Angel Nicole I’m at work and a tear came out my eye... it’s true. I’m learning and working on myself everyday and change does come when you value yourself 🙏🏾
Eat right, stay away from fast foods, eat salads and veggies drink water, go to the gym take care of the little girl in you..don't let people who don't matter influence you...CHECK!!
"Many of you will require professional help" This is a MAJOR problem in the black community. Especially amongst black men. They expect women to pick up where the mother's left off and help to heal them. No sir.
My ex called me. and told me he was feeling depressed and lonely i hung up and blocked him (hope he didnt rope himself because that would be unfortunate )......nah im bugging i really dont give a shit i aint yo mammy!!.👅
When she said “eat salads” I really felt that. Not only does it keep your weight balanced, but it fine tunes your cells, and you really CAN hear your intuition more clearly.
Trifling men need a woman to have low self esteem so that he can mistreat her and she will never leave. He may say some things to her about her features and how it could be better...all to make her feel insecure. It happened to one of my friends years ago. And to this day she is still insecure about her body...smh
lashownas I had the same situation happen to me but he never brought down my confidence. God did a lot of work to give me a very high self esteem and I did not let that go to waste no matter what demeaning stuff ppl to say me. I be like cool and keep it moving. I just felt bad for the dude and knew he was trying to bring me down bc he had a low self esteem. I made it out still confident and still good looking. I’m so glad to be dust free. 😆
I have to forgive myself for letting myself be brainwashed. He told me constantly that no one would find me attractive while I was getting hit on by men constantly smh...
Yes gurl ! Men try so hard to diminish your self esteem bc they don’t want u to know how valuable u are and they want u on their raggedy level ... I just did a video on this lol
Please tell these black women to get therapy! I started talking to a therapist in high school when my narcissistic mother tried to make everyone think I was crazy. It was the best thing she ever did for me. Her plan backfired tho, and it only made HER look crazier.
Those who are struggling with low self esteem, listen to this. The key is manifestation. Act as if you already have high self esteem. Orchestrate it in EVERY part of your life. It takes time but with practice, it will come natural and be a part of you✨.
I like to get a pretty journal each new year and write down my goals. Write about what I accomplished and how it makes me feel. Even small victories like learning a new recipe or reading a book can do so much.
People should always be working on their self esteem. It’s like exercise. You can’t do it for a little bit and expect results to last forever. No one is confident and secure 24/7. Recognizing your own emotions and learning how to control them helps you have habits that kick in when doubt and guilt tries to creep on you.
hea sku I like to learn about habits a lot. I started with reading different books about it and now I just pay attention to people and pick up patterns that people have. Habits have a HUGE effect on people’s mood, behavior and decision making. I also made a vow to myself to choose joy over anger and peace over suffering. You’d be surprised at what happens when you remind yourself that peace, joy and happiness is a choice! I think we forget that a lot.
Peter Guildford Only if you tell yourself that. I noticed that black people convince themselves the worst things about themselves and when you only hangout with black people you think that behavior is normal. I think since Hip Hop became mainstream black culture has become something very aggressive, mean and disrespectful. Bad is good and good is lame. Unfortunately this has taken the heaviest toll on black women because black men can at least make it seem masculine. The silver lining is that since this was taught it can also be untaught. First positive thing I taught myself is that any disadvantage can turn into an advantage if your clever enough.
I can't lie, my self-esteem is trash, i'm learning to forgive myself often for the things i'm doing to myself. I've had an issue with being hard on myself for so long.
"Put yourself first!" I used to feel guilty and like I was being selfish when I would even think about doing something just for me. I was always burned out. Not anymore. I take my me time when I need it.
Same here, I have been burnt out, broken now I'm not doing it no more, it still a long road ahead but I'm taking it one day at a time, and finally will get there.
I dated a guy who made 90k a year and he was still like this. Even often spoke of other women he dated in the past, bringing up their careers. Half of it wasn’t even true. I can tell when he is lying. He definitely wanted me to feel some type of way.
The point of forgiving yourself is so important! I beat myself up for so long giving a guy I knew was trash a chance because I was desperate and my self esteem was low. He taught me a value lesson because he screwed me over hard 🤣🤣 I was like “See, now this is what happens when you lower your standards and are thirsty for attention. Never again.” And I meant that 🤣
Happened to me To. With an ugly albino. A FUCKING ALBINO 😂 Nigga new I had low self esteem issues yet still persisted on beating me down. Learned some valuable lessons from it. My vibration and energy has changed now. NEVER AGAIN!
EVERYBODY in life that I decided not to judge for their lack of accomplishments or refinement, ended up judging me harshly for minor misunderstandings or disagreements. Have high standards, Ladies!
To be honest we just decided to just enjoy the show of y'all steamrolling to the wall. It's a reason why you don't see any 50+ year old feminist, it's because they woke up and realized it was all a lie. We have no problem with women becoming quality women but she's not teaching y'all how to be quality Women but is teaching y'all how to hit the wall faster
@49jubilee ummmm. It takes a real man to know that he needs to change, then do the work himself to change, n get his own job. Technology /research ( seek n you will find) many a mentor, someone to look up to, n to listen to. Just like this channel is to to help n uplift WOMEN. If a real man really wants it, he will get " it ", rather or not a personal mentor is in place
Also ladies, when your esteem is low PLEASE DON'T DATE ANYONE. Work on the little girl in you, your fintness, your nutrition, your femininity, your spirituality, and your goals. LOVE FROM ALASKA!💋👠👑
Absolutely. Since age 17 iv been in long term relationships not even 9 months apart. One 3 and half year relationship followed by a 4 year marriage to another man. Ive never really took time to heal or work on myself, just a 6month THOT phase in between, smdh🤦🏽♀️ now I'm 26, soon to be divorced, obese, heavy drunker with low self esteem and low confidence. I got tons of work ahead of me, but I'm looking forward to the journey of finally learning to love myself and date myself❤
I forgive myself for being human, for making mistakes like every human has made, releasing myself from my past will go nicely with my new dress, my red lipstick, and best of all, my smarter future ... Cheers to us ladies 🥂
My narc ex once told me that the type of woman that is attracted to him are those with daddy issues 🙄🙄🙄 He was always trying to convince me that I was wounded because my dad wasn’t present in my life as a child. Though it did effect my self esteem growing up, my deep issues stemmed way more from my narc mother. He always dismissed my sentiment on that. I wonder why... 🙄
This is absolutely correct a lot of men NEED your self esteem to be rock bottom in order to control you and have you scared to loose them! Always put yourself first!
