reminds me of Matthew 11:29-30: “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
@@terenarosa4790 I’m new to this walk but being surrendered as a woman has meant embodying “turn the other cheek”, even though I have every right/reason to pop off, because the price has been paid. Because the battle isn’t mine. Because we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers and rulers of the darkness of this world, and fighting means praying, it means having faith, it means cooperation and collaboration to solve problems, dying to myself daily and with it my desire to be correct, in control, and the victor.
Jasmyne, as a 16 year old in this really confusing generation and time, thank you so much for your videos. You have shown me how to be a sincere Christian (because I was lukewarm before) and how beautiful it is to be a woman. You are like a mother to me (I come from a really toxic household). I love listening to you and this video made my day and I can't wait to learn more 🥰. Have a blessed Sunday with your little family 💕 ( i also hope to convert to orthodoxy soon!!!! The book you recommended "The Orthodox Way" by Kallistos Ware has recently been finished and your videos and Instagram stories convince me more every day!!💘💘)
Hold on to the journey you will get there. A good book to move on to is The Religion of the Apostles by Fr Simon De Young, it really helps with understanding how the Orthodox faith is. I would also suggest that exploring what is available on Ancient Faith Radio may be helpful and a good way to avoid the less helpful parts of the Orthodox internet.
Double commenting ooops Ive noticed an increase in women beginning to embrace the idea of periods in a positive light. This makes me so happy. As a girl ive always felt grateful for recieving my period because it reminded me of the blessing that i am healthy and a woman. But i never shared this with anyone because i didn't want to be looked at as weird. So yeah. I guess what im saying is thank you for teaching us to embrace this.
Mine made me want to die for 35 years and literally almost killed me once. The fibroids/Cysts also kept me from having children, so none of it was even worth it.
I loved what you shared however I must bring up a point. She's teaching you to surrender not embrace. Embracing is masculine. For example think of how your man or father embraces you in a hug as you surrender to the feeling/feelings of his actions.
@@corym.johnson7241 I apologize..but... i embrace people all the time. My mother embraces me. The pastor's wife embraces me. I thought embrace was synonymous with acceptance.
@@mariagalleriaxi8632 Yeah, embracing is fine. These are all great points, but we have to be careful that we don't get legalistic about this. We need to let people be the individuals God created them to be.
I would LOVE more content distinguishing between mature and immature feminine. I struggle with exactly what you're describing as immature, and while I'm working on that, I often can't tell if my response to a particular situation is me being surrendered or immature. I would say this is an example of "toxic femininity" -- a sinful distortion of my natural instinct to nurture and submit, much in the same way that men being violent or needlessly aggressive is a sinful distortion of their instinct to protect and lead.
You are hitting on something extremely important and not talked about enough. Women are controlled by their fears. We fear opening up, as we really should. Because you shouldn't be open to everyone who's not worthy. We fear being alone, but also fear relationships. We don't want to be hurt but also don't want to be alone. But if you find a descent man, taking that leap of faith brings a lot of peace. That's where I'm at. My husband is a good man, a good husband, and a good father. Young women just have to find the right person.
You are soo right! I too have been (and still) am so much controlled by fear. But let us also point out that most of it is inducted by our environment. My parents (and society) would say to me constantly that I should not even think of not marrying! That being alone is the end of the world! But also not having a boyfriend or mingling with boys because having a relationship was a shame. it was like right after the last day of school, I miraculously found a husband and immediately get married! So This trapped me into not taking any sort of action and stopping myself from having any normal experience..which lead to 34 lonely years with the fear of ending up alone growing day by day. And at the same time, fear of settling with just anyone just so that I am not unmarried creeping in even more..
@@mirelasemanjaku I know it's been a couple weeks, so forgive me for a late reply, but I've been thinking about it and just wanted to add if someone waits for the perfect person, it's not going to happen because no person is perfect. I've been married since 2002, and I couldn't say he's perfect the way God is perfect. He's just a good and decent man. We all have shortcomings and no one is perfect. He's just perfect for me. I trust him, he's a good provider and protector.... He's a good father and husband... But no one is perfect. It's a blessing to join with each other to guide each other in the right way. There was a time I was drinking too much, and my husband had to set me straight without abuse or intimidation. He simply said he didn't like what I was doing and I cut back. That's how it is supposed to work. I was in the wrong. Listen to your partners because they are guiding you to heaven.
The section about femininity not being weak is 💯 It is *so* much easier to respond to hatred with hatred, to hold grudges against people, and to harden yourself than it is to surrender your pride, remain kind towards those who are unkind to you, and genuinely wish well unto those who wish evil on you. The former legitimately feels good and cathartic in the short term but ultimately only brings more destruction. The latter takes work and might even bring pain in the short term but ultimately benefits everyone.
this was so on time for me. When you started to discuss the beauty of surrenderance and the beauty of the responsibility for it, intentionality, that has really made an impact on me personally. being "independent" doesn't seem to leave room for beauty because that would mean taking the time to cultivate, nurture, listen, learn, breathe and repeat to descend and transform- the art of surrenderance like you said its this beautiful and strong process...I feel sometimes out of place in world that is not slowing down at all...good news...I have cultivated my self-care and carved out beauty in my "me" time routines all while working and taking of my family and I learned to choose my battles on the job..femininity is not for everyone however I continue to manage...thats why we need it so we won't go crazy in a world trying to redefine men and women..God is ultimately in control anyway...and this subject I believe is where God is leading me next to cultivate surrenderance, and go within for more femininity
I love how you talk about us women, it makes me feel beautiful and great about myself and it inspires me. I'm starting to be proud of being one (i used to dislike it). Thank you sm. 💗
A round of applause please. This is so precious! I´ve had a lot of conflict since last year and I always get one word out of it. "Submit and let go". God told me to stop hurrying but it´s so hard, when I´m used to run at the bus, to be on time at the second meeting of the day. I have to stop. God told me last year, when I asked him what should I do this year, he said "Just be. Let me mold you into the woman you should be" . Haven´t figured out what "being" means. I mean, I have goals, I want money to submit peacefully... may God help the women of this generation, amen.
