When an Emotionally BROKEN Man is Using a Woman, He’ll Show These Signs!
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One rule I was taught and have always lived by: _"If a man pressures you, or makes you wonder where you stand, or if you feel confused at all, stand down and back away._* And don't give some emotional speech about it; just simply become less available and step away from that 'whatevership' and do *you.* Go out with other people, get busy doing other things. You teach people how to treat you. When they see you're busy and living life, they may either decide that you're worth getting to know better, or they may not. The point is, you have to put yourself in a position where you're not beholden to their whims, where you are not codependent on their treatment of you to know your worth. Start acting like you know your worth, and when someone starts treating you like the above, add tax!
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Agreed. People are complex. Relationships aren't. If they want to be more than friends, they'll say it and back it up. If they don't, then they may be friends. If they can't even behave like a friend, they're not even friend material.
And who, in their right mind, would want a deeper (more vulnerable) relationship with someone who can't even be a friend?
It's not complicated.
Very well put~ and thank you for sharing ~~~~~>💓°•○☆💕
Wise and witty words which need to be heeded!❤
Very well stated 👏
If he's confused
Just refuse
Don't get used
😂
Too late 😭😞 but thanks for the rhyme. He sent me mixed signals but not until after he convinced me he was all too interested. My fault for not knowing better.
Perfectly worded
Simple and easy to remember. Thank you.
Bars! 😂
Exactly
It is just EXHAUSTING, having to wonder if someone is interested in you. Well, if you have to wonder - he isn’t. 😢
I hear you, it’s hard
Thank You. I'm so angry right now
This is a effed up Lesson and goes for pretty much any relationship I think. If you have to wonder, spend your time scratching your head, being anxious and worried well that IS what the essence of the relationship is about. We don’t get that bc we were most likely not conditioned with love. We accept bs bc we’ve yet to learn how to give ourselves the love we deserve thus and when we do these ppl wont be a fit for us, bc we know they aint about love.
@@yrgarconAin't that the truth 😊
Yeh who wants to be his therapist
Do NOT engage with a guy who says he doesn’t want a relationship. You CANNOT change his mind. Don’t date potential. It’s a waste of time.
Learned this the hard way😔
@@juliasky4764same
I am currently dealing with this man. I am confused he says that he likes me and loves me but doesn't want to commit to me
@@amakchamrukshandadevi1628 ask him why
@@amakchamrukshandadevi1628i feel you. Im dealing with the same thing too. He said he likes me. Get jealous when i go out with my friends and talk with other men. And he’s possessive. But when i want to step to another level with him, he just said he doesn’t want commitment. The reasons are: we have different belief, his wife passed away due to child birth so he doesn’t want it to happen again. I just don’t understand him sometimes. I think he just wants the boyfriend benefits, my time, attention and without any commitment labels.
Everyone is damaged goods. If you're waiting for a person without baggage, you'll wait forever. Look for the one who recognizes his own issues and is working on overcoming them.
You must be willing to work on your own as well.
Very good point! Thank you ⭐️🧡⭐️
@aalu5638 That's not having baggage, that is actively breaking some ground rules.
Exactly. Everyone is different and broken in their own ways.
Everyone has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack! 😊🙏
His message is for MEN!!!
A broken man uses you to build up his confidence so he can pursue another woman 😭 😐 😡
Bingo.
This is the take away that women will never realize and men will never tell her.
Ditto a broken woman will do the same
Facts
True
“They are not looking for a girlfriend they are looking for a mother or a nurse” got to me and I’m glad!!
Me too!
me too
@@Yoto-hr7un haha I think some of us have been there!😂
totally agree, I sent him this link a couple of days ago...haven't gotten a reply yet 🤣
@@anglosifiedluso1511 And that’s how you know girl. That’s how you know!😂
Avoid any men and women whose actions do not match their words. Run!🏃♀️🏃
number 1 🚩
So true.
facts
This!!! 💯💯💯💯💯
Yes!! I’ve said this before too. All you can do is do yourself a favor and put some distance between you two.
A user will confuse you. And he will accuse you of being a user.
Omgosh that’s so true. I wasn’t with anyone for over 5 years and he accused me of using him when he had nothing to offer but charms
Yep! Moved into my house and asked me if I was using him 😂 get the f*** outta here dude 😑
I'm ashamed to admit this, but I was this type of guy. I walked out on so many potentially lovely relationships for no reason... Reflecting about those whom I wronged so many years ago, I've literally cried so much I could not cry anymore. Currently I am doing my best to make amends.
If this is any consolation for those who have suffered, that some people like myself suffer and have profound regrets about what I have done to others.
My apologies,
❤
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Thats great to acknowledge that.
Some are too self centered to acknowledge let alone say sorry and mean it. As for making amends, nobody does this.
Fair play to you for acknowledging your wrongs on those women.
That takes courage and alot of healing so well done you.
I dated someone like this. He was lovely... but suddenly went really cold.
Turns out he was still hurt from a breakup, he started talking a lot about it - and I walked away, there's nothing you can do for someone emotionally unavailable.
Similar case but slight difference. Mine was lovely at the beginning then switch to hot and cold, words and actions don’t align. I noticed he’s emotionally unavailable towards me but not to other girls. And subsequently he soft launch he’s new found gf on social media.
Amen to this-if they won’t do their own work, they won’t get better. We have to save ourselves.
Yes, a lot of men out there are emotionally unavailable and not interested in dating because they are still attached to their ex. A lot of incels/ manosphere guys are like this. They are very monogamous but hate it and pretend otherwise
That's how men treat their wounds. They use other women as band-aids.
Same but I still care about him. In person we had a special chemistry and great conversations but i also sensed sonething cold and this was very painful.
Im between dates he went quiet on me 3 or 4 days.
In my mind it felt like a constant message to me: you don't matter to me. You are not in my thoughts.
He would initiate meeting up consistently but due to weekly business trips abroad we met once every other weekend.
I told him, I am fine with quality connection over quantity in terms of frequency bc a special connection is rare to find but what confuses me is after being close 3 days no text.
Well we ended the connection and he said 'bad timing' and " I'm emptionally unavailable".
His last text was 6 weeks ago: allright..next week I will be travelling but after I'm back we can talk".
So I went from sad to happy that he wanted to reconnect and fix it together.
I replied : sure..no pressure.
He never texted me again and I felt humiliated,hurt and angry bc he didn't need to text that while I was trying to let it go.
