This works bro..theres a time for no contact..but if you still have a connection with them you need to nurture that connection not sever it. Reconnect and bask in the Glory of today. Enjoy each moment and remember it's all in God's hands anyway we have to surrender control
Your approach is the one that makes more sense of all breakout experts out here on youtube. I wish i got to know your channel earlier in my breakup.. Quality content.
My ex and I were together 27 years. He chose to end things nearly 3 months ago. He said it was due to me being too controlling, I would put him down. He initially said he didn't know what he wanted, then he said we were done. We still live together. He works at night. So as I get up he gets home. He has agreed that we are getting on so much better. I have made lots of changes physically and emotionally. His job is super busy during December. He has agreed to think about us once Christmas is over. How do I make him see that trying again would be better than before
Wait this seams to be the situation. Three days ago she said thee specific things. 1. "The door of a romance is closed." 2. "She is sorry it didnt work out. But she cares about me" 3.she " doesnt want to lead ne on bc respect you know?" I managed it well. I told her i dont want want anything to do with the old relationship. But wanted to have a sincere connection and build new respect between us. And she said okay. To day we had a short in the moment discussion about yoga, and something else like it was a that same two year back and forth cant remember topic but who cares it was cute. Doed this sound good and with traction?
"There's more that unites us than divides us." Awesome. I'll try to connect to her on that emotional level. Since tomorrow might be my last time seeing her, I wanted to know if it would be ok to open up to her, telling her how I'll always love her, and even how my newest tattoo has a lot of hidden meanings about our relationship, etc... But I guess by what you said, it's probably not the best idea. So thanks! And thanks for cracking me up! Because I've been seeing on the internet that I should sit with my legs open; be a jerk and treat her like crap; show my dominance; take hours/days to reply to texts, that I should work out/get fit; and all that other Alpha male BS. Hahahahaha.
@@erik_pokecollector I tried scripting, certain techniques, and prayer, but still never manifested her back. It's been a year and I still can't stop thinking about her. I don't know what's wrong with me.
Hey clay! I just want to say thank you for keeping me sane. My ex and I are currently in no contact, I told him I felt he was pulling away and needed some space to figure things out basically but I would love to keep talking when hes ready, now it’s nearly a week of nothing besides his follow up text where he said he would reach out and thanked me, and I’m starting to worry I’ll never hear from him.. what should I do? Just trust the process or text him if this continues?
I started around June July last year to contact my ex and gradually we have started to connect more and more, opening up to each other about feelings and experiences mixed in with what we did at the weekend or what we are up to. I understand you can’t rush these things as my ex maybe fighting a battle themselves that is unknown to me. Should I continue in the same way I have been doing or should I be doing something different? Also it’s possible we will both be at an a mutual friends bbq is may, at least we have both been invited she hasn’t responded to the invite yet. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated. 😊
@@niddlianknight all is going well thank you. We are communicating often and up until last week I was initiating all the communication but she reached out last week.
Hello sir ,she said she doesnt want me anymore and is happy with her life and enjoying alot. We had 2 years of local relationship and 4 months addition ldr where she broke up with me due to my overposessiveness and insecurity. She says she is happier than before and rude to me in calls. She always end up telling she doesnt want relationship and only wants to enjoy life during text or call
I say walk off, she sees you as a friend. Make her lose you, doesn’t matter when she reorganizes loss a person who close to you. Keep staying her, she only matters see you as a friend. I say, go and focus yourself, then she come back running.
It's like I've watched a couple of your you still don't give direction on like what's the first step is that you you're talking all around the first step like do I text him I can't get to the point if they're not communicating that's what I'm asking how do I do the first initial step I've watched like two or three of your videos and then nothing says where is the first I know this is not a direct roadmap but if we're trying to get to that point to make myself be spacious what's the first step
Hi Clay me and my ex have been connecting really well for a while now. He comes up to my house to hang out once a week for the last 2 months . Up until now every time I mentioned doing something like going for a coffee he shoots it down saying let's just keep things simple. I left it for about a month I mentioned it a few days ago and he agreed. Would you class this as a date or am I reading to much into it. If it helps I think he's at crisis point
It’s not a date , I did the same calling it a date . Lower your expectation to the lowest, see them as someone you wanna flirt and have a nice time with without any serious commitment after the meetup, like meeting someone for the first time . Focus on the present , don’t hope for more
Not a date..stop worrying about labels like date and boyfriend..tell em you just want to enjoy the moment with them and not put labels on it..saying this takes a lot of pressure off the avoidant and allows you to connect on a deeper level without their walls being up
Ready to get them to commit again? Watch this next: ruclips.net/video/UqYlhqCxb6s/видео.html
Be present and connect in the moment. Remember you have more in common with them than things different than us. Got it
This works bro..theres a time for no contact..but if you still have a connection with them you need to nurture that connection not sever it. Reconnect and bask in the Glory of today. Enjoy each moment and remember it's all in God's hands anyway we have to surrender control
Your approach is the one that makes more sense of all breakout experts out here on youtube. I wish i got to know your channel earlier in my breakup.. Quality content.
Clay is the goat 🐐 of RUclips relationship advice. Wholesome! Real! Thank you Clay 🙂💝
My ex and I were together 27 years. He chose to end things nearly 3 months ago. He said it was due to me being too controlling, I would put him down.
He initially said he didn't know what he wanted, then he said we were done. We still live together. He works at night. So as I get up he gets home.
