Nicki Minaj: The 16 Signs of The Wounded Feminine!
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Ladies, I had a narcissistic mother and addict father. After three YEARS of being dedicated to honoring my feminine divine through therapy, exercise, self awareness and always dating up, I have attracted a relationship with a high value, generous, masculine man who adores and protects me EVERYDAY. As Chloe says, it is possible with time.
🫂 beautiful story im happy for you
thank you for sharing this ❤️
Same sis! And I love that for us, congrats ♥️
Really happy for you! God is the most merciful
Same here!!! Chloe is the TRUTH!!!
I have to admit. I wasn't taught a thing about femininity or men. I grew up watching women work and take care of men. I've never seen a woman in my family be pampered by a man.
Same
Me either. Not until my late 20s i started seeing it from older couples in my church
same
im breaking this curse, cos me neither
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I was never taught . But I knew I didn’t want to end up like my mom .
Felt this to my core ❤️
Same ❤
Yeah this was the comment, I have a mom who throws farts at people in public and had me run to get her another pair of pants cause she messed herself. I was 17 she was 37. I knew younger but that was the day I wondered why is she like that. So this comment struck the day I really knew 😔
Me too,
The exact same, sis.
Taught “keep your legs closed”, but never told why. 😢😢😢
Same my mom always tell me things and never a reason until I learned it myself it’s creates curiosity. Plus I was sheltered so tv was what I felt was real until I realized it wasn’t
Same my mom comes from a 2parent household amd for some reason she is so closed up and didnt have many convos with either of her daughters. We learned from other people. Couldn't talk to her about anything really
Same!!! No boyfriend and no $ex before marriage only was told once about the marriage part but all of my friends were having $ex and I hung around people 10 years older than me when I was 13 and up so you already know how my story goes that’s why I’m doing the work now at age 22 and I was in a abusive situationship from age 15 to 19 but there’s other things that play a factor In my childhood that led me to do some things
@@covegirl06 same 😂😂 and I didn’t listen to my mom because she didn’t practice what she preaches but I had a woman tell me her life story and why she’s waiting and I actually listened to her because she practice what she preached and it’s the way how you say things
My mom told me the same thing...only to ask me if I was gay when she saw that I wouldn't talk to boys.
My mom was married twice (to a white man and then my dad) she taught me that in every relationship, there’s a flower and a Gardner and she always choose to be a flower 🌺 and so should I.
So perfect
Yes girl. My mom always attracted men who were selfless, protective and providers and as a flower, she soaked up all the gardener’s efforts and in returned was nurturing, supportive, patient, attentive and submissive to her husbands needs. No man have to ever ask for submission if they just learn how to damn garden properly lol.
Loved
@@CandieP Mom has solid advice . I love it
Great advice...your pic is lovely, btw🌹
I have learned that you are drawn to toxic people because they are a match to your conditioning and they feel like “home.” Nicki’s husband feels like home to her because of her dysfunctional childhood.
You hit the nail right on the head.
This is the comment that sum up everything
@Layla Cartelina That’s typical the exception not the rule. It most cases when you know a person’s family dynamics (I mean truly know) you typically know why they choose certain partners.
Oooo you said some things there..
You just gave some us an answer as to why we would even “ Consider “ settling with a “ Dusty BM by Out side🤦🏽♀️🙅🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️🙏🏽 ThankGod I cut the trauma bonding cord!
This whole entire situation is sad. I'm disappointed in Nicki and can not believe that she would let a criminal bring her legacy down. This shows that no matter how much money you have or beautiful you are, if you have not done the inner work you will gravitate towards and attract harmful dusties. I was blessed to have two college educated married parents who were able to offer guidance and wisdom on what signs to look out for and type of men to stay away from. My mom always told me that you can learn a lot about a guy by talking to him and listening. Sit back and let him do the majority of the talking so you can observe whether to move forward with him or not. You'd be surprised by how much you can learn by letting them do the talking. She also said do a background check on someone you want to get involved with because you never know these days. It can save your life and never hurts to be safe than sorry. If something seems off about him, chances are there probably is. And *NEVER* ignore that feeling. It's there for a reason. My dad always told me to be with a guy who will take care of you and be there for you when shit hits the fan. In life things are gonna happen like a lay off, death in the family, medical emergency, illness, etc. and you want a man who's not gonna run away when life gets tough and it's time to handle responsibilities. A real man puts his wife and children first and will do what it takes to make sure they are taken care of.
Definitely do a background check.
So True. Life and people being unpredictable is also y I tell women to have their own things going on so when the unexpected unpleasant things happen, there would be financial security to lean on.
