I keep saying Mother’s & Father’s have to stop raising their sons the way they SHOULD BE raising their daughters. Everything is backwards, I’m not surprised men want to be the prize.
You're absolutely right, the gender roles are reversed now and men want to be treated/pampered by their partner as if they were a woman and many families have messed up dynamics. Let's break the cycle!
If more women were willing to walk away from toxic men...then maybe there’s a possibility that they’ll change. But for every man, there’s a desperate woman willing to put up with it.
Just about every man wants to have a relationship that he saw his parents had, but often they never stop to ask, was the woman even happy in the relationship?
Then cant figure out why women hand them divorce papers! Like they had nothing to do with it! They think its not there job to keep there women and families coheasive, happy, and functional!
@@internetroll3768 no, idiot... In a relationship both partners should make an effort. Its just here in america in the dating world, its a total crap show now! It isnt about having a functional relationship, its all about (whats in it for me) mentallity! From both men and women.....
@@internetroll3768 after the rose colored glasses fall off, instead of rekindling or working on the relationship there in, they just break ties and look for someone else! Laziness is a huge huge problem along with, (the attitude that theres plenty of fish in the sea) mindset.....
Thissss. I had a man said he wants a woman that can raise kids, do most of the household stuff and work full time because that's what his parents did and they are still married for 20+ years. I really wanted to ask if she's truly happy. She most likely stayed because they are a traditional African family and divorce is a no no
I’m now attracting healthy generous successful men, so my therapy has definitely worked! I use to attract this type over and over for years. After my divorce i began the work. This video describes my ex husband to the tea. I tried to fix him but i couldn’t. I’m praying for him as God positions me forward.
Don't get me wrong. I love my father but I can't fully respect him. He had a job, but it paid very little and he did not try to level up therefore my mother had to toil and mule to make ends meet. Now she looks very haggard and way older than she should. So my siblings and I suffered because my father got too comfortable. Growing up I was angry and resentful, and I didn't like how he disrespected my mother. I remember him getting angry when he learned about my mother's ex whom she met before him. He also would teach me that once a girl is not a virgin anymore, she is "damaged goods". I cannot find to respect a man like that.
@@xtelfolaj he was actually angry at the fact that my mother had a boyfriend before him. It's not like my mother cheated! When I grew into adulthood that's when I opened my eyes that everything my father did was wrong. I'll never marry a man like him
@@EvaElyse Sounds like my dad as well. Now he's jealous that I married a man that takes care of me and I work when I want. He always tries to insert himself into my life and I cut him off.
Please hang in there. I really know how you feel because the same thing happened to me when I was younger. Keep watching Chloe videos and do the work on your self. Put your self first. Keep your life dust free, protect your womb, your mind and your purse from low life men. Concentrate on YOURSELF ONLY. You got this. I believe you are going to be alright. Stay on Chloe channel and binge watch all of Chloe videos and then go over to Chrissie channel. Don't forget Cynthia G, she has lots of information that will help you as a young woman to avoid the pitfall mistakes that could ruin your life. I wish I had these ladies when I was young. Blessings to you young lady.
I remember telling him just because you saw your mother do it doesn’t mean I’m going to do it. For that reason I’m out. It’s too much work and draining mentally on women that love the men that won’t change. I changed me and you will encounter who you are. Have to put in work ladies and therapy does help, news flash God not going to come down here and do nothing you not trying do for yourself.
The dust bunny at the end says it all. I had to stop being the Man in my relationships. I had a wonderful but masculine Mother who subscribed to the Strong Black Woman narrative. She died at home as she wished but with no life long partner to grieve her, just her 3 Children. I’m trying to break that generational curse at 57. Never too old to learn and change I hope. I love your inspirational and educational content. I follow you on IG also.
@@MS-sr6mj In the words of MJB, “I’ve been too strong for too long.” Now I want a Man who can not only carry the load but wants to. With a good Woman like me by his side, we could surmount the insurmountable.
@@goat7844 I was perfecting my Profession, furthering my education, and being a caretaker. All the masculine things I was taught to do. Red flag 🚩? Maybe.
@@MS-sr6mj You mean the women who chose to have children with those type of losers. Deep down they knew damn well he wasn't really about crap but as always the woman thought having his baby would change him, or thinking they could change him. Men say you can't turn a hoe into a housewife...well ladies you can't turn a so-called ''dusty'' into a Cliff Huxtable.
@@MS-sr6mj I can put blame on both. The man as well. Usually they didn't have no one to teach them anything. Men like that are just manipulators & good at it. Notice they git the woman pregnant then cry boo-hoo about child support..simple solution..don't get the woman pregnant. Just because a man has sex with a woman doesn't mean he has to have kids with her. Same for the woman..just 'cause she has sex with said guy doesn't mean she has to have kids with him. I understand if the hubby dies, that's a different story. TBH that's not the case in most of these situations..the truth is these women got with some sorry azz ninja & the dude left her. So no i do not give the man a pass
The men in my family are horribly wounded. It’s really weird how they try to control me and ‘put me in my place’ which in their minds is broke and depressed. They had no problems with me in dark times but now that I proven to be the capable, smart, high earner that I am my the males in my family have lost their collective minds. I’ve cut them all off. I refuse to be depressed so they can feel good about their failures. I don’t put them down. I just bounced and don’t give access to me. Because of this experience with men once close to me, I question every man (and woman).
