Divorce Battle: She's Asking for It All
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My son is 20 y/o now, I was considering on sending him a copy of your book. Is his age appropriate for your book?
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...A woman will make someone suffer if they reject her.
Yet they reject guys all the time.@@user-dy2qq5wh4b
I bought your book. It should be taught in all high schools.
"Men are in love. Women are in business."
Men love idealistically. Women "love" opportunistically.
Correct...men need to wake up
Coach gang…another one is men marry for love women for a lifestyle…the wall channel
Facts
Excellent!
Any woman who demands her soon to be ex husband to get out of the house are terrible human beings.
More common than you think which is why most married men walk on eggshells at home it’s a terrible way to live
How about when they don’t even demand but then use the local law to forcible evict, ie. a *false* occupational and non-molestation order (Uk) - ie. a false attempt at DV.
No... The men are fools for getting married. The woman will always be a woman. Him on the other hand is a fool and that was his reward.
they do not have a conscience the way we do.
Soon to be ex opened up a restraining order to get me out of the house. They’re dirty narcs. 🫡🇺🇸🇬🇧
Do NOT marry. End of story.
The bait n switch masters
I am 62 and way back when I was a teenager I knew marriage was no good, and so I remained a bachelor. It's much worse now.
Was saying this to my mate last year. He's absolutely blind as hell. She constantly micro disrespects him. Told him stay as you are, don't marry because there is zero value for a man to marry.
@@dpstrial Almost thirty year virgin here, sir. Any tips, except the universal truth of can't live with or without women?
@@leroyericson1327
And THAT is just what they really are..
As a retired police officer in Baltimore, it’s not as easy as it used to be to get a man arrested on the allegations when the police r called. Most of the time the woman will go to the Court Commissioner and get an ExParte order to force him out of the house. In Maryland, women are starting to get arrested and removed from the house. I once told a couple I was going to arrest both of them because I could not determine who was the aggressor. She changed her story real quick.
That's the wisdom of King Solomon right there
That is good news indeed. However, those orders tend to be knee jerk rubber stamped. Mostly the judge/prosecutor covering their ass. It at least gives you a bit of time to plan your next move. Baby steps are better than nothing I guess.
DO. NOT. GET. MARRIED.
There is no positive outcome of involving the government in your relationships.
Facts
Exactly.
Even if it’s a prenuptial? I have no kids and also have no major assets at this point in my life. My fiancé & I are paycheck to paycheck but she wants marriage.. But I’m feeling the same why get the government involved? It just feels like she’d leave me if I decline marriage
@@starseedenergy8069 let her leave who gives af do not sign that contract you will thank me later,if she really wanted marriage she would be ok with just ceremony but no you know what she really wants. she wants that goverment contract that gives her leverage over you.
@@suhaibsuhaib5947 explain how it’s leverage over me when my wallet is empty to begin with. The only thing I could think of is if her and I get a house together (currently in an apartment) and things go downhill she could file for divorce and I’m left living nowhere.
My second time, two daughters and a stepdaughter were involved. The house was rented, she did not want it but wanted me to move out until she found a place. I later found that she was trying to get a child support judgment against me but could not as long as I was living in the home. Whenever she yelled at me to move out, I asked "Are you going to assume the rent?" She screamed she did not want the house. I responded "Then you move out! The one who wants out is responsible for getting out!"
🔥
That was always my thought. How do you quit on marriage but want to keep everything that comes with it.
Of course. She’s all strong, independent doesn’t need a man until the alimony discussion comes around.
Fr
Preach
Red states are no better
Facts.
BINGO
I remember when my Ex told me she was leaving me for another guy. Told me I needed to leave the house so he could move in. I told her I wasn't leaving. She and him were leaving for a trip that weekend and said "We'll talk about it when I get back". While she was gone, packed all her stuff in boxes, and had them waiting for her in the dining room when she got back. She ended up moving into an apartment with him (he was married too), and of course the relationship failed within a few months. I'm also in Florida, and all marital assets are pretty much split 50/50. The judge will probably force the sale of the house, and they will each get half of the equity.
