1. Let go of controlling him 2. Stop nagging 3. Be playful for example make jokes, take things he says lightly (instead of questioning him/ stop trying to get into his head) 4. Tell him what you want, instead of telling him what not to do. “ I love it when you ..” 5. Admire his actions, rather his looks. Current and previous. 6. Understand that your way isn’t always the best way. There is something that he can teach you as well. ( note; remember the good things he done for you) 7. You should focus on YOU, and he will focus on YOU. You will be so inspiring to him. 8. Everyone has good in them. Start noticing the good in him. And manifest the good in him. A person being praised, supported will be motivated and inspired to do good to you… How to show him that he is needed? Show gratitude, show appreciation and highlight their good actions. Relying on someone doesn’t make you powerless. Of course you could do things without him but why make him feel he isn’t need? Who would be happy feeling that they aren’t needed? Thank you for this amazing video 💗
Gross. Not doing it. If you are a real female, you should expect your man to raise his game. We have evolved and most men have not. Let’s not accept it, let’s expect more. If we don’t, they won’t raise their game.
“When you’re directing the spotlight on him you’re forcing him to be in his feminine.” I love this!!! Because for those of us people pleasers it reminds us it is actually the most loving thing we can do; focus on ourselves.
Yes! It foces them to evaluate the energy that is left, AFTER you remove yours. Whether it's feminine energy he's in or 'toxic' / unevolved masculine energy, it will definitely become clear to them without you having to do anything. ✨️
There will be some bumps on this road of course, because their current self will resist the energy transmutation, it's a lot of work energetically. But we as Divine Feminines must hold steadfast to God's timing, surrendering all expectations and allowing this Masculine to practice sovereignty over themselves and excercise their free will.
@@mikepiccolo32 It’s actually selfish to be a people pleaser, it deprives the other person of really getting to know and understand you and your needs. Relationships are two way streets and a perpetual act of both people giving and receiving (like two people sawing down a tree). I’m a recovering people pleaser. 😂
What it took for me to change was changing my man. With a man who is masculine and secure I don't even need to think twice about how to be more feminine. When I try to micromanage or criticize him, he immediately calls it out, and most of the time in a joking way like I'm a puppy trying to teach a grown dog how to walk. I realize how silly it is to tell a grown man what to do and it helps me be more self aware next time. I'm so sure and confident in him that I don't even need to worry about how to get him to do whatever, I know he will do it and I trust he will do it right. When I was with an avoidant insecure man I was trying to jump through all these hoops but really its not your job to fix anyone into treating you right. They will value you a lot more when you stop putting up with it and leave. But don't stoop to the point of accepting them back. Get yourself a man who doesn't need fixing.
As I was watching this, exhausted looking after my newborn and 1.5yo putting them to sleep, my husband walked in a room with a plate full of delicious foods… and I told him from your script: “I so love when you look after me like this, I couldn’t do without you. “ Your content is amazing, thank you 💛
It’s been six months since the breakup, and I’m still struggling. He ended things out of the blue. I’ve tried moving on, but I just can’t. I still think about him every single day, and it feels like there’s no way forward
I completely understand. My partner left me too and it shattered me. I thought we had everything figured out, but he said he needed time apart. I was devastated and didn’t know where to turn
Honestly, I couldn’t handle it alone. I found someone who truly changed everything for me.. Father Akabu. He’s a spiritualist who specializes in restoring broken relationships. He helped me reconnect with my partner when I thought it was impossible
This is my new relationship and I’m absolutely loving it. He treats me like a queen. He takes me on dates and opens and closes the car door for me. He respects me. And then he sent me a screenshot to “prove” he was telling me the truth - even though I didn’t question him. I told him point blank I did not like that. That I didn’t give what he said a second thought bc when he tells me something I believe him as I have no reason not to and that without trust we don’t have a relationship. He said he really appreciated how I let him know and that his past had him trained like that. He’s everything and more that I’ve ever wanted in a man. He’s 💯% man and I love the communication and support and vibe we have together. ❤
@@Bettieoaminh shit. Lasted not even 3 months. I went through a dark depression after but bouncing back to my strong core. He did a complete flip and one day stopped all those nice things and started gas lighting me. I cut ties. The end.
@@gypsysundrop oh im sorry 🥲 that sucks ! I think we should really be Careful who we let in our life ! , be mindful always and look out 4 red flags ! ❤️😁 dont get swept in the ”dopamine rush” that hits in the biginning.
@@gypsysundropyeah, there is a “honeymoon stage” that lasts 3 months where all the positive emotions are heightened and it’s easy to love each other. after 3 months, masks fall off, facades break, and that’s the point where you will both know whether or not you actually love each other and are compatible. let this be a lesson, because i learned mine, wait 3 months before you determine if a man is good for you or not. you don’t know him until 3 months have passed. so don’t be saying (or thinking) you love him, don’t tell him everything about yourself, don’t give him complete access to you within these 3 months. these initial 3 months are simply for you guys to get to know each other. take it slow, don’t think you’ve found your soulmate yet. and i think it’s also a good idea to not get physical with him within this time, not because of anything related to him, but for your own sake. when you sleep with a man, his body does not create any hormones that lead to him loving you. your body does, however. your biology forces you to fall in love with him and you’ll be lead by your heart and your discernment will be hindered
Girl you are the first woman speaking on this topic that makes sense to me. I understood everything, i know what to do now. And the fact u were once like how i am now gives me another reason to really lock in and listen to u. I will be applying this knowledge to my relationship. Im litterally binge watching your youtube videos now while my love is at work lol. I was blessed with a provider man at age 24. He gives me what I want but hes not as emotionally intelligent. It’s certain things that i want back out of him such as suprising me with flowers more often… different things like that and i find myself nagging him about small things i want him to do again not realizing hes not gonna receive that well and hes gonna feel like i dont recognize everything else he does. I grew up with a mother that would say “u shouldn’t have to ask him that, u shouldnt have to remind a man and tell a man if he loves u” and its made me who i am now and this is not who i want to be in my relationship. This video really helped me. And now i understand how to go about things. THANK YOUUU
"He was ruined with you"🤔 -- a hard realization that we as women need to acknowledge and take responsibility for. Thank you for these pearls of wisdom and truth!😘❤️
His masculine energy brings out my feminine energy. Being with him makes me feel safe and protected. In turn it makes me want to take care of him and be his place of peace.
