Ladies, take notes! I’ve been married for 10 years and I am now having to deal with the consequences of the feminist brainwashing of my generation ! I would have paid for this type of information back in my dating days! Sigh. But God is gracious and redeeming! So, if you’re young, single or fairly newly wedded, listen to what’s she’s saying; she’s spot on!
idk, what shes saying sounds very much like traditional feminism. trad feminism is the idea that man and woman are different beings, with different strengths and weaknesses that should be honored and respected. we are different but equal. dont act like feminism is all horrible because you can vote, go to school, have a bank account, get out of an abusive relationship all because of feminism. assault and sexual abuse is taken seriously because of feminism.
That actually isn’t “traditional feminism”. That’s Christianity! Women and men are equal in worth because we’re made in the image and likeness of God… but, different in design, as He made us male and female. That is originally a Christian belief, not a feminist belief.
@@Highwizardd I agree with you completely. Alot of women these days flaunt the power of choice in everyone's faces as if they had this all along. People are very entitled, as if what they have is because they deserve it and not because it was fought for. Their anger towards feminism is misplaced.
It’s character… chivalry. Picking you up for dates, sending you his time of arrival. How he talks to you even when he is frustrated. Valuing your time, not pressing you for sex. Romantic gestures like kissing your hand, and asking intrinsic questions to get to know you. Compliments of your intelligence and your character not just your beauty or sexualizing you.
My husband and I waited to until marriage. 20 years and three kids later, we’re still very happy. We dated for two years and got to know each other really well. I think in big part because we weren’t having sex. There was time to just have fun and talk and consider whether or not we are a good match. When you jump right into sex, you may overlook a lot of things. Love this channel! God bless
See that’s actually very nice. I honestly think a lot of guys have issue with that is because if they know the woman had sex prior to being with him and then say that the immediate question in their head will be “why didn’t those other guys have to wait but now I have to?”
Do I let them know that I have no intentions of sleeping with them.i am a mother of two and it can be somewhat tricky and with some man acting like they are doing you a favor just to date you as a woman with kids.
I think that's not only in regards to male attention,is to regards to any attention. If you don't care about you who is gonna? But when it comes to that there were two things women did, valued more male attention than valued themselves and the opposite,start to think they "need no man", "i'm the only person that matters", and that kind of thought, thoughts that end any relationship, not because the man "doesn't accept strong women" but because a relationship is based on the two sides giving their best and thinking about the other person,not themselves, how is the relationship gonna work if you also don't value the other person's opinions and point of view? We should all have balance in life.
*I must agree. Ever since I've been celibate my life has improved in every way. A bonus is better treatment from men. If only women knew that abstinence and listening is the key. Great job!*
You’re a breath of fresh air. I haven’t allowed myself to be fully feminine for so long because I’ve been afraid of being vulnerable and getting hurt. You give me hope for having a loving, Godly marriage one day. Thank you. 💗
So true. Thank you. When a man thoughtfully treats me with respect and consideration, it gives me the freedom and security to be more soft, kind and feminine. When he is selfish and treats me with disrespect, my walls go up, I become more masculine and the claws come out. Men who give women princess treatment are wise. If you want to open the flower, you have to shower it with gentle rain and sunshine.
Its my first time meeting someone who has exactly the same values as me! S*x for me is a really big thing, but for the people around me its kind of a casual thing. So i felt guilty taking it off the table, now i know i was right!! I felt the same but didnt knew how to word/describe it. Alsooo you are really beautiful in an ethereal kind of way♡ my mom always used to say if a person is religious they have this type of beautiful beauty, which in my language is called 'noor(the best word to describe it!)'. Im gonna subscribe your channel!!♡
This came at the perfect time. My long term boyfriend and I just broke up and I was so confused and hurt and was wondering why God let this happen only to realize how binded I was by his manipulative behavior. He is the exact man you are talking about that worships himself and only views me as a female regardless of how much I did for him. (I cooked, cleaned, gave him gifts, and acted like a wife when I was only a girlfriend) I am so grateful for this fresh start and I know that my future man will be a prince and not a frog!
My fiancé asked me to be his girlfriend the first day he met me (of course I said no because I didn’t know him) I didn’t have to do anything for him that night just show him my great personality and have great conversations with him. I wasn’t even looking to date at the time I randomly met him via his cousin who’s my friend. I didn’t do anything for him until maybe 7 months later when I made him a meal. All we did during that time was have deep conversations and create great memories. I didn’t have to do anything for him to fall in love but be my amazing self ❤
My best friend and her husband were both virgins and waited until marriage to have sex. Her husband is a Christian youth pastor at the church and they have two kids together, 1 boy and 1 girl. I admired their storybook, fairy-tale, Christ- conscious life. It was wholesome and beautiful until one day, he up and left her with the kids like she was nobody. He broke her heart and her spirit. It was like he just changed his mind out of the clear blue sky and snatched the rug from underneath her. She became suicidal and was put in a mental institution. By the grace of God, she's finally starting to be herself again but it has been a journey. I pray God blesses my friend with what she deserves. Waiting is definitely great but having a man that is real even after the deal is even better, either way, protect your heart !!
You know I’m sorry to hear about your friend. You brang up a great point tho that people don’t talk about enough. You can wait for marriage Or however long to sleep with a man and he can still leave after and it’s sad because they teach us the longer we keep our legs closed a prince will come and love us forever but some men have also heard of this and will date you and court u long enough until you do give it up and then vanish and it’s very disheartening. Happened to me before as well where I waited and soon as it finally happened the man was gone with the wind. He actually went and got someone pregnant after too. I feel like also once a man gets comfortable or the chase is over it’s like they get bored or feel they already completed a task and then are not giving the same energy as in the beginning because they get what they want. It’s sad. I’m not sayin all men are like this but most yes. I will agree tho that you have less heart break when you wait to have sex and avoid disrespect more and can see some of the bad actors red flags however some are very convincing and will wait till that right time then dip too. I hope your friend heals that’s a terrible thing he did to her & this is why i have always been scared to have children… my friends who have kids have a lot of similar stories. Still continuing my celibacy journey and some Days it gets hard but not that hard
I was 19 and I married my youth pastors son, i also waited till our wedding day, we were in church together most of our 17 year marriage, it wasn't by any means easy, we had a son & special needs daughter, we went through a lot of trials and financial struggles the last 7 years he was using hard drugs and i begged him multiple times to get help but ultimately he did not and I had to choose to remove my children and self from that environment. You can never really determine who people will decide to be in the future. It's been 10 years and unfortunately he is still living the same. My kids and I have been doing life on our own this whole time, not the way I expected things would turn out but here we are. I am still learning many things about myself & relationships at 46 years old.