God told me the same thing last year. I’m still figuring out what it means, but I’m getting there. It’s a journey that starts with slowing down 🤍 blessings to you!
I live in India (studying here as an African) and i always stay up till 00:00 to watch your videos when they first come out🙂 Also, has youre voice always been this soft or has it softened since you started working on your feminine energy?
This was very interesting the feminine surrendered woman is often perceived as being weak. But it takes real strength to fight against your instincts. To respond and not to react as you said in one of your videos 🤗💛
I really love your music background ❤ could you consider it to maybe make a playlist for us? Feminine music, soft songs, I love music and I believe it can make you connect with anger, happiness, sadness… so maybe a feminine playlist to connect a little more with our feminine energy might be helpful! Love your videos ❤
About not wanting children I think it's deeper than that. I actually grew up having to care for myself and my father, who was almost unable to take care of himself and the house (due to dr*g use). Later in my teenage years I had to take care of my new born sister. I was either living to serve others or being blamed for being selfish for not doing what my parents actually had to do. Now my sister is eleven and her behaviour is horrible, I definitely would hate my life if I had such a child. Not mentionning how expensive it was to take care of her as a baby, the countless nights the whole family was not able to sleep because she was crying...etc All of this complitely took away my desire to have children. I know I can't do it, I don't have the patience, and would not accept if my child doesn't turn the way I want. I am not going to be a good mother, not because others told me so, but because I know my limits. I just want to travel a bit, learn crafts from othe cultures and later, find a little house in the deep coutryside, away from people, to finally have a simple and quiet life. Having children is not easy at all, and I have seen way more people who should NOT be parents having kids than the opposit. Countless parents messing up their child from a very young age, making them weak, breaking them with a lot of bullshlt...etc
I get it, I mean if I had that experience I probably wouldn't want children either. You were forced to take a huge amount of responsibility at a young age, when you should have been the child being parented, not the one doing the parenting. Not only did you have this experience of parenting too early, but you also had no support, were criticized for your parenting, and had little control of the environment you and your sister grew up in. But, I will say this...there were a lot of aspects in that experience that aren't normal to parenting. I've enjoyed having friends with young children because it shows me a realistic depiction of parenting. Yes, the responsibility is a lot, but if you chose the right man, you have someone to support you. My friends have a good community that supports them and their children. I and others in our church go babysit for free when they need a break, or go help for a couple of hours while the dad is away at work. And they've raised kids that can accept being told no and are very well behaved, even being under 4. Because when you are mature and you have support, you know you have control of the way you raise your kids. Not everything will be in your control, but some things always are. Plus, getting to walk with your kids that you gave birth to and see them grow and change and love you and to love them is a unique experience. All that to say, I would probably feel similar if I went through what you did, and if it's better for you to not parent, then great! But I just wanted to say that because sometimes our negative experiences can give us false impressions of the way life can be, which is often more beautiful than we think.
I hear your struggle, I may not have walked the same path but too came to the same conclusion that it was not for me to have children. In your journing, you may find it helpful to visit women's monasteries as these can be places of healing for women who have suffered. You may even find a home in a monastic community with sisters who you struggle alongside and a spiritual mother (and spiritual father) who both cares and can help you become who you were created to be.
I first want to say as a mother of 4, I am sincerely sorry that your parents failed you. Reading what you went through broke my heart. As a mother I offer you a mother’s apology and I am truly sorry for what you had to endure when you couldn’t because you were young, needed guidance and love specifically from your mother. Having children is a beautiful thing. If you came to that conclusion as your life’s calling, that should be respected by society. Being a parent is a calling not all are called to. If you decided this because of fear that you don’t have what it takes, I encourage you to lean on Jesus and ask Him to show you what your life path is, it may still be Him saying no children but rather a service life to Him. We have Too many woman choosing to be childless because they don’t want to put in the work they know it takes because they want to self serve instead . ( Not saying this is you, I think you raised a child when you were one yourself a child and that trauma carries some serious scars and it should not have happened) May the Lord or God bless you and keep you
10:40 I agree here especially. This can do must do approach is not a feminine approach to learning femininity and makes the journey EXHAUSTING and so stressful. I can finally put in words why most advice from men on how to be feminine is frustrating. They're not calling us incompetent but feminity has more elements of unlearning than learning sometimes. It's about not doing too much or getting caught up with what needs to be done. It really is a man's world so most ways are taught from a man's perspective to lead, to go and to find which hurts our femininity as the search for it becomes a battle for power and control.
I struggle so much with surrendering but am working on it. Thank you for your content and for teaching me and other women. Wish I had women around me teaching this ❤
Surrenderance is a beautiful thing. Surrendering to the lord and surrendering to your husband fully. Being willing to give up total control. I love your channel, how modest you are, how feminine and soft spoken you are. Surrendering and being fully soft in safety is the most amazing thing. I love how you explain this.
