Watched my 85 year old mom exhibit quiet confidence in everything good/bad that she's had to go thru over the years. Concluded that in the worst/best of times she steadfastly showed up for herself...wether it was losing a child or getting a high promotion at work. She made her bed every morning and tied her braid every night no matter what. She ate her sprouts and walked her mile no matter what. She showed herself in a zillion little ways everyday that she mattered. She lives alone, everybody having died or moved away...still makes her bed and ties her braid....and grows her own sprouts and gloats over them when I call every morning. Confident in the quiet self respect her creation deserves...not even trying...just being.
she should heal her very very deep wounds shes not even aware of!its going to be very very difficult!shes lost!just repeating what she read in books! Fake! shes too self centered to know anything about life
#1 12:26 consistent growth abt a goal 3:40 confidence come from #2 self acceptance #3 6:20 reliable and committed to yourself. Stop breaking promises to yourself #4 vulnerability 7:58 you don't have the best at everything.
Calm. In control. Experienced. Detached. And fearless. The key to truly being fearless is being at peace with everything... even your own death. Especially your own death. The death of yourself and even the closest one you love. You need to know deep down inside that no matter how hard it gets you will be able to endure any pain and loss and push forward straight through... to the end. That is what it means to have TRUE STRENGTH. And there is no true confidence without true strength. That is all.
I’m a Somali woman, born in Saudi Arabia to a devout Muslim family, who in 1990 ended seeking political asylum in the EU after the Somali civil war at the age of 13, with my mother and two younger sisters. Our dad left us when I was 5 y/o and since then, all I recall is being the man of the house. I went to the best European colleges to study international conflict resolution, and eventually went to a prestigious US postgraduate institution with a full ride scholarship to complete a Masters Degree in International Affairs. I hold multiple degrees, speak 7 languages, been a foreign Service officer for many years, but had a very rough marital life because I had no understanding of all these attachment styles, feminine/masculine energy and the importance of growing my emotional intelligence, in addition to my spiritual, intelectual and physical intelligence as a wholesome being. I’m grateful for your videos. Keep up the good work. ❤
your authenticity is just YES. you’re not selling anything, pushing ideas, not overthinking/editing content, it speaks for itself. your matter of fact succinct way of expressing ideas is just so impactful..im so glad i came across your content! it’s so grounding. hoping you see this comment because i have a request 🫶 a video or segment on the upcoming podcast about what you wish you knew in your twenties? you may even be still late twenties or at least look it lol but you give grown ass woman energy like i have never seen it before and I am just wondering what life was like in your early twenties! and advice for that time! ❤
Hi Margarita, going through a period of self-growth, showing up for myself, and not putting up with someone not showing up for me or making me feel like I constantly have to prove myself for their love. I’m so grateful to come across your channel and really admire your message and strength! Thank you!
Moved to the United States from Turkey when I was 6. Didn’t know the language and was a shy little girl. Raised in an extremely judgmental household, I was always self conscious about everything I said or did. Now I’m 21 years old. I am still growing and learning to accept myself no matter who I am. This video helped me so much because I feel less alone as others have very similar experiences and there are people out there just like me who are good hearted and perfectly made with amazing character. Since I’ve moved from place to place my whole life I hope that one day I find my people who I will be real friends with.
This is exactly what I needed ! After 20 years of being with my spouse, 18 years marriage, two kids together, divorce to only find out that she was already gone behind my back even before the divorce, completely destroyed me and my confidence. Definitely working harder than ever to build myself back up.
@@xariix4593 🙏… some days are hard, specially when I find out news about her and how everything has been going down… makes me sick… now I understand why they say “out of sight out of mind”… and I kept on digging, but at least I now know about her and the type of person she really is, now I know who I lived with for 20 years… and liar, cheater and untrustworthy person woman.
I love how you communicate, it’s so clear. This is a list of perfection. Thank you. ❤ It’s funny, I’ve had that exact same thought about my face - if I hate my face then I hate all the lovely ancestors who brought me to where I am today in this incredible life. I can’t do that. My face is my heritage, and even if it’s not perfect, it’s the only face like this, and it represents an entire lineage of people. All of this was just incredible. Thank you so much.
I can’t express enough how appreciative I am for your content. I’m a woman that experienced a childhood of rejection from my parents. One is a narcissist and the other an enabler. It’s tremendously difficult to overcome and reparent yourself as an adult. Thank u always.
I love this! Please do make a video on how to dress up confidently! And in different scenarios? Like for a casual meet up with mum, or just meeting your boyfriend that you see everyday or for a brunch with your closest friends or a mums and babies play date! Would love to know your thoughts and principles when it comes to dressing confident! Overall loved this ❤
Every sentence meant so much to me, it reminded me accept and be proud of myself for how much I evolved. Thank you so much for this I really needed to hear this, been on a rough days recently.
