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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - New Update to: Am I wrong for not letting my sister be at my birth?
r/AITA - AITA for refusing to go to my sister's wedding, knowing that it means most of our family won't attend?
r/AITA - AITA for telling my brother that our mom picked me to make medical choices for her in the event she can’t?
r/AITA - AITA for saying my sister's family can't temporarily move in with me and my wife due to their "pets"?
r/AITA - AITA for choosing to be with my heartbroken sister for Valentine’s Day rather than my husband
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The mom is clearly enabling the teenage sister and OP needs a break from Tasha and her mom.
I think the sister isn’t necessarily in love with kerim, but instead just wants to steal everything her sister has away. Such as the mom’s affection, and now her husband. She’s a little snake at young age too
Edit: omg this girl needs to be HUMBLED because she will fail in every kind of relationship if she doesn’t realize she doesn’t just get whatever she wants and nobody else cares about her as much as she values herself
Sadly, she sounds like some kind of cluster b personality disorder person. She probably would be extremely abusive in relationships.
Whole family is listening tonight and my brothers gf says she ‘hopes Tasha is having a shit day, and her mom too’ 💁🏼♀️
"I'm looking after my family first!" What she needs to realise is that her husband is family too and she is needlessly hurting him. Her younger sister is not a child, and needs to grow up.
I know right? The fact that she had a FULL BLOWN PANIC ATTACK at the thought of her sister and husband celebrating V-day indicates to me she felt a level of entitlement from her sister and BIL to entirely forego celebrating V-day for her sake. Considering she is freaking 21 and *she* was the one that effed up, she needs to grow the hell up and get over herself.
@samhayet4286 it wasn't a panic attack it was an entitlement attack. Op needs to know the difference!!!@
Exactly!
Exactly what I’m thinking! This is the opposite of parents parentifying their child, this is OP parentifying herself.
And if the husband hadn’t given OP a Valentines gift, then he would still be the bad guy. This guy is in a no win situation! The sister has had 5 days to work through her issues and needs to understand that her sister is married and of course they will celebrate Valentines Day. To come in and have a meltdown right before they are set to leave is selfish and she needs to reflect that if she hadn’t f*cked up her own relationship, she would be going out too.
nope that teen is dangerous! i would not even let her 10 sec alone with that baby! She slams a door to her pregnant sister. she wanted her to lose it .that 13 years old is a menace !
My golden sister was like that with my little brother. She grew up to be a narcissistic boyfriend beater who can’t even hold down platonic relationships. It really is more damaging to the golden child over the long run
Op needs to keep all texts, record conversations and document everything she can about her sisters behavior. If she accuses her husband of something bad, they need something to discredit her and protect themselves. It could ruin his life. She need to go very low contact with her sister and never alone.
Last story. Your spouse is your family too. OP even stated that she was needing a break and was happy to go out with her husband for a nice dinner. She was an ass for getting mad that he bought her a wonderful gift that he had in their bedroom, not a place that her sister would regularly be in. I would have walked out as well. Little sister should have a friend that she can hang out with so that OP and her hubby could have a needed night of intimacy and reconnect after going through their own rough patch. He has needs as well and not just in the bedroom. They need to build their mental and emotional connection back up. I understand that OP wants to protect her siblings, but baby sister messed up and needs to own it, she's 21, not a baby.
Absolute facts!
💯💯💯 my thoughts exactly
I'm guessing the sister fucked up pretty bad, and her friends are ghosting her. Normally young adults go live with their friends after a breakup instead of their siblings. But this is just my speculation.
The “innocent baby” line had me 🤨🤨
The younger sister was clearly cheating in some spectacular way... the older sister needs to stop coddling the younger sister and her face the consequences of her actions. The husband needs to run as fast as he can because he will never be first in their marriage 😊
The line "my mom hasnt been involved with the baby because of tasha and thats fine" um no it isn't. Also those comments the teen is making are inappropriate amd should be shut down by the mom. 13 yr olds can be calculated and manipulative. Definitely wouldn't allow her in the hospital at all. She can see the baby later after theyve been home for a while with husband around cuz i wouldn't feel safe.
i definitely agree
I hate this mentality of a 13 year old who can never be calculating and manipulative all because of their age. Yes, they definitely can be and the sister better save every once of evidence because as I said having this mentality of 13 years not being capable will most likely get the husband in trouble without much evidence on the 13 year old side.
