Put a Ring on It: Why Masculina's are Proposing to Men!

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Комментарии • 516

  • @r_elyaqub8214
    @r_elyaqub8214 3 года назад +525

    Women who ask men to marry them don't understand that if you have to ask him to marry you, then that's a big hint that he does not see you as wife material and so doesn't want to marry you. The best thing to do is to gather whatever shred of dignity you have left and walk out of that relationship.

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +29

      Society is backwards now the thing's us men supposed to do woman are doing now...he who finds a wife finds a good thing words from the lord and my father,I don't like this era of relationships it's going backwards

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +10

      @@illmeeillmee9373 yeah it's crazy I think it's because social media and this music brainwashed people this music is about being pimp not about love social media is brainwashed that's why I don't have one..being inlove with a woman now is soft simping and weak smh

    • @gqptyu
      @gqptyu 3 года назад +3

      But what if he says yes?

    • @maiamiimaiam4343
      @maiamiimaiam4343 3 года назад +3

      You know Khadija asked Muhammad for marriage first right?

    • @r_elyaqub8214
      @r_elyaqub8214 3 года назад +7

      @@maiamiimaiam4343 yes I do. But she wasn't his "girlfriend" whom he was seeing over a period of time, and she'd had to make the move to ask him to marry her because he was never going to. Obviously my comment is based on the context of relationships in our times where men enjoy almost all wifely duties from women without marrying them or even necessarily having any intention to marry them.

  • @Tonka1913
    @Tonka1913 3 года назад +1266

    I used to be a masculina. And as Chloe described I was burned out. Working 10 hrs a day with a beautiful toddler at home I was missing out on. This channel saved my marriage. Chloe asked me what I wanted in her fb group and I had NO clue. I figured out what I wanted and told my husband that I didn’t want to work anymore. That I was exhausted and I missed my son. Not only was he ok with it. He accepted an out of state position that allowed him to do what he loved without my financial assistance. He said me being home has allowed him to take more opportunities because he can focus. He randomly calls me pretty. I used to have to ask him if he noticed. He takes the lead and spends on me. If I’m stressed, he tells me to take a nap and spends one on one time with our son. I’m so glad I let go of role reversal. My man even stands different. 👀💃🏾💚

    • @Mrs-O
      @Mrs-O 3 года назад +139

      This is amazing! See how easy that was? Let men be men!

    • @bewitched9408
      @bewitched9408 3 года назад +112

      Chloe is out here saving marriages🤗

    • @ms.x1669
      @ms.x1669 3 года назад +25

      I absolutely love this ♥️

    • @Hottywithasoul
      @Hottywithasoul 3 года назад +57

      ‘ He even stands different’ wow!!!!

    • @theselfcarechannel9895
      @theselfcarechannel9895 3 года назад +15

      Omg! This is amazing! Thanks for sharing!! ❤

  • @missgoodenergy
    @missgoodenergy 3 года назад +858

    “if a man is not chasing you, you are not his dream girl....” YIKESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS 😫🥴

    • @wandayvette2711
      @wandayvette2711 3 года назад +57

      Hard truth, ugh

    • @missgoodenergy
      @missgoodenergy 3 года назад +18

      @@wandayvette2711 definitely. 🥺

    • @wandayvette2711
      @wandayvette2711 3 года назад +23

      @@LilithTheAquarian369 Sometimes I think that part of the problem has to do with how some girls are taught to go into the world and act like men. Be aggressive, assertive yourself, take control of your destiny, or my favorite 'you can have it all'. If you are brought up to have this energy, then you will begin to think that all areas of your life should be about taking control of every situation. You will jump ahead of a man and get down one knee asking him to marry you because this is how you move through life. She will either be code switching going back and forth between being a masculina and a feminine woman. Turning it on just in the presence of your man. This has to be tough to try and maintain both at the same time. Or she will learn to live in her feminine all the time and in every way. When you live in your feminine 24/7, it would never cross your mind to ever propose to a anyone. Living in your feminine has to be your way of life as well a mindset.

    • @diosa.loba333
      @diosa.loba333 3 года назад +22

      i personally am no mans dream girl. i am my own dream girl. as a whole, men typically don't have a vivid enough imagination to create a woman as complex and beautiful as women naturally are. to me, an idea of a mans dream girl is developed from superficial physicalities and what a woman can do for them. it's stems from narcissism (seeing women as extensions of themselves). even though we women are all unique in our own way, we are all magical beings full of depth and are born with superior healing power. we create our own dream girls, not men.
      men know we have this power, so they rely on manipulation, coercion, and systemic misogyny to force women to lower our standards and self esteem. they know that on their own, with their individual personalities, they’re useless and worthless and not worth shit, so they rely on constantly manipulating women (usually about our appearance/age because they know that’s the one thing in society women are taught to value above all else) in order to get what they want.
      we are goddesses. we attract, we never chase.

    • @missgoodenergy
      @missgoodenergy 3 года назад +2

      @@diosa.loba333 first of all, you are absolutely gorgeous..... secondly, I had to screenshot your response, because you are spot on!

