Russell Brand On Not Feeling Good Enough
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
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*Respect yourself enough to let go of someone who doesn't see your worth*
well said 👍
yeah mate, continue to walk in a spirit even if you feel giving up and falling into world ways
I need this tattooed on my arm.
I read that comment at exactly the correct moment in time. Somebody thousands of miles away just made a difference to someone thousands of miles away. Thanks
Thank you~
"comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt
👏🏽
Spot on!
Excellent quote.
Just wanted to say that you’re such an inspiration, Russell.
Jenson M 👏👏👏👏❤️
I guess l have given many people a reason to laugh, maybe not for the reasons l hoped. My life has not changed that much, and how could it. People only see what they want to see. A few people are kind, and may even try to help you. I am glad you are online, Russell. You are more real than most stuff online, and other media.
This dude is a faaake ! Puppet ! Man ppl are really guilable .
Profound content
There's a youtuber goes by 'pursuit of happiness ' checked out one her vids titled Pysop hoaxes , she said she was classmates with this clown , she has way more credibility , glanced this for very brief research purposes .
I was genuinely thinking about ending it all before I found this on Twitter. Thank you for giving me a perspective that I didn't know of during this troubling time. I thought that I wasn't good enough for anyone and that my life is pointless. Thank you, Russell, for giving me a different meaning about life.
hey Dylan! Hope you ok now dude! Yo listen if you have time and wanna just chat with someone i'm here dude! just drop me a line with facebook or something and we'll catch up. Stay alive bro. It gets better along the way
You and me...we are good enough.
Dont let society dictate how you should or shouldn't feel
Brave of you for staying. The world needs you Dylan
I hope you're feeling better these days, thoughts are with you!
*_Don't compare yourself to others, 20 year old Millionaires are NOT normal. People only post their highlight reels on social media, but in reality, all people have ups and downs. Remember that you are on your own unique path in life
This guy above me is awesome at parties
@@jrmurphypoet you know better
Thank you I'll try to keep reminding myself of that actual fact ✔
@@jrmurphypoet who knows? In the post-truth era that this is, it is indeed difficult to tell.
JR Murphy Think of it this way.
No matter what, you can always find negatives in life.
You choose what to look for! Irrefutable💥
Be, cause. and grow the change you want to see!!💪🏼💪🏼😁😁
You’re saving my life
Don’t listen to those voices.
Mine too🌹
You're saving your own lives by searching for this content and watching it. Give yourselves credit and be proud, this is a big step ❤️
@@Sh3ba5843 what prompted such a negative comment?
Your comment is so simple & sincere, I feel it to my heart. That's what it's all about, just being real with ourselves & others.
Namaste
"If you are of service to other's, you naturally begin to feel better."
There is more happiness in giving than receiving. ☺️
Truth!
Unless you’re a people pleaser.. and then it’s just your coping mechanism validating your own lack of self worth..
@@douglascampbell4993 for sure. when you serve yourself and then others, that's when you'll naturally begin to feel better.
It feels like you’re talking directly to me. I needed to hear this. Not feeling good enough has filled my life with fear. My fear has kept me from going after so many beautiful experiences thus far. I want to address these issues of mine and work on being being a better version of myself. I truly appreciate your videos. Thanks Russell.
What you said about helping other people as a means to help your self-esteem/awareness/gratitude is so true.
Not true.
He automatically makes me feel 10000000 times better after watching his videos
Meditation helped me with PTSD and made me so much calmer and think before I speak not to offend.
Amen Brother
@@fatrickspark1090 ok Sparky
I loved this video so much. I was raised in a “be perfect” household, and those expectations can really stay with you for a long time. Acknowledging my accomplishments despite imperfections is a constant challenge for me and something I continue to work on. This bit rings especially true and really gets at the heart of the matter:
“Recognize the standard you’re trying to appeal to is, if not arbitrary, certainly a construction.”
It’s so important and I hope those watching this video that struggle will start to reframe their thoughts in this context.