Dude as someone who has both been a 13 year old girl and have had friends,younger siblings and nieces who have also been 13 year old girls that’s the age when girls are the diabolical. I was an inconsiderate little asshole because all my mind was clouded with was myself and my needs. In my defense 13 is a hard age to be because you have a lot of negative feelings about yourself and in my particular situation my Mom was freshly diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and given 6 months to live. I had an older brother who was a teen getting into lots of legal trouble and 2 younger siblings who were both toddlers. There was a lot going on and I’ve always understood stood why at that time I was given less attention. In my parents defense I was a quiet middle child who showed no outward signs of wanting or needing more attention than what I was getting. I just quietly pushed my hurt within because I’ve never wanted to be anyone’s burden. My parents were absolutely amazing and never saw any of us as a burden but this
Tasha girl sounds like she’s trying to be an asshole on purpose.
13 does come with big feelings we don’t always understand but that’s no excuse to act the way she has been. I had my daughter when my oldest nephew was almost 13 years old and he was sad because he wanted to be her uncle. He loves being her cousin too but truly wants to be an uncle so badly.I’m like well but you can pretend like your my daughter uncle because since your only sibling is 11 it’s likely going to be a while before you can actually be a uncle atleast we are hoping it will be awhile before either of them have kids.
@@Raraking4796 I had it rough when I was 13 too, but that's what parents are here for bcs if I started acting like Tasha I would've been in serious trouble
The mother is way worse
Third story... I'm gonna hard disagree.
OP said she will ALWAYS drop EVERYTHING for her siblings, forgetting HER HUSBAND IS HER FAMILY TOO!!!
It can be easy to say that he's being a jerk, but like.... How long could you be in a relationship where your needs and plans are constantly ignored for two grown adults?
I totally agree! When you (OP) agree to marry this man, you're acknowledging to the fact that he is ALSO FAMILY. Depending on how long OP sister has been going through this there is a line where things need to move along. Grown adults. Husband is 100% justified to behave the way he did.
Please stop down playing this additutude on being a teen. I have 3 teens and there is no way they would act like that. I raised them better.
The op needs to stand up for her family and say you wont treat me or my family like this. Your NC until you reflect and change your addittude.
If the brat is like this now whats stopping her hurting or being mean to the baby.
The husband is NOT the a hole for trying to celebrate v day with his wife, he most likely wasn't thinking of the sister at all bc her drama is not his drama. The wife should have been more sensitive to her husband and his efforts, not the sister who messed up her relationship and needs to be coddled. I understand they are family, but her husband is her family now too.
Last Story: When you get married, your spouse (in lack of children) becomes your main priority, while I understand the need for OP to comfort her sister, I don't think is healthy for her marriage to drop *everything* for her.
I think the line "I can't do this anymore" says a lot about how often OP chooses her family over him. And yes, OP warned him from the start, but nobody can know beforehand just how much influence it has on a relationship.
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@@Nathan_Bookwurm Then if it's a problem for you in ANY degree, don't get into the relationship that has that priority stated. I prioritize my parents and sisters over my husband 99% of the time, I warned him of this, and he accepts it every time.
Case in point: My father underwent emergency surgery, and my husband had to take time off work, spend the money we had on us, move bills around, and then drive us up to see my dad "just in case". He was exhausted, it put a lot of strain on his shoulders, but he knew from the start what my priorities were, and that marrying me would extend those to him. He is not close to his family, so it's fine. He's completely fine with it, no matter how frustrated it might make him immediately in the moment.
@@Nathan_Bookwurm yep that one line made it very obvious that he’s been feeling resentful about her ignoring him in favor of her family for a while, and OP just blew past it because tHeY tAlKeD aBoUt It 🥴 i would’ve love to see the comments on this one
@@CherryGryffonYour situation is completely irrelevant in this. This isn't an emergency life threatening situation. It's a grown woman who probably cheated on her boyfriend acting like a child and a sister treating her like a child while ignoring her husband for her childish sister. If she's going to immediately think he's being spiteful because he tries to give her a good Valentine's day that shows she doesn't prioritize him at all.
The last story, based on the husband's reaction, sounds like a "straw that broke the camel's back" kind of situation.
100%
Yea, makes me wonder how many times over the 7 years they have been married the sister has interfered with plans they have and have had to cancel for her needs. 🤦🏼♀️ Just the fact that she had a meltdown right before they were set to leave, makes me wonder if she planned that too since she didn’t have a date herself. She sounds very self centered and selfish, never thinking about the damage she is doing to her sister’s marriage….well, we can be single together since my boyfriend broke up with me! 🤦🏼♀️🤬🤦🏼♀️
I agree!
