These videos have been really helpful. I read an entire Body Language book, but the few videos I've watched of you on this show very well confronted the social issues I have.
That's funny! My older brother is extremely social and if he sees me with my hands in my pocket he will walk over and pull my hands out of my pocket because it's too awkward for him. Now when I think about it, I don't think I've ever seen him with his hands in his pocket.
Really interesting video. Thanks for posting it. The guy (host) got on my nerves. He was trying to be funny but ended up being silly. I'm really glad I found you on RUclips today. :-) :-)
Hey Vanessa, I love your videos, I've been interested in body language, NLP, evolutionary and behavioral psychology for a while. I'm confused though, in another video, you said that men often put their hands, or fingers sans thumbs, in their pockets to show attraction and convey confidence. In this video, it seems like you said the opposite. Is this based on the situation or environment? Also, I always thought that Ekman's micro expressions referred to subtle involuntary facial expressions that only last for about 1/32nd of a second. Like when the person's internal feelings or thoughts are inconsistent with the words they are saying. Thanks, - Chris
When you pause a video and someone seems to have a totally different facial expression, is that (even sometimes) a micro expression, or something else? :D
I found if you constantly talk with your hands it defeats the object of what you are trying to say because people are more focused on what you are doing with your hands, rather than the message you are trying to convey
How easily we forget the original meaning of putting your hands in your pockets was to non verbally communicate to the women in the room (if you are a man) that you are not here 'to put your hands' on any women. So, a man would put his hands in his pockets to socially intercommunicate to the entire room in the old days, "I'm keeping my hands off." It had nothing to do with meekness and everything to do with forestalling misconceptions about his intentions during social interactions in that new room of social creatures which contains usually about half full of women. An alpha male would back then almost always put his hands in his pocket when entering a room with more than two women to serve the 'husband shoppers' early notice of the boundary being established he is there for socializing and not significant relationship searching activity - something women are almost never not doing.
I love Vanessa. Anytime the guy is in videos he is annoying. Very disrespectful to Vanessa and the other lady. Always interrupts and has to be the center of attention and loud.
Your comment said it all... Is not a "small box" it is reality and reality hurts. You probably love that show and that's why you are crying about cuz I hurt your ego. Lol
+Adil Sami it is hard to imitate a micro expression. Those happen in 1/10 of a second and are natural. Faking them is pretty tough when they normally occur subconsciously.
The fact that she watches the "Bachelor" made me doubt her credibility. A truly deep, smart person wouldn't b able to watch such a moronic show unless they do it for scientific research.
I disagree. It's a popular show (which can give you all sorts of insight into other people as well as your own guilty pleasures) and it's about relationships developing and all the body language that goes with it. How much of it is acting? How much is real? Can she guess who is going to hook up before it happens based on body language? What is it that they say or do to create attraction? Can she guess who he'll pick? Actually, I wrote all that before seeing the part of the video where The Bachelor is mentioned and sure enough that's exactly what she does. Seems like a pretty smart way to watch a show like that. Besides, from watching several of her videos and reading a handful of articles she seems plenty intelligent to me so I think you're only discrediting yourself for jumping to such a conclusion based on the fact that she watches a particular TV show. After all, are you going to pretend that all the TV shows you watch are high-minded and enlightening? Do you watch sports? Do you watch violent action movies? C'mon.
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These videos have been really helpful. I read an entire Body Language book, but the few videos I've watched of you on this show very well confronted the social issues I have.
That's funny! My older brother is extremely social and if he sees me with my hands in my pocket he will walk over and pull my hands out of my pocket because it's too awkward for him. Now when I think about it, I don't think I've ever seen him with his hands in his pocket.
I'm a truth wizard, study me! no really though I think it has to do with me being highly sensitive. thanks for all the great vids.
4:44-4:49 there's an editing mistake. Loops back to earlier in the video. Great material though, thank you for your work!
someone is seting the source video back in the middle... please repair it.
Content is very good, as always and fun to watch.
Really interesting video. Thanks for posting it. The guy (host) got on my nerves. He was trying to be funny but ended up being silly.
I'm really glad I found you on RUclips today. :-) :-)
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Hey Vanessa,
I love your videos, I've been interested in body language, NLP, evolutionary and behavioral psychology for a while. I'm confused though, in another video, you said that men often put their hands, or fingers sans thumbs, in their pockets to show attraction and convey confidence. In this video, it seems like you said the opposite. Is this based on the situation or environment?
Also, I always thought that Ekman's micro expressions referred to subtle involuntary facial expressions that only last for about 1/32nd of a second. Like when the person's internal feelings or thoughts are inconsistent with the words they are saying.
