Husband Catches Disloyal Wife, Stay or Get Divorced? Shocking Advice Dispensed.
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Mid 40s man is asking for some advice about leaving his disloyal wife, and starting out over for himself.
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5 million plus by 40 to be a “high value” man?? Love your content but you really can’t be serious with that.
@@andrewlalanne6900 I guess this is the top percent. Most men never come close to 5 million USD net worth. That doesn't men we all shoulden't try to reach as far as possible. And by the way he said 1-5 millions.
Bloody spot on with the truth bombs here. Guy is delusional.
I am a single father and retired military. Where would I even start to to be able to make 5 million? Spent 21 years getting physically and mentally destroyed in the military now have no idea even where to start.
Women are like roller coaster. The wait is long, the ride is short, and there's a line of men behind you waiting their turn. So just enjoy the ride and move on." ~TFM
Great analogy.
Duuudddeeee awesome statement
not to mention, have to be this tall to ride.. 😆
Greatest comment ever
I am memorising this to repeat at a fashionable wine bar whilst me and my acquaintances quaff overpriced booze.
Your lover can never love you like your mother because she's looking out for her survival, your mother was looking out for your survival.
- Mike Tyson
That is why you (we) can never find/marry our mother. We need to stop looking for that.
@@85rockhound This is why we practice the red pill philosophy. We have accepted the truth and for those of us who understand that truth it's time to spread the word to those who are searching for it in a way they can understand it.
@@jrhamilton4448 Better late than never in the red pill department...
Well you wouldn't bloody want your girlfriend to love you in that way! That'd be just weird!
@@85rockhound WTF??? That's a really weird thing to say!! No f@#£ing WAY would I want to date someone like my mother!!! That would make me feel sick!
I'm 54. House paid for, couple of cars, enough money in the bank not to have to work. I live a life of leisure. I cannot afford to invite a woman into my life and have her F it up. Past experience has taught me never to let another one into my life. I'm sure there are some fantastic women out there - but I am not taking the risk because it's always too late by the time you find out they were not as they appeared. Now I just watch my friend's lives get F'd up by women.
Same here. You aren’t being self centered. You are being self preserving.
@@fitfogey Oh no, my good man. I feel no restraint about being this way at all.
Almost like I wrote this...same age, house/car/bank situation. yup, I bet there are some fantastic ones also. 😀
@@riggitydoo5116 Yeah, they have to be out there. But I've stopped looking. I don't just blame them, it also comes down to my own poor judgement. Either way, my life is pretty good without them. But I remain steadfast in my belief that women bring little to the table and are coat-tail riders. And the worst about that is the fact they disrespect us for letting them.
Exactly bro! Same with me, I am 50 and doing great! I dated lots of women like 100! Since I was 18. I had my share of drama 🎭 from women! My last one was in 2017 of 3 yrs relationship! The other latest one only lasted 3 months! I don’t put up with shit anymore. Women are complainers 24:7! I guess it’s menopause and estrogen
Never keep a disloyal wife.
Correct.
He’s 5’3 though
It's not called cheating when women do it. It's called a entanglement And it's never her fault. It's always the man's fault because you weren't meeting her needs. She was hurting and wanted to feel better
They always try to rationalize and find some excuse to absolve themselves of accountability and responsibility from their actions.
Yeah but there’s a similar double standard for us men. When we cheat, it’s because it’s “in our nature to run around have multiple partners”. When women cheat, they’re “emotionally cheating” which is worse.
No, men and wimminz are not the same. We have testosterone and a high drive wimminz do not. Wimminz cheating is betrayal and not biological the way men biologically need bedroom fun.
As a dude who has worked in, managed, and owned nightclubs, cafes and resturants for almost 20 years my personal experience is, is that women cheat slightly more. For the simple fact: which gender can get laid easier?
If a woman cheats or leaves, it’s his fault. If he cheats or leaves, it’s his fault.
Get divorced ASAP. She’ll do it again because if you stay you’ll have taught her that it’s ok. I did it. I lived it. Got rid of it. Best decision of my life.
Curious.. once you walked away (and good on you for respecting yourself), did she ever attempt to make amends and get back with you?
I’m exiting a similar situation to the one you were in. If you allow the dog to eat from the table once, it’ll think that’s acceptable behavior for a long time. Trying to prep myself for the day she comes back around with tears in her eyes begging for forgiveness.
@@patrickbeck3181 Yes. She has stalked me for basically 8 years and early on wanted to cheat on one of her boyfriends with me. She’s written and sent me countless letters in the mail because I blocked her on everything. She’s literally a narcissist and I don’t use that term lightly. You cannot communicate whatsoever with a narcissist. They will try every single tactic to get you to respond. Do not do it.
