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womens only goal is to get the top 5% male with the golden 3 looks money status and with now a digital catalogue online she can shop for her stepping stones on her way to that prize . men need to realise this from youth and unless you are in that 5% in the looks dept you will be just a stepping stone asset to her and she will move on when her prize comes in
I definitely agree with this but its important he gets pointers on how to manage because some men will slip deeper into the rage instead of learning from it.
@@bonecoldplays8518 I was over that red pill rage in the early 90's. I have been flying high on that honkpill! As I know the only pill that is in our future. The Lead pill. Coming to a city near you.
I was redpilled as a kid when I saw how my mom screw my dad over. He was basically suffering from one eyetis and lost everything his children, house , got burned out and killed himself because of it. Don’t have the victim mindset otherwise you will end up like my dad. From that I learned what not to do and that staying in the frame is important as f*ck
I'm very sorry for your loss. Even if you don't say it, it looks like you had a great relationship with your dad, which is awesome. Cherish his memories, he's not gone! He'll be with you forever...
Men aren’t the only ones who have to pivot and adapt. I’ve been a widow for eleven years. Our family lost all of our wealth through a four year battle with cancer that ended in the death of my husband. Since then, I’ve built a respectable career and raised my two daughters through college with one about to graduate and already employed by a legitimate marketing firm making a very good salary. My other daughter is taking the P-CAT exam this morning for pharmacy school. I never wanted to be the head of household. I miss my husband. But, I seriously pivoted and adapted!
That's good, and you're strong. Just keep the positive vibes with your kids. My mom was a single mother with 4 kids and I didn't know my father, who died of cancer. The men in my life are equally important because of how averse to my emotional needs. I've learned to accept her ways. At least it's not as some who say "Just don't have any kids." I can use her intellect, just not the abusive part.
As a child of a widow, who raised 3 boys on her own, I salute you. You do the job of 2 parents. Respect and appreciation. Keep on being the rock on which your family is built.
And THAT is why UK, France, Australia, Canada has national health, my mother had a double hip replacement, had to wait 3 months for the operation $50,000 paid for by the government, then she had breast cancer, loads of treatment saved her life due to early free mamograms in 3D, all cost ZERO because all employees pay 1.5% of salary towards health care MEDICARE.....we don't send people broke financially because they are sick in Australia, we help them get better.
When we first started dated, my wife used to throw temper tantrums about stupid stuff, but she quickly realized I don't cater to that type of behavior and it magically stopped happening.
I remember when I was 12 years old I would go salmon fishing, and wouldn't get back until about 6:00 a.m. in the morning pedaling my bike home. When I flopped the salmon on the table, my dad said good boy. You did a good job providing for your family.
Getting red pilled from modern relationships is just the first step. Getting red pilled about MSM, the govt., education system, monetary system, etc is necessary for living a truly free life. For as Christ said ‘And ye shall know the truth, and it will set you free’.
All single moms I have dealt with in relationships were train wrecks. I am older dating now and you will see many women at 55 with children at home! I avoid all this crap now.
I dated only one, for way too long. And she was a lot more messed up than I realized at the time, I was being successfully gaslighted, but didn’t realize this because I’m kinda messed up myself. Now….I’ve watched many of Rich's videos and I’ve swallowed the red pill. I’m now in the process of being angry with myself, and am moving on with heightened awareness.
@@jasonreed2116 there is quote " A stoic is a buddhist with attitude" bcos the ideas r very very similar. About suffering and cause of suffering.. You can read more 👍
Since Buddha abandoned his child and actually named him Feters, he’s not the best example; but it sounds like that spirit is prevalent nowadays in the selfish generation.
I remember growing up in Australia in the 1970's, we used to disappear into the bush for 12 hours at a time, no cell phones or social media. My mates when we were 10 years old were my brothers...
Not only did they LET you disappear for 10 hours, they WANTED you to disappear. When I was a kid (also in the 70's), my mother would kick us out of the house and say, "Don't come back till suppertime. I have things to do." We lived in a heavily wooded area, and would spend all day in the woods. Either that or we'd find an open space and play 12 hours of baseball. No adult supervision, no one watching you, no cell phone to call home and let Mom know where you were. You were on your own. I guess it can't be like that anymore. Too many boogey men around.
Too many threating child molesters let off easy by liberal judges for kids being kids to spend most of the day till Mom calls out for supper. A big loss for learning in early life!
Use the rage towards what you need to do. Angry? Throw weights around, pissed off? Go hit the heavy bag. Use that pent up energy to build yourself up. There's some days I'm having fun on the heavy bag, a memory that angers me pops up. So I rage on the bag and feel better after.
Me, I do just the opposite. I just sit back, put my feet up and stay cool. Maybe I even watch a hockey game, LOL. Realize that in the long run all of this means nothing. 10 years from now you'll look back and ask yourself, "Why did I even care?" As for the woman angle, if you're a young guy in your 20's, go to a supermarket and check out some of the chicks in their 40's and 50's and say to yourself, "Those gals I'm so worked up about now, if I get one of them, 20 years from now they're going to look like that, and I'm going to be stuck with them." Then you'll realize a lot of times you win by losing.
You have to make rejection a positive. In my line of sales, it takes about 20 contacts to make 1 sale. A veteran in my business told me the first week on the job: "how fast can you make 20 belly-to-belly contacts? The faster the more money you will make." The same goes with getting women.
As Morpheus told Neo before meeting The Oracle: "I told you I can only show you the door, YOU have to walk through it", there's a difference between knowing the truth and accepting the truth. Knowing the truth is easy: you read a book, you watch a video, or simply get heartbroken by the "love of your life". Accepting the truth is hard and it will take you a lot of time to surrender and understand that this is the real reality we are living in. You can't control it, you can't change it, but you can adapt and become better until you realize that life hasn't become easier - you just become stronger.
I discovered the Red Pill truth and my immediate response was anger. The very next day I worked out until my entire body was swore. And I haven't stopped since. Feeling sorry for yourself accomplishes nothing.
That’s rough. My mother did the opposite, she was trying to create leaders, not followers. 4 boys, in sports, scouts, early self employment, church, how to handle adults, command and give respect, fight your battles, forced to explore the world. Dad always supports that. Right before I married my ex wife, Mom told me she was the wrong woman. Wish I’d listened. A woman that compliments my Father. Force of nature for sure.
My mom covered up and justified when my older half brother (her golden black child) significantly assaulted me when he was in college football and I was 15. Would roll her eyes at me if I brought it up, she’s a priest as well with 5 kids from 3 different dads then another husband, now a wife from her church.
I had the same anger for a while and then I got over it. Your analogy about being mad at the sun is pretty much summed up how silly I felt being angry.
"Dealing with the anger..." I highly suggest researching the various stages of grieving listed below. The questioner's previous world-view has died. ------- Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. Pain and guilt. Anger and bargaining. Depression. The upward turn. Reconstruction and working through. Acceptance and hope.
When you are young sometimes the only cure is time and experience. I was depressed, angry, socially awkward, alone, uneducated in my early adult life. I felt like I had nothing to live for. What I have learned is the fundamental most important thing to do in life is to focus on something. Staying busy is the ultimate cure for a restless mind. When I feel anxiety, I start working. The more anxiety I feel, the harder I work. Nowadays I don't feel anxiety at all, I am calm and collected. I have established a great work ethic because of anxiety and have obtained skills that pushed me into a lifestyle I never imagined possible. I have grown into a highly capable confident person who doesn't need to rely on anyone. The most important thing about adopting this mindset is you gain purpose. I highly recommend to anyone to always use your anxiety as the driving force to focus and work. The payoff in the long term cannot be over emphasized.
