How I figured out what to do with my life 🤷🏻♀️
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Casual car vlog sharing how I figured out my career & what to do with my life. This was unplanned so it's messy & I didn't share all the details or tips that I could have. But hope you still got something from it nonetheless 🙃 Your early twenties are a time for self discovery and figuring things out (aka "soul searching). But it's also a beautiful time to decide HOW you want to create yourself and your life. That's what being an "artist of life" means.
Begin your artist of life journey by taking control of your life and realizing that you can shape yourself & your life how you want it.
🌟 Check out the Create Your Dream Life Course: lavendaire.com/...
→ I created this as the course I wish I had when I was lost in my early twenties. These are all the life lessons I've learned about creating yourself + your dream life over the past 7+ years. Back then, I was frustrated that there wasn't a step-by-step program to guide me to figure myself & my life out, so now I've created one for you!
→ This course will guide you to discover yourself, build a success mindset, get clear on what you want, make a plan of how to get there and enjoy creating your dream life.
// related videos
→ NEW: how to figure out what to do with your life | bit.ly/2WuP2qP
→ how I started my business | bit.ly/2BUH3Ir
→ living for yourself & not others | bit.ly/2zeskqw
→ life advice you NEED to hear (esp college graduates) | bit.ly/2QE9Vvd
📸 Follow my Insta | / lavendaire
💝 Shop: The Artist of Life Collection | shop.lavendaire...
___
💝 Shop | shop.lavendaire...
🌻 Website | lavendaire.com
💛 Podcast: The Lavendaire Lifestyle | lavendaire.com/...
instagram | / lavendaire
tiktok | / lavendaire
twitter | / lavendaire
facebook | / lavendaire
pinterest | / lavendaire
___________________________
// RESOURCES
💌 Join our email list for weekly inspiration | lavendaire.com...
🌼 Join our Community on Discord | lavendaire.com...
⭐️ Exclusive SMS deals to the shop | shop.lavendair... or text JOIN to 855-933-3163
💫 Free resources on Lavendaire | www.lavendaire...
___
Music: / dejavu
Outro music by Eventide | bit.ly/2wW9Xa8
// M A I L B O X
Aileen Xu
PO Box 296
Brea, CA 92822
Business inquiries | lavendaire@select.co
___
// A B O U T
I’m Aileen, a lifestyle blogger sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.
Lavendaire is my blog about personal growth + lifestyle design. Follow along and learn how you can create a life you love.
Subscribe to Lavendaire to get inspired by new videos weekly! bit.ly/sublaven...
___
Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored video.
Hi loves! ✨ We just launched a new community program ft. masterminds and monthly live events for personal growth & wellness! Learn more & join here → lavendaire.com/DLC 🫶
"I've always been a good student, I knew how to get good grades and do well in school because there was a syllabus and homework and guidelines, and I felt like I had the rules set out and I knew how to work within the rules, but when life happened, I was like, there are no rules to life, it's too open-ended that I don't know what to do with my life."
GIRL, SAME!!!
Yes. What scares me the most. Life have no rules or instruction manual for us to follow. You yourself need to figure it out.
SAME!!!!
True 💯😭
exactly this is so relatable
That kinda reminds me of Kafka's little fable
I’m in my late thirties and wish I had this advice in my twenties. I am now on a different path and spent many years struggling due to not finding my passion. But one piece of advice for those of you still searching, if you love your job but find that it doesn’t tick all the boxes, you can still have side hustles and hobbies or even volunteering on the side to fulfill other parts of yourself. Especially if you feel like it would be too tough to leave your job completely.
yes .. also one of the encouragement I wish I had received when I was younger would have been to explore side hustles while I had my first job because I think it was after that job that I just became more confused at people throwing jobs, learnerships and studies at me that I had no passion for .. which, I guess had me jumping from job to job .. but also, I probably had to go through those things to learn certain things about myself and the life that I am supposed to live ..
thanks for sharing ..!
I'm 29yrs. But age doesn't matter,keep on moving and be positive.❤
Thank you for this comment !