I found at 28 y.o. that my lack of self worth comes from my father, and how he never made me feel good enough or worthy , never stood up for me, etc etc...
Not to blame him but I seriously found out that that's the ultimate source of it all (in my case), I always idolised him and for him I was never good, everyone around me in my life always thought I was great, friends, family, teachers, etc. Everyone. Except my dad. Still now, I'm still feeling worthless unless he likes smth I do.
AAAAAND guess what, as a believer (if you'renot please no nasty comments), I noticed how big of a link I have between dad and god, I literally feel like God would never think I'm enough, everyone's better than me, my spontaneous self is not good, and as long as dad doesn't like me neither will God. Obviously I never thought or said it directly like that, but I just finally noticed and pinpointed it.
It's almost impossible to get over, don't know how to, been trying for years, just feel like I want to die because nothing tastes like anything nothing feels good everything's just a burden to stay alive....
your calm energy today is very soothing.
"When I see real suffering and real sadness, sometimes I would wanna posses it; parasite off it; but I recognize my role is to be supportive, nourishing, and encouraging; not to try to own other people's pain."
When ever I am in the depths, I go back to my mantra "No one cares". Sad, because everyone really only cares about themselves and not me, but very freeing also, because everyone really only cares about themselves and not me. That knowledge brings me peace.
Yes, freedom in setting free our old ideas of society and relationship! Caring for and loving ourself IS caring for and loving others 🙏🏼💗 We are all One.
I've been following you since your MTV days. We got sober around the same time. So cool to see your transformation!
Tia Chia he’s beautiful isn’t he. I pray I am blessed with a man as conscious as him. Listening to him makes me feel safe ♥️
Can you imagine having russel as a parent. Thats one lucky kid.
@@ab_0201 well, damn...
Amie Melody your voice is beautiful btw....I could listen to you all day x
@Elon Musk cheer up
@@darrenm8172 ah thanks,means a lot!
You must be a good judge of character. 😂
We need you and Jim Carrey together for an interview that would honestly be mind blowing.
Edit: Actually no. Akala on your show would be EPIC.
Jim's been driven mad by his celebrity status. He has nothing coherent or genuine to say about anything, and probably wouldn't admit in modern times his favorite band is Napalm Death. He just wants to be left alone.
Misa Amane two Capricorns!
@@retardedvelociraptor oh my gosh 😪 xxxxx
Jim Carey is an empty vessel broh.
Abel Stearns it could have been nice to hear about Jim’s ways of using affirmations cause its the reason of his crazy happiness and unending mania but we dont know how he practice it exactly
“Not good enough” is a societal projection on how you should be. Surroundings dictating how you should behave. Your human worth has nothing to do with superficiality and you matter. Focus on intrinsic values and do whatever you are good with to create value for others. You’ll see how others opinions will quickly change - NOT that it is of matter.
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me
True...however, some of us where given that message in childhood... it’s a tough thing to fight, especially when society heaps it on top...
@@Alphacentauri819 yes
comparison is both the best and worst thing you can do to yourself. great if you can use it to move yourself toward a better self but disastrous if you don't.
@@cheery-hex Very good point, to acknowledge rather than identify.
Not really man it’s not all social media
I see average people in real life that have skills, talents and walk with purpose
I’ve been aware that my only skill is eating lots of drugs since my twenties and people said it comes with time now 30 still nothing
It’s not out of arrogance that I say this but idgaf what society thinks enough to have that be a factor, I don’t need to compare to hate myself I just need to look in the mirror and think about my legacy of nothingness
"Purpose is to love others" and feeling not good enough will recede :) thank you Russell
Loving these latest videos especially! Very inspiring, Russell! Thank you for aspiring to shine a bit more light and love in the world!
Thank you Russell! You’ve become an important part of my self care and recovery journey. Your podcast and these videos inspire me to up my spiritual game. And you are 100% correct in service being the answer. I started facilitating a 12step workshop last week and my feelings of self-doubt have magically disappeared 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
*I once had the low self esteem thinking that I’m not enough, but fortunately, everything’s fine now and I know that everybody is awesome just the way they are* 🙏
How did it happen
I still have trouble accepting people like Donald Trump.