Absolutely Chloe! The craziest thing going on now in these streets is men who have simply given up understanding a womans self worth because so many women have none! It's a vicious cycle that has to end with the ladies!
This video has sunk way deep in my soul. After taking a long long review of the men that I have attracted, I certainly know that I am a empath and I'm attracting narc selfish low-ball angry men. You see a co-dependent man needs a woman with low self-esteem so he could either furnish his lifestyle or have a place to stay. Chloe is right!! It has been a 4 year process and I'm still on a healing path, but with these videos is a whole new perspective that I thought about but now I hear it and it's in my face. Black women who are Daddyless daughters you have to deal with the little girl inside as Chloe has stated she's wounded and these type of men are attracted to us like bees to honey.
So true especially if you have been told you are not worthy all your life it even worst when you have a physical default ( like a lazy eye) in my own case I'm saving up money to fix it and my self esteem before the end of this month and I know the universe will help me I sorry for saying so much
So true. Me raising my vibration has improved my outlook. Now I demand respect from the onset. These higher standards scare dusty men away almost immediately…
I wish a dude would come to me talking about help a brotha out and help him build life..... Ummmmm No. I’m not bob the builder. I’m not contributing to your dusty ass table. I am the guest of honor and the prize 🙌🏾🔥♥️
Unfortunately, this happened to me. I was 31 and I met this guy. I thought he was nice he was about 7-8 years older. We started dating. His exact words were, "I'm looking for some one that can help me" So I figured maybe I can help him and if I need help he can help me. WRONG!!! I got HIM a new cell phone AND paid the bill. Come to find out he had a WHOLE relationship with another woman. She was an older woman and he even moved in with her! I felt like the fool of the year. So no, RUN if a man don't have it together. Don't help build a man that should have come assembled. 🏃💨
@M Lane exactly. I went in with good intentions and a poor sense of judgement. The red flag was present and I didn't see it waving. The only thing he brought to the table was dick and games. A person will show you what their true intentions are in the very beginning if you pay attention and look at the signs. I wish I had this channel to listen to it would have saved me time and money. 😟
A dusty that wanted me and who I was clearly not attracted to, said I thought I was better and was looking down on him based on what he did not have. I was honest with him and told him he needed to work on himself if he is trying to attract the type of woman that he wants.
Thanks for this video Chloe. I really needed this. I'm struggling so hard with self forgiveness because I'm just angry at myself for tolerating so much bs, disrespect, and pain at the expense of another person's benefit and happiness. I could've avoided so much drama had I put myself first and had stopped being self sacrificing. Never again. I'm currently on my level up journey and I will never look back. There are NO benefits in being self sacrificing. Be selfish with your time and energy ladies. Be selfish with your entire being because you're all you have!!!💯
Loving and supporting someone you love is not a sin, it's what we as women were built to DO. His sin was not valuing the gift he was given in YOU. Go forward with STRONGER VALUES and higher standards and know that YOUR love is a blessing.
Thank you for sharing. Self-Forgiveness is a must. When we beat up on ourselves we attract men (and people) who will beat up on US. Keep growing and always put yourself first. And if you have a daughter or a future daughter...teach your daughter the same.
I can’t for the life of me understand why a woman would want help or advice on a relationship with a GROWN tail man that doesn’t provide or treat her with respect... why would anyone want to keep a man like that around? I can struggle by my damn self. The whole point in having a man is so that I don’t have to struggle or worry about little to nothing.
@@ShelbySteele23 yes I can say it's almost the same thing. the only advantage that you guys im the US have or in Europe is that there is plenty of fish in the sea unlike the Moroccan men here due to the country's situation as it is a 3d World country . your chances of Finding a wealthy man are very rare and slim.
@@sweetpotato1794 try dating online,finding men in wealthier countries. Also, the man doesn't have to be rich, but he must be richer than you. If he's too rich, he might marry more wives, that's another issue that arises with your religion, unfortunately.
I used to struggle with my self worth/esteem in my late teens but after my early 20s, all that went away slowly but surely & now in my 30s, I don’t have time for the bs 😎 nor anyone trying to make me feel less than or question myself to appease their funky asses
Gurl! I don’t need to go to church this week because you have PREACHED tuh-DAY!!! Where were you 15...20 years ago??!! I wish I had known all this sooner...but here’s to forgiving myself TODAY, and moving forward! Thank you for all of your “right-on-time” messages!
I see this all the time. I’m in 20s and so is my male cousins. I love them but they all are on the wrong track. They live with these young women who take care of them. It’s not cool we’re all young and these ladies are on the wrong track. I’m so blessed to be me 🤷🏽♀️
This truly breaks my heart. I thought the younger generation of women is on track of breaking these toxic cycles of taking care of a man, proving their worth and settling for dusty men.
This is a very deep and concise video that every women including myself need to listen to on a daily...or at least for 30 consecutive days. Sometimes we can be our own worst critique ladies and we need to stop. Brush yourself and try again the next day. Thanks Chloe!