@@fitfogey Wait, did she want to cheat on her boyfriend after you broke up?
@@raimondsstokmanis1892 Yes. Crazy.
@@raimondsstokmanis1892 If either one of you, Patrick or Raimonds are in a similar situation leave now. When you leave, if you can (no kids) cut off any and all communication with her. Do not allow anything that they do to impact you. Do not respond whatsoever.
“Relationships and Marriage are Just a Carousel Break to Women”
-Darius
Marriage for females is a retirement plan
I ALWAYS THOUGHT SAME..ALL FOR BENEFIT PACKAGE
Lol! So true!
Not true
@@dajewel1982 VERY TRUE, WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE IN LOL
@@dajewel1982yes true
I’ve been there and I learned the hard way. A dog that bites is a dog that bites. She won’t change
Same here fam and yep spot on.
Excellent point, and great comment. I've got my hands full with a similar question I'm dealing with atm.
@@axljax Cut her loose and cease any and all communication. If you have kids that is difficult admittedly. If you don’t, cut her loose and do not communicate at all with her again.
I can confirm this statement.
I love how it's always the guys fault when his woman becomes disloyal. Not enough attention, too much attention, not enough money, not enough social proof. We need to be honest and realize that some women are just raised that way and choose this lifestyle. They get easily bored and require too much energy from a guy to keep them "excited". A woman needs to complement a man, not drain his energy. I've seen countless relationships that were effortless where both partners were in their natural state and lasted for decades together without any cheating. Both sides need to tolerate each other's life issues or otherwise it is not sustainable. If you think you need to be a millionaire alpha with an aggressive mindset to maintain one chick, it is extremely exhausting and stressful. Living life full of suffering just to get inside her for "good behavior" is simply not worth it and does not bring any dividends. A woman should be a cherry on top of your cake. Your life is your cake. Let them come and leave as they please. If one stays with you through hardest of tests and is stuck to you like crazy glue, then you know that she may be truly yours.
“It’s a trap!”
Sorry, I had to 😆
You’re a goddamn genius! Well said!
¡GOLDEN! Thanks man
@@zoraster3749 INDEED IT IS!
I hope your not white.
I wish there was stuff like this 15/20 years ago. I wouldn't of made so many of the mistakes I've made
There was. NEIL strauss.
When you are happy with yourself, you will be happy being alone. Screw what people think and be happy with yourself. You are the only person who is with you every second of every day and are the only one who is in your head. People will gravitate toward you if you live and enjoy life.
There are 8 billion people on the planet. If you asked every one of them what they thought about you they’d all say something different and none would be correct. Only you know you.
@@fitfogey That's right...it's basically what I just said.
YOU are the only person who cares about you, period.
Sorry, but that sounds like advice my long-widowed grandmother would give. Totally non-actionable fortune cookie drivel designed to make losers feel better. And you vacillate from suggesting “Screw what people think…” to “People will gravitate toward you…” Which is it? You heard the email, this gentleman is never going to be the extremes (lone wolf or life of the party) you suggest to him. And how would either option resolve his issues anyway? They wouldn’t.
He's saying screw the wrong people that don't understand you and attract the right people with your positive energy.
I was talking to a colleague of mine that grew up in a Middle Eastern family/culture. He indicated to me that he has never had to deal with 95% of the issues presented on this channel. I couldn't imagine why that would be.
Gee, I wouldn't know hmmm
Islam rules period.
Because they're one out of 4 slaves/wives and can be replaced like dirty socks if they displease the master/husband...
@@jonathanLToronto that's right.the religion taught women to be obedient to their husbands whatever happens in a relationship,but things start to change recently because of social media which groomed and brain washed women's mentality.
@@abranisdz34 Islam will defeat sns in the long run.
“She is Always Yours But Without the Y”
Good quote. I haven’t heard that one before
WELL SAID HAHA
😂😂😂
Priority 1- Get in shape!! Confidence raises quickly and bleeds into other areas of life, plus your wife will start to find you attractive and suspect you might have a better option then her!
Priority 2-learn Game/social skills - hold your frame, abundance mindset
=You're wife will likely be terrified to LOSE YOU
Spot-on.
Dream on.
If you didn't have it then, chances are you won't get it later on.
Totally agree
@@el_killorcure Men tend to wake up after emotional trauma caused by women in their life, that's when they find the R. Pill and learn to become someone of value
Most men Don't have it from the get go! Specially these day when father figures are either feminine or non existent
Does marriage bring anything else but stress and anxiety for men in these times…..just in hope of getting some sex ?