Oh my goodness. Your gardener & flower analogy had me pause the video & let that really soak in fully. I am just so in awe of your ability to get these points across in ways that are easy to understand & identify in my life. Every video I've watched has such useful wisdom and inspiration. Thank you!
Been implementing these principles in my life and marriage and I cannot tell you how freeing it has been. All of the other advice I have found “be on the same team,” “communicate clearly,” is trash compared to this. Actions speak louder than words and you give such incredible advice on how to act well right away! Would love more videos on feminine energy, too ❤
This is such a powerful video and mostly heals our wounded masculine energy within ourselves. I have realised I've always operated from masculine energy and every guy I've connected with has left me for someone else. I am now healing it. I feel so beautiful within myself.
i used my dark feminine energies in my 20s and didn't realize how unhealthy it was... then instead of using healthy feminine energies, I went right into healthy masculine energies... i think it was bc i wanted to partner with healthy masculine energies but for the life of me couldn't figure out that i was not at all in my feminine energies... such a grinding harsh existence for me thank goodness my feminine got my attention and now i am becoming more balanced.
Btw ur mixing up dark feminine with toxic feminine. Dark feminine is good it's just the sexy, intuitive/intelligent, indulgent side. Dark femininity is the counterpart to light femininity, you need both to be healthy. It's what makes you a woman versus a little girl, a young girl is almost completely light feminine. But a woman is both. Toxic feminine is manipulative, psychological, emotionally unstable, unsafe, etc. TikTok for example claims that these traits are dark feminine but they're not, it's abusive and miseducated. Dark and light femininity are both good.
15:01 THIS PART! 15:08 "you cannot have time to do think about why didn't he text me back? What is he thinking about doing with me? He's gonna abandon me & all these things." 15:34 direct the spotlight onto yourself
You are the healer . You are definitely a starseed , you have this strong healer vibrant around you I can see and feel . You open my mind to the new level of consciousness, I’m aware of the things I have done so wrong in my relationship yet no one , ever told me to realize . Thank you so much .
So happy you actually mentioned "but it's already been bad for so long" and how hard it is to just act playful and happy and lighthearted when you feel terrible and not at all happy
My ex was very relaxed, which initially attracted me, but soon I realized he was in his feminine (very passive, expecting me to pay, not organizing nice dates, loved to receive but barely gave, seeking lots of female attention, no proper hobbies, no ambition, to the point that he asked me to propose to him and that he would like to stay at home because I had the potential to make more money, planning to work half time to be able to travel more). I tried to apply these principles but it only got worse. This is a message for those who have tried: please know when to give up!
13:40 min mark…That’s such an awesome point! “He was ruined WITH YOU”. So true and I love the spilled milk analogy😂. Its always so important to look into the mirror first before being able to fully assess a situation. As a female I don’t feel that scenario is necessarily permanent and can be reversed back to “the way he used to be” by looking in the mirror first. Thanks for that obvious but easily missed point on why “he” changed. Great food for thought!
I'm just learning all of this at almost 36 years old, and I love it here! Lol. Your content is very spot on in regards to how to exist in your feminine energy. I feel much more secure and an overall sense of well-being, not being in my masculine.
I am 35yo. I just learned about attachment styles a couple of years ago. Attachment styles are a game changer in dating and relationships. I love Margarita's take on it! She brings a fresh perspective from someone who has grown passed these issues, at least enough to get where I want to be in terms of being married and having a family.
Thank you i really needed this. Ik i have been heavily in my masculine energy in my whole childhood and teenage years. And this is exactly the dynamic that i had in previous relationship and im starting to see it in my current aswell. That i try to control and i mother and put my attention on him all the time. Ive been doing lots of work on myself and being more in my feminine and i want to bring that into my relationship. The hardest part for me is the fear of what if he doesnt step up. Or what if i can’t control myself and start going into my old patterns again. But im going to have compassion for myself and him. Cuz I truly see that he is such a loyal and loving person and it hurts to think that i have been suffocating him with my control issues. If i slip up one day its not gonna ruin my whole progress and we both will be better off in the long run, thats the most important thing, to not give up! Thanks again for the video very informative and resonates so much with me❤️
This was lovely ... I'm leaving a 10 year career, this Friday, and I know that getting out of my masculine and into my feminine is what is needed for me to start feeling fulfilled. My husband told me just yesterday that he misses my playfulness and I've become so serious. I can't deny that ... Your tips speak to me on a soul level. Like the coming home of an old friend. xoxo blessings.
We love our women. We see all of your flaws. We do not use them to play you or take advantage of you. We see weak links & we try to make it stronger. We try to custom make you & us to be specially made just for each other. I hope you adjust I think he would love it.