He has agreed that we are getting on so much better. I have made lots of changes physically and emotionally.
His job is super busy during December. He has agreed to think about us once Christmas is over.
How do I make him see that trying again would be better than before
Are there any updates? And Good luck
What about in long distance relationships
He has gone no contact. However he has opened up to receive my texts. Does not respond but not blocked anymore.
But how do you start a emotional connection when she asked for space
Wait this seams to be the situation. Three days ago she said thee specific things. 1. "The door of a romance is closed." 2. "She is sorry it didnt work out. But she cares about me" 3.she " doesnt want to lead ne on bc respect you know?"
I managed it well. I told her i dont want want anything to do with the old relationship. But wanted to have a sincere connection and build new respect between us. And she said okay.
To day we had a short in the moment discussion about yoga, and something else like it was a that same two year back and forth cant remember topic but who cares it was cute. Doed this sound good and with traction?
How do we really connect with them? Could you please explain that?
Yes how do you connect?
So I shouldn't be doing no contact and should be reaching out to her trying to create a emotional connection?
Thanks Clay, love this video!
"There's more that unites us than divides us." Awesome. I'll try to connect to her on that emotional level. Since tomorrow might be my last time seeing her, I wanted to know if it would be ok to open up to her, telling her how I'll always love her, and even how my newest tattoo has a lot of hidden meanings about our relationship, etc... But I guess by what you said, it's probably not the best idea. So thanks!
And thanks for cracking me up! Because I've been seeing on the internet that I should sit with my legs open; be a jerk and treat her like crap; show my dominance; take hours/days to reply to texts, that I should work out/get fit; and all that other Alpha male BS. Hahahahaha.
Any update???
@@erik_pokecollector I tried scripting, certain techniques, and prayer, but still never manifested her back. It's been a year and I still can't stop thinking about her. I don't know what's wrong with me.
@@patrickwoods2583 I'm sorry to hear that. Are you in contact with her or NC?
@@erik_pokecollector Basically no contact. Once she contacted me for some info and vice versa, but other than that, NC.
@@patrickwoods2583 i feel it. almost same situation for me. even if i believe she's breadcrumbing acting hot and cold
it sucks
Not very realistic and we shouldn’t have broken up but her decision and I’m finally moving forward
Hey clay! I just want to say thank you for keeping me sane.
My ex and I are currently in no contact, I told him I felt he was pulling away and needed some space to figure things out basically but I would love to keep talking when hes ready, now it’s nearly a week of nothing besides his follow up text where he said he would reach out and thanked me, and I’m starting to worry I’ll never hear from him.. what should I do? Just trust the process or text him if this continues?
Wait... Occupy yourself with getting better, read, walk, meet people. Give it time. :)
What ended up happening if you don’t mind me asking?
Move on people. Cherish every interaction. Do your best. Move on though.
I started around June July last year to contact my ex and gradually we have started to connect more and more, opening up to each other about feelings and experiences mixed in with what we did at the weekend or what we are up to. I understand you can’t rush these things as my ex maybe fighting a battle themselves that is unknown to me. Should I continue in the same way I have been doing or should I be doing something different? Also it’s possible we will both be at an a mutual friends bbq is may, at least we have both been invited she hasn’t responded to the invite yet. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated. 😊
Hi! How did things go? I would say tryst your heart and your gut and be genuine and yourself but that’s just me!
Hope all is well and that if things did or didn’t work out you’re happy
@@niddlianknight all is going well thank you. We are communicating often and up until last week I was initiating all the communication but she reached out last week.
@@paulrambridge8453 aye!! Glad to hear it
Hello sir ,she said she doesnt want me anymore and is happy with her life and enjoying alot.
We had 2 years of local relationship and 4 months addition ldr where she broke up with me due to my overposessiveness and insecurity. She says she is happier than before and rude to me in calls. She always end up telling she doesnt want relationship and only wants to enjoy life during text or call
You gotta back off for a while
Any update?
It's over dude.. pick yourself up.. get back out there.. DO NOT BEG.. DO NOT CRY.. TOTAL NO CONTACT NOW..
I say walk off, she sees you as a friend. Make her lose you, doesn’t matter when she reorganizes loss a person who close to you. Keep staying her, she only matters see you as a friend. I say, go and focus yourself, then she come back running.
It's like I've watched a couple of your you still don't give direction on like what's the first step is that you you're talking all around the first step like do I text him I can't get to the point if they're not communicating that's what I'm asking how do I do the first initial step I've watched like two or three of your videos and then nothing says where is the first I know this is not a direct roadmap but if we're trying to get to that point to make myself be spacious what's the first step
Hi Clay me and my ex have been connecting really well for a while now. He comes up to my house to hang out once a week for the last 2 months . Up until now every time I mentioned doing something like going for a coffee he shoots it down saying let's just keep things simple. I left it for about a month I mentioned it a few days ago and he agreed. Would you class this as a date or am I reading to much into it. If it helps I think he's at crisis point
It’s not a date , I did the same calling it a date . Lower your expectation to the lowest, see them as someone you wanna flirt and have a nice time with without any serious commitment after the meetup, like meeting someone for the first time . Focus on the present , don’t hope for more
Not a date..stop worrying about labels like date and boyfriend..tell em you just want to enjoy the moment with them and not put labels on it..saying this takes a lot of pressure off the avoidant and allows you to connect on a deeper level without their walls being up