I have low self esteem
Ksee how are you going about it?
Hugo Marenco how I overcame it? Or how I got low self esteem?
"Difficult to be somewhere between an ape and a devine creature".
♥️✨🔥
Who said that?
Terry Pratchett said that human is where a falling angel meets a rising ape.
You ARE a good enough❤️ You ARE loved❤️ You ARE beautiful❤️✅
You can't say that to everyone sometimes it's a lie
Nope
Danke 💗
You have become someone Id be proud to know....
False
Hi Russell! Im sitting here on my couch, deflated, mentally exhausted and completely emotionally drained, and I can't thank you enough, your videos resonate with me, and my cat and I find your voice is so calming. I really appreciate your vids, your help and am super grateful for you 🙋♀️
Just hearing you say that I am good enough brought me to tears.
That consequently opened my eyes, I am not feeling happy, yet I never knew.
Thank you for putting me on the first step towards healing.
When i have low self esteem, i now try to cheer up/ do something for other people, and it makes me feel better. (silly dance) :D
Thanks for making me feel better :) hugs x
I watch your videos religiously. Your wisdom transcends!!!! It’s so needed. I too overcame addiction (sex/ pills/ alcohol) and found my way into spirituality. Whenever I watch your videos, they fortify me in my moments of doubts and confusion. Now I help people find themselves, but none of us out perfect- and I use you videos to get me recentered ❤️
Thank you for this amazing video series you put out... I find it truly inspirational!
The guy I dated and who didn't want anything serious with me is now in a committed relationship, just two weeks after we ended things. The first first that popped into my head after the pain that came back that that I wasn't good enough.
I really needed this video, thank you ❤️
Your voice has been so calming and soothing to hear, thank you, this has really helped me today 💜
I was talking to my wife about this the other day. How I feel I have never really tried hard in my life. It's my ego lying to me trying to compare with others. Not owning other's pain, wow. This really helped me.
Russell, thank you. For all of these videos. Your guidance is much much much appreciated. Best wishes
I find your channel to be so helpful and relatable. It's helped propel me out of a dark place and keeps me from slipping to far back. It helps to not feel alone by knowing I'm not the only one who thinks about such things nor am I alone in the seeking of a more enlightened and homeostatic way of being. Be well!
🇲🇽 Hello from Mexico.
Not comparing ourselves to others is also key for a healthy self-esteem, but this is easier said than done.
We are on this unfathomable journey.
Thank you Russell for your inspiring reflections. 🙏
You present yourself in the most beautiful way. Watching these videos has seriously changed the way i think and see myself for the better
The fact that you are using your platform to uplift and help others is commendable I hope that more celebrities use their fame in a more positive light much love🙏
Lovely, Russell, I'm crying so hard because I suddenly felt like I'm all alone, just because my usually friendly neighbours found new friends and I didn't know that could hurt so much. And you sound like that sane part of my soul, telling me, that everything is alright.
You're so warm and kind. ❤️
I feel gratefulness and compassion for your service. I know it is difficult to be that communicative. I'm also upset. I've had two of my front teeth missing for over 6 years. I've quit ciggarettes, meth, opiates and a variety of other risky behaviours without a word of encouragement. My mind and body are still in a constant state of disrepair. No one was there to help. I've been living with the constant threat of death around the corner, because I don't know if I'll get a paycheck. My mind is full of - it could always be worse- and - maybe worthwhile does exist-. Your the best I have and you barely take my life serious. It's always what I haven't said Russell.
"Humans need fantasy to be human. To be the place where the falling angel meets the rising ape."
~ Terry Pratchett
I love Terry Pratchetts books
True
@@nicolegray608 I love that you love Terry Pratchett's books.