This video is so timely for my life right now, it almost feels like Divine Providence. I am marrying the love of my life in a little over a week...and just found out I am a month pregnant. We have a special-needs puppy, are drowning in mortgage bills, and do not have much in the way of enthusiastic and available family support. Everything feels so overwhelming, even though now is supposed to be a happy time in our lives, and I've found myself reacting from a place of fear and neuroticism. This video helped. Thank you. ❤
What a beautiful talk. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤️ I can attest to the necessary openness when giving birth and raising a child - it is God's natural way of humbling us as mothers/women so we can nurture our children in humility and gentleness.
I kept going back to the like button like 3 times during your video forgetting I had already liked it😅i love your channel and i am so glad that i finally found an Orthodox sister sharing most interesting topics 🥰 may God bless you ✨
The first time I felt feminine, I must have been about ten years old. I tied a long scarf in my hair and felt it for the first time. It's a feeling I cling on to today to rediscover that state of being. Tank's 🌿
Amazing video as usual! You should make a video on emulating female saints and especially the Mother of God!! It would be really interesting to hear you tie femininity with faith in that way!
Thank you for sharing such wisdom. You always touch on key mature topics. You always have a soft, kind and sincere delivery- I appreciate you a lot. May God bless you more! ❤
Uff I constant checking up on you finally ends...you would never know how many times I repeatedly watch your videos throughout fhe week until you post the new one. If possible please post videos frequently 🙏 I admire your videos so much because no other content before yours made me understand womanhood so clearly. ❤️
Your video about communicating in a femine way, while also expressing your concerse and boundaries really helped me. I am still working on it but thank you for your work you do.
GIRL- you are SO wise and intelligent and I am just in awe of your vocabulary and clarifying explanations of our divine feminine energy that comes as a beautiful gift from God. I love surrendering to His Love now that I truly allowed myself to give up control and let Jesus heal my broken soul (heart & mind), body, and spirit. LOVE your channel! Keep shining bright!
I would very much like and appreciate if you did movie/book recommendations with traditional gender roles and mature healthy femininity and mature healthy masculinity. Such recommendations would be quite helpful. Of course if you can't or decide not to, I totally understand! 💓🌸
Just wanted to say I love your channel! I just found you and I’ve struggled for a while. It’s hard to find feminine friends these days in my city and previous toxic relations have left me very closed off and hardened, scared to share opinions, scared to be feminine due to the culture around me, but hearing your views uplifts me and gets me looking forward to regaining my feminine self :) thank you so much!! ❤
The value this conversation this video has it truly leads to awareness to vulnerability that femininity we mostly come across and afraid to explore our sense on innate nature and every parts from intro to passive and immature is amazing to watch.❤❤❤ Have you come across expecting perfection in your interest and vibe of life to wanting things your own way? Or does it have time to occur?
I love the way you speak! Your eloquence just adds to your elegance and it’s refreshing! I love that you are a Christian teaching this. I read and watch a lot. Being feminine is natural to me but like you explained I started to become more masculine after abuse. Now I am trying so hard to not be contentious
Just about everything you said resonated deeply with me. Perfect timing to come across your channel. Thank you so much for your invaluable contribution to this evolving space. 💞
This was a very convicting video for me. The music definitely added to the emotions lol. This was a hard pill to swallow. Thank you for your tips and the information provided.
Hi Jasmine, thank you for these videos, they've been such a blessing to me as a young adult lady learning to embrace her femininity. Please can you do a video on vulnerability? Many of us women struggle to be vulnerable and find out that it can be an issue in our relationships with men. I'd really appreciate this, thank you❤️.
Thank you for your encouragement. So many of the points you touched on really gave me some insight into some trouble I've been having. Also, I loved hearing Clair de Lune in the background 🎶
Thank You Jasmyne, for doing what you do to have women everywhere become very feminine and stay very feminine, emotionally, mentally, etc. I do highly appreciate the physical femininity as well, but the emotionally, mentally, etc. femininity still matters more.
Jasmyne, you are amazing 🤩, highly intelligent 🧐 to think outside society’s boxes. Thank you for being extremely brave enough to even make this video. May God bless you a million times.
Please do "what i eat in a week" or some nutrition videos!! 😢😢 I would love that from you since you're one of the few RUclipsrs i trust!! Much love to you & your family with the love of Christ sis 💖💖🩷
hello jasmine, I really love your videos. My name is Sonya, I am 20 years old and I dream of finally becoming vulnerable and feminine, because this is what I feel the need to become all my life. but the situation doesn't give me that. my boyfriend simply does not know how to work or save ( we have debts to pay, but he can't work on a schedule, just there is not enough concentration and willpower, That's why I can't count on him and I'm taking extra shifts.) , he has frequent outbursts of anger and shutdowns, he considers any of my requests as whims and I do almost everything: household chores, work, choosing where to take a walk and what to eat, searching for rented housing, making money plans. he constantly asks me for advice instead of making decisions on his own. I tried to delegate at least part of the work to him, but this will only cause him to burn out (the last time he did not work for 4 months because of that) I have no one else to rely on, my mother has her own life and a lot of debts, and my father left us when I was a little girl. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to leave him, but I'm so tired and I don't know what to do at all, don't want to be in the position of a victim, I'm trying to do everything I can.