The part where she admits that it’s ok to admit “I don’t know” when you’re in a room or a space and it being confidence to admit that, and when she said “you’re not always going to be the smartest in the room” I experienced that yesterday. I’m in this “group of friends” … and we were talking about animal behavior, and I admitted I didn’t know something about wild cats (I have a cat so we were comparing domestic to the big wild cats) And then this person got annoyed towards the end of the conversation almost saying “ugh you’re so annoying to converse with” or almost wanted to say “you’re stupid” but then when I started talking about leeches and maggots and how they are used for medicinal stuff, he immediately interrupted me and wanted to be the one to say the information.. Then someone else joined and started talking about the pyramids and the conspiracies related to them, the same person who got annoyed with me kept trying to show off that he knows this and that and he got something wrong and the person who opened up the pyramid subject corrected him and somewhere in the conversation, the person who interrupted me said “that’s why I don’t always look this up cuz I already know” and the person who opened the pyramid subject said “I’m open to learning something from anyone” And in my mind I was like “bam! That is a person of growth, not this person who made me feel dumb for not knowing something and then immediately interrupts me for wanting to share information about leeches and maggots” I then went to sleep thinking “it’s fine, if this person or anyone wants to think I’m dumb, fine, I can’t control that, but I know a person who is a “know it all” doesn’t know shit”😂
I love that show up for yourself. I’ve come to realize over the last year that I showed up for everybody else but I abandoned myself in the process for so many years. Not again not today not tomorrow. New plan. Lots of growth. I love love your energy. Thank you so much for what you share.
Hi margarita, I think this is the best video I have ever watched in my life. I smiled, I cried. I saw the truth and raw reality of life anew. I regained a sense of confidence. Thank you.
I'm so happy I stumbled on your channel. I love these type of videos. I struggle a lot with motivation and chasing after my goals. It's like I'm in a constant battle between the person who wants to stay in her comfort zone/do nothing and the person within that wants the best for me and take action. I feel like just hearing you gave me a confidence boost.
Thank you, I really needed this. Currently in a situation with a long time friend about making plans about moving. In the past she bailed on me after months of planning to move somewhere so it put me a pretty sticky situation finding somewhere last minute. This time, because we’ve been friends I have a soft spot for her, but at the same time I never stood up for myself in the past with solid boundaries. I’m going to call her tomorrow saying we can be roomies but you can’t back out last minute and I need to be able to rely on you. I think I have an abandonment wound, so I’m afraid to state boundaries in fear of losing people. I now realize that I should be able to have healthy boundaries and if certain people can’t stick around because of that, then they’re just not meant to be in my life.
Thank you for this information and feeling the power of self- being. I have been suffering from trauma of narssisitic parents, and in conlusion i atracted friends and relationships in the same term, cause it was all i have known. Im finally realising the power i have, and refusing to continue letting in this type of behaviour into my life. The way you inform is instruction on how to get started in a very subtle way which is not confusing. I am here for it, and again thank you. ❤
you moved to England when you were seven years old. and for you it was a challenge to learn English and discover new culture and idiom. i think confidence is very important to overcome our fears to not be able to do something else .you decided to be confident and I'm too .i love the way you speak English a good accent . were you born in other land? you're Russian? I'm French and I learn english on my own. and I'm learning every single day listening to English people such you for exemple you talk is interesting about confidence. thank you for your advice. Richsrd
None of that matters. What matter is whether you have a Labrador, or not. The greatest doggos in the Universe will automatically make you confident. Sometimes I wonder whether aliens came and introduced Labradors to make humans happy.
I just came across your channel, and I haven't stopped watching your videos! I just want you to know you are really helping me through a trying time in my relationship. Forever grateful I found you and thank you for your content!
I love this content. I love the details that you talk about self-confidence. It clarifies the terms and helps me understand more about it and know what to do to really be confident without forcing my own nature.
I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking these thoughts that you are so freely able to put into words for years. And now that I am hearing my own thoughts thrown back at me in an affirmative way I am able to take action on them. Thank you for showing me how to understand and take action. That is a debt I will never be able to repay.
you are one of the most articulate person Ive heard, your advice is on point always! and u deliver it in such a direct way! ty so much pls do make a video about advice on how to dress up better (im clueless in this area), would love to hear your advice on that
New subscriber iv been binging your videos since I found your page this morning 😂 but seriously your content is so good! Thanks for sharing all this stuff
What an awesome video margarita special describing the importance of self-growth and chasing around dreams and contributions along with self-acceptance and believing our own promises and boundaries. Thanks for sharing all these wisdom and I'm enjoying your videos.😊
I just listened to your first podcast episode. So amazing, I can’t wait to listen every week!! I’m so thankful for your content. What you talked about in your podcast was exactly what I needed to hear. I have been really struggling with allowing my boyfriend to provide for me in our relationship. I’ve been heavily in my masculine in all my past relationships and I’m learning to heal my anxious attachment and be in my feminine energy in this relationship. Your advice is so helpful to me. I loved what you said about how it can be discouraging to your partner when you’re never satisfied. That’s something I really am trying to work on. Thank you for sharing this amazing content!
I like the message, but the constant zoom in/outs are absolutely TOO MUCH in my opinion. I feel like looking at something else and just listen because of it.