As a man, I applaud this God oriented, complementarian attitude. So many speakers on these topics will either demonize men or women (usually out of bitterness) and seek no means of mending the relationship between men and women. You provide a lot of wisdom for both women and men in a very positive delivery that encourages our cooperation which is far too rare to find on the internet. Thank you
Holy crap! This is EVERYTHING!! I've done the majority (not all but most) of this without knowing, and it's true. I feel like a "useless" wife because I don't DO anything I feel I need to (working on some), but my husband loves me and always has. I never had to EARN his love or attention. He loves me for me, as hard as it can be for me to understand that concept. I was raised by a family of feminists and none are married, but they always told me to do everything myself, never count on a man, etc etc. But it's EXACTLY the opposite that my husband loved. I was innocent, pure, loyal, peaceful, etc. and he loves that. He doesn't have to worry about me, and I don't have to worry about him. He protects me from the outside world, and I protect his peace by being there for him. It was all just too simple/"easy" to be true, I never believed it even as it was happening to me because I was always told otherwise. How I wish I could share this with my girl friends without them getting offended (idk if they would, but I'm too scared to try) 😅 lol
Wow, that's amazing! You're so lucky that you found a genuine man and managed stay the way you are. I used to be like that too, but now due to hopelessness and some bad experiences I'm starting to think that the world and people are so much different from my core beliefs and natural temperament and that I need to change. Cheers 🙌🏼
You did earn his love. He didn’t just love you for no reason because that’ll imply that you have nothing to offer. You had to have had something that made him decide to fall in love with you
@@WorstDruidEUAs he outearns her and handles most of the decision making. She's the copilot who's just there as potential backup, but doesn't have to do much of the heavy lifting.
@@PermanentHigh that sounds like support and copiloting indeed but what's the protection in particular from in the outside world? I'm really struggling to understand what would be the practical examples of that, what exactly is the protection from in the outside world? I'm trying to understand and hopefully apply it but protect from what for example?
So was I and it was soooo tiring to remind that he was the man but in this house his mother used to treat him like a girl and a child! Thank God I got tired and run after 6 months ❤️ there are still good one out there
"Your job is not to make a man fall in love with you" -- THANK YOU! I needed to hear this! I've been feeling this pressure on me that there is something I should DO to provoke love and not just BE and RECEIVE. And women (Godly women) urging me to go after him and show him attention and understanding and support. No. I cried out to God "I need to feel like a woman!" I was even labeled as proud for refusing to call and contact him after his withdrawal.
Hi Jasmyne, You should make a video on the different stages of relationships (feminine side; including expectations for masculine roles): -singleness -finding a partner -getting to know -dating -fiancé -married -during marriage
This might be one of your most beautiful and introspective videos you've ever made I think all of them are, but this one sent me to a deeper self-reflection (edit for grammar)
it’s so refreshing to see a perspective like this instead of all the toxic red pill and feminist BS coming from both sides. As a man i believe a strong faith in god and rejection of lust and materialism will heal the relationships between men and women 🙏
Jasmine, we really REALLY appreciate all the effort you go through to talk to us! In getting married in two months to a wonderful man who treats me like a princess and I want to continue inspiring his masculinity and giving him the respect he deserves, so thank you for the reminders, tips, and encouragements! God bless ❤️
I agree with everything said here, particularly the "Five nonnegotiables" and the block near the end about how to communicate effectively with your husband. Good stuff.
As a guy I thought this was a great video. It had a lot of great points. There are too many yt vids with only guys explaining how women expect to be treated, which I think is funny. But this is different and it helps give new fresh perspective.
I appreciate this video and the feeling of it too. I find that so much feminine content on the internet has a "masculine rush" to it that feels rather like an oxymoron, as the energy observed isn't the energy advised to adapt, which definitely creates a lot of friction between theory and practice. Watching this video felt like leading by calm example, and phrases and theories I've come across on "feminine energy" social media, that have felt hard to grasp and execute became clear as day here. I appreciate this video so much and cannot wait to go and be inspired by the rest of your channel. Best Talia.
As a young orthadox Christian in courting ive held it sternly that i will not be handing over intimacy until my wedding day and jasmyne youve just affirmed that i am on the right track. Thank you and may the lord bless you☦️❤️
Yes. Dont lose your virginity before marriage. I regret my past. And now im 34 and scarred. I hope you find a good husband and create a beautiful family
@@etcwhatever i agree. I’m 20 years old and lost my virginity at 17 to a random guy I found on a hook up site because I felt ‘left behind’ in this new culture and ‘empowered’ by modern feminism. Ever since then I’ve given myself to every man that I’ve dated. It’s no wonder it never worked out. I deeply regret it so much. I think I did it because I was scared and didn’t believe anyone would go through all that trouble for me. I thought the only way I would be loved or valued would be through my body or what I could give/offer to them. I wish I grew up thinking I was worth more as a little girl. So I could have waited for the right ‘prince’…
Please.. we need more women like you. Honestly I'm tired of feminists, aggressive, rude woman. I'm a very soft woman. Who belives in traditional gender role, God, femininity, masculinity, modesty, health. But sadly I don't find friends with the same mindset 😔
@@NoQuestionsAskedd no we shouldn’t… we should be loving towards disbelievers. They are not our enemy, the devil is. God said to treat all people with love, so that we may possibly win them over to Christ.
Recently I watched some videos of another youtuber that I really like, also recently turned christian, and he also said, if you want to seek a real relationship, take sex off the table. At least for some time. So true 💞
I made a list of 26 non negotiable points like you mentioned, and this REALLY helped me to streamline and cut off the men I was coming across. I found exactly that man who fulfilled these, we’re getting married next month and he is an incredible man (it’s been 5 years together - engaged at 3 years together). Neither of us are religious, yet he was more of a Godly man than any religious Christian man I dated. Thank you for your message x
Regarding the asking, social media has def made it feel like the right man should know always what to do and say so I liked that you touched on it. Closed mouths don't get fed! Ofc there's a balance and some things you should not have to communicate
You are wise beyond your years Jasmyne Theodora! I love to get your insight on these feminine topics and how to function in a society where women and men have been fed false information! ❤❤❤
Girl this vid really helped, i struggle so much cause i had barely any feminine help in my life so I can be quite blunt and cold towards people or even defensive. But the video was informative thank you very much.