My love, you are with a little boy (inside) not a man. And I know you think mothering him is helping him, but it’s actually making him weaker and resent you. And it’s not your job to be his mother. You deserve an equal partner. There is a book called “Boundaries” written by Townsend & Cloud (two Christian psychologists). That may help. I went through this and the only thing that helped was me developing more self-respect and love. I had to let go of “fixing” my partner and fix my own unhealthy codependency instead. Ultimately me stepping back allowed my partner to step up. But like a child he threw angry tantrums when “mommy” stopped caring for him in the same way, and I had to maturely, gently ignore his outbursts and attempts to blame or fight with me. I had to let go of the need to control and accept that if I got healthy then he would either leave or get healthy too. Or I would get healthy enough to know I needed to leave. In my case, he chose to work on himself and match my effort. But I had to get to where I was 100% okay with the relationship ending. I had to surrender to a loving God (not to a petulant man-child). Codependency is not real love-it is fear, trauma-based attachment, and emotional dependence masquerading as love. Wishing you success in your journey to knowing your worth.
Hey Jasmyne! I love what you do, the way you articulate your thoughts, and your overall great energy! I am an Ethiopian Orthodox girlie, and I've come across a lot of backlash from other denominations against Orthodoxy. I remember you saying that you'd make a video on why you converted specifically to Orthodoxy. I'd love to know more on your thoughts and opinions so I grow my faith even more
The Mature vs Immature Feminine segment-- it feels like there's a bell curve between the passive, immature/wounded feminine woman vs the aggressive "boss babe" vs the mature feminine woman. On both ends, there is surrenderance, but one half is out of passivity and lack of discernment whereas past the bell curve on the latter half, the surrenderance is not passive and is, in fact, a conscious decision. In the middle is lack of surrenderance altogether, it's the defiance that is so readily encouraged and therefore cultivated so often in modern western women, that we are all taught which is why the majority of women fall under that part of the curve.
While i don’t fully share your beliefs and to an extent don’t agree with most of the things that you’re saying (mostly because i don’t relate to them as a young woman), i do appreciate your openness towards more delicate subjects and i also love how well-spoken and pleasant to listen to you are🫶🏻
Hi i just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do. What u put out here for us to learn is beyond incredible. You are really helping us a lot. As a young lady myself you’ve really made a huge impact in my life. So much so that I crave for your content everyday. Thank you so much Jasmyne😊🙏🙏♥️
I like that you highlighted the importance of living a surrendered life when you have Jesus as your protector, it is not easy for a woman especially single woman to open themselves to be vulnerable when they don’t feel like they are safe or have some sort of protection to fall under, this video is actually teaching me to be closer to God if I want to be open and vulnerable and be feminine. thank you keep sharing and growing!!!
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The comparison with our femininity and our sexual organ was mind blowing ❤
Pretty cool, huh? 🤩
@@JasmyneTheodoralove the part when you were saying men don't receive sexually... "well they shouldn't" 😂😂😂😂 that was too funny 😭
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reminds me of Matthew 11:29-30: “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Great example of surrender
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@@terenarosa4790 I’m new to this walk but being surrendered as a woman has meant embodying “turn the other cheek”, even though I have every right/reason to pop off, because the price has been paid. Because the battle isn’t mine. Because we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers and rulers of the darkness of this world, and fighting means praying, it means having faith, it means cooperation and collaboration to solve problems, dying to myself daily and with it my desire to be correct, in control, and the victor.
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Jasmyne, as a 16 year old in this really confusing generation and time, thank you so much for your videos. You have shown me how to be a sincere Christian (because I was lukewarm before) and how beautiful it is to be a woman. You are like a mother to me (I come from a really toxic household). I love listening to you and this video made my day and I can't wait to learn more 🥰. Have a blessed Sunday with your little family 💕
( i also hope to convert to orthodoxy soon!!!! The book you recommended "The Orthodox Way" by Kallistos Ware has recently been finished and your videos and Instagram stories convince me more every day!!💘💘)
Good luck with your conversion. God bless you ☦️
Hey girly, I want to let you know as a sister in faith, you are never alone. You have a friend in me and christ✝️💗
Hold on to the journey you will get there. A good book to move on to is The Religion of the Apostles by Fr Simon De Young, it really helps with understanding how the Orthodox faith is. I would also suggest that exploring what is available on Ancient Faith Radio may be helpful and a good way to avoid the less helpful parts of the Orthodox internet.
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Ive noticed an increase in women beginning to embrace the idea of periods in a positive light.
This makes me so happy. As a girl ive always felt grateful for recieving my period because it reminded me of the blessing that i am healthy and a woman. But i never shared this with anyone because i didn't want to be looked at as weird.
So yeah. I guess what im saying is thank you for teaching us to embrace this.
For me my gracefulness came from the fact that, I started very late compared to my younger sisters.
Mine made me want to die for 35 years and literally almost killed me once. The fibroids/Cysts also kept me from having children, so none of it was even worth it.
I loved what you shared however I must bring up a point.
She's teaching you to surrender not embrace. Embracing is masculine. For example think of how your man or father embraces you in a hug as you surrender to the feeling/feelings of his actions.
@@corym.johnson7241 I apologize..but... i embrace people all the time. My mother embraces me. The pastor's wife embraces me. I thought embrace was synonymous with acceptance.