It never does work out. I had a similar situation, where me and my ex had separated but were still living together while the lease was up. We have a child together, so she moved in with another dude. That shit imploded within 6 months of them living together. It’s too funny lol
Can't you just have an accidental fire, collect the insurance money, buy gold with cash in some other state, and go to various strip clubs, getting a lap dance here and there, and then claiming ALL the money was pissed away at strip clubs? That's what I'd do.
Did she ever try to reconcile after he failed attempt at keeping the grass greener? Good job standing your ground tho.
I went through all this shit back in 97. Terrible. The most difficult thing I have done in my life. Men in Canada have hardly any rights. Never get married.
Sir, were you able to be affectionate, let alone committed towards women after that experience? Did you ever ''date'' again?
100% great advice. DO NOT abandon your place in the home... Direct guidance I got from attorneys running a divorce seminar back a # of years ago when I was going thru my divorce. Men need to process the fact that woman, balance of probability, will plan their exit. They'll have people in their ear coaching them & they will start walking thru the play book long before you may know what she's doing. This is a high stakes situation guys get caught up in, maybe the most serious one they'll be engaged in during their life, act accordingly.
Couldn’t have said it better, my man 💪💪
Agreed, don’t leave. Protect from false dv claims and be smart
My ex took everything. And, she used my kids as a shield. I could not believe how I was being screwed in court. Always have a plan B, before you get married!
Wrong. Do NOT marry.
Plan B, do not get married!
I totally agree with you!
Never get married
@@suhaibsuhaib5947 Even if you don't get marry you'll still be fuck up by her. 😂😂
Marriage is chaos for men 🤦🏻
Considering how much they love drama and chaos is it a surprise they pull the trigger on D so they can be center of attention again.
A sick game for many women. Finally they get the chance to live out what they watch on tv.
If you're stupid enough to get married as man today with all the information available on how bad it is. Then you've only got yourself to blame.
It's hell
I watch these videos to remind myself to never get married.
In South Carolina - If your old lady wants a divorce and asks for it- She has to leave.
What are hurricanes like in Charleston?
Wait a minute. So whoever is the one to initiate divorce is the one who has to leave the shared property?
If she’s in a blue state or in Canada, she will get everything.
100% correct. I believe Canada is the worst country on this planet for men. Men & women are equal, but Canada don't think so.
Not if she makes more than you
I can vouch for Washington state. God help you if it happens there.
@@jamesballard6564WA is the worst.
Not always the case in Canada, but divorce here is costly even when she doesn't.
I barely made more than my ex, she neglected her diabetes shortly after she moved out. No problem asking me to take her to a doctor but refused to ask her friends and family. I told her if she thought her life was better without me, she needs to experience life without me.
She wound up hospitalized a week later when she finally decided to ask someone else for help. Over the next 2 years she, used the fact her foot had been infected and was at risk of being amputated as an excuse to try to take 1/2 my income for the next 20 years to life.
My lawyer suggested when he realized she was on welfare just before the court date, to settle.
There was less than 15k equity in the house because we were allowed to use the value on the day she moved out as opposed to the covid housing market value, so I got the house for only $6k. It's current value is about 200k more than when she moved out.
My lawyer craftily negotiated an interim spousal support that was on 1/4 my salary, but the court Master had advised my ex's lawyer she shouldn't have negotiated; so we expected a big fight over spousal support... but in the 2 years since then, her lawyer pawned her off on an inexperienced associate. I assume it was a combination of my ex being caught making some serious false accusations I could disprove with documentation and that she couldn't really afford this lawyer. The associate graduated during covid and my lawyer had over 40 years experience in family law. He negotiated a lump sum equal to a little less than 1 year of my base salary. I think the only reason this got accepted was because the associate was intimidated by my lawyer's experience and reputation of being like an angry pit bull in court.
She barely got enough to cover her legal fees, it at all.
However, my lawyer had explained if we went to court with her being on welfare and potentially facing amputation, a judge would view the case as a man with a decent job vs a disabled woman on welfare and side with my ex.