@Frank you sound young, I hope, and still viewing the world through rose colored glasses. Keep living. Humans are very fickle and change with the wind 🌬
@Frank
Her image as a respectable woman took a blow by marrying something like Kenneth Petty, because everybody knew she had access to top of the line men with far greater backgrounds and character than Kenneth, yet she settled for that man.
Mr Petty is a reflection of how Ms Minaj feels about herself.
I am 25 years old now. My mum taught me everything there is to know about Femininity and just self respect and self worth as a whole. She always says that a woman's power is seen in the way she treats others and how she treats herself.
Thank you Chloe 🥰
Lucky you, mama. God bless your mama for a good work done. Pass on the torch. I had a narcissistic mother who didn't even want to live with me and so didn't teach me anything about men. Thank God for RUclips, now I know a lot of stuff that actually matters.
You were blessed. I was surrounded by narcissistic women and a narcissistic mother
Mom taught nothing really about men. She basicly told me to just stay away from them. Was also a narc and also expected me to take care of her my entire life and told me my problems didnt matter and i was unimportant. I accepted a lot of bs off people especially men and especially family cause i was the designated doormat my entire life. No boundaries. And when I put up boundaries i was punished for doing so. Now is my time. I am focusing my myself. Tired of hurting and tired of depression and sadness and self sabatoge.
Win 🏆 and shine ✨ sister, ✅✅✅
Live your life unapologetically, put distance between you and them, exercise your mouth to say NO.
AND MEAN IT.
Designated doormat. Wow. Sounds like how my life used to be but I play to win now. Good for you.
It's funny how our stories are the same even though we may be miles apart. Same story for me, sis. We're healing all the way. Go us!
Yes girl
Thank you Chloe for your transparency about your upbringing. I too was a parentified child and I’m still healing from the resentment of having my childhood taken from me. Narcissistic mothers can do damage that takes a lifetime to recover from. I’m 30 now and I’m reclaiming my childhood by learning to skate, taking swimming lessons, and doing other things that I did not get an opportunity to do because of having to be the adult to immature parents. It’s up to you to reclaim your time and make the most of the cards you’ve been dealt.
Me too, I eat healthy and make exercise a habit
This is inspiring because many of us convince ourselves it's too late to do so many of the things we missed out on during rough childhoods. I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey♥
This is so beautiful! Much healing and blessings to you girl ! My mother is like this as well, and people notice the dynamic between her and my brother (older) vs me and her. I’m learning how to stop listening to her on certain things that involve my life because frankly , she’s lived hers already and seems comfortable where she is. It’s just getting past her making me feel guilty or like I’m doing to much or not enough .
You got this girl !🤍✨
Me too. Therapy helped me. I’m glad you are on a path to healing.
This really spoke to me! I'm in my 30s now and finally had the chance to come up for air from not being able to have a fulfilling childhood by having to "act like an adult" and be everything for everybody. It's the main reason why I have no interest in having kids. I'm still learning how to prioritize myself guilt free and say no shamelessly. It took many years, but now I have the freedom to enjoy life as much as I can
I was taught nothing about men
Me neither. Absolutely nothing.
We're mostly all in the same boat
@@SheCanSmile we are experiencing the same things.
My mom always stressed to Put God first. Look good, smell good, feel good always! If it doesn’t make you happy, make you money, or give you peace it’s got to go. A man will show you who he is and how much he values you. Pay attention. Don’t get mad at someone you Chose to hang around for being who they have shown you they are. You are never stuck, and you always have the power to change your situation. Surround yourself with joyful people who uplift, edify, and comfort you.
Amen 😍 I Love it
I'm simply disgusted with Nicki, and the sad thing is there's a child involved.
By the time the "fog" clears she will be forever tied to this man, I hope that the child actually grows up to be a healthy decent person.
Disgusted? Strong words with your over judgmental self. Go be disgusted with your momma and daddy
@@babygee.02.01 hmm lets see.
She defended her brother who abused a child.
She defended her abuser husband.
She and him harassed and stalked the victim, and she tried to buy her "silence".
She tried to help her husband evade being put in the registry.
She worked and defended another abuser of a child.
So we aren't supposed to be disgusted at her continued protection of the disgusting and abuse men in her life. I'm glad you think that being a r-pe apologist and retraumatizing victims is a perfectly normal thing to do.