Seems like juice is not worth the ring 🤔
Yup, it does. Financial problems
0 benefits for man, free meal ticket for women for the rest of her life and guaranteed jackpot when divorced she get half of your belongings.
It's for women to cash out and security
not to mention women are glued to instagram and vloggers, clicking away constantly buying shit. Thats before you even consider the propaganda machine carpetbombing childrens minds. We truly need a strong mannerbund to navigate this dystopian nightmare.
I’m assuming most males nowadays are complete betas in transactional relationships and are in essentially dead bedrooms. I will never understand why males accept this?
Man rich is SO spot on in this…
Relationship or not you’re not being accountable to yourself. First step to solving any problem is taking responsibility. You get what you tolerate, she’s your wife you’re not hers. Move on and move up!
You said it man.
First time being exposed to this upfront honesty. Damn I realize I’m a mess beyond repair. I’m sending this to my sons though. I want to see them happy and thriving
Staying with an unfaithful wife will steal your dignity to such a degree that you'll fantasize about getting hit by a bus.
If you "love her" I know it will hurt like hell, BUT YOU HAVE TO LEAVE, eliminate all forms of contact, and never comeback.
Like I said, it will hurt like hell if you love her, but you MUST resist the temptation to reestablish contact and it will get better.
29 months no sex..for me married 5 years 5 months crazy
Scarcity is the scariest thing ever
He's out of shape, nerdy, and short. That's literally the antithesis of what Western women desire.
So just rent. Being short and chubby doesn’t mean you are subject to women. You are 6’5” when you stand on your wallet.
But he has $...so now he's a 10.5. Lol
Dude, I've had some lousy and some great Therapists, but I think YOU are head and shoulders BETTER than any I've ever had!
Because his advice is pragmatic and real. Plus, he's not getting all Freudian on you and you're also not paying him by the hour, so he gets to the point. ;-)
THANK YOU for giving someone a much needed reality check instead of placating their emotions, you didn’t even pull punches about his income which he does seem to make a good amount year after year but where is it going?
I agree with about 85-90 percent of what Rich teaches. When it comes to human interactions and things of that nature, spot on. When it comes to money, I feel like the massive success he experienced puts him at a disadvantage. He will say a statistic about marriage which is accurate, but doesn't bring up that the average age of a new millionaire in the United States is 62 years old. I think money is the only thing that this contributor has going for him and that is in itself pathetic.
Rich, thank you for being you. You give a wealth of knowledge about human interaction that both sexes can benefit from. When it comes to personal finance, I don't think it is fair to downplay someone working in tech making 250k a year. Those are common mid career numbers for that field in the United States, and it usually takes, statistically, about two decades to reach those numbers. People also get it together at different times.
I'm with you about no excuses, as I'm not making any. My money is up to me, and I'm on my way to being a millionaire. I also believe in tough love, which you give in abundance. But I didn't start making six figures until last year. I've read your book twice, and am going to do a third read through this fall. Despite having different values than you (I don't want the kind of cars you drive) I can see where you are coming from.
Respect.
Lol he seriously said you should aim to be a millionaire by 40 AT THE LATEST. Absolutely ridiculous and if that is really the expectations men have they are in for a sad existence.
@@demodiums7216 I think that that's a good idea to strive for those statutes, however, your self worth shouldn't come from your income - but your own mental point of origin. Money is just the icing on the cake.
Dave Ramsey, who has a net worth of 200 million, has said "you can do everything right and still wind up broke." Rich is a great teacher about certain things, but he is sadly guiding people to look to external indicators in life for happiness. He's spot on about female nature of course, but if you need money to be happy, that's relinquishing control of your happiness to an external source. Which is beta. Relying on someone else's involvement for your happiness is beta.
Basically, RC is being like a black piller, telling a guy on 250-300k a year he's not even sorted financially and needs to catch up.
How is that any different to someone like WheatWaffles telling someone if they're not an 8 (arguably the same aesthetic level as a 250k financial level), its over?
Honestly, I like a lot of manosphere content but some of the advice is just shockingly bad and shows a lack of real world experience.
Guy shouldn't worry about the money, hit the gym as a massive priority first and foremost, waaaaay above worrying about the beta bux side.
Based take. I do agree with you totally. Many men won't in their entire lifetime won't even come close to 250k net worth not even income wise and that's ok. This is because every man has a choice to make in how they present themselves to the world in their lifetime from a wholistic approach(spiritually,mentally,physically, financially and socially). This life is a journey and not a competition and am not talking from a defeatist mindset but that is the reality for most men today.
