell you no lies
"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?"
Yeah, they're called politicians.
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, TOOK THAT RITE OFF MY KEYBOARD, IM SURPRISED THE ENTIRE PLACE DIDT YELL THAT OUT!!!!! GOOD ONE! THANKS.
@Tanish Bermola its a direct quote from the video.
That was awesome!!!!!! You are correct. God Bless.
What type of personn is that thou. Deception?
I've been called a liar by a government investigator, and I knew perfectly well I wasn't lying. The air of confidence that people like this speaker present is how they convince decision-makers that they know what they're doing. But they can be wrong too, and their mistakes cost careers.
Half of what she was saying didn't make much sense to me as it doesn't have to mean anything. The kid yelling at his parents they don't trust them, that's probably coz they are fed up of the policing haha, or the example of attacking a third party, maybe that employee had been warning them for ages to add CCTV for example, or someone going angry from 0 to 100, tons of reasons...so yeah she speaks with so much confidence, .. reminds me of ChatGPT haha it answers with so much confidence you believe even the wrong answers 🤪✌
Exactly. And that's exactly what I was thinking when I saw the title of this show. If these people were so expert at everything they do, how come there have been so many miscarriages of justice, with innocent people going to prison for long stretches all the time, only to be vindicated years later?
This is so true. One time, when applying for a job as a police dispatcher, I had to take a polygraph test. I was so nervous I failed. The guy thought I was hiding something, but it all amounted to me being a young 21-year-old that was freaked out, and I kept thinking, “What if there’s something that I’ve done that I don’t remember?” I didn’t get the job, but I did learn that those tests are not reliable.
Anyone with confidence and assurance can pass a polygraph. But if you’re nervous or anxious, you will fail.
@@BlackSeranna True. In fact Joe Kenda (of the Homicide Hunter series) told the story of how a guy was identified by name after a shooting, Kenda brought him in, questioned him, gave him a polygraph test (which he failed) and then let him go without charge. His colleagues went crazy with him, but his reasoning was simple: he could tell when someone was lying and he believed the kid was telling the truth. As it turned out the kid had been wrongly identified (because he had long hair, like the shooter): and the actual shooter was caught. This is what irritates me about the one giving the talk there, too. If they were so flawless in their work how come so many innocent people still end up in prison.
So many law enforcement officers believe truth for lies and vice versa. It’s mind blowing.
Any former CIA officer should be able to spot a liar. They are surrounded by each other all day.
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I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them.
One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. Too many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.
I was a CO for a few years. I learned so much working there. Psychology, behaviors, why people do the things they do, etc. more than I did at any school or job. I absolutely dreaded taking that job initially; I was one of the rare ones that did LE first. Had moved to a backwards state that was rife with cronyism and nepotism. But looking back, I actually miss that CO job. Definitely stressful, but with a good group of coworkers it was fun, every day different, and learned a whole lot of everything and anything that's helped me out in so many other ways. Will definitely make you take the rosy colored glasses off as to how the world really is.
@@Christy.1 ... You're totally right. A C/O wears many hats while working an institution. You're a C/O. You're a psychologist, you're a mentor, you're a "parental" figure. You're a protector. You're a detective. An observer. At times medical emergency responder.
I would say 90% it is actually boring. But that 10% ...man, we earned our check. So my motto was "boring is good in prison".
I too saw working there as a daily challenge. You Never know what's going to happen that day. Alot of mind games. Some you win, some you lose. We took losing as a learning experience for next time.
I still have dreams of wearing my uniform and working there. I do really miss the comradery of my co-workers. Miss the friendships we developed during our whole careers. The dark spots and the exciting events that we all experienced together.
Prison is a WHOLE different world than ours. If only regular civilians knew the daily drama and the evil that exists in there. I worked there for 8 to 12 hours a day. Would never want to live in there 24/7.
I was a Corrections Officer for 25 . I agree with you all CO's. We had to learn to read people.
@@les8518 ... As I'm sure you know, you could actually "feel" when something was wrong even without the inmates being verbal. The tension, the out of the normal activities (inmates are very habitual in their daily routines), their sudden quietness, their sneaky stares... You could instantly feel something happened, about to, or did happen. At times all I had to do was to look at their faces to observe where else they were looking, and I could likely pinpoint where the problem was located.
Inmates too are constantly observing your manners and style.
One thing I could not understand is how as a C/O I could manage societies worst, yet when I came home... I couldn't control my own kids. Lol.
@@Christy.1l
I hate liars and find it extremely difficult to lie. In my life I found that people do not believe you're honest because they themselves are dishonest.
True and Blue the Blue cafhppp
I pride myself with being honest. I actually had one employer tell me I was too honest and I told him I didn't think that was a bad thing
The government lies to you every day. Get over it
Yes!!!!
@@judydendy1697 My attorney told me the same damned thing. An attorney. Imagine that 😂
I worked for a particular retail company for a long time, and I sat in on many interviews with the guy who was in charge of loss prevention for almost 200 stores. He was very good at getting people to admit that they stole cash and merchandise. Then we found out HE was stealing!
Woah. That's a story I'd like to hear.
I worked for a school where this guy always seemed to be so happy and boisterous around his office mates, but when he was alone, he didn’t interact with anyone else and he almost seemed upset.
He’d been working at the school for decades and was looking at retirement. Then one day, one of my workmates (different department) found a safe open. He turned it in. They watched the security tape, and this guy had been stealing from the safe after each ball game and people hadn’t noticed somehow.
I can’t imagine losing my job and retirement over something like that.
There was this other guy, I noticed that he was only animated and happy with his fellow coaches and students. With regular people like me, he didn’t even look at me and barely said hello in reply.
I wondered at this, as this was not usual either.
Turns out that guy had been grooming a sixteen year old track girl, and he had even gone so far as to buy a house just down from her parents’ house.
Her parents saw that something was wrong and went through her phone and found the evidence.
I feel like you can get a good feel for a person if you see how they treat others who they think are lesser than themselves.
Lol
Yep. That’s how innocent people end up in jail. Because of arrogant people believing they can spot a liar. Then build a case around their beliefs.
She is speculating and seems like on a marketing campaign for consultation jobs
You’re possibly right. The more we know, the more we think we know :) we’ll become arrogant people and sometimes dangerous, both in our careers or in personal life. We all judge and missjudge. But probably many times we need this kind of people.
Well usually the lying spotting is only used to try to find possible suspects and then they try to find the truth. Or at least that's how it's supposed to be. They can't build a case around "Well it looked like she was lying". However if they are telling different stories and stuff that doesn't or just details that are don't work together then that can be an argument in court
And just think . Detectives like her are aggressively marathon interrogating vulnerable adults and children during major crimes
SOOOO TRUE! I played a game of two truths, one lie in a team-building activity. I guessed EVERYONE else's lies, and no one guessed mine. They looked at me with a side-eye for the rest of day. Part of my ability came from listening to them before the session. SO many were bragging about their personal accomplishments without asking anyone else anything, their competitive nature worked against them. I used know biases to formulate my answers. There is great power in being underestimated.
Your point about jail is spot on!!! The same thing happens in the classroom. Some children get punished for what someone 'THINKS' the child is going to do, versus what they've actually done.
This would've been so much more valuable if it had actually included the slides she's referring to as "this", "that over there", "this one", "that one" etc.
Thank you!!!!!!
IKR
That sounds right !!!
V W truth! 😄
James clapper lies
23:51 When you ask someone a question and they talk for 10 minutes, & then you realize they never answered the question...this means they passed the First Practical Test for becoming a POLITICIAN!!
The second test is being a major arse hole - they all pass that one with flying colours.
Mill Wright AGREE!!
This lady worked for the CIA 20+ years? Then I would have to say she is more than likely lying.
she is just as capable of lying
as anyone, and probably does
quite a lot,considering the line
of work she was in lol. there are
better videos on this subject.
Zoid71 Pickle2007 could you link me?! O: im keen to see these
"How come no one told me all throughout history. The loneliest people are the ones who always spoke the truth..." -Kings of Convenience
Idk liars are pretty lonely.
I just re found this song yesterday from another comment on a video. That's a crazy coincidence.
@@jaketester9555 refound what song?
@@jaketester9555 refound what song?
Misread by kings of convenience
When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.
