"Wearing too much makeup proves you're insecure." "Here's an info-graph to make sure that you walk and sit in a graceful way, and a list of 25 things you need to do to be charming."
This is the sort of stuff that makes me suspicious of any specifically labeled trad community. There are communities without all this stuff for people that just like the aesthetic - the horrible, hypocritical takes don't have to be part of the deal.
In our family, the women (what our tree mostly consists of) theese are rules that are need to be kept, and they also say theese. It turns my stomach, because at the same time even they pick on each other, and sometimes call me egoist, because I do use makeup and doesn't sit like this. (Because I also wouldn't be able to breath in that position, thanks to my spine.)
The honest JOY I felt when I learned that the "My husband Jeremiah" blog was faked by a enby lesbian so they could get into a trad wife discord server? Is immeasurable.
@Maccer from the north nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary people attracted to women for whom the label lesbian feels right, whether due to some connection to womanhood (psa: nonbinary people can be in some way aligned to a binary gender while being nonbinary! bigender, demigirl, etc), or connection to having been raised as a girl, or whatever else. identities aren't completely black and white, especially not one like lesbian which has referred to so many different categories of person through time both by lesbians themselves and by homophobic society
Does she drunk monster energy? Does she get more p*ssy than you? Can she slam dunk from the 3 point line? If you said yes to one or more of these questions you're wife may be a chad wife
Reminder: the "my husband Jeremiah" ask (12:55) was made by a lesbian trying to get into a TradWife discord server for the sake of observing the utter chaos and bullshit that writhes in that server
@@slithra227 you can check aeons' tumblr cuz i think it was asked there (you can check archives and look for 4 months ago to find the ask as well as the story ig)
Names like “Cottagecore” and “farmcore” throw me off because my brain wants to assume that they’re metal genres and all I can picture is someone like Phil Anselmo screaming about his life on a wide open range with a beautiful wife and children
“Claims SHES bisexual bit has only dated men” okay but she’s still bisexual even if she’s only dated men, being Bi Doesnt mean you have to date both men and women it means you can
I agree but if she goes out of the way to avoid woman relationships then she aint bi, like if a girl flirts with her and she feel uncomfortable but then a boy doea the same sh is ok with it its not bieng bi
For real tho can you imagine having someone order you around all the time? I get that people are into it in the bedroom, that honestly sounds kinda exciting and it's definitely on my bucket list, but it should end there, not carry over to your everyday life. It just sounds so unhealthy. Like how can you respect yourself when you are basically a slave?
@@Eris_Norregard I'll be real with you growing up my mom was pretty controlling even going to far as to beat me when she thought I wasn't listening or misheard her. She won't try that shit now I'm 25 but she jokes about it till this day that I called the cops on her because she tried to beat me for calling her bitch. She also hates anyone I talk to because they might get the idea she's a "Bad mom" because I lie, a lot apparently (you know the kinds of parents) but it's all out of 'Love." So as of this year, I'm with my boyfriend of 9 years, celebrated 29th of August; I do ask him for permission a lot mind you it was a LOT worse when we started to date because I was used to walking on eggshells and if I so much as seemed like I wasn't listening guess who got beat? (We live with my grandparents and she's never been married but is waiting for them to die to take their stuff. .no, no that's not a dark joke) Obsouvly I hid lots of stuff from my mom over the years and even now I'll say to my boyfriend "Hey i'm going to XYZ tomorrow after an interview for lunch." and he'll just say "You don't have to ask my permission just go." Which he says maybe 3 times a month I also learned to stop apologizing for everything and I mean EVERYTHING drop a pen? Sorry. Having a bad day? Sorry. Breath incorrectly? Sorry. Sometimes you just never realize it or refuse to outwardly admit it. Also my grandparents live by "If your happy then that's all that matters" hell mom only kept me around not because she loved me but because if she let grandma adopt me she'd have been thrown out of the house and out of the will. Thinking this is the life isn't really i'd say it's more like indocternation. The difference is I hid a LOT of crap from mom over the years and had friends online and irl that helped me break out of that "Do it for her because she wasn't able to" or "Because you're nothing so live my dream" mentality. But that's my two cents and no she didn't arrange my boyfriend she didn't even know I had 4 boyfreind/girlfreinds buy age 14 and she didn't know about my current for at least 3 years. Oh, and you don't even want to know what she did when she found out I was bi.
@@Eris_Norregard there are people in the kink community that take their dynamic outside of the bedroom but it's set up with serious consideration to consent, safewords, and limits. It's not just an inherent thing that is just assumed like these people say. You don't "just obey", the people in question have to seriously consider what they're doing. In this sort of situation there's no safeword. It's like kink but without the ability to withdraw consent.
When I was 16, this guy I talked to online told me he was a dom and me being the innocent child I was, had no idea it had to do with sex so I was like "oh cool." I think he was 18..... going to the military too. Ew.
"I'm against kinks" yet continues to argue for a daddy dom lifestyle without the "little" aspect. "Do whatever he tells you". "Follow his rules". "Wear clothing he likes". "Grow your hair to the length he wants it to be". Actually dead from how ironic that was.
@@mintywallflower I'm a fan of dom/ sub kinks, but this is gross. Bdsm isn't based on gender, sexually, etc. I girl can dom a guy, a guy can dom a guy, an enby can dom a girl, or any other combo, but this community is based on sexism
@@dovahboi4409 yah i agree wholly we were just pointing out the contradictions in their arguments. saying kinky lifestyle is bad when they're literally advocating for one (no matter how sexist it is in reality, its pretty kinky ngl)
Or a squad of 1950's spies who embody the housewife aesthetic while crushing skulls with their heels whenever necessary to retrieve highly classified missile launch codes.
"Have faith in your husband, as he always has your best interests at heart." Yeah that's all well and good if you're married to a genuinely good, honest, loving person. Clearly this woman didn't come from an abusive home, with an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father. If you have one of those for a husband and I can 100% guarantee that the only person's best interests he gives a single shit about is his own.
In my experience, most people aren't saints so sometimes they think of themselves before their partners or try to hurt you emotionally in the heat of an argument. Your partner doesn't have to be abusive in order to be someone you have to stand up against sometimes, or whose intentions sometimes needs to be questioned.
Yeah whoever wrote that maybe hasn't met that many men. (Edit: anyone of any gender can be an asshole but the "have faith in your husband" thing is specifically about men so that's what I'm responding to. Don't worry, I hate everyone equally.)
@@placeholder6092 agreed, I also like that you put that edit in there, thank you, feminism shouldn't be an excuses to be sexist in the opposite direction
100% closeted BDSM. Too sheltered to admit they have a fetish, but need to be in a power exchange relationship. Kinda sad and sick, relationships like this are usually toxic because consent isn't understood
::in soothing British documentary voice-over:: "Witness The Karen in her natural habitat. Let's see what happens when she uses her well known mating call, "CaN i SpEaK tO yOuR mAnAgEr?!"
@@calico8525 completely off topic but do u have any bread tips? i can make buns and things like that on a sheetpan really easily but it never works in a loaf and doesn't have a good crust. would using a metal loaf pan instead of a glass one help?
This is literally a kink. The man controlling everything you do and "knowing he has your best interests in mind" or some shit. That's a submissive kink. That's a daddy dom kink.
I'M not like you "progressive" eukaryotic cells with your _nuclei_ and your... (shudders) organelles! I'M a _traditional_ cell! _I_ dropped out of cell-school early so I could subdivide and make a family, like I was MEANT to!
Their idea about what femininity and the nuclear family pretty much only existed for wealthy Victorians and for everyone else for a ten year fluke between the end of WWII and second wave feminism in the 60’s If you were a poor woman you still had to work at something be it turning wool into thread to make cloth or tending to the garden and chickens, being solely a housewife has been a rich person thing for much of history
Wait, so cottagecore isn't about being a gay witch who performs druidic rites in the forest by night, and bakes delicious berry pies for her many lovers by day? Oh...
Cottage core sounds like a lesbian witch aesthetic tbh. Or maybe there's one lesbian witch and the other is a fae queen and they go out for moonlit flights and stuff
Fun fact, there was a tradwife Twitter account that tweeted something like "sad that traditional household power dynamics are now immediately associated with BDSM," and then someone replied with the account's header image, which was straight up a woman in manacles. The reply? "So the use of restraints on a woman ubiquitously equals kink? Be careful about proving our point."
Lesson from the Kink Side of Kik, if the male has a submissive female in restraints anywhere on his profile he is gross. Maybe not illegally gross But gross
At 25, I was married. And just like this naive young lady, I thought I would follow the “biblical way.” Adore my husband, be available for him, listen to his wants and needs. Flash forward at age 50, my man of my dreams became a weak willed, spineless worm of a man with a serious drinking problem. I realized all the strength he supposedly possessed was actually what he sucked out of me. Thank god I was raised by a practical man who insisted that I finish college and be an independent woman. I had been a wife for so long, I had forgotten whose daughter I was. I found a good attorney and filed for divorce. Got my resume together and went back to work. Six years latter, I could not be happier. I have a job I love, my daughter is thriving in college and I’m planning to buy my own home. These women haven’t a clue. My advice? Don’t stop working. Keep your skills up so when your devoted man runs off with the secretary or nurse or becomes a alcoholic in 25-30 years you will be marketable and go out on your own. Stand on your own two feet, ladies:)
I keep telling young women in the comments section of tradwife videos that they need to have a marketable skill before marriage and children, and I get a lot of hate for this advice. It isn't enough for women to be tradwives, but they must be so dependent on husbands that divorcing them means poverty.
@Jessica Messica Being careful is not enough. Know how to be self-sufficient. Teenage girls need to learn about financial abuse. Many of the tradwife videos are discouraging young women from getting college degrees or marketable skills. This gives husbands too much power, making the wives vulnerable to financial abuse.
I believe a lifestyle like this is completely valid as long as you don't have a controlling partner, you're happy and you don't bash other people for being non-traditional.
I don't think people who live that lifestyle call themselves traditional wives though. They tend to refer to themselves as homemakers or stay at homes or housewives. Not traditional wife.
cottagecore is supposed to be wholesome and about wanting to own plants and bake and it’s all about what you WANT and not what you should do. it’s very soft and nice and the toxic tradwife shit doesn’t belong.