100% agree. It sounds like OP has cancelled on her husband more times than just this instance for her sibling/kids. You can't expect a good relationship when you neglect it.🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely. With the context given we can assume so. They weren't thinking of husband pov at all. It def wasn't an isolated situation. Husband is def constantly overseen because of her loyalty to her siblings
Story 2: "I didn't go into details" Yeah because she's lying through her teeth and details would make that clear to the family, of course she's being vague. She completely twisting what happened. Someone respecting your boundaries isn't a personal attack. Them respecting your decision to not attend is not "kicking you out of the wedding'. OP is unhinged and has to get her victim complex under control of it's going to ruin her entire life.
The sister needs to make an open post to her family on FB or something saying "Just to clear things up. My sister is, and has always been, invited to my wedding. But I'm not going to un-invite my friends and family because my sister doesn't want their kids at MY wedding. SHE is choosing not to go because of that, I did not uninvite her." Done, that's all the sister needs to say. That immediately gets the full truth out there. OP will likely respond with an unhinged comment that'll show the entire family what's actually going on when she openly tries to twist that. OP's lie is a house of cards, all it needs is a light breeze to make it fall apart.
Exactly!! Op is crazyyyyy, like what does she expects the whole world to cater to her trauma and does op expects the whole workd to be child free on public places so as to not trigger her? Its not even her wedding, she doesnt even like her sister that much, op needs therapy and her sister need to make that post clarifying everything asap
The mom is NOT being a mom
To either daughter….How can she allow a 13 year old
To dictate her life and allow her to NOT allow you visit your other child in the hospital? She needs to worry about getting her 13 year old in check and stop worrying about making her happy by doing whatever she says…
The last story I definitely understand the husband. Especially because it sounds like the sister messed up her relationship and now she crying like she was the one who was wronged. And he probably had this planned for a little while. I don't see her being married for long if this is how she's going to handle things.
Oh top of that for every unhinged comment she made on the post, post the screenshot evidence back. Any texts she may have sent and and voice recordings. She wants to be unhinged, break her with receipts
13 y o can most definitely be calculating! Tasha is jealous because it's a baby GIRL! She's a spoiled brat and I would be careful when she is around the baby. She could be an issue, op is right to be concerned.
I think she needs to go no contact with the maternal side of her family, including Tasha. She's a whole DEMON
13 is old enough to know better. If by 10 you don't know that attacking a pregnant person verbally and physically is wrong, then the parents have failed. I knew bullying was wrong at 8. There's no reason she should be acting like that and the mom is enabling her.
Harmful behaviours are wrong regardless of age and people really struggle to wrap their heads around that fact (not you to clarify, just in general.). Depending on the action and age, you're not gonna punish the child in the same way as an adult, but they shouldn't have their bad behaviour excused or else they'll never learn. Especially if it's abusive behaviour.
When I was 6, a boy (also 6 or 7) was a bully and it lead to him making me preform or*l on him despite me saying no. He'd make me do it nearly every day even though he knew I really didn't like it and laughed at me when I'd cry. Obviously, can't be punished in the same way as an adult, but that sort of harmful behaviour NEEDS to be corrected. Instead, the adults who knew put the responsibility on me to "avoid" him despite being in the same class as him. It caused me a lot of trauma and he grew up to be a criminal
The second I heard that the almost 60 year old mom thought she was too young to be a grandma i knew everything I needed to know about her personality.
Sister in first story is definitely aware of what she's doing. She's old enough to.
Tasha watches the movie, “Mean Girls” and is like, “that’s not good enough, she could’ve been meaner” 😆😂
First story is weird, this girl tried to steal a 40 year old, tried to come onto him.. She is 13-14 as op explained the 6 month period of possible birthday. But this is just weird.. also 27 isnt young to have a kid infact its resonable / late for most. I had to rewind the vid to find the ages cause i thought maybe it was 16 an pregnant, but no.. We need an update i wanna know if that little demon spawn is in an asylum by now.
Whoa the second story, OP is way too entitled. She was threatening to not go anyway then gets offended! I also thinks she needs a new therapist lol
She is an entitled POS. She needs to fire her therapist and get another one. She's a terrible sister and even admitted to not telling everyone the whole truth. She's not being excluded, she's choosing to be excluded and then playing victim. What a crappy person.
Riley smacked with the Rugrats reference
I was also parentified growing up, having to raise my younger sister and brother. Giving away your toys and clothes isn't parentification. It's being frugal as a family. If that's the example being given by the OP, I am wondering if they don't even know what that term means. I'm child-free by choice and don't particularly enjoy being around children, but refusing to go to a family event because there will be children whom you won't have any responsibility towards is UNHINGED. Sounds like the OP in the story is just a drama, attention-seeking false victim.