🎯🎯🎯
I have been through or am currently struggling with issues so very similar to yours that it's actually pretty weird at times, but at all times so very helpful and comforting to know that you're out there and that you love and care so much... If it weren't for listening to you lately, I might not remember the light at the end of the tunnel. I can't see it right now in my present circumstances, but thank you for helping me remember to have faith that it is indeed there.
Much love and gratitude.
This false belief of not being good enough is a modern day epidemic 😥 we are always enough. We always have been!
Exactly!!!👍💕💐
Great comment
What if you made mistakes? My ex blamed me for everything
i believe that people who suffered a lot know better of the way to get rid a negative sircumstences for themselves and when they get strong enough thez can help other beings in difficult situation more effectivelly.
Real talk
You are the sweetest, kindest and most caring celebrity I've come across. God bless you and your family. Thanks for touching upon this subject.
My body is fine the way it is. And I am much more focused on my mind, heart and soul. I wish the same for you.
Spot on, Brother Russell!
I figured that message out long ago, but it is special, important, and nourishing to hear it recapitulated from others in their own personal manner of describing it.
I find each and every time I hear various truths, such as the ones you describe hear, spoken in new words from a new consciousness I haven't heard them from yet, the truths solidify more and more in my own conciousness and it becomes easier and easier to seemlessly incorporate them into my daily life with less effort.
Thanks, Russell.
Russell please never stop posting those videos. Much love from Yemen :)
I totally agree. When I'm not feeling good in general, I always just focus on others, helping others, supporting others, etc and I often feel better about myself. But if you focus on others and compare yourself to them, that's where you start to feel not good enough. If you just sort of connect with others on a similar level, like supporting them, you tend to not think about who's better or worse. You're just human beings connecting and then you feel more equal. There's no room for better or worse then
Thank you for being your authentic positive ray of Light Russell. So appreciated by me and many. What you're saying makes perfect Loving sense. Your vibration is everything. You've found the gold inside - the stuff that truly matters. Bravo Beauty! 💚
Dude wtf. Thank you for this. It feels like someone is telling me what I always knew but needed to hear. In so many moments I picture the most beautiful and strong version of myself and think, I’ll be perfect when I get to that. But you know I never become it. I’m always still me.
TY Russel. You are a loving, kind being. TY for loving us too.
I am loving this calm and slow speaking Russell. It feels meditative
It's hard feeling like you're not good enough when you've been rejected by everyone you've ever loved. I'll still watch this though, found I read being cheated on a few days ago and the wound is raw, hope this helps.
Well is a bit wrong to say but the cheater is not good enough then. It's usually about the other person not you if that helps.
@@evilwomanofdoom it really does help. May the Gods bless you.
@@cupcakechronicles4551 thank you so much. Seeing comments like these really, really help. Never underestimate a little kindness.
@@redvonmunster3731 well I didn't want to sound negative as his point is no one is good enough we all make mistakes and learn and grow from them. Least you tried I just stay alone as sick of trusting people who hurt me.
@@evilwomanofdoom I'm so sorry, you deserve better. Yours and leonard's comments really turned my day around. I typed my original post, crying after the gym and get home to find love from strangers. Im crying now but because of overwhelmingly positive vibes.
That mentality about helping others... it's the only thing that makes me feel genuinely good! It makes me feel happy, it gives me a purpose. It's where I find self love and harmony. Your videos are helping me a lot, I am trying to free myself from pain but personally I find it so hard to achieve that mental strength that makes you realize you're able to move on, that you don't need to be attached to pain. I can't stop feeling sorry for myself, which makes me feel like i'm so egocentric, which in turn makes me feel really bad.
I won't go into detail about what made me come to this point but for the last 6 years I have felt depressed. Some years were worse than others, for example, right now I don't feel as lost as I did 3 years ago. Throughout those years, my tactic was to get my mind busy and excited with things that are toxic and bad for health. I spent all day (literally, all day) on the computer playing games, watching shows, movies etc.. pornography. I did this almost instinctively, so that when I left the computer, my mind would be too tired to stay conscious and relive memories I was trying to suppress.