I kinda wanna make an account, find these posts and say "I'm a tradwife do these things apply to me and my wife because I don't have a husband" just to see what people say. (fyi it's not true lmao)
I mean thats the ultimate fantasy of : "What if we lived in the woods, lived a cute lifestyle and do dumb sh*t together but we're both girls ? Ahah just kidding ... Unless ?
Like. Duh. Of course you should respect the man you married. Just as he should respect you. A healthy marriage is based on loving, respecting, trusting, and communicating with each other. I hate the idea that women should just respect their husbands "just because." Respect is something you earn by being a decent person and respecting other people.
I really don't understand the "guys don't reclaim the trad girl and draw her making out with girls because she was made by a nazi" the whole point is to piss those nazis off by warping their image of a "perfect woman" by showing her doing things that anger them. That's why boulderhurl edits are okay, because they are made to mock him and his terrible ideologies and comics.
When someone says the words "being the head of the house" and "control," run away as far as you can because 100%, that is guarantee a toxic person. He's just in it for the status and a meatbag at his side.
No. It means he’s the protector & of you & your home. “The man is the head of the house but the woman is the neck & she can turn the head any way she wants” - my big fat Greek wedding.
@@ashtonzeeman7243 Well that shows that you are not confortable with men controling women but you do with women controling men, that shows that you are an hypocrate and a mangina
Every time I think of "traditional families" I think of the long lasting stereotype of tv relationships where the wife is a nagging shrew, and the husband is a moronic sexist. Neither of them seem happy, and the relationship seems to either center around the kids or pure spite. Bonus points if the husband is also a drunk, and this is treated as kooky rather than a serious character flaw.
Sounds like you're projecting your own problems on healthy, stable relationships. Either that, or you're showing how easily and completely media brainwashed you.
ah lucky you, i haven’t had kid yet so my 46 years old husband would punish me every night, but it’s okay cause if i run away i would be a dishonor to them
That one about giving women commands instead of requests because women "don't need to think" literally had me gagging. This is the kind of relationship dynamic that gets tagged with dead dove, yandere, and manipulation on AO3 and seeing that there are people out there who actually think like that is just... I who what when where why how p l e a s e n o
@Zephyr Probably because some of them literally embrace the ideals for women that Nazis had. I could honestly barely stand some of the posts that reminded me of what we learned during history lesson about the third Reich (I'm from Germany so we learned alot about stuff like that). Honestly, everyone can be glad, that Germany lost (I definitely am!) so acting like there was anything good about that dictatorship is somewhere between insulting and extremely absurd.
Why? Does it remind you that you've soiled yourself and the life of degeneracy you lead is ultimately empty and devoid of true purpose or satisfaction?
@Zephyr a lot of people within that community have really oppressive values and use that *cute* and *aesthetic* sort of culture to indoctrinate people into sharing their hateful values
i didn’t realize that so many people in the cottagecore community were tradwifes considering everyone i’ve met who are into cottagecore are lesbians (including myself)
same! I genuinely thought the entire cottagecore community was just WLW talking about how much they want to live in the woods and bake bread with their wives?? like?
From what I've seen most cottagecore groups are actively and explicitly anti-racist and anti-sexist, and emphasise the need to be aware of privilege and problematic elements to make sure they don't slip into the white supremacist aesthetics of tradwife which is much different to cottage core
I used to think I wanted to be a Tradwife until a couple of years ago when I began to really pay attention to my parent’s relationship. My mom is a tradwife, so for most of her life she has stayed at home and raised kids(she was 16 when she got married and now has 5 kids). My dad is very controlling as in he won’t let my mom wear dresses out, and he gets low key upset when my mom goes out with her sister(God forbid she ever goes out with her sister in a dress smh 🤦♀️ ) I’m pretty sure my dad has cheated on my mom before and my dad is starting to develop a drinking problem. Even with all this, my mother refuses to have an actual adult conversation with my dad because “that’s just the way they were raised”. My dad’s controlling behavior even spread to me and my sisters. My sister cut her hair short and dyed it red, and he continues to belittle her for it. When I mentioned lightening up my hair color, my dad looked at me all mad and told me I was crazy. I deadass looked him in the eye and told him that as a grown ass woman, I could do whatever the fuck I want with my hair. He also constantly talks shit about me doing my makeup and getting my nails done??? Cuz like it goes against his standards of ‘natural beauty’ or some shit. Don’t even get me started on the shit when I got a job. When I got my first job(at 18 in a shitty restaurant) I worked long ass days for very little pay. As the place had just opened, I doubled as both a cashier and waitress, and I was usually tired as shit by the end of the day. When I came home I was still expected to help with dinner, while my dad and older brother just sat back and watched tv. I asked my dad why my brother didn’t have to help and he got so mad he deadass told me it was because I was a woman and ‘that’s what women do’. I was livid so I stopped talking to him, it was even worse cuz my mom didn’t say anything. Just remembering what my dad has done to me alone, I could never imagine being in a relationship where I’m being constantly being disrespected and controlled in such a manner for 20+ years. I would much rather be alone and independent making my own money than look like a clown for a sexist man ✌️
Are you still living with him? Because that's lowkey abusive and may even be narcissistic. He's probably just looking for an excuse. But hey, I don't know that person.
Your story is such a good reminder that even if tradwives, submissive wives are making a choice (and if it's through religion like I learned it then it's not a choice at all), their children suffer, too. Growing up, my siblings and I were expected to completely submit to our parents and the consequences of not doing so were horrible. Our house was about control not love. I vowed for a long time to never marry or have children because I was afraid that that was the way it had to be. I'd rather die than willingly go through that. I've since come to see marriage very differently. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. Stay you.
Your father sounds like a very non empathetic individual. I tend to think his traditional values wouldn't have been as much of a problem if he didn't try to force them on you and your siblings, and actually had sympathy for your situation in the case of you being worn out from work. I do hope you don't let him discourage you in any way from living the life that you want to live, and beyond that I would, perhaps naively hope that maybe one day he'll see the error of his ways and make the proper amends.
@@ItsMeBarnaby A female doesn't need to be 'kept inline' and if you think that, maybe try flipping the roles and see how you feel then. Please never get a partner.
I feel so bad for that one woman who was "sad to say" that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, whom she loved?? I hate purity culture so much. I hate people who make anyone, but especially women, feel ashamed of their sexuality.
@@Alex_Barbosa I guess that's one way to think about it? but the way she put it made it seem like she did actually want to have sex with him, not that he was being pushy and coercive? and that she was just ashamed of that desire.
@@jupiterliam7961 it's probably both. I know women who literally got married and divorced out of HS, had some experiment times and then got remarried. They have told me they sometimes miss their old lovers. That makes them feel guilty and bad, even though their husbands may have done the same thing. Purity culture is fucked up. But it's doubly fucked up for non-straight bodies and those of us who were unwilling participants. Like I met my husband when I was 24- and we did not sleep together until I was 25. He's the only man I've ever been with- because any guys I tried go sleep with sucked at sex so they didn't get very far- I don't believe in "foreplay" it's all sex imo and if they are bad at that they're not going to be good with their dicks. But they all hold me up like I did something right. Nah ladies. Nah. I had terrible taste in men before I met him and I'm one of those useless bi/pan folk who sucks at getting with other women. These ladies need help deprogramming.
@@jupiterliam7961 Yea, what you said is pretty likely. But It still makes me uncomfortable when I hear about somebody trying to talk someone into sleeping with them after that person already said no, regardless the circumstance.
It's such a contradiction anyway - if you didnt have sexual desires, "purity" would be easy and nothing to be proud of. So being proud of abstaining from sex means you're proud you can overcome your strong desires- but shes sad she has desires?
A friend of mine is a midwife. You have NO idea the bizarre shit people name their kids. Her "favourite" one was the couple who named their newborn baby Assassin. I work in travel. All I could think was "Good luck getting a passport, kiddo."
Here's some more boy's names: Ripper Shredder Destroyer Atomfried Annihilator Gunpowder TNT Dynamite Nuke And some more for the baddest of boys: Nuclear X-treme Supreme Meister Destructinator Incarnate Terminal Supergod Zerschmetterling Breaker McDoom Hannibal Biceps
As a woman who struggles with indecision for neurodivergence reasons, I would never want to be in a relationship where my significant other automatically made all my decisions for me. Do decisions overwhelm me to the point of mentally shutting down sometimes? Absolutely. But am I still a human being who deserves to have my free will respected and my opinions heard? 100%. I don't want it assumed that I'm incompetent, I want the person that I'm with to communicate with me and discuss things together, even if the outcome is sometimes "I don't know babe, you can pick this one," because sometimes it won't be, and I want to know that I will be listened to when I need it as well. (I'm also a Christian and hearing the submission bullcrap from conservative-leaning friends has almost always been really triggering and annoying. As a neurodivergent person it's just that much more important to be seen as someone who's capable and worthy of being heard and it's Not Nice to be told that because I'm a woman, that internalized ableism is accurate. Ew.)
"it's actually really feminist of me to let my husband make all my decisions, it's my choice to never make my own choices" r u sure about that sweatie the subtitles at one point mistranslate "vintage style" as "vengeance style" and I could get behind that if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest
To be FAIR, it is technically a choice to personally be a submissive personality; it’s a problem when women like them give this advice to others who definitely will not be in a position where they can safely trust their partner. It should be “I personally want to be a housewife bc that’s just what I think fits me best,” VS “I want to be a housewife so that means every woman SHOULD BE TOO”
I came here just to post that! "if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest" like they say they hate kink shit but this is def some kink shit. You cannot tell me that "letting my husband make my decisions" in this insanely predefined way isn't motivated by being extremely horny
I've grown up in a culture of "traditional" marriages and one part that the tradwives seem to miss is that you're supposed to make decisions WITH your spouse. All of the massive investments, from the neighborhood we lived in to the car we drove, were made by both of my parents. One of the real problems about this sort of culture is that it teaches women that they're worthless if they're not married (making it even harder to leave abusive marriages), and teaches men that their wives are subhuman and can be treated as such.
I'd totally be chill staying home and baking cakes for my wealthy husband and spending my days reading and tending to my little garden, but we would have to be equal. There's no "submissive wife" in this relationship. We both respect each other and we're both equal. I'll only bake you cakes if you're a good boy. If not, I'll leave you for the pretty widow in my gardening club because I'm bisexual and I do what I want.
