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Women are happy to impose height restrictions on men they date, therefore men are happy to impose weight restrictions on women they date.
Women gain weight mostly after marriage…So if the guy loses interest and wants to end…he will pay balls deep in court with divorce 🙄
I'm yet to find these women who impose height restrictions on men as I'd be a major beneficiary from this myth
@@redwhiteandblueblood Well, as you are a tall guy, the reason you haven't "found" them is because they have no reason to even mention it to you.
@@Son-of-Krypton Dude, I wasn't even married. She was just my girlfriend. One night in bed I asked myself, _"What the hell happened to that tiny waist I used to wrap my arm around? Who is this person..!?_
@@redwhiteandblueblood No myth.
I did track and field in college and was in great shape; my steady girl gained wieght and would habitually stress eat, especially ice cream. I told her she needed to lose weight or we were done. I let her down gently, but I was honest. Many women say men should look for inner beauty, but don't be fooled. Overeating and other problems reflect inner mental and emotional issues.
And not to mention there isn’t a single woman alive who married a dude for “inner beauty.”
She marries him for his inner ability to complete valuable tasks.
Yup weight issues is really just an internal mental/emotional issue
Imagine if you wifed her up, regardless. A couple of kids and +300 pounds later!
Very True.
You clearly didn’t love that woman, glad you left her.
That line about letting kids get over weight is child abuse is so true.
I was the POS for pointing that out to someone. Nearly a decade on, nothing has changed
@@robertm.9633 I was the POS for pointing that out too , to someone in my biological family. Nearly a decade on, nothing has changed.
I'm a woman, and I have to agree with you on this one. Falling apart before her big wedding day, why? If she can't manage her own body and health, what kind of mother/wife will she be? He should find a woman who has more self-responsibility. It's not just superficial attraction; it's self-respect and responsibility.
It's very difficult to find a traditional woman. When a child I remember all females whatever age would smile a lot (in general) now most women's faces look like a bulldog chewing a wasp. Always anger always embittered. No happiness at all, again in general. Also, women's shapes or getting more manlike, not a good look for a woman if you are a man. Most women tend to like the company of women, sad but a true fact ...... From Bermondsey, London England UK
@@vercingetorixwulf9298Thank you for your actual genuine and observant point
@@vercingetorixwulf9298You're right about their expressions mate. I put it down to them wearing the trousers in their relationships. Most of them are with blokes so grateful to get laid, they put them on a pedestal.
I blame the fella. Why is he about to sign a legally binding contract with this female?
@@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels they are usually feminized men with mommy issues and end up marrying their mommy
If you making 200k when you met and start making 100k before the wedding - there will be no talk, just a note on the table
Note? Wow she's a keeper
No. It would be a couple of text messages, at best.
Dump her ... If you lose your job or get demoted, she has no problem dumping/divorcing you!
100%%!
No one is colder than a woman dumping you for her own reasons. I don't understand why men should not do the same. Walk out cold
Weight gain is highly disrespectful to your significant other.
As a gal who’s been on this earth 🌍 for awhile and around a large circle of women friends/acquaintances through work, Church, friends…. women never go the way of getting slimmer, they always go the way of getting HUGE and FAT. It takes work, conviction and a commitment to stay in shape. Most women are lazy and see food and alcohol as a reward.
@@concernedcitizen6676lots of women are cheatintoo using drugs like ozempic. Steroids will not make a guy with crappy genetics become Phil heath.
I've noticed this in my 57 years as a Male.
Yes because women never have to really work of suffer for anything in life . Women are victims of their own circumstances
@@ianlloyd4301 Blah, blah, blah...it fain't that hard to keep the weight off. Irresponsible, dumpster fire chicks just can't do it.
oops...ain't
165lbs on the wedding day. 175 after 5 years. 205 on your 10th wedding anniversary.
It only goes one way...
Also never date serious a woman who had in the past lost a dramatic amount of weight. It will only go up as she gets older cuz years of living as an obese will make it harder to keep the weight off.
She'll be 200 in 5 years.
@@JustNo8808 unfair man c'mon...give her a chance
@@RickySmithNow If you marry her, YOU are the one taking the chance. lol
They rarely get smaller
Happened to me. Ditched her and got a slimmer girlfriend instead. Much happier. I work my ass off to stay in excellent shape, I expect that sentiment to be returned.
This is my thought process exactly. I work pretty hard to stay in shape, so is it that much to ask my girl to do the same, at least a little bit?
this gal I was dating once opened my fridge and cabinets and said, "theres literally no junk food here at all" she was so disappointed. I like meeting women at the grocery store, whats in their cart says a lot about how they take care of themselves and ultimately you and your offspring if you decide to get invovled with her.