I want to add that many broken men are unfortunately wrapped with good superficial things except for emotional wealth, which is what confuses many intelligent women. Just because the garbage bag is golden color, it doesn't change whats inside. Prioritizing emotional availability over amazing traits is the most self loving thing a woman can do for herself. Do not confuse familiarity and history with someone with love, love takes a lot more than that. Do not try to fix a broken man. If you can't change the man, change THE man.
YES!!!!! TO ALL OF THIS!!!!
Nice comment thanks
Prioritizing emotional availability over amazing traits. This sentence!!!
Watch people react to being told to ditch a woman with baggage.
That golden color makes it look like a gift bag, full of possibilities . until you open it up and peak inside - find out it truly is hiding garbage within 😢
Users exist. And Brian is right, there are "good" users too. When you noticed an unhealed man, Avoid this kind of guy as much as possible. Let him heal. Let him go.
RUN AWAY!!! Drop him like the broken mess he is.
Thank you for this video !! Really helped me with a situation that ended a few weeks ago but still has me sad . 💜
Users are women & men, I have been wading through this Earth for a long time now. Just stop using each other. Be true to your self.
wish someone would have told me this--Let him heal. Let him go. GREAT advice!!
Best advice ever. I spent 3 years in misery with an unhealed avoidant man. Don’t do it. It is so painful and crazy making.
Solution is not to have sex , find out his character first , dating is for collecting data , you will be less hurt if it dosnt work out. A partner that is truly interested will go at your pace and understand. No pressure.
Absolutely!!!!!!!
Well said
I agree or at least don't get attached date multiple people
very true
Praise God. So many women give it up so easily. Earning my trust and marriage is the way.
Love yourselves ladies. It's hard to walk away from the familiar but we have to break the cycle. My dad is a broken man. I always wanted better for my mother but she chose to be a martyr. I refuse to have the same sad life. He's right, most men are looking for mothers they can take advantage of. They put their hurt into you by treating you like shit
I experienced this when I was with my EX. He was abandoned by his mother before he got adopted by a Foster mother. Man was always accusing of most things that went wrong in his life. It was as if he was punishing me for something I don't know about. I couldn't stand it any longer.
Yep. They are often Narcissists or Sociopaths.
Vows don't count when there's abuse! The vows say in sickness or in health... Not in abuse and take it
@@louiseyvette2261 yes, I just don't agree to stay with or remain married to an abuser. At that point, the vows have been broken
@@louiseyvette2261 I understand perfectly
Literally my ex. Super fun and flirty in the beginning but then flipped on me like a switch. Started acting like me communicating my emotions that were “negative” meant that I was always starting fights when really I was just trying to have a conversation. He also said my past caused him trauma. Then he iced me out completely even though he told me he wanted to marry me. What the heck. 😂
Oof! Have we dated the same guy?
@@TheCoffeeCatI, too, was wondering the same thing! 🤔😂
I've had him too
So good he is an ex!
Same here. Talking about any feeling is starting a fight, he said he only wanted peace so I left him alone 😂
Here’s my 3 cents - Do not give your body to a man who hasn’t committed to you. And, as was stated here - any guy whose behavior is inconsistent or who says he doesn’t want a relationship intends to use use you. Never see, date or interface with this f boy again.
I am sorry but then you will have to live the rest of your live in celibate..
@@andersnielsen6044I doubt it. She has standards and self esteem. It's too bad you don't think there are respectable men out there. I've seen them.
@@INFJ2 Or you think you have seen them.. Naivity is not a sign of standards or self esteem..
Best strategy. Hard to implement, especially after a long drought.
Woman get too emotionally involved when they hand over their body to just anyone, then complain how they’ve just been used by a creep
@@daxter7913yes and I am done.basically I am so alone and desperate and this senior guy is 4years older and desperate too ,and he touched my hand and that itself felt super uncomfortable and I confronted ,he apologized and gone.he is gone.such a good man is gone.and I am now celibate ,alone again and wha to do oth my life.
Broken man is a damn rollercoaster
Period
I married a broken man. His brother's wife warned me, but I didn't believe her. I was a fool.
I think as women we think we can fix them. or help them. Im realizing the same. Its been painful....but these men manipulate us.
I'm sure we've all been there 😢
I am really sorry. I hope you are better now.
@@Blessed1283 Thank you. I am.
I don’t think you should blame yourself for giving someone the benefit of the doubt. You did your best and you learned from the situation.
If a man has trauma from his past and has not done his inner work to heal -- he will hurt you. Ladies, make sure you are choosing a healthy man who has healed. You deserve healthy love!
Especially the childhood trauma. I'm facing a guy like that. Childhood trauma is more rooted compared to getting hurt from a past relationship.
Childhood trauma stems deep
Confirmed
Yep I just got out of a somewhat relationship with an emotionally broken man who I know deep down inside is and can be a good man. But he chooses to be an asshole especially with someone who treats him well. He's attracted to women that don't want him or don't think he's good enough. But the women who actually like him he treats like crap. My advice to any lady reading this sweetheart regardless of whether you see something inside of him You have to leave broken men alone if you want to be happy.
Thank you for sharing this! I went through something similar with someone I dated for a couple of months. He started out seeming like the "nice guy" and then subtly let his asshole behavior out, picking at things here and there about my physical appearance and putting down things I liked -- which in the beginning, he supposedly liked and said I was cool. I never understand people who roll out the red carpet for those who treat them like shit, complain about that, and then turn around and treat the people who actually care about them like they don't matter. I'm glad I got out of that and I take solace in knowing that what goes around comes around. I feel much happier now and like I am really becoming more of the amazing woman I was always meant to be :)
@@MiaNome77 was in the same situation as you recently. How did u recover? What helped you to recover? Im still very traumatised and its a struggle to accept that someone did this to me. It was my first ever relationship as well. He kept comparing me to his ex and told me that he still loves her and prefers women that look like her
I feel this so much. Took me about half a year to slowly start to feel better again. He replaced me in less than 2 weeks. Luckily this woman dumped him after 2 months in an even more worse way than he did to me. He was devasted, but within 3 weeks he was dating another woman.
I agree, you have to leave them, unless they are self-reflected and willing to actively work on their issues. But most of them are hoping that love will heal and fix and save them - this never works out in the long run, it's actually the perfect recipe for disaster. And in the end they'll happily blame it all on you.
What I learned from all of this: Don't give your all to someone else. Leave a bit for yourself. Make yourself your priority. You are responsible for yourself and investing in yourself will always pay off. Don't ignore red flags. Trust your gut. When something feels wrong over and over again there's a good chance something is wrong. And never date the guy who says he's an asshole, even when he absolutely treats you like a princess. Take a close look at how he treats other women and people in his life. It's only a matter of time until it will happen to you. Sad, but true.