Hello :) I’m the weirdo from this video who made the list of baby names. Just found this video after almost a year. In fairness - I’m a bleeding heart liberal, feminist, bisexual woman, sex worker who just happens to be married to a man...when I found the “tradwife” community I thought the aesthetic was adorable and matched me fairly well. After a year of that tumblr I saw how the community was problematic and am mostly on the cottage core side of the internet. Also; I thought my baby names were adorable. 😭 Now I’m embarrassed that 1.4million people have watched this and probably made fun of me. If it makes anyone feel better, my sons are named Baker and Freddy. No names from this list were actually used. So.
The whole walking and sitting smoothly thing. My girlfriend is an absolute klutz and can barely walk and laugh at the same time without tripping, and I think it's adorable as frick
@Jhonny Auditore unfortunately if it came to it , conservatives would probably only allow abortion to be legal in all states if people were aborting fetuses that would of become a baby of color or biracial.
Cottagecore is the old world family that lives in their cottage in the woods. Trad culture is the village that murders them in the witch trials. They are not the same
@@patrickbateman312 My favorite traditional marriage is an adult man and his 11 year old bride. That's real traditional, it happened all the time in history, nothing more traditional than that. Don't forget the multiple societies with marriage that involved equality or matriarchy, or the societies where men and women had to work. Why do you care about one type of traditional?
I love how instead of a specific region, they just say "European". Like, that is where they're from. The entire continent of Europe. Not Ireland, not Italy, not even Britain. Just... all of Europe.
Right? The European continent is so diverse with different cultures and history from place to place, so how do they group all the countries together? Weird.
the whole "being polite is bad and choices will only complicate her life" basically translates to: "I need a good, moral reason to be a piece of shit human because self-improvement is harmful to my ego"
I’m a more traditional minded woman who is college educated, but feels happiest as a homemaker. My husband is a leader, but he is kind to me and always communicates with me. He wouldn’t do anything I’m uncomfortable with. I’m a Christian. I do not support “trad people” who use Christianity as a way to spread hate, racism, nationalist, don’t support consent, etc. I’m not perfect, but I try to be open to everyone and I can only hope they do the same.
we need more people like you in this world! one of the best things about modern values and feminism is that they allow for everyone to choose how they want to live. there is nothing wrong with living a more traditional lifestyle and falling into traditional gender roles, i fully support anyone who chooses that route and lifestyle as long as everyone involved is happy and consenting! i'm agnostic myself, but i was raised christian and i def do NOT support anyone who uses their religion as a tool to spread hate and negativity; especially since Jesus' teachings were all about acceptance and loving and respecting everyone. good on you for being genuinely wholesome, hope you're doing well!!! ❤
In my opinion it’s fine to want to be in a traditional marriage IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT the problem comes with the internalized misogyny, racism, and general hatred that tends to brew in these sorts of communities.
Exactly. I've heard so many stories of women not being listened to with equal seriousness as men. If a submissive relationship is made intentionally but the dominant chooses to illegitimize what the submissive says, that turns into abuse. Happened to me once and never again (except I was hoping we would be equals). Even just not being listened to by someone you listen to and trust so much is demeaning. And this nyarlathotep person is doing just that. Using sarcasm as an excuse not to listen. Intentionally showing a lack of compassion from the self says nothing about the person you're disagreeing with. All it shows is a lack of decency in the one using sarcasm.
Remember that episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where SpongeBob and Patrick had to take care of a baby clam? And Patrick was an inattentive and lazy husband who let SpongeBob do all the housework and still take care of the baby by himself? Yeah that's the lifestyle these tradwives are promoting. Not vintage cottagecore. They're promoting being submissive to what sounds like an abusive husband.
Love that you felt like the best way to explain this is with an example from Spongebob. Like, there are multiple examples of abusive relationships on TV, but you chose to go with that one. Power move.
@Nyarlathotep as soon as someone says something that alludes to them being against feminists (such as "whatever you say, feminist"), that implies that they're not one. Which means you're a sexist 🐖 I'm not ashamed of being a feminist cos I believe that men and women from different backgrounds should have equal rights. Are you proud of being a misogynist/sexist? 🐖 🐖 🐖 Oink oink
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Postmodernism wow you have 450 comments on this channel alone, i genuinely cannot imagine how pathetic your life is, man. Do you leave the house? You must smell pretty bad
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Gynocentrism It's okay bro, you can say you have no life and like to feel angry at inconsequential things. Please waste your life away even more, make sure to reach 500 comments. That's probably the only goal in life you can achieve anyway.
This stuff low-key reminds me of the BDSM community, with all the "Do as he says, without question" but in BDSM there's such an emphasis that you should do what he says because you want to, not "Do what he says because your a woman and therefore below him"
I would say in BDSM there's also more of an air of consent and with trad wife stuff it's just...going backwards in societal progress because...? I'm honestly not sure. At least in BDSM relationships, I can bank on there being aftercare and hard limits and it being mostly roleplay...What do tradwives have and why do they want this is never gonna get answered for me
Nyarlathotep I’m a straight Christian and I’m scared of straight Christians too but because of this comment I now realize that I am in fact lesbian thank you for confirming my sexuality I had no idea 🙏😌✨
Christian here: Some of the crap in this tag is embarrassing and vomit inducing as well. The implications in some of these posts that men (people in general) can never make a mistake and shouldn't ever be questioned are despicable. Not to mention the baked in racism, sexism, condescension and overall judgmental tone. Marrying and respecting someone shouldn't entail giving up your freedom of expression (or your safety) and letting them step all over you. Y I K E S
YES. As a Christian I hate that people include us in those awful ideas. Like not having any other purpose besides being a wife and mother. Not to mention all the racism which is the opposite of what God wants. It makes me want to vomit! It's so embarrassing when I say I'm Christian and people compare me to these stereotypes of being a tradwife or something.
Lesbian Atheist here... THANK YOU! It's such a breath of fresh air to see religious people like you! Normally I find them in comment sections on youtube, but as a teenager living in the suburbs of Illinois... I don't meet many people who aren't religious. And it's difficult to find more progressive (in other words, people with common sense) religious people like you. You're the type of people who will eventually help others realize their bigotry. It's not all of you, but it's certainly a loud minority, and I hope that the majority will soon, finally, tell them to shut up. Thank you! :)
Alli Carpenter det0x literally everything same (except I’m bi, lmao) seeing people who actually care and follow the good sensible parts of the Bible, like the love thy neighbor stuff is so refreshing. It’s hard to find good people in any walks of life and big groups always have some problematic people, and it’s hard to speak as the lovely comment poster did. For all of my religious friends, I wish you the best on your journey and stay brave for the good words that you follow!
What's worse is when your very Catholic dad really pushes some of these on his totally-not-having it wife and has-no-choice daughter(hey look it's me!) He's a fairly nice person, but this liberal ain't having it.
Jennie Poisson adorable! I’m a lesbian too and while it’s not the life I want for myself I do agree that it’s sooo cute and was a little fantasy of mine for a bit I usually make characters to vent all my fantasies so they don’t bounce around my head and drive me insane
i got to be honest some of these seem like they are written by men. there is a group of guys from 4chan who think writing posts like these will lure women into thinking the same because they think women are primarily lead into actions by peer pressure. LMFAO.
my ex girlfriend wanted to be a tradwife, and pushed me into the role of the "strong, dominant husband" (we werent married). i was really in love with her and tried to do anything to make her happy, but it felt like a facade and i was really unhappy
I feel like the whole "Do whatever he says. He always has your best interests at heart..." And stuff like that is how people fall into severely toxic relationships. It's like saying that if he tells you to do something, do it with no questions. If you don't want to you still have to, because HE knows what's best for you. What if he is toxic or manipulative towards you? That would make you fall into a severe bad place and becoming a mindless slave to your husband in a way. It all seems very dangerous with that stuff and those posts.
Right now I’m reading a book by Stephen King called, “Rose Madder” it about a girl who was beaten everyday by her husband for 14 years. When she finally leaves he get so mad thinking that she was supposed to obey him as if she were a pet.
My boyfriend and I are into d/s but I’ve been reading up a lot on d/s relationships and a lot of the power imbalance, even if it’s fully consensual, fills me with this visceral disgust. It’s not my position to kink-shame anyone but being in a 24/7 TPE relationship sounds awful because even if it’s the woman’s choice it still leaves her very vulnerable to be controlled and manipulated. I like being “controlled” to a certain extent (being told when to go to bed, having to eat what he cooks for me bc it’s healthy and I can’t cook for shit lol) but it’s only because I LET him control me in a way that, imo, will make me a better person and help me make better decisions for myself. I really value my strength and freedom and there’s no way in hell I’m gonna let anyone take that away from me. Hearing about toxic relationships where the man holds all the power and the wife is subservient makes me sick. There’s this idea that, in a lot of d/s relationships, the sub is allowed to give their input but the dom has the final say on all decisions and...I’m sorry but that’s just not how a healthy adult relationship works.
When I when to a pray-the-gay-away camp, we used to sit around a campfire in the middle of the forest and sing and chant "Open your womb to God". They were basically trying to turn all the girls into tradwives but I know many of the women who went to that camp and it basically had the OPPOSITE effect hahahha
As someone who really enjoys cottagecore: For me, farm/cottage aesthetic is the embodiment of my fantasy to run away from the modern world and its' complexities, to live in a remote but beautiful location that's quiet and very close to nature, to spend my days with a lovely wife, baking pies, going on hikes and picnics, casting spells and stargazing, accompanied by domestic animals and away from the urban areas most people inhabit. It's the desire I have for a more withdrawn but fantasy-like lifestyle.
Yeah cottagecore and forestcore are very much like green witch, secluded old grandma, esque culture. It's just about being in touch with yourself and nature and living simply and wholesomely. Idk from what I've seen, the most controversy we have is like "is moss or lichen better" not .... "Is Nazism valid"
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"Wearing too much makeup proves you're insecure."
"Here's an info-graph to make sure that you walk and sit in a graceful way, and a list of 25 things you need to do to be charming."
This is the sort of stuff that makes me suspicious of any specifically labeled trad community. There are communities without all this stuff for people that just like the aesthetic - the horrible, hypocritical takes don't have to be part of the deal.
In our family, the women (what our tree mostly consists of) theese are rules that are need to be kept, and they also say theese. It turns my stomach, because at the same time even they pick on each other, and sometimes call me egoist, because I do use makeup and doesn't sit like this. (Because I also wouldn't be able to breath in that position, thanks to my spine.)