Exactly, you don't want your babies to grow in a trash field inside of her
Time to start shopping 🛒 for healthy girls and groceries at Whole Foods! 😂
Weirdo
I have a very big garden and my cousin is a butcher. I can my own vegetables , tomato sauce etc.
So when I go shopping it looks like I eat junk lol.
out of curiosity what was in your fridge ???
I wasn't even married. She was just my girlfriend. One night in bed I asked myself, "What the hell happened to that tiny waist I used to wrap my arm around? _Who is this person..!?_
Then you switch on the light and discover it’s her mother! 😅
@@piggypiggypig1746LOL!!!😂
@@piggypiggypig1746 Well... it's only a matter of time before they look like their mothers anyway, right?
@@Great_Sandwichcorrect
Great video! My gf of four years is 5’7” 135 lbs. She eats very healthy, organic, whole foods, drinks only mineral water, black coffee and herbal tea. She teaches yoga, surfs, and rides her bike everyday. I do not think I would want to date or be in a relationship any woman who let herself go physically. I’m also in great shape. It makes a big difference in all areas of life. In addition, your physical appearance basically shows the world how you feel about yourself and the effort you are willing to put in to be healthy.
If you are a guy reading this, as you get older, you will see that your physical appearance makes a huge difference in the dating world. Just having a flat stomach after the age of 50 puts you in the top 5% of men in North America. Do the work.
p.s. - abs are made in the kitchen.
I bet you give a good moustache ride! 😉
Just kidding around, sir. Great post! 👍
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In my 60’s and I agree with you 100 percent
@@Tom-xj2eh Thanks for your comment!
No one cares dude. Health and abs w/o education and career is worthless. I put the health “cart” before the education “horse” and very bad jobs quickly robbed my health. Brains will always beat brawn. A chimp is 6 times stronger than a man but it can’t read a blue print. Neither can I.
As a 56 year-old woman who has been a lover of fitness since the age of 27, I could not blame a guy if he lost interest in a woman who put on 50 lb and did nothing about it.
I would not be physically interested in a man if he became obese. Does not diminish my love but it would definitely diminish my physical attraction.
You can’t erase that 50 lb weight gain. She might lose a lot of weight but the excess skin, saggy breasts, cottage cheese butt and thighs will be there forever.
@@truthboomertruthbomber5125That is really discouraging for people who grew up obese due to their family and decided in adulthood to change that. I hope many men feel differently than you and see women who have lost weight and kept it off as someone who can overcome things and maintain balance! 😊
@@kimkeiko2725 Sadly, the American education system and media have failed the American people. I have a morbidly obese sister so I know the difficulties that naturally heavy people face. We are bombarded with "consume consume consume" 24 hours a day.
@@truthboomertruthbomber5125 Yes but doesn’t everyone have to battle that in the western world?
Same. I take pride in my appearance and maintain a healthy weight. If I were single, I would not want to date a man who is overweight. I don't want him having a coronary on me while having sex.
My Dad taught me the same thing. He always said, just Look at her mom..... That's what she will look like in 30 years, can you put up with that? He also told me not to let them use pregnancy as an excuse either. He told me my mom never got over 145 lb (5' 7") while pregnant with me or any of my siblings.
This was another thing I would argue with my ex-fiance about. She would eat garbage every day, a bucket of hagen-daz and other shit. I don't know how much weight she gained. Probably 30lbs. I found it insulting, like she was taking me for granted. Like "I got this guy so I don't need to try anymore, I can get fat and he won't leave me." Whereas myself, I was always trying to take care of myself, and even if I would start to gain a little bit of weight, I would pretty quickly be like "I have to knock this chicanery off" and I would get myself back in shape. It was purely nonsense. More good points here in what some women make men feel bad about, in having certain expectations and desires but when the shoe is on the other foot, all of a sudden it's a different story.
Is it safe to assume you didn’t marry her since you wrote “ex-fiancé”?
Good thing you got out. After a few kids, she'd be 300 pounds. Yuck, but at that point you are stuck.
You clearly didn't marry this girl. Fair play to you for waking up.
And she will slim down long enough to pull some beta in and then back to her nefarious ways.
You were smart getting out.
A whole bucket. Woah!
The fat acceptance mooooovement has raised the average weight of a woman to 170 lbs. Men are fat as well. This is a BIG problem in so many ways.
It is very depressing to see how much processed food most Americans put into their shopping carts. Nothing wrong with a little soda or sugary snacks, but not every freaking day.
@@SpiritusMundi4EVER 90% of what is in a typical grocery store in the US is processed crap.