I am not even sure the amputation prognosis was legit. Her old lawyer, the experienced one with a reputation as a ball buster, sat in the board of directors for the hospital the doctor who issued the prognosis was working in. I suspect even if he wasn't in fear for his job, she had him in her back pocket witj her position of influence at the hospital.
Rich, what you don't mention is, there's probably another guy in the picture. That's why she wants him out of the house. Like you said staying in the house will likely compel her to bring false accusations. The police remove you from YOUR house and she changes the locks, protection orders ensue. Now she has effectively removed you from your house.
Gentleman, when it looks likely that you are heading for divorce. The first thing you need to do is maintain your composure. That way she won't be able to call the cops on you right away. Then slowly begin to remove items most precious to you that she would not, notice. Got a thousands dollar baseball card collection, expensive watches, clothes, sneakers etc. Get them out of the house and give them to your friends. The houses and cars are gonna go to her, especially if you have kids involved. Again, removal and hiding your treasures must be done before she is able to get you out of the house. And, Rich is right keep seeing your children REGULARLY as this will factor in greatly how much child support you will have to pay. Remember gentleman, the state issued marriage license is her prenupt agreement. Once you sign it the marriage power dynamic shifts to her.
When it comes to marriage and divorce today you have to be just as deceitful and cunning as she is.
Your correct about everything but one item. When she filed a DV report that immediately cuts you off from her,your house AND your kids. You will have to wait till your first court hearing to plea your case in order to see your kids. Those odds will be against you. This is what happened to me before social media (2002) so I had now idea what was coming. This is the exact tactic lawyers and DV shelters will teach your soon to be ex. Expect this as the norm,not the exception.
Put everything into a 1041 trust...no prenup required.
Keep separate bank accounts.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...A woman will make someone suffer if they reject her.
@@user-dy2qq5wh4b Agreed.. woman = devil
@@user-dy2qq5wh4b mine left by her own decision and is still looking to make me suffer!
I'm done with that BS called marriage! Guys, FREEDOM is a beautiful thing. Nothing more valuable than peace. As the great Bob Marley said, "Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds".
I agree
That’s what the enemy wants. He wants us separated and hating each other. If we do this, we don’t have children. The family unit is broken down. In the world is essentially destroyed by the foolishness that follows.
Who is the enemy @@TheRealJuseBeats
Don't get legally married and put the house in the name of an LLC or something. Definitely speak to a lawyer and never put her name on the deed or anything.
This!! I tell every man not to keep assets in his name and they look at me like I have two heads.
@@idontcare9797 Hey, let them learn the hard way looool.
Problem is. She can make up a bogus DV allegation and you’re out of the house. Seen it a dozen times.
Exactly. I completely disagree with this advice. I'd always tell guys to get out and away from her. Staying around her when you ate blindsided by divorce is a recipe for disaster. Arguments , and all kinds of ish can happen. It ain't worth it. Fellas detach yourself from these kind of possessions. Force the sell of the house and move on. It ain't worth the headache
Get cameras
And out of a job
Liberal judges usually won't allow evidence in court
So kids can choose their gender but they cant choose which parent they wanna live with
Depends on child's age, Judges rarely listen to a 5 YO child but will take into consideration what a 12 - 14 YO has to say. Judges always make the final decision.
10-12
@@jeromehenry4484 Kids should not have a say.
@@Jenda-ld8dj About gender, they shouldn't, but if you're a shitty parent, they absolutely should.
She is cheating.
Her heart is elsewhere . A small child, a new home, basically newlyweds, and she all of a sudern wants out?
Sounds ENTIRELY likely.
STAY in that house!
That’s what I was thinking, odds are it’s some loser boyfriend from the past or a coworker.
Spot on Rich. Happened to me just like you described. This guy better listen.
Never leave your bed to sleep on the couch, never leave the house you own.
This dude is about to be homeless and lose everything.
Well said
100%. It’s a sad sad truth. And what’s even sadder is she probably already has another man, and will try to move him into his house and raise their child there together
Very sad
@@PoyTroytrue
@@suhaibsuhaib5947 seen it happen to my co worker. Was married to her for 23yrs. And 4 kids together. One day she just handed him divorce papers. The judge threw him out. In a little under a week she already moved another man in with her and the kids, on a house he owned. It was tragic.