In our community we raise girls to be prepared for their family by cooking,babysitting,cleaning the restrooms and dishes very early. Men were groomed to do 1 thing which was take the trash out or cut the lawn here and there. Alot of mothers say they are hard on us just in case we are in a situation where we are the head of the house(which happens too often). Instead of fixing the dynamic they trained us how to survive it bc deep down they expect their sons to be absent or weak as well. Lots of men get married or get in situation ,then bounce bc there is now an obligation and responsibility, which was never established young causing cowardish and weak men.
I find your view very interesting. I got into a disagreement with another mother about whether boys should play with kitchen sets or dolls, and do house chores like ironing, dishes and laundry. She felt it wasn’t “masculine” for boys to do that; she has a son. I’m a mother of 4 boys and 1 girl. I teach everyone the same, just the pronouns change lol. I remember my son and daughter used to love playing with their kitchen sets and now they both can cook at 11 and 9! My boys have never had dolls as in “feminine” dolls but for ie. my 5 year old son cuddles his Buzz Lightner, I’m encouraging him. “Oh you’re such a good Dad” or “you’re gonna be a beautiful father one day”. I don’t see why My 9 year old son can’t wash laundry and fold them up! I tell my 14 year old son to value himself when grownup and make sure he knows how to take care of himself whether he’s got a woman or NOT and to make sure there’s always balance. He also babysits to make a few extra dollars, he loves children. I know plenty single fathers (my dad was one for a lil) who have had to learn as they go but I wish that mother’s noticed that if we equipped the males with the same knowledge and skill we do the females there would be more masculine and independent men. Mentally we have to build them up from young.
@@goddessalaysia5438 how she raises her child is her business with toys. But as for reality they need to cook and help clean out like we do . Its actually a shame they dont.
I have dated a few wounded masculine men in the past. I am so happy and content that I am now married to a man that respects, revere and truly love me; and (provide financially for me) and thus complements my feminine energy. I did the work on myself to attract this type of man.
We are breaking generational curses and Chloe is ushering us through!! I’ve always felt that it was wrong but because no one taught me any different I thought it was normal….We grow up with these men and most are either our fathers, uncles, brothers and so on, but these men lack leadership and power to build and protect! And here I was thinking I needed to help my man build in order to feel worthy to be good wife material 😿
Our family is full of wounded masculine and feminine. Fortunately there's a chance to course correct for the generations ahead. Thank you for these lessons and stressing the importance of planning and strategizing in order to heal and create the lives we want. As the old folks say, it's a tough row to hoe. 🙏🏿🌸🌺
*Not only do we not respect weak men, we can't hear them, the vibrations are too low. I think that if you know you are not mentally all there, therapy is what you need to be introduced to , not a relationship.*
Reminded me of my brother and my father. I love my father. I would never marry someone like him. I am okay being on my own if that is what comes my way.
Yes I had deep wounded masculine men in my family. All my uncles were wounded and never married anyone and had kids. My grandfather never worked, my grandmother was the breadwinner and worked to her grave (she died of cancer) this created a generation of wounded females who were groomed to be independent and pick me’s for men and so the disfunction continued. Ever since I’ve started listening to this channel, I have learnt what hypergamy is, i take care of my looks and my body, im journaling and also going for therapy. I let go of another toxic relationship that was shaping me to become a 50/50 woman to help a man pay bills….and he would constantly say that he wanted a woman that would resemble his hard working mom! (The mom was single and raising three boys on her own. She’s still working to this day in her late 60’s) I just know in my heart of hearts that my purpose is to break generational curses and pave a new way of being for the next generation. Chloe you’ve been an invaluable inspiration, you’ll never know how many woman have been saved through your voice Thank you ❤️
The fact that someone immediately comes to mind as you go through these points makes me itch😤... I need to get out of this place. Feeling"stuck" is absolutely horrible🤦🏾
I'm so glad I found this page. Everything that is being said here is what a lot of weak masculine men don't understand. A lot of men think that all they have to do is treat a woman nicely, and it should be enough to sustain the relationship meanwhile preaching about what "type of man" they are but cannot confirm that with actions. The first time you see that a man cannot cover the rest of his rent after seeming to have it all together before you met him, run. He's not financially stable. Especially a man that isn't responsible for anyone but himself. If he has children, that's even worse. If he cannot hold his own weight, he will not be able to hold a family, if that's what you desire. Another HUGE red flag, is a man that will stand there and let you reach in your wallet, after agreeing to go on an outing with you KNOWING that he was broke, but somehow expecting that you've got it covered because you're more financially stable than him. That is a WEAK man who rest assured, will become comfortable the more you go out of your way. Run and screw how they feel.
The wisdom from this video should be made into a book. I can't stress how many of us were taught to waste our energy and youth on a damaged man. If the roles was reversed the man would grow wings and fly away. He does not want to be bothered with our wounds.