  • @melinda9798
    @melinda9798 3 года назад +882

    I would literally rather count every grain of sand on the beach TWICE than propose to a man. 🥴

    • @foxyboop4164
      @foxyboop4164 3 года назад +131

      I'd rather sweep that beach after you've counted the grains‼️‼️‼️💅🏽

    • @everyonedeservestogohome2949
      @everyonedeservestogohome2949 3 года назад +16

      Chiiiiile

    • @Denisenyc54
      @Denisenyc54 3 года назад +11

      Amen

    • @mahoganyempress9054
      @mahoganyempress9054 3 года назад +79

      While you're counting Melinda, I'll be drinking the entire ocean with a straw!

    • @hayaatiilove
      @hayaatiilove 3 года назад +52

      and i'll be making the new straws so the ocean shall be slurped upon

  • @pop8612
    @pop8612 3 года назад +537

    No women propose from a position of security in herself or the relationship. Proposing to man is an act of desperation.

  • @nashonharris7805
    @nashonharris7805 3 года назад +294

    The only time I get on my knees is to pray.

  • @Amorantasia1
    @Amorantasia1 3 года назад +535

    Listen, as women we don’t have the power to marry a man. A man is the one who chooses to marry us but we can accept or reject. That’s just LIFE

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +23

      Yeah that's supposed to be us men job

    • @pthesmith
      @pthesmith 3 года назад +4

      @@myextrachannelireallydontn4155 Women teach the children because we were given wisdom.

    • @pthesmith
      @pthesmith 3 года назад +11

      @@myextrachannelireallydontn4155 Women need men for protection and provision...while we nurture and teach the next generation.

    • @ThandsTV
      @ThandsTV 3 года назад +1

      I disagree with you. If we say we are equal then we can propose.
      P.S. I actually don’t believe in proposing. I think this should be a conversation between the couple.

    • @Amorantasia1
      @Amorantasia1 3 года назад +16

      @@ThandsTV we aren’t equal because it was never our role to provide and protect men by nature. I’m not trying to be a man nor take on his role lol I’ll take being pampered, protected, and taken care of for $500 Alex! (Of course we can work too though IF we want)

  • @melissar637
    @melissar637 3 года назад +435

    "In a man's mind, a placeholder will do until the woman he really wants shows up." Cold, hard truth bomb right there. 💣

    • @breesan4446
      @breesan4446 3 года назад +51

      This is sooo true for most women in my life including myself when we don't like a guy we can only date him for so long before we break up with him. Some women are able to have placeholders but generally speaking most women will only fake it for soo long. Men on the other hand will even marry a placeholder and leave home one day and never come back home.

    • @thpuma2589
      @thpuma2589 Год назад +1

      Yep 💯

    • @favourafinni
      @favourafinni 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@breesan4446 You're right. Men don't marry for love. They just marry who is available at the time they are ready.

  • @kathyalex778
    @kathyalex778 3 года назад +499

    ​Ladies YOU HOLD THE POWER! Stop having relationships and KIDS with dusties and their kind will DIE OUT. Go to therapy if you need to if you grew up with a masculine mom and dusty father. Break the cycle and you will be thankful for it.

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 3 года назад +22

      Exactly!👏🏽

    • @remixtape3677
      @remixtape3677 3 года назад +18

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤

    • @lkofie6670
      @lkofie6670 3 года назад +40

      I agree. But unfortunately, people of today would rather normalize dysfunction to feel included or secure with their poor life choices than revert back to tradition.

    • @blahjdjdkndbc
      @blahjdjdkndbc 3 года назад +34

      please pin this. sis said if we don't have children with dusties they will die out!

    • @DarthFurie
      @DarthFurie 3 года назад +6

      Amen

  • @Amorantasia1
    @Amorantasia1 3 года назад +421

    PickMeisha’s gone wild! I’ll never forget the cringe I felt when Chrissy Lampkin proposed to Jim Jones ON NATIONAL TV & he still hasn’t married her 10 years later smh!

    • @princessm8977
      @princessm8977 3 года назад +34

      Yes!! That was horrible!! I hope she realizes her worth and leaves him. There is still hope. 😭

    • @OneSyteria
      @OneSyteria 3 года назад +36

      I was so confused when she did that! I’m even more puzzled 🤨 by her still being with him. A beautiful woman but chasing a dusty like JJ. Sadly, I once thought he was a catch. I’ve grown since that time, thankfully! 😅

    • @latoyabanks5175
      @latoyabanks5175 3 года назад +25

      Yeah,she PLAYED herself,Majorly,🤭

    • @allartismental9319
      @allartismental9319 3 года назад +23

      Not only that, but his response was: I'M WITH YOU!💀💀💀😭😭😭

    • @Amorantasia1
      @Amorantasia1 3 года назад +35

      @@OneSyteria yesss! I used to love him and I used to love an ol handsome hood gangsta ninja but I’ve definitely leveled up my mentality and I could never date a dusty anymore 🙅🏽‍♀️

  • @Ang_Nicole
    @Ang_Nicole 3 года назад +444

    Confession time...I’ve NEVER proposed to a man, but, I did chase somebody’s son from 13-19. He took everything I was willing to give & never looked back. I know it’s all on me, & now that I’ve been in therapy & following Chloe’s advice, at 23 years old I no longer chase anyone. So thank you Chloe, I appreciate you for calling out this thirsty behavior! I promise I won’t go back to who I was as a teen!