Thank you for this, PMS has been making me act up around him a lot and I just want him to forgive me and know that I love him a lot. I wanna be his princess.
Letting my husband know which phase of the month I’m in has been really beneficial! One thing that really helps is telling him I can’t handle “light touches” during my lower hormonal times. Deep, secure hugs over light touches avoids “over stimulation” and me getting annoyed 😆
Make sure you are taking high quality supplements like VitB6 and VitD3 etc. I'd recommend homeopathy as well. He should treat you with kindness during these times. It's not easy at all.
oh wow , I'm glad to know the BTS insight shared at the end.. I could've thought these 22 minutes simply came out perfectly directly.. thinking to myself "dang.. why can't I be THIS concise and well-spoken with no pauses when recording?!
I would also like to add that i agree that us men fall in love different. BUT with that being said you simply showing consideration(like offering to pay the tips on dates or even showing initiative to plan a fun date) ,showing that your willing to learn about us as men and not just what we can give you, and showing that you can be a listening ear for the man your dating will definitely have us move mountains for you. DON’T FORGET ladies men don’t experience much positivity from the world around us(especially in the times we are in now). YOU being that positive/fresh breath of air and peaceful sanctuary for us to feel at home is VERY IMPORTANT to what a good/god fearing men look for. (speaking from experience and plenty of male friends that i converse with).
@devontejackson4025 Sounds like you need a 50/50 woman. That’s cool. They’re out there. Women aren’t living some fru fru magical pixie dust fairytale life. It’s not all positive pink fluffy cloud. You need to be able to handle & love a real woman.
i'm not married (don't think i can handle being in any relationship) but my sister is and I think there's a lot of nuggets of wisdom in here that she will find inspiring and helpful!!
This was very insightful. I understood and appreciate the way you talked about these subjects with religious and non religious perspectives in mind. I am not religious and many ways I move through the world are similar to a lot of religious practices. Many parts are beneficial, like no sex before marriage. I do not want children nor do I want to have sex with someone before being committed for health reasons too. It’s a bit hard finding content like this that can be digested even if I’m not religious. ( some people’s messages get drowned out by their dislike of something) This was a great video and you make princess treatment make sense with the way you clarified everything.
11:53 this is so sad, this is what is happenning in my relationship, he inially got happy because I dont have sex before marriage, but he is now mad because I am dont want to have sex before marriage. 🙃🙃🙃
“These (red pill) men have been so demoralized that they don’t see the benefit of treating women that well. They have been so demoralized that they don’t see the feminine in women anymore. And it’s the feminine in women that sparks the prince in men.” Good stuff beautiful sister. ❤
As a man I'll just add that most of us are disillusioned (or "bitter" as you called it) from consistent experiences with women who claim to value their femininity, but just use that as a smokescreen to rationalize narcissism. So it will go a long way to intentionally communicate that in return for princess treatment you'll proactively show him a special level of respect, honor, and softness. It'll help bring a lot of guys' red pill guard down.
Loved this vid so much!! I might have to watch it again down the road. Nagging has always been something I’ve really struggled with…not proud to say it, but it’s true. Your insight always reminds me of the woman I want to strive to be.❤
It's complicated. I'm a very masculine woman, brainwashed by the patriarchy and radical feminism, I admit. Sometimes it feels like the only way to succeed in this world is to lean into your masc energy. But there are different rules when we're with a man vs when we are by ourselves. I realize there are only 2 dynamics here: you're either playing his wife or his mother. Women are inherently nurturing so when a man is childish, wounded, and emotionally unavailable, it triggers our mothering instinct to heal and help. Men who have not done the work on themselves have no business being in a relationship because of this. Most men simply aren't ready for a woman. Only a healed man or at least someone with a spiritual or personal development practice can ever hope to co-create the space where a woman can be what she truly is.
Thank you for providing that list of non negotiables. Sometimes I struggle with my list and often get caught up in traits, but yours were value driven which was so insightful. No wonder I’ve struggled ❤
Having an audience was a far-fetched dream for me not too long ago 🥹 I love being able to connect with anyone who takes the time to listen to my content
This was truly helpful. I'm glad this popped up at an opportune time, so I could watch it. I have been ready to give up on my relationship, but you have given me hope. I'm also making a special playlist to share with my children when they are older. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you , this helped me a lot , I've done a lot of things that were mentioned as not to do and yes there are consequences to those actions , I am grateful to know the solutions and move forward. I love you sister , I Thank God for using you to sow fruitful seeds ❤
Hi Jasmine, I'm a 16-year-old Brazilian girl and what a relief to know that there are women like you and I also want to be a new woman. learning from you and honestly nowadays and especially in my country, it is difficult to have any man who values women. In my country, women are super hypersexualized and when we have the image of the singer Anitta who promotes this about Brazil, it gets worse. 😢😊
Jasmyne, you need to keep making videos like this. Although Sheraseven gives similar advice, she doesn’t tell women the good side of men and explain how they are capable of showing love and they are only good for how much money they have. Your advice on men is more God centered and I am glad I found your channel.
This normally backfires and normally leads to getting played, cheating and other things of degeneracy. Honestly, once you have sex with him, if he decides to stick around then he actually wants to stay with you. Anything before that is really up in the air.
Wow, thanks so much for explaining that men don't fall in love with our competency or our skills - every time I'm around a guy I want to date, I always subconsciously try to impress him in some way with being knowledgeable in something, and if I'm failing at something I'm doing, I feel like I screwed up my chances. For example, if we're playing a sport like volleyball, when I can't play the game well it will make me feel terrible! I think they couldn't possibly like me after seeing how bad I play. But now I realize that these are just things that I'm attracted to in a man, but not necessarily things that they are attracted to in me!
loved the video !! these tips are so incredibly valuable. i love how everything is relevant to the modern day. it makes it so much easier to visualize how I can implement these tips to my daily life, especially as a younger college student that is surrounded by demoralized men and feminist circles. may God continue to bless you and your family !
