Ladies, no matter how hard you try, you can never change a man. A man will only change if he wants to, not because you want him to change. Also, NEVER EVER get into a relationship with a man who needs "fixing", that is NOT your calling and can definitely have a negative effect on your femininity and peace. How you found the man is how he is going to be for a big chunk of your relationship and maybe even forever as it is up to him to decide whether he wants to change. As a feminine woman, your peace of mind is important, you are not a rehabilitation center for broken men, nor are you a hospital ward. Accepting these building projects can have HEAVY NEGATIVE EFFECTS on your femininity, including, stress, trauma, and unnecessary hurt, and can even lead you to become more rigid and hard and lose your femininity as a result of being in a harsh relationship.
Thank you for sharing! What advice do you give when we have/decide to work in environments that require us to work w men and they don’t take our advice, even when we know that what we’re saying would help the group overall succeed? And it’s an important matter at hand? I’m a creative and work alongside different genders and even though parts of ur advice are right - I can’t just avoid working with men just bc they’re hardheaded (perfect world tho - am I right 🤣). Just wanted some feedback since you seem to be very knowledgeable as well. Thanks in advance 💘🙏🏽
@@Saint_Darius she didn't blame all men.. She is just giving advice to other women to not accept a man who would make her suffer and the same advice is given to men too, stay away from narcissistic women who would make you suffer 😊
@@DianaGarcia-jr7ve frame your advice as questions and inquiries, rather than advice and let them think out/discuss/decide the direction they are going to go and also ask if they have tried specific paths or people who may help guide him, lastly as this video said ask for his help deciding on what direction to take (can we discuss how to go about getting this going) and once you are having that conversation really listen to his suggestions and also bring in yours. He has to be receptive to your opinions for it to feel like opinion rather than authority which a lot of us instinctively rebel against (men and women).
I am a man and stumbled upon this channel and was completely surprised by the title, i almoast thought im imagining what a perfect youtube for women would be. It's just that so rarely do I see this traditional healthy relationship with masculine man and a feminine woman being talked about by women. Also i was surprised by the ammount of viewers you have which means that there must be much more beutiful traditional feminine woman out there than i thought.
"An effeminate man is not feminine just because he lacks masculinity." Jasmyne, this is why you're my favorite RUclipsr right now. This point was so helpful on multiple levels, and answers several questions I have had about the whole femininity thing. I'll name two (sorry, this is going to be long): 1. It identifies a major difference between the new agey "divine feminine energy" philosophy and more traditional views on gender (I think). The new agey folks speak as though femininity and masculinity are modes that men and women can both step into and out of as needed. Traditionalists don't believe that, but rather believe that femininity is a trait that characterizes women who conduct their lives in accordance with their nature as women, and masculinity is the male version of that. Effeminacy is not a man stepping into his feminine energy, but is rather a corrosion of masculinity. Same goes for women who aren't feminine. 2. I've wondered for a while why a lot of your tips for how to be feminine could apply to men as well. A lot of your advice, e.g. "be humble", "be quick to listen and slow to speak", isn't necessarily gender-specific, but rather are just things people in general should do to correct character flaws. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I just realized that's exactly the point: women who develop strong character will increase their femininity by allowing their innate nature to shine through, free from the bad habits that obscure it. Likewise, men who strengthen their character will see an increase in masculinity because it's those character flaws that cause them to be effeminate.
You hit the nail on the head. I think the rhetoric around “masculine women” and “feminine men” is a result of modern gender theory. Sure, there are women who function more in a masculine manner but they’re not masculine in essence. They’re not masculine the way that men are masculine (which is raw masculinity). And naturally, human beings, men and women, have a lot of similarities which is why a lot of what I say can be universally applicable. Humility should be embraced by everyone. But it’s expression is different… humility, for instance, allows a wife to be a better follower of her husband and humility allows a husband to be a better leader. Same virtue but different out-workings! The same virtues allow us to better function in our different roles.
@@JasmyneTheodora Yes, I think the gender theorists and new agers talking about energy confuse their imagination with reality. They try to impose their imagination on reality. They don't live spiritually and submit to reality. When you are humble in that way then you have a firm enough grasp of reality to be firm in what I experience in masculine ways and women experience in femine ways, not because we imagine it but because we are it.
I stopped dating for a while to work on my femininity. I understood that I would be alone most of the times . But the more I worked on myself, more masculine men persuaded me 😅 . I gracefully decline, but it really keeps them on their toes . This channel is one of the best decisions I made this year 😊 Thank you Jaysmne
Jasmyne, you ATE this video 👏👏👏 I've been dealing with wanting my husband to step into his leadership role more, and your advice was spot on. What I'm working on right now is the point about focusing on building my own femininity (being a better homemaker, etc.) to create the best environment for him to thrive as a man. Wish me luck, haha.
Before you criticize feminism, just remember that it was feminists who won you the right to vote and the right to have bank accounts and take out loans without male co-signers. It was feminism that raised the status of women in society overall. Sorry, the church did not do it.
So awesome, Jasmyne! I’ve been in many unhealthy relationships with immoral, effeminate men in the past, so I have very strong defenses up against this kind of thing with my husband. We’ve been married for about 10 months and I’ve been working on myself, and realizing that he truly IS masculine. Not “my idea of the ideal masculine man,” but a true masculine man in his own right. Recognizing the masculine traits that ARE (very) present in my husband has helped me to let my guard down, and I appreciate these tips on how to *encourage* certain desirable masculine traits without forcing them… and to be ok with allowing our men to find their own “flavor” of virtuous masculinity :) Thank you Jasmyne, as always, and may God bless you and your family!
This is such an important video for those of us who chose our men while on hormonal birth control. My husband is now using they/them pronouns at work and it's such a balancing act to steer him back to his masculinity without driving him further down the gender confusion rabbit hole.
@@katherinepiece8808 she has an awesome video on the effects of birth control. that will answer your question. In short, hormones alter the way we think.
@@katherinepiece8808 there's evidence that women on hormonal birth control select for less masculine men and become less attracted to them if they come off it.