When I'm asking a to question I'm making eye contact if they don't it's cause a story must be imagened the truth can be spoken with solid steady eye contact
@@tommerphy1286 Actually that is not true either. Many persons that are trying to manipulate are looking you directly in your eyes to see how you react to their lie and if you believe it or not, so they can adjust accordingly.
@@thecakebaker3769 when I hear what they say, I have a question, and if they go into evade and escape . Depending on the subject to me their on the witness stand and better have an idedic memory.
I was thinking this while watching the video. Aggression or anger from children (or anyone, in the case of repeated accusations) is often a strong indicator of truth. [Though usually it's paired with a reiteration of the facts they've already told you instead of a redirection (No 'Well, everyone does it!'s or 'Why are you always on my case?'s)]
I always think of a classroom I was in where somebody was accused of stealing another student's TI-84 calculator because the missing calculator "had the same chipped key on it". The accused got more and more flustered and upset as the teacher and members of the class interrogated him, but stuck to his story that it was his. The other kid eventually found his calculator, and when compared, both had chipped in exactly the same place in the same way. Honestly, in that situation, who wouldn't get defensive?
I guess that's why she specifically says that aggression is a deceptive indicator "when all you did was calmly ask a question".
Sometimes it just hurts when people accuse you of something...especially if its the sort of thing you would never do or the accusation comes from somebody you THOUGHT knew you better than that. I don't get angry or even try especially hard to refute it. I just go away and don't return...
When you are asked "how are you doing ", 9 times out of 10 it is a simple greeting and they don't want you to give them your medical issues. So the question is a lie.
You mean they didn't want my life story ?😂
@@thomasgallegos2832 I have made the mistake of that, or partly and it became clear that they had lost intrest so now I just say fine unless I'm speaking to my doctor.
Well people don't answer honestly cus it's just a social thing to just say "I'm good" otherwise people think you're weird. Fuck society right.
@@MrTripleXXX I actually ask to get the real answers of how someone is and I’m prepared for the possibility of a 45 min answer bc I asked “ how are you” . Some people really need someone to talk to
@@RealReeseElDon good for u
This would be more helpful if we could see the example she's pointing at when she's talking about it.
If she was so loyal it would not have been so easy for her to tell on her colleague.
Ss...but she herself was evading information...she found 26 hot spots but only highlighted few that too incompletely.
I know. She refers to all these things we can't see while we are watching the video. I cry fowl...even though those people that are sitting there paid to be there.
@@DragonHeart5150 l
Why? She's lying.
She is describing the system that lies to us
Feet tapping and blinking a lot mean nothing. Everyone acts differently when they lie, tell the truth, are annoyed, scared, etc. It's about fact checking the lie.
I agree, and touching your face? Most do this all the time, or have an itch.
Agree that there are no absolutes
However there is ‘the general rule’. The lady is explaining the ‘general rule’. Ie the most common patterns displayed when people lie
All 3 of you just need to stop it with your lies
Thats what control questions are for. Asking people simple questions with no incrimination. Compare responses to responses of incrimnating questions. Molly always looks around when she replies, but she shifts sitting position everytime shes asked if she knew of the counterfeit operation.
A lot of people have some sort of issues, I myself have adult ADD and a lot of times when I am being as honest as honest can be, hell, I think I am lying.
Had to stop watching. I thought this was interesting but it doesn't show us the slides she's referencing which is very annoying.
Agreed, lost it's value without seeing the whole presentation. That was a disappointing oversight.
Watch lie to me
B.T. Dubs I know
listen instead of watching
Same
Narssist can lie without any of this...and they are all over the place.🙄
because they believe so much that they have right.
And psychopaths. Who are in politics a lot.
@@Mo-uy5ds true and most of the official who raise to power.
A lot of them have watched this video and others like it already.
Ever known anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder? They have the potential to ruin your life, for no reason other than the disease.
I have awful social anxiety and ADHD. I'm an AWFUL liar, so I don't tell lies that'd get me in trouble. But I swear I probably exhibit all of the red flags in just a normal conversation. There's no way this can be used universally.
❤Exactly! "typical" reactions are just that. >/=20% of the population is neurodivergent. Plus really scary liars have None of these symptoms-they have zero concience.
It's not used universally. There's signs, and then there's a baseline. One must know the suspects baseline before they can apply the signs.
Same.
@@sozeytozey that's a relief cause my baseline is no good either. 😂
I feel this heavily
I was always told the best lie to tell is the truth because nobody is going to believe it anyway.
Gerald West omg so trueeee!
Gerald West that was epic
Gerald West that was moronic, truthfully.
Thanks Kev! ; )
nice quote, like the photo of duane too
She is describing 98% of politicians perfectly when she is explaining how liars behave.
Excuse me, but you are being too kind. I woud say 99.9 and not only those but olso, bankers and C.Os of all Multinationals!!!
@@adelinopaulino6635 Agreed. Let’s add all the NGOs also.
@@joshgalt2022 sorry, i forgot those thieves!
You're not surprised, are you?
Most Doctors and ALL Psychiatrists. They're still lying to the American public claiming you may have a 'chemical imbalance' and need to take our neurotoxic, extremely addicting, dangerous, deadly drugs to treat it. Everything they tell us a one big fat LIE.
In her world, everyone is guilty till innocent. I was a security Investigative field for over 33 years. Sure there are basic things to look for but often I've been wrong quite as few times. The facts are what count. If you ask someone a question that you have the facts to, you will pick up a lie immediatley in their answers.
And Peter how do you feel knowing that our government has been taken over by corrupt democrats?
@@truthseekersmedia Democrats? u still stuck on the false L/R paradigm? R&L are two different sides of the Same Scheckel. ADL has spent their money on disinfo well. Ur answer is proof.
@@truthseekersmedia and how do you feel about the fact the Republicans suck so bad; it's paving the way for a one party system.
If the idiot Republicans actually had something to believe in, you all would not be loosing.
Thank you for your thoughtful consideration.
I'm not lying.
@Peter Rossiter 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Facts are facts, and they stubbornly remain facts no matter what people secretly want to happen, the same can't be said of trying to intuit whether someone is bullshitting.
Lies all lies! Don't you just love lying?
Narcissism is much more that just lies, and you should know that
The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.
Also, telling someone you're "Fine" when you have a headache isn't a lie. You are fine, relatively. If you felt good, you'd say good. If you felt great, you'd say great.. If you have a headache or you're upset you have to work late, it's not good or great.. but you're still "fine."
She talks about that issue at around 9 minutes in. You didn't even watch the whole thing.
focus on the eyes and go with your gut/ aka intuition
A n-size large group of people will mostly react with a x-behaviour. Its a statistical estimate, and if you sum up how often you got an estimated behaviour from a person, one can pretty sure say if one is lying.
@john doe no, this crusty comment isn't
My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.
@bellazenya yes to cry wolf is to seek attention
"the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie." You told your son that he should be honest so that he could be a more convincing liar in the future.
@@muchmore99 good life lesson tbh
That is too dangerous. He will even deceive himself.
that is terrible parenting. Your son should be instilled with speaking the truth for the right reason. You literally just told him to be truthful only so he could get away with a big lie. We should speak the truth because that is right thing to do. I understand the utility of what you said but it's sooo wrong
It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.
It's maddening
She is obviously an experienced cop. I almost wanted to question bad guys after watching this.
I didnt want to watch another video on this subject but she started speaking so captivating I just kept listening. Real good public speaker
The damn woman is wearing a wig and playing a character.
I used to lie. Now I am just blunt and say what I feel
Love this :)
Ironically people would prefer you to lie than deal with reality.
Liar
I just smile and walk away; people think what they want to think and the truth does not matter.
that's what a liar would say
That moment when you realize that you have invested 17 minutes of your life on a random video only to discover that they never actually SHOW the list of behaviors. I want my time back.
i know. totally agree.
this is the type of fbi officer in every crime movie / series
Put on your listening hat, take some notes, problem solved. 😅 Entitled whining millenial
@@Rickety3263 everyone learns differently and they may need more visual cues to understand the material better. Calling someone an entitled millenial is simply rude and a closed minded judgement. Try directly someone towards a place that can help them instead of being a dick next time ...
Bryan Beswick I’m sorry 😐 but I thank you for this comment 🙏🏽
The FBI and the CIA have mastered this by talking to each other too much
its against the law for the cia and fbi to communicate... it's called "the wall", look it up
@@MMC.Official he meant talking to each other not in the literal sense
@@MMC.Official they do it anyway.