Serial killers can show signs well before age 13, so calculated doesn't seem like a stretch to me, ijs. I've personally seen calculated behavior in kids younger than that. Kids are basically little sociopaths until they're taught not to be/outgrow it. Spoiled golden children are often not taught not to be.
Called it 25:04
The Valentine's Day story, I'm going to have stick up for the husband here, just because you made a promise to accept your partner's loyalty to her siblings (children), doesn't mean that it is okay that every time something comes up he is dropped.
I'd say that this moment was just an outburst of not being able to have be affectionate with HIS partner and instead being pushed to the side again because of sibling's issues.
7 years of having to be put on the back seat, encase something were to happen sucks for anyone in a relationship.
I'm sorry did she say she was mad at him giving affectionate gifts and stuff because it would upset her sister, ma'am your husband is trying to keep some semblance of a love life going but instead you saw it as a hinderance. When he invited you out and you mouthed sorry to him as he entered the room, what was he supposed to do just say "Oh, I'm so sorry it's fine, what happened?" that would be insane.
Idk I think the last OP is an ahole ESPECIALLY if what caused the breakup was really stupid. She's 21. She needs to start acting like it. If you are so broken you break down because of a loving gift your BIL got your sister, you need therapy. I'll bet you it was not just the one incident either which is why OP set up and emphasized her loyalty to her siblings.
I’m sure he has had 7 years of cancelled dates because of OP’s siblings and he just got fed up and is just about done with the whole marriage. She can say all she wants that she got his approval at the get go of the relationship, but nobody thinks that they are going to be constantly put on the back burner for needy siblings! Everybody is going to get sick of that real quick.
Last story: No OP is in the wrong. Being a "sister that's like a mom" is not an excuse. Her sister is 21, not 12! This Valentine's date didn't happen the same day sis & her boyfriend broke up. They've been broken up for days/weeks. Sis can suck up not having a boyfriend for a few hours so that OP can have a Valentine's Day date with her own husband!! Both OP & her sis NEED to learn the difference between a NEED & a WANT. If siblings NEED her, then of course that comes 1st, but if they only WANT her attention right now then husband comes 1st!
If little sister was badly hurt & in the hospital alone, then that would be a time to need big sis & of course OP's hubby would understand delaying their plans. Being upset about a breakup & WANTING company is not the same as a need though, & hubby has a right to expect his wife's sister to be able to be alone for a couple hours. Sis "broke down" just as OP was getting ready to go out? The timing is too sus. If it's a true break then you'd be taking her to a hospital psych ward. No, she's just upset & crying over the consequences of her actions, & that should not be allowed to interfere with someone else's relationship!! It's fine for OP to be supportive, but she should not be choosing a sibling's want for attention over her own marriage. As the saying goes, you don't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Narcissistic people can trick their therapists into thinking they’re the victim a surprising amount of time.
The way that girl was acting I def wouldnt be leaving her alone with the baby
The little psycho would def hurt the baby
The second story the OP just hardcore only child syndrome and got WAY too spoiled, so much so she apparently expected her parents to idolize her CHILDHOOD CLOTHING
Like yikes
"Calculated for a 13 year old sounds a bit much"
Bruh... my middle school bully had minions to do her dirty work for her. A calculated move so she wouldn't get in trouble. 13 year olds CAN 100% be calculated!
Cold, calculated, manipulative behavior from Tasha.
Story 2: Definitely YTA. It's the sisters wedding & she didn't uninvite OP. OP stating "I cannot go to an event that has that many children running around" the sister said there were TWO. I've been to a handful of weddings, two of them had kids in the wedding party. One was ceremony only, the other the kids were at the ceremony & reception & they were perfect angels. OP bringing the rest of the family into it was a jerk move.
Story 4: "my brother told me I was right as family comes first"
YOUR HUSBAND IS YOUR FAMILY. The sister did something stupid (on her own volition whatever it was) and she's being treated like a child. She's 21!! OP doesn't deserve her hubby. Him actually AGREEING that "her siblings come first & will always be her priority" was the biggest most massive red flag. Her life revolves around her siblings & that's toxic.
33:45 it’s wild, because she said, am I the asshole for “refusing to go“ but also goes on to say that her sister kicked her out of the wedding that doesn’t make any fucking sense. If you’re refusing to go, then she didn’t kick you out. She’s bananas those were her own words. What is wrong with her? 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ there is no way this women is 40
Hard disagree with that last story. OP's sister wasn't some teen. She's a grown ass woman. A full drinking age adult. Her getting babied by OP at that age is weird as hell, and isn't healthy for anyone.
We definitely gonna be hearing a story about this girl from others in several years.
