I changed my routines, I stepped out of my comfort zone, I do my homework and I care about how my room looks now. My hobbies are so social, me a year ago would be amazed
Oh my god, this is like, so for real. So many times during the past couple years I was still up after 2 am and that’s when all the bad stuff happens. I got grounded for two months (don’t ask) at exactly 2:01 am, I lost the “love of my live” (I’m better off without that bastard) at 2:30, my favorite uncle died and I got THAT phone call at 2:05, and I failed (still don’t know how; was I tired or something?) a very important school test and got the message to retake it at, you guessed it, 2:02. And that’s why go to bed after 2 am, you won’t regret it,
I mean when you guys cannot cheer up another person - then don't even try to make them feel that this "Nothing good happens after 2am" is just useless??
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk! Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests! He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord! Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
My advice: 1. Starting over isn’t a bad thing; sometimes it’s just the thing you need in life 2. It’s not that deep, let shit go, don’t take things so personally 3. Make an effort for those who you truly care about and they will hopefully make an effort back
1. Starting over is something I have to do on compulsion without a choice and it takes up a lot of time. But really, if the journey I’m on doesn’t go my way, I will just start over. If only I could start over everything, I’d start over 2023, greatest year of my life. 2. I agree with 2 so much. It so god damn annoying when people don’t let it go, if I can’t get someone to let something go, I will leave them until they do. People need to stop taking things so damn personally. 3. I do, otherwise I’d be an annoying npc
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk! Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests! He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord! Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
I feel like I can't start over just because I tryed to before I know that I can start over for unlimited times but bruh my mind want me to stay in my comfort zone that it's not comfortable at all 🗿
I am at a point in my life where I have realized being a teen is so beautiful. And I’ve gone through so many things, but in the end, it’s all so worth it and this was so great hearing because seeing someone older than me reflect on life like this just makes me want to keep going even more. Thank you for sharing this and all your other work with the world
@@maiaevaI used to think it was horrible at your age too. But I am 18 now, and I’ve realized it really is beautiful. Give it time. Things do get better, I promise.
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk! Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests! He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord! Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
This is why we need social media. So many bad things happen but these videos make the internet better. I’m almost 13 and I started crying while watching this because it hit so close to my heart. This past year has been very difficult for me and I’m glad know that I’m not the only one struggling.
Hi,I'm a thirteen year old girl too,but seriously,me going through hard times as a teenager,I always felt it was a personal problem and I was the only one facing that ,and also to you ,know that you are not alone
I totally relate I am in a very interesting stage in my life right now where I am trying to control my outbursts that I have and I feel so belittled by the smallest things and trying to contain that is very hard but my progress with wanting to say something about being belittled or feel like having a outburst has made progress like my parents made fun of me for my 'g' (I'm not the best writer) and I say I did try and My mom just laughs and says "no you didn't" they did mean it as a joke but i didnt find it funny (my mom has the worst timing) but hey i didnt start anything i just told myself i have made progress with my handwriting (i truly have) and just kind of let it go.
Thank you. As a teen with no friends and no real hobbies or interests, I question every day whether this is worth it. It means a lot to hear that things get better, even if I can’t fully believe it now.
Whatever you're doing or just trying,keep going! Maybe you'll notice yomeday that you don't like sth anymore. But just try out new things, it'll pay off andthereis actually a high chance of a) finding friends who are like you and/or b) findding a passion
A year ago I was like you too don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at that time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
As a teenager who is going through it right now: this helped. Thank you PS: most things after 2am are bad, but I think staying up late laying next to my best friend and talking about stuff is an exception
talking with someone you feel close to is always an exception, especially if you really need to let some things out and talk about them with someone :)
Points taken - Stop living on hope and be more present Being a teen feels like molting caterpillars A Really basic contrast but it makes sense You are born devoid of any feeling , then you expose yourself to everything around you , wherein you accumulate a lot of feelings and thoughts Then it gets so mentally tormenting -you distance yourself and find yourself away from everything Trying to figure out what this feeling is While going through these dark days , worried about what's ahead and left behind All of this , just to reach the ultimatum where you finally figure out this feeling's Which ....sure does take time You are reborn again as a new person LIFE'S BEAUTIFUL
Thank you for this!! I am a teen going true the teen things, like choosing a career, finding a job, friendships, confusions, anger, not knowing how to handle stuff. This gave me the peace of mind that maybe evrithing will be okay and I will get there.