It's like they are looking for a lie more than the actual truth🤔🤦♀️🙊🙈🙉
@@MMC.Official it's illegal for elections to be stolen too
I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.
A R G E N T I N A U B E R A L L E S
You can still look for those signs of deception. Some may be sociopaths or pathological liars where they won’t have those “tells” but those are the exceptions.
so just don't lie lol
Is that…a paradox? It doesn’t seem self-contradictory that an experienced liar is harder to catch in a lie or vice versa.
@@jonny8790 The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.
biggest lie
"i have read the terms and conditions"
Edit:too many likes
@@SirSaturnine8008 tru that
✓ "I am not a robot"
The even bigger lie is that you understand the terms and conditions !
@@keithtodd8631 hahaha so true 😛
@@SirSaturnine8008 I do , I’m not lying eighther
Perfect reason why you should never talk to law enforcement officers because whatever you say can and will be used against you
Stay in the trash can Oscar.
Never take a lie detector test because the man giving you the test can trick you or make you feel uneasy and read the lie behind the lie detector...plus if you pass they don't count and if you don't it goes against you.
The problem is psychopaths, Everything a psychopath says is a manipulation, They even have super human hypnotic and deceiving capabilities. If law enforcement don't persecute so harsh, Psychopath can lie their way out of every judicial system. This is why sometimes law enforcement have to completely ignore the law and even break it, Not helpful though, Because psychopaths are also attracted to Police jobs.
My advice - just say "titties!"
You mean " ….. Their statements" and not "There statements". Learn how to use *there, their and they're" as it's basic English. Examples in sequence are: 1.)There are many positive replies. Next: 2.) Those are their qualifications, not yours', and 3.) They're so bad at English that I might as well give up and then they're going to get a grade F. Remember that an apostrophe takes the place of a letter or letters. So the word 'they're' means *they are*.
A really great talk, though it helps that I have a very deep interest in this subject, particularly since seeing the LIE TO ME series and reading the work of PAUL EKMAN. And I have great respect for Susan owing to her skills, competence and proven experience and track record. And when she talked of those who can go on for 25 minutes (in reality it can be considerably longer than that) but never answer the question asked, I immediately thought of the majority of politicians, particularly when they are invited to take part in televised debates in the run-up to elections. I would like to say that I have 2 negative remarks: 1) There were a couple of times when Susan pointed to examples of what she was saying and which were obviously displayed off-camera, and it was regrettable that the camera didn't move to enable us to see what was on the screen; 2) I do wish Susan could speak without saying "Right!", "Alright!", "You know?" or "OK!" in every sentence.
As a result of being the child of a narcissist (mother, psychopath (father) with a sibling who is bipolar/schizophrenic, I am pathologically honest. I do not/will not participate in dishonesty, without exception.
In this world of perpetual deception, I am not very popular. I am okay with that.
hey cool my family members are psychopath human traffickers that trafficked me so I am also quite honest (tho I have lied to save my life before)
@@lemurlover7975 my condolences for all you have suffered. And my gratitude for your resilience. Grace and love to you in our Lord Jesus.
well you can't say because of certain ppl in a way we are all psychopathic and narcissistic a lot of us just tend to hide it or not realize it,but it's true. ofc some cases are serious, but like it's common human behavior that we tend get whatever we want.
@@alenjohny3216 learn the actual meanings of the words before spouting off bullshit like this, please.
Interesting. My mother exhibited, I believe, borderline personality disorder and munchausen by proxy (me being the primary target of the latter). Somewhere between 10 and 17 I began making up outlandish stories for attention - outright fabrications with no material motivation. At some point when I was 17 it occurred to me how much damage I was doing to my life, and I quickly worked on restricting myself from participating in dishonesty or dishonest behavior. It is perhaps nearly a borderline obsession for me.
Can I claim to *never* lie? Well, no. Nobody is perfect. But I try god damn hard!
Showing the speaker's slides/bullet points would have been MOST helpful.
Right!… does anyone have a clue what her screen points are or what they could be?
@Digiday. Are you reading the comments?
@@BlessedGrant Yeah it's useless babel when you can't see wtf she's talking about.
Agree! Why can't we see the slides? Copyright?
She was lying, she didn’t have any 🤪
It's not uncommon for innocent person to get edgy or defensive while being accused.
Indeed.
LIAR! LOCK HIM UP!
You take that back!
Timing is key.
Now, go watch Biden say that Afghanistan would not be taken over from a month ago. Like...wow! That sob knew all along. Many, many indicators in under 2 seconds.
Truth is ..we all lie
Some more than others
Yet lies are saving circumstances .
Truth sets one free but chains the others ..
Balancing is the very key here
My Mom also assumed I was lying every time I opened my mouth. It did not inspire me to trust her.
Your name is my name too 😃
....no lie.
Oh that's so sad 😥 ❤
@Redrustyhill damn you hear him talk about his mother and you already psychoanalyzed why she acts the way she does? You may be a world renowned psychologist!
@Redrustyhill You are guilty of that yourself because youre applying your experiences onto his mom right now ,just as you explained in your comment, when his mom could be doing it for a number of reasons. I think projection is certainly a possibility but how do you know that, for example, the original poster proved himself, to his mom, to be an untrustworthy person whether that be when he was younger or currently?
thats just one of many possibilities besides projection
You could definitely say im being nit picky and unnecessarily confrontational right now but as a person who studies psychology its the golden rule to not assume but to listen and make judgements based on what you hear
@Redrustyhill thats inaccurate.
I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect.
No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.
Angie. I love your response. I totally agree. If my kid's (especially my little one's) were missing I'd be a basket case and could never do any kind of Interview's at all!
Re: Susan Smith. I agree. It was also noticeable that when she “cried”, no tears fell. Dry crying doesn’t get it!
And she knew when it was thought a black man did it the media would empathize with her, she was slick... the description she made matched a local man who lost his job and his life was ruined for awhile
She was a great example of crying, but no tears, as well.
I remember it and thought the same thing!! It actually stopped me in my tracks when I saw her on TV. The way she talked, "cried" and blamed a black man. I knew immediately she was guilty!
There is no such thing as a “former“ CIA officer .
Exactly!!!!!
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Custodian from CIA
@@Tienphamvan1968 what the fawk does this mean? R u a robot
@@Tienphamvan1968 ok
Mr. Navarro, who has conducted many, many hundreds of interrogations, says there really is no way to tell for sure if a person is lying. i believe him! 🌷🌱
Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.
I can relate to this. I'm always afraid I'm going to appear guilty, which just makes it worse and then I probably act guilty. Gotta love anxiety.
Same here. I spent most of my life feeling guilty, for no particular reason, except that I might have THOUGHT about doing something similar.
I had a childhood similar to that. Even to this day I still repeat myself over and over in different ways, provide all the facts I’m able, be as logical and reasonable as possible just to prove the point that I’m telling the truth. And that thought pattern my parents had with me thinking that I always lie, taught me to think that most important people in my life are lying to me about things I’m serious about. Leaves me begging for the truth even when someone tells me they are being truthful. Damn, I wish parents knew how much the f*** their child up with stuff like this lol
Yeah you over explain with a clear and fully detailed account of what happened and it makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be believed by garnishing the answer so heavily. Its shit! Im literally so black and white and direct and straight forward, Ill give you my full account to squash any chance of there being doubt, but thats not how normal people communicate, because most people didn't have to microexplain their every thought and movements and be told their lying when they were telling the truth. You have no where to go then, so it teaches you to do your best to explain in totality.
I’m so glad that someone else knows what this feels like. Not like it’s a good thing for either of us, but knowing I’m not alone brings me some comfort. Even while I’m telling a story to someone I am consistently pausing and spacing out so I can reflect on what happened and put it in the exact words that describe exactly what happened so I know I am being honest, I’m so careful when I’m talking because I am always afraid of lying even unintentionally by leaving out important information. I’m always afraid of lying, and when I’m being honest and I know I’m being honest I wonder if it’s because I am lying to myself.
The more honest/truthful you are, the more your gut lets you know, when some bs in the game
Im not really into the _"spiritual philosophy"_ if you will, and I fully acknowledge ive made poor judgements but my gut has practically a perfect record...And I read some "hippie shit" that said trust your gut because its one of your chakras picking up on negative energy which is why it materializes as a "gut feeling" makes sense to me 🤷🏻♂️
@@heyitsthatoneguy91 Sure does.