I am committed to myself and loving myself. I’ve been in abusive relationships cause I lowered my self worth to uplift a low value man. No more DONE! Thanks Chloe I am me and growing like. Lotus flower and basking in my feminist. It is my birth right period
This is a great video, I’m glad to know that I’m doing the right things . I started working on my self a few months ago because I found I lost myself(which I promised my younger self I would never do) and what do you know it happened anyway. But after my dusty tried it for the last time I was like “Queen what are you doing?!” I started working on my self kick the dusty to the side started manifesting and learning how to vibrate on a higher level and things are going well like really good for me ! Then I found this channel , which not everything apples to me but the things that do just confirms what I already knew but was too afraid to listen too my (inner self)
It's been one year I've started my level up journey. The beginning was difficult, i was so ashame of myself for letting so much fuckboy play with the queen i am.I was alone and broke. Then, i started to grind like no one, to provide to myself what i desired. I was just surrounding myself with great female youtubers, hypergamous girlfriends...oh i level my mental so up that even my Mom is impress by the wisdom i gain. Then i met, great men, providers, protectors, i was litterally feeling like a diva. I have atrract so much more opportunies that i don't have to do a low job anymore. But now i have to decide which one these 2 greats Men i am dating i have to choose. The two have proposed to me. I don't feel the need to rush no more but i am tired of having so much date ahaha Love hypergamy!Feels so good to kill all my giants! Thank you @Chloe may God bless you with all your needs and beyond your expectations in life (Sorry i am a French speaker)
Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, when you said take care of the little girl inside you, something came over me and immediately I see myself different just because I have never looked at it that way with my insecure self now. When I try to work on myself in my imagination I will feel like I owe it to that little girl inside me. Awesome video.
I love this channel..❤️, I never knew any of these things growing up as a young lady...and most of my friends grew up the same.....you don't realize you're settling and have settled until someone shows you what settling looks like..I appreciate your truth...thanks Chloe..
I decided to seek out therapy and on a daily I combat the negative subconscious thinking. But watching videos like yours every day seriously does help.
I have listened to this message several times...it is AWESOME and nothing, but the TRUTH. More POWER to US women. May God continue to guide US. Let's make the BEST decisions for US. Thank you, Chloe, for this powerful and motivating message.
THIS. RIGHT. HERE. When she said that that outside narratives becomes more important than the inner voice-I felt that IN MY SOUL. Thank you, Chloe, for all that you do.
This is so great, Chloe. Thank you! I was trippin because I attracted another narcissist and was feeling like it was my fault. Nope! I am still awesome! I had to get off social media, stop listening to the news, limit negative interactions and conversations with my family and associates and make time for myself EVERY day. Implementing an exercise routine and practicing daily gratitude also helped me. Good luck, hypergamous hive!! xx
Thank you for helping women understand their self worth. As women we need to love and forgive ourselves. I couldn't agree more and bless you for these videos of encouragement. You are my sistah from another mistah🤣🙏🏼💛💯
I love this!!!!! I’ve stopped wishing that I could’ve learned this earlier in my life, because our journeys are individual and already written. I am extremely blessed to have discovered all that I’m learning now. And I’m looking forward to passing this along to my niece (she’s currently 9yrs), and to my daughters that I will have one day 🙏🏾 I also look forward to leveling up! It’s gonna be EPIC!
I freaking luv luv luv you....you are so intelligent, straight-forward, inspiring and so many other wonderful things. What you are giving us women is invaluable. Thank you sooo much chloe. You are giving lessons our moms weren't equipped to give.
Chloe you are helping so many of us with this content. As a black woman a large part of my growth cane from accepting the fact that my femininity was practically non existent. And what I thought was femininity was only surface area things. Spirituality helped me tap into DIVINE Femininity which is an entirely different ball game.
Great video Chloe as always. Im so glad you touched on this issue because i think alot of bw struggle in this area particularly. I challenge every bw on this channel before the end of the year to go on a self love journey. I did and it made such a difference in EVERY area of my life. How you approach All relationships with men & women will improve. But most of all you will improve the relationship with yourself. My grandmother told me the best love affair you can ever have is with yourself ❤️
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is a great book and a must read for all. I realized and admitted I had a low self-esteem. This book was the beginning of my transformation. Good luck ladies! Remember you are worthy and appropriate for all your blessings:) The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is a psychology book written by Dr. Nathaniel Branden. Dr. Branden is known as the "father" of the Self-Esteem movement and this book is his most popular work. The book describes what the author believes are the key elements that raise or lower the self-esteem of an individual.The Six Pillars are: The Practice of Living ConsciouslyThe Practice of Self-AcceptanceThe Practice of Self-ResponsibilityThe Practice of Self-AssertivenessThe Practice of Living PurposefullyThe Practice of Personal Integrity
your content has done so much for me i feel like im getting better everyday with yeah still some slip ups but the difference now i actually get back up and keep going. i still have alot to work with self esteem but i have you and other youtbbers and now an active conscious to keep staying on my best to keep shaping myself. and with all this change im think im finally loving myself. thank you
I can not stress this enough you are so amazing like you really need your own table talk couch talk etc. I’m currently trynna heal myself from a toxic relationship from a narcissistic person. He has done so much damage to me mentally I have to get back to me. I know what my issue is. It brews from my childhood starting with my mom. My normal was to be called outta my name and I’m not nothing etc so I starting dating and thought this wasn’t nothing I wasn’t use to. I became numb to just settling for low value guys. I’m here today to value up. No dating, no sex, no negative energy. I’m truly working on myself to healing myself. It gets hard. I cry I get lazy I overthink etc I have flash backs of the abuse I get angry I go through all kinds of emotions. Like he knows he hurt me to my core and now he is going to each and any chick doing the same thing. Since being in the house with the unfortunate events taking place in America I’ve been writing again I thought to myself I need to write my story. It helps to get it out and maybe I can help another woman to know her value her worth. Chloe you are really a big help a voice of reasoning no b.s you give it to us ladies raw and uncut I totally appreciate that. You rock ma’am ❣️💜
I had someone who wanted to lower my self esteem and I have a relationship with myself so it’s hard to destroy that ,he called me high maintenance,I look like a man since I work out.I knew it was coming from me setting strong boundaries and not allowing his dusty in my life
I started well with the femininity check and a month later saw more difference but I got negative comments and more hate and I fell back and got impressed by a guy who had a good car and gave in now I feel like I'm starting all over again 😭 thank you for your continuous reminder Chloe 😍 😘major lesson I forgot is rinse wear and repeat daily not only on weekends ❤️
Really appreciate this video, especially for the black community. On my journey I’ve noticed that there’s this animosity I receive from dusties who have failed to con me, haggle my standards down, or simply do not like my energy that’s confident and happy alone and not moving in desperation. Had a man during a date express that he felt like I wasn’t trying to impress him. This was after I turned down a drink date, and we decided to do an activity. Right before this mention he was being critical of the activity (mini golf) as ‘bougie’ to which I said I was having fun and it’s a cute activity to do. It was clear that even though he agreed to ‘meet’ my standards for dating, he wasn’t happy about it and wanted assurance he was either getting something out of me or that I should be ‘grateful’ for the date. Beyond polite appreciation he got nothing from me at the end. He took himself out with saying that he’s gotten way more out of women like me (infer from that what you will) for less via text. I told him I hope he finds that ‘less’ he’s looking for.