Story 3: is there a theme in that family where the three siblings can disregard their significant other for each other? Even when a sibling is their own cause for their issues and sabotage themselves ? there needs to be a line drawn where the husband will be placed first, like his birthday, their anniversary, Valentine’s Day, a career promotion then if a sibling needs support or comfort at those times then the other sibling(brother) needs to step in for the day and do his part for the “family” of which the husband is now a part of. I’m sure the husband has already acquiesced to so many other incidents. Even a real parent shouldn’t coddle the younger sister to this degree for messing her own self up.
What kind of mother lets their 13 YEAR OLD CHILD “ban” them from doing things?! You are the parent, not them! This child needs therapy and a HELLUVA LOT of discipline
My first pregnancy was amazing! I went on hikes, I travelled and ice cream sandwiches and naps were sooooo much better pregnant.
My second pregnancy was horrid. I was sick 9 months, all meat tasted like sweaty balls. And my body literally rejected water. My baby was cute as hell so it was worth it, but I don’t think I will be having another one anytime soon 😂
I'm sitting here watching you two and thinking, "There is hope for the future." thanks for that!
My aunt, my father's youngest sister, was jealous because she no longer was the youngest in the family. She was also around 12-13 years old and grew up being everyone's favourite...
Story 2: OP has some serious issues. It sounds to me like she was used to getting all the attention when she was younger then her little sister comes along and suddenly all the attention isn't on her anymore. OP's therapist sucks.
Edit: I was looking through the comments on the original post and a lot of people are saying it's probably rage bait, which I agree. OP sounds like a petulant child.
I love stories with updates and closure . Good picks
I KNEW THE SISTER WAS IN LOVE WITH HER BROTHER IN LAW!!!!! I KNEW IT!!!!
48:08 if the sister cheated i can absolutely understand the husband being pissed off and not having any pitty for the sister. Cheaters don't deserve pitty
As a manager at an assisted living facility, you should do all you can to keep your loved ones at home. If they really need to be at a facility, and the family is spilt, please don't bring that drama to us. Several family feuds have come our way. We have enough to deal with.
Really makes me wonder what his ulterior motives are when he’s not the one providing care. I’m thinking he doesn’t want her money spent on home care workers just so he has an inheritance…but he doesn’t realize assisted living homes will take all the money she has and more!
I’m glad the comments also understand that in the last story that the husband is family too! Seems like more of the straw that broke the camels back than it was an isolated incident cause he said “I can’t take this shiz anymore” which makes me feel like there was many instances where he was shafted.
I’m pregnant now. The only person other than the hospital staff that will be in the room is my husband. I want to recover in peace and then I’ll have people visit later when I’m home
The 2nd story, no update so far, only 2 weeks old. Op is getting destroyed in thr comments. The only reply she made basically complained about having to driver her sister around when she was in college. Everyone is calling her entitled and that she lied by omittion about being uninvited and why.
31:32 OP was TA when she thought the wedding would be child free cuz of her aversion to children, and I say this as someone who is child free and fully for child free weddings. If I’m being honest, OP was TA from saying “my inner child has had to do a lot of healing over the years”
Like, I believe in healing your inner child and I believe in Parentification, but there’s something about this that makes me feel like OP is TA. Hand me downs being the only example of “Parentification” doesn’t help either.
46:42 it’s def not an isolated incident. OP is babying her sister. Even a married couple with teenagers would be able to have a romantic night. The daughter wouldn’t really intrude like this.
How do you let a 13-year-old ban you from being there for your other child???
I hope you read the comments in the last story. Sister cheated, that why she was ghosted. If I was OP I wouldn't have canceled my Valentine's day for her, specially given the effort my husband put into it. I will comfort my sister, but she made her bed. She has to lie on it.
Lmao Sophia is paying for the car. It came out in a recent episode. They refer to this moment 😂
Matt would’ve been *_BOUND_* to know eventually that his mom didn’t leave him in charge. Frankly, it’s one of those things where it’s never a good time to learn, but I frankly think with this situation coming up, away from the mom, when she’s dealing with dementia might sadly be as good as any time it’s gonna get to tell Matt.
Exactly! How could they possibly keep this a secret from Matt forever? He would eventually know it because decisions would need to be made.