I think one of the things you gain from experience as you get older is the realization that nothing is new or exclusive. The bad things you think are happening only to you, you realize are happening to everybody, and have happened to everybody for thousands of years. Other people got through them, so you know that you can too.
The rage is an absolutely normal response. From there you have a couple of options. (1) you can dwell on how it's unfair and end up in a very dark place, or (2) you can accept it and find ways to live in this new reality. If I were you, I'd go with the second choice. How do you do that? By working on your looks, money, status, and game. You don't have to be Brad Pitt, but you do have to work on becoming the best version of yourself. Room for improving never stops. Also, be careful of the all content that's out there that dives into this stuff. There are a lot of creators that only complain but offer no solution. I would just stick with Rich and the other guys that he collaborates with. They're good role models for men, especially if you grew up without a strong masculine father.
@@MM-ug5ec I didn't say there was anything wrong with what he said, per se. You should always be the best person you can be, mind, body and soul. The thing is, what if being the best person you can be, means NOT having women in your life? Would you still consider yourself "the best version of yourself"? Seems like dudes are still judging success by how many women they attract, and that's not a good measure. Look at Nikola Tesla, Isaac Newton, ect. We still talk about those dudes because of what they contributed to humanity, women where, by all accounts, the last thing on their minds. Could you walk a similar path?
You improvise, you adapt, and then you overcome. I know it sounds corny but it's true. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off then you seek excellence and build your new life.
I was angry for about 3 seconds, then was overcome with euphoria that "now I have the answer! I'm lucky enough to be let in on the 'secret' and can now truly explain why I have failed in the past and can move forward in the future with much greater successes." Sure, it took me 32 years to unplug, but that's better than taking 33 years. I've got 50 years to look forward to.
That last part is a key way to look at life. "sure it took me 20 years to realise this but thats better than it taking 21". "sure i only did 20 pushups today but thats better than zero" "sure i only showed up to class but didnt really take any notes, but at least i showed up." Focus on the positive while acknowledging the negative.
How to control the anger: start looking at life as a game and start playing it. It’s that simple. Now that you know you’re a player in a game, and you now have a set of instructions, you can WIN and have fun doing it 👍
Confidence is everything. I'm only 5'7" tall but worked hard in the weight room (as well as being pretty well off below the belt) and I never had problems lacking in female interest. I'm an old married dude now but I found a nice, hot little tradwife worthy of my DNA. Keep your head up, brother, you'll be fine
"Helicopter Parents" have been replaced by "Bulldozer Parents"---the parents who plow a highway so their kids will never fail in life (so goes the rationale.) Helicopters and Bulldozers have been a disaster for young men.
I’ve recently come across Rich as I’ve come out of Christianity, I thought I was an Alpha but Rich’s teaching has made me realise I’m actually a Beta Blurp!!! I can’t believe the level of truth in these messages. Keep up the good work
I am unplugged. But it took years of relationship experience to get here. Today I am happily unmarried, have no kids & no plan to change. I still date, but am very up front about not looking for an LTR or raising someone else's kids.
@@Ace.0.0.0. It has its ups & downs. A close friend, who is happily married, summed up my bachelor lifestyle best. He said, "I mean...yah it's unusual, but you make it work." I make it work by keeping close family & friend relationships. Dating on occasion & just enjoying the company. If I like her, I can always see her again & again! If I don't like her, I can make our 1st date our last. But mostly, I can be honest with each one about the others. No guilt!
Man is hardwired in a need for a woman, it's deeply rooted into man's mind mechanism and controlling it it's seems almost impossible(though it is not, it is just very hard) Woman of present day is aware of that and they are using that privilege 100% on theirs behalf. Ignoring them till they get humbled is the best gift man can have ,but problem lies in SIMP's.They are the ones that skyrocket woman value in the market more then they deserve...
I'm 38 and I have definitely been blue pilled, and I'm just coming to terms with it lately. I was a liberal, soft, romantic that would bend over backwards for my partner. I was with someone for 10 years, and a year after we got married she started an affair after hurting her back, having chronic pain and becoming depressed and a drinker. It took 2 years for me to find out about it and still tried to make it work for the next few months until she left me for a 50 year old dude who was 20 years older than her. He was already established with his own house and a 250k a year job as a construction worker. Luckily I had no children with her and next to no assets, so the divorce was easy. I've taken the time to re-evaluate my life and have made changes. I'm now a Nurse Practitioner in a private practice in Midtown Manhattan making almost 200k a year, I own a motorcycle, have a full sleeve tattoo, work out 4-5 days a week, and keep women in my frame when I go on dates. I've been much happier and much more successful, and women desire me way more than in the past. The lies of the white picket fence and family were engrained in me and now I know my reality is really just to seek and achieve excellence, and whatever comes from that is a bonus.
Book a flight to Thailand or Philippines and see some slim friendly women. Pay for some time with a sexy lady. The U.S. is full of hippo's nothing you can do about that. Chasing the few women in the U.S. that are slim and fun to be with is like hoping to win the lotto. Travel to other countries there is so much better out there for single men.
Man from Asia here. I guarantee you with the 'woke' and 'feminism' propaganda, even Asia isn't safe. At least in the modern capital cities. The ones from rural areas are slightly conservative and at least less prone to monkeybranching. More and more 'modern' women are eating the 'feminism' propaganda and divorce rates are on the rise. Cheating is now a norm and girlfriends are leaving their boyfriends for a BBD every single time. Well, at least in Asia most of the girls are still in great shape. But one thing I can tell you is. Women are women EVERYWHERE. Hypergamy is UNIVERSAL and hypergamy doesn't care.
Exceptional wording & very sussinctly put man. Hard to accept that we've all been fed from the spoof buffet. The crunch comes when you hold on after she leaves. Dont pack your job in, dont hit the bottle outside of recreation. Hold on just that little bit tighter & dive into anything that will distract your mind from wandering down the gutter because a lot of the times our minds can be our enemy. The aboriginal tribes believe in such. They have a phrase in their own language for it. They say trust the gut first. Heart 2nd. Mind last. Both reclusiveness & alcoholism for some reason have a tendency to grip a man the most post partum as I've both seen & experienced because a man is encapsulated inside his egotism & suffers an ego death and pride fall which is what really drives his spiral downwards to wanting solitary confinement & to numb the brain with the jungle juice. Been there before. Know the strategy now & laughingly shake my head at the fact I allowed it to happen. Never again! You cannot unsee what you see in realization. The beauty of the minds expedition! Rich you are putting in stellar effort to help men avoid the pitfall of the inevitable. Eternal thanks!
Adapt the mindset of "I don't have time to bleed." As a man on a mission, it's incumbent on you to get shit done. Whatever your goals are, you playing with your emotions in the corner is not getting you any closer to the objective. Stop playing with yourself and start taking positive actions toward whatever you're trying to build. There are always positive actions you can take. It's your job to know your objectives, to have a plan and to execute the plan, and to measure your variables so you can adjust the plan as circumstances change around you. You can't control everything but you should be making intelligent decisions to maximize the return on investment for how you spend your allotted 24 hours per day. It's incumbent upon you as a man to be the captain of your own ship. If the ship gets lost at sea, it's your fault and you can't blame the sea for having waves.