    • @kayp9318
      @kayp9318 3 года назад +91

      You were a baby. Teenage years don’t even count because no one knows what the hell they’re doing yet

    • @princessm8977
      @princessm8977 3 года назад +51

      @@kayp9318 You are right. Your brain is so far from being fully developed, before 21 doesn't count. Self forgiveness and grace, but also keeping in mind that we just didn't know better at those ages.

    • @ms.x1669
      @ms.x1669 3 года назад +26

      If you have a generous heart you've go to have limits because takers don't have any! ♥️

    • @kathyalex778
      @kathyalex778 3 года назад +11

      God bless you and congrats on growing and learning from mistakes. ❤️

    • @pscih7149
      @pscih7149 3 года назад +11

      You're not alone at all. I'm 21 and did something a bit similar with a HS bf. Cheers to growth!

  • @BarbieDawl.__
    @BarbieDawl.__ 3 года назад +657

    I’ll never want a man more than he wants me. I’m too beautiful and a sweet person for that

  • @foxyboop4164
    @foxyboop4164 3 года назад +255

    I'm not sure these misguided women understand how this will affect their daughters in the future? It's like they're not even concerned with the fact that they're setting their daughters up to believe that the man is the prize. They don't stand a snowballs chance at self esteem.

  • @kay-annclarke9501
    @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +353

    Respect is a man's love language. A man cannot love a woman who does not respect herself. Proposing to a man is telling the man that HE is the prize, that YOU have no respect for yourself, and that you dont see yourself as valuable. It is the beginning of the end.

    • @queenbbeaute2654
      @queenbbeaute2654 2 года назад +2

      Facts if u don't see urself as valuable why should he see u as valuable

  • @Alex-hj1vk
    @Alex-hj1vk 3 года назад +203

    Emasculated men, especially those with nothing to lose, are DANGEROUS! You will lose everytime. Preach please!!

    • @KOLAkola
      @KOLAkola 3 года назад +9

      Right it will be like raising a son as a single mother

    • @kara_tee
      @kara_tee 3 года назад +8

      F A C T

    • @queenbbeaute2654
      @queenbbeaute2654 2 года назад

      Be aware cuz they plot on women with kids specifically because they hip to the assistance we can get ....they know all about assistance because they moms were on it so they go in survival of plotting on us to live off of us

  • @lisacampbell7459
    @lisacampbell7459 3 года назад +87

    If a man won't propose move on to someone who will. A man usually knows if you are "the one " early in the relationship. If he never bring up the topic of marriage with you, then you are wasting your time.

  • @CrystalArkia
    @CrystalArkia 3 года назад +89

    Having a husband will never in life be that serious. I would never humiliate myself by proposing to a man.

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +2

      Society is backwards now

    • @CrystalArkia
      @CrystalArkia 3 года назад +1

      @@NorthPhilly-zr7xc very backwards.

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад

      @@CrystalArkia are you a spiritual person

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад

      @@myextrachannelireallydontn4155 wym by what did I gainey

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад

      @@myextrachannelireallydontn4155 oh ok.....alot to treat my woman and wife right when I meet one

  • @veeedgee
    @veeedgee 3 года назад +163

    It breaks my heart everytime I see this because it screams "I DONT KNOW MY WORTH"🗣🗣😓

  • @ClaireHaire
    @ClaireHaire 3 года назад +244

    *How you start the relationship sets the tone for the future.* The sad thing is that people still do not understand human nature, even from a physical standpoint , women are not meant to do the majority of the labor. Today's Men & Women can fight it as much as they want but, biologically men do not feel right if they are being provided for and *women will burn out.*

    • @volitionspark2686
      @volitionspark2686 3 года назад +7

      Yes, thank you!

    • @kershamartin7353
      @kershamartin7353 3 года назад +10

      You assualt a true man"s masculinity by providing for him. A true man provides for his family.

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +11

      Society is backwards now

    • @queenbbeaute2654
      @queenbbeaute2654 2 года назад +1

      Facts cuz naturally we don't have as much iron aka energy as men so its naturally we get burned out fast being masculina has made my aunt age terrible 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @LadyDiva3
    @LadyDiva3 3 года назад +80

    Just this past wknd, my partner was telling me a story that happened to his cousin. They attended a funeral and the next day his cousin received a call from an unknown number. Turns out it was a woman who also attended that same funeral, she saw the cousin and was attracted. She proceeded to inquire abt him, got his number and called him the next talking she likes him and she'll like them to go out on a date!!! I almost threw up !
    Needless to say he's been avoiding her calls and is not interested!!!
    Can u say second hand embarrassment 🙄🙄😫

    • @OLatreil
      @OLatreil 3 года назад +28

      He must be a masculine man. But I've been hearing some guys I say they like when women shoot their shot because it takes the pressure off of them. I honestly used to think this way before I learned better, and now things are different for me in the love department.

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 3 года назад +19

      That’s so embarrassing and humiliating...😳

    • @foxyboop4164
      @foxyboop4164 3 года назад +35

      If he was attracted to her, he would've pursued her 🤷🏾‍♀️ We are just out here doing too damn much.

    • @LadyDiva3
      @LadyDiva3 3 года назад +14

      @@OLatreil yeah he's s masculine man. Responsible and paying all the bills kinda a guy.

    • @LadyDiva3
      @LadyDiva3 3 года назад +3

      @@foxyboop4164 EXACTLY !

  • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
    @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 3 года назад +73

    No m'am! I had this discussion the other day amongst a group of men in their 30's and 40's. The general consensus is that men _do not_ want to be proposed to and would feel emasculated if a woman did so.

    • @moneylineparlay105
      @moneylineparlay105 3 года назад +2

      Of course they don't , they most likely don't plan to marry at all

    • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
      @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 3 года назад +7

      @@moneylineparlay105 The majority of men in the group I was referring to do want to get married or have already been married before. The message was clear that if he doesn't ask, he's not ready to or doesn't want to marry that particular woman. Either way, I agree that a woman shouldn't be doing the asking especially not on bended knee.

    • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
      @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 3 года назад

      Ma'am*

  • @ferociouscherub9819
    @ferociouscherub9819 3 года назад +66

    Chrissy is now 50, unmarried, playing house with Dusty Rapper Jim Jones. 🥴

  • @deborahsingh2011
    @deborahsingh2011 3 года назад +40

    I had a friend who told me a girl who he was with at the time proposed to him while we were in college. He politely turned her down then told me how uncomfortable
    and awkward he felt because that's not how it goes.
    He later did get married to a woman he proposed too.

  • @__badlilvibe9006
    @__badlilvibe9006 3 года назад +129

    Saw a picture on Instagram of a heavily pregnant woman on her knee proposing to her baby daddy and it made me cringe💀💀

    • @Itsmarylynn
      @Itsmarylynn 3 года назад +19

      🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @candyl.8213
      @candyl.8213 3 года назад +39

      Wow, really? This just keeps getting worse. She's carrying HIS child and SHE'S the one kneeling on the ground?? Ugh. I didn't see this and hopefully I don't. Too cringy.

    • @__badlilvibe9006
      @__badlilvibe9006 3 года назад +13

      @@candyl.8213 She looked about 6 months pregnant and proposed to her man on the beach 😂

    • @shannongray-chappell6082
      @shannongray-chappell6082 3 года назад +42

      Oh yesssssss! I saw this too.
      She was holding her stomach while proposing and the dude had his hand over his mouth. Ewwwww.
      I was like WTF!

    • @kiduchiha5098
      @kiduchiha5098 3 года назад +3

      🤣🤣🤣

  • @theselfcarechannel9895
    @theselfcarechannel9895 3 года назад +85

    Jim Jones went off on a reporter and asked her, "are you married...is your mother married"? I felt bad for the girl. If the man dont want to marry you, he wont. Period!

    • @mmbbee
      @mmbbee 3 года назад +5

      @@hoodrat279 exactly! deep down he knows he doesn't have any leadership skills to be a good husband & he doesn't have any masculinity in himself so he has to seek it in a woman smh...

  • @christines9227
    @christines9227 3 года назад +69

    Lord this is what the world has come to? 🤦‍♀️
    I would never 👎 I remember when my late husband ask me to marry him. It was so romantic. It was at a beautiful seafood restaurant on the beach in Florida.we stayed together until he passed away from cancer 2 years ago. I miss him everyday but he left us very comfortable. I’ll be damn if I take my money and take care of a man. My aunt is living this nightmare now. She has a dusty that smokes trees all day and wait for her to come home with her paycheck 😂. I told her not to marry him. That’s why she miserable .😖 because she’s tired of footing the bill. 💗 thanks Chloe

  • @kimberlynicole9888
    @kimberlynicole9888 3 года назад +184

    Yes Chloe a woman getting on one knee is out of pocket and high key begging. And I hate to see woman especially black women doing this. I love what you said about “A Dream Girl” and if you’re not his dream girl he won’t climb a mountain for you. So ladies we’re not climbing mountains for no male!

  • @rachelyoung2072
    @rachelyoung2072 3 года назад +103

    Apparently this trend is huge because Tiffany&Co has started selling engagement rings for men. 😲

    • @rebeccasharpe879
      @rebeccasharpe879 3 года назад +81

      Rachel young. Companies will sell anything if they get enough stupid people to buy it.

    • @SimplyTrishx
      @SimplyTrishx 3 года назад +19

      Yuk 🤮

    • @saracruze2212
      @saracruze2212 3 года назад +20

      @@rebeccasharpe879 LOL say it again cause gullible people will fall for anything!!!!!!

    • @candyl.8213
      @candyl.8213 3 года назад +9

      Ew

    • @ndgostardust645
      @ndgostardust645 3 года назад +33

      Hail naw. To the naw, naw, naw

  • @Femininelovevibes
    @Femininelovevibes 3 года назад +88

    Sometimes it’s better to walk away than to feel less than while in a situation. I was that woman. I desperately wanted a relationship. I walked away. He came crawling back begging pleading, I promised myself I would never spend a nickel on him again. I worked on myself and my feminine energy. Life is too beautiful to waste on a other person that isn’t in a good place.

  • @CocoaAlmondJoy
    @CocoaAlmondJoy 3 года назад +60

    "Oh no, oh no, oh no, no, no!!!" I will not being doing THAT.

  • @AnonVocals
    @AnonVocals 3 года назад +169

    I’ll propose to a man when the egg starts chasing the sperm.. Proposing or chasing a man is like literally going against nature.. 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @Suh6727
    @Suh6727 3 года назад +27

    "If you are not the one for him it also means that he is not the one for you." So simple but yet so impactful. Great message!!