I grew up with parents that taught me manners. I always ask nicely for things. All the examples of you asking is what I do. My boyfriend simply does not respond to me being nice. I am not a forceful person and me having to "nag" or ask in a rude manner is the only way he responds which has made me extremely anxious and stressed because this is not the kind of person I am. I feel unrelaxed and it makes me feel like I'm his mom. I hate it. I've given him 2.5 years and asked him to maybe go to counseling because this isn't normal.
I’ve been there girl. I left that man. He was immature and selfish. You don’t deserve to go through all that mental gymnastics just for someone to behave normally
‘Men have been demoralised by androgyny’… would love to know more about what you mean by that, because if a mans ego can be fractured by self expression.. I don’t know what to say
The male ego is easily fractured by a lot of things…but that is because so many fall into the category of having their identity and masculinity based in an external or societal ideal of what it means to be a man. This is where “toxic masculinity” comes in, which is an ideal that stands on its own. Masculinity in itself is not toxic.
My goodness! The gems you dropped in this video were weighted! You spoke to my soul and with all that you mentioned I feel so confident in my progress as a woman and that is exactly what's required of me since I'll require my husband to be the amazing man God has called him to be. I'm excited subscribe and to watch other videos of yours 😊 thank you.
The worshipping part of oneself is so true! I realize now why I fell out of love with my ex boyfriend. He was arrogant in a way he'd think he was the center of the world, but he let some space for me, which is why I didn't run away at first. A couple of his usernames online were about him calling himself one true god and sort of stuff, he was very against God, but loved being one himself. (He had no problem with me being religious and not allowing him to touch me too much, which is what attracted me at first. Later on I realized a man will never be a good man unless he loves God. Maybe he will turn to Him in the future, but it definitely didn't happen while being with me.)
I love this video!!! Really needed to hear this although I get this wisdom from my mom, it’s great to hear this from another woman. I am a beautiful goddess. We all are. 🥰
The last few months I've struggled so much putting my feminine energy out there. I've never felt more threatened and vulnerable in my life before. I'm too scared to show my feminine self. I really won't let my guard down in front of men. I'm also scared and hesitant to receive princess treatment and to take care of myself. I do want to be treated like a real woman but I can't. My relationship with my ex boyfriend made me so insecure to the point that I hated myself and the way I look for several months. I surely don't want to experience that again. I want to be treated like a princess from now on but I'm afraid that I won't be able to do it.
Ladies, take notes! I’ve been married for 10 years and I am now having to deal with the consequences of the feminist brainwashing of my generation ! I would have paid for this type of information back in my dating days! Sigh. But God is gracious and redeeming!
So, if you’re young, single or fairly newly wedded, listen to what’s she’s saying; she’s spot on!
Things can improve and change!💜
Thank you so much for your endorsement 🩷🩷🩷 God bless
idk, what shes saying sounds very much like traditional feminism. trad feminism is the idea that man and woman are different beings, with different strengths and weaknesses that should be honored and respected. we are different but equal. dont act like feminism is all horrible because you can vote, go to school, have a bank account, get out of an abusive relationship all because of feminism. assault and sexual abuse is taken seriously because of feminism.
That actually isn’t “traditional feminism”. That’s Christianity! Women and men are equal in worth because we’re made in the image and likeness of God… but, different in design, as He made us male and female. That is originally a Christian belief, not a feminist belief.
@@Highwizardd I agree with you completely. Alot of women these days flaunt the power of choice in everyone's faces as if they had this all along. People are very entitled, as if what they have is because they deserve it and not because it was fought for. Their anger towards feminism is misplaced.
"If he worships himself, he'll expect you to worship him too" WOW.
I learned that lesson the hard way! Haha.
Damn right ! 😆
@@JasmyneTheodora "If she worships herself, she'll expect you to worship her too."
@@Hammerhead137 legit. Get someone else who does what u do if not too bad.
WOW, indeed. Given the topic and message of the video, you don’t see the hypocrisy?
Thank you for not equating princesss treatment to materialism
Of course
It’s character… chivalry. Picking you up for dates, sending you his time of arrival. How he talks to you even when he is frustrated. Valuing your time, not pressing you for sex. Romantic gestures like kissing your hand, and asking intrinsic questions to get to know you. Compliments of your intelligence and your character not just your beauty or sexualizing you.
@@carolinpurayidom4570 absolutely
@JasmyneTheodora What does he get in return?
@@Hammerhead137 your presence.
My husband and I waited to until marriage. 20 years and three kids later, we’re still very happy. We dated for two years and got to know each other really well. I think in big part because we weren’t having sex. There was time to just have fun and talk and consider whether or not we are a good match. When you jump right into sex, you may overlook a lot of things. Love this channel! God bless
See that’s actually very nice. I honestly think a lot of guys have issue with that is because if they know the woman had sex prior to being with him and then say that the immediate question in their head will be “why didn’t those other guys have to wait but now I have to?”
Do I let them know that I have no intentions of sleeping with them.i am a mother of two and it can be somewhat tricky and with some man acting like they are doing you a favor just to date you as a woman with kids.
@@mvelokhanyile7784 Tell them ,the right man will love you , honour you and your decisions plus your kids
You've inspired me ❤,I'm gonna wait
I know it’s hard, but think about it. Do you want a man who thinks that he doing you a favor rather then y’all both bringing benefits to each other?
Value self respect OVER male attention 🎉 👏
I think that's not only in regards to male attention,is to regards to any attention. If you don't care about you who is gonna? But when it comes to that there were two things women did, valued more male attention than valued themselves and the opposite,start to think they "need no man", "i'm the only person that matters", and that kind of thought, thoughts that end any relationship, not because the man "doesn't accept strong women" but because a relationship is based on the two sides giving their best and thinking about the other person,not themselves, how is the relationship gonna work if you also don't value the other person's opinions and point of view? We should all have balance in life.
*I must agree. Ever since I've been celibate my life has improved in every way. A bonus is better treatment from men. If only women knew that abstinence and listening is the key. Great job!*
Yes!Thank you!
Sorry listening to who? I’m a bit confused?