Never underestimate peoples ability to excuse their behavior through various mental gymnastics. "I've earned a cheat day," is the best. Second to telling their doctor they exercise because they once shopped for, or used once, exercise gear.
Today's women, on average, weigh the same as the average man weighed in the 1960s. Not that men haven't porked out during the decades since then.
Happened to me. I was engaged to a 5'0" 95 pound girl who put on 30 pounds. I asked what she would do if I gained 1/3 of my body weight, and the response was that she would dump me. It was one of many deciding red flags.
My gf started eating poorly a few years into the relationship. I told her to get in shape or find a new place to live. She works out everyday now and makes healthy meals for us. Cuz she knew i could replace her and was serious about it
That’s right 😂😂😂
You're not locked in yet because you're not married. What food causes a woman to gain 30+ pounds? Her wedding cake. Same food that can contribute to the loss of her sex drive.
Damn she let herself go even before marriage…?? 🤦🏻
He is lucky she couldn't contain the blubber until after marriage, now at least he isn't trapped.
Rich
You are 100% on the mark again.
I just turned 57 and tomorrow it will be 39 years that I’ve been married to the same girl and what a girls mom was like is definitely something that I would look at before I would even get involved with them.
When I first met my wife she was 16 and a size 00 and I was 17, 6’2” and 175lbs and of course we have both added some weight and sizes over the many years but she is still good enough.
I’ve learned don’t buy her chocolate buy her clothes that are in her size or smaller.
A card goes a long ways.
Thanks again Rich
fucking tank 😭😂
Buying clothes that are a size smaller than her actual size is a waste of money and will be added to the clothing donation pile or she'll just exchange it for a larger size. Rather then motivating her, she'll resent it.
Brilliant! Buy her clothes that motivate her to slim down . Amazing, sir.👏👏👏
@@prentices2737
Please keep in mind that this only really works with young girls, pre 50.
Now that she’s 55 and working she is really having trouble with her weight.
So now the trick is just tell her about the clothes that she could fit into if she’s really starting watching what she eats and going to the GYM, get counseling with a nutrition counselor and see can slim back down if you nice about it.
It you hurt a girl’s heart/ feelings you might drive them to eat more and get even worse.
Good luck and never ever buy sweets, candy and chocolate for her if you don’t want her to be overweight.
Comedian Sam Kinison called it the old "5 to 7 pounds a year." He said you're with a woman and she puts on 5 to 7 pounds a year and next thing you know you're living with her mom. LOL he was so right.
remember his rant when he was als guardian angel on married with children christmas ep ? it was epic ! a must c !
My now ex-wife and I met when I was 28, and she was 26 and 135 pounds. She literally gained 8 pounds a year from that point on (no net change from child birth, as she at least lost that weight). If you do the math, 12 years later when she filed for divorce, she was literally 100 pounds heavier than when I met her. And yes, extremely lazy, always watching TV, and would not exercise much
Curious what her job was. Was she in corporate or working at some diner?
@@mysterio1570 medical assistant
Fat in a corporate world… I think not. She was probably jobless.
I'm a Zumba instructor for 14 years. Ive taught over 1,000 Zumba classes for over 20,000 women over that period. Despite attending regular classes, many women remain overweight!
So fellas, remember this:
You get fit in the gym (or Zumba class),
But you lose weight in the kitchen!
..... or the pantry, or actually when you go food shopping. Period! There's no other way around it. That's the way God created us. I love rock salt potato chips, but I dont buy them everytime I go food shopping. Otherwise I'd be as big as many of my students. Women in general have very poor self discipline when it comes to food and beverage consumption.
Thank you for giving the reality check ✔️
They have poor self discipline PERIOD! Including marriage!
Walking is the best form of exercise for sustained fat loss. I've seen it outperform running, cycling and aerobics time and time again.
''You get fit in the gym (or Zumba class),
But you lose weight in the kitchen!''
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Well said🔥
I had to tell a woman that I didn't want to wake up with a 300 pound woman in my bed one day. When we first started seeing one another she was 5'4" and about 135-140lbs with a larger chest and shapely. When I had to tell her this we hadn't seen one another in about 4 months and she was at least 155+. She started crying and said " that is so mean, I have struggled with my weight my whole life". Duh, that is what I meant!!
i have struggles to step away from the buffet... all my life...
I’m a woman and my partner is the overweight unhealthy one although he just finds this funny . I don’t . I’ve always looked after myself and been healthy and trained for over 30 years . I’ve asked him so many times to start having respect for me and the relationship by being active and not eating shit all day, but he doesn’t listen . I’m honestly at my wits end now ☹️
What's preventing him from making the change? Do you both cook and have meals together? Do you invite him to join you on workouts? Just curious.
