How To Get Your Way
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- Опубликовано: 4 авг 2024
- You can be persuasive and get your way with these communication tips and people skill hacks!
Do you feel like you never get your way and no matter what you say, people don’t see your side or do what you want? Maybe you have trouble being assertive and persuasive in your work life or even in your relationship? It can be hard to confidently say what you mean and get someone to listen.
In this video, I am going to teach you a few verbal strategies you can use to master your people skills and get your way!
In this video:
0:00 Intro
0:37 Start with intention
1:09 Boldify your words
2:25 Tap into feelings
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1 Start with intention, what you want, the end goal.
2 clear and concise language
3 use feelings
4 add a benefit for them
You're wrong
I've been binge watching the crap out of your videos lol
Hi Vanessa! Well I love hearing you say that you're a "recovering awkward person" because I struggle with my own self confidence and feel awkward and uncomfortable in my own skin a lot and I just love to hear ways to gain more confidence. I really enjoyed watching your class introduction, where several students spoke about how they worry about looking stupid and so on. Just makes me feel better I'm not alone ☺
Me too, then I subscribed which I rarely do. She's a very intelligent lady.
It's also possible that she is just saying that to be more likable...Tip#1 of being charismatic is to embrace your imperfections, and more people will like you or buy what you're selling
"She's a very intelligent lady"...Good example of Tip #4...gushing.
Hard to know the truth when I can't see you. I don't trust anyone I can't see after binging these.
I read a few comments below. So much negativity. Personally, I think Vanessa was right on. I don't know her, but I teach Psychology in a community college, and every once in awhile, I will show one of her videos. She is articulate and practical. My students like what she has to say. She captures the gist of social psychology and presents it in an applied manner. Most people in business need to hear psychology presented in this way to see its relevance. Kudos to Vanessa Van Edwards for bringing Psychology to the general public.
Agree. I am an engineering graduate and is now currently enrolled. Few years ago I became interested to Body Language and it really helped a lot in my work place. Al ot. Trust me. Most especially during negotiations and meeting. I self learn how to relate to people including how to talk to them accndg to how would you actually want to turn the situation to. What she is sayin is indeed true and is applicable. Reading body language plus how to yalk to them is a really must learn skill.
The interviewer may seem 'annoying' , but PLEASE take your time to look at the subtle but really effective way she takes charge at 3:44 after being 'interrupted'. it makes the practical tips even more practical! Man, I just love these videos
I've done it so many times n it actually does work :*
We can all appreciate a wife who communicates on this level. Communication is everything. The gestures and facial expressions are really an art form and shown well here. Some people are just easier to listen to.
I always get my way because I never have anybody conflicting with me. With nobody in my life, it is extremely hard to find conflict with someone.
Love this Lady- just came across Vanessa and she is super swell!!! ❤️ I love the feeling I'm not wasting my time but soaking up vital info when viewing her talks. She engages da thinkin part of my brain!!!!
Thank you Vanessa - and keep it coming!!!!
Vanessa I happened to stumble upon your very interesting videos and mind set and I very much enjoy hearing and watching you speak, you are the definition of charisma!
I tried this and it always works!!! Thanks Vanessa 😊..
Vanessa you are absolutely amazing and highly talented! x
alright this bad ass gifted beauty stood up for me, not so random now. thanks girl
These videos are inclusive and I need help getting an amazing job, so tips are great.
Awesome insight, thanks
Thanks you. You help me more than you think
Boldify, Brilliant!
fantastic tips
Very specific, wow.
You are amazing
Thi is best way for me to learn how to speak english,s well thanks for all vidio
does this work to get important information from someone?
It's a shame most of Vanessa's gestures are cropped out of the frame
It high key annoys the crap out of me every time that guy interrupts
I cannot find that book to buy 😭 not even on the website
LMC got me watching this XD
I hate the "know it all" people in the comments
+Allison you hate people you don't know... sad
+Marco Mark Productions stfu marco
Allison those r people who think they r being smartass but they don't know they r just being ass
@@marcomarkproductions XD
so what if every one is using these tactics!! I always tend to rebel when it feels like some one is pissing on my brain!!
My way or the highway? I don't know. Wild guess.
"embolden" already exists.."boldify" ?? :-)
@vetofthenet ..... next level courage & boldness. Typical to be embolden takes exterior influences, whereas to boldify comes from internal efforts & motivation .... just a thought
You dont take into account that some people in relationdhips may not be as happy. If the person is a narssist, they will not take into your "help me with the house, and then we can have fun in bed thing" it doesnt always work that way. some people are either too ridged or mentally ill to be on the same kind of upper high class level. Maybe consider that in your next video :)
Some of the comments are weird here...