Great video! In most cases, do not voluntarily leave your house unless and until you have a comprehensive property settlement agreement and an agreed custody order signed by the court. Better yet, stay single, do not cohabitate, do the things that bring you joy, and put a huge dent in the universe.
Man what di you think about tradcons pushing marriage they say man up and do it,just saw this video after watching some dude saying marriage is high risk high reward and its worth it😂
Well put
Accusations will get you arrested like me. At least I had a hidden video camera running which captured the whole incident and what she did. Pray for me August 7th is the trial.
At 7:30 - Half of all marriages end in divorce. The other half end in death.
Get a storage locker...move your valuables....pay cash
Doesn’t matter, you can get back stuff after the divorce but not time
NO. Tell HER to move to the basement.
It's sad marriage vows means nothing anymore
Seek counsel immediately! She is not on your side so stop worrying about your son's mom and worry about his dad.
Just get a lawyer… ASAP, do not go down the amicable rout as it can and will be used against you. I stayed in the house and had the whole silverbullet DV pulled on me. You can get past it but it costs a fortune and weakens your case and relationship with the kids.
Treat your ex-wife like an existential threat and act in your best interests. Take off the blinders.
Doing this with a two year old son is disgusting.
Exactly right but ... her needs and desires are more important to her than her child's = that's why I have lost all respect for such women
Could be worse, I had to leave the house... and she STILL moved into an apartment with her boyfriend.
I will never get married. I have utter peace and quiet at home. If i want to have relations ill just use tinder etc and have a fwb at the very most. They don’t actually offer anything than sex nowadays anyway.
Here in Australia it was enough for her to tell the police he looked at me in a menacing way. This had him on an AVO and evicted from his own house with no access to kids. Bloody terrible situation 😢
Ban alimony
Problem solved
💯 Listen to Rich here. I've been through two divorces and got just about everything I wanted each time because I stayed cool, calm, and just waited her out. I dragged out both of them until my exes were pushing me to wrap things up. That put me back in control. Total legal fees for the first were $3,800; the second was about $5,000 start to finish.
Oh lawd, y didn't u learn from 1st time??
@@polo-si2rs Hope springs Eternal!
@@polo-si2rsHe’s not very bright.
If your poor to begin with waiting them out isn't financially feasible.
#1....He needs to get his ass back in that house.
my ex slept on the couch for 2 years while planning the exit while lying about "working on the marraige"...
NEVER leave the kids behind, and do NOT leave or move out.
cut hours at work and babysit the kids as much as possible allowing your soon to be ex to work.
your post divorce life will thank you
Unfortunate alternative scenario: You say "no, i'm not leaving". Then you go to work, and when you come back, your stuff is all tossed out on the lawn, and the locks are changed. It's really hard for the man to win, if she wants to be a beach.
That's illegal and you can get her in court
@@PermanentHigh... meanwhile your still outside.
@@jamesballard6564 You can call the cops. It's your legal residence
This guy needs a damn lawyer first and foremost.
At this point I'd be hesitant to even let a woman live with you because she can still go after all your assets without marriage. Need to change the courts and laws.
Man, I still can’t believe how lucky I was when my ex-wife fell in love with another man and walked and left me with the house. The whole divorce cost me about $5,000 Canadian in 2001. I later sold the house at a profit. I sold too early in retrospect but I’m still grateful to her. She and all women have the power to destroy us when they want. I never got married again. Just honeymoons that last from a night to 24 months.
What a lousy situation some men are in. God bless you all as you navigate.
When my marriage broke down (due to her having an affair with Steve from accounting) my wife and her father both insisted I leave…
Wait a minute. SHE CHEATED, ( I'm assuming that you have proof of that ) and her father TOLD YOU to leave the house?? How the hell does that work??
@@michaelmaysjr.3228
She admitted to it (my gut was already telling me something was wrong).