Oh my gosh it can seem so daunting but I hope this video puts some things into perspective for you and allows you to look at it from a different angle. My video next week speaks even more on that
When I was 16 I thought it was the end. I got help and started therapy. I promise if youre under 18 it gets better. It really does when you are an adult. The world changes and life opens up more as you get older. Be good to yourself and others. Every storm runs out of rain. Also you are young and don't settle or tolerate bad behaviour from people. Do not tolerate a shitty partner or best friend because they are all you have. It is better to be alone than with bad company. You will grow and find people who will treat you better and align with you more. When you get that bad feeling you need to listen to it. ALso if your friends and parents do not like someone in your life they are usually right.
I never knew that a RUclips video could help me so much, I’m a 15year old teenage girl and I dream so big in my sport and I hope to go to the Olympics, but when you said “a dream isn’t good enough ,action needs to be present” that touched me!
I am a teenager. I did definitely need this, as im not even a legal adult yet and in 3 years ive lost my grandmother and my mother and am now living alone.. this gave me a little hope
Being alone and being unhappy is an interesting question. For me, I had friends, I had fun, I was happy 85% of the time because I was with them. But whenever I was allowed to really think about it, my relationships were shallow and wouldn’t last past graduation. I guess there was just this suspension of disbelief, between reality and keeping myself afloat. Believing that this was real and long lasting kept me alive, so it was okay for that short amount of time to wear rose-colored glasses. At least that’s what I think it was looking back from nineteen.
Joey, can I just say: thank you for everything you’re doing. You are so talented and I just love everything you write/film/do. Thank you for making my life a little bit brighter!
Hi! I just recently turned 17 and i've been feeling a little overwhelmed about the adult life ahead of me. I've always been an anxious kid growing up and am still struggling to be my own authentic self (whatever that means). I can only hope that I get to be "good enough" for myself. Thank u for this vid, i really needed to hear these things. ❤❤
I am 21 and pretty behind in college. While many people would be completing college by age 22, I just started. Does finishing college later matters that much? I'm very anxious about my age and I would be 23-24 when I will finish my college
17 year old here👋 I do feel alone, but I don't mind it. I have always liked being alone, and feel comfortable in my own company. Yes I feel alone, but not lonely. I would say that I am generally happy, and very thankfull for that. This video inspired me to go do my homework, so I'll do that now😅
Hey. I’m 17, and I searched for this video because I don’t want to waste my teenage years. I want to go out at night and hang out with friends and live my life like a movie and actually have memories I want to be proud of. All I am allowed to do right now is go to school and go home, occasionally a family event, but that’s it, because I’m a girl, and my moms afraid of anything happening. I’ve always heard “your life isn’t over when you’re a teenager”, but, the way you talked about it, the way you explained recently how I was feeling, it made me cry. To know that someone understands and that I’m not alone is like a small sliver of hope. Thank you.
Entering my teens right now. I've got some childhood trauma, horrible mental health and puberty behind me. Getting a fresh start at a new school next year, and i think my teenage years might be some of the best years of my life. One of the rarest occasions, fulfillment, has been blooming in my life recently, i want to finally be happy and mentally stable. I'm getting closer to my family, i reunited with a friend last year, got a autism diagnosis and am finally starting to be more confident. It feels like my life is falling into place. I finally don't feel bullied, abandonded, insecure, neglected or pushed to the sidelines. I might still be lonely, but i'm used to it, loneliness was a part of my whole childhood.
its 2 am and im going straight to bed. Thank you joey. you made a difference for me today, lets just say i was at my lowest and you just made me go to bed which is what i need.