My ex’s dad is a narcissistic provider. His mother never worked a day in her life but fled when my ex was in high school to get away from his abuse and all his random kids he conceived during their marriage all over town. His mom leaving damaged him so much that he is a full on dusty who lives off of women even though his dad was a provider. He hates women but always has to have many at a time. He has said numerous times how he felt abandoned when his mother left, completely blaming her instead of holding his horrifically abusive father just as accountable for the reason she left. He is just like his father without the provider part. He’s a broke, abusive bum who spends all his lil paychecks on luxury items trying so hard to convince ppl he has money not even making 50k a year.
I have these men in my family blood line. They help me stay away from the men you describe in this video. I have encountered some of these but I luckily don't let myself get too involved and have a good habit of getting out before I lose too much of myself. Good summation of the types Chloe!
Wow! Chloe you get 5 stars for this topic. I have dated weak men that I didn't respect and I tried to model strength, good work ethics, and being a responsible person. I can tell you first hand that this behavior will never inspire a man to be masculine. The only thing that you will get out of this is frustration, disappointment, and an empty pocket. So, I learned it is not my job to take care of weak and unstable men. I don't give any man wife-like privileges without him qualifying to be a husband. He must be able to protect, provide, and proven to be faithful.
Actually other cultures do this and their women are socialized differently. Meaning they understand the differences between masculine and feminine in the home. Chole is so helpful because we don’t typically get this kind of talking to in the home or culture. I’m grateful to come across this channel.
I live in Eastern Europe and these dudes are the same almost everywhere in the world. Here there is a small group of women being treated well, around 3%, then majority of 50-50s (in reality 80-20s) and then a large group of mules having to serve everyone else's needs before their own.
I think my most recent ex-boyfriend was a wounded masculine. Hed explicitly express how I never invested financially into the relationship. Ive never paid for a date or gifted him on his birthdays because I felt he always fell short. He complained about how I don't deserve good stuff from him and how I had to "prove" myself to be worth it. He literally once told him straight up that he could give me the world but he didnt think I deserved it. I think his talk stemed from being raised by a divorced single mother who provided for herself and him for most of his life. Most of these men do not know how to be masculine because it was never modelled to them.
@@mistyfrost9974 we weren’t in good terms when his birthday came around. id pick fights with him right before his birthday so that we weren't on speaking terms on his birthday. Then a weekish later I'd show up, we make up and continue with the toxicity 😊
This was amazing Chloe. The wounded masculine is something I recognized but I did not realize was so multi-faceted. It’s amazing how our intuition recognizes these red flags but we can’t articulate why or what. This is a great resource for both men and women to take accountability in their personal development and healing. ✨
I was raised by and around these men. I later grew up and attracted these men. I grew up again emotionally and spiritually and healed that little girl. I now attract men in their divine masculine. Healing and more continued healing is the KEY. You will then know what they are about before they even open their mouths.
seeing this video reminds me so much of my EX and most of the men I used to train with when I was a professional wrestler. everything she mentioned makes sense to why they were the way they were.
Thank you for this video. The message is right on time, based on the social media arguments that continue. You are so right about these things plaguing the black community. I had to do a lot of self-work to stop seeking to fix and rescue guys. It's something that stems from childhood trauma. Therapy is a gift that keeps on giving, if we're willing to do the work honestly.
I can bet money that each one of us has encountered 10 out of the 16 men mentioned in this video. I'm seeing more and more women choosing to remain single or flirting with lesbianism just to avoid marrying these damaged types.
Hey Chloe. BC has feminine spoiled men due to lack of fathers and mammies who spoil them which is why we have to affirm or work on our health and mindset to be better women since that community doesnt want people to be the best they can be mindset wisely. So much stuff wrong which is why i moved my mindset on better plans silently. Even if it meant another community and dating outside my race With samuels the guys weren't taking his advice atleast newcomers since its 1.1 views higher for women then his views for men so they won't take his advice. Men cant help every men out there im sure he tried but they want us to build with them but they arent built and not building themselves please if you see red flag of dustiness leave!
if he respects and genuinely appreciates her, that could be different. Not all men are the same just a lot more weak ones in these times. Hope you're doing ok?