Yes her father (in the fire service) said he could come over with his colleagues ..
Wtf man marriage is a joke she cheats and gets everything what a contract 🤦♂️
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Rich is 100% right...simply put, be difficult. Stay in your home. Live in the spare. Do not let her execute her plan because you just got out of the way. I had an ex that did this. I didn't leave - i moved into the spare, used a spare bathroom. She cheated on me and came to find out she told everyone i had cheated on her. She has a little plan all set and was forced to negotiate with me to end the marriage when she realized i wasn't going to just stay with my folks and give her space. Your phone is also your defense - the moment she starts to run her mouth, pull it out and record - that is the one thing that shut my ex down everytime. Change the password on it, make sure its uploading to the cloud. DOCUMENT.
I thank the lucky stars my ex switched up prior to us getting married. She took what she had, I took what I had. Of course she took some things, but overall I made out like a bandit compared to this guy and others who actually walked down the aisle. Under no circumstances will I ever take that chance again. I would be almost ruined right now had I gone through with that.
Got married to a 22-year old with a high school education. She wanted to further her education, so after a year of marriage she went to university to get her education degree while I supported her. After 4-years, she graduated but couldn’t find a job and decided to move to another city (a 3 hour drive away) saying she “wasn’t going to waste her degree”.
Saw her most weekends for the next 2-years until one weekend (her turn to come “home”) she didn’t show up. Wouldn’t answer her phone or reply to texts and then called me 5-days later saying we had to “talk”.
Met at a restaurant when she told me she wanted a divorce and told me the only reason she married me was to get her degree… literally called me a “sucker”.
TAKE HEED GENTS, AND NEVER MARRY.
I disagree with 1 thing in this video. I'm not moving out of the master bedroom, it's my room. She can move herself and her sh*t in the spare.
Next step will be DV claim.
Guy better to buckle up....
True
haha im glad my ex wife cant do anything with our house without my signature.
That’s exactly what I told my wife. When we bought our new house in 2013, I made sure my name was on the title. Now, we’re having fun untying the knot 🪢 😂😂
@@Logan24855 whats funny she keeps calling it ‘her house’, she was only there to sign the papers.
He needs a DNA test, he needs to assume shes recording everything he says and will be setting him up for an "incident". No matter what he should fight tooth and nail for every cent. Most likely she met someone else. Around the 2 year mark after a baby, many women go tbrough this phase where they need attention. Thats easy to get from many places. So, most likely theres another guy in the background waiting. Maybe not but he cant be soft in a divorce
That two years mark is very accurate. That's when my divorce started. Over the decades I've noticed a lot of single moms with toddlers that were once married. They got the child and power that comes with it. The man is now dead weight.
@@jamesballard6564 For real, I dont know if the 2 year mark is biological or was their "game plan" from the beginning. lOur culture has become a cesspool. Thank goodness there are channels like this one. We have got to help these young guys navigate this crazy world. They need to know they aren't just an ATM machine and worker drone for entitled women. Smh...I'd like to slap whoever coined "Happy wife Happy Life". Men need to know they have value as a person. I think it's up to us to help each other out bc society isn't going to fix things 👍✌️
Great advice Rich. I have been there. I moved out of the home before the divorce was finalised. Cost me 100s of grand. Funny how women change their mind as soon as they get any leverage. Become a pain in the arse to her and dont leave. Dont listen to the shaming, hold your ground.
1. In almost all US states, if the house was purchased after the date of marriage, it's their house, regardless of the name on the deed. 2. Video cameras are cheap, and hugely helpful in false assault charges. They can quickly change you leaving in cuffs to her being cuffed for filing a false report. 3. I'm days away from being divorced, and she pulled every trick. "A gentleman would move out", etc. I bought the house before we married, so my response was "fuck you, i'm not leaving. You have plenty of friends. You move out".
Any man getting married today deserves no sympathy when destroyed during divorce because men should know better
Agree!
The way divorce laws work in most states, ALL marital assets are split. It wouldn't matter if she bought the home 3 years before she met you in only her name. The equity built up through principal reduction and appreciation gets split between the two of you, as of the date you got married.