Thanks, we'll never stop learning til the day we die.
I am at the beginning of 30s now and I wish I heard these advices earlier. I am trying differnt side hustles. Hope I can figure out what actually align with me soon!
*Don’t worry about figuring it out...*
Figuring life out is the fun part!
Truth!
Fun? I'm not finding it that much fun tbh...
I hate it! Im so stressed and feeling so much pressure to figure out what i want to do. Im 21 and I have absolutely no clue! Feels like everyone around me knows what they want and I cant even figure out what things I like
I find it fun but im not sure how to explain why I find it fun to people that don’t find it fun 😕 can’t seem to find the words
i hate it
feeling of failure is way more bearable than regretting not doing something and continue wondering what if i did it what could have happened
Abd Rahman 👏👏👏👏❤️
really grateful for this, this quote really made my day
It’s still taking me a while to learn that
THANK YOU, I NEED THIS! Was looking for a sign until I stumbled upon this. ❤️
needed to hear this !!
"Your failure will lead you where to go" love that part.
Lavendaire definitely deserves more subscribers! Everytime i watch a video i feel inspired!💖🥰
I’m glad I clicked this video! I’m 23 and lost. But you gave me hope that maybe I can find something I like to do!!
Momotan same!!❤️
Yeah, i'm having a hard time to figure out what i want to next at age 35, after 7 years working for a company.After stop, i spent a year basically not doing anything but travel and wander around and doing yoga. I'm still on the way finding my new path, by doing different things like taking course, travel more, meet more people... Dont know if it success to be honest, but i dont regret at all. Just take it on move and see how :).
Thank you for sharing all these positivities with us!!
To everyone reading this: *Hope you have a nice, positive day!* 🌈☀️
Aww you too❤
Thank you for your sharing. I've lost for almost 2 years after working restlessly in an agency and been searching for these kind of video to find out what I want to do with my life (yes i'm really desperate). Your video is the most powerful and helpful tbh. Tysm
Ok, this is so relatable. I become bored with my 9-5 job so I went to learn how to bake cake. But I could not make anything out of it. I tried some other things too... I thought something was wrong with me. But I guess it's because I've not discovered what brings me joy and gives me pleasure.
But few months ago I started journalling and I'm beginning to have clarity, a lot have changed for me so far. Though I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting there.
I really needed this video! I told my boss last week that I quit. It was so scary but I couldn't stay in a place that wasn't fulfilling. Right now I have absolutely no idea what to do, what career to pursue etc. But I will try until I find what's mine. Very beautiful message, thank you!
Must say :- your words which are really very meaningful brings shivers though out my spine cause thats the reality is......life has no rules.....but we are in the boundage of it......!!!!
It's incredible how people from different parts of the world go through the same things , how the sentences resemble with my thoughts is really magical, once again thank you for existing
This is so me. I thought im gonna be an architect ever since i was kid. And all i know is architecture, and then now after i worked for 2years as a junior architect, i just feel smt missing.... its so confusing when smt u believe for a long time and it doesnt work..
Anyway thankyou aileen, you are always insipring! i will keep trying new things🧡
You are so inspiring and so sincere! Thank you for this vlog! I watched a bunch of videos on this topic and didn’t want to spend another 15 minutes for the talk I’ve heard from every video but I am glad I turned on yours! I am in this situation where I was supposed to get a job in tech that I took courses for but realized that I really don’t want to go in that direction... I used to work for a company and I felt the same way as you describe it. I remember coming home drained and disappointed with understanding that I work hard, get almost nothing for it. I did something I don’t like and after all had no energy and time to make a change because of my family situation at that time.... I don’t want to go back...I also feel more like a creative person. I had a couple of jobs in the creative field and enjoyed it so much. So, I want to figure out my way in this direction. Thank you for sharing your story❤️ Wish you the best!