I personally support and am grinding towards the idea chase Excellence but life won't give us all the same level of success. We simply have to pick and choose what works and discard won't doesn't as much as the idea of happiness being subjective to all of us.
Agree 100% Also, high value people don’t seek validation from anyone, let alone individuals on the internet. This applies to the husband in this video, and anyone watching content by Rich. I think Rich’s point is not so much about the subject’s income, but his net worth, and took issue with his claim of being a high value male. I think Rich’s point about having a $1M Net worth by age 40 is about being in the top 1%. Nothing less. If you don’t care about being in the 1% (like myself) then there is no need to feel inadequate for only making low 6 figures at age 41 (like myself).
Engagement ring ..wedding ring..... suffering...😭
Mr Cooper, thank you for existing.
"Just be funny" that's solid advice there, Rich totally worth his dono 👌
I'm 50, been divorced for long time. Have money, dated younger, it was a waste of time. I'm happy solo, enjoy my work, time and toys. You can always find a date.
That's why on the second marriage. You always say, " I love you, but sign this"
Mine of 16 years just noted out after cheating with a coworker. Left our 3 kids with me. I kicked her out, and now she has no job, living with family, and looming expenses. She's was 100% my 'one'. Never again. Not her, or anyone else. I'll keep women on rotation and if I'm close enough to one to worry about who's in her phone, that's a wrap
At 5ft 3 and close to 180lbs he ain't 19.5% bf.
He's in the obese category.
he could be muscular
She emotionally left that relationship before she got “friendly”…
If she's already straying, his conundrum may be moot as she may very well end up leaving him anyway. Sounds like divorce is imminent.
And she's waiting for his next step up in income before she bails and takes half.
When you look at most people in the US net worth wise, net worth of $450K is not bad at all. The idea that you have to be a millionaire minimum to be attractive to girls or to have a good life in general is completely false!
Totally agree, 💯💯
My thoughts exactly. Also why would you disclose your net worth to any women you are dating?
Rich if you see this.. Thank you! I get tons of value from your content .
Interesting to listen to. You describe it really well, direct and sharp but that’s the real gift to this person: no BS input. Just the hard reality. He’s gonna figure that out anyhow so better be prepared by this.
Once more respect for keeping it real with the self-annointed hvm's and focusing on working on what's in your control.
Mad props for the "whether or not you're happy with yourself is entirely up to you" attitude.
Cheers.
Friday night 29 July 2022. Harsh truths. Thanks, Rich.
"I'm not sure what happened to the income" A woman has the ability to outspend any income.
5’4” myself… Never bothered me whatsoever.. Been with women 5’10” .. It truly is all about confidence!!
I tried saving my marriage and family after my wife cheated when she was 47 and 3 years later she left at 50.. I tried two years and eventually she jjust didn’t try and we argued .. I lost my patience she didn’t appreciate all I did two years it’s so sad I’m broken
The only way you win is by living a good life. Let her be, she's gone for good and you never want a cheater back.
So many people think of "stoic" as emotionless. That couldn't be further from the truth. Stoicism is a way of life relating to, for simplification purposes here, the mastery of strong emotions- both positive and negative.
Fix as many problems as you can WHILE STILL IN YOUR MARRIAGE. Then 6 months or a year from now, you may find your wife sees you and your marriage differently (ie, you'll know, you'll be getting laid more often!). If not, you can leave at that point, and at least you'll know you gave the marriage your best shot. In the meantime, also prep for a divorce, in case it goes that direction.
Personally, after the 6-12 months, I'd read her the riot act. Let her know in no uncertain terms what is expected in the marriage. Meet the requirements, or go separate ways (this goes both directions, btw). It's that simple (yeah, it's hard, but simple!).
Not sure what state he’s in but some states after 10 years the woman gets indefinite spousal support. Until she gets remarried. So beware!
Great advice, many thanks for you work Rich 🙏
My wife said I drove her to it! I made her cheat on me. I wasn't spontaneous, I made her miserable..... I was out 11 hours a day working coming home to 3 hungry girls and a filthy house. And a board housewife that joined a running club and ran off with a married man.
should've been spontaneous with divorcing her
Killed it in the final thoughts, well said! 👏🏽
Solid advice. Sounds like the problem here is internal. 5'3" and 175lbs sounds like the cardio is dissuasive from the sex anyway. This guy needs to get it together and even read HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS by Harley. You can't expect to maintain a happy wife by ignoring her conversationally just like you wouldn't be a happy husband to be ignored sexually. This dude is carrying a double standard.