Follow The Hypergamous Hive on Instagram:
instagram.com/hypergamoushive/
Y’all sometimes I’m afraid to click on these videos because they get me sooo mad thinking about the mess I used to tolerate! 🤬
Yes! Like wow how could l be so dumb 😪
Angel Nicole I’m at work and a tear came out my eye... it’s true. I’m learning and working on myself everyday and change does come when you value yourself 🙏🏾
Girl I’m disappointed with my old self and what I used to allow just be thankful for growth.. ladies chk out my video on never Negotiating ur value💕
Right there with you, girl. That’s where forgiving yourself comes in. Forgive yourself, and FORWARRRRD MARCH!!!
Lol 🤣
Eat right, stay away from fast foods, eat salads and veggies drink water, go to the gym take care of the little girl in you..don't let people who don't matter influence you...CHECK!!
Tracey Lennon well said
Thank you, yes maam!!! @Barbara Butler
YES YES AND AMEN!!!!
Absolutely
An ENTIRE MANIFESTO ON LIVING IN THE GLORY OF YOUR FEMININE!
"Many of you will require professional help" This is a MAJOR problem in the black community. Especially amongst black men. They expect women to pick up where the mother's left off and help to heal them. No sir.
@49jubilee AND IT SHOWS. My goodness it's an epidemic. That's why I'm adamant about my children growing up in a two parent FUNCTIONAL home.
My ex called me. and told me he was feeling depressed and lonely i hung up and blocked him (hope he didnt rope himself because that would be unfortunate )......nah im bugging i really dont give a shit i aint yo mammy!!.👅
Why do so many people put all of the responsibility on women? It is not the mother’s job to teach a boy how to be a man.
I suggested professional therapy to my X and he dumped me.
@ He is and he did! Thank you
I wish I had someone like you to talk to 20 years ago.
Our Excellent Life My sentiments EXACTLY!!!
I thought the same thing. I'm 38 and can only do better from here on out.
@@chirondamoore304 You're right. Im 38 about to be divorced from a dusty and the sky is the limit.
I just sent this video to a gf and said the same thing
I had someone and I ignored it. Wasted time. Its because I didn't think I could do better. Now at 46. I'll never deal with dusty behavior again.
When she said “eat salads” I really felt that. Not only does it keep your weight balanced, but it fine tunes your cells, and you really CAN hear your intuition more clearly.
Interesting
Facts
Yes, low value men feed off of and use women with low self esteem.
Martha Divine so true
NOTHING BUT STRAIGHT FACTS .
Trifling men need a woman to have low self esteem so that he can mistreat her and she will never leave. He may say some things to her about her features and how it could be better...all to make her feel insecure. It happened to one of my friends years ago. And to this day she is still insecure about her body...smh
@@nmc1859 Exactly!!
@lashownas Smh....I'm so sorry you had to go through that terrible experience. You truly deserve better!!
lashownas I had the same situation happen to me but he never brought down my confidence. God did a lot of work to give me a very high self esteem and I did not let that go to waste no matter what demeaning stuff ppl to say me. I be like cool and keep it moving. I just felt bad for the dude and knew he was trying to bring me down bc he had a low self esteem. I made it out still confident and still good looking. I’m so glad to be dust free. 😆
Happened to me
I have to forgive myself for letting myself be brainwashed. He told me constantly that no one would find me attractive while I was getting hit on by men constantly smh...
Yes gurl ! Men try so hard to diminish your self esteem bc they don’t want u to know how valuable u are and they want u on their raggedy level ... I just did a video on this lol
I subbed u.. All the best on ur journey
Rokanaak Banaduak thank u
@@apriljoixrush So true. I'm also a new subbie to you. 😊
Antionette Alexis thank u
Subbie
Please tell these black women to get therapy! I started talking to a therapist in high school when my narcissistic mother tried to make everyone think I was crazy. It was the best thing she ever did for me. Her plan backfired tho, and it only made HER look crazier.
the Empress girl my father is doing this now that he realizes he can’t overpower me.
My mother is one of these evil ugly old narcissistic witches too.
the Empress I’m actually asking my father to help me seek justice on my mother for the abuse & trauma she forced me to endure as a child.
"Mind the hypergamous business that pays you." - Chloe 👍👏👏
That was a word 💐💞💯💯💯🙏🙏💎
Those who are struggling with low self esteem, listen to this. The key is manifestation. Act as if you already have high self esteem. Orchestrate it in EVERY part of your life. It takes time but with practice, it will come natural and be a part of you✨.
