"Wearing too much makeup proves you're insecure." "Here's an info-graph to make sure that you walk and sit in a graceful way, and a list of 25 things you need to do to be charming."
This is the sort of stuff that makes me suspicious of any specifically labeled trad community. There are communities without all this stuff for people that just like the aesthetic - the horrible, hypocritical takes don't have to be part of the deal.
In our family, the women (what our tree mostly consists of) theese are rules that are need to be kept, and they also say theese. It turns my stomach, because at the same time even they pick on each other, and sometimes call me egoist, because I do use makeup and doesn't sit like this. (Because I also wouldn't be able to breath in that position, thanks to my spine.)
The honest JOY I felt when I learned that the "My husband Jeremiah" blog was faked by a enby lesbian so they could get into a trad wife discord server? Is immeasurable.
@Maccer from the north nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary people attracted to women for whom the label lesbian feels right, whether due to some connection to womanhood (psa: nonbinary people can be in some way aligned to a binary gender while being nonbinary! bigender, demigirl, etc), or connection to having been raised as a girl, or whatever else. identities aren't completely black and white, especially not one like lesbian which has referred to so many different categories of person through time both by lesbians themselves and by homophobic society
Names like “Cottagecore” and “farmcore” throw me off because my brain wants to assume that they’re metal genres and all I can picture is someone like Phil Anselmo screaming about his life on a wide open range with a beautiful wife and children
@@calico8525 completely off topic but do u have any bread tips? i can make buns and things like that on a sheetpan really easily but it never works in a loaf and doesn't have a good crust. would using a metal loaf pan instead of a glass one help?
Or a squad of 1950's spies who embody the housewife aesthetic while crushing skulls with their heels whenever necessary to retrieve highly classified missile launch codes.
Does she drunk monster energy? Does she get more p*ssy than you? Can she slam dunk from the 3 point line? If you said yes to one or more of these questions you're wife may be a chad wife
"I'm against kinks" yet continues to argue for a daddy dom lifestyle without the "little" aspect. "Do whatever he tells you". "Follow his rules". "Wear clothing he likes". "Grow your hair to the length he wants it to be". Actually dead from how ironic that was.
@@mintywallflower I'm a fan of dom/ sub kinks, but this is gross. Bdsm isn't based on gender, sexually, etc. I girl can dom a guy, a guy can dom a guy, an enby can dom a girl, or any other combo, but this community is based on sexism
@@dovahboi4409 yah i agree wholly we were just pointing out the contradictions in their arguments. saying kinky lifestyle is bad when they're literally advocating for one (no matter how sexist it is in reality, its pretty kinky ngl)
::in soothing British documentary voice-over:: "Witness The Karen in her natural habitat. Let's see what happens when she uses her well known mating call, "CaN i SpEaK tO yOuR mAnAgEr?!"
Reminder: the "my husband Jeremiah" ask (12:55) was made by a lesbian trying to get into a TradWife discord server for the sake of observing the utter chaos and bullshit that writhes in that server
@@slithra227 you can check aeons' tumblr cuz i think it was asked there (you can check archives and look for 4 months ago to find the ask as well as the story ig)
I mean thats the ultimate fantasy of : "What if we lived in the woods, lived a cute lifestyle and do dumb sh*t together but we're both girls ? Ahah just kidding ... Unless ?
I'M not like you "progressive" eukaryotic cells with your _nuclei_ and your... (shudders) organelles! I'M a _traditional_ cell! _I_ dropped out of cell-school early so I could subdivide and make a family, like I was MEANT to!
Their idea about what femininity and the nuclear family pretty much only existed for wealthy Victorians and for everyone else for a ten year fluke between the end of WWII and second wave feminism in the 60’s If you were a poor woman you still had to work at something be it turning wool into thread to make cloth or tending to the garden and chickens, being solely a housewife has been a rich person thing for much of history
Fun fact, there was a tradwife Twitter account that tweeted something like "sad that traditional household power dynamics are now immediately associated with BDSM," and then someone replied with the account's header image, which was straight up a woman in manacles. The reply? "So the use of restraints on a woman ubiquitously equals kink? Be careful about proving our point."
Lesson from the Kink Side of Kik, if the male has a submissive female in restraints anywhere on his profile he is gross. Maybe not illegally gross But gross
cottagecore is supposed to be wholesome and about wanting to own plants and bake and it’s all about what you WANT and not what you should do. it’s very soft and nice and the toxic tradwife shit doesn’t belong.
Wait, so cottagecore isn't about being a gay witch who performs druidic rites in the forest by night, and bakes delicious berry pies for her many lovers by day? Oh...
Cottage core sounds like a lesbian witch aesthetic tbh. Or maybe there's one lesbian witch and the other is a fae queen and they go out for moonlit flights and stuff
“Claims SHES bisexual bit has only dated men” okay but she’s still bisexual even if she’s only dated men, being Bi Doesnt mean you have to date both men and women it means you can
I agree but if she goes out of the way to avoid woman relationships then she aint bi, like if a girl flirts with her and she feel uncomfortable but then a boy doea the same sh is ok with it its not bieng bi
Every time I think of "traditional families" I think of the long lasting stereotype of tv relationships where the wife is a nagging shrew, and the husband is a moronic sexist. Neither of them seem happy, and the relationship seems to either center around the kids or pure spite. Bonus points if the husband is also a drunk, and this is treated as kooky rather than a serious character flaw.
Sounds like you're projecting your own problems on healthy, stable relationships. Either that, or you're showing how easily and completely media brainwashed you.
ah lucky you, i haven’t had kid yet so my 46 years old husband would punish me every night, but it’s okay cause if i run away i would be a dishonor to them
@@patrickbateman312 My favorite traditional marriage is an adult man and his 11 year old bride. That's real traditional, it happened all the time in history, nothing more traditional than that. Don't forget the multiple societies with marriage that involved equality or matriarchy, or the societies where men and women had to work. Why do you care about one type of traditional?
i didn’t realize that so many people in the cottagecore community were tradwifes considering everyone i’ve met who are into cottagecore are lesbians (including myself)
same! I genuinely thought the entire cottagecore community was just WLW talking about how much they want to live in the woods and bake bread with their wives?? like?
"Have faith in your husband, as he always has your best interests at heart." Yeah that's all well and good if you're married to a genuinely good, honest, loving person. Clearly this woman didn't come from an abusive home, with an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father. If you have one of those for a husband and I can 100% guarantee that the only person's best interests he gives a single shit about is his own.
In my experience, most people aren't saints so sometimes they think of themselves before their partners or try to hurt you emotionally in the heat of an argument. Your partner doesn't have to be abusive in order to be someone you have to stand up against sometimes, or whose intentions sometimes needs to be questioned.
Yeah whoever wrote that maybe hasn't met that many men. (Edit: anyone of any gender can be an asshole but the "have faith in your husband" thing is specifically about men so that's what I'm responding to. Don't worry, I hate everyone equally.)
@@placeholder6092 agreed, I also like that you put that edit in there, thank you, feminism shouldn't be an excuses to be sexist in the opposite direction
@Zephyr Probably because some of them literally embrace the ideals for women that Nazis had. I could honestly barely stand some of the posts that reminded me of what we learned during history lesson about the third Reich (I'm from Germany so we learned alot about stuff like that). Honestly, everyone can be glad, that Germany lost (I definitely am!) so acting like there was anything good about that dictatorship is somewhere between insulting and extremely absurd.
Why? Does it remind you that you've soiled yourself and the life of degeneracy you lead is ultimately empty and devoid of true purpose or satisfaction?
@Zephyr a lot of people within that community have really oppressive values and use that *cute* and *aesthetic* sort of culture to indoctrinate people into sharing their hateful values
Like. Duh. Of course you should respect the man you married. Just as he should respect you. A healthy marriage is based on loving, respecting, trusting, and communicating with each other. I hate the idea that women should just respect their husbands "just because." Respect is something you earn by being a decent person and respecting other people.
For real tho can you imagine having someone order you around all the time? I get that people are into it in the bedroom, that honestly sounds kinda exciting and it's definitely on my bucket list, but it should end there, not carry over to your everyday life. It just sounds so unhealthy. Like how can you respect yourself when you are basically a slave?
@@Eris_Norregard I'll be real with you growing up my mom was pretty controlling even going to far as to beat me when she thought I wasn't listening or misheard her. She won't try that shit now I'm 25 but she jokes about it till this day that I called the cops on her because she tried to beat me for calling her bitch. She also hates anyone I talk to because they might get the idea she's a "Bad mom" because I lie, a lot apparently (you know the kinds of parents) but it's all out of 'Love." So as of this year, I'm with my boyfriend of 9 years, celebrated 29th of August; I do ask him for permission a lot mind you it was a LOT worse when we started to date because I was used to walking on eggshells and if I so much as seemed like I wasn't listening guess who got beat? (We live with my grandparents and she's never been married but is waiting for them to die to take their stuff. .no, no that's not a dark joke) Obsouvly I hid lots of stuff from my mom over the years and even now I'll say to my boyfriend "Hey i'm going to XYZ tomorrow after an interview for lunch." and he'll just say "You don't have to ask my permission just go." Which he says maybe 3 times a month I also learned to stop apologizing for everything and I mean EVERYTHING drop a pen? Sorry. Having a bad day? Sorry. Breath incorrectly? Sorry. Sometimes you just never realize it or refuse to outwardly admit it. Also my grandparents live by "If your happy then that's all that matters" hell mom only kept me around not because she loved me but because if she let grandma adopt me she'd have been thrown out of the house and out of the will. Thinking this is the life isn't really i'd say it's more like indocternation. The difference is I hid a LOT of crap from mom over the years and had friends online and irl that helped me break out of that "Do it for her because she wasn't able to" or "Because you're nothing so live my dream" mentality. But that's my two cents and no she didn't arrange my boyfriend she didn't even know I had 4 boyfreind/girlfreinds buy age 14 and she didn't know about my current for at least 3 years. Oh, and you don't even want to know what she did when she found out I was bi.
@@Eris_Norregard there are people in the kink community that take their dynamic outside of the bedroom but it's set up with serious consideration to consent, safewords, and limits. It's not just an inherent thing that is just assumed like these people say. You don't "just obey", the people in question have to seriously consider what they're doing. In this sort of situation there's no safeword. It's like kink but without the ability to withdraw consent.
When I was 16, this guy I talked to online told me he was a dom and me being the innocent child I was, had no idea it had to do with sex so I was like "oh cool." I think he was 18..... going to the military too. Ew.
"it's actually really feminist of me to let my husband make all my decisions, it's my choice to never make my own choices" r u sure about that sweatie the subtitles at one point mistranslate "vintage style" as "vengeance style" and I could get behind that if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest
To be FAIR, it is technically a choice to personally be a submissive personality; it’s a problem when women like them give this advice to others who definitely will not be in a position where they can safely trust their partner. It should be “I personally want to be a housewife bc that’s just what I think fits me best,” VS “I want to be a housewife so that means every woman SHOULD BE TOO”
I came here just to post that! "if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest" like they say they hate kink shit but this is def some kink shit. You cannot tell me that "letting my husband make my decisions" in this insanely predefined way isn't motivated by being extremely horny
I've grown up in a culture of "traditional" marriages and one part that the tradwives seem to miss is that you're supposed to make decisions WITH your spouse. All of the massive investments, from the neighborhood we lived in to the car we drove, were made by both of my parents. One of the real problems about this sort of culture is that it teaches women that they're worthless if they're not married (making it even harder to leave abusive marriages), and teaches men that their wives are subhuman and can be treated as such.