Margarita, I love how you said: how you react when someone ghosts you is what will set the standard of your confidence in your own head. The standard of confidence or our worth, that is set in our own head, is what we have to live with every day and is what will make or break us. I have been affected in the past too much by external circumstances, or trying to prevent certain circumstances from happening causing a lack of confidence and anxiety. Now it is clear that what happens outside of me is not my confidence. How I react to it is. Thank you very much, this brought me much peace ❤️
You so right on this! Long story short! I've been crushing on a guy and we started talking nicely and stuff and suddenly he's being distant. But I knew that was probably this has to do sth with me then I stepped back and realize this is because I still have an attachment anxiety and he probably pick on that energy. I was on RUclips and your videos popped up like the universe was guiding me towards and yeah! I'm going through this inner work journey and changing my self concept. Thank you so much🔥 I love your videos,you go straight to the point and yes Thank you again❤
Just discovered you :) it if refreshing to listen to your raw truth!! Your words are very accurate and come from experience! 🤗 Keep it up! Looking forward to keep hearing for your strong and motivating speech! ✌🏽
You need to be constantly improving yourself. Once you achieve one small thing, you will go on to achieve another small thing and so these little things build up. We are who we are. We have a heritage behind us and also in front of us. Things may not happen now but maybe your timing is wrong. We all have one life here but we all have untapped potential. Find good role models and seek to emulate their achievements. You need to be confident in who you are. Remember that you are special. Yes you will have setbacks and learn from others. Be grateful for all your friends and help them grow also. We may not be the best but we achieved today was more than yesterday. Do not 'sell yourself short'. Know your own worth. We all go trials and tribulations but we will overcome them all. The man who never made a mistake never made anything. Be grateful for everything and everyone that you meet, be it in person or on line. Keep yourself humble and grounded in reality and maximise your strengths.
Going through it all! I love your style. I too found myself in another far away country at age seven and was silent and took me two years to speak the language. Thank you for all the pep talks.♥️ You’re like this amazing beautiful big sister.😆
please do more of this how to FEEL secure/confident/unshakable. i try to turn this around for me right now and check in with myself consistently before doing or saying anything and not fall back into giving myself up for other people and people pleasing. i resonate a lot with what and how you're saying it. so pls more 😊
You know Margarita, in response of the statements around 08:00 when somebody gives me a label I know I don't deserve, or a degree I did not acquire, I always remind my self: "I say my name, the same name you see next to this line" and I add: is only an ordinary person, and I keep repeating until feeling I've go my heartbeat back.
For me I was a nervous wreck in big groups of people so I took a public speaking course. Was scary doing it but one of the best things I ever done. Remember confidence is built on taking action. Wanna get comfortable with talking to people? Then I challenge you to just go to a big public area and just ask for directions.
The first part of the video, I embody easily, and I've also gotten a lot better at showing up for and being committed and trustworthy to myself The tail end of the video, about being vulnerable I can do but not with a man I like. And the boundary setting is a mystery to me because I have such poor awareness of what my more nuanced but still catastrophically important boundaries are, especially in a romantic context. Maybe only in that context. These two problems make a relationship impossible for me at this point. I'm trying to solve the mystery here... It's f*cking hard. P.s thank you for the video. Very good stuff.
Any advise for being ghosted one month into a relationship which felt so real and connected and mutual and come out of no where Struggling with feeling sad and angry by this but wanting to remain high value
My best friend, whom I loved so deeply, with all my heart and with all my soul... He recently betrayed and abandoned me... The grief is unbearable. However, I have learned this: 1. The woman who has the power to walk away, gives her soul, the space to heal... 2. She allows the man to have clarity regarding her value... 3. She is able to ponder the error/s of her ways... 4. She learns her own strength and power and femininity and divinity and magic... 5. She re-calibrates her soul, and moves back to the Creator's default... 6. She gives God the necessary space to bless her...
I had a similar upbringing in the sense of moving country and do not speaking the language. I moved from Poland to the United States when I was 4, then back to Poland, then back to USA when I was 8 and we stayed here. So basically when I was 8 I had to learn English, and go to school. The disassociation you speak of is exactly what that is, disassociation. It was traumatic for me to go from knowing my family and having friends to it being ripped away from me. Of course my parents were not good parents once they moved to a new country where they were completely out of their depth. I'm not sure what your Early childhood was like, hopefully nothing like mine (I'm in trauma recovery therapy for cptsd for a terrible childhood). But I also don't remember learning the English language, it just sort of happened.
Thanks I needed to hear this for sooo long I’ve been down on myself every since my ex cheated on me depression insecurity down right critical of myself blaming myself for everything!
I searched for 'confidence progress video.' At 40 years old, I've lost all my confidence. I recall being very confident in my teens; never had trouble talking to girls, etc. However, my twenties were rough. I faced numerous setbacks in life, and they've been eroding my confidence ever since. I feel like a completely different person compared to my younger self. They say 'life begins at 40.'
First i am conffident for my self. But i dont have friends. And i yhimk i dont have friends bcz i am confident i have my attitude. And i never put anyone down.
Ты путаешь 'CONFIDENCE' с 'HUMILATION'. У тебя взгляд доминаторский - советский. Посмотри на твои тамбнейлы - ну Честно. 🤦♂ Нужно родиться в свободной стране, чтобы быть по настоящему - CONFIDENT. Только не обижайся - на взгляд со стороны.
