@@terridillon3053 The longer you're around the narcissist the more damage they do. Your identity slowly get eroded. They're like a black storm cloud that follows you around raining on you. When you go no contact that black storm cloud goes away. You start having much better luck and healing.
Not to mention those who the narcissist drives into suicide!! That is still murder!! This concept of not fully seing the beast was very helpful!! Thanks!! 😊
I had moments thinking this recently and was feeling this post breakup for a couple weeks once in awhile. I really think they’re spiritual attacks mixed with ptsd because they’d come out of nowhere!! I’d feel like I wanted to die 😢 Things got much better after I forgave him and I prayed against those type of spirits to leave me alone, and I also started to sleep with a sleep vibe from Sapien Medicines channel. The deep sleeper video. I listen twice and it helps your body produce its own melatonin which then turns into serotonin. All my ptsd symptoms stopped, the random bouts of sadness and crying. My crazy shopping sprees and wanting to smoke (I don’t even smoke) Much of the ruminating stopped and I’ve actually been feeling really happy. It’s been 5 weeks no contact!! ❤
My exwife tried to kill me. poison. it took years to even admit on my part. She claimed to be a christian and yes attends church. Unreal how broken these monsters are
Omg Be Light! You had a narrow escape for sure. Church people think killing a spouse is better than the dreaded divorce.. from so many cases I have read about. There is the hope they will get away with it as well. This is so evil.
Literally the most evil people I have been abused by was a group of people who went to church every Sunday. That's why I keep contact with God on my own. I don't need a building full of fake people.
Religious narcs are the worst, they are not Christians or being obedient to Jesus. They lie on God, hide behind the title of Christian. The deeper I started studying the Bible I learned just how hypocritical religious narcs are. I grew up in a dysfunction "Christian" household. Just Christian enough that I could manage to create my own relationship with Jesus. I'm still trying to get myself together because of the deep effects my childhood had on me. I still love God and follow Jesus and I know they were the only ones by my side carrying me through such bad times. I'm sorry for all the suffering you all have gone through, my heart goes out to you. 😔
I wonder how many deaths every year are directly related to narcissistic abuse. I have certainly had my share of health problems from the stress. So sad, please stay strong. ❤🙏
@@reesedaniel5835 This is correct. I look back now at those I knew who committed suicide, attempted it, or who had suicidal ideation, and connecting the dots know what they suffered, and who in their family was the narcissist. This is the narc's end goal, to make their target destroy themselves. It's the cold, pure evil hard truth. I also see how the Narc's affecting those poor souls appeared "good", holier than thou to the community.
@@eaglessoar6830 I had two very narcissistic parents who scapegoated me. I was obsessed with ending my life for over half of the sixty plus years I’ve been on earth and it’s an absolute miracle I’m alive. Narcissists want you dead. They even told me that. They are out to kill, steal and destroy. They are wicked and I just hope they reap what they’ve sown. It’s been a literal hell on earth for me. Things are definitely getting better now that they’re dead.
We need to start teaching victims how to escape financially. Especially if narcs trapped them financially. Especially if they lost their rights to their bank account, got a spending problem, their living on survival mode
Very true. I'm still hanging on to him coz he's my only source of livelihood since I conceived and now 2wks postpartum. I thank God He brought me very caring friends from the blues 3wks prepartum and they've come through for me in a great way. Looking forward to take a fresh start soon
@@TalbotCountyPicker It took me 3 years to escape him. And when I did-he was at work-I left him a post it note in bathroom mirror. I drove out with my toddler kids out of OHIO onto south to FL. Every time he gave me $$ for errands and groceries-I would put 10 dollars aside. Monthly was $40.00 and in 3 years I had collected almost 2k. That was enough to find rooms at night after driving long hours and secure myself a deposit for small apt somewhere far away from him. When he gave me his credit card to go shopping, I would go back and return certain products at store to get $ back. This was back in 2012. Only time I had, and the bastard would time me -if I was home late, I used up snow and big lines at supermarket as excuse all the while he sat there drinking and watching football games. Now there are support groups and more info out there that help victims. I had NO ONE and yet I did it-little at a time. I still live a frugal lifestyle, but I manage.
They can't change , Doctor Phil said they can't go through therapy because this gives them ammunition about their behaviour and how to use it to keep going
I know three people who got very sick and died; they were married to Narcissists. None of them was a direct murder but these three people were not treated correctly by their mates, were hospitalized while they could actually be treated at home, the wrong physicians were chosen for them, and other shady things like this.
My aunt is trying to play victim because I’ve announced on my social media platforms, I refuse to return to the places, people and things that caused me trauma! I don’t trust her, my other aunts (her flunkies) or anyone else she communicates with regularly! These monsters are dangerous and can be fatal! Chosen Ones, protect yourselves!!! Move, relocate and change your names!
When people/ family "show" you who they are BELIEVE them. My mistake was denial and thinking if I were good enough it would / could work out. These behaviors progress.......
Been there and done that. All that happens is the narcs keep moving the hoops and making them harder to jump through. They hate us and there is nothing we can do to change it. It's as though the demons in them know who we are and they provoke them to hate/envy us and try to destroy us.
I ended a relationship after he pulled a gun and I cold cocked him out then ran. He stalked me for years I was trapped in my home only going out when I knew he wouldnt be there. He died from very early alzheimers 8 years later and I threw a party and live aware of the danger forever. First sign of abuse RUN or you will be playing russian roulette
Watch the silent ones they devalue you behind your back to others, do not call you by your name or any kind of endearment, never say please or thankyou very rarely show affection do not want to look at you when talking to you, do their own thing at home Egnor you control all money so you can only do the bare minimum, subtle physical abuse in a sexual way that could be passed off as you had done it yourself not them.
People can change with love is a trap! I fell for it. My narcissistic husband has a tracker in my phone, cameras on the house and has a hatred towards my family because they protect me and consol me. I am currently making my exit in silence
You can do it , I did it back in 2017 after an 11 year Narcissistic, abusive relationship! He for the first time went out of town for 2 days to see a sick friend , I got a Uhaul and packed up everything I owned and left a note 📝 on His pillow ! No contact , changed phone number , moved several hours away ! That was 6 years ago ! It was easy to leave because I’m never getting married again , so I lived with Him ! It was to easy ! Good luck 🍀 and remember, They don’t change , it’s impossible. They only get worse with age ! My Mom is a prime example 😢
@@brittneyholmes2700 I hope you realize how truly lucky and blessed you are to have a good, loving, supportive family of origin that has your back and cares about you. You literally won the Power Ball Lottery for Families!!!
Thank you, Kevin. I can't share my story it's too painful. Let's just say the Lord protected me from my malignantly narcissistic dad numerous times... it's truly a miracle I survived my childhood 🙏
Unfortunately, haters gonna hate. Abusers gonna abuse. Killers gonna kill. But we (Empaths❤) have choices. We can trust our intuition and the red flags 🚩 and get out fast. And never, no matter what, return to Narcissists! Seek help through abuse organizations, local police departments, domestic violence’s shelters, or a sincere trustworthy person/friend. But most of all, trust and believe that God has you covered. There’s genuine comfort in knowing that you are a child of God. No weapon formed against us shall prosper. ❤Amen❤ Be safe!
I tried to call a domestic violence shelter for women. They turned me away because they were all full!! It made me so scared i have to continue living here. I’ll never be free. A job will not help me if i can’t make money if i don’t have a bank account & if i keep getting fired. Being trapped can be a real scary reality! It’s not a joke! This is how people die unless you fight back & defend urself
God will not do anything to help me because the entire concept of a deity or deities, religions and the stories that involve them are simply constructs created by man. The state will not do anything to help me because I am a male and have no children, thus I am ineligible to qualify as a victim of domestic violence. Isn't that nice?
A young couple with a toddler lived next door. Regularly, I would hear body slams against our common walls! She wore oversized glasses to hide her eyes! I finally approached her and she excused him for being drunk. I told her, one day he'll kick you down the stairs and kill you. They separated and moved shortly after because he was cheating, she said.😨
I was fantasizing about killing my narc step dad when he made me go hunting when I was 12. After putting him in my sights, I never went hunting with him again. I felt like my life was in danger my entire childhood. His rage and abuse were monumental. The only people I have ever imagined killing were abusers. I think my mother would like to kill him but she lost her courage to fight back decades ago. My narc step dad was almost bubbly when I had to live in a dangerous situation. I think he secretly has been wishing bad stuff on me my entire life. I can't wait for him to be gone. This has prepped me to be the target of violence in my life. I once had a girl stick a knife in my back just because she felt like it. I woke up with a girlfriend mounted on me, not sexually like fighting mma, and was doing ground and pound on my face, I had to throw her off of me then she accused me of abuse. He is now 75 and is more angry and evil than ever, I don't think he can change, he doesn't think he has a problem. Wanna hear something really weird? Once after getting hit I punched a hole in the wall in my bedroom, my half brother also did the same thing. My mom and step dad now have that bedroom and they have not fixed the holes in the wall, this has been like 30 years now. I teased my mom once, saying wow nice trophies on your bedroom wall. She feigned ignorance, of course. Me- "Why don't you guys fix the sheet rock in your bedroom from when Aaron and I punched the walls?" Mom-"I have no idea what you are talking about"
Sending huge hugs..wt you recall is relatable although different circumnstances obviously.. I am experiencing lot of oroblems myself too due to this past. May I suggest you to take a daily habit of wellbeing ME TIME, look in Tre Shaking therapy, Mindfulness, Bible Meditation (I know it feels to reject the idea of the presence of a God in such "life", but you just try jt pls, trust me as someone who went through your same hell) than do sweet stretching as Pilates..I know seems more female than male exercise, but trust me again. If you have flash backs, use ice on your hands ir wrist to interrupt them, and Grounding techniques plus TAPPING. Add also TURNERIC with black pepper in your oil to dress your salads..and periodic cares with magnesium, vit.d3 and K and calcium as I guess you aren't sleeping well either. Do these things on a daily base to heal the past trauma and counterfight the smaller present one. With time, we will make it.. A huge hug to you, be the best you were meant to be without the idiot evils that deminuished you. You know a lot, make a good use of it Sir! Make of God your Best Friend..remember the devil out us in that shit to kill us and divert our attention from God presence in our life. But if we can make something good from that shit to help others going through the same we will have twisted the bad in good..do you feel motivared/enraged enough to do that? I am, hope to find you on my same path! A huge hug to you, wherever you are!
Wow 😳 pretending like she doesn't know what you're talking about when referring to the holes y'all punched in the wall. That's textbook enabler behavior. Sorry you went through that.
They will always hate you more than you could love them. They don't want or need your love. They Hate love. It signifies weakness, which they despise. Love only conquers all who would receive it.
Hi,my narcissistic neighbor is an aryan nation sympathizer. Her boyfriend is a biker and she has tried to attack me with her dogs 7 times. She lies to everyone about me. Told me to kill myself I had neuro spinal surgery and the surgery and doctors saved my life. I and the doctor struggled to live. Why would I even listen to this sleep paralysis demon. Every thing that the commentator says about what they do these monsters have said to me. I am a messianic jew,our savior Said "bless them that curse you".the best lesson . I yelled shut up at their constantly barking dogs. That is my crime. Jesus loves us..
my dad is top of top genius in his professional, angel heart, very strong and healthy, but died by my mom and whole family members' abuse, those Demons are truly killers
My loving father died as a result of my mother’s and grandmother’s continuous mental and emotional abuse. Part of me was relieved when he passed because he was finally free from this evil.