This video has a lot of truth to it. I have a step father that has been there since I was 2 yrs old. A brother and sister (half) came after and my biological father had 7 kids (half brothers/sisters) with his first woman. I see them all as brothers and sisters. But growing up with my step father, he was never a father figure or family man. Always cares about a himself first and never care of giving guidance since he doesn’t have it. He’s would take us to his family and a lot of times leaving my mother out. He’s a cheater as well and never invited the family to come to our home but we would only go and visit on holidays and some weekends but just felt like just dropping off in a school playground and that’s about it. That made my life hard to try to be a masculine man but I always tried. Was married on a relationship that lasted 10 yrs and currently I have an 8 yr child with my X. I’m 33 now and 4 yrs single since that last relationship with my x wife. Mid 2017 my x left me. I did had issues with alcohol and in 2 months I told my X to come back and she did. I didn’t want our child to live the same life growing up how I did. 6 months later in Jan 2018 my x left again. I said fuark it. I told my mother that I came to realize if I kept insisting for my x to come back, I would be teaching my child a fake unhappy relationship of how it should supposedly be. I don’t feel bad and with no guidance from my step dad i managed to get a mortgage with my x, get her a 2 yr old car and did repairs at home and I always tried to pls my x and I changed a lot from how my x met me at 18. I was a punk rocker that played in a band and drank. She knew I was like that and she knew me before I knew her because I was going out with one of her friends when I was 16 and my x had a crush on me I didn’t know. Anyways my x added me on MySpace then it went to myface lol but I feel glad with what I accomplished. I left my band, my punk friends, my dog, my bronco, became a manager in Tito’s tacos in Culver City in my early 20s, became a lead security and a maintenance supervisor while I was with my x. Sold the house a few months after she left the 2nd time without her giving me a dime while the mortgage was still do and she had a nice even split of the money. She would say when we had 5 yrs together that she made me a better person. I’m like yeah right…… I always like to improve as well. My family is dysfunctional but I love them and still help them out when I can. We don’t eat together really and we all just kind of do our things. When I had a place with my x I would invite my family, my x’s family and I would grill, set up ppv fights and tried to have those reunions I saw when we visited family. To summon it, it makes it hard to be in a relationship since most girls I met are very family oriented and it takes me a while to open up. That’s why I’m looking for a friend first to build a foundation and not just hook up. In the meantime, I’m trying to regain what I lost. Good luck all.
Another excellent video by Chloe, very much the truth; there are Masculine men but they are very rare. I think we do reverse roles in rearing boys and girls.
So, True you have made sense that's why we have weak, gay and effeminate men. I, find myself weak in some ways too. How do you know so much about manhood ?
Not gonna lie the little bunny made out of dust had me laughing!
@12:37 ikr 😂😂😂
I keep saying Mother’s & Father’s have to stop raising their sons the way they SHOULD BE raising their daughters. Everything is backwards, I’m not surprised men want to be the prize.
You're absolutely right, the gender roles are reversed now and men want to be treated/pampered by their partner as if they were a woman and many families have messed up dynamics. Let's break the cycle!
If more women were willing to walk away from toxic men...then maybe there’s a possibility that they’ll change. But for every man, there’s a desperate woman willing to put up with it.
🎯🎯🎯
Well stated.
@Nick Gurr nope. That just a label like the word Ni**ger. Now if the father is not in the child's life, then the child can feel unwanted.
Just about every man wants to have a relationship that he saw his parents had, but often they never stop to ask, was the woman even happy in the relationship?
Then cant figure out why women hand them divorce papers! Like they had nothing to do with it! They think its not there job to keep there women and families coheasive, happy, and functional!
@@internetroll3768 no, idiot... In a relationship both partners should make an effort. Its just here in america in the dating world, its a total crap show now! It isnt about having a functional relationship, its all about (whats in it for me) mentallity! From both men and women.....
@@internetroll3768 after the rose colored glasses fall off, instead of rekindling or working on the relationship there in, they just break ties and look for someone else! Laziness is a huge huge problem along with, (the attitude that theres plenty of fish in the sea) mindset.....
@@nosphosfer Yes there is plenty of fish for a dusty man there is plenty dusty women So he can use and be as lazy as he wants to be
Thissss. I had a man said he wants a woman that can raise kids, do most of the household stuff and work full time because that's what his parents did and they are still married for 20+ years. I really wanted to ask if she's truly happy. She most likely stayed because they are a traditional African family and divorce is a no no
It’s the fact that she ALWAYS welcome the lurkers for me. 😭
ALWAYS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yuppp Love it 😂
It makes me feel welcome 🤷🏼♂️
@@juhamarkkula7004 😆😆😆😆😉
I’m now attracting healthy generous successful men, so my therapy has definitely worked! I use to attract this type over and over for years. After my divorce i began the work. This video describes my ex husband to the tea. I tried to fix him but i couldn’t. I’m praying for him as God positions me forward.
I'm currently separated from my husband. Don't intend on reconciling. Never thought to pray for him. Lol. He needs prayer for sure.
Amen. Congrats on your healing.🥰🥰🥰
So happy for you sis! Yes! @TiffanyB TV
You sound like an escort lmaoo
Watch out for the men that have numerous selfies
lol feminine men
They are compensating for something
@@Kamone111 lol
Divas
I dated such a man who turned out to have Borderline Personality Disorder. He is still wreaking havoc in the lives of women unfortunately.
Don't get me wrong. I love my father but I can't fully respect him. He had a job, but it paid very little and he did not try to level up therefore my mother had to toil and mule to make ends meet. Now she looks very haggard and way older than she should. So my siblings and I suffered because my father got too comfortable. Growing up I was angry and resentful, and I didn't like how he disrespected my mother. I remember him getting angry when he learned about my mother's ex whom she met before him. He also would teach me that once a girl is not a virgin anymore, she is "damaged goods". I cannot find to respect a man like that.
Why was he angry about your mother's ex?