Also yes i DO wear makeup cuz I’m insecure, so fucking what?
*When you're insecure without the makeup too*
DUDE yes that is such a good point
Don't tell me it's traditional marriage unless it secures military alliances between kingdoms.
+
God I wish I was a 14 year old noble daughter getting married to a rich 60 years old man
*DON'T👏CALL👏IT👏MARRIAGE👏UNLESS👏IT👏SECURES👏AN👏ALLIANCE👏BETWEEN👏GERMANY👏AND👏FRANCE👏*
Don't call your marriage traditional if you don't have the consent of both parents and a dowry 😤
I swear to the long furby, y‘all are my favourite people 😂
The honest JOY I felt when I learned that the "My husband Jeremiah" blog was faked by a enby lesbian so they could get into a trad wife discord server? Is immeasurable.
The Infiltration
@Maccer from the north o basically it just means theyre attracted to women, its not a specifically gendered term lamow
@Maccer from the north nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary people attracted to women for whom the label lesbian feels right, whether due to some connection to womanhood (psa: nonbinary people can be in some way aligned to a binary gender while being nonbinary! bigender, demigirl, etc), or connection to having been raised as a girl, or whatever else. identities aren't completely black and white, especially not one like lesbian which has referred to so many different categories of person through time both by lesbians themselves and by homophobic society
I know she said “trad wife” but my ears auto tuned it to “chad wife”
Does she drunk monster energy? Does she get more p*ssy than you? Can she slam dunk from the 3 point line? If you said yes to one or more of these questions you're wife may be a chad wife
@@mme.veronica735 there aren't enough words in the english language to describe how much you made me laugh
This!!!!!!! XD
I want a chad wife
@@SM-qv2om we all want a chad wife
"Give her commands, not requests"
Me: *Guy blinking gif*
this is a fantastic comment, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
KyleDoesArt oh my...
I was so fing confused and then i was like: Ah... I guess thats still a thing
@@Lunadragon321 The thing is i was half paying attention then that was said and it took me a hot sec to just comprehend what was just said.
KyleDoesArt yup me too and it succ that that kinda shiot still exists {i like memes btw owo;)}
“ladies, don’t settle for a man with no architectural taste.”
i mean, solid advice.
"Don't settle for anyone with no architectural taste, unless theyre aware if it then do it" -Me RN
But if they're self-aware, that means you get to make all architectural decisions yourself!
@Worm Driver that sounds like a nightmare to me
I support that message
*[Howard Roark has entered the chat]*
man as a guy I cant imagine being married to someone like this. I DONT WANNA BE IN CHARGE OF YOU I CAN BARELY HANDLE BEING IN CHARGE OF ME
Fat mood bruv
Honestly tho. In a relationship-both peeps gotta be stupid together, that's how it works.
You’re also like 15 or something so you’re obviously not ready to get married lol
@@ijakerz93 Are you another male feminist loser?
@@Nimbereth r u an incel?
Reminder: the "my husband Jeremiah" ask (12:55) was made by a lesbian trying to get into a TradWife discord server for the sake of observing the utter chaos and bullshit that writhes in that server
oh GOSH the tradwife discord 😭 i was in it for a while as a fourteen-year-old in her anti-feminist phase and it was absolutely wild
I need someone to tell me that story I'm BEGGING
@@slithra227 you can check aeons' tumblr cuz i think it was asked there (you can check archives and look for 4 months ago to find the ask as well as the story ig)
@@confuqed6481 there are many Aeons which one
I knew it!!!! Something about it just screamed satire.
u: tradwife
who she tells u not to worry about: chadwife
SKSHWJWBBSNSM
I choked
I support Chadwife
Your pfp makes this even better oml
Lets make this a tumblr community/tag now lol
Names like “Cottagecore” and “farmcore” throw me off because my brain wants to assume that they’re metal genres and all I can picture is someone like Phil Anselmo screaming about his life on a wide open range with a beautiful wife and children
AYYYY PANTERA
@PulseOfTheMaggots YA DAMN RIGHT IT IS!
BANJO INTENSIFIES
that would be rad. would listen to it 24/7
As someone who grew up and currently lives on a farm, I can almost promise the people that use “farmcore” don’t live on a fucking farm.
My mom made the priest that officiated her wedding leave out the part that’s like “You will obey him”
That's pretty badass. :D
@@Eris_Norregard ikr
Your mom (my hero) be like: Actually, I don't
There's really a part like that? Does it go both ways or is the only the wife supposed to obey the husband?
@@mlorpfit might be religioun and location but as far as I know my dad was not asked to obey
“Claims SHES bisexual bit has only dated men” okay but she’s still bisexual even if she’s only dated men, being Bi Doesnt mean you have to date both men and women it means you can
Yeah, I have a cousin who's bi and she's only dated guys.
What confused me about this one is like, would it be better if she _had_ dated women too?
I agree but if she goes out of the way to avoid woman relationships then she aint bi, like if a girl flirts with her and she feel uncomfortable but then a boy doea the same sh is ok with it its not bieng bi
Fuͮ̓cͦκͧ well yeah but from what the other things were saying I assume that’s not what they meant
@@trishalennex4630 yeah
This tag is so wild. I literally didn’t think straight people existed on tumblr.
Jenna Simone imagine being straight
Tragic
@@SilverDOMO192837 wot
Ikr
You forgot about the straight girls obsessed with serial killers
My ex left me for a tradwife. He told me I wasn’t submissive enough for him. Looking back, dodged a bullet there.
You definitely lucked out there 😅.
Ian Miles projecting, are we?
@Politically Incorrect Troll Account I like your name
@Ian Miles are you saying that's a problem
@Ian Miles That sounds great! Specially compared to being with a guy like him or like you
It's so nice to know that after all this time, the "Husband Jeremiah" blog was run by an undercover non-binary lesbian. Absolute LEGEND
WHAT?
Omg. Really?
... that is brilliant!
@@staticbeans yes we do my dude.
@@staticbeans shut the fuck up
Wouldn't it just be non-binary who's attracted to women?, doesn't lesbian imply a woman who likes women
"I will do whatever my man wants me to do because I love him and I am his wife"
c'mon just say you want a dom
For real tho can you imagine having someone order you around all the time? I get that people are into it in the bedroom, that honestly sounds kinda exciting and it's definitely on my bucket list, but it should end there, not carry over to your everyday life. It just sounds so unhealthy. Like how can you respect yourself when you are basically a slave?
@@Eris_Norregard I'll be real with you growing up my mom was pretty controlling even going to far as to beat me when she thought I wasn't listening or misheard her. She won't try that shit now I'm 25 but she jokes about it till this day that I called the cops on her because she tried to beat me for calling her bitch. She also hates anyone I talk to because they might get the idea she's a "Bad mom" because I lie, a lot apparently (you know the kinds of parents) but it's all out of 'Love."
So as of this year, I'm with my boyfriend of 9 years, celebrated 29th of August; I do ask him for permission a lot mind you it was a LOT worse when we started to date because I was used to walking on eggshells and if I so much as seemed like I wasn't listening guess who got beat? (We live with my grandparents and she's never been married but is waiting for them to die to take their stuff. .no, no that's not a dark joke)
Obsouvly I hid lots of stuff from my mom over the years and even now I'll say to my boyfriend "Hey i'm going to XYZ tomorrow after an interview for lunch." and he'll just say "You don't have to ask my permission just go." Which he says maybe 3 times a month I also learned to stop apologizing for everything and I mean EVERYTHING drop a pen? Sorry. Having a bad day? Sorry. Breath incorrectly? Sorry.
Sometimes you just never realize it or refuse to outwardly admit it. Also my grandparents live by "If your happy then that's all that matters" hell mom only kept me around not because she loved me but because if she let grandma adopt me she'd have been thrown out of the house and out of the will.
Thinking this is the life isn't really i'd say it's more like indocternation. The difference is I hid a LOT of crap from mom over the years and had friends online and irl that helped me break out of that "Do it for her because she wasn't able to" or "Because you're nothing so live my dream" mentality. But that's my two cents and no she didn't arrange my boyfriend she didn't even know I had 4 boyfreind/girlfreinds buy age 14 and she didn't know about my current for at least 3 years. Oh, and you don't even want to know what she did when she found out I was bi.
The way I choked
@@Eris_Norregard there are people in the kink community that take their dynamic outside of the bedroom but it's set up with serious consideration to consent, safewords, and limits. It's not just an inherent thing that is just assumed like these people say. You don't "just obey", the people in question have to seriously consider what they're doing. In this sort of situation there's no safeword. It's like kink but without the ability to withdraw consent.
When I was 16, this guy I talked to online told me he was a dom and me being the innocent child I was, had no idea it had to do with sex so I was like "oh cool." I think he was 18..... going to the military too. Ew.
"I'm against kinks" yet continues to argue for a daddy dom lifestyle without the "little" aspect. "Do whatever he tells you". "Follow his rules". "Wear clothing he likes". "Grow your hair to the length he wants it to be". Actually dead from how ironic that was.
@Zᴀᴛᴛᴇ Cᴏʀɪᴇ That's cool :)
lel truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
the master/slave kink
@@mintywallflower I'm a fan of dom/ sub kinks, but this is gross. Bdsm isn't based on gender, sexually, etc. I girl can dom a guy, a guy can dom a guy, an enby can dom a girl, or any other combo, but this community is based on sexism
@@dovahboi4409 yah i agree wholly we were just pointing out the contradictions in their arguments. saying kinky lifestyle is bad when they're literally advocating for one (no matter how sexist it is in reality, its pretty kinky ngl)
I’m not sorry but “atomic housewife” sounds like a weapon.
Toastwell
“Sir, we’re running out of ammo! What do we do?”
“......unleash the ATOMIC HOUSEWIFE.”
Enfys Best, it’s like that Onion video about Hillary Clinton being used against a Middle Eastern country.
Or a squad of 1950's spies who embody the housewife aesthetic while crushing skulls with their heels whenever necessary to retrieve highly classified missile launch codes.
Fool of a Toque. Omg, yes!
I would watch that movie. Especially if they went full 80’s cheese with it. Explosions everywhere!
"Have faith in your husband, as he always has your best interests at heart."
