I'm 42 yrs old now. I've Been a heavy addict since I was 16, 3 years ago, I Lost my wife and daughter because of heavy porn use . The guilt almost killed me, so I said enough and decided to escape from this shithole. I read a ton of books (the best one was "Befapless" because it had the most realistic steps for quitting), joined communities(like "r/nofap"), and gave it all to quit. . I'm clean for 3 years now. I feel regret every day about the time that passed. I wasted my life. I wish I hadn't. God, I wish I hadn't. If you're young reading this, please do anything at all necessary to overcome this ASAP!
Analyse PMO 1. mental blockade 2. Have this routine 3. Meditate / mindfulness 4. Have a supporting community 5. Learn about addiction 6. Practice positive affirmation 7. Learn about purpose 8. Replace the activity/trigger 9. Social connection social skills
I started my addiction when I was 11, now I’m almost 14 and I’ve made quite a lot of progress, thanks hamza, you have really been an inspiration for my journey.
What porn does to you is torture, when it continuously happens it seems like a never ending thing, but somehow deep inside you there’s this inner alpha male in you that refuses to let you give up at your lowest, your ancestors had it in them and so do you, don’t give up ever, you all got this
@@amalrajpr6800 Those aren't women, those are pixels. We were brainwashed into thinking that. The beautiful thing is that the brainwashing can be destroyed.
If you’re going through this DON’T GIVE UP and be relentless. No matter how long the cycle is, the constant intention to quit no matter what forms a new connection in your mind bit by bit and eventually the dots will connect, the circuit will be complete and the reprogramming will be done (just like the programming to build the addiction). You reach a point when you’re doing it while not wanting to do it even before you do it (a sign the reprogramming is nearly complete) until eventually you stop and never go back. It’s hard to explain but just keep going towards the light no matter how far back it keeps going because you’ll reach it eventually and every step counts to getting you closer. Good luck brother, don’t disappoint us.
The “Tell yourself in the mirror you’re a legend, an alpha male” is completely facts. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Live feeling identified with the identity you want to achieve, even if right now you aren’t “really” that guy. He who controls the power of the Mind controls life as a whole.
@@Wealthy_MysticMaybe you just don't see yourself highly enough. You need to be arrogant to the point you feel like everyone around you is inferior (but still be nice to them and stuff) and journal positively about yourself
"You don't achieve confidence by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are" - Alex Hormozi My friend, stop thinking that talking to yourself in the mirror will make you a legend. Focus on building good habits, being a man of honor.
@@Delicashilous if your a over weight incel that managed to make there self believe that there a alpha male then maybe they will believe it but in the end there still an over weight incel
posted this right when I'm really struggling to stop. I already know this will help me a shit load. hamza has done more for me as a father figure that I could've ever asked for. love brother❤
@@browhat6935 never been there for me. never taught me anything or any of the values ik now. told him about my depression and just threw me down saying it ain't real. basically just have my mom but there's only so much she can teach me and be there for me right. it is what it is. if I ever become a dad u already know I'm gonna be the best
@@shxne1x591 even so , try to have a good time with your father , maybe he just tought you r just sad for a moment or smthing like that , or maybe he didnt had the time in that moment or maybe or maybe ... just be happy for your dad in front of you even if he didnt do that much for you . Have a great day
Hey hamza I'm 14 years old right now and about 6 months ago I started with self improvement and watching you, Andrew tate and many others and it really has changed my entire life. I came to you through my dad because he watches you too. I started becoming better in Handball because of the mindset I built through your videos and I want to thank you for everything youve done for me and many other people. Thank you Hamza
@@smash7176 so I basically have no free time and am stressed but the thing is stress keeps you on your toes the whole day an I'm more concentrated. You have to find a way that fits you tho
I was so tired of self improvement youtubers that fed you "nothing burgers". I watched them for hours and never made progress. Hamza truly redirected the path I was taking in life. He speaks from the heart and it shows.
@@ace.of.flames6361 yeah you're right. When they said "Whenever you feel like procrastinating, picture yourself being successful in the future" I guess I didn't picture myself being successful enough. Oh and when 99% of nofap videos said "Bro just know your triggers." I guess I didn't know that hot women would make me want to watch porn. There is a reason Hamza has a such a tight knit community and a cult following, he gives genuine advice on how to be a better man. Apply yourself bro
I don't comment too often but respect for showing your true emotions on the subject. I don't think as men we should smother our emotions as a lot of "masculinity gurus" tend to say these days. You should simply be a strong enough man that it actually means something when the emotions do show. When a weak man produces tears its worthless, but on the rare occasions where a strong man produces them, it says more than words ever could. Thank you for being genuine. Cheers mate.
Yeah man, I cried watching this video, out of the 100 past Hamza videos I watched these last few years nothing has made me so much as tear up a bit but this felt extremely relatable. Got into it at 13 on a phone in my dad’s bathroom, first mind blowing high/explosion then addiction begin. At 17/18 still a V no girlfriend and discover NF/NP on Reddit, relapse after 3 days endlessly, finally get to a week, then two weeks. Feel a lot better. Get to 30 days many times while in college, relapse a couple times but after falling back into my old ways and feeling disgusted, seeing it impact my grades/social life/happiness I say enough is enough, get to 90 days for the first time in my life since I was 12 and never fapped, met endless beautiful women naturally irl, got into weight lifting seriously and transformed my body to the point guys & girls kept complimenting me when I used to be very scrawny, cured my life long crippling social anxiety & low confidence/self esteem, made a bunch of life long best friends I enjoyed a vibrant social life with all of college, was able to focus and pass through all of computer science while most people dropped out. Got a lot more i with women, at 19 discovered TRP on Reddit in its glory days before it died, you could feel all the energy, wisdom, strength & power back then… it’s all gone now but it’s influence continues in the self improvement/manosphere space on RUclips (not all the toxic fresh & fit Bs, the original philosophy was just teaching men authentic masculinity & self development, taking full ownership of your life and learning every man has the power to shape it, attraction through masculinity instead of bull**** PUA) it really did change my life… I hope every young 11 - 16 yo watching this takes heed in the warnings from us older men in our early to mid 20s. We were you, the sooner you quit the more exponentially better your life can be.
I really hate to admit this, but I literally got some thoughts about watching porn while watching a video on how to STOP watching porn. Fortunately, I got up and took a walk. That's how fucking dangerous and addictive this drug is. Keep strong boys! If you are like me while watching this video, I promise you it's not worth it at all. Go and take a walk and think about your future life. Imagine your partner or future wife watching you. You CAN do it.