Christian here: Some of the crap in this tag is embarrassing and vomit inducing as well. The implications in some of these posts that men (people in general) can never make a mistake and shouldn't ever be questioned are despicable. Not to mention the baked in racism, sexism, condescension and overall judgmental tone. Marrying and respecting someone shouldn't entail giving up your freedom of expression (or your safety) and letting them step all over you. Y I K E S
YES. As a Christian I hate that people include us in those awful ideas. Like not having any other purpose besides being a wife and mother. Not to mention all the racism which is the opposite of what God wants. It makes me want to vomit! It's so embarrassing when I say I'm Christian and people compare me to these stereotypes of being a tradwife or something.
Lesbian Atheist here... THANK YOU! It's such a breath of fresh air to see religious people like you! Normally I find them in comment sections on youtube, but as a teenager living in the suburbs of Illinois... I don't meet many people who aren't religious. And it's difficult to find more progressive (in other words, people with common sense) religious people like you. You're the type of people who will eventually help others realize their bigotry. It's not all of you, but it's certainly a loud minority, and I hope that the majority will soon, finally, tell them to shut up. Thank you! :)
What's worse is when your very Catholic dad really pushes some of these on his totally-not-having it wife and has-no-choice daughter(hey look it's me!) He's a fairly nice person, but this liberal ain't having it.
I agree. It's always a shame to see people being influenced by toxic Christian stereotypes. As long as it's understood that those posts are just overgeneralizations.
@Jhonny Auditore unfortunately if it came to it , conservatives would probably only allow abortion to be legal in all states if people were aborting fetuses that would of become a baby of color or biracial.
I feel so bad for that one woman who was "sad to say" that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, whom she loved?? I hate purity culture so much. I hate people who make anyone, but especially women, feel ashamed of their sexuality.
@@Alex_Barbosa I guess that's one way to think about it? but the way she put it made it seem like she did actually want to have sex with him, not that he was being pushy and coercive? and that she was just ashamed of that desire.
@@jupiterliam7961 it's probably both. I know women who literally got married and divorced out of HS, had some experiment times and then got remarried. They have told me they sometimes miss their old lovers. That makes them feel guilty and bad, even though their husbands may have done the same thing. Purity culture is fucked up. But it's doubly fucked up for non-straight bodies and those of us who were unwilling participants. Like I met my husband when I was 24- and we did not sleep together until I was 25. He's the only man I've ever been with- because any guys I tried go sleep with sucked at sex so they didn't get very far- I don't believe in "foreplay" it's all sex imo and if they are bad at that they're not going to be good with their dicks. But they all hold me up like I did something right. Nah ladies. Nah. I had terrible taste in men before I met him and I'm one of those useless bi/pan folk who sucks at getting with other women. These ladies need help deprogramming.
@@jupiterliam7961 Yea, what you said is pretty likely. But It still makes me uncomfortable when I hear about somebody trying to talk someone into sleeping with them after that person already said no, regardless the circumstance.
It's such a contradiction anyway - if you didnt have sexual desires, "purity" would be easy and nothing to be proud of. So being proud of abstaining from sex means you're proud you can overcome your strong desires- but shes sad she has desires?
100% closeted BDSM. Too sheltered to admit they have a fetish, but need to be in a power exchange relationship. Kinda sad and sick, relationships like this are usually toxic because consent isn't understood
Remember that episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where SpongeBob and Patrick had to take care of a baby clam? And Patrick was an inattentive and lazy husband who let SpongeBob do all the housework and still take care of the baby by himself? Yeah that's the lifestyle these tradwives are promoting. Not vintage cottagecore. They're promoting being submissive to what sounds like an abusive husband.
Love that you felt like the best way to explain this is with an example from Spongebob. Like, there are multiple examples of abusive relationships on TV, but you chose to go with that one. Power move.
@Nyarlathotep as soon as someone says something that alludes to them being against feminists (such as "whatever you say, feminist"), that implies that they're not one. Which means you're a sexist 🐖 I'm not ashamed of being a feminist cos I believe that men and women from different backgrounds should have equal rights. Are you proud of being a misogynist/sexist? 🐖 🐖 🐖 Oink oink
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Postmodernism wow you have 450 comments on this channel alone, i genuinely cannot imagine how pathetic your life is, man. Do you leave the house? You must smell pretty bad
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Gynocentrism It's okay bro, you can say you have no life and like to feel angry at inconsequential things. Please waste your life away even more, make sure to reach 500 comments. That's probably the only goal in life you can achieve anyway.
Bro as a Christian I am really grossed out by some of the posts under this tag. I run into the grad wife stuff a lot since I follow the cottagecore tag along with baking. What really stings is that I started following those tags as a way to have a little escapism from my toxic relationship to my father. The thing that makes it really suck is that the phrases I see on some of the tradwife posts (“listen to your husband/ father” “it’s the woman’s place to be subservient to the man,” etc.) are the same kind of things that he’d tell me to make me listen to him/ show him respect that he wouldn’t grant me. It just really stings that a means of escapism for me ended up getting tainted by a reminder of what I was trying to get away from. The bread posts I can get down with though.
You have my deepest sympathies that you had to through this. I myself have had a similar situation happen to me with extremely gendered words and phrases such as "I need a strong man to carry this" . It has gotten to the point where it feels like I have sounded a part of myself I used to enjoy.
In my opinion it’s fine to want to be in a traditional marriage IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT the problem comes with the internalized misogyny, racism, and general hatred that tends to brew in these sorts of communities.
Exactly. I've heard so many stories of women not being listened to with equal seriousness as men. If a submissive relationship is made intentionally but the dominant chooses to illegitimize what the submissive says, that turns into abuse. Happened to me once and never again (except I was hoping we would be equals). Even just not being listened to by someone you listen to and trust so much is demeaning. And this nyarlathotep person is doing just that. Using sarcasm as an excuse not to listen. Intentionally showing a lack of compassion from the self says nothing about the person you're disagreeing with. All it shows is a lack of decency in the one using sarcasm.
This is literally a kink. The man controlling everything you do and "knowing he has your best interests in mind" or some shit. That's a submissive kink. That's a daddy dom kink.
Nyarlathotep I’m a straight Christian and I’m scared of straight Christians too but because of this comment I now realize that I am in fact lesbian thank you for confirming my sexuality I had no idea 🙏😌✨
When I when to a pray-the-gay-away camp, we used to sit around a campfire in the middle of the forest and sing and chant "Open your womb to God". They were basically trying to turn all the girls into tradwives but I know many of the women who went to that camp and it basically had the OPPOSITE effect hahahha
i got to be honest some of these seem like they are written by men. there is a group of guys from 4chan who think writing posts like these will lure women into thinking the same because they think women are primarily lead into actions by peer pressure. LMFAO.
Jennie Poisson adorable! I’m a lesbian too and while it’s not the life I want for myself I do agree that it’s sooo cute and was a little fantasy of mine for a bit I usually make characters to vent all my fantasies so they don’t bounce around my head and drive me insane
Here's some more boy's names: Ripper Shredder Destroyer Atomfried Annihilator Gunpowder TNT Dynamite Nuke And some more for the baddest of boys: Nuclear X-treme Supreme Meister Destructinator Incarnate Terminal Supergod Zerschmetterling Breaker McDoom Hannibal Biceps
I feel like the whole "Do whatever he says. He always has your best interests at heart..." And stuff like that is how people fall into severely toxic relationships. It's like saying that if he tells you to do something, do it with no questions. If you don't want to you still have to, because HE knows what's best for you. What if he is toxic or manipulative towards you? That would make you fall into a severe bad place and becoming a mindless slave to your husband in a way. It all seems very dangerous with that stuff and those posts.
Right now I’m reading a book by Stephen King called, “Rose Madder” it about a girl who was beaten everyday by her husband for 14 years. When she finally leaves he get so mad thinking that she was supposed to obey him as if she were a pet.
My boyfriend and I are into d/s but I’ve been reading up a lot on d/s relationships and a lot of the power imbalance, even if it’s fully consensual, fills me with this visceral disgust. It’s not my position to kink-shame anyone but being in a 24/7 TPE relationship sounds awful because even if it’s the woman’s choice it still leaves her very vulnerable to be controlled and manipulated. I like being “controlled” to a certain extent (being told when to go to bed, having to eat what he cooks for me bc it’s healthy and I can’t cook for shit lol) but it’s only because I LET him control me in a way that, imo, will make me a better person and help me make better decisions for myself. I really value my strength and freedom and there’s no way in hell I’m gonna let anyone take that away from me. Hearing about toxic relationships where the man holds all the power and the wife is subservient makes me sick. There’s this idea that, in a lot of d/s relationships, the sub is allowed to give their input but the dom has the final say on all decisions and...I’m sorry but that’s just not how a healthy adult relationship works.
I love how instead of a specific region, they just say "European". Like, that is where they're from. The entire continent of Europe. Not Ireland, not Italy, not even Britain. Just... all of Europe.
Right? The European continent is so diverse with different cultures and history from place to place, so how do they group all the countries together? Weird.
I believe a lifestyle like this is completely valid as long as you don't have a controlling partner, you're happy and you don't bash other people for being non-traditional.
I don't think people who live that lifestyle call themselves traditional wives though. They tend to refer to themselves as homemakers or stay at homes or housewives. Not traditional wife.
I'd totally be chill staying home and baking cakes for my wealthy husband and spending my days reading and tending to my little garden, but we would have to be equal. There's no "submissive wife" in this relationship. We both respect each other and we're both equal. I'll only bake you cakes if you're a good boy. If not, I'll leave you for the pretty widow in my gardening club because I'm bisexual and I do what I want.
my ex girlfriend wanted to be a tradwife, and pushed me into the role of the "strong, dominant husband" (we werent married). i was really in love with her and tried to do anything to make her happy, but it felt like a facade and i was really unhappy
At 25, I was married. And just like this naive young lady, I thought I would follow the “biblical way.” Adore my husband, be available for him, listen to his wants and needs. Flash forward at age 50, my man of my dreams became a weak willed, spineless worm of a man with a serious drinking problem. I realized all the strength he supposedly possessed was actually what he sucked out of me. Thank god I was raised by a practical man who insisted that I finish college and be an independent woman. I had been a wife for so long, I had forgotten whose daughter I was. I found a good attorney and filed for divorce. Got my resume together and went back to work. Six years latter, I could not be happier. I have a job I love, my daughter is thriving in college and I’m planning to buy my own home. These women haven’t a clue. My advice? Don’t stop working. Keep your skills up so when your devoted man runs off with the secretary or nurse or becomes a alcoholic in 25-30 years you will be marketable and go out on your own. Stand on your own two feet, ladies:)
I keep telling young women in the comments section of tradwife videos that they need to have a marketable skill before marriage and children, and I get a lot of hate for this advice. It isn't enough for women to be tradwives, but they must be so dependent on husbands that divorcing them means poverty.
