As a child I was naturally very sensitive and nurturing. Instead of these traits being cultivated, I was told I'm weak because of my sensitive traits. I feel like a lot of my softness was beat out of me.
Being sensitive also means being compassionate. You care about what you and other people feel so you're likely a person who doesn't like to hurt others. It's your strength, not everyone can possess such characteristic.
I’m a guy that found this video looking for examples of positive masculinity. Just commenting to say that it seems like both men and women are trying to ‘find our way back’ and become more in tune with our gender roles. Femininity is beautiful; thanks for sharing it.
As to masculinity my Grandfather always said a man has to be strong and decent. Many of the values and morals from the 60s and 70s were very good.. not all of course. Im a traditional man. Its good your looking at both sides.. The ying and the yang... woman and men...
It feels like the proverbial pendulum has swung quite hard in favour of abandoning traditional gender roles...it would be so nice to see a return to more of a balanced society in the future, where women can be respected and celebrated as both motivated CEOs and supportive mothers, and vice-versa/similar for men too. I've lived as both a tough, androgynous tomboy, and now as a feminine woman, and honestly I find it more natural and relaxing to lean into the softer aspects of womanhood. 🌷
That's true ! Well said ,I like that too 👏🥰 bc if you come from that perspective then you aren't coming from the inside. It's like trying to cover a wound with make up to make it look pretty but deep down the wound hasn't been addressed. The core issue ;)
I’ve grown so much because I used to pride myself on being very rude, outspoken and independent. I thought it made me powerful, although it was detrimental to my well-being, I’m learning that being gentle and kind is powerful too. Thank you 🌷💌
It's the same with me. My mother is a very loud, hostile, masculine woman as are my sister's. My mother and sisters are so masculine that they are frequently mistaken for men. I had a really bad example but I've grown into my femininity.
@@richasf3533 Why should being dependant mean the relationship should turn abusive ? We all cant stem the World and need one another. Effetively there are hardly any really true independent people, as we all rely on other people in society. A partner is there to support, not to abuse.
@@richasf3533 Dear Sasa, I think its normal in life and in a relationship a give and take. The person you are describing should also give, not only take. For example when having children one person has to stay at home and look after the kids. In the old days or in nature the nurturing person would be vunerable and reliant on the provider in that moment and could not be independent.. one needed each other. Today life has become much easier. In a relationship I see it more as teamwork, but reliant on each other. When you can trust someone you can rely on them. A good relationship works like that. You are right any form of abuse is terrible and should not be tolerated. Love and Respect.
I had a friend like that. She pushed so many men away but she pushed me away as well. No longer friends. I love a soft and feminine friend. It’s rare. I want a good bff one day.
A feminine Woman is in no way weak. She is beautiful fragile like a flower.. a rose. Do we therefore consider a rose as weak ? No, but as truely valuable and honour, cherish, protect and love it for its true beauty. Femininty is the true power Woman have over men.
@@Notawesomeatall7 Yass. I never understood why people said life isn't like a bed of roses, I always ask myself "doesn't roses have thorns?" Life can be beautiful but there are some thorns we gotta face.
When she said “gentleness is how young girls play with their dolls” : I was reminded of 6 year old me breaking my dolls limbs in an effort to make it confess that it’s real like in Toy story 😭
Your comment about kindness disarming people while in conflict is so true. I used to work at a restaurant where the cook was just hostile to everyone. One day it was just him and I and he YELLED at me when I made a mistake and gestured to me and was just speaking very aggressively to me and I just calmly apologized for my mistake and that I'd be more careful next time and he shut up for the rest of the shift. At the end of the night he PRAISED me for how I handled his anger. He said that he struggles with anger issues and that all the other waitresses just yell back at him and work becomes very hostile and unpleasant. He said I was graceful and so mature and he felt so sorry for talking to me that way. We were great friends after that up until I left town.
I mean I totally get what you did and I think you reacted well. BUT if he has anger issues that doesn’t mean everyone around him should walk on eggshells so they don’t make him angry. What I’m trying to say if you have an issue with dealing with people you go and try to solve it and better yourself not ask everyone to act a certain way around you because you have an “issue” Everyone deserves respect, he was blaming the rest of the waitresses for yelling back at him while HE started yelling and disrespecting them! I will never just accept being disrespected for such a stupid mistake I made, I don’t agree with yelling in any situation and i agree with the point about kindness, but that doesn’t mean letting people treat me with disrespect!
I’ve tried this technique with my father. All the calm apologizing may of calmed him down temporarily but it never led to an apology. The last time I tried this, I said “I’m sorry that I forgot, it was a genuine mistake. I had no intention of trying to ruin your vacation” He slapped me and said he was tired of the B.S apologizing. He accused me of lying and secretly hating him. In that moment what he said became true. The closest thing to an apology I ever got from him was “I’m sorry, but…” What you did may work the first time, but if you have to do it repeatedly it’s probably not worth it
@@farahalsabbagh9740 THIS!!! this is why I struggle so freaking hard. Because I am feminine and soft unless I’m dealing with someone who is consistently toxic and hurtful to me. And it so hard to be gaslit and told you’re argumentative when I’m reality the person really needs to work on themselves. Have no idea how to handle these situations
I have the same situation, when someone says something hurtful and stupid to me, criticising my every move and then when I say something back it is always ‘you always moan and make arguements’. My usual reply now is: ‘Before you call me difficult, look at the way you treat me first and what you do to cause it’ then I just walk away. Some people will never get it. Don’t let them ruin your day, just write them off as lower IQ.
An observation: that rock you were holding in the beginning of this video looked rather smooth. In the natural world, rocks get like that not because of other rocks, but because of water. Softness really is powerful!
“Softness enchants, and invites people to let their guard down, because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.” Beautiful presentation! Thank you so much for articulating in such lucid detail, "The Art of Softness" :-) (minor concern that the background music may be a little too loud)
@@JasmyneTheodora I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos. You have a very pleasant demeanor and clear, organized information. You're a bright light in the world and we're lucky to have you 💕
For a long time I’ve had to muscle through many challenges in life that I feel like I’m beginning to lose touch with my softness. It’s been very exhausting and lately I’ve decided to get back in touch with my feminity. This video is a good start and I’m so grateful to have found it.
I was told that as a child i was very soft, sensitive and reserved. I grew up in a highly disfunctional family, and had to witness and face lots of abuse, that eventually I was stripped of my femininity and am always on the defense now. I really want to revert back to my natural self, but it almost feels impossible beacuse I still live with my family.
im a man who found your channel. literally brought tears to my eyes when i saw your channel. such a wholesome and beautiful message you preach hear. hope your message reaches more people, i wish you good luck and god bless
I pray for you today that the SOVEREIGN LORD in HIS mercy will guide you through the Paths of life and make you a blessing. I pray above all that you may know HIM intimately and the power of HIS Resurrection. And that you may be made conformable unto HIM.
Channels like this are an incredible gift for women of all ages. I’m 57 and just now truly discovering how to return to femininity. Thank you so very much. 🌺
Same here. Life got mean for a bit so did I. I’m finding me again at 54. I’ve actually missed me. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your wisdom with us. 💕
This is the kind of femininity that needs to be talked about in modern society, and not trying to turn women into men. You don't have to be a man or act like one to be powerful.
YESS, THIS IS ALWAYS IN MY MIND, LIKE IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO SACRIFICE YOUR FEMININITY IN ORDER TO FEEL POWERFUL? When you're truly powerful (feel) you don't need to change yourself because you know who you are, where you come from. If you as a women need others to validate your strength by acting manly, then that's really sad, and I think recently a lot of women have been forced to do this in order to protect themselves physically and emotionally, I hope we all can learn to embrace our femininity and be able to recognise that our vulnerability and tenderness is what makes us the strongest, because we are not hiding, we are not afraid to be ourselves, and we are ready to give and to love.