@@peacelovehope-jq1ry a man who jumps from one relationship to another and has several rebounds will never be happy. The women will realise that they are the rebound and dump his ass. I was a rebound girl and treated so secondary. If he moves on to another woman, she will be treated the same and the cycle continues. These men will end up miserable
@@deedee446 In my opinion he's unable to deal with his emotional pain and difficult situations in general. And it's easier to find someone who eases your pain and distracts you for the moment, than actually dealing with your pain and take time to heal.
The thing is, even the best relationships aren't always easy or perfect, so sooner or later their issues will come back to hunt them. They are only running away.
I wish I could finally let go, but I can't yet. I'm worsening my pain by looking up what's going on in his life. And it hurts that he appears to be somewhat happy with his new gf. They are together for 3.5 months now.
I'm sorry to hear you got treated bad. It would be easier for me to let go if he treated me secondary, but he treated me like a princess (unless he was jealous), talked about our future together all the time and said he's going to marry me. Our mutual friends later told me that he was talking about how wonderful and perfect I am and how much he loves me all day long. No one could believe it when he left me and he was crying more during the break up then I did. No one could believe how terrible he treated me after the break up and how he just threw me away as if it was the easiest thing in the world. He's literally acting like I'm dead to him.
It hurts to know that he most likely idealised the women after me just as much as he idealised me and that he tells them the exact same things he told me for months.
If you have red flags at any point in your dating relationship ... RUN ... don't walk to the nearest exit. Narcissistic Sociopathic, broken child men don't change, don't work on themselves, because they don't see or believe they are the one's with the problem. You can't "fix" them, you can't heal or help them heal, you can't hold them up enough, you can love them enough, you can't support them, you can't ... anything enough. They will push you so far down a black hole, you may never find a way out. It will be your fault they are unhappy, cheat on you, that it's not working out, etc.
It's not worth the turmoil you are going thru or will go thru, it's not worth changing yourself in hopes you'll be what makes him happy. Because you'll never fill that black hole within him (or her). I know ... in almost 30 yrs, the only thing I managed to do .... was to lose who I was & become miserable. I can change me ... but I'll never be enough of anything to fill that void that has forever damaged him, long b4 I came around.
You’re right on!!! Thanks so much for sharing. I needed to read this today
Every word u wrote speaks volumes of my so called relationship who believe it or not had raped his sister at 4 years of age repeatedly for 6 years - knew something was amiss the only thing I can say is hindsight is a great thing
well said, but there is a reason you stayed for 30 years. two unhealthy people are more likely to last in a relationship, than one
@@Irispia97 to keep the explanation short, staying is a matter of convenience. I got nerve damage 19 yrs ago, a few yrs ago ended up with an S. I. Joint issue, a couple yrs ago ended up with a knee issue in the same thing. Fighting a losing battle (marriage) is no longer a priority. Everyone's reasons are different & until you are married to a narcissistic, adulter, liar ... you can't understand.
I was with my ex narcissistic husband for 30 years. I didn’t stay married because I loved the abuse. He changed over the decades. We also had two kids. I married till death do us part. Don’t judge anyone as nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. My ex isolated me emotionally, financially, and physically. It was a calculated plan on his part. I was naive and gullible and very young.
The troubling part there are more men out there like this than you realize.
It doesn’t matter whether the man hurts women accidentally or on purpose: the end result is the same.
My boyfriend does this. He says often that he's not intentionally trying to hurt me, yet repeatedly does the things that I've communicated that hurt me. Hmm.
How true!
@@markoembarko9045 my ex husband used to say that. Leave that man now if you can, it’s only going to get worse over time. The more you excuse, the more a man will try to get away with
@@eastcoastmusicmachine7989 Thank you. He dumped me two months ago, but it has been a blessing. I tolerated too much crapola! I'm glad you are free now too. These types of men are a mess!
Then there is the weak man who is attracted to strong women. He ends up resenting them for being strong and decisive and tries to tear them down. I married one of those.
Me too
Narcissist- they suck …literally.
I divorced one of them.
Those are guys with mommy issues. Grew up with either single/ divorced mother or had a very weak father. They are attracted to those women while hating them at the same time because of the unsolved Oedipus complex. Those that I know have got physical punishments from their mothers and that's especially what contributed to the attraction/ repulsion thing.
They have a name Narcissist
Any one who has to use someone has nothing to offer!
Well said!!!
Yes! This should be in the top comments
Most people don't deliberately use people. But a lack of any interest in trying to understand yourself and how your behaviour affects others is the biggest red flag for anyone. A man who is still a child won't be able to have an adult relationship.
I'm not a nurse, a purse or a rehab center, though I let someone treat me like I was. Never again.
Oh my gosh you mean it's actually a thing a group of men who actually claim they have a nurse with a 👜
Purse
Substance abuse head on the nail
Love this!
Married to a child broken man. Waste of the longest 17 years. I told him I was done being his babysitter. I wanted a partner, friend, lover. He wanted a chief cook and bottle washer. He didn’t know the meaning of how to be engaged in life. It was all about his needs.
so many men are addicted to instant gratification.
I was married to that guy for 22 years 😢.
Wow that hit me hard. The last guy (childish, fun, putting blame on others, not taking ownership, looking for a nurse/mother, can't talk about emotions, ridiculing me when I give negative feedback) is my soon to be ex-husband. I did not know there is such an exact type described in psychology. I have been feeling used by him for a looong time.
you just described my ex so accurately, i'm wondering if they are the same person
Don’t think so, legion of them. Mine was the same
Same here too
Yes! This guy hand-wrote a letter to me and drove over and put it in my mailbox. I took the bait, called him. Four months later, I’m too complicated ~ And he was a robot in the sack. He’s never been married or even lived with a woman And.. no kids/ I asked him if he ever got anyone pregnant and he said yes but he told her his whole family is crazy so she should not go forward; Damn!
He just wanted to see if he could catch me~ release followed
And we wonder why we didn't nip it in the bud early and walk away right? That's because things within us needs healing from our childhood if we are not recognizing the red flags early , setting boundaries and putting ourselves first. Because we teach people how to treat us. The reason other people and situations come along is to be a direct mirror to reflect back to us what needs healing within ourselves. We are accountable for whatever we attract because we emit a vibrational frequency. So whatever we don't want to attract, we have to know ourselves well enough , be aware of our frequency , whether we are in alignment with our true self or not, and change ourselves to become what we want to attract. If we are attracting something we don't like or don't want, that comes from a subconscious Childhood Program running in the background that we are not aware of, there is some emotional traumas that we experienced that we didn't even realize were emotional traumas which created the way we speak and act. It's amazing how to learn that whenever we see another that we do not like it's because it's a trait that is in ourselves. You will not find a truly healthy, aligned and balanced person vibrationally attracting to a superbly unhealthy or unhealed person with deep woundings and manipulation tactics
A Broken Man will Break You.