5 life lesson i learned about this valuable Video. 1. I m not trying to quiet fap because i just dont do it 2. Meditate 3. Replace the bad habits 4. Be always alpha male in your mind 5. Dont think yourself ur beta
Boy you're helping us so much. I'm currently improving my situation with porn and my goal is too beat this addiction by the end of the year and i'm sure i'll make it. Thank you so much dude, thanks for improving my life.
bro end of the year is so far make a bit harder goals end of the year is fr 8 months. u want to beat your meat like a little monkey for 8 more months???
from 4:30 to 6:00 ,your authenticity, and honesty is really touching and earnest. Because you could have cut, looked at the images, written the sentances down and resay them without tears, but no you chose the genuine route
@@phoenixgamer6737 Not really There are many differences in his speech you can notice that signal that he may have actually cried or at least got very close to it Which honestly I think is very impactful with the message. It really shows how important this was to his life, that made a tough guy like that cry
@@phoenixgamer6737 Him who is probably reading this knows very well that he did one of the following: Tried to hide it by saying it's allergies, or got actually allergies while getting emotional, or only got hallergies and didn't get emotional. And just like Hycix said, according to the way his speech got different and all the other signals he knows that we know he got emotional lmao but like I said it's really okay, it's only prooving and showing how impactful it was to him. It's a sign of intelligence not to let go and forget things that emotionally impacted you. I'm grateful for seeing emetional and almost cry. It's okay for him to cry, it's okay to cry as long as you do something about it, which he did and does for us today
@@phoenixgamer6737 The way he rolls his eyes at the beggining of 4:40, the way he looks disappointed about himself and all and here:before 5:05 the tears got up and up and up to his face and at 5:05 and looks at the camera with tears almost falling and he explains what was wrong and what is wrong about it and how it impacted his life etc
Hamza, i'd like to thank you, you were my first step to stop with the addiction, i was addicted in my 13's and after 3 months of constant failure, i discovered your channel, and it inspired me. Again, thank you Hamza
What really helped me make progress (we talking twice a day to once every other week) was to visualize a beautiful relationship with another girl, not just the modern day “friends with benefits” where it’s just hedonistic pleasures and you’re depolarized as fuck, but an actually romantic relationship where you truly bond with each other. You really need that moment to click in your head when you realize “damn, this is what i’ve been sacrificing all this time for 10 seconds of instant pleasure and guilt”. To me it occurred when I was watching some rom fan fiction (don’t ask). I saw how well this “couple” vibed together and it struck me, “ *this* is what a relationship feels like??”, after sitting down and meditating on it for 20 minutes my mindset was completely changed…
17 years old guy here! I can not explain the amount of motivation i got from this Pakistani guy and i really do appriciate it. These videos are pure enjoy and people that need to hear this will watch it. Its not Jefrey VS Adonis anymore, the change had to be done. You are touching young mens soul,brain,heart and feelings on another amazing lever. Really love you Hamza just like many others! Keep pushing...
I drop tears in the first 10 minutes. Cause I feel the same way you felt when you were addicted. I still have this addiction for a long long time. I'm happy for you that you overcomed this addiction. For me this video is a blessing from god. I watched thousands of videos like this talking about how to get ride of this dirty addiction. And this video is something else. I lost battles but i didn't lost the war. I believe I can break this addiction. Cause I'm still fighting. And i will never ever give up. I can't thank you enough Hamza. This generation needs Man like you. Wish you all the best and more of success in your life ❤
Hamza, your videos are really helpful and appropriate for men of my age. I'm 19 and it's really good that this addiction is being addressed without stigma.
this is like everything im going through, i started "doing it" at 12 years old...... but it was once a day everyday. everyime i come downstairs the thought STUCK in my mind. im now 13 and on self improvement, i did think of myself as the alpha male and now i still unfortunate do it but its more like a week i can go, im still working on it and these videos are amazing, keep it up brother.
Thank you for everything, Hamza. I've fully watched this video before a while. It changed my life and still does. The best 52 minutes and 36 seconds in my life.
Hamza, I freaking love your content. Thank you for posting this, I'm at a time of my life where i'm trying to quit self-destructive habits and your videos have really helped me a lot.
"you should have so much self compassion that people think your weird for loving you" I love when he said that because its a perfect play of self compassion internally which comes off as narsissim externally. Thank you hamza
I know this might sound counterintuitive and a bit cliche...but the best way I would say is to make the decision, and actually make that decision and you are the boss and you are gonna do it.. regardless.. that's is it...the temptations can keep coming but it's up to you and that's the personal power
I'm 19 and since I started listening to you and some other guys like the Tate Brothers, I stopped fapping and doing bad activities. I started fapping when I was 13, and it never reached a point where I was fapping twice or 3 times a day, but it still made me feel very bad. When I had my first girlfriend it slowed down a bit, but I still fapped. I was trying to stop since I was 16/17, and the most I did was like a month on no fap. But I'm clean for about 4 months now, and I never felt better, physically and mentally. There were really hard days where I almost relapsed, but I kept going, and I'll keep going forever. Ty Hamza.
Ive never watched/heard such great advice on porn addiction. Its relatable and right as I was about to relapse this video just popped up on my home page. It was like a miracle. I thank you Hamza.
@@theunknownSoldier.bro please can you explain me what's it about, there is not even a single yt video which explains it. I can't buy book cause of parents, I would look for pdf after I finish current books but I would be thankful if you explain me the idea.
Bro I’m in the same position as hamza when he was young, I’m a skinny 14 year old guy who can’t get over the addiction and it happens every night,I always feel shame just seconds after doing, since I’ve been watching Hamza he has given me the mindset and the motivation to make a change for good.
I started my addiction at around 11 yrs old, I was going 2-3 times a day. I'm nearly a week out now and I have never felt better. Thank you Hamza for helping me escape the shit hole I was living in.❤
you’re one of the main reasons i started a youtube channel and it’s changed my life for the better drastically in such a short period of time. thank you hamza, hope to meet you some day brother!
This is not about P addiction it's about saving your sacred seed once you understand that, you won't fall for it ever again. Your sacred seed has benefits that can help you achieve your goals fast whether it's gains, health, or wealth
Watched it at 6 AM three days ago and slept crying in the middle of the video, woke up a different breed, didn’t fap since then, I couldn’t hold it for one day for years and this the first time I easily go for three days, and I’m not breaking any time soon ✊🏻
Here's a little trick I learned while working with discipline and no fap. I began with intermittent fasting, for 16 hours per day, eventually eating 1 meal per day. and I started introducing fasting days. I'd have 2-3 days of complete fasting (water tea and coffee only) every 2 weeks. After a few months i've noticed that fasting helps build so much discipline and mental strength + will power it's not even funny. If you can stop yourself from the urge to eat, you can master no fap like a joke. Nowadays I actually feel bad when i have to go sleep with a woman thereby "losing my streak".
@@anujpatidar2008 The gym welcomes you my brother. I'm 13 and I used to be overweight as hell (82kg to be exact) at the start of January. When I started working out in January I lost so much weight. As of April 8 I am now 71kg. You should bulk (be in a calorie surplus, meaning eat more than you burn)
@@anujpatidar2008 bro eat the following thing morning and afternoon: minum 100g oats, milk or and yogurt (no sugar)banana or fruits, peanut butter chia seed (no necessary but healthy and has no tatse and add calories ) and you can add some whey. Try to eat everyday egg, meats or fish's. Don't fear getting fat (never gonna happen don't worry and it's not a big deal of you lose your abs). Go to the gym 5/6 time a week. Work to failure, control the down part of exercise. Use push pull legs for begging. Drinks lot of water get sunlight and you gtg.
@@prag016 I'm vegetarian and can't go to gym as I live in village and also my parents don't allow me. My exams have ended yesterday so now it's break for 10 weeks before school, I wanna change and starting tomorrow. The foods I'm eating is 750ml of milk, 10 chapatis, 150 gm of peanuts and some other stuff like vegetables and rice etc. Total calories make upto 2400+ and protein is around 80gm. As a beginner I'm doing push-pull-arms cause I have injured my knee due to football. I'm starting low for building momentum. I'm hitting chest and back 2 times a week with pushups and pull-ups and hitting shoulders, bicep, tricep, forearm, abs around 3 times a week. I have dumbell at home so. I'm telling this cause maybe you have some advice for me like what can I change.