I use to be a very "feminine" and gentle person, very soft spoken and always Polite, I still am but unfortunately I am stuck in an abusive household and if has taken away some of my gentleness because in order for me to survive in this environment until I can get out, I need to be rougher... This video is very helpful, and I cannot wait until I am out of here to go back to the person I truly am inside ♥️
It takes time after you leave to get back to your sweet self. It took me years. I think this was partly due to my therapist at the time making me feel judged due to my result of ending up with an abusive partner. My current therapist is soft-spoken and understanding, which has helped so much. The funny thing is, years before (after my physical and emotionally abusive partnership), I would always advise and essentially give therapy to the people around me and my subsequent partners. Ultimately, they felt unheard and judged by my unhealed self due to me acting like I knew what was specific act would be best. I accept this now and understand more clearly how I need to be in my next relationship, never saying, "I think you should do this", but being more present, listening, not interrupting the person speaking, and only recommending to someone to do what they feel is healthy for them. Guided meditation, spending time in nature, being with your closest, therapy journals and letter writing, and fun physical activities like contact sports and yoga were very helpful for me to get through the day. Goodluck and I hope you find the safety you deserve.
It’s crazy bc the softer you are the stronger you get bc it brings endless opportunities to grow, (in other words brings endless opportunities for people to hurt you) which could make it hard to adapt the softness but ultimately once mastered, you could live in peace in a world that’s always at war.
I could just cry after watching this.... I feel seen. I feel understood and I also feel like I can change Being the rose that grew from the concrete I always had to be strong and wise and independent. But I never knew I could be all those things and still be soft... Thank You from my broken, yet healing heart❤️🩹
I've been fragile, sensitive, and overly kind as a kid but when I was sent to the city to study high school, my parents always told me that I should change my personality because the city is not like the peaceful countryside. People won't go easy on me there and they would most likely prey on me because I'm too vulnerable. I was told to toughen up so I did. I still have a caring and nurturing side of me but I concealed them with being reserved and vigilant
I love and respect the message. Your videos help me a lot. Sometimes when I don’t agree with my significant other, I would think I’m in control of emotions and tone but he tells me that I make faces and my energy is off. I seem to keep repeating the pattern of letting my emotions consume me, especially when I’m not consistent with rewatching your videos or I’m avoidant due to my ego. Thank you for uploading this video. You’ve helped me and I’m sure so many others so much. I’m always looking for positive role models for the type of woman I want to be.
Such a wonderfully enlightened perspective on femininity. Thank you for being in the world and celebrating women's strength. I'd love more content specifically about communicating effectively and productively.
This video made me cry. I feel at home, i feel seen. My softness, my views aren't well received. I've been called a pick me many times. I used to feel like I'm an introvert but I'm really just surrounded by people that refer to themselves as "boss b****es", by masculine women who think I'm weak for being gentle. Definitely going to subscribe after this video. Thank you for what you are doing.
And I made the comment too early. I've always said that independence is a fallacy. Nobody in a society is independent. Have a job or even your own business? You depend on others. Buying products? You depend on others. No matter what you do, you are never independent. Unless you live by yourself and off the land alone.
Ive been quite sensitive and caring for most of my life. (Both of my parents made a big deal about teaching me this stuff.) I'm also quite shy and quiet. In my community these traits in a women are usually seen as negative. Ive been called weak and even stupid multiple times :( so It's really nice to see ladies from everywhere coming together to celebrate them! You're very pretty and smart. ♡
Honestly, since I was a child I was always emotional. So emotional I got bullied ( without exactly knowing because I am too trusting ) and called a ‘crybaby’. I don’t know, I guess because of that my softness dropped significantly. My mama told me to grow a hard shell because the world will never be kind to me with the way I am. And she’s right. But I need to learn to flex the softness I still have. Thank you for showing me that through this ! ♥️
Yess❤ Softness is definitely not a weakness, softness ≠ accept everything. You are ought to be soft yet firm, know when it times to be soft and know when it times to be firm. People now are way stranded from the actual meaning of softness, they see it as a weakness rather than a strenght. Truly, it takes a LOT of one's strength and wisdom to be soft and gentle 💕
Girl!! I'm so loud literally everytime 😂 I'm editing this a few hours later (8 to be exact) just spoke to my bf over the phone he's never been so responsive before! I was able to get him to really talk to me and open up which he generally has a hard time doing. I was just speaking gently and softly and giving him time to respond, gently proving him. this works better than getting angry y'all 😅🤣
Immediately subscribed! As a stay at home mom of grade school kids I feel very judged for my traditional lifestyle but I am so so happy catering to my PHENOMENAL husband and kids. I love my life
“People are aware that they don’t ‘need’ to show up for you…they simply want to give you some goodness.” That is a beautiful thought. Allowing someone to express goodness is a gift I can give to them…and an act of humility on my part. Like accepting a tiny flower from my little granddaughter. Even if she just pulled off the blossom, even if she bent it, she is still showing her goodness to me.
I’ve been independent for so long… when it comes to my relationship, it’s tricky because he is very in tune with his masculinity and there’s an imbalance. I’m still learning to be more in my feminine energy. I notice that when I am, it’s amazing how we interact with each other. It flows so nicely. This video is super helpful, thank you.
I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feminine side after embracing masculine energy for so long, I've been ashamed of my womanhood for the longest time and I'm finding great value and information from your videos, thank you so much! Growing up in a male dominated society is hard, but I'm realising I don't have to be or act a certain way to be respected and noticed. Having balance is key 🥰
Wow I'm short, skinny with an hourglass figure and that makes me feel feminine therefore exuding a lot of feminine energy. Guys who're around me feel obligated to protect me... I feel very girlish with my baby face and childlike body. Thanks for this. I've always been soft,nice, kindhearted and playful which gets me to places I never imagined. I just turned 21 by the way. On the flip side I'm very ambitious and goal-oriented. I'm taking an engineering course and code a lot of time. So it's all about balancing your feminine energy when interacting with people and being aggressive with your goals behind the curtains. All the best ladies
A women of natural angelic beauty. And by that I mean inside and out. Its like love itself. They move you instantly. A day without beauty is like a life without love. You have to be in the light to receive the light. Love your spiritual empowerment. You shine so bright
i’ve always been feminine but was told i was too weak for being kind, nice and welcoming to other people. another factor is my skin tone, as a darker person i don’t get to fully be as feminine as i want. i’m hyperfeminine but so many people have told me that i’m masculine and have tried to force me to fit this strong, heavy hearted, independent black women when that’s not who i am at all. part of me has started conforming but i’m gonna stop listening to them and finally be comfortable in what i am, focus on the ones who see and admire my personality and aura.
As a black woman it annoys me that people try to force-feed stereotypes and think they have the monopoly on how we should act forgetting that only WE are the ones in control of OURSELVES.
I love this ! I was raised by a strong black Woman and she is amazing ! That part of my life taught me survival skills but this !!!!! This is vulnerable, beautiful, and it pushes me ! I’m excited to embody these character traits.
Girl girl girl girl!! At 1:59 when you started describing softness I literally got chills. The words you used, the softness of your voice, your smile and just your aura. Makes me want to be just like that. 🤍🤍😊 thank you for this video!
As a child, i have been described as soft, gentle. Kind and considerate. But as i grew , i looked around and saw how these traits were looked as weak. And then came an era of trying to be tomboy. I truly tried to reconnect with my feminity lately , and alot discussed in this video really opened my eyes. A woman can do anything ❤❤
Lately I have become very hard and tired, from needing to tend to three children and my home. This video was an amazing reminder to recapture that delicate and soft manner that attracted my husband seven years ago 💜 thank you
Gentleness- soothing and vulnerability “May I” Peaceful Vulnerability- authenticity and being unguarded - acknowledging what things they are Flexibility and cooperation- peace, safety and patience Bends instead of breaks Dealing with overthinking- pain and anxiety is inevitable so embrace it
i am one of the people who got told that my femininity and sensitivity is weak and will get taken advantage of until i created a shield to protect myself and on top of that this society and feminism being pushed on to me but deep down i knew that it’s not what i am or want and i wanted to get myself back from what was pushed out of me and this is honestly one of the most helpful videos ive seen. you’ve explained everything so profoundly and specifically to each problem and how to do deal with all of these things, genuinely thank you so much, this helps a lot 💗
I can be rude at times when I am stressed out. I am also impatient with the people around me. It definitely affects me in a bad way. I also head that this attitude does not suit me at all. Thanks for your video and the message you spread.