So true x
@Driss Ogunbowale initiated into what?
@Kenny Strawser couldn't find references to that.
Politicians are the experts when it comes to flat out lying.
experts in lying, but noobs in hiding it lolz
Governor Pritzker actually told Illinois that I would never lie to you while completely and utterly lying, he has a venture capitalist firm that makes money from the tests which have just now been recalled by the CDC. Dude has constantly been caught lying. When someone says I will not lie to you and proceeds to talk chances are they are lying.
@@paolomutini4699 he can't help it,itz in his blood.
And guess by whom there are teached of lol
I think they are the worst liars. I don't know how so many people can possibly be dumb enough to believe anything they say
Idk about anyone else but sometimes I get aggressive when someone is saying that I am lying when I most definitely am not lying. It sets me off like none other when called a liar while telling the truth. However, there are other times when I am just like, "believe what you want, i don't care." It really just depends on my mood and all the various factors that come with being a human. So, I don't necessarily agree with the "aggressive" aspect that was presented in this video. All in all this is still valuable information. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I am not sure on some of her ways. There are a lot of innocent people in prison. Some people just respond poorly to authority.
I thought same thing
However they should be aware of this. Maybe a lot of innocent are in prison because of lack of proper training, racism and some people in authority being corrupt or just not caring
I have a problem with the words "a lot". I doubt that. Had you said "a few" I would be inclined to believe that.
When you are paranoid people are lying you are more likely to think people are lying.
@@melissagrosse1185 do you doubt it or are you insufficiently informed?
This lecture is also known as...
How to fool yourself into thinking you can spot lies in order to reinforce your existing biases during interrogation
C'mon, if anyone knows how to lie it's the CIA.
@@pokerone6489 this lecture is proof they even lie to themselves.
Easier than evidence or proof. And the search for easy rather than right is far too common in security and law enforcement.
@@MrMcCawber this kind of thinking is a slippery slope.
It's okay to beat a confession out of someone if they won't stop lying.
@@theParticleGod I agree
A woman doesn't need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a few kids, that'll teach ya everything you need to know.
😂😂😂👍
Kids!? Ha! Just have yourself a boyfriend.😁
@@christopherford1539
Or a girlfriend for guys... 🤣
Ain't dat da truth 😇
A man doesn’t need CIA training to spot a lie, just have a couple of kids, that’ll teach ya mostly everything you need to know.
I’ve watched this before, and this time around, I appreciate the guidance on understanding our own biases when communicating with people. Working with effective interpersonal communication skills through DBT. Very helpful in understanding myself & others. Thank you.
@@fredrictengstrom248 DBT stands for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy .
@@fredrictengstrom248Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
A politician is only lying when their mouth is moving.
What if the politician calls himself a politician
The only reason I clicked on this video was to put an almost identical comment. I was going to say person on TV, but whatever. You ruined it.
🤣✌🏼
No. A politician is always lying to themselves to there family. Non stop rabbit holes..red n blue need to be purpled
Politics --
Root word 'poli' - a great many'
"Tics" - blood sucking insects
If you always tell the truth you never have to remember what you said.
Yes,....that's a huge help in life. @Eliena
In Jesus Christ name!!! AMEN!!!
So that's why Trump keeps forgetting sh!t.
works for me
@@user-lq4gx3uy1k Peace be with you brother may Jesus Christ open your eyes to the truth seek it and you will find it!!! AMEN!!!
How can I lie ten times a day if I don't talk to anyone for weeks lol.
curtis Schroh You should get out more! Lol
curtis Schroh how is that possible?
Raul Alonso How isn’t it possible?
You lie to yourself in your thoughts. Ego protection.
faismasterx I barely lie. I guess people need to deal with that.
You absolutely can not tell a lie through someone's body language. That is a fallacy. Any experienced FBI interrogator will tell you that. You can only tell if that person is experiencing mental stress. Then, you need to figure out why that person is in that state.
This is exactly correct. One wonders if the presenter is the liar here, about her position and qualifications.
Very true. I've always been amazed by the claims of (can I say charlatans?) like the speaker. Especially coming from an agency that's known for how nefarious it is lol.
There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.
You are in fact telling the truth.
I am one of those people you describe. I could lie my way out of anything.... but accuse me of guilt when I am actually innocent... I come across as liar/guilty I am told. My whole life. 🤷♂️ I couldn't tell the truth to save my life in court.
I am the type of person that would appear as lying when i tell the truth.
I have a problem with a nervous type of smirk or if i do not take the person serious i will smirk.
The smirk is often taken as me being a lier when i am infact telling the truth.
Body language is never perfect and neither is using movement or any other measure to determine deception.
The problem is people assume it is a one size fits all approach to determining if someone is lying.
Their is no one size fits all approach and at best you can have general rules that do not apply universally.
For instance when someone asked me something and i was asked a question my answer had a long pause.
They assumed I was lying when in reality my mind just went blank in the middle of a question.
So I can had a pause until I remembered what the right answer to the question was.
My mind sometimes just goes blank in mid sentence on rare occasions.
@@Baneslayereven this comment is a lie
You know someone is about to lie if they start their answer to a question with “So, blah, blah, blah.” Then they evade answering the question and ramble on about something totally unrelated.
Another sign of dishonesty is; when a person is accessing a memory, they look up and to the right, when they are lying, they look up and to the left to try to think of a story or lie they can tell.
Anyone who has dealt with the trauma of being falsely accused will tell you. It sucks and, its infuriating to have someone look you in the eye and lie on you. You feel like you are getting ready to get victimized.
You seem shady. I'm pretty sure I spotted a microexpression, and your face looks shiny I think that means you're about to start sweating.
Verdict: Deception indicated.
@@theParticleGod I must be the guy then.
I feel you 100% on this . I get super angry when wrongly accused but I need to work on it and learn to remain calm cause my anger reinforces their accusations if anger is perceived as being un- truthful
@@natureslogic7074 you can't win, what happens is an investigator has already formed an opinion and then he notices that you seem too agitated or too calm or that you're shaking or sweating.
Idiots like the one in this video give investigators false confidence in their 'gut instincts' and a set pathetic rules that put people in a situation where they can't be sick or annoyed or cold or hot or exhausted or just have a bad attitude and also be truthful.
I hope one day someone falsely accuses her of a crime and detains her for 24 hours and questions her and connects her to a box which spits out a docket that says she's full of shit.
Exactly what I was thinking. There's a lot of phases of emotion that I have been through when I was falsely accused of something. I felt disrespected, anger, sadness, confidence and so DEFENSIVENESS and in this presentation she automatically correlated that with guilt. I don't believe this presentation would fly. Matter of fact most of companies that participated and applied these I guarantee have paid millions in settlements listening to her. Everyone is not a good person including the ppl managing others so you'd have to take in race, sexual, and gender discrimination and biases. It was interesting to watch and still not sure why it showed up in my algorithm lol
"If someone gets angry then you got a problem." She basically said this is a red flag? An innocent person would get angry if their accused or questioned for no reason. Also she said don't have a bias then admits that this is one she has. Contradicts herself a few times.
This kind of stuff causes peoples lifes to be spent in prison.. we dont know when people are lying or not as I myself have been in situations where I've been asked if I've done something wrong and I've been nervous, fidgety ect and done no wrong.. thankfully it was something silly and not a murder ect or I would be in prison right now!! Everyone is different and deal with situations differently! If people believe in lie detector machines WHY ISNT THERE ONE IN THE COURTS!!
EXACTLY. Like, say your loved one goes missing and you're worried sick, and the police call you in to say "we've heard you might be a pervert, now listen to us grill you for five hours about whether you murdered them!" *of course* you'd get upset, *especially* if you were innocent. Maybe her advice works in corporate/espionage type situations but it's natural to have a defensive reaction when accused of emotionally loaded things?