I have lost a huge part of my life because of the way I dealt with my issues, because I didn't seek help from a professional. Because I was afraid of being judged, I didn't think I was worthy of feeling bad and depressed for problems that compared to other people were nothing. I used to see my father struggle everyday, getting up at 4am to go work in construction and never complaining about it. He and my grandfather were so strong, I always wanted to be as strong as them so I was ashamed of how I felt.
Now I feel sorry for myself, I didn't have any friends here (living in another country since I was 17, i'm 25 now). I wanted to feel love but I thought I wasn't worthy of it/wouldn't find it because I don't like the way I look. I wanted to be happy.. strong, capable of taking care of someone. This has gotten too long... Bottom line, I came to a country where I made a lot of money working a job I never liked, spent that money on my own toxic personal therapy (in games, on pornographic webcam sites, on things I never needed) to realize that all I ever needed, I didn't have.
I am going back to my homeland at the age of 26 next month, I want to get an education. I believe it's the opportunity for change that I needed, and I intent to take it.. even if I feel bad, i'll try to achieve that mental strength, that higher level of consciousness that makes me not only realize but accept, that I matter to the world, that I have value, that I am not the center of the universe but a part of it.
I will always keep trying.
You’ve become part of my daily routine now, Russell. Thank you for creating content which helps me take a step back and reflect. This was another great video.
I work in mental health and often times I’ve seen social comparison via social media as a distracting (at minimum) and destructive force (most commonly) when I work with clients. Often times I remove social media from my phone for a month or months at a time. The only exception I find is RUclips as the way I utilize it is to watch individuals, such as Russell here, who make me feel uplifted. It’s a platform I feel I can better regulate and tailor fit to my personal needs and interests. Although I am alone while watching these videos I know that I am not alone. Thank you Mr. Brand.
Watching your talk show appeareances from a few years ago makes me feel not good enough Russell haha
So charming, so quick witted, so charismatic, literally immune to social pressure. HOW DO YOU DO THAT RUSSELL!?
Knowing how to do just that is literally a multimillion dollar skill
Tobia Wilson 😃😃😃
I was wondering the same thing. He has a great brain, words just flow and he makes things easy to understand even when he’s side tracked. I bet it’s because he knows his material really well.. most people can be this way with subjects they truly understand and are excited about. :) that’s what I thought anyway. Have a nice day :)
Russell.. I've seen a handful of these little videos of yours now, and I'd just like to say that although you'll probably not ever read this, and despite only ever having had a passing knowledge of you over the years via media, it really is quite lovely to witness your obvious personal growth. Well done for climbing onto the road less travelled. Your thoughts are indeed a pleasure to hear. I understand you. Take care, eh xx
You are literally one of my favorite people in the world. Thank you ✨
I love knowing I can listen to your words of wisdom everyday Russell. Thank you.
It is so very frustrating to be surrounded by others who are not awake, do not want to wake up and in fact continually insist those who are awake must go back to sleep because our awakeness disturbs their sleep which they are so comfortably, disturbingly enmeshed in.
Russell, you have this gift of high intelligence in the are of communication, language, and expression. Not sure if you’re interested in teaching us how to communicate with people in the way that you do, but I think your audience could benefit greatly from those sort of videos. Thank you for all that you do.
I pretty much enjoy everything you do. But these short little clips are my favorite thing you’ve done.
Russell you make me think on a daily basis.... In a good way., keep it up greetings from South Africa
_"We have his name and his location, OVER ..."_
Thinking on a daily basis, huh? It's a start, I guess. 😜
@Pride there are plenty of places that is 100% save and I also do jot live on a farm, 🤔😂
Not feeling good with these comments, why watching when all you guys do is troll
@Pride believe me I don't
I love how honest and truthful you are in your way of conveying your views it’s very rare.
Russell I love what you’ve been doing!! Thank you so much for making these videos 🙏🏻🙏🏻💜 Much love
Truth. Life in general many people feel not good enough! Work, home etc. Etc. I've been there! Depression I'm fighting alot right now. Thank you for this video! I needed to hear this!! Thank you!