@Jessica Messica Being careful is not enough. Know how to be self-sufficient. Teenage girls need to learn about financial abuse. Many of the tradwife videos are discouraging young women from getting college degrees or marketable skills. This gives husbands too much power, making the wives vulnerable to financial abuse.
Honestly the whole trad wife thing really annoys me, it is something our generation has made up with idealism and rose tinted perspectives of history. There is a reason women in the 50s fought for rights and equal career opportunities. Maybe i am just opposed to this as i have seen the abuse that can come out of relinquishing your financial independence to your husband, but the whole thing stinks of naivety and idealism. Obviously abuse doesnt happen to everyone in these types of relationships but it is a very slippery slope to shackle yourself to someone in this way. You can have traditional family values without worshipping and being a slave to your husband.
alot of people like to look at terrible things in a good light, then promote it as something to be brought back. Take communism for example. Its been proven countless times that, due to the human condition, successful communism is downright impossible. Yet, for one reason or another, people seem to want to bring communism back. I mean, I guess its a cool aesthetic, but they kind of remove everything else that made communism so reviled to begin with.
I 100% agree, as someone who genuinely wants to eventually settle down with kids and become a stay at home mom, I think it’s important to be aware that not only are my dreams not universal but, they were originally used to oppress women, and many women grew up still being oppressed by this mindset and it’s horrible. I think that every single person has the right to choose what they want to do in life free from influence, whether that be a neurosurgeon or a homemaker (not to say you can’t have a home without kids or marriage I am just using the term to be gender inclusive). I want to become a stay at home mom not because I was raised to want it but because I genuinely love kids and cooking and I think that being a stay at home mom is what is best for my life and is going to make me the happiest. However I think it is utterly ridiculous to become completely financially dependent on another person (why I also want to freelance from home) and absolutely no one whatever their role in your life has the right to force you to do anything. I think that it’s okay to want to be a stay at home parent as long as you are still progressive about your lifestyle and do not force those dreams on those who do not share it
@@cortomaltese7105 Which tradition, though? Humankind has a long history and the Roman Empire, which, I remind you, was the entity that brought Christianity to Europe, was a state of many peoples and "races". You bet they intermarried and had children with each other! (Quotations marks around "races", because biologically speaking there are no human races)
I kinda wanna make an account, find these posts and say "I'm a tradwife do these things apply to me and my wife because I don't have a husband" just to see what people say. (fyi it's not true lmao)
This stuff low-key reminds me of the BDSM community, with all the "Do as he says, without question" but in BDSM there's such an emphasis that you should do what he says because you want to, not "Do what he says because your a woman and therefore below him"
I would say in BDSM there's also more of an air of consent and with trad wife stuff it's just...going backwards in societal progress because...? I'm honestly not sure. At least in BDSM relationships, I can bank on there being aftercare and hard limits and it being mostly roleplay...What do tradwives have and why do they want this is never gonna get answered for me
*The Transformed Wife wants to know your location* Also, I love tumblr deep dives so much Edit: I love cottagecore, but why is it related to tradwife? It's not about being traditional and marrying and being a housewife, it's about wanting to live in a vintage cottage full of plants, cuddling with kitties and talking to bunnies and birds. I want to live this life, not to be married to a man who's going to control me. I JUST WANT TO TALK TO BIRDS AND CUDDLE WITH MY PETS OK
I’m right there with you and i outright refuse this notion and I say we and all the other amazing positive cc ppl kick them out and be gay on a farm together with chickens and herbs and we eat the rich and bake bread all day
I really don't understand the "guys don't reclaim the trad girl and draw her making out with girls because she was made by a nazi" the whole point is to piss those nazis off by warping their image of a "perfect woman" by showing her doing things that anger them. That's why boulderhurl edits are okay, because they are made to mock him and his terrible ideologies and comics.
My cousin once-removed is a tradwife because she was raised "Christian", and honestly I feel so bad for her. Her husband hates our household because we're Presbyterian, left-wing, and pro-LGBT, and he won't let her or their kids talk to us unless we're at a family gathering and can't be avoided. My mom and my cousin were best friends growing up, but now they can't talk because her husband is a prick who can't get over political differences. I used to be close to their second child as well, but I can't see her either because he won't let me and she still lives with them.
ShadowyBird deepest sympathy man. My situation isn’t exactly like your’s but my mom has cousins who used to be really close to the family and each other until they met their bitch wives who isolated them from each other and the rest of the family. I have an adorable, sweet cousin who is my little doppelgänger that I hardly get to see. I can’t stand people like your cousins husbands who are so dogmatic about their beliefs, no matter what they may be, that they use it to be hateful. He’d probably hate Mr. Rogers since he was an lgbt accepting Presbyterian with socially liberal views.
This guy is actually very mentally abusive. Heavily controlling and guilting your spouse for your own selfish reasons is toxic and abusive. She needs to get out.
From what I've seen most cottagecore groups are actively and explicitly anti-racist and anti-sexist, and emphasise the need to be aware of privilege and problematic elements to make sure they don't slip into the white supremacist aesthetics of tradwife which is much different to cottage core
“Atomic housewife” sounds like a domestic parody of Atomic Blonde where she stays at home with her wife Delphine and does spy work from her home office and I’m here for it
X606 There's quite a lot of problems. If the husband gets out of hand, even slightly, it could cause mental trauma and after a while could even abuse the wife. Most women and men who promote this are either being abused and trying to find an excuse for it, or are abusing and also need to find an excuse for it.
Submission kinks are usually inherently abusive, and it's far more degenerate compared to the loving relationship husband and wife. Anyways, why is submission kink okay to you but traditional relationships aren't? I'm truly getting tired of hearing people say things like this.
@@localshithead7430 well I guess the real problem with "traditional relationships" is that there is less consent involved in them. D/S relationships are built from the ground up with a massive dose of consent and trust, "traditional relationships" are not.
@@X606 not to mention that even if there is people who engages in 24 h games, usually the d/s kink is left for the bed and out of it the relationship is perfectly normal and equal.
I have a friend who's really into the whole idea of living a simple life in the forest and having a big beautiful family and I thought it was strange at first. In itself that dream is not a bad thing, but it bothers me that some people in this community think they have to submit to daddy and always be flawless in every way. It sounds harmful to not allow yourself independence.
@@zant41 true, but she also admires European culture and tradition. She likes cooking, baking and doing embroidery too and says she values femininity. She's cool though, she doesn't really have any problematic opinions.
@@Niniminns but ... what does that even mean? what does this have to do with Europe? i mean, what part is she referring to? bc where I live in Europe, women are mostly expected to become their own breadwinners and its slightly frowned upon wanting to just be a housewife and mother...
13:22 "he guides me when I WOULD BE WEAK ON MY OWN" this pisses me off to no ends. my duty as a husband is to LEND HER MY STRENGTH when she is weak. and because i am human, and thus prone to occasional bouts of weakness myself, she lends me her's in return. i have seen all this before. tradwife is a hashtag now, but they have been a thing for generations and they spawn many societal problems because the are BAD MARRIAGES. anger, resentment, loss of love, no respect, and children born into this will suffer from relationship problems of their own.
A👏MEN👏 This shouldn't be about men doing everything because women are too "weak" -- that puts a lot of pressure on the man and puts the woman in a box. I've always thought it's about doing what the other can't do; capitalizing on THEIR strengths while making up for THEIR weaknesses. I think there's an oft-used quote of "women were made to do what men cannot", and I think that's sort of true! However, that must adapt from person to person, relationship to relationship, and isn't a predefined set of characteristics that can be prescribed to all women automatically.
Exactly, my fiance and I take turns supporting each other when our mental health gets rough. Sometimes we both have a bad day, and take turns venting. At the end of the day, we are each other's rock and safe place. Life is hard, especially mental health but I know as long as I have him I'll eventually be OK, and I'm also there for him
This is kind of why I get so frustrated. I wanted to come into 2020 with a classy/elegant aesthetic and wear a bunch of dresses (not because that makes you classy/elegant I'm just in a skirts and dresses mood this year lol) because 2019 I was a little graceless and immature, but all the inspo posts and videos are led by women like...this. If anyone knows of anything like that but not racist and completely anti feminist I'd be super grateful
Just Call Me Teacup i dont know if your style is more modern or vintage, but Anna Bey from the school of affluence yt channel has a lot of content about elegance and fashion/styling tips. She’s a feminist and doesn’t push any fAmiLy vAluEs bs
You should look into the content of Rachel Maksy, Loepsi, Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, Bernadette Banner and Karolina Zebrowska. Even though all of them are more on the vintage side of the classy/elegant aesthetic, I think it's a good starting point of your exploration. They're all super entertaining, classy feminist ladies that produce high quality content. You can find them here on RUclips and Instagram.
I get that so much :( I _love_ vintage clothing and cottagecore, but I'm also an atheist and believe in total equality for all. You can dress however you want and believe however you want.
This video has given me such flashbacks to every time in my recently life that someone I've met irl has seen me in my vintage clothes with vintage hair and no makeup (because i'm too lazy to wear makeup) and assumed I'm a Good Christian Woman. It has happened so many times. Probably not helped by the fact I live in a rural heavy Christian area but oh boy. I've had girls invite me to their church stuff because apparently I seem like a good traditional woman or whatever. Sewing vintage clothing replicas and vintage baking recipes might be 2 of my main hobbies but I fear the day they find out about my 3rd and most secret hobby: drawing big titty anime ladies.
Liberated Feminist: "Is only attracted to black men" Tradwife: "Loves her family, race, and country; in that order" Me: Didn't realize memes were around in the 50's
Jesse Hunter Yeah but I just wanted to point out that memes were around in the 50’s. Some people (not necessarily OP) genuinely think memes are only an internet thing, when in reality memes have always existed.
Conservative: "We want traditional house wives back!" *Gold digger with no job leeches off wealth* Conservative: "No! I hate gold diggers!" Woman: "Isn't that what you wanted?"
Both sides of extremes are just mirroring each other on double standards. If some higher power were to do a full totalitarianism over people's lives in the name of equality to treat all both would go anarchy
@@anilin6353 Nope, a gold digger is loyal if you have the money. Also this is about traditional housewives, not modern day housewives. Back in the day the traditional housewives would be gold diggers who only cooked and cleaned the house which is nothing in today's standards.
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Me: *Guy blinking gif*
this is a fantastic comment, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
KyleDoesArt oh my...
I was so fing confused and then i was like: Ah... I guess thats still a thing
@@Lunadragon321 The thing is i was half paying attention then that was said and it took me a hot sec to just comprehend what was just said.
KyleDoesArt yup me too and it succ that that kinda shiot still exists {i like memes btw owo;)}
Don't tell me it's traditional marriage unless it secures military alliances between kingdoms.
+
God I wish I was a 14 year old noble daughter getting married to a rich 60 years old man
*DON'T👏CALL👏IT👏MARRIAGE👏UNLESS👏IT👏SECURES👏AN👏ALLIANCE👏BETWEEN👏GERMANY👏AND👏FRANCE👏*
Don't call your marriage traditional if you don't have the consent of both parents and a dowry 😤
I swear to the long furby, y‘all are my favourite people 😂
"Wearing too much makeup proves you're insecure."