I'm happy to see the creator supports your side of the coin as well. It goes both ways.
@@SpiritusMundi4EVERyes all of the above
Please encourage him to get a full physical (you may have done so already...)❤
I was trying to look the other way when my wife gained a bunch of weight. However she was still blocking my view.
Ha ha. Good stuff.
LOL
Do this experiment: Go to a gym where people work out seriously. You will see it's 80% men/ 20%women. Then go to a college campus and assess what percentage of the males and females are in relatively good physical shape. I would say it 80% of the males and 50% of the females. Then go to a shopping mall and assess what percentage of the males and females are in relatively good physical shape. I would say it's probably 40% of the males and 20% of the females. It's almost like women have some kind of collective bargaining agreeement "If we are all fat and lazy, the fit males will still have to date us".
Yea, the number of actual fit women is significantly outweighed (pun time) by the number of overweight or unhealthy women. If you're like me, you almost get oneitus when you find a fit one because they're so rare
Observed similar.
Passport
''"If we are all fat and lazy, the fit males will still have to date us".
Not this male.
My first really serious girlfriend was gorgeous. She was 5'3 and about 115 lbs. After about 6 months of dating she slowly started putting on weight. She got up to around 145 lbs. Proportioned ok, but definitely not in great shape. She was still attractive.
The problem was that she changed mentally and emotionally. She became severely insecure, controlling, and abusive because I continued to take extremally good care of myself. Me 6'1 195lbs and around 10% bodyfat.
I stuck by her for 3 1/2 years of nonsense and after all of the hell she put me through and the intense insecurity, she ended up cheating on me.
I still to this day think that that relationship would have been 1000% better if she would have just continued to take care of herself.
Also. it's true, take a good long look at the mother.
Did she give a reason for cheating?
my first girl was attractive, but she started letting herself go and said she really likes eating cheese. So, i let her go.
Was she a mouse?…
I met my ex-wife and she had normal weight. a few months after we got married she became double the size. She wanted to go out and eat at the restaurants and fast food all the time. Turns out that she was heavyset before. Actually, I should say obese, and she had lost the weight when I met her, so she went back to her “normal weight” which was super fat
Also, I have noticed that she had a shopping addiction and she would buy a bunch of clothes etc then she would go home and then return most back. Make sure that you know the other person very well before you tie the knot.
This. In addition to wanting to go out with me to restaurants, I wonder how often they stop at a fast food drive through window when they are out doing errands. Suspect they stop for a high calorie treat every time they start the car. Nature's hind brain seeking highest calorie food sources at all times in case the cave man can't find any food the next day?
Or just don't.
@@BWater-yq3jx I get it.
everywhere i go i now see in shape men with big women, and they are often young and dating
women are getting bigger and many guys don't seem to care, as women's standards seem to be getting higher
never saw normal guys dating big women until the past 10 years, online dating and social media gave women options they never would've had
Yes I have made the same observation.
All of these can be easily vetted by marrying someone who exercises, eats generally healthy and takes care of herself. If she doesn’t do any of that, she’ll be fat in 5 or 10 years.
And then never forget to look at her mom. That’s what you’ll get
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It’s not your responsibility to take a girl to a gym. I told a girl once that I played ice hockey 5 times a week and I expected her to always stay in shape. When she said “so you want me to be a fitness girl?” I said yes. I dumped her months after for not putting in the work.
I work hard to keep myself fit and trim. I expect the same from the women in my life.
I agree. You can’t fix a broken or overweight woman. If you have too kick her to the curb.
Watch out for women allow you to let yourself go. These women will say things like "You always look good." Don't believe them. They will leave you. Stay on your purpose.
I’m a woman but that is sketchy to me they just don’t want other women looking you over - that’s why some men don’t want their women looking good either it can be borderline controlling and manipulative behavior
@@overcomerbtbojesus I understand what you are saying and you make a fair point. I don't think I made my point clear. I am saying that if a man lets himself go, even a little bit, a woman will oftentimes say something like "You always look good," or something to that effect. If the guy accepts that and continues to let himself go, or doesn't get back to the shape he was in when they first starting dating he is risking her losing interest, or losing her sense of attraction for the guy. This is not on the women, as much as it is on the men. I have seen too many guys get out of shape and say things like "my girlfriend doesn't mind the extra pounds." My point is this, she may not at first, but eventually she will. So, ignore her words (which she meant kindly) and get back in shape. Don't expect anything less from yourself b/c eventually she will lost interest/attraction.
Also, women don't like it when other women are checking out their man? I am not saying other women hitting on their man, but just looking.