Girl! Why I see God in you? Your face, your voice, your energy, your choice of words... I see a pure woman of God! 🤍✨️🙏🏼 keep spreading goodness dear, this world needs you! I'm so glad I found your channel🥰 greetings from 🇲🇰 ❤
I had a very controlling husband who demanded allegiance and servitude. My sons don't demand but are now very passive, expecting me to do everything, like he did. Yet they are clearly not happy either. In fact, they seem lost and frustrated. Thank you, Jasmyne, for helping me learn how to inspire masculinity in my sons. I want them to be who God made them to be, yet I haven't had a tangible plan for how to achieve that until now. I appreciate you more than I can express 💖
Perhaps asking them to plan activities for you guys to do together? Ask them to help you with something (like taking out the trash, or grocery shopping, etc.) and thank them and tell them how much you appreciate it when they help. Any time they take initiative, praise them.
@@rachelhayhurst-mason7846 God will show you. With my son I spent time with him doing the things he enjoyed. Healthy things. Listening to him and not pushing him to communicate. Gradually he changed for the better and recently got baptized.
Wonderful video! I just want to note that non verbal cues are risky. Men are not clueless but they also are not mind-readers. Most men appreciate a respectful voiced opinion/ boundary. (And a man on the spectrum will require verbal instruction as they do not pick up on social cues!) My way of approaching this is … (when I’m in disagreement) very calmly and politely saying “Babe, I respect you so much but I don’t prefer xyz” and leave it at that! (When I want something) I say “I love it when you xyz” Very simple and effective. In the dinner example I might say something like “Im happy to order if you want because i respect you so much, but it really does make me feel so feminine when you order for us.” A respectful man who loves you and wants you to be happy will hear you loud and clear!
I'm a man. He wants to be your hero, and that's the only way he knows to serve you. If you try to command him, he will either withdraw, lash out, or eventually break. If you give him the opportunity to be your hero, he will darn well try. Oh but you have to be direct. Half the time we can't even understand women's "hints", the other half the time it offends male honour because a woman expects him to serve them without the recognition that asking provides.
Thank you, J. As a man, I am already feeling inspired to step up, lols. Really, I find the approach irresistable; it is one that would cause a man to effortlessly desire to change and be better.
This was truly inspiring and encouraging to hear, thank you. It’s crazy to me that there are some women would take this information as “encouraging abuse”. This information is incredibly valuable to creating harmony as God designed. I’ve been in a handful of relationships with emasculate men and I definitely ended up being more controlling and emasculating them even further. I definitely want to embrace and grow in my femininity and allow that to be my strength, instead of trying to take on the “masculine role”… as someone who’s reverted to that before, it is definitely exhausting and fruitless. This is something I take to heart and have been praying about and want to study.
Jasmyne keep up the Godly work you are doing. You are the voice this generation needs! Your videos have taught me so much and they give the advice that truly works and appeals to God over the world. It can contradict and fight against this toxic way of thinking the new generation is trying to implement. Keep it up! ❤️
Hey Jasmyne! I am newly engaged and me and my fiancé are Christian. we are fairly young, me being 18 and him being 21, we really try to fall more into our Godly roles daily. It is hard considering the fact he was raised mostly by his mother and I, by both parents. So he didn't really have many quality masculine roles in his life to raise him. At the beginning of our relationship he was very insecure and somewhat codependent of me because I came into the relationship confident and whole in myself and he came in needed to be nurtured from his past. This confused the relationship a bit because it felt like I had to take charge in the dynamics of us. He was more sensitive and emotional and I was more practical and supportive. I had to bring the masculinity out of him and become somewhat of a teacher to him, showing him videos like yours and listening to sermons on how a Godly man should be. Now that he has discovered his sense of oneness and masculinity, it's hard for me to fully respect his decision making and control of this relationship even though it's what I've always wanted. I find myself irritated and upset when he doesn't do things my way, and I also find myself more sensitive to the things he does that are considered normal. Because he was so codependent of me at first, now anytime he hangs with friends or doesn't rush to see me I feel he doesn't want me. We have been through a lot already, and we love each other so much and want to be together. But I just want to embrace my femininity and I do want him to be the masculine foundation to sustain our relationship. I see women like you seeming to be so comfortable in their feminine and i think it's so incredibly beautiful. In this situation, how can I trust him wholeheartedly in all aspects and be secure in knowing that he is the Godly man I am to be with and that can lead me and a potential family?
One thing that can help him is to surround himself with other Godly men. Join a mens bible study and encourage friendship with other brothers in Christ.
Women are externally inspired and men are internally influenced. This is where the Holy spirit comes into play. You may not wholehearted agree with every decision he makes but if God is directing him then there should be no issue. However, if hes making a decision that is going to crash course, go to your prayer room and ask the Holy spirit for wisdom and to fix it. The Holy Spirit will literally change his mind and change his steps back on the right path. Because you do not want to end up being a Sapphira going along with a bad decision like the one Ananias made. I have literally prayed to the Holy spirit on decisions my boyfriend has made that I ,personally didnt think was a good idea because I knew if I tried to change his mind about everything he will never learn from his mistakes and learn to lead me.
Pray concerning this matter. Understand the weight of responsibility that a man of God must bear that you are not required to carry by looking at examples of the great men of faith i.e. their struggles and weaknesses. Build your fiancee up and do not tear him down. Empower him to forge his own path provided that it is glorifying to God and help him when he makes mistakes. There are reasons why certain verses are directed to men vs women. May God guide you and your fiancee on your walk together. A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1
My husband def is not struggling in the masculinity game, he ain’t got no emotion lmao j/k but fr. I need help tho with submitting. My husband is the leader of our home and I want to so much to be more connected with my femininity and I struggle. I have a long line of strong women that I come from with the “can’t tell me nothing.” attitude and I wanna change it. I’ve been doing better but sometimes those feelings come up where I wanna fight his ass LOL! I need help 😞 I don’t wanna get butthurt either when he tells me i need to improve my cooking 😒 LOL also I would love that dressing modesty video! Love ya girl! Love your videos and congrats on your new baby ❤
Fighting, in the right context, may actually be the healthiest way to get past this instinct. You want to challenge him to test whether he is worthy of trust. This is a problem, but the solution is easy. An actual fight, a little wrestling should make you feel very submissive when he pins you with minimal effort. The knowledge that you can struggle as hard as you want and he wont fail should give you a feeling of security.