@@YourMoonJoy 👏👏
I feel like nicki only has one type and she probably tried to find a different type and she didn’t like how it felt because she isn’t used to that. She has a lot of work to do within herself, I wouldn’t judge her too much because she ain’t the only one but just seeing it within celebrities just makes you realize no one ain’t better than the next just because they got money; ppl flaws will still follow them until they self-reflect and realize why they are the way they are
@Layla Cartelina facts
The craziest thing is if the roles were reversed and Nicki’s convicted husband was the famous one and she was some old fling of his before fame with a lengthy rap sheet, he would pay her no mind and not rescue her no matter how beautiful or successful some women become they can’t stop themselves from attracting and rescuing a dusty you will never see a successful rapper (male) wife a women unless she has everything together beauty, class etc they have high standards idk what’s wrong with some women stop giving these man chances he wouldn’t do the same for her she’s ruining her legacy for a dusty 🤷🏽♀️
This is what i have been saying
Most insecure men tend to put themselves first above anyone else, and insecure women put everyone else above themselves. Unfortunate as it is, women with broken spirits tend to be a lot more forgiving of abusive loser men than the other way around.
@Kemet89 I forgot he had kids nobody seems to mention this and he k!lled somebody smh she was talking down on cardi b marriage and saying she don’t date guys with kids by different women well…
Decide to be feminine from now. Its an instant decision all woman can make right now. It's never too late and all the inner work will come naturally as part of the process.
Its definitely not too late. And being feminine and having a good feminine energy will change what kind of men wanna talk to you and work hard to keep you around them since they like your energy.
Never say you're ugly or dumb or fat. Everything will work out. You deserve love, self love and self validation even when you are overweight. Feminine energy will help you to do the things that is needed for you to change yourself.
I used to be self sabotage and man hater. Now I dont hate men at all. I feel they are lovely and I dont mind talking to them and being spoiled by their attention and spoiled by the things they want to give me. I am open to receive and let them do the talking and the planning.
For a man they feel it's hard to find a feminine woman that is intelligent and mysterious. Being quiet and vague is a good thing. If you want bestie chats, talk to your girlfriends or your pet. Not a man.
I am 70kg about 150lbs. And I feel even more beautiful now than ever. I am 29 years old as well.
Never let anyone tell you that it's too late or there is no good man out there. There are but they like to sit and observe too. So be subtle, soft, gentle, playful and feminine. Those men will be on their way to you. You will magnetically attract them without working or doing much.
Relax and enjoy. This is a journey.
Stop arguing with men in your imagination/ your head as well. Man hating is an energy blocker. Allow yourself to heal from men trauma and forgive yourself too.
Beautiful
Oh my goodness. I am obsessed with you. I am 42 years old and to read your words....29 years old, I am floored. I do believe I'm going to read this post daily. And when I meet that man...I will come back here to tell you🥰🥰🥰
@@mphomfenyana2670 I am so happy you resonated with this post. Thank you so much for your compliment on my writing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@lilouliving Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️
@@LinLinLin11 compliment on your mindset and understanding of yourself as well darling. By the time you hit 42 you will be flying higher than the heavens ❣
Also societies criticism and the “she’s hit the wall police” plays a big part in her rushing and not vetting .They constantly try to downplay a woman’s worth if she isn’t married with children by a certain age .I’m not just going to rush and have children with just anybody when I’m close to approaching 30 because having children means I’m forever connected to this person.
This is definitely a big part of it....women are forced to marry before hitting the wall and those that fail to are also disrespected for settling with less than ideal partners
My mother taught me "you don't need a man!" As cliche as it sounds that was her. She was loud, rude, judgemental, abrasive, always gave unsolicited advice, arrogant and combative. She told me from a very young age my father wasn't s*** and I was just like him (which meant what about me...) Unfortunately I started out life the same way, then once I realized I was becoming like her I unwittingly became a doormat. Trying to be the opposite of her I allowed myself to be used and walked over. I now am still working on myself and am extremely aware of how I raise my daughters
I am in the same boat at 26, except I don't have children. I also just got out of a toxic relationship due to these reasons.
Looking back on what my mother thought me, she did a good job. She just didn't use her words to teach femininity. She found in my dad (her husband)a protector and provider. She never let her self go. She knew how to rest. She loved us and my Daddy. I miss her with all my heart.
My mother taught me all men will ever do is break your heart and make you cry. In my opinion that was a curse.
That’s why you gotta find the highest bidder
That’s what we call unintentional projection. Nip it in the bud. My God mother said something along those lines recently to me and I told her I rebuke it, that is not in my future in Jesus name. She’s been scorned twice.
Nicki look pass her husband past because she wanted to rush into marriage and motherhood without thinking about her image legacy nor reputation. Red flags you ignore at first warning will destroy you at the end. I whole heartedly believe she married him because she will always be in control in everything. She couldn’t separate the artist from the woman and create balance to express her masculine side and feminine side so she choose a side that more demanding and entertaining. When we go against our origin nature we will continue to fight until we ready to let go and flow with our orderly feminine essence.
Honestly, she wanted the kid. That's all. Nicki is ruining her legacy with this....
