Our Raunchiest Episode Yet (w/ Kelsey Darragh) | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 160

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  • @logalexdavid
    @logalexdavid Год назад +438

    I love Matt being basically the mediator between Kelsey's outgoingness and Maggie's reservedness.

  • @hhopper92
    @hhopper92 Год назад +401

    I really love Rainie's questions in this episode. She always has thoughtful questions, but her question about chronic pain and sex was on my mind and I'm glad she asked it.

  • @Adamayepoh
    @Adamayepoh Год назад +269

    42:27 Maggie's "no" and Kelsey just being like "i forgot who i was talking to" made me laugh out loud

  • @pilimtoro677
    @pilimtoro677 Год назад +205

    I love how Kelsey clarified that orgasm isn’t necessary in order to enjoy sex. It’s not easy for everyone to achieve it and the societal pressure that is put around the “importance” of reaching an orgasm every time you have sex makes it even harder.

  • @meekuhehla8882
    @meekuhehla8882 Год назад +72

    "or you could just be straight and that's cool too! i hate that for you but..." LOL i love kelsey

  • @princessleia9735
    @princessleia9735 Год назад +44

    33:59 “I feel like I’m an Escape Room. It’s like different things every day… beep boop boop - not this time!” I’ve never felt so seen!

  • @futuroid
    @futuroid Год назад +61

    Kelsey is a gem. I hope she finds sponsorships that support transparency

  • @simonsaysism
    @simonsaysism Год назад +25

    Kelsey has the type of sex positivity that we all need. Being so knowledgeable, enthusiastic but respecting boundaries about what others will talk about, and little mentions like respecting sexual "icks" when there's a good reason for them, or saying don't change anything if things are working for you. I have a whole new respect for this lady.

  • @EmiIyClaire
    @EmiIyClaire Год назад +78

    I love how accepting and uplifting Kelsey is. Like she supports you going out, exploring and enjoying yourself with multiple people or if your a demisexual that wants to stay monogamous. Like she truly is sex and relationship positive! ❤

  • @Adamayepoh
    @Adamayepoh Год назад +72

    Maggie has such good comedic timing 😂 like the "nope" and her comparing herself to an escape room 😂😂 she's so underrated ❤

  • @kelbimckinley8042
    @kelbimckinley8042 Год назад +53

    Kelsey saying she knows within minutes of meeting people that she wants to sleep with someone was incredibly validating. From someone also raised in a religious environment where sex wasn't necessarily shamed, but definitely not talked about, and being queer is a sin. I've definitely come a long way in separating myself from that inherent shame, but hearing someone else experience that was so validating. ❤

    • @niheala56
      @niheala56 Год назад

      2nd try, make her a try guy. Give her a vlog! Dan Savage is wonderful but getting old and kind of repetitive. Kelsey Darragh is ❤

  • @Eldariel15
    @Eldariel15 Год назад +10

    literally paused the video and thought to myself ''i wish they'd mention aces too, like it's also okay if you're not interested in anyone'' then started it again and literally in that moment maggie said ''you don't have to be interested in anyone'' and just. I love you maggie

    • @Eldariel15
      @Eldariel15 Год назад +2

      omg she's demi?? that's amazing! (also demi is under the queer umbrella so i guess maggie doesn't need the ''unfortunately straight'' shirt after all)

  • @morgans3936
    @morgans3936 Год назад +154

    it was so validating to hear them speak so kindly about demisexuality💜

    • @laundrywater
      @laundrywater Год назад +1

      Time stamp?

    • @ttisol
      @ttisol Год назад +6

      ​​@@laundrywater it kinda starts at 48:12

    • @laundrywater
      @laundrywater Год назад +1

      @@ttisol Thank you!

  • @kingly.
    @kingly. Год назад +11

    “I don’t have boundaries” is such a well meant red flag in the community. I GUARANTEE there’s a line and you need to know it.

  • @Asi41055
    @Asi41055 Год назад +64

    For some reason, I saw Maggie’s adorable dress, and I thought, “I wonder what Zach would look like wearing that..” since they sometimes share clothes 😂

    • @cheesecakelasagna
      @cheesecakelasagna Год назад +1

      and Try Guys recently uploaded wearing dresses for a week vid!