She is so intelligent. I feel like this woman stands out from the rest because she is providing so much valuable information and which makes this video so significant! Immediately subscribed
“Fierce” can have positive or negative connotations depending on the context. Here, I meant it in the more traditional sense meaning “ferociousness” or “aggression”. But people also use the term positively to mean “passionate”, “enthusiastic”, etc 💕
I wanna share a little bit of my journey on connecting with my own feminity, I was rude brat growing up, arrogant and stubborn, but as I started to age, I decided to change how I view myself and started to keep in touch with my own feminity, never been happier than now, I'm glad I found myself in this journey, for women out there struggling, I believe you can find your own self too💞💞
I’m tired of being overly masculine ! Real beauty lies in being authentically in my femininity and appreciation of what I am. Being Hispanic a lot of times you hear older women saying how they wish they were men, and how men have it easy etc because of my cultures male chauvinistic ways. Men always get away with everything and can do anything. I believe subconsciously I wanted to be free forgetting that freedom lies in me being authentic and appreciating and loving being a women no matter how the bad side of my culture sees it. I am no longer ashamed and I am working hard to balance out my energies! Thank you for this video ! I am a women and I am proud!
I’m a muslim and this exactly what islam calls for .. men and woman are not equal , every gender created for reason and has own role and Personality traits .. i’m so glad to hear this from your perspective too ❤
When I was watching your video, in every sentence I was able to relate to my mother. She is the one who showers softness & affection every time. I feel so lucky to have her in my life. Thank you Ms. Theodora for this lovely video. ❤️🫂
Tryna be a more softer woman to improve my mental well being. My bf is a traditional man with Greek orthodox roots so he helps me embrace my soft feminine side I want to be a proper (aiming towards orthodoxy) woman you inspire me ~Much Love
I had a traumatic experience as a child that made me defensive and very angry at a young age. I used harsh words and vicious actions to protect myself. I used to be a gentle kind kid with a mischievous streak, and I want to be that again. I’m really trying to heal the side of me that was excited and comfortable in feminine dresses and soft things.
You are doing God’s work with your femininity videos. Growing up and being a young teenage girl in this modern day time is not easy. Us girls are constantly being encouraged to be promiscuous, masculine, and unpleasant. Thank you for making videos like this for girls that would rather take the alternative route of embracing femininity. There are not many role models nowadays and I’m glad I’ve found your channel. Thank you!!
I have gone through dozens of videos on femininity in an effort to reconnect with my own, but this may be the first one that has actually *clicked* with me. It seems I've spent so much time in the "faux feminine" trap, whereby I was caught up more in the superficial aspects of femininity than in the essence, or way of being, itself. Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos. They are so refreshing and enlightening.
Same, as a trans woman I felt a lot of societal pressure to meet standards of feminine appearance and voice in order to avoid negative treatment by others, when really femininity is about who we are inside and our orientation to life, not how our shell looks.
I hope more women see this video. It's a big help when learning to mingle with people. Years of social frustration has turned me into an anomaly. I used to be a consistently extroverted kid but now I'm bouncing between being a stiff rock or a hypebeast with not much in between. It probably has to do something with me being afraid to 'reveal' myself in fear of being taken advantage of that has led me to rely so much on masculine energy for my protection. So thank you for reminding me that softness is powerful too and can create the change we seek.
I’ve been on this journey for a while trying to reconnect with my feminine and I find it so hard to balance ‘pretending’ to be feminine and actually finding the root. My pride gets hurt and I get discouraged when I get bad reactions from people when I am ‘putting it on’ and when I’m fully in tune it feels like the world is my oyster! It was so profound for you to mention this!!!! Maybe you could do a video about what tools you use to encourage, feed, nurture and connect to your femininity? I love your content 💐💐
This is the first channel I’ve found that discusses femininity in such a virtuous way. Most often, dating coaches teach how to act feminine in order to get a man. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, but I’d rather the dating aspect was part of a broader teaching! And you are doing it with so much grace and thoughtfulness. Thank you ♥️
Even as a Pagan, and a non Christian, I feel connected to your words because they were soft and gentle. I feel you are right about everything you commented on in regards to what it means to be a real woman and to show some sort of compassion and what it means to be appealing. I love your videos. Please keep posting. Bless you!
As a woman with full femenine energy, I love this video. The divine feminine is beautiful; we are not weak, we have inner strengh that the masculine can´t tap in. We are the queens and the high priestesses of the world. But, the masculine is our partner in crime, the person that can do what we can´t. Both energies deserve to exist and be praised.
I love that this wasn’t based on being “traditional” or religious reasoning so so so I just want to be more soft bc that’s who I am and I’m tired of needing to have thick skin it’s exhausting
I find your videos an extension of my therapy. I thoroughly enjoy them, sometimes I feel like femininity is something I’m struggling to practice…and I just want to say to any woman who feels like I do. It’s ok that you don’t get it off the bat keep learning about yourself and why you default to your masculine because it’s most likely rooted in trauma. I feel like me learning about femininity has started to set me free xx
This is also like therapy for those dealing with anxiety and negative emotions. Nice one !
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Thank you for sharing this! In fact i think all kind of women behaviour should be respected. But I also think feminity is being treated as weak and useless in this society and i firmly oppose to this thought! The feminity is so powerful and many people hasn't even discovered how strong this can be! I'm so glad you are here to encourage people to nurture and care about this side which is a treasure that shouldn't be extinguished.❤
I just found your videos. It feels so relaxing to listen to what you say. I’m softening just because of the way you talk. Thank you very much. I have a problem with being a rather harsh person because of my upbringing (my mom was a single mother and had to do everything on her own, she was always stressed out and tense). I wish to be more feminine. I became just like my mum but I feel like that’s not the real me. I’m a sensitive person. I don’t feel like myself. I’m very grateful for videos like this about softening and femininity. ♥️
I understand where you are coming from . I was also brought up with a mom who was frustrated with my presence . I wished nothing than to be kinder and more loving and its all start with embracing your truth . ❤❤ and understanding ❤ hope we outgrow the behaviours we were brought up with and choose differently!❤❤ take care 🌻
So true,we are women and our role is not to compete with men but we are created to love them and be soft. This new trend feminism is destroying women ending into a high percentage of women being alone.
I love your video and you address the very thing that I'm suffering through, anger and knowing how to handle it in a productive manner and allowing my feminine self to be without hardening myself. I feel I have suppressed myself so much because I've had to constantly defend myself. And that's not me. So glad to be able to find someone who explains it well
26:15 THIS. As a man to me this gesture alone, openly sharing that you didn't remember the exact number at that moment, is all which you spoke of combined. It's vulnerable, it's soft, it's not competitive and it's absolutely beautiful and just attractive for us men that are in their masculine. A masculine behaving woman, like you stated, would have been unable to do so and rerecorded the scene to seem perfect and to 'compete'. You however just sharing that you don't always know and or remember everything, displaying that openness was the perfect example of it. Just yesterday I called up a young woman that is very feminine in her personality. I'm currently in Berlin, Germany and she is here as well and originally from Iran. I remembered her, just because I enjoyed beeing around her experiencing her softness and kindness so much. She speaks in a very soft way and is never agressive, which is so wonderful. I'm currently single and we have been on several dates. I've been dating other women before and in the meantime as well but in terms of her personality and energy she absolutely stood out and it was just sincere and beautiful when I called her yesterday night to check on her and it was amazing to see how happy and appreciative she was about it. These are the women we men remember and want to get back to over and over again. Thank you for this content and your input - This should be available for and promoted to women all over the world, specifically in the western societies, as it seems that political forces and interests have been dividing a lot of men and women who should be brought back together.