I found the perfect channel for me. I love Jesus and I'm learning a lot about femininity lately but some of them heavily rely on manifestation and the Universe which is not really my cup of tea. But this feels like the right thing for me. Thank you ❤
I love your videos Jasmyne. They really do not compare to other videos I see on RUclips. You speak with so much depth and meaning. It really enlightens many important topics on womanhood. Thank you! :)
OMG thank youuuu ❤️ I just was about to look for such a video because I'm struggling with this issue with my partner and I don't want to break up before trying something.
Girl! Take it from a 29 year old woman who saw the 20% of the lack of masculinity in my man and was so fixated on that for months and but didn’t know how to inspire him and let my masculinity down and ask for help from him and make him feel needed. I was so blind and negatively focused. I STOPPED SEEING HIM. I broke up with him and the next day I was flooded with his greatness and how good he was to me. A week later I wanted to get back together but it was so muddied and he had honestly had enough of me telling him he didn’t love me enough simply because he was taking charge being masculine and taking care of me.😢😢. But he was the same with his dearest mother and little sister. HE NEEDED ME TO SHOW HIM THE WAY. But I was so needing to work on myself and my over masculinity and that by the time I was seeing fully and regretting leaving him and asked for him back 7days later. He was too confused with me saying “you don’t love me enough and that’s why you don’t do this and that for me” I CONVINCED THE MAN THAT I LOVE THAT HE DOESNT LOVE ME AND OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS SO PURE AND GOD GIVEN AND HE WAS SO LOYAL AND RESPECTFUL. He regretted me and I have been in so much pain for the past three weeks reconciling IT ALL with myself. I pray for the day god blesses me with him again. I know the self work we are both doing while we are apart is what we needed but couldn’t do together BUT THIS BREAK FEELS SO PAINFUL. LISTEN TO ME ELYNA! Listen good girl! DO NOT. I repeat. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR MAN if you Troy love him and believe he loves and respects you. Search for all solutions and find a way to inspire him and grow with him. I wish I could share my everyday and thoughts with my Teddy. I PRAY GOD BLESSES ME WITH HIM AGAIN. (Open to new love but I KNOW HE IS MY MAN. The love and understanding I feel now for him is a million times more that I thought there was. So unconditional.) Fight with you mr man don’t fight with him and push him away. Lol and please gurl! Pllleeeeaaae pray for my relationship too. God bless
You are so inspiring in both your relationship with God and with your husband. Ive been following you for a while now and even just coming into my feminine has been really pushing me to get back in touch with God (who would have known haha)
Awesome that you uploaded this video. Yes, men are human beings too I never understood why some women treat their men as if they are in this universe to do nothing but serve their woman. There is nothing better than a relationship with love and respect. You both built each other. Thanks again for spreading this to the universe.
It is so wierd, I have been thinking of asking you to recommend books to read because I love how you speak so eloquently and have a vast vocabulary. I am so pleased to hear about a book club. I will gladly join.
so excited for the book club..You have that new mother glow by the way...very lovely🥰🥰🥰congrats again..I appreciate a peaceful space like yours on youtube
I love this video 🙏🏾❤️ also love the way you speak! Your choice of words are so expressive which makes the point much clearer and concise. Btw is your hair naturally black? And your eyes too? You look lovely !
@@JasmyneTheodora you’re welcome! Yeah I just watched another video and notice the filter/colours was a lot warmer and you also mentioned it there as-well that the contrast can be overbearing on the camera. Either way you are beautiful sis❤️
I'm here because I want to be more feminine to my husband. I am feminine with how I dress. But my words are my struggle. I really want to be more feminine not for him, but for me. I truly believe that I'll be happier.
When I ask for help from my bf, he will listen, promise to help me, sometimes even gives me speech... But in the end, never helps me... He forgets and get busy with other stuff... How do I change this behaviour?
Hmmm this is really good advice. I need to apply everything. Thank you for this. I had a feeling but wasn’t sure about the proper steps and actions. Amazing video
I would be careful of the language being used here. Men can be feminine and should be. Femininity and Masculinity has to do with energy. Men and women have both of these energies because it takes both genders to create life. If I as a women were to say that I am not masculine I would be disowning my father and disowning myself. This goes for men too. To deny his femininity removed men from empathizing with their mother’s and removes them from tapping into their own emotions. I agree with you in terms of a men being a leader in a partnership because as a man he is gifted with in strength, structure, stability. Women are gifted leaders in creativity, comfort, and wonder. These are gifts that have manifested in our different genders and have then passed down. Even a woman who is “chronically” vulnerable it is dangerous. I love your videos, and I agree on a lot of your points
I’m actually doing a video on this on Sunday! But I disagree, I don’t think men have a “feminine” side. Femininity is not performative - it’s about who you are (and then we should behave in accordance with our internal essence). We are not androgynous beings. We’re either male or female - either feminine or masculine beings. Yes, we as women should integrate traits that you could place into the opposite category but it should be in a way that serves to supplement your internal essence. Not in a way that compromises it. Like compassion is a feminine trait although a good man should integrate compassion into his character in order to be a better leader (a better masculine figure). I go a lot more into this in my video though, stay tuned!
This is also a slippery slope. We’ve gone from “men can be feminine” to “men can be real women and can infiltrate female spaces” to “men can have uterine implants and potentially give birth.” I’ve only met effeminate men, not men who are feminine as femininity has to do with biological makeup + inward spirit. We as women behave feminine as a reflection of who we intrinsically are but we’re not feminine merely because we behave as feminine. Hope that translates well💖
Hey Jasmyne, I don't know if you'll actually see this, but I was wondering what you mean by "relax into your femininity". I think that I'm personally struggling with my balance of masc/fem sometimes. I don't feel comfortable with the idea of being a follower, but also at the same time I know from experience with a previous relationship that I dont like effeminate guys who don't really take much charge. I find myself in a bit of a struggle with these concepts, because I think I want a guy who would take charge and is more masc., but also at the same time I also am the kind of person who will take charge, I consider myself to be a very motivated and hard working person, so I get frustrated with men who don't have the same drive as me, but I also don't want a guy who will take charge too much to where I have no say in leadership, so again what do you mean by relaxing into femininity and what does that entail?