Honestly, physical abuse by my ex left fewer scars than psychological abuse by family with the confusion, hot+cold, lies, smear campaigns, all from a "loved one" & those they turned against me, who bullied along happily without asking my side once.
I know how that is. I have been assaulted and lost an eye but the ongoing bullying by all of my “family members “ has done more damage overall. It’s hard to put your finger on so you let it continue until you’re almost dead from suicide or illness due to long term trauma.
They never ask for your side of the story because they’re only thinking of themselves and maintaining the false mask as well as keeping the cult mentality going.
My best " friend" of 20 years got jealous when we went to a retreat and they asked me to give a lecture. She tried to run me down with her car. I jumped out of the way just in time. I had ignored all the red flags, the rages. An ex boy friend who claimed he was "clean " from his drug addiction, stold my car to go get his drugs, and hit me in the chest with the Karate death blow, and I had a chest contusion and horrible pain for a year. My Narcissist Mom, whom I had gone no contact with, lured me to her house with pleas for help, where she then called police, and lied to them that I was trespassing in her house and abusing her. I barely avoided being put in handcuffs, and being arrested and put in jail, and being given a false police record that would have destroyed my life. I am a retired RN of 40 years with an immaculate record. I do not smoke, drink or do drugs. Do not keep giving them chances and ignoring red flags. YOUR LIFE IS AT STAKE.
The abuse from your mom set you up to have abusive friends. But looks like you know how to save your life thru your own strength. Proud of you and wish the best which you deserve.
Being abused for long periods of time can also cause a person to self isolate. A person can become a stranger to themselves after endurring mistreatment for so long. It can be quite embarrassing. They may not realize how enraged they are until they are triggered, or pushed to the brink of insanity. Sometimes the abused snap, and kill for this reason. It is not common, but it does happen. Most bears just want to be left alone, to forage, and rest. Narcissists take pleasure in poking those kinds of bears. But a bear can only be poked for so long, until it reminds the antagonist, that it's a f%%king bear. 🐻
I've been taken advantage of pretty badly the last three months, I'm scared I'm becoming a narcissist. I have so much pent up anger I don't want to socialize anymore, I'm afraid of meeting new people. I'm loosing my empathy towards others.
@@ashleykathryn9038 I feel your pain...been a long 8 years ending with a grand travel trip where I finally stopped rationalizing the horrible treatment and reflecting on the several other unhealthy relationships that i maintained over the years. I am not sure how I want to proceed- keep distancing from everyone or engage? Staying to myself seems the safest healthiest option at this point.
Yes, absolutely! And another one I heard growing up, sfter being insulted and put down they would say "I'm only telling you because I love you" or "I'm telling you for your own good". Great way to screw you up psychologically for life! :(
It took me almost getting killed before I 150% got out of the "relationship". I am still trying to wrap my head around the insanity. Maybe it's a good thing I can't. Best believe though, NEVER AGAIN.
I can't help but think there is some link between the narcissism epidemic and the opiate epidemic which are both silently raging out of control. My ex diagnosed sociopath ex husband (ASPD/NPD) drove our eldest son to die from an accidental heroin overdose at 20 years old. He died with untreated CPTSD. Fifteen years earlier I had a heart attack and died at 33 and was given the choice live or die, and because I could see my sons weren't safe without me I went back for them. That was the end of life as we knew it. I lived only to watch the people I loved and trusted the most destroy my life.leaving me penniless, disabled and utterly alone except for my two traumatized children. For them I found the strength to reinvent my life, but as I got stronger, my son's trauma started to catch up to him. I believed he was going to be ok because of my NDE, so it was a shock when he died and it has had a major impact on my surviving son who is very lost in fear and grief. The point is that loving these toxic people was killing us.
My ex narcissist husband never laid a hand on me but he had that cold dark look in his eyes when he threatened to hurt me. So yes it was definitely very probable that he would have hurt me. He didn’t know what love was. But he knew what violence was.
My husband put my coffee pot, carafe in a trash bag, put my iron skillets in the bag too,throw them towards me and when the police got there they seen what he had done. I put a protective order against him. He has violated the protective order several times. He has to go to court in a few weeks. He is furious. He doesn't know where I am. Just trying to keep safe. I don't know if I will have to go to court that day or not. I don't have a car, he took it. He is a dangerous guy.
Be safe! I too have been in hiding for a year and a half. He wants me dead and told me how he would do it. DISGUSTING & DEMENTED they are. I just received a call last Tuesday he's gone back to prison for 2 years. There is a God or Karma! Keep your faith. Just be very careful and Never let your guard down. They ARE dangerous and WILL commit Murder. I am 100 % sure my husband has already killed, he told me he did. And told me twice that I was going to MAKE him take me out. I didn't stick around to find out. I fled at 2 in the morning with the clothes on my back. I ran a couple miles to the bus station and never looked back. God bless you and be strong and stay safe❤
Yeah, not taking things seriously enough is something I've noticed in people too. There're signs, and usually things you'll get called sensitive, picky or extreme for. Certain jokes and comments, how they talk about people behind their backs, how they talk to you in general as well as when you're upset, whether they take responsibility/blame, the company they keep, how they treat you/people when you/people don't have boundaries set (who are they as a 'free' person? Note they can pretend to be good, but will break character here or there or completely after they think they've got you), opinions on different worldly topics, hobbies, quirks, habits like watching porn or not cleaning after oneself properly; they all reveal things about the way a person thinks, what they value, how they see others and you, whether they're likely to lose their shit, what they're capable of if they lost their shit, etc. These are things people give a pass to, roll their eyes at or simply don't pay attention to. I think if people overcame their codependency, fear of being alone, unawareness and poor priorities (like the benefits received from being around shitty people), people wouldn't accept narcs into their lives.
@@ashleykathryn9038 The main issue is being cared and nurtured in the first years of life. You can read about Pavlov and Seligman experiments and find out that although dogs don't need money they can be happy and miserable depending of the way they were treated. Money gives you independence but maybe not freedom of a conditioning script or false beliefs about yourself rooted in a miserable childhood. You won't make much money if you're suffering learned helplessness.
@@ashleykathryn9038 animals adapt. I don’t know if it’s a fact but animals aren’t as deluded as humans and even domesticated animals. They know the game down to their DNA.
I have endured all of these warning signs from my neighbor and his wife. They are currently trying to hurt my dogs, things like putting bowls of water with antifreeze outside. I haven’t spoken to them for 3 years but they still try to abuse me or damage my property every opportunity they have. This has been going on for 20 years. They are pensioners now, old enough to know better, and they are very active in the church. It’s strange I said to my daughter only yesterday I think he’s going to try to kill me before long because he wants to hurt me so badly. 100% the guys a malignant narcissist and I think his wife is the same. Thanks Kevin 🙏🏻💕
Please be careful. You never know if they are ex-killers or how their past is. They do show their nature more in their old days. This should show you how many years they have harbored hatred, disrespect, abusive characters for a long time and do not eben feel remorse in their older age. Be careful, such people have lived a life void of conscience. They will not change without inner remorse. If I were you, I would leave that place. Goodluck.
I've got similar situation with two very malignant narks (boyfriend n girlfriend), younger than I, both totally selfish, arrogant, entitled, antisocial, spiteful, hateful, that have trashed the place, it was nice b4 he, n then her also moved in, got dogs, have blocked the drains, dog crap left outside, vandalized my garden pots, plants, lattice next to my door, lavender bush nr my door, made the shared path way a mess. Council will not do anything about them, are making my place stink also (sewage smell, animal urine smell etc). Spates of banging around, banging doors, getting into my property whilst Ive been out (evidence of damaged item I found in my flat after being out & other stuff on other times). Housing officer appears to be protecting them. Anyone else would have been kicked out for braking many of the rules on the tenancy agreement. I've been looking to move & get out n away from them but the rented housing market or trying to get a transfer is a no go at the mo. The amount of hatred, jealousy, resentment energetically that comes off these two and the arrogance & entitlement is absolutely disgusting and makes me feel drained and ill everyday.
@@elizabethandiosa4579 something is definitely not right about the housing officer also, not sure if he's on the make but he's also very rude, dismissive & totally not doing his job properly especially with regard to feeling at risk & unsafe due to these two nasty pieces of work. Yes, am defo looking to move.
Also in church they taught me to forgive and turn the other cheek… I did that many times. I feel like God was tired of hearing me cry and pray for knowledge on the right thing to do. He stepped in and opened my eyes and mind to what was really going on. I always knew I was different. Love given in the true spirit of love does work but if it is given to someone who does not have the correct spirit in their heart will use it aginst you, to hurt you. By any means possible. Kevin Thank You for covering this, I had questions on this but didn’t even know how to even ask anyone. Prayers for your client! 🙏🙏
My covert narc mom who is 88 yrs old was heard telling her dog "if you don't start minding me I'm gonna kill you". At what point does the word kill even enter your mind? Scary.
I just escaped from an extreme narcissist soul sucker roommate heard him constantly threatening his pitbull if you don't mind me I will duck you up ! 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 i think poor dog would take it out of his head first ! p.s. he's massage therapist at major massage chain. They should vet them psychology-wise.. I will never get a massage from a chain
Tbh from lazy parenting these offensive-heart wounds entered these peoples hearts at young age which opens the door for demonic attachment -without taking any responsibility off the narc -its actually the demon in them making the evil threats , using word kill and acting on it. Narcs are not born theyre made by lazy parenting over-indulging and under-indulging same time. Its very rare they ever change -narcissists NEVER change. Very few can be retrained but when a major stressor occurs they snap back like rubberband...thats some proof THEY NEED DELIVERANCE !
I think the narcissist's victims can also kill. I always say there should be extenuating circumstances for children that kills a parent or both or a sybling. Psychological abuse especially when you feel trapped and helpless can push anybody over the edge. My life has been destroyed by my narc mother, yet she is walking free enjoying her life and enjoying destroying me still to this day.
I agree I have been pushed to the point after a lot of emotional psychological abuse that I eventually snapped myself. Lost control and it could have ended so differently but thankfully no serious harm. But yes I can relate 😔
@@80sbaby90 my mom slapped me through my face at the age of 45. I had a reflex reaction and I hit her back but a few times with the words that this will be last time that you will ever have the pleasure of physically abusing me. Since then the story in her eyes has changed so that I have become villian and she the innocent victim. Apparently she wanted to hit me, but missed and I then hit her on the side of her neck. It was that day she saw the devil in my eyes and ever since in her eyes I am demon possessed.
You need to watch for breadcrumbs to keep you in the loop, doing something nice to miss leed you into thinking 'they love you after all', very infrequent 3 or 4 times a year.
I can't believe you made this video, Kevin. Makes me sure you have to take these threats seriously, because if they say it they've thought about it and if they've thought about it, it's in their heart. Jesus said adultery begins in the heart, murder begins in the heart. The bible also says whatever is in the heart comes out the mouth. My husband is abusive, no way I'm waiting to see what he's capable of. My husband threatened to murder me in a joking voice on the phone a couple of weeks ago if I ever left him again. Wasn't funny, especially coming from a guy who loves watching murder mysteries, like True Crime Doco's. His exact words were "I'll probably murder you if you ever leave me again" (I moved away from him three months ago) he also threatened to do everything he could to make my life difficult if I completely abandoned him> He is blocked now. Very alarming..
I’m praying 😅for you , I’ve been there ! I left in 2017 after 11 years of abuse ! No contact, and I’m happier now than ever ! It’s been a long hard road , with lots of on line therapy, but I’m in a peaceful State of mind , miraculously!