  • @inanewyorkminutechannel
    @inanewyorkminutechannel 3 года назад +89

    "If you are not the one for him, he is not the one for you." It's sounds simple, but this is a profound statement, sometimes hard to see when you're in your feelings, but later on never fails to be true. Rejection is God's protection..be thankful..trust!

    • @queenbbeaute2654
      @queenbbeaute2654 2 года назад

      This why its important for us to think logical like a man instead of being and moving off are feelings and emotions!

    • @chantellcampbell9063
      @chantellcampbell9063 2 года назад

      Amen sister 🙏

  • @cc_chi123
    @cc_chi123 3 года назад +69

    SUCH an important video for women! Soooo so important to learn this lesson that a man WiLL waste your time and not feel remorse at all about taking and and getting his. Most of them don't feel guilty because they feel you should be smart enough to know but if you aren't... oh well that's on YOU. I definitely wasted years on 1 man at a time hoping for a return on my investment and ended up with nada. Don't do the girlfriend trap... it is a trap! Know your value... don't take yourself off the market for looooong periods of time ever or until he takes himself off the market and that is not "boyfriend' status. That is a RING, a wedding, and signed papers!

    • @Itsmarylynn
      @Itsmarylynn 3 года назад +2

      👏🏾👏🏾

    • @queenbbeaute2654
      @queenbbeaute2654 2 года назад

      Facts u said it just like they dusty a$$es would 💯🤣 "dat's on You"

  • @justyb2209
    @justyb2209 3 года назад +55

    “Is it a manipulative form of BEGGING?” When you put it like that, erm kinda! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 I LOVE this Channel!

    • @marleeshore1387
      @marleeshore1387 3 года назад +4

      I think this may be a symptom of codepency - hallmarks of which are control & manipulation. It’s incredibly vulnerable to trust a man to lead and requires healing your trauma

  • @user-of9bx1uk3u
    @user-of9bx1uk3u 3 года назад +69

    💖💕💖Spot on Chole!💖💕💖
    Men and women are not the same and will never ever be the same.🤗

  • @marleeshore1387
    @marleeshore1387 3 года назад +67

    Women need to stop putting all their eggs in one basket and start roster dating

    • @orubek355
      @orubek355 3 года назад +1

      Better.

    • @orubek355
      @orubek355 3 года назад

      @@anyamiranda9452 You are right. So far with OLD I had trouble building a roster because I don't get second dates. Rejection is hard.

  • @riagreen9294
    @riagreen9294 3 года назад +75

    6:26 “This will make a man who doesn’t want to marry you turn into a runner and a track star.” @Chloe_ that took me out 😂😂😂😂

  • @try8042
    @try8042 2 года назад +4

    My mother used to always say, “Never chase a man. A man will always approach you and take the lead. At 37 I don’t plan on changing that now.

  • @pamellatofu4966
    @pamellatofu4966 3 года назад +61

    I don't understand why women's empowerment is always linked to men somehow. Women's empowerment isn't about competition between men and women. It's just about helping women remove social structural barriers that prevent them from doing what they want in their careers and in society. Romance is a completely different thing. I think it would be best if people separated their political agenda from their love life. Rather find what works for your relationship (through communication) instead of assuming the way you go about your movement is going to be fine with your partner.
    I don't know how men view marriage but it makes sense why it can be a turn-off to see a woman propose. If as a man you've always viewed proposing to your partner as the ultimate achievement, after having spent so much time impressing the person to the point where they declare to the world that you're the sh*t by saying yes publicly, I can sort of imagine how having that taken from you would be extremely problematic for the relationship.
    All I took from this video is "don't force things. If he wants you he'll claim you.. Period"
    Thank you so much Chloe for yet another hit ! I'm in my first proper relationship now and I'm super excited about it.
    One thing I've noticed is that masculine men listen to what you say and they hear something you probably didn't realise has implications.
    I was talking to my boyfriend about my brother who's in the UK now and in my mind I'm sharing some family stuff like I usually do. But based on his responses I think he took it as if I was saying I'm from a well-off family and he really needs to financially impress me.
    I'm not even spoiled at home but if that's what he heard then I am here for it !

  • @markeetamakesmagic
    @markeetamakesmagic 3 года назад +10

    You don’t know how happy i am that i found your channel in my 20’s. i’ve been watching for about a year now & you’ve taught me things my mother never could. thank you ❤️

  • @Hispaniola.
    @Hispaniola. 3 года назад +23

    Ladies if you ever have to go that low for a man he is not worth it, save yourself the time and energy. ‼️💯

  • @lifepatiently
    @lifepatiently 3 года назад +41

    As the average woman seemed to be "ready" faster than a man, a man that loves and desire to be with a woman for the rest of his life knows when they're ready. Waiting is normal for some it's longer but a man always knows if they wants to make one their wife or not... Getting engaged shouldn't be an actual surprised, like some discussions usually arise before the event so I feel like woman that propose are pushing a narrative the man isn't ready for. I heard in an other talk that a man will date someone 3,5,10 + years and still '' looking for his wife'' so we sometimes need to realize they will never do it and move on even if it hurts and means starting over again.