I'm a teen who didn't know I needed this. I didn't search for this but I'm glad I saw it and decided to watch it. I'm not entirely sure why, but I felt quite emotional watching this. Maybe it's because I feel like I'm alone even though I know that I'm not, and now I know that I am not the only person to feel like this. I don't know. I suppose this video was comforting in a way. Thank you.
This video couldn’t have come at a better time, for me. I’m nineteen years old, and the passing of time has always been something that’s scared me to my core. I don’t think I’m afraid of age, but I’m afraid of what comes with it. I turn 20 later this year, and I’ve truly.. been dreading it. My teenage years were not easy, and I think more than anybody, I can understand and empathize with people who feel- specifically- alone. I’ve gotten a lot of takes from the people in my life telling me that my twenties will be even harder than my teenage years. Obviously I can’t know what will happen, nobody can, but the anxiety and overthinking about it has made me paralyzed with fear. And that is THE worst thing you can do in the face of fear. Just yesterday night I was up, (past 2 am, I know I know-) but not on my phone, or on the internet.. I was stuck in my head. And the first video I see afterwards is a video about a man I’ve never even met, somehow.. making me feel just a little less alone. Even if he’s just stating factual information, I don’t know. It helped. I don’t claim to be some kind of emotional wizard, half the time I don’t even know WHAT I’m feeling, and I don’t know how to explain some of the emotional reactions I have to seemingly mundane things. But regardless, thanks for making this video. No, really. Thank you. It helped.
20 year old here! Let me tell you, I´m happier than I´ve been in a long while. I often look back to when i was 16-18 and go "damn, how the hell did I survive that?". It sounds dramatic, but my "teens" were geniunely a really bad time for me. I put teens between speech marks because surprisingly, now that im 20, it feels like im truly getting to "live my teen years". I finally have friends i can hang out with, I can finally enjoy doing what I like with much less pressure of people judging me. Time isn´t linear for many, and that´s fine, im tired of people pretending everyone´s experience is the same. Im tired of people saying "live your teen years", knowing damn well many of us just... can´t, or couldn´t, and acting as if there´ll never be a chance to be happy after 18. But there is! There´s many more opportunities to enjoy your life and be happy.
I'm 19 too but honestly teen years were my worst years and i never ever want to live them again. So much anxiety and overthinking..now that I'll be turing 20 i feel I'm more matured and as the reply before me says i feel like im living my teen years..I'm happy and more secure...
This 8-minute video appeared on my recommendation here in youtube after the days that I was feeling so much inside because of academics and personal problems. I find this very comforting and knowledgeable because these life lessons is something that I will look back and reflect. I'm still a teenager and I know that there are more things I will learn and experience in this world so, I thank you for this beautiful message.
i’m 21 now and about to finish up my junior year of college, and i wish i had had this video when i was in high school. these things are even going to help my life now and for that im so grateful! stay you joey💗
One advise if give my teen self is (I’m 17 almost 18) don’t get into that toxic relationship don’t enter a relationship at all enjoy your years as a teen ur young don’t stress yourself w those things even if u feel felt out bc all ur friends are dating but ur not it’s okay just pls I’m begging u make lots of friends n try new hobbies n try to make as much memory as u can
Hi, I am 15. Going through a tough phase right now. Just teens things. But, after watching this video, I get to know that we are not alone. We all have to suffer at some point. As far as the loneliness is concerned, seeing my peers getting friends, hangouts, love things or what, I never feel I belong there. Nevertheless, with the passage of time I learn that of course we all are unique. I should be trying to fit in a bunch of something where I shouldn't be wasting my time. That's why I am addicted to be a happy loner right now. Besides, I am just average in everything. Not looker girl. This sucks. But, I have to live my life just the way I am. Still fighting. :)
I put this as background noise while i was drowning in my own thoughts i wasnt even paying attention then i suddenly heard "everyone thinks their life is over at 16" i stopped and began to cry. I felt ike someone finally heard me. I dont trust my friends anymore and my parents think little of my struggles so i feel like i dont have someone to confide in. Im 17 right now turning 18 i still havent gone out of this dark place, but hearing that im not alone and someone out there has understood and experienced what i feel, i feel a bit of hope.