Yes! Manifestation!!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I like to get a pretty journal each new year and write down my goals. Write about what I accomplished and how it makes me feel. Even small victories like learning a new recipe or reading a book can do so much.
@@mochamommyATX that's a great idea!
Yup. Make it a habit until it’s second nature!
People should always be working on their self esteem. It’s like exercise. You can’t do it for a little bit and expect results to last forever. No one is confident and secure 24/7. Recognizing your own emotions and learning how to control them helps you have habits that kick in when doubt and guilt tries to creep on you.
Would you have any tips on how to start?
hea sku I like to learn about habits a lot. I started with reading different books about it and now I just pay attention to people and pick up patterns that people have. Habits have a HUGE effect on people’s mood, behavior and decision making. I also made a vow to myself to choose joy over anger and peace over suffering. You’d be surprised at what happens when you remind yourself that peace, joy and happiness is a choice! I think we forget that a lot.
purplekitty I think with black women we have it hardest 🤷🏽♀️
Peter Guildford Only if you tell yourself that. I noticed that black people convince themselves the worst things about themselves and when you only hangout with black people you think that behavior is normal. I think since Hip Hop became mainstream black culture has become something very aggressive, mean and disrespectful. Bad is good and good is lame. Unfortunately this has taken the heaviest toll on black women because black men can at least make it seem masculine. The silver lining is that since this was taught it can also be untaught. First positive thing I taught myself is that any disadvantage can turn into an advantage if your clever enough.
@@purplekitty Could you tell me the name of the books you read pleaseeee
I can't lie, my self-esteem is trash, i'm learning to forgive myself often for the things i'm doing to myself. I've had an issue with being hard on myself for so long.
You are worth SO much more than ANY mistake that you made. By admitting that you need better self care is half of the journey.
@@mochamommyATX thanks so much! I'm just so hard on myself when I do something that I know I shouldn't have done.
You’ve got this girl! It’s a journey and the universe was just showing you what you needed to address within. Be kind and feel the lesson 🌺
@@mochamommyATX that was so sweet. I even felt that in my spirit. ☺
Start with not saying that anymore...💜💜💜
"Put yourself first!" I used to feel guilty and like I was being selfish when I would even think about doing something just for me. I was always burned out. Not anymore. I take my me time when I need it.
Same here, I have been burnt out, broken now I'm not doing it no more, it still a long road ahead but I'm taking it one day at a time, and finally will get there.
“Do not ask me to help you with your dusty”😭😭☠️ Lol you better say it again this stuff is serious!
Right! Never let a man tell you he doesn’t want you twice!
Imani Mott Took me out !!! 🤣🤣😩
I dated a guy who made 90k a year and he was still like this. Even often spoke of other women he dated in the past, bringing up their careers. Half of it wasn’t even true. I can tell when he is lying. He definitely wanted me to feel some type of way.
Girl, they are sleezy mofo's trying to influence your thinking to benefit their selfish needs. Do not fall into that trap.
You've accomplished a lot. The next man you meet will never be able to take away your shine
The point of forgiving yourself is so important! I beat myself up for so long giving a guy I knew was trash a chance because I was desperate and my self esteem was low. He taught me a value lesson because he screwed me over hard 🤣🤣
I was like “See, now this is what happens when you lower your standards and are thirsty for attention. Never again.”
And I meant that 🤣
WoahhItsMonica girl, I just recently went through the same thing. It has taught me to build my standards and focus on sticking to them.
AquaApp App Honey..... nothing hurts more than being played by a man you lowered your standards for. Good lord! The ego bruising 🤣
Happened to me To. With an ugly albino. A FUCKING ALBINO 😂 Nigga new I had low self esteem issues yet still persisted on beating me down. Learned some valuable lessons from it. My vibration and energy has changed now. NEVER AGAIN!
@BoogieBae lol girl Im still laughing about it to this day😂
EVERYBODY in life that I decided not to judge for their lack of accomplishments or refinement, ended up judging me harshly for minor misunderstandings or disagreements. Have high standards, Ladies!
Notice how there are no men in the comment section attacking us? Because this is true!
To be honest we just decided to just enjoy the show of y'all steamrolling to the wall. It's a reason why you don't see any 50+ year old feminist, it's because they woke up and realized it was all a lie. We have no problem with women becoming quality women but she's not teaching y'all how to be quality Women but is teaching y'all how to hit the wall faster
"Your dusty does not want to be saved" 😂😂😂
So let us drown them 🏊♂️
I agree
@49jubilee ummmm. It takes a real man to know that he needs to change, then do the work himself to change, n get his own job. Technology /research ( seek n you will find) many a mentor, someone to look up to, n to listen to. Just like this channel is to to help n uplift WOMEN. If a real man really wants it, he will get " it ", rather or not a personal mentor is in place
☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
BigDreams CAB accept people for who they are ... not their “potential”
Also ladies, when your esteem is low PLEASE DON'T DATE ANYONE. Work on the little girl in you, your fintness, your nutrition, your femininity, your spirituality, and your goals.
LOVE FROM ALASKA!💋👠👑
Absolutely. Since age 17 iv been in long term relationships not even 9 months apart. One 3 and half year relationship followed by a 4 year marriage to another man. Ive never really took time to heal or work on myself, just a 6month THOT phase in between, smdh🤦🏽♀️ now I'm 26, soon to be divorced, obese, heavy drunker with low self esteem and low confidence. I got tons of work ahead of me, but I'm looking forward to the journey of finally learning to love myself and date myself❤
💜💜
What I like about this channel is that you give harsh truths with a light at the end of the tunnel.