    • @kay-annclarke9501
      @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +8

      Yes dear. This is where many women make a mistake. Dating a man for 2 years or more without a marriage proposal and marriage date

    • @kay-annclarke9501
      @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +7

      And giving a man wife benefits without a man having even proposing. It is unwise and it really spells desperation. Many women do not realise that men typically marry for three reasons- and none of those are love. They are:
      1. Desperation - This means they feel like they might lose their dream woman in some way. Sometimes the woman has another option in the picture or maybe she is thinki g of migrating or something like that. He will marry her to lock her down so to speak.
      2. Duty - If a man is spiritual or religious he will marry for duty because that is what is family expects or his religious community expects. He will not risk losing the favour or respect from his family/community. If he was brought up spiritual/ religious he will also marry a woman who he gets pregnant out of duty.
      3. Status/Money- Men will marry a woman if he sees her as an asset. If she is wealthy OR if she elevates his status at work or in the society in some way.

    • @kay-annclarke9501
      @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +15

      The reason men are not proposing is because they do not have to. Many women are desperate and giving away their bodies for free to men who have not earned it.

    • @kay-annclarke9501
      @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +14

      If all women made marriage a standard and a requirement for sex then they would not have a problem getting marriage proposals.

  • @CandieP
    @CandieP 3 года назад +23

    Welcome Ladies and Lurkers will always make me laugh 😂

  • @hudaabdi1939
    @hudaabdi1939 3 года назад +18

    Just joined feminine book club, super excited to read and soak it all up 💕 Chloe appreciate how you modernized and packaged femininity

    • @seekerofpeace1907
      @seekerofpeace1907 3 года назад +2

      Where's this bookclub sis?

    • @sanaa8367
      @sanaa8367 3 года назад +1

      Where is this book club please.

    • @hudaabdi1939
      @hudaabdi1939 3 года назад

      @@seekerofpeace1907 also don’t forget to send a screenshot once you have paid, send your request to @thefemininebookclub on Instagram

  • @nikkinanette8807
    @nikkinanette8807 3 года назад +41

    Stop bustin’ your knees on concrete paved sidewalks for menz... 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @nakiethompson7212
    @nakiethompson7212 3 года назад +7

    You're facebook group and bookclub have helped me grow. I made the decision to "walk away" today. Excited for what the future holds.

  • @misscrook6793
    @misscrook6793 3 года назад +22

    This was so on point and actually made me cringe at a very unconscious state in my life that I am now so very embarassed to even admit I ever took part in. I had sense enough not to ask for a man's hand in marriage, but was foolish enough to uproot myself and move to where a man was that I ended up finding out just wasnt in to me. And all the things Chloe lays out about the effeminate man... I experienced. To my own shame and demise...I am still trying to pick up the pieces years later from the mess I made. Ugh...this was so spot on 🤦‍♀️

  • @fredatwumasipadilla2963
    @fredatwumasipadilla2963 3 года назад +7

    I'm 16 and I'm learning soo much from you.

  • @mstar8691
    @mstar8691 3 года назад +78

    It’s just pointless, if it goes wrong or he doesn’t do things at your pace you can’t blame him cause you technically forced him into a position he didn’t ask to be in. He wasn’t gonna ask you so you asked him. You’re marrying yourself at that point. No thank you 🤦🏽‍♀️ it’s just as bad as saying I love you first. If he don’t ask or say it he don’t want to.

  • @Prayforyourself39612
    @Prayforyourself39612 3 года назад +26

    Praise the Lord! Praise the Lord for this sermon.

  • @herlittledove
    @herlittledove 3 года назад +3

    My aunt only has to tell her husband, that something needs to be fixed in the house and my uncle does it. He drove 150 mile per taxy to ptopose to her.
    My mother told my father, marriage, or breakup, and now she consistently has to remind him, if something needs to be fixed.
    I know, why I always had had some inner disagreement with certain habits at home, trying to break the cycle...it also makes sick over the long run

  • @allartismental9319
    @allartismental9319 3 года назад +27

    I'm sorry, I might not be all of that, but I'm NOT going to propose to ANY MAN! if he wants to marry me, than he will ask for my hand HIMSELF!🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @AthenaRenee1
    @AthenaRenee1 3 года назад +8

    I love your commentary. You should do stand up. You're hilarious honey. 🤣

  • @valerieallen7521
    @valerieallen7521 3 года назад +3

    This should be taught in schools. So many women under estimate their feminine power because they been taught it’s a weakness. I’m so glad I came across your page. ❤️

  • @frankieallen4900
    @frankieallen4900 3 года назад +3

    As usual Chloe, these are facts! Awesome video. I've had these same thoughts for years but you put it out there and outlined it beautifully. I've often said if he's too weak to propose; he's too weak to lead a household. That also goes for these women who trick/surprise a man in attending his wedding. Weak men irritate and frustrate me. It's a huge turn off. I've also said that insecure men are mean and will kill you.

  • @radiant_gem6736
    @radiant_gem6736 3 года назад +8

    A runner and a track star 😂😂😂😂

  • @princessm8977
    @princessm8977 3 года назад +5

    I used to be a subtle masculina. Not as far as proposing or asking for anyone's number, but making my interest way too obvious too soon. Thanks for your videos Chloe, never going back. Ever!!