When you said that you were 23 when you wanted to do this and no one supported you, I felt that so much. Even in your twenties, people will still see you as a child, especially when you declare that you're going to chase "some silly dream." I can't thank you and emphasize enough how you followed that up by saying that you believed in yourself and what you wanted to do. I just told my husband recently, "Whatever I want to do, I need to just do it. I can't expect anyone else to believe in me if I don't believe in myself." And a light bulb came on. We are the only thing keeping ourselves from doing what we want to do. It's not easy, but getting started and keeping your eye on the prize when no one else believes in you is the number one thing in pursuing a passion.
Sorry, I had a moment. In short, thank you so much for not giving up on YOUR dreams because now they provide the nutrients to essential for all of US (your subscribers) to grow. Thank you.
"We are the only thing keeping ourselves from doing what we want to do." YES. What a breakthrough!
I am experiencing the same thing which you said that just helping other people to get money in the office and it wasn't meaningful to you.
Thank you so much for this meaningful video, you're so sweet ☺️
Oh my goodness Aileen, it's so true. Even when we fail and feel like we are starting from zero, it's not really zero.
I just shared on my insta today. Thank you for this, life took many turns and I'm still trying to figure it out but with every failure, I feel one step closer. I might take longer than others being 34..but maybe I'm a late bloomer. hahaha! :p
My God! I can't believe how close to home this is for me. I made music all my life with a RUclips channel, hated touring or playing live and kind of kidded myself into thinking I loved music more than I did. That was until I picked up a camera and feel in love with photography and video making. 6 months in and hit 1k subs and even though I'm earning nothing yet, I know this is right. Thanks for making this as it just made me feel even more confident than I already was in what I am doing. Also to add, people think I am a lunatic when I try and explain what I am doing so I stopped trying to explain and just have to show them the results.
Tysm for recording this vid for us... like yeah it was helpful for me. Cause now i rlly dk what to do w my life and im rlly tired to think of it. Also i liked ur accent (cuz idk english very well, now im learning it and i almost understand each word that u said) ur makeup! Ur so pretttyy!! And i think that i will like these chill, relax vids more, cause it was so comfortable just to listen!
You are amazing~ eve though I am 34 yrs old which is much older than you. You have more experiences than me and most of people who are stuck where they are.
I was stuck for 6 yrs before I immigrated Australia as families and friends’s expectations.
I give you massive thumbs for you ♥️
I was 26yrs, gave up my career in Korea.
I had nothing and started from scratch including Language.
I am glad that I saw this~
YOU MADE MY DAY ~~♥️♥️♥️
wow your life sounds amazing too! 💖 sending love!
I think you’re spot on with the structured school life and understanding how to operate that to all of a sudden your now in charge of your own “life syllabus” with zero experience. It has definitely caused me some distress, depression and anxiety.
This video is pure gold, simply put.
Much gratitude. Peace and love!
I'm 30 and still don't know what I want to do full time with my life. All I know is that I have many many ideas and want to run an online business but I am indecisive and have no passions. This video helps give me hope. Thank you.
Can’t across this video while watching someone else on here I swear I needed to here this I’m still only so young and rediscovering myself & life had been a complete turn over from where and what I was doing . Currently on a path of finding myself and where I want to be .. this was purely an eye opener for me to hear .
Thank you 🙏🏼
I am so inspired by you and I watch your videos every day
I struggle with the second part - being persistent and resilient and not assuming the worst case scenario all the time
Even though I started learning English just recently and this girl is so bright minded and positive so I clearly received all her messages in this video. Tnx a lot. You did it best. Sorry for my English
Im here doing what i want. Trying to reach people to inspire. Not sure where this will take me but i follow my heart. Without a doubt i am doing what i want. Thanks for the inspiration Aileen! One thing i learned how to figure out something is to actually DO. Its in the doing, its in the taking action that you see enough light to know what your calling in life is. Its an amazing journey.
i agree! what you do matters, you have inspired me this morning. thank you.
I feel like not enough people say to keep searching! Thankyou so much! I have tried so many careers and fields and I’m still searching sometimes it gets me down but I’m starting to realise that when I do find it I’ll have an amazing story and a lot of experience to go with it!