@@xtelfolaj he was actually angry at the fact that my mother had a boyfriend before him. It's not like my mother cheated! When I grew into adulthood that's when I opened my eyes that everything my father did was wrong. I'll never marry a man like him
@@saintk3893 wow😐... That's all I can say
Yeah he doesn’t sound respectable, no offense. Actually sounds a lot like my dad…
@@EvaElyse Sounds like my dad as well. Now he's jealous that I married a man that takes care of me and I work when I want. He always tries to insert himself into my life and I cut him off.
I let go of myself and got to looking old but I'm only 22 . This video is my sign not to give up on myself.
Never ever give up on yourself ✨
Best of luck ♥️
@Ma Khi here's a hug honey. We will get through this . I've started learning how to use make-up and detoxing . Baby steps but moving forward.
DONT EVER give up on YOU. YOU are all you got!
Please hang in there. I really know how you feel because the same thing happened to me when I was younger. Keep watching Chloe videos and do the work on your self. Put your self first. Keep your life dust free, protect your womb, your mind and your purse from low life men. Concentrate on YOURSELF ONLY. You got this. I believe you are going to be alright. Stay on Chloe channel and binge watch all of Chloe videos and then go over to Chrissie channel. Don't forget Cynthia G, she has lots of information that will help you as a young woman to avoid the pitfall mistakes that could ruin your life. I wish I had these ladies when I was young. Blessings to you young lady.
I remember telling him just because you saw your mother do it doesn’t mean I’m going to do it. For that reason I’m out. It’s too much work and draining mentally on women that love the men that won’t change. I changed me and you will encounter who you are. Have to put in work ladies and therapy does help, news flash God not going to come down here and do nothing you not trying do for yourself.
The dust bunny at the end says it all. I had to stop being the Man in my relationships. I had a wonderful but masculine Mother who subscribed to the Strong Black Woman narrative. She died at home as she wished but with no life long partner to grieve her, just her 3 Children. I’m trying to break that generational curse at 57. Never too old to learn and change I hope. I love your inspirational and educational content. I follow you on IG also.
@@MS-sr6mj In the words of MJB, “I’ve been too strong for too long.” Now I want a Man who can not only carry the load but wants to. With a good Woman like me by his side, we could surmount the insurmountable.
@@goat7844 I was perfecting my Profession, furthering my education, and being a caretaker. All the masculine things I was taught to do. Red flag 🚩? Maybe.
@@MS-sr6mj You mean the women who chose to have children with those type of losers. Deep down they knew damn well he wasn't really about crap but as always the woman thought having his baby would change him, or thinking they could change him. Men say you can't turn a hoe into a housewife...well ladies you can't turn a so-called ''dusty'' into a Cliff Huxtable.
@@MS-sr6mj I can put blame on both. The man as well. Usually they didn't have no one to teach them anything. Men like that are just manipulators & good at it. Notice they git the woman pregnant then cry boo-hoo about child support..simple solution..don't get the woman pregnant. Just because a man has sex with a woman doesn't mean he has to have kids with her. Same for the woman..just 'cause she has sex with said guy doesn't mean she has to have kids with him. I understand if the hubby dies, that's a different story. TBH that's not the case in most of these situations..the truth is these women got with some sorry azz ninja & the dude left her. So no i do not give the man a pass
The men in my family are horribly wounded. It’s really weird how they try to control me and ‘put me in my place’ which in their minds is broke and depressed. They had no problems with me in dark times but now that I proven to be the capable, smart, high earner that I am my the males in my family have lost their collective minds. I’ve cut them all off. I refuse to be depressed so they can feel good about their failures. I don’t put them down. I just bounced and don’t give access to me. Because of this experience with men once close to me, I question every man (and woman).
Your accomplishments trigger their insecurities.💄
You’re really out here saving lives, Chloe. 🙌🏾 ❤️
Literally.
In our community we raise girls to be prepared for their family by cooking,babysitting,cleaning the restrooms and dishes very early. Men were groomed to do 1 thing which was take the trash out or cut the lawn here and there. Alot of mothers say they are hard on us just in case we are in a situation where we are the head of the house(which happens too often). Instead of fixing the dynamic they trained us how to survive it bc deep down they expect their sons to be absent or weak as well. Lots of men get married or get in situation ,then bounce bc there is now an obligation and responsibility, which was never established young causing cowardish and weak men.
I find your view very interesting. I got into a disagreement with another mother about whether boys should play with kitchen sets or dolls, and do house chores like ironing, dishes and laundry. She felt it wasn’t “masculine” for boys to do that; she has a son. I’m a mother of 4 boys and 1 girl. I teach everyone the same, just the pronouns change lol. I remember my son and daughter used to love playing with their kitchen sets and now they both can cook at 11 and 9! My boys have never had dolls as in “feminine” dolls but for ie. my 5 year old son cuddles his Buzz Lightner, I’m encouraging him. “Oh you’re such a good Dad” or “you’re gonna be a beautiful father one day”. I don’t see why My 9 year old son can’t wash laundry and fold them up! I tell my 14 year old son to value himself when grownup and make sure he knows how to take care of himself whether he’s got a woman or NOT and to make sure there’s always balance. He also babysits to make a few extra dollars, he loves children. I know plenty single fathers (my dad was one for a lil) who have had to learn as they go but I wish that mother’s noticed that if we equipped the males with the same knowledge and skill we do the females there would be more masculine and independent men. Mentally we have to build them up from young.