Yeah that's all well and good if you're married to a genuinely good, honest, loving person. Clearly this woman didn't come from an abusive home, with an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father. If you have one of those for a husband and I can 100% guarantee that the only person's best interests he gives a single shit about is his own.
maybe she did, and that's what was taught to her
In my experience, most people aren't saints so sometimes they think of themselves before their partners or try to hurt you emotionally in the heat of an argument. Your partner doesn't have to be abusive in order to be someone you have to stand up against sometimes, or whose intentions sometimes needs to be questioned.
Yeah whoever wrote that maybe hasn't met that many men.
(Edit: anyone of any gender can be an asshole but the "have faith in your husband" thing is specifically about men so that's what I'm responding to. Don't worry, I hate everyone equally.)
@@placeholder6092 "you hate everyone equally" and no one can understand your sexual preference?
Do I need to C-C-C-CHECK MY PRIVILEGE?
@@placeholder6092 agreed, I also like that you put that edit in there, thank you, feminism shouldn't be an excuses to be sexist in the opposite direction
This seems like.... a bunch of people who are craving a BDSM relationship but can't admit it? On both sides?
Christian bdsm but without the respect
100% closeted BDSM. Too sheltered to admit they have a fetish, but need to be in a power exchange relationship. Kinda sad and sick, relationships like this are usually toxic because consent isn't understood
@shotaro is my son I’ve seen you on NCT videos! Hello👋🏻
@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ • I'm sorry did Taeyong say you could adopt Shotaro ?? Did Yuta say you could take his lil bro ??
@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ •
Pastel BDSM is my aesthetic.
"I forgot about the lord for a second there." Is one hell of a vibe
😂
This is now my go to expression when I forget to say grace before devouring a mcmuffin
I can’t tell if that was a pun made on purpose
@@korihawks6148 I'm just here to say that I was the 1000th like. That is all.
::in soothing British documentary voice-over::
"Witness The Karen in her natural habitat. Let's see what happens when she uses her well known mating call, "CaN i SpEaK tO yOuR mAnAgEr?!"
I'm a cis straight male, but the phrase "my husband Jeremiah is my whole life" makes me gag a bit. Marriage should not be domestic servitude.
You're the man world NEEDS
I've literally been called gay before because i think the same shit. I'm a househusband with a loving wife. It's disgusting, this trad marriage shit.
@@calico8525 completely off topic but do u have any bread tips? i can make buns and things like that on a sheetpan really easily but it never works in a loaf and doesn't have a good crust. would using a metal loaf pan instead of a glass one help?
A A I would actually start using a baking stone! it helps with making crusts big time, i suggest looking into it ^^
@@calico8525 W H O L E S O M E
Yeah I’m a Tradgirl
T- tea
R- rats
A- and
D- my Nintendo 3ds
i love this comment 😂
Yo what’s ur friend code i wanna play smash bros
Say hi to your rats for me! 🐭
-a mouse owner (4 girls in a 120L bin cage)
Enjoy your cats.
Nice, another rat owner!
I have two male rats, one dark brown and cream, and another white with pink eyes.
This is literally a kink.
The man controlling everything you do and "knowing he has your best interests in mind" or some shit. That's a submissive kink. That's a daddy dom kink.
They get inspiration from Christian Grey.
@@amandatan9824 Fifty Shades of grey is not real BDSM
@@jennyshen5176 I know, it’s more like abuse. I was just trying to make a joke. Sorry if it was in bad taste.
Turns out they are just really kinky lol
I'm a gay guy, and I'm kinda into that.
But there should still be a good amount of respect and understanding.
You asked for a wife, not a servant sir
YES EXACTLY
Your profile pic fits. And agreed.
EXACTLY YES
this men: but theyre the same thing
Say it louder for the peeps at the back
"Traditional" is drawing a random line through history. Like how far back would you like to go? The 1950s, cavemen, or unicellular organism?
Jennifer Zhu unicellular-organism-wife is clearly the best aesthetic
Sorry to ruin this being a perfect 69 but its too good to not like
I'M not like you "progressive" eukaryotic cells with your _nuclei_ and your... (shudders) organelles! I'M a _traditional_ cell! _I_ dropped out of cell-school early so I could subdivide and make a family, like I was MEANT to!
Their idea about what femininity and the nuclear family pretty much only existed for wealthy Victorians and for everyone else for a ten year fluke between the end of WWII and second wave feminism in the 60’s
If you were a poor woman you still had to work at something be it turning wool into thread to make cloth or tending to the garden and chickens, being solely a housewife has been a rich person thing for much of history
It’d probably be better if these people went back to when everything reproduced asexually, so they couldn’t spew this “trad wife” bs on their kids.
"Back to Tumblr, where we're safe" was never a sentence I'd thought I would hear ever.
"to walk gracefully glide smoothly"
*starts floating*
* Wears heelies under my floor length dress and glides along the floor like a wraith *
@@mme.veronica735 💀
*Floats in the air ominously while tposing*
*Tied to a stake and then burnt for being a witch because these people also believe that witchcraft is the devil.*
Wait, so cottagecore isn't about being a gay witch who performs druidic rites in the forest by night, and bakes delicious berry pies for her many lovers by day? Oh...
I mean, that does sound more fun tho..
...Can we have that as a television series? That sounds amazing lmao.
Cottage core sounds like a lesbian witch aesthetic tbh. Or maybe there's one lesbian witch and the other is a fae queen and they go out for moonlit flights and stuff
All I want in life honestly
if it's not, it should be
#ReclaimCottageCoreForTheWitches
Fun fact, there was a tradwife Twitter account that tweeted something like "sad that traditional household power dynamics are now immediately associated with BDSM," and then someone replied with the account's header image, which was straight up a woman in manacles. The reply? "So the use of restraints on a woman ubiquitously equals kink? Be careful about proving our point."
That is so CREEPY.
B- bruh 💀💀 the fbi should put him on a watchlist
This dude needs to be told that
Hippity Hoppity
WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR FUCKING PROPERTY
I- what else...is that supposed to be 😬
Lesson from the Kink Side of Kik, if the male has a submissive female in restraints anywhere on his profile he is gross.
Maybe not illegally gross
But gross
At 25, I was married. And just like this naive young lady, I thought I would follow the “biblical way.” Adore my husband, be available for him, listen to his wants and needs. Flash forward at age 50, my man of my dreams became a weak willed, spineless worm of a man with a serious drinking problem. I realized all the strength he supposedly possessed was actually what he sucked out of me. Thank god I was raised by a practical man who insisted that I finish college and be an independent woman. I had been a wife for so long, I had forgotten whose daughter I was. I found a good attorney and filed for divorce. Got my resume together and went back to work. Six years latter, I could not be happier. I have a job I love, my daughter is thriving in college and I’m planning to buy my own home. These women haven’t a clue. My advice? Don’t stop working. Keep your skills up so when your devoted man runs off with the secretary or nurse or becomes a alcoholic in 25-30 years you will be marketable and go out on your own. Stand on your own two feet, ladies:)
honestly i'm so proud of you xx
Good on you! I agree!
I keep telling young women in the comments section of tradwife videos that they need to have a marketable skill before marriage and children, and I get a lot of hate for this advice. It isn't enough for women to be tradwives, but they must be so dependent on husbands that divorcing them means poverty.
I mean not all dudes are crappy like that and going to run off.
But yeah, be careful who you give power to in your life
@Jessica Messica
Being careful is not enough. Know how to be self-sufficient. Teenage girls need to learn about financial abuse. Many of the tradwife videos are discouraging young women from getting college degrees or marketable skills. This gives husbands too much power, making the wives vulnerable to financial abuse.
I believe a lifestyle like this is completely valid as long as you don't have a controlling partner, you're happy and you don't bash other people for being non-traditional.
They almost always DO bash other people, is the issue.
It's an ideology war.
@@brookebrothers9883 yeah that's kinda sad.
I don't think people who live that lifestyle call themselves traditional wives though. They tend to refer to themselves as homemakers or stay at homes or housewives. Not traditional wife.
Her lipstick is lit, let's talk about how her lipstick is lit.
It is indeed lit.
lit lipstick? did you mean
litstick
Her lipstick is lit!
very lit, very lit indeed
anything she does is lit
cottagecore is supposed to be wholesome and about wanting to own plants and bake and it’s all about what you WANT and not what you should do. it’s very soft and nice and the toxic tradwife shit doesn’t belong.
Damn i like plants
Also mushrooms are cool too damn
cottagecore belongs to the lesbians
Cottagecore is just the lesbian version, while tradwife is just the catholic version
@@chiaracardena9087 SKYRIM BELONGS TO THE NORDS!!!
I kinda wanna make an account, find these posts and say "I'm a tradwife do these things apply to me and my wife because I don't have a husband" just to see what people say. (fyi it's not true lmao)
bro do it
When someone says womanhood I start having gay non Christian thoughts.
I-
Same here
Fanfiction has ruined me
_M’bruh_
It's the fanfiction talking
Fanfic is a blessing and a curse
I feel like cottagecore is just gay people’s take on a woodsy traditional homesteading aesthetic without the homophobia, sexism and racism
yup thats it
I mean thats the ultimate fantasy of : "What if we lived in the woods, lived a cute lifestyle and do dumb sh*t together but we're both girls ? Ahah just kidding ... Unless ?
@Sir The Third yep, that. I imagine living in the countryside would be pretty hard, moreso "in the woods". But people are fed up with social pressure
Basically yeah
Clarett like it’s barbie and the diamond castle
"You married the man you respect, now respect the man you married" is right up there with "America is great because America is good."
Like. Duh. Of course you should respect the man you married. Just as he should respect you. A healthy marriage is based on loving, respecting, trusting, and communicating with each other. I hate the idea that women should just respect their husbands "just because." Respect is something you earn by being a decent person and respecting other people.
It's like marriage involves respect and communication that goes both ways...
Y'all please stop spilling government secrets in the replies
Worm Driver lmao same I’d dip
I’ve got long blonde hair and live in dresses, but this makes me want to shave my head and escape to the woods donning a shell suit
Get that crazy expensive Gucci one.
yes
I really don't understand the "guys don't reclaim the trad girl and draw her making out with girls because she was made by a nazi" the whole point is to piss those nazis off by warping their image of a "perfect woman" by showing her doing things that anger them. That's why boulderhurl edits are okay, because they are made to mock him and his terrible ideologies and comics.
I guess. It still kinda feeds into it with the "pretty traditional wife" being blonde but also pissing off Nazis is fun.
