The truth is, it’s so sad to always be shielding and protecting your feelings from the person you want to be with. Nowadays, everything is about selfishness, and everyone only looks out for themselves, but no one knows how to love genuinely. Having to wait for someone to want to reach out to us is completely humiliating, even for ourselves. Love should be GENUINE and LIGHT.
25:52 -26:13 don't be afraid to WALK away if he's not meeting your needs, or rspecting your boundaries. There are other people out there! if he continues to be distant, disrespects your time and efforts, doesn't make plans.
Self-validation Activities outside of your relationship Practice mindfulness & emotional intelligence- think of it like business Set boundaries for yourself Avoid ever pursuing someone Set your energy on yourself & fitness
Thats not a good advice for any relationship. I dont know what are those strange times. If you focus on yourself and being fit, you also got a job, and hobby… how oh how would you be able to share life and make compromises with another person who you want to be vulnerable with?
He was the one who pulled me when i wasnt interested last year and now he is the on who has pulled me away when I am anxiously attached to him. I am learning each single to detach myself from him and started to focus on myself. Learning it from you❤
Worst thing is we learn they were never for us, which is a good thing. I was watching these last night, anxious about being too overbearing cause he'd pulled away, I always make myself available too quickly and we've had some rocky moments in the past 6 months. So I decided to shut up for a bit and ground myself, remember I have my own life, and it only took one day of silence for him to text me two separate times trying to get a reply from me, and then a third time with "are you still alive", lol. THIS IS THE PATH. PROVE YOURSELF TO ME, I'M DONE FOLLOWING YOU AROUND. Come along or go away.
I can’t explain what Margarita has done to my life in the past year. There’s no one I would rather take advice from, I don’t feel understood by anyone else anyway.
Halfway through this video I realized I don’t have a well rounded life, even though I’m working/going to school/ gym I’m living on autopilot without any hobbies or definite goals…so what did I do? Signed up for ballet classes! I danced from ages 2-14 and stopped when I got to high school and just never picked it back up. So here I am at 30 rediscovering one of my favorite activities! Thank you Margarita I needed this ❤
i really struggle with anxious attachment and i always cry when i watch videos about those topics because everything just feels so serious and i can feel this devestating fear of loosing my relationship coming up. but her video just made me laugh and take it easier. so thanks for that :)
Keep working on yourself and healing all the ways you can. It takes incredible amount of self honesty to overcome but I believe in you - bc I also believe in me. We’re in this together. I know those feelings you talk about. It will get better, just don’t forget your Self. 🙏🏽💗
I think journaling counts as meditation. When your body can more quickly work through feelings without recording, sitting with your body in stillness takes you farther in time. 💞
Thank you for making this channel. Your tone, your voice, your way of putting things in a way that doesn’t make us feel bad for being like this. You help and heal us in ways I can’t even explain! So grateful I discovered you thanks to TikTok
That’s not only ur „fault“, Avoidants can be really difficult. My ex was a DA, Now I’m with a fearful-avoidant, However he tells me that he likes me AND actually likes my anxious traits too.
Hey Friend, if you haven’t already listened to The Empowered Wife Podcast, or read the book I would highly recommend it! It helped me a lot with the same situation and my hubby really isn’t avoidant anymore because of changes I was able to make about my own behavior. Hope this helps 💕
As dismissive avoidant my self i can assure you we love you , i can feel your pain. As avoidant I wish I can understand myself better, that's why I am here.
I think this advice also applies to people pleasers. They always complain that people don't reciprocate all that they give, but the reality is that people don't want to be manipulated by someone's neediness.
I laughed so hard at this… “if I needed to have a dentist appointment and he would call and say let’s hang out I would cancel it. What are you doing canceling it? Yuck! You’re disgusting!” This is what I do! It’s pathetic and I needed to hear this badly to snap out of it! I need to hear this over and over again. I love the 🐈⬛ analogy. I already feel different after listening to this. I feel better and I dont want to be around him. I never feel like that. I love your content. It is strait to the point. I have been the chasing lab dog for 28 years! It’s disgusting how i have neglected my own self and my own needs. Thank you 🐈⬛
@@ven7ce510 I admire her because she wasn't raised to be a girly girl, or a feminine woman, she faced a lot of struggles (like moving to another country where she didn't know the language, being raised without a father in the picture), and being Slavic like me. I can relate in many ways. It requires a lot of inner strength to "break the habit of being yourself" or being conditioned in a certain way and gain this sense of inner knowing of who you are. She was chosen Miss World for a reason.