@@deenadream Sis, you took it back...when there were silly, stupid, and meaningful songs all on the radio at the same time. Foolish is a classic and so real
@May M Hopefully she gets a divorce with her stans still following her. Nicki has to know that black women don't get second chances. This is vital in regards to our reputation.
@Layla Cartelina Sexual Attraction is important in relationships since this is going to a person your going to spend your life with however it should not overcome the other important factors in a marriage
I have always felt she really rushed things.
I really hope she doesn’t have a daughter. Women deep in their wounded feminine are nightmares to their daughters.
I'm with you. My mom and big sister both dumped me at 8 yrs old to raise myself because they had no time Because they had a man to take care of
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 smh my mom did the same!
@@AFFTFOMSICHTS we are self made and strong, ❤💐👑
"Ladies, lurkers and reformed masculinas welcome" 😆 love it. The wounded feminine is so real! I had a friend who was just jealous and envious all the time, when I met her mum I understood it all - was quite sad to see. Love your videos Chloe
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@Layla Cartelina its you
I’m so glad you touched on parentification. So many of us can relate. And I wanted better for Nicki. It goes to show how you can be genius in one area but completely out of touch in another. I wish she would have stayed with the wealthy race car driver. She’s in too deep now and just a victim of the generational curse mixed with the curse of the “boss lady”.
My Mom and I are in a rough spot emotionally but I can honestly say she taught me the importance of having a man who could provide. Ambition and stability has always been at the top of my list when it came to dating. I watched my Dad work from sun up to sun down to take care of us and he has always (and still) treats my Mom like a Queen. I understand I am lucky to have had good examples of how things should be (harmony).
I was taught that men are supposed to provide and they also cheat 😐. My mother also led by example a "feminine woman" but she was hurt by my dad...emotionally. I always sensed resentment, some anger and a hint of unhappiness. They stayed married for 38 years until they both transitioned. May God rest both their souls ❤.
I feel for Nicki because I know if the shoe was on the other foot and if her husband was the celebrity and she was a convicted felon on a sex oftender registry, she wouldn’t even be on his radar.
But women in general, whether they are marry bill gates or the builder from down the road , are aggressively taught the art of conpromise from a very young age. A woman has to be perfect to get the attention of a man who is a basic 2 but a woman who is a 2 is never going to get the attention of a man who is a 10
Chloe, If I could describe my old self in one video, I would choose this one. You were so on point; I am speechless. Amen to everything. I was a wounded feminine person, and I thought that I had an imbalance of my masculine energy for so long, but it had nothing to do with it. It was all about how I see women, feminity, and divine feminines figures in general. I used to attract the dirtiest guys. I used to be overworked because I was a people pleaser, and I naturally wanted everybody, including my boss, to like me more than I loved myself. It was tough to admit that. And I am grateful for all the content on RUclips that opened my eyes. The fact that it was accessible made my journey became faster. Now, I am listening to myself, try to surrender more to life. I understand that I have the choice, and this life is limitless. I have high standards, and I can't settle for less in all my relationships. However, the most difficult for me was to understand that my mother has wounded feminine energy, too, because she had to be in a survivor mood for a while. This is sad to see the person that you like wasting their energy. Besides that, I am so hopeful about my future, and I can't wait to fully be ready to date.
Thank you so much, Chloe, for your video. It really educated me !! Hope you had a blessed day
I completely relate to this comment. Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing, i resonate with this in a lot of ways
I was also a parentified daughter and my mom was the same Chloe . And I also wasn’t taught a thing , I taught myself . And when I watched your channel I was in shock that another woman knew as much as I did ! I thought I was alone and cynical because I went through so much struggle to get to my wisdom . Thank you for taking the time to make these videos .
Nicki grew up seeing abuse and may have been abused I do hope she seeks therapy.. my mom never taught me nothing about men or being feminine however I saw my mom wait until marriage to have my other siblings and she was provided for but she had resentment though.
Until recently, my mom (whether she wants to admit it or not) was a “fixer” and would go out of her way to cover for the screw-ups of the men in her life (spouse, brothers, etc). It wasn’t until she began being loved by a man who is responsible and treats her well that she realized what she was doing and changed accordingly. I too fell into a similar pattern of attracting dusties or emotionally unavailable men, but I’ve since learned better and am now seeing the benefits of therapy, increased self-love, and higher standards. Naturally, you Ms. Chloe had a LOT to do with this ❤️
Grew up with narcissism which led to people pleasing and putting myself last. No feminine lessons taught. Did the revealing and continuously healing! Thank you Chloe_ for your continued support.🌹😍
Personally I find nothing more valuable in my life than my peace, health, and femininity. I am not willing to sacrifice these things whatsoever, whether it be fame, money, some dusty relationship, a tiresome job, living in a broken community, etc. I am happy to be single and healthy now and I will not accept anyone or anything to interfere my current peace and joy. I have learned to be picky and strategic with my life decisions and who I have close relationships with.