Your Stonetoss edits only serve to further his points lol
I don't like these people mixing with the cottagecore community. I just want to live in a cottage and bake bread for my wife.
And forage some bomb ass edible berries and mushrooms, bless
Lesbians baking for one another?! :0
And make jam and churn butter to put on the bread.
Yes, and do witchcraft with my cat and then bake a pie
As a husband, yes! And not just bread. Cakes, pies, full roasts every day. Honestly if I could just spend all day gardening and baking I'd be happy.
The "married 0.5 years " one almost gave me a stroke.
the post actually said 0.05 years
@@Robin-of2jt Doing the math... thats 18 days...........
5:46
OH THAT EVEN WORSE.
"sit up straight"
Me, lying over my armchair like a dramatic unspeakable in the eighteenth century: oh.
Can I just say as a man like "being the head of the house" and "controlling my wife" sounds super gross to me? Like no thank you
I would much rather my wife control me lmao
@@ashtonzeeman7243 So you're a malewife?
When someone says the words "being the head of the house" and "control," run away as far as you can because 100%, that is guarantee a toxic person. He's just in it for the status and a meatbag at his side.
No. It means he’s the protector & of you & your home. “The man is the head of the house but the woman is the neck & she can turn the head any way she wants” - my big fat Greek wedding.
@@ashtonzeeman7243 Well that shows that you are not confortable with men controling women but you do with women controling men, that shows that you are an hypocrate and a mangina
Every time I think of "traditional families" I think of the long lasting stereotype of tv relationships where the wife is a nagging shrew, and the husband is a moronic sexist. Neither of them seem happy, and the relationship seems to either center around the kids or pure spite. Bonus points if the husband is also a drunk, and this is treated as kooky rather than a serious character flaw.
also if the mom is lowkey an alcoholic from nonstop drinking wine to "cope" with her shitty husband and kids
Sounds like you're projecting your own problems on healthy, stable relationships. Either that, or you're showing how easily and completely media brainwashed you.
@@patrickbateman312 Hey, dipshit, they were talking about a long-lasting media stereotype, not real life
@@patrickbateman312 Strange, I didn't hire an illiterate armchair psychologist.
@@patrickbateman312 or they're talking about the image media paints of traditional families.
My goal is to be the ultimate tradwife. My father arranges my dowry at 6 months old, I get married at 12, have 7 children, and die of the plague at 19
ohnoimsam ahh you’re one of the lucky ones
That's how you commit to the bit!
As a fellow Unus I too want to be the ultimate tradwife
My dad just needs to find me an Annus to marry-
ah lucky you, i haven’t had kid yet so my 46 years old husband would punish me every night, but it’s okay cause if i run away i would be a dishonor to them
@@SketchUT Totally not a cult!
That one about giving women commands instead of requests because women "don't need to think" literally had me gagging. This is the kind of relationship dynamic that gets tagged with dead dove, yandere, and manipulation on AO3 and seeing that there are people out there who actually think like that is just...
I
who what when where why how p l e a s e n o
dead dove shit is meant to stay as a fic trope DON’T BRING THAT SHIT TO REALITY AAAAAAAAA
The Jeremiah one is a troll blog who got their friend to send them hate asks so they could eventually infiltrate a Tradwife discord server.
What an icon
Please send me the story this is the stuff i need in my life
going through the tradwife tag literally gives me a headache
@Zephyr Probably because some of them literally embrace the ideals for women that Nazis had. I could honestly barely stand some of the posts that reminded me of what we learned during history lesson about the third Reich (I'm from Germany so we learned alot about stuff like that). Honestly, everyone can be glad, that Germany lost (I definitely am!) so acting like there was anything good about that dictatorship is somewhere between insulting and extremely absurd.
@Zephyr it's just not good vibes my dude ! a lot of it is written in a flowery way, but it's very much got dark and hateful undertones
Why? Does it remind you that you've soiled yourself and the life of degeneracy you lead is ultimately empty and devoid of true purpose or satisfaction?
Patrick Bateman calm down mate
@Zephyr a lot of people within that community have really oppressive values and use that *cute* and *aesthetic* sort of culture to indoctrinate people into sharing their hateful values
i didn’t realize that so many people in the cottagecore community were tradwifes considering everyone i’ve met who are into cottagecore are lesbians (including myself)
same! I genuinely thought the entire cottagecore community was just WLW talking about how much they want to live in the woods and bake bread with their wives?? like?
"There is not only one tradwife in this family, but TWO!!!"
Oh to be married to a woman in a cottage with our chickens and garden 🥰
yeah same
Cottagecore lesbians unite! 👌😅
I'm mad that cottagecore has gotten messed up like this. It's supposed to be about cute animals, baking, and picking flowers, not sexism.
From what I've seen most cottagecore groups are actively and explicitly anti-racist and anti-sexist, and emphasise the need to be aware of privilege and problematic elements to make sure they don't slip into the white supremacist aesthetics of tradwife which is much different to cottage core
Man, why want a house-wife when you can be a house-husband?? catch me making bread for my girlfriend in my binder and apron
Yes
That's what I want in a man.
Thats so wholesome, I love this.
laughs in immortal tatsu
ok but that's adorable omg
I used to think I wanted to be a Tradwife until a couple of years ago when I began to really pay attention to my parent’s relationship. My mom is a tradwife, so for most of her life she has stayed at home and raised kids(she was 16 when she got married and now has 5 kids). My dad is very controlling as in he won’t let my mom wear dresses out, and he gets low key upset when my mom goes out with her sister(God forbid she ever goes out with her sister in a dress smh 🤦♀️ ) I’m pretty sure my dad has cheated on my mom before and my dad is starting to develop a drinking problem. Even with all this, my mother refuses to have an actual adult conversation with my dad because “that’s just the way they were raised”. My dad’s controlling behavior even spread to me and my sisters. My sister cut her hair short and dyed it red, and he continues to belittle her for it. When I mentioned lightening up my hair color, my dad looked at me all mad and told me I was crazy. I deadass looked him in the eye and told him that as a grown ass woman, I could do whatever the fuck I want with my hair. He also constantly talks shit about me doing my makeup and getting my nails done??? Cuz like it goes against his standards of ‘natural beauty’ or some shit. Don’t even get me started on the shit when I got a job. When I got my first job(at 18 in a shitty restaurant) I worked long ass days for very little pay. As the place had just opened, I doubled as both a cashier and waitress, and I was usually tired as shit by the end of the day. When I came home I was still expected to help with dinner, while my dad and older brother just sat back and watched tv. I asked my dad why my brother didn’t have to help and he got so mad he deadass told me it was because I was a woman and ‘that’s what women do’. I was livid so I stopped talking to him, it was even worse cuz my mom didn’t say anything. Just remembering what my dad has done to me alone, I could never imagine being in a relationship where I’m being constantly being disrespected and controlled in such a manner for 20+ years. I would much rather be alone and independent making my own money than look like a clown for a sexist man ✌️
Are you still living with him?
Because that's lowkey abusive and may even be narcissistic. He's probably just looking for an excuse.
But hey, I don't know that person.
Your story is such a good reminder that even if tradwives, submissive wives are making a choice (and if it's through religion like I learned it then it's not a choice at all), their children suffer, too. Growing up, my siblings and I were expected to completely submit to our parents and the consequences of not doing so were horrible. Our house was about control not love. I vowed for a long time to never marry or have children because I was afraid that that was the way it had to be. I'd rather die than willingly go through that. I've since come to see marriage very differently. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. Stay you.
Your father sounds like a very non empathetic individual. I tend to think his traditional values wouldn't have been as much of a problem if he didn't try to force them on you and your siblings, and actually had sympathy for your situation in the case of you being worn out from work. I do hope you don't let him discourage you in any way from living the life that you want to live, and beyond that I would, perhaps naively hope that maybe one day he'll see the error of his ways and make the proper amends.
Joffrey Bieber a man shouldn’t “keep her in line”
@@ItsMeBarnaby A female doesn't need to be 'kept inline' and if you think that, maybe try flipping the roles and see how you feel then.
Please never get a partner.
I feel so bad for that one woman who was "sad to say" that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, whom she loved?? I hate purity culture so much. I hate people who make anyone, but especially women, feel ashamed of their sexuality.
Yea it can be pretty toxic. But I am glad her brother intervened. It sounded liker her boyfriend was being too pushy and coercive.
@@Alex_Barbosa I guess that's one way to think about it? but the way she put it made it seem like she did actually want to have sex with him, not that he was being pushy and coercive? and that she was just ashamed of that desire.
@@jupiterliam7961 it's probably both. I know women who literally got married and divorced out of HS, had some experiment times and then got remarried. They have told me they sometimes miss their old lovers. That makes them feel guilty and bad, even though their husbands may have done the same thing. Purity culture is fucked up. But it's doubly fucked up for non-straight bodies and those of us who were unwilling participants. Like I met my husband when I was 24- and we did not sleep together until I was 25. He's the only man I've ever been with- because any guys I tried go sleep with sucked at sex so they didn't get very far- I don't believe in "foreplay" it's all sex imo and if they are bad at that they're not going to be good with their dicks. But they all hold me up like I did something right. Nah ladies. Nah. I had terrible taste in men before I met him and I'm one of those useless bi/pan folk who sucks at getting with other women. These ladies need help deprogramming.
@@jupiterliam7961 Yea, what you said is pretty likely. But It still makes me uncomfortable when I hear about somebody trying to talk someone into sleeping with them after that person already said no, regardless the circumstance.
It's such a contradiction anyway - if you didnt have sexual desires, "purity" would be easy and nothing to be proud of. So being proud of abstaining from sex means you're proud you can overcome your strong desires- but shes sad she has desires?
Talon???? Why would you name your *human* child talon??????
A friend of mine is a midwife. You have NO idea the bizarre shit people name their kids. Her "favourite" one was the couple who named their newborn baby Assassin. I work in travel. All I could think was "Good luck getting a passport, kiddo."
used to know a guy in elementary school named talon
I know people named after fruits. Ex: Peaches.