@@mariagalleriaxi8632 Yeah, embracing is fine. These are all great points, but we have to be careful that we don't get legalistic about this. We need to let people be the individuals God created them to be.
Your hair is gorgeous
Ohhhh thank you! 💛💛
I would LOVE more content distinguishing between mature and immature feminine. I struggle with exactly what you're describing as immature, and while I'm working on that, I often can't tell if my response to a particular situation is me being surrendered or immature. I would say this is an example of "toxic femininity" -- a sinful distortion of my natural instinct to nurture and submit, much in the same way that men being violent or needlessly aggressive is a sinful distortion of their instinct to protect and lead.
wow beautifully said
You are hitting on something extremely important and not talked about enough. Women are controlled by their fears. We fear opening up, as we really should. Because you shouldn't be open to everyone who's not worthy. We fear being alone, but also fear relationships. We don't want to be hurt but also don't want to be alone. But if you find a descent man, taking that leap of faith brings a lot of peace. That's where I'm at. My husband is a good man, a good husband, and a good father. Young women just have to find the right person.
You are soo right! I too have been (and still) am so much controlled by fear. But let us also point out that most of it is inducted by our environment. My parents (and society) would say to me constantly that I should not even think of not marrying! That being alone is the end of the world! But also not having a boyfriend or mingling with boys because having a relationship was a shame. it was like right after the last day of school, I miraculously found a husband and immediately get married! So This trapped me into not taking any sort of action and stopping myself from having any normal experience..which lead to 34 lonely years with the fear of ending up alone growing day by day. And at the same time, fear of settling with just anyone just so that I am not unmarried creeping in even more..
@@mirelasemanjaku I know it's been a couple weeks, so forgive me for a late reply, but I've been thinking about it and just wanted to add if someone waits for the perfect person, it's not going to happen because no person is perfect. I've been married since 2002, and I couldn't say he's perfect the way God is perfect. He's just a good and decent man. We all have shortcomings and no one is perfect. He's just perfect for me. I trust him, he's a good provider and protector.... He's a good father and husband... But no one is perfect. It's a blessing to join with each other to guide each other in the right way. There was a time I was drinking too much, and my husband had to set me straight without abuse or intimidation. He simply said he didn't like what I was doing and I cut back. That's how it is supposed to work. I was in the wrong. Listen to your partners because they are guiding you to heaven.
I love you soooo much, your aura, presence, and just physical being is so ethereal, beautiful, and loving ❤
Wow, thank you! How kind of you to say 🥹🥹
@@JasmyneTheodoraof course !! You have helped me so much thank you 🙏🏽
The section about femininity not being weak is 💯 It is *so* much easier to respond to hatred with hatred, to hold grudges against people, and to harden yourself than it is to surrender your pride, remain kind towards those who are unkind to you, and genuinely wish well unto those who wish evil on you. The former legitimately feels good and cathartic in the short term but ultimately only brings more destruction. The latter takes work and might even bring pain in the short term but ultimately benefits everyone.
Give this woman her flowers for these truths which are resisted and hated in the world today
Femininity is so peaceful. I was once the "boss babe". But thank God.. now I understand how soft life is so peaceful. Ladies celebrate femininity 💗
Thank you for being comfortable in sharing your faith when discussing femininity and surrendering gracefully.
Amen!
this was so on time for me. When you started to discuss the beauty of surrenderance and the beauty of the responsibility for it, intentionality, that has really made an impact on me personally. being "independent" doesn't seem to leave room for beauty because that would mean taking the time to cultivate, nurture, listen, learn, breathe and repeat to descend and transform- the art of surrenderance like you said its this beautiful and strong process...I feel sometimes out of place in world that is not slowing down at all...good news...I have cultivated my self-care and carved out beauty in my "me" time routines all while working and taking of my family and I learned to choose my battles on the job..femininity is not for everyone however I continue to manage...thats why we need it so we won't go crazy in a world trying to redefine men and women..God is ultimately in control anyway...and this subject I believe is where God is leading me next to cultivate surrenderance, and go within for more femininity
I love how you talk about us women, it makes me feel beautiful and great about myself and it inspires me. I'm starting to be proud of being one (i used to dislike it). Thank you sm. 💗
I'm so glad you included a moment where you yourself struggled with surrenderence. It made the lesson more personal, reliable and achievable.
A round of applause please. This is so precious! I´ve had a lot of conflict since last year and I always get one word out of it. "Submit and let go". God told me to stop hurrying but it´s so hard, when I´m used to run at the bus, to be on time at the second meeting of the day. I have to stop. God told me last year, when I asked him what should I do this year, he said "Just be. Let me mold you into the woman you should be" . Haven´t figured out what "being" means. I mean, I have goals, I want money to submit peacefully... may God help the women of this generation, amen.
God told me the same thing last year. I’m still figuring out what it means, but I’m getting there. It’s a journey that starts with slowing down 🤍 blessings to you!
I live in India (studying here as an African) and i always stay up till 00:00 to watch your videos when they first come out🙂
Also, has youre voice always been this soft or has it softened since you started working on your feminine energy?
This was very interesting the feminine surrendered woman is often perceived as being weak. But it takes real strength to fight against your instincts. To respond and not to react as you said in one of your videos 🤗💛
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I really love your music background ❤ could you consider it to maybe make a playlist for us?
Feminine music, soft songs, I love music and I believe it can make you connect with anger, happiness, sadness… so maybe a feminine playlist to connect a little more with our feminine energy might be helpful!