  • @FlagCutie
    @FlagCutie Год назад +91

    I'm a simple girl, I see Kelsey, I click.
    Plus I adore the whole YCSWU crew.

  • @smole_reptile
    @smole_reptile Год назад +43

    "Eugene got an award for being gay." Peak

  • @SherlockHolmesie
    @SherlockHolmesie Год назад +22

    I was JUST listening to an episode of Miles' podcast with Kelsey and thinking about how I need more Kelsey in my life. Thank you

  • @Jay-yr9oi
    @Jay-yr9oi Год назад +15

    Kelsey's point about talking about sex is so crucial. Making it so it's not something people find shameful opens so many doors, whether it be improving pleasure or reducing assault, abuse, or grooming. , admittedly, am a bit more comfortable talking about these topics than others, since I spent a while teach sex ed programs. However, I find that talking about sex, at least generally, has made me someone my friends are willing to turn to when they have issues (I do avoid talking about specifics of my sex life with friends, but, that's purely because I want to protect the privacy of my partners, and don't want to share details they aren't comfortable with others knowing without their permission).

  • @emgermain
    @emgermain Год назад +16

    I need Kelsey permanently on You Can Sit With Us she brings such a new and fresh perspective and is so real.

  • @sarahofalltradespod
    @sarahofalltradespod Год назад +4

    omfg kelsey as a fellow bi woman i have never felt more seen!!! as someone who has never had sex with a woman and is married to a man, i was like “oh, me and my husband already do all this” and it’s opened my eyes to all of the more specific reasons why our sex life is so good! def made me feel affirmed in my queer identity ❤

  • @_ohhalexx
    @_ohhalexx Год назад +30

    You can’t have “raunchiest episode” without Kelsey

  • @bonitamiller8405
    @bonitamiller8405 Год назад +169

    Kelsey used to annoy me. But I love her opinions an facts an jus everything she's said this episode. She is validating so many ppl rn. Including me

    • @pasc8699
      @pasc8699 Год назад +15

      Me too! She seemed chiller on this podcast somehow😂 I feel like she is so comfortable talking about that stuff and comfortable with these friends that she could just be herself and not overthink/perform

    • @bonitamiller8405
      @bonitamiller8405 Год назад +2

      @@pasc8699 truuu. Cus on guilty pleasure she erked me a bit

    • @tofuteh2348
      @tofuteh2348 Год назад +4

      ​@@pasc8699well i wouldnt assume. Sometimes we just act different with different friends

    • @FroAlchemist
      @FroAlchemist Год назад +5

      So yes, I too have a love/like (but..) relationship with Kelsey. She does come in very strong with her opinions, but she has her moments, like in this video.

  • @sundaesorceress
    @sundaesorceress Год назад +23

    Rainie is such a great interviewer

  • @anonymousone9699
    @anonymousone9699 Год назад +2

    I’ve never been more in love with someone’s excitement for life. Ahh Kelseyyyyy, you are a gift to us all!

  • @arielaim5687
    @arielaim5687 Год назад +22

    I’m so glad we finally get to go *deep* in to this with Kelsey. She’s so insightful and kind ❤️

  • @omgitschanllycac
    @omgitschanllycac Год назад +8

    It really changed my perspective when a professor told me people get hurt by what they thought sex meant, rather than the sex itself. If we see sex as a separate entity, it is easier to navigate in a productive way

  • @fullshewolf
    @fullshewolf Год назад +17

    This made me really want to see both Kelsey and the You Can Sit With Us crew collaborate with Hannah Whitton

  • @ekl1457
    @ekl1457 Год назад +2

    I love how honest Kelsey is while still be so kind and open. Also agreed with Kelsey 100% on that not kissing question.

  • @thatgirl_withtheglasses874
    @thatgirl_withtheglasses874 Год назад +20

    A phrase I heard Trixie Mattel and Katya use (which I think applies to the Rainie debate on coming off bi) is, "you're not straight, you're just heterosexual." There's a difference between the two sometimes qhen it comes to how you act/present yourself.
    The quote is from the Unnnnhhh episode on Straight People BTW!