@@chrisod22 some women are extremely insecure and jealous so yes women notice when their men are getting checked out - and most don’t like if its very overt and obvious - i agree with the accountability part its up to us to maintain ourselves but in general most women are more forgiving of dad bodies or accepting if the guy makes good money or if she’s willing to settle for other things - if she doesn’t the relationship was heading south regardless
@@overcomerbtbojesus 👍
I started going to the gym because I had a physique in mind I wanted but I wasn’t motivated or pushing myself and my girl would always say “i like skinny guys” it would mess with my head especially when I would see her drool over guys more muscular. Anyway shes gone now and I’m now way bigger and ripped as shit 🤣
I had some girls I dated with and was very close to a marriage. Their favorite line was, “Are you going to love me even if I become fat?”
I said, "no, I'll divorce you" 😂
@@joemachine4714 👍🏻🐖
Lol nope
Of course love is a euphemism for continue to make me feel good
"Why would you become fat?" Innocent expression.
If she's letting herself go BEFORE the wedding, 100% guaranteed she goes full Hutt after.
I told my husband to make sure he lets me know if I'm letting myself go at all outside of normal aging. After three kids I've only kept an extra 15 lb and he's fine with that and I feel good. I don't keep up with exercise(unless you consider chasing 3 kids five and under exercise) but I'm an absolute health nazi when it comes to food.
Another friend of mine has two kids and count calories and takes part in intermittent fasting for her weight. She does not stress as much as me over what food to eat but is over halfway to her goal.
It's possible if it's important enough!
Bad company corrupts good moral. So is it that good company encourages good moral. Sounds like you have a good friend to keep you accountable. We all need good friends & an accountability partner. Keep up the good work.
Chill, she's just metamorphosizing into the beautiful butterfly she is meant to be 🦋
It reminds me my high school years when I chased a beautiful girl who always criticized me for being short, obese and no muscles. She has really changed my life, I started to work out, became taller and more successful. 15 years later I met her at the store, she saw me, but was hiding her eyes. Guys, she really became like a septic tank, I am glad she turned me down.
Oh yeah that happened.
A septic tank? i’m rolling ( and i’m a girl) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
You became taller??? Now that's will power.
They're so self selfish now they can't even wait until after the wedding to start stacking timber 😆 Call it off and run, bruh
I got a 32 year old married daughter after giving birth she gained some weight. She got back into working out and looks better than before marriage. I agree with you the habits are important; she has always been in good shape
Looking at the current dating market, he probably started off by settling for her. And I don't mean a six settling for a 5, but a 6 settling for a 3. I see it all the time.
My neighbor across the street is a Microsoft programmer, fairly friendly, 6’2”, a solid male 8. His wife was a 4 and now she is overweight and a 3.
I actually shot a wedding like this. She was beautiful from the neck up, but made no bones about the fact that eating was her first passion, and her husband was the second.
She got fat. She got comfortable. She got complacent. Comfort and complacency leads to an earlier death. Period.
A woman who can’t control what she shoves in her mouth will eventually have another man’s d In her mouth. A woman who gains weight indicates she lacks discipline and self control. When her husband complains about her weight gain she will go looking for validation elsewhere and get piped down by a fatty fetisher
I asked my husband, after we were finished having kids if I could join a gym and you know what he said to me " wouldn't vigorous housework do the same thing?" So there's that.
From ya photo you think its working? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Logan800 we are still married (43 years) so whatever im doing is working quite well for me. It's an old picture, those kids are teenagers now. I guess I should get my daughter to put a new one up.
As a woman..DO NOT marry her ...I've seen many couples suffer when the wife lets herself go ... attraction and love are not the same thing!!
When I was a kid I liked to read Playboy. I always remember a cartoon at the back of a couple at their wedding, just after the nuptuals, she says, "I'm going to eat. I've been starving for YEARS!" The guys face was shocked. This has probably been happening forever.
A good example of the difference between men and women, if his economic situation changes for the worse is the same thing as a woman that gets fat.
Yes! The Mother is a great indicator! My first wife was a gymnast but her mom was a large, short box. My ex became that as well.
Attractiveness is important. "My husband doesn't want to have sex with me anymore." Maybe if you didn't look like a fat man with make-up.
Yes kings. If women can reserve the right to change their minds at any time, so can men. Lets go boysssss
There's no such thing as "stress weight gain". Stress doesn't make you fat, stuffing your face like there's no tomorrow does.
Women don’t want accept men for who they are, but expect men to accept them no matter what.
I recommend that she eat less junk food, and go to the gym where _she leaves her phone in the car_ and focuses an cardio activities. Leaving her phone in the car will be the most critical factor in determining her success at the gym.
That’s like separating the seas lol. Phones are glued to birds hands nowadays
At Planet Fitness, there’s nothing more common than an obese woman just sitting on a machine, texting on her phone, having utter disregard for the rest of us who want to actually work out.