"Here's an info-graph to make sure that you walk and sit in a graceful way, and a list of 25 things you need to do to be charming."
This is the sort of stuff that makes me suspicious of any specifically labeled trad community. There are communities without all this stuff for people that just like the aesthetic - the horrible, hypocritical takes don't have to be part of the deal.
In our family, the women (what our tree mostly consists of) theese are rules that are need to be kept, and they also say theese. It turns my stomach, because at the same time even they pick on each other, and sometimes call me egoist, because I do use makeup and doesn't sit like this. (Because I also wouldn't be able to breath in that position, thanks to my spine.)
Also yes i DO wear makeup cuz I’m insecure, so fucking what?
*When you're insecure without the makeup too*
DUDE yes that is such a good point
The honest JOY I felt when I learned that the "My husband Jeremiah" blog was faked by a enby lesbian so they could get into a trad wife discord server? Is immeasurable.
The Infiltration
@Maccer from the north o basically it just means theyre attracted to women, its not a specifically gendered term lamow
@Maccer from the north nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary people attracted to women for whom the label lesbian feels right, whether due to some connection to womanhood (psa: nonbinary people can be in some way aligned to a binary gender while being nonbinary! bigender, demigirl, etc), or connection to having been raised as a girl, or whatever else. identities aren't completely black and white, especially not one like lesbian which has referred to so many different categories of person through time both by lesbians themselves and by homophobic society
“ladies, don’t settle for a man with no architectural taste.”
i mean, solid advice.
"Don't settle for anyone with no architectural taste, unless theyre aware if it then do it" -Me RN
But if they're self-aware, that means you get to make all architectural decisions yourself!
@Worm Driver that sounds like a nightmare to me
I support that message
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Names like “Cottagecore” and “farmcore” throw me off because my brain wants to assume that they’re metal genres and all I can picture is someone like Phil Anselmo screaming about his life on a wide open range with a beautiful wife and children
AYYYY PANTERA
@PulseOfTheMaggots YA DAMN RIGHT IT IS!
BANJO INTENSIFIES
that would be rad. would listen to it 24/7
As someone who grew up and currently lives on a farm, I can almost promise the people that use “farmcore” don’t live on a fucking farm.
This tag is so wild. I literally didn’t think straight people existed on tumblr.
Jenna Simone imagine being straight
Tragic
@@SilverDOMO192837 wot
Ikr
You forgot about the straight girls obsessed with serial killers
man as a guy I cant imagine being married to someone like this. I DONT WANNA BE IN CHARGE OF YOU I CAN BARELY HANDLE BEING IN CHARGE OF ME
Fat mood bruv
Honestly tho. In a relationship-both peeps gotta be stupid together, that's how it works.
You’re also like 15 or something so you’re obviously not ready to get married lol
@@ijakerz93 Are you another male feminist loser?
@@Nimbereth r u an incel?
I'm a cis straight male, but the phrase "my husband Jeremiah is my whole life" makes me gag a bit. Marriage should not be domestic servitude.
You're the man world NEEDS
I've literally been called gay before because i think the same shit. I'm a househusband with a loving wife. It's disgusting, this trad marriage shit.
@@calico8525 completely off topic but do u have any bread tips? i can make buns and things like that on a sheetpan really easily but it never works in a loaf and doesn't have a good crust. would using a metal loaf pan instead of a glass one help?
A A I would actually start using a baking stone! it helps with making crusts big time, i suggest looking into it ^^
@@calico8525 W H O L E S O M E
I’m not sorry but “atomic housewife” sounds like a weapon.
Toastwell
“Sir, we’re running out of ammo! What do we do?”
“......unleash the ATOMIC HOUSEWIFE.”
Enfys Best, it’s like that Onion video about Hillary Clinton being used against a Middle Eastern country.
Or a squad of 1950's spies who embody the housewife aesthetic while crushing skulls with their heels whenever necessary to retrieve highly classified missile launch codes.
Fool of a Toque. Omg, yes!
I would watch that movie. Especially if they went full 80’s cheese with it. Explosions everywhere!
My ex left me for a tradwife. He told me I wasn’t submissive enough for him. Looking back, dodged a bullet there.
You definitely lucked out there 😅.
Ian Miles projecting, are we?
@Politically Incorrect Troll Account I like your name
@Ian Miles are you saying that's a problem
@Ian Miles That sounds great! Specially compared to being with a guy like him or like you
I know she said “trad wife” but my ears auto tuned it to “chad wife”
Does she drunk monster energy? Does she get more p*ssy than you? Can she slam dunk from the 3 point line? If you said yes to one or more of these questions you're wife may be a chad wife
@@mme.veronica735 there aren't enough words in the english language to describe how much you made me laugh
This!!!!!!! XD
I want a chad wife
@@SM-qv2om we all want a chad wife
u: tradwife
who she tells u not to worry about: chadwife
SKSHWJWBBSNSM
I choked
I support Chadwife
Your pfp makes this even better oml
Lets make this a tumblr community/tag now lol
"I'm against kinks" yet continues to argue for a daddy dom lifestyle without the "little" aspect. "Do whatever he tells you". "Follow his rules". "Wear clothing he likes". "Grow your hair to the length he wants it to be". Actually dead from how ironic that was.
@Zᴀᴛᴛᴇ Cᴏʀɪᴇ That's cool :)
lel truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
the master/slave kink
@@mintywallflower I'm a fan of dom/ sub kinks, but this is gross. Bdsm isn't based on gender, sexually, etc. I girl can dom a guy, a guy can dom a guy, an enby can dom a girl, or any other combo, but this community is based on sexism
@@dovahboi4409 yah i agree wholly we were just pointing out the contradictions in their arguments. saying kinky lifestyle is bad when they're literally advocating for one (no matter how sexist it is in reality, its pretty kinky ngl)
"I forgot about the lord for a second there." Is one hell of a vibe
😂
This is now my go to expression when I forget to say grace before devouring a mcmuffin
I can’t tell if that was a pun made on purpose
@@korihawks I'm just here to say that I was the 1000th like. That is all.
::in soothing British documentary voice-over::
"Witness The Karen in her natural habitat. Let's see what happens when she uses her well known mating call, "CaN i SpEaK tO yOuR mAnAgEr?!"
Reminder: the "my husband Jeremiah" ask (12:55) was made by a lesbian trying to get into a TradWife discord server for the sake of observing the utter chaos and bullshit that writhes in that server
oh GOSH the tradwife discord 😭 i was in it for a while as a fourteen-year-old in her anti-feminist phase and it was absolutely wild
I need someone to tell me that story I'm BEGGING
@@slithra227 you can check aeons' tumblr cuz i think it was asked there (you can check archives and look for 4 months ago to find the ask as well as the story ig)
@@confuqed6481 there are many Aeons which one
I knew it!!!! Something about it just screamed satire.
I feel like cottagecore is just gay people’s take on a woodsy traditional homesteading aesthetic without the homophobia, sexism and racism
yup thats it
I mean thats the ultimate fantasy of : "What if we lived in the woods, lived a cute lifestyle and do dumb sh*t together but we're both girls ? Ahah just kidding ... Unless ?
@Sir The Third yep, that. I imagine living in the countryside would be pretty hard, moreso "in the woods". But people are fed up with social pressure
Basically yeah
Clarett like it’s barbie and the diamond castle
"Traditional" is drawing a random line through history. Like how far back would you like to go? The 1950s, cavemen, or unicellular organism?
Jennifer Zhu unicellular-organism-wife is clearly the best aesthetic
Sorry to ruin this being a perfect 69 but its too good to not like
I'M not like you "progressive" eukaryotic cells with your _nuclei_ and your... (shudders) organelles! I'M a _traditional_ cell! _I_ dropped out of cell-school early so I could subdivide and make a family, like I was MEANT to!
Their idea about what femininity and the nuclear family pretty much only existed for wealthy Victorians and for everyone else for a ten year fluke between the end of WWII and second wave feminism in the 60’s
If you were a poor woman you still had to work at something be it turning wool into thread to make cloth or tending to the garden and chickens, being solely a housewife has been a rich person thing for much of history
It’d probably be better if these people went back to when everything reproduced asexually, so they couldn’t spew this “trad wife” bs on their kids.
Her lipstick is lit, let's talk about how her lipstick is lit.
It is indeed lit.
lit lipstick? did you mean
litstick
Her lipstick is lit!
very lit, very lit indeed
anything she does is lit
It's so nice to know that after all this time, the "Husband Jeremiah" blog was run by an undercover non-binary lesbian. Absolute LEGEND
WHAT?
Omg. Really?
... that is brilliant!
@@staticbeans yes we do my dude.
@@staticbeans shut the fuck up
Wouldn't it just be non-binary who's attracted to women?, doesn't lesbian imply a woman who likes women
Fun fact, there was a tradwife Twitter account that tweeted something like "sad that traditional household power dynamics are now immediately associated with BDSM," and then someone replied with the account's header image, which was straight up a woman in manacles. The reply? "So the use of restraints on a woman ubiquitously equals kink? Be careful about proving our point."
That is so CREEPY.
B- bruh 💀💀 the fbi should put him on a watchlist
This dude needs to be told that
Hippity Hoppity
WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR FUCKING PROPERTY
I- what else...is that supposed to be 😬
Lesson from the Kink Side of Kik, if the male has a submissive female in restraints anywhere on his profile he is gross.
Maybe not illegally gross
But gross
cottagecore is supposed to be wholesome and about wanting to own plants and bake and it’s all about what you WANT and not what you should do. it’s very soft and nice and the toxic tradwife shit doesn’t belong.
Damn i like plants
Also mushrooms are cool too damn
cottagecore belongs to the lesbians
Cottagecore is just the lesbian version, while tradwife is just the catholic version
@@chiaracardena9087 SKYRIM BELONGS TO THE NORDS!!!
Wait, so cottagecore isn't about being a gay witch who performs druidic rites in the forest by night, and bakes delicious berry pies for her many lovers by day? Oh...
I mean, that does sound more fun tho..
...Can we have that as a television series? That sounds amazing lmao.
Cottage core sounds like a lesbian witch aesthetic tbh. Or maybe there's one lesbian witch and the other is a fae queen and they go out for moonlit flights and stuff
All I want in life honestly
if it's not, it should be
#ReclaimCottageCoreForTheWitches
“Claims SHES bisexual bit has only dated men” okay but she’s still bisexual even if she’s only dated men, being Bi Doesnt mean you have to date both men and women it means you can
Yeah, I have a cousin who's bi and she's only dated guys.
What confused me about this one is like, would it be better if she _had_ dated women too?
I agree but if she goes out of the way to avoid woman relationships then she aint bi, like if a girl flirts with her and she feel uncomfortable but then a boy doea the same sh is ok with it its not bieng bi
Fuͮ̓cͦκͧ well yeah but from what the other things were saying I assume that’s not what they meant
@@trishalennex4630 yeah
You asked for a wife, not a servant sir
YES EXACTLY
Your profile pic fits. And agreed.