I am 17 and looking forward to adult life, having a job , being more busy doesn't seem as bad compared to my school. I was so miserable during school. No one to talk to , no friends to hang out with and everything else, atleast when I am an adult I have the liberty to travel , hook up, achieve my goals and make my family proud. I am already tired of this world but I ll be busier and free in my adult life.
I am a teen rn and the happiness x alone part kinda hit home because I realized I do feel alone not all the time but enough where it doesn't feel great but I learned that the solution for me at least is to be content with yourself as you are when you are alone its ok to be alone everyone is alone at some point and you don't always have to be doing something I think loneliness is just part of growing up and learning to live with that is part of it and instead of centering yourself around the idea that you are alone remembering that being alone isn't a defining trait idk i just feel like if you learn to accept being lonely as part of life then it helps you focus less on it and enjoy other aspects of life more
I'm at the point where things seem to be piling up. I'm 17 and starting to balance athletics, academics, work, relationships, and personal hobbies more than ever before, while keeping my outlook positive during the offseason for my sport. I believe I put I feel alone on your survey, but that I was/am happy as a teen. I would say this is because while there is no one who completely understands me, I have stepped more into my own, and the people I surround myself and actually talk to is a smaller group. however those relationships are more meaningful, and I am more content to work in silence and be alone if no one is going to be there for me.
I'm 17 too and have felt that way as well recently. I feel like after a while of feeling lonely I just needed to move on, especially with everything else that's going on.
@@user-ze8fr9wq1t I agree. Was there a specific thing that helped you move on, or a specific moment that made you realize it was time to move on? I believe it can be a fine line between isolating yourself and putting yourself first sometimes. I've found a certain beauty in quiet moments, and a beauty in simple moments with those I care about. I've become more at peace with me being on my journey, and become more at peace with not trying and force things to come to pass. Is it lonely? At times absolutely. But I've also realized that if you put your purpose and passion first, show genuine care are respect towards others, aren't afraid to mess up a few times, and respect yourself, then you'll come into contact with good people sooner or later.
I am almost 14 years old and am struggling with loving myself. But this video really helped me to realize that I don't need to be perfect, I just need to be me. If people don't like the way that I am, that is their problem, not mine. Thank you so much for encouraging me!
I wish I could understand to I'm 14 by bf broke up with me and now is dating my ex bff and all my friends left me and I'm trying to get back with my ex bf cuz she dumped him but I feel bad cuz idk how to ask him fir the 12th time to get back with me and he'd 15 so idk💔💔💔
I'm a teenager, that a lot of people in my school look up to and come for advice, but I am not perfect, and I also have some problems I'm facing, it's kind of hard to set aside everything you are going through to comfort someone going through a fraction of what you're experiencing. I am trying to learn a bit of psychology, and be a good role model for all, so I hope everyone acknowledges that whoever you go to as your problem solver has problems to solve of their own.
Im a teenager and enjoy life a lot! I know what job I wanna do when im older. Im doing good in school. Im learning things that I need to learn for my future job, and im really just living. I love it.
I truly appreciate that this wasn’t advice on the things people tell you not to do, like bullying, or staying away from relationships when you’re so young. And this was actually just how to treat yourself the right way, with respect for yourself, and that will naturally lead to you being a better person later in life, and to those around you. I heard a quote the other day: treat yourself how you would treat your child. You wouldn’t let your child go to bed at 2:00 am, or let them eat bad food, or make bad relationships. You would be kind to them and love them no matter what!