I believe Nicki is so attached to this abuser man because she cannot let go of the hurt that her father did to her, as he was a drug addict, abuser, and burned her childhood home to the ground. She is incredibly talented, pretty, and driven, but I think she should find a therapist and reorient herself before she gets herself seriously hurt or killed. If for nothing else, she needs to protect her son from harm.
I am a wounded woman, I didn't realize I was til now. Everything you just said was correct, and I am admitting to myself that I am a wounded woman and I need heeling (therapy).
Prayers for you Kona🙏🏾
Nicki could have easily had an Arab or whatever billionaire like janet or rihanna if she tweaked a couple minor things. But it's like she can't let certain things go. I actually think that she generally isn't bad person and is intelligent, but that unchecked trauma will get you
Sometimes we unfairly assume a woman could have done better when there is no evidence to that effect....there are many high earning beautiful women who don't bag billionaires, the former isn't a direct cause of the later
Currently in the process of healing my wounds.
As someone who used to be a Nicki fan I'm just disappointed I do recall it being reported in the media she had the likes of Lewis Hamilton Michael B Jordan even Drake NAS trying to court her and she passed all that up for a convicted sex offender? I wonder sometimes if Nicki is morally compromised? What if hypothetically speaking she had a daughter and sixteen years later said daughter came home to her crying inconsolable traumatised because she had just been brutally sexually assaulted? I'm just SMH sad
@MyBad Opinions agree and that's what's so sad
@@NBean90 totally agree with you on this in her prime Nicki was so beautiful to me and in my opinion could have had any man she wanted but it seems like she likes being in the position to wear the pants and in relationship and call the shots and all of her partners almost always look like her Butler I also agree high value men would probably find her repelling
Well she did say the people that “y’all” want her to date be low key gay. & I can definitely see that for majority of the men you listed. So I slightly feel her on that.
@@adriennebrown682 Michael B Jordan seems happy with Lori though.
I wonder why you are surprised? Nicki and mkst people who are in Hollywood are morally bankrupt. She raps about killing, murder, sex, drugs and calls women bitches and hoes. Her mentor is drugged, bugged and thuged out lil Wayne who never raised his own kids. I don't understand it, don't yall get it? These rappers are some if tge worst people. I've never thought that Nicki would be married to a man who was kind, respectful, living and caring. She to me is with the type of man that reflects her.
FIRST OF ALL... you talking about my workhorse patterns was SO unsuspected. I was going down the list saying, "I'm good there. In therapy for that. Nope, that's healed, that's balanced...." and then when it came to resting. Nope. I literally had one of employees tell me I needed to slow down and stop filling the space
Sigh
Thank you for this... as always
The people pleasing.. was instilled into me so young.. amoung a few of the others you mentioned. I'm working on my health. I'm realizing at the age of 38 that I must do the work. No one else is going to do it for me. I've been considering therapy as well. When I mentioned that to my mother, she was trying to talk me out of.
I think by her trying to talk me out. Makes me wants to press forward.
I have a lot of stuff to work through & unpack. Too much to do it alone.
I've been working on my meditation more. Especially since I almost had a breakdown not pong ago.. my body, mind and soul had taken one too many beating. I have to stand up and take head. I have this life of abundance & love, I cannot waste on such low vibrational people and thanks to your videos. You shed the light in such a profound way.
It's crazy when we get use to being badly mistreated, that it turns out a way of life. But, that's not what it has to turn out.
I want to live a full life of loving myself fully! I want to see my children have children of their own one day.
I want to be around for a long time. Putting myself first & foremost is putting me on the track of accomplishing just that...
Thank you for you do. I truly appreciate and applaud you love.. 💜
I don't want her son to be the dumping ground for her hurt, disappointment and aggression. I pray she gets help now to halt this, of many, generational curses that plague us. I too, am a product of those same wounds as yourself Chloe_. I am so very grateful that you were placed within my journey. #getoutnicki 🙏🙏🙏
I pray her son doesn’t be too influenced by his father and follow his footsteps. Hopefully he has his own sound and to not be a grown boy in the future
This is so true and the pathology can manifest is different ways and from different scenarios . My mother was very feminine by societal standards- soft , demure , always took care of her physical . Hair , nails , makeup ,clothes on point . Hygiene on point . The opposite of aggression under pressure. My father was a raging addict and very abusive -he almost beat my mom to death multiple times -cheated gave her stds etc - didnt allow my mom to work even when we were on the verge of homelessness . But my mom sat still kept up the feminine appearances . Eventually my dad overdosed and died . I went on to carry with my mom mom showed me - physical perfection to the point many truly high valued men persued me ...But I didnt want that because it wasnt familiar . I went with prototypes of types of men like my dad who often took out frustrations on me because they honestly couldnt understand why a woman like me would want them in the first place . Im of a stronger constitution than my mom so I would fight , argue , demand better treatment. Then Im hardened because of my trauma and I can not rest in my femininity etc. Take it from me ladies - accept your traumas and get on top of it - life is very short . If you have not healed yourself you will attract the same over and over
Ouch, I am stuck. This is me all over the place. Thanks for bringing some stuff to light.