HOLY HELL!!! Little sister (Tasha) is truly a sociopath. At 13 I would have never called someone an “Attention whore” and despite being smart I wouldn’t have understood what that even meant. Secondly, if my parents or any other adult heard me speak that way they would have immediately shut that shish down, shamed me for saying it, made me apologize on the spot, grounded me and forced me to receive therapy to address my disgusting attitude. Oh, and insisted I write an apology letter and/or essay on why I said it, how hurtful it was and how I would never speak to anyone like that again!!! New mom, Kareem, and sweet baby girl need to be 100% no contact with Tasha and their mom. SRSLY…Unfortunately, Tasha is a lost cause because she has genuinely shown signs of sociopathy. It’s not a diagnosis that are curable or controlled with medications. These types of people are usually highly intelligent, extremely manipulative and the ONLY way they won’t use their despicable superpower against others is to acknowledge/admit to being sociopathic, make the decision not to engage in that type of behavior, and intentionally resist from doing so with others.
My oldest daughter is 5 and she would NEVER hurt a pregnant woman. The 13 year old is old enough to know better. I had my second daughter 5 months ago and my oldest was incredible the entire time. Even after having her, she takes care of her baby sister. Heck, she's changed diapers with help that is haha (she wanted to lol)
And third story, I'm going on 10 years married this year. When you say "I do" your family's you grew up with aren't your family you're living with anymore. Your family is the one you marry & create together.
You can still take care your family you grew up with but don't encourage poor behavior. She's 21, SHE messed up & so SHE needs to grow up. Sure, she can be upset and need some TLC but it isn't her sister's job to fix everything. OP has a spouse. That spouse also deserves to be loved, cared for & celebrated.
She could of hung out with a single friend, or ordered herself food, watched a movie, junked out etc. She's old enough to be by herself for a bit while her big sister spent some quality time with her hubby.
"Millions if your makeup is that on point."
Riley you are not wrong, they will be upset and not know why. But she won't remember this drama long
When two people get married, you are family! How could that husband ever imagine having children with his wife since she shows that her siblings come before everything. In his eyes, her siblings would also be put before any children they might have. I get that breakups suck! But her sister needs to grow up & deal with her $hit on her own like the rest of us. I have SEVERE anxiety & other mental health issues, but I don't put them on other people to deal with! I deal with my crazy on my own lol
Family is first, but when you are married, that is your family FIRST. Your parents and siblings are second, your children and husband are first.
For the first story, it's about boundaries. You can't change other people's behavior, but you can choose which behaviors you don't want to deal with. I would write a very clear message to the mom and little sister and let them know that you understand that the family dynamics are changing and that can be hard, but you are unwilling to be disrespected by the younger sister and from this point forward you will either ask them to leave or you will leave when you feel disrespected and list several of the comments that have been made in the past so they both understand. This is not a negotiation, it is setting a clear boundary, then the next time a comment is made do as you said you would. No discussion, just get up and leave or tell them to leave and ask for the support of your husband and others to ensure they leave immediately. Thirteen is old enough to understand what she is saying is mean, I'm guessing she is a bully in other areas of her life as well.
NEVER EVER STAY ALONE OR NEAR THAT SISTER PERIOD
Regarding the last story, the husband is technically not interfering. Just cause someone else is going through a heartbreak doesn't mean you have to stop showering your partner with affection. Instead of appreciating her husband, she berated him and I feel as though she misunderstood him. Maybe she's babying her 21-year-old sister too much.
Don't get me wrong, I do understand the need to stick by someone when they're having a panic attack. However, that does not excuse everything else.
Tasha desperately needs therapy. But also I love how excited Riley got any time the baby was brought up after being born
I was in the delivery room
for my little brother at 7.5 yrs old until my moms heart started having problems and my dad took me to get food. My grandma was with my mom.
First Story: That child is dangerous. OP Needs to go NC and her father needs to get the child into therapy before she ruins her life and others.
Last Story: OP is in the wrong for getting upset and choosing her sister over her husband. She keeps saying that family comes first. Once that ring went on and she said, "I do." then her husband became her family. He clearly went all out for some private time with OP. The little sister is not a baby, she is 21 years old. Time to grow up and deal with your own mess ups. OP said sister had been in their home for a few days, I bet sister has monopolized OP's time since she went to stay with them, and the way he reacted leads me to believe that this is not the first time OP picked siblings over him in special situations/occasions.
The 13 year old is a brat. She is also a teenager, so having a new baby girl in the family has sent her down a bratty spiral. The mom is the only one to blame. OP should not even have tried to reason with her, she is too far gone. I remember when my sister was born when I was 5. I was a jealous kid, but I quickly came around and wanted to protect her. This girl is not okay. The fact that she hurt her sister is a sign she is not mentally okay.
I feel like the sister in the third story acts with OP like the sister in the first story acts with their mother. She comes in OP's bedroom and sees OP getting dressed for a date and she breaks dramatically down (including a panic attack). OP'S husband planned his Vday surprise maybe for a long time and he sees sisters dramatics for what they are, seeking OP's attention all to herself.