  • @littlelifeskills
    @littlelifeskills Год назад +3

    Hearing about Kelsey's experience and her advice is so affirming to me. Sometimes you don't know how important representation is until you see it and cry 😂🎉

  • @crit_bot
    @crit_bot Год назад +7

    This was so educational. Thanks for using this platform to create a healthy sex positive atmosphere. I feel like it is such a taboo to talk about this, and it is nice to hear about how much of a spectrum everything is.

  • @cheesecakelasagna
    @cheesecakelasagna Год назад +5

    26:05 I'ma need Kelsey finish that book ASAP!

  • @chaosndelights
    @chaosndelights Год назад +11

    Hello! Fellow bi person here! Def had those feelings when in a heterosexual relationship of not being legit, but time (and moving far away lol) helped me realize my true self :) lots of love to Kelsey and the rest of the pod ❤️

    • @TaylorBishop8890
      @TaylorBishop8890 Год назад +5

      I've been in a hetero, monogamous relationship for 13 years, married 9, and we have a child. I have a hard time seeing myself with anyone else so I often wonder if how I identify my sexuality even matters. This conversation and your comment are both very validating 🩷

  • @emyherrera
    @emyherrera Год назад +13

    I have to say I’ve never felt so validated than by hearing how causally Maggie talked about being Demisexual. I always worry it’s going to keep me from having a happy healthy relationship and it means a lot for her to share considering how private she is

  • @alexaporter9095
    @alexaporter9095 Год назад +2

    I love when Kelsey gets added to the dynamic 😌 also I'm 26 and learned something!!!

  • @kawaiiakuma1313
    @kawaiiakuma1313 Год назад +19

    I love Kelsey so much, she makes me feel more normal with sexual stuff, it's slowly becoming less embarrassing to me even though I've been with the same guy for a LONG time, and now we make jokes that my vag is "slimer" and he(slimer) often has notes about sex we have, depending on position.
    But yeah thanks for making us girls feel normal Kelsey!

  • @maddierader2231
    @maddierader2231 Год назад +1

    this is the episode I needed! Especially as a person who doesn't really have any friends to talk to about this stuff

  • @noellephoenix9627
    @noellephoenix9627 Год назад +9

    This episode gave me such joy. ❤

  • @jaedubbo
    @jaedubbo Год назад +9

    1) Kelsey calling Maggie "Moogie" was SO CUTE ;~; it warmed my lil hort
    2) I really like Kelsey's explanation about "can I kiss you?" versus "should we kiss?" I've asked other women the first question before but I really like how there's a "we" in the second question because it allows us both/all people to be further involved in the choice. In the future I might ask "can we kiss?" instead of should, but idk, I'm open to trying out both variations :)

  • @gaysiansociolog404
    @gaysiansociolog404 Год назад +43

    Would listen to Crude and the prude pod

  • @robynk16
    @robynk16 Год назад +1

    Great questions, great conversations on the subject, and great info from you all! Wonderful episode!

  • @eyeseajujubee
    @eyeseajujubee Год назад +3

    I absolutely loved how Kelsey talked about bisexuality. I relate to feeling bisexuality on a spectrum and wanting to find fellow bi friends 🌈💖

  • @dulcebautista1437
    @dulcebautista1437 Год назад +26

    Love Kelsey! Love her openness and honesty, love her normalization of a sex talk between adults💜

  • @roselorax7227
    @roselorax7227 Год назад +10

    This is a really interesting perspective for me to hear as someone in and around the asexual community and having a lot of sex repulsed friends

  • @SarcasticParenting
    @SarcasticParenting Год назад +6

    I think this is one of my favorite episodes

  • @chloehunt6927
    @chloehunt6927 Год назад +7

    So excited for this episode!!

  • @teamlining7685
    @teamlining7685 Год назад +20

    Maggie is so cute, love her. Her skin is so glowy and pretty, she looks gorg.

  • @naomiconway9223
    @naomiconway9223 Год назад +29

    As a constantly-unreasonably-doubting-my-queerness bi woman the things Kelsey said are so affirming.