The funny thing is I learned nothing about men growing up. All I learned was what I saw -DIY!! My mom was a single mother. She worked 2-3 shifts to make it work for us. She had a husband (my dad) that decided to leave! So this is what she had to do. But all I learned about men is what I saw displayed by the man that left & remarried. 🤷🏾♀️ I don't blame her for doing what she had to do, because as I got older I realized she must have been quite devastated for sometime & she was always positive! But I learned nothing a femininity! I new I desired to grow into a version of myself that displayed this after going thru experiences in life ... & then I found this channel right at that time!!
I'm not gonna judge Nicki because everyone makes mistakes
Uhmmm. She doesn't consider her S O husband a mistake. She's not judging. She's dissecting the cause and effect.
I never clicked on a video so quickly when I got this notification lol
You are always on point Chole, I am still on break from relationship to currently fix myself to be a better me and attracting someone I know I deserve.
Honestly my mom didn’t teach me much about men since she was a single parent after her divorce finalized when I was a month old. So I never met this man and do not have any fiber in my body to ever meet him. She only told me to “marry rich, don’t marry what I did” but she never taught me HOW. I am 34 now, and is learning from people like Chole and other mainly black feminine level up channels for the past two years! So yes, I have a lot to learn. Lol
My mother taught me nothing about men EXCEPT men are bad, only want sex, and will leave you with babies. This left me with negative attitudes toward men and sex in general (this is why I struggled with my sensuality and sexuality). I was very angry when I became aware of it. I had no examples or teachings about femininity or how to be lady like and take care of myself. When I showed interest in these things I was attacked. All my mother was interested in was getting attention from men. My femininity was wounded and I'm still working on it.
My mother taught me that all men cheat, are weak, and don’t offer anything but stress so don’t date or bother with men until marriage. Thankfully for myself and my future children, I worked on my masculine side and I can say that being feminine is way better than a masculina. I get complimented more, I feel good, I look good, everything is falling into place for me, and I actually set boundaries for myself now. Also, I have role reversal with my mother as well, and i strongly dislike it. It is something I am currently trying to work on with her through boundary setting. You telling your story on this has made me have even more faith of breaking this (the generational) curses Chloe. Ty ❤️
Also, I want to add that I do not believe that all men cheat, or are worthless. I have seen that there are good men out there, and I believe that there is someone out there who will match me and meet me at my level.
@@Isism899 I hope you find a good men
For me I personally feel happy when I am alone by myself
I literally have a friend who exhibits almost everything off of your list! She doesn’t see it this way but this is EXACTLY how she is! I literally just sent her this video, cause sometimes you have to hear things from a stranger to actually take it in!
Same friend had to get rid of her. Jealous energy
My mother sounds exactly like yours and I grew up people pleasing too. Her whole family is like that very manipulative and always forcing me to do things, I did not want even if it was hurtful to me because it would please her. I stopped a few months ago, she blocked me on whatsapp and it’s the most peace i’ve had
I honestly don’t know where to start. I definitely see myself in this video. I’m surrounded by masculine women at work and it’s reeking havoc.
Chloe_ I love your channel so much. Divorcing after 4 years, I lost my feminity entirely being married to a dusty man and your channel is helping me on my journey so much. Thank you Hun, your doing GODS work 🙏🏾❤
I am crying after watching this video. My sister and I didn't deserve all these negative experiences our parents put us through. We have an emotionally stuck mother. From an outside perspective she is the perfect mother. But both my sister and I have a very different opinion about her as a mother. She don't have a single ounce of emotional attachment with us and ruined our capability to connect with each other and the relationship with her. Our father recklessly destroyed our financial stability and went abroad leaving us with her. He visits us once in every year and acts like the perfect father for still providing after pushing us into the endless pit of poverty. Both of us are as wounded or more than Nicki Minaj because every thing you said about the wounded feminine women is true in our case. I am trying really hard to help my sister to save her from further hurt but she is not even listening and I don't know how to connect with her 😭😭. She is only 19, she still have time to escape from this mess before it hits her mental health. I was depressed for more than 10 years and now I am scared that she is going to the same route 😭.