At mister mac.....they're not their
Eh close enough for government work. Just someone's life on the line
You know, I could trust you...a random person on the internet with unclear credentials, or someone screened by the Cia with 20 years of experience. Is she going to be perfect? No. Is she more accurate than you? Yes. Yes she is. Because you don't get PAID to do this for a living. Any single behavior cannot be linked to truthfulness. But having talked to many sociopaths over the years, some quite intelligent, I've learned that reading human behavior--if you have that gift, and manipulating it, is SHOCKINGLY easy. Humans are nowhere close to as deep as you think think are. With respect to anger ...NO. Most people DO NOT get angry at being interrogated when innocent. Why? Because they're innocent. Inconvenient? Yes. But often one is interrogated because they are close to (physically or via relarionship to the company/affected persons) to the crime or issue. You don't get questioned for no reason. At the end of the day people don't get angry when they are being interviewed and not lying because they want the person who DID do the bad thing to be caught. Sure, some people do get angry. But it's not a single behavior that strong people readers latch to. It's a combination of several factors, and accounts for knowledge of their baseline mannerisms. Either because you know them personally already, or because you've asked questions to establish that baseline: what's your name, how old are you (etc). Stuff that you couldn't lie about. Notably if I asked what you had for breakfast today, you COULD lie to throw off the trail. Can't lie about your name, age, occupation (etc) since it can be looked up. When we lie, we generally don't think of our body acting on the whole. Because we are thinking of the lie. What to say. Sometimes, lack of movement can indicate lying. Good deception detection means knowing when to spot movement when there shouldn't be...AND, no movement when there SHOULD be. Basically there's a lot more to this than a 48 minute Ted talk. And while it can't be communicated in that video, your brain is physically incapable of covering *all* of the muscles in your body, and your vocal pitch, your speaking speed, intonation, breathing rate, eye movement or lack of eye movement, muscle twitches and microexpressions ALL at the same time. That's how you tell. And the purpose isn't to be 100% accurate. It's to get closer to the truth. And therby ask closer to home questions which eventually get the person into a corner where they DO tell you the truth in a way that IS admissible.
it's fascinating how an individual understands all the benefits of a lie, yet the body and mind is against it.
this doesnt always work some people dont know they are lying thus show no signs
@@asrr62 absolutely, but unconsciously they do and sometimes they crack when confronted
You've never met a good liar, lucky you .. or you have, and you believed them! ;-)
The biggest lie you'll ever hear--- "You don't need a lawyer..."
truuuuu
If you don't have a lawyer you might ask for your Constitutional Rights and they will persecute you to the fullest extent to make an example of you.
But if you are famous, they will pretend that you have rights to keep people from knowing the truth.
I've been there. My lawyer kept me from getting 3 years in jail for a felony charge because of a tiny closet of pot plants.
He basically told me to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to stay out of jail for 3 years.
I paid him $8,000 and was happy to be free.
Lol IKR
I'm 55 and this is true
@@TheMacdod LOL or I'm 18 and that's no lie..
My mom and I are very close and she called me out for lying. At first, I was hurt and angry and in denial. But, when I was less emotional, I did sort of an inventory of my day to day and where I lie, and why I lie. I also had the stark realization that munipulation is also a form of lying. As I've grown older, I'm 41, integrity has become very valuable to me. It was several years ago that my mom confronted me in love, and I am proud to say that I have worked diligently to think before I speak. I also began counseling with respect to using munipulation as a tool, and I took a deep dive into my childhood and adulthood. Anyways, I encourage anyone who values integrity to take an inventory of their own lives. Just thought I'd share my little story with y'all.
Wow that's great just wish we could get the press ,polititions, lawyers, judges, ac repairmen , mechanics, oil change shops dentists scientists,history profs, and insurance salesmen to do the same
@@jimmyb1844 yeah but we live on earth or so I'm told💯
Good for you! I was raised in a family with siblings who lied so often that they believed their own lies. I know I lied when I was younger, then I had a son & taught him that lying was wrong, of course, & I tried very hard to never lie. I do believe it's ok to lie in order to protect ourselves or others.
@@luvmusic4507 then it gets down to definition of protect
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I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one.
I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting.
I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying.
Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something.
You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.
Wich exactly what the intire world seen the democrats in office and civilian population do to a real American Trump when its actually the democrats who are colluding with Russia and selling out America to china and trying to get people to hate each other and helped china create the virus and proven to be child predators all over the USA and thrives on sex trade and getting Americans killed from poison from China and help from Mexico..
If you watched the video none of the behaviours by themselves are a way to identify a lie. It only happens when many of them happen just after being asked a question. Like for example, if you are moving your leg all the time instead of just when you are being asked it could mean you are just nervous, you are cold or that you just want to pee.
@@wassup4532 but that's when you must open the breed case and show syringe with scalpel and pics with some dry blood still on.. just for deception
After reading that, I'm pretty sure you are guilty of something.
The younger girl was missing her parents that's why she was crying what seemed for nothing.
i got arrested for something I obviously didn't do about 18 years ago and i was the one telling the truth and the cop was lying. I was out walking my dog and this ine cop was looking for someone who had stolen a bike. having no experience of police or anything like that, it was spinning my head - i was like what the hell is going on? Luckily and i'm so thankful of this, I had seen a documentary where a lawyer explained your rights on arrest and said you must not say anything until you have a lawyer present, it is your right, it is the law and it is a legal principle that has to be adhered to. Once i realised, holy sh*t this cop is actually trying to fit me up and he arrested me - i shut my mouth, because of that documentary. If i hadn't seen it I probably would have gone on and on saying this is a mistake. There is no mistake if the police are tying to pin something on you, they know you didn't do it - they are just looking for ways to prove you did to get a result. Anyway, got to the police station, as soon as i got processed by the desk officer he asked do you want a lawyer and a relative contacted which they have to do (in the UK) i said yes to both and the cop who arrested me looked p*ssed. He said, well you'll be here for hours waiting, we can get this straightened out in a few minutes! So i got put in a cell waited for 4 hours or so, my solicitor came and we went to an office. She said no matter what I am here to work for you so just tell me exactly what happened. Which i did which was I was out walking my dog as usual, next thing I know a police car pulls up starts asking me questions next thing i'm arrested etc etc. She basically said OK, you've never been in trouble with the law, never committed a crime so this may come as a shock, but yes he is trying to fit you up. Growing up you may have been taught the police are your friend and they are there to protect you. The police are not your friends, he knows or doesn't care if you didn't do it - this isn't the issue, he is just doing what he can to gather evidence that make you appear guilty. She then said next thing is he'll interview you with me, say no comment to every single question. If you do need to say something other than this - say i wish to speak with my lawyer privately and he will have to leave the room. I did that and was out a few hours later no charge no nothing because i hadnt done anything wrong. I had a short meeting with my lawyer afterwards, she explained how he had zero evidence so what happens if a person doesn't get a lawyer and the police have no evidence and you are innocent is they will take every single thing you say and use it and twist it in a way that makes you look guilty. - i was really p*ssed off, but it was a brilliant life lesson. I tell the story to people all the time, and to my kids - but it is amazing how many people still say well if i've done nothing wrong there won't be problem, well ok good luck. You wouldn't believe how many innocent people have talked themselves into being guilty of a crime they absolutely did not do.
This video would have been much better had we been able to not only hear what the audience is saying but also when she would refer to the video we could actually see what she's talking about
They're not going to give away the program for free. :-)
good it isnt worth it
how do you know?
BEcause I know how liars think. Ive dealt with corporate whores
splortz Yeah I guess that makes sense lol
Sometimes an angry response is due to someone who gets blamed for things the polished, conniving manager is doing wrong. Happens a lot
EXACTLY!!!! This woman is a fraud. There is no way to tell for certain if someone is lying based on their behavior under questioning. That is why every civilized society has courts of law; to find OBJECTIVE PROOF of accusations.
Yeah, when someone falsely accuses me of doing something I didn't do, I get pissed off. Why would she think that's suspicious? How could you NOT get pissed off by a false accusation?
My mind is blown by her implication that that's somehow an indication of guilt.
Yeh but that Jame didn't get pissed off.
It happens to me. When I am speaking truth. The other is lying and they always think it is me that is lying. Abused children grow up not showing emotions like the average person. That doesn't make them liers.
@@ernietbone4168 its generally because its believed if someone is not guilty then they ultimately believe that they will not be punished for it and have no reason to show emotion but that doesn't really take into account the personal insult or social shame that comes along with being falsely accused.
Bad for introverts. I tend to look away, look down, or look to the side from strangers. It's out of anxiety/awkwardness, depending on the situation. If it was a boss, I got nervous.
Same, i get so nervous that im in trouble i give off lie vibes but in reality lying is one of my pet peeves and its hard for me to do right.