    • @assas1nscreed
      @assas1nscreed Год назад +2

      I see those bangs girl- those are bi bangs

  • @Lily-ei5ph
    @Lily-ei5ph Год назад +89

    yall already know this but any episode with kelsey is just elite

  • @jennayy162
    @jennayy162 Год назад

    I love how open Kelsey is and I strive to be that way

  • @gracel9080
    @gracel9080 Год назад +4

    Yessss living for this episode!!!

  • @francis2fly
    @francis2fly Год назад +8

    This should be part of everyone's Sex Ed class. Great information!

    • @EvWuzhere
      @EvWuzhere Год назад +1

      Sex ed should literally be kelsey just coming into everyones class and singing cupcakke

  • @Firegurl8000l
    @Firegurl8000l Год назад +1

    great conversation!! thank you guys

  • @sienjansen6354
    @sienjansen6354 Год назад +1

    in love with this series

  • @gamberlane
    @gamberlane Год назад +9

    This was exactly what I needed right now. Kelsey should be a sex therapist!

  • @lillygalles572
    @lillygalles572 Год назад +4

    These feet in the episode lol. Kelsey! So happy to see you, I have chronic pain and have the restless legs as well. KEEP ON

  • @cleverhaunts
    @cleverhaunts Год назад +1

    This whole episode was so validating❤️

  • @milla4898
    @milla4898 Год назад +17

    Listened to this already on apple podcasts but came to comment how much I enjoyed this ep and an advice question for Kelsey/fellow YCSWU listeners!!
    So, I am a bi women in a long term hetero relationship. I don’t bring up my sexuality unless asked or if it’s relevant to the conversation (this is what is most comfortable for me!). My problem: I’ve yet to tell my lesbian best friend of 6+ years. Back when I was even less comfortable being open about my sexuality, she really got into cracking jokes on our “straight”-lesbian friendship dynamic and I just sort of played along. It’s been so long now that I don’t know how to bring it up but I really want to be honest with her 😭 help???

    • @livlivlivya
      @livlivlivya Год назад +6

      I’m also a bi woman in a long term hetero relationship! I also don’t really bring up my sexuality unless the situation really calls for it. If I were in your position and wanted to tell a long time friend, I’d probably bring it up in a lighthearted moment and say something like “hey I know this may seem weird that I didn’t tell you a long time ago, but I’m actually bi and I’ve known I was for [x amount of time], I just don’t talk about it much. I hope you understand my reasoning for not saying something sooner and it doesn’t mean I didn’t feel like I could trust you, just that I didn’t know how to bring it up after all this time” and hopefully she’ll understand and maybe you guys can laugh about it! And if she reacts negatively, her feelings are not really your responsibility.

    • @TaylorBishop8890
      @TaylorBishop8890 Год назад +1

      Really appreciate these comments. Can totally relate. ♥️ It's so hard to know if it's even "worth it" to come out because I've been in my monogamous hetero relationship for so long. So I often only mention it if it comes up, and I don't discuss it with family or unsafe people. Not ready for that yet.

    • @milla4898
      @milla4898 Год назад

      @@livlivlivya thank you so much for some of this vocabulary!! Appreciate it a lot :) yeah, it’s definitely the worry of her feeling like I’ve being lying to her/haven’t trusted her with the info that’s been holding me back

    • @milla4898
      @milla4898 Год назад

      @@TaylorBishop8890 thank you for the response, it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in these scenarios! I’m not out to family either, so I feel you there.