Put your Boundaries in place and work on healing yourself.
No. We break ourselves and they join us with our permission.
Mine waited 2 years for me to move across the country to his city, into his house (he didn't want me to get my own place), to FLIP on me. He literally waited for me to become vulnerable and to have no one around to help me, to turn on the abuse switch.
That man is some variety of narcissist. I hope you have moved on.
@@misottovoce I have, but not before spending one more year trying to make it work with him. I couldn't even process such a drastic change in him, wanted to believe the person I knew for 2 years was the real one and not this one. So for one more year I tried many strategies to "get that person back", nothing worked, he even manipulated the couples therapist. Got a place for myself and moved out - the day before the move, he hugged me and begged me to stay. Unbelievable. Moved out anyway.
Same happened to me . I moved back to the uk from abroad . I left him after 6 months , moved back to my own house which thankfully I still had . 3 months later I went back to give it another try ( or to check if I was still stupid 😂) it was worse . I gave it 5 months , didn’t see any changes so I left for good . He’s tried to draw me back but I’m done . The last time he rang I asked for the money back I’d lent him . Apparently he owes me nothing . Not heard from him again 😅
Shera says you will never truly know a man until you are left in a situation where you can’t get away from him: living arrangements, loss of job, pregnancy, etc.
@@Ladymagentabennett Exactly, she's wise.
I met someone who is exactly like this and I’ve never had my heart broken as bad. It’s taking me years to get over this broken man. I’ve met someone new and thankfully it doesn’t hurt anymore.
That’s powerful. You’ve moved on. Congratulations 🎉
So happy for you. I hope this happens for me!
Congratulations on moving on with a new partner.
That's great. Hope it blossoms into a healthy and serious relationship that you both want.
So happy for you you deserve it.
100% facts.
If interacting with him negatively impacts YOUR mental health, then get out. Save yourself.
I wish someone had told me that years ago.
I recently walked away from a broken man for good. I am having trouble dealing with how much disrespect I tolerated. It physically makes my stomach turn.
Guilty as charged and super ashamed... I refuse to get into another relationship until I've done some solid work on myself... I'm not putting another innocent soul through the job of taking care of my unresolved trauma
Thank you
Ditto. Here’s to ever evolving 😁👍
Ha! Are you still single 😂 It will take me a while to be available again, but I’m building my lighthouse and moving forward
@@jodirussell5962 yup
But there are men who say they want a relationship but are still wounded and end up pulling away. They just want the girlfriend experience but no long commitment.
Yessss
E X A C T L Y
***EXACTLY***
Correct😢
MY EX
I recently noticed, *the older i get the shorter my relationships are* 😂 It doesnt take me nearly as long to catch on and dip out now days.
i know a guy exactly like that. confusion, silence treatment for months, hot-and-cold behavior... it was a torture. and it took me time to realise - it was not me, it was him who was damaged. and it was a very painful experience, because he seemed like a "good guy"... thanks God he is out of my life now. i wish him all the best though. and i will know better next time) thank you, Brian!!!! you are the best!!!
No this well. I wish mine the best too with his addiction and gets well.
I went through hell in the past thinking I was the problem. I chase for validation and closure. Not anymore after I went through a deep shadow work on my relationship and my attachment style. Thank you Lord.
I met a guy online who was a little bit consistent at first after we slept together he became distant sending messages and then taking hours to say anything back. Very distant very avoiding he told me he's not ready for a relationship because he's broken.
I caught myself always waiting for him to reply and it just didn't happen.
Or it happened hours later.
He was very younger than me
But we had chemistry
@@zoew.2253I'm anxious attachment.
I blame myself for his distance disappearing acts and avoiding.
All I did was be loving and kind to him
Funny I met someone like that named Brian. 😮
My last boyfriend was a "vulnerable" covert narcissist. Never saw it coming. He seemed like the most authentic, mature man I'd ever met. Once he had me, he started devaluing and cheating on the DL.
omg yes
You'd think everybody on the internet has dated a covert narcissist. NPD is actually incredibly rare, and only a qualified clinician can diagnose it.
@sunbeamfactory5171 Narcissist are not rare at all, just many undiagnosed ones because they don't think they have a problem, it's always someone else with the problem according to them
@@ladyvirgo013 they are a lot more rare than people claim online. Having full blown NPD is absolutely not the same thing as being a nasty human, nor is it the same as someone who has narcissistic traits. Both of those types of people are CONSTANTLY labelled as narcissists when they simply aren't. I've also been learning about attachment types recently, did you know an avoidant attachment type has an incredibly similar cycle of ghosting/ going cold and then circling back a few months later? An untrained person might mistake that cycle and an avoidant person as a narcissist. They really are a hell of a lot more rare than people make out on the internet. Which is sad for the people who have legitimately had their lives turned upside down by an actual narcissist. It dilutes the severity of truly dealing with one and they are dismissed if they try and speak up
He must be related to my exes
Can’t fix a broken person. Best to move on , get them out of your life and do you . Best revenge is doing nothing at all.
You can only support them in case they are willing to work on their issues. But most of them aren't. They keep hoping that "the right person" will come and magically fix them with their perfect love. But this will probably never happen. At the end one of them or both of them will end up heartbroken and devasted.
Best revenge is to make yourself a priority and become the person you always wanted to be. Don't let these kind of bad experiences taint your good loving heart.
Also take your time for healing and reflecting yourself if you often end up hurt or treated unjust by others.
Absolutely true doing nothing is best and just leave them ....
You perfectly described this man I was seeing who I had to cut loose. Finally got to where he didn’t want to go anywhere or do anything because “whenever you leave the house, you have to spend money.” Women need to understand that when they leave that’s a good thing and cut them off forever.
Amen.
If they don't want to do things, they are focused on self. If they are broke all the time, they need to wait on a relationship until they are prepared to relate in more responsible ways.
I had a similar situation where he didn't want to spend money until he wanted to come to my house and that was crossing boundaries already. I felt uncomfortable coz he didn't earn my trust fully yet. Anyway, this guy is blocked forever.
As a man i kinda agree with him partially, i had an ex who wanted to go out ALL the time and spend money.
U not so important to him as u think men always win because tgey r more lonely women than there is men.