Thank you so much. I thank God that he led me to this video, because you have concisely pointed out all my flaws in one go. I'm not too sure why I have such a masculine personality or just a personality that is so far far away from this feminine essesence that I do have inside of me. I crave for that and I hope I can let myself be vulnerable as I start to change myself.. Thank you
I love your energy and your vibes. There is something so calming about you. I RUclips searched soft feminine podcast and just felt so drawn to your video. ❤❤ I look forward to watching more of your videos.
You will never know how much I appreciate your videos in my effort to reawaken what was lost after years of the feminist attack on what I was instinctually born with , many thanks to you 🙏🏻 💖
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for responding & you are so welcome 🌷 P. S. had to replace that thumbs up with a flower , YT really should get hand symbols that resemble the size of us women .
My relationships are sometimes ruined because I'm not "feminine enough". I don't feel safe enough to be vulnerable due to childhood issues. It's hard to let my wall down because I feel the need to protect that side of myself that was torn down and ridiculed, but I won't give up! Thank you for this video 🩷
You speak very well. Your oratory and rhetoric are altogether exemplary of your subject and throughly engaging. The content you have presented is well-thought-out and helpful for teaching. Very well done.
I love love love your videos, they have changed my entire view on femininity as a whole. I feel so much more at peace, and confident. I was in my masculine, and a very nagging, insecure and overly independent woman and I wasn’t even sure what I was doing wrong until I watched your videos and after that self reflection I finally realized what I needed to change to be the woman I’ve always wanted to be! (I’m 20, and a mother and I’m finally at the stage where I want to truly feel like a woman.) 🫶🏻 your content helps me tremendously
You took all the words right out of my mouth! Thank you so much for your content . The attack on Women and femininity in recent years has been so discouraging and dangerous for the future
I agree; women have been attacked by double standards in romantic, onslaught of gaslighting by corporate America, and religious teachings that focus on women submitting to men. As human beings above all else, how can we not be hardened?
I get alot of women hating me because I'm feminine and dress nicely with a little makeup. They seem to resent me for it. Men love me though. I bring out their masculinity.
This was awesome I truly appreciate you making this video I have been trying to embrace my true femininity I have fought against it for years. I was molested at the age of nine after that I dared to never appear weak or vulnerable I saw femininity as a weakness so I practiced being mean and looking mean now honestly I don’t like how mean I come across because deep inside I know that my heart is so beautiful I truly want to let go of that false image and mask I have been portraying for so many years. I can honestly say having masculine energy has made a lot of men uncomfortable around me but having sweet gentle energy men will protect you.
I absolutely love your channel. I’ve watched so many channels that focus on the “appearance” of feminity and not the essence of feminity. You’re an excellent example of true feminity.
Be yourself imo we all have softness and hardness in us balance them out and don’t become something you’re not. Just my humble opinion. Very good content 💖💕👏🏼
This is the best video Ive seen on femininity thus far because you actually help us understand how femininity works instead of giving us cliche ideas. Love it
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos, and I want to share how much I love your cadence and pattern of speech 💕 your voice and use of vocabulary is so lovely!
It’s my first time today and I’m just like Wow! What a beautiful women with such insight. I appreciate this so much. I appreciate Her❤️ I love being a Woman
I know this video is a year old but I am so happy I found it. I had to pause when you talked about the neuroticism because that is totally me. I overthink basically everything and always go 50 steps ahead to whatever the worst thing is. I’m so grateful that you shared how this is something that happens with you as well because often I’m left feeling like I’m the only one. Thank you for this and all of your other videos. I just subscribed and am excited to dive into your catalog and catch up on all of the wisdom you have to offer.
me as a woman who always live among males forgot about the softness..as we told to take males as competition ....but after watching your videos made me realize that i should call back my feminine powers and not be ashamed of. thank you jasmyne
Girl, i just wanted to say thank you! I needed this reminder. I would describe myself as having a more feminine shift the last couple years. I find myself not being as embracing of the change because of the lie of being a “powerful, combative, fierce, independent woman” being the ideal. Its now that im learning that is not mutually exclusive from femininity and being a soft woman!!!!
I actually consume a lot of feminine energy content, beacause I feel so lost in this world where I'm around of men all the time. This is the first video that actually spoke about a femininity my body and heart is able to understand. Thank you for taking the time to explain every aspect and even pointing that we should not be "femenine" all the time.
I'm trying I feel growing up in the hood it made me hard to protect myself but I have a soft side that wants to blossom thanks for this video some of us just dont know and have to learn thanks for the help beautiful
As a child I was naturally very sensitive and nurturing. Instead of these traits being cultivated, I was told I'm weak because of my sensitive traits. I feel like a lot of my softness was beat out of me.
Same here
I’m sorry. I hope you take this beautiful gift you were born with back with pride and joy.
Me to!
Thats what feminism does... This kind of judgement should apply to men not women
Being sensitive also means being compassionate. You care about what you and other people feel so you're likely a person who doesn't like to hurt others. It's your strength, not everyone can possess such characteristic.
I’m a guy that found this video looking for examples of positive masculinity. Just commenting to say that it seems like both men and women are trying to ‘find our way back’ and become more in tune with our gender roles. Femininity is beautiful; thanks for sharing it.
As to masculinity my Grandfather always said a man has to be strong and decent. Many of the values and morals from the 60s and 70s were very good.. not all of course. Im a traditional man. Its good your looking at both sides.. The ying and the yang... woman and men...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I totally agree.
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for your kind words.
It feels like the proverbial pendulum has swung quite hard in favour of abandoning traditional gender roles...it would be so nice to see a return to more of a balanced society in the future, where women can be respected and celebrated as both motivated CEOs and supportive mothers, and vice-versa/similar for men too.
I've lived as both a tough, androgynous tomboy, and now as a feminine woman, and honestly I find it more natural and relaxing to lean into the softer aspects of womanhood. 🌷
Find way back to what?
“Prioritising the appearance of something and not the essence always leads to a disaster” So profound 🌷 so necessary
So happy to hear that it resonates!
Yesss
!!!!! listen my girl reads books or writes or something
That's true ! Well said ,I like that too 👏🥰 bc if you come from that perspective then you aren't coming from the inside. It's like trying to cover a wound with make up to make it look pretty but deep down the wound hasn't been addressed. The core issue ;)
Profound but you run asap to the gram
She’s so sweet. She sounds like she gets a lot of sleep. And it’s rested and she speaks so clearly. Loved this video.
Yes...lots of sleep and sunshine she truly radiates beauty and gentleness.
Never realized how bad I want to be seen as someone who “gets enough sleep” haha what a specific and great compliment
Lol that’s specific
Yes she definitely seems well rested 😂
😂😂😂 exactly
I’ve grown so much because I used to pride myself on being very rude, outspoken and independent. I thought it made me powerful, although it was detrimental to my well-being, I’m learning that being gentle and kind is powerful too. Thank you 🌷💌
Yes! I hope more women come to have that realization, as well. May God bless you 💕
It's the same with me. My mother is a very loud, hostile, masculine woman as are my sister's. My mother and sisters are so masculine that they are frequently mistaken for men. I had a really bad example but I've grown into my femininity.
@@richasf3533 Why should being dependant mean the relationship should turn abusive ? We all cant stem the World and need one another. Effetively there are hardly any really true independent people, as we all rely on other people in society. A partner is there to support, not to abuse.
