Exclusive Tea from Try Guys Finance Girlie | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 133
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- Опубликовано: 6 фев 2023
- Try Guys' finance connoisseur, Devin Wangler, sits with Matt and Becky to talk midwestern goodbyes, money grindset, and runaway brides.
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Maggie, Becky, and Ariel are your new best friends. In their weekly podcast they dive into female friendships, current events, and what's going on in their lives. Sit down with them, and enjoy!
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becky’s cackle after devin saying “et cetera” fucking KILLED me 😂😂😂
We all felt that!
So good! 😂
When was that.. I think I missed it 😢
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I died when Devon said "etcetera"
Devin and Becky talking about “the Midwest goodbye” is my favorite thing! Cuz it’s all 1,000% accurate!
Very much older listener here. In the early 1970s I asked my boyfriend if he would consider changing his name when we married. He was emphatic that he had worked hard to make a name for himself. My back went up and I replied that I had, too. I kept my name which was not usual for the time or for my family. One of my sisters later kept her name. My first husband and I divorced. I kept my name again with my second husband. When he remarried, my first husband hyphenated his name. Both of our second marriages are going on 45 years.
I hyphenated mine, because I love my last name and I'm the only one of my generation to carry it on. Got divorced and went back to just my original name, and would never change it again for anyone. Had a son and he now has my name, so at least the (very rare) surname carries on for one more generation.
So basically how this wonderful person cleared up the elephants mess
For the canceled wedding question, if she wasn't interested going, isn't close with the bride, and tighter budget wise, I think she was overly generous with the $200. I believe don't give out what you can't afford to lose, and so she shouldn't have given that much, especially if she has an issue with the bride regarding financial matters in the past. While yes the bride should return things, I think it's inappropriate to ask for the gift back, or try to sneakily get it back, because at the end of the day, it was a gift. Implanting the idea into a mutual friend, or just gauging what the bride is thinking seems like the best bet
As a former unfulfilled fiancee, the first thing we did was pay back anybody who spent/sent money. Then we ironed out the other stuff between us.
I would not even expect it to be the first thing to do. Like I would be fine with it taking like 3,4,5 months because I know its got to be stressful and you got to be hurting and sad. But I would just expect that they had normal etiquette and would send gifts back for something that never happened.
15:30 Devin I think the correct answer was, “Keith really didn’t want to do that video, but I really enjoyed seeing a very specific guy’s misery”
ETCETERA ☠️ 😂🐘
Devin is a delight!
Once you go to social security…. There’s no rules.
“Princess Consuela Banana hammock”
Hahahaa, this 😂
"Just welp and stand up." The all knowing start of a midwest goodbye. 🤣
I can attest, the Midwest goodbye is intense. It goes on until after you leave. I spent the 2 hour drive home from Chicago updating my other traveling family members on the road conditions.
I didn’t change my last name when I got married. I wanted to keep my name, so I thought about hyphenating but then I didn’t wanna bother with the hassle. My husband doesn’t care. He’s happy with whatever makes me happy 💕
As someone who went to college in Chicago the whole conversation about Chicago food made me super nostalgic 😢
10:45 Devin's answer to what she likes best about her job is about the most Finance answer I've ever heard. Things are right or wrong, black or white (or red, as the case may be), must be done today or can be done tomorrow, etc. I've worked in Finance support jobs before and often got the benefit of that without actually having to be a Finance person. It's really refreshing.
On the topic of taking last names when getting married, my friend initially took her husband's last name but five years later she decided to create a new last name honoring her mother's and grandmother's maiden names.
I think if she really wants the money back, go through the maid of honor who knows the situation and is probably constantly talking to the bride and can bring up the topic of refunds when the time is right
This is what I was going to recommend, as well! I mean if you Have to ask for it back, maybe go through an intermediary
As a midwestern gal, that midwestern goodbye is so accurate! We don’t like saying goodbye😂 We love our Culver’s and casseroles!
midwest 🤝 german goodbye.
we love the knee slap
I would probably not expect the money back from the wedding and be surprised if I got it back.. The problem with asking is the present is for both the bride and the groom so who do you ask for the money? What if you ask her because that's your friend but he ran off with the fund? Or the honeymoon was already paid for and non-refundable (which is likely), so it will take them a while to raise the money to pay people back..
Me: * Being a Midewesterner geeking out because I live near Woodstock and I'm on my way to Rockford as I am listening to this *
I have a cousin who got married and then got an annulment less than a month later, (got married in October and annulment before Thanksgiving) who never gave any of the gifts back. She then proceeded to tell us all how she is using all the gifts we gave her to buy herself Christmas gifts.