I agree 💯
@@goddessalaysia5438 how she raises her child is her business with toys. But as for reality they need to cook and help clean out like we do . Its actually a shame they dont.
I have dated a few wounded masculine men in the past. I am so happy and content that I am now married to a man that respects, revere and truly love me; and (provide financially for me) and thus complements my feminine energy. I did the work on myself to attract this type of man.
We are breaking generational curses and Chloe is ushering us through!!
I’ve always felt that it was wrong but because no one taught me any different I thought it was normal….We grow up with these men and most are either our fathers, uncles, brothers and so on, but these men lack leadership and power to build and protect! And here I was thinking I needed to help my man build in order to feel worthy to be good wife material 😿
Woo I felt this 😞
Our family is full of wounded masculine and feminine. Fortunately there's a chance to course correct for the generations ahead. Thank you for these lessons and stressing the importance of planning and strategizing in order to heal and create the lives we want. As the old folks say, it's a tough row to hoe. 🙏🏿🌸🌺
*Not only do we not respect weak men, we can't hear them, the vibrations are too low. I think that if you know you are not mentally all there, therapy is what you need to be introduced to , not a relationship.*
Men dont do fix ah woman. but Women. boy oh boy. leave broken men alone.
Reminded me of my brother and my father. I love my father. I would never marry someone like him.
I am okay being on my own if that is what comes my way.
Yes I had deep wounded masculine men in my family. All my uncles were wounded and never married anyone and had kids. My grandfather never worked, my grandmother was the breadwinner and worked to her grave (she died of cancer) this created a generation of wounded females who were groomed to be independent and pick me’s for men and so the disfunction continued. Ever since I’ve started listening to this channel, I have learnt what hypergamy is, i take care of my looks and my body, im journaling and also going for therapy. I let go of another toxic relationship that was shaping me to become a 50/50 woman to help a man pay bills….and he would constantly say that he wanted a woman that would resemble his hard working mom! (The mom was single and raising three boys on her own. She’s still working to this day in her late 60’s) I just know in my heart of hearts that my purpose is to break generational curses and pave a new way of being for the next generation. Chloe you’ve been an invaluable inspiration, you’ll never know how many woman have been saved through your voice Thank you ❤️
The fact that someone immediately comes to mind as you go through these points makes me itch😤... I need to get out of this place. Feeling"stuck" is absolutely horrible🤦🏾
I'm so glad I found this page. Everything that is being said here is what a lot of weak masculine men don't understand. A lot of men think that all they have to do is treat a woman nicely, and it should be enough to sustain the relationship meanwhile preaching about what "type of man" they are but cannot confirm that with actions. The first time you see that a man cannot cover the rest of his rent after seeming to have it all together before you met him, run. He's not financially stable. Especially a man that isn't responsible for anyone but himself. If he has children, that's even worse. If he cannot hold his own weight, he will not be able to hold a family, if that's what you desire. Another HUGE red flag, is a man that will stand there and let you reach in your wallet, after agreeing to go on an outing with you KNOWING that he was broke, but somehow expecting that you've got it covered because you're more financially stable than him. That is a WEAK man who rest assured, will become comfortable the more you go out of your way. Run and screw how they feel.
The wisdom from this video should be made into a book. I can't stress how many of us were taught to waste our energy and youth on a damaged man. If the roles was reversed the man would grow wings and fly away. He does not want to be bothered with our wounds.
My ex’s dad is a narcissistic provider. His mother never worked a day in her life but fled when my ex was in high school to get away from his abuse and all his random kids he conceived during their marriage all over town. His mom leaving damaged him so much that he is a full on dusty who lives off of women even though his dad was a provider. He hates women but always has to have many at a time. He has said numerous times how he felt abandoned when his mother left, completely blaming her instead of holding his horrifically abusive father just as accountable for the reason she left. He is just like his father without the provider part. He’s a broke, abusive bum who spends all his lil paychecks on luxury items trying so hard to convince ppl he has money not even making 50k a year.
I have these men in my family blood line. They help me stay away from the men you describe in this video. I have encountered some of these but I luckily don't let myself get too involved and have a good habit of getting out before I lose too much of myself. Good summation of the types Chloe!
Wow! Chloe you get 5 stars for this topic. I have dated weak men that I didn't respect and I tried to model strength, good work ethics, and being a responsible person. I can tell you first hand that this behavior will never inspire a man to be masculine. The only thing that you will get out of this is frustration, disappointment, and an empty pocket. So, I learned it is not my job to take care of weak and unstable men. I don't give any man wife-like privileges without him qualifying to be a husband. He must be able to protect, provide, and proven to be faithful.
Thank you so much for this video Chloe. How can we not break generational cycles with videos like these? Knowledge is power
It's sad these type of channels exist. Other races don't post or talk about these things. That's how rare is to find a black masculine men!