''(...)Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other (...)".
Sage advise....you own your life, take the hit, move on make your life better. In the end when push comes to shove the only person that is going to take care of you and me is you and me....Formulate the plan and keep going on..
I have been looking through videos like this for about a month after my divorce. The reality shift is big, it’s hard to not to be angry but it’s great to use that energy into purpose and into improving myself.
Agreed RP rage is a thing However, it frustrates me that men do not avail themselves of all the information on the internet to better prepare themselves...
My buddy recommended this channel while we were talking, this is my first video and it's like church. I know the material but I'm still coming to listen to the preacher.
Off my chest: How I wish I had someone like you growing up. A big brother or a father figure. I grew up without a father and no one taught me how to handle relationships with women. I was raised by a single mother and grandmother. My father passed away when I was 4. I am 32 and have been with some women but ALL of them have been low value, insecure women who needed saving and who needed someone to fix their lives. I improved their lives and I ended up with nothing, only wasted years. I thought I was having a fun time having sex with them but all I did was wasting my 20s on them. It makes me sad that I can't even mention one woman that I am proud of being with. Other than avoiding such women in the future, I learned nothing from them. At least I didn't have kids with them, that would've ruined my life. Thankfully I found your channel at the beginning of this year and also bought your book. It has helped me to slowly open my eyes and to also value myself more. I need to work on my self-esteem, I'm going to therapy for that, try to become a better person and surround myself with people who are worth being with.
I watched King Kong vs. Godzilla [2021] the other night and all that I noticed was the little girl and the scientist girl making fun of the guy calling him a coward in their sign language and laughing behind his back. This has been the Hollywood Formula since the 1980's. It just pissed me off right away. The best part of the movie was when Kong squished the bad girl in the airplane, I played that scene over and over like 6 times. 10 years ago I would not have noticed this.
the time will come when men learn everything about women and love relationships, I can assure you that that day the world will be made up of strong, successful and celibate men and angry, unhappy and poor women, knowing clearly about a lie teaches you how to avoid it
For any of my brothers suffering from obesity. Ketogenic diet, intermittent fasting... Vitamin D, resistance training, walks. Do all of that and you will get your physiology to a level beyond what you thought was possible, you brain to a place it may never have been before and a general feeling of wellbeing at all times.
Agreed, 100%! Add to the equation - get good quality SLEEP on a consistent basis, and ditch the fuck'n BOOZE, fellas. Keep your mind right, protect yourself at all times, and stay the course. Don't be led by your genitals, and remember that YOU are the prize. 👊🏼
This post, especially the end really inspired me Surrender, accept, pivot, and move forward. These words are so simple and yet so profound and easy to stray from. Do I surrender to the truth? I cannot fight gravity. Do I accept the way of the world? I won't deny, equivocate or bury my head in the sand. I will acknowledge what is. But do I pivot? But do I pivot? If not, I condemn myself to purgatory, no relief, no end no change. Pivot is the key. Doors will open but only with the proper motivation. Expect no carling float unless you, only you, take a step over the edge of the abyss. ... And when you do you, you move forward, and life begins again.
I was like him when I turned from blue to red pill! Now, I accepted the reality, and I use this knowledge as a map to navigate rather being upset of the reality!
the five things we cannot change & the happiness we find from embracing them: 1) everything changes & ends 2) things don't always go according to plan 3) life is not fair 4) pain is a part of life 5) people are not loving & loyal all of the time .. by david richo .. hard truths for sure yet essential for conducting one's affairs rationally ...
Good ole Coach Rich, in the cut with much needed pep talks! Consider leaning into pain rather than seeking to stop it right away. Mistakes are the meat of success. Dust yourself off and improve! Keep doing the work, Brothers.
Was discussing the red pill philosophy in a group the other day that had a few women in it. Holy shit did I get a mouth full! 😂 told me it teaches men to be narcissistic, toxic and being superior…Told them if that’s the case a lot of women must have read it to?
I dealt with the same kind of thing when i first started thinking with a Redpill mindset. Funny thing is it was when I was real young, but I still went through a lot before it actually sunk in. Now I'm monk because I refuse to settle for for the B.S. that women in this society bring to the proverbial table nowadays.
Spot on. Acceptance is a big part of life and as we get older and wiser we have to learn to adapt. The big thing here is you can spend a lot of time angry or wondering what's wrong with yourself. Don't worry about it, like rich says. Do. The. Work. Be the best version of yourself at all costs.
9:41: "they know the work should be done but they don't do it. I cannot for sure tell why"->this is simple. Action is a habit. Habit leads to personality. Personality is adapted. If your personality is inaction, then to change that you need to work against yourself. Doing the work requires a physical change of neural pathways responsible for the existing habit of inaction. Thats an unpleasant process. We like doing things that are familiar and easy-or things that are slightly challenging and familiar. We don't do things difficult and unfamiliar. The brain is maximizing gains and minimizing costs. When faced with unfamiliar and difficult he will test "you": "is it really that important to spend our energy?". And the answer in 99% of the time is "no". This can happen very easily if you have no choice-something or somebody forces you to do the work. Then the calculation of this type is changed. After the work is done brain is changed as well and "you" are in a new state of mind. But if you are supposed to do it yourself out of your own volition it is very hard. It's like asking somebody who is right-handed to learn how to write with their left hand. You go against your hardwired programming and against the energy-conserving nature of our brain. People who did the work and/or because of their character change do not appreciate this problem, especially the more established and successful they are. They do not understand the problem because for them taking action is a habit and thus easy as breathing. Their brains are already different. And thus you struggle giving advice in this area or understanding what the hell is their problem.
I’ve been processing my own anger. But in that process, is the realization that I’m mostly pissed off at myself for having made bad choices, and staying too long. I believe that’s a major contributor to the break up of a relationship or red pill revelation. It’s human nature to initially look outward for someone else to blame. Maturity and wisdom however, teach us that our decisions are all we have control over. That’s why I believe the bitterness and resentment of a break up escalates to the level it does, because conscious or subconscious we are truly most pissed off at ourselves.
@@hareeba5879 I wouldn’t go that far. Most people don’t care. We all have a select few people who genuinely do care. Lost my father and best friend in December. Rediscovered some others who genuinely do care. True friends are rare, but those are the ones we can count on. No one is an island, we all need someone. Life lessons can be very painful but we never forget the most painful lessons. Only 2 options: Grow from it, and become better out of it. Waller around in misery, powerless.
@@myfatherslegacy2431 thanks for your reply Kurt. The point of the quote is blaming others is a waste of time and that our situation is a direct result of our choices and decisions.
Disillusionment is inevitable when you're revising belief systems, but that's not the end of the road. You have to hit rock bottom before you can climb back up. I've always looked at it this way: you have two choices every day, regardless of what's happening in your life. 1.) Be destructive or 2.) be productive. Everything aside, being productive will always be better. Don't destroy, but build. Don't lament, but celebrate. Eventually, that behavior becomes habit and that habit becomes one's ethos.