I feel the exact same! It's hard to "calm down" or "relax", because I've always been on the go. I want a masculine man, but if I perceive someone as "overstepping", I feel some type of way :(
Maybe it’s a suggestion on releasing control? As Ambitious people, we tend to want things done at the “right time, the right way.” Maybe “relaxing into our femininity” means to relinquish control and accept the outcome? I don’t know. Just something that crossed my mind.
@@sofiasmith4083You are right... Another approach is to build more feminine habits, these are routines for your health, beauty, mental wellness and spiritual growth. Make everyday have an essence of slowness, or relaxation just by the ambience and a routine. This was a game changer for me when I started my feminine journey in 2020. (I was raised by a single mom). I cultivate softness through hobbies like gardening, volunteering, Bible study, practicing singing, walking slowly and smiling before I speak. 😂 I still struggle with the urge to over perform, serial productivity and motivating myself to exhaustion. But I take it to God, ask the Holy Spirit for peace and do my routines. So far, it's been working for me!
@@Godsflowergirl89 this is helpful. My struggle is that I’m married to a man that can be needy and lazy so if I don’t do, it doesn’t get done. I’ve already accepted that my home will never be what it was when I was single but it’s not even close.
I absolutely love this video and thank you so much for using scripture to back some of this up. I absolutely needed this thank you my beautiful friend 😍😇
You have no idea how many times I would wish that my mom or various girls I came across should adopt this. This would've solved numerous issues with my mom who is pretty much a nag and kinda controlling. Worse she offers a false sense of free choice, "you can choose to help me with the grossarys or not" *chooses not* mom: *angry huff*
@@Amira-z6k That's not what I mean, I don't want to be nagged or borderline bullied into doing things just to make sure she doesn't have a bad event. I don't expect my mom to behave like a girlfriend at all, but I would like her to be far more caring and compassionate. This would at least incentivize spending quality time which as of now is nonexistent and has been so for years on numerous things, even car pooling I'm against due to the numerous times she'd push my buttons or scream when I'm driving or not driving. (I still have those memories seared in my brain of non-stop screaming and nitpicking judgments)
@@ellenahs5911 I don't mean to sound like an ahole but I tried to and yet she continues to say "why bother focusing on the past" (from the mistakes she made). To me it's a big middle finger to my situation. I can't tell you how many times my dad and I called her out on her bad attitude, loud and or bad tone, only to be met with "this is who I am." Also noted is the only time I heard her apologizing was when I orced an apology from her via my therapist. Even then I still don't believe her because she's regressing in th attitudes.
@@ythatesfactsI totally understand you. My mom is 600 fireworks and has the force of a thousand soldiers. I'm not built like that. I tried to show her she isn't truly built like that either. It's difficult to get them to see the other side (understand boundaries, virtues, Christlikeness etc) . I'm tired of trying anyway, so I can't wait to be financially independent enough to move away and start my own family. I'm working on it though.😊 Hugs 🤗
"A masculine man is not controlling, a masculine man is IN control" 🙌⛪
Damn! That's just ... so true
Absolutely true
Absolutely correct!!!
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Is, this a joke? I mean I understand what you mean, but to be in control is to control something.
Ladies, no matter how hard you try, you can never change a man. A man will only change if he wants to, not because you want him to change. Also, NEVER EVER get into a relationship with a man who needs "fixing", that is NOT your calling and can definitely have a negative effect on your femininity and peace. How you found the man is how he is going to be for a big chunk of your relationship and maybe even forever as it is up to him to decide whether he wants to change. As a feminine woman, your peace of mind is important, you are not a rehabilitation center for broken men, nor are you a hospital ward. Accepting these building projects can have HEAVY NEGATIVE EFFECTS on your femininity, including, stress, trauma, and unnecessary hurt, and can even lead you to become more rigid and hard and lose your femininity as a result of being in a harsh relationship.
Thank you for sharing! What advice do you give when we have/decide to work in environments that require us to work w men and they don’t take our advice, even when we know that what we’re saying would help the group overall succeed? And it’s an important matter at hand? I’m a creative and work alongside different genders and even though parts of ur advice are right - I can’t just avoid working with men just bc they’re hardheaded (perfect world tho - am I right 🤣). Just wanted some feedback since you seem to be very knowledgeable as well. Thanks in advance 💘🙏🏽
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I like how you came to this video to somehow blame men for women not being feminine
@@Saint_Darius she didn't blame all men.. She is just giving advice to other women to not accept a man who would make her suffer and the same advice is given to men too, stay away from narcissistic women who would make you suffer 😊
@@DianaGarcia-jr7ve frame your advice as questions and inquiries, rather than advice and let them think out/discuss/decide the direction they are going to go and also ask if they have tried specific paths or people who may help guide him, lastly as this video said ask for his help deciding on what direction to take (can we discuss how to go about getting this going) and once you are having that conversation really listen to his suggestions and also bring in yours. He has to be receptive to your opinions for it to feel like opinion rather than authority which a lot of us instinctively rebel against (men and women).
I am a man and stumbled upon this channel and was completely surprised by the title, i almoast thought im imagining what a perfect youtube for women would be. It's just that so rarely do I see this traditional healthy relationship with masculine man and a feminine woman being talked about by women. Also i was surprised by the ammount of viewers you have which means that there must be much more beutiful traditional feminine woman out there than i thought.
Just remember though, it's not a man's place to demand control, to demand to be in charge. Those are huge red flags.
“If you want to bring the exceptional out of your man, you need to bring the exceptional out of yourself.” 🔑
Christ is Risen!
He is Risen indeed Amen
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Indeed he is risen ☦️♥️
Indeed he is risen!!! ☦️🤍
"An effeminate man is not feminine just because he lacks masculinity." Jasmyne, this is why you're my favorite RUclipsr right now. This point was so helpful on multiple levels, and answers several questions I have had about the whole femininity thing. I'll name two (sorry, this is going to be long):
1. It identifies a major difference between the new agey "divine feminine energy" philosophy and more traditional views on gender (I think). The new agey folks speak as though femininity and masculinity are modes that men and women can both step into and out of as needed. Traditionalists don't believe that, but rather believe that femininity is a trait that characterizes women who conduct their lives in accordance with their nature as women, and masculinity is the male version of that. Effeminacy is not a man stepping into his feminine energy, but is rather a corrosion of masculinity. Same goes for women who aren't feminine.