"Even your cat may love him!" - That made me LMAO
I hate how my dog loves my POS narc husband ( soon to be ex husband) . He loves my dog more than me .
true my dog might also have issues like me. he likes these guys too:((
My ex of 5 yrs was a 'childish man'! Very surface level when it came to our relationship. Loved joking, being the center of attention but was useless for everything else. And after a couple of years I was just his mother! Paying all the bills, doing everything for him, and when I brought that up as an issues he would say things like "relax" and "why are you so dramatic?!"
How could you pay for a man? I'm glad you got rid of him.
people need special awareness to avoid these people. parents should do this but often have toxic traits themselves are in codependency
I can tell you that being used by a guy hurts like hell especially when the guy doesn’t want to talk about the fact he used you. Not to mention get frustrated when you’ve brought up the fact you felt used.
If a man isn't in it for marriage, then he's just using you. Period.
@@kelliepatrick519That's so sad what to do ..how to get out or real love and get married ..these wrong ones haunt
True wish some one was der to save me and tell these traits were gonna lead to sadness God saved me I want to feel safe ..he is now with my friend going out enjoying I can't even text or call out ..he won't communicate .or stop him..
My ex is definitely an avoidant, but also emotionally immature. When I brought up the inconsistencies and opted to leave, he wanted to talk, but never initiated the conversation. 2 wks later he decides he needs to fix himself and couldn’t be in a relationship. Cowardly text. Ghosts me then 2 wks later texts he never not wanted to speak to me again. Then ghosts again. At this point he can stay buried. How you leave should respect what you had imo. I’m left dumbfounded because he chased me for 2yrs! Got up to the plate and fumbled. Waste of my time.
My avoidant chased me for 5 years. I’m an FA so I ghosted off and on as well. He ghosted last then came back and ghosted again weeks later smh. 8 weeks no contact and he’s blocked.
As long as you learn from it, it's not wasted.. all the best.
Sounds like a narcissist.
same with me - love bombing for weeks, making plans, texts every night and throughout the day then.....dwindling...then blank. no explanation, ghosted me now for 4 months. PTSD is a relationship wrecker. A broken man most definitely.
This is like my ex but he is more coward and blame me for not reaching out for him in no contact period, when he was the dumper of the relationship like wha--😓
If a man is upfront about not wanting to be in a relationship, please count that as a blessing! Chances are, he'll never be ready! He's going along for the ride and is nothing more than friends with maybe benefits.. You'll be the one left heartbroken and devastated!
They don't have to be upfront... They're rarely upfront... 😊 They pretend they want a relationship, they mirror your interests, use you and leave. My advice is to fuk without any emotional investments... Date multiple people... Never attach. Be free and happy 😊
His upfront about it now, I feel stuck, three years been like this,then last year around August he blocked me, this year in April, he's back, sadly I didn't move on yet, am going back into this old cycle and I find it hard to move on 😭💔 am so inlove with him.
I've been good to him and I don't know why he's treating me like this, I'll try and leave one-day
fwb also doesn't work because they discard you when they got enough emotions and get bored
All of this is absolutely correct. Even the most wise woman can be deceived. I'm learning my lessons but it also makes it hard to trust anyone else. Actions speak louder than words.
Absolutely, but it'll be more simple if it was just men
The sad truth is that if you replace "men" by "women" it is still true
You can't trust anyone until you see how they are when you are in a fight with them, and still, you can't be sure
This is very common unfortunately. I notice it all the time. There's actually a name for it... Woman that invest too much are often codependent without knowing it and it seems extremely hard for these woman to work on this or leave him because of the addictive dynamic. But it can totally destroy her. Glad you bring us more awareness.
Even after identifying my own codependency, working for several years to heal, including CODA, I ended up in another huge mess... narcissistic man-child. Not avoiding my own responsibility, but seems there are just so many of them out there these days. I can usually trace their problems right back to a mother that spoiled them. Mothers, please raise your sons to be men, not children!
narcissists and codependents go together yup, also borderlines and narcissists bc we're born people pleasers
Never ever takes ownership!! Very childish!! Blames me for everything!
It’s easier to find and learn a new hobby than to have a relationship!
Most men emotional broken have mental health issues dating back to childhood issues. Very troubled past and need to start the journey of healing and take time for himself.
yes and they blame ex gfs. mostly it is much deeper imho. that was my experience. I am disorganised and I have dated almost all my life these guys. currently I date anxious guys, this is often worse because they blame me for everything :(
As 51yo man who just found out I may have this. I had no clue until now. My son's mother was with me five years. We had a child together even. Then one day like flipping a switch she just called it all off and never attempted to fix or rekindle. This crushed me as I had never had that happen before and this was my best relationship ever. I had imagined us being together forever. I have been alone every since. I lost mom and dad both the same yr not long ago and then started getting like brutally lonely which now I believe is leading to depression for the first time in my life. I been trying to figure out why I can't connect with anyone and that when I discovered this avoident attachment type. I took a test that says I'm that type but I don't have alot of the symptoms maybe mine has gotten better over time but still not right. I don't recall any issues as a child other than bullying. Now Im worried the loneliness is gonna kill me literally. I wish my ex could have at least communicated the issue so I could have been working on it on along. I hear it takes yrs to fix. My ex replaced me in under a month and was married but divorced all within a yr. She now has 4 baby daddies two don't even claim the kid. Perhaps we both had issues. I found a young like 23yo girl on here the other day that I believe may also be a dismissive avoident and it is so sad. She just wants a genuine connection with someone but can't feel one she says. I'm starting to think this is a much much bigger issue than we realize. I suspect it comes from my being sent to a daycare. It was just one lady but she cared for several kids. Perhaps she had to ignored my cries and I put up a wall as protection and the wall is still standing 51yrs later. I honestly believe I would still be with my ex had she better communicated and worked with me. I would have gone to counseling she never offered and honestly she wouldn't even speak to me and even held my son from me for a year. That really tore up my son more though since we were close back then and saw each other daily. God help us in this depopulation agenda! 🙏
Nurse & mother, here 🙋🏻♀️. Psychologist told me that I was programmed to be a “fixer”, and no matter how good of a nurse I am, I could never fix a man.
I also had a neurologist who prescribed me Topamax for essential tremor. As he was walking out the door he said something I’ll never forget. He said, “I bet that your biggest problem is about 5’9 and 165 pounds.” He was close.. 5’10, 200 pounds and had an Oedipus complex type relationship with his mother! Yeah, he was one of many troubled men that I’ve put up with.