EXACTLY YES
this men: but theyre the same thing
Say it louder for the peeps at the back
Every time I think of "traditional families" I think of the long lasting stereotype of tv relationships where the wife is a nagging shrew, and the husband is a moronic sexist. Neither of them seem happy, and the relationship seems to either center around the kids or pure spite. Bonus points if the husband is also a drunk, and this is treated as kooky rather than a serious character flaw.
also if the mom is lowkey an alcoholic from nonstop drinking wine to "cope" with her shitty husband and kids
Sounds like you're projecting your own problems on healthy, stable relationships. Either that, or you're showing how easily and completely media brainwashed you.
@@patrickbateman312 Hey, dipshit, they were talking about a long-lasting media stereotype, not real life
@@patrickbateman312 Strange, I didn't hire an illiterate armchair psychologist.
@@patrickbateman312 or they're talking about the image media paints of traditional families.
My goal is to be the ultimate tradwife. My father arranges my dowry at 6 months old, I get married at 12, have 7 children, and die of the plague at 19
ohnoimsam ahh you’re one of the lucky ones
That's how you commit to the bit!
As a fellow Unus I too want to be the ultimate tradwife
My dad just needs to find me an Annus to marry-
ah lucky you, i haven’t had kid yet so my 46 years old husband would punish me every night, but it’s okay cause if i run away i would be a dishonor to them
@@SketchUT Totally not a cult!
My mom made the priest that officiated her wedding leave out the part that’s like “You will obey him”
That's pretty badass. :D
@@Eris_Norregard ikr
Your mom (my hero) be like: Actually, I don't
There's really a part like that? Does it go both ways or is the only the wife supposed to obey the husband?
@@mlorpfit might be religioun and location but as far as I know my dad was not asked to obey
I don't like these people mixing with the cottagecore community. I just want to live in a cottage and bake bread for my wife.
And forage some bomb ass edible berries and mushrooms, bless
Lesbians baking for one another?! :0
And make jam and churn butter to put on the bread.
Yes, and do witchcraft with my cat and then bake a pie
As a husband, yes! And not just bread. Cakes, pies, full roasts every day. Honestly if I could just spend all day gardening and baking I'd be happy.
Marriage is a team neither parties should have more power than the other in every aspect of it
Clearly the nature of traditional marriage escapes you.
@@patrickbateman312 do you realize that your profile picture is literally the protagonist of "American psycho"
Idk the woman being in power is pretty hot
@@fourtwenty1813 tfw no mommy gf :(
@@patrickbateman312 My favorite traditional marriage is an adult man and his 11 year old bride. That's real traditional, it happened all the time in history, nothing more traditional than that. Don't forget the multiple societies with marriage that involved equality or matriarchy, or the societies where men and women had to work. Why do you care about one type of traditional?
i didn’t realize that so many people in the cottagecore community were tradwifes considering everyone i’ve met who are into cottagecore are lesbians (including myself)
same! I genuinely thought the entire cottagecore community was just WLW talking about how much they want to live in the woods and bake bread with their wives?? like?
"There is not only one tradwife in this family, but TWO!!!"
Oh to be married to a woman in a cottage with our chickens and garden 🥰
yeah same
Cottagecore lesbians unite! 👌😅
"Have faith in your husband, as he always has your best interests at heart."
Yeah that's all well and good if you're married to a genuinely good, honest, loving person. Clearly this woman didn't come from an abusive home, with an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father. If you have one of those for a husband and I can 100% guarantee that the only person's best interests he gives a single shit about is his own.
maybe she did, and that's what was taught to her
In my experience, most people aren't saints so sometimes they think of themselves before their partners or try to hurt you emotionally in the heat of an argument. Your partner doesn't have to be abusive in order to be someone you have to stand up against sometimes, or whose intentions sometimes needs to be questioned.
Yeah whoever wrote that maybe hasn't met that many men.
(Edit: anyone of any gender can be an asshole but the "have faith in your husband" thing is specifically about men so that's what I'm responding to. Don't worry, I hate everyone equally.)
@@placeholder6092 "you hate everyone equally" and no one can understand your sexual preference?
Do I need to C-C-C-CHECK MY PRIVILEGE?
@@placeholder6092 agreed, I also like that you put that edit in there, thank you, feminism shouldn't be an excuses to be sexist in the opposite direction
going through the tradwife tag literally gives me a headache
@Zephyr Probably because some of them literally embrace the ideals for women that Nazis had. I could honestly barely stand some of the posts that reminded me of what we learned during history lesson about the third Reich (I'm from Germany so we learned alot about stuff like that). Honestly, everyone can be glad, that Germany lost (I definitely am!) so acting like there was anything good about that dictatorship is somewhere between insulting and extremely absurd.
@Zephyr it's just not good vibes my dude ! a lot of it is written in a flowery way, but it's very much got dark and hateful undertones
Why? Does it remind you that you've soiled yourself and the life of degeneracy you lead is ultimately empty and devoid of true purpose or satisfaction?
Patrick Bateman calm down mate
@Zephyr a lot of people within that community have really oppressive values and use that *cute* and *aesthetic* sort of culture to indoctrinate people into sharing their hateful values
The "married 0.5 years " one almost gave me a stroke.
the post actually said 0.05 years
@@Robin-of2jt Doing the math... thats 18 days...........
5:46
OH THAT EVEN WORSE.
"You married the man you respect, now respect the man you married" is right up there with "America is great because America is good."
Like. Duh. Of course you should respect the man you married. Just as he should respect you. A healthy marriage is based on loving, respecting, trusting, and communicating with each other. I hate the idea that women should just respect their husbands "just because." Respect is something you earn by being a decent person and respecting other people.
It's like marriage involves respect and communication that goes both ways...
Y'all please stop spilling government secrets in the replies
Worm Driver lmao same I’d dip
"I will do whatever my man wants me to do because I love him and I am his wife"
c'mon just say you want a dom
For real tho can you imagine having someone order you around all the time? I get that people are into it in the bedroom, that honestly sounds kinda exciting and it's definitely on my bucket list, but it should end there, not carry over to your everyday life. It just sounds so unhealthy. Like how can you respect yourself when you are basically a slave?
@@Eris_Norregard I'll be real with you growing up my mom was pretty controlling even going to far as to beat me when she thought I wasn't listening or misheard her. She won't try that shit now I'm 25 but she jokes about it till this day that I called the cops on her because she tried to beat me for calling her bitch. She also hates anyone I talk to because they might get the idea she's a "Bad mom" because I lie, a lot apparently (you know the kinds of parents) but it's all out of 'Love."
So as of this year, I'm with my boyfriend of 9 years, celebrated 29th of August; I do ask him for permission a lot mind you it was a LOT worse when we started to date because I was used to walking on eggshells and if I so much as seemed like I wasn't listening guess who got beat? (We live with my grandparents and she's never been married but is waiting for them to die to take their stuff. .no, no that's not a dark joke)
Obsouvly I hid lots of stuff from my mom over the years and even now I'll say to my boyfriend "Hey i'm going to XYZ tomorrow after an interview for lunch." and he'll just say "You don't have to ask my permission just go." Which he says maybe 3 times a month I also learned to stop apologizing for everything and I mean EVERYTHING drop a pen? Sorry. Having a bad day? Sorry. Breath incorrectly? Sorry.
Sometimes you just never realize it or refuse to outwardly admit it. Also my grandparents live by "If your happy then that's all that matters" hell mom only kept me around not because she loved me but because if she let grandma adopt me she'd have been thrown out of the house and out of the will.
Thinking this is the life isn't really i'd say it's more like indocternation. The difference is I hid a LOT of crap from mom over the years and had friends online and irl that helped me break out of that "Do it for her because she wasn't able to" or "Because you're nothing so live my dream" mentality. But that's my two cents and no she didn't arrange my boyfriend she didn't even know I had 4 boyfreind/girlfreinds buy age 14 and she didn't know about my current for at least 3 years. Oh, and you don't even want to know what she did when she found out I was bi.
The way I choked
@@Eris_Norregard there are people in the kink community that take their dynamic outside of the bedroom but it's set up with serious consideration to consent, safewords, and limits. It's not just an inherent thing that is just assumed like these people say. You don't "just obey", the people in question have to seriously consider what they're doing. In this sort of situation there's no safeword. It's like kink but without the ability to withdraw consent.
When I was 16, this guy I talked to online told me he was a dom and me being the innocent child I was, had no idea it had to do with sex so I was like "oh cool." I think he was 18..... going to the military too. Ew.
"it's actually really feminist of me to let my husband make all my decisions, it's my choice to never make my own choices" r u sure about that sweatie
the subtitles at one point mistranslate "vintage style" as "vengeance style" and I could get behind that
if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest
I'd be super into vintage vengeance style
To be FAIR, it is technically a choice to personally be a submissive personality; it’s a problem when women like them give this advice to others who definitely will not be in a position where they can safely trust their partner.
It should be “I personally want to be a housewife bc that’s just what I think fits me best,” VS “I want to be a housewife so that means every woman SHOULD BE TOO”
@@Cosplaybuddygiraffes Technicalities. It's about as much of a choice as the people in SAW "technically" have a "choice" to get out alive.
I came here just to post that! "if they just admitted this was some high-aesthetic D/s lifestyle it'd be way more intellectually honest" like they say they hate kink shit but this is def some kink shit. You cannot tell me that "letting my husband make my decisions" in this insanely predefined way isn't motivated by being extremely horny
I've grown up in a culture of "traditional" marriages and one part that the tradwives seem to miss is that you're supposed to make decisions WITH your spouse. All of the massive investments, from the neighborhood we lived in to the car we drove, were made by both of my parents. One of the real problems about this sort of culture is that it teaches women that they're worthless if they're not married (making it even harder to leave abusive marriages), and teaches men that their wives are subhuman and can be treated as such.
Tradwifes: "I'm against kinks"
Also Tradwifes: "I'd like my *daddy* to control everything I do"
*sounds pretty kinky to me*
tradwives again: *calls God Father*
😂
Top me Heavenly Daddy
I am so sorry
Abby Wolffe I need to bleach my eyes and when I’m forced into church that’s all I’m gonna think about
I think they're just confusing their kinks with a worldview
"I follow a non-traditional religion."
"...Does that mean you're in a cult?"
Yes. Jesus is the true answer to life.
Yyyyyessir
Join my cult. We believe 2+2=5. That’s it. We are a simple people.
Tala B im interested in your cult.
@@AverageEggmonEnthusiast do you respect worms on a string tho? That's one of those things that make or break a cult
Yeah I’m a Tradgirl
T- tea
R- rats
A- and
D- my Nintendo 3ds
i love this comment 😂
Yo what’s ur friend code i wanna play smash bros
Say hi to your rats for me! 🐭
-a mouse owner (4 girls in a 120L bin cage)
Enjoy your cats.
Nice, another rat owner!
I have two male rats, one dark brown and cream, and another white with pink eyes.
Christian here: Some of the crap in this tag is embarrassing and vomit inducing as well.
The implications in some of these posts that men (people in general) can never make a mistake and shouldn't ever be questioned are despicable. Not to mention the baked in racism, sexism, condescension and overall judgmental tone. Marrying and respecting someone shouldn't entail giving up your freedom of expression (or your safety) and letting them step all over you. Y I K E S
YES. As a Christian I hate that people include us in those awful ideas. Like not having any other purpose besides being a wife and mother. Not to mention all the racism which is the opposite of what God wants. It makes me want to vomit! It's so embarrassing when I say I'm Christian and people compare me to these stereotypes of being a tradwife or something.