2. I've wondered for a while why a lot of your tips for how to be feminine could apply to men as well. A lot of your advice, e.g. "be humble", "be quick to listen and slow to speak", isn't necessarily gender-specific, but rather are just things people in general should do to correct character flaws. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I just realized that's exactly the point: women who develop strong character will increase their femininity by allowing their innate nature to shine through, free from the bad habits that obscure it. Likewise, men who strengthen their character will see an increase in masculinity because it's those character flaws that cause them to be effeminate.
You hit the nail on the head. I think the rhetoric around “masculine women” and “feminine men” is a result of modern gender theory. Sure, there are women who function more in a masculine manner but they’re not masculine in essence. They’re not masculine the way that men are masculine (which is raw masculinity). And naturally, human beings, men and women, have a lot of similarities which is why a lot of what I say can be universally applicable. Humility should be embraced by everyone. But it’s expression is different… humility, for instance, allows a wife to be a better follower of her husband and humility allows a husband to be a better leader. Same virtue but different out-workings! The same virtues allow us to better function in our different roles.
Very good.
@@JasmyneTheodora Yes, I think the gender theorists and new agers talking about energy confuse their imagination with reality. They try to impose their imagination on reality. They don't live spiritually and submit to reality. When you are humble in that way then you have a firm enough grasp of reality to be firm in what I experience in masculine ways and women experience in femine ways, not because we imagine it but because we are it.
It’s about being a virtuous man or woman
It's an erosion of masculinity. And the stripping of true femininity. It's disgusting.
I stopped dating for a while to work on my femininity. I understood that I would be alone most of the times . But the more I worked on myself, more masculine men persuaded me 😅 . I gracefully decline, but it really keeps them on their toes . This channel is one of the best decisions I made this year 😊
Thank you Jaysmne
Same here. I wanted to work on my femininity and focus on my relationship with Christ. I took a 3 year break. Now I have numerous suitors.
Jasmyne, you ATE this video 👏👏👏 I've been dealing with wanting my husband to step into his leadership role more, and your advice was spot on. What I'm working on right now is the point about focusing on building my own femininity (being a better homemaker, etc.) to create the best environment for him to thrive as a man. Wish me luck, haha.
"Baby's awake....gotta go...bye!" is my favorite youtube closeout so far.
Feminism took this peace from us but I am happy to see that each day more and more men & women are waking up.🌸
Before you criticize feminism, just remember that it was feminists who won you the right to vote and the right to have bank accounts and take out loans without male co-signers. It was feminism that raised the status of women in society overall. Sorry, the church did not do it.
So awesome, Jasmyne! I’ve been in many unhealthy relationships with immoral, effeminate men in the past, so I have very strong defenses up against this kind of thing with my husband. We’ve been married for about 10 months and I’ve been working on myself, and realizing that he truly IS masculine. Not “my idea of the ideal masculine man,” but a true masculine man in his own right. Recognizing the masculine traits that ARE (very) present in my husband has helped me to let my guard down, and I appreciate these tips on how to *encourage* certain desirable masculine traits without forcing them… and to be ok with allowing our men to find their own “flavor” of virtuous masculinity :) Thank you Jasmyne, as always, and may God bless you and your family!
This is such an important video for those of us who chose our men while on hormonal birth control. My husband is now using they/them pronouns at work and it's such a balancing act to steer him back to his masculinity without driving him further down the gender confusion rabbit hole.
Bless your heart. I’ll pray for you and your husband 💖
what’s wrong with choosing man on birth control? should i be concerned?😮
@@katherinepiece8808 she has an awesome video on the effects of birth control. that will answer your question. In short, hormones alter the way we think.
@@katherinepiece8808 there's evidence that women on hormonal birth control select for less masculine men and become less attracted to them if they come off it.
@@katherinepiece8808 Being on birth control can make you attracted to less masculine men.
Girl! Why I see God in you? Your face, your voice, your energy, your choice of words... I see a pure woman of God! 🤍✨️🙏🏼 keep spreading goodness dear, this world needs you! I'm so glad I found your channel🥰 greetings from 🇲🇰 ❤
My life is changing in real-time, for the better, because of your videos! Thank you so much! God is good!
I’m not even in a relationship but this was so helpful!
So happy to hear 💯
I had a very controlling husband who demanded allegiance and servitude. My sons don't demand but are now very passive, expecting me to do everything, like he did. Yet they are clearly not happy either. In fact, they seem lost and frustrated.
Thank you, Jasmyne, for helping me learn how to inspire masculinity in my sons. I want them to be who God made them to be, yet I haven't had a tangible plan for how to achieve that until now.
I appreciate you more than I can express 💖
Perhaps asking them to plan activities for you guys to do together? Ask them to help you with something (like taking out the trash, or grocery shopping, etc.) and thank them and tell them how much you appreciate it when they help. Any time they take initiative, praise them.
@@faa1412Thank you. I do all that. There are just deeper things that I haven't thought of until Jasmyne suggested them on this video 😊
@@rachelhayhurst-mason7846 God will show you. With my son I spent time with him doing the things he enjoyed. Healthy things. Listening to him and not pushing him to communicate. Gradually he changed for the better and recently got baptized.
Sounds like you divorced?
@@danilaroche1156 yes
Wonderful video! I just want to note that non verbal cues are risky. Men are not clueless but they also are not mind-readers. Most men appreciate a respectful voiced opinion/ boundary. (And a man on the spectrum will require verbal instruction as they do not pick up on social cues!) My way of approaching this is … (when I’m in disagreement) very calmly and politely saying “Babe, I respect you so much but I don’t prefer xyz” and leave it at that! (When I want something) I say “I love it when you xyz” Very simple and effective. In the dinner example I might say something like “Im happy to order if you want because i respect you so much, but it really does make me feel so feminine when you order for us.” A respectful man who loves you and wants you to be happy will hear you loud and clear!