So, if she bought a $500K house and put $100K down on it, then you two got married, and at the time it was worth $600K and she owed $380K on it, that $220K equity is all hers, but any equity that builds up on top of that, is split.
So, if 5 years down the road the home is worth $1 million and she owes $300K on it, then you split the $480K equity ($700K current equity - $220K equity she had at the time of marriage) increase since you got married.
Doesn't even matter if you contributed to the mortgage payment or not. Just like housewives that make zero money, still get to split the marital assets with their husband.
I had to split my inheritance from my Great Aunt with my ex, because I got it while we were still married, even though she obviously had NOTHING to do with it.
Get back in the house NOW !!!
Ive been living in my full basement apartment for years. I literally told her Im not leaving the house until we divorce. Ive been living like a bachelor ever since 😅. Just no hosting of women. Years ago, she made some threatening comments so I called the cops. It turned out to be a brilliant pre-emptive strike. She never claimed DV since. Now my kids are young adults and the divorce will be much simpler 😏
Dammit man! 😂
I am married, we are Italians, so we have to do it at some point. I have two kids and I live in a house I bought with my girlfriend and kids but everything I own is registered to my mother. My house, my car, the car I bought her, my bank accounts, my stocks, crypto, just everything of value. I own practically nothing on paper. So if she decides to dump me, she would get nothing in a divorce. Because I own nothing hehe. Best thing she doesn't know that. Just be smart guys and have a good relationship with your family. And this model has many more advantages in other places. And never make debts if possible but if you have to, debts should be the only thing registered to you. So if something happens you just own a bunch of debts and nothing else. I guess many of you can see by now the many options this model can give you.
She only used him to get a house and have a child. Once she got both, he got dumped and kicked to the curb. Do your due diligence guys… it’s a harsh reality of how life is today.
I was in a similar situation last year. I refused to move out and put the house up for sale. House sold this year and the money sits with the legal people while the financial settlement is ongoing. She was bad but she would have been a lot worse when I hear some of the horror stories. She's currently living with her parents and very bossy mother, so hopefully she will be motivated to agree a settlement.
An interesting change of scenery as you drive along.
My mom and dad had a 30 year loveless marriage. When they finally divorced mom got house, money, land got it all. One of the things in divorce court was a mother said she was legally blind. My mother for years needs a magnifying glass to see writing, couldn't drive, glasses. But as she was getting older and I began to take care of her, I noticed she didn't get any state benefits for being blind. So I call up her doctor to get paper stating she needs the benefits. "She's not blind." The doctor says "she could drivers license if she wanted one". What?! I was shocked, so set up another doctor's appointment to get an "updated assessment" she died 2 weeks before.
When it comes to personal relationships, I don't trust women at all.
Make sure to ask your lawyer about the legal concept of OUSTER!!! I'm in Florida, and I moved out before signing any paperwork. Six years later I'm still dealing with this shit. And she went for 100% of the estate. I was/am on title, so I'm a bit protected.
I got Rich’s divorce course and it’s worth it! It helps you to prepare, protect, and be in the mindset that it will happen. I am not the breadwinner but I’m having a party with it and my nearly $100k/year wife is literally sweating bullets 😂😂 My wife tried to bully me out of the house but I didn’t move, plus my name is on the house 🖕🖕 Do not leave the matrimonial home, it is your god given right and once you do leave then you have no ammunition to go to war. My advice: Listen to Rich, buy his divorce course, read case law on divorce, read books on divorce, and prepare yourself for a long, hard road out of “holy moly, WTF happened?!?!”
Good advice
Single for 20+ years here got my own house and car anyone wants to hook up with me better be prepared to sign paperwork most of the time they leave to the next sucker willing to sign up for loss
Most of the time?
Follow that advice 100% truth
This video was speaking my life. I’m 32, got married at 28 and have a now 4 year old son. Got legally separated and I went about things the right way and got my equal share of the matrimonial home. 24 hours after I filed for joint legal custody, I was getting served with a restraining order claiming I was homicidal, suicidal and abused my ex and my child. I had to do 2 months of monitored visits with my son once a week for 2 hours. I found out ealier today the charges have been dropped due to lack of evidence and will be going to court next week to get custody of my son. Gentleman, you are not alone.