Love your videos ❤
Oh yes🎉 i second this request!
Agree!
About not wanting children I think it's deeper than that. I actually grew up having to care for myself and my father, who was almost unable to take care of himself and the house (due to dr*g use). Later in my teenage years I had to take care of my new born sister. I was either living to serve others or being blamed for being selfish for not doing what my parents actually had to do. Now my sister is eleven and her behaviour is horrible, I definitely would hate my life if I had such a child. Not mentionning how expensive it was to take care of her as a baby, the countless nights the whole family was not able to sleep because she was crying...etc All of this complitely took away my desire to have children. I know I can't do it, I don't have the patience, and would not accept if my child doesn't turn the way I want. I am not going to be a good mother, not because others told me so, but because I know my limits. I just want to travel a bit, learn crafts from othe cultures and later, find a little house in the deep coutryside, away from people, to finally have a simple and quiet life.
Having children is not easy at all, and I have seen way more people who should NOT be parents having kids than the opposit. Countless parents messing up their child from a very young age, making them weak, breaking them with a lot of bullshlt...etc
Right, I think people think we all had the same lives. Im tired, I have taken care of others' children for almost 35 years and I am only 43.
I get it, I mean if I had that experience I probably wouldn't want children either. You were forced to take a huge amount of responsibility at a young age, when you should have been the child being parented, not the one doing the parenting. Not only did you have this experience of parenting too early, but you also had no support, were criticized for your parenting, and had little control of the environment you and your sister grew up in.
But, I will say this...there were a lot of aspects in that experience that aren't normal to parenting. I've enjoyed having friends with young children because it shows me a realistic depiction of parenting. Yes, the responsibility is a lot, but if you chose the right man, you have someone to support you. My friends have a good community that supports them and their children. I and others in our church go babysit for free when they need a break, or go help for a couple of hours while the dad is away at work. And they've raised kids that can accept being told no and are very well behaved, even being under 4. Because when you are mature and you have support, you know you have control of the way you raise your kids. Not everything will be in your control, but some things always are. Plus, getting to walk with your kids that you gave birth to and see them grow and change and love you and to love them is a unique experience.
All that to say, I would probably feel similar if I went through what you did, and if it's better for you to not parent, then great! But I just wanted to say that because sometimes our negative experiences can give us false impressions of the way life can be, which is often more beautiful than we think.
I hear your struggle, I may not have walked the same path but too came to the same conclusion that it was not for me to have children. In your journing, you may find it helpful to visit women's monasteries as these can be places of healing for women who have suffered. You may even find a home in a monastic community with sisters who you struggle alongside and a spiritual mother (and spiritual father) who both cares and can help you become who you were created to be.
I first want to say as a mother of 4, I am sincerely sorry that your parents failed you. Reading what you went through broke my heart. As a mother I offer you a mother’s apology and I am truly sorry for what you had to endure when you couldn’t because you were young, needed guidance and love specifically from your mother.
Having children is a beautiful thing. If you came to that conclusion as your life’s calling, that should be respected by society. Being a parent is a calling not all are called to.
If you decided this because of fear that you don’t have what it takes, I encourage you to lean on Jesus and ask Him to show you what your life path is, it may still be Him saying no children but rather a service life to Him.
We have Too many woman choosing to be childless because they don’t want to put in the work they know it takes because they want to self serve instead . ( Not saying this is you, I think you raised a child when you were one yourself a child and that trauma carries some serious scars and it should not have happened)
May the Lord or God bless you and keep you
The best part of my Sunday! Have a blessed day everyone!
Same!
10:40 I agree here especially. This can do must do approach is not a feminine approach to learning femininity and makes the journey EXHAUSTING and so stressful.
I can finally put in words why most advice from men on how to be feminine is frustrating. They're not calling us incompetent but feminity has more elements of unlearning than learning sometimes.
It's about not doing too much or getting caught up with what needs to be done.
It really is a man's world so most ways are taught from a man's perspective to lead, to go and to find which hurts our femininity as the search for it becomes a battle for power and control.
This feels like a masterclass on femininity ❤
Idk how I came across your channel, but I love your content. U have good messages. ♥️
Oh thank you! So happy to hear that!
I struggle so much with surrendering but am working on it. Thank you for your content and for teaching me and other women. Wish I had women around me teaching this ❤
You are so welcome! So glad it’s valuable for you!
Surrenderance is a beautiful thing. Surrendering to the lord and surrendering to your husband fully. Being willing to give up total control. I love your channel, how modest you are, how feminine and soft spoken you are. Surrendering and being fully soft in safety is the most amazing thing. I love how you explain this.
How are you so smart? Literally everything you say is mind blowing and illuminating
This video is so timely for my life right now, it almost feels like Divine Providence.
I am marrying the love of my life in a little over a week...and just found out I am a month pregnant. We have a special-needs puppy, are drowning in mortgage bills, and do not have much in the way of enthusiastic and available family support. Everything feels so overwhelming, even though now is supposed to be a happy time in our lives, and I've found myself reacting from a place of fear and neuroticism.
This video helped. Thank you. ❤
Jasmyne my favorite youtuber right now❤❤❤May God bless you more my sister in Christ
Im so happy to hear that 🥹🥹
What a beautiful talk. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤️ I can attest to the necessary openness when giving birth and raising a child - it is God's natural way of humbling us as mothers/women so we can nurture our children in humility and gentleness.