I always seem to catch your videos at the right time too. I’m so grateful in the world for beautiful strong women to look up to like you! I just started my interpersonal work, a couple of years ago. I can’t even recognize the girl I was before because I feel like I’ve grown into a woman now. Definitely not something we are all taught by our care takers. I still have so much more, but I’ve finally got to the point where I can relax more into my feminine, and have more grace & patience-and over all enjoy the journey. Your videos help the world, thank you for being you girl 🫶
Is amazing how while watching this video I I went from thinking he never cared about impressing me to remembering all those times when he was actually trying to impress me. I think because I was trying harder to show my value to him and expecting him to match my energy is why I was unsatisfied and couldn't see his efforts when they were happening. And it's funny that he was usually making efforts when I was happy or when I was open to giving us second chances (not when I was demanding it or trying to control everything or was sarcastic). And BTW you are very smart and thank you for your videos. 🙏
Your assessment... brilliant and matches mine ... over time I NOW see the up times were when I WAS in my feminine and masculine balanced energy (work I loved and that brought powerful feminine energy and health forward. Over the years I found myself later in a very overly masculine energy job ... and this set me off balance ... literally letting go of so many things that FED my feminine energy. The whole while, my focus was on him ... and how much HE had changed (I thought lol) ... your words/share AND Margarita's guidance are a huge dose of confirming and continuing MEDICINE. Exactly the medicine I need ... As we all hopefully shift to heal mother earth (the feminine that has been degraded, abused and unappreciated ... I see CLEARLY how we as women can do our part to set our world in balance again by being our most powerful ... in BALANCE with our masculine AND FEMININE energy ... THAT is the true definition of POWER. THANK YOU SO MUCH !
My son clicking on the thumbs down button…. 🤯🤯🤯 I almost had a hearth attack… ❤ this video is so helpful to me! I realized a lot about myself watching her content.
Wow perfect timing! I was struggling and this really brought a lot of insight to an issue I’m having right now. Genuinely feeling so much better after that. Thank you love ❤
To me it was the part : « maybe he got spoiled with you! » so true, unfortunately I’ve put in place this nagging/bossy ambiance. I need to work hard on my attitude ❤
Can you please do a video about stepping in to your feminine energy and what that means/looks like :) love all your content, keeping doing what you're doing!
Exactly, can’t force anyone to be masculine if they don’t have it in them to begin with. Thank you so much for making this video🥰 you are 100 percent right about creating the mirror that he sees!
If you're comfortable being in the worst case scenario of not being with someone... and know that's fine, then you open up all these choices of how to navigate the relationship.
Your videos changed my life COMPLETELY!!! Everything you advise I actively DO and it works wonders❤... I am much more happier, at ease and unbothered. I can honestly say most of this is about making self love a priority. Thank you.... Thank you.... Thank you 😊
This was helpful. Thank you! When I came across your channel a month or so ago, we were on a hard timeout due to my actions. I knew alot of it was me and needed to go within to get my sh#t together. Things are getting much much better now that I've been applying the tools you've been sharing 🙌🏾 💐👑❤
Thank you so much for making these videos. I truthfully feel distain when I see women not empower others and I love the way the way you explain these heavy topics. Women and Men are transcendent when they embrace their true nature together.
Wow, so true. Men need to be real men with genuine good intentions. It's when your accused of lots of things that aren't true, you start getting tired and the self sabotage for them begins as they push you away and have you wondering if there's any point in trying. Waiting for the changes for a long time but I'm still just about hanging in. I've given it all chance after chance after chance. I know myself well enough to know that i have genuine love and compassion and have the integrity to be commited 100% and to grow and learn. It's painful to watch someone sabotaging things when you genuinely love and care about them, especially if you have been your authentic self and done everything to make them happy. It's hard when they are trying to be in masculine energy, not realising that I need a real female in their feminine energy and show me support and understanding in a genuine way. I can make anything happen if my partner is standing by me and with me.
I just found your channel and I’m hooked! Perfect timing, as I have been working on myself since my split with my husband a year ago, we are working things out and it’s been so different this time around since I have shifted the focus on myself, I can’t control him but I know what I want and if he’s not giving that same energy then it’s time to just move on without any hard feelings. Love your honesty and transparency❤️
I love this so much! You are so right about how our society is and I love that you are talking about letting a man be a man. Your videos have been an amazing help to me!
I have a marathon of your videos these days and come to the realization that I Start Calle You "momma Margarita" in my mind... thanks for all the wisdom
I am 45 and my partner is younger than me by 10yrs. He & I have bn dating for 3.5 years now. He is avoidant with a splash of narcissistic tendencies. I am healing from my own ways. It’s going back& forth but we are definitely on a dry spell. I am in love with him but I don’t feel that he feels the same. My healing is going very well but I want us to recover more than anything! Your videos help me so much
Thank you again!!! ❤ I cannot tell you how much YOU have helped me in my new relationship!! These steps can be very hard for us as Women, but it’s amazing how these little things can make a HUGE difference in HIM AND YOU!! 🥰🥰
Thank u so much for this content. U just confirm to me that my thoughts are valid. Just 2days ago I told a friend "what if my actions are making him act this way towards me?" Thank u so much.
I happened to find your video and this is exactly what I need for my relationship. Trying to change the dynamics on both sides and I know that it starts with me. I work grave yard so I will be up all night watching most your videos, journaling and taking notes!
I've been single for more than 6 years, the funny thing is that i'm watching this trying to learn and thinking about all the failed relationships that i know and i'm recalling their flaws, problems, miscommunication .. and i realized that i'm approaching this the wrong way, i should watch this video looking for the good results... i find you very interresting and i will keep watching your work, i think it will help me navigate my life and relationships
I really enjoy you calling us out. Women, that is. He was one way, and then he was not may mean you as the women contributed to why he no longer wants to do those things or has chosen to retreat. And the competition aspect of a man wanting to chase instead of being chased.