41:02 my grandpa just recently passed from dementia. For starters, its different for everyone, but if it were like my grandpa, depending on how far along she is its very likely that you’re right and she wouldn’t know why she’s upset for much longer past that moment
Idk doesnt seem to be isolated if hes at fed up point.
Thank you so much for all your wise, balanced and kind-heart orientated comments Sam and Riley. Very grateful.
25:45 I’ve called my little cousin my daughter since she was a toddler, she’s about to be 18 .. she said a couple weeks ago that I’m not allowed to have kids and when I do she’s going to be super upset. I asked her if she was scared that I’d be “replacing her” and she said yes. Broke my heart 🥺 but I know she’s probably going to actually go crazy when I have a kid 🫠
Last story: I really don't see the husband being an AH at all.
The mom story - my family is going through something similar. My grandmother, 91, is currently in testing for altimerz, she currently lives at home with my uncle, in his 60s. She needs full time care, but uncle promised his dad that he'd never put either of them in a "home" after how badly my grandpa's sister was treated. Grandpa passed Jan '23, Granny still asks when he's coming home, are they going to visit the hospital a year later. They do have a visiting nurse once a week after granny fell and broke her hip last summer... my mom, dad, and I worry because it's not safe and neither of them are in good health, but uncle keeps saying no she's not going into a care facility.
Can pregnancy be enjoyable, you ask? I can only speak for myself here, but being pregnant with my son was everything to me & I loved it! It was magical (even the difficult & scary times). I've never felt as good as I did then - never healthier, prettier, or more focused & certain.
Part of me wishes I would've had a tribe of children, but I wanted to know for sure that I could give him all of the best parts of me as his mom, so I didn't have any more. My pregnancy with my son was my favorite time in this life, for sure! 😁🥰
I laughed so hard when big protein said "Maybe even MILLIPNS if your makeup is on point!" I legit belly laughed 😂 i love this podcast omg
Holy cow never been this early for a video 😂
Great job guys!
I would have enjoyed being pregnant if both my kids hadn't made me so sick. It is a time to bond and it's such a weird feeling.
😂 yes boys, having an orgasm DOES indeed help with labor and delivery. It helps release more oxytocin (among other hormones) that also helps relax the baby. ALSO my wedding in 2019, had 5 children in attendance and the ONLY hiccup was my youngest niece tackling my eldest niece in a bear hug in celebration 😂🎉 which I have a pic of and it's one of our faves from that day aside from the two others: one of me putting the ring on the wrong hand of my hub, and one of me tripping over a floor vent vause my shoe got stuck which were also caught on camera 😅
I feel like its the tripping over and the oopsies are just moments you can look back on and have a laugh about it! Just makes the day more special. in my opinion. 🤣
My aunt was 22 and the youngest when I came along and has hated and abused me since. I am now 22 and a no contact with her I hate the woman and have now had to take multiple steps in recovery from all of her abuse. I be had a niece come around for the same circumstances and i could not fathom ever being or treating my niece in the same way that woman treated me.
13 yo has no business in the delivery room. NO WAY- not even a perfectly nice and mature one.
I don't think they were talking about the delivery room, the op doesn't want her in the wating room.
Wow ! That mom is literally creating a monster because she’s a monster herself . She can’t say no & act like her daughter is a victim
So I have two children. First pregnancy was absolutely awful. My daughter dislocated ribs and blocked my kidney (resulting in emergency surgery). Her labor though ? Absolute breeze. Didn’t even know it was time to push until the doctor told me. Pregnancy with my son was absolutely amazing. No discomfort no struggle. My skin looked the best it ever had. His labor ? Horrible. Genuinely felt like dying. I kept begging the nurses to let me push, because my body was almost FORCING me too.
For context : I had both my children without an epidural, and used demoral (probably not proper spelling) for pain management in early labor. It does not take the pain away completely but does make it bearable. The goal for my pain management was to keep myself from tiring out, and avoiding a potential c section. I HIGHLY recommend it, or at the least consulting your OB about pain management options. Most new moms don’t know you have OPTIONS ❤
I feel like the valentines gift lady really hinges on if her husband shows grand gestures every year or if it was only this one time.