I forgive myself for being human, for making mistakes like every human has made, releasing myself from my past will go nicely with my new dress, my red lipstick, and best of all, my smarter future ... Cheers to us ladies 🥂
Kanessa Wafer amen
My narc ex once told me that the type of woman that is attracted to him are those with daddy issues 🙄🙄🙄 He was always trying to convince me that I was wounded because my dad wasn’t present in my life as a child. Though it did effect my self esteem growing up, my deep issues stemmed way more from my narc mother. He always dismissed my sentiment on that. I wonder why... 🙄
She is telling y'all nothing but the TRUTH 💯
💯💯🙏🙏💞💎
This is absolutely correct a lot of men NEED your self esteem to be rock bottom in order to control you and have you scared to loose them! Always put yourself first!
Absolutely Chloe! The craziest thing going on now in these streets is men who have simply given up understanding a womans self worth because so many women have none! It's a vicious cycle that has to end with the ladies!
This video has sunk way deep in my soul. After taking a long long review of the men that I have attracted, I certainly know that I am a empath and I'm attracting narc selfish low-ball angry men. You see a co-dependent man needs a woman with low self-esteem so he could either furnish his lifestyle or have a place to stay. Chloe is right!! It has been a 4 year process and I'm still on a healing path, but with these videos is a whole new perspective that I thought about but now I hear it and it's in my face. Black women who are Daddyless daughters you have to deal with the little girl inside as Chloe has stated she's wounded and these type of men are attracted to us like bees to honey.
So true especially if you have been told you are not worthy all your life it even worst when you have a physical default ( like a lazy eye) in my own case I'm saving up money to fix it and my self esteem before the end of this month and I know the universe will help me I sorry for saying so much
@@afishetumohammed2834 AND YOUR STILL BEAUTIFUL, AND DESERVES THE BEST LIFE HAS TO OFFER.🤗
Thank you
“Feeling worthy is what vibrationally keeps low-value men away.” -Chloe 🌸
That is going on my refrigerator door right now! #vibehigh 💚
So true. Me raising my vibration has improved my outlook. Now I demand respect from the onset. These higher standards scare dusty men away almost immediately…
I wish a dude would come to me talking about help a brotha out and help him build life..... Ummmmm No. I’m not bob the builder. I’m not contributing to your dusty ass table. I am the guest of honor and the prize 🙌🏾🔥♥️
M Lane exactly. Smh
Unfortunately, this happened to me. I was 31 and I met this guy. I thought he was nice he was about 7-8 years older. We started dating. His exact words were, "I'm looking for some one that can help me" So I figured maybe I can help him and if I need help he can help me. WRONG!!! I got HIM a new cell phone AND paid the bill. Come to find out he had a WHOLE relationship with another woman. She was an older woman and he even moved in with her! I felt like the fool of the year. So no, RUN if a man don't have it together. Don't help build a man that should have come assembled. 🏃💨
@M Lane exactly. I went in with good intentions and a poor sense of judgement. The red flag was present and I didn't see it waving. The only thing he brought to the table was dick and games. A person will show you what their true intentions are in the very beginning if you pay attention and look at the signs. I wish I had this channel to listen to it would have saved me time and money. 😟
Laurita Polk I’m sorry
@@Melanie-le6mw Awww, thank you 😁 that made my day feel like ☀🌴😎😀
A dusty that wanted me and who I was clearly not attracted to, said I thought I was better and was looking down on him based on what he did not have. I was honest with him and told him he needed to work on himself if he is trying to attract the type of woman that he wants.
Lady Jay there was a dusty that worked in the same building as me, and he told my coworker that I ‘acted stuck up’ around him. Um, I didn’t like him
Dusty men looking for a saviour. They need a woman who doesnt know her worth to abuse/use her.. great advice again Chloe.
Thanks for this video Chloe. I really needed this. I'm struggling so hard with self forgiveness because I'm just angry at myself for tolerating so much bs, disrespect, and pain at the expense of another person's benefit and happiness. I could've avoided so much drama had I put myself first and had stopped being self sacrificing. Never again. I'm currently on my level up journey and I will never look back. There are NO benefits in being self sacrificing. Be selfish with your time and energy ladies. Be selfish with your entire being because you're all you have!!!💯
Loving and supporting someone you love is not a sin, it's what we as women were built to DO. His sin was not valuing the gift he was given in YOU. Go forward with STRONGER VALUES and higher standards and know that YOUR love is a blessing.
Thank you for sharing. Self-Forgiveness is a must. When we beat up on ourselves we attract men (and people) who will beat up on US. Keep growing and always put yourself first. And if you have a daughter or a future daughter...teach your daughter the same.
My daughter name is Chloe. I hope she has your wisdom. I made so many mistakes as a young adult...
thatspeachlife it’s okay boo you still have more life to live❤️
Chloe: "Your self esteem..." Yess Sis😭 *clicks like*
Lol.
You can repeatedly attract what you are. Do the work and watch your life change! Right Chloe! Speak life to yourself!
I can’t for the life of me understand why a woman would want help or advice on a relationship with a GROWN tail man that doesn’t provide or treat her with respect... why would anyone want to keep a man like that around? I can struggle by my damn self. The whole point in having a man is so that I don’t have to struggle or worry about little to nothing.
Prism Matthews exactly! They’re supposed to make your life easier. Otherwise, what’s the point?
SheRRí Nícole yess Chile a lot of women r desperate n don’t want to be lonely
Watching from Morocco ❤
Greetings from Texas! Just curious, are there similar dating issues there?
@@ShelbySteele23 yes I can say it's almost the same thing. the only advantage that you guys im the US have or in Europe is that there is plenty of fish in the sea unlike the Moroccan men here due to the country's situation as it is a 3d World country . your chances of Finding a wealthy man are very rare and slim.
@@sweetpotato1794 try dating online,finding men in wealthier countries. Also, the man doesn't have to be rich, but he must be richer than you.
If he's too rich, he might marry more wives, that's another issue that arises with your religion, unfortunately.