One of the realest and open videos on YT. He made me cry. “The movies” are so toxic , well done for sharing your story brother! Wishing you well from 🇺🇸
Hamza when you cried I felt that in my soul. I saw myself when you were talking about that inner guilt. We’re all on this journey together and one day we will all talk about and tell our children that Hamza changed our lives. #Hamzachangeslives
dint watch the video and wont cuz its been 2 yrs but this man is real serious. ig i have already read the books and i am grateful to have a supportive father who understood me when i told him and thanks to him for buying them earlier. i am grateful for the lessons i have learnt from a great teacher . thanks hamza
1. Endure the pain. • “If you find yourself going through hell, keep going.” 2. Change your habits. • telling yourself you’re doing nofap isn’t enough. • set a boundary to stop the same scenario from repeating itself every single day. 3. 14:44
I used to have a really bad porn addiction, but I changed my habits so now I don’t. I’m a big believer in how you start your morning dictates how the rest of a normal day will go, so I did small things like charging my phone downstairs and buying an alarm clock, so I don’t look at porn in the morning, made my bed, had my clothes laid out the night before so I knew exactly what I was wearing, went for a 25 min walk, ate oats that I made the night before etc. After all that, I felt good and productive and wanted to carry that on throughout the rest of the day.
Important note: after a few weeks into meditation you will feel like your mindfulness has gotten WORSE. This is just because you are now more aware of how much your mind is thinking.
I appreciate how you talk about how we need to have such a high ego, to the point where it's narcissistic, to hit the height of the bell curve. I started doing this and I am finding improvement. I am not narcissistic, but this feeling of I'm the best drives me to keep being my best. I'm shaping my personality to who I want to be. Sometimes I talk like I know for a fact what I'm saying, and it makes me look more confident.
even tho narcissism is a negative trait it usually gets u further in live than more humble ppl do same as psychopaths/sociopaths(idk which one it was) always end up in some position of power etc i dont even know why i watched this vid being a girl but u guys all keep it up and stay healthy
To the worthwhile person seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop you or define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️
This video couldn't have come at a better time, literally downloaded 2 books regarding this less than an hour ago lol. God bless you bro, it's the biggest problem of our time.
Thankyou so much hamza, I was first exposed to pornography when I was 7 years old and it has been a struggle ever since (I’m almost 16 now). I got really good at hiding it and nobody has really been there that I can talk to about it. Been trying hard to stop for about 1/2 a year and I’m way better but it’s a long and difficult process to quit an addiction so readily available and promoted by people around me at school.
Alhamdulilah, hamza this, your last and the video before have been the most valuable videos ive ever watched on the internet. Thank you for spending time to film this and give them out to us for free🙌🏽
Fapping did change my life entirely as a student. I couldn't study well, couldn't memorise things properly for a long time, kep forgetting stuff. Couldn't focus at all. Ate a lot more junk food, didn't focus on health. Eventually got my testosterone so low also. Fapping did take toll on my social life too. But I've changed myself for the better for the past 2 years. Started working out. Read books, woke up early and meditate.. I still wish i would have studied better in my school days could have got better score than an average score which i could have been proud of. Now im going to start my college in January and in ready for the fresh start. If your a kid in school reading this and fapping everyday Dont think you're alone..and understand and overcome this evil!❤
Barakallahufik hamza!!! I really need this, it's been really hard to control myself during Ramadhan. I hope with this video i can finally get rid of this unhealthy addiction and sinful action, InsyaAllah...
it's all connected, if we lead a healthy lifestyle such problems would not exist. healthy in all aspects - physical, mental, social, spiritual, intellectual, creative
Bro, I couldn’t even look at a woman in the eye for 3 seconds. My eyes would just go away (down to the chest area most of the time) or I would just look away and pretend like I’m busy. ANY WOMAN. Sounds weird but even when I look at my sisters and mother all I could think of is that. Even though I’m not attracted to them. This shit messes a man up. Fuck this bro I understand you and everyone in this comment. From now on this is my staple to quit fapping. I will update every week how it’s been going because this must stop.
Hamza, you've helped me and many to get direction. I am now very disciplined and trying to live over the edge constantly. As a consequence i am now obligated to surpass you.
I had free therapy in the military and I mentioned how I was quitting porn and the therapist told me it's not a bad habit and actually could help you. Therapy doesn't help quit porn.
got out of it just by going to the gym constantly and seeing how each time i did it i wasn't able to lift as much as when I didnt do it for a week, it really gives you a wake up call and makes you realize how weaker it makes you the moment you start going to the gym, i didn't do it since 3 months now and my confidence as well as my power and muscle growth speed has increased a lot, my voice has gotten deeper and I became more motivated to doing anything i set my mind to, it is truly life changing.
Hamza, i am 100% certain that any evil soulless bastard that is blaming you for “toxic masculinity” or “brainwashing” is committing a crime against men. Never stop what youre doing, you are more precious than any doctor out there right now.
@@beganitdidnt6535 "one guy would hoard all the women" you dont live in the era of Genghis Khan. second, theres more women than men in the world. therefor, if you cant get 1, then your mindset and mentality is fucked.
After 8 years of weed/hash addiction and 2 years of drinking alcohol 🍸 I am finally clean and on day 60! All credit goes to Hamza and Andrew tate. Now am also gng for No Fap full time until I get married no sexual activity. 🎉
thank you, brother 100% facts. These lessons should be teaching in school but instead they promote other shit. lots of young men are lost for this and there should be more videos about this. This means a lot with the personal experience because lot of men are stuck at the same cycle. thank you, brother. keep changing lives for better. Respect for you and Tate brothers too for preaching about this.
HOLY SH!!! I’ve been practicing meditation and mindfulness for 4-5 years off and on and never realized coming back to square one as a rep!!!! My BROTHER!!! What a gem piece of advice!!!!
W video as always from hamza. Thanks for sharing such amazing content all the time. I swear to you hamza, I will come back in one to two years at the best I am (who knows even less maybe a few months) and I will share with you my success. I am turning 16 this October and I am excited to make so much progress in my life. Thank you hamza, and I wish only the best for you from here!
I believe the reason why this is such a widespread issue throughout men is because for many people its excused as something that "isnt that bad" and that "every guy does it". Unfortunately in the cases ive seen, myself included, it just gives you an excuse to just keep doing it. It also changes the way you perceive other addictions, such as drugs and alcohol. My main issue with this was that i refused to admit it was a problem for a long time, and i refused to fully realize i wasnt doing it because i really liked it, i was doing it as a way to cope with trauma from my life. Another similar one i was struggling with was sex addiction. I couldnt go 2 weeks without having sex with someone. A random hookup here and there, there was a time i had sex with 3 different people in a day. I know lots of people think that sounds like a good time, and years ago my naive self wouldve thought the same, but it wasnt. Porn and sex addiction make me feel dirty, gross and disgusting, even to the point where i felt digusted with myself during either act. I didnt care about the women i was hooking up with, they didnt care about me, we knew next to nothing about each other, and we were only in it for the sex before eventually never seeing each other again. There was no connection, no compassion, and absolutely no love involved, which felt so immoral to me, they couldnt have cared less if i was dead the next day, and i didnt care if they deleted my number the day after, but i couldnt stop. I wanted to, but i kept giving into temptation constantly. These encounters are VASTLY different than having sex with someone you have a connection with, and you both care about each other, a partner who wants to build a future with you. There were a lot of reasons (not excuses) why i did what i did in hindset, but the main one for me was being sexually assaulted several times throughout my life. These days, porn addiction isnt an issue, though i do still struggle occasionally with hookups, but my method of fixing that is by getting to know the woman, getting a connection, and if things dont click then i dont subvert my standards to a late night booty call. My body count is higher than most people i know, and im ashamed of it, but i try to learn from the mistakes i made in the past and live a more fulfilling life without constantly thinking about sex. Some men may not need this, but for the men that were in my position or worse, dont be afraid to admit that you need help, you might have a better shot by speaking with a therapist and finding the root cause of whats causing you to act this way, yet it might be better for you to figure it out with your own mind, i eventually did both and therapy did seem to help find the root cause, but other than that it wasnt the whole answer to my issue. know it will be a difficult issue that YOU will need to gather the willpower and discipline for, that means you need to rely on YOURSELF the most to overcome this. Dont rely solely on a therapist, dont rely solely on medication (would avoid this option as much as you can help it IMO) The fact that youre watching this video and reading these comments shows youre already taking the right steps to start, even if you relapse, keep at it, you only have truly failed if you completely give up.