I define the experience this emailer went through as a "paradigm shatter". Having your belief system blow out of the water is painful. You've believed something to be true for most of your life....later to be confronted with the reality it wasn't. It sucks going through this mental struggle...but once you've embrace it, you will come out the other side the better for it. I've personally went through it twice in my life. When my ex-wife walked out on me and our 3 young sons for another man and the other was my faulty religious beliefs from childhood. To those going through a paradigm shatter...I wish you all the best. You are not alone. You can and will be a better version of yourself.
You either get bitter or you get better. It's that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you.
No, shame is warranted. It’s the same as “never shame a woman for using sex as currency “ The world owes NO MAN understanding. Man up or sit down to pee.
men are not angry at the sun being hot.......they are angry that someone TOLD them it was fine.. not angry at the sun.... the sun did not say "I am cool and groovy".... angry at people....if you could address that?...then we are getting somewhere.
After a failed relationships of 6 years I jnderstood how things really are..currently blackpilled..but working toward my goals....I have accepted it....working in silence.
You Rock. I've learned so much from your channel, to finish, my work on myself. I'm a 55 year old female, that started this journey, in 2016. You validate everything I realized 2016. It is work that is so worth the effort. Man or woman. Thank You. I can't wait for future posts.
You know you found "that video." when it stings a little inside. Thanks for this - to both the writer of that email and to you for the response. I needed all of this.
I definetly felt that anger and I have to learn to move on from it. They usually can't and don't think they're wrong. I'm talkimg Girlfriends, Mom's, Wives. It's so stressful and I'm So young
Surrender to how things are, don't dwell on how they ought to be. Surrendering in this fashion is not being weak, but rather a demonstration of strength. It's accepting and letting go of what you don't control, and more importantly, doubling down on what you do have control of.
I am grateful I could explore danger as a child... looking back I could have died a few times. But it made me stronger and more secure within myself. You are making great points.
Current girl of 6 months wants me to see my own son less and quit doing BJJ so much… not compromising … she’s currently shit testing me by going cold so I’m just going to walk away. Once you get out of the oneitis mindset Life becomes clear
6:36 I find this guy funny. I think it's good for a man to have his life together. Building a life with meaning rather than wasting away his life in a basement. What I find funny is that he is advocating for these things in order to attract a girl. Nah screw that, get your life together for yourself.
I had moments of red pill knowledge my whole life but that conditioning is strong. Took losing my old man and my closest friend within a 3 month period to shatter all those lies and went from depression to rage to a kind of numbness. Once a realised how freeing this truth was everything has started to fall into place even though the wounds are deep and still sting from time to time.
Thank you Rich. Your video was spot on. At end of work day, by myself on a project. Good time for youtube. I will share this with my younger coworker tomorrow. Life " is what it is". I like the sunburn analogy. Cheers.
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Acceptance! Acceptance! Acceptance!
Good book, very straightforward
Rich the list of books isn’t in the top comment. I t is only your book
Rich what if you have skin condition like vitiligo
The moment women got a smartphone with a camera in their hand the fate of western civilization was sealed.
It made the life of men better and easier in reality. Imagine having to meet a woman’s father and go on months of dating. Today is easy.
Once whimin were given the rights of a man
womens only goal is to get the top 5% male with the golden 3 looks money status and with now a digital catalogue online she can shop for her stepping stones on her way to that prize . men need to realise this from youth and unless you are in that 5% in the looks dept you will be just a stepping stone asset to her and she will move on when her prize comes in
The dildo.
@@cansee0 yup. As soon as women were allowed to vote it was all over
I bought Rich's book for my 23 year old son for his birthday. I'm hoping he gets a better start at life than I did.
Good man. 23 is a great age to get a hold of this information
You're a good dad for dropping these hidden truths of the red pill. Salute 💪🏼
my father got me a wife last summer , I was 12
@@ameurnemlaghi9480 You have kids now?
@@ameurnemlaghi9480 how much did she cost?
This mantra came in my mind from nowhere half a year ago, "surrender, accept, move on, work hard".
Accept, Adapt/Adjust, Advance! 🌞😎💪
Be resilient. Acknowledge there's a lot of betas pushover out there.
I don't even think "surrender" is the right word. I say, "ignore". When I see all this bullshit going on I say, "It has nothing to do with me."
Ohponopono
Bravo
He's just going through the Red Pill Rage , Give him time
I definitely agree with this but its important he gets pointers on how to manage because some men will slip deeper into the rage instead of learning from it.
@@1996killerman I guess that's also true
@@bonecoldplays8518 I was over that red pill rage in the early 90's.
I have been flying high on that honkpill!
As I know the only pill that is in our future. The Lead pill.
Coming to a city near you.
@@OldieWan Not soon enough...
I was redpilled as a kid when I saw how my mom screw my dad over. He was basically suffering from one eyetis and lost everything his children, house , got burned out and killed himself because of it. Don’t have the victim mindset otherwise you will end up like my dad.
From that I learned what not to do and that staying in the frame is important as f*ck
my condolences
Shame isnt it
I'm very sorry for your loss. Even if you don't say it, it looks like you had a great relationship with your dad, which is awesome. Cherish his memories, he's not gone! He'll be with you forever...
Sorry for your loss. Hope you learned something out of the very sad loss.
My dad killed himself after being totally divorce raped. My mom then bought a huge condo age 66, that 7 families could live in.
Men aren’t the only ones who have to pivot and adapt. I’ve been a widow for eleven years. Our family lost all of our wealth through a four year battle with cancer that ended in the death of my husband. Since then, I’ve built a respectable career and raised my two daughters through college with one about to graduate and already employed by a legitimate marketing firm making a very good salary. My other daughter is taking the P-CAT exam this morning for pharmacy school. I never wanted to be the head of household. I miss my husband. But, I seriously pivoted and adapted!
You're awesome
That's good, and you're strong. Just keep the positive vibes with your kids. My mom was a single mother with 4 kids and I didn't know my father, who died of cancer. The men in my life are equally important because of how averse to my emotional needs. I've learned to accept her ways. At least it's not as some who say "Just don't have any kids." I can use her intellect, just not the abusive part.
As a child of a widow, who raised 3 boys on her own, I salute you. You do the job of 2 parents. Respect and appreciation. Keep on being the rock on which your family is built.
Do deserve congratulations.
And THAT is why UK, France, Australia, Canada has national health, my mother had a double hip replacement, had to wait 3 months for the operation $50,000 paid for by the government, then she had breast cancer, loads of treatment saved her life due to early free mamograms in 3D, all cost ZERO because all employees pay 1.5% of salary towards health care MEDICARE.....we don't send people broke financially because they are sick in Australia, we help them get better.
When we first started dated, my wife used to throw temper tantrums about stupid stuff, but she quickly realized I don't cater to that type of behavior and it magically stopped happening.
She was testing you. Congrats, you passed.
I remember when I was 12 years old I would go salmon fishing, and wouldn't get back until about 6:00 a.m. in the morning pedaling my bike home. When I flopped the salmon on the table, my dad said good boy. You did a good job providing for your family.
I accept the way society is that’s why I don’t participate in it.
Getting red pilled from modern relationships is just the first step. Getting red pilled about MSM, the govt., education system, monetary system, etc is necessary for living a truly free life. For as Christ said ‘And ye shall know the truth, and it will set you free’.
So you spam the words "red pill" but quote a religious text immediately after...
Right on
@@levigivens Christ is the ultimate red pill guru. Lol
@@dr.hairbrain1486Gross
@@levigivens Feel free to blaspheme, I could care less.