Thank you so much Russell for all you do. You are such a starseed lightworker x
"Doubt can be a bond as powerful as and sustaining as certainty..." -Doubt(2008)
I absolutely adore this quote because it's so true, doubt can be a lasting and damaging emotion.
Helping others is satisfying
Your vids has helped me to realise that deep down we’re all the same!
I just love you Russell. Thanks for being yourself.
Just think what a different world it would be if people could just feel good enough exactly as they are 🌈 xxxxxxxxxxx
I dont think much of myself but i think of myself often. What you are speaking of is our tendency to be extremely self absorbed. You cannot think yourself into right thinking but you can act yourself into right thinking. So the best solution is to do something for another. Not because you want the recognition but because it gets you out of your head. Self esteem only arises from esteemable acts. As you do these things for others your feeling of self worth grows. Pretty soon you will never have a need for another person to tell you how great you are, you will know it by your own works. Stay away from social media and go out and find your passion and act on it.
Thanks Russell, I appreciate your videos. Keep em comin:)
You have greatly helped me get by, Im glad to have found you as you have found yourself on a spiritual path to enlightenment.
You are somewhat a mentor to me as i find myself seeking the same thing you are searching for. You may not know how much your words of wisdom can help someone like me and others the same through life.
Keep up the great service to the global mental health and well being community. Namaste, God Bless you Russell.
Imagine Keanu Reeves made his own channel.
Ha ha right....or Richard Gere. ( love him though )🤣
Whoa.
@@rtbt12 agree😊
Zachary Laid Finding Freedom I need this to happen now why did u do this to me
Thanks Russell for your continuing quest to build a spiritual community through your videos. Lately my thoughts have been towards finding spiritual solace by staying as clear and clearly focused as possible. Your influence as far as finding inner peace through service resonates. I work on people physically through massage and I too must make space for them to heal, both physically and spiritually if possible. I too must heal myself to be of service. Starting with ourselves as being like a friend we care about as Jordan Peterson suggests I find helpful. We must care for ourselves as we would for any friend, with deep compassion and empathy. Patience with ourselves and blessing the circumstances are also extremely healing for me.Bless the circumstance and it will bless you back as Emmett Fox once said. Thanks for sharing your views and learnings with us Russell, know you are making a difference in my life and I am sure many others.
Russell how do you get over childhood bullying when it still affects you manifesting it self through low self esteem depression and anxiety in adult life?
Firstly, ignore the guy below saying ‘man up’
@Juanel when you are reminded of traumatic things, allow yourself to feel the emotions present. Identify them and let them run their course through your body. Our minds are conditioned to fear emotions and trap them inside, and when trapped they cause physical and mental imbalances. But there is nothing to fear about feeling them. Let them burn off through your emotional body, and let their heavy energy be transformed into light in your spiritual body, and let them go. The results of this could likely be feeling freer and not being affected negatively by memories that come up. Negative emotions can be fuel for our spiritual progress. Having them is useful for that purpose. 🙏🏼💗🙏🏼
Can relate am working through these things also. Best wishes x
Ultimately life is way too short.
Live in the moment , not the past,work on yourself in the best way possible and live the moment.
The mind is a prison, just because you have a thought does not mean you need give it any credit. Learn to acknowledge and move on from negativity in the mind.... meditate!
I have overcome similar self esteem issues by taking back my self worth. It is something I now give to myself, and is unrelated to how other people view me. It also helps to realise that people act negatively with fear, aggression or nastiness because of their own issues and insecurities, and in fact it has nothing to do with you. Also, it helps to forgive them. Forgiveness is less about them, and more about you giving yourself permission to let go of the pain. Good luck on your self development journey, and much love ❤️
Helping others is the meaning of life.
Kwan Yin or Guanyin. Female bodhisattva you mentioned. You emanate love these days.