I see that all the time at the gym I go to. I'm thinking why are you bothering?
@@hughjanis6439 One day I saw this spherical women sitting on a leg extension machine. The weight was set at the lowest weight so it would only benefit someone bound to a wheelchair 8n a physical therapy session.
She fired off 10 reps because the weight was so low, and then she pulled out her phone and focused on that for about 10 minutes before doing another set.
I could easily imagine a girl like that saying "I can't lose weight because of my thyroid. I went to the gym and lifted weights for an hour a day and it did nothing!"
That is excellent advice!
By getting fat, a woman is saying she doesn't respect men. If she respected her man, she would try hard to take of herself and look good for him.
It means she doesn't respect her health or her own looks very little to do with men.
My wife had 8 biological children by me and still looks good at 58. There is no excuse for women to be obese.
I had a friend who was in a relationship with an overweight girl. Everyone was flipping out when he asked her to go on a diet and lose weight lol I told him, why are you trying to fix her or get with her if you knew she was like this? Bc he was desperate and had low standards. Don't be that guy.
It reminds me.. kinda similar to alkohol:
"two addicts can live together just fine... but if one of them isnt one = wont last long"
As a partner you are agreeing to sexual exclusivity. If you and your partner both can’t fulfill your sexual needs with another person, than it is both your responsibilities to be as sexually attractive to one another as possible. This includes being as fit as possible and well dressed and groomed, for both the man and the woman. In my book, the moment you let go, I have a right to leave the relationship or seek sexual fulfilment elsewhere. Same applies to girls that decide to get covered in tattoos after mariage.
Yep. Except only the woman stands to profit from the split.
Yes exactly this.
You said it better than I did.
If she's letting herself go before marriage, 3x that rate of decay after marriage.
Only eat Ribeyes and water and occasionally a sweet potato.
How's ur digestion?
I am divorcing my wife of seven years.
She gained 70 pounds which put her to morbidly obese. I didn't ignore this, paid fir gym, counseling, fitness tracker, tried everything. Now she's type 1 diabetic, blood pressure, has fallen with injury and can't climb stairs. There has been no attraction for several years. That is disrespect of me. I maintained the exact same weight since high school which was 50 years. Don't accept
Maximum density 😂😂😂
My girlfriend is in the process of dumping me. I'm 11 stone she is 17 stone ...... I've never been so happy 😊😊
Any lady who gains a lot of weight before the wedding (more than ten lbs) is in trouble. Then comes pregnancies, hormones, menopause, post menopause, things you can’t really control BUT how much junk,and quantity you eat you can control! I’m in my sixties and look pretty good for my age and make a daily effort to keep my weight down. Some days are good , some I want cake too😞 but I want to stay healthy. What I don’t like to see is when the lady gains weight and then says my husband loves my “love handles” he doesn’t mind. Maybe it’s true for some especially if she’s fattened him up so there won’t be any complaining. Thirty six years ago my husband said that he can’t perform with a fat chick so be mindful of that🙄🤣
I’m just impressed that this Canadian man is talking about her height and weight in pounds, feet and inches without having to stop and calculate the equivalent in metric.
Hi Rich, thanks. A male flatmate went out one night dressed poorly. I told him he should change. He said the women will have to accept him as he is. I said No they don't. Likewise we men dont have to accept a woman as she is if that is not our preference not to.🥝🇳🇿😎
WALK away. If she respected herself and moreso you, she wouldn't do that.
A woman who doesn't care about herself doesn't care what you think.
Mom is an excellent predictor. yes!
“Packing maximum density”…what a classic line! Really useful.
Im around the same age as Rich and recall the term from way back in my youth..... timeless classic
Scares the heck out of me when the attractive slim womans cart in front of me is cigarettes and bottle of wine..
Hey Rich, Thank you so much for posting this video. I am in a very similar situation. My wife got comfortable after we got married and put on 40kg !!! - went from fit to obese in 2 years. She has been obese for 5 years now. The problem is, healthy living is my whole life as I am an Sports Therapist and a PT, I have not changed since we got married, if anything I became fitter over the years. I was tempting to contact you with the exact same request as this guy as it has been slowly killing our marriage. I deeply value maintaining a healthy lifestyle and expressed that my attraction to her almost disappeared but she keeps on putting on weight. She goes to the gym but binge eats on a regular basis. I felt like I was seduced and deceived as she served me the same bs you have mentioned: “I expect you to love me no matter what I look” - Which I replied: “Would you stay if I start to gamble and stop chasing excellence?”. This has been going on for years and I am seriously considering going back to a single life. We have no kids (mainly because I was waiting for her to retrieve a healthy lifestyle and a healthy weight but it never happened). I feel like she goes to the gym as I put pressure on her but she does not do it for herself. Also I am pretty certain she would put on all the efforts in the world to lose weight, should she become single again, which I find very disrespectful (I am pretty sure she would do it to find another high value man but she does not do it for our relationship). I suspect that she might suffer from binge eating disorder, but like you said, if the situation was reversed, I doubt she would stay around and try to “save” me for messing up my life and our marriage (e.g. gambling / loss of status or job / extreme weight gain).