I always found it strange how men want super skinny women
@@moonlightstargem1006 I’ve had that thought too. Then I see the reality that is body shaming, and it’s sad.
That was my mindset growing up, because I wasn’t skinny. I wasn’t huge, but I was a little overweight, especially by the 80’s/90’s kid standards. I hated my body all of my life, because I wasn’t thin. It wasn’t until I got a whole lot older that a couple guys popped up on Facebook to say hi, and to tell me that they used to have a crush on me in high school, but figured I’d never give them a second glance. 🤯 Wow! I really wasted a lot of time hating my body. People are just weird, I guess. Lol
Men just bounce from relationship to relationship as there so bored confused but main prob I feel is they don't learn from their mistake and don't feel they have to - they being the superior of the two sexes ; control insults demands and attitude
@@colmmeade1824 yes, there are some men who do this. I know many! Some women get bored and do the same thing. I’m not really sure why, unless that’s what their parents or older sibling did. 😕
@@TinaRN well I do have a sister who's one
I needed this. I'm in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man. He is really nice at times..but then the other times I don't know him. He start arguments then it's my fault. He yells someone messed u up...but it's him. He shuts down for days..leaving me chasing wanting to know whats wrong or what did I do. This weekend we broke up over the TV. He told me to leave him alone and haven't heard from him in a week. Donr think that I ever will. I'm hurting.
Look for respectful relationships. I'd rather be alone that get yelled at all the time. Find relationships that make you happy with people who treat you well at least most of the time. It's not worth the stress trying to change someone
No one ever says “I’m not ready for a relationship,” to me because they know I wouldn’t sleep with them if they said that.
And that’s y u ask them what they’re looking for before they ask u !! If they turn around and ask u before they answer , name characteristics ur looking for ! Then ask them again . But don’t tell them , what you’re looking for bc then they’ll just pretend . Actions actions, actions ! . Forget what he tells u. What has he shown u ?! Most can’t pretend more than three months .
It was really inconsistent. I was so emotionally invested at the beginning and then I got more distant to protect myself. The inconsistency was still there, but it hurt less. I communicated with him all the time and it didn't do any good. Sad it's over, happy I am without that conflict.
Same thing happened to me, including the detachment (from him) to protect myself.
This is exactly my situation. But I am still in it, I just protect my peace as much as possible
@@kellystanovich3337 you got this! It's hard, but keeping yourself away from it is how to love yourself better.
@kellystanovich3337 is it worth it for you? How do you do it? I want him back and hoping he'd reconsider (we can level set and state boundaries) because he is a good person.
Same with me I will send him a message and it would remain on the one tick for days or he would say good morning I would say something back and his vanished for hours.
Very inconsistent and lots of disappearing acts .
We had sex and he could climax.
I think it was due to his stress levels.
There are so many mentally disturbed people out there who try to enter relationship.
If we are not healed we will internalise there behaviour and blame ourselves
They collect a jar of hearts when they should stop dating or having sex with anyone. He said he wasnt ready and in therapy. I caught feelings and got burned. He was an avoidant dismissive.
My ex was consistent for 7 months, telling me he's a good guy, that he will wait for me to learn to trust him, showing up when needed. Once I started to feel comfortable he completely flipped.
Woke up one day and then suddenly everything was difficult in life, suddenly the things he said he loved about me were an issue, my goals/needs were suddenly an issue and a cause for conflict.
After a year together he just texted me saying he has issues and he can't do it anymore and disappeared.
A good life lesson indeed.
Loving someone who always accuses you of things you didn't do hurts. ALWAYS loving and then always being ridiculed...
I was this emotionally broken woman. Now I’m just honest and say I don’t want a relationship or ready for a relationship. I need to spend more time alone in my own independence before I even consider a serious relationship. I need to heal.
So you need to jump in bed with 10 random dudes?
Proud of you!
Best of luck in your journey! What do you think is needed to be able to heal?
Good for you!!!
@@Dsonsee my ex gf said the same thing, her way of healing was sleeping around
This was really validating. I like that you bring up trauma and attachment styles. I think it's important to remember that while some of these people are completely aware and have no issues using people, a lot of them are in deep denial as a way to cope. Realizing this has helped me move on more cleanly from these types of relationships because I am able to have compassion for them even while seeing how destructive and hurtful their behavior is. When I hold onto anger at them it's hard to move on.
Agreed absolutely, and I'll only add that this video PERFECTLY described my ex - a woman. She had a rough childhood and I had a world of respect for her because she'd carved a life out of one of the worst hands anyone has got. However, she was emotionally stunted, partly because of that childhood but also because of bad experiences with other men as an adult. Any attempt to move from the casual to the serious ended in disaster. I found myself giving a lot more - emotionally, financially, physically - to the relationship than she did. I called it off when I realised she was still on dating apps. The gall of that still shocks me, but she's singing from a well-worn hymn book. More men than women know the words, but the song is not exclusive to one sex and it's important for everyone to be aware of that.
YES!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for this.
That's wonderful advice
Avoidant attachment style - my estranged husband has this and I spent 10 years being patient and thinking I could love him enough… it is exhausting.
I know a guy like the one you were talking about. He goes out with a lot of different women, and he acts like he's in love with each one. He gets them hooked on him and then he keeps them on a string. He lies a lot and is always giving excuses as to why he couldn't call or text them back or see them that night. Once I called him out on always saying he's been "busy." I told him that I had heard a man say that if a guy is always busy, he probably doesn't care much about you, and then he quit contacting me. I believe he's gotten a few women pregnant, too! I'm glad I never got intimately involved with him. He also lies a lot. Thank you for this message. There are many people who could benefit from hearing it! Blessings to you!
God can only fix and heal the life of a broken and lost man. No human being can fix their past traumas except themselves and God.
Very sad 😢 I’ve just recently been seeing a real sweet guy, but yeah he’s been broken. Too hot & cold for me, and I only heard from him when he wanted something from me. Such a shame for we could talk about anything and have a good laugh. But I had to honour my own self worth, self respect & self love. I had no choice but to walk away from him. I hope he finds what he needs to find in order to heal his broken heart.
Bravo, you!
You are so strong.. good for you for following your brain and not your heart.. it’s not always easy! ❤
@@WissemDZLondon oh it was my heart that I followed. The brain/ego would of just kept getting used. It was my heart that reminded me that I deserve better ✨🙏♥️
Broken men are usually unaware they are broken.Some men will tell you they need your love.They almost demand it. Then, once you love them, they have NO PLACE TO PUT IT.Then they will try to destroy you.I suspect they are deeply damaged by and unloved by their mothers.The most emotionally needy men I have been with were all doctors.(They find me across crowded rooms ).I've been called a healer, so I think doctors need healers.