All single moms I have dealt with in relationships were train wrecks. I am older dating now and you will see many women at 55 with children at home! I avoid all this crap now.
I just learning that lesson Ouch
I dated only one, for way too long. And she was a lot more messed up than I realized at the time, I was being successfully gaslighted, but didn’t realize this because I’m kinda messed up myself.
Now….I’ve watched many of Rich's videos and I’ve swallowed the red pill. I’m now in the process of being angry with myself, and am moving on with heightened awareness.
And, those women have 2 - 3 kids from 2 - 3 men, and grand kids guaranteed.
55yr old with kids hahahahaha🤣🤣
@@mohammadwasilliterate8037 And, those kids have no future. Then have kids!
Anger is a legitimate response to Injustice, to remain passive is not a VIRTUE.
Bring back 'Fat Shaming" !!
Cowards remain passive. 👍
St Thomas Aquinas: you are immoral if you don’t get angry at injustice.
❤ that guy.
Stoicism is missed so much..
Time to bring back the stoic mindset or a buddhist mindset.
Miyamoto Musashi is a good start.
@@jasonreed2116 there is quote " A stoic is a buddhist with attitude" bcos the ideas r very very similar.
About suffering and cause of suffering..
You can read more 👍
Since Buddha abandoned his child and actually named him Feters, he’s not the best example; but it sounds like that spirit is prevalent nowadays in the selfish generation.
I remember growing up in Australia in the 1970's, we used to disappear into the bush for 12 hours at a time, no cell phones or social media. My mates when we were 10 years old were my brothers...
Not only did they LET you disappear for 10 hours, they WANTED you to disappear. When I was a kid (also in the 70's), my mother would kick us out of the house and say, "Don't come back till suppertime. I have things to do." We lived in a heavily wooded area, and would spend all day in the woods. Either that or we'd find an open space and play 12 hours of baseball. No adult supervision, no one watching you, no cell phone to call home and let Mom know where you were. You were on your own. I guess it can't be like that anymore. Too many boogey men around.
@@RRaquello Great days...
Cell phones have ruined relationships and the world! 😑
@@paddybee7852 Pretty much, hyper connectivity can be a bad thing...
Too many threating child molesters let off easy by liberal judges for kids being kids to spend most of the day till Mom calls out for supper. A big loss for learning in early life!
Use the rage towards what you need to do. Angry? Throw weights around, pissed off? Go hit the heavy bag. Use that pent up energy to build yourself up. There's some days I'm having fun on the heavy bag, a memory that angers me pops up. So I rage on the bag and feel better after.
Just not at planet fitness lol 😂
Good system.
@@charliedallachie3539 why not at fitness planet?
@@Eth3realwarrior you’re not allowed to lift heavy or make noise. Look it up. It’s a joke. Have to find a real gym.
Me, I do just the opposite. I just sit back, put my feet up and stay cool. Maybe I even watch a hockey game, LOL. Realize that in the long run all of this means nothing. 10 years from now you'll look back and ask yourself, "Why did I even care?" As for the woman angle, if you're a young guy in your 20's, go to a supermarket and check out some of the chicks in their 40's and 50's and say to yourself, "Those gals I'm so worked up about now, if I get one of them, 20 years from now they're going to look like that, and I'm going to be stuck with them." Then you'll realize a lot of times you win by losing.
As a man it's always great to listen to another man speaking truth.
Absolutely
Yeah I beat my head against a wall for years trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. Then I figured out that society had sold me a bill of goods!
As long as you realized this and moved on...
@@CEWIII9873 Yeah, growth is essential for all.
@@anti-wokewarrior1474 How have you grown?
@@CEWIII9873 Well what do you mean? I assume you mean: in what ways have I improved. You could, however, be asking: how did I go about improving?
@@anti-wokewarrior1474 sure, whichever
You have to make rejection a positive. In my line of sales, it takes about 20 contacts to make 1 sale. A veteran in my business told me the first week on the job: "how fast can you make 20 belly-to-belly contacts? The faster the more money you will make." The same goes with getting women.
I need a couple million dollars
As Morpheus told Neo before meeting The Oracle: "I told you I can only show you the door, YOU have to walk through it", there's a difference between knowing the truth and accepting the truth.
Knowing the truth is easy: you read a book, you watch a video, or simply get heartbroken by the "love of your life".
Accepting the truth is hard and it will take you a lot of time to surrender and understand that this is the real reality we are living in.
You can't control it, you can't change it, but you can adapt and become better until you realize that life hasn't become easier - you just become stronger.
Your videos opened up my eyes to a lot of patterns I was noticing but couldn’t really comprehend. Thanks for giving a new perspective.
Same here ! Patterns and meanings behind them.
Its like neo in the matrix.......when you see women in code....the woman in the red dress.....women are all coded the same..
@@alex1vid yes exactly i had the same thought process
I discovered the Red Pill truth and my immediate response was anger. The very next day I worked out until my entire body was swore. And I haven't stopped since. Feeling sorry for yourself accomplishes nothing.
Caught my wife with her coworker in our bed. No condom and he defiled the sheets. I’m grateful I found you so I know the right next decision to make.
Be decisive and make the strong decision-let her go bro! Take time to heal, spend some money on yourself.
Do NOT ever make her feel that you need her.
Done yourself a favour move on ghost her no contact enjoy your freedom enjoy life you now free
Hate to hear that, man. All you can do is learn from it and avoid the next landmine. I've been there myself
Props on you for not lashing out at both of them honestly it’s not worth it to react to women’s shit
Lucky you bro
I have to point out that most mothers treat sons as a disposable child. I know my mother did.
My ex wife does it to our older son
@@jonnyenough1531 That's why she's EX!
That’s rough. My mother did the opposite, she was trying to create leaders, not followers. 4 boys, in sports, scouts, early self employment, church, how to handle adults, command and give respect, fight your battles, forced to explore the world. Dad always supports that. Right before I married my ex wife, Mom told me she was the wrong woman. Wish I’d listened. A woman that compliments my Father. Force of nature for sure.
@@ericraber1214 your mum is a real one brother! Cherish her!
My mom covered up and justified when my older half brother (her golden black child) significantly assaulted me when he was in college football and I was 15. Would roll her eyes at me if I brought it up, she’s a priest as well with 5 kids from 3 different dads then another husband, now a wife from her church.
Don't use Redpill Rage as a crutch to contempt for women. Understand female nature, adjust your life and prioritize your interest ahead of everyone.
Good advice.
I agree
However...
It is a stage...it is just important not to live in it.
I had the same anger for a while and then I got over it. Your analogy about being mad at the sun is pretty much summed up how silly I felt being angry.
Yup, red pill rage is normal, but if you don't channel it into something productive then you're just pissing into the wind.
i spat out my drink when he said he got a chicks name tattoed on his arm 😭😭😭😭
He probably got it lasered off eventually. How's your keyboard?
I have a chicks name on me too ….. Sheila… but!!!! That’s my mom so it’s less lame
@@crisclay2678 Thats pretty nice from you. Seeing the value in your family is a sign of greatness.
"Dealing with the anger..."
I highly suggest researching the various stages of grieving listed below. The questioner's previous world-view has died.
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Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings.
Pain and guilt.
Anger and bargaining.
Depression.
The upward turn.
Reconstruction and working through.
Acceptance and hope.
Anger is part of the process to recovery.