It was nearly 2 weeks ago that I completely dropped p*rn. Honestly, there’s really no ultimate conclusion I can make from it, just commit to it, dissociate yourself from it. I stopped getting urges around 5 days ago, simply because I detached myself from those bad habits. Obviously my journey isn’t over, I’m longing for the day I’ll stop counting the weeks, and start counting on each day for something beautiful. Take care and stay strong.
Thank you. I really live the fact that you talked about improvement and not trying to be a completely different person which is what most people try to do they try to cover up their true personality with a fake lifestyle just to be or seem happy. Thank you much hamza this video I truest hope will help me greatly and once again thank you for being a person that talked about this I was able to sit down an entire 52 minutes and listen to what you had to say great video
i started watching porn at like 9 and i’m 15 now, i didn’t even consider i was addicted until i didn’t have my phone for 2 weeks and i had so many urges. It honestly makes me feel sick watching it yet i can’t stop. I will not let myself become this waste of a man.
8:31 l have something to say about the whole "See a therapist" suggestion. My brother went to therapy for a little over a decade (mostly because of OCD), but the moment his phychologist died unexpectedly (because life is inherently unpredictible and abdominal aortic aneurisms kill you in minutes) he spiraled into a self-destructive behaviour that, eventually, led directly to his death. He spent twenty years taking prescribed benzos, over ten years seeing a phychologist and l'm supposed to believe that he was not given the tools to prevent a very predictable self-destructive behaviour? My point is that you can't be a self-respecting psychologist and simultaneously have the same patient for over ten years... either you suck at your job or you are a con-artist.
I'm sorry for your loss. However, it's not that black and white. It's not like you just can go and cure it. You could switch your perspective on it and consider that perhaps your brother WAS given some tools - and it's these that kept him hanging onto life for over a decade. For many with depression or whatever, people don't seem to realise, that simply making it through the day, is the battle they have to fight to win, every day. Unfortunately, if you're ability to get through each day, is dependent on things outside your control, you can spiral when something disrupts it, and you've got no other methods to cope, to back you up.
i keep coming back for the segment with the rant about self talk to the point i've forgotten that the subject of the whole video is a porn addiction guide
Hamza, I am so grateful that your channel exists. You are the antithesis to all these feminist youtubers, telling men to stay weak. Buy at the same time, you are mature and not childish like Andrew Tate. You are a beacon of masculinity and the fact that you want to help young men to unleash their full potential is admiring. Thank you so much. Salutations
This video hits really close for me considering i've been on self improvement for a while. I still have a few bad habits that I'm trying so hard to shake, and this is one of them. I stopped for 2 weeks+ then relapsed, and ever since then, I've struggled to go more than 3-4 days without it happening again.
Fake it until you make it. ❤ Believe in your self YOU can !!. I am following Hamza for almost 2 years now it's one the best choices I have made in my life Thankyou Hamza.
Hamza is the masculine big that we all need in our lives! Thanks my guy. Hope to meet you one day and thank you for you help your content gave me. JazakAllah my bro!
Hamza calling us a little monkeys will be remembered for generations
Was going to do the shit thing then I remembered the title and said, "I am not a little monkey."
Hamza Calling us Little Monkeys That Jack off will be remembered for generations
hope he knows what he got hisself into
this comment will be remembered for generations
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I'm 42 yrs old now. I've Been a heavy addict since I was 16, 3 years ago, I Lost my wife and daughter because of heavy porn use . The guilt almost killed me, so I said enough and decided to escape from this shithole. I read a ton of books (the best one was "Befapless" because it had the most realistic steps for quitting), joined communities(like "r/nofap"), and gave it all to quit.
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I'm clean for 3 years now. I feel regret every day about the time that passed.
I wasted my life. I wish I hadn't. God, I wish I hadn't.
If you're young reading this, please do anything at all necessary to overcome this ASAP!
Good job man
Bro I can’t put into words how sorry I am for you, I can’t imagine the amount of guilt that you experienced, I hope you’re doing a lot better now.
What practical advice would you give, I haven't been able to make it past 1 month and I'm in my 20s. I'll take a look at the book you mentioned.
Nah that's crazy..
Wtf are all this fake people
Analyse PMO
1. mental blockade
2. Have this routine
3. Meditate / mindfulness
4. Have a supporting community
5. Learn about addiction
6. Practice positive affirmation
7. Learn about purpose
8. Replace the activity/trigger
9. Social connection social skills
I started my addiction when I was 11, now I’m almost 14 and I’ve made quite a lot of progress, thanks hamza, you have really been an inspiration for my journey.
same here
Good job keep it up
bro im proud of you!
read easypeasy method and quit today trist me google it
I am proud of you
What porn does to you is torture, when it continuously happens it seems like a never ending thing, but somehow deep inside you there’s this inner alpha male in you that refuses to let you give up at your lowest, your ancestors had it in them and so do you, don’t give up ever, you all got this
Based
Our ancestors didn't have to see a woman naked and do nothing 🙈
So our ancestor never gone through what we have seen
@@amalrajpr6800 Those aren't women, those are pixels. We were brainwashed into thinking that. The beautiful thing is that the brainwashing can be destroyed.
Love this comment
Agreed
I'm 14 years old and my beliefs in God helped me so much into beating this addiction, i went from 6 times a week to not even being addicted at all.
@X yes
Let’s go bro, I’m 16 and the last few months I been doing it twice a day at least, but it ends here
which god pls dont tell me its allah
@X its very normal for teenagers
@@riseofnf9912 may God be with you and keep you away from lust
If you’re going through this DON’T GIVE UP and be relentless. No matter how long the cycle is, the constant intention to quit no matter what forms a new connection in your mind bit by bit and eventually the dots will connect, the circuit will be complete and the reprogramming will be done (just like the programming to build the addiction). You reach a point when you’re doing it while not wanting to do it even before you do it (a sign the reprogramming is nearly complete) until eventually you stop and never go back. It’s hard to explain but just keep going towards the light no matter how far back it keeps going because you’ll reach it eventually and every step counts to getting you closer. Good luck brother, don’t disappoint us.
This addiction is killing me
But I will overcome this addiction
God is with me I know I can win this.
You got this bro 👑
how is it going bro
The “Tell yourself in the mirror you’re a legend, an alpha male” is completely facts. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Live feeling identified with the identity you want to achieve, even if right now you aren’t “really” that guy.
He who controls the power of the Mind controls life as a whole.
@@Wealthy_MysticMaybe you just don't see yourself highly enough. You need to be arrogant to the point you feel like everyone around you is inferior (but still be nice to them and stuff) and journal positively about yourself
"You don't achieve confidence by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are" - Alex Hormozi
My friend, stop thinking that talking to yourself in the mirror will make you a legend. Focus on building good habits, being a man of honor.
Just believe it, like the fact that the water is wet. With that persistence you will change by character & potencially actions.