@@missquicksilver it is the exact same reason for me. Slavic, pick me mother with no backbone and a narcissistic and sadistic stepfather, the biological one left me at a very young age. It is amazing to see what we too can achieve by standing up for us the way no one else ever did.
@@ven7ce510 Yh, I had a very bad relationship with my dad, so no sense of self-worth. And an absent mother who gave me no sense of safety. So I have to reparent myself now. But we can do it 💪🏻🫶🏻
Stumbled on this while learning about myself. I fucking love the way you explain things so directly in a way that’s humorous, motivating and effective. 🙏
This was SUCH A GREAT explanation of anxious attachments and where they stem from! It's not always because you were horribly betrayed, you just weren't fully cuddled to where you'd feel secure in those formative years. Now, as an adult... it's scary to try and bond/connect cause deep down we have that child trauma lurking... whew, this was such a 💎👏🏽
I can't express how timely this video is for me right now. I have been holding the desire to shift the dynamics of my relationship, from being the chaser (anxiously attached, masculine energy holder) to securely attached, chased feminine energetic holder)
My relationship has shifted quite significantly since I began my journey on self love. I am still anxiously attached, however I have altered the way I act completely within my relationship, and it has been amazing. I let my anxiety and attachment style run my actions for months, and it was destroying everything I had worked for. I realized that I was the issue, and for about a month I have been working on myself. I’m quite proud of how far I’ve gotten, but I don’t think this journey will ever stop, it may delve into different directions and I know I’ll learn more about myself. I think there’s an infinite amount of things to learn about yourself, and there’s always something to better yourself on. Thank you for posting videos like these, because this is what kickstarted my journey ❤
Although I know your content by heart, it is awesome to keep watching a different version of your message every week! I will say this again, thanks partially to you, a left a guy who, to put it bluntly, was not that into me after many years of being together. It was a long process to transform myself and I am still rebuilding and reinventing so much of myself. My friend group exploded in size, and it wasn't easy, I put a lot of time and effort into it, organised so many different activities and tried new things with different groups of friends. Now, I don't really have time for my new boyfriend and he kind of likes that, not in a "Oh, I can ignore you" way, but in a way that makes him think in advance on how to organise dates with me and spend meaningful time together. I love this so much and I hope this content reaches many many women, because so many of us do need it!
You are one of my absolute favorite RUclipsrs. You exude so much confidence and authenticity. Your methods are not manipulative but supportive to both parties in a relationship. You are one of the few people that make me feel confident in who i am. Thank you. There is no one like you out there i am so grateful to have found your videos. I usually get anxiety from other self RUclipsrs. Nothing personal to them but your delivery feels like girl talk with someone ive known for years. Again thank you. ❤
Y’all are All So Beautiful✨❤️🌻 Look At Us, on this Journey healing our hearts with Margarita I’m So Thankful for YOU, Margarita✨🙏🏼🌹 I love this message and reminder
It felt like you were speaking directly at me. My long distance bf and I are going through it and I’ve been unsure of how to proceed. This video was so helpful and encouraging that I have myself at the end of the day and whether or not he’s in the picture is negligible if i don’t prioritize myself. Let him chase you or don’t be afraid to walk away. Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you for taking the time to create such a long video on this topic, very generous! I went to boarding school at age 11 and I do feel this is why I am anxiously attached. I’m 53 and since raising an unwell child I am in the dating world again. I feel dating apps, dating on the whole both create anxiety for most people, or stress, fear etc.. We never know if the guy is genuine or not, quite terrifying at times and dangerous. So I feel my anxious attachment is magnified with trying to see(scan like Terminator!) if he’s ok. It’s a minefield. Your videos are so wonderful, thank you. I have sent them onto colleagues who are your age as I have learned a lot from you and I don’t want them to spend years unaware when you exist!
Like same here I've always been thinking about how I and when I got rooted into anxious attachment and as I was listening to her the light bulb came on it was n uha moment.... boarding school age 10 uh n God knows I hated it I really felt abounded by my parents though I will see them after every 2 weeks ba it killed me inside.thanks for sharing x
That was the best video out of ~100 while I was trying to figure out how to forget/make up with my avoidant date! Forget him and respect yorself!!! Thank you so much!