I’m from Normal, IL and I just moved to Michigan. Whenever Becky talks about college it makes me feel so happy and warm inside because I don’t know much about my area yet so I have a hard time talking to locals. I didn’t go to ISU but I partied with my friends there, miss and love everyone so much ❤
One of my favourite episodes being a finance boss girl too. Love love love
Springfield IL Resident here! A horseshoe is technically classified as an open face sandwich. It’s a piece of toast, your choice of meat (hamburger, chicken), fries, and then covered in cheese sauce. Cheese can be white or yellow but white is where it’s at. Delicious!
not me at my harvard walmart job “learning” about milk days😂😂
somehow when devin explained where she was from i KNEW it was gonna be close
As a Minnesota girl, I'm loving this Midwest deep dive 😂
Yes indeed, as a Wisconsin gal, I felt quite understood 😂
The midwest goodbye sounds like the Hispanic goodbye if anybody knows what that means. I don't know what to explain it but my parents do it all the time at their friends houses.
The metra is not the Chicago train system it just also runs through chicago. Chicago train is cta
Oh no, don't ask for your money back. That seems so tacky. A gift is a gift. If they want to return it, great. But if they want it to use it to restart their separate lives, then that's good too. Don't give more than you can afford to lose.
thats what i was thinking!!! if you really need $200 why would you spend it on a present for someone youre not close to?
I agree, I would never ask for it back! If it is offered back to me, I will willingly take it back, but I could not and would not be the one to initiate that transaction whatsoever.
But you gave it as a gift for something specific that then did not happen? Why should they use those gift to restart their separate lives, when it was a gift for both of them to start their lives together?
Like I would not ask for the money back, but I would expect it to come back to me. Like I get that it would probably take awhile to get back to me, because it got to be shit show, but I would definitely think they would be giving all the gifts back. 🤣 Like that would just be normal etiquette.
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My parents did a coin toss when my mom went into labor to decide what last name my sister and i would get 😂 people love it when they learn this!
I live along the NW Metra Line!
For the name-changing question....in most, if not all, Hispanic/Latin countries...when you get married, the woman keeps her last name. If the couple has kids, their kids will carry both parent's last name. I'm one of them....I'm Puerto Rican and in my birth certificate I have both of my parents last name....and also, EVERYTHING you apply for or do in PR, you get asked for both last names...and they are not hyphenated.
We had the EXACT conversation about name changing. It was really important to both of us but were on different sides: he wanted it changed to his and I wanted to keep it. While dating, this was the reason we broke up, but we got back together and while engaged, it became a hit topic again. No one was budging until we accepted to compromise and hyphenate. Both had cultural as a reason for our opinion.
Rainie! I remember that Glee episode. It’s called Hell-O. (it’s one of my fave episodes) Rachel sings Gives You Hell after she finds out that Finn went on a date with Santana and Brittany.
This was so interesting and fun! Love ya, Devin!🤩
note on the tradition of keeping last names!! in chinese + a lottt of other non-western cultures, maternal last names are never changed. i'd personally never change mine bc that's a part of my culture i'd like to not change
I have done several of these finance tasks before (though certainly not at Devin's expert level) and she is now my queen. All hail Devin, long may she reign and keep this place running.
We need Devin as a permanent Sitter
Also mchenry county!!! This is so strange! I’ve never heard ppl say all my home places
Same! I lived in rural Woodstock for a few years
Thank you for keeping the finances straight!
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always love the pod so much!!
Matt's psychiatric ward comment was the funniest thing I've heard in a while.
I miss Ariel I wonder if she would ever be a guest
I want her back too, but I think she would be scared for what people would say in the comments. (Most would be really happy I’m sure, but some people I have talked to are still mad about her staying with him) ☹️
it's interesting to me how they haven't taken ariel's name out of the description yet after all this time. i miss her and hope she's well.
I mean the guys have said the space is open for her if she wants to come back so it’s not like they removed her from the company like Ned but I’m sure she just wants privacy for now
Let this be a lesson to never ever ever everrrr give a gift you might want back! Never ever. I understand her wanting it back but learn from this!!
When i got married i didnt change my name at first because i liked mine better and also was lazy. But almost a year into my marriage, my father cheated on my mom & i wanted nothing to do with him so I finally took my husband’s last name 😅😅
I am from Springfield Illinois and horseshoes are awesome!!! Dublin or Darcy’s are the top 2 here, but so many do a great job with their recipes 😊
As someone who lives in Chicago, we definitely regularly have full conversations about our favorite pizza spots and describe the importance of the sauce, crust, and whatnot.
The midwestern goodbye bit was soooo funny😂😂
I’m not from the Midwest but my family does the midwestern goodbye lol all the way to the car too 😂
Lived in Rockford for 7 months, Culver’s cheese curds are the best!!
Devin was a great guest! I enjoyed the banter!
I am so here for the finance tea 😂
The metra is not the chicago train system. The CTA is. Suburbs are not little towns, they’re suburbs and are absolutely not part of the chicago city culture.
The goodbye talk is soo funny bc it's the same in the South! It takes forEVER! And if you try to do it fast, people think you hate them.
I was waiting for the Woodstock/Groundhog Day mention.
27:00 The Breakfast Club was also filmed in Illinois!
After listening to the girls discuss typical Midwestern behavior and values, I have come to realize Canadians and Midwesterners are very much the same people. (Aside from the deep dish pizza I should say.)