I'm a man. He wants to be your hero, and that's the only way he knows to serve you. If you try to command him, he will either withdraw, lash out, or eventually break. If you give him the opportunity to be your hero, he will darn well try.
Oh but you have to be direct. Half the time we can't even understand women's "hints", the other half the time it offends male honour because a woman expects him to serve them without the recognition that asking provides.
How EXACTLY does a woman do that?
Thank you, J.
As a man, I am already feeling inspired to step up, lols. Really, I find the approach irresistable; it is one that would cause a man to effortlessly desire to change and be better.
Thanks for watching 😃
This was truly inspiring and encouraging to hear, thank you. It’s crazy to me that there are some women would take this information as “encouraging abuse”. This information is incredibly valuable to creating harmony as God designed. I’ve been in a handful of relationships with emasculate men and I definitely ended up being more controlling and emasculating them even further. I definitely want to embrace and grow in my femininity and allow that to be my strength, instead of trying to take on the “masculine role”… as someone who’s reverted to that before, it is definitely exhausting and fruitless. This is something I take to heart and have been praying about and want to study.
Jasmyne keep up the Godly work you are doing. You are the voice this generation needs! Your videos have taught me so much and they give the advice that truly works and appeals to God over the world. It can contradict and fight against this toxic way of thinking the new generation is trying to implement. Keep it up! ❤️
this is so off topic but you look absolutely stunning! would absolutely love to see a makeup or beauty routine video 😊
Ohh thank you so much!! I’m planning to do one soon!
Super cute! Looking forward to book club. ☺️
Hey Jasmyne! I am newly engaged and me and my fiancé are Christian. we are fairly young, me being 18 and him being 21, we really try to fall more into our Godly roles daily. It is hard considering the fact he was raised mostly by his mother and I, by both parents. So he didn't really have many quality masculine roles in his life to raise him. At the beginning of our relationship he was very insecure and somewhat codependent of me because I came into the relationship confident and whole in myself and he came in needed to be nurtured from his past. This confused the relationship a bit because it felt like I had to take charge in the dynamics of us. He was more sensitive and emotional and I was more practical and supportive.
I had to bring the masculinity out of him and become somewhat of a teacher to him, showing him videos like yours and listening to sermons on how a Godly man should be. Now that he has discovered his sense of oneness and masculinity, it's hard for me to fully respect his decision making and control of this relationship even though it's what I've always wanted. I find myself irritated and upset when he doesn't do things my way, and I also find myself more sensitive to the things he does that are considered normal. Because he was so codependent of me at first, now anytime he hangs with friends or doesn't rush to see me I feel he doesn't want me. We have been through a lot already, and we love each other so much and want to be together. But I just want to embrace my femininity and I do want him to be the masculine foundation to sustain our relationship. I see women like you seeming to be so comfortable in their feminine and i think it's so incredibly beautiful.
In this situation, how can I trust him wholeheartedly in all aspects and be secure in knowing that he is the Godly man I am to be with and that can lead me and a potential family?
One thing that can help him is to surround himself with other Godly men. Join a mens bible study and encourage friendship with other brothers in Christ.
Women are externally inspired and men are internally influenced. This is where the Holy spirit comes into play. You may not wholehearted agree with every decision he makes but if God is directing him then there should be no issue. However, if hes making a decision that is going to crash course, go to your prayer room and ask the Holy spirit for wisdom and to fix it. The Holy Spirit will literally change his mind and change his steps back on the right path. Because you do not want to end up being a Sapphira going along with a bad decision like the one Ananias made. I have literally prayed to the Holy spirit on decisions my boyfriend has made that I ,personally didnt think was a good idea because I knew if I tried to change his mind about everything he will never learn from his mistakes and learn to lead me.
Pray concerning this matter. Understand the weight of responsibility that a man of God must bear that you are not required to carry by looking at examples of the great men of faith i.e. their struggles and weaknesses. Build your fiancee up and do not tear him down. Empower him to forge his own path provided that it is glorifying to God and help him when he makes mistakes.
There are reasons why certain verses are directed to men vs women. May God guide you and your fiancee on your walk together.
A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
Proverbs 14:1
If he came out of a single mom situation and turned into that that's awesome. You just have to trust God with it. His will above all. Proverbs 3:5-6.
You knew I needed this one didn’t you 😅😢❤
Please Jasmyne, can you do a video about modest fashion ? Thank you ❤
My husband def is not struggling in the masculinity game, he ain’t got no emotion lmao j/k but fr. I need help tho with submitting. My husband is the leader of our home and I want to so much to be more connected with my femininity and I struggle. I have a long line of strong women that I come from with the “can’t tell me nothing.” attitude and I wanna change it. I’ve been doing better but sometimes those feelings come up where I wanna fight his ass LOL! I need help 😞 I don’t wanna get butthurt either when he tells me i need to improve my cooking 😒 LOL also I would love that dressing modesty video! Love ya girl! Love your videos and congrats on your new baby ❤
Fighting, in the right context, may actually be the healthiest way to get past this instinct. You want to challenge him to test whether he is worthy of trust. This is a problem, but the solution is easy.
An actual fight, a little wrestling should make you feel very submissive when he pins you with minimal effort. The knowledge that you can struggle as hard as you want and he wont fail should give you a feeling of security.
You seem so smart and you articulate yourself so well❤️
“Stop it. Get some help” sent me 😂
OMG I am an Ethiopian Orthodox as well and I looooooooovvvvvvvveeeeee your vedios💞💞💞💞💞
Awesome video, Jasmyne!! So looking forward to the book club 📚
Me too!! And thank you!
Yes!! Can't wait for book club.
What a great video, thank you! Changing the world one relationship at a time❤
I found the perfect channel for me. I love Jesus and I'm learning a lot about femininity lately but some of them heavily rely on manifestation and the Universe which is not really my cup of tea. But this feels like the right thing for me. Thank you ❤
That was a heart warming ending.
Oh my God, I needed this video!! It came literally at the right time!! Thank you
God is amazing. How he design us it's just amazing.
I love your videos Jasmyne. They really do not compare to other videos I see on RUclips. You speak with so much depth and meaning. It really enlightens many important topics on womanhood. Thank you! :)
Wow, thank you so much for your support and kind words 🥹
Thank u so much for helping me in our relationship!!! I knew since I was raised by a single man I lacked feminity... Thank u so much❤❤
Happy to help!!