Hi Margarita, Thank you so much for you videos, they’ve helped me so much. I just have a question: you say we need to let them take responsibility and make plans, but we also have to make sure that our focus is on ourselves (what do we want to eat for dinner, what movie do we wanna watch, etc.) how do we balance these two?
Thanks for bringing this video to us. 🙂 I would like to share my thoughts on one aspect, and that is if someone is finding themselves constantly having to change someone to the point it's getting toxic, doesn't that suggest they are two very different people. Compromise is the off-set, and in such cases it comes down to what is keeping them together, vs the things pulling them apart, together with if the future dream/vision is worth the effort... Personally I think if someone is having to bend over backwards, making sacrifices it can be a really unhealthy and miserable process, and in my opinion it can highlight a lack of self-respect, a lack of healthy boundaries and perhaps gaps in self-esteem. It's important women don't compromise too much and expect men to invest equally in their relationship. DON'T go selling yourselves short and a man will sometimes take a mile if he sees a green light to do so. Let him know you value yourselves and if he loves you and values his relationship, he'll step up like he's suppose to. Stand up and be counted. Hope this has been of some help. ❤
I have tried and tried to find a video that helps me with my anxious attachment style and what to do instead and I stumbled across this video and thank you soooooooooo much 🎉🥰!!!!
Women should be sending these to their partners. They are incredibly helpful. Not sure why but my wife thought these were just for her, but I find a ton of value in them.
This video is amazing! There is not much content out there on how to shift energy dynamics when you are already in a relationship. For that reason this is so helpful and useful. Thanks a billion ❤
Margarita, Ive started listening to you blindly by RUclips suggestions, but subscribed right away as heard you speak. More topics like this, please. It’s such a rare thing to hear. Why men pull away, or « changed ». We should be mindful of our own behaviour rather then blaming them first. Thank you!
Wow I came across your channel today and just love your videos!!! The way you talk and put things so intelligently yet still so easy to understand. Such concise delivery too, you get straight to the point with no waffle which I love, and you’ve taught me so much already. Thank you 🥰🥰
Goddamn... This video (and a few others of yours) has been incredibly inspiring. Time for me. Thank you. Looking forward to embracing my feminine for the first time in my life.❤
I wish I had found this video months sooner. I know now, I couldnt have known what I was unaware, I know now and I will grow. Although it is too late for many reasons for my husband and I. I take accountability for the role I played.
What I needed to hear...powerful! I found myself needing to hear this enlightening message...women need to remember their place with that power. Thank you so very much!
I love these videos, I also watched your masterclass of the principles and I loved it! I can see change in myself already and I am so excited about my new feminine attitude. Keep doing the good work
1. Let go of controlling him
2. Stop nagging
3. Be playful for example make jokes, take things he says lightly (instead of questioning him/ stop trying to get into his head)
4. Tell him what you want, instead of telling him what not to do. “ I love it when you ..”
5. Admire his actions, rather his looks. Current and previous.
6. Understand that your way isn’t always the best way. There is something that he can teach you as well. ( note; remember the good things he done for you)
7. You should focus on YOU, and he will focus on YOU. You will be so inspiring to him.
8. Everyone has good in them. Start noticing the good in him. And manifest the good in him. A person being praised, supported will be motivated and inspired to do good to you…
How to show him that he is needed?
Show gratitude, show appreciation and highlight their good actions. Relying on someone doesn’t make you powerless. Of course you could do things without him but why make him feel he isn’t need? Who would be happy feeling that they aren’t needed?
Thank you for this amazing video 💗
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Thanks doll
Thank you so much!
THANK YOU!
Gross. Not doing it. If you are a real female, you should expect your man to raise his game. We have evolved and most men have not. Let’s not accept it, let’s expect more. If we don’t, they won’t raise their game.
“When you’re directing the spotlight on him you’re forcing him to be in his feminine.” I love this!!! Because for those of us people pleasers it reminds us it is actually the most loving thing we can do; focus on ourselves.
Yes! It foces them to evaluate the energy that is left, AFTER you remove yours. Whether it's feminine energy he's in or 'toxic' / unevolved masculine energy, it will definitely become clear to them without you having to do anything. ✨️
There will be some bumps on this road of course, because their current self will resist the energy transmutation, it's a lot of work energetically. But we as Divine Feminines must hold steadfast to God's timing, surrendering all expectations and allowing this Masculine to practice sovereignty over themselves and excercise their free will.
The most loving thing we can do is focus on ourselves?How is that loving?
@@mikepiccolo32 It’s actually selfish to be a people pleaser, it deprives the other person of really getting to know and understand you and your needs. Relationships are two way streets and a perpetual act of both people giving and receiving (like two people sawing down a tree). I’m a recovering people pleaser. 😂
@@WhatTheHellRachelle It is better to give then to receive
What it took for me to change was changing my man. With a man who is masculine and secure I don't even need to think twice about how to be more feminine. When I try to micromanage or criticize him, he immediately calls it out, and most of the time in a joking way like I'm a puppy trying to teach a grown dog how to walk. I realize how silly it is to tell a grown man what to do and it helps me be more self aware next time. I'm so sure and confident in him that I don't even need to worry about how to get him to do whatever, I know he will do it and I trust he will do it right. When I was with an avoidant insecure man I was trying to jump through all these hoops but really its not your job to fix anyone into treating you right. They will value you a lot more when you stop putting up with it and leave. But don't stoop to the point of accepting them back. Get yourself a man who doesn't need fixing.
Thank you very much for this words, that us exactly what i need to do. Right now. I'm done.