Sis why does your story sound so similar to mine 😞
@@inprogress5210 because some people really don't know how to handle life and the children they bring in to this world are suffering for it. I really hope you don't have long term depression because I won't wish it up on even the worst enemies. Sending lots of love and support because I know you need it. Always remember that our lives matter and one day we will find happiness
I havent gone to a therapist or anything but I do know Ive been depressed since I was a kid.
I’m so sorry sis. So many of us been there. Big hugs, we going to hell from this 🤗🤗🤗
I also noticed, women that are wounded can be very envious and bland. The stuff you listed is the stuff my sibling is dealing with, she has a problem with my presence and I used to always wonder why she’s so invest, want to find mistakes and want to start arguments
I was taught men ain’t shit and to be independent. I was not taught to be positive or optimistic towards finding love. I was also picked at for being “too girly”. I actually am happy I can be comfortable being my true authentic self which is “girly” and super positive. As an adult my mom is actually learning how to be more of a lady through me now 🥰
Great video as usual Chloe. I have been on my feminine journey for a couple years now and In my experience it has been more work than I Could have ever imagined. Self-reflection, reading, listening to u and a few other chosen individuals have been paramount to my coming closer to healing my wounded feminine. But I will tell u ladies nothing in my life has brought me more fulfillment than coming so close to truly embodying the woman I’ve always wanted to be.
Wow, Success doesn’t constitute whether your feminine Divine is wounded. You said a mouthful! It’s so many Boss women walking around here not knowing this!
In my own life, I’m a recovering ❤️🩹 wounded Goddess. I just got off a zoom call with my therapist. We did the 4 phase technique. It was AMAZING! We went back (in my mind) to that dreadful day, when I was 9 and I relived the awful event. Then, in the other three phases, we added different sensual things that weren’t actually there on that disgusting day.
My Mom is STILL a wounded woman. I’ve attracted horrible men over my life. Well, that’s because I was walking around here unhealthy. I’d go to therapy from time to time over my life, but it just wasn’t as fulfilling.
Presently, I’m single. I date when I feel like it. I’m gorgeous, so I get men in my DMs all the time. However, I’m looking forward to deeply loving me and healing my subconscious mind of the trauma. I’m not sure how long this will take and quite frankly, I don’t care! Chloe is my inspiration and The New Feminine group has greatly opened my eyes! I feel safe, loved and supported!
I feel your pain sis. Because I’m right there with you. The best part is you recognize the pattern and is willing to do the work. A lot of us wasn’t taught anything about womanhood by our mothers because their mothers taught them nothing. It’s time to not only heal but stop healing and finally grow from this stage. I’m praying for your growth as much I pray for mines ❤️
Did you do EMDR?
I'm a wounded woman. I work soo hard not to be but I am. I have 4 children, I'm a single mother. I do not have the option to rest. I don't have family that will help me. My ex husband abused me to the point I questioned my very reality. My father told me "you chose him" when I told him how my ex fractured my hand. I have a metal bar holding it in place. I'm don't carry victim mentality but I know I am a wounded woman.
Sorry this was your experience, honey. All the love in the world to you and your children!
I got more work to do...
Excellent, excellent, excellent Video!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Everything you say in this video is the reason I do my best to choose the high road when it comes to dealing with ladies like this!!! I know they are miserable & misery loves company!
Nicki said" eff it, love life didn't go as planned so lemme just get a ninja,any nikka even if I gotta pay for everything & deal with his criminal history. Reminds me of Phaedra from RHOA
Dang, sis, I forgot about Phaedra! She only wanted her child too!!!
I now want to be married to the right man. I would make a wonderful wife.
Amen and God Bless you and your future husband in advance❤
She taught me that men are providers 100%. she was a baby girl until her death Although i never understood why she always told me to stick to being feminine.
Always a big Nicki fan, but sorry, not sorry; I'll never get over her marrying that degenerate. Money aside, Nicki has access to much better men, far more suitable to have a kid with and marry. The fact that she equates knowing him from a teen as if that makes him a good man is ridiculous. Nicki, do better! What were you thinking?
On the path of getting healed ...😔😔😔
Rhianna came to mind
I notice Nikki aligns herself with low value men ☹️ makes me sad for her.
This video hit so hard today. I’ve literally been crying my eyes out for 2 days. I thought I was healed but I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I work full time,
Parent to two, and a fiancé (long story). I feel like like is a big boring routine. By the time I clear my list of tasks for kids, family, man, work… I’m just tired! I feel manly and ugly
Nicki Minaj is so beautiful 🥺❤️ It’s a shame that she settled with trash. She could’ve had the best masculine man to provide for her. She needs therapy because she’s spiritually sick
My mother taught me that men should always provide for their women and they should have means of securing the bag without my involvement
I have been learning to put myself first and prioritize self care and happiness for the whole last year and over time I am starting to feel more connected to my feminine nature. I can tell it will grow even more as I continue embracing my joy.