    • @TheShauNanigans
      @TheShauNanigans Год назад +1

      Maybe you can bring it up as a question. As if you didn't realize you hadn't mentioned it before. "Did you not know I was bi? I'm so sorry. I thought I told you by now, but it also doesn't come up a lot in conversation, so I must not have realized you didn't know." Something to that effect. Then it is more the fact that you have been friends for so long that you thought she knew.
      As a person in a hetero relationship, I tell people I am pansexual all the time. 1) I want people of all genders/sexual orientations who are my friends to know that while it may not be obvious that I am on the LGBT spectrum, I am not only an ally, I am also part of the overall group they identify with. Being in hetero relationships does give us a greater privilege than someone LGBT+ who cannot hide their identities, but that does not mean we need to keep our identities to ourselves. 2) It should not feel like something you should not bring up in conversation. If you are nervous to bring it up in conversation, maybe the person you are talking to isn't worth your time. 3) The more visibility of people from all walks of life on the LGBT+ spectrum the better. Be out. Be proud. Millions of people fought for our right to do so. Make people who don't want us to exist nervous because they learn there are even more of us than they realize. Even people in hetero relationships committed for decades are people they could be fighting to take away their right to love who they want. There is strength in numbers. Be that strength. 4) Now you get to discuss who you think is hot together. Maybe you already did, anyway, but if that's the case it should have been fairly obvious you do not gender discriminate based on who you are attracted to or might sleep with if you weren't in a committed relationship.
      That's just my 50 cents.

  • @stephanieshanonn366
    @stephanieshanonn366 Год назад +1

    this is my favorite episode so far !

  • @maddirachael6362
    @maddirachael6362 Год назад +13

    im a simple girl. i see an episode of literally anything with kelsey, i click.

    • @amyhoops5885
      @amyhoops5885 Год назад +1

      Me too now! Within a few minutes of her talking, I realized I wasn't subscribed to her. And I remedied that immediately.

  • @daliatoro9429
    @daliatoro9429 Год назад +1

    loving this series so far (:

  • @manuelandrescaminopajares9751
    @manuelandrescaminopajares9751 Год назад +2

    Maggie is very friendly and knows how to make conversation enjoyable.

  • @Danteax
    @Danteax Год назад +2

    Kelsey I give no shits about what people say about you, you’re a goddamn icon to me and I hope you never stop what you’re doing

  • @fauxgothgirlfriend
    @fauxgothgirlfriend Год назад

    For the people wondering, I think the first toy Kelsey is talking about is the "Enby" from Wild Flower. I could be wrong but it sounds similar.

  • @lolololollipops
    @lolololollipops Год назад +1

    Love this series!!!

  • @hannahmariani2927
    @hannahmariani2927 Год назад +8

    so, when is Crude and Rude premiering??

    • @ashVand
      @ashVand Год назад +2

      Crude and Prude*!! LOL!

  • @sonkien3
    @sonkien3 Год назад +3

    Kelsey darragh, I’ve never clicked so fast

  • @courtneymerson8980
    @courtneymerson8980 Год назад +3

    This was beautiful Kelsey!!

  • @kgbeckj
    @kgbeckj Год назад +1

    I NEED the shirt you talked about at PRIDE... Unfortunately Straight! That's my energy

  • @Gabrielles108
    @Gabrielles108 Год назад

    Thank God 😅 this is a needed episode

  • @eloisedevant1127
    @eloisedevant1127 Год назад +3

    I so want to listen to Crude and the Prude

  • @HerCrochetCorner
    @HerCrochetCorner Год назад

    How was I not already subscribed!!! Gasp

  • @rachelreetz6614
    @rachelreetz6614 Год назад +1

    Ohhhh my lunch break just came early ☕️👀

  • @Claireannette77
    @Claireannette77 Год назад +7

    KELSEY BABY💕💕💕🥰

  • @sundaesorceress
    @sundaesorceress Год назад +4

    53:45 Kelsey is right that price really makes a difference when it comes to sex toys but Adam&Eve and LoveHoney both have some really good toys in a cheaper range, and LoveHoney often has lots of discounts (including a student discount!) so please do not feel like you can’t get a good toy under $100

  • @LostNTranslations
    @LostNTranslations Год назад +2

    PLEASE! Link for that stingray thingie?????🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @ednasierra1083
    @ednasierra1083 Год назад +3

    Great episode.

  • @sierravalentinee
    @sierravalentinee Год назад

    OH MY GOD the seventeen year olds are WILDING Kelsey I feel that so hard lmao

  • @TheShauNanigans
    @TheShauNanigans Год назад +1

    The fact that this pod is at 69,000 subscribers during sex month... NICE!!!