Last story: OP’s sister probably cheated on her bf, OP probably babies her younger siblings, I think there’s a *_fundamental issues_* that OP has caused. Her younger brother was the only one who said the husband was in the wrong and family comes first. But here’s thing dumbass (brother, not you guys) *OP’S HUSBAND IS HER FAMILY.* He is the man that she will go to first when she needs help, he’ll be the one to protect, love, and care for her, he’ll be there in the room when her kids are born. I think, and this is speculation, OP has probably kept her husband at arm’s distance and I think her clear boundary of, “it’ll always be my siblings over you, idc what it is,” has started to rub her husband the wrong way. She’s constantly told him it seems at every pass that he will never be first in her life, and then what happens if/when they have kids? Is she gonna keep them at arm’s distance from her? Will she basically give her siblings special privileges to her kids that she won’t give to her husband? Will she once again create the divide of, “it’s me, my kids, and my siblings and my husband comes after *ALL* of that.” Like it just seems that she has a problem setting boundaries that culminated in blowing up on V-Day at last. Will she set boundaries if they have kids for the siblings? It seems like if anything, OP may even give preferential treatment to her siblings to her kids that she won’t want to give to her husband. And what about if it comes ti the actual _raising_ of the kids? Is OP’s husband gonna have to deal with OP’s siblings undermining his authority/raising or even worse, outright, blatantly disregarding/overriding his raising/authority for his kids because OP has given her siblings such a clear hierarchal position higher than her husband in her life? Her decisions have ramifications and I think that OP’s husband is sick and tired of being such a clear number 2 in her life, even when it comes to her siblings needing to grow up and deal with the adult consequences of their adult actions.
That story totally strikes me as the orphan movie!
As an OB nurse, it makes me yearn for COVID times- as in severely restricting visitors. Depending on the hospital, only one or two (including the support person) could come. And no “swapping out”. Less family drama and it gave the patient an “out”. ( Sorry, I’d love for you to come, but it’s the hospital)
17:48 i knew from the beginning this is where it was going. 13 is a kid but I know how crazy and manipulative 13 year olds can be.
That was not an isolated incident. And heads up everyone, when you marry, that spouse is now your FAMILY. They are supposed to be a priority over all else. From the way she made him"promise" before they married, and having the nerve to aspouse negative motives to him doing something sweet for her, this is definitely a pattern. He needs to get out.
in home care is $30/ hour times 24 hours. The aide is rarely trained in. dementia care. A memory care community is around $8k per month and is filled with enriching activities and staff trained for all of the nuances of memory loss.
If mom outluves her money after blowing through it with an aide warehousing her in her home she will not be able to afford a memory care community and will be forced to be in a shared room in a nursing home under Medicaid. Each time she falls (common with dementia) or gets sick (common in s packed nursing home where you can be sharing a room with anyone they put you with) she will lose her bed and be moved toasted Medicaid bed wherever the hospital can find one- possibly hours away. These frequent moves combined with the hell of a nursing home that is literally losing money on the Medicaid patients means mom will die alone, with staff that is overworked and likely not trained in dementia care and can be rooming with an ex-con whose last home was a homeless shelter because they were mentally ill.
The POA is the ahole for making a promise without mom being fully educated.
The way me and that little girl would have to fight
No, I'm a mom and I wouldn't drop everything for my kids going through a breakup. She's out of line and either has her siblings or spouse. It's not a good fit
With c-sections only one person can be with the mom. It’s an operating room.
the sister in the last story is only doing this as she is jealous and doing it out of spite
I loved my second pregnancy. It was so awesome. If my first was that good, we might have tried for more.
40:29 with the advance directive story (the mom with dementia), idk if OP really did need to say anything to Matt about it. Like how much was it hurting with Matt arguing about it? I don’t see why he couldn’t have just ignored Matt completely - it’s not like Matt had the ability to do anything about it anyways.
(Matt def seems like the type that wants to switch her to assisted living so that there’s more inheritance money for himself at the end of the day though 🙄 so kinda glad OP shut him up for now. But I feel really bad that the mom is having to deal with these issues now)
Sam, you like chocolate? Asking for myself. 🤣 Those glasses have you looking absolutely dashing 🥴😏
I wish there was an update to the tasha story
In what world can a 13-year-old ban their mom from doing anything?
22:45 - Good for OP!
36:00 😂 your wore the parents out so when your siblings came along they were too tired and weak to oppose us 😅😊😂😂😂😂
She is 13, and that is old enough to know right from wrong. Young enough to lash out and not really communicate well, but know enough that she's being terrible and trying to hurt someone is not okay. She wants her cake and to eat it too - She wants to be involved, be the aunt, but can't handle the fact she won't be the youngest anymore and is worried about being neglected and unloved. i think it's gotten to the point where she learns 'fuck around, you find out'. OP has been patient with her, and banning her from the birthing is a good first step. Her actions have consequences (what she going to say or do around the baby? You don't want that) and the adults around her need to take it up a notch. She needs to learn that she's not being babied anymore not because there is a new baby, but because she needs to grow the hell up.