When you are young sometimes the only cure is time and experience. I was depressed, angry, socially awkward, alone, uneducated in my early adult life. I felt like I had nothing to live for. What I have learned is the fundamental most important thing to do in life is to focus on something. Staying busy is the ultimate cure for a restless mind. When I feel anxiety, I start working. The more anxiety I feel, the harder I work. Nowadays I don't feel anxiety at all, I am calm and collected. I have established a great work ethic because of anxiety and have obtained skills that pushed me into a lifestyle I never imagined possible. I have grown into a highly capable confident person who doesn't need to rely on anyone. The most important thing about adopting this mindset is you gain purpose. I highly recommend to anyone to always use your anxiety as the driving force to focus and work. The payoff in the long term cannot be over emphasized.
I think one of the things you gain from experience as you get older is the realization that nothing is new or exclusive. The bad things you think are happening only to you, you realize are happening to everybody, and have happened to everybody for thousands of years. Other people got through them, so you know that you can too.
Thank you, I screenshot this because I really needed this
The rage is an absolutely normal response. From there you have a couple of options. (1) you can dwell on how it's unfair and end up in a very dark place, or (2) you can accept it and find ways to live in this new reality. If I were you, I'd go with the second choice. How do you do that? By working on your looks, money, status, and game. You don't have to be Brad Pitt, but you do have to work on becoming the best version of yourself. Room for improving never stops.
Also, be careful of the all content that's out there that dives into this stuff. There are a lot of creators that only complain but offer no solution. I would just stick with Rich and the other guys that he collaborates with. They're good role models for men, especially if you grew up without a strong masculine father.
Wrong answer. We don't choose to accept a reality that should not exist, we smash it and build it from the ground up, the way it should be.
@@keithqueen352 there was nothing 'wrong' with what he said. It was well put.
@@MM-ug5ec I didn't say there was anything wrong with what he said, per se. You should always be the best person you can be, mind, body and soul. The thing is, what if being the best person you can be, means NOT having women in your life? Would you still consider yourself "the best version of yourself"? Seems like dudes are still judging success by how many women they attract, and that's not a good measure. Look at Nikola Tesla, Isaac Newton, ect. We still talk about those dudes because of what they contributed to humanity, women where, by all accounts, the last thing on their minds. Could you walk a similar path?
You improvise, you adapt, and then you overcome. I know it sounds corny but it's true. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off then you seek excellence and build your new life.
@@keithqueen352 technically you did. You said wrong answer 🤷🏾♂️
I'm 35 in a ltr 3 kids. Watch one of your shows and it clicked. Thank you brother for the info. You are the Man
"society likes to sell comfortable lies instead of uncomfortable truths" so so true.
I was angry for about 3 seconds, then was overcome with euphoria that "now I have the answer! I'm lucky enough to be let in on the 'secret' and can now truly explain why I have failed in the past and can move forward in the future with much greater successes." Sure, it took me 32 years to unplug, but that's better than taking 33 years. I've got 50 years to look forward to.
This. This is how it's done.
That last part is a key way to look at life. "sure it took me 20 years to realise this but thats better than it taking 21". "sure i only did 20 pushups today but thats better than zero" "sure i only showed up to class but didnt really take any notes, but at least i showed up." Focus on the positive while acknowledging the negative.
I was unsatisfied with my life.
Then I heard a voice in my head
"Go get your CDL"
Life took a 180 after that.
@@alexecristian937 might be Commercial Driver's License (CDL) - but I could be wrong
@@robertbalan you are correct
I’m late to the party, but congrats brother
The Reality is,...
"DON'T WORRY, IT'S ALL A LIE!"
How to control the anger: start looking at life as a game and start playing it. It’s that simple. Now that you know you’re a player in a game, and you now have a set of instructions, you can WIN and have fun doing it 👍
High IQ move. Thank you NPC
@@QuadraAce you are welcome traveler
@@QuadraAce It most certainly is! 👍
What are those instructions?
Now that is an excellent narrative to believe in. Gold lies at the end of that rainbow.
Confidence is everything. I'm only 5'7" tall but worked hard in the weight room (as well as being pretty well off below the belt) and I never had problems lacking in female interest.
I'm an old married dude now but I found a nice, hot little tradwife worthy of my DNA. Keep your head up, brother, you'll be fine
Or as the Marines say; Improvise, Adapt, Overcome.
HooRah
Does that include a "reach-around"?
"Helicopter Parents" have been replaced by "Bulldozer Parents"---the parents who plow a highway so their kids will never fail in life (so goes the rationale.) Helicopters and Bulldozers have been a disaster for young men.
I've completely lost touch with reality. I don't understand people at all. Fear them in fact.
I’ve recently come across Rich as I’ve come out of Christianity, I thought I was an Alpha but Rich’s teaching has made me realise I’m actually a Beta Blurp!!!
I can’t believe the level of truth in these messages.
Keep up the good work
Jesus Christ the way the truth and the life
I am unplugged. But it took years of relationship experience to get here. Today I am happily unmarried, have no kids & no plan to change. I still date, but am very up front about not looking for an LTR or raising someone else's kids.
How has that been for you, seriously?
@@Ace.0.0.0. It has its ups & downs. A close friend, who is happily married, summed up my bachelor lifestyle best. He said, "I mean...yah it's unusual, but you make it work." I make it work by keeping close family & friend relationships. Dating on occasion & just enjoying the company. If I like her, I can always see her again & again! If I don't like her, I can make our 1st date our last. But mostly, I can be honest with each one about the others. No guilt!
Man is hardwired in a need for a woman, it's deeply rooted into man's mind mechanism and controlling it it's seems almost impossible(though it is not, it is just very hard) Woman of present day is aware of that and they are using that privilege 100% on theirs behalf.
Ignoring them till they get humbled is the best gift man can have ,but problem lies in SIMP's.They are the ones that skyrocket woman value in the market more then they deserve...
I'm 38 and I have definitely been blue pilled, and I'm just coming to terms with it lately. I was a liberal, soft, romantic that would bend over backwards for my partner. I was with someone for 10 years, and a year after we got married she started an affair after hurting her back, having chronic pain and becoming depressed and a drinker. It took 2 years for me to find out about it and still tried to make it work for the next few months until she left me for a 50 year old dude who was 20 years older than her. He was already established with his own house and a 250k a year job as a construction worker.
Luckily I had no children with her and next to no assets, so the divorce was easy. I've taken the time to re-evaluate my life and have made changes. I'm now a Nurse Practitioner in a private practice in Midtown Manhattan making almost 200k a year, I own a motorcycle, have a full sleeve tattoo, work out 4-5 days a week, and keep women in my frame when I go on dates. I've been much happier and much more successful, and women desire me way more than in the past. The lies of the white picket fence and family were engrained in me and now I know my reality is really just to seek and achieve excellence, and whatever comes from that is a bonus.
"Angry at the truth" facts 😆
Chase a check, not a chick
Chase bread, not head
Book a flight to Thailand or Philippines and see some slim friendly women. Pay for some time with a sexy lady. The U.S. is full of hippo's nothing you can do about that. Chasing the few women in the U.S. that are slim and fun to be with is like hoping to win the lotto. Travel to other countries there is so much better out there for single men.
Spot on
Dam the Vaccine Passports
Man from Asia here. I guarantee you with the 'woke' and 'feminism' propaganda, even Asia isn't safe.