Much love and respect Morocco and stay safe and be blessed 💐💯🙏💞💎
@Fifi much love and respect UK 💐💯🙏💞💎
I used to struggle with my self worth/esteem in my late teens but after my early 20s, all that went away slowly but surely & now in my 30s, I don’t have time for the bs 😎 nor anyone trying to make me feel less than or question myself to appease their funky asses
"hypergany stops exploitation dead in its tracks" boom!! Never allowing myself to be exploited ever again #bye
Gurl! I don’t need to go to church this week because you have PREACHED tuh-DAY!!! Where were you 15...20 years ago??!! I wish I had known all this sooner...but here’s to forgiving myself TODAY, and moving forward! Thank you for all of your “right-on-time” messages!
I see this all the time. I’m in 20s and so is my male cousins. I love them but they all are on the wrong track. They live with these young women who take care of them. It’s not cool we’re all young and these ladies are on the wrong track. I’m so blessed to be me 🤷🏽♀️
This truly breaks my heart. I thought the younger generation of women is on track of breaking these toxic cycles of taking care of a man, proving their worth and settling for dusty men.
This video is soooo on point👍👍👍 self-forgiveness is so important for maximum growth.
Hey Lady!
So true! Mentally stable men with good self- esteem run from women with low self-esteem, and vice versa.
This is a very deep and concise video that every women including myself need to listen to on a daily...or at least for 30 consecutive days. Sometimes we can be our own worst critique ladies and we need to stop. Brush yourself and try again the next day. Thanks Chloe!
They say the truth hurts....,,,but knowledge is power.......😃😀wake up call for all........
“Forgive yourself every day” I love that. I didn’t know that when I was young. I will make sure my daughter does.
You have the perfect local news reporter voice
I am committed to myself and loving myself. I’ve been in abusive relationships cause I lowered my self worth to uplift a low value man. No more DONE! Thanks Chloe I am me and growing like. Lotus flower and basking in my feminist. It is my birth right period
Hell he could have money, and have his stuff together on paper and still mistreat you.
the queen back with another video!! we stan
I'm playing this video over and over again till I have it practically memorized.
This is golden, men can sense real self esteem. Not the grandstanding look at me type. But the type of confidence that is intrinsic. 👍🏽
Lol 😂, She said with your shake and go Wig , Chloe you funny and right at the same time... Love your content ❤️
This is a great video, I’m glad to know that I’m doing the right things . I started working on my self a few months ago because I found I lost myself(which I promised my younger self I would never do) and what do you know it happened anyway. But after my dusty tried it for the last time I was like “Queen what are you doing?!” I started working on my self kick the dusty to the side started manifesting and learning how to vibrate on a higher level and things are going well like really good for me !
Then I found this channel , which not everything apples to me but the things that do just confirms what I already knew but was too afraid to listen too my (inner self)
Your work is invaluable to all women, thank you. ❤️
It's been one year I've started my level up journey.
The beginning was difficult, i was so ashame of myself for letting so much fuckboy play with the queen i am.I was alone and broke.
Then, i started to grind like no one, to provide to myself what i desired.
I was just surrounding myself with great female youtubers, hypergamous girlfriends...oh i level my mental so up that even my Mom is impress by the wisdom i gain.
Then i met, great men, providers, protectors, i was litterally feeling like a diva. I have atrract so much more opportunies that i don't have to do a low job anymore.
But now i have to decide which one these 2 greats Men i am dating i have to choose. The two have proposed to me.
I don't feel the need to rush no more but i am tired of having so much date ahaha
Love hypergamy!Feels so good to kill all my giants!
Thank you @Chloe may God bless you with all your needs and beyond your expectations in life
(Sorry i am a French speaker)
Happy for you queen....never take off your crown 👑
*Feels attacked but takes it as loving correction from an auntie*
One of the best memes I ever saw...
*"I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR TAKING SHIT I DIDN'T DESERVE!"*
Thank you thank you thank you. And don't do the guilt and shame on other women either. Predators thrive on the isolated
Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, when you said take care of the little girl inside you, something came over me and immediately I see myself different just because I have never looked at it that way with my insecure self now. When I try to work on myself in my imagination I will feel like I owe it to that little girl inside me. Awesome video.
I love this channel..❤️, I never knew any of these things growing up as a young lady...and most of my friends grew up the same.....you don't realize you're settling and have settled until someone shows you what settling looks like..I appreciate your truth...thanks Chloe..
A shake n go wig 😂😂
I decided to seek out therapy and on a daily I combat the negative subconscious thinking. But watching videos like yours every day seriously does help.
I have listened to this message several times...it is AWESOME and nothing, but the TRUTH. More POWER to US women. May God continue to guide US. Let's make the BEST decisions for US. Thank you, Chloe, for this powerful and motivating message.
Dust to the three Dusties who unliked this! Thank you for schooling is Chloe!
THIS. RIGHT. HERE.
When she said that that outside narratives becomes more important than the inner voice-I felt that IN MY SOUL.
Thank you, Chloe, for all that you do.
This is so great, Chloe. Thank you!
I was trippin because I attracted another narcissist and was feeling like it was my fault. Nope! I am still awesome! I had to get off social media, stop listening to the news, limit negative interactions and conversations with my family and associates and make time for myself EVERY day. Implementing an exercise routine and practicing daily gratitude also helped me.
Good luck, hypergamous hive!! xx
Thank you for helping women understand their self worth. As women we need to love and forgive ourselves. I couldn't agree more and bless you for these videos of encouragement. You are my sistah from another mistah🤣🙏🏼💛💯
When a woman has low self esteem its very dangerous. Many people not just men will use and abuse her repeatedly. And she will feel that its okay.
@ That is so true!!!
Forgive myself for everything, every day. Thank you.🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I love this!!!!! I’ve stopped wishing that I could’ve learned this earlier in my life, because our journeys are individual and already written. I am extremely blessed to have discovered all that I’m learning now. And I’m looking forward to passing this along to my niece (she’s currently 9yrs), and to my daughters that I will have one day 🙏🏾 I also look forward to leveling up! It’s gonna be EPIC!