Protect this sister at all cost 🙏🏻
I really appreciate these insights sis..such things are not being taught commonly and are so valuable! Keep up the good work 🙏👍
OMG thank youuuu ❤️ I just was about to look for such a video because I'm struggling with this issue with my partner and I don't want to break up before trying something.
Girl! Take it from a 29 year old woman who saw the 20% of the lack of masculinity in my man and was so fixated on that for months and but didn’t know how to inspire him and let my masculinity down and ask for help from him and make him feel needed. I was so blind and negatively focused. I STOPPED SEEING HIM. I broke up with him and the next day I was flooded with his greatness and how good he was to me. A week later I wanted to get back together but it was so muddied and he had honestly had enough of me telling him he didn’t love me enough simply because he was taking charge being masculine and taking care of me.😢😢. But he was the same with his dearest mother and little sister. HE NEEDED ME TO SHOW HIM THE WAY. But I was so needing to work on myself and my over masculinity and that by the time I was seeing fully and regretting leaving him and asked for him back 7days later. He was too confused with me saying “you don’t love me enough and that’s why you don’t do this and that for me” I CONVINCED THE MAN THAT I LOVE THAT HE DOESNT LOVE ME AND OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS SO PURE AND GOD GIVEN AND HE WAS SO LOYAL AND RESPECTFUL. He regretted me and I have been in so much pain for the past three weeks reconciling IT ALL with myself. I pray for the day god blesses me with him again. I know the self work we are both doing while we are apart is what we needed but couldn’t do together BUT THIS BREAK FEELS SO PAINFUL.
LISTEN TO ME ELYNA! Listen good girl!
DO NOT. I repeat. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR MAN if you Troy love him and believe he loves and respects you.
Search for all solutions and find a way to inspire him and grow with him.
I wish I could share my everyday and thoughts with my Teddy. I PRAY GOD BLESSES ME WITH HIM AGAIN.
(Open to new love but I KNOW HE IS MY MAN. The love and understanding I feel now for him is a million times more that I thought there was. So unconditional.)
Fight with you mr man don’t fight with him and push him away.
Lol and please gurl! Pllleeeeaaae pray for my relationship too.
God bless
I am so glad I found your channel, you are literally what I needed right now
You are so inspiring in both your relationship with God and with your husband. Ive been following you for a while now and even just coming into my feminine has been really pushing me to get back in touch with God (who would have known haha)
Liking even before starting to watch. Because I know it will be bomb 💕
That actually really helps my content. Thank you soooo much 💖💖
As a guy, I would love a girl that could do these things. Great video!
I wanted to know if there are such videos for guys like this is so helpful to simply calm down and lead to a right path
Thank you so much for this. OMG!!! I needed this ! Literally watching it again.
Jasmyne you are a Godsend! I needed this today. 💗
would love to join your book club!!!!
Thank you Jasmyne xx you are an absolute angel
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Awesome that you uploaded this video. Yes, men are human beings too I never understood why some women treat their men as if they are in this universe to do nothing but serve their woman. There is nothing better than a relationship with love and respect. You both built each other. Thanks again for spreading this to the universe.
You got it right on!
It is so wierd, I have been thinking of asking you to recommend books to read because I love how you speak so eloquently and have a vast vocabulary. I am so pleased to hear about a book club. I will gladly join.
So true
Breathe of fresh air.
love this!! could you do a video on modesty? especially with todays culture it’s very difficult to discern what modest even means.
Can't wait for your book club Jasmine!
I just love listening to you talk lol
Pshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
stahp 🥹😩❤️❤️
This was extremely well put together. Tons of information and memorable quotes, if you're listening to understand. Thank you so much for this! 😊
Jasmine this is GOLD ladies take notes! Thank you x
This video is so helpful!!! Thank you🤍
so excited for the book club..You have that new mother glow by the way...very lovely🥰🥰🥰congrats again..I appreciate a peaceful space like yours on youtube
I just found your channel. I adore you! I love the way you speak and the beautiful message you share x
Excited about the book club!!
Exactly never try to change a man i make the mistake and off course he didn Change a man only change when he really want too
Please consider doing a video on what you think a high-quality/high-value woman is.
This video is golden!
Thank you!! 💖
I ran off my man by being bossy and domineering. I really messed up..I'd love to talk to you for a few minutes. Would that be possible?
I love this video 🙏🏾❤️ also love the way you speak! Your choice of words are so expressive which makes the point much clearer and concise. Btw is your hair naturally black? And your eyes too? You look lovely !
Thank you so much!! My hair is actually very dark brown but the camera reads it as black. Same with my eyes 💞
@@JasmyneTheodora you’re welcome! Yeah I just watched another video and notice the filter/colours was a lot warmer and you also mentioned it there as-well that the contrast can be overbearing on the camera. Either way you are beautiful sis❤️
I'm here because I want to be more feminine to my husband. I am feminine with how I dress. But my words are my struggle. I really want to be more feminine not for him, but for me. I truly believe that I'll be happier.
cant wait for the book club!
When I ask for help from my bf, he will listen, promise to help me, sometimes even gives me speech... But in the end, never helps me... He forgets and get busy with other stuff... How do I change this behaviour?
Hmmm this is really good advice. I need to apply everything. Thank you for this. I had a feeling but wasn’t sure about the proper steps and actions. Amazing video
Thanks for always sharing such inspiring and insightful contents.
inspire him to have quality brother hood
I love this video. So easy to understand. Thanks Jasmyne.
Glad it was helpful!
Love this! I really needed this advice as I prepare to get married in November.