You don't have any idea how much your videos have been help me...even on my hardest days I came to here, to see something inspirational, some fresh, something that have the power to get me up... Some people have a path to help and enlight another people life, and after this whole video and the olds one I knew that it's your path. Your videos can change lifes and make people happier and feeling the gratitude! I only could say "thank you" for you pursue your path on your way and make this youtube channel! Love ya
English isn't my mother language, so sorry for any mistakes !
Hey Aileen, loving the car vlogs and vlogs in general so hope to see more of them, love your content videos too. Great share today 👑💖 Keep searching through experimentation and never give up or compromise on being happy 😊
This video is so genuine and I felt all words comes from your heart, it's felt me amazing and so motivated Aileen, thank you! Especially commitment and mental clarity are a must. 🙌
I just found this video and im so happy i did, im going through a difficult moment finding myself ,trying to figure out what i wanna do with my life and your video made me feel so much peace, thank you so much 🥺☺️✨
You can absolutely make lot many more vedios in ur car. What u said today, so many ppl need to hear this.. At such a right time i heard u. I was thinking what i want. Now i know. I fail, i must not fear it. I must keep trying, i will find my heart in something eventually. Love u Eileen. I have been following u for such a long time now. Girl, u are an inspiration. Always think of all the lives u are touching, keep going. May you live as beautifully as possible.
I needed this, Aileen. Divine timing. Thank you for sharing ya light on us today! 😁
I appreciate this video because i struggle with this question if what am i doing with my life more often then i should be. I am 27 and I find that im stuck, I work a 9-5 in healthcare and i began doing that to give me an idea of what industry i wanted to go into after I left working retail and cosmetic retail for 8+ years. Same as you I want to do things that are meaningful in peoples lives and to this world, but i want to do what makes me truly happy on the inside. I think I’ve figured it out, Which is being an aesthetic RN, it takes a lot of time and dedication but I feel this is truly what I should doing. Still daydreaming though and trying to align the dots.....
You are so inspiring. I also reached a point in my life where I am not sure anymore if my next steps I planned formerly are the best anymore. I am therefore thinking about re-drawing my perfect life, rethinking about my next career steps. This kinda frustrates me and also makes me a bit afraid. But on the other side I can create my life path on my own and have thousands of options and this is the funny part.
So happy you made this video. I enjoy your work. I can relate 1000% to everything you’re saying and I am currently on my own path and know just what I want after trials and error. I love writing, speaking and making videos. I love podcasts, love my poetry. Music is my passion as well but I found that it is a healing tool for me as well. I feel so aligned to the things I do now and I am excited for the day I get to stay home and make money doing just what I love and not having to wake up so early. Thank you, thank you, THANK for this universal message!!!!
That's right! God has my back. I will not stop!
I feel so proud and grateful for finding you on YT Aileen 💜✨
Is it just me who noticed that you are an awesome speaker?!?! Like you haven’t said “uhm” once!!!!
Awesome advice! I’m 20 and I work at my dream company - I actually couldn’t be more happy but I’m still feeling lost... have to reflect a lot
Just what I needed! Thank you so much for making this video 💕
The mood you’re trying to portray on this video, vlogging inside the car just so awesome,, seems like you’re talking to a friend who needs advice in life,,,
It really hit me when you said: "you know how to do it but you don't have the mental strength/ the commitment"
Congratz on ur 1M subs btw.
What camera are you using to film in your car? Thanks in advance.
This one was G7x
I find all your content be it RUclips videos, podcasts or anything else very helpful useful and creative!! So inspiring thank uuu and keep being you ! X
Komal Joshi agree! ♥️
I relate SO MUCH. I feel like I’m constantly trying to figure out my life, especially since I gave up my dream of pursuing a degree/ career in fashion design.
It was similar to how you felt about music. The physical demands, the time required, the emotional toll on me... I was like “This isn’t how I want to live my life.” And that was scary, because I was 4 classes away from graduating and I told everyone since I was 9 years old that I was going to be a fashion designer.