I freaking luv luv luv you....you are so intelligent, straight-forward, inspiring and so many other wonderful things. What you are giving us women is invaluable. Thank you sooo much chloe. You are giving lessons our moms weren't equipped to give.
Great content. She forgot to mention weekly facials and to STOP prioritizing sex...especially in relationships that are not reciprocal.
Chloe you’re a true angel my dear. Ladies listen to her; place yourself first and please for yourself no matter your age forgive yourself!!!!
What kind of innerG readings you be doing 👀
I pray for healing for every sister out there who does not believe that she deserves the best that God intended for her.
So glad RUclips suggested your page after watching women like Asha and SheRaSeven often.
Chloe you are helping so many of us with this content. As a black woman a large part of my growth cane from accepting the fact that my femininity was practically non existent. And what I thought was femininity was only surface area things. Spirituality helped me tap into DIVINE Femininity which is an entirely different ball game.
The truths you tell are hard to swallow, but I’m grateful for you. ❤️
I've been getting professional help for years to repair my self esteem....getting there 👑
So much truth in this video.
You always get me blinking, buck shots and hollering with these adjectives!. Keep at these videos, you must! Thank you
🗣 YES TO EVERYTHING SHE SAID!!!!!!!
Great video Chloe as always. Im so glad you touched on this issue because i think alot of bw struggle in this area particularly.
I challenge every bw on this channel before the end of the year to go on a self love journey. I did and it made such a difference in EVERY area of my life. How you approach All relationships with men & women will improve. But most of all you will improve the relationship with yourself. My grandmother told me the best love affair you can ever have is with yourself ❤️
I like Chloe's channel because I feel like it's what's next after self healing. 💞
I wish i had this channel in my 20s. But its better late than never!!! Now they cant penetrate my wall of standards! Thank you!
🎻😭
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is a great book and a must read for all. I realized and admitted I had a low self-esteem. This book was the beginning of my transformation. Good luck ladies! Remember you are worthy and appropriate for all your blessings:) The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is a psychology book written by Dr. Nathaniel Branden. Dr. Branden is known as the "father" of the Self-Esteem movement and this book is his most popular work. The book describes what the author believes are the key elements that raise or lower the self-esteem of an individual.The Six Pillars are: The Practice of Living ConsciouslyThe Practice of Self-AcceptanceThe Practice of Self-ResponsibilityThe Practice of Self-AssertivenessThe Practice of Living PurposefullyThe Practice of Personal Integrity
your content has done so much for me i feel like im getting better everyday with yeah still some slip ups but the difference now i actually get back up and keep going. i still have alot to work with self esteem but i have you and other youtbbers and now an active conscious to keep staying on my best to keep shaping myself. and with all this change im think im finally loving myself. thank you
This is so powerful thank you... 💓
forever dropping gems! Chloe,you are God's gift to women❤
Yes lawd. Hey 👋🏽 Chloe. Have a great day.
Heey!
Your channel showed up in my suggestions. I’m so glad it did❤️
I can not stress this enough you are so amazing like you really need your own table talk couch talk etc. I’m currently trynna heal myself from a toxic relationship from a narcissistic person. He has done so much damage to me mentally I have to get back to me. I know what my issue is. It brews from my childhood starting with my mom. My normal was to be called outta my name and I’m not nothing etc so I starting dating and thought this wasn’t nothing I wasn’t use to. I became numb to just settling for low value guys. I’m here today to value up. No dating, no sex, no negative energy. I’m truly working on myself to healing myself. It gets hard. I cry I get lazy I overthink etc I have flash backs of the abuse I get angry I go through all kinds of emotions. Like he knows he hurt me to my core and now he is going to each and any chick doing the same thing. Since being in the house with the unfortunate events taking place in America I’ve been writing again I thought to myself I need to write my story. It helps to get it out and maybe I can help another woman to know her value her worth. Chloe you are really a big help a voice of reasoning no b.s you give it to us ladies raw and uncut I totally appreciate that. You rock ma’am ❣️💜
Shake & Go wig!!! 😭😭 Your voice gets me every time!! ✅
I had someone who wanted to lower my self esteem and I have a relationship with myself so it’s hard to destroy that ,he called me high maintenance,I look like a man since I work out.I knew it was coming from me setting strong boundaries and not allowing his dusty in my life
💚💚💚Love from Trinidad. This message came at the right time. Thank you God bless you
Chloe your videos are always on point & you’re so well spoken! I’m always clicking as soon as l see you uploaded! Much love ❤️
I started well with the femininity check and a month later saw more difference but I got negative comments and more hate and I fell back and got impressed by a guy who had a good car and gave in now I feel like I'm starting all over again 😭 thank you for your continuous reminder Chloe 😍 😘major lesson I forgot is rinse wear and repeat daily not only on weekends ❤️
Thank you Chloe ... God bless you and everyone in Jesus name Amen!!!
Omg, keep em comin😁😁😁im ready.. That little girl inside of me deserves this. Thank you
Really appreciate this video, especially for the black community. On my journey I’ve noticed that there’s this animosity I receive from dusties who have failed to con me, haggle my standards down, or simply do not like my energy that’s confident and happy alone and not moving in desperation.
Had a man during a date express that he felt like I wasn’t trying to impress him. This was after I turned down a drink date, and we decided to do an activity. Right before this mention he was being critical of the activity (mini golf) as ‘bougie’ to which I said I was having fun and it’s a cute activity to do. It was clear that even though he agreed to ‘meet’ my standards for dating, he wasn’t happy about it and wanted assurance he was either getting something out of me or that I should be ‘grateful’ for the date. Beyond polite appreciation he got nothing from me at the end.
He took himself out with saying that he’s gotten way more out of women like me (infer from that what you will) for less via text. I told him I hope he finds that ‘less’ he’s looking for.