  • @sovereignseeker7126
    @sovereignseeker7126 3 года назад +29

    I don’t see how this is a THING? this is so weird and unnatural! This is a NO NO! PERIOD!

    • @Love-yp2fj
      @Love-yp2fj 3 года назад

      Don’t be so close minded. It’s okay to be close minded but when it’s too much it becomes toxic

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 3 года назад +37

    How about women that keep pestering a man to marry her, but don't go as far as proposing, to me this is just as bad.

    • @tamarastone141
      @tamarastone141 3 года назад +3

      Yes, i ag3. I know a woman who had 2 kids (a few abortions as well) amd and has been shacking up with a man for well over 12 yrs and he STILL hasn't married her!! She's been a place holder all this time...i could NEVER.

    • @Farzu-zp6dv
      @Farzu-zp6dv Год назад +1

      ​@@tamarastone141😮

  • @shannongray-chappell6082
    @shannongray-chappell6082 3 года назад +4

    So glad this is being addressed.
    I said it before, and I will say it again.
    If a man wants, no needs you in his life, he will lead and propose. Because he has a desire to and will express it. It makes me cringe when I see this. Ewwwwwww.

  • @boomerang7365
    @boomerang7365 3 года назад +29

    Chloe you're a real sound of reason...
    Seeing a woman on bended knee proposing to a man is so disturbing 😳😫 it screams masculine, desperate and low value. I would NEVER want or respect a man who allows a woman to propose to him😖
    Remember ladies you bring fourth life into this realm and nurture generations, you are to be cherish, revered and loved💜 any man that disagree is no true man😊

  • @dariali1768
    @dariali1768 3 года назад +12

    It's okay to take the lead in your own life, doesn't mean you have to do this in every single aspect of it though especially in relationships. Love is different from the career and what I see is popular media trying to pretend it's not. There's certain rules and ways to win in life in areas of education or finances, there are also rules in area of relationships, and the way that leads to winning is called hypergamy ❗God Bless Chloe and her sacred unity and daughter, and all of you ladies (and your children and families if you have) for choosing the path of progress and prosperity ❤️

  • @cherrycrawford8342
    @cherrycrawford8342 3 года назад +8

    This is Shameful, Embrassing and downright Desperation to the Max !! This is a Huge Mistake that will definitely come back to bite you in the worst way !! Thank you Chole for another lesson to be Learned. Much Love to You !! ❤

  • @toviaclayton
    @toviaclayton 3 года назад +7

    I used be a masculine. I used approach a guy and shoot my shot to a guy and now I stop

  • @kenya1067
    @kenya1067 3 года назад +6

    Early!!! Thank you for the content. I'm really sick of it. Because when I'm being myself and not the modern standard men seem to think I'm uninterested. Honestly reflecting this has been my problem all along. I just don't seem interested because I'm not chasing or obsessing.

  • @violetpepsi2761
    @violetpepsi2761 3 года назад +3

    Let it be written, so shall it be done! "If he thinks you are not the women for him" and I Quote "He is not the man for you" end quote. Enough said. Stop, slapping me with those facts Hahaha Chloe.

  • @Amber_Renee
    @Amber_Renee 3 года назад +16

    I started seeing Tiffany&Co. run an ad for male sized rings. They even notice that women are desperate these days!

  • @4KimballGlaspie
    @4KimballGlaspie 3 года назад +3

    Whew chile! These are SO ON POINT!!!
    🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
    They most important is the physical danger!
    It seems like those stronger provider bw are being k!lled more often lately.
    I don't know WHY its so hard for bw to let bm learn, grow, and EARN things for themselves. He should come to you as a fully functional adult, taking care of all his adult business, or he should wait until he can do so. Anyone bringing a broken package to you, ie, a broke immature man with no car, is telling you with their actions that you should just settle for them As Is, and you're not worthy of anything better. That's an insult.

  • @OneSyteria
    @OneSyteria 3 года назад +44

    Basic science: The 🥚 waits on the sperm to claim /conquer it!!💁🏾‍♀️

  • @sunmeetssaturn7134
    @sunmeetssaturn7134 2 года назад +5

    Unfortunately a lot of the Indian community are experiencing this especially in the Punjab region. Men are so prized and pampered, the woman not only has to accomplish educational status but are usually intelligent enough to travel abroad, where they will study, work and come back to India to marry a man to take with her. Usually this man has never worked, never left home so in turn she’s cooking, cleaning and raising the children while being abused by him and his family. This is anecdotal but I am friends which a lot of Indian woman and this is typically their experience.

  • @malondotcom7533
    @malondotcom7533 3 года назад +3

    Not a runner & a track star!

  • @steelstreet3765
    @steelstreet3765 Год назад +1

    Some women don't let men help them. They say " I got this" " I am a big girl I can do it".

  • @BlendedBarbieDoll
    @BlendedBarbieDoll 3 года назад +6

    If a man lets you do this girl run! This is the most emasculating thing… and if he’s ok with being treated like a lady he’ll just compete with you for the rest of your life.