One of my favorite quotes from the fabulous Tyra Banks: “You may have dream, like being a singer... but it ain’t the calling, baby.” I’m in that state where I’m trying everything and using my intuition through those paths to determine if this is aligned to my calling.
Thanks for this vlog-type version of your usual advice videos, Aileen/ Lavendaire 💕✨ It’s good to know that I’m not alone and that it is still possible to figure out what I want to do with my life.
Oh man! I feel ya. It's okay to change courses. But I understand how hard it is to change when it's something you've been working toward for so long! Sending love for your journey & excited to have you in the course, Arielle! 💕
Wow really youtube recommending this while i really dont know what to do with my life......
I love everything about this so much! I'm definitely learning that the process and journey is just as important as the destination.
I have a 'WATCH FOREVER' playlist for elite-level YT and this is so on it... love you girl!!
I’m really appreciate your video ☺️ and super lucky to find your RUclips channel !! Thank you ✨BIG LOVE❤️
You are such an inspiration!!! I adore you. Keep on doing you! 💖
That is so scary to hear because it is so different from everything I ever heard. I kind of thought everyone would always be at least a little doubtful and unsatisfied with whatever path they’ve chosen. I.. I have some thinking to do
Is 2021 I found your video a few minutes ago and was the best thing that could happen to me. Ily
I really loved this, and needed this today. Thank you so much 🧡
I tried a lot of avenues but always had obstacles in my path. Proud of you because you never gave up! Have you thought of making commercials?
Thank you so much Lavendaire for this and all videos that you make They help me a lot and now I'm inspired to don't give up and be brave in my life ♥️
I got teary suddenly listening to you.. im so happy for you Aileen😊😗 thank you🌻
Thank you so much aileen thank god there is someone as young as you who can give me advice so it really helps me so i really love what your doing! 💜💜😃
How did you live without any income in 2015? Your journey is so inspiring✨💫 thank you for making a change in so many people's lives!
i really loved this video ! thank you so much Aileen for this precious advice ! ❤ i always find myself coming back to your videos whenever i face a hardship because your words inspire me a lot ❤
I am in my early thirties, battling depression. I've lived in 8 countries, studied 3 degrees and worked in various financially rewarding jobs. I still can't find any job I want to marry for life, the same way I cannot find a guy I would like to marry for life. Jobs are like people. You like a part of them, not the whole. Or you like a few at the same time and end up depressed and confused because you don't know which path to choose or which person to settle with. And this keeps going. For me trial and error doesn't really work. This doesn't guarantee that you will find that "something" you're looking. Simply because that might not exist! And at this point you have to comprise, which can mean lifelong depression.
I comment very very rarely, but OMG GIRL! I was doubting whether to sign up to your course because of the additional taxes in Europe the price increased by approximately 20%. But after seeing this video my heart calmed down. It's my favorite video of all the time made by you. It sort of spoke directly to me as I am graduating from high school this month. I even think I'm more excited than you are about the course!
Sending you lots of love ♡♡♡ :)
aww glad you liked it girl!!
Hey my love this video was great and right on time as always you are such a blessing and so refreshing I needed this confirmation thank you and I enjoyed your car Vlog it was a nice break from the monotony and simple yet profound!
Thank you for appearing in my recommendations 😭😭 this really helped me a lot as I am wondering with my life right now after out of college
Thank you so much you are the sunshine of my life at this time 😍
I love your channel so much. What a tremendous human being you are. God bless.
Yes, I agreed every things that lead our path maybe tough and failure. But failure doesn’t mean we not able to achieve but at least we tried and tested the career. If we find joy we able to sustain and move on. Along the way we modify the failed part and do it better. Thank you for sharing and hope we all achieve towards our path :)
You're amazing and inspirational xo
I'm soo glad I found you
Your hair looks stunning like this, I'm obsessed
Didn’t know you did all of those things! I wish I would also find my purpose, someday. :)
I really just want to thank you for the time and thoughts you share with us.
You are adorable!