This is an amazingly soothing, loving, clear, human, needed message. I am forever grateful how you use your brilliance in so many different ways, to serve your fellow humans. Thank you❤️🙏🏻
Did you mean Quan Yin? Also your energy seems different today (not a judgement). 🖤
I love Quan Yin and her story, chants, & symbols🌟 There's a beautiful Buddhist temple devoted to Her here in NYC's Chinatown. 🌹💕
good and honest energies today. very human. me likey
Yes I thought he seems abit down bless him
A calm energy of peace and clarity. I love it.
@@donacatanguma I would love to see that temple - I love what I know of her. Can you share where the temple is?
You are just the person we need right now.❤️
Just started the 12 steps. Meditation. Already feel at peace
"Feeling Good" is a tremendous book for anxiety and depression to anyone who reads this comment
Yes. There is another book " when panic attacks " of the same author Dr. Devid Burns . This book is even better. Devid Burns created another advanced therapy named TEAM-CBT. This newer therapy is the most advanced and powerful therapy. I am now trying to overcome my lots of problems using Team-CBT. I wasted lots of my time doing mindfulness meditation, ACT etc before. ACT, mindfulness etc didn't help me. I am very hopeful about this newer therapy.
It takes me 1hr to watch a 7min video because Russel hits so many issues I deal with on a daily basis. I can't stop my self evaluation as I'm listening and my mind drifts off on how to repair my issues. I'm just lost........................ Russel thank you
Russell, love the way you think, your NO dummy that's for sure. Love your insight.
“lf my purpose becomes to love others then the feeling that I'm not good enough recedes, and, on occasion, entirely evaporates. Part of the "not feeling good enough" is the continual campaign for self-fulfillment through the pursuing of external goals, even if it's an external image of yourself. You are good enough."
Thanks for making me feel that I am good enough! KEEP GOING!
Truly amazing words. “Men barrade themselves through weakness” eyeopening Russell, this is the bane of my existence. The dichotomy of this retrospective ridicule is the bane of my existence, as I need to be hard on myself in order to remain motivated while the same process causes mental distress that leads to other bad decisions/habits. I suppose the question is, how does one remain structured and motivated in life without introspective reflection and critique?
Wow this video is profound! It’s tough to be awake in the midst of people sleeping
Tommy Salerno if u is wake u would no Mrs brand is transgender
Try not to think of yourself as awake amongst the sleeping. It creates an elitist culture in your mind and causes you to focus on other people and extrinsic matters. Instead view everything and everyone as a tool for personal growth, a platform for expressing humility and part of 'your experience'...even the arseholes. You can't change others, only your experience of them.
Thanx for the kind words bro♡ gonna have a better day knowing people like you are out there spreading love.
Oh the perils of online dating - always being 'dropped' when someone more aesthetically pleasing becomes a new match for the day 😳
Never did have the stomach for that. I’d rather be alone.
The guy I was seeing found a whole girlfriend two weeks after we ended things (he didn't want to commit). I asked myself what does she have that I don't have? What is wrong with me?
Horrible, horrible feeling 😢
I can't do online dating. I want to see and get to know someone in person. It takes time and effort.
The Arc of your life Russell is a beacon of life for us to witness and draw from. Your willingness to share about all of it is our gift from your heart (Plus we saw your life like a show in living color from from ego to spaciousness) and it's all such a wonderful tool for us. We all have an arc and we keep adding to it. But how lovely of you to use your life in the way that you have. Theank you.
About 2 years ago I fell in love with a man who was leading me on, telling me he wanted to marry me only for me to find out from his brother in law that he was keeping me as a reserve while chasing other girls. He made me feel like complete worthless shit to the point that I started to hate everything about myself even my house and family, he made me have insecurities about myself that I never had before and even things I should have been proud of such as graduating from uni, I couldn’t because he had teased me about how it had taken me longer to finish uni (I transferred courses and took a break in between) making me feel like even my degree was worthless. I compared myself to a couple of the other girls he was chasing when I found out who they were and would constantly go onto their social media and put up a photo of myself next to theirs and analyse everything that he didn’t like about me but liked about them. It was torture and I fell into depression. Even after I got married last year I still couldn’t stop thinking why I wasn’t good enough for him. Only now about 2 years after my last contact with him have I started to accept myself for who I am and stop going on social media so much and to focus on those that do love me. There are some really shit people in this world that will mess with your mind and emotions that’s why you have to be so careful when dating and really pay attention to warning signs and don’t fall too fast during the honeymoon phase. You also have to be secure within yourself and not look for that security and approval from someone else. I just regret every moment I wasted on this person. It is truely not worth it to feel bad about yourself as life is so short. It is easier said than done though. I’m still struggling with my thoughts and self acceptance but I’m slowly getting better.