@@lynndoesntexist That's so fucked up. Can't parents just vent their creativeness elsewhere and not on a sentient living being. -_-
Eris Nattvingen i mean there’s names i like that are somewhat different (ivy, clementine, charlie for a girl) but cmon. talon?????
ah yes, my dream life: have a marriage arranged while i am in the womb, i marry at 15, bare at least 10 children and die before my 40s
Ah those were the times
tradwife just seems like the christian version of ddlg
OH MY GOD YOU'RE RIGHT
Please don't make me overthink my kinks even more thank you
@Aloise Dawdle Daddy Dom Little Girl
Shannon Yongbanthom yes domestic discipline 🤤
why would you say something so brave yet so controversial?
Here's some more boy's names:
Ripper
Shredder
Destroyer
Atomfried
Annihilator
Gunpowder
TNT
Dynamite
Nuke
And some more for the baddest of boys:
Nuclear X-treme
Supreme Meister
Destructinator Incarnate
Terminal Supergod
Zerschmetterling
Breaker McDoom
Hannibal Biceps
Shredder is my favorite
What about gun?
Caleb Fury gun is a cute name
"Gun Bullet, you better get down from that tree right this instant, young man!"
I like Deagle and AK-47, myself
As a woman who struggles with indecision for neurodivergence reasons, I would never want to be in a relationship where my significant other automatically made all my decisions for me. Do decisions overwhelm me to the point of mentally shutting down sometimes? Absolutely. But am I still a human being who deserves to have my free will respected and my opinions heard? 100%. I don't want it assumed that I'm incompetent, I want the person that I'm with to communicate with me and discuss things together, even if the outcome is sometimes "I don't know babe, you can pick this one," because sometimes it won't be, and I want to know that I will be listened to when I need it as well.
(I'm also a Christian and hearing the submission bullcrap from conservative-leaning friends has almost always been really triggering and annoying. As a neurodivergent person it's just that much more important to be seen as someone who's capable and worthy of being heard and it's Not Nice to be told that because I'm a woman, that internalized ableism is accurate. Ew.)
They should try to become a wife in an conservative Asian household, and experience what a traditional wife really is.
Not fun
"it's actually really feminist of me to let my husband make all my decisions, it's my choice to never make my own choices" r u sure about that sweatie
the subtitles at one point mistranslate "vintage style" as "vengeance style" and I could get behind that
if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest
I'd be super into vintage vengeance style
To be FAIR, it is technically a choice to personally be a submissive personality; it’s a problem when women like them give this advice to others who definitely will not be in a position where they can safely trust their partner.
It should be “I personally want to be a housewife bc that’s just what I think fits me best,” VS “I want to be a housewife so that means every woman SHOULD BE TOO”
@@Cosplaybuddygiraffes Technicalities. It's about as much of a choice as the people in SAW "technically" have a "choice" to get out alive.
I came here just to post that! "if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest" like they say they hate kink shit but this is def some kink shit. You cannot tell me that "letting my husband make my decisions" in this insanely predefined way isn't motivated by being extremely horny
I've grown up in a culture of "traditional" marriages and one part that the tradwives seem to miss is that you're supposed to make decisions WITH your spouse. All of the massive investments, from the neighborhood we lived in to the car we drove, were made by both of my parents. One of the real problems about this sort of culture is that it teaches women that they're worthless if they're not married (making it even harder to leave abusive marriages), and teaches men that their wives are subhuman and can be treated as such.
I'd totally be chill staying home and baking cakes for my wealthy husband and spending my days reading and tending to my little garden, but we would have to be equal. There's no "submissive wife" in this relationship. We both respect each other and we're both equal. I'll only bake you cakes if you're a good boy. If not, I'll leave you for the pretty widow in my gardening club because I'm bisexual and I do what I want.
Goals
Literally same. The whole thing
Ella Hendrickson same but in lesbian
yes!
asdhadsasjh i'd be the widow after murdering my husband but making it look like a *dramatically drapes self over chaise longue* tragic accident
Hello :) I’m the weirdo from this video who made the list of baby names. Just found this video after almost a year. In fairness - I’m a bleeding heart liberal, feminist, bisexual woman, sex worker who just happens to be married to a man...when I found the “tradwife” community I thought the aesthetic was adorable and matched me fairly well. After a year of that tumblr I saw how the community was problematic and am mostly on the cottage core side of the internet.
Also; I thought my baby names were adorable. 😭 Now I’m embarrassed that 1.4million people have watched this and probably made fun of me.
If it makes anyone feel better, my sons are named Baker and Freddy.
No names from this list were actually used. So.
that's a helluva glow up
The whole walking and sitting smoothly thing. My girlfriend is an absolute klutz and can barely walk and laugh at the same time without tripping, and I think it's adorable as frick
Thanks for not abusing “Henry” in the baby names, means a lot
fuckin Henry lol
Henry the 8th would like to have a conversation
@@rx500android Henry the 8th can stay exactly where he is, he is not invited.
My name's Henry too.
it's a normal name at least
“Aborted her black baby last year”-excuse me WHAT
sad frog black babies are aborted more than any other race of baby. Look it up.
Among its mentions of various races in different ways, consider this meme signed by nazis
@Jhonny Auditore unfortunately if it came to it , conservatives would probably only allow abortion to be legal in all states if people were aborting fetuses that would of become a baby of color or biracial.
@@meganbeyer1996 unfortunately I think a small bit of it is because it's hard to deny cheating when the baby is the "wrong" color 😬💔
tbh the baby didn't deserve that environment anyway lol
Cottagecore is the old world family that lives in their cottage in the woods. Trad culture is the village that murders them in the witch trials. They are not the same
"Follow his rules" "Don't be polite to women" "Do Whatever He Tells You"
It sounds like Fifty Shades of Grey bad parody 😂
flashbacks to 50 Shades and 365 lol
Marriage is a team neither parties should have more power than the other in every aspect of it
Clearly the nature of traditional marriage escapes you.
@@patrickbateman312 do you realize that your profile picture is literally the protagonist of "American psycho"
Idk the woman being in power is pretty hot
@@fourtwenty1813 tfw no mommy gf :(
@@patrickbateman312 My favorite traditional marriage is an adult man and his 11 year old bride. That's real traditional, it happened all the time in history, nothing more traditional than that. Don't forget the multiple societies with marriage that involved equality or matriarchy, or the societies where men and women had to work. Why do you care about one type of traditional?
I love how instead of a specific region, they just say "European".
Like, that is where they're from.
The entire continent of Europe.
Not Ireland, not Italy, not even Britain. Just... all of Europe.
It's like asking someone where they live and they just hit you with "planet Earth"
Right? The European continent is so diverse with different cultures and history from place to place, so how do they group all the countries together? Weird.
What they meant to say is "she has to be white"
As an European, it generally sadden me when people just put us all together like that.
@@aliveslice This. It's naked White supremacy.
the whole "being polite is bad and choices will only complicate her life" basically translates to: "I need a good, moral reason to be a piece of shit human because self-improvement is harmful to my ego"
I’m a more traditional minded woman who is college educated, but feels happiest as a homemaker. My husband is a leader, but he is kind to me and always communicates with me. He wouldn’t do anything I’m uncomfortable with. I’m a Christian. I do not support “trad people” who use Christianity as a way to spread hate, racism, nationalist, don’t support consent, etc. I’m not perfect, but I try to be open to everyone and I can only hope they do the same.
we need more people like you in this world! one of the best things about modern values and feminism is that they allow for everyone to choose how they want to live. there is nothing wrong with living a more traditional lifestyle and falling into traditional gender roles, i fully support anyone who chooses that route and lifestyle as long as everyone involved is happy and consenting! i'm agnostic myself, but i was raised christian and i def do NOT support anyone who uses their religion as a tool to spread hate and negativity; especially since Jesus' teachings were all about acceptance and loving and respecting everyone. good on you for being genuinely wholesome, hope you're doing well!!! ❤
I hate how cottagecore has been jumbled up in all this. Like, let me bake bread with my girlfriend
Yeah like cottage core is 99% wlw who want to bake bread and plant flowers
with her girlfriend
Same
I like bread
@@horrificreader4084 ooh, flirting in the comments. Creative I'll give you that
@@horrificreader4084 I'm not opposed though
In my opinion it’s fine to want to be in a traditional marriage IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT the problem comes with the internalized misogyny, racism, and general hatred that tends to brew in these sorts of communities.
Exactly. I've heard so many stories of women not being listened to with equal seriousness as men. If a submissive relationship is made intentionally but the dominant chooses to illegitimize what the submissive says, that turns into abuse. Happened to me once and never again (except I was hoping we would be equals). Even just not being listened to by someone you listen to and trust so much is demeaning.
And this nyarlathotep person is doing just that. Using sarcasm as an excuse not to listen. Intentionally showing a lack of compassion from the self says nothing about the person you're disagreeing with. All it shows is a lack of decency in the one using sarcasm.
Nyarlathotep nobody cares
I'd like this 10 times if I could!
Nyarlathotep they can make their own comments, it’s not meant to entertain you. scroll if you don’t like it, dumbass
Normal Straight people must be so embarrassed about this
Yup we don’t claim them
Yes we are
We are
We are
Yes we are. Its weird
I'd pick being alone 10/10 times over being in a "male-led marriage"
catch me finding myself a male led marriage 🏳🌈
Remember that episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where SpongeBob and Patrick had to take care of a baby clam? And Patrick was an inattentive and lazy husband who let SpongeBob do all the housework and still take care of the baby by himself?
Yeah that's the lifestyle these tradwives are promoting. Not vintage cottagecore. They're promoting being submissive to what sounds like an abusive husband.
Love that you felt like the best way to explain this is with an example from Spongebob. Like, there are multiple examples of abusive relationships on TV, but you chose to go with that one. Power move.
@@natvasch6399 what can I say? SpongeBob SquarePants had a lot of social commentary 😂
@Nyarlathotep as soon as someone says something that alludes to them being against feminists (such as "whatever you say, feminist"), that implies that they're not one.
Which means you're a sexist 🐖
I'm not ashamed of being a feminist cos I believe that men and women from different backgrounds should have equal rights.
Are you proud of being a misogynist/sexist? 🐖 🐖 🐖
Oink oink
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Postmodernism wow you have 450 comments on this channel alone, i genuinely cannot imagine how pathetic your life is, man. Do you leave the house? You must smell pretty bad
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Gynocentrism It's okay bro, you can say you have no life and like to feel angry at inconsequential things. Please waste your life away even more, make sure to reach 500 comments.
That's probably the only goal in life you can achieve anyway.