@@richasf3533 Dear Sasa, I think its normal in life and in a relationship a give and take. The person you are describing should also give, not only take. For example when having children one person has to stay at home and look after the kids. In the old days or in nature the nurturing person would be vunerable and reliant on the provider in that moment and could not be independent.. one needed each other. Today life has become much easier. In a relationship I see it more as teamwork, but reliant on each other. When you can trust someone you can rely on them. A good relationship works like that. You are right any form of abuse is terrible and should not be tolerated. Love and Respect.
I had a friend like that. She pushed so many men away but she pushed me away as well. No longer friends. I love a soft and feminine friend. It’s rare. I want a good bff one day.
Femininity is strength through softness. Love that
🥰🥰🤗👏 YES!
Thats so sweet
A feminine Woman is in no way weak. She is beautiful fragile like a flower.. a rose. Do we therefore consider a rose as weak ? No, but as truely valuable and honour, cherish, protect and love it for its true beauty. Femininty is the true power Woman have over men.
Beautifully said. Pinning! ♡
Roses also have thorns.
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@@richasf3533 What do you mean with setting you back ?
@@Notawesomeatall7 Yass. I never understood why people said life isn't like a bed of roses, I always ask myself "doesn't roses have thorns?" Life can be beautiful but there are some thorns we gotta face.
When she said “gentleness is how young girls play with their dolls” : I was reminded of 6 year old me breaking my dolls limbs in an effort to make it confess that it’s real like in Toy story 😭
OMG😂😂
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😂😂😭i was so triggered when she said that bc i literally use to smack my dolls around
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Whettt??!😮
Your comment about kindness disarming people while in conflict is so true. I used to work at a restaurant where the cook was just hostile to everyone. One day it was just him and I and he YELLED at me when I made a mistake and gestured to me and was just speaking very aggressively to me and I just calmly apologized for my mistake and that I'd be more careful next time and he shut up for the rest of the shift. At the end of the night he PRAISED me for how I handled his anger. He said that he struggles with anger issues and that all the other waitresses just yell back at him and work becomes very hostile and unpleasant. He said I was graceful and so mature and he felt so sorry for talking to me that way. We were great friends after that up until I left town.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!!
I mean I totally get what you did and I think you reacted well. BUT if he has anger issues that doesn’t mean everyone around him should walk on eggshells so they don’t make him angry. What I’m trying to say if you have an issue with dealing with people you go and try to solve it and better yourself not ask everyone to act a certain way around you because you have an “issue”
Everyone deserves respect, he was blaming the rest of the waitresses for yelling back at him while HE started yelling and disrespecting them! I will never just accept being disrespected for such a stupid mistake I made, I don’t agree with yelling in any situation and i agree with the point about kindness, but that doesn’t mean letting people treat me with disrespect!
I’ve tried this technique with my father. All the calm apologizing may of calmed him down temporarily but it never led to an apology. The last time I tried this, I said “I’m sorry that I forgot, it was a genuine mistake. I had no intention of trying to ruin your vacation”
He slapped me and said he was tired of the B.S apologizing. He accused me of lying and secretly hating him. In that moment what he said became true. The closest thing to an apology I ever got from him was “I’m sorry, but…”
What you did may work the first time, but if you have to do it repeatedly it’s probably not worth it
@@farahalsabbagh9740 THIS!!! this is why I struggle so freaking hard. Because I am feminine and soft unless I’m dealing with someone who is consistently toxic and hurtful to me. And it so hard to be gaslit and told you’re argumentative when I’m reality the person really needs to work on themselves. Have no idea how to handle these situations
I have the same situation, when someone says something hurtful and stupid to me, criticising my every move and then when I say something back it is always ‘you always moan and make arguements’. My usual reply now is: ‘Before you call me difficult, look at the way you treat me first and what you do to cause it’ then I just walk away. Some people will never get it. Don’t let them ruin your day, just write them off as lower IQ.
An observation: that rock you were holding in the beginning of this video looked rather smooth. In the natural world, rocks get like that not because of other rocks, but because of water. Softness really is powerful!
@@maryangelica5319 That’s a beautiful analogy!
“Softness enchants, and invites people to let their guard down, because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.”
Beautiful presentation! Thank you so much for articulating in such lucid detail, "The Art of Softness" :-)
(minor concern that the background music may be a little too loud)
Ugh it is too loud in this video! You’re right! I’ve gotten better with sound mixing since then. Glad you were able to enjoy the video regardless 💕
@@JasmyneTheodora I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos. You have a very pleasant demeanor and clear, organized information. You're a bright light in the world and we're lucky to have you 💕
For a long time I’ve had to muscle through many challenges in life that I feel like I’m beginning to lose touch with my softness. It’s been very exhausting and lately I’ve decided to get back in touch with my feminity. This video is a good start and I’m so grateful to have found it.
I was told that as a child i was very soft, sensitive and reserved. I grew up in a highly disfunctional family, and had to witness and face lots of abuse, that eventually I was stripped of my femininity and am always on the defense now. I really want to revert back to my natural self, but it almost feels impossible beacuse I still live with my family.
I can say the art of softness is in line with the fruits of the holy spirit.
im a man who found your channel. literally brought tears to my eyes when i saw your channel. such a wholesome and beautiful message you preach hear. hope your message reaches more people, i wish you good luck and god bless
I love your videos bc as a 15 yrs old girl becoming a women, I needed this, please if you have time please pray for me.
it's great youre doing what you want to do, just remeber to not push urself, u have a lot of time
The Lord will guide you through life in Jesus name
I pray for you today that the SOVEREIGN LORD in HIS mercy will guide you through the Paths of life and make you a blessing.
I pray above all that you may know HIM intimately and the power of HIS Resurrection.
And that you may be made conformable unto HIM.
Prayers and faith out to you mama 💕 share with your friends too and grow with love and strength
In Jesus' name, I pray that God guides your path and that you dwell in the Word of God always. Amen !
Channels like this are an incredible gift for women of all ages. I’m 57 and just now truly discovering how to return to femininity. Thank you so very much. 🌺
I’m so glad you like it! 💕 Thank you so much for watching
Same here. Life got mean for a bit so did I. I’m finding me again at 54. I’ve actually missed me. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your wisdom with us. 💕
Me too, 57, retired from a very masculine driven career. Just returning to my feminine energy! Love it!
Me too ! 66 and been on feminine journey for last few years.....so happy
@@loveyforlaughs me too. 58 and loving a return to femininity.
You literally glow. The way you present yourself and speak so smoothly and softly, you are the epitome of femininity, thank you so much for the video
This is the kind of femininity that needs to be talked about in modern society, and not trying to turn women into men.
You don't have to be a man or act like one to be powerful.
I absolutely agree. Thank you!!
Dats exactly where we go wrong as a society
Yess; embody who you are at your essence ,be authentic and real you that will get to better places than you could imagine. 👏
Agree🙌💗🥺🤗
YESS, THIS IS ALWAYS IN MY MIND, LIKE IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO SACRIFICE YOUR FEMININITY IN ORDER TO FEEL POWERFUL? When you're truly powerful (feel) you don't need to change yourself because you know who you are, where you come from. If you as a women need others to validate your strength by acting manly, then that's really sad, and I think recently a lot of women have been forced to do this in order to protect themselves physically and emotionally, I hope we all can learn to embrace our femininity and be able to recognise that our vulnerability and tenderness is what makes us the strongest, because we are not hiding, we are not afraid to be ourselves, and we are ready to give and to love.