Big hug from Milan, Italy :)
I just feel like everytime I go after my passions and things I truly care about I keep getting told no. I don't see how I'm supposed to enjoy life if that keeps happening to me :(
It's a really helpful video! Thanks Lavendaire
Just subscribe a minute ago and u just slap me with a good content
haha welcome 💕
I'm 24 years old, graduated. I work in a job that doesn't have to be a college graduate. I don't know what I like, I don't know what I'm good at. I've been stagnothing in this job for five years. Your videos really give me hope and motivation. But I still don't know what to do. Maybe I should just be one more in the office... idk
Maybe apply for some different jobs and see where it takes you? Could be fun to try other things! If you have a degree and work somewhere where its acutually not even needed, it sounds like you could always come back to that kinda job. And i mean if it didnt make you happy till now, thats not gonna change
@@marialenz5207 You right. Change, bring fear. What holds me in this job is fear, thought, " if I don't get a new job. I need the money to invest in myself, like schools to learn languages. And pay student funding" its hard
The best video I’ve EVER watched 💕
This is a great video...BUT...how did you do The Artist of Life Workbook without money? How did you buy the camera equipment?
I was good in uni too. Following the tasks and briefs and cameout with very good grads. But after graduation I just feel useless. The portfolio I thought was good didn’t get me anywhere for over half a year. The moment I finished uni I went from -I need a little break- to break too long I don’t know what to do with my self other than sending out emails for job it got to a point I didn’t create anything new for so long it terrifies me to make a start again
Thank you! your advice is inspiring.
I love your videos so much, I'm glad you chose this path!!! :)
me crying here bc suddenly i realized that it's time to decide what to do with ly life but i can't see myself in anything i'm useless 😭😭
Same
when you said that "you were 23 not making enough money and wanting to make youtube to inspire people"...I'm thinking to myself "I'm 27 and here i am looking for a real job but still dream to be a youtuber"
the word you were looking for was mental fortitude or resilience!!!
Since this talks about failing and learning, I want to share a bit of my story.
I had just graduated from school, with good grades, I didn't really know what to do but I had a sabbatical, I did some carfts and stuff, but I still didn't do much because I was very undisciplined, then my parents asked me what I wanted to study, I didn't really know but since I was in school when people asked me I said 'architecture' so that's what I did, I went to college to study architecture (colleges in Peru work different, here you pick a career first), and it was hell, I did well on the basic classes but always failed on the most important one, I didn't have many friends, I mean, I kinda did but they all had their own group and I wasn't a part of any, and since I was struggling with social anxiety I always ate my lunch alone in the hallway, at the end of the second semester I decided to leave the career because I felt like I was giving it all I could and it wasn't enough. I left a note for my parents because I couldn't tell them face to face, they were very understanding (my dad was just worried that I wasn't quitting just because of the money, it was kind of expensive) so I had another break, I had no idea of what to do, after a while my boyfriend broke up with me because of something really stupid that I did, I started working at a hotel, it was something totally new, it was stressing but the people were really cool (except for one dude who tried to kiss me but that's another story) eventually the stress and some other stuff made me quit (I was 19 at the time, I made up with my boyfriend) then I had another break, I started looking for ways to become more organized and live better, then we wanted to get married but we had no money, I started looking for a job and then my parents asked me once more what I wanted to study, and since I had time to learn about myself and what the careers were about, I ended up choosing graphic design, it's my first semester right now, I'm 21 but I feel more mature, I feel like I've changed a lot, and I know it's just my first semester but I really feel in my zone, I felt a lot more prepared this time and...I'm happy 😊
Your beauty is very special and pure.
I relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing ✨
Thanks for this video!! You helped me so so so much 🤩
i do, it does make sense.
Love your insight!
Really loved your video. Thanks!
Needed this right now !
Question: I always wonder how people make money on the side while still "figuring things out." I worked a part time job while going to school and i had no time for anything else.... I wonder how people balance it all
your so helpful keep it up girl !!
Awww.. Very inspirational Lavendaire :)