Lovely conversation 🎉
I needed this 💛💛💛
This was AWESOME Theodora🌸❤️ Thank you so much you this! ❤️🌸
❤I love it, I’m so excited for the book club 🙌
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I would be careful of the language being used here. Men can be feminine and should be. Femininity and Masculinity has to do with energy. Men and women have both of these energies because it takes both genders to create life. If I as a women were to say that I am not masculine I would be disowning my father and disowning myself. This goes for men too. To deny his femininity removed men from empathizing with their mother’s and removes them from tapping into their own emotions. I agree with you in terms of a men being a leader in a partnership because as a man he is gifted with in strength, structure, stability. Women are gifted leaders in creativity, comfort, and wonder. These are gifts that have manifested in our different genders and have then passed down. Even a woman who is “chronically” vulnerable it is dangerous. I love your videos, and I agree on a lot of your points
I’m actually doing a video on this on Sunday! But I disagree, I don’t think men have a “feminine” side. Femininity is not performative - it’s about who you are (and then we should behave in accordance with our internal essence). We are not androgynous beings. We’re either male or female - either feminine or masculine beings. Yes, we as women should integrate traits that you could place into the opposite category but it should be in a way that serves to supplement your internal essence. Not in a way that compromises it. Like compassion is a feminine trait although a good man should integrate compassion into his character in order to be a better leader (a better masculine figure). I go a lot more into this in my video though, stay tuned!
This is also a slippery slope. We’ve gone from “men can be feminine” to “men can be real women and can infiltrate female spaces” to “men can have uterine implants and potentially give birth.” I’ve only met effeminate men, not men who are feminine as femininity has to do with biological makeup + inward spirit. We as women behave feminine as a reflection of who we intrinsically are but we’re not feminine merely because we behave as feminine. Hope that translates well💖
Thank you for speaking your truth. THE TRUTH!
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These videos are GOLD!
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I love this video & the way you express yourself
Thank you so much!!! This spoke to me so much!!! Amen! 💛🙏🏽
So glad!
So excited for the book club!!!
Get readyyyy
Love this and love you great video once again❤️
You're the best! Thank you!!
CHRIST IS RISEN!! Blessed Pascha sister
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@@JasmyneTheodora Y'all need to come to Japan one day. You'd love it.
I cannot thank you enough for this information ❤
I noticed the change in thumbnail. I like it
Thank you!! Sorry to disappoint with the lack of feminine grace video lol I have sooo much on my schedule 😖
It's funny watching your videos as a guy. You are very encouraging
Hey Jasmyne, I don't know if you'll actually see this, but I was wondering what you mean by "relax into your femininity". I think that I'm personally struggling with my balance of masc/fem sometimes. I don't feel comfortable with the idea of being a follower, but also at the same time I know from experience with a previous relationship that I dont like effeminate guys who don't really take much charge. I find myself in a bit of a struggle with these concepts, because I think I want a guy who would take charge and is more masc., but also at the same time I also am the kind of person who will take charge, I consider myself to be a very motivated and hard working person, so I get frustrated with men who don't have the same drive as me, but I also don't want a guy who will take charge too much to where I have no say in leadership, so again what do you mean by relaxing into femininity and what does that entail?
I love this. I struggle with this too. I don’t understand what it means to relax into something that doesn’t come naturally to me.
I feel the exact same! It's hard to "calm down" or "relax", because I've always been on the go. I want a masculine man, but if I perceive someone as "overstepping", I feel some type of way :(
Maybe it’s a suggestion on releasing control? As Ambitious people, we tend to want things done at the “right time, the right way.” Maybe “relaxing into our femininity” means to relinquish control and accept the outcome? I don’t know. Just something that crossed my mind.
@@sofiasmith4083You are right... Another approach is to build more feminine habits, these are routines for your health, beauty, mental wellness and spiritual growth. Make everyday have an essence of slowness, or relaxation just by the ambience and a routine. This was a game changer for me when I started my feminine journey in 2020. (I was raised by a single mom).
I cultivate softness through hobbies like gardening, volunteering, Bible study, practicing singing, walking slowly and smiling before I speak. 😂 I still struggle with the urge to over perform, serial productivity and motivating myself to exhaustion. But I take it to God, ask the Holy Spirit for peace and do my routines. So far, it's been working for me!
@@Godsflowergirl89 this is helpful. My struggle is that I’m married to a man that can be needy and lazy so if I don’t do, it doesn’t get done. I’ve already accepted that my home will never be what it was when I was single but it’s not even close.
Very well said! ❤
Thank you for the practical tips ❤
I absolutely love this video and thank you so much for using scripture to back some of this up. I absolutely needed this thank you my beautiful friend 😍😇
I love your videos so much 🤍 I wanted to ask can you talk about femininity and intimacy in a celibate relationship.
Please, what's the music in the background? :))x
Appreciate your idea jasmyne , least you found women want changes too🗿
You have no idea how many times I would wish that my mom or various girls I came across should adopt this. This would've solved numerous issues with my mom who is pretty much a nag and kinda controlling. Worse she offers a false sense of free choice,
"you can choose to help me with the grossarys or not"
*chooses not*
mom: *angry huff*
Your mom shouldn’t have the same behavior as a girlfriend would towards you.
Your mother is supposed to be mothering.
@@Amira-z6k That's not what I mean, I don't want to be nagged or borderline bullied into doing things just to make sure she doesn't have a bad event. I don't expect my mom to behave like a girlfriend at all, but I would like her to be far more caring and compassionate. This would at least incentivize spending quality time which as of now is nonexistent and has been so for years on numerous things, even car pooling I'm against due to the numerous times she'd push my buttons or scream when I'm driving or not driving. (I still have those memories seared in my brain of non-stop screaming and nitpicking judgments)
Honestly it just sounds like everyone in the house should be helping your mother more. Have a little empathy.
@@ellenahs5911 I don't mean to sound like an ahole but I tried to and yet she continues to say "why bother focusing on the past" (from the mistakes she made). To me it's a big middle finger to my situation. I can't tell you how many times my dad and I called her out on her bad attitude, loud and or bad tone, only to be met with "this is who I am." Also noted is the only time I heard her apologizing was when I orced an apology from her via my therapist. Even then I still don't believe her because she's regressing in th attitudes.
@@ythatesfactsI totally understand you. My mom is 600 fireworks and has the force of a thousand soldiers. I'm not built like that. I tried to show her she isn't truly built like that either. It's difficult to get them to see the other side (understand boundaries, virtues, Christlikeness etc)
. I'm tired of trying anyway, so I can't wait to be financially independent enough to move away and start my own family. I'm working on it though.😊 Hugs 🤗
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I love ALL of this. ❤❤❤❤❤