The stats you shared are staggering. Wouldn’t it be ideal for teens to understand this crucial information before entering the dating scene? Thank you for talking about such an important topic.
That's why they used to require blood tests before marriage 50-60 years ago. When they stopped doing that is when the narc population proliferated to it's current level. People used to marry those of their own blood types (compatible). Narc's are another species literally. This is not "politically correct" but the Rhogam shot is really to enable narcs to be born from a pure child of God (RH Negative blood types). God made His daughters bodies to naturally miscarry/abort these "foreign entities" (Cain's RH Positive (Rheesus monkey positive) bloodline). The Rhogam shot enables them to be born and outbreed us ultimately. That was and IS the REAL reason for it.
Move in silence. If u are lonely and have a habit of talking out loud, stop it. I have a seriously addictive habit of talking outloud to myself. Manic bi polar. Move in secret. Move in silence
Wondering into territory where we don’t belong. This makes so much sense to me and I take accountability for that. I’ll stay in my green pasture now. Thank you for your guidance and support. Much love to you good souls❤
I saw a video once out on the interwebs and the bear is just tearing through these campers' food, and they're all just yelling "hey bear!" And you can hear the desperation like 'why isn't "hey bear" working to drive away this massive animal' its so hilarious cuz it completely ignores them. It not funny tho when people don't realize human danger.
@@jillloy3319 True. They are literally a different species (intra species predators). Their brains are wired completely opposite of ours. You cannot reason with them and they despise logic, truth and wisdom.
The Royal We videos sure get down to the Nitty-Gritty of our interrelationships in a way others will not touch. The analogies used are right on real eye opening truths. Discernment is absolutely paramount when it comes to who we trust. It’s taken decades for this penny to drop but better late than never I suppose. For those younger people out there watching Royal We videos take heed my friends for they will put you in good stead on your life’s journey. Yet again another great video.
I was in denial of ALL the warning signs including defamation of my character. He would say "...and you can't tell anyone because they won't believe you...I'm a doctor". My children and I are safe now and he passed 6 mo ago. All alone. There was no closure, but we all feel relief and peace as we continue to work on the healing processes. I have great guilt because of what my children experienced and the damage that was done while I hoped he would one day "get it". Futile. Thank you for the reality check.
Thank you Kevin. That is very true about not caring about or valuing you. I went to counselling for being abused thirty years ago. The counselors said that abuse always escalates. It's true. I know because the abuse has escalated the past thirty years. Emotional, mental, spiritual, abuses always come with and start before physical abuse. POISONING. ITS HARD TO PROVE. MANY DRUGS AND POISONING SYMPTOMS PRESENT AS SOMETHING ELSE. If you begin to feel sick a lot, get out. Move. They did it once and will do it again. If they show little concern for your regard and do not fully have your back with thought heart, words, actions and deed, they have disregard. I know this. As a victim you never suspect at first but then you begin to put it together. Trust your intuition and gut feelings. Its not feeling good. Follow the trail to the source. Look at who you have been around and remember who you said stuff to. Get surveillance cams. Get away from these dirt bags. They really do want to hurt you. Abusive relatives will definitely take you out if there's money involved and they have previously disrespected you. Grow your self worth back. You deserve to be treated well.
I can attest to this as well. They will do it again and again… they want an accident. They think they will convince others it was your fault .. They dream of starting over & casseroles.
These disgusting and vile creatures can make you sick without actually poisoning you as well. I remember when I lived in the house with my narc mother, golden child brother and enabling father, I would constantly get staph infections all over my body, from head to toe literally (painful boils). My enabling father would get them too but not as much as I did (the Chosen Scapegoat/Family Trash Can). Of course Mommy Dearest, the Head Narc and her Golden Child son NEVER got them, not once. And when I moved out, I stopped getting them.
@@reesedaniel5835 Someone was intentionally infecting you or your clothes, towels, bedsheets, linens, personal belongings. They were intentionally not cleaned properly. Diet does play a part, stress does lower immunity. Clean pillowcases, and good hygiene and sanitation are important. These freaks from hell will go to any lengths. Yes of course they intentionally harm their own children to varying degrees. Don't go back no matter how nice or how much they pretend they have changed. Its a con.
Yikes you're so right. I've started "putting it together", pieces of moments from the past that lead to what's happening now. It's such a sad realization - realizing someone is someone else, and now I'm afraid of him. And it's my dad 😢😢
I think my mother tried to kill me...she came at me with a hammer but she stopped when i told her go ahead you will be in jail when this is all said and done. So instead she tried to break my spirit by getting every family member to turn their backs on me after she filled restraining order to have me removed from the home after she con me to give my my apartment a whole state way. But like i told her, I only fear the Lord! And I know God didn't bring me this far to let me so 😝 bye bye "mother" it was nice knowing you
You are so right when you talk about taking the situation seriously. One big problem is when law informant doesn't take you seriously it ends up making you doubt yourself and weather the situation you're in is serious enough to require them. We need more education and training for law enforcement. We also need them to require more empathy in themselves. How sad is that.
They absolutely kill. A friend or family member that is a narc is pure poison to stay around. I didnt get away from my parents soon enough. I have cptsd, agoraphobia, and a fib from living in it. My brother died at 35 from results from the abuse. Anyone in relationships with a narc or any form of abusive personality get out fast.
The story about the boy who cried wolf never sat well with my spirit. It’s as if the moral of the story was CONDITIONING us to tolerate domestic abuse, because we only get one shot at asking for help. Which basically is when we come face to face with a life threatening creature. When it’s too late.
Cleary, crying wolf was a cry for attention. When the wolf finally came........... it is exactly the same... people create drama to bring attention to their situation and due to scapegoating or whatever, indifference and apathy are all that is generated from those around. Instead of instructing the boy into more constructive ways to get attention and gain recognition... he is ignored or downplayed. He may have got some attention at the start but didn't quite fill the cup, so he does it again, and tries harder the next time and still, he is inadequate to get his needs met and on and on it goes until the butterfly effect traps one into a false identity. You lose your ability to matter in people's lives and start to appear desperate.... then real life happens and no one is prepared.
You’re right. My ex showed me he was not trustworthy, unreliable, scandalous, violent, never accountable. Bad ingredients….I couldn’t comprehend how bad it could get. Now I’ll never see him again, I know now he betrayed me to the maximum, it’s been 3 months of just processing what happened. I did underestimate the nature of the beast.
Reactive Abuse!!,,, that’s what I endured with my mother,,, she’d throw me a back handed compliment,, stonewall me ,, gaslight me ,, then triangulate all us siblings against each other,,
Yes i have to be careful to not react to my dad’s insults or them poking at me demanding my attention for no reason. I have to remind myself they are monsters and they are doing this on purpose to piss me off and once i get pissed off they will paint ME as the monster. Reactive abuse. Next thing they will build up that rapport as “she’s crazy. She’s got issues. She needs medication. She needs us to control and help her and micro manage her situation & tell her what to do with her life”. That’s the idea. They did it to my mom. My mom did it to me when i was 3 1/2. I should actually quit taking my medication because i never had a psychological disorder to begin with. How do u diagnose a THREE YEAR OLD??? The parents didn’t give this child enough time to really show if they have any mental disorders!! It was all about control & money. It all became clearer as i got older when my parents kept fighting like crazy year after year over money and the house! I thought they split because of their relationship. It was always about status to both of them. They were jealous of who had more money. Both my adopted parents are narcissists. Grandiose and malignant. Possessive helicopter parents, Money and status obsessed. As they’ve lost a lot of superficial things that associate with money and status such as youthful looks & nice luxury things, they have been humbled a lot. You wanna humble an arrogantly wealthy person who stomps on the toes of the lowly and poor? Make them poor! Take away their power, popularity and status. Narcs do this to their victims too by ruining ur reputation of being a humble and kind person by putting a smear campaign on u. This is only when they lose all control over u and they fear they may be exposed so they can never gain new supply
I was tortured mentally emotionally for decades wrestling with the evil in my narc father. only in marrying a narc man late in life untangled the reality of my father as well. because of those experiences I dont underestimate abusive people. and that drove me to run from my marriage in under a year. I knew that it was escalating. and there was no ownership.
@@betulapendula7661 in running I chose a new life clear of Narcs. as best as I can be. happier now than ever have been. clearer now than ever. and yes celebrating.
I've had same experience - unraveling my dad now and realizing he and my Ex are the SAME freaking person uugh! And I'm actually afraid of my dad now, his abuse is escalating. crazy
@@howphancy what I was told is " they don't get better, they get worse" "always take care of yourself first". where they get the same old script they work with...? is amazing to me. but I don't want to give it anymore of my energy than absolutely necessary. best wishes for your constant recovery.
That is why I named my RUclips channel The Narcissistic Fog Kills. When I asked to one the many "experts 'ob Narcissistic behavior if the Narcissistic Fog can kill you. He said no. My narcissistic husband of 23 years has been absorbing my energy making him stronger. Thank you so much for your RUclips channel. One time a few weeks ago he yelled at me calling me a bitch while I was trying to sleep. He was drunk when this happened. I am working my way out of this lethal marriage
Also, all the therapists said this was just a one time thing because he was being exposed, he was caught. They think there is not further risk. Tell that to our son, he was in the next room and thought dad had killed mom and he was next. scary stuff
I agree Kevin, my ex was trying to kill myself and his own son. We had to barricade ourself in a bedroom as he was tearing the door down and I had already called 911 but luckily our son had called his mother also and she showed up first and put a stop too it, he had a gun when he was breaking into the bedroom it was a pretty scary situation. Over money which ended up amounting to a measly $200 in the end. He was doing bad things every single week to us for years.
so true! that's why I FINALLY left the relationship because after all the sadistic behaviour I saw the possible danger. no contact is the only first aid thing to do and to get help outside (from people who understand).
like I’ve said- the narcissist can be the next murderer Remember- according to God it doesn’t have to be physically It is done by the mouth- out of its abundance it speaks - Gods word spoken first- paraphrased 💖👑
My mother ticks all the boxes, all my life ive been afraid she would literally kill me, she decapitated pets to punish me for not being an obedient slave.
I once had a very long argument with a family member narcissist. They were insisting that my 'sorry' wasn't sincere, it went on for hours and eventually they smashed the microwave. glass was everywhere. I was terrified. I knew that it was some kind of projection from them onto the microwave but I could see that they wished it was my face they punched. From that point on, I was scared that I would wake up with a pillow over my face. It took a bit of time for me to get out of that situation, and it really did me in.... the fear, the gaslighting, the frustration.... and yet all the time I was striving to make them understand that we are not the same and it is OK to be different.... I left, they still frighten me, like an unknown quantity that could and would go from zero to 100 in 3 seconds.
I think the Bible talks about these abusive people known as narcissists and how they are wolves in sheep’s clothing and describes how they act and how to spot them in numerous passages. I’m certainly not saying that everyone who calls themself a Christian is not a narcissist. I’m saying that Christianity is very familiar with these people and warns that we should have nothing to do with them.