At least in the modern capital cities. The ones from rural areas are slightly conservative and at least less prone to monkeybranching.
More and more 'modern' women are eating the 'feminism' propaganda and divorce rates are on the rise. Cheating is now a norm and girlfriends are leaving their boyfriends for a BBD every single time. Well, at least in Asia most of the girls are still in great shape.
But one thing I can tell you is. Women are women EVERYWHERE. Hypergamy is UNIVERSAL and hypergamy doesn't care.
Stay hard stay strong stay cold... ain’t no love in any city streets. We are on our own and only united and real will we remain standing.
Facts
Exceptional wording & very sussinctly put man. Hard to accept that we've all been fed from the spoof buffet. The crunch comes when you hold on after she leaves. Dont pack your job in, dont hit the bottle outside of recreation. Hold on just that little bit tighter & dive into anything that will distract your mind from wandering down the gutter because a lot of the times our minds can be our enemy. The aboriginal tribes believe in such. They have a phrase in their own language for it. They say trust the gut first. Heart 2nd. Mind last. Both reclusiveness & alcoholism for some reason have a tendency to grip a man the most post partum as I've both seen & experienced because a man is encapsulated inside his egotism & suffers an ego death and pride fall which is what really drives his spiral downwards to wanting solitary confinement & to numb the brain with the jungle juice. Been there before. Know the strategy now & laughingly shake my head at the fact I allowed it to happen. Never again! You cannot unsee what you see in realization. The beauty of the minds expedition! Rich you are putting in stellar effort to help men avoid the pitfall of the inevitable. Eternal thanks!
Well said bro👊
Stay strong guy's and God bless
Adapt the mindset of "I don't have time to bleed."
As a man on a mission, it's incumbent on you to get shit done. Whatever your goals are, you playing with your emotions in the corner is not getting you any closer to the objective. Stop playing with yourself and start taking positive actions toward whatever you're trying to build. There are always positive actions you can take.
It's your job to know your objectives, to have a plan and to execute the plan, and to measure your variables so you can adjust the plan as circumstances change around you. You can't control everything but you should be making intelligent decisions to maximize the return on investment for how you spend your allotted 24 hours per day. It's incumbent upon you as a man to be the captain of your own ship. If the ship gets lost at sea, it's your fault and you can't blame the sea for having waves.
''(...)Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed;
courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one
from the other (...)".
Serenity prayer
Beautiful quote. Seen it first time in Flashpoint Paradox
Acceptance is the price of peace.
Buddhist philosophy ...
I loved the bottom line "Surrender to the reality of the world, accept it, pivot and move forward". THANK YOU RICH.
"Truth is not what you want it to be; it is what it is. And you must bend to its power, or live a lie." -- Miyamoto Musashi
Watching this at 22 years old; Rich, I really appreciate all of the advice you are giving us.
Im only in my mid 20s but i love finding solid life advice and perspective like this and I think its very helpful
Man the most thing I like about your channel is that leather couch
Sage advise....you own your life, take the hit, move on make your life better. In the end when push comes to shove the only person that is going to take care of you and me is you and me....Formulate the plan and keep going on..
Read a lot of comments; this one is up there.
I have been looking through videos like this for about a month after my divorce. The reality shift is big, it’s hard to not to be angry but it’s great to use that energy into purpose and into improving myself.
Our mans is going through the five stages of grief:
1- Denial
2- Anger
3- Bargaining
4- Depression
5-Acceptance
Similar to the 5 Stages of Awakening. The Truth will set you free! 😎
Agreed
RP rage is a thing
However, it frustrates me that men do not avail themselves of all the information on the internet to better prepare themselves...
My buddy recommended this channel while we were talking, this is my first video and it's like church. I know the material but I'm still coming to listen to the preacher.
Off my chest: How I wish I had someone like you growing up. A big brother or a father figure. I grew up without a father and no one taught me how to handle relationships with women. I was raised by a single mother and grandmother. My father passed away when I was 4.
I am 32 and have been with some women but ALL of them have been low value, insecure women who needed saving and who needed someone to fix their lives. I improved their lives and I ended up with nothing, only wasted years. I thought I was having a fun time having sex with them but all I did was wasting my 20s on them. It makes me sad that I can't even mention one woman that I am proud of being with. Other than avoiding such women in the future, I learned nothing from them. At least I didn't have kids with them, that would've ruined my life.
Thankfully I found your channel at the beginning of this year and also bought your book. It has helped me to slowly open my eyes and to also value myself more. I need to work on my self-esteem, I'm going to therapy for that, try to become a better person and surround myself with people who are worth being with.
I watched King Kong vs. Godzilla [2021] the other night and all that I noticed was the little girl and the scientist girl making fun of the guy calling him a coward in their sign language and laughing behind his back. This has been the Hollywood Formula since the 1980's. It just pissed me off right away. The best part of the movie was when Kong squished the bad girl in the airplane, I played that scene over and over like 6 times. 10 years ago I would not have noticed this.
the time will come when men learn everything about women and love relationships, I can assure you that that day the world will be made up of strong, successful and celibate men and angry, unhappy and poor women, knowing clearly about a lie teaches you how to avoid it
This is going to be on repeat play, many times. Thanks Rich.
Can’t change reality. Accept the game and start playing!
Or, just drop out of the game like Tyler Durdan.
Your book is awesome I highly recommend it there are so many that do not realize the danger they are in until they suffer a massive shock
For any of my brothers suffering from obesity. Ketogenic diet, intermittent fasting... Vitamin D, resistance training, walks. Do all of that and you will get your physiology to a level beyond what you thought was possible, you brain to a place it may never have been before and a general feeling of wellbeing at all times.
I have a metabolic disorder and it sucks. I am going to try to do fasting to reverse it
Agreed, 100%! Add to the equation - get good quality SLEEP on a consistent basis, and ditch the fuck'n BOOZE, fellas. Keep your mind right, protect yourself at all times, and stay the course. Don't be led by your genitals, and remember that YOU are the prize. 👊🏼
@@heldenkreuz Yes 9 hours in bed is optimal, 8.5 hours sleeping.
Yes! Exactly, IF and keto works great for me too!
@@FreeAgent99 How much did you loose
This post, especially the end really inspired me
Surrender, accept, pivot, and move forward.
These words are so simple and yet so profound and easy to stray from. Do I surrender to the truth? I cannot fight gravity. Do I accept the way of the world? I won't deny, equivocate or bury my head in the sand. I will acknowledge what is.
But do I pivot?
But do I pivot?
If not, I condemn myself to purgatory, no relief, no end no change. Pivot is the key. Doors will open but only with the proper motivation. Expect no carling float unless you, only you, take a step over the edge of the abyss.
... And when you do you, you move forward, and life begins again.
Good video man! I hope more guys follow this advice and work on themselves. I see a lot of anger but nobody puts the work in to improve.
I was like him when I turned from blue to red pill! Now, I accepted the reality, and I use this knowledge as a map to navigate rather being upset of the reality!
the five things we cannot change & the happiness we find from embracing them:
1) everything changes & ends 2) things don't always go according to plan 3) life is not fair 4) pain is a part of life 5) people are not loving & loyal all of the time .. by david richo .. hard truths for sure yet essential for conducting one's affairs rationally ...
Good ole Coach Rich, in the cut with much needed pep talks!
