Ladies please understand ONE THING : if a man likes you for real, unless you were the biggest freak on the planet when he slept with you 3 hrs after meeting, HE WILL NOT DISAPPEAR. If he doesn’t like you, you can wait for sex for months and he will STILL disappear, sex or no sex, because there was nothing to keep him around once the lust wore off. What makes a man “like” a woman is pretty much the same as what makes us like a guy - looks, personality, attitude. If he doesn’t see you as “girlfriend pretty” he will not take you seriously especially if he is of younger age. If he doesn’t click with your personality & doesn’t find you interesting he will ACT as if he does, then bail. If he doesn’t like your attitude & doesn’t feel you two are compatible - he will disappear, sex or no sex. In today’s culture + after a certain age, making a man “wait for the cookie” is pretty much pointless. Sexual compatibility is highly important in a relationship, so that shouldn’t be ignored, so you aren’t 6 months into dating a guy with a tiny dink, or someone who can’t make you c*m, etc. Again- I’m thankful for Elliott’s videos but I feel like sometimes he isn’t giving the gist of the story - REGARDLESS OF THE CONFIDENCE YOU DISPLAY, IF HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU HE WILL NOT STICK AROUND.
People actually dissappear for various reasons. It's not always so fair to demonize men that drift or leave; sometimes their reasoning can be completely valid. He can love a woman but find her unhealthy for him; leaves and gives her time to find herself. Not all men that dip are awful or don't want you. This comment is very black and white... that's not how real life works
Idk I just think it's best to play it safe. Do not sleep with him until he's asked you to be with him, exclusively. If that's what's your wanting of course. If you want a relationship and he knows that, he'll play on your emotions to gain that trust to get you to sleep with him. Don't be blinded! Take TIME to talk to him and let him show you who he truly is, whether that's a good guy or a bad guy.
Trying to get something from a man using sex, is like when guys trying to get something from us by being our best friend, not gonna happen. If you would like to have a good time, go ahead and sleep with the guy, and then forget about it, if the guy likes you will stay no matter what you say or do, if not there’s nothing you can do about it, it’s simple.
Trying to get from a man using sex is like cheating yourself value. Better EX; Cheating on a test. Using someone elses knowledge to pass the test. Its easy to do. We got the Power! However how can anyone not feel contempt toward the other doing them this way.? I upvoted myself!
@@imadn4147 access via sex. Access means control over you, feeling manly. Even sex isn't just about sex. :P Especially when it's a man who is disconnected from his emotions.
When you truly don’t care, you stop liking them so when something that you want actually happens, you don’t want him anymore and you feel like you’ll never give them another chance.
Yea don’t sleep with a guy until you have a commitment. I’m not judging anyone who does but I won’t sleep with someone who isn’t my boyfriend. That doesn’t make me better than I just think it’s smarter personally.
I slept with both my long-term partners pretty early on. I was married to the one and in a relationship with the other for 6 years. Somewhere along the way they started resenting me. I think it was career related because I was more successful than them at the time of both splits. If they're going to leave you, they will. Whether you put out or not.
Just don’t have sex before commitment, the guys aren’t worth the emotional trouble.. Women have access to so many toys that does the job better, and no headache is attached
I will not give a guy sex before a relationship. I won't reveal my strategy to the guy, but he's not getting the cookie unless there's a major time and money investment.
Why do like 90 percent of females want relationship but most guys dont??don't??? Make a video on other topics help me get this shit. All your videos have helped me learn a lot
He knew that I wouldnt have sex unless there was a title and if he didnt want to be exclusive then on to the next one if it works it works if not move on ladies
Did this I gave him space, didn’t really chase him he only gave one word texts and I called him out on his bs and of course he lied so I ghost him then blocked him. took my L you live and you learn. One more thing my (ex) friend would keep texting guys Long paragraphs so she got really clingy and it backfired.
I text one paragraph after 3 days it wasnt an angry message just a calm n classy one n he replied. N now im leaving him alone havent heard of him for a few days so im not reaching out nor needy , just gona leave it alone n try to move on cus i really invested a lot of time n effort in this long distance thing n it hurts but oh well cant control everything cant force anything
This is another reason why women should not give into sex too early. Sex is precious and the most intimate act between two people. It should not be engaged in lightly. It should only occur after a significant level of emotional intimacy has been achieved. If a man can't bond with you emotionally, without sex, then move on. Don't use sex to try and interest or hook a man. A great relationship needs far more than good sex. If he is willing to wait and build towards sex, then you have an emotionally mature man. If he has to have sex early on, he's not that mature.
I've had the opposite experience in terms of men wanting to be in a relationship with me after the 2nd date. I find it suspicious as I get this hunch that they want to be in a relationship in order to make the possibility of sex more attainable. They'll try to become whatever they think it is that I want. I'm usually unimpressed. It just seems like strategy towards sexual access. IMO It helps to move slow and look at a man's actions, habits, and whether his words align with his patterns over time to assess if he is really quality or not.