@@Delicashilous if your a over weight incel that managed to make there self believe that there a alpha male then maybe they will believe it but in the end there still an over weight incel
"Art of Attraction" Awesome.
posted this right when I'm really struggling to stop. I already know this will help me a shit load. hamza has done more for me as a father figure that I could've ever asked for. love brother❤
Damn wb your actual father?
can i see it
@@browhat6935 never been there for me. never taught me anything or any of the values ik now. told him about my depression and just threw me down saying it ain't real. basically just have my mom but there's only so much she can teach me and be there for me right. it is what it is. if I ever become a dad u already know I'm gonna be the best
@@mohammedyousef7d650 see what??😭😭
@@shxne1x591 even so , try to have a good time with your father , maybe he just tought you r just sad for a moment or smthing like that , or maybe he didnt had the time in that moment or maybe or maybe ... just be happy for your dad in front of you even if he didnt do that much for you . Have a great day
The strength this man has for talking about the most difficult topic for all men what a g
Hey hamza I'm 14 years old right now and about 6 months ago I started with self improvement and watching you, Andrew tate and many others and it really has changed my entire life. I came to you through my dad because he watches you too. I started becoming better in Handball because of the mindset I built through your videos and I want to thank you for everything youve done for me and many other people. Thank you Hamza
don't forget to thank yourself and God
tate L
Bro how do you balance school and self improvement?
@@smash7176 Doing schoolwork and focusing on educational things in general will help you be more discipled and hardworking.
@@smash7176 so I basically have no free time and am stressed but the thing is stress keeps you on your toes the whole day an I'm more concentrated. You have to find a way that fits you tho
I was so tired of self improvement youtubers that fed you "nothing burgers". I watched them for hours and never made progress. Hamza truly redirected the path I was taking in life. He speaks from the heart and it shows.
You probably never applied anything that they taught 😂
@@ace.of.flames6361 and how do you know? you clearly haven't learnt to not prejudge people.
@@ace.of.flames6361 yeah you're right. When they said "Whenever you feel like procrastinating, picture yourself being successful in the future" I guess I didn't picture myself being successful enough. Oh and when 99% of nofap videos said "Bro just know your triggers." I guess I didn't know that hot women would make me want to watch porn. There is a reason Hamza has a such a tight knit community and a cult following, he gives genuine advice on how to be a better man. Apply yourself bro
I don't comment too often but respect for showing your true emotions on the subject. I don't think as men we should smother our emotions as a lot of "masculinity gurus" tend to say these days.
You should simply be a strong enough man that it actually means something when the emotions do show. When a weak man produces tears its worthless, but on the rare occasions where a strong man produces them, it says more than words ever could. Thank you for being genuine. Cheers mate.
Yeah man, I cried watching this video, out of the 100 past Hamza videos I watched these last few years nothing has made me so much as tear up a bit but this felt extremely relatable. Got into it at 13 on a phone in my dad’s bathroom, first mind blowing high/explosion then addiction begin. At 17/18 still a V no girlfriend and discover NF/NP on Reddit, relapse after 3 days endlessly, finally get to a week, then two weeks. Feel a lot better. Get to 30 days many times while in college, relapse a couple times but after falling back into my old ways and feeling disgusted, seeing it impact my grades/social life/happiness I say enough is enough, get to 90 days for the first time in my life since I was 12 and never fapped, met endless beautiful women naturally irl, got into weight lifting seriously and transformed my body to the point guys & girls kept complimenting me when I used to be very scrawny, cured my life long crippling social anxiety & low confidence/self esteem, made a bunch of life long best friends I enjoyed a vibrant social life with all of college, was able to focus and pass through all of computer science while most people dropped out. Got a lot more i with women, at 19 discovered TRP on Reddit in its glory days before it died, you could feel all the energy, wisdom, strength & power back then… it’s all gone now but it’s influence continues in the self improvement/manosphere space on RUclips (not all the toxic fresh & fit Bs, the original philosophy was just teaching men authentic masculinity & self development, taking full ownership of your life and learning every man has the power to shape it, attraction through masculinity instead of bull**** PUA) it really did change my life… I hope every young 11 - 16 yo watching this takes heed in the warnings from us older men in our early to mid 20s. We were you, the sooner you quit the more exponentially better your life can be.
@@neltins5308 im actually 21yo and still strugilling but ur words made me realize a lot of things thank u stranger wish there more ppl like u.
I really hate to admit this, but I literally got some thoughts about watching porn while watching a video on how to STOP watching porn. Fortunately, I got up and took a walk. That's how fucking dangerous and addictive this drug is. Keep strong boys!
If you are like me while watching this video, I promise you it's not worth it at all. Go and take a walk and think about your future life. Imagine your partner or future wife watching you. You CAN do it.
5 life lesson i learned about this valuable Video.
1. I m not trying to quiet fap because i just dont do it
2. Meditate
3. Replace the bad habits
4. Be always alpha male in your mind
5. Dont think yourself ur beta
Boy you're helping us so much. I'm currently improving my situation with porn and my goal is too beat this addiction by the end of the year and i'm sure i'll make it. Thank you so much dude, thanks for improving my life.
can i see it while u do it
bro end of the year is so far make a bit harder goals end of the year is fr 8 months. u want to beat your meat like a little monkey for 8 more months???
I do everything but i just cant beat my porn addiction fuck it
ur an addict u little monkey boy
@@s4ry69 change your way of thinking brother. If I can, if Hamza can, why can't you? We aren't different after all, we are all humans.
from 4:30 to 6:00 ,your authenticity, and honesty is really touching and earnest. Because you could have cut, looked at the images, written the sentances down and resay them without tears, but no you chose the genuine route
bro im pretty sure his eyes were just watery from hayfever
@@phoenixgamer6737 Not really
There are many differences in his speech you can notice that signal that he may have actually cried or at least got very close to it
Which honestly I think is very impactful with the message. It really shows how important this was to his life, that made a tough guy like that cry
@@hycix705 24:48
@@phoenixgamer6737 Him who is probably reading this knows very well that he did one of the following: Tried to hide it by saying it's allergies, or got actually allergies while getting emotional, or only got hallergies and didn't get emotional.
And just like Hycix said, according to the way his speech got different and all the other signals he knows that we know he got emotional lmao but like I said it's really okay, it's only prooving and showing how impactful it was to him. It's a sign of intelligence not to let go and forget things that emotionally impacted you. I'm grateful for seeing emetional and almost cry. It's okay for him to cry, it's okay to cry as long as you do something about it, which he did and does for us today
@@phoenixgamer6737 The way he rolls his eyes at the beggining of 4:40, the way he looks disappointed about himself and all
and here:before 5:05 the tears got up and up and up to his face and at 5:05 and looks at the camera with tears almost falling and he explains what was wrong and what is wrong about it and how it impacted his life etc
Hamza, i'd like to thank you, you were my first step to stop with the addiction, i was addicted in my 13's and after 3 months of constant failure, i discovered your channel, and it inspired me.
Again, thank you Hamza
What really helped me make progress (we talking twice a day to once every other week) was to visualize a beautiful relationship with another girl, not just the modern day “friends with benefits” where it’s just hedonistic pleasures and you’re depolarized as fuck, but an actually romantic relationship where you truly bond with each other. You really need that moment to click in your head when you realize “damn, this is what i’ve been sacrificing all this time for 10 seconds of instant pleasure and guilt”.
To me it occurred when I was watching some rom fan fiction (don’t ask). I saw how well this “couple” vibed together and it struck me, “ *this* is what a relationship feels like??”, after sitting down and meditating on it for 20 minutes my mindset was completely changed…
I'm genuinely curious what you read, I want to try that too
Hamza sat down and explained porn addiction in 56 minutes with no breaks, absolute gigachad.