Consider leaning into pain rather than seeking to stop it right away.
Mistakes are the meat of success. Dust yourself off and improve!
Keep doing the work, Brothers.
Was discussing the red pill philosophy in a group the other day that had a few women in it. Holy shit did I get a mouth full! 😂 told me it teaches men to be narcissistic, toxic and being superior…Told them if that’s the case a lot of women must have read it to?
..."surrender, Accept, pivot & Move On." .!.
I dealt with the same kind of thing when i first started thinking with a Redpill mindset. Funny thing is it was when I was real young, but I still went through a lot before it actually sunk in. Now I'm monk because I refuse to settle for for the B.S. that women in this society bring to the proverbial table nowadays.
Spot on. Acceptance is a big part of life and as we get older and wiser we have to learn to adapt. The big thing here is you can spend a lot of time angry or wondering what's wrong with yourself. Don't worry about it, like rich says. Do. The. Work. Be the best version of yourself at all costs.
Improvise, adapt and overcome. Clint Eastwood from the movie Heartbreak Ridge.
9:41: "they know the work should be done but they don't do it. I cannot for sure tell why"->this is simple. Action is a habit. Habit leads to personality. Personality is adapted. If your personality is inaction, then to change that you need to work against yourself. Doing the work requires a physical change of neural pathways responsible for the existing habit of inaction. Thats an unpleasant process. We like doing things that are familiar and easy-or things that are slightly challenging and familiar. We don't do things difficult and unfamiliar. The brain is maximizing gains and minimizing costs. When faced with unfamiliar and difficult he will test "you": "is it really that important to spend our energy?". And the answer in 99% of the time is "no". This can happen very easily if you have no choice-something or somebody forces you to do the work. Then the calculation of this type is changed. After the work is done brain is changed as well and "you" are in a new state of mind. But if you are supposed to do it yourself out of your own volition it is very hard. It's like asking somebody who is right-handed to learn how to write with their left hand. You go against your hardwired programming and against the energy-conserving nature of our brain. People who did the work and/or because of their character change do not appreciate this problem, especially the more established and successful they are. They do not understand the problem because for them taking action is a habit and thus easy as breathing. Their brains are already different. And thus you struggle giving advice in this area or understanding what the hell is their problem.
I’ve been processing my own anger. But in that process, is the realization that I’m mostly pissed off at myself for having made bad choices, and staying too long. I believe that’s a major contributor to the break up of a relationship or red pill revelation.
It’s human nature to initially look outward for someone else to blame. Maturity and wisdom however, teach us that our decisions are all we have control over.
That’s why I believe the bitterness and resentment of a break up escalates to the level it does, because conscious or subconscious we are truly most pissed off at ourselves.
True. " It's all your fault .... nobody cares".
@@hareeba5879 I wouldn’t go that far. Most people don’t care. We all have a select few people who genuinely do care.
Lost my father and best friend in December. Rediscovered some others who genuinely do care.
True friends are rare, but those are the ones we can count on.
No one is an island, we all need someone.
Life lessons can be very painful but we never forget the most painful lessons.
Only 2 options:
Grow from it, and become better out of it.
Waller around in misery, powerless.
@@myfatherslegacy2431 thanks for your reply Kurt. The point of the quote is blaming others is a waste of time and that our situation is a direct result of our choices and decisions.
This dude is refreshing a bloke speaking the truth about men's issues without reserve
Disillusionment is inevitable when you're revising belief systems, but that's not the end of the road. You have to hit rock bottom before you can climb back up. I've always looked at it this way: you have two choices every day, regardless of what's happening in your life. 1.) Be destructive or 2.) be productive. Everything aside, being productive will always be better. Don't destroy, but build. Don't lament, but celebrate. Eventually, that behavior becomes habit and that habit becomes one's ethos.
Very well said!
I define the experience this emailer went through as a "paradigm shatter". Having your belief system blow out of the water is painful. You've believed something to be true for most of your life....later to be confronted with the reality it wasn't. It sucks going through this mental struggle...but once you've embrace it, you will come out the other side the better for it. I've personally went through it twice in my life. When my ex-wife walked out on me and our 3 young sons for another man and the other was my faulty religious beliefs from childhood. To those going through a paradigm shatter...I wish you all the best. You are not alone. You can and will be a better version of yourself.
You either get bitter or you get better. It's that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you.
Well put mate 👏totally agree
Don’t be angry anymore than you need to work it out. Welcome to club. Lots of good guys woke up the way you did.
Rich, NEVER shame someone while they learn to process emotion.
No, shame is warranted. It’s the same as “never shame a woman for using sex as currency “
The world owes NO MAN understanding. Man up or sit down to pee.
he wasnt processing anything, he was looking for daddy rich to make him feel better
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Upvote this more please Gents
Anger = motivation to look the best live the best and be the best mother trucking man you can become.
men are not angry at the sun being hot.......they are angry that someone TOLD them it was fine..
not angry at the sun....
the sun did not say "I am cool and groovy"....
angry at people....if you could address that?...then we are getting somewhere.
After a failed relationships of 6 years I jnderstood how things really are..currently blackpilled..but working toward my goals....I have accepted it....working in silence.
You Rock. I've learned so much from your channel, to finish, my work on myself.
I'm a 55 year old female, that started this journey, in 2016.
You validate everything I realized 2016. It is work that is so worth the effort. Man or woman. Thank You. I can't wait for future posts.
You know you found "that video." when it stings a little inside.
Thanks for this - to both the writer of that email and to you for the response. I needed all of this.
You know you are a boss when your inbox reads 35,646
Shoot! I must be a Mega Boss then!? 🤔
And especially if you let most of them remain Unread!
I definetly felt that anger and I have to learn to move on from it. They usually can't and don't think they're wrong. I'm talkimg Girlfriends, Mom's, Wives. It's so stressful and I'm So young
Surrender to how things are, don't dwell on how they ought to be.
Surrendering in this fashion is not being weak, but rather a demonstration of strength.
It's accepting and letting go of what you don't control, and more importantly, doubling down on what you do have control of.
I am grateful I could explore danger as a child... looking back I could have died a few times. But it made me stronger and more secure within myself. You are making great points.
Current girl of 6 months wants me to see my own son less and quit doing BJJ so much… not compromising … she’s currently shit testing me by going cold so I’m just going to walk away.
Once you get out of the oneitis mindset Life becomes clear
The liberation of the mind...
Kyle
Knowledge is power. The implementation of knowledge is freedom.
Always have backups.
As Rich says: Surrender, accept, move forward and...DO THE WORK !!
6:36 I find this guy funny. I think it's good for a man to have his life together. Building a life with meaning rather than wasting away his life in a basement. What I find funny is that he is advocating for these things in order to attract a girl. Nah screw that, get your life together for yourself.
I had moments of red pill knowledge my whole life but that conditioning is strong. Took losing my old man and my closest friend within a 3 month period to shatter all those lies and went from depression to rage to a kind of numbness. Once a realised how freeing this truth was everything has started to fall into place even though the wounds are deep and still sting from time to time.
The gym saved me from the rage. Give that a try big guy
Gym is awesome. I also find the punchbag effective
Thank you Rich. Your video was spot on. At end of work day, by myself on a project. Good time for youtube. I will share this with my younger coworker tomorrow. Life " is what it
is". I like the sunburn analogy. Cheers.
Always good vid from you, thanks Cooper