@@olgagrinchak5029same
@@olgagrinchak5029or you are russian
As I was watching this, exhausted looking after my newborn and 1.5yo putting them to sleep, my husband walked in a room with a plate full of delicious foods… and I told him from your script: “I so love when you look after me like this, I couldn’t do without you. “
Your content is amazing, thank you 💛
Awwwww that is so sweet
aww youre definitely getting more food
It’s been six months since the breakup, and I’m still struggling. He ended things out of the blue. I’ve tried moving on, but I just can’t. I still think about him every single day, and it feels like there’s no way forward
I completely understand. My partner left me too and it shattered me. I thought we had everything figured out, but he said he needed time apart. I was devastated and didn’t know where to turn
How did you cope with it? Was there anything that helped you?
Honestly, I couldn’t handle it alone. I found someone who truly changed everything for me.. Father Akabu. He’s a spiritualist who specializes in restoring broken relationships. He helped me reconnect with my partner when I thought it was impossible
I just looked him up, and I can see so many people he has helped. Thank you for sharing this I finally feel like there’s some hope for me
@@MaryT.Fitzgeraldyawn
This is my new relationship and I’m absolutely loving it. He treats me like a queen. He takes me on dates and opens and closes the car door for me. He respects me. And then he sent me a screenshot to “prove” he was telling me the truth - even though I didn’t question him. I told him point blank I did not like that. That I didn’t give what he said a second thought bc when he tells me something I believe him as I have no reason not to and that without trust we don’t have a relationship. He said he really appreciated how I let him know and that his past had him trained like that. He’s everything and more that I’ve ever wanted in a man. He’s 💯% man and I love the communication and support and vibe we have together. ❤
I hope it continues through the years , we Will se in a couple years 😂❤
@@Bettieoaminh shit. Lasted not even 3 months. I went through a dark depression after but bouncing back to my strong core. He did a complete flip and one day stopped all those nice things and started gas lighting me. I cut ties. The end.
@@gypsysundrop oh im sorry 🥲 that sucks ! I think we should really be Careful who we let in our life ! , be mindful always and look out 4 red flags ! ❤️😁 dont get swept in the ”dopamine rush” that hits in the biginning.
@@gypsysundropyeah, there is a “honeymoon stage” that lasts 3 months where all the positive emotions are heightened and it’s easy to love each other. after 3 months, masks fall off, facades break, and that’s the point where you will both know whether or not you actually love each other and are compatible.
let this be a lesson, because i learned mine, wait 3 months before you determine if a man is good for you or not. you don’t know him until 3 months have passed. so don’t be saying (or thinking) you love him, don’t tell him everything about yourself, don’t give him complete access to you within these 3 months. these initial 3 months are simply for you guys to get to know each other. take it slow, don’t think you’ve found your soulmate yet.
and i think it’s also a good idea to not get physical with him within this time, not because of anything related to him, but for your own sake. when you sleep with a man, his body does not create any hormones that lead to him loving you. your body does, however. your biology forces you to fall in love with him and you’ll be lead by your heart and your discernment will be hindered
Girl you are the first woman speaking on this topic that makes sense to me. I understood everything, i know what to do now. And the fact u were once like how i am now gives me another reason to really lock in and listen to u. I will be applying this knowledge to my relationship. Im litterally binge watching your youtube videos now while my love is at work lol. I was blessed with a provider man at age 24. He gives me what I want but hes not as emotionally intelligent. It’s certain things that i want back out of him such as suprising me with flowers more often… different things like that and i find myself nagging him about small things i want him to do again not realizing hes not gonna receive that well and hes gonna feel like i dont recognize everything else he does. I grew up with a mother that would say “u shouldn’t have to ask him that, u shouldnt have to remind a man and tell a man if he loves u” and its made me who i am now and this is not who i want to be in my relationship. This video really helped me. And now i understand how to go about things. THANK YOUUU
"Don't you want to see who the man naturally is? Don't you want to see who you chose? For their nature, for their truth?"
Such wisdom here.
"He was ruined with you"🤔 -- a hard realization that we as women need to acknowledge and take responsibility for. Thank you for these pearls of wisdom and truth!😘❤️
His masculine energy brings out my feminine energy. Being with him makes me feel safe and protected. In turn it makes me want to take care of him and be his place of peace.
That is true
Your fair and honest opinion is so refreshing, honestly Russian women know what’s up
I thought she was Ukrainian? Not that it matters lol
Isn't she aussie ?
I don't think her race has anything to do with her self betterment 😂😂
She’s Aussie. Russian women have no clue.
@@Inspirationfromthe_heart she's not Aussie she is slavic and she lived in the UK
Oh my goodness. Your gardener & flower analogy had me pause the video & let that really soak in fully. I am just so in awe of your ability to get these points across in ways that are easy to understand & identify in my life. Every video I've watched has such useful wisdom and inspiration. Thank you!
Been implementing these principles in my life and marriage and I cannot tell you how freeing it has been. All of the other advice I have found “be on the same team,” “communicate clearly,” is trash compared to this. Actions speak louder than words and you give such incredible advice on how to act well right away! Would love more videos on feminine energy, too ❤
You are emotionally intelligent, way beyond your years! Great advice, I wish the women in my life listened you.
I’ve heard many awakened men say these, but hearing a woman say it and backing it up with personal experience? Powerful ❤
This is such a powerful video and mostly heals our wounded masculine energy within ourselves. I have realised I've always operated from masculine energy and every guy I've connected with has left me for someone else. I am now healing it. I feel so beautiful within myself.
i used my dark feminine energies in my 20s and didn't realize how unhealthy it was... then instead of using healthy feminine energies, I went right into healthy masculine energies... i think it was bc i wanted to partner with healthy masculine energies but for the life of me couldn't figure out that i was not at all in my feminine energies... such a grinding harsh existence for me thank goodness my feminine got my attention and now i am becoming more balanced.