@@treciaingabire4161 Communication in general. The Bible does say one must be slow to speak and quick to listen.
So true my friend told me this I now understand.
@@treciaingabire4161 listening to men, listening to people in general. This is my other channel I'm answering from.
“Let him do the man, so you can be the woman.”
Amen! Not corny at all, Jasmyne. Fantastic video! 🌸
Amen, indeed!
Let the man be the man. Courting, pursuing, initiating most contact, professing his love, and romancing you.
@@basicinfo2022 then submit to the man
@@johnsmith1034 Her husband is the one she should submit to, not just any man.
@@johnsmith1034 once they are your husband yes not before marriage
I’m a man and I approve her message
Thank you kindly!
You’re a breath of fresh air. I haven’t allowed myself to be fully feminine for so long because I’ve been afraid of being vulnerable and getting hurt. You give me hope for having a loving, Godly marriage one day. Thank you. 💗
Femininity isn't weakness. It is a kind of power actually.
So true. Thank you.
When a man thoughtfully treats me with respect and consideration, it gives me the freedom and security to be more soft, kind and feminine.
When he is selfish and treats me with disrespect, my walls go up, I become more masculine and the claws come out.
Men who give women princess treatment are wise. If you want to open the flower, you have to shower it with gentle rain and sunshine.
Its my first time meeting someone who has exactly the same values as me! S*x for me is a really big thing, but for the people around me its kind of a casual thing. So i felt guilty taking it off the table, now i know i was right!! I felt the same but didnt knew how to word/describe it. Alsooo you are really beautiful in an ethereal kind of way♡ my mom always used to say if a person is religious they have this type of beautiful beauty, which in my language is called 'noor(the best word to describe it!)'. Im gonna subscribe your channel!!♡
This came at the perfect time. My long term boyfriend and I just broke up and I was so confused and hurt and was wondering why God let this happen only to realize how binded I was by his manipulative behavior. He is the exact man you are talking about that worships himself and only views me as a female regardless of how much I did for him. (I cooked, cleaned, gave him gifts, and acted like a wife when I was only a girlfriend) I am so grateful for this fresh start and I know that my future man will be a prince and not a frog!
My fiancé asked me to be his girlfriend the first day he met me (of course I said no because I didn’t know him) I didn’t have to do anything for him that night just show him my great personality and have great conversations with him. I wasn’t even looking to date at the time I randomly met him via his cousin who’s my friend. I didn’t do anything for him until maybe 7 months later when I made him a meal. All we did during that time was have deep conversations and create great memories. I didn’t have to do anything for him to fall in love but be my amazing self ❤
My best friend and her husband were both virgins and waited until marriage to have sex. Her husband is a Christian youth pastor at the church and they have two kids together, 1 boy and 1 girl. I admired their storybook, fairy-tale, Christ- conscious life. It was wholesome and beautiful until one day, he up and left her with the kids like she was nobody. He broke her heart and her spirit. It was like he just changed his mind out of the clear blue sky and snatched the rug from underneath her. She became suicidal and was put in a mental institution. By the grace of God, she's finally starting to be herself again but it has been a journey. I pray God blesses my friend with what she deserves. Waiting is definitely great but having a man that is real even after the deal is even better, either way, protect your heart !!
I’m so sorry for your friend 😭 I’ll be praying for her and I pray this NEVER happens to me
You know I’m sorry to hear about your friend. You brang up a great point tho that people don’t talk about enough. You can wait for marriage Or however long to sleep with a man and he can still leave after and it’s sad because they teach us the longer we keep our legs closed a prince will come and love us forever but some men have also heard of this and will date you and court u long enough until you do give it up and then vanish and it’s very disheartening. Happened to me before as well where I waited and soon as it finally happened the man was gone with the wind. He actually went and got someone pregnant after too. I feel like also once a man gets comfortable or the chase is over it’s like they get bored or feel they already completed a task and then are not giving the same energy as in the beginning because they get what they want. It’s sad. I’m not sayin all men are like this but most yes. I will agree tho that you have less heart break when you wait to have sex and avoid disrespect more and can see some of the bad actors red flags however some are very convincing and will wait till that right time then dip too. I hope your friend heals that’s a terrible thing he did to her & this is why i have always been scared to have children… my friends who have kids have a lot of similar stories. Still continuing my celibacy journey and some Days it gets hard but not that hard
I was 19 and I married my youth pastors son, i also waited till our wedding day, we were in church together most of our 17 year marriage, it wasn't by any means easy, we had a son & special needs daughter, we went through a lot of trials and financial struggles the last 7 years he was using hard drugs and i begged him multiple times to get help but ultimately he did not and I had to choose to remove my children and self from that environment. You can never really determine who people will decide to be in the future. It's been 10 years and unfortunately he is still living the same. My kids and I have been doing life on our own this whole time, not the way I expected things would turn out but here we are. I am still learning many things about myself & relationships at 46 years old.
As a man, I applaud this God oriented, complementarian attitude. So many speakers on these topics will either demonize men or women (usually out of bitterness) and seek no means of mending the relationship between men and women. You provide a lot of wisdom for both women and men in a very positive delivery that encourages our cooperation which is far too rare to find on the internet. Thank you
Holy crap! This is EVERYTHING!! I've done the majority (not all but most) of this without knowing, and it's true. I feel like a "useless" wife because I don't DO anything I feel I need to (working on some), but my husband loves me and always has. I never had to EARN his love or attention. He loves me for me, as hard as it can be for me to understand that concept. I was raised by a family of feminists and none are married, but they always told me to do everything myself, never count on a man, etc etc. But it's EXACTLY the opposite that my husband loved. I was innocent, pure, loyal, peaceful, etc. and he loves that. He doesn't have to worry about me, and I don't have to worry about him. He protects me from the outside world, and I protect his peace by being there for him.
It was all just too simple/"easy" to be true, I never believed it even as it was happening to me because I was always told otherwise.
How I wish I could share this with my girl friends without them getting offended (idk if they would, but I'm too scared to try) 😅 lol
Wow, that's amazing! You're so lucky that you found a genuine man and managed stay the way you are. I used to be like that too, but now due to hopelessness and some bad experiences I'm starting to think that the world and people are so much different from my core beliefs and natural temperament and that I need to change.