Agreed. I’m RP aware, but it sounds like this guy basically ignored his wife and treated her like a FWB. Any self-respecting woman isn’t going to put up with that.
If you starve her emotionally, she’s going to find food somewhere.
Sounds like he needs to get his shit together first. If he does that, he might be able to fix his marriage. If not, he’s in a much better position to start over.
My husband was a nerdy dude when we dated but I turned him into a sexy man. Lol He works out, and he is sexier in his 40s than when he was in his 20s. I transformed him, which was only possible because he was a good guy to begin with. 👍
You been faithful
She could be a narcissist.
It's NEVER enough with narcissists. She will ALWAYS go out looking for a new supply. Don't fool yourself. Just let her go
Yeah, but "just let her go" means he's going to have to buy her out of the $400K house which means sell it, or take out a $200K mortgage on top of his $250K mortgage. (so he'll be upside down) Not sure how it works in Texas but they determine the value of the property not the equity in it in most places. At the very least he'll still end up owing $50K on the mortgage after he sells and uses his $200K to pay off the mortgage.
50% of his $450K in net worth is gone.
He most likely will be paying her alimony. He's bringing in $20K per month she's bringing in $3500, He'll probably get hit with $6500K a month alimony.
@@muskokamike127 either he splits the assets, or shares her with other dudes.
@@wvwyut or stops her from communicating with other dudes like a real MAN would.
It sounds like the wife lacks gratitude. Plus, if the guy makes a quarter million a year and she makes $40k, where is all of the money going? Typically she's spending it, and then complaining that he's not earning enough. When a marriage counselor has to help a couple negotiate, I would say forget it. If it were me I might put on an act and keep the marriage together, or else just divorce as fast as possible
@@econdude3811 the narcissists chase instant gratification. They get addicted spending other people's money. She's never gonna thank him. If he stops giving her money, she'll go out looking for a new source.
I strongly reject the c u n t culture. Marriage counselor is not gonna solve any problem. Divorce is the only way out of the situation
100% Agree with your perspective!
lol we should all have a million net worth by 30 or 40 at the latest??? damn! that a hiiiiiiigh bar my friend...
Divorce, monk mode, gym, combat sport.
Disloyal and unfaithful are not the same thing. Unfaithful means you either had sex or plan to have sexual relations with someone. Disloyal could mean anything that undermines your partner. Ideally in a perfect relationship you would only want things that build and support your partner but we've gotten so used to animosity in relationships that we don't recognize it as disloyalty.. You can never trust a disloyal person to have your back in a jam. They will turn on you the minute they get the opportunity. A disloyal person can cheat and still have your back when you're in a jam
Unfaithfulness normally means there was deceit which is most definitely disloyal.
The biggest problem with cheating is it involves lying to your other half. The bond is broken at that point.
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz you can lie to someone and still be loyal to them. Parents lie to their kids all the time. That doesn't mean they'd turn their back on them or abandon them in a tight situation.
@@RichieB40444 I understand that you're trying to highlight the difference between the two words.
For me, the point is that if someone happens to demonstrate loyalty in a particular situation it doesn't mean they are loyal to you. In my eyes loyalty means will that person ALWAYS support you and have your back.
I don't think it's possible to be deceitful to somebody and be truly loyal to them. Being deceitful demonstrates contempt and there will be plenty of situations where the loyalty will break down.
Separately, 'lying' to your kids in order to benefit them is not deceit and is a million miles from the deceitful behaviour required to cheat on your partner.
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz well you need to look up the definition of loyalty. That's the definition I'm going by, not your own specific interpretation.
@@RichieB40444
Loyal...
"giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution"
Being deceitful isn't 'showing firm and constant support or allegiance'.
So I was correct with my 'always' point.
Glad we cleared that one up.
He's lucky he doesn't have kids with her. Texas is brutal on child support. There is no sliding scale for custody time. The guy that always has his kids and the guy that never has his kids, pay the same. I'd suggest him to walk regardless of how he feels about himself. Only a matter of time before she does it again, if she hasn't continue doing it already...
yep once a cheater always a cheater been there in my first marriage she even said to me after the first cheating episode would I TAKE HER BACK IF SHE DID IT AGAIN !! Well out the door she went I have 4 kids this all happend 20 yrs ago and she has been in over at least 30 to 40 sexuationships her body count could be in the hundreds and now she lives on her own and looks like something out of a horror movie she also had 2 abortions to one of her chads and has tried to take her life 3 times pill over dose and its every body elses fault still to this day !!
The reason why divorce is so expensive is because it is worth it!