They taking notes on her videos too
Actually other cultures do this and their women are socialized differently. Meaning they understand the differences between masculine and feminine in the home. Chole is so helpful because we don’t typically get this kind of talking to in the home or culture. I’m grateful to come across this channel.
They do exist.. dusty men exist in all races
I live in Eastern Europe and these dudes are the same almost everywhere in the world. Here there is a small group of women being treated well, around 3%, then majority of 50-50s (in reality 80-20s) and then a large group of mules having to serve everyone else's needs before their own.
Finding masculine isn't hard. They're just not attracted to masculine women.
Thanks for mentioning that men who don’t take care of their kids will have bad luck and things will not end well for them. #naturalconsequences
It applies to women as well. Parenting is a GIFT that both men and women take for granted.
I spoke to my dad who I haven’t heard from in a decade; he exhibits everything you’ve mention.
I think my most recent ex-boyfriend was a wounded masculine. Hed explicitly express how I never invested financially into the relationship. Ive never paid for a date or gifted him on his birthdays because I felt he always fell short. He complained about how I don't deserve good stuff from him and how I had to "prove" myself to be worth it. He literally once told him straight up that he could give me the world but he didnt think I deserved it. I think his talk stemed from being raised by a divorced single mother who provided for herself and him for most of his life. Most of these men do not know how to be masculine because it was never modelled to them.
But seriously you never gifted him on his birthday?? Is that not too harsh and stingy??
Ngl I died when I read she never gifted him on his bday bc he always fell short. Saved money and resentment 🤟 keep it up!
@@mistyfrost9974 we weren’t in good terms when his birthday came around. id pick fights with him right before his birthday so that we weren't on speaking terms on his birthday. Then a weekish later I'd show up, we make up and continue with the toxicity 😊
@@mariapodesta3090
Why are you such a toxic and immature person?
Love seeing my notification for Chloe's videos always so much wisdom
This was amazing Chloe. The wounded masculine is something I recognized but I did not realize was so multi-faceted. It’s amazing how our intuition recognizes these red flags but we can’t articulate why or what. This is a great resource for both men and women to take accountability in their personal development and healing. ✨
Chloe_ you’ve done it again! Thank you for your patience, guidance and professionalism 💕
Ladies, please put yourselves first🥰
Thank you I could never put a name on it. BUT I knew it was not right.
Thank god you made this video ! This describes all my exes ! Weak men !
God Bless you Chloe. I am curving toxic men left & right. Your videos help me look for red flags.
I was raised by and around these men. I later grew up and attracted these men. I grew up again emotionally and spiritually and healed that little girl. I now attract men in their divine masculine. Healing and more continued healing is the KEY. You will then know what they are about before they even open their mouths.
Ladies!! enough with the Build-A-Boo workshop it is not cute and unbecoming of you Build-A-Bear is cute and works for teddy bears not men
This was so informative and I would love to see a similar video for wounded femininity. Great video!
The Wounded Feminine was the Video Prior to This One with Nicki Minaj.
Great post. The dust bunny image was hilarious. 😂
My husband will be the first masculine man in my entire family 😊
All I can think of is keep him and your personal business FAR away from your family!
You damn right! Mine too😊♥️
seeing this video reminds me so much of my EX and most of the men I used to train with when I was a professional wrestler. everything she mentioned makes sense to why they were the way they were.
I love how unbiased and merited your content is. Keep up the great work. All facts here.
I had to comment again as I got to the end of this. For all my fellas watching, she hit every point 100% on the nail!!!!!
I just want to know who edits those thumbnails. Cause they’re always fire
Thank you for this video. The message is right on time, based on the social media arguments that continue. You are so right about these things plaguing the black community. I had to do a lot of self-work to stop seeking to fix and rescue guys. It's something that stems from childhood trauma. Therapy is a gift that keeps on giving, if we're willing to do the work honestly.
You hit it on the nail with EVERYTHING!
WOW!, THAT SPIT IS THE REALEST!!! THANK YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN!
I can bet money that each one of us has encountered 10 out of the 16 men mentioned in this video. I'm seeing more and more women choosing to remain single or flirting with lesbianism just to avoid marrying these damaged types.
nothign wrong with being bisexual, but many women are now chosing women bc women are now making more money than men.
@@lavonnealexander6936 ladyy im thinking i might go bisexual or lesbian im really upset with the amount of abusive men tearing down women
Hey Chloe. BC has feminine spoiled men due to lack of fathers and mammies who spoil them which is why we have to affirm or work on our health and mindset to be better women since that community doesnt want people to be the best they can be mindset wisely. So much stuff wrong which is why i moved my mindset on better plans silently. Even if it meant another community and dating outside my race
With samuels the guys weren't taking his advice atleast newcomers since its 1.1 views higher for women then his views for men so they won't take his advice. Men cant help every men out there im sure he tried but they want us to build with them but they arent built and not building themselves please if you see red flag of dustiness leave!
Or mothers that are abusive, neglectful, and/or on drugs.