@@hithere8140 Me too. I have to be honest or I choose not to answer someone 😄
@@naz-nazneen886 Same here.
@Scalding 110 😄 I hear you. Thankfully my husband & son understand my quirks. They understand why I do the things I do. For example: I don't like strangers nor many people in my personal space. If there are more than 2 people in aisle, I'll go shop in another & then go back 🤣
Yeah, Lady C.I.A. - tell me, show me - Milner Benedict III, how to spot a lie fron a liar... and we can compare notes when I come to see your friends at Langley, Virginia.
Former correctional officer and police officer here and here’s a big tip - don’t talk to the police, or anyone else for that matter. You have a right to not talk, and you should use that right. Lawyer up instead or wait for the public defender to represent you! Let someone else talk for you on your behalf. What you say can and will be used against you.
If I’d been Jamy, I’d have refused to talk. And while that may appear like she has something to hide, and would draw my suspicion to her even more, I can’t prove anything and it’s her right to not talk so I can’t use it against her. But once she started talking by answering the questions she began self incriminating herself. Never ever do that, whether you know in your mind you are innocent or guilty. Always let your representative do your talking.
With that said, anything you’ve told others is the next step for law enforcement. Then we’d be asking your family and friends the questions we wanted you to answer and we’d be trying to use their answers against you. They too can refuse to talk but most of them will talk because they know they’re not in trouble themselves.
Plus any physical evidence is going to be used against you also. So everyone and everything is against you. But you are your own worst enemy when you talk. That’s like half (or more) of the battle to prosecute you with, just handed to law enforcement right away when you talk.
Make law enforcement work hard to prove your guilt by not talking to them. Now, you DO want to come clean to your attorney if you know you’re guilty and they will do their best to minimize your punishment by seeking a plea deal with the prosecutor if they can’t find another way to defend you. Of course a prosecutor doesn’t have to offer a plea deal, but they usually will when they think it’s gonna be tough to prove your guilt. They may have a lot of evidence to use against you, but if they don’t have your words from your lips to use against you then, their job is MUCH harder to prove and they’re more likely to offer a decent plea deal.
See, the difference between a decent plea deal and no plea deal or getting a prison sentence and getting acquitted often comes down to whether you talked to law enforcement or others in the first place. So be smart and shut your mouth! And you should take comfort in that right because nothing is more unbearable than having to answer questions when you’re all shook up and nervous. I’ll never understand idiots like Scott Peterson and Alec Baldwin and many others that go onto TV shows to answer questions about alleged crimes. They are all idiots for doing that and stand nothing positive to gain for themselves by doing so.
What you typed makes no sense. Not logical at all. Your small fish of course you would say some stupid shit like that
Also your credentials dont mean shit. Any bozo can say they are police for x years. You dont even have a profile pic.
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Keys to Success
• Analyze vs. speculate
• Manage your bias
• Recognize evasiveness
• Beware of aggression
• Differentiate between convince vs. convey
• Know what non-verbal cues mean
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Analyze vs. Speculate
• Disregard global behaviors
• Identify the stimulus
• Focus on behaviors directly associated with the response
• Rely on:
- Timing
- Clusters
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Timing
Question Answer
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Initial deceptive behavior must
begin within the first five seconds
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Clusters
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Start of deceptive verbal and non-verbal behaviors
V = Verbal N = Non-Verbal/Non-verbal
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Manage Your Bias
• Ignore truthful behavior
• Avoid self-fulfilling prophecy
• Guards against the halo effect
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Recognize Evasiveness
• Failure to provide information asked for
• Failure to deny
• Use of exclusionary qualifier(s)
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Beware of Aggression
• Attacking the questioner
• Attacking third party
• Demonstrating an inappropriate level of concern
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Differentiate Between Convince vs. Convey
• Convincing statements
• Referral statements
• Invoking religion
• Perception qualifiers
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Know What Non-verbal Cues Mean
• Behavioral pause
• Verbal/Non-verbal disconnect
• Anchor point movements
• Grooming gestures
• Hand to face
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Suspect
Is she lying or telling the truth?
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Summary - Keys to Success
• Analyze vs. speculate
• Manage your bias
• Recognize evasiveness
• Beware of aggression
• Differentiate between convince vs. convey
• Know what non-verbal cues mean
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Jamie Komodo thank you
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Excellent! But do tell me how you profile psychopath and severe NLP?
Its impossible to detect psychopaths
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I get mad when people insinuate I'm a liar so I wouldn't pass her test.
CIA Or other agents Will not come out and tell you Your a liar Thier whole point of questioning is to gather as much info to present in a court of law It starts when you see them coming to you Where you were What you were doing at the time How you reacted to them being there And at that point They already know something you don't Or maybe your on a equal playing field And it ends when a judge slams the hammer This is why the first thing you hear from law enforcement say : You have the right to remain slient - Most don't have the ablilty....This is why you have Good cop Bad cop roles to find what makes you tick and spill your guts even if its a lie or the truth
Well, you gotta give credit where credit is due, the CIA definitely knows how to lie.
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They get advanced degrees in lying.
Underrated comment 😂
exactly
Don't forget the FBI
I reject the premise there is a former cia employee.
What about pathological liars? They lie all the time, but they actually believe their own lies. That seems to be going around these days.
cry, I HAD a friend that did that almost all the time! Notice the ALMOST? LOL
Not only do they believe their own lies, but others do, too. The average pathological liar sounds very convincing to most people. It is only when you take them to task that you discover they are lying. I've done this several times, and their personalities changed significantly as they were taken to task. After a while they suddenly wake up and realize that this person is leading them down a path of destruction, so they start taking evasive maneuvers. With a pathological liar, though, this happens toward the end, because they continue thinking that they can bullshit themselves through the ordeal. Only if you are armed with the right information, can prove it, and are willing to go the distance can you crack a pathological liar.
Case in point. Remember Casey Anthony? When she was being questioned by the police, they asked her where she worked to establish a timeline of where she was at certain times. She responded by saying she worked at Disney. They asked her if she could take them to her desk or work station, and she said yes but she had lost her badge (common pathological liar bullshit). So they put her in a car and drove to Disney. They radioed ahead to let Disney know what was going on, so they gained full access. They went inside, and she led them through a tunnel and many hallways. They finally reached a point where they couldn't go any farther, and only then did she admit she was lying.
That reminds me of Azula from Avatar: The Last Airbender
Pathological liar like my ex still carries all the defense mechanism here.
Yup. If you ask Sanders a yes or no question, you will never get an answer
If you only knew how many innocent people have been prosecuted based almost entirely on these sort of b.s. behavioral analyses. Yeah SOMETIMES what she's saying holds true, but I can think of so many instances where I've personally done the opposite of what she assumes someone would do.
oh i know, right? not only do i never lie, but i neither know how, nor would i be any good at that, so it's easy for me, yet some people just never believe me, haha!
Because it's always always just a percentage and if that percentage is higher than the other they will assume the higher percentage always it's how things work
But she is so confident that her system is foolproof . In my case there is nothing right in what she said. I move my legs merrily when I have nothing to fear but keep still when I am worried about the question.
Tons of expert witnesses give unreliable testimony based on quackery.. Body language experts are some of the worst.
Yeah body language isn't straightforward at all, I was constantly being falsely accused of bs as a child because I would involuntarily smile when I was being falsely accused of something. There is always more then one interpretation to things. On one hand I could have been smiling because I got caught, on the other I could have been smiling because I thought it was funny that these idiots thought I did something that I knew I didn't do, which I was. Furthermore Lie Detectors are BS too and I can say this because I passed a polygraph last year while straight up lying out my ass. I lied on about 6 questions and yet I passed with flying colors.
I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.
... It sounds to me like you were "gangstocked" at work... I've had something similar to that happen to me years ago. I was harassed until I walked off the job one day... In hind sight, I wish I would have sued them ..., (I'm glad I left, tho ). Point is, you may want to check into a lawsuit if the statute of limitations hasn't yet expired. If they've created a hostile work environment, that alone is grounds for a law suit. I wish you the very best.
same here. i feel people just watch too many movies and basically everyone believes they can play amateur psychologist. this lie spotting thing is bullshit.
The lessons of success resonates within Amongus game bro . NGL
Blake be Lying yall.
@@akiamini4006 Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.