Thanks again for the video man. I always appreciate your channel!
Man, get outa that marriage asap, it’s never going to get better, only worse.
Would she stay with you if you became broke? If you couldn't provide? It was time to go a long time ago. Because you're right, she probably will workout if you leave. Hopefully you got a prenup bro.
@@alexanderg5386 Definitely not sure she would. No prenup (I would beat the 28yo me to a pulp if I could!), but no kids. Thanks for your support bro.
@xarifab Yeah man so would I. But it's clear she doesn't respect you, or herself. You already know what to do man, don't give her another chance. Free yourself, and be ruthless because her behavior towards you is ruthless, plus consult with an attorney beforehand.
@xarifab. You mention that she binge eats. That most likely has a deeper cause. Perhaps she uses food to stuff her emotions down. Perhaps she experienced sexual trauma. I think it’s great that she does go to the gym. I would suggest that your wife sees a therapist. That way she can find out why she binge eats and start to make new choices.
Anytime I’ve ever been extremely stressed out I’d lose weight because I didn’t even feel like eating. As much as they spend on their fake nails, fake lashes, etc, you’d think they could find the time and money to at least buy a single pair of walking shoes. 🤷♂️
My Boys and I love scoring the grocery carts and we compliment those that have great looking baskets 😍
Rich, you’re awesome bro.
I recently bought your book, it’s amazing.
Thank for all your great advice, you’re a blessing to us MEN!
Gos bless
Pack max density lmaoo
I was 125 at our wedding. My dress was becoming loose after 2 fittings. I was always working out, even taking the kids when I worked out, so he could have time to himself. Then I took up running, even marathons. He never came to any of my races, I took the kids with me if I could get someone to watch them while I ran. He did begin walking when he developed high cholesterol and blood pressure, so I would go with him, but he would never reciprocate. I began gaining weight when I stopped doing yoga. My muscles weren't as toned. He said, "Your hips are exploding! You're becoming your mother!" My mother was 220, and I was 140. By this time, I was in 40. I figured he was comparing me to someone else, and he was, a minor, and she became pregnant. 4 years later the divorce was final, I lost over $100,000 of assets. All because I gained 15 lbs.
If this is true, that's sad u guys couldn't work it out. :(( hope ur happier and healthier now.
Great Video. Been a Fan for a Long Time. The Grocery Store Analogy Is Spot On Rich. I Watch everytime I'm in line.
This is so true. I made the mistake in the past of thinking I could fix or talk some of the women I dated into being what I wanted physically. You can't. Their habits are what caused them to get like that in the first place. If they're lazy now they'll only get worse in the future. I've seen the false promises of starting the P90x's and changes in diet that last for a week or two and then it's back to the bad habits. It really made me appreciate the personal trainer I dated because at least for her being healthy and looking good was second nature and I didn't have to worry about it at all.
Besides the obvious hypergamy aspects of these situations, I can't imagine why someone (male, female, or otherwise) would want to be obese. It's been mentioned many times before that suffering is an inescapable part of the human condition, so why would you want to exacerbate the situation by being in a fat, burdensome condition.
Most people dont choose to be fat. They just drink booze or eat fast food as a stress release or a perk. The intention isnt to be fat but to just taste good food or be drunk. Weight gain is a side effect. And to some people, being overweight isnt harming them directly so they dont mind enough to stop (obviously long term it has health affects but people dont think it will happen to them).
There are no consequences other than deteriorating health and death. However, those are consequences that build slowly. In the past, the immediate consequence was society that was immediate on being fat. Now, in today's madness, even the medical industry doesn't publicly state the obvious. Society has been taken over the woke that legislate verbally what is seen appropriate and fatness is beyond acceptable. Working hard, staying in shape, and having ambition are seen as negative.
Fat is easy... I was arguing with myself about going back into ketosis yesterday. The ol' "just start tomorrow" argument. I'm 42 and lost 30lbs doing this. It's a boring diet. I feel good when I'm on it, but the first week can be gruelling. So yesterday I began my next 4 week keto cycle, I'll take a week off and do it again.