Some problems with each thesis that I'd like to challenge you on... 1. 3:06 This only works with those equal or inferior in status. Anyone with authority or other power over you will smack you down for your hubris. On the other hand, bullies and abusers can easily blackmail you with other things if you stand up to them. Tell me, do you render unto Caesar? 2. On Self-acceptance: Privilege makes this leagues easier. If you're mentally ill, poor, or some other minority on society's chopping block... well, is a lifetime of pain and despair really worth living? There comes a point where self-acceptance becomes resignation. 3. Showing up for oneself: Doesn't work with people who have moderate- to low-functioning ADHD. Too distractable, too prone to hyperfocus, and too hampered in terms of executive functioning. Folks with neurodevelopmental disorders like this pretty much go through life frustrated by their lifelong shortcomings. 4. Vulnerability (personal): No issue in this field as long as I'm in good company, but why I still feel like I've had my intestines ripped out every time I'm rejected has me questioning this. Lord knows I've spent a lifetime trying to mitigate this agony. I've come to outright hate other people because of their perfunctory ability to inflict that pain, even though I hide it pretty well behind a veil of civility.
Confidence ? thats cool when you half look like Scarlott Johanson,lol what about the Wugerly Bunch?No Words of Encouragement cures that Girl(the real world)
This speech is not going to give you confidence. Confidence comes from having good parents, who raised their children with love, stability, support and specific guidance towards what that child has strengths in. Socially is full of broken homes, single moms, abuse and unwanted pregnancies. Start with this people... stop having kids with people you are not staying with for 20+ years. Stop picking men who are not totally loyal, committed, stable and kind. Stop leaving good men, just because "you can do better". Don't get surgery, duck lips, nose rings, tattoos, cut your hair short, cuss and act like a total witch, or entitled princes, then expect some "10" level man to commit to you, just because you are pretty or fit. Men are extremely intelligent and don't tell women what they really think. Confidence comes from resolving your childhood damage, then building your feminine frame as a woman, or masculine frame if you are a man, so you are a good person inside.
The gospel for salvation for the eternity of your soul so it goes to heaven and not hell. 1 Corinthians 15:1-4, and Romans 10:9-10. I hope you receive this free gift of salvation. The choice is yours. Maranatha 👑
I'm Deaf and sign language translate English language America 🇺🇸 for you how you doing this good morning hello 👋🏾 I like her so really pretty good lady nice person and response to honor her own personal life private and creative emotions grateful and gratitude cool keep you from her❤ I meet nice cuz 😊 ☺
Watched my 85 year old mom exhibit quiet confidence in everything good/bad that she's had to go thru over the years. Concluded that in the worst/best of times she steadfastly showed up for herself...wether it was losing a child or getting a high promotion at work. She made her bed every morning and tied her braid every night no matter what. She ate her sprouts and walked her mile no matter what. She showed herself in a zillion little ways everyday that she mattered. She lives alone, everybody having died or moved away...still makes her bed and ties her braid....and grows her own sprouts and gloats over them when I call every morning. Confident in the quiet self respect her creation deserves...not even trying...just being.
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that was beautifully spoken 💕
This is a beautiful example, thanks for sharing!
she should heal her very very deep wounds shes not even aware of!its going to be very very difficult!shes lost!just repeating what she read in books! Fake! shes too self centered to know anything about life
This is so beautiful! I wonder whether she feels loneliness.
Absolutely killing it with this content, Margarita.
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Concur. Sage advice from someone so young. But then. Out of the mouths of babes 🥰
skye, what kind of language is, "killing it"?
sounds Amenglish?
@@ghostwriter1415 Kate Winslet
#1 12:26 consistent growth abt a goal
3:40 confidence come from
#2 self acceptance
#3 6:20 reliable and committed to yourself. Stop breaking promises to yourself
#4 vulnerability 7:58 you don't have the best at everything.
Calm. In control. Experienced. Detached. And fearless.
The key to truly being fearless is being at peace with everything... even your own death. Especially your own death. The death of yourself and even the closest one you love. You need to know deep down inside that no matter how hard it gets you will be able to endure any pain and loss and push forward straight through... to the end. That is what it means to have TRUE STRENGTH. And there is no true confidence without true strength.
That is all.
I’m a Somali woman, born in Saudi Arabia to a devout Muslim family, who in 1990 ended seeking political asylum in the EU after the Somali civil war at the age of 13, with my mother and two younger sisters. Our dad left us when I was 5 y/o and since then, all I recall is being the man of the house. I went to the best European colleges to study international conflict resolution, and eventually went to a prestigious US postgraduate institution with a full ride scholarship to complete a Masters Degree in International Affairs. I hold multiple degrees, speak 7 languages, been a foreign Service officer for many years, but had a very rough marital life because I had no understanding of all these attachment styles, feminine/masculine energy and the importance of growing my emotional intelligence, in addition to my spiritual, intelectual and physical intelligence as a wholesome being. I’m grateful for your videos. Keep up the good work. ❤
What an inspiring story! You are ah-mazing! Keep thriving! Keep going! Thank you for sharing your story with us! 💖
your authenticity is just YES. you’re not selling anything, pushing ideas, not overthinking/editing content, it speaks for itself. your matter of fact succinct way of expressing ideas is just so impactful..im so glad i came across your content! it’s so grounding. hoping you see this comment because i have a request 🫶 a video or segment on the upcoming podcast about what you wish you knew in your twenties? you may even be still late twenties or at least look it lol but you give grown ass woman energy like i have never seen it before and I am just wondering what life was like in your early twenties! and advice for that time! ❤
That’s a great idea
Love this idea!