I use to be a very "feminine" and gentle person, very soft spoken and always Polite, I still am but unfortunately I am stuck in an abusive household and if has taken away some of my gentleness because in order for me to survive in this environment until I can get out, I need to be rougher... This video is very helpful, and I cannot wait until I am out of here to go back to the person I truly am inside ♥️
It takes time after you leave to get back to your sweet self. It took me years. I think this was partly due to my therapist at the time making me feel judged due to my result of ending up with an abusive partner. My current therapist is soft-spoken and understanding, which has helped so much. The funny thing is, years before (after my physical and emotionally abusive partnership), I would always advise and essentially give therapy to the people around me and my subsequent partners. Ultimately, they felt unheard and judged by my unhealed self due to me acting like I knew what was specific act would be best. I accept this now and understand more clearly how I need to be in my next relationship, never saying, "I think you should do this", but being more present, listening, not interrupting the person speaking, and only recommending to someone to do what they feel is healthy for them. Guided meditation, spending time in nature, being with your closest, therapy journals and letter writing, and fun physical activities like contact sports and yoga were very helpful for me to get through the day. Goodluck and I hope you find the safety you deserve.
It’s crazy bc the softer you are the stronger you get bc it brings endless opportunities to grow, (in other words brings endless opportunities for people to hurt you) which could make it hard to adapt the softness but ultimately once mastered, you could live in peace in a world that’s always at war.
Wow that’s so powerful thank you for sharing. Food for thought
I could just cry after watching this.... I feel seen. I feel understood and I also feel like I can change
Being the rose that grew from the concrete I always had to be strong and wise and independent. But I never knew I could be all those things and still be soft...
Thank You from my broken, yet healing heart❤️🩹
I've been fragile, sensitive, and overly kind as a kid but when I was sent to the city to study high school, my parents always told me that I should change my personality because the city is not like the peaceful countryside. People won't go easy on me there and they would most likely prey on me because I'm too vulnerable. I was told to toughen up so I did. I still have a caring and nurturing side of me but I concealed them with being reserved and vigilant
I love and respect the message. Your videos help me a lot.
Sometimes when I don’t agree with my significant other, I would think I’m in control of emotions and tone but he tells me that I make faces and my energy is off.
I seem to keep repeating the pattern of letting my emotions consume me, especially when I’m not consistent with rewatching your videos or I’m avoidant due to my ego.
Thank you for uploading this video. You’ve helped me and I’m sure so many others so much. I’m always looking for positive role models for the type of woman I want to be.
Such a wonderfully enlightened perspective on femininity. Thank you for being in the world and celebrating women's strength. I'd love more content specifically about communicating effectively and productively.
This video made me cry. I feel at home, i feel seen. My softness, my views aren't well received. I've been called a pick me many times. I used to feel like I'm an introvert but I'm really just surrounded by people that refer to themselves as "boss b****es", by masculine women who think I'm weak for being gentle. Definitely going to subscribe after this video. Thank you for what you are doing.
And I made the comment too early. I've always said that independence is a fallacy. Nobody in a society is independent. Have a job or even your own business? You depend on others. Buying products? You depend on others. No matter what you do, you are never independent. Unless you live by yourself and off the land alone.
Ive been quite sensitive and caring for most of my life. (Both of my parents made a big deal about teaching me this stuff.) I'm also quite shy and quiet. In my community these traits in a women are usually seen as negative. Ive been called weak and even stupid multiple times :( so It's really nice to see ladies from everywhere coming together to celebrate them! You're very pretty and smart. ♡
Honestly, since I was a child I was always emotional. So emotional I got bullied ( without exactly knowing because I am too trusting ) and called a ‘crybaby’. I don’t know, I guess because of that my softness dropped significantly.
My mama told me to grow a hard shell because the world will never be kind to me with the way I am. And she’s right. But I need to learn to flex the softness I still have. Thank you for showing me that through this ! ♥️
Yess❤ Softness is definitely not a weakness, softness ≠ accept everything. You are ought to be soft yet firm, know when it times to be soft and know when it times to be firm. People now are way stranded from the actual meaning of softness, they see it as a weakness rather than a strenght. Truly, it takes a LOT of one's strength and wisdom to be soft and gentle 💕
Absolutely!!
Jesus help me😭😭😭 I am trying. I don’t even know if my voice can be this sweet and soft.
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@@yzma6142 🤣🤦🏽♀️
@@butterflyygyrlsworld5106 😂😂 this is too funny! But you got it sis. I had the same thought. When we really want a change, we make it ✨
@@Digitaldesss ok sis…from your mouth to Gods ears… 😩🙏🏽😂
Girl!! I'm so loud literally everytime 😂
I'm editing this a few hours later (8 to be exact) just spoke to my bf over the phone he's never been so responsive before! I was able to get him to really talk to me and open up which he generally has a hard time doing. I was just speaking gently and softly and giving him time to respond, gently proving him. this works better than getting angry y'all 😅🤣
Immediately subscribed! As a stay at home mom of grade school kids I feel very judged for my traditional lifestyle but I am so so happy catering to my PHENOMENAL husband and kids. I love my life
Thank you so much for subscribing! And so happy to hear another woman loving her traditional lifestyle 🙌
“People are aware that they don’t ‘need’ to show up for you…they simply want to give you some goodness.” That is a beautiful thought. Allowing someone to express goodness is a gift I can give to them…and an act of humility on my part. Like accepting a tiny flower from my little granddaughter. Even if she just pulled off the blossom, even if she bent it, she is still showing her goodness to me.
Yes, absolutely! 💕
I’ve been independent for so long… when it comes to my relationship, it’s tricky because he is very in tune with his masculinity and there’s an imbalance. I’m still learning to be more in my feminine energy. I notice that when I am, it’s amazing how we interact with each other. It flows so nicely. This video is super helpful, thank you.
I'm so glad it's helpful!
God will show you how to be more feminine. It's precious to the Lord.
@@danilaroche1156 how do u know
@@polpol1005 Because the Lord is able to help us in every way. The Lord can do it, if we ask.
@@danilaroche1156 how can u be so sure?
I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feminine side after embracing masculine energy for so long, I've been ashamed of my womanhood for the longest time and I'm finding great value and information from your videos, thank you so much! Growing up in a male dominated society is hard, but I'm realising I don't have to be or act a certain way to be respected and noticed. Having balance is key 🥰
I used to hate being a woman. Now I love it.
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Wow I'm short, skinny with an hourglass figure and that makes me feel feminine therefore exuding a lot of feminine energy. Guys who're around me feel obligated to protect me... I feel very girlish with my baby face and childlike body. Thanks for this. I've always been soft,nice, kindhearted and playful which gets me to places I never imagined. I just turned 21 by the way. On the flip side I'm very ambitious and goal-oriented. I'm taking an engineering course and code a lot of time. So it's all about balancing your feminine energy when interacting with people and being aggressive with your goals behind the curtains. All the best ladies
I wish this video could be placed on prime time TV. If there is a single thing that men desire is a woman who embraces being a woman fully.
A women of natural angelic beauty. And by that I mean inside and out. Its like love itself. They move you instantly. A day without beauty is like a life without love. You have to be in the light to receive the light. Love your spiritual empowerment. You shine so bright
Wow, thank you so much! Such kind words
You really are one of kind
i’ve always been feminine but was told i was too weak for being kind, nice and welcoming to other people. another factor is my skin tone, as a darker person i don’t get to fully be as feminine as i want. i’m hyperfeminine but so many people have told me that i’m masculine and have tried to force me to fit this strong, heavy hearted, independent black women when that’s not who i am at all. part of me has started conforming but i’m gonna stop listening to them and finally be comfortable in what i am, focus on the ones who see and admire my personality and aura.
As a black woman it annoys me that people try to force-feed stereotypes and think they have the monopoly on how we should act forgetting that only WE are the ones in control of OURSELVES.
I love this ! I was raised by a strong black Woman and she is amazing ! That part of my life taught me survival skills but this !!!!! This is vulnerable, beautiful, and it pushes me ! I’m excited to embody these character traits.
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Happy Women's Day, ladies! 🌸🌸
I don't know why youtube suggested this video, but I really needed this. I'm so tired of women needing to be smaller men. We're not men.
Yes❤
Girl girl girl girl!! At 1:59 when you started describing softness I literally got chills. The words you used, the softness of your voice, your smile and just your aura. Makes me want to be just like that. 🤍🤍😊 thank you for this video!