Hey you, this dynamic leads to the woman fixing the man and he'll assume that she wants to change him as though healing was a vicious unpredictable thing. She's not respecting herself and her own path in life, if she's investing so much in getting close to him. It always looks like both people in this should rather get some good ol' therapy. Or maybe at least focus on their own healing at the same time. It's more interesting than just getting what /who you think you want. Ideally it can be done together. There's just always the worry that once they really get to know themselves, they won't actually be your "soulmate"/... Buuuut let them. Edit: I didn't point out what I find good about your advice. Goes without saying. The difference is mostly about what someone wants out of life and relationships.
Keep your legs closed. You don't have to sleep with the guys you date and then risk him leaving and you feeling like crap. In fact, it's way easier to screen them when you're not sleeping with them. Less wasted time for you. I promise you, it only takes MAYBE a couple of dates to see that he's not a catch if you aren't on your back, but some people date losers for years hoping he will marry them. You will see his true colors very quickly if you aren't sleeping with him.
I was dating someone for 4 months who was showing interest and doing all the right things …as soon as we had sex he left …so what you’re saying is not valid
@@Sunnysideup01 I'm 57F. I agree. I got 2 marriages out of sex on the first date. They weren't even dates, lol. It's better just finding out fast if they're going to stick around before you get invested. If a guy thinks less of you for having sex soon, he's not the right guy because he did it too.
@@tjaspire lol they ALL thought that they would be the one to make me change my mind and give it up to them. They saw me as a challenge and FAILED and it’s hilarious.
I know this was a year ago but please stay a virgin until you meet a guy that actually cares about you. Don’t listen to other people about finding out if you’re sexual compatible. Yes it’s important but not before an emotional connection. And trust me people who constantly hookup might say it’s fun to their friends but are secretly miserable. I lost my virginity in my mid-20s to a guy I thought was different after a couple of dates. Even though he respected I was a virgin and praised me for waiting, after I had sex with him he treated me like every other woman that crossed his path. I was no one special. Just another challenge that he overcame
Thats not true elliott! I know a bunch of couples that waited for sex. I never give it up before dating lol in fact waiting is high value ladies if a man doesnt respect that and agree with waiting let him go!!!!
Getting into his mind by expertly knocking down his psychological walls and making him tingle with feelings of pleasure, means you're doing it right. There are many so called "canned phrases" to make it happen, for example go’ogling something like Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire was the perfect formula for me
But how can we not attach? Oxytocin for starts. It's gonna hurt if you have feelings and he disconnect after sex. My advice would be to tough it out don't let him know that you're bothered by his disappearing
Hey, great job this sounds like it’s all based on Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire. And yes, that’s the material you need to have him resonating with erotic electricity at your will. Sounds like too much IK, but just for the basics it's worth go'ogling her ;)
Ladies please understand ONE THING : if a man likes you for real, unless you were the biggest freak on the planet when he slept with you 3 hrs after meeting, HE WILL NOT DISAPPEAR. If he doesn’t like you, you can wait for sex for months and he will STILL disappear, sex or no sex, because there was nothing to keep him around once the lust wore off.
What makes a man “like” a woman is pretty much the same as what makes us like a guy - looks, personality, attitude. If he doesn’t see you as “girlfriend pretty” he will not take you seriously especially if he is of younger age. If he doesn’t click with your personality & doesn’t find you interesting he will ACT as if he does, then bail. If he doesn’t like your attitude & doesn’t feel you two are compatible - he will disappear, sex or no sex.
In today’s culture + after a certain age, making a man “wait for the cookie” is pretty much pointless. Sexual compatibility is highly important in a relationship, so that shouldn’t be ignored, so you aren’t 6 months into dating a guy with a tiny dink, or someone who can’t make you c*m, etc.
Again- I’m thankful for Elliott’s videos but I feel like sometimes he isn’t giving the gist of the story - REGARDLESS OF THE CONFIDENCE YOU DISPLAY, IF HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU HE WILL NOT STICK AROUND.
People actually dissappear for various reasons. It's not always so fair to demonize men that drift or leave; sometimes their reasoning can be completely valid. He can love a woman but find her unhealthy for him; leaves and gives her time to find herself. Not all men that dip are awful or don't want you. This comment is very black and white... that's not how real life works
Realest comment, I agree
🙏😇🙏 Mindful Attraction 2.0 🙏😇🙏
100% agree. The IT must be there. It’s called Chemistry. It’s always about more than sex for both sexes. Women walk away too.