Love this idea!!! ❤
Wheres her podcast?
@@Margarita.Nazarenko wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Hi Margarita, going through a period of self-growth, showing up for myself, and not putting up with someone not showing up for me or making me feel like I constantly have to prove myself for their love. I’m so grateful to come across your channel and really admire your message and strength! Thank you!
Absolutely!
Hi❤
Moved to the United States from Turkey when I was 6. Didn’t know the language and was a shy little girl. Raised in an extremely judgmental household, I was always self conscious about everything I said or did. Now I’m 21 years old. I am still growing and learning to accept myself no matter who I am. This video helped me so much because I feel less alone as others have very similar experiences and there are people out there just like me who are good hearted and perfectly made with amazing character. Since I’ve moved from place to place my whole life I hope that one day I find my people who I will be real friends with.
I feel you girl, Im Turkish too and I wish i lived in US we could've been friends
This is exactly what I needed ! After 20 years of being with my spouse, 18 years marriage, two kids together, divorce to only find out that she was already gone behind my back even before the divorce, completely destroyed me and my confidence.
Definitely working harder than ever to build myself back up.
you can do this!
@@xariix4593 🙏… some days are hard, specially when I find out news about her and how everything has been going down… makes me sick… now I understand why they say “out of sight out of mind”… and I kept on digging, but at least I now know about her and the type of person she really is, now I know who I lived with for 20 years… and liar, cheater and untrustworthy person woman.
aha..sounds like me. Except I have three kids.. 😁
I love how you communicate, it’s so clear. This is a list of perfection. Thank you. ❤
It’s funny, I’ve had that exact same thought about my face - if I hate my face then I hate all the lovely ancestors who brought me to where I am today in this incredible life. I can’t do that. My face is my heritage, and even if it’s not perfect, it’s the only face like this, and it represents an entire lineage of people.
All of this was just incredible. Thank you so much.
I can’t express enough how appreciative I am for your content. I’m a woman that experienced a childhood of rejection from my parents. One is a narcissist and the other an enabler. It’s tremendously difficult to overcome and reparent yourself as an adult. Thank u always.
same same, i can't wait till i move out
Hi Beauty❤
Have you gone into therapy for childhood trauma?
@@Karla-mu6hn hi Karla
I love this! Please do make a video on how to dress up confidently! And in different scenarios? Like for a casual meet up with mum, or just meeting your boyfriend that you see everyday or for a brunch with your closest friends or a mums and babies play date! Would love to know your thoughts and principles when it comes to dressing confident! Overall loved this ❤
Every sentence meant so much to me, it reminded me accept and be proud of myself for how much I evolved. Thank you so much for this I really needed to hear this, been on a rough days recently.
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The part where she admits that it’s ok to admit “I don’t know” when you’re in a room or a space and it being confidence to admit that, and when she said “you’re not always going to be the smartest in the room”
I experienced that yesterday.
I’m in this “group of friends” … and we were talking about animal behavior, and I admitted I didn’t know something about wild cats (I have a cat so we were comparing domestic to the big wild cats)
And then this person got annoyed towards the end of the conversation almost saying “ugh you’re so annoying to converse with” or almost wanted to say “you’re stupid” but then when I started talking about leeches and maggots and how they are used for medicinal stuff, he immediately interrupted me and wanted to be the one to say the information..
Then someone else joined and started talking about the pyramids and the conspiracies related to them, the same person who got annoyed with me kept trying to show off that he knows this and that and he got something wrong and the person who opened up the pyramid subject corrected him and somewhere in the conversation, the person who interrupted me said “that’s why I don’t always look this up cuz I already know” and the person who opened the pyramid subject said “I’m open to learning something from anyone”
And in my mind I was like “bam! That is a person of growth, not this person who made me feel dumb for not knowing something and then immediately interrupts me for wanting to share information about leeches and maggots”
I then went to sleep thinking “it’s fine, if this person or anyone wants to think I’m dumb, fine, I can’t control that, but I know a person who is a “know it all” doesn’t know shit”😂
I love that show up for yourself. I’ve come to realize over the last year that I showed up for everybody else but I abandoned myself in the process for so many years. Not again not today not tomorrow. New plan. Lots of growth. I love love your energy. Thank you so much for what you share.
Stop breaking promises to yourself. I like that
Hi margarita, I think this is the best video I have ever watched in my life. I smiled, I cried. I saw the truth and raw reality of life anew. I regained a sense of confidence. Thank you.
you have such a natural talent for this. I feel so soothed and motivated. Happy to see someone living their purpose.
Agreed!
I'm so happy I stumbled on your channel. I love these type of videos.