I learned at a very early age, in fact I was 10, I'm 56 now, Mom after telling one too many fibs, stories, etc., my Mom was done with it and I got the worst spanking of my life. Later that day, I went outside and sat down in the shop by my Dad, he was patiently getting his fishing poles ready to go fishing the next day, when he started a conversation with me. He said, "Can I tell you a secret?" I nodded my head yes. He went on to say, "You know, you respect everyone enough to be honest with them. One little lie can, and will, grow so large that the person telling that lie will lose track of what they said and which people they said it to. They forget how many versions of it they've told. When your honest with people, you never have to worry about remembering what you said or who you said it. Be honest with people, always mean exactly what you say, even when you're mad and have an argument with someone. Once the words are out of your mouth, it's too late to take them back." I live by that to this day. Being honest is very liberating. The biggest lies, the only lies I've told since I was 10 years old are "I'm fine", "I'll be fine.", "Don't worry about it." , "It's OK, let's just make it my fault." and variations of those in response to questions asked. My Mom and Dad made sure I'm point blank when I talk with anyone. I've been told by so many people I'm too abrasive, too etc. I have no filter. I'm not mean about it, but when asked by anyone for my honest opinion, no matter how long we've known each other, I remind them what they are, in fact, asking me for and the rules that apply to them.
I always say, "Before I give you my opinion, perspective or point of view, take a breath and a step back and ask yourself if you have the shoulders to handle what I'm going to say. We all know I don't sugar coat anything; there's a 98% chance, you won't like what I have to say. We all know plenty of people that will tell us what we want to hear. That doesn't help anyone. I'll tell you what you need to hear. Do you still want to ask for my opinion because there is no going back once I do." Hurt my feelings with the truth. Every time. I have been a student of human nature as far back as I can remember. Numerous people have told me so many times they wish they could "read people like a book the way you do". My family and friends will tell you I instinctively and intuitively know when I'm being lied to before the first sentence is said aloud, whether face to face or on the phone. I'll tell the other person,
"Stop...right...there...Let's try this again." I have walked out of meetings at work because of this. You gave every right in the world to waste your breath telling a lie. You do NOT have the right to waste my time while you're doing so.
~ APRIL LIPKE
I decided to study the art of lying, after studying many hours of political speeches I am now an expert.
They're ALL lying, where is the hard part, lol
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We all know this and yet we do nothing about it, shame on us.
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Phill , that is a easy one. If the lips are in motion = The Bastards are LYING !!!
This is helpful BUT she's referring to images and graphics that are key and we can't see them. Ugh
Also, can’t hear audience’s ?’s. Answers to them lose their helpfulness. A few changes to this video would have made this so much more beneficial.
Yeah really.
Classified. Need CIA clearance dude. Even POTUS can't access that stuff.
@@paullangton-rogers2390 the hell the president can't he has a top secret clearance higher than any CIA official
Exactly
Loses impact when you can't see the presentation she's showing the audience.
Big time
For real
Exactly! What a crock of crap. She sure is getting a lot of hits for presenting NOTHING.
Exactly! What a crock of crap. She sure is getting a lot of hits for presenting NOTHING.
Yes, so true
Jamy was Smiling incessently immediately after making a point of cognizance regarding her knowlege of Right and Wrong and due course and Punishment in accordance with the line of questioning on the Concern.
Rather than an exhibiting of caution, fear, disdain, etc. She Smiled proving her trustworthiness...
To Herself.
Getting angry doesn't necessarily mean you're lying because lawyers will deliberately anger a witness to give the impression that the witness is lying
i agree, i get angry when accused of something i didnt do and can be quite nonchalant if i did do it
But there are plenty of people that DO get upset just to deceive the person questioning them.
“You’re cheating” “YOuu JUsT DOnT TRuSt mE!” Or any variation of that is a liar just not all liars do that
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She's so wrong about this part. Getting angry is usually a sign someone is innocent."
You're both wrong. Making a baseless asumption about innocence or guilt based on things that are *by definition* irrational and then trying to apply an ostensibly rational concept like law or deductive reasoning towards that assumption is bullshit.
@@helpimslow973 Again, baseless assumption. You don't get to apply how you *think* you would react to a baseless accusation and retroactively assume guilt. This woman uses baseless assumptions as well, but she uses about a dozen at a time to attempt to build a profile. Asking a single question and deducing a "lie" from that singular question is never going to be a valid logical mechanism for truth or lies.
This would be much more helpful if we were shown what she is pointing at!
Beth ten Have
www.slideshare.net/digiday/deception-training-by-a-former-cia-agent
I know, right?!
Old westerns
@@SmittenKitten. You are the hero of this RUclips page, and more attention should be drawn to the link you have provided
Often the simple fact that you're being accused of something and asked about it, you already feel guilty whether you did it or not. Very tough to not try to convince someone you didn't do something when you already feel guilty of it.
Lie detection whether by using a lie smellar or a contraption that can supposedly spot lies, is all about theatrics. If the person suspected of dishonesty believes that that investigators will be able to tell if they lie, they tend to concoct stories that are closer to the truth in an attempt to have deniability if called out out on their lies.
The tragic side effects are that those who are familiar with the song and dance find it easy to pass the test because they know it's a deception, while those who are naive and nervous fail even though they have done nothing wrong because the accusation has made them "feel guilty" of something.
Keep asking the same questions and eventually the liar will fuck up. Honesty is way easier than remembering all your bs lies. This tactic is one of the best, police use it all the time
Ask a Mormon teenager or a NY drag queen about being gay. The Mormon kid can be so nervous that he comes off deceptively. When he isn't.
But the drag queen thinks you're an idiot and matter of factly answers that he isn't gay.
They can detect that. There is always a difference and clues. Just like with my kids.... they get a sense of guilt when I asked about who left out the milk... but in 3 seconds I know who did it even though all 3 boys felt or acted guilty
It's only been a few million years and still unrecognizable to all females worldwide have no freaking idea anatomy physiology embryology histology of pregnancy preeclampsia eclampsia, 1-2-3's ABCs of intercourse mating procreating reproduction pregnancy and the importance of breast-feeding except for 1 male, me!
1492, females failed to protect themselves from their male offspring igniting the existence of legalize males mass murdering babies, genocide and blessed by the Pope ethnic cleansing holocausts.
Early 1800s The birth of the obstetrician gynecologist, males delivering their own rape incest babies in slaughterhouses should have never been allowed to exist by white females in the 1st place!
4th, July, 1776, the white founding fathers forgot all fetuses deserve to pursue happiness too.
1692, white females forgot to stand up for their birth rights as they were being hung by the neck until dead for pregnancy related problems resolved with grandmothers helping healing hands home cooking herbal remedies delivering babies at home and grandpas security knuckle sandwiches.
1800, Charles Darwin, white females forgot to stand up for females birth rights
1847 the American Medical Association legalize white males delivering all babies in slaughterhouses should have never been allowed by females in the 1st place!
she said "if I was in an optimistic mood, doesn't happen very often (chuckled), but if I were"...atleast she can tell when everyone is lying. no thanks
Just assume everyone’s lying and you’ll be fine
They r believe nothing thats 3rd hand info speculation to bs at best.
That's a lie :)
lol..Lier!
Thats what I came to say, lol
Believe nothing you hear
Only believe half what you see
I had to stop watching 1/2 way through. The length of time it takes her to get to a point is excruciating. Audience participation cannot be heard. Her visuals and list of behaviors are not seen, so this was not really informative. Just irritating.
agreed, never gets there...so what are the top 3 signs? exactly.
For me it was after two minutes.
if shes narrating off her visual presentation. How is she not giving up the goods?
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Cuz we don’t get the whole enchilada!
She has visuals we can’t see....
audience questions we can’t hear ...
Etc.. my 2€
Poor Waldo I found it to be informative. It sounds like what you're saying is that the camera should've been trained on the audience from time to time, and I agree with that. It did not ruin the overall video for me.
I think as someone who is more self-conscious than they wanted to be, I've always suffered from these kind of behavior analogy. You can spot it when they are underlying an accusation in their question and I get increasingly nervous because I understood why I'd look suspicious from their point of view and I'm now afraid any tiny nervous behavior cue in my answer would throw away my integrity.
you have a potential to be great liar if you practice :)
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The danger is the question asked. It is often the asked question that formulates the lie. It is called leading the witness in legal circles. In research, it's called interviewer bias.