❤Margarita❤I get so excited when you post a new video! Love love love your energy❤One of the most profound things you've taught me is to "leave it" works in so many facets of my life❤
I've also noticed that sometimes when they do see your value and think you are amazing and can't believe you are with them, they seem to have it in their mind that one day you will leave them, so they avoid investing emotionally to avoid the possibility of getting left or hurt by you in the future 🤦♀️
I enjoy you, randomly when im watching these I belly laugh. My daughter looks like Wednesday and ill look over and shell be just death staring at me like that😂. IM TRULY loving my life and myself more everyday and this is helping if I watch one a day along with everything else ive been doing, thanks for the enlightening CONTENT.
Margarita is one of the only gals who can snap me back into reality. Thank you girly. It’s so much better to enjoy someone’s love without losing yourself.
I just realized that I have anxious attachment to the person I’m dating right now. I feel that God is really speaks to me with this video. So thank you so much Margarita. Definitely will work on myself from now on
This was such a good video! I've watched many videos on this topic and you put it in the easiest way possible girl this went right into my heart and head 😂
Ok... so my first time here. Omgawsh, she's so cute such a vibe! And, on point. I catch the Avoidant/ Anxious attachment style videos but this one, was so free and flowing... like one of my girlfriends were talking to me. Thankies so much 😊
I can relate to everything that you have said. Spirituality has helped me to overcome a lot of it. But still there a certain way I have to go. Thank you so much. I used to ignore your videos because I used to find you a bit rude and I used to think I am only gonna get a lot of scolding that I didn’t want at that time. But you are really loving and I wish you all the growth and goodness in life. Again, thank you!
Love all of this. ♥️♥️ I just found your videos/podcast. 🙏🏼 I have been single by choice for ages and just entered into a beautiful new relationship and am working on these principles of being securely attracted to Myself!! Love from 🇨🇦♥️
It’s so interesting how you can heal trauma but end up falling back into old attachment styles and the belief systems behind them. I have struggled with abandonment from a younger age and had the most healing friendship (soulmate best friend). We both were simultaneously focused on healing and growth, serving as supports and inspiration for each other during the ugly parts of healing. Unfortunately, she was brutally killed last year and it has thrown me into shock, fear, desperation, and reactive behaviors. I am healing this again but it’s so hard coming from a place where so much healing was done from self-investment, support, and growth and feeling like you have to relearn again from square 0. My best friend was my safe person the last decade of my life and losing that stability and security in my life caused so much guilt, loss of self worth, lack of accountability, etc. This has unfortunately had terrible effects on my longterm relationship bc I’ve become so dependent on him and lost a lot of confidence through grief. Thank you for this video, working on the continuous self healing journey ❤️
Listen to her. Don't yap, when she's saying something you don't like. Just shut up and listen. Do what she's saying. If you have to rewatch this 100 times to finally start changing, do it.
So weirdly enough I didn’t have parents who didn’t make time for me. I didn’t have many friends growing up but I felt like that didn’t phase me much because I also didn’t chase friends. I feel like I only became anxiously attached when I got in a relationship…maybe because I felt entitled to attention because this person chose me 😢 …and I didn’t ask for him to choose me. But he did. And now I feel like I’m unbearably anxiously attached and it’s one of the worst feelings ever because you feel like you’re inflicting yourself on this person whereas they bear some responsibility for making you this way too.
It’s in relationships that our attachment styles and patterns come to the front. It’s amazing of you that you actually see it and can reflect on it. ❤ keep on going - you can do it and we will be on this journey together
I really appreciate your effort and love your videos.. hope you make a video about the fear of the future and how to live 100% in the present moment despite the obstacles that are on the way❤
Hi Margarita! I am listening to your audiobook and I just wanted to come here to tell you THANK YOU SO MUCH❤❤❤ I love your book. It seems it is going to be kind of my bible from now on and I feel amazing learning all this. So freeing and helps me become confident. You are just heaven sent. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world
This is exactly how my relationship with my first love ended recently. I’ve never been through a heartbreak like this before. I lived in a strict household so it was my first serious relationship at 25…
Straight to the point and useful as alway! Thanks for the weekly reminder: put yourself first. I like to listen to you bia ivoox but I couldn't wait for this one. I would also love it if you could share some journal prompts or explain how you usually journal. ❤
This really helped me. Thanks, genuinely. Imma need to listen to this one about a million times 😂But we getting there and got this. WE are the prize ✊🏽💗💗xxx
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life.