Thanks for the video! Many people don't think that narcissists can be violent or murderers. But I saw it first hand with the ex malignant narcissist husband. I was mistreated, beaten black and blue many times. I have lost all self-esteem, courage, I was depressed, full of anxiety, guilt, neurotic. A few times I tried to leave, but he always threatened me with separating me completely from my toddler kids. The final time I tried to initiate a divorce, he threatened me non-stop with murder. He, who humiliated me every day, telling me how he would abandon me anytime , now was wanting to murder me if I leave him. Thanks to my Islamic faith, the help of the police, attorney, the support of family and Muslim friends I was able to divorce him. But the harassment using my kids lasted for 9 more years! I stayed alive only thanks to Allah and me telling to everyone that I am not at all suicidal, he wants to kill me. Narcissistic rage makes possible any violence, murder, false accusations, stealing, despicable smear campaigns, etc. The particular thing about the narcissists is that they never stop! The harassment, revenge, insults never stop, even after 10 or 15 years! They hold grudges against you as fresh as 20 years ago, even after 10 years of hurting you for one perceived slight, they still feel entitled to hurt you some more. What is shocking is that it never ends! They never forget, forgive, change themselves, reflect on their behavior. They are true robots, following a programmed pattern.
My narcissistic husband of 38 yrs unfortunately has most of these characteristics to potentially kill me and I have actually thought this at times and even dreamed about it too He’s almost 71 and yes they definitely get even worse with age and I know that he HATES me 😢. He headed butted me about 6 yrs ago but never has gotten physical with me but I am pretty sure that I read that many people that were in an intimate abusive relationship and had never been hit etc before by them were killed by their partner.
My ex nearly cooked me til I couldn’t breathe, and only let go because he didn’t want to go to jail. His entire family still believe that I caused his behaviour. I truly believe deep down that if I hadn’t left him, I would be dead.
My narcissist sister told me my flying monkey sister and she were going hiking. She invited me to come too. Immediately the thought popped into my head not to go because she would find a way to "innocently" make me fall off the path in the mountainous terrain we live in. I immediately declined. Now I have no contact with them.
Mother caused burn "accidents" to me when alone with her. An assigned work partner turned air wayy down on my scuba tank twice during a rescue dive operation & i almost drownd but an angel saved me. Father faked he fell & was getting pulled into ocean in Cancun for me to go after him. But no, i was consciously aware 🕊. They seem to play on vulnerable, innocent divine people.
I really like how you point this out, thank you. I’m glad to finally find my value & honor in this world. I so wish I had this info as a child. I would’ve kept my children far far away from my very own mother and aunt.
Great question about how many murders originate in "church". I was the piano player, hardcore Baptist. My dad's most recent attempt on my life was last summer. He's 85.
Would please provide the link in the video description of the statistical data you have referenced? This type of data is priceless in adding more horsepower to the harm narcissism has in our lives. Thank you for creating this channel. 🙏🏻
You have tremendously helped me with so many of your videos, but this one has been especially. We are in the process of moving from our beautiful home because the abuse of next-door neighbors has become alarming and unbearable. We fear for our children's lives now. It is as if God is helping me understand nothing, not even a nice house is worth the risk imposed on my children. "Arise Joseph and take the child and his mother to Egypt." This Biblical warning is resonating with me as a mother. God did not entrust a house to me, but He did entrust me with my precious little ones. Hoping my husband and I will always be ready to sacrifice anything for the gifts of our children.
Watch for warning signs. Deescalate or leave. Go no contact if you have to. Don’t let sketchy/bad behavior slide. Listen to your instincts. Get a second or third reliable persons opinion on the situation you’re going thru. Know self defense and have the appropriate self defense tools at the ready according to the laws where you live/visit.
What about children killing their own parents? We are hearing a lot about that! And I have a covert narcissist daughter. She hit me once in 2014, and have poisoned my food at least twice! She also drugged my food with Adderrall, her drug of choice. She told me years ago that I didn’t even know her! I didn’t understand then what she was talking about. Now I do! She is Amber Hurd!
@charlottelouise209 sometimes they take after their narcissist dad. I seen my little brother say the most vile things about my stepmother whom my dad abused. That brother was his golden child, the one he favored. So maybe she is innocent?
There’s abuse everywhere in this world. Millions of dogs and cats are at the mercy of their owners. They have no say in what they get to eat, if they can go outside. Not even mentioning the people physically abusing them, but they are left emotionally neglected, isolated…. It’s hard to make sense of a “God” when you see the immense suffering of animals that can’t speak for themselves. Even me, I feel so weirdly cut and stabbed everywhere, and nobody is there going to “save” me. These people just go on, leaving behind such insideous damage. My heart really does go out to the dogs and cats , in particular, that are stuck in perpetual abuse.
It's tragic about God's creatures. I feel the same. Circus animals perform due to their spirit being broken. Wild animals need to be in their natural environment. Abuse of animals made me an Animal Activist.
God gave man free will to choose good or evil and He gave them dominion over the earth and the animals. Please stop blaming Him for the evil done by humans. Blame Satan and the humans who chose to do what the devil whispered into their ears. They will assuredly receive their "reward" at the Judgment. "A righteous man cares for the needs of his animal, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel." Proverbs 12:10
That being said, I pray for the fatherless and those without a helper (both people AND animals) every night before bed. And God answers my prayers. I see all kinds of youtube videos of people and animals being rescued out of the most dire and horrific scenarios you can possibly imagine.
My grandfather killed my grandmother in broad daylight on the street back in the 60’s . She finally left him after years of narcisstic abuse . He stalked her and begged her to come back and when she said no he shot her . My father was like this with my mother and he was the worst narcissist . I confronted him but yet my mother would never leave him cause she’s one also . Narcissism runs deep in my families and yes they can kill
Thank you for this video! ❤ When I was going through this 5 years ago and needed help, nobody was talking about it at least not that I could find. I met my husband of 13 years AT CHURCH. He was abusive from the beginning but it was gradual so I didn’t notice. 13 years later he started threatening to kill my family and then started threatening to torture and kill me. He did all of the risk factors for killing that you mentioned. Stalking, tracking apps on my phone, isolating me, controlling my behavior, saying I am worthless, etc. I stayed WAY too long because I thought I could figure out some way to get him to stop. The preacher and his wife tried to get me to reconcile with him. Getting away is the best thing to do if you can, but it also is the most dangerous time in the relationship as well.
Really appreciate your content. It is so helpful just to hear that someone understands how serious this is. I have been in hiding for 8 months. It's physically isolating, but I have my dog and channels like this to keep me going forward in a positive mindset. As with TikTok, I have found my tribe of females...the survivors and the true warriors. No matter what stage in an abusive, narcissistic relationship or whether you've been out for a while, we are a family of sisters who have experienced the most heinous in people. I'm 8 months out from my last narc. I've survived a total of 3 narcs in 16 years. I finally wised up, grew up and had no choice but to change, or I was gonna die. The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. In 2023, it's safer to stay completely single if possible.
My ex-husband strangled me three times. We attended church, we went to counseling at church.. He blamed me for all of the issues for our relationship. On paperwork from the local hospital it states I died due to suffocaton. I have had multiple broken bones, mental health issues yet I am stupid enough to still talk to him. He finally quit drinking, doing drugs and I thought those were the reasons he had acted as such. He even molested our daughter just to get me to come back to our home state. The last time we lived together last year he hit me in the mouth and eye just playing around with him. He lashed out and backhanded me in the eye and mouth. It's the first time I had bruises on my face. It made me realize that he didn't care if he left marks on my face. Normally his go to is claiming bdsm to cover up what he did. Recently a protection order was dropped. I'm not playing around anymore. I was told I should forgive him. He quit drinking and drugs yet he still lashes out just the same. I have stay away order added to our divorce. Everything you just mentioned is exactly what he has done and still doing. Bless you for opening my eyes 🔥❤🙏👑🙏❤🔥
You should forgive him. Why? Because it's for your sake to forgive him, your future life and happiness. Forgiving him doesn't mean developing and/or staying with him. Turn to God, he is your answer that you seek.
That is what I try to tell people, why is it okay for people to separate themselves from a toxic romantic partner but not a toxic family member? Because the toxic family members advise you that you are to stick close to them no matter what. They do this so they can control and manipulte you and abuse you for their benefit.
People that are hostile in any way are dangerous
Make no mistake the enemy is sent to STEAL KILL AND DESTROY.
True
Stress is the cause of 70% of doctor visits. All narcissist are committing attempted murder at minimum by abusing a victim until they get die.
Stress causes dis ease, which in turn, will cause disease.
Narcissists are covert murderers.
She killed my brother, I know because she did the same thing to me. Death by a thousand cuts!
@@terridillon3053 The longer you're around the narcissist the more damage they do. Your identity slowly get eroded. They're like a black storm cloud that follows you around raining on you. When you go no contact that black storm cloud goes away. You start having much better luck and healing.
Thanks for the input
Not to mention those who the narcissist drives into suicide!! That is still murder!! This concept of not fully seing the beast was very helpful!! Thanks!! 😊
Better leave while you still can...
@@luper432 thanks for your concern but I was not talking about me! Although it is a good advise!! 🤗
So true 🥰 it seems that the end will only come if you put a permanent end to having to survive the recovery that takes as long as it takes
They never stop stalking you. Never. They're like the terminator
I had moments thinking this recently and was feeling this post breakup for a couple weeks once in awhile. I really think they’re spiritual attacks mixed with ptsd because they’d come out of nowhere!! I’d feel like I wanted to die 😢
Things got much better after I forgave him and I prayed against those type of spirits to leave me alone, and I also started to sleep with a sleep vibe from Sapien Medicines channel. The deep sleeper video. I listen twice and it helps your body produce its own melatonin which then turns into serotonin.
All my ptsd symptoms stopped, the random bouts of sadness and crying. My crazy shopping sprees and wanting to smoke (I don’t even smoke) Much of the ruminating stopped and I’ve actually been feeling really happy. It’s been 5 weeks no contact!! ❤
My exwife tried to kill me. poison. it took years to even admit on my part. She claimed to be a christian and yes attends church. Unreal how broken these monsters are
My mom is God's right hand man. God can't function without her assistance. In her mind. Yet she is vindictive, cruel, carries grudges, etc. etc.
Omg Be Light! You had a narrow escape for sure. Church people think killing a spouse is better than the dreaded divorce.. from so many cases I have read about. There is the hope they will get away with it as well. This is so evil.
Literally the most evil people I have been abused by was a group of people who went to church every Sunday. That's why I keep contact with God on my own. I don't need a building full of fake people.
@@Linda-ki5xh yikes, evil churchians! Which should not be confused with true followers of Jesus Christ.
Religious narcs are the worst, they are not Christians or being obedient to Jesus. They lie on God, hide behind the title of Christian. The deeper I started studying the Bible I learned just how hypocritical religious narcs are.
I grew up in a dysfunction "Christian" household. Just Christian enough that I could manage to create my own relationship with Jesus. I'm still trying to get myself together because of the deep effects my childhood had on me.
I still love God and follow Jesus and I know they were the only ones by my side carrying me through such bad times. I'm sorry for all the suffering you all have gone through, my heart goes out to you. 😔
I wonder how many deaths every year are directly related to narcissistic abuse. I have certainly had my share of health problems from the stress. So sad, please stay strong. ❤🙏
My guess would be the vast majority as well as most, if not all suicides.
@@reesedaniel5835 This is correct. I look back now at those I knew who committed suicide, attempted it, or who had suicidal ideation, and connecting the dots know what they suffered, and who in their family was the narcissist. This is the narc's end goal, to make their target destroy themselves. It's the cold, pure evil hard truth. I also see how the Narc's affecting those poor souls appeared "good", holier than thou to the community.
@@eaglessoar6830 I had two very narcissistic parents who scapegoated me. I was obsessed with ending my life for over half of the sixty plus years I’ve been on earth and it’s an absolute miracle I’m alive. Narcissists want you dead. They even told me that. They are out to kill, steal and destroy. They are wicked and I just hope they reap what they’ve sown. It’s been a literal hell on earth for me. Things are definitely getting better now that they’re dead.