Signed,
A Canadian
Please become our organization’s CFO 😂
Hahahahahah the Midwest goodbye is so iconic 😂😂😂😂 I love us
Shoutout Harvard, IL!
My parents moved me from Lake Villa to the middle of nowhere Michigan in middle school and I assure you, though they are small, those are not small towns 🤣 Actual small towns have nothing but a Subway (if you’re lucky) & a Dollar General.
Hearing about Harvard & milk day in such detail on this podcast blows my mind! I am one town over from there!
So happy they brought up Culver’s, Keith has to eat that menu!
I didn’t change my last name because of laziness, all of my bills and emails, ugh it was so much. No thanks. I just kept it
I would not have considered myself an "older listener" or "seasoned" 😂😂😂
Culvers cheese curds for sureeee ❤❤❤ been working at Culvers for a bit and a Wisconsin native, so good
I felt so at home as a fellow displaced midwesterner
Fried raviolis are toasted ravioli! From STL and they are delicious
SO to Rockford
ROCKFORD REPRESENT! I agree you don't want to think about it 😂 I grew up in the town right over. So weird to hear about little old Harvard on my fave podcast!
Aw, as a resident of Rockford, it was fun to hear a reference to us even if it took a turn. 😅
The midwestern goodbye is the exact same as a dutch goodbye!! Also somehow the juiciest stories are always happening when everybody is standing up to leave!
JET'S PIZZA REPRESENTATION YESSSSSS
Helll yeah I know what Rockford is!!!!!
I went to college like 30 min from Rockford IL !
I honestly don’t know if I’d change my last name. I always wanted to growing up bc I went by my dad’s last name but when I was a teen, I switched back to my mum’s maiden name and I’m really proud of it. Now that her and my grandmother have both passed away, it feels like a link to them. If I do get married, it would need to be a really cool name to switch, I think!
Yes! Culver's is THE BEST!!
Frito pies started in Texas btw.
I can’t imagine how someone would prefer legacies over the originals
I have never been married but I legally changed my last name 6 months ago for personal reasons. It was expensive t leats for me. It varys by state. But I had to get a court hearing, have it published in a newspaper for 3 weeks ($100+) with proof it was published. Then once my court hearing happen I got my official documents and had to go everywhere with my official court documents, new social, and new ID. Even just filing the paperwork had a $200 filing fee.
I did the NE US Goodbye (say bye and leave) until I moved to the US South as a tween. Then I just started doing the Irish Goodbye, because... Nope. Kept a policy of Irish Goodbye or bust until I moved back to the NE about 2 years ago.
Northwest suburbs whoo!
My mom's from Harvard my sister was the milk day princess cus she was the first baby born in June
Cheese curds are so much more than just fried! I love to eat squeaky cheese sans deep fried but I mean fried is great too
Devin representing Culver's cheesecurds!!
The Midwestern goodbye and the Aussie goodbye sounds pretty similar lol
Love the Chicago burbs representation in this episode 😫
We talk about Illinois a lot on this podcast and I think it’s time to interview a true Southern Illinoian and I absolutely will be the first to volunteer.
Personally with the last name thing I don't ever want to change my last name because I just really like it, I think it works with my personality and it's who I am, and also all of my academic and professional accolades all and will all have my last name so what would be the point of it. Also with that guy, he does seem very controlling and not just unwilling to compromise but also very insistent on not even seeing her perspective even if he disagrees and personally I would suggest talking to her friends to see if this is a one off or if she just has love blinders on and this is a consistent thing other people have noticed
If you live in the Chicago metro area it's called 'Chicagoland'.
Becky really wants to know more about those sex dolls 😂❤ great ep guys love the financial emphasis 💸
200 bucks is nothing! We gave my SIL 1000 back in 2019 for their wedding, which first time it was cancelled due to COVID, and the second time just cancelled overall. So the money was never used. That was a lot of money for my husband and I because we were planning our wedding too, and we thankfully had the opportunity to get married in 2021 and her and her partner didn’t help us with any sort of financial assistance nor gift!! I’m slightly salty about that, not with them not helping, but just not giving us back the 1000! Also we found out later they were buying things, and I always wondered if what they purchased was with assistance from our 1000 bucks we gave them! if they decide to get married later they’re not getting any money from us, even though they’ve made comments and how they expect family to help again🙅🏼♀️ I’m sure they also didn’t return any money of other people they asked money from. So overall sucky situation!
CHEESE CURDS ARE LIFE everyone should try cheese curds at least once
Minnesotans call it walking tacos!
I have friends who both changed their names when they got married. They were no longer Mr A and Mrs B but Mr and Mrs A-B and I like that.
When the pod started I for sure thought Becky and Devon were twins
I have a ton of siblings so taking my husband's last name helps us stay organized when referring to branches of the family. We are not all 'the Doe's'
My sister might hyphenate and that would be awesome! Unfortunately my husband's last name is too long already 😅
I would also love if one or more of my 4 brothers wanted to change theirs (also for the sake of organization...lol)
CULVER'S YUSSSSS
I never changed my last name after I got married, and I feel like that’s totally okay. Funny I only received judgement from the older people in my family.