Lesbian Atheist here... THANK YOU! It's such a breath of fresh air to see religious people like you! Normally I find them in comment sections on youtube, but as a teenager living in the suburbs of Illinois... I don't meet many people who aren't religious. And it's difficult to find more progressive (in other words, people with common sense) religious people like you. You're the type of people who will eventually help others realize their bigotry. It's not all of you, but it's certainly a loud minority, and I hope that the majority will soon, finally, tell them to shut up. Thank you! :)
What's worse is when your very Catholic dad really pushes some of these on his totally-not-having it wife and has-no-choice daughter(hey look it's me!) He's a fairly nice person, but this liberal ain't having it.
Kagumiin i thought your name was “christian” and you were announcing it like it somehow played relevancy to the topic and then went “ o h “
I agree. It's always a shame to see people being influenced by toxic Christian stereotypes. As long as it's understood that those posts are just overgeneralizations.
“Aborted her black baby last year”-excuse me WHAT
sad frog black babies are aborted more than any other race of baby. Look it up.
Among its mentions of various races in different ways, consider this meme signed by nazis
@Jhonny Auditore unfortunately if it came to it , conservatives would probably only allow abortion to be legal in all states if people were aborting fetuses that would of become a baby of color or biracial.
@@meganbeyer1996 unfortunately I think a small bit of it is because it's hard to deny cheating when the baby is the "wrong" color 😬💔
tbh the baby didn't deserve that environment anyway lol
I feel so bad for that one woman who was "sad to say" that she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, whom she loved?? I hate purity culture so much. I hate people who make anyone, but especially women, feel ashamed of their sexuality.
Yea it can be pretty toxic. But I am glad her brother intervened. It sounded liker her boyfriend was being too pushy and coercive.
@@Alex_Barbosa I guess that's one way to think about it? but the way she put it made it seem like she did actually want to have sex with him, not that he was being pushy and coercive? and that she was just ashamed of that desire.
@@jupiterliam7961 it's probably both. I know women who literally got married and divorced out of HS, had some experiment times and then got remarried. They have told me they sometimes miss their old lovers. That makes them feel guilty and bad, even though their husbands may have done the same thing. Purity culture is fucked up. But it's doubly fucked up for non-straight bodies and those of us who were unwilling participants. Like I met my husband when I was 24- and we did not sleep together until I was 25. He's the only man I've ever been with- because any guys I tried go sleep with sucked at sex so they didn't get very far- I don't believe in "foreplay" it's all sex imo and if they are bad at that they're not going to be good with their dicks. But they all hold me up like I did something right. Nah ladies. Nah. I had terrible taste in men before I met him and I'm one of those useless bi/pan folk who sucks at getting with other women. These ladies need help deprogramming.
@@jupiterliam7961 Yea, what you said is pretty likely. But It still makes me uncomfortable when I hear about somebody trying to talk someone into sleeping with them after that person already said no, regardless the circumstance.
It's such a contradiction anyway - if you didnt have sexual desires, "purity" would be easy and nothing to be proud of. So being proud of abstaining from sex means you're proud you can overcome your strong desires- but shes sad she has desires?
This seems like.... a bunch of people who are craving a BDSM relationship but can't admit it? On both sides?
Christian bdsm but without the respect
100% closeted BDSM. Too sheltered to admit they have a fetish, but need to be in a power exchange relationship. Kinda sad and sick, relationships like this are usually toxic because consent isn't understood
@shotaro is my son I’ve seen you on NCT videos! Hello👋🏻
@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ • I'm sorry did Taeyong say you could adopt Shotaro ?? Did Yuta say you could take his lil bro ??
@ꜱʜᴏᴛᴀʀᴏ ɪꜱ ᴍʏ ꜱᴏɴ •
Pastel BDSM is my aesthetic.
Remember that episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where SpongeBob and Patrick had to take care of a baby clam? And Patrick was an inattentive and lazy husband who let SpongeBob do all the housework and still take care of the baby by himself?
Yeah that's the lifestyle these tradwives are promoting. Not vintage cottagecore. They're promoting being submissive to what sounds like an abusive husband.
Love that you felt like the best way to explain this is with an example from Spongebob. Like, there are multiple examples of abusive relationships on TV, but you chose to go with that one. Power move.
@@natvasch6399 what can I say? SpongeBob SquarePants had a lot of social commentary 😂
@Nyarlathotep as soon as someone says something that alludes to them being against feminists (such as "whatever you say, feminist"), that implies that they're not one.
Which means you're a sexist 🐖
I'm not ashamed of being a feminist cos I believe that men and women from different backgrounds should have equal rights.
Are you proud of being a misogynist/sexist? 🐖 🐖 🐖
Oink oink
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Postmodernism wow you have 450 comments on this channel alone, i genuinely cannot imagine how pathetic your life is, man. Do you leave the house? You must smell pretty bad
@Politically Incorrect Guide To Gynocentrism It's okay bro, you can say you have no life and like to feel angry at inconsequential things. Please waste your life away even more, make sure to reach 500 comments.
That's probably the only goal in life you can achieve anyway.
Thanks for not abusing “Henry” in the baby names, means a lot
fuckin Henry lol
Henry the 8th would like to have a conversation
@@rx500android Henry the 8th can stay exactly where he is, he is not invited.
My name's Henry too.
it's a normal name at least
Bro as a Christian I am really grossed out by some of the posts under this tag. I run into the grad wife stuff a lot since I follow the cottagecore tag along with baking. What really stings is that I started following those tags as a way to have a little escapism from my toxic relationship to my father. The thing that makes it really suck is that the phrases I see on some of the tradwife posts (“listen to your husband/ father” “it’s the woman’s place to be subservient to the man,” etc.) are the same kind of things that he’d tell me to make me listen to him/ show him respect that he wouldn’t grant me. It just really stings that a means of escapism for me ended up getting tainted by a reminder of what I was trying to get away from.
The bread posts I can get down with though.
*get down with dough
You have my deepest sympathies that you had to through this. I myself have had a similar situation happen to me with extremely gendered words and phrases such as "I need a strong man to carry this" . It has gotten to the point where it feels like I have sounded a part of myself I used to enjoy.
@@silverwolf281 Ah you beat me to it!
Just keep looking at the fluffy bread cat and everything will be okay
The cottagecore bread posts are here for you whenever you need them 💕
"Back to Tumblr, where we're safe" was never a sentence I'd thought I would hear ever.
I hate how cottagecore has been jumbled up in all this. Like, let me bake bread with my girlfriend
Yeah like cottage core is 99% wlw who want to bake bread and plant flowers
with her girlfriend
Same
I like bread
@@horrificreader4084 ooh, flirting in the comments. Creative I'll give you that
@@horrificreader4084 I'm not opposed though
In my opinion it’s fine to want to be in a traditional marriage IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT the problem comes with the internalized misogyny, racism, and general hatred that tends to brew in these sorts of communities.
Exactly. I've heard so many stories of women not being listened to with equal seriousness as men. If a submissive relationship is made intentionally but the dominant chooses to illegitimize what the submissive says, that turns into abuse. Happened to me once and never again (except I was hoping we would be equals). Even just not being listened to by someone you listen to and trust so much is demeaning.
And this nyarlathotep person is doing just that. Using sarcasm as an excuse not to listen. Intentionally showing a lack of compassion from the self says nothing about the person you're disagreeing with. All it shows is a lack of decency in the one using sarcasm.
Nyarlathotep nobody cares
I'd like this 10 times if I could!
Nyarlathotep they can make their own comments, it’s not meant to entertain you. scroll if you don’t like it, dumbass
Me: no fear
Your name being on the tradwife baby name list:
Me: one fear
f in the chat my bro
I’m so sorry
For anyone wondering, my name is Alice wich is a pretty common name but seeing it on the list was still a bruh moment
My name is prob on there. Patrica.
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I'm a Lucy...so, we're both stuck on this.
This is literally a kink.
The man controlling everything you do and "knowing he has your best interests in mind" or some shit. That's a submissive kink. That's a daddy dom kink.
They get inspiration from Christian Grey.
@@Hello-i7j2e Fifty Shades of grey is not real BDSM
@@jennyshen5176 I know, it’s more like abuse. I was just trying to make a joke. Sorry if it was in bad taste.
Turns out they are just really kinky lol
I'm a gay guy, and I'm kinda into that.
But there should still be a good amount of respect and understanding.
As a straight Christian, straight Christians scare me
update: i no longer identify as any of the above
Same thing here. I love god but I’m not going to be a slave to a man. It’s a partnership not a slave situation
As a non straight Christian, same
Nyarlathotep I’m a straight Christian and I’m scared of straight Christians too but because of this comment I now realize that I am in fact lesbian thank you for confirming my sexuality I had no idea 🙏😌✨
@Nyarlathotep lmao it was a joke chill
As a gay Christian, straight Christians scare me too.
When I when to a pray-the-gay-away camp, we used to sit around a campfire in the middle of the forest and sing and chant "Open your womb to God".
They were basically trying to turn all the girls into tradwives but I know many of the women who went to that camp and it basically had the OPPOSITE effect hahahha
Open your womb?? That is so creepy lmaoo
Blessed day. May the LORD open.
Handmaidens Tales lmao
Cᴜʀsᴇᴅ drarry
That sCREAMS Gilead
i got to be honest some of these seem like they are written by men. there is a group of guys from 4chan who think writing posts like these will lure women into thinking the same because they think women are primarily lead into actions by peer pressure. LMFAO.
100% my thoughts exactly.
Yes, some sound very "hello, fellow females" to me.
Or people trolling. Definitely a lot of trolling, too.
Anna L TERFs also call women females
Michael Merritt no they don’t. lmao.
@@aa-wc2oc They really do hun.
"to walk gracefully glide smoothly"
*starts floating*
* Wears heelies under my floor length dress and glides along the floor like a wraith *
@@mme.veronica735 💀
*Floats in the air ominously while tposing*
*Tied to a stake and then burnt for being a witch because these people also believe that witchcraft is the devil.*
I wanna be a trad wife but like as a lesbian atheist, I just wanna stay home taking care of the dogs while making pies for my wife.
:)) yes
Jennie Poisson adorable!
I’m a lesbian too and while it’s not the life I want for myself I do agree that it’s sooo cute and was a little fantasy of mine for a bit
I usually make characters to vent all my fantasies so they don’t bounce around my head and drive me insane
This exactly.
I can and will bake pies while wearing long skirts and cute sweaters.
Jennie Poisson may I interest you in lesbian cottagecore?
Me and my girlfriend’s dream
tradwife just seems like the christian version of ddlg
OH MY GOD YOU'RE RIGHT
Please don't make me overthink my kinks even more thank you
@Aloise Dawdle Daddy Dom Little Girl
Shannon Yongbanthom yes domestic discipline 🤤
why would you say something so brave yet so controversial?
Teya, this entire video: "Now we don't have time to unpack all that, so let's just throw away the whole suitcase"
"sit up straight"
Me, lying over my armchair like a dramatic unspeakable in the eighteenth century: oh.