I think narcs are responsible for many suicides that aren't talked about and the victim is blamed
Some deaths are self defense of abused people.
So true ! You never know some people .. Evil hides itself extremely well in the beginning 😢
Yes
So True!!
@Child of Christ so true
Yep that's right
We need to start teaching victims how to escape financially. Especially if narcs trapped them financially. Especially if they lost their rights to their bank account, got a spending problem, their living on survival mode
Please.
true that!
Very true.
I'm still hanging on to him coz he's my only source of livelihood since I conceived and now 2wks postpartum. I thank God He brought me very caring friends from the blues 3wks prepartum and they've come through for me in a great way. Looking forward to take a fresh start soon
He has me trapped financially here. I have nothing without him.
@@TalbotCountyPicker It took me 3 years to escape him. And when I did-he was at work-I left him a post it note in bathroom mirror. I drove out with my toddler kids out of OHIO onto south to FL. Every time he gave me $$ for errands and groceries-I would put 10 dollars aside. Monthly was $40.00 and in 3 years I had collected almost 2k. That was enough to find rooms at night after driving long hours and secure myself a deposit for small apt somewhere far away from him. When he gave me his credit card to go shopping, I would go back and return certain products at store to get $ back. This was back in 2012. Only time I had, and the bastard would time me -if I was home late, I used up snow and big lines at supermarket as excuse all the while he sat there drinking and watching football games. Now there are support groups and more info out there that help victims. I had NO ONE and yet I did it-little at a time. I still live a frugal lifestyle, but I manage.
Narcissist have to see you as a problem so that they don't have to change🤣
They can't change , Doctor Phil said they can't go through therapy because this gives them ammunition about their behaviour and how to use it to keep going
So true so sad
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@@Bianca-sw5id and they use these channels to fuel up on new tactics too
Perfect description
I know three people who got very sick and died; they were married to Narcissists. None of them was a direct murder but these three people were not treated correctly by their mates, were hospitalized while they could actually be treated at home, the wrong physicians were chosen for them, and other shady things like this.
My aunt is trying to play victim because I’ve announced on my social media platforms, I refuse to return to the places, people and things that caused me trauma! I don’t trust her, my other aunts (her flunkies) or anyone else she communicates with regularly! These monsters are dangerous and can be fatal! Chosen Ones, protect yourselves!!! Move, relocate and change your names!
👏 interesting
Or “Put on the whole armor of YAH.” Ephesians 6… He’ll fight your battles.
Have nowhere to go
When people/ family "show" you who they are
BELIEVE them. My mistake was denial and thinking if I were good enough it would / could work out. These behaviors progress.......
Been there and done that. All that happens is the narcs keep moving the hoops and making them harder to jump through. They hate us and there is nothing we can do to change it. It's as though the demons in them know who we are and they provoke them to hate/envy us and try to destroy us.
We are trained to believe that family won't harm us and that only non-family will
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I ended a relationship after he pulled a gun and I cold cocked him out then ran. He stalked me for years I was trapped in my home only going out when I knew he wouldnt be there. He died from very early alzheimers 8 years later and I threw a party and live aware of the danger forever. First sign of abuse RUN or you will be playing russian roulette
Watch the silent ones they devalue you behind your back to others, do not call you by your name or any kind of endearment, never say please or thankyou very rarely show affection
do not want to look at you when talking to you, do their own thing at home Egnor you
control all money so you can only do the bare minimum, subtle physical abuse in a sexual way that could be passed off as you had done it yourself not them.
People can change with love is a trap! I fell for it. My narcissistic husband has a tracker in my phone, cameras on the house and has a hatred towards my family because they protect me and consol me. I am currently making my exit in silence
You can do it , I did it back in 2017 after an 11 year Narcissistic, abusive relationship! He for the first time went out of town for 2 days to see a sick friend , I got a Uhaul and packed up everything I owned and left a note 📝 on His pillow ! No contact , changed phone number , moved several hours away ! That was 6 years ago ! It was easy to leave because I’m never getting married again , so I lived with Him ! It was to easy ! Good luck 🍀 and remember, They don’t change , it’s impossible. They only get worse with age ! My Mom is a prime example 😢
@Mona Barber thank you Mona. May God continue bless you and your peace.
Praying for your safety and sanity.
@@brittneyholmes2700 and you too ! I wish for you a lifetime of Happiness , and Blessings 🙏💕
@@brittneyholmes2700 I hope you realize how truly lucky and blessed you are to have a good, loving, supportive family of origin that has your back and cares about you. You literally won the Power Ball Lottery for Families!!!
Thank you, Kevin. I can't share my story it's too painful. Let's just say the Lord protected me from my malignantly narcissistic dad numerous times... it's truly a miracle I survived my childhood 🙏
God is always there to protect you...then, and even now.
Same here. I hope for your healing.🥀
God is Good! Same for me!
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💙💙💙you are Divine🕊🕊🕊
Unfortunately, haters gonna hate. Abusers gonna abuse. Killers gonna kill. But we (Empaths❤) have choices. We can trust our intuition and the red flags 🚩 and get out fast. And never, no matter what, return to Narcissists! Seek help through abuse organizations, local police departments, domestic violence’s shelters, or a sincere trustworthy person/friend. But most of all, trust and believe that God has you covered. There’s genuine comfort in knowing that you are a child of God. No weapon formed against us shall prosper. ❤Amen❤ Be safe!
I tried to call a domestic violence shelter for women. They turned me away because they were all full!! It made me so scared i have to continue living here. I’ll never be free. A job will not help me if i can’t make money if i don’t have a bank account & if i keep getting fired. Being trapped can be a real scary reality! It’s not a joke! This is how people die unless you fight back & defend urself
God will not do anything to help me because the entire concept of a deity or deities, religions and the stories that involve them are simply constructs created by man.
The state will not do anything to help me because I am a male and have no children, thus I am ineligible to qualify as a victim of domestic violence. Isn't that nice?
Exactly, Abuse in all forms are a prerequisite for something worst to come..
A young couple with a toddler lived next door. Regularly, I would hear body slams against our common walls! She wore oversized glasses to hide her eyes!
I finally approached her and she excused him for being drunk. I told her, one day he'll kick you down the stairs and kill you. They separated and moved shortly after because he was cheating, she said.😨
So so true!
I was fantasizing about killing my narc step dad when he made me go hunting when I was 12. After putting him in my sights, I never went hunting with him again. I felt like my life was in danger my entire childhood. His rage and abuse were monumental. The only people I have ever imagined killing were abusers. I think my mother would like to kill him but she lost her courage to fight back decades ago. My narc step dad was almost bubbly when I had to live in a dangerous situation. I think he secretly has been wishing bad stuff on me my entire life. I can't wait for him to be gone. This has prepped me to be the target of violence in my life. I once had a girl stick a knife in my back just because she felt like it. I woke up with a girlfriend mounted on me, not sexually like fighting mma, and was doing ground and pound on my face, I had to throw her off of me then she accused me of abuse. He is now 75 and is more angry and evil than ever, I don't think he can change, he doesn't think he has a problem. Wanna hear something really weird? Once after getting hit I punched a hole in the wall in my bedroom, my half brother also did the same thing. My mom and step dad now have that bedroom and they have not fixed the holes in the wall, this has been like 30 years now. I teased my mom once, saying wow nice trophies on your bedroom wall. She feigned ignorance, of course. Me- "Why don't you guys fix the sheet rock in your bedroom from when Aaron and I punched the walls?" Mom-"I have no idea what you are talking about"
I'm so glad you made it out without doing that, you deserve a medal for surviving ✨️
@@gracetoglory5020 that’s why no contact is so important, it’s crucial!
Sending huge hugs..wt you recall is relatable although different circumnstances obviously.. I am experiencing lot of oroblems myself too due to this past. May I suggest you to take a daily habit of wellbeing ME TIME, look in Tre Shaking therapy, Mindfulness, Bible Meditation (I know it feels to reject the idea of the presence of a God in such "life", but you just try jt pls, trust me as someone who went through your same hell) than do sweet stretching as Pilates..I know seems more female than male exercise, but trust me again.
If you have flash backs, use ice on your hands ir wrist to interrupt them, and Grounding techniques plus TAPPING. Add also TURNERIC with black pepper in your oil to dress your salads..and periodic cares with magnesium, vit.d3 and K and calcium as I guess you aren't sleeping well either.
Do these things on a daily base to heal the past trauma and counterfight the smaller present one.
With time, we will make it..
A huge hug to you, be the best you were meant to be without the idiot evils that deminuished you. You know a lot, make a good use of it Sir! Make of God your Best Friend..remember the devil out us in that shit to kill us and divert our attention from God presence in our life. But if we can make something good from that shit to help others going through the same we will have twisted the bad in good..do you feel motivared/enraged enough to do that?
I am, hope to find you on my same path!
A huge hug to you, wherever you are!
Wow 😳 pretending like she doesn't know what you're talking about when referring to the holes y'all punched in the wall. That's textbook enabler behavior. Sorry you went through that.
False alligators 🐊 should be in prison.
They will always hate you more than you could love them.
They don't want or need your love.
They Hate love.
It signifies weakness, which they despise.
Love only conquers all who would receive it.
They ARE demon possessed 4 yr olds!
Sounds about right.
😮 OMG
@Thomas-cc9yv 😮
Some of them get a thrill by making their victims kill themselves. I've encountered four of that type during my lifetime. Not pleasant memories.
They are sadistic
@@dontbelongherefromanother Yes, they sure are! I like your username, BTW. I feel that way.
Hi,my narcissistic neighbor is an aryan nation sympathizer. Her boyfriend is a biker and she has tried to attack me with her dogs 7 times. She lies to everyone about me. Told me to kill myself
I had neuro spinal surgery and the surgery and doctors saved my life. I and the doctor struggled to live. Why would I even listen to this sleep paralysis demon.
Every thing that the commentator says about what they do these monsters have said to me. I am a messianic jew,our savior Said "bless them that curse you".the best lesson . I yelled shut up at their constantly barking dogs. That is my crime. Jesus loves us..
Hell is waiting
my dad is top of top genius in his professional, angel heart, very strong and healthy, but died by my mom and whole family members' abuse, those Demons are truly killers
My loving father died as a result of my mother’s and grandmother’s continuous mental and emotional abuse. Part of me was relieved when he passed because he was finally free from this evil.
They ARE demon possessed 4yr olds!
Honestly, physical abuse by my ex left fewer scars than psychological abuse by family with the confusion, hot+cold, lies, smear campaigns, all from a "loved one" & those they turned against me, who bullied along happily without asking my side once.
I'm sorry Erika, I get it, been thru it myself.
I know how that is. I have been assaulted and lost an eye but the ongoing bullying by all of my “family members “ has done more damage overall. It’s hard to put your finger on so you let it continue until you’re almost dead from suicide or illness due to long term trauma.
They never ask for your side of the story because they’re only thinking of themselves and maintaining the false mask as well as keeping the cult mentality going.
Hugs to you both. I also became disabled from the abuse. At least we're away from them.
Ditto!
Victims are also capable of harming the narcissist, there is only so much someone can take before they break
I can see that.
My best " friend" of 20 years got jealous when we went to a retreat and they asked me to give a lecture. She tried to run me down with her car. I jumped out of the way just in time. I had ignored all the red flags, the rages. An ex boy friend who claimed he was "clean " from his drug addiction, stold my car to go get his drugs, and hit me in the chest with the Karate death blow, and I had a chest contusion and horrible pain for a year. My Narcissist Mom, whom I had gone no contact with, lured me to her house with pleas for help, where she then called police, and lied to them that I was trespassing in her house and abusing her. I barely avoided being put in handcuffs, and being arrested and put in jail, and being given a false police record that would have destroyed my life. I am a retired RN of 40 years with an immaculate record. I do not smoke, drink or do drugs. Do not keep giving them chances and ignoring red flags. YOUR LIFE IS AT STAKE.