If you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference. How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
Wow, I’m an avoidance type but getting out of an abusive narcissistic relationship of years taken from me , this helped me allot thank you , I was left a shell and a slave version of myself drained and no healthy men were attracted to dating me only narcissistic men. dating after a narcissistic relationship. That was my pain I was left with after an abusive relationship not being ready for the healthy one Thank you ❤
When you focus on putting yourself first and always strive to be the best version you can be, people will gravitate towards you.
But that doesn’t guarantee a compatible partner
The truth is, it’s so sad to always be shielding and protecting your feelings from the person you want to be with. Nowadays, everything is about selfishness, and everyone only looks out for themselves, but no one knows how to love genuinely. Having to wait for someone to want to reach out to us is completely humiliating, even for ourselves. Love should be GENUINE and LIGHT.
"I served my master correctly this week. He shall give me love." I'm dying 😂😂
Right 😂😂😂
Same
That part hit me hard can relate in the past
@@adamah6915 same!
Came here to say this ahaha it broke me in half XD XD I've basically done that shit too bahahaaaa
realizing i cannot control someone’s actions is SO HARD
Facts! Hard but worth it once you finally understand
Same girl same
25:52 -26:13 don't be afraid to WALK away if he's not meeting your needs, or rspecting your boundaries. There are other people out there! if he continues to be distant, disrespects your time and efforts, doesn't make plans.
Ungh yes 😊 I recently did this, yet he’s now chasing and making all these offers.
I know i need to do this
@@dejachaniahthat’s what I want. It’s so hard to stay away though especially when things seem to be going well
I agree
Self-validation
Activities outside of your relationship
Practice mindfulness & emotional intelligence- think of it like business
Set boundaries for yourself
Avoid ever pursuing someone
Set your energy on yourself & fitness
Thats not a good advice for any relationship. I dont know what are those strange times. If you focus on yourself and being fit, you also got a job, and hobby… how oh how would you be able to share life and make compromises with another person who you want to be vulnerable with?
I agreeeee. All the advice says focus on yourself.... makes no sense. 😢❤@@monikaflows
I THINK IM GONNA NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS EVERY MORNING!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA
Me too ❤❤
No seriously. 💯💖
I was just thinking that too:)
me too girl i might start listening when i workout i need her in my ear “stop chasing his ahh” “don’t text him” in between each rep 😂
HAHAHAHAHAHA
I'm 47, and I wish I had all this information when i was 18! ❤
I’m 55…sent to my daughter 24…wish I would’ve known this at 18 as well.
Me too!
I'm 28 and feel like I've wasted so many years. If I would have known this at 18 I'd be so much further
Amen! Very similar age & wistful yearning here!
@@avleck same here!
I love you so much! You’ve helped me get my power back. After 15 years and 2 kids I almost forgot that I AM THE PRIZE!!! 🏆
What changes did you make in your daily life and how you deal with your partner for this? Just curious
He was the one who pulled me when i wasnt interested last year and now he is the on who has pulled me away when I am anxiously attached to him. I am learning each single to detach myself from him and started to focus on myself. Learning it from you❤
Watch the stilvi show and implement some of her advice it might help ur situation ?
How long since you detached yourself from him and how’s it going?
Same exact thing happened to me!
@@JennyDolma Its been a week since and I am healing.
Worst thing is we learn they were never for us, which is a good thing. I was watching these last night, anxious about being too overbearing cause he'd pulled away, I always make myself available too quickly and we've had some rocky moments in the past 6 months.
So I decided to shut up for a bit and ground myself, remember I have my own life, and it only took one day of silence for him to text me two separate times trying to get a reply from me, and then a third time with "are you still alive", lol. THIS IS THE PATH. PROVE YOURSELF TO ME, I'M DONE FOLLOWING YOU AROUND. Come along or go away.
I can’t explain what Margarita has done to my life in the past year. There’s no one I would rather take advice from, I don’t feel understood by anyone else anyway.
Same 🙌🙌 lessons I didn’t even realize I needed.
Same! She has gotten me all the way together!