Cheers 🙌🏼
You did earn his love. He didn’t just love you for no reason because that’ll imply that you have nothing to offer. You had to have had something that made him decide to fall in love with you
What does it mean that he protects you from the outside world?
@@WorstDruidEUAs he outearns her and handles most of the decision making. She's the copilot who's just there as potential backup, but doesn't have to do much of the heavy lifting.
@@PermanentHigh that sounds like support and copiloting indeed but what's the protection in particular from in the outside world? I'm really struggling to understand what would be the practical examples of that, what exactly is the protection from in the outside world? I'm trying to understand and hopefully apply it but protect from what for example?
It helps me to heal from my recent break up where I was the man in the relationship, and he was the princess 😢🙄
Hahahaha nooooo😂
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❗️ I vowed to never find Myself in this situation again.
So was I and it was soooo tiring to remind that he was the man but in this house his mother used to treat him like a girl and a child! Thank God I got tired and run after 6 months ❤️ there are still good one out there
"Your job is not to make a man fall in love with you" -- THANK YOU! I needed to hear this! I've been feeling this pressure on me that there is something I should DO to provoke love and not just BE and RECEIVE. And women (Godly women) urging me to go after him and show him attention and understanding and support. No. I cried out to God "I need to feel like a woman!" I was even labeled as proud for refusing to call and contact him after his withdrawal.
Hi Jasmyne,
You should make a video on the different stages of relationships (feminine side; including expectations for masculine roles):
-singleness
-finding a partner
-getting to know
-dating
-fiancé
-married
-during marriage
Yes I’d love this!
Yes! It’s all so new some of us
Yes
why is jasmyne consistantly spitting fax ?!
Ohhhhh hahaha 😆
This might be one of your most beautiful and introspective videos you've ever made
I think all of them are, but this one sent me to a deeper self-reflection (edit for grammar)
Wow, thank you soooo much!! Means so much to mr!
it’s so refreshing to see a perspective like this instead of all the toxic red pill and feminist BS coming from both sides. As a man i believe a strong faith in god and rejection of lust and materialism will heal the relationships between men and women 🙏
I agree. But im angry about rude males and i dont feel like trusting anyone anymore.
Jasmine, we really REALLY appreciate all the effort you go through to talk to us! In getting married in two months to a wonderful man who treats me like a princess and I want to continue inspiring his masculinity and giving him the respect he deserves, so thank you for the reminders, tips, and encouragements! God bless ❤️
I agree with everything said here, particularly the "Five nonnegotiables" and the block near the end about how to communicate effectively with your husband. Good stuff.
This video is it! It’s so wholesome. I really appreciate the fact that you’re one of the women who still pushes this❤.
As a guy I thought this was a great video. It had a lot of great points.
There are too many yt vids with only guys explaining how women expect to be treated, which I think is funny.
But this is different and it helps give new fresh perspective.
I appreciate this video and the feeling of it too. I find that so much feminine content on the internet has a "masculine rush" to it that feels rather like an oxymoron, as the energy observed isn't the energy advised to adapt, which definitely creates a lot of friction between theory and practice. Watching this video felt like leading by calm example, and phrases and theories I've come across on "feminine energy" social media, that have felt hard to grasp and execute became clear as day here. I appreciate this video so much and cannot wait to go and be inspired by the rest of your channel. Best Talia.
Impish made me chuckle out loud. I love this video and I believe every woman and girl should watch this
😆🩷🩷🩷 thank you so much
I subbed to uuu
So true
As a young orthadox Christian in courting ive held it sternly that i will not be handing over intimacy until my wedding day and jasmyne youve just affirmed that i am on the right track. Thank you and may the lord bless you☦️❤️
Zina has become extremely normalised nowadays
This is why divorce rates are so high because people get into relationships too early in their lives
Yes. Dont lose your virginity before marriage. I regret my past. And now im 34 and scarred. I hope you find a good husband and create a beautiful family
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@@etcwhatever i agree. I’m 20 years old and lost my virginity at 17 to a random guy I found on a hook up site because I felt ‘left behind’ in this new culture and ‘empowered’ by modern feminism. Ever since then I’ve given myself to every man that I’ve dated. It’s no wonder it never worked out. I deeply regret it so much. I think I did it because I was scared and didn’t believe anyone would go through all that trouble for me. I thought the only way I would be loved or valued would be through my body or what I could give/offer to them. I wish I grew up thinking I was worth more as a little girl. So I could have waited for the right ‘prince’…
You got this girlie ❤I lost mine at 20 and ofc we aren’t together now
Please.. we need more women like you. Honestly I'm tired of feminists, aggressive, rude woman. I'm a very soft woman. Who belives in traditional gender role, God, femininity, masculinity, modesty, health. But sadly I don't find friends with the same mindset 😔
But at least against the disbelievers we must be aggressive
@@NoQuestionsAskedd Agreed
@@NoQuestionsAskedd no we shouldn’t… we should be loving towards disbelievers. They are not our enemy, the devil is. God said to treat all people with love, so that we may possibly win them over to Christ.
@@princess-yy5gl Sorry to say but reading the stories of the Saints made me despise the disbelievers even more especially apostates
I know how you feel. It’s hard to find likeminded people.
I’ve actually never heard this explained this way. Subscribed immediately
Yay! Thanks!!
WOW, WOOOOOW!!! Came for my entire throat and I needed to hear all of it. So grateful for this enlightenment.
Glad it was helpful!
Recently I watched some videos of another youtuber that I really like, also recently turned christian, and he also said, if you want to seek a real relationship, take sex off the table. At least for some time. So true 💞
I made a list of 26 non negotiable points like you mentioned, and this REALLY helped me to streamline and cut off the men I was coming across. I found exactly that man who fulfilled these, we’re getting married next month and he is an incredible man (it’s been 5 years together - engaged at 3 years together). Neither of us are religious, yet he was more of a Godly man than any religious Christian man I dated. Thank you for your message x
Girl you just packed a sermon and crash course in leveling up and relaxed femininity in one video. Got my subscription. ❤
Thank you for including my quote in your video!
❤, Alison Helena☦️
You should have podcast, you explain things so well with so much maturity x
Regarding the asking, social media has def made it feel like the right man should know always what to do and say so I liked that you touched on it. Closed mouths don't get fed! Ofc there's a balance and some things you should not have to communicate
Love and appreciate the time you take to make these videos. I could listen to you for hours. Thank you!