  • @morgueish
    @morgueish Год назад +6

    8:12 I truly pride myself on being this person- flashbacks to when I was with my ex, on our way home from a date, and our friend called me freaking out because he had a toy get stuck during anal training 😭 since I was out with my ex I just had to explain to him in detail how to remove it over the phone. (Since he spent an hour attempting before he called and I'm sure someone else doesnt know, here's the instructions lol: you take a minute to relax because you're probably gorilla gripping it due to stress, lube your fingers up, work your fingers in alongside, and use them to cover whatever ridge or bump got stuck in order to pull it out! It may take time especially if you're not used to bigger sizes but your holes are extremely elastic, trust.) This is particularly funny because I need to work on asking for help myself so it only goes one way 😅 I gladly haven't had any genital situation I couldn't take care of myself.

  • @TheEmilyxx99
    @TheEmilyxx99 Год назад

    i'm in a relationship with a man, but i absolutely need this 'Bi Guide' that Kelsy is talking about! Looking forward to her insights!

  • @AvoryFaucette
    @AvoryFaucette Год назад +2

    This was a great episode but the question about sexual attraction I kind of was scratching my head going "I think you're describing arousal?" (especially at the beginning talking about the physical part). This thing that I think is confusing for some of us on the ace spectrum is like okay, but what is attraction *to a person* like? Do you tend to literally be aroused when you see them? The second part was helpful, though, the idea of visualizing having sex with someone, I wonder if that's a common experience for allosexual people! I'm demi and sexual attraction is pretty rare, so like Maggie I need the emotional depth as a baseline, and then it seems pretty arbitrary whether a desire to touch bits or something comes up!

    • @AvoryFaucette
      @AvoryFaucette Год назад +1

      Also, if anyone is feeling nervous about Kelsey freaking out about it taking 45 minutes, FYI it's not that unusual for it to take 2-3 hours, and there's nothing wrong with you if that's how it works for you! ❤

  • @Bazinga.Punk.
    @Bazinga.Punk. Год назад +2

    Y’all I really thought I’ve been exploitative with sex but then I watched this episode and realized I would probably be considered vanilla

  • @stephaniehawkins4047
    @stephaniehawkins4047 Год назад +8

    I am team CRUDE AND PRUDE

  • @emiliehanes838
    @emiliehanes838 Год назад +6

    I adore Rainie!!! (and everyone else obvs lol)

  • @AsianIsMe
    @AsianIsMe Год назад

    Sometimes I wished I had experimented more being bi, but I never had the courage to pursue women. At the same time I'm happy I found my person who just happens to be a straight guy 😅

  • @tat-cb3wk
    @tat-cb3wk Год назад

    i would love to just talk abt s*x with kelsey because of our shared lack of a filter!!! 😂

  • @sovrooo
    @sovrooo Год назад +1

    hello from germany ❤ love u all

  • @juliacoves5873
    @juliacoves5873 Год назад +2

    I’m bi/pan Kelsey!! Part of the silent majority 🫡

  • @sophia9845
    @sophia9845 Год назад +1

    The crude and the prude 😭😭

  • @amyhoops5885
    @amyhoops5885 Год назад +12

    Fellow demisexual (and also pansexual Leatherwoman!) here, Maggie! You're awesome🎉❤.

  • @Brochachacha
    @Brochachacha Год назад +1

    Crude & prude pod!

  • @yourlocalwitchyfriend2722
    @yourlocalwitchyfriend2722 Год назад +6

    we need a pt 2 with Kelsey

  • @tiarizky7226
    @tiarizky7226 Год назад +1

    27:24 43:40

  • @amiraharuna
    @amiraharuna Год назад +1

    I want to be friends with Kelsey so bad

  • @GeorgiannaMiller5
    @GeorgiannaMiller5 Год назад

    Kelsey there is an episode about SATC about sober sex you should watch.

  • @pipsplace9072
    @pipsplace9072 Год назад +7

    Love the demisexual representation!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @manuelandrescaminopajares9751
    @manuelandrescaminopajares9751 Год назад

    Viva Maggie¡¡¡

  • @mhennessy8230
    @mhennessy8230 Год назад

    Slay!!!