Awww!! 🥹 Thank you so much for watching!!
Remember...We need to become the woman we were created to be. :)
As a child, i have been described as soft, gentle. Kind and considerate. But as i grew , i looked around and saw how these traits were looked as weak. And then came an era of trying to be tomboy. I truly tried to reconnect with my feminity lately , and alot discussed in this video really opened my eyes. A woman can do anything ❤❤
Lately I have become very hard and tired, from needing to tend to three children and my home. This video was an amazing reminder to recapture that delicate and soft manner that attracted my husband seven years ago 💜 thank you
Gentleness- soothing and vulnerability
“May I”
Peaceful Vulnerability- authenticity and being unguarded - acknowledging what things they are
Flexibility and cooperation- peace, safety and patience
Bends instead of breaks
Dealing with overthinking- pain and anxiety is inevitable so embrace it
I love the way she speaks. It’s very intellectual and clear. It’s refreshing to hear a woman speak in such a way
Yes i wish i can speak like her ❤
i am one of the people who got told that my femininity and sensitivity is weak and will get taken advantage of until i created a shield to protect myself and on top of that this society and feminism being pushed on to me but deep down i knew that it’s not what i am or want and i wanted to get myself back from what was pushed out of me and this is honestly one of the most helpful videos ive seen. you’ve explained everything so profoundly and specifically to each problem and how to do deal with all of these things, genuinely thank you so much, this helps a lot 💗
you’re very beautiful as well and your hair is gorgeous 😊🥰
I can be rude at times when I am stressed out. I am also impatient with the people around me.
It definitely affects me in a bad way. I also head that this attitude does not suit me at all.
Thanks for your video and the message you spread.
Thank you so much for watching. I'm glad you liked it! （╹◡╹）
this is something i really struggle with:(
She is so intelligent. I feel like this woman stands out from the rest because she is providing so much valuable information and which makes this video so significant! Immediately subscribed
🌻 being fierce doesn’t make you less feminine for any fierce ladies, you don’t hide that side to be in your feminine energy.
“Fierce” can have positive or negative connotations depending on the context. Here, I meant it in the more traditional sense meaning “ferociousness” or “aggression”. But people also use the term positively to mean “passionate”, “enthusiastic”, etc 💕
I wanna share a little bit of my journey on connecting with my own feminity, I was rude brat growing up, arrogant and stubborn, but as I started to age, I decided to change how I view myself and started to keep in touch with my own feminity, never been happier than now, I'm glad I found myself in this journey, for women out there struggling, I believe you can find your own self too💞💞
I’m tired of being overly masculine ! Real beauty lies in being authentically in my femininity and appreciation of what I am. Being Hispanic a lot of times you hear older women saying how they wish they were men, and how men have it easy etc because of my cultures male chauvinistic ways. Men always get away with everything and can do anything. I believe subconsciously I wanted to be free forgetting that freedom lies in me being authentic and appreciating and loving being a women no matter how the bad side of my culture sees it. I am no longer ashamed and I am working hard to balance out my energies! Thank you for this video ! I am a women and I am proud!
As a man, nothing is more powerful than a feminine woman that's intelligent.
love how you emphasized authenticity and not performance which is what so many people are doing nowadays !
Thank you!!
I can't get over how right you are in the disclaimer. I'm going to *softly* excel in college🌻
I’m a muslim and this exactly what islam calls for .. men and woman are not equal , every gender created for reason and has own role and Personality traits .. i’m so glad to hear this from your perspective too ❤
When I was watching your video, in every sentence I was able to relate to my mother. She is the one who showers softness & affection every time. I feel so lucky to have her in my life. Thank you Ms. Theodora for this lovely video. ❤️🫂
Tryna be a more softer woman to improve my mental well being. My bf is a traditional man with Greek orthodox roots so he helps me embrace my soft feminine side I want to be a proper (aiming towards orthodoxy) woman you inspire me ~Much Love
in exactly 10 seconds of starting the video I knew you will speak FACTS. You radiate so much love I'm here for it. Thank you for sharing! 🫶
She honestly looks like a princess, so I'm going to listen to Her
we need to unpack this. what physical qualities makes you say this?
She had elegance she speaks so gracefully she is radiant and has a charm about her and obviously her beauty shines in her appearance
I had a traumatic experience as a child that made me defensive and very angry at a young age. I used harsh words and vicious actions to protect myself.
I used to be a gentle kind kid with a mischievous streak, and I want to be that again. I’m really trying to heal the side of me that was excited and comfortable in feminine dresses and soft things.
I pray that you’ll reach yours goals
You are doing God’s work with your femininity videos. Growing up and being a young teenage girl in this modern day time is not easy. Us girls are constantly being encouraged to be promiscuous, masculine, and unpleasant. Thank you for making videos like this for girls that would rather take the alternative route of embracing femininity. There are not many role models nowadays and I’m glad I’ve found your channel. Thank you!!
I have gone through dozens of videos on femininity in an effort to reconnect with my own, but this may be the first one that has actually *clicked* with me. It seems I've spent so much time in the "faux feminine" trap, whereby I was caught up more in the superficial aspects of femininity than in the essence, or way of being, itself.
Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos. They are so refreshing and enlightening.
Same, as a trans woman I felt a lot of societal pressure to meet standards of feminine appearance and voice in order to avoid negative treatment by others, when really femininity is about who we are inside and our orientation to life, not how our shell looks.
I hope more women see this video. It's a big help when learning to mingle with people.
Years of social frustration has turned me into an anomaly. I used to be a consistently extroverted kid but now I'm bouncing between being a stiff rock or a hypebeast with not much in between. It probably has to do something with me being afraid to 'reveal' myself in fear of being taken advantage of that has led me to rely so much on masculine energy for my protection. So thank you for reminding me that softness is powerful too and can create the change we seek.
I’ve been on this journey for a while trying to reconnect with my feminine and I find it so hard to balance ‘pretending’ to be feminine and actually finding the root. My pride gets hurt and I get discouraged when I get bad reactions from people when I am ‘putting it on’ and when I’m fully in tune it feels like the world is my oyster! It was so profound for you to mention this!!!! Maybe you could do a video about what tools you use to encourage, feed, nurture and connect to your femininity? I love your content 💐💐
This is off topic but can we just admire the beauty of this woman and her natural hair!
This is the first channel I’ve found that discusses femininity in such a virtuous way. Most often, dating coaches teach how to act feminine in order to get a man. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, but I’d rather the dating aspect was part of a broader teaching! And you are doing it with so much grace and thoughtfulness. Thank you ♥️
Even as a Pagan, and a non Christian, I feel connected to your words because they were soft and gentle. I feel you are right about everything you commented on in regards to what it means to be a real woman and to show some sort of compassion and what it means to be appealing. I love your videos. Please keep posting. Bless you!
As a woman with full femenine energy, I love this video. The divine feminine is beautiful; we are not weak, we have inner strengh that the masculine can´t tap in. We are the queens and the high priestesses of the world. But, the masculine is our partner in crime, the person that can do what we can´t. Both energies deserve to exist and be praised.
I love that this wasn’t based on being “traditional” or religious reasoning so so so I just want to be more soft bc that’s who I am and I’m tired of needing to have thick skin it’s exhausting
I find your videos an extension of my therapy. I thoroughly enjoy them, sometimes I feel like femininity is something I’m struggling to practice…and I just want to say to any woman who feels like I do. It’s ok that you don’t get it off the bat keep learning about yourself and why you default to your masculine because it’s most likely rooted in trauma. I feel like me learning about femininity has started to set me free xx
This is also like therapy for those dealing with anxiety and negative emotions. Nice one !