Havent heard of Gabe Dawg eh?
Love how Hamza doesn’t waste time and goes straight to the story/point
Seeing hamza emotional really shows how serious this addiction is for a lot of young men.
The only person who can share a 1 hour long video and not being boring
Bro i am not kidding, you launched this video in the EXACT moment i needed it.
17 years old guy here!
I can not explain the amount of motivation i got from this Pakistani guy and i really do appriciate it.
These videos are pure enjoy and people that need to hear this will watch it.
Its not Jefrey VS Adonis anymore, the change had to be done.
You are touching young mens soul,brain,heart and feelings on another amazing lever.
Really love you Hamza just like many others!
Keep pushing...
Hes british
@@JSBDREAM-hu1ee British Pakistani . He was borned in Pakistan 🇵🇰 and he has Pakistani nationality as well.
@@JSBDREAM-hu1ee yea and elon musk is african
I think Hamzas videos are for men of all ages. His advice is great
He's british...he left Pakistan when he was 2 years old.
I drop tears in the first 10 minutes. Cause I feel the same way you felt when you were addicted. I still have this addiction for a long long time. I'm happy for you that you overcomed this addiction. For me this video is a blessing from god. I watched thousands of videos like this talking about how to get ride of this dirty addiction. And this video is something else. I lost battles but i didn't lost the war. I believe I can break this addiction. Cause I'm still fighting. And i will never ever give up.
I can't thank you enough Hamza. This generation needs Man like you.
Wish you all the best and more of success in your life ❤
God dam man Keep going you Will do it just take a cold shower when you are about to do it and then go to a place with people
@@gui.aesthetics.santos thank you ♥
This guy is crazy honest and comfortable sharing his private info online
The fact that you got emotional while talking about it even though you're over it already shows how much it really destroy us
Hamza, your videos are really helpful and appropriate for men of my age. I'm 19 and it's really good that this addiction is being addressed without stigma.
this is like everything im going through, i started "doing it" at 12 years old...... but it was once a day everyday. everyime i come downstairs the thought STUCK in my mind. im now 13 and on self improvement, i did think of myself as the alpha male and now i still unfortunate do it but its more like a week i can go, im still working on it and these videos are amazing, keep it up brother.
Thank you for everything, Hamza. I've fully watched this video before a while. It changed my life and still does. The best 52 minutes and 36 seconds in my life.
Hamza, I freaking love your content. Thank you for posting this, I'm at a time of my life where i'm trying to quit self-destructive habits and your videos have really helped me a lot.
"you should have so much self compassion that people think your weird for loving you" I love when he said that because its a perfect play of self compassion internally which comes off as narsissim externally. Thank you hamza
I know this might sound counterintuitive and a bit cliche...but the best way I would say is to make the decision, and actually make that decision and you are the boss and you are gonna do it.. regardless.. that's is it...the temptations can keep coming but it's up to you and that's the personal power
I'm 19 and since I started listening to you and some other guys like the Tate Brothers, I stopped fapping and doing bad activities. I started fapping when I was 13, and it never reached a point where I was fapping twice or 3 times a day, but it still made me feel very bad. When I had my first girlfriend it slowed down a bit, but I still fapped. I was trying to stop since I was 16/17, and the most I did was like a month on no fap. But I'm clean for about 4 months now, and I never felt better, physically and mentally. There were really hard days where I almost relapsed, but I kept going, and I'll keep going forever. Ty Hamza.
Ive never watched/heard such great advice on porn addiction. Its relatable and right as I was about to relapse this video just popped up on my home page. It was like a miracle. I thank you Hamza.
Bro im begging you, please read the EasyPeasy way. Dont bother with all these other books, you will save yourself so much time.
*Right as I promised to stop porn addiction right after 2 days, this video popped! Thank you so much dude I needed this* ❤
Listen to the easy peasy way also.
@@theunknownSoldier.bro please can you explain me what's it about, there is not even a single yt video which explains it. I can't buy book cause of parents, I would look for pdf after I finish current books but I would be thankful if you explain me the idea.
@@anujpatidar2008literally just type east peasy method pdf
The only nofap advice that ever helped me is to read the “Easy peasy method to quit porn” it makes you not wanting to watch porn without any willpower
@@pupskopflol_tv3251 wanna explain
Bro I’m in the same position as hamza when he was young, I’m a skinny 14 year old guy who can’t get over the addiction and it happens every night,I always feel shame just seconds after doing, since I’ve been watching Hamza he has given me the mindset and the motivation to make a change for good.
I started my addiction at around 11 yrs old, I was going 2-3 times a day. I'm nearly a week out now and I have never felt better. Thank you Hamza for helping me escape the shit hole I was living in.❤
You can do it
sounds rough, you got this.
@@onepiecefannN1 why do you watch anime?
@@Kevin57932 Why can't he? I'm not really into anime myself but I see no problem with the people who like it.
I started when I was 7 it was so hard to give up
you’re one of the main reasons i started a youtube channel and it’s changed my life for the better drastically in such a short period of time. thank you hamza, hope to meet you some day brother!
This is not about P addiction it's about saving your sacred seed once you understand that, you won't fall for it ever again. Your sacred seed has benefits that can help you achieve your goals fast whether it's gains, health, or wealth
Watched it at 6 AM three days ago and slept crying in the middle of the video, woke up a different breed, didn’t fap since then, I couldn’t hold it for one day for years and this the first time I easily go for three days, and I’m not breaking any time soon ✊🏻
Here's a little trick I learned while working with discipline and no fap. I began with intermittent fasting, for 16 hours per day, eventually eating 1 meal per day. and I started introducing fasting days. I'd have 2-3 days of complete fasting (water tea and coffee only) every 2 weeks. After a few months i've noticed that fasting helps build so much discipline and mental strength + will power it's not even funny. If you can stop yourself from the urge to eat, you can master no fap like a joke. Nowadays I actually feel bad when i have to go sleep with a woman thereby "losing my streak".
Ya man you’re right. I am good with fasting I even fasted 2 or 3 days but I couldn’t get sleep…..
Bruh I'm build like a stick
@@anujpatidar2008 The gym welcomes you my brother. I'm 13 and I used to be overweight as hell (82kg to be exact) at the start of January. When I started working out in January I lost so much weight. As of April 8 I am now 71kg. You should bulk (be in a calorie surplus, meaning eat more than you burn)
@@anujpatidar2008 bro eat the following thing morning and afternoon: minum 100g oats, milk or and yogurt (no sugar)banana or fruits, peanut butter chia seed (no necessary but healthy and has no tatse and add calories ) and you can add some whey. Try to eat everyday egg, meats or fish's. Don't fear getting fat (never gonna happen don't worry and it's not a big deal of you lose your abs). Go to the gym 5/6 time a week. Work to failure, control the down part of exercise. Use push pull legs for begging. Drinks lot of water get sunlight and you gtg.
@@prag016 I'm vegetarian and can't go to gym as I live in village and also my parents don't allow me. My exams have ended yesterday so now it's break for 10 weeks before school, I wanna change and starting tomorrow. The foods I'm eating is 750ml of milk, 10 chapatis, 150 gm of peanuts and some other stuff like vegetables and rice etc. Total calories make upto 2400+ and protein is around 80gm. As a beginner I'm doing push-pull-arms cause I have injured my knee due to football. I'm starting low for building momentum. I'm hitting chest and back 2 times a week with pushups and pull-ups and hitting shoulders, bicep, tricep, forearm, abs around 3 times a week. I have dumbell at home so. I'm telling this cause maybe you have some advice for me like what can I change.