Realest comment out there 👏👏👏
Idk I just think it's best to play it safe. Do not sleep with him until he's asked you to be with him, exclusively. If that's what's your wanting of course. If you want a relationship and he knows that, he'll play on your emotions to gain that trust to get you to sleep with him. Don't be blinded! Take TIME to talk to him and let him show you who he truly is, whether that's a good guy or a bad guy.
Yes exactly this 👆
Exactly I’m not sleeping with a guy unless there is a commitment learned my lesson listening to other people
exactly... I'm glad I saw this comment now... I'mma keep them legs closed.... got ghosted for not giving him sex... and I'm proud
Simple and right
Yeah he can still leave after you waited for him 🤷🏾♀️ whether it's six months or six years.
Trying to get something from a man using sex, is like when guys trying to get something from us by being our best friend, not gonna happen. If you would like to have a good time, go ahead and sleep with the guy, and then forget about it, if the guy likes you will stay no matter what you say or do, if not there’s nothing you can do about it, it’s simple.
Amen
Yup
"Trying to get something from us" when you said something you mean Trying to get sex from you?
Trying to get from a man using sex
is like cheating yourself value.
Better EX; Cheating on a test.
Using someone elses knowledge to pass the test.
Its easy to do. We got the Power!
However how can anyone not feel contempt toward the other doing them this way.?
I upvoted myself!
@@imadn4147 access via sex. Access means control over you, feeling manly. Even sex isn't just about sex. :P Especially when it's a man who is disconnected from his emotions.
Never again I will make that mistake.
I will wait until I am married to a man who really loves me.
🙏
Same to me
Even u wait for marriage when he eat the cookie he will start to cheat and look around marriage is even more fake 😂
That's it sisters and brothers. I recommend everyone to fall in love with themselves. It feels great 🌷
"Women give sex to get love.
Men give love to get sex."
I heard this 35 years ago.
🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
And its true
Omg that's great quotes 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
💯💯🔥
😮
When you truly don’t care, you stop liking them so when something that you want actually happens, you don’t want him anymore and you feel like you’ll never give them another chance.
And that's when they pop back up. When we least expect it and when you've forgotten about him in your heart and are fully over him.
Ya😊
Yea don’t sleep with a guy until you have a commitment. I’m not judging anyone who does but I won’t sleep with someone who isn’t my boyfriend. That doesn’t make me better than I just think it’s smarter personally.
Yeah but he can still leave afterwards....
I slept with both my long-term partners pretty early on. I was married to the one and in a relationship with the other for 6 years. Somewhere along the way they started resenting me. I think it was career related because I was more successful than them at the time of both splits. If they're going to leave you, they will. Whether you put out or not.
Even After marriage man start to look around cheat and dream about other girls 😂😢😂
This is just so fucked up men should be going to therapy for their behaviour instead of us trying to find games to keep them interested
No one dictates your value but you
I’ve never heard the term “sugar walls” before 😂😂😂
People will always reflect to you your own self-worth. Reality is simply a mirror to our soul.
Just don’t have sex before commitment, the guys aren’t worth the emotional trouble.. Women have access to so many toys that does the job better, and no headache is attached
But why would you commit to a man before knowing if the sex is good? What if he sucks and you're now, "committed"?
THIS
Remember your value ladies
Not sugar walls. 😄😄
DONT WE DESERVE SUGAR BANANA EITHER?
1.5 mins in I was so lost and zoning out... u need to stick to the narrative of the heading... to much side tracking
I will not give a guy sex before a relationship. I won't reveal my strategy to the guy, but he's not getting the cookie unless there's a major time and money investment.
Why do like 90 percent of females want relationship but most guys dont??don't??? Make a video on other topics help me get this shit. All your videos have helped me learn a lot
I talk about it in my ebook lol.
Males are different
He knew that I wouldnt have sex unless there was a title and if he didnt want to be exclusive then on to the next one if it works it works if not move on ladies
Did this I gave him space, didn’t really chase him he only gave one word texts and I called him out on his bs and of course he lied so I ghost him then blocked him. took my L you live and you learn. One more thing my (ex) friend would keep texting guys Long paragraphs so she got really clingy and it backfired.
How did it back fire
I text one paragraph after 3 days it wasnt an angry message just a calm n classy one n he replied. N now im leaving him alone havent heard of him for a few days so im not reaching out nor needy , just gona leave it alone n try to move on cus i really invested a lot of time n effort in this long distance thing n it hurts but oh well cant control everything cant force anything
This is another reason why women should not give into sex too early. Sex is precious and the most intimate act between two people. It should not be engaged in lightly. It should only occur after a significant level of emotional intimacy has been achieved. If a man can't bond with you emotionally, without sex, then move on. Don't use sex to try and interest or hook a man. A great relationship needs far more than good sex. If he is willing to wait and build towards sex, then you have an emotionally mature man. If he has to have sex early on, he's not that mature.