I struggle a lot with motivation and chasing after my goals. It's like I'm in a constant battle between the person who wants to stay in her comfort zone/do nothing and the person within that wants the best for me and take action.
I feel like just hearing you gave me a confidence boost.
❤❤me too
Thank you, I really needed this. Currently in a situation with a long time friend about making plans about moving. In the past she bailed on me after months of planning to move somewhere so it put me a pretty sticky situation finding somewhere last minute. This time, because we’ve been friends I have a soft spot for her, but at the same time I never stood up for myself in the past with solid boundaries. I’m going to call her tomorrow saying we can be roomies but you can’t back out last minute and I need to be able to rely on you. I think I have an abandonment wound, so I’m afraid to state boundaries in fear of losing people. I now realize that I should be able to have healthy boundaries and if certain people can’t stick around because of that, then they’re just not meant to be in my life.
As The Man John Maclean says: you are bespoke, exclusive, limited edition-you are the only one of you, ever. Treat yourself accordingly
Thank you for this information and feeling the power of self- being.
I have been suffering from trauma of narssisitic parents, and in conlusion i atracted friends and relationships in the same term, cause it was all i have known.
Im finally realising the power i have, and refusing to continue letting in this type of behaviour into my life.
The way you inform is instruction on how to get started in a very subtle way which is not confusing. I am here for it, and again thank you. ❤
you moved to England when you were seven years old. and for you it was a challenge to learn English and discover new culture and idiom. i think confidence is very important to
overcome our fears to not be able to do something else .you decided to be confident and I'm too .i love the way you speak English a good accent . were you born in other land?
you're Russian? I'm French and I learn english on my own. and I'm learning every single day listening to English people such you for exemple
you talk is interesting about confidence. thank you for your advice. Richsrd
Would you ever do a video of how much money you made on RUclips?
None of that matters. What matter is whether you have a Labrador, or not. The greatest doggos in the Universe will automatically make you confident. Sometimes I wonder whether aliens came and introduced Labradors to make humans happy.
Perfect message for today that can be applied everyday for optimal success! I am blessed to hear this, thanks sis! 💖💯
Subscribed! Very happy to have found you. Getting over narcissist abuse and your videos are really helping. Thank you.
Your life is gonna level up now you're free of that situation. Nice one
I just came across your channel, and I haven't stopped watching your videos! I just want you to know you are really helping me through a trying time in my relationship. Forever grateful I found you and thank you for your content!
Hi❤
I love this content. I love the details that you talk about self-confidence. It clarifies the terms and helps me understand more about it and know what to do to really be confident without forcing my own nature.
What a beautiful video my lady…
I do feel very lucky or else I wouldn’t have found your videos,
appreciate you🙏❤️🤗
I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking these thoughts that you are so freely able to put into words for years. And now that I am hearing my own thoughts thrown back at me in an affirmative way I am able to take action on them. Thank you for showing me how to understand and take action. That is a debt I will never be able to repay.
My favourite video of yours so far ❤
My friends name is Elizabeth I got chills when you said that.
I can't thank you enough for this video. It came to me at the exact moment that I needed it. Thank you
you are one of the most articulate person Ive heard, your advice is on point always! and u deliver it in such a direct way! ty so much
pls do make a video about advice on how to dress up better (im clueless in this area), would love to hear your advice on that
Love how she VIEWS life, brilliantly genius yet beautifully humble 🌷☕
New subscriber iv been binging your videos since I found your page this morning 😂 but seriously your content is so good! Thanks for sharing all this stuff
I'm inlove with this woman ! Wow thank you !
You're so freaking gorgeous, warm and intelligent, Margarita 💜
What an awesome video margarita special describing the importance of self-growth and chasing around dreams and contributions along with self-acceptance and believing our own promises and boundaries. Thanks for sharing all these wisdom and I'm enjoying your videos.😊
I just listened to your first podcast episode. So amazing, I can’t wait to listen every week!! I’m so thankful for your content. What you talked about in your podcast was exactly what I needed to hear. I have been really struggling with allowing my boyfriend to provide for me in our relationship. I’ve been heavily in my masculine in all my past relationships and I’m learning to heal my anxious attachment and be in my feminine energy in this relationship. Your advice is so helpful to me. I loved what you said about how it can be discouraging to your partner when you’re never satisfied. That’s something I really am trying to work on. Thank you for sharing this amazing content!
I like the message, but the constant zoom in/outs are absolutely TOO MUCH in my opinion. I feel like looking at something else and just listen because of it.
Thank you for the feed back. I’ll tell my editor. X
Margarita, I love how you said: how you react when someone ghosts you is what will set the standard of your confidence in your own head. The standard of confidence or our worth, that is set in our own head, is what we have to live with every day and is what will make or break us. I have been affected in the past too much by external circumstances, or trying to prevent certain circumstances from happening causing a lack of confidence and anxiety. Now it is clear that what happens outside of me is not my confidence. How I react to it is. Thank you very much, this brought me much peace ❤️
Hi Nicole❤
Where’s she from? She mentioned she moved at 7 and didn’t know english
This is deep and angled so beautifully. Your understanding of confidence is grounded in the things that ring true throughout time.