Turn it around. It's his problem, he did you a favour. Don't hold onto it. Best wishes.
Oh my, thank you for sharing your story I feel very touched by it. I found my way here to the comments of the video because today I found out my ex boyfriend had been cheating on me with my friend, he had never confessed but a friend of his told me the truth as he thought I deserved it. I wasted a precious year of my life and effort on someone who could never love properly. They made excuses and blamed me for everything, I began to feel so insecure and unstable that I could barely go a couple hours without his approval. It was toxic and abusive and scary. He would remind me of my flaws and always take his anger out on me. Whoever relates to my comment, please listen to that little voice in your head that says you should leave. Please don't wait to lose yourself in order to understand that you must leave.
Janet Steele yes, please listen to your gut instinct and respect yourself enough to walk away as soon as you feel the person disrespecting you.
Love your vulnerable courageous honesty...it has such value for all of us THANK YOU X
You okay bro?
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I want to thank you for being such a inspiration to so many and for giving me a new way to look at myself and others in a positive way.
I'm. Just. So. Alone. All. The. Time.
It messes you up.
Hey! You do not have to be. Take a chance and strike up a conversation in line or at work or while out walking. In the meantime enjoy your alone time, it is often the only chance we get to do any real introspection. Maybe your aloneness has a purpose for you. I am sure it is not to make you sad.
You were able to reach out in this comment. I responded. Others will too. If you text me, I always text back. I watch many of RBs videos, I hope that you are not feeling inadequate in any way because we are who we are supposed to be, just adjust your inner and outer self to find balance. Take care.
One of the things that loneliness does is make you feel like no one else in the world feels the same way as you. But how can that be when study after study says we are in an unparalleled loneliness epidemic as a society? Many, many people feel the same as you, so you are not alone, we are all going though it together... but alone. Maybe you can be a person that helps to change that.
Dear Justin. Seems like a fair amount of people have reached out to you. Well, throw me on that list, too, Buddy! Best wishes to you!
You are such a bright light, Russell. Soaking in your wisdom. Thank you!!!
3:33 "holographic" --- I literally just wrote this just before watching:
Imagine for a moment the bizarre possibility that the real you
is a gnome in some domain. In that domain, the gnome is merely
playing a computer game in which physical reality and the experience
of being a bipedal ape are simulated.If this was combined with forgetting
of the original domain, the gnome would have the same experiences you do.
The form the gnome takes might not even be bipedal, could be any form
at all, 10 arms, 8 legs, or even just energy. Even the nature of the domain might be different and nothing like the physical world we know ( in this analogy through the simulation ) .
"what about time, in this analogy?"
There's no reason why time in the simulation and time in the domain,
should be the same. The easiest way to think about that is concept of
time in a game of chess. Experienced chess players know there are two concepts of time in chess. One is on the clock and measured in seconds,
the other is on the board, and measured in moves.
From the perspective of the gnome in the domain, the simulation is more
like time as measured by moves, and assuming the gnome has seconds
in the domain the number of seconds experience in the domain and in
the simulation need not be the same. You can see this if you think of the simulation as an animated sequence of frames.
"what does this relate to?"
One thing it relates to is the notion of an after life.It's easy to dismiss the notion of an afterlife as preposterous.
A person turned to ashes can be no more, in the physical, but if our true nature is more like the gnome in the simulation
then dying and going to the afterlife, is much the same as the gnome coming out of the simulation back to it's domain.
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