Wow, thank you! Glad you like them!
You are wise beyond your years Jasmyne Theodora! I love to get your insight on these feminine topics and how to function in a society where women and men have been fed false information! ❤❤❤
I'm obsessed with your content and your voice. Thank you
Pshhhh thank you soooo much!!
Girl. I needed this SO. BAD. This is the perfect timing… God brought me to this video. Thank you so much for your guidance ❤️
Girl this vid really helped, i struggle so much cause i had barely any feminine help in my life so I can be quite blunt and cold towards people or even defensive. But the video was informative thank you very much.
Thank you for this, PMS has been making me act up around him a lot and I just want him to forgive me and know that I love him a lot. I wanna be his princess.
Letting my husband know which phase of the month I’m in has been really beneficial! One thing that really helps is telling him I can’t handle “light touches” during my lower hormonal times. Deep, secure hugs over light touches avoids “over stimulation” and me getting annoyed 😆
Make sure you are taking high quality supplements like VitB6 and VitD3 etc. I'd recommend homeopathy as well. He should treat you with kindness during these times. It's not easy at all.
oh wow , I'm glad to know the BTS insight shared at the end.. I could've thought these 22 minutes simply came out perfectly directly.. thinking to myself "dang.. why can't I be THIS concise and well-spoken with no pauses when recording?!
Took me 2 hours to get 22 minutes worth of clear speaking 🫠😆
I would also like to add that i agree that us men fall in love different. BUT with that being said you simply showing consideration(like offering to pay the tips on dates or even showing initiative to plan a fun date) ,showing that your willing to learn about us as men and not just what we can give you, and showing that you can be a listening ear for the man your dating will definitely
have us move mountains for you. DON’T FORGET ladies men don’t experience much positivity from the world around us(especially in the times we are in now). YOU being that positive/fresh breath of air and peaceful sanctuary for us to feel at home is VERY IMPORTANT to what a good/god fearing men look for. (speaking from experience and plenty of male friends that i converse with).
We don't experience much positive things as you think.
@@sissi6013more than men
@@sissi6013 i understand and i agree, but the purpose of me saying it was for men and women to make each others lives easier
He thinks we live in a fluffy pink bubble. Its ridiculous and it's more excuses again.
@devontejackson4025 Sounds like you need a 50/50 woman. That’s cool. They’re out there. Women aren’t living some fru fru magical pixie dust fairytale life. It’s not all positive pink fluffy cloud. You need to be able to handle & love a real woman.
i'm not married (don't think i can handle being in any relationship) but my sister is and I think there's a lot of nuggets of wisdom in here that she will find inspiring and helpful!!
Yay! Thank you!
This was very insightful. I understood and appreciate the way you talked about these subjects with religious and non religious perspectives in mind. I am not religious and many ways I move through the world are similar to a lot of religious practices. Many parts are beneficial, like no sex before marriage. I do not want children nor do I want to have sex with someone before being committed for health reasons too. It’s a bit hard finding content like this that can be digested even if I’m not religious. ( some people’s messages get drowned out by their dislike of something)
This was a great video and you make princess treatment make sense with the way you clarified everything.
11:53 this is so sad, this is what is happenning in my relationship, he inially got happy because I dont have sex before marriage, but he is now mad because I am dont want to have sex before marriage. 🙃🙃🙃
Loved this one, thanks for the time and effort. Every single point was worth hearing for me!
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yass jasmine!! many of these 'coaches' on here fail to mention the importance of the man having faith and can worship god.
“These (red pill) men have been so demoralized that they don’t see the benefit of treating women that well. They have been so demoralized that they don’t see the feminine in women anymore. And it’s the feminine in women that sparks the prince in men.”
Good stuff beautiful sister. ❤
Girl women get treated well when their earn their position
As a man I'll just add that most of us are disillusioned (or "bitter" as you called it) from consistent experiences with women who claim to value their femininity, but just use that as a smokescreen to rationalize narcissism. So it will go a long way to intentionally communicate that in return for princess treatment you'll proactively show him a special level of respect, honor, and softness. It'll help bring a lot of guys' red pill guard down.
Girl I’ve experienced this - it’s crazy. I’m writing a book about it and more.
girl you’ve earned yourself a new subscriber! this video was so refreshing! and you hit the nail on the head w/ everything
Loved this vid so much!! I might have to watch it again down the road. Nagging has always been something I’ve really struggled with…not proud to say it, but it’s true.
Your insight always reminds me of the woman I want to strive to be.❤
Charm instead of nag
Request instead of demand
Inspire instead of command
From experience, this absolutely works! ❤
This is brilliant 😊
this is so good, jasmyne. SO. GOOD.
I feel so honored to receive such a comment. Thank you!!
It's complicated. I'm a very masculine woman, brainwashed by the patriarchy and radical feminism, I admit. Sometimes it feels like the only way to succeed in this world is to lean into your masc energy. But there are different rules when we're with a man vs when we are by ourselves. I realize there are only 2 dynamics here: you're either playing his wife or his mother. Women are inherently nurturing so when a man is childish, wounded, and emotionally unavailable, it triggers our mothering instinct to heal and help. Men who have not done the work on themselves have no business being in a relationship because of this. Most men simply aren't ready for a woman. Only a healed man or at least someone with a spiritual or personal development practice can ever hope to co-create the space where a woman can be what she truly is.
this is so true... we need to hold back the nurturing part!!
Thank you for providing that list of non negotiables. Sometimes I struggle with my list and often get caught up in traits, but yours were value driven which was so insightful. No wonder I’ve struggled ❤
I love how active you are in the comments section.
Having an audience was a far-fetched dream for me not too long ago 🥹 I love being able to connect with anyone who takes the time to listen to my content
beautiful response@@JasmyneTheodora
Ahhh love this for us ladies. Thank you for this message Jasmine, Lots of love from SA 🇿🇦
As a married man, I want to embody these traits. I found this very helpful. Thank you for sharing this!
Wow, I’m glad this was helpful! Thanks for watching!
You shared some seriously amazing gems that are so true! Love your content 💕
This was truly helpful. I'm glad this popped up at an opportune time, so I could watch it. I have been ready to give up on my relationship, but you have given me hope. I'm also making a special playlist to share with my children when they are older. Thank you for what you do.