The abuse from your mom set you up to have abusive friends. But looks like you know how to save your life thru your own strength. Proud of you and wish the best which you deserve.
Being abused for long periods of time can also cause a person to self isolate. A person can become a stranger to themselves after endurring mistreatment for so long. It can be quite embarrassing. They may not realize how enraged they are until they are triggered, or pushed to the brink of insanity. Sometimes the abused snap, and kill for this reason. It is not common, but it does happen. Most bears just want to be left alone, to forage, and rest. Narcissists take pleasure in poking those kinds of bears. But a bear can only be poked for so long, until it reminds the antagonist, that it's a f%%king bear. 🐻
If there were more bears, there would probably be way less narcs.
@@reesedaniel5835 Indeed.
I've been taken advantage of pretty badly the last three months, I'm scared I'm becoming a narcissist. I have so much pent up anger I don't want to socialize anymore, I'm afraid of meeting new people. I'm loosing my empathy towards others.
Narcs put their lives in danger and don't realize it. Poke and prove the bear too long, they will wake up
@@ashleykathryn9038 I feel your pain...been a long 8 years ending with a grand travel trip where I finally stopped rationalizing the horrible treatment and reflecting on the several other unhealthy relationships that i maintained over the years. I am not sure how I want to proceed- keep distancing from everyone or engage? Staying to myself seems the safest healthiest option at this point.
Here's one I noticed. When narcissists cite "concern", where the only remedy just so happens to be living according to their control.
Yes, absolutely! And another one I heard growing up, sfter being insulted and put down they would say "I'm only telling you because I love you" or "I'm telling you for your own good". Great way to screw you up psychologically for life! :(
I suddenly feel that my paranoia in life is more justified than I realized....
It took me almost getting killed before I 150% got out of the "relationship". I am still trying to wrap my head around the insanity. Maybe it's a good thing I can't. Best believe though, NEVER AGAIN.
I can't help but think there is some link between the narcissism epidemic and the opiate epidemic which are both silently raging out of control. My ex diagnosed sociopath ex husband (ASPD/NPD) drove our eldest son to die from an accidental heroin overdose at 20 years old. He died with untreated CPTSD. Fifteen years earlier I had a heart attack and died at 33 and was given the choice live or die, and because I could see my sons weren't safe without me I went back for them. That was the end of life as we knew it. I lived only to watch the people I loved and trusted the most destroy my life.leaving me penniless, disabled and utterly alone except for my two traumatized children. For them I found the strength to reinvent my life, but as I got stronger, my son's trauma started to catch up to him. I believed he was going to be ok because of my NDE, so it was a shock when he died and it has had a major impact on my surviving son who is very lost in fear and grief. The point is that loving these toxic people was killing us.
That is why going NO CONTACT is so important to avoid these tragedies. Maybd I 'd have commited a crime if I didn't Go no contact 9 years ago.
ikr lol
My ex narcissist husband never laid a hand on me but he had that cold dark look in his eyes when he threatened to hurt me. So yes it was definitely very probable that he would have hurt me. He didn’t know what love was. But he knew what violence was.
you may check the work of Batel Skater
My husband put my coffee pot, carafe in a trash bag, put my iron skillets in the bag too,throw them towards me and when the police got there they seen what he had done. I put a protective order against him. He has violated the protective order several times. He has to go to court in a few weeks. He is furious. He doesn't know where I am. Just trying to keep safe. I don't know if I will have to go to court that day or not. I don't have a car, he took it. He is a dangerous guy.
Be safe! I too have been in hiding for a year and a half. He wants me dead and told me how he would do it. DISGUSTING & DEMENTED they are. I just received a call last Tuesday he's gone back to prison for 2 years. There is a God or Karma! Keep your faith. Just be very careful and Never let your guard down. They ARE dangerous and WILL commit Murder. I am 100 % sure my husband has already killed, he told me he did. And told me twice that I was going to MAKE him take me out. I didn't stick around to find out. I fled at 2 in the morning with the clothes on my back. I ran a couple miles to the bus station and never looked back.
God bless you and be strong and stay safe❤
Yeah, not taking things seriously enough is something I've noticed in people too. There're signs, and usually things you'll get called sensitive, picky or extreme for. Certain jokes and comments, how they talk about people behind their backs, how they talk to you in general as well as when you're upset, whether they take responsibility/blame, the company they keep, how they treat you/people when you/people don't have boundaries set (who are they as a 'free' person? Note they can pretend to be good, but will break character here or there or completely after they think they've got you), opinions on different worldly topics, hobbies, quirks, habits like watching porn or not cleaning after oneself properly; they all reveal things about the way a person thinks, what they value, how they see others and you, whether they're likely to lose their shit, what they're capable of if they lost their shit, etc. These are things people give a pass to, roll their eyes at or simply don't pay attention to. I think if people overcame their codependency, fear of being alone, unawareness and poor priorities (like the benefits received from being around shitty people), people wouldn't accept narcs into their lives.
Co-dependency is taught at home. We all were born dependents by nature and humans are the weakest and slow to get maturity from all animals.
@@Lyrielonwind Animals don't need money to be independent, that's mostly the issue in these cases
@@ashleykathryn9038
The main issue is being cared and nurtured in the first years of life. You can read about Pavlov and Seligman experiments and find out that although dogs don't need money they can be happy and miserable depending of the way they were treated. Money gives you independence but maybe not freedom of a conditioning script or false beliefs about yourself rooted in a miserable childhood. You won't make much money if you're suffering learned helplessness.
@@ashleykathryn9038 animals adapt. I don’t know if it’s a fact but animals aren’t as deluded as humans and even domesticated animals. They know the game down to their DNA.
Heal the co-dependency, the programming.
I have endured all of these warning signs from my neighbor and his wife. They are currently trying to hurt my dogs, things like putting bowls of water with antifreeze outside. I haven’t spoken to them for 3 years but they still try to abuse me or damage my property every opportunity they have. This has been going on for 20 years. They are pensioners now, old enough to know better, and they are very active in the church. It’s strange I said to my daughter only yesterday I think he’s going to try to kill me before long because he wants to hurt me so badly. 100% the guys a malignant narcissist and I think his wife is the same.
Thanks Kevin 🙏🏻💕
Please be careful. You never know if they are ex-killers or how their past is. They do show their nature more in their old days. This should show you how many years they have harbored hatred, disrespect, abusive characters for a long time and do not eben feel remorse in their older age. Be careful, such people have lived a life void of conscience. They will not change without inner remorse. If I were you, I would leave that place. Goodluck.
@@chanteynk7324 I agree.
LEAVE. value your peace mind and safety over stuff. I did.
I've got similar situation with two very malignant narks (boyfriend n girlfriend), younger than I, both totally selfish, arrogant, entitled, antisocial, spiteful, hateful, that have trashed the place, it was nice b4 he, n then her also moved in, got dogs, have blocked the drains, dog crap left outside, vandalized my garden pots, plants, lattice next to my door, lavender bush nr my door, made the shared path way a mess. Council will not do anything about them, are making my place stink also (sewage smell, animal urine smell etc). Spates of banging around, banging doors, getting into my property whilst Ive been out (evidence of damaged item I found in my flat after being out & other stuff on other times). Housing officer appears to be protecting them. Anyone else would have been kicked out for braking many of the rules on the tenancy agreement. I've been looking to move & get out n away from them but the rented housing market or trying to get a transfer is a no go at the mo. The amount of hatred, jealousy, resentment energetically that comes off these two and the arrogance & entitlement is absolutely disgusting and makes me feel drained and ill everyday.
@@flybyorb6858 hurt them covertly. The housing officer is on the make. Not normal response. Wear a mask You don't want to get caught. Move if you can.
@@elizabethandiosa4579 something is definitely not right about the housing officer also, not sure if he's on the make but he's also very rude, dismissive & totally not doing his job properly especially with regard to feeling at risk & unsafe due to these two nasty pieces of work. Yes, am defo looking to move.
Took me 15 years to take the nature of the beast seriously enough. I didn't know it was "Narcissism." I am narc woke now.
Also in church they taught me to forgive and turn the other cheek… I did that many times. I feel like God was tired of hearing me cry and pray for knowledge on the right thing to do. He stepped in and opened my eyes and mind to what was really going on. I always knew I was different. Love given in the true spirit of love does work but if it is given to someone who does not have the correct spirit in their heart will use it aginst you, to hurt you. By any means possible.
Kevin Thank You for covering this, I had questions on this but didn’t even know how to even ask anyone. Prayers for your client! 🙏🙏
Yes Sir! Lets speak it loud A NARCISSIST FULL SPECTRUM CAN KILL
My covert narc mom who is 88 yrs old was heard telling her dog "if you don't start minding me I'm gonna kill you". At what point does the word kill even enter your mind? Scary.
Pets can be victims too
I just escaped from an extreme narcissist soul sucker roommate heard him constantly threatening his pitbull if you don't mind me I will duck you up ! 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 i think poor dog would take it out of his head first ! p.s. he's massage therapist at major massage chain. They should vet them psychology-wise.. I will never get a massage from a chain
Tbh from lazy parenting these offensive-heart wounds entered these peoples hearts at young age which opens the door for demonic attachment -without taking any responsibility off the narc -its actually the demon in them making the evil threats , using word kill and acting on it. Narcs are not born theyre made by lazy parenting over-indulging and under-indulging same time. Its very rare they ever change -narcissists NEVER change. Very few can be retrained but when a major stressor occurs they snap back like rubberband...thats some proof THEY NEED DELIVERANCE !
I think the narcissist's victims can also kill. I always say there should be extenuating circumstances for children that kills a parent or both or a sybling. Psychological abuse especially when you feel trapped and helpless can push anybody over the edge. My life has been destroyed by my narc mother, yet she is walking free enjoying her life and enjoying destroying me still to this day.
Unpopular opinion for sure, but I support it. Society needs to find a way of removing narcissists from the population.
The sad reality is that it is usually the abuser doing the killing or setting you up. It's best to get away from them. Far away. And don't look back.
I agree I have been pushed to the point after a lot of emotional psychological abuse that I eventually snapped myself. Lost control and it could have ended so differently but thankfully no serious harm. But yes I can relate 😔
@@elizabethandiosa4579very true
@@80sbaby90 my mom slapped me through my face at the age of 45. I had a reflex reaction and I hit her back but a few times with the words that this will be last time that you will ever have the pleasure of physically abusing me. Since then the story in her eyes has changed so that I have become villian and she the innocent victim. Apparently she wanted to hit me, but missed and I then hit her on the side of her neck. It was that day she saw the devil in my eyes and ever since in her eyes I am demon possessed.
You need to watch for breadcrumbs to keep you in the loop, doing something nice to miss
leed you into thinking 'they love you after all', very infrequent 3 or 4 times a year.
I can't believe you made this video, Kevin. Makes me sure you have to take these threats seriously, because if they say it they've thought about it and if they've thought about it, it's in their heart. Jesus said adultery begins in the heart, murder begins in the heart. The bible also says whatever is in the heart comes out the mouth. My husband is abusive, no way I'm waiting to see what he's capable of. My husband threatened to murder me in a joking voice on the phone a couple of weeks ago if I ever left him again. Wasn't funny, especially coming from a guy who loves watching murder mysteries, like True Crime Doco's. His exact words were "I'll probably murder you if you ever leave me again" (I moved away from him three months ago) he also threatened to do everything he could to make my life difficult if I completely abandoned him> He is blocked now. Very alarming..