Btw ur mixing up dark feminine with toxic feminine. Dark feminine is good it's just the sexy, intuitive/intelligent, indulgent side. Dark femininity is the counterpart to light femininity, you need both to be healthy. It's what makes you a woman versus a little girl, a young girl is almost completely light feminine. But a woman is both.
Toxic feminine is manipulative, psychological, emotionally unstable, unsafe, etc. TikTok for example claims that these traits are dark feminine but they're not, it's abusive and miseducated. Dark and light femininity are both good.
@@LowSlungBadBitch Thank you for this clarification.
@@LowSlungBadBitchI love my dark seductive feminine energy in my late 30s ❤
15:01 THIS PART!
15:08 "you cannot have time to do think about why didn't he text me back? What is he thinking about doing with me? He's gonna abandon me & all these things."
15:34 direct the spotlight onto yourself
You are the healer . You are definitely a starseed , you have this strong healer vibrant around you I can see and feel . You open my mind to the new level of consciousness, I’m aware of the things I have done so wrong in my relationship yet no one , ever told me to realize . Thank you so much .
So happy you actually mentioned "but it's already been bad for so long" and how hard it is to just act playful and happy and lighthearted when you feel terrible and not at all happy
How do you do this. When I'm unhappy or really hurt I can't just switch my mood
My ex was very relaxed, which initially attracted me, but soon I realized he was in his feminine (very passive, expecting me to pay, not organizing nice dates, loved to receive but barely gave, seeking lots of female attention, no proper hobbies, no ambition, to the point that he asked me to propose to him and that he would like to stay at home because I had the potential to make more money, planning to work half time to be able to travel more). I tried to apply these principles but it only got worse. This is a message for those who have tried: please know when to give up!
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13:40 min mark…That’s such an awesome point! “He was ruined WITH YOU”. So true and I love the spilled milk analogy😂. Its always so important to look into the mirror first before being able to fully assess a situation. As a female I don’t feel that scenario is necessarily permanent and can be reversed back to “the way he used to be” by looking in the mirror first. Thanks for that obvious but easily missed point on why “he” changed. Great food for thought!
I literally had to pause the video for a sec to let that sink in ......
Definitely hit a nerve 😆
I'm just learning all of this at almost 36 years old, and I love it here! Lol. Your content is very spot on in regards to how to exist in your feminine energy. I feel much more secure and an overall sense of well-being, not being in my masculine.
I am 35yo. I just learned about attachment styles a couple of years ago. Attachment styles are a game changer in dating and relationships. I love Margarita's take on it! She brings a fresh perspective from someone who has grown passed these issues, at least enough to get where I want to be in terms of being married and having a family.
is it that birth control pill is nudging women into masculine, whilst endocrine disuptors are nudging men into the feminine
This is one of the HEALTHIEST masc/fem videos I've seen!
You’ve honestly helped so much as being a newly married young wife.
Thank you i really needed this. Ik i have been heavily in my masculine energy in my whole childhood and teenage years. And this is exactly the dynamic that i had in previous relationship and im starting to see it in my current aswell. That i try to control and i mother and put my attention on him all the time. Ive been doing lots of work on myself and being more in my feminine and i want to bring that into my relationship. The hardest part for me is the fear of what if he doesnt step up. Or what if i can’t control myself and start going into my old patterns again. But im going to have compassion for myself and him. Cuz I truly see that he is such a loyal and loving person and it hurts to think that i have been suffocating him with my control issues. If i slip up one day its not gonna ruin my whole progress and we both will be better off in the long run, thats the most important thing, to not give up! Thanks again for the video very informative and resonates so much with me❤️
This was lovely ... I'm leaving a 10 year career, this Friday, and I know that getting out of my masculine and into my feminine is what is needed for me to start feeling fulfilled. My husband told me just yesterday that he misses my playfulness and I've become so serious. I can't deny that ... Your tips speak to me on a soul level. Like the coming home of an old friend. xoxo blessings.
Being in Feminine Energy feels like 'being FINALLY home!' Something I've missed for the past 20 yrs!
We love our women. We see all of your flaws. We do not use them to play you or take advantage of you. We see weak links & we try to make it stronger. We try to custom make you & us to be specially made just for each other. I hope you adjust I think he would love it.
I always seem to catch your videos at the right time too. I’m so grateful in the world for beautiful strong women to look up to like you!
I just started my interpersonal work, a couple of years ago. I can’t even recognize the girl I was before because I feel like I’ve grown into a woman now. Definitely not something we are all taught by our care takers. I still have so much more, but I’ve finally got to the point where I can relax more into my feminine, and have more grace & patience-and over all enjoy the journey.
Your videos help the world, thank you for being you girl 🫶
You cannot be the CEO of every department. Love that!
Is amazing how while watching this video I I went from thinking he never cared about impressing me to remembering all those times when he was actually trying to impress me.
I think because I was trying harder to show my value to him and expecting him to match my energy is why I was unsatisfied and couldn't see his efforts when they were happening. And it's funny that he was usually making efforts when I was happy or when I was open to giving us second chances (not when I was demanding it or trying to control everything or was sarcastic).
And BTW you are very smart and thank you for your videos. 🙏
This video is wonderful. I recommend taking the course by Alison Armstrong called Understanding Men. It will blow your mind.