Me: no fear
Your name being on the tradwife baby name list:
Me: one fear
f in the chat my bro
I’m so sorry
For anyone wondering, my name is Alice wich is a pretty common name but seeing it on the list was still a bruh moment
My name is prob on there. Patrica.
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I'm a Lucy...so, we're both stuck on this.
I’m so glad lesbians reclaimed the cottagecore aesthetic
I feel like their husbands are the type of men who gag at unused tampons and arm hair
She's like a lesbian mom it's oddly comfortable
This stuff low-key reminds me of the BDSM community, with all the "Do as he says, without question" but in BDSM there's such an emphasis that you should do what he says because you want to, not "Do what he says because your a woman and therefore below him"
Reactionaries really do seem to exist just to take the fun out of everything.
I would say in BDSM there's also more of an air of consent and with trad wife stuff it's just...going backwards in societal progress because...? I'm honestly not sure. At least in BDSM relationships, I can bank on there being aftercare and hard limits and it being mostly roleplay...What do tradwives have and why do they want this is never gonna get answered for me
it's like BDSM but without all the good stuff
Chocolate Doughnut WAIT I LITERALKY JUST LEFT A COMMENT THAT SAID THIS GIVES ME LOWKEY SEXUAL VIBES
being below one is kind of a kink too, so
Important update: the "my husband Jeremiah" person was legitimately a troll
epic
do you have the full story? Im so curious and no ones sharing the entire thing
It’s all fun and games for the husband until he dies and his wife is having “tea” with the neighbors wife
As a straight Christian, straight Christians scare me
update: i no longer identify as any of the above
Same thing here. I love god but I’m not going to be a slave to a man. It’s a partnership not a slave situation
As a non straight Christian, same
Nyarlathotep I’m a straight Christian and I’m scared of straight Christians too but because of this comment I now realize that I am in fact lesbian thank you for confirming my sexuality I had no idea 🙏😌✨
@Nyarlathotep lmao it was a joke chill
As a gay Christian, straight Christians scare me too.
Christian here: Some of the crap in this tag is embarrassing and vomit inducing as well.
The implications in some of these posts that men (people in general) can never make a mistake and shouldn't ever be questioned are despicable. Not to mention the baked in racism, sexism, condescension and overall judgmental tone. Marrying and respecting someone shouldn't entail giving up your freedom of expression (or your safety) and letting them step all over you. Y I K E S
YES. As a Christian I hate that people include us in those awful ideas. Like not having any other purpose besides being a wife and mother. Not to mention all the racism which is the opposite of what God wants. It makes me want to vomit! It's so embarrassing when I say I'm Christian and people compare me to these stereotypes of being a tradwife or something.
Lesbian Atheist here... THANK YOU! It's such a breath of fresh air to see religious people like you! Normally I find them in comment sections on youtube, but as a teenager living in the suburbs of Illinois... I don't meet many people who aren't religious. And it's difficult to find more progressive (in other words, people with common sense) religious people like you. You're the type of people who will eventually help others realize their bigotry. It's not all of you, but it's certainly a loud minority, and I hope that the majority will soon, finally, tell them to shut up. Thank you! :)
Alli Carpenter det0x literally everything same (except I’m bi, lmao) seeing people who actually care and follow the good sensible parts of the Bible, like the love thy neighbor stuff is so refreshing. It’s hard to find good people in any walks of life and big groups always have some problematic people, and it’s hard to speak as the lovely comment poster did. For all of my religious friends, I wish you the best on your journey and stay brave for the good words that you follow!
What's worse is when your very Catholic dad really pushes some of these on his totally-not-having it wife and has-no-choice daughter(hey look it's me!) He's a fairly nice person, but this liberal ain't having it.
Kagumiin i thought your name was “christian” and you were announcing it like it somehow played relevancy to the topic and then went “ o h “
"Why is it so complicated to walk?!"
I asked myself the same thing after I slipped on air and crushed my foot for over three weeks.
I just got a ladder day saints add before this vid lol
OMG her face after the ‘respect the man you married’ post has the most disguised lesbian energy I’ve ever seen
The Wail of a Dying Coyote you question my power, mortal?
A lesbian disgusted at respecting a man, the world is truly shocked by this revelation.
Garlic! at the disco. Garlic! at the disco. Garlic! at the disco.
Patrick Bateman here's the small peepee troll
@@sakuraogami6885 Troll yes but funnily enough among all the women I've known, never once have I received a complaint about my dick size.
I wanna be a trad wife but like as a lesbian atheist, I just wanna stay home taking care of the dogs while making pies for my wife.
:)) yes
Jennie Poisson adorable!
I’m a lesbian too and while it’s not the life I want for myself I do agree that it’s sooo cute and was a little fantasy of mine for a bit
I usually make characters to vent all my fantasies so they don’t bounce around my head and drive me insane
This exactly.
I can and will bake pies while wearing long skirts and cute sweaters.
Jennie Poisson may I interest you in lesbian cottagecore?
Me and my girlfriend’s dream
As a married woman, I feel so sorry for my husband having to deal with me making money for our family. Maybe someday I will learn my place 😔
I wanna live in a mushroom shaped cottage in the woods and be a stinky goblin man.
Live your dreams
Everything about this-- from the name, to the pic, to the comment --is perfection.
I felt this
Do you have your GA (Goblin Administration) assigned collection of Cool Rocks and Shiny Things yet?
@@mattuwu9978 why yes of course, I even have a tin of teeth
i got to be honest some of these seem like they are written by men. there is a group of guys from 4chan who think writing posts like these will lure women into thinking the same because they think women are primarily lead into actions by peer pressure. LMFAO.
100% my thoughts exactly.
Yes, some sound very "hello, fellow females" to me.
Or people trolling. Definitely a lot of trolling, too.
Anna L TERFs also call women females
Michael Merritt no they don’t. lmao.
@@aa-wc2oc They really do hun.
my ex girlfriend wanted to be a tradwife, and pushed me into the role of the "strong, dominant husband" (we werent married). i was really in love with her and tried to do anything to make her happy, but it felt like a facade and i was really unhappy
Similar happened to me but it was the best thing for me- really pulled me out of my shell, enhanced my leadership qualities and confidence.
You dodged a bullet, my friend
Wait till a dumb incel calls you beta lmaoo
hope you foudn a good girl(or boy) king you deserve better
Inb4 someone calls you a simp for not wanting to boss your significant other around
"I follow a non-traditional religion."
"...Does that mean you're in a cult?"
Yes. Jesus is the true answer to life.
Yyyyyessir
Join my cult. We believe 2+2=5. That’s it. We are a simple people.
Tala B im interested in your cult.
@@AverageEggmonEnthusiast do you respect worms on a string tho? That's one of those things that make or break a cult
my husband has a cousin who named her son "Bow Hunter" not "Bo", not "Beau", BOW HUNTER!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO
flamevein she-ra be punching the air rn
cherri blossom I WAS JUST ABT TO COMMENT THE SAME THINT 💀 spop s5 tonight 🤪
She reminds me of those MMORPG players
🤮🤢
I feel like the whole "Do whatever he says. He always has your best interests at heart..." And stuff like that is how people fall into severely toxic relationships. It's like saying that if he tells you to do something, do it with no questions. If you don't want to you still have to, because HE knows what's best for you. What if he is toxic or manipulative towards you? That would make you fall into a severe bad place and becoming a mindless slave to your husband in a way. It all seems very dangerous with that stuff and those posts.
Right now I’m reading a book by Stephen King called, “Rose Madder” it about a girl who was beaten everyday by her husband for 14 years. When she finally leaves he get so mad thinking that she was supposed to obey him as if she were a pet.
Keira Laub that sounds awesome. I’m actually reading the The Shining right now, but I’m going to check out that book as soon as I finish
My boyfriend and I are into d/s but I’ve been reading up a lot on d/s relationships and a lot of the power imbalance, even if it’s fully consensual, fills me with this visceral disgust. It’s not my position to kink-shame anyone but being in a 24/7 TPE relationship sounds awful because even if it’s the woman’s choice it still leaves her very vulnerable to be controlled and manipulated. I like being “controlled” to a certain extent (being told when to go to bed, having to eat what he cooks for me bc it’s healthy and I can’t cook for shit lol) but it’s only because I LET him control me in a way that, imo, will make me a better person and help me make better decisions for myself. I really value my strength and freedom and there’s no way in hell I’m gonna let anyone take that away from me. Hearing about toxic relationships where the man holds all the power and the wife is subservient makes me sick. There’s this idea that, in a lot of d/s relationships, the sub is allowed to give their input but the dom has the final say on all decisions and...I’m sorry but that’s just not how a healthy adult relationship works.
@RUclips's CEO Is An Asshole
Bad men and women can and do abuse power relationships all the time.
@RUclips's CEO Is An Asshole
Ditto.
When I when to a pray-the-gay-away camp, we used to sit around a campfire in the middle of the forest and sing and chant "Open your womb to God".
They were basically trying to turn all the girls into tradwives but I know many of the women who went to that camp and it basically had the OPPOSITE effect hahahha
Open your womb?? That is so creepy lmaoo
Blessed day. May the LORD open.
Handmaidens Tales lmao
Cᴜʀsᴇᴅ drarry
That sCREAMS Gilead
Tradwifes: "I'm against kinks"
Also Tradwifes: "I'd like my *daddy* to control everything I do"
*sounds pretty kinky to me*
tradwives again: *calls God Father*
😂
Top me Heavenly Daddy
I am so sorry
Abby Wolffe I need to bleach my eyes and when I’m forced into church that’s all I’m gonna think about
I think they're just confusing their kinks with a worldview
As someone who really enjoys cottagecore:
For me, farm/cottage aesthetic is the embodiment of my fantasy to run away from the modern world and its' complexities, to live in a remote but beautiful location that's quiet and very close to nature, to spend my days with a lovely wife, baking pies, going on hikes and picnics, casting spells and stargazing, accompanied by domestic animals and away from the urban areas most people inhabit.
It's the desire I have for a more withdrawn but fantasy-like lifestyle.
scintilla couldn’t have said it better if I tried
scintilla that’s exactly why I love Stardew Valley so much
Animal crossing vibes
Yeah cottagecore and forestcore are very much like green witch, secluded old grandma, esque culture. It's just about being in touch with yourself and nature and living simply and wholesomely. Idk from what I've seen, the most controversy we have is like "is moss or lichen better" not .... "Is Nazism valid"
* casting spells*