Some great sweeping generalizations there! Well done!
Probably the doctors had substituted their mother's love for workaholism which is demanded in medicine.
😂yikes. Run...
I find i always run into needy women always some emorional bs but love and feelings. Not even jesus wanted tgem fact jesus refuse to deal sexually with women.if most men follow jesus women will be humble.take sex out the equarion women turns up empty.that is why i would advice men to pay for sex and not buy the whole cow.
You could most probably be an empath dear. Start looking after yourself. Also, walk away, if you see the red flags. Don't waste your time. Get a man who loves you.
Some men will never be ready for a relationship!!
Just listening for a brief time confirmed why I don’t want to be “getting back out there,” and dealing w this.
I was am emotionally broken woman. Took me 20 years of living alone to heal enough to consider a relationship
I was going to therapy for 2 months, no resolution. Couldn't put my finger on this guy I was dealing with. Your video literally hit the nail on the head and now I have my own personal closure that I did the right thing by walking away. Thank you ❤
Drug addicts and married men can also disappear and reappear.
NEXT!
these kind of married men should have NEVER married! I don't understand the women they have married, how can't they see what idiot they have married?? I guess they are too anxious. because these guys show it in everyday life. I can say from experience and dated them in loose relationship or fwb. had to break up with them or they ghosted me
They're called borderline, narcissists, and secondary psychopaths. If it's a duck, call it a duck.
Noel?
agree
Ptsd
@@nele8554 there is such thing as CPTSD induced narcissism. And there's not. Psychopaths are born with less grey matter and different circuitry in the white matter. All the rest is manifestations of abuse and neglect.
Not everybody who's an asshole has a personality disorder. Some people are just assholes. Using psychological terminology sloppily helps no one.
My best friend of now 8 years is this man exactly. He had a childhood trauma and hadn’t done the “work” (therapy)…I had to walk away. This video describes him perfectly!!
I was dating this guy “casually” (cause he didn’t want a relationship) for 6 months. He even met my family and friends. (But I never met his) I really liked him but the lack of attention hurt me and I couldn’t even claim for that. So I started going on other dates and when he found out, he got upset. Because apparently he wanted it to be “casual but exclusive” whatever that means
It means he only cares about his own needs at this point. Let him GO!
Yup in that situationship, although I met his family that meant nothing he got mad when I started going ouut with other men. I asked are we exclusive he never answered just that he thought he was "special" and I would not do the things that he and I did. Whatever ninja!
I just vetoed a guy. He’s divorced for a year after a 20-year marriage. He told me his ex is a narcissist but what ge described sounds like she just fell out of love with him. In a way he pinned the failure on her personality disorder, no mention of his own behavior and conduct in the marriage. That is a red flag in my book unless I can get the scoop from the ex to verify.
He’s 64. However he really behaves like a 40 year old. His ego seems easily bruised every time I offer any suggestions. He still relies heavily on his body, looks, and athletic prowess (he’s a triathlete). I am some years younger than him but I have stopped relying on my looks and body 10 years ago. Now I am grateful to be healthy and mobile.
He puts up a friendly gregarious and energetic front, subtly flaunting his triathlon achievements and cars. Unfortunately I don’t place high value on what he values the most. Thankfully I took time to put him at arm’s length to observe and listen. After 2 months I lost interest and permanently friend zone him.
He sounds like a Natcissist himself. They always trash talk their exes.
@@vkrgfanso true
This is totally my ex. I kicked him out because of how he was treating me, I was losing myself. He turns it around and now he's the victim and says I don't care about him. Buys me a promise ring... Says I'm his world, yet has to look at women online in bikinis and lied to me when he gets caught... Then says since your accusing me I my as well go f*** someone. The mind games were terrible. He's still trying to get me back.
RUN!!!!!!!
I can't believe this spot-on, insightful video popped up in my feed the day after I had to break things off! Last night, I was in painful despair, this morning I felt numb. After watching this and reading many comments, I now believe I dodged a bullet. Lovely man, but his incongruent behavior was messing with my self-esteem. So glad I prioritzed my mental health. Thank you everyone for helping me feel grateful so quickly!
Brilliant, AGAIN !!!
"Right on the money"...
"When you feel DRAINED after a date"...Walked away !!!
Nox, you just described my ex.
He was a broken man when we met, his ex wife cheated on him when he was young and newlywed, his last gf cheated on him for months before he found out.
He lost his belief in himself as a man.
He once told me I "forced" confidence on him.
I didn't.
I just stimulated what was already there, and helped him rebuild it.
In return he broke up and went on a banging spree, before going back to his cheating ex gf.
This was after testing me to see what kind of abuse I would put up with.
It backfired on him and caused him to leave.
I told him he got the woman he deserved, wished him all the best, good luck and the life he deserves.
The ironic thing is that he told on himself several times, and at the time I was so confused that I didn't see it.
Now I do.
When you hurt a good woman, you end up with the bitch you deserve.
I wish him all the best of luck.
He's gonna need it.
You are right. Men newly divorced are hard to get to close to emotionally. Then there are men cruising for sex only ...they move too fast. Also widowers are bad news till they heal.
Widowers are terrible news. I just tried dating one and he used me for sex but pretended that he loved me and could finally move forward because he met me. Just as fast as he came into my life, he was gone. He said he felt like he had another child. The ironic part is he was the one getting drunk every night… he was the one who couldn’t talk about emotions. And yet, I was the immature one? He felt like he has another child bc he asked me if I wanted him to make me breakfast and I said okay and he toasted me a bagel? Unbelievable. I should’ve listened to my instincts and that this man was trouble.
@@presidentamanda7468 Psychological projection is a helluva drug. People who do this are utterly broken and toxic
All men cruise for sex... Sorry... ;)
Wow that’s so rude
How Rude ... The only men I met want sex and that's all ...
I dated the last type - emotionally childish man. You are spot on. He’s 41, professionally accomplished. Poor thing, probably spent all his time on his career but not on personal dev’t and his relationship with people. But I wish him the best.
Same here! He is the same age. Good guy, fun a lnd sweet but Emotionally childish and broken. Releasing him with love & prayers. I’m glad I woke up at the 6th month and didn’t prolong dating him. I never felt closeness when we’re apart, things are always surface level. Then later I learned he has fear of abandonment maybe from 2 failed engagements (from his soc medposts) which was in public years ago. :(
I was with a manchild for the past year and a half who exhibited all of these qualities . He would stonewall me whenever I expressed my emotions or tell me I was overreacting . He also blew hot and cold . Doesn’t want to work on himself but just blamed everything on me
It’s really cool to find people who actually want to be better. It’s sick how people really just use people… try to “confuse you” to make you stay. Fk that.