My 42 year old friend... Ok, in that whole pile of bullshit that Rich told you, he was right about one thing: YOU have to act and yearn for self improvement!
Take advice from your loved ones. Work with your therapist. Cut some time from work and spend time with your children, if you don't wanna be with your wife. Read philosophy (Epicurus, Socrates, Diogenes, Comfucius, and onwards, e.g. Rolf Dobelli ). Work out, but not in a fucking gym, OUTDOORS, buy a kayak or a surfboard or go hiking, take training sessions for all that. Joining a sports club (e.g. a swimming class) will help you get friends too. Offer to your kids, advise them, share the mistakes you did so they don't face such situations in their lives.
If you choose to split with your wife, know that at least some of your assets will be offered to your kids, so take solace in that.
Grow some self-esteem! Don't waste time getting paid- advice from men who εξ ιδίων κρίνουν τα αλλότρια, meaning: who judge other people's issues based on their own
If your woman is talking to other men, isn’t that a red flag NOT to get married?? 🤯🤯
"WELL HE'S MY FRIEND AND I'M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP ALL MY FRIENDS JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE JEALOUS!"
@@garysnow1475 😂😂 C YA!!
This guy needs to look into a PI to not only track her but track her spending. With his income it doesn't make sense he's worried about her $40k a year. He's bleeding cash some place and it is probably her. Which may give him grounds for divorce. Yes, Texas still has at fault divorce and that's where his PI and attorney could come up with a plan.
Aside from her, his biggest problem is his mindset. He's questioning if he needs to move someplace better when he's in one of the best places to pick up broads I've ever been. That whole thing where you move to a new town and start anew is some of that magical thinking that chicks believe in. He needs to join at least 3 different gyms. One main gym for serious workouts, the other two for scouting.
He's better off in Texas than he is in Canada!! That's for sure!!
This information is gold, thank you Sir!
5’3 and overweight but makes decent money. His kids older, so that sounds like previous marriage ( as you said ). I’m not saying he got played, but he got played. There’s plenty of younger ladies in DFW that will try to take the rest. Dude, go to the gym and work. Start there and get back to Rich in a year. ✌🏻
I didn’t even need to watch the video to comment “no.” Seriously?
Thats a difficult situation, a woman cheats on you and you still get destroyed on divorce in a nofault state. You end up passing Alimony to keep supporting her and her lover and you lose savings and 401k in the process. Dont marry!!!
The good thing is there is no alimony in Texas
I think "high value" depends on where you live. Where I'm at in northern FL, someone with 450k in assets and the kind of salary this dude makes would be pretty well off.
In Texas where he lives his salary is more than enough. I think rich is a bit delusional when it comes to the income side of things
Let me correct Rich a little bit. The guy that sent the email is doing great compared to the average American! It is just that Rich has a higher standard.
That's like saying you're banging the hottest waitress at Denny's. It may be true, but it doesn't mean it's good.
Yes he is doing better than the average American, rich is emphasizing, it a bit more for his case cause the guy is 5’3 which is shorter than the average women in height, so he really needs to increase his wages and get in shape
@@juzrhyme712 I can agree to that.
He should have a higher standard. Most modern men should!
Should mention the trt program when addressing the body. Most men our age have never heard of trt or are wary of trt because of the stigma.
I think the fact that he's asked for this video means he's already made up his mind.......He wants to leave. But, he's looking for permission or encouragement to do so. If you're not happy and it can't be "fixed" then leave. Get your shit together. And, move on.
Good video! 50% of every relationship you have is the same, because it includes YOU!
5' 3" at 176 lbs and 19.5% bodyfat? Total bullshit. Most men grossly underestimate their bodyfat. Unless this guy is built like an IFBB Pro, 5' 3" at 176 lbs is going to be way over 20% bodyfat. Until this guy is ready to face some cold hard truths, there's no helping him.
Yeah he’s obese.
Got to be 30 atleast
Rich give us some more content on borderline women , im sure thats an area many guys are sleepwalking through
20 yrs married, got married 22 & 21yrs old. Bedroom 5-6 times a week to this day because that’s how it’s supposed to be. She knows l want and need that. Like how l know she wants and likes me to listen and talk to her. Why do so many men not understand this dynamic!?
you got a unicorn
Your advice is on point, sir. 👌
Some hard truths. But I think better to be with no one than the wrong one. I've seen many who can't handle being by themselves, and latch on to whoever comes by, like a drowning person. They end up making the other miserable as well.
This guy should get his frame back, lose the weight and become more frugal (considering the relation between income and networth). It seems those are the most serious problems. If he fix that I would bet those other problems would either go away or he would at least be in a more secure position to make a decision. A lot of men rush these things because they have learned impulsivity.