And an unpopular opinion that I have is that Dragonball Z has horrible artwork.
This video deserves to be studied and I’m gonna study it this weekend. Amazing video, thanks for this Jasmyne 🎉
Commenting so that more women have a chance to hear this message
Thank you , this helped me a lot , I've done a lot of things that were mentioned as not to do and yes there are consequences to those actions , I am grateful to know the solutions and move forward. I love you sister , I Thank God for using you to sow fruitful seeds ❤
Hi Jasmine, I'm a 16-year-old Brazilian girl and what a relief to know that there are women like you and I also want to be a new woman. learning from you and honestly nowadays and especially in my country, it is difficult to have any man who values women. In my country, women are super hypersexualized and when we have the image of the singer Anitta who promotes this about Brazil, it gets worse. 😢😊
Jasmyne, you need to keep making videos like this. Although Sheraseven gives similar advice, she doesn’t tell women the good side of men and explain how they are capable of showing love and they are only good for how much money they have. Your advice on men is more God centered and I am glad I found your channel.
This normally backfires and normally leads to getting played, cheating and other things of degeneracy. Honestly, once you have sex with him, if he decides to stick around then he actually wants to stay with you. Anything before that is really up in the air.
This is a backwards approach… to engage in the most intimate act as some sort of examination to see if someone will actually stick around? Haha..no.
I am so grateful I found your channel. It has caused so many things about my life to change for the better. Thankyou for the work you do Jasmyne 😍😍😍
Wow, thanks so much for explaining that men don't fall in love with our competency or our skills - every time I'm around a guy I want to date, I always subconsciously try to impress him in some way with being knowledgeable in something, and if I'm failing at something I'm doing, I feel like I screwed up my chances. For example, if we're playing a sport like volleyball, when I can't play the game well it will make me feel terrible! I think they couldn't possibly like me after seeing how bad I play. But now I realize that these are just things that I'm attracted to in a man, but not necessarily things that they are attracted to in me!
The best advice video I've come across so far.
This can be use also in a relationship that is not working. If we start to take care of our femenine energy and grow that gift everything change.❤
I learn something every time I listen to you. Thank you for the information you share
Of course!! So glad to hear!
You are amazing! I just found your channel and I love all your tips. The way you speak is also so so so soothing
Im so happy to hear that!! Thank you! 😊
You're very well spoken, and a very articulate communicator. I really enjoy listening to you. Thank-you.
loved the video !! these tips are so incredibly valuable. i love how everything is relevant to the modern day. it makes it so much easier to visualize how I can implement these tips to my daily life, especially as a younger college student that is surrounded by demoralized men and feminist circles. may God continue to bless you and your family !
Everything you said was perfectly said, and so true. Great video 👏🏾🎀
I grew up with parents that taught me manners. I always ask nicely for things. All the examples of you asking is what I do. My boyfriend simply does not respond to me being nice. I am not a forceful person and me having to "nag" or ask in a rude manner is the only way he responds which has made me extremely anxious and stressed because this is not the kind of person I am. I feel unrelaxed and it makes me feel like I'm his mom. I hate it. I've given him 2.5 years and asked him to maybe go to counseling because this isn't normal.
you deserve better:(
I’ve been there girl. I left that man. He was immature and selfish. You don’t deserve to go through all that mental gymnastics just for someone to behave normally
‘Men have been demoralised by androgyny’… would love to know more about what you mean by that, because if a mans ego can be fractured by self expression.. I don’t know what to say
Precisely…
The male ego is easily fractured by a lot of things…but that is because so many fall into the category of having their identity and masculinity based in an external or societal ideal of what it means to be a man. This is where “toxic masculinity” comes in, which is an ideal that stands on its own. Masculinity in itself is not toxic.
My goodness! The gems you dropped in this video were weighted! You spoke to my soul and with all that you mentioned I feel so confident in my progress as a woman and that is exactly what's required of me since I'll require my husband to be the amazing man God has called him to be. I'm excited subscribe and to watch other videos of yours 😊 thank you.
Agreed 100% you speak so well about this subject
this is so interesting!! this is what ive been thinking.. :)
Thanks for listening 🙏
The worshipping part of oneself is so true!
I realize now why I fell out of love with my ex boyfriend. He was arrogant in a way he'd think he was the center of the world, but he let some space for me, which is why I didn't run away at first. A couple of his usernames online were about him calling himself one true god and sort of stuff, he was very against God, but loved being one himself. (He had no problem with me being religious and not allowing him to touch me too much, which is what attracted me at first. Later on I realized a man will never be a good man unless he loves God. Maybe he will turn to Him in the future, but it definitely didn't happen while being with me.)
I love this video!!! Really needed to hear this although I get this wisdom from my mom, it’s great to hear this from another woman.
I am a beautiful goddess. We all are. 🥰
I'm so glad!
So true.... I had to download cuz I needed to remind myself often❤
You are throughly intelligent..,deep dive in your discussions. I've watched this video 3 times. Learn more and more
Thanks!
Thank you for sharing all of this valuable tips, as a woman who is on her femininity journey this helps. Also love your transparency!! 😊👍🏾💃🏾
“Judgmental ideal” I had never heard of that concept before, interesting
I started my celibacy journey last year and I know for a fact that the man God has for me will respect my decision. ❤
Yes 🙌
The last few months I've struggled so much putting my feminine energy out there. I've never felt more threatened and vulnerable in my life before. I'm too scared to show my feminine self. I really won't let my guard down in front of men. I'm also scared and hesitant to receive princess treatment and to take care of myself. I do want to be treated like a real woman but I can't. My relationship with my ex boyfriend made me so insecure to the point that I hated myself and the way I look for several months. I surely don't want to experience that again. I want to be treated like a princess from now on but I'm afraid that I won't be able to do it.
I think you got this, everything takes time 💛
This was so calming and valuable! Thank you!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
THANK YOU. I appreciate every word you said 😭
This is good stuff!! Thank you for this great message and reminder to us ladies!👌🏾👏🏾💜
Great video, very insightful 🩷
This video has lots of gold nuggets. Thank you
This video was everything I needed to hear. Thank you so much.
Glad it was helpful!