Thank you Elliot!! I love your advices! ♡
women control sex and men control relationships; no more true words have ever been said!
Basically don't give a shir
Literally 💯
I've had the opposite experience in terms of men wanting to be in a relationship with me after the 2nd date. I find it suspicious as I get this hunch that they want to be in a relationship in order to make the possibility of sex more attainable. They'll try to become whatever they think it is that I want. I'm usually unimpressed. It just seems like strategy towards sexual access. IMO It helps to move slow and look at a man's actions, habits, and whether his words align with his patterns over time to assess if he is really quality or not.
Exactly, leveraging sex to get commitment only gets you played with. We as women have intuition we need to listen to it.
Loving your videos lately!
Hey you, this dynamic leads to the woman fixing the man and he'll assume that she wants to change him as though healing was a vicious unpredictable thing. She's not respecting herself and her own path in life, if she's investing so much in getting close to him. It always looks like both people in this should rather get some good ol' therapy. Or maybe at least focus on their own healing at the same time. It's more interesting than just getting what /who you think you want. Ideally it can be done together. There's just always the worry that once they really get to know themselves, they won't actually be your "soulmate"/... Buuuut let them. Edit: I didn't point out what I find good about your advice. Goes without saying. The difference is mostly about what someone wants out of life and relationships.
Keep your legs closed. You don't have to sleep with the guys you date and then risk him leaving and you feeling like crap. In fact, it's way easier to screen them when you're not sleeping with them. Less wasted time for you. I promise you, it only takes MAYBE a couple of dates to see that he's not a catch if you aren't on your back, but some people date losers for years hoping he will marry them. You will see his true colors very quickly if you aren't sleeping with him.
true.. I can testify....
Real talk!
I was dating someone for 4 months who was showing interest and doing all the right things …as soon as we had sex he left …so what you’re saying is not valid
@@Sunnysideup01 I'm 57F. I agree. I got 2 marriages out of sex on the first date. They weren't even dates, lol. It's better just finding out fast if they're going to stick around before you get invested. If a guy thinks less of you for having sex soon, he's not the right guy because he did it too.
Yep. Sex make red flags pink instead of red.
Whew. All this is exhausting and makes me glad that I’m a virgin .
That's right, keeping your legs closed is THE best way to screen a guy.
@@tjaspire lol they ALL thought that they would be the one to make me change my mind and give it up to them. They saw me as a challenge and FAILED and it’s hilarious.
Me too.
Still a virgin. Better that way.
I won't let them have my body.
Stay a virgin!! ❤️🔥
I know this was a year ago but please stay a virgin until you meet a guy that actually cares about you. Don’t listen to other people about finding out if you’re sexual compatible. Yes it’s important but not before an emotional connection. And trust me people who constantly hookup might say it’s fun to their friends but are secretly miserable. I lost my virginity in my mid-20s to a guy I thought was different after a couple of dates. Even though he respected I was a virgin and praised me for waiting, after I had sex with him he treated me like every other woman that crossed his path. I was no one special. Just another challenge that he overcame
This is good stuff. Thank you.
Nice! Thank you! 💚
You are my hero Elliot 🥰
U girls better listening to Jack butler dating coach his advice is so therapeutic This guy keep telling u the same thing over and over again 🤣🤣
Thats not true elliott! I know a bunch of couples that waited for sex. I never give it up before dating lol in fact waiting is high value ladies if a man doesnt respect that and agree with waiting let him go!!!!
😂😂 he can wait untill marriage then start to cheat and look around its stupid stratigy many married couples live in hell 😢😅
Thank you 🙌
Yay!
Have a man mind set
What's a man mindset?
Enjoy sex and dont get attached from the begining dont expect love expect only sex 🎉❤@@laurendelane6361
what can i do to truly not give a shit? how can I distract myself
So all relationships about commitment what if am the girl i love sex only in him
😊Enjoy sex dont give a fck and love yourself u dont need no love from others 🎉
Getting into his mind by expertly knocking down his psychological walls and making him tingle with feelings of pleasure, means you're doing it right. There are many so called "canned phrases" to make it happen, for example go’ogling something like Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire was the perfect formula for me
Just don’t attach to any man if he leaves after sex just dust yourself off and try to find someone better.
But how can we not attach?
Oxytocin for starts. It's gonna hurt if you have feelings and he disconnect after sex. My advice would be to tough it out don't let him know that you're bothered by his disappearing
@laurendelane6361 it does hurt currently my situation specially we both invested 4 mo of time n effort into it , long distance.
I agree
Heyyyyy uuuuu
Hey, great job this sounds like it’s all based on Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire. And yes, that’s the material you need to have him resonating with erotic electricity at your will. Sounds like too much IK, but just for the basics it's worth go'ogling her ;)
👫❣️🎉🎉❤️❣️💕🛀🛀