I kept going back to the like button like 3 times during your video forgetting I had already liked it😅i love your channel and i am so glad that i finally found an Orthodox sister sharing most interesting topics 🥰 may God bless you ✨
Jasmyne Theodora, I am profoundly inspired and uplifted by your videos. Thank you for spreading positivity and enlightenment with your content.
Your argument on why theosis and Godly femininity go hand in hand is beautiful.
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The first time I felt feminine, I must have been about ten years old.
I tied a long scarf in my hair and felt it for the first time. It's a feeling I cling on to today to rediscover that state of being.
Tank's 🌿
Amazing video as usual! You should make a video on emulating female saints and especially the Mother of God!! It would be really interesting to hear you tie femininity with faith in that way!
girl you need to write a book!
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Thanks! I’ve recently found your channel and I’m so inspired by all of these videos.
I’m just in awe of your extensive vocabulary and how beautifully you construct your sentences. I’m a fan!
Thank you for sharing such wisdom. You always touch on key mature topics. You always have a soft, kind and sincere delivery- I appreciate you a lot. May God bless you more! ❤
Uff I constant checking up on you finally ends...you would never know how many times I repeatedly watch your videos throughout fhe week until you post the new one.
If possible please post videos frequently 🙏
I admire your videos so much because no other content before yours made me understand womanhood so clearly. ❤️
Your video about communicating in a femine way, while also expressing your concerse and boundaries really helped me. I am still working on it but thank you for your work you do.
It's interesting to see that composure is the greatest asset for both men and women.
Just want to thank you for giving the ladies of our generation a good message. God bless you!
GIRL- you are SO wise and intelligent and I am just in awe of your vocabulary and clarifying explanations of our divine feminine energy that comes as a beautiful gift from God. I love surrendering to His Love now that I truly allowed myself to give up control and let Jesus heal my broken soul (heart & mind), body, and spirit. LOVE your channel! Keep shining bright!
1:30 in and I know what that I definitely need this. This is well said.❤
Thank you for making us feel comfortable with our femininity
Wow this video is a gem. Every word holds value. Proverbs 31 woman came to my mind listening you. Thank you. Love your chanel. You are wondeful 😍💜
This was great new perspective love how u talked about our sexual organs, birth, and motherhood. Learned so much ❤
I would very much like and appreciate if you did movie/book recommendations with traditional gender roles and mature healthy femininity and mature healthy masculinity. Such recommendations would be quite helpful. Of course if you can't or decide not to, I totally understand! 💓🌸
Thanks to you I am able to love and embrace my feminine qualities. I thank God for you❤️
Just wanted to say I love your channel! I just found you and I’ve struggled for a while. It’s hard to find feminine friends these days in my city and previous toxic relations have left me very closed off and hardened, scared to share opinions, scared to be feminine due to the culture around me, but hearing your views uplifts me and gets me looking forward to regaining my feminine self :) thank you so much!! ❤
The value this conversation this video has it truly leads to awareness to vulnerability that femininity we mostly come across and afraid to explore our sense on innate nature and every parts from intro to passive and immature is amazing to watch.❤❤❤
Have you come across expecting perfection in your interest and vibe of life to wanting things your own way? Or does it have time to occur?
I love the way you speak! Your eloquence just adds to your elegance and it’s refreshing! I love that you are a Christian teaching this. I read and watch a lot. Being feminine is natural to me but like you explained I started to become more masculine after abuse. Now I am trying so hard to not be contentious
This video is so valuable, wow. I feel like women should listen to this while engaged. It can teach us how marriage is suppose to be,☺️
This is so powerful! Thank you for articulating this tender subject so well.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Yess loving theseee❤
Just about everything you said resonated deeply with me. Perfect timing to come across your channel. Thank you so much for your invaluable contribution to this evolving space. 💞
I love the music in the back 20:49 🥹
oooohh~~ girl you are preaching, I'm so glad that other women are conscious about all this. Thank you!
Of course!!
This was a very convicting video for me. The music definitely added to the emotions lol. This was a hard pill to swallow. Thank you for your tips and the information provided.
Hi Jasmine, thank you for these videos, they've been such a blessing to me as a young adult lady learning to embrace her femininity. Please can you do a video on vulnerability?
Many of us women struggle to be vulnerable and find out that it can be an issue in our relationships with men.
I'd really appreciate this, thank you❤️.
Thank you for your encouragement. So many of the points you touched on really gave me some insight into some trouble I've been having. Also, I loved hearing Clair de Lune in the background 🎶
Thank You Jasmyne, for doing what you do to have women everywhere become very feminine and stay very feminine, emotionally, mentally, etc.
I do highly appreciate the physical femininity as well, but the emotionally, mentally, etc. femininity still matters more.
you’re so well-spoken and sincere. thanks for all you share!!
Jasmyne, you are amazing 🤩, highly intelligent 🧐 to think outside society’s boxes. Thank you for being extremely brave enough to even make this video. May God bless you a million times.
I loved this episode so much that I wished it was a book and I could highlight some sentences ❤
Wow i am speechless
Thank God for you❤️
Wow! This is easily your best video I’ve seen thus far! Also, very thorough 👏🏻
this is off topic but the music she plays on her videos is just👌
Jasmyne another Golden video thank you beautiful lady
Loved it! Thank you so much for your time! ❤
I really appreciate this video!!! You explain things so very well!
I'm so glad!