  • @veeedgee
    @veeedgee 3 года назад +6

    OoooohhWeeeeee!!! My midday pick up I didn't even know I needed!👏🏾👏🏾

  • @jessepera2457
    @jessepera2457 3 года назад +1

    30 seconds in and the images are tough to stomach. But thank you Chloe for savings women's lives

  • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
    @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +8

    Any woman propose to me I'll be insulted that's a man job

  • @volitionspark2686
    @volitionspark2686 3 года назад +23

    I don't think these women are purposely masculine. I think they just are lonely & desperate

  • @SheenaMarie05
    @SheenaMarie05 3 года назад +1

    I once was a woman who walked in her “masculine Spirit.” I’m speaking from experience, it’s NOT cute, cool, or ladylike at ALL! I had to learn a lot about love etc. the hard way, unfortunately. I was raised with a strong work ethic by a single black mother who had a rough upbringing, so those toxic generational ways rubbed off on me as well, except I was 5 x worst than my mother and grandmother too.. but GOD! Self awareness and healing is something I had to do for my own sanity. Everything Chloe is saying is absolutely factual. I am so thankful for her channel! Keep the videos coming Chloe. ♥️

  • @amyfleming6099
    @amyfleming6099 3 года назад +3

    This video though...FACTS. One of the best videos❣️💯Thanks so much Sis Chloe.

  • @sarcasm176
    @sarcasm176 3 года назад +4

    He a runner he a trackstar lol

  • @aprilanderson3689
    @aprilanderson3689 3 года назад +23

    Some of these men are not the marriage material anyway they will never marry you or anyone else

  • @marleeshore1387
    @marleeshore1387 3 года назад +9

    Beyond being just a masculina this type of thinking to me is a mental disease. Pray to God to raise your self esteem and be restored to the laws of nature 🙏🏽 Just speaking from experience. Chloe thank you

  • @luvitaq8284
    @luvitaq8284 3 года назад +2

    7:05 🤣🤣🤣 these images have me crying!

  • @tanjeetstephens2387
    @tanjeetstephens2387 3 года назад +13

    Men outnumber women about 70 million worldwide...please women...why are you competing so hard for runners???

  • @Denisenyc54
    @Denisenyc54 3 года назад +37

    I really feel embarrassed for these women when I see this. It’s so emasculating for the men. Bottom line if a man wants to marry you he will ask. Period.

  • @born2reign90
    @born2reign90 3 года назад +4

    Chloe, dropping gems! 🙌🏾💎🙌🏾💎🙌🏾💎

  • @luccianalewis9473
    @luccianalewis9473 3 года назад +9

    It isn't a good trait from a woman proposing to a man. My cousin had a gf who proposed to him at the mall. He didn't like it because she left to be a prize by doing it and denied the proposal . Ladies have high self esteem is so important for u even for guys. We just must look for ways to get creative for that they propose us.

  • @sylviabaskin2933
    @sylviabaskin2933 3 года назад +4

    In my opinion, one of the greatest compliments a man can give a woman. Is to ask for her hand in marriage. To each our own, I would never propose a date to a man let alone marriage. 🤨

  • @tishr9670
    @tishr9670 3 года назад +8

    That's some crazy shit.

  • @TheDotsBrain
    @TheDotsBrain 3 года назад +3

    For me I love children, I’m just grounded and do not believe in having children without being married and being successful. There’s a process I believe.

  • @tamico5753
    @tamico5753 3 года назад +1

    Your diction (wordisms)/elocution is fire.🔥
    I'm here for it!🙂👍

  • @jadel9895
    @jadel9895 3 года назад +2

    I could never 😮😮😮

  • @vilifewithkelli6642
    @vilifewithkelli6642 3 года назад

    I am so glad that you titled this behavior as exactly what it is role reversal❤️

  • @Imanimy787
    @Imanimy787 3 года назад +3

    I just was searching this up now chloe has video on it lol

  • @4nthemorning
    @4nthemorning 3 года назад +25

    At this point I do not want to marry anyone and I'm sooooo glad I didn't have kids. This planet is done done

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +1

      Facts smh this world and relationships are falling apart

    • @ms.parker4880
      @ms.parker4880 3 года назад

      𝐿𝑚𝑎𝑜𝑜𝑜𝑜𝑜! 😂 𝐴𝐺𝑅𝐸𝐸𝐷 𝐼𝑇 𝐼𝑆 𝐹𝐼𝑁𝐼𝑆𝐻𝐸𝐷𝐷𝐷𝐷

    • @NorthPhilly-zr7xc
      @NorthPhilly-zr7xc 3 года назад +1

      @@ms.parker4880 it's sad smh

    • @ms.parker4880
      @ms.parker4880 3 года назад

      @@NorthPhilly-zr7xc 𝑇𝑟𝑢𝑙𝑦 ℎ𝑢𝑛, ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑎𝑢𝑔ℎ 𝑡𝑜 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑐𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔

    • @luxuryqueen42
      @luxuryqueen42 3 года назад +1

      @@ms.parker4880 hey how do i make my font like yours? 🙂

  • @indym375
    @indym375 3 года назад +9

    I think a real Alpha Male would feel emasculated if his lady did that cause its a real feminine energy with him holding out his hand as if he is a women the only take that exchange at the alter but who am i🤷

  • @WhitneyKM
    @WhitneyKM 3 года назад +8

    Hey Chloe

  • @maureenoputa3208
    @maureenoputa3208 3 года назад +3

    No lies detected here.

  • @Richgirlbusiness
    @Richgirlbusiness 3 года назад +12

    women definitely do this look when Pink proposed to her husband Cary Hart.