Girl, you are amazing! Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️ This is so so helpful. I am grateful to have stumbled on your page 🙏
You so right on this!
Long story short! I've been crushing on a guy and we started talking nicely and stuff and suddenly he's being distant.
But I knew that was probably this has to do sth with me then I stepped back and realize this is because I still have an attachment anxiety and he probably pick on that energy.
I was on RUclips and your videos popped up like the universe was guiding me towards and yeah! I'm going through this inner work journey and changing my self concept.
Thank you so much🔥 I love your videos,you go straight to the point and yes Thank you again❤
Spot on. We are all incredible. Fact.
I literally thumbs up your videos before I even watch 👏💎
Just discovered you :) it if refreshing to listen to your raw truth!! Your words are very accurate and come from experience! 🤗
Keep it up! Looking forward to keep hearing for your strong and motivating speech! ✌🏽
You need to be constantly improving yourself. Once you achieve one small thing, you will go on to achieve another small thing and so these little things build up. We are who we are. We have a heritage behind us and also in front of us. Things may not happen now but maybe your timing is wrong. We all have one life here but we all have untapped potential. Find good role models and seek to emulate their achievements. You need to be confident in who you are. Remember that you are special. Yes you will have setbacks and learn from others. Be grateful for all your friends and help them grow also. We may not be the best but we achieved today was more than yesterday. Do not 'sell yourself short'. Know your own worth. We all go trials and tribulations but we will overcome them all. The man who never made a mistake never made anything. Be grateful for everything and everyone that you meet, be it in person or on line. Keep yourself humble and grounded in reality and maximise your strengths.
Thank you so much for your content. Please, write a book! I would 1000% read it.
Going through it all! I love your style. I too found myself in another far away country at age seven and was silent and took me two years to speak the language. Thank you for all the pep talks.♥️ You’re like this amazing beautiful big sister.😆
Me too
you are so relatable and honest and refreshing! ♥️Appreciate your wisdom and guidance 🙏🏽much gratitude
please do more of this how to FEEL secure/confident/unshakable. i try to turn this around for me right now and check in with myself consistently before doing or saying anything and not fall back into giving myself up for other people and people pleasing. i resonate a lot with what and how you're saying it. so pls more 😊
love your wisodom. thank you for inspiring us to become confident and FEEL it.
You know Margarita, in response of the statements around
08:00
when somebody gives me a label I know I don't deserve, or a degree I did not acquire, I always remind my self: "I say my name, the same name you see next to this line" and I add: is only an ordinary person, and I keep repeating until feeling I've go my heartbeat back.
Thank you, Margarita. This was an awesome video and I especially loved the part about showing up for yourself ❤.
For me I was a nervous wreck in big groups of people so I took a public speaking course. Was scary doing it but one of the best things I ever done. Remember confidence is built on taking action.
Wanna get comfortable with talking to people? Then I challenge you to just go to a big public area and just ask for directions.
Saçların ,Ses tonun,
You are such a light I love you 🤍
I’d like to learn more abt the “flow” you keep talking about. You’re awesome!
You need more subscribers, you're brilliant!! You speak so much sense.
Can I ask what's your nationality!
Thank you that’s kind. I’m Russian/British
I can see why women don't get anything😂😂
Beautiful well said thankyou 🌺💜🌸
you & wizardliz are my saving graces
The first part of the video, I embody easily, and I've also gotten a lot better at showing up for and being committed and trustworthy to myself The tail end of the video, about being vulnerable I can do but not with a man I like. And the boundary setting is a mystery to me because I have such poor awareness of what my more nuanced but still catastrophically important boundaries are, especially in a romantic context. Maybe only in that context. These two problems make a relationship impossible for me at this point. I'm trying to solve the mystery here... It's f*cking hard. P.s thank you for the video. Very good stuff.
Any advise for being ghosted one month into a relationship which felt so real and connected and mutual and come out of no where
Struggling with feeling sad and angry by this but wanting to remain high value
My best friend, whom I loved so deeply,
with all my heart and with all my soul...
He recently betrayed and abandoned me...
The grief is unbearable.
However,
I have learned this:
1. The woman who has the power to walk away, gives her soul, the space to heal...
2. She allows the man to have clarity regarding her value...
3. She is able to ponder the error/s of her ways...
4. She learns her own strength and power and femininity and divinity and magic...
5. She re-calibrates her soul, and moves back to the Creator's default...
6. She gives God the necessary space to bless her...
Do your jam next❤
You are a very inspiring person. I love your strength❤
Thank You! What a great motivator you are!
I hope you make more videos like this.
My ancestors were Viking, so I am super glad I'm here!
Yes, yes, yes! Please do dressing with confidence- part of the whole package. Can’t wait til the next podcast btw
Thank you for sitting down with me and telling me
Hi Grace❤
Oh I love you ...Thank-you so much ...just started my healing journey n ur helping a lot.
Absolutely loving this type of content from you, thank you!
Glad you enjoy it!
Thank you so much for your content. This really shifts my entire mindset and mood for the day.