Please do "what i eat in a week" or some nutrition videos!! 😢😢 I would love that from you since you're one of the few RUclipsrs i trust!! Much love to you & your family with the love of Christ sis 💖💖🩷
hello jasmine, I really love your videos. My name is Sonya, I am 20 years old and I dream of finally becoming vulnerable and feminine, because this is what I feel the need to become all my life. but the situation doesn't give me that. my boyfriend simply does not know how to work or save ( we have debts to pay, but he can't work on a schedule, just there is not enough concentration and willpower, That's why I can't count on him and I'm taking extra shifts.) , he has frequent outbursts of anger and shutdowns, he considers any of my requests as whims and I do almost everything: household chores, work, choosing where to take a walk and what to eat, searching for rented housing, making money plans. he constantly asks me for advice instead of making decisions on his own. I tried to delegate at least part of the work to him, but this will only cause him to burn out (the last time he did not work for 4 months because of that) I have no one else to rely on, my mother has her own life and a lot of debts, and my father left us when I was a little girl. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to leave him, but I'm so tired and I don't know what to do at all, don't want to be in the position of a victim, I'm trying to do everything I can.
My love, you are with a little boy (inside) not a man. And I know you think mothering him is helping him, but it’s actually making him weaker and resent you. And it’s not your job to be his mother. You deserve an equal partner. There is a book called “Boundaries” written by Townsend & Cloud (two Christian psychologists). That may help. I went through this and the only thing that helped was me developing more self-respect and love. I had to let go of “fixing” my partner and fix my own unhealthy codependency instead. Ultimately me stepping back allowed my partner to step up. But like a child he threw angry tantrums when “mommy” stopped caring for him in the same way, and I had to maturely, gently ignore his outbursts and attempts to blame or fight with me. I had to let go of the need to control and accept that if I got healthy then he would either leave or get healthy too. Or I would get healthy enough to know I needed to leave. In my case, he chose to work on himself and match my effort. But I had to get to where I was 100% okay with the relationship ending. I had to surrender to a loving God (not to a petulant man-child). Codependency is not real love-it is fear, trauma-based attachment, and emotional dependence masquerading as love. Wishing you success in your journey to knowing your worth.
@@divinemerger Thank you very much for such a detailed answer! I will definitely read this book. God bless you
I really love your videos!! It is very beneficial
Beautiful video God bless you sis❤
Thank you!!
This is truly beautiful. A wonderful video that is definitely going to make a great difference in my life! Thank you ❤💕💕
Excellent video 🥰 you inspire me so much!!! Thank you!
So impressed and inspired… thank you 🙏🏽
I love this woman❤️
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Hey Jasmyne! I love what you do, the way you articulate your thoughts, and your overall great energy! I am an Ethiopian Orthodox girlie, and I've come across a lot of backlash from other denominations against Orthodoxy. I remember you saying that you'd make a video on why you converted specifically to Orthodoxy. I'd love to know more on your thoughts and opinions so I grow my faith even more
you’re a wordsmith!! 🌸🌸🌸 love
Have you done a video on the soft life movement?
The Mature vs Immature Feminine segment-- it feels like there's a bell curve between the passive, immature/wounded feminine woman vs the aggressive "boss babe" vs the mature feminine woman. On both ends, there is surrenderance, but one half is out of passivity and lack of discernment whereas past the bell curve on the latter half, the surrenderance is not passive and is, in fact, a conscious decision. In the middle is lack of surrenderance altogether, it's the defiance that is so readily encouraged and therefore cultivated so often in modern western women, that we are all taught which is why the majority of women fall under that part of the curve.
Do you have any recommendations for books on feminine surrenderance? Or femininity in general?
I’m trying my damndest to be less uptight. Thank you!❤
God bless you for uploading this video. it was and is extremely helpful.
your videos help so much, thank you♥️
I'm so glad!
While i don’t fully share your beliefs and to an extent don’t agree with most of the things that you’re saying (mostly because i don’t relate to them as a young woman), i do appreciate your openness towards more delicate subjects and i also love how well-spoken and pleasant to listen to you are🫶🏻
Yeah but that's cause you're actually a dude, right ? 😏
@@a.s.m.3246nice try, but no, im a 20-yr old woman:) why are you supposing i’m a man?
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Uh, no offense but you pretty much look like a guy. 🙁
@@a.s.m.3246ok troll
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Takes one to know one, you can't fool anyone except maybe a blind person. 🤭
I’m so glad to hear this type of information! Femininity has been a lost art even in the Christian world
Hi i just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do. What u put out here for us to learn is beyond incredible. You are really helping us a lot. As a young lady myself you’ve really made a huge impact in my life. So much so that I crave for your content everyday. Thank you so much Jasmyne😊🙏🙏♥️
Yes please do a video on feminine sexuality
This is amazing.
Thank you so much
Thank you for the warning! Much appreciated
You bet!
I needed to hear these words.
So happy to hear that
you are so smart and i love he concepts you talk abour, amzing
These videos are needed.
I like that you highlighted the importance of living a surrendered life when you have Jesus as your protector, it is not easy for a woman especially single woman to open themselves to be vulnerable when they don’t feel like they are safe or have some sort of protection to fall under, this video is actually teaching me to be closer to God if I want to be open and vulnerable and be feminine.
thank you keep sharing and growing!!!
I really needed this video 💕you are like my big little sissy 💕God bless you.
Hey girl love your videos ☺️💝😍💜🎆🙌🏾
Thank you!!