Shifted my life majorly too!! Thank you Margarita! Doing Gods work
Same here! She became a Big Sister figure for me :)
I served my master correctly this week he should give me love!!! lol 😂 nailed it
Halfway through this video I realized I don’t have a well rounded life, even though I’m working/going to school/ gym I’m living on autopilot without any hobbies or definite goals…so what did I do? Signed up for ballet classes! I danced from ages 2-14 and stopped when I got to high school and just never picked it back up. So here I am at 30 rediscovering one of my favorite activities! Thank you Margarita I needed this ❤
i did the same thing i stopped dancing in high school so now i want to take more classes once i get my license.
i really struggle with anxious attachment and i always cry when i watch videos about those topics because everything just feels so serious and i can feel this devestating fear of loosing my relationship coming up. but her video just made me laugh and take it easier. so thanks for that :)
Keep working on yourself and healing all the ways you can. It takes incredible amount of self honesty to overcome but I believe in you - bc I also believe in me. We’re in this together. I know those feelings you talk about. It will get better, just don’t forget your Self. 🙏🏽💗
I think journaling counts as meditation. When your body can more quickly work through feelings without recording, sitting with your body in stillness takes you farther in time. 💞
“care manual” is such a fresh way of describing your boundaries & expectations. love that term sm❤️
Thank you for making this channel. Your tone, your voice, your way of putting things in a way that doesn’t make us feel bad for being like this. You help and heal us in ways I can’t even explain! So grateful I discovered you thanks to TikTok
I love your videos! I’m 29 and really wish I understood this before I had 2 kids with a dismissive avoidant
Same! 😢
That’s not only ur „fault“,
Avoidants can be really difficult.
My ex was a DA,
Now I’m with a fearful-avoidant,
However he tells me that he likes me AND actually likes my anxious traits too.
Also u can still change!
For u, not him!
❤
Hey Friend, if you haven’t already listened to The Empowered Wife Podcast, or read the book I would highly recommend it! It helped me a lot with the same situation and my hubby really isn’t avoidant anymore because of changes I was able to make about my own behavior. Hope this helps 💕
As dismissive avoidant my self i can assure you we love you , i can feel your pain. As avoidant I wish I can understand myself better, that's why I am here.
I am a guy, and I really enjoy your RUclips videos. They are very clear and straight to the point
I think this advice also applies to people pleasers. They always complain that people don't reciprocate all that they give, but the reality is that people don't want to be manipulated by someone's neediness.
not everyone gives to receive. that is not the point of being generous.
@@TaylorKaycee Then that's not someone being a people pleaser. Being generous is different. It brings the giver joy on its own.
@@kimberlyf4888can I be a giving people pleaser but still expect the minimum? 🫠
When you shifted too hard and now you’re avoidant instead 😂😂😂
That's me now😂
That's me sometimes
Same, dayum! 😂
A pendulum has to swing in the other direction before returning to centre… 😘
@@theoutlawblonde this one 😂😂😂
You’re just this badass woman with a sweet aura that I wanna give a big hug to ❤💋 love listening to u speak
I laughed so hard at this…
“if I needed to have a dentist appointment and he would call and say let’s hang out I would cancel it. What are you doing canceling it? Yuck! You’re disgusting!”
This is what I do! It’s pathetic and I needed to hear this badly to snap out of it! I need to hear this over and over again. I love the 🐈⬛ analogy. I already feel different after listening to this. I feel better and I dont want to be around him. I never feel like that.
I love your content. It is strait to the point. I have been the chasing lab dog for 28 years! It’s disgusting how i have neglected my own self and my own needs.
Thank you 🐈⬛
I love looking at you Margarita. I love the way you talk and gesticulate.
Same!!
She's so feminine and beautiful, divine even.
@@ven7ce510 I admire her because she wasn't raised to be a girly girl, or a feminine woman, she faced a lot of struggles (like moving to another country where she didn't know the language, being raised without a father in the picture), and being Slavic like me. I can relate in many ways. It requires a lot of inner strength to "break the habit of being yourself" or being conditioned in a certain way and gain this sense of inner knowing of who you are. She was chosen Miss World for a reason.
@@missquicksilver it is the exact same reason for me. Slavic, pick me mother with no backbone and a narcissistic and sadistic stepfather, the biological one left me at a very young age.