It's actually crazy that he has less than 2x his yearly salary. Man must be blowing cash left right and center, and still hasn't paid off his mortgage
@@NAGaming513 yeah, what's he doing with his money? His mortgage is only going to be about $2500 a month. That's $17,500 in income left over.
Judging from his spelling and grammar I'm playing the BS card on him making $250k a year. He's in the top 10% of earnings in the US and can't spell Height or Appreciate?
What weight? He's already nearly anorexic at that weight and height. I'd know, I'm also 5'3, and was nearly skin and bones at 165lbs
@@NAGaming513 well he's got a wife 🤷♂️
@@liberalistbat6352 Yeah and I'm not interested in that bridge you're trying to sell.
I'm 5'8" and 185 and NOT fat by any stretch of the imagination nor am I ripped.
You both are 5" shorter and only 20 lbs lighter? Skin and bones? .....not.
Not to mention he's got 10 lbs on you.
I suggest you look up "height to weight" and at 5'3" you should be around 139 lbs unless you're ripped then you can add another 20.
I must comment on the attention thing. Deal (soon to be) ex-wife cited this is my "major problem". But, no matter how much attention i gave her, no matter hard I tried, the words I tried to say to her, the positive affirmation I gave, the gratitude I showed to her, it was not enough. In fact, in the future I will do exactly the opposite of what I have been doing. I will hold, keep and otherwise withdraw my attention. I will make any woman earn it and if they don't like that they can just take off. As a man who earns 90% of the income, provides more than 50% of the parenting, handles almost every situation that comes up in terms of family protection, maintaining a home, cars, equipment, run a business, etc. I didn't realize (until it was too late) that the more attention I gave the wife, the more she wanted and then demanded and then demanded more..
Unfortunately you clearly failed that massive crap test. Wimminz never speak the truth about what they like and want. When a wimminz says that to you - you don’t do what they say..... You Do The Opposite man, c’mon bro.
Yeah there's no winning bro
You’re absolutely right man. When she behaves well, give her attention, when she’s a shit, give her nothing.
New to your channel! Loving the real content, how can I join this community, and get to the next financial level, I don’t know what to do to get there, I’m definitely willing to put in the work, I just don’t know what to do to get there
Solid info, Rich.
I didn’t watch this but I already know the advice dispensed- LEAVE HER
I like this kind of video rich.. They r insightful
I'm in a marriage where it's on its last legs I can't seem to do anything to make her happy anymore I've changed she says shes at least got 3 or 4 guys in wait for her that I know of.
Your in the perfect place, Texas is a melting pot of all cultures, I live in Houston, and are surrounded by different types of women, just gotta work on yourself, and hit the gym, tough
lmao. telling a 42 yr old to all of sudden be funny & charismatic is laughable. the older you get the harder it is to change. It’s 99% over for this guy. only hope is to stop attaching his confidence & happiness to being “high value / getting women”.. & just live life & mayb start being thankful for the things you do have. A great job, good head on your shoulders, hopefully good kids/family etc.
The women u want usually come when you stop caring that much. or maybe they dont. Who cares.
Networth is meaningless If you have a boring life. don’t stare at your bank account. Use some of the cash and live it up a bit.
God bless 🙏
I agree to a degree, but you can always change as a man if that is what you want.
@@basedblueboy8770 pointing out the exception to the rule is meaningless. Vast majority of 42 year olds will not change. Imagine telling a 42 year old grown man that’s set in his ways..to be “funnier”.. nope. Ain’t gonna happen. If it does, it’s an outlier. This dude will unlikely ever be high value or whatever we call it these days
I’m 42 and COMPLETELY changed my life and attitude. You can definitely teach an old dog new tricks! Red pill now and spin plates like a wild man. So do not spit this propaganda and lift others up. God bless
As long as we are alive we can always change. In fact change is a constant phenomenon. People who were in their 40s are completely different in their 50s. This is also amplified by the fact that our society is changing. 40 years olds 15 years ago who were oblivious to tech and barely could use flip phones are all using smartphones and spamming tiktok videos today in their 50s. We need to get rid of this mentality that we are in a "fixed" state. Brain plasticity does not lose its efficiency until we are dead. In addition most self made millionaires happen in 40s and 50s. And we also need to stop being ashamed of pursuing females. It is by design in our genes and is 100% normal. Stop being ashamed of being a guy. I'm seeing too much of this "redpill" BS today where guys abstain from any contact with females due to insecurities and internal grudges they hold onto the world. Life is too short for that shit. Go out there and start having fun. Those who stay stay. Those who go let them go.