Great video, and great strategies. My only concern - the 'happy wife, happy life,' line. I am very interested in refuting the concept that our society has, that a husband's job is to keep his wife happy. A husband, like any other human being, has no control over the emotions of another person. I agree, a husband should want to contribute to the happiness of his wife, but is not responsible for it. I've known too many couples that have fallen into the rut of the husband trying to appease his wife, and both of them are miserable. He doesn't want to appease her, and she doesn't want to be appeased, but they've both subscribed to the absurd notion that is how a marriage/live-in relationship/etc. is supposed to work. Nonsense!. We've got to stop this insanity.
+M Cornwall Yes!
+M Cornwall agreed
yesssss.... finally some ppl with intellect :-)
M Cornwall LMFAO What do you contribute beside resentment?
Will this work with a job interview?
Happy wife happy life
After seeing several of these videos, I thought AM Northwest was a fake little morning show Vanessa created to introduce her material. It's real!
vanessa is vibes....
I already know this strategy to get what I want..But my husband still needs to be told every night! haha
Some one get this lady 1000 more subscribers
The word is embolden.
Jonathan Graves - True, but she just may have helped ‘add’ a new word to the Dictionary :)
I want my way because my sister wants my wall plug in and I need one for 5 in the morning and my phone is almost dead. When she doesn't even need a phone
I hate that people use this in negative ways .
She looks like the journalist off Dexter
"I'll be a happier woman before we go to bed!" WHAT????
Holy Moly Exchanging productivity for sex is legal if there is a legal contract in place. ;)
whats it like to be master manipulator in every situation?
Hate how they interrupt her
Shes so pretty, I wonder what her ethnicity is?
Latino
Hollandia
lol ive said that verbatim to my husband never works
getdown8990 He takes you for granted. You need to get that sense away from him
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I wonder if she's a mother already.
I know my wife is smarter that me because she chose me to be her husband.
Need this with lazy people . not and am sorry If I sound rude can you help cleaning the house 😂.
In the 21st Century, don't say "I would like you to help around the house." Say, "I would like for us to work together around the house."
Where are her gestures?
This is not the point, but if someone offered me 3 dollars for my waffle maker I would tell them to get out of my yard 😊
Happy wife happy life Because nobody cares about what the husband feels or thinks. His opinions are just that then the wife does whatever she wants to.He says what do you want to do honey. She says I don't care whatever you want to do. She want him to make a decision good or bad. But really wants him to fail so she can say told you so.
*DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT OR SHOULD I PASS BY YOU AGAIN?*
Vanessa you are my love goddess...
Vanessa you can just talk directly to RUclips audience instead of these short interviews, just like other youtubers, so you can say more..
that guy makes the weirdest comments
But ,what if I DON'T want the waffle maker? What if I want the suit case, then what?
How about a happy Man a happy life. It should always be 50/50. Some people like to use sex as a tool, just like you heard her say in her talk this is bad for a relationship, and nothing good comes from controlling someone through manipulation.
Hard to say specially for women? that's ironic considering that they have more chances to get things their way, asking things from parents, asking things to the boyfriend, then asking things to the husband, etc :l
That's because they play more on your emotions. From a business aspect it will be harder for them.
LET THE WOMAN SPEAK
No one wants love.., everybody wants pleasure..,
Sounds like a threat or an ultimatum. For his benefit...lol
Guys use logic , women understand feelings.
Why the passion for the alpha ?
Focus on the children from the start instead of changing adults.
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everything she says has already been discovered, nothing she ssay is new, she is just rehashing old ideas
***** okay ! Good point :)
Michael Adams abaca gP
+Michael Adams Most ideas are rehashed right, it just depends whether we've come across them before or not.
"Happy wife, happy life"
Scientifically proven to be true?!
It's axioms like this that sincerely rattle me up, inculcating this sense of hopelessness for the current paradigm of heterosxual relationships. Fuckin' sad.
Anti Zalfer ܐܬܘܪܝܐ Huh, really...
Well I just hate it
No matter what way
''eye for an eye tooth for a tooth'' that's the way, you harm my kid, I harm your kid
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I am not talk yours
male interrupted
There's no such thing. I don't want my way. I just tell the truth whether people like it or not that's their problem. Ugly is ugly. To each their own. I have tolerances. I hate being surrounded by ugly people that all have a crush on me. I don't like ugly. I want tovleave anerica. It's the land 9f ugly people
The dude interrupts SO much in SO many of your videos. You handle it well, but geez. Hasn't he been listening to your advice?
He’s attracted to her Op Sea
I wish this guy would shut up for 2 seconds and let her talk
Let your yes be yes and you're no, No. And you won't fall into this manipulation
I hate this style of video. I don’t like the hosts at all, I won’t even watch it. It would better if it was her speaking directly to the camera- versus this cringe 2000s interview style
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