It is amazing to see what we too can achieve by standing up for us the way no one else ever did.
@@ven7ce510 Yh, I had a very bad relationship with my dad, so no sense of self-worth. And an absent mother who gave me no sense of safety. So I have to reparent myself now. But we can do it 💪🏻🫶🏻
Stumbled on this while learning about myself. I fucking love the way you explain things so directly in a way that’s humorous, motivating and effective. 🙏
This was SUCH A GREAT explanation of anxious attachments and where they stem from! It's not always because you were horribly betrayed, you just weren't fully cuddled to where you'd feel secure in those formative years. Now, as an adult... it's scary to try and bond/connect cause deep down we have that child trauma lurking... whew, this was such a 💎👏🏽
I’m proud to say I have graduated from this attachment ! As I learned from your videos early on.❤
“What are you doing canceling it? Yuck, you’re disgusting” harsh but true. Spot on and thank you for the wake up call.
😂 I love her
I can't express how timely this video is for me right now.
I have been holding the desire to shift the dynamics of my relationship, from being the chaser (anxiously attached, masculine energy holder) to securely attached, chased feminine energetic holder)
Ohh this makes so much sense! I have done all those things and wondered why I can’t just take care of myself!
This video p*ssed me off so much I knew I needed to listen to it again… which a did… several times. & Now I’m listening to the book 😂👏
You survived another day, but you ruined your relationship ...made me laugh, but it's on point.
My relationship has shifted quite significantly since I began my journey on self love. I am still anxiously attached, however I have altered the way I act completely within my relationship, and it has been amazing. I let my anxiety and attachment style run my actions for months, and it was destroying everything I had worked for. I realized that I was the issue, and for about a month I have been working on myself. I’m quite proud of how far I’ve gotten, but I don’t think this journey will ever stop, it may delve into different directions and I know I’ll learn more about myself. I think there’s an infinite amount of things to learn about yourself, and there’s always something to better yourself on. Thank you for posting videos like these, because this is what kickstarted my journey ❤
What are u doing for ur self love?
@@SabrinaAliyeva-y5i I focus on myself more and pick up more hobbies! Also place boundaries
Being anxiously attached is such a pain. Its exhausting.
Although I know your content by heart, it is awesome to keep watching a different version of your message every week! I will say this again, thanks partially to you, a left a guy who, to put it bluntly, was not that into me after many years of being together. It was a long process to transform myself and I am still rebuilding and reinventing so much of myself. My friend group exploded in size, and it wasn't easy, I put a lot of time and effort into it, organised so many different activities and tried new things with different groups of friends. Now, I don't really have time for my new boyfriend and he kind of likes that, not in a "Oh, I can ignore you" way, but in a way that makes him think in advance on how to organise dates with me and spend meaningful time together.
I love this so much and I hope this content reaches many many women, because so many of us do need it!
Omg! She’s so funny! 😆 (in a good way) “I serve my master correctly this week, he shall give me love!” 😂
You are one of my absolute favorite RUclipsrs. You exude so much confidence and authenticity. Your methods are not manipulative but supportive to both parties in a relationship. You are one of the few people that make me feel confident in who i am. Thank you. There is no one like you out there i am so grateful to have found your videos. I usually get anxiety from other self RUclipsrs. Nothing personal to them but your delivery feels like girl talk with someone ive known for years. Again thank you. ❤
u are exactly what i think having a an older sister is like thanx ily
Haha I should serve my master he’ll give me love. That was hilarious 😅
Wow. This is amazing on point and powerful. Thank you
Y’all are All So Beautiful✨❤️🌻
Look At Us, on this Journey healing our hearts with Margarita
I’m So Thankful for YOU, Margarita✨🙏🏼🌹
I love this message and reminder
I thank the universe for showing me this video at the time I needed it most! Thank you!
It felt like you were speaking directly at me. My long distance bf and I are going through it and I’ve been unsure of how to proceed. This video was so helpful and encouraging that I have myself at the end of the day and whether or not he’s in the picture is negligible if i don’t prioritize myself. Let him chase you or don’t be afraid to walk away. Thank you 🙏🏽
This channel has helped me so much first to understand my anxious attachment and second, to heal it.