@@leigh7507 Do you have any data to back this up? "They just drink booze or eat fast food as a stress release or a perk."
Is that not choosing to be fat? Doing something over and over despite the deleterious consequences is a choice, if it's not a diagnosed addiction. Choosing to ignore either one is a CHOICE. Stop simping for the weak.
@@gunsandcommissions you would like a study produced on links between alcohol abuse and food abuse and mental health. Sure, it's easy to find just by competently using Google or jstor
by getting "large" (and expecting her man to put up whit it) she's basically saying - "this is what I feel you deserve". In a way, this guy should be glad she got comfortable before he signed the contract with the devil. Usually, they show their true colors after they have BigDaddy GOV legal backup. her BF should not marry her, he should leave - 1000$ after he signs the contract it'll get worse...
Selfishness, lack of respect for partner
Yep, exactly that's what I always say to those parents. I myself am not a parent but I can tell it's child abuse anyway letting a kid fat like that.
Yup, you are right, Rich. If the girl isn't in interested in keeping her weight in-check, then the guy shouldn't be interested in marrying the girl.
The scenario is an omen of the relationship's integrity already falling apart long before the marriage proposal was even an consideration.
Excellent as usual Bro
So, our edginess attracts women and they marry us. Then they domesticate us like house cats and are surprised when we get boring. lol
Rich awesome video bro.
The number of women that seem to be health avoidant is astounding. The number of women I’ve broke things off which because they don’t want to have a healthy lifestyle! It boggles my mind how people don’t want to be healthy.
The sad thing is how her bad eating habits will slip into your diet. My ex turned me into a fat lethargic loser over a number of years. We split, I lost 3 stone in under 2 years without even trying. I also lost many more pounds in the settlement £££. Exit early before you make the same mistake.
I'm curious if the divorce laws are lighter or harsher in the UK than in the US? Here, the ex-wives and the divorce lawyers make out like bandits. A married man in the US facing divorce will lose 50% or more in a split easily.
@@SpiritusMundi4EVER50% of the assets and over time, she engineered situations to get 100% of the kids. I still pay monthly for the youngest two
@@InvestgoldUK Damn😟 That's rough. Hang in there, fella.
Guys, always tell her that she should take care of herself if you're with her long-term. She earned your commitment, so if she disrespects you by becoming a damn balloon with no regard for you or herself - you're gone. Simple.
"I thought he would love me unconditionally while I apply many conditions on him" is what she said. Both parties have a responsibility to take care of themselves. It's about being a person we are happy seeing in the mirror, with or without the other person.
You nailed it again Rich!!!
I remember Dr. Laura Schlessinger giving this same advice (dump her) to a guy who was engaged to a woman gaining weight.
I would estimate that 90% of UK females under 30 are significantly obese BEFORE marriage and are so whilst looking for a suitable partner,which they don't see as a deficit in any way to their sexual market place value.
They are very quick to point a man's perceived shortcomings but completely overlook their own, astonishingly.
As a younger man this baffled and at the same time angered me
We had women who were 5ft tall and weighing 200+ lbs who thought just wearing a lot of makeup,a corset and expensive clothes meant they were 8/10's.
I'll never forget the absolute madness of it even though it was about 30 years ago and its probably even worse now.
45 years ago my parents lived in Kensington London. I was surprised how few obese people I saw then. Apparently things have changed significantly since then.
@@stevec3526 I'm in the North East and it's always been bad for ridiculously overweight young women here,i think its related to education and culture as to why certain areas are bad in this regard.
@@ThePitPonyI think the further north you go, the fatter they get. I'm in Scotland and it's like everyone in their 20's are a pie away from being a donut. I think it's a poverty thing. The girls in St Andrews and in the posher parts of town are leagues better looking
@@TheLinkedList Yes,ive noticed that too,its very apparent that education and just being conscious of the link between lifestyle and health.
When i ask if they exercise,they look at me like I'm a crank.
Then in the next breath they're moaning about their health and seem to think its completely impossible to do anything about It.
Im glad im considered too old to be bothered with.
Women are the biggest disappointment of my life tbh.
Bail! She's throwing up a Soviet parade sized red flag
He needs to dodge that cannon ball now and be thankful for the warning
Chubbin up! Like a flounder! ~ sung to the tune of Paul McCartney's coming up🤣🤣🤣
Awesome analysis, Richard is always on point.
Why does the editing for this video seem different, and not in natural way?
I find it fascinating that she wonders whether she should marry "a man like that." 😂
A test you should give a woman before marriage is buy her a promise ring before an engagement ring. Make it nice and she if she wears it and gets fat. Then act accordingly.
If you wanna end up as a lonely single father, follow this guy
Haha better than being tied to a wife built like a fridge