Here's some more boy's names:
Ripper
Shredder
Destroyer
Atomfried
Annihilator
Gunpowder
TNT
Dynamite
Nuke
And some more for the baddest of boys:
Nuclear X-treme
Supreme Meister
Destructinator Incarnate
Terminal Supergod
Zerschmetterling
Breaker McDoom
Hannibal Biceps
Shredder is my favorite
What about gun?
Caleb Fury gun is a cute name
"Gun Bullet, you better get down from that tree right this instant, young man!"
I like Deagle and AK-47, myself
I feel like the whole "Do whatever he says. He always has your best interests at heart..." And stuff like that is how people fall into severely toxic relationships. It's like saying that if he tells you to do something, do it with no questions. If you don't want to you still have to, because HE knows what's best for you. What if he is toxic or manipulative towards you? That would make you fall into a severe bad place and becoming a mindless slave to your husband in a way. It all seems very dangerous with that stuff and those posts.
Right now I’m reading a book by Stephen King called, “Rose Madder” it about a girl who was beaten everyday by her husband for 14 years. When she finally leaves he get so mad thinking that she was supposed to obey him as if she were a pet.
Keira Laub that sounds awesome. I’m actually reading the The Shining right now, but I’m going to check out that book as soon as I finish
My boyfriend and I are into d/s but I’ve been reading up a lot on d/s relationships and a lot of the power imbalance, even if it’s fully consensual, fills me with this visceral disgust. It’s not my position to kink-shame anyone but being in a 24/7 TPE relationship sounds awful because even if it’s the woman’s choice it still leaves her very vulnerable to be controlled and manipulated. I like being “controlled” to a certain extent (being told when to go to bed, having to eat what he cooks for me bc it’s healthy and I can’t cook for shit lol) but it’s only because I LET him control me in a way that, imo, will make me a better person and help me make better decisions for myself. I really value my strength and freedom and there’s no way in hell I’m gonna let anyone take that away from me. Hearing about toxic relationships where the man holds all the power and the wife is subservient makes me sick. There’s this idea that, in a lot of d/s relationships, the sub is allowed to give their input but the dom has the final say on all decisions and...I’m sorry but that’s just not how a healthy adult relationship works.
@RUclips's CEO Is An Asshole
Bad men and women can and do abuse power relationships all the time.
@RUclips's CEO Is An Asshole
Ditto.
I love how instead of a specific region, they just say "European".
Like, that is where they're from.
The entire continent of Europe.
Not Ireland, not Italy, not even Britain. Just... all of Europe.
It's like asking someone where they live and they just hit you with "planet Earth"
Right? The European continent is so diverse with different cultures and history from place to place, so how do they group all the countries together? Weird.
What they meant to say is "she has to be white"
As an European, it generally sadden me when people just put us all together like that.
@@aliveslice This. It's naked White supremacy.
I believe a lifestyle like this is completely valid as long as you don't have a controlling partner, you're happy and you don't bash other people for being non-traditional.
They almost always DO bash other people, is the issue.
It's an ideology war.
@@brookebrothers9883 yeah that's kinda sad.
I don't think people who live that lifestyle call themselves traditional wives though. They tend to refer to themselves as homemakers or stay at homes or housewives. Not traditional wife.
I wanna live in a mushroom shaped cottage in the woods and be a stinky goblin man.
Live your dreams
Everything about this-- from the name, to the pic, to the comment --is perfection.
I felt this
Do you have your GA (Goblin Administration) assigned collection of Cool Rocks and Shiny Things yet?
@@mattuwu9978 why yes of course, I even have a tin of teeth
I'd totally be chill staying home and baking cakes for my wealthy husband and spending my days reading and tending to my little garden, but we would have to be equal. There's no "submissive wife" in this relationship. We both respect each other and we're both equal. I'll only bake you cakes if you're a good boy. If not, I'll leave you for the pretty widow in my gardening club because I'm bisexual and I do what I want.
Goals
Literally same. The whole thing
Ella Hendrickson same but in lesbian
yes!
asdhadsasjh i'd be the widow after murdering my husband but making it look like a *dramatically drapes self over chaise longue* tragic accident
my ex girlfriend wanted to be a tradwife, and pushed me into the role of the "strong, dominant husband" (we werent married). i was really in love with her and tried to do anything to make her happy, but it felt like a facade and i was really unhappy
Similar happened to me but it was the best thing for me- really pulled me out of my shell, enhanced my leadership qualities and confidence.
You dodged a bullet, my friend
Wait till a dumb incel calls you beta lmaoo
hope you foudn a good girl(or boy) king you deserve better
Inb4 someone calls you a simp for not wanting to boss your significant other around
At 25, I was married. And just like this naive young lady, I thought I would follow the “biblical way.” Adore my husband, be available for him, listen to his wants and needs. Flash forward at age 50, my man of my dreams became a weak willed, spineless worm of a man with a serious drinking problem. I realized all the strength he supposedly possessed was actually what he sucked out of me. Thank god I was raised by a practical man who insisted that I finish college and be an independent woman. I had been a wife for so long, I had forgotten whose daughter I was. I found a good attorney and filed for divorce. Got my resume together and went back to work. Six years latter, I could not be happier. I have a job I love, my daughter is thriving in college and I’m planning to buy my own home. These women haven’t a clue. My advice? Don’t stop working. Keep your skills up so when your devoted man runs off with the secretary or nurse or becomes a alcoholic in 25-30 years you will be marketable and go out on your own. Stand on your own two feet, ladies:)
honestly i'm so proud of you xx
Good on you! I agree!
I keep telling young women in the comments section of tradwife videos that they need to have a marketable skill before marriage and children, and I get a lot of hate for this advice. It isn't enough for women to be tradwives, but they must be so dependent on husbands that divorcing them means poverty.
I mean not all dudes are crappy like that and going to run off.
But yeah, be careful who you give power to in your life
@Jessica Messica
Being careful is not enough. Know how to be self-sufficient. Teenage girls need to learn about financial abuse. Many of the tradwife videos are discouraging young women from getting college degrees or marketable skills. This gives husbands too much power, making the wives vulnerable to financial abuse.
Honestly the whole trad wife thing really annoys me, it is something our generation has made up with idealism and rose tinted perspectives of history. There is a reason women in the 50s fought for rights and equal career opportunities. Maybe i am just opposed to this as i have seen the abuse that can come out of relinquishing your financial independence to your husband, but the whole thing stinks of naivety and idealism. Obviously abuse doesnt happen to everyone in these types of relationships but it is a very slippery slope to shackle yourself to someone in this way. You can have traditional family values without worshipping and being a slave to your husband.
alot of people like to look at terrible things in a good light, then promote it as something to be brought back.
Take communism for example. Its been proven countless times that, due to the human condition, successful communism is downright impossible. Yet, for one reason or another, people seem to want to bring communism back. I mean, I guess its a cool aesthetic, but they kind of remove everything else that made communism so reviled to begin with.
@@gabbo7101 Socialism worked amazing in my country though, so I hope you're not painting it all with one broad brush.
The boomers' entire humor is based on "wife bad, kids annoying, mil evil". But sure, traditional values need to be brought back.
"Traditional family values" are inherently misogynistic, queerphobic, and White supremacist. They can kindly fuck off.
I 100% agree, as someone who genuinely wants to eventually settle down with kids and become a stay at home mom, I think it’s important to be aware that not only are my dreams not universal but, they were originally used to oppress women, and many women grew up still being oppressed by this mindset and it’s horrible. I think that every single person has the right to choose what they want to do in life free from influence, whether that be a neurosurgeon or a homemaker (not to say you can’t have a home without kids or marriage I am just using the term to be gender inclusive).
I want to become a stay at home mom not because I was raised to want it but because I genuinely love kids and cooking and I think that being a stay at home mom is what is best for my life and is going to make me the happiest. However I think it is utterly ridiculous to become completely financially dependent on another person (why I also want to freelance from home) and absolutely no one whatever their role in your life has the right to force you to do anything.
I think that it’s okay to want to be a stay at home parent as long as you are still progressive about your lifestyle and do not force those dreams on those who do not share it
Nothing says traditional like shaming people who date outside their race and commending segregation
I mean yea, that's traditional, not sure if you're being ironic or what
@@cortomaltese7105 Which tradition, though? Humankind has a long history and the Roman Empire, which, I remind you, was the entity that brought Christianity to Europe, was a state of many peoples and "races". You bet they intermarried and had children with each other!
(Quotations marks around "races", because biologically speaking there are no human races)
@@cortomaltese7105 I was being satirical, like yes those things used to happen but they are bad and stupid and shouldn't exist now.
@brandon roberts [the habsburgs liked that]
liz t I’m very curious about your statement, unfortunately I don’t quite understand what you mean, care to elaborate?
Lesbian mom: *mentions cottagecore*
Me: *sweats nervously*
I kinda wanna make an account, find these posts and say "I'm a tradwife do these things apply to me and my wife because I don't have a husband" just to see what people say. (fyi it's not true lmao)
bro do it
This stuff low-key reminds me of the BDSM community, with all the "Do as he says, without question" but in BDSM there's such an emphasis that you should do what he says because you want to, not "Do what he says because your a woman and therefore below him"
Reactionaries really do seem to exist just to take the fun out of everything.
I would say in BDSM there's also more of an air of consent and with trad wife stuff it's just...going backwards in societal progress because...? I'm honestly not sure. At least in BDSM relationships, I can bank on there being aftercare and hard limits and it being mostly roleplay...What do tradwives have and why do they want this is never gonna get answered for me
it's like BDSM but without all the good stuff
Chocolate Doughnut WAIT I LITERALKY JUST LEFT A COMMENT THAT SAID THIS GIVES ME LOWKEY SEXUAL VIBES
being below one is kind of a kink too, so
She's like a lesbian mom it's oddly comfortable
9:56 *THIS IS LITTERALY THE 1950'S EQUIVALENT TO THE VIRGIN WALK VS THE CHAD STRIDE LMAO*
Lmaooo yesss
IDND I DIDNT EVEN NOTICE THAT
When someone says womanhood I start having gay non Christian thoughts.
I-
Same here
Fanfiction has ruined me
_M’bruh_
It's the fanfiction talking
Fanfic is a blessing and a curse
*The Transformed Wife wants to know your location*
Also, I love tumblr deep dives so much
Edit: I love cottagecore, but why is it related to tradwife? It's not about being traditional and marrying and being a housewife, it's about wanting to live in a vintage cottage full of plants, cuddling with kitties and talking to bunnies and birds. I want to live this life, not to be married to a man who's going to control me. I JUST WANT TO TALK TO BIRDS AND CUDDLE WITH MY PETS OK
Because they assiocate it with freedom from urban centers which promote “degeneracy”
I’m right there with you and i outright refuse this notion and I say we and all the other amazing positive cc ppl kick them out and be gay on a farm together with chickens and herbs and we eat the rich and bake bread all day
@@gremlinwithstickyhands3704 15:00 "oohh... bread?"
@@ReplyGuy22345 also manifest destiny....
As do I. Just let me get carried away by snails and frogs.
“aRe YoU in A CuLt??”
Me: that’s a mood
7:30
kid: Mommy, why did you name me Talon?
mother: Because you will be the vengeance of the Court of Owls. The one who takes down the Batman.
t h e b a t m a n
I'm gonna start using that
Good to know I'm not the only one making instant Batman references in my head lmao
yes
This is fantastic
I really don't understand the "guys don't reclaim the trad girl and draw her making out with girls because she was made by a nazi" the whole point is to piss those nazis off by warping their image of a "perfect woman" by showing her doing things that anger them. That's why boulderhurl edits are okay, because they are made to mock him and his terrible ideologies and comics.