Be careful
restraining order? Be safe!!!
I’m praying 😅for you , I’ve been there ! I left in 2017 after 11 years of abuse ! No contact, and I’m happier now than ever ! It’s been a long hard road , with lots of on line therapy, but I’m in a peaceful State of mind , miraculously!
@@shawnmarie1912 sadly restraining orders don’t save lives
Maybe get s gun, one of those camera doorbells, and ADT. Maybe a fence.
Yes my malignant narcissistic sibling could kill me without batting an eye.
The stats you shared are staggering. Wouldn’t it be ideal for teens to understand this crucial information before entering the dating scene? Thank you for talking about such an important topic.
That's why they used to require blood tests before marriage 50-60 years ago. When they stopped doing that is when the narc population proliferated to it's current level. People used to marry those of their own blood types (compatible). Narc's are another species literally. This is not "politically correct" but the Rhogam shot is really to enable narcs to be born from a pure child of God (RH Negative blood types). God made His daughters bodies to naturally miscarry/abort these "foreign entities" (Cain's RH Positive (Rheesus monkey positive) bloodline). The Rhogam shot enables them to be born and outbreed us ultimately. That was and IS the REAL reason for it.
Ditto that!
Good to have the STATS, for Court & Atty. "REF.s". Thx!!
Move in silence. If u are lonely and have a habit of talking out loud, stop it. I have a seriously addictive habit of talking outloud to myself. Manic bi polar. Move in secret. Move in silence
Wondering into territory where we don’t belong. This makes so much sense to me and I take accountability for that. I’ll stay in my green pasture now. Thank you for your guidance and support. Much love to you good souls❤
I saw a video once out on the interwebs and the bear is just tearing through these campers' food, and they're all just yelling "hey bear!" And you can hear the desperation like 'why isn't "hey bear" working to drive away this massive animal' its so hilarious cuz it completely ignores them. It not funny tho when people don't realize human danger.
This is an excellent example. That's what we do when we try to talk some sense to the narcissists.
@@jillloy3319 True. They are literally a different species (intra species predators). Their brains are wired completely opposite of ours. You cannot reason with them and they despise logic, truth and wisdom.
The Royal We videos sure get down to the Nitty-Gritty of our interrelationships in a way others will not touch. The analogies used are right on real eye opening truths. Discernment is absolutely paramount when it comes to who we trust. It’s taken decades for this penny to drop but better late than never I suppose. For those younger people out there watching Royal We videos take heed my friends for they will put you in good stead on your life’s journey. Yet again another great video.
I was in denial of ALL the warning signs including defamation of my character. He would say "...and you can't tell anyone because they won't believe you...I'm a doctor". My children and I are safe now and he passed 6 mo ago. All alone. There was no closure, but we all feel relief and peace as we continue to work on the healing processes. I have great guilt because of what my children experienced and the damage that was done while I hoped he would one day "get it". Futile. Thank you for the reality check.
Thank you Kevin. That is very true about not caring about or valuing you. I went to counselling for being abused thirty years ago. The counselors said that abuse always escalates. It's true. I know because the abuse has escalated the past thirty years. Emotional, mental, spiritual, abuses always come with and start before physical abuse. POISONING. ITS HARD TO PROVE. MANY DRUGS AND POISONING SYMPTOMS PRESENT AS SOMETHING ELSE. If you begin to feel sick a lot, get out. Move. They did it once and will do it again. If they show little concern for your regard and do not fully have your back with thought heart, words, actions and deed, they have disregard. I know this. As a victim you never suspect at first but then you begin to put it together. Trust your intuition and gut feelings. Its not feeling good. Follow the trail to the source. Look at who you have been around and remember who you said stuff to. Get surveillance cams. Get away from these dirt bags. They really do want to hurt you. Abusive relatives will definitely take you out if there's money involved and they have previously disrespected you. Grow your self worth back. You deserve to be treated well.
I can attest to this as well. They will do it again and again… they want an accident. They think they will convince others it was your fault ..
They dream of starting over & casseroles.
These disgusting and vile creatures can make you sick without actually poisoning you as well. I remember when I lived in the house with my narc mother, golden child brother and enabling father, I would constantly get staph infections all over my body, from head to toe literally (painful boils). My enabling father would get them too but not as much as I did (the Chosen Scapegoat/Family Trash Can). Of course Mommy Dearest, the Head Narc and her Golden Child son NEVER got them, not once. And when I moved out, I stopped getting them.
@@reesedaniel5835 Someone was intentionally infecting you or your clothes, towels, bedsheets, linens, personal belongings. They were intentionally not cleaned properly. Diet does play a part, stress does lower immunity. Clean pillowcases, and good hygiene and sanitation are important. These freaks from hell will go to any lengths. Yes of course they intentionally harm their own children to varying degrees. Don't go back no matter how nice or how much they pretend they have changed. Its a con.
@@nicholettej1742 lol. So true. 🙏🙏🙏😇😇😇❣️❣️❣️✌️🙂
Yikes you're so right. I've started "putting it together", pieces of moments from the past that lead to what's happening now. It's such a sad realization - realizing someone is someone else, and now I'm afraid of him. And it's my dad 😢😢
I think my mother tried to kill me...she came at me with a hammer but she stopped when i told her go ahead you will be in jail when this is all said and done. So instead she tried to break my spirit by getting every family member to turn their backs on me after she filled restraining order to have me removed from the home after she con me to give my my apartment a whole state way. But like i told her, I only fear the Lord! And I know God didn't bring me this far to let me so 😝 bye bye "mother" it was nice knowing you
You are so right when you talk about taking the situation seriously.
One big problem is when law informant doesn't take you seriously it ends up making you doubt yourself and weather the situation you're in is serious enough to require them.
We need more education and training for law enforcement.
We also need them to require more empathy in themselves.
How sad is that.
They absolutely kill. A friend or family member that is a narc is pure poison to stay around. I didnt get away from my parents soon enough. I have cptsd, agoraphobia, and a fib from living in it. My brother died at 35 from results from the abuse. Anyone in relationships with a narc or any form of abusive personality get out fast.
my narcissistic parent/sibling is waaaaayyyy too smart to tell me im worthless--they just demonstrate it lol
The story about the boy who cried wolf never sat well with my spirit.
It’s as if the moral of the story was CONDITIONING us to tolerate domestic abuse, because we only get one shot at asking for help.
Which basically is when we come face to face with a life threatening creature.
When it’s too late.
Yes
Cleary, crying wolf was a cry for attention. When the wolf finally came........... it is exactly the same... people create drama to bring attention to their situation and due to scapegoating or whatever, indifference and apathy are all that is generated from those around. Instead of instructing the boy into more constructive ways to get attention and gain recognition... he is ignored or downplayed. He may have got some attention at the start but didn't quite fill the cup, so he does it again, and tries harder the next time and still, he is inadequate to get his needs met and on and on it goes until the butterfly effect traps one into a false identity. You lose your ability to matter in people's lives and start to appear desperate.... then real life happens and no one is prepared.
You’re right. My ex showed me he was not trustworthy, unreliable, scandalous, violent, never accountable. Bad ingredients….I couldn’t comprehend how bad it could get. Now I’ll never see him again, I know now he betrayed me to the maximum, it’s been 3 months of just processing what happened. I did underestimate the nature of the beast.
Reactive Abuse!!,,, that’s what I endured with my mother,,, she’d throw me a back handed compliment,, stonewall me ,, gaslight me ,, then triangulate all us siblings against each other,,
Yes i have to be careful to not react to my dad’s insults or them poking at me demanding my attention for no reason. I have to remind myself they are monsters and they are doing this on purpose to piss me off and once i get pissed off they will paint ME as the monster.
Reactive abuse.
Next thing they will build up that rapport as “she’s crazy. She’s got issues. She needs medication. She needs us to control and help her and micro manage her situation & tell her what to do with her life”. That’s the idea. They did it to my mom. My mom did it to me when i was 3 1/2. I should actually quit taking my medication because i never had a psychological disorder to begin with. How do u diagnose a THREE YEAR OLD??? The parents didn’t give this child enough time to really show if they have any mental disorders!!
It was all about control & money. It all became clearer as i got older when my parents kept fighting like crazy year after year over money and the house!
I thought they split because of their relationship. It was always about status to both of them. They were jealous of who had more money. Both my adopted parents are narcissists. Grandiose and malignant.
Possessive helicopter parents,
Money and status obsessed.
As they’ve lost a lot of superficial things that associate with money and status such as youthful looks & nice luxury things, they have been humbled a lot.
You wanna humble an arrogantly wealthy person who stomps on the toes of the lowly and poor? Make them poor! Take away their power, popularity and status.
Narcs do this to their victims too by ruining ur reputation of being a humble and kind person by putting a smear campaign on u. This is only when they lose all control over u and they fear they may be exposed so they can never gain new supply
My mother died.
Was SHOCKED to learn she lives on in my brother & sister.
I let them go...no drama I'm just gone.
Kevin has a very very Brave heart, always truth teller.. 👍👍👍👍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I was tortured mentally emotionally for decades wrestling with the evil in my narc father. only in marrying a narc man late in life untangled the reality of my father as well. because of those experiences I dont underestimate abusive people. and that drove me to run from my marriage in under a year. I knew that it was escalating. and there was no ownership.
Bravo!!
@@betulapendula7661 in running I chose a new life clear of Narcs. as best as I can be. happier now than ever have been. clearer now than ever. and yes celebrating.
I've had same experience - unraveling my dad now and realizing he and my Ex are the SAME freaking person uugh! And I'm actually afraid of my dad now, his abuse is escalating. crazy
@@howphancy what I was told is " they don't get better, they get worse" "always take care of yourself first". where they get the same old script they work with...? is amazing to me. but I don't want to give it anymore of my energy than absolutely necessary. best wishes for your constant recovery.
That is why I named my RUclips channel The Narcissistic Fog Kills. When I asked to one the many "experts 'ob Narcissistic behavior if the Narcissistic Fog can kill you. He said no. My narcissistic husband of 23 years has been absorbing my energy making him stronger. Thank you so much for your RUclips channel. One time a few weeks ago he yelled at me calling me a bitch while I was trying to sleep. He was drunk when this happened. I am working my way out of this lethal marriage
Good Luck!
Also, all the therapists said this was just a one time thing because he was being exposed, he was caught. They think there is not further risk. Tell that to our son, he was in the next room and thought dad had killed mom and he was next. scary stuff
If they envy you then absolutely they could. They may not try to kill the body but they will try to kill the spirit
Dad said, "If you were really a 'good' Christian you'd forgive me.". Cruel man.
If he was really a good person he wouldn't ABUSE YOU. 😉
I agree Kevin, my ex was trying to kill myself and his own son. We had to barricade ourself in a bedroom as he was tearing the door down and I had already called 911 but luckily our son had called his mother also and she showed up first and put a stop too it, he had a gun when he was breaking into the bedroom it was a pretty scary situation. Over money which ended up amounting to a measly $200 in the end. He was doing bad things every single week to us for years.