Thank you for taking the time to create such a long video on this topic, very generous! I went to boarding school at age 11 and I do feel this is why I am anxiously attached. I’m 53 and since raising an unwell child I am in the dating world again. I feel dating apps, dating on the whole both create anxiety for most people, or stress, fear etc.. We never know if the guy is genuine or not, quite terrifying at times and dangerous. So I feel my anxious attachment is magnified with trying to see(scan like Terminator!) if he’s ok. It’s a minefield. Your videos are so wonderful, thank you. I have sent them onto colleagues who are your age as I have learned a lot from you and I don’t want them to spend years unaware when you exist!
Like same here I've always been thinking about how I and when I got rooted into anxious attachment and as I was listening to her the light bulb came on it was n uha moment.... boarding school age 10 uh n God knows I hated it I really felt abounded by my parents though I will see them after every 2 weeks ba it killed me inside.thanks for sharing x
I can absolutely teach you how to meditate. There’s a specific way to approach it that will change your perspective and ability to meditate. 🙏🏽🧘🏽♀️
“I don’t have time to chase homeboy” 🤣 I love it
That was the best video out of ~100 while I was trying to figure out how to forget/make up with my avoidant date! Forget him and respect yorself!!! Thank you so much!
This is the clearest way this has ever been explained Thankyou!
❤Margarita❤I get so excited when you post a new video! Love love love your energy❤One of the most profound things you've taught me is to "leave it" works in so many facets of my life❤
I've also noticed that sometimes when they do see your value and think you are amazing and can't believe you are with them, they seem to have it in their mind that one day you will leave them, so they avoid investing emotionally to avoid the possibility of getting left or hurt by you in the future 🤦♀️
Thank you also for the humour! Needed this today. 🌸
"oh they're walking away, oh it's ok they're back" HAHAAHHAH gold
I enjoy you, randomly when im watching these I belly laugh. My daughter looks like Wednesday and ill look over and shell be just death staring at me like that😂. IM TRULY loving my life and myself more everyday and this is helping if I watch one a day along with everything else ive been doing, thanks for the enlightening CONTENT.
your words hit me really hard in the beginning. thank u
Margarita is one of the only gals who can snap me back into reality. Thank you girly. It’s so much better to enjoy someone’s love without losing yourself.
I love your videos!! They help so much!! Your quick witt and knowledge is amazing! I love the frank openness!! Thank you!!! 💖🙏👏😊
So much great advice here. This girl has big sister energy! Thanks luv.
Honestly, i wish I WISH i had found this two months ago, I'd be so much happier with myself. Thank you for saving me! 😊
I just realized that I have anxious attachment to the person I’m dating right now. I feel that God is really speaks to me with this video. So thank you so much Margarita. Definitely will work on myself from now on
This was such a good video! I've watched many videos on this topic and you put it in the easiest way possible girl this went right into my heart and head 😂
Life changing! -ever since I discovered you❤❤
I'm grateful for your channel. ❤
Oh my gosh. This just popped up and I just started a new relationship. Thank you! Your videos are so helpful .
Ok... so my first time here. Omgawsh, she's so cute such a vibe! And, on point. I catch the Avoidant/ Anxious attachment style videos but this one, was so free and flowing... like one of my girlfriends were talking to me. Thankies so much 😊
Margarita is the internet's big sister. Thank youu for another wonderful video Margarita ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love you beautiful soul inside out 😊💖grateful for your presence
*I'm glad you made this video,* it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love..
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
I can relate to everything that you have said. Spirituality has helped me to overcome a lot of it. But still there a certain way I have to go.
Thank you so much. I used to ignore your videos because I used to find you a bit rude and I used to think I am only gonna get a lot of scolding that I didn’t want at that time. But you are really loving and I wish you all the growth and goodness in life.
Again, thank you!
Te amo Margarita, so much
The big sis advice I wish i had in my life sooner 😢😂
This was such a great video. I plan to watch it at least once a week just as a reminder and note to self of what to do
🙋♀️ anxious attachment girlie, here. also, in active recovery from it 😋 💪
your videos help me reset when i’m feeling extremely anxious omg thank u sm
Wow! You have nailed so many of my weaknesses 😅 I am so glad I found your videos. 🔥 Thank you ❤
Love all of this. ♥️♥️
I just found your videos/podcast. 🙏🏼
I have been single by choice for ages and just entered into a beautiful new relationship and am working on these principles of being securely attracted to Myself!!