This video literally came on time. I too am a wounded woman. I woke up early this morning to a post on ig taking about controlling behavior and now this video. I realized I am controlling. Learned behavior from my mother who does it on the guise of being nice or helpful (people pleasing behavior)Ouch. It hurts because I thought I too thought I was being helpful but really I was being controlling because I wanted things to be done my way(passive aggressive). I always prided myself on being efficient and the responsible one with getting things done at work, but I would secretly always complain, judge, and be resentful when people weren't doing their job. Why did that bother me (and I'm not even a supervisior) so much I had to ask myself? Here it is they were living their best life and I'm worring about *ish being done. For what when it wasnt even my job? I had to realize that is them and their work or lack thereof ethic which will catch up with them at some point. All I can do is worry about my work being done. Them not doing their work has nothing to do with me. I'm learning to let stuff go and put all of the focus back on me. Thanks chloe for the eye opener
This was great. I still have a lot of work to do in the areas of being a workaholic, lack of gratitude and not believing that good things will happen to me because of the past.
Wow Chloe...thanks for sharing. You have not only overcame your adversaries but you are sharing what you learned... I appreciate you.
Mrs.Chloe this video made me cry tears of relief to hear paretified daughter to know I’m fully understood
Me and my mom: My mom's mom abandoned her. She had low self-worth. She downloaded it not meaning to. My was single mother of 3 and worked very hard. My mom would tell me NOT to expect anything from a man. My father saw my mom's pain and hurt as clingy and immature. She and my father didn't wanted me to become a young, pregnant teenager so I was really programmed to stay away from young men, and boys. And I didn't realized till 35 that this programming was in the way of a happy marriage and to be provided for.
I get excited so much when u make videos. i have my wine and i am about to enjoy this like my favourite marlin salad.
I love your vulnerability and wisdom. Thank you for uploading.
Wow this video is so perfect chloe ! As we are in retrograde and a lot of this ( emotions/ actions / past traumas) is coming up for me , I am coming to a lot of realizations ( once again) but this time their hitting different . Their still making me sad , but mostly angry and wanting more and to do better ! Girl this video had me triggered lol. But I’m thankful ! You did that with this video !!
Chloe, you are a blessing and you completely changed my life❤️🙏 I am aware of the generational curses and healing. Thank you and I love you ❤️
This was helpful & enlightening. Thank you.
This this SUCH a powerful video. Thank you Chloe!
Thanks for this video queen, i am wounded from my childhood traumas, and will now work on myself so i am not attracting the wrong men.
Nothing, not a thing. I love my Mom but her theme was you live and learn.
I'm a single parent to a son that have autism and he has major behavior problems. I'm so stressed, but I do try to have a spa day.
I need stability in my life. Now, I'm moving on.
I was waiting for this video 🙌🏾
*My mom's best advice about men is that if you want 2 protect you & your kids from abandonment, make sure he marries you. Children are hard & emotionally men are weak and they will not think twice about leaving if they are not married to you. My only issue is that, it's hard 2 have these values growing up b/c you're seen as an outcast b/c you do not tolerate just any man 2 have one and you get called "stuck up".*
Thanks chloe_ for sharing your back story to your childhood/mother daughter relationship. Thank you for inspiring me and others. And it's good to know that even though I wasn't taught femininity I can still learn it, break the cycle and teach it to my child. Thank you for all your hard work. words can't explain how thankful I am to have your channel ❤🥰
I could identify with your parental background. Thanks for sharing. I’m not the only one. So I’m going to stop allowing it to bother me. That darn green grass.🤦🏾♀️
My dad taught me about self respect self love and the power of being ladylike. My mom not so much because I don’t believe she ever knew these things and wasn’t taught by her mom.
This was the validation, inspiration, and refocusing word I needed. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖💖
Chloe, i need you to teach me how to raise my future daughter... As a wounded woman i'm begging
Wounded! Feminine Not Toxic!
Thank you Chole🙌🏽
I cried watching this..... Thank you Chloe
I love your channel sus keep doing you!❤
Yassss! New video 💁🏾♀️
Wow! Just wow you broke it down! All I can say is thanks🎁
I have no idea how I stumbled upon this channel,but I'm so glad I did bc my femininity is something I have been struggling with since I was a kid and being a married woman now I really need to tap into that energy.. thanks for the tips and I am definitely a new subby 💜💜💜
This is beautiful teaching and self-esteem awareness ❤ Thank you . Please continue teaching and uplifting women around-the world and especially our Sistah's .thank you
Just in time for my lunch break!🤗💖
Hey Chloe had to get my dose of reality check and honestly ,,, on this channel working on that people pleasing as this video plays now