Thank you for sharing this! In fact i think all kind of women behaviour should be respected. But I also think feminity is being treated as weak and useless in this society and i firmly oppose to this thought! The feminity is so powerful and many people hasn't even discovered how strong this can be! I'm so glad you are here to encourage people to nurture and care about this side which is a treasure that shouldn't be extinguished.❤
I just found your videos. It feels so relaxing to listen to what you say. I’m softening just because of the way you talk. Thank you very much. I have a problem with being a rather harsh person because of my upbringing (my mom was a single mother and had to do everything on her own, she was always stressed out and tense). I wish to be more feminine. I became just like my mum but I feel like that’s not the real me. I’m a sensitive person. I don’t feel like myself. I’m very grateful for videos like this about softening and femininity. ♥️
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Your words are so motivating for me!
I understand where you are coming from . I was also brought up with a mom who was frustrated with my presence . I wished nothing than to be kinder and more loving and its all start with embracing your truth . ❤❤ and understanding ❤ hope we outgrow the behaviours we were brought up with and choose differently!❤❤ take care 🌻
@@lindakhanyile3252 🌸 ♥️😊
So true,we are women and our role is not to compete with men but we are created to love them and be soft.
This new trend feminism is destroying women ending into a high percentage of women being alone.
I love your video and you address the very thing that I'm suffering through, anger and knowing how to handle it in a productive manner and allowing my feminine self to be without hardening myself. I feel I have suppressed myself so much because I've had to constantly defend myself. And that's not me. So glad to be able to find someone who explains it well
26:15 THIS. As a man to me this gesture alone, openly sharing that you didn't remember the exact number at that moment, is all which you spoke of combined. It's vulnerable, it's soft, it's not competitive and it's absolutely beautiful and just attractive for us men that are in their masculine. A masculine behaving woman, like you stated, would have been unable to do so and rerecorded the scene to seem perfect and to 'compete'. You however just sharing that you don't always know and or remember everything, displaying that openness was the perfect example of it.
Just yesterday I called up a young woman that is very feminine in her personality. I'm currently in Berlin, Germany and she is here as well and originally from Iran. I remembered her, just because I enjoyed beeing around her experiencing her softness and kindness so much. She speaks in a very soft way and is never agressive, which is so wonderful. I'm currently single and we have been on several dates. I've been dating other women before and in the meantime as well but in terms of her personality and energy she absolutely stood out and it was just sincere and beautiful when I called her yesterday night to check on her and it was amazing to see how happy and appreciative she was about it. These are the women we men remember and want to get back to over and over again. Thank you for this content and your input - This should be available for and promoted to women all over the world, specifically in the western societies, as it seems that political forces and interests have been dividing a lot of men and women who should be brought back together.
Thank you so much. I thank God that he led me to this video, because you have concisely pointed out all my flaws in one go. I'm not too sure why I have such a masculine personality or just a personality that is so far far away from this feminine essesence that I do have inside of me. I crave for that and I hope I can let myself be vulnerable as I start to change myself.. Thank you
I love your energy and your vibes. There is something so calming about you. I RUclips searched soft feminine podcast and just felt so drawn to your video. ❤❤ I look forward to watching more of your videos.
You will never know how much I appreciate your videos in my effort to reawaken what was lost after years of the feminist attack on what I was instinctually born with , many thanks to you 🙏🏻 💖
I am so happy to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment!
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for responding & you are so welcome 🌷
P. S. had to replace that thumbs up with a flower , YT really should get hand symbols that resemble the size of us women .
My relationships are sometimes ruined because I'm not "feminine enough". I don't feel safe enough to be vulnerable due to childhood issues. It's hard to let my wall down because I feel the need to protect that side of myself that was torn down and ridiculed, but I won't give up! Thank you for this video 🩷
My spirit has been calling for this lesson. Thank you
Thank you for watching!!
You speak very well. Your oratory and rhetoric are altogether exemplary of your subject and throughly engaging.
The content you have presented is well-thought-out and helpful for teaching.
Very well done.
You upload just as I finish my bible study session. One of the best sensations yet 😆
Wow, thank you for such a kind comment! 💕
I love love love your videos, they have changed my entire view on femininity as a whole. I feel so much more at peace, and confident. I was in my masculine, and a very nagging, insecure and overly independent woman and I wasn’t even sure what I was doing wrong until I watched your videos and after that self reflection I finally realized what I needed to change to be the woman I’ve always wanted to be! (I’m 20, and a mother and I’m finally at the stage where I want to truly feel like a woman.) 🫶🏻 your content helps me tremendously
You took all the words right out of my mouth! Thank you so much for your content . The attack on Women and femininity in recent years has been so discouraging and dangerous for the future
Thank you so much for watching! Yes, the world desperately needs feminine women
Sapphire Blue agree with your comment from the bottom of my heart. Love and blessings from the U.K.
I agree; women have been attacked by double standards in romantic, onslaught of gaslighting by corporate America, and religious teachings that focus on women submitting to men. As human beings above all else, how can we not be hardened?
Maybe we need to focus on men and their problematic behaviors or communication instead of telling women they aren’t soft enough
I get alot of women hating me because I'm feminine and dress nicely with a little makeup. They seem to resent me for it. Men love me though. I bring out their masculinity.
This was awesome I truly appreciate you making this video I have been trying to embrace my true femininity I have fought against it for years. I was molested at the age of nine after that I dared to never appear weak or vulnerable I saw femininity as a weakness so I practiced being mean and looking mean now honestly I don’t like how mean I come across because deep inside I know that my heart is so beautiful I truly want to let go of that false image and mask I have been portraying for so many years. I can honestly say having masculine energy has made a lot of men uncomfortable around me but having sweet gentle energy men will protect you.
I absolutely love your channel. I’ve watched so many channels that focus on the “appearance” of feminity and not the essence of feminity. You’re an excellent example of true feminity.
26:06 wow, this is going in my journal. Wow. What a message!
Be yourself imo we all have softness and hardness in us balance them out and don’t become something you’re not. Just my humble opinion. Very good content 💖💕👏🏼
This is the best video Ive seen on femininity thus far because you actually help us understand how femininity works instead of giving us cliche ideas. Love it
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos, and I want to share how much I love your cadence and pattern of speech 💕 your voice and use of vocabulary is so lovely!
Thank you so much!!
!!!ditto ..now I'm about to binge on her
It’s my first time today and I’m just like Wow! What a beautiful women with such insight. I appreciate this so much. I appreciate Her❤️ I love being a Woman
I know this video is a year old but I am so happy I found it. I had to pause when you talked about the neuroticism because that is totally me. I overthink basically everything and always go 50 steps ahead to whatever the worst thing is. I’m so grateful that you shared how this is something that happens with you as well because often I’m left feeling like I’m the only one. Thank you for this and all of your other videos. I just subscribed and am excited to dive into your catalog and catch up on all of the wisdom you have to offer.
when u said soft i didnt expect your voice to be literally so soft i had to turn my volume all the way up …..
Yeah, the audio isn’t great on this video, sorry about that! I’ve gotten better with it thankfully
me as a woman who always live among males forgot about the softness..as we told to take males as competition ....but after watching your videos made me realize that i should call back my feminine powers and not be ashamed of. thank you jasmyne
Your voice, hair, and personality 👸🏽
Thank you so much!!
Girl, i just wanted to say thank you! I needed this reminder. I would describe myself as having a more feminine shift the last couple years. I find myself not being as embracing of the change because of the lie of being a “powerful, combative, fierce, independent woman” being the ideal. Its now that im learning that is not mutually exclusive from femininity and being a soft woman!!!!
I actually consume a lot of feminine energy content, beacause I feel so lost in this world where I'm around of men all the time. This is the first video that actually spoke about a femininity my body and heart is able to understand. Thank you for taking the time to explain every aspect and even pointing that we should not be "femenine" all the time.
Love how you speak so intellectually and intelligently, yet so elegantly. Beautiful.
I'm trying I feel growing up in the hood it made me hard to protect myself but I have a soft side that wants to blossom thanks for this video some of us just dont know and have to learn thanks for the help beautiful