@@freedomgunsandliberty great! But you are an exception big man. an outlier. MOST will not pull off what you did. ppl not understanding basic statistics baffles me.
“I am a millionaire that made it from nothing” does not change the fact that most ppl with will not be millionaires. most guys will not be Chad. Most guys will get average women and live an average life.
People need to improve that they can but also remain objective. The odds are immensely stacked against our guy in this video example.
If he makes it there will be 100s other 5ft 3 dudes with 0 confidence that didn’t make it. We just never hear about it because most of us would rather tuck our tail and hide than be seen sharing how we failed for RUclips to witness
Miami would be ideal, heighy varies pretty dramatically in thr US. Miami and nyc are both several inches shorter than the average midwesterner
I just love how women think they're single if they're not married.
The moment you suspect your girlfriend or wife is screwing around on you. END THE RATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY !
She probably is or will be soon.
Run! I wish I had.
Dead on. I had codependency issues and went thru 3 narcissists. Finally found a GREAT therapist who is an expert in victims of cluster b assholes, tho she calls us volunteers. Rightfully so. She moved that prism just a slight amount till I could see the color spectrum and after buying her a BMW (took a couple of years) I'm a completely changed man. Not sure about alpha/beta but I can tell you the part where you tell this guy to figure out why he accepts abuse as a relationship is the real answer. And besides, no one wants to lose their shit but living "that life" is not worth a plug nickel. Can spot and asshole now in the first conversation. As we used to say in the Army...."Tanks".
Now I'm panicking! Millionaire by 40 at the latest??? I'm 41 and nowhere NEAR a millionaire!!
How the Hell am I supposed to get there if I'm not prepared to put the work in??
I'm also very self entitled and I blame everyone else when things don't go my way and that's because it's never my fault!
So wtf aren't I a millionaire already with such a healthy atitude ffs??🤬🤬🤬
There’s a lot that doesn’t compute here. Maybe guy or his wife has spending problem. In DFW, if you have household income of $290k, you can EASILY save half of it per year. Especially with a low mortgage. Wanna bet the wife drives an S-class?
Best advice for anyone, man or woman, do the work on yourself.
We have an expression in my country for guys like him. “He wants Punani on a SilverPlatter”.
In the old days men had to look after their wives. Today men still look after them and after a divorce, the government looks after them which by the way is also ran by men.
Firsy by taking half the husband's wealth and giving it to her and providing her government aid.
Never allow evil to operate in your life.
Cast out all these demons and their thrall.
He is High value globally. Go to the phillipines
Seems to me that men and women want different things from a relationship. We need to be honest about this... Men are looking for loyalty, respect and physical attraction. Women are looking for security, comfort and emotional attraction. Everything else in the relationship is about healing childhood trauma and why there is a lack of personal awareness and growth.
I think what matters is how far is she willing to go to get what she wants she wants security? Who she willing to screw over to get it? Is she willing to lie for her comfort?
@@garysnow1475 You are saying women compromise who they fuck to get what they want
Why are people so scared at being single? I love it!! Living alone is far better than being miserable in a relationship. And if you do start dating somebody why move in together? If you don't plan on wanting children or already have children there's no need to get married again. I always find the one that wants to move in needs to be taken care of financially emotionally or physically. I have meant guys actually looking for a mom for their young kids. I wouldn't get attached to someone like that even if they were a billionaire. Now at my age most men just want a f buddy to that I ask what is in it for me? Even my guy friends I have know for years still every once in awhile ask me if there is a chance to hook up.....no!! Recently one 60 ish guy came right out and asked just for a sexual thing with gifts....gifts? Buy me presents to sleep with him yum no!! can buy my own purse no thanks. Seriously a purse. He actually said to me you know a purse with the L and a V..... That just proved to me the kind of women he's has been dating someone like him you probably need penicillin.
Millionaire by 30?? What crack is he smoking where that is normal lol. Oh he is behind the curve for making $243k 😃😂. Average salary is in low 60s
Ikr. He's a grifter trying to project an image
@@DSN262 It's ego. A millionaire by 60 is a lofty goal. Not first million by 30
I’m in a similar situation. so far I’m almost completely fit, working saving 💰💰💵 43 years old, honestly since I stopped being a fat ass idgaf about what she does or any woman. I’d like to be remembered for my accomplishments not letting some chick stress me.
Given his low wealth for his income, that suggests she is massive financial drain.
He may find he does a lot better once he is rid of her. He can build wealth better when on his own.