This video is giving me anxiety 😓 Grateful for it!! ✨🙌🌟
This came right on time Chloe 🌹
I'm looking for a therapist now
I start therapy on the 20th of this month. God bless u on your journey. Therapy is much needed for us black women.
Great video !
As I was listening to the very informative video. I said how can I fix it ? Then I realized that’s the problem. I can’t , I can only fix me .😏
Thank you for doing God's work 🙏
Merci beaucoup Chloe! ❤✨😘
ThIS! Every single one, spot on!
One of your best videos Chloe👏👏👏👏
i so wanna send this to my ex husband (to share with his mom-wife) lol.
Hahahah... thats the next reality series
This video was replete with reliable information. Make notes, and do not depart from wisdom.
Chloe in anointed and appointed to teach. Idc what nay Sayers say, argue with your liver 🤣
Chloe, this video is right on time.
Omg I was JUST talking about this!!!!
Love ur video looking forward to it
YOU ARE ON POINT WITH THIS ONE!!!!!!!
My bf is 27 and still lives at home and is babied by his mommy. Jesus Christ y’all I’m screwed
Not really
Do you lobe him?
if he respects and genuinely appreciates her, that could be different. Not all men are the same just a lot more weak ones in these times. Hope you're doing ok?
I start my therapy very soon... I feel that im going through this.
Love this!!!
This vid came on time today.
Number 5. Narcissistic is the Description. Of my Ex. OMG. He was awful.
🌺🌺🌺 this is beautifully put.
This video has a lot of truth to it. I have a step father that has been there since I was 2 yrs old. A brother and sister (half) came after and my biological father had 7 kids (half brothers/sisters) with his first woman. I see them all as brothers and sisters. But growing up with my step father, he was never a father figure or family man. Always cares about a himself first and never care of giving guidance since he doesn’t have it. He’s would take us to his family and a lot of times leaving my mother out. He’s a cheater as well and never invited the family to come to our home but we would only go and visit on holidays and some weekends but just felt like just dropping off in a school playground and that’s about it. That made my life hard to try to be a masculine man but I always tried. Was married on a relationship that lasted 10 yrs and currently I have an 8 yr child with my X. I’m 33 now and 4 yrs single since that last relationship with my x wife. Mid 2017 my x left me. I did had issues with alcohol and in 2 months I told my X to come back and she did. I didn’t want our child to live the same life growing up how I did. 6 months later in Jan 2018 my x left again. I said fuark it. I told my mother that I came to realize if I kept insisting for my x to come back, I would be teaching my child a fake unhappy relationship of how it should supposedly be. I don’t feel bad and with no guidance from my step dad i managed to get a mortgage with my x, get her a 2 yr old car and did repairs at home and I always tried to pls my x and I changed a lot from how my x met me at 18. I was a punk rocker that played in a band and drank. She knew I was like that and she knew me before I knew her because I was going out with one of her friends when I was 16 and my x had a crush on me I didn’t know. Anyways my x added me on MySpace then it went to myface lol but I feel glad with what I accomplished. I left my band, my punk friends, my dog, my bronco, became a manager in Tito’s tacos in Culver City in my early 20s, became a lead security and a maintenance supervisor while I was with my x. Sold the house a few months after she left the 2nd time without her giving me a dime while the mortgage was still do and she had a nice even split of the money. She would say when we had 5 yrs together that she made me a better person. I’m like yeah right…… I always like to improve as well. My family is dysfunctional but I love them and still help them out when I can. We don’t eat together really and we all just kind of do our things. When I had a place with my x I would invite my family, my x’s family and I would grill, set up ppv fights and tried to have those reunions I saw when we visited family. To summon it, it makes it hard to be in a relationship since most girls I met are very family oriented and it takes me a while to open up. That’s why I’m looking for a friend first to build a foundation and not just hook up. In the meantime, I’m trying to regain what I lost. Good luck all.
Chloe, thank you.
Belly aching all over social media 😭😭😭😭😭😭 i can’t
Yes yes 👋 🥰
Awesome !!!👏👏👏👏👏👏
First today. Hi Chloe 💜
Good Morning!☀️
Another excellent video by Chloe, very much the truth; there are Masculine men but they are very rare. I think we do reverse roles in rearing boys and girls.
They're not rare. You just don't qualify
I always love your contents 🥰😍
I just drop my dust bunny for 7 years now its time to do me
Unfortunately option A
Yes, yes and yes.
Wow this all I attracted….now I have a son that I talk down to sometimes 😢
Get him to therapy.
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That was,,,, informative,,,,as a , blk woman,,,, I'm DOOMED. 😔😔
How?
Awesome Video! ❤💋💯
You described my ex lol
So, True you have made sense that's why we have weak, gay and effeminate men. I, find myself weak in some ways too. How do you know so much about manhood ?
Best download evah
Smash dat like
OMG speachless 😳😳😳
I shared it … I know I will get unfollowed and labeled as negative 🤷🏽♀️
A damaged uhm... There's a lot of them..
White women deal with this too
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Queen 👸🏾, everything man you decided, has a face😬.
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I can’t stand a stalking I find him weak useless and nothing going on in his life .very weak masculine