Possession is NOT 9/10th of the law. Judges tend to side with mothers if they are under 6 especially. The court (might) view the house as a marital asset. Read Florida legislation before you do anything. Don’t trust Canadians, and stay away from your “ex” without leaving your kids. Be cold, and polite; no arguments. Treat her like a pleasant old woman, and for Gods sake: Don’t get married again. You’re being fleeced for your resources, and if it happening when your kid is only 2, it was intentional.
My first time, I packed up, left and never returned. However, there were no kids involved. A drug addicted stepdaughter, a house rented from the Inlaws, and violence on their part. I felt staying wound have gotten me shot, stabbed, or hauled away in handcuffs.
When will these things end
Never 🙄
When we have a hard patriarchy… it’s a-coming
Never
Only when the law is changed
When men put an end to it.
Put everything into a 1041 trust...no prenup required.
Keep separate bank accounts.
My ex told me she'd cheated on me but after two weeks she said it was just a lie so I'd get upset , moved out and LEAVED THE APARTMENT TO HER !
Male divorcee here (I instigated). Rich is right here. Stay in the home. Use work and the gym/hobby as breaks out of the house; it’s a great time to put in overtime. Sleep in a way where you can physically protect yourself from attack or being accused of attack. Keep any plans about your post-divorce living arrangements to yourself until you have to share in court.
It will suck staying in the home, no doubt, but the demonstration of fortitude to all parties will pay benefits in the end. “No” is a complete sentence, and no further words are required: learn this, and use it. She may even end up being the first to leave, in response to all of the pressure and misery. 🙂
Smart move. Losing your house a big friggin deal. Heard of guys that have ended up living out of their cars.
Just had a girl walk out on me after 4 years off and on that I loved. She was laying down a "propose to me by X date" and gave me an ultimatum if I wanted kids in the next year. While I was throwing my birthday party (wtf)! Told her we can talk about it later, which was the last straw for her and she broke up with me 2 days later over text. I was planning on proposing in the next year but any time she brings ultimatums I move the date out another 6 months. I miss her, she already has another guy of course after a month. I KNOW I am in a good place being 41 and unmarried with no kids/divorces. But I'm still depressed as hell and missing her- we had some amazing times together. We really did. Anyway, I wish I could internalize how fortunate I actually am compared to a lot of guys who have been screwed in court or are stuck in marriages that suck. I should be waking up feeling like I won the lottery but I'm still depressed over it. I guess I DID get her best years...i dunno..
Clearly she didn't like or want you that much but rather what you could give her. You need to toughen up man.
I have a feeling that she’s had this male orbiter in her circle for quite some time now, you just never knew it. My grandfather always said “there’s always another bus”.
"....she already has another guy of course after a month". There's your answer. He was already on the back burner
Hey, you got her best years! 👌
You're a coward. Why didn't you give her a ring?
I hope young guys will REALLY listen to this excellent advice and when the time comes, keep their cool and follow through on all of this!! BTW - when I got divorced many years ago, my ex's first offer to settle was not merely "everything", it was actually more than everything. She wanted it all and for me to assume her debts too!! It is vital that guys going through this and take your advice Rich. It will save them many times whatever the course costs!!
The false allegations are extremely common! The dude needs to start documenting and be very careful! And get an attorney!! In the UK the statistics are 59 % of custody cases involve allegations of abuse (out of which 95 % are proven false)! Start seeing your ex as an adversary, however sad it may sound. Be non-reactive (never react!!!) as she may try to bait you. Respond, but don't react. And remain civil, calm and goal-oriented with the kids in focus and their right to have their father 50 %!
great advice. I'm in the middle of it in the UK and the right to have their father 50% is difficult to enforce. My solicitor basically said I have to suck it up in the short term. Just failed at mediation and now going to court in all likelyhood.