Love from 🇨🇦♥️
When she said Yuck!!!! I felt that... your girl felt it... someone save me!!!!!
It’s so interesting how you can heal trauma but end up falling back into old attachment styles and the belief systems behind them. I have struggled with abandonment from a younger age and had the most healing friendship (soulmate best friend). We both were simultaneously focused on healing and growth, serving as supports and inspiration for each other during the ugly parts of healing. Unfortunately, she was brutally killed last year and it has thrown me into shock, fear, desperation, and reactive behaviors. I am healing this again but it’s so hard coming from a place where so much healing was done from self-investment, support, and growth and feeling like you have to relearn again from square 0. My best friend was my safe person the last decade of my life and losing that stability and security in my life caused so much guilt, loss of self worth, lack of accountability, etc. This has unfortunately had terrible effects on my longterm relationship bc I’ve become so dependent on him and lost a lot of confidence through grief. Thank you for this video, working on the continuous self healing journey ❤️
You’re such a blessing ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom because this is me 100%
I need this more than you know. Thank you Margarita.
The yes master commentary is KILLING me lmao
@FrancescaHewitt9:05
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Yo I just heard her say it before reading this 😂🤣😂
Listen to her. Don't yap, when she's saying something you don't like. Just shut up and listen. Do what she's saying. If you have to rewatch this 100 times to finally start changing, do it.
This
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I'm this
I literally love you woman! I’m here for it all 😍
So weirdly enough I didn’t have parents who didn’t make time for me. I didn’t have many friends growing up but I felt like that didn’t phase me much because I also didn’t chase friends. I feel like I only became anxiously attached when I got in a relationship…maybe because I felt entitled to attention because this person chose me 😢 …and I didn’t ask for him to choose me. But he did. And now I feel like I’m unbearably anxiously attached and it’s one of the worst feelings ever because you feel like you’re inflicting yourself on this person whereas they bear some responsibility for making you this way too.
Maybe wrong partner (it was for me),
If they’re not abusive maybe try and just talk to them that it bothers u?
It’s in relationships that our attachment styles and patterns come to the front. It’s amazing of you that you actually see it and can reflect on it. ❤ keep on going - you can do it and we will be on this journey together
I feel this way too. It was a relationship that made me anxiously attached.
You said this so so aptly. Thankyou for sharing 🍃🎀💅🏼💫♥️
It is the worst feeling ever.
So excited to get your book. Which is coming tomorrow and I'm loving the pink cover!
I really appreciate your effort and love your videos.. hope you make a video about the fear of the future and how to live 100% in the present moment despite the obstacles that are on the way❤
Divine timing. Thanks sister❤
0h yes!!!! Please keep these podcast coming!!! i love these live podcast. thank you so much for making them❤
Love this channel. Thank you for reminding me of my black cat essence.
Her videos is on time , esp when I need her . Love you MARGARITA
You just have to be the best mom ever ❤
Hi Margarita! I am listening to your audiobook and I just wanted to come here to tell you THANK YOU SO MUCH❤❤❤ I love your book. It seems it is going to be kind of my bible from now on and I feel amazing learning all this. So freeing and helps me become confident. You are just heaven sent. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world
Amazing...love love your vibe...and not in an anxious attatachment way😅😅 But I will keep watching and following😅😅😅
This is exactly how my relationship with my first love ended recently. I’ve never been through a heartbreak like this before. I lived in a strict household so it was my first serious relationship at 25…
I love this so much, thank you for sharing! I would love more videos on marriage.
Straight to the point and useful as alway! Thanks for the weekly reminder: put yourself first. I like to listen to you bia ivoox but I couldn't wait for this one. I would also love it if you could share some journal prompts or explain how you usually journal. ❤
This helped me a lot! Thank you so much!
This really helped me. Thanks, genuinely. Imma need to listen to this one about a million times 😂But we getting there and got this. WE are the prize ✊🏽💗💗xxx
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life.
If you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference. How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
Cut the crap already
Wow, I’m an avoidance type but getting out of an abusive narcissistic relationship of years taken from me , this helped me allot thank you ,
I was left a shell and a slave version of myself drained and no healthy men were attracted to dating me only narcissistic men. dating after a narcissistic relationship. That was my pain I was left with after an abusive relationship not being ready for the healthy one
Thank you ❤