Trauma bonds can twist our minds with fear. It's a complicated thing to overcome without support, time, and knowledge.
so true! that's why I FINALLY left the relationship because after all the sadistic behaviour I saw the possible danger. no contact is the only first aid thing to do and to get help outside (from people who understand).
like I’ve said- the narcissist can be the next murderer
Remember- according to God it doesn’t have to be physically
It is done by the mouth- out of its abundance it speaks - Gods word spoken first- paraphrased
💖👑
They can and will drive you to suicide !
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Basic psychology tells us that personalities stay consistent throughout life. People modify their behavior only when they want to.
My mother ticks all the boxes, all my life ive been afraid she would literally kill me, she decapitated pets to punish me for not being an obedient slave.
I once had a very long argument with a family member narcissist. They were insisting that my 'sorry' wasn't sincere, it went on for hours and eventually they smashed the microwave. glass was everywhere. I was terrified. I knew that it was some kind of projection from them onto the microwave but I could see that they wished it was my face they punched.
From that point on, I was scared that I would wake up with a pillow over my face. It took a bit of time for me to get out of that situation, and it really did me in.... the fear, the gaslighting, the frustration.... and yet all the time I was striving to make them understand that we are not the same and it is OK to be different.... I left, they still frighten me, like an unknown quantity that could and would go from zero to 100 in 3 seconds.
Thank you, kevin ! As a black woman I've experienced trauma from my own race of men and family! Good video !
I had a black partner who harmed me very bad as well. I am still recovering.
@Trilliondollarmindset_ I'm so sorry honey and hope you can recovery and heal 💓- I've never had good experiences with BM
I think the Bible talks about these abusive people known as narcissists and how they are wolves in sheep’s clothing and describes how they act and how to spot them in numerous passages. I’m certainly not saying that everyone who calls themself a Christian is not a narcissist. I’m saying that Christianity is very familiar with these people and warns that we should have nothing to do with them.
Thanks for the video! Many people don't think that narcissists can be violent or murderers. But I saw it first hand with the ex malignant narcissist husband. I was mistreated, beaten black and blue many times. I have lost all self-esteem, courage, I was depressed, full of anxiety, guilt, neurotic. A few times I tried to leave, but he always threatened me with separating me completely from my toddler kids. The final time I tried to initiate a divorce, he threatened me non-stop with murder. He, who humiliated me every day, telling me how he would abandon me anytime , now was wanting to murder me if I leave him. Thanks to my Islamic faith, the help of the police, attorney, the support of family and Muslim friends I was able to divorce him. But the harassment using my kids lasted for 9 more years! I stayed alive only thanks to Allah and me telling to everyone that I am not at all suicidal, he wants to kill me. Narcissistic rage makes possible any violence, murder, false accusations, stealing, despicable smear campaigns, etc. The particular thing about the narcissists is that they never stop! The harassment, revenge, insults never stop, even after 10 or 15 years! They hold grudges against you as fresh as 20 years ago, even after 10 years of hurting you for one perceived slight, they still feel entitled to hurt you some more. What is shocking is that it never ends! They never forget, forgive, change themselves, reflect on their behavior. They are true robots, following a programmed pattern.
I am glad that you got away!
Robot. That's what I called the nex.
So glad you're out.
Make no mistake. You do not matter at all to these people. Not at all. Learn that right now.
My narcissistic husband of 38 yrs unfortunately has most of these characteristics to potentially kill me and I have actually thought this at times and even dreamed about it too He’s almost 71 and yes they definitely get even worse with age and I know that he HATES me 😢. He headed butted me about 6 yrs ago but never has gotten physical with me but I am pretty sure that I read that many people that were in an intimate abusive relationship and had never been hit etc before by them were killed by their partner.
My ex nearly cooked me til I couldn’t breathe, and only let go because he didn’t want to go to jail. His entire family still believe that I caused his behaviour. I truly believe deep down that if I hadn’t left him, I would be dead.
My narcissist sister told me my flying monkey sister and she were going hiking. She invited me to come too. Immediately the thought popped into my head not to go because she would find a way to "innocently" make me fall off the path in the mountainous terrain we live in. I immediately declined. Now I have no contact with them.
❤THANK YOU. THIS ALONE.." AL9NW US ENOUGH ❤
This is a great one. You will totally save lives with it. thanks for being you, Kevin!
Mother caused burn "accidents" to me when alone with her. An assigned work partner turned air wayy down on my scuba tank twice during a rescue dive operation & i almost drownd but an angel saved me. Father faked he fell & was getting pulled into ocean in Cancun for me to go after him. But no, i was consciously aware 🕊. They seem to play on vulnerable, innocent divine people.
Yikes! Some of those signs of danger are exhibited by my only living parent. Further confirmation of why I moved away.
This video actually gave me goosebumps so true the threats gestures ect. Manifest. Creepy. Love your videos so much! Very thought provoking.
I really like how you point this out, thank you. I’m glad to finally find my value & honor in this world.
I so wish I had this info as a child. I would’ve kept my children far far away from my very own mother and aunt.
Great question about how many murders originate in "church". I was the piano player, hardcore Baptist. My dad's most recent attempt on my life was last summer. He's 85.
Would please provide the link in the video description of the statistical data you have referenced? This type of data is priceless in adding more horsepower to the harm narcissism has in our lives. Thank you for creating this channel. 🙏🏻
Yes I will!
Thank you, Kevin!
where is that link posted? could not find it @@TheRoyalWe
We stay because of our childhood examples and trauma!
You have tremendously helped me with so many of your videos, but this one has been especially. We are in the process of moving from our beautiful home because the abuse of next-door neighbors has become alarming and unbearable. We fear for our children's lives now. It is as if God is helping me understand nothing, not even a nice house is worth the risk imposed on my children. "Arise Joseph and take the child and his mother to Egypt." This Biblical warning is resonating with me as a mother. God did not entrust a house to me, but He did entrust me with my precious little ones. Hoping my husband and I will always be ready to sacrifice anything for the gifts of our children.
Watch for warning signs. Deescalate or leave. Go no contact if you have to. Don’t let sketchy/bad behavior slide. Listen to your instincts. Get a second or third reliable persons opinion on the situation you’re going thru. Know self defense and have the appropriate self defense tools at the ready according to the laws where you live/visit.
Exactly. Not everyone can be you friend. We should choose our friends. Thank you great video
What about children killing their own parents? We are hearing a lot about that! And I have a covert narcissist daughter. She hit me once in 2014, and have poisoned my food at least twice! She also drugged my food with Adderrall, her drug of choice.
She told me years ago that I didn’t even know her! I didn’t understand then what she was talking about. Now I do! She is Amber Hurd!
How I wonder how a mother affects her daughter's up bringing? You are innocent aren't you???????????????????????????????
@charlottelouise209 sometimes they take after their narcissist dad. I seen my little brother say the most vile things about my stepmother whom my dad abused. That brother was his golden child, the one he favored. So maybe she is innocent?
Hence why I'm no contact with my daughters.
There’s abuse everywhere in this world. Millions of dogs and cats are at the mercy of their owners. They have no say in what they get to eat, if they can go outside. Not even mentioning the people physically abusing them, but they are left emotionally neglected, isolated…. It’s hard to make sense of a “God” when you see the immense suffering of animals that can’t speak for themselves. Even me, I feel so weirdly cut and stabbed everywhere, and nobody is there going to “save” me. These people just go on, leaving behind such insideous damage. My heart really does go out to the dogs and cats , in particular, that are stuck in perpetual abuse.
God is Love ❤️ but the god off this world is not that’s the thing he’s the evil one
It's tragic about God's creatures. I feel the same. Circus animals perform due to their spirit being broken. Wild animals need to be in their natural environment. Abuse of animals made me an Animal Activist.
God gave man free will to choose good or evil and He gave them dominion over the earth and the animals. Please stop blaming Him for the evil done by humans. Blame Satan and the humans who chose to do what the devil whispered into their ears. They will assuredly receive their "reward" at the Judgment. "A righteous man cares for the needs of his animal, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel." Proverbs 12:10
That being said, I pray for the fatherless and those without a helper (both people AND animals) every night before bed. And God answers my prayers. I see all kinds of youtube videos of people and animals being rescued out of the most dire and horrific scenarios you can possibly imagine.
My grandfather killed my grandmother in broad daylight on the street back in the 60’s . She finally left him after years of narcisstic abuse . He stalked her and begged her to come back and when she said no he shot her . My father was like this with my mother and he was the worst narcissist . I confronted him but yet my mother would never leave him cause she’s one also . Narcissism runs deep in my families and yes they can kill
Thank you for your work.
Thank you
@@TheRoyalWe honestly U are a truth sayer God Bless U sir.
I prefer my solitude, unless it involves what you once called give/give relationship. I've had my fill of the crap-infested narcissist. Ugh!
Thank you for this video! ❤ When I was going through this 5 years ago and needed help, nobody was talking about it at least not that I could find. I met my husband of 13 years AT CHURCH. He was abusive from the beginning but it was gradual so I didn’t notice. 13 years later he started threatening to kill my family and then started threatening to torture and kill me. He did all of the risk factors for killing that you mentioned. Stalking, tracking apps on my phone, isolating me, controlling my behavior, saying I am worthless, etc. I stayed WAY too long because I thought I could figure out some way to get him to stop. The preacher and his wife tried to get me to reconcile with him. Getting away is the best thing to do if you can, but it also is the most dangerous time in the relationship as well.
Dude I absolutely love your style its really cool
Really appreciate your content. It is so helpful just to hear that someone understands how serious this is. I have been in hiding for 8 months. It's physically isolating, but I have my dog and channels like this to keep me going forward in a positive mindset. As with TikTok, I have found my tribe of females...the survivors and the true warriors. No matter what stage in an abusive, narcissistic relationship or whether you've been out for a while, we are a family of sisters who have experienced the most heinous in people. I'm 8 months out from my last narc. I've survived a total of 3 narcs in 16 years. I finally wised up, grew up and had no choice but to change, or I was gonna die. The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. In 2023, it's safer to stay completely single if possible.
My ex-husband strangled me three times. We attended church, we went to counseling at church.. He blamed me for all of the issues for our relationship. On paperwork from the local hospital it states I died due to suffocaton. I have had multiple broken bones, mental health issues yet I am stupid enough to still talk to him. He finally quit drinking, doing drugs and I thought those were the reasons he had acted as such. He even molested our daughter just to get me to come back to our home state. The last time we lived together last year he hit me in the mouth and eye just playing around with him. He lashed out and backhanded me in the eye and mouth. It's the first time I had bruises on my face. It made me realize that he didn't care if he left marks on my face. Normally his go to is claiming bdsm to cover up what he did. Recently a protection order was dropped. I'm not playing around anymore. I was told I should forgive him. He quit drinking and drugs yet he still lashes out just the same. I have stay away order added to our divorce. Everything you just mentioned is exactly what he has done and still doing. Bless you for opening my eyes 🔥❤🙏👑🙏❤🔥
This is now your responsibility.. the veil is lifted.. please take care of yourself + disappear from this persons life.
You should forgive him. Why? Because it's for your sake to forgive him, your future life and happiness. Forgiving him doesn't mean developing and/or staying with him. Turn to God, he is your answer that you seek.
Why are we obligated to forgive an unrepentant serpent that continues to bite us?
Why isn't he in jail?
strangling you the 2nd time didnt open up your eyes you allowed him to molest your baby?!!😤 you can forgive but never take them back they never change
That is what I try to tell people, why is it okay for people to separate themselves from a toxic romantic partner but not a toxic family member? Because the toxic family members advise you that you are to stick close to them no matter what. They do this so they can control and manipulte you and abuse you for their benefit.
This is so much straight talk. Love it after being surrounded by so many twisted narcs in my life. I see narcissist....😱