@@John_Wood_ Get an attorney who believes in and is ready to fight for 50 % and shared custody!! I've myself been through hell and horror (3 years!) and the legal system is basically an apartheid against men, but (BUT!!) you can get through and get 50 % (and shared!!). It's a tough fight but worth it for your kids. And if women behave like this, make allegations and/or try to prevent their children from having their father etc.., then it often involves a hidden personality disorder (narcissist, ect.) and these people usually blow themselves in the end. Be patient and good luck!!
@@jans724 Thanks, I will fight all the way. I cannot have another 18 years of limited access and her calling all the shots like she is now. I now suspect she is a covert narc, but certainly spoiled and selfish at the very least.
Going through it now. Took forever to get the papers signed. And now i am positive she is coming after money even though she makes more than me and we don’t have kids
Dam good advice and he got their play book!!
Good video.
You nailed it!
She already knew this was where it was going long before you did.
She will keep the divorce going as long as she can to keep the drama going (if it works in her favour).
The drama already started when she wanted to get married.
Unfortunately, it probably even started before that.
Wise up men to who you trust your life with.
Happened to me. I witnessed every dirty trick in the book and eventually lost everything.
I’m in a much better place now and by the grace of God I have my own place and am rebuilding. Sure she got the family home, so I put this out to the universe and karma in the hope that she will eventually pay the price for what is basically legalised theft. But I won’t hold my breath because years later she seems to be happy as Larry. 🧐
get a parenting schedule first before you move out. take all important documents. Take everything you want to keep. tools, guns, clothes, albums, etc
Yep. Florida is horrible for men in divorce. I got thrown in jail on the fake dv charge to get me out of the house. She got greater than 50% of my 401. I got the house because she couldn’t pay for it but I couldn’t move back in until I paid 50% of all equity in everything we owned. Which knocked out the rest of my 401. I sold everything and moved out of Florida. Her debt load is zero as is her taxes. I paid 100% of everything including her lawyers.
DONT LEAVE THE HOUSE
I think you gave him a good advise. Mine is - while staying there - don`t eat anything she give to you or which can be poisoned. This applies to drinking too. Also is better to expect violent visitors and yourself to be recorded. So basicly act like you are always on camera and don`t say anything which you don`t want to be exposed.
If you see she wants you to get emotional - it is a trap, know it and the better way to act is to NOT be emotional. Often this causes the manipulator to get even more angry at you, just provoke her with short and smart triggering questions and back off.
And realise if you did not do something like cheating or as of this level of seriousness - she may be evil and she wants to take your staff, she don`t want to take responsibility, she is basicly ruining the family for HERSELF, so don`t give her comfort, give her discomfort by not playing on her plan.
Never leave your home and record every conversation and interaction to prevent false accusations and never leave your lap top out she may try to put stuff on there to F you up. And change all your passwords and for GOD sake keep your own separate savings account at a different bank without anyone's knowledge gentleman please be smart at all times and don't get caught slipping
Hmmm, how can we avoid problems like this? It's a scooby-do mystery,
When my ex told me she wanted a divorce, I told her that if she wants to leave then she can leave. So, she left. I kept the house, but I did have to buy her out.
Dude needs to DNA test that kid. Chances are she been cheating for a while
If he signed the birth certificate at hospital he is on the hook no matter what.
@@jamesballard6564 yes you are correct. Question is hypothetically it was you, wouldn't you want to know if the kid was biologically yours?
".....do you....take this man?"
("......i'm gonna! don't you worry")
You don't find out who the woman you were with truly is until you see them sitting across from you in family court
Get a lawyer, put a claim on the house and stop paying your share of mortgage until it’s resolved.
Men approach divorce as the end.. women approach divorce as the beginning..
Dude. Bobmer jacket looks the business!!!!!!
Omg, he's absolutely right. I lived this precisely as described. Now I'm single, beautiful girlfriend, great career, net worth 1.8m.
I don't think I'll ever get married again.
He nailed everything, I could never do it again...why would anyone!
Happy house, happy spouse.
Sell the house
Set up cameras
Yes good idea! There may be a false allegation incoming!