One of the realest and open videos on YT. He made me cry. “The movies” are so toxic , well done for sharing your story brother! Wishing you well from 🇺🇸
nigg cried bc of a how to stop masturbating vid lmaoo
Hamza when you cried I felt that in my soul. I saw myself when you were talking about that inner guilt. We’re all on this journey together and one day we will all talk about and tell our children that Hamza changed our lives. #Hamzachangeslives
#Hamzachangeslives
I’m tired of people saying you’re videos are too extreme when these are the only self improvement videos I can relate to
dint watch the video and wont cuz its been 2 yrs but this man is real serious. ig i have already read the books and i am grateful to have a supportive father who understood me when i told him and thanks to him for buying them earlier. i am grateful for the lessons i have learnt from a great teacher . thanks hamza
I think that "Easy peasy" is a MUST for anyone that struggles with this topic. Highly recommend it and kinda disappointed it isn't on this list
I agreed
We all can get through this. Stand up, keep moving.
Needed this tbh. My NoFap journey has had ups and downs but since the Easter Holiday started it’s been a steep spiral down.
@Alpha Mind Camp i fucked up my life. Im 13. Can you help me too? Pls
This is so timely, I am struggling with this. Thank you hamza! 🤝🏽💯
1. Endure the pain.
• “If you find yourself going through hell, keep going.”
2. Change your habits.
• telling yourself you’re doing nofap isn’t enough.
• set a boundary to stop the same scenario from repeating itself every single day.
3. 14:44
I used to have a really bad porn addiction, but I changed my habits so now I don’t. I’m a big believer in how you start your morning dictates how the rest of a normal day will go, so I did small things like charging my phone downstairs and buying an alarm clock, so I don’t look at porn in the morning, made my bed, had my clothes laid out the night before so I knew exactly what I was wearing, went for a 25 min walk, ate oats that I made the night before etc. After all that, I felt good and productive and wanted to carry that on throughout the rest of the day.
Get that momentum going
Important note: after a few weeks into meditation you will feel like your mindfulness has gotten WORSE. This is just because you are now more aware of how much your mind is thinking.
I appreciate how you talk about how we need to have such a high ego, to the point where it's narcissistic, to hit the height of the bell curve. I started doing this and I am finding improvement. I am not narcissistic, but this feeling of I'm the best drives me to keep being my best. I'm shaping my personality to who I want to be. Sometimes I talk like I know for a fact what I'm saying, and it makes me look more confident.
even tho narcissism is a negative trait it usually gets u further in live than more humble ppl do
same as psychopaths/sociopaths(idk which one it was) always end up in some position of power etc
i dont even know why i watched this vid being a girl but u guys all keep it up and stay healthy
@@Lucyhehe_ ya dropped this queen👑
@Alpha Mind Camp why is that ? how does ego affect how much more/less we're manipulated ?
@@habibimaybe i hope u guys doing good
@@Lucyhehe_ yeah i am! wbu?
To the worthwhile person seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop you or define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️
Thank you so much for those motivating words 💪💪💪💪💪
This video couldn't have come at a better time, literally downloaded 2 books regarding this less than an hour ago lol. God bless you bro, it's the biggest problem of our time.
Thankyou so much hamza, I was first exposed to pornography when I was 7 years old and it has been a struggle ever since (I’m almost 16 now). I got really good at hiding it and nobody has really been there that I can talk to about it. Been trying hard to stop for about 1/2 a year and I’m way better but it’s a long and difficult process to quit an addiction so readily available and promoted by people around me at school.
@Alpha Mind Camp What kind of tips do you Know? Im in the same camp, discovered prn at 7 and have been battling it for 3 years straight.
I can already tell this will be extremely life changing for some people
Yes and the reason is people will relate to this and this will give them strength that I'm not the only one who is going through this shit
Alhamdulilah, hamza this, your last and the video before have been the most valuable videos ive ever watched on the internet. Thank you for spending time to film this and give them out to us for free🙌🏽
When Hamza starts crying, you know that shit is terrifying
i know
Fapping did change my life entirely as a student. I couldn't study well, couldn't memorise things properly for a long time, kep forgetting stuff. Couldn't focus at all.
Ate a lot more junk food, didn't focus on health.
Eventually got my testosterone so low also.
Fapping did take toll on my social life too.
But I've changed myself for the better for the past 2 years.
Started working out. Read books, woke up early and meditate..
I still wish i would have studied better in my school days could have got better score than an average score which i could have been proud of. Now im going to start my college in January and in ready for the fresh start.
If your a kid in school reading this and fapping everyday
Dont think you're alone..and understand and overcome this evil!❤
Barakallahufik hamza!!!
I really need this, it's been really hard to control myself during Ramadhan.
I hope with this video i can finally get rid of this unhealthy addiction and sinful action, InsyaAllah...
Alhamdumillah for our deen
Same problem brother its been 3 years now I am making progress but slow more power to you.
Workout and pray to God bro it will help you inshallah
Bro this timing was perfect for me. I can't possibly show how grateful I am for all you've taught me Hamza.
it's all connected, if we lead a healthy lifestyle such problems would not exist. healthy in all aspects - physical, mental, social, spiritual, intellectual, creative
Bro, I couldn’t even look at a woman in the eye for 3 seconds. My eyes would just go away (down to the chest area most of the time) or I would just look away and pretend like I’m busy. ANY WOMAN. Sounds weird but even when I look at my sisters and mother all I could think of is that. Even though I’m not attracted to them. This shit messes a man up. Fuck this bro I understand you and everyone in this comment. From now on this is my staple to quit fapping. I will update every week how it’s been going because this must stop.
This was exactly the video i needed right now. Thanks you Hamza
This video's a blessing. These days I got back into my bad habits and now this popped up in my notifications.
Thank you bro!
im joining the military next week at 17 wish me luck
Good luck
I found porn at 8,addicted for 7 year's. But now im a new person thanks to God and hamza.
Legit love these videos more than the overedited ones
Hamza, you've helped me and many to get direction. I am now very disciplined and trying to live over the edge constantly. As a consequence i am now obligated to surpass you.
I had free therapy in the military and I mentioned how I was quitting porn and the therapist told me it's not a bad habit and actually could help you. Therapy doesn't help quit porn.
got out of it just by going to the gym constantly and seeing how each time i did it i wasn't able to lift as much as when I didnt do it for a week, it really gives you a wake up call and makes you realize how weaker it makes you the moment you start going to the gym, i didn't do it since 3 months now and my confidence as well as my power and muscle growth speed has increased a lot, my voice has gotten deeper and I became more motivated to doing anything i set my mind to, it is truly life changing.
Hamza, i am 100% certain that any evil soulless bastard that is blaming you for “toxic masculinity” or “brainwashing” is committing a crime against men. Never stop what youre doing, you are more precious than any doctor out there right now.
This came on so perfect time ⌚.
I would love to live in a village built by Hamza, where we go back to a more natural community, sounds like paradise.
one guy would hoard all the women
nothing changes
@@beganitdidnt6535 "one guy would hoard all the women" you dont live in the era of Genghis Khan.
second, theres more women than men in the world. therefor, if you cant get 1, then your mindset and mentality is fucked.
After 8 years of weed/hash addiction and 2 years of drinking alcohol 🍸 I am finally clean and on day 60!
All credit goes to Hamza and Andrew tate. Now am also gng for No Fap full time until I get married no sexual activity. 🎉
Day 120!
Thank you for making this. This has been my biggest struggle this ramadan
thank you, brother 100% facts. These lessons should be teaching in school but instead they promote other shit. lots of young men are lost for this and there should be more videos about this. This means a lot with the personal experience because lot of men are stuck at the same cycle. thank you, brother. keep changing lives for better. Respect for you and Tate brothers too for preaching about this.