Everyone value yourselves and say NO. If it doesn’t feel good, it’s not meant for you and that’s that!
This was perfect! Please continue this work. It’s important that victims of unevolved men know they are not alone and it’s not them, it’s the broken man child.
Broken child syndrome
This is avoidant behavior and it is a painful, destructive roller coaster. If they are not in recovery and actively seeking to repair this damage, it is pointless. Don't even waste your time fantasizing about how good it could be. Look at the man in front of you and ask yourself if you can live with him, as he is, if nothing changes. Then leave, because odds are, that change is never going to come and your self esteem will be the price you pay.
Wow, this is exactly what my recent ex is like. He was a total user! He acted so loving, affectionate, love bombed me and told me I was everything to him but my client found him on a dating app while we were dating and of course I chose to believe him. But then, I found out recently that he matched with another one of my clients while we were still together. He’s never taken responsibility for any of the things he did and in response, he would gaslight me and tell me it was in my head instead of fessing up to the truth and in such denial, he would rage at me calling me names and blaming me for things that came out of left field to deflect from what he was doing to me, which was cheating on me.
Narcissist! RUN!
Take as much time as you need to heal from the last relationship. Heal until you are whole! Then, if you choose to do so begin to
look for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential
My table is SET and yours should be as well. you got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife!
When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to beg and chase anyone to sit down and eat!
What category do they belong in? Partner, project, parasite or pond? Putting people in the wrong category will mess your life up! Pain prevention is tied to people being properly placed in your life y'all!!
u r so right! I wish i could go back in time and not make the mistake i am having to live with now. Ladies you are worth a good man. Stop settling for these f boys that have no ambition, no future plans. all they want is their porn. let them have it. Move on and find a real man of God.
I like this. I’ve never heard of a “pond” in this context. Can you explain that to me please?
A pond is a general catch all area
@@missjackie7983 thank you! Makes sense
This is fantastic advice. It is hard to say goodbye to someone like this, especially when you've already made that connection. But it's for the best. Open yourself up to someone who isn't dealing with issues like these.
Wow, I went out with a guy, he ghosted me after three dates. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship, by the way, this worked out more in my favor. He seemed more interested in sex than me as a person. I put in a healthy boundary and he backed way up. The red flags and his behavior told me all I needed to know.
This just came at the right time as I was praying for an answer for the behavior of a man I’ve been interested in. Not a bad guy but he is very inconsistent in his behavior towards me. He will show interest for a while then treat me like he doesn’t know me. Most of his friends are married women. It’s very strange and exhausting.
Run!!!
@@juliafisher5844 AMEN, YES, I'D RUN!!!!
Spot on, Brian! As usual, you never disappoint! I finally escaped from a bipolar, up-and-down, year-long relationship. This guy looked good on paper but after 8 months, I realized I was feeling more and more confused and unsafe. He always made excuses for his wrongdoing and even blamed me for "making him" break into and search through my phone! Your wisdom has made me wiser and I will no longer wait so long to run from these wolves in sheep's clothing!
According to Eckhart Tolle and his wife Kim, 'there is no such thing as a relationship; there is only relating or not relating.' We only have the present moment.
Eckhart Tolle is a demonic weirdo
No we have the future too. Don’t be deceived into wrong thinking by the likes of New Agers such as Tolle who doesn’t actually say anything of significance when you examine his claims. Of course we live in the present moment because God gave us the gift of time. And tick tock tick tock time moves on so we keep getting new present moments. We can’t live in the past because we’re always going forward and we’re creating our future. Every next moment is the future until it becomes right now.
My partner of nine years did this to me over and over.
Every three years he would betray me with traumatic infidelity living double lifes, but keeping me there the entire time. Pathological liar,
And targeted single mothers. Until he got me pregnant, now has ran off with the single mother with a two year old son. His mother had a history of this too, she raised another woman’s kids over her own and detached from her own kids.
Now I know why his behaviour is confusing and used me for years without communicating of his double life.
Thanks for going to this distance to get yalls point across! Ik what i should have done and im paying for not doing it everyday! I loved him beyond words and was sent to help him heal and he was suppose to do the same for me every unfortunately he hasnt! I believed in him that he could turn our lives around with Gods help but he stayed on the other side and i believed he had seen the light and had begun healing. I believed he would see his mistakes if i held on and remained by his side. There were so many others telling me lies about how he felt about me. Ive asked for help and Noone came and he doesn't care aparently because im still here and hes still acting the same and doing Nothing to help heal our marriage. All it needed was his love. He can reply to people everywhere but Never to the one who poured their heart out to and for him. I will begin to find a place to go so ue can have the life he refuses to let go of and whatever woman hes chosen over me! Thank you Mark for allowing things to get this far apart instead of being the man ik you were inside and helping to repair the best thing youll Ever have that you chose to tear into pieces instead of hold onto and love like i believed you would!!
Definitely explains why I am experiencing the things that I have with this man I am with. I will not reparent, try to rescue, or continue to try to counsel, or reason.. and all I know is I have my emotional health to protect. I love this man and what you spoke about resonates deeply. Thank you. ❤
when a person is broken and he/she wants to heal - then there are chances you can do it together. when that healing process is not yet so far that a realationship is possible then it is possibly better for both people to not have one. it is just too exhausting yet - it just still needs time without (false) expectations. thank you brian for this video!!
I dealt with someone like this for a couple of months cut him loose after 2 months when the disrespect and dismissive behavior started to happen a little too frequently for my liking now he walks around our job trying to flirt with different women in front of me meanwhile I be thinking “That is one hurt fella there 😕” ladies leave at the first sign trust me
Avoidant men can pull away, even though they are interested. Sad truth.
This was an extremely helpful and enlightening video. Although my relationship with an emotionally broken man is in the past this was the confirmation i needed. Throughout the relationship I was aware of the red flags but I was hopeful I was mistaken. I see it now and I see that men like that are indeed not for me. Thank you!!🙏
You forgot the well known one: "I don't think I can give you what you need"... As if he knew what I need! They remember to say it a little late (avoidant case here).
I wish I had seen your videos years ago when I was dating. I came across the wrong man so many times because I couldn't recognise the signs. If I had a daughter in her early 20s, I'd suggest she watch your videos. And your advice is good for men too who end up dating the wrong women. So much valuable information in your videos 🖤