Your assessment... brilliant and matches mine ... over time I NOW see the up times were when I WAS in my feminine and masculine balanced energy (work I loved and that brought powerful feminine energy and health forward. Over the years I found myself later in a very overly masculine energy job ... and this set me off balance ... literally letting go of so many things that FED my feminine energy. The whole while, my focus was on him ... and how much HE had changed (I thought lol) ... your words/share AND Margarita's guidance are a huge dose of confirming and continuing MEDICINE. Exactly the medicine I need ... As we all hopefully shift to heal mother earth (the feminine that has been degraded, abused and unappreciated ... I see CLEARLY how we as women can do our part to set our world in balance again by being our most powerful ... in BALANCE with our masculine AND FEMININE energy ... THAT is the true definition of POWER. THANK YOU SO MUCH !
“Did you stack the fridge like I told you to”? 😂😂
My son clicking on the thumbs down button…. 🤯🤯🤯 I almost had a hearth attack… ❤ this video is so helpful to me! I realized a lot about myself watching her content.
Wow perfect timing! I was struggling and this really brought a lot of insight to an issue I’m having right now. Genuinely feeling so much better after that. Thank you love ❤
To me it was the part : « maybe he got spoiled with you! » so true, unfortunately I’ve put in place this nagging/bossy ambiance. I need to work hard on my attitude ❤
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Can you please do a video about stepping in to your feminine energy and what that means/looks like :) love all your content, keeping doing what you're doing!
You can’t just drop bombs like the feminine witness is the masculines efforts and just gloss over that! You are full of gems ❤
Exactly, can’t force anyone to be masculine if they don’t have it in them to begin with. Thank you so much for making this video🥰 you are 100 percent right about creating the mirror that he sees!
This is simply wonderful. Speaking on a deep level about an important issue. Your content is genuine and beautiful. Keep on keeping on. Thank you.
If you're comfortable being in the worst case scenario of not being with someone... and know that's fine, then you open up all these choices of how to navigate the relationship.
…“…the best women are married,the handsome man are …hey…somewhere out there …ˋ´…🥹
Your videos changed my life COMPLETELY!!! Everything you advise I actively DO and it works wonders❤...
I am much more happier, at ease and unbothered. I can honestly say most of this is about making self love a priority.
Thank you.... Thank you.... Thank you 😊
you’re so inspiring. the way you put your wisdom into words is just so wonderful. you’ve been really helpful. i’m in awe ❤️
I’m getting married this year and will definitely take this advice with me into this new season. Thank you for sharing!
If he isn’t being assertive and taking initiative now don’t expect it to change
@@impossiblegems I never mentioned either of those things being an issue in my comment so I’m not sure where such assumptions are being pulled from
Not three and a half minutes into this video and you have a new subscriber😮❤
This was helpful. Thank you! When I came across your channel a month or so ago, we were on a hard timeout due to my actions. I knew alot of it was me and needed to go within to get my sh#t together. Things are getting much much better now that I've been applying the tools you've been sharing 🙌🏾 💐👑❤
Thank you so much for making these videos. I truthfully feel distain when I see women not empower others and I love the way the way you explain these heavy topics. Women and Men are transcendent when they embrace their true nature together.
You're a breath of fresh air and a much needed feminine voice. Thank you for the videos - I find they very much ring true and are helpful for me.
Wow, so true. Men need to be real men with genuine good intentions. It's when your accused of lots of things that aren't true, you start getting tired and the self sabotage for them begins as they push you away and have you wondering if there's any point in trying.
Waiting for the changes for a long time but I'm still just about hanging in. I've given it all chance after chance after chance. I know myself well enough to know that i have genuine love and compassion and have the integrity to be commited 100% and to grow and learn. It's painful to watch someone sabotaging things when you genuinely love and care about them, especially if you have been your authentic self and done everything to make them happy.
It's hard when they are trying to be in masculine energy, not realising that I need a real female in their feminine energy and show me support and understanding in a genuine way.
I can make anything happen if my partner is standing by me and with me.
I just found your channel and I’m hooked! Perfect timing, as I have been working on myself since my split with my husband a year ago, we are working things out and it’s been so different this time around since I have shifted the focus on myself, I can’t control him but I know what I want and if he’s not giving that same energy then it’s time to just move on without any hard feelings. Love your honesty and transparency❤️
Best of luck readjusting things between you two!
I love this so much! You are so right about how our society is and I love that you are talking about letting a man be a man. Your videos have been an amazing help to me!
I have a marathon of your videos these days and come to the realization that I Start Calle You "momma Margarita" in my mind... thanks for all the wisdom
Just love Margarita’s speech 👌🏻
Literally needed this. I need to watch this twice
8:30 mins in and I am loving this. Thank you for this insight! It's so refreshing hearing you speak and translate both parties. So helpful 🙌💗
I am 45 and my partner is younger than me by 10yrs. He & I have bn dating for 3.5 years now. He is avoidant with a splash of narcissistic tendencies. I am healing from my own ways. It’s going back& forth but we are definitely on a dry spell. I am in love with him but I don’t feel that he feels the same. My healing is going very well but I want us to recover more than anything! Your videos help me so much
Thank you again!!! ❤ I cannot tell you how much YOU have helped me in my new relationship!! These steps can be very hard for us as Women, but it’s amazing how these little things can make a HUGE difference in HIM AND YOU!! 🥰🥰
Thank u so much for this content. U just confirm to me that my thoughts are valid. Just 2days ago I told a friend "what if my actions are making him act this way towards me?" Thank u so much.
I happened to find your video and this is exactly what I need for my relationship. Trying to change the dynamics on both sides and I know that it starts with me. I work grave yard so I will be up all night watching most your videos, journaling and taking notes!