Thanks,
- Chris
she said man put their hands in the pocket and leave their thumbs out
There is no other just reflektion of oneself.
No body gonna talk about how beautiful this woman looks?
Truly a person to socialize with
This video is pretty awesome, it's thought provoking
Loved the conversation, :-) Truth wizards, hahaha...
Great stuff Vanessa I always liked your stuff
Thanks Vanessa! This is great!
Vanessa is A Good mentor
You know what I'm doing now? I'm scratching my head and wondering-wtf is going on with this video? lol It keeps repeating
Did he say Vanessa van patten?
Vanessa you are amazing. I love your videos amazing content .
When you pause a video and someone seems to have a totally different facial expression, is that (even sometimes) a micro expression, or something else? :D
why is it repeated? I would have prefered it to go straight through.
Great info I watched it twice!
"Science of people" and this thumbnail. I would run away if someone 'smiled' at me like this, thinking they're a lunatic.
I found if you constantly talk with your hands it defeats the object of what you are trying to say because people are more focused on what you are doing with your hands, rather than the message you are trying to convey
The trick is to avoid people as much as you possibly can, then avoid them some more.
Queen Midas does it again. 👑
How easily we forget the original meaning of putting your hands in your pockets was to non verbally communicate to the women in the room (if you are a man) that you are not here 'to put your hands' on any women.
So, a man would put his hands in his pockets to socially intercommunicate to the entire room in the old days, "I'm keeping my hands off."
It had nothing to do with meekness and everything to do with forestalling misconceptions about his intentions during social interactions in that new room of social creatures which contains usually about half full of women.
An alpha male would back then almost always put his hands in his pocket when entering a room with more than two women to serve the 'husband shoppers' early notice of the boundary being established he is there for socializing and not significant relationship searching activity - something women are almost never not doing.
I love Vanessa. Anytime the guy is in videos he is annoying. Very disrespectful to Vanessa and the other lady. Always interrupts and has to be the center of attention and loud.
How many times did you go to this same program? Its about 90 percent of your videos
Where are from originally?
Venessa: smart, cute, knowledgeable in human relations.
Interviewers: annoying af and painful to listen to.
thank you.
"Don't slap people in the face" If only the brother Will Smith saw this video 🥺
stop the video at about 5:15. It repeats everything from there.
ty for reminding me to stay away from crying drunks lol!
Did he say van patten?
Some guys put hands in pockets near their groin as a prowess to direct attention there as well.
my secfet so that SO's think I am faithful is to be faithful.
U are awesome
Vanessa is intelligent beautiful and funny
I agree with you. She seems very likeable.😊
This video repeats itself halfway through.
True video
Wow the automatic close captions is wild lol
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Your comment said it all... Is not a "small box" it is reality and reality hurts. You probably love that show and that's why you are crying about cuz I hurt your ego. Lol
You remind me of my friend Carrie RIP
What does it mean about your sitting position,you collapsed your legs entire video
The video is doubled over.
she might be good with reading facial expression but really bad at imitating them
+Adil Sami
it is hard to imitate a micro expression. Those happen in 1/10 of a second and are natural. Faking them is pretty tough when they normally occur subconsciously.
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truth wizards.... you mean empaths???
I love u venesa
how to know if a girl likes you
Man host is annoyingly loud and interrupts too much. He should listen to your advice instead of talk over it.
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why dont you just call every one of these podcasts...con!!! con!!!! con!!!!
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The fact that she watches the "Bachelor" made me doubt her credibility. A truly deep, smart person wouldn't b able to watch such a moronic show unless they do it for scientific research.
agree... I'm just watching this because I get off on how stupid some people are.....
lmao
I disagree. It's a popular show (which can give you all sorts of insight into other people as well as your own guilty pleasures) and it's about relationships developing and all the body language that goes with it. How much of it is acting? How much is real? Can she guess who is going to hook up before it happens based on body language? What is it that they say or do to create attraction? Can she guess who he'll pick?
Actually, I wrote all that before seeing the part of the video where The Bachelor is mentioned and sure enough that's exactly what she does. Seems like a pretty smart way to watch a show like that. Besides, from watching several of her videos and reading a handful of articles she seems plenty intelligent to me so I think you're only discrediting yourself for jumping to such a conclusion based on the fact that she watches a particular TV show.
After all, are you going to pretend that all the TV shows you watch are high-minded and enlightening? Do you watch sports? Do you watch violent action movies? C'mon.
Ana Lozada I don't think she claimed to be truly deep. Also a truly deep, smart person wouldn't put others into such a small box.
+bill fill That's nasty. You get off on that? That's stupid.
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Theres a glitch in the Matrix :|
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