I guess. It still kinda feeds into it with the "pretty traditional wife" being blonde but also pissing off Nazis is fun.
Your Stonetoss edits only serve to further his points lol
My cousin once-removed is a tradwife because she was raised "Christian", and honestly I feel so bad for her. Her husband hates our household because we're Presbyterian, left-wing, and pro-LGBT, and he won't let her or their kids talk to us unless we're at a family gathering and can't be avoided.
My mom and my cousin were best friends growing up, but now they can't talk because her husband is a prick who can't get over political differences. I used to be close to their second child as well, but I can't see her either because he won't let me and she still lives with them.
ShadowyBird deepest sympathy man. My situation isn’t exactly like your’s but my mom has cousins who used to be really close to the family and each other until they met their bitch wives who isolated them from each other and the rest of the family. I have an adorable, sweet cousin who is my little doppelgänger that I hardly get to see.
I can’t stand people like your cousins husbands who are so dogmatic about their beliefs, no matter what they may be, that they use it to be hateful. He’d probably hate Mr. Rogers since he was an lgbt accepting Presbyterian with socially liberal views.
Kill the husband, report back if u do
This guy is actually very mentally abusive. Heavily controlling and guilting your spouse for your own selfish reasons is toxic and abusive. She needs to get out.
Pah man lol 😂
@@thegoblinking. narcissism. My dad's a narcissist but not as severe as that.
If you want a wholesome tag to go through you should look at "Frogblr." There are so many funny/cute frog tumblrs out there.
OMG her face after the ‘respect the man you married’ post has the most disguised lesbian energy I’ve ever seen
The Wail of a Dying Coyote you question my power, mortal?
A lesbian disgusted at respecting a man, the world is truly shocked by this revelation.
Garlic! at the disco. Garlic! at the disco. Garlic! at the disco.
Patrick Bateman here's the small peepee troll
@@sakuraogami6885 Troll yes but funnily enough among all the women I've known, never once have I received a complaint about my dick size.
I'm mad that cottagecore has gotten messed up like this. It's supposed to be about cute animals, baking, and picking flowers, not sexism.
From what I've seen most cottagecore groups are actively and explicitly anti-racist and anti-sexist, and emphasise the need to be aware of privilege and problematic elements to make sure they don't slip into the white supremacist aesthetics of tradwife which is much different to cottage core
“Atomic housewife” sounds like a domestic parody of Atomic Blonde where she stays at home with her wife Delphine and does spy work from her home office and I’m here for it
"Unequivocally feminine" that sounds more like something you'd say about a Drag Queen, I guess they are the true trad wives.
@Aloise Dawdle being unequivocally masculine I suppose
Me, looking at me in a skirt: "all i need is boobs and I'll be... U N E Q U I V O C A L L Y F E M I N I N E"
@@Alex-cw3rz Thats what drag kings are for!
I'm all for Drag Queens becoming the tradwives of the 2020s
@@Speederzzz true, but I think a good pair of heels and on point nails are top
who's gonna tell them they have submission kinks they took too far?
eh not really too far, if they're happy with it and everyone involved consents I don't see the problem
X606 There's quite a lot of problems. If the husband gets out of hand, even slightly, it could cause mental trauma and after a while could even abuse the wife. Most women and men who promote this are either being abused and trying to find an excuse for it, or are abusing and also need to find an excuse for it.
Submission kinks are usually inherently abusive, and it's far more degenerate compared to the loving relationship husband and wife.
Anyways, why is submission kink okay to you but traditional relationships aren't?
I'm truly getting tired of hearing people say things like this.
@@localshithead7430 well I guess the real problem with "traditional relationships" is that there is less consent involved in them. D/S relationships are built from the ground up with a massive dose of consent and trust, "traditional relationships" are not.
@@X606 not to mention that even if there is people who engages in 24 h games, usually the d/s kink is left for the bed and out of it the relationship is perfectly normal and equal.
Man, why want a house-wife when you can be a house-husband?? catch me making bread for my girlfriend in my binder and apron
Yes
That's what I want in a man.
Thats so wholesome, I love this.
laughs in immortal tatsu
ok but that's adorable omg
“Please just bring back the porn.”
The “how to walk gracefully” thing is disturbingly like marching band. Just more pink and dresses. And less yelling and heatstroke.
and less tan lines
YES
and less dehydration
And less people making the “one time at band camp” reference like we’ve never heard it since starting marching band.
And your voice doesn’t quit because your busy growling at you row because THEY WONT STAY IN LINE DEAR GOD I KNOW YOUR NOT STRAIGHT BUT COME ONNNN
my husband has a cousin who named her son "Bow Hunter" not "Bo", not "Beau", BOW HUNTER!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO
flamevein she-ra be punching the air rn
cherri blossom I WAS JUST ABT TO COMMENT THE SAME THINT 💀 spop s5 tonight 🤪
She reminds me of those MMORPG players
🤮🤢
I’ve got long blonde hair and live in dresses, but this makes me want to shave my head and escape to the woods donning a shell suit
Get that crazy expensive Gucci one.
yes
I have a friend who's really into the whole idea of living a simple life in the forest and having a big beautiful family and I thought it was strange at first. In itself that dream is not a bad thing, but it bothers me that some people in this community think they have to submit to daddy and always be flawless in every way. It sounds harmful to not allow yourself independence.
Nins Mins SUBMIT TO DADDY KQNSIWNDONWKANIFND
Honestly they hate porn but why does it give me undercover freak vibes? It all feels very low key sexual to me.
This isn't trad at all. A lot of people want that.
@@zant41 true, but she also admires European culture and tradition. She likes cooking, baking and doing embroidery too and says she values femininity. She's cool though, she doesn't really have any problematic opinions.
@@Niniminns but ... what does that even mean? what does this have to do with Europe? i mean, what part is she referring to? bc where I live in Europe, women are mostly expected to become their own breadwinners and its slightly frowned upon wanting to just be a housewife and mother...
13:22 "he guides me when I WOULD BE WEAK ON MY OWN"
this pisses me off to no ends. my duty as a husband is to LEND HER MY STRENGTH when she is weak. and because i am human, and thus prone to occasional bouts of weakness myself, she lends me her's in return. i have seen all this before. tradwife is a hashtag now, but they have been a thing for generations and they spawn many societal problems because the are BAD MARRIAGES. anger, resentment, loss of love, no respect, and children born into this will suffer from relationship problems of their own.
A👏MEN👏
This shouldn't be about men doing everything because women are too "weak" -- that puts a lot of pressure on the man and puts the woman in a box.
I've always thought it's about doing what the other can't do; capitalizing on THEIR strengths while making up for THEIR weaknesses.
I think there's an oft-used quote of "women were made to do what men cannot", and I think that's sort of true!
However, that must adapt from person to person, relationship to relationship, and isn't a predefined set of characteristics that can be prescribed to all women automatically.
You know something? You're the kind of person who defines being a true man. I respect you.
One word:WOW
exactly. marriage should be about balance, not ownership.
Exactly, my fiance and I take turns supporting each other when our mental health gets rough. Sometimes we both have a bad day, and take turns venting. At the end of the day, we are each other's rock and safe place. Life is hard, especially mental health but I know as long as I have him I'll eventually be OK, and I'm also there for him
This is kind of why I get so frustrated. I wanted to come into 2020 with a classy/elegant aesthetic and wear a bunch of dresses (not because that makes you classy/elegant I'm just in a skirts and dresses mood this year lol) because 2019 I was a little graceless and immature, but all the inspo posts and videos are led by women like...this. If anyone knows of anything like that but not racist and completely anti feminist I'd be super grateful
Don't give up, there are a lot of very nice and progressist poeple in the vintage aesthetic :3.
Just Call Me Teacup i dont know if your style is more modern or vintage, but Anna Bey from the school of affluence yt channel has a lot of content about elegance and fashion/styling tips. She’s a feminist and doesn’t push any fAmiLy vAluEs bs
Karolina Zebrowska is like a vintage RUclipsr. Probably not a lot about elegance or anything but A+ channel
You should look into the content of Rachel Maksy, Loepsi, Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, Bernadette Banner and Karolina Zebrowska. Even though all of them are more on the vintage side of the classy/elegant aesthetic, I think it's a good starting point of your exploration. They're all super entertaining, classy feminist ladies that produce high quality content. You can find them here on RUclips and Instagram.
I get that so much :( I _love_ vintage clothing and cottagecore, but I'm also an atheist and believe in total equality for all. You can dress however you want and believe however you want.
ah yes, my dream life: have a marriage arranged while i am in the womb, i marry at 15, bare at least 10 children and die before my 40s
Ah those were the times
This video has given me such flashbacks to every time in my recently life that someone I've met irl has seen me in my vintage clothes with vintage hair and no makeup (because i'm too lazy to wear makeup) and assumed I'm a Good Christian Woman. It has happened so many times. Probably not helped by the fact I live in a rural heavy Christian area but oh boy. I've had girls invite me to their church stuff because apparently I seem like a good traditional woman or whatever.
Sewing vintage clothing replicas and vintage baking recipes might be 2 of my main hobbies but I fear the day they find out about my 3rd and most secret hobby: drawing big titty anime ladies.
Big titty anime ladies! Yes!
You, as a human, are goals
your mind ♥️♥️♥️
I dunno you sound perfect to me?
If they dont want to be your friend after finding out you draw big titted anime ladies, why would you want to be their friend?
Liberated Feminist: "Is only attracted to black men"
Tradwife: "Loves her family, race, and country; in that order"
Me: Didn't realize memes were around in the 50's
traditional values aka racism, sexism and homophobia
DoubleIrish DutchSandwich Idk what your comment means but I wanted to say: Memes actually were around in the 50’s! People have had memes for ages
why is race before country?
@@DeathnoteBB it's a statement on the very 50's values that that particular meme puts forth.
Jesse Hunter Yeah but I just wanted to point out that memes were around in the 50’s. Some people (not necessarily OP) genuinely think memes are only an internet thing, when in reality memes have always existed.
Conservative: "We want traditional house wives back!"
*Gold digger with no job leeches off wealth*
Conservative: "No! I hate gold diggers!"
Woman: "Isn't that what you wanted?"
Both sides of extremes are just mirroring each other on double standards. If some higher power were to do a full totalitarianism over people's lives in the name of equality to treat all both would go anarchy
@Lilyrose sounds projective while they complain over men while they become toxic whamen over not stealing from them lol
A housewife is supportive and works to help the family as a whole, a gold digger is unsupportive, selfish, and disloyal.
@@anilin6353 Nope, a gold digger is loyal if you have the money. Also this is about traditional housewives, not modern day housewives. Back in the day the traditional housewives would be gold diggers who only cooked and cleaned the house which is nothing in today's standards.
@@anilin6353 dont forget runs off with another man when he has something she wants lol
"Follow his rules" "Don't be polite to women" "Do Whatever He Tells You"
It sounds like Fifty Shades of Grey bad parody 😂
flashbacks to 50 Shades and 365 lol