Do not pay a single coin for support systems. Self-improvement should be 100% free.
HOLY SH!!!
I’ve been practicing meditation and mindfulness for 4-5 years off and on and never realized coming back to square one as a rep!!!! My BROTHER!!! What a gem piece of advice!!!!
W video as always from hamza. Thanks for sharing such amazing content all the time. I swear to you hamza, I will come back in one to two years at the best I am (who knows even less maybe a few months) and I will share with you my success. I am turning 16 this October and I am excited to make so much progress in my life. Thank you hamza, and I wish only the best for you from here!
I believe the reason why this is such a widespread issue throughout men is because for many people its excused as something that "isnt that bad" and that "every guy does it". Unfortunately in the cases ive seen, myself included, it just gives you an excuse to just keep doing it. It also changes the way you perceive other addictions, such as drugs and alcohol. My main issue with this was that i refused to admit it was a problem for a long time, and i refused to fully realize i wasnt doing it because i really liked it, i was doing it as a way to cope with trauma from my life. Another similar one i was struggling with was sex addiction. I couldnt go 2 weeks without having sex with someone. A random hookup here and there, there was a time i had sex with 3 different people in a day. I know lots of people think that sounds like a good time, and years ago my naive self wouldve thought the same, but it wasnt.
Porn and sex addiction make me feel dirty, gross and disgusting, even to the point where i felt digusted with myself during either act. I didnt care about the women i was hooking up with, they didnt care about me, we knew next to nothing about each other, and we were only in it for the sex before eventually never seeing each other again. There was no connection, no compassion, and absolutely no love involved, which felt so immoral to me, they couldnt have cared less if i was dead the next day, and i didnt care if they deleted my number the day after, but i couldnt stop. I wanted to, but i kept giving into temptation constantly. These encounters are VASTLY different than having sex with someone you have a connection with, and you both care about each other, a partner who wants to build a future with you. There were a lot of reasons (not excuses) why i did what i did in hindset, but the main one for me was being sexually assaulted several times throughout my life. These days, porn addiction isnt an issue, though i do still struggle occasionally with hookups, but my method of fixing that is by getting to know the woman, getting a connection, and if things dont click then i dont subvert my standards to a late night booty call. My body count is higher than most people i know, and im ashamed of it, but i try to learn from the mistakes i made in the past and live a more fulfilling life without constantly thinking about sex.
Some men may not need this, but for the men that were in my position or worse, dont be afraid to admit that you need help, you might have a better shot by speaking with a therapist and finding the root cause of whats causing you to act this way, yet it might be better for you to figure it out with your own mind, i eventually did both and therapy did seem to help find the root cause, but other than that it wasnt the whole answer to my issue. know it will be a difficult issue that YOU will need to gather the willpower and discipline for, that means you need to rely on YOURSELF the most to overcome this. Dont rely solely on a therapist, dont rely solely on medication (would avoid this option as much as you can help it IMO) The fact that youre watching this video and reading these comments shows youre already taking the right steps to start, even if you relapse, keep at it, you only have truly failed if you completely give up.
I wouldnt wish this addiction not even to my worst enemy.
Just passed day 90, I’m no different then any of you, besides that I had probably the most beneficial 3 months of my life!
It's still sounds crazy to me how Video game addiction is a real thing, while no one takes Porn addiction seriously.
How is that the case
@@impo9645 Just saying
Porn addict is way worse too
@@goodcat132 I don't know anyone who's said this
@@goodcat132 porn is shunned by every religion so I don't know where you're getting this from
It was nearly 2 weeks ago that I completely dropped p*rn. Honestly, there’s really no ultimate conclusion I can make from it, just commit to it, dissociate yourself from it. I stopped getting urges around 5 days ago, simply because I detached myself from those bad habits. Obviously my journey isn’t over, I’m longing for the day I’ll stop counting the weeks, and start counting on each day for something beautiful. Take care and stay strong.
How is it going
Mann u really explain a lot of us starting on 5:00 we all got this stay up n stay healthy don’t give up god is on your side💯💯🙏
Thank you. I really live the fact that you talked about improvement and not trying to be a completely different person which is what most people try to do they try to cover up their true personality with a fake lifestyle just to be or seem happy. Thank you much hamza this video I truest hope will help me greatly and once again thank you for being a person that talked about this I was able to sit down an entire 52 minutes and listen to what you had to say great video
Keep going bro good on you
Hey hamza I love you, no one was nearly kind to me as you are thanks for helping me. I love you.
i started watching porn at like 9 and i’m 15 now, i didn’t even consider i was addicted until i didn’t have my phone for 2 weeks and i had so many urges. It honestly makes me feel sick watching it yet i can’t stop. I will not let myself become this waste of a man.
Dw youll overcome this some day keep trying young man
lmao that is the best title for a video on youtube.
8:31 l have something to say about the whole "See a therapist" suggestion. My brother went to therapy for a little over a decade (mostly because of OCD), but the moment his phychologist died unexpectedly (because life is inherently unpredictible and abdominal aortic aneurisms kill you in minutes) he spiraled into a self-destructive behaviour that, eventually, led directly to his death. He spent twenty years taking prescribed benzos, over ten years seeing a phychologist and l'm supposed to believe that he was not given the tools to prevent a very predictable self-destructive behaviour? My point is that you can't be a self-respecting psychologist and simultaneously have the same patient for over ten years... either you suck at your job or you are a con-artist.
Hope you're doing well
I'm sorry for your loss. However, it's not that black and white. It's not like you just can go and cure it. You could switch your perspective on it and consider that perhaps your brother WAS given some tools - and it's these that kept him hanging onto life for over a decade. For many with depression or whatever, people don't seem to realise, that simply making it through the day, is the battle they have to fight to win, every day. Unfortunately, if you're ability to get through each day, is dependent on things outside your control, you can spiral when something disrupts it, and you've got no other methods to cope, to back you up.
i keep coming back for the segment with the rant about self talk to the point i've forgotten that the subject of the whole video is a porn addiction guide
Hamza, I am so grateful that your channel exists. You are the antithesis to all these feminist youtubers, telling men to stay weak. Buy at the same time, you are mature and not childish like Andrew Tate. You are a beacon of masculinity and the fact that you want to help young men to unleash their full potential is admiring. Thank you so much. Salutations
Who tf said Andrew Tate is childish?? He is just enhoying life doing random funny shit and you are calling him 'childish'
@@ibreatheair69he's a bit crazy tho imo
@@mrtrollnator123 he just cracks jokes bruh, the amount of guy who have started mma and lifting by his influence his more than anyone in this world.
@@anujpatidar2008 he's still a bit crazy imo, don't hate him, just a bit crazy
@@ibreatheair69 its kinda childish to react like that , its his opinion , i believe andrew tate is not childish but no need to hate on @zubair321
This video hits really close for me considering i've been on self improvement for a while. I still have a few bad habits that I'm trying so hard to shake, and this is one of them. I stopped for 2 weeks+ then relapsed, and ever since then, I've struggled to go more than 3-4 days without it happening again.
Keep going bro you can do it, I believe in you. We believe in you
Fake it until you make it. ❤
Believe in your self YOU can !!.
I am following Hamza for almost 2 years now it's one the best choices I have made in my life
Thankyou Hamza.
Hamza is the masculine big that we all need in our lives! Thanks my guy. Hope to meet you one day and thank you for you help your content gave me. JazakAllah my bro!
Your gonna make it brother keep going