Yes! getting surgery is the ultimate sign of lack of self-love and sheer ungratefulness
I agree but each on its own
Completely in love with your channel. Thank you for speaking your thoughts
You become confident by destroy your attachment to your
ego
true
I had a similar upbringing in the sense of moving country and do not speaking the language. I moved from Poland to the United States when I was 4, then back to Poland, then back to USA when I was 8 and we stayed here. So basically when I was 8 I had to learn English, and go to school.
The disassociation you speak of is exactly what that is, disassociation. It was traumatic for me to go from knowing my family and having friends to it being ripped away from me. Of course my parents were not good parents once they moved to a new country where they were completely out of their depth. I'm not sure what your Early childhood was like, hopefully nothing like mine (I'm in trauma recovery therapy for cptsd for a terrible childhood).
But I also don't remember learning the English language, it just sort of happened.
Thanks I needed to hear this for sooo long I’ve been down on myself every since my ex cheated on me depression insecurity down right critical of myself blaming myself for everything!
I searched for 'confidence progress video.' At 40 years old, I've lost all my confidence. I recall being very confident in my teens; never had trouble talking to girls, etc. However, my twenties were rough. I faced numerous setbacks in life, and they've been eroding my confidence ever since. I feel like a completely different person compared to my younger self. They say 'life begins at 40.'
Пусть это будет первый русский комментарий ❤️ Риточка, Вы волшебная 🌷
Yes yes yes! 👏👏👏 I'm new here and I love how real and actually helpful are your advises and opinions. Subscribe
At 66 with my youthfulness far behind, I need my confidence high daily. Enjoy your content.
Your vibe is so cool. So wish I had a friend like you IRL. That “why’re you so aggressive” killed me 😂
First i am conffident for my self. But i dont have friends. And i yhimk i dont have friends bcz i am confident i have my attitude. And i never put anyone down.
Ты путаешь 'CONFIDENCE' с 'HUMILATION'. У тебя взгляд доминаторский - советский. Посмотри на твои тамбнейлы - ну Честно. 🤦♂
Нужно родиться в свободной стране, чтобы быть по настоящему - CONFIDENT.
Только не обижайся - на взгляд со стороны.
Hey! Shout out from Lithuanian living in Peterborough, Cambridgeshire!😀
Great great great advice video. Simple, yet so powerful🎉 thank you so much❤
This is what I needed to hear thank you ❤ just subscribed.
Thank u for this my lady. 🙏🏼❤️😘😘😘Sandy
For All Citizens have kindness can change a fresh Healthy atmosphere Where zero? Crimes, cruelty, corruption?sickness .thanks be nice be strong .
Some problems with each thesis that I'd like to challenge you on...
1. 3:06 This only works with those equal or inferior in status. Anyone with authority or other power over you will smack you down for your hubris. On the other hand, bullies and abusers can easily blackmail you with other things if you stand up to them. Tell me, do you render unto Caesar?
2. On Self-acceptance: Privilege makes this leagues easier. If you're mentally ill, poor, or some other minority on society's chopping block... well, is a lifetime of pain and despair really worth living? There comes a point where self-acceptance becomes resignation.
3. Showing up for oneself: Doesn't work with people who have moderate- to low-functioning ADHD. Too distractable, too prone to hyperfocus, and too hampered in terms of executive functioning. Folks with neurodevelopmental disorders like this pretty much go through life frustrated by their lifelong shortcomings.
4. Vulnerability (personal): No issue in this field as long as I'm in good company, but why I still feel like I've had my intestines ripped out every time I'm rejected has me questioning this. Lord knows I've spent a lifetime trying to mitigate this agony. I've come to outright hate other people because of their perfunctory ability to inflict that pain, even though I hide it pretty well behind a veil of civility.
Confidence ? thats cool when you half look like Scarlott Johanson,lol what about the Wugerly Bunch?No Words of Encouragement cures that Girl(the real world)
This speech is not going to give you confidence. Confidence comes from having good parents, who raised their children with love, stability, support and specific guidance towards what that child has strengths in. Socially is full of broken homes, single moms, abuse and unwanted pregnancies. Start with this people... stop having kids with people you are not staying with for 20+ years. Stop picking men who are not totally loyal, committed, stable and kind. Stop leaving good men, just because "you can do better". Don't get surgery, duck lips, nose rings, tattoos, cut your hair short, cuss and act like a total witch, or entitled princes, then expect some "10" level man to commit to you, just because you are pretty or fit. Men are extremely intelligent and don't tell women what they really think. Confidence comes from resolving your childhood damage, then building your feminine frame as a woman, or masculine frame if you are a man, so you are a good person inside.
The gospel for salvation for the eternity of your soul so it goes to heaven and not hell. 1 Corinthians 15:1-4, and Romans 10:9-10. I hope you receive this free gift of salvation. The choice is yours. Maranatha 👑
Confidence has mostly on physical appearance & Status..I have a average self esteem cause I'm only average looking & no Job😐
I'm Deaf and sign language translate English language America 🇺🇸 for you how you doing this good morning hello 👋🏾 I like her so really pretty good lady nice person and response to honor her own personal life private and creative emotions grateful and gratitude cool keep you from her❤ I meet nice cuz 😊 ☺