I'm obsessed with your videos. They come to me at exactly the best times. Thank you for your work and effort/
I really need to stop being the big fangirl of my partner. Thanks to you I have never thought it like this way
Yes thank you. Appreciate the both sides awareness. ❤Showing how others feel by actions. I believe trauma drives that control stuff.
Omggg this was soooo helpful… it made me cry
I've been single for more than 6 years, the funny thing is that i'm watching this trying to learn and thinking about all the failed relationships that i know and i'm recalling their flaws, problems, miscommunication .. and i realized that i'm approaching this the wrong way, i should watch this video looking for the good results... i find you very interresting and i will keep watching your work, i think it will help me navigate my life and relationships
bae,love you so much. Than you for thí, it really do wonders to my mindset !!!!!!! keep doing contents, women out there needs this
Margaritaaaaaa this is too good! Im buying your book!! Im only a few minutes in and it's already changed my perspective.
I think I'm going to watch this video every day
I really enjoy you calling us out. Women, that is. He was one way, and then he was not may mean you as the women contributed to why he no longer wants to do those things or has chosen to retreat. And the competition aspect of a man wanting to chase instead of being chased.
Hi Margarita,
Thank you so much for you videos, they’ve helped me so much.
I just have a question: you say we need to let them take responsibility and make plans, but we also have to make sure that our focus is on ourselves (what do we want to eat for dinner, what movie do we wanna watch, etc.) how do we balance these two?
What your doing is changing lives. Thank you!
Oh my goodness this is SO HELPFUL
Thanks for bringing this video to us. 🙂 I would like to share my thoughts on one aspect, and that is if someone is finding themselves constantly having to change someone to the point it's getting toxic, doesn't that suggest they are two very different people. Compromise is the off-set, and in such cases it comes down to what is keeping them together, vs the things pulling them apart, together with if the future dream/vision is worth the effort...
Personally I think if someone is having to bend over backwards, making sacrifices it can be a really unhealthy and miserable process, and in my opinion it can highlight a lack of self-respect, a lack of healthy boundaries and perhaps gaps in self-esteem. It's important women don't compromise too much and expect men to invest equally in their relationship. DON'T go selling yourselves short and a man will sometimes take a mile if he sees a green light to do so. Let him know you value yourselves and if he loves you and values his relationship, he'll step up like he's suppose to. Stand up and be counted. Hope this has been of some help. ❤
I have tried and tried to find a video that helps me with my anxious attachment style and what to do instead and I stumbled across this video and thank you soooooooooo much 🎉🥰!!!!
Women should be sending these to their partners. They are incredibly helpful. Not sure why but my wife thought these were just for her, but I find a ton of value in them.
Just wondering if you have read the Empowered Wife? So much overlap and I love you both! You are both helping me so much!
I haven’t no! But I’ll check it out xx
Your content is powerful. Thank you for being so transparent and honest. ❤
The way my jaw dropped when you made the goddess analogy. YOU ARE CHANGING MY LIFE 🫶
This video is amazing! There is not much content out there on how to shift energy dynamics when you are already in a relationship. For that reason this is so helpful and useful. Thanks a billion ❤
I find this too . Ppl don’t consider what you do after you get into a relationship
Margarita, Ive started listening to you blindly by RUclips suggestions, but subscribed right away as heard you speak.
More topics like this, please. It’s such a rare thing to hear.
Why men pull away, or « changed ». We should be mindful of our own behaviour rather then blaming them first.
Thank you!
I love your channel as I reinvent myself and become the best version of myself. ❤️📌
Wow I came across your channel today and just love your videos!!! The way you talk and put things so intelligently yet still so easy to understand. Such concise delivery too, you get straight to the point with no waffle which I love, and you’ve taught me so much already. Thank you 🥰🥰
You are an amazing woman. Thank you. You helped me out enormously for my life choices.. from Türkiye with love..
Goddamn... This video (and a few others of yours) has been incredibly inspiring.
Time for me. Thank you. Looking forward to embracing my feminine for the first time in my life.❤
I agree with everything except the focus on you one but u got an amazing understanding of gender dynamics
Why are Russian women (Eastern European women) so intelligent when it comes to these topics lol
Great video as always.
Because they’ve been survivors through generations of turmoils, living in harsh climate conditions.
Рита, твои мысли очень ценны и для русскоязычного сообщества, ты даже не представляешь насколько
Absolutely loving that re aligned. Divine timing doing what it does. 🥂❤️🔥🪽
your videos have been so amazing, I really needed to hear all of these things!
Thank you again for allowing me to observe from the feminine energy
this is hands down the best video i've ever seen, will be coming back to it as my guide book
I wish I had found this video months sooner. I know now, I couldnt have known what I was unaware, I know now and I will grow. Although it is too late for many reasons for my husband and I. I take accountability for the role I played.
Oooooh some of this is speaking directly to me 🙌🏼
Thank you for sharing your insights and knowledge really helped a lot. 💕 can you share with us some of your favorite book recommendations pls?
this was amazing and really spoke to me, thank you so much
What I needed to hear...powerful! I found myself needing to hear this enlightening message...women need to remember their place with that power. Thank you so very much!
You are amazing, I wish I watched your videos long before I ruined my relationship with the man that I love.
By discovering your channel and your tiktok I feel like a miner who just found gold. Thank you so much for your videos, I find them so inspiring ❤
Thank you! I never understood how to inspire a man. This waa very helpful.
Thank you. I needed to here this today
Loving this content today and paying attention to your details, mami.
May all beings be healthy, be happy, be well and be free. Including ourselves.
Excellent advice thank you for sharing your wisdom❤
I love these videos, I also watched your masterclass of the principles and I loved it! I can see change in myself already and I am so excited about my new feminine attitude. Keep doing the good work
Wonderful!