I had an ex- who you’d ask him a question and he will take you back to the day he was born and never answer the question lol 😂
LMAOOOOO
Some people love to talk, in general. Some love to talk to a friend or loved one. Some don't really get a lot of people asking them about anything that's isn't work related (especially men), so when it happens it's like jumpstarting the duracell bunny. Basically, for most who do this, it's more of a social interaction or intimacy sharing need that has gone unfulfilled, a bubble of all that pent up "energy", that burst when you asked that question.
So they get _really_ carried away, and somewhere along the way they forget why they started talking and what the question was.
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But the question is did he lie? As you just said he never answered the question. Is called avoiding the question. Or more like rerouting you to something else. Like a gps :). Some people do not like lying not saying thats him or try to do the very minimum as to have more honesty in the relationship. Plus religious reasons also. A quick answer would be i dont really want to talk about it. No im not talking about your ex. I am just speaking in general
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What I learned, besides how to lie, is that if you are a former CIA agent, you can open your own company and convince others you know something that they don't because you were CIA.
So like all the “political experts” on every major “news” network?
Jeff Kohn....Your last name is a hedge against dishonesty! Thats not meant in disrespect.
and you can simply lie about you being a former secret CIA agent: nobody would even bother to check your background because it cannot be verified
Remember this, the fish that doesn't open it's mouth, doesn't get caught.
That's the BEST DAMN ANSWER...I ever read...
TEXANLEON - wise words my friend ✌🏻😎
Nets.
Heard of nets and trawling?
Also remember he/she who picks their noses must use tissue if not its nastyyyyy
According to the Bible, the lake of fire is reserved for:
1. Satan (Revelation 20:10)
2. The beast (Antichrist) and the false prophet (Revelation 20:10)
3. Death and Hades (Revelation 20:14)
4. Those whose names are not written in the book of life (Revelation 20:15)
5. Those who worship the beast and receive its mark (Revelation 16:2)
6. The cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars (Revelation 21:8)
The lake of fire is described as a place of eternal punishment and suffering, separated from God's presence. It is the final destination for those who reject God's love and salvation, and choose to follow evil and rebellion instead.
It's important to note that the lake of fire is not a literal fire, but a symbolic representation of God's judgment and wrath. The Bible uses imagery and symbolism to convey the seriousness of sin and the importance of repentance and faith in God.
Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.
I learned more from your comment than this entire video!
I don't think there's any consistent pattern in eyebrows. People shouldn't rely on this kind of gunk. It's not consistently true and it's resulted in a lot of misery for a lot of innocent people.
A good sign is when a person crosses their arms when you are speaking to them. It's a subconscious reaction of building a shield with your arms telling the other person he is not welcomed in the conversation. It's a defensive position that he is close-minded to what ever you want to say to him. Or when you ask a question. Does he repeated it. His way of buying time to conjur up a lie.
He gulps hard. His eyes blink real fast. Or he fails to make eye contact when he responds. Or suddenly starts scratching his face or arms repeatedly. Could also slide or stutter his responses. Or just give out TOO much information when not asked for.
@@oldschoolfunkster1 Yes! Arm-crossing is a guarded position that stems from the need to protect as much of our vital organs as our arms can when we feel threatened. Obviously we won't do this if we are faced with a bear, but it can relate to more subtle feelings of threat... Totally unrelated, another sign is the feet. If you are talking with someone while standing up and their feet are facing you, that means they want to be talking with you. Conversely, if their feet are not facing you, that indicates they do not or are in a rush to get somewhere else. While sitting, you can look at signs like crossed legs or feet, hyperflexed knees where the feet are far under the chair, or the jitters.
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... You got it. All those are exact signs as you defined them. People don't know they do this, but their body automatically sets its position to tell you what they are thinking. Of course it's not correct 100% of the time, but one has an idea on how to continue the meeting.
I'm a retired officer and this was a good thing to know. From reading a liar or guilty person, to someone that was ready to get violent. If I saw someone with one foot in front of the other, he was getting ready to start swinging. The clenched fists to their sides were a dead giveaway too. And we always looked into their eyes to anticipate their next move. We were trained to also take a slight defensive stance (not aggressive) to keep our balance in case.
In other words, a body talks without the person speaking. You just have to know how to decipher the language. And you know how to read that. Very interesting perception to have available.
CEOs that lie for 25 minutes on one question?? Amateurs. Politicians lie their entire careers
It would be hilarious if she was lying about her name, credentials, job experience ....
Lol
@4:06 to 4:15 without watching the video, she’s lying here. Stumbles over her words where everything else flows like a river.
I've been lied to so much for so long until I want to know the truth. Also, call them out on the lie with grace and elegance and full-grown wisdom.
Or, after the second lie your gone.
I detest lier's.
i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..
@@kurtbuxton9776 and bad grammar
Some people are dislexic, not everyone is as perfect as you gracious one.
I don't lie. It's too much work to remember what I lied about to keep things straight.
Me too and i never associate with liers.
@@justinamusyoka4986 you guys are the biggest liars
Well, you do lie. If you have held your tongue because you did not want to offend, due to fear of the repercussions, then you have lied. We all lie. It is not acceptable but we all lie.
@@deanpd3402 completely agree, a verbal omission is still a lie
@@fitnesspoint2006 I think here they're talking about deliberate/ intentional lies not circumstantial omission to avoid confusion.
I prefer to be silent than utter things i can't verify.
seems like poor production, she was interesting but the video doesn't show the lists she's pointing at!
And you can't hear the audience's answers, just her saying, "Yes."
Exactly..
Stage needed Zak Galafinackis's 2 ferns to dress it up a bit.
If she would know too much would be dead already. In Russia, YOU wouldn't say "I was agency agent". By stating that you would sign the death certificate. You are lucky that not living at NAZI time. You would be 6'under.
Wondering WHY you published this for money? Other reason? Are you the US citizen? Than WHY?
@@arek3866 Ya, we tend to let those rascals keep their lives after serving their country. Just some of that crazy cowboy logic I guess
I was attacked numerous times and when I told the police, they asked the accused and he said that it was a tree that hit me. And got away with it. Maybe next time he draws blood from me. Wish me luck. I know when someone lies about things that they did to me. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I'm going to disagree with her, on the point of aggression, somewhat. Scenario: my brother called me up one day out of the blue sky I haven't heard from him for quite a long time, accused me of something that I did not do he adamantly insisted that I did I know and God knows I did not immediately I was angry and aggressive and yelling and crying I was hurt my feelings were hurt my heart was hurt! I could not believe my brother accused me of such a thing and to me it deeply hurt my heart. And it made me angry and aggressive therefore I have to disagree with this lady!
Not to mention the fact that people COULD actually feel this way and become aggressive, beCAUSE that is something that had to deal with their whole lives as well. Prime example, I was looking forward to my trip to Europe which I saved a lot for, and when I arrived to Heathrow airport, I got through the metal detectors, though my ride was going to be late, and I was very excited to finally meet up with my support family and friends abroad. My excitement and obsessiveness of being on time, made me seem aggravated, when in reality I was pumped up and ready to meet up with my mates and their family. Needless to say I was detained and sent back to the states in 12 hours, already spent my money on the venue that I couldn't attend, in which I never got my money back for. The group and family said they were so sorry and though I never heard from the airport, they themselves felt they were very much out of line for their presumptions of my person.
Another point is those with onset conditions, such as Diabetes or high blood pressure. Both in which can cause massive mood swings, and at the very least cause irritation as well as both mental and physical issues that can be misdiagnosed as behavior issues, rather than the actual aspect in which it derives from. Personally, I would generalize it as sheer ignorance on a person unable to comprehend that. Thoughts...anyone?
@@claytonshea9146 f*** thats frustrating .... sht... sorry for you.
I agree, not to mention when you have a person nagging a person with the same nonsense question all the time. People tend to get tired of hearing it and fly off the handle.
@@jdub1182 Which, incidentally, is exactly what they hope to happen, and keep grilling make just that happen. Will and resolve is the key.
I agree. People have asked me questions before instead of giving a simple yes or no answer I've gone into a long explanation or try to convince them of the good side of me because they obviously didn't see it or they wouldn't be questioning me the way they did in the first place. Sometimes you have to kind of convince people that you're a good person and remind them of your credibility that doesn't make you a liar I wholeheartedly disagree with this woman