I do know that this channel will never be what not to do because that never helped me as a kid. The best pieces of advice I related to growing up were things to do in order to help me change that negative path so that is my goal on this channel
Thanks for this video, i know im not the only one who would like to see more of these. To answer your question, im an 18 teen. I was happy even though i felt alone because i appreciated solitude. It helped me think, it helped me do things, it helped me grow! I dont think being alone only leads to crisis, it’s refreshing!
As a 18 years old teenager, I think being alone doesn't mean you can't be happy. For me, feeling alone does not mean having no friends or you spent more time with yourself. I think this feeling of being alone comes from the fact: You are alone. No one can help. They can only give you advice. In the end, you are the one who makes the decision (for example, which relationships are worth the effort, what carrier is the right one for me, taking your exams). For me personally, this means being alone. You grow into a person who is able to make decisions for yourself. Yes, it is hard. And I think every teen is afraid of the future, but this video helped to see beonde the age of 18~20 and relax a little. So, thanks. And for everyone who just entered their teens, my advice: put your phone away when you are out with your friends
I am a Teenager myself (just 14, in fact) and I just realised how good I feel. I dont feel alone, I am happy, I care about myself... but only after someone did it first. Luckily he started at 17 years old and I began to take care of myself - working out, journaling, being myself and doing what I love - at just 13. I am so thankful for that and this person. And the tips at the end are the thongs I am working on right now, like not overthnking and waiting patiently, being myself and stop caring about others. You guys can all do it, at any age
wow, when i saw this thumbnail and title in my recommended, the memory of seeing your face on my screen 10 years ago - when we were teenagers - really hit me. time was flat for a second. feeling the comradery in the realization that we (as a generation) are the new adults. Glad to see you're still here!
Joey, I just became a Teenager few days ago so I think this piece of advice is going to help me so much throughout my Teenage Years. Thank you for all the effort you put in all your videos, they are very inspiring and help us to learn something to change our life.
This video really hit. I’m 17 currently and only a few months ago I was diagnosed with ADHD after so long of struggling. Throughout my life I had thought there was no excuse for not listening or getting distracted or being really impulsive or acting in a way that was perceived by others as “weird”. Now that I understand myself better and I know that it’s an executive dysfunction and not a moral failing, I don’t feel as much need to hide myself and mask my struggles, but I still have this voice in my head saying that I need to be “perfect”. There’s a voice saying life would be so much better if I was just “perfect”. I still have this perfectionism as a result of my undiagnosed ADHD, but with progression, I believe I can be kinder to myself and take back control (with the help of strategy and medication) - it would be a massive help if society understood us more and had more sympathy though. As for my happiness and everything I’m going through? Everything you listed on this video. I’m not happy and I’m not going to pretend that I am. Sure, one or two notable amazing things have happened to me recently, and believe me I do not take them for granted, but even the tiniest of things affect me so much and, yes, I am miserable a lot. But I believe that I can be happier. This state of mind is not set in stone. Giving up will only leave me with no chance of improving, which is why it’s important to keep going. I also believe that one of the best things you can do is talk. A lot of people, regardless of age, but particularly young men and teenage boys, don’t talk about how they’re feeling. It’s important to talk - talking takes the weight off your shoulders and the people in your life can help you carry that weight until you can finally let it go, or become stronger, or both! There will always be people in life that support you and care for you. Talking about your issues is one of the strongest things you can do and being there for others is one of the most noble and kind hearted things you can do. Be sure to look out for others, but don’t do the mistake that I’m trying to reverse of neglecting yourself. At the end of the day, it’s your life and you need to be there to make sure that your quality of life is the best it can be. Be kind, reach out, you only get one life - don’t waste it. I’d also like to say, your mistakes don’t define you. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE makes mistakes. It’s how we learn! If you make a mistake and you feel bad or embarrassed afterwards, that just goes to show how good of a person you are. That just goes to show that you’re a good person who never meant any harm, and you should appreciate that. Your morals are good. You are good. I’ve been making countless little mistakes recently and really beating myself up over them - don’t do that, it doesn’t help, instead say to yourself; “I’ve made a mistake,” or, “I’ve made multiple mistakes” then say “I have regrets, I have had bad moments, but so has every other human being on this planet. Even the ones that I perceive as “perfect”. Everybody feels this way, but the fact that I feel bad about these things shows that I am a good person. I forgive myself, I love myself, and I will grow from this to become the best version of myself.” I’m just a stranger on the internet, but if you’re still reading this comment, thank you lol, but know that I love you. I don’t know who you are, what you’re going through, but you’re doing well. That’s an understatement, you’re doing exceptional. I’m proud of you and all you’ve achieved. You’re hard on yourself because you want to be better, instead, try giving yourself step by step goals to aspire to achieve. You’re a special and worthy person and you’re worth all the happiness in the world. You’re never alone in what you’re feeling. Don’t over-analyse everything - some things aren’t meant to be deep. Don’t overthink everything. You’re beautiful and you only have one life - so live it to the fullest, you’ll thank yourself later. I love you ❤❤ Thank you for making this video, Joey. You’ve brought us together and that is a special thing. Your advice will be taken into account and you are a great person for it. Thank you 🧡🧡
Reading this made me really smile, were the same age and I'll be rooting for you too. I hope that you'll be able to tell the same thing to your self as well ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Damn reading the whole thing left me with tears in my eyes. This is really sweet. Thank you for commenting and continuing with your shared beauty to the world. I am also 17 which is something i never imagined i would get to. (I was very suicidal well it sometimes feels like since i was born) I have a feeling i want to continue with life since i had never even lived it to say i want to die. Anyway thank you i hope everything us far better for you now. And good luck on your journey
I am in my 20s and I feel stuck..... I just want to rest for a long period of time.... I am tired of working hard and expecting that life would change..... Now I just want to relax and want life to give me some rewards..... If you are going through the same then you are not alone kids
(For me about not finding your interests and no talents nor hobbies)don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at this time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
Well I am 18 and my best friend always tells me to give my best in everything not to try to be perfect but to be good enough and actually this helped me a lot :) So thank you for you video it was an amazing content 😌
im turning 20 next month and man this video is honestly really great for me. i appreciate your advice. every teen can benefit from this video. keep up the great work!
maybe the reason of us being alone doesn't translate to being unhappy is because for me, I have tons of people who care for me and those that I share alot of fun and precious memories with, but being vulnerable with them about be it my suffering or feelings is so hard, that I end up feeling that they won't truly understand it, making me feel alone at the end of the day. It's so cool to not care and be cold nowadays that opening up to anyone around you (parents wouldn't ever get it) about even the smallest things affect you or how deeply you feel, they don't resonate at all with it. ^^ One of the reason why I love the safe and comforting place you've created on the internet for so many of us.
One piece of advice that i would give to every teenager out there and even me is that.... Be true to yourself. I am at a point of my life where i am changing mentally, socially, academically and i know it. But this change is not so easy, all my friends fell out and i am alone. But that doesn't makes me miserable because as much as people hate to be "alone" ,being alone doesn't equates to being unhappy. Remember that, you have a right to live your life to the fullest no matter people are with you or not. And, Remember "you being alone today does not means that you will remain alone forever. "
Thank you, thank you so much. I never were so close to cry several times cause a video. I passed so much time breaking my head trying to be perfect for me and for everyone and I don’t have to be perfect, I have to be good enough.
thank you for making this video. i wish i saw this when i saw teen, i think it would help me a lot. on that note i hope it helps someone who is teen right now
my answer yo your question: being alone doesn't mean that you're unhappy. why? well, this is because happiness is always determined by your heart. its a Japanese quote I read in a book. its not about where you are or who you are or what you're doing that make you unhappy, its about what you make of it. I can't lie, I was once in a position where I felt like it couldn't get better but I realized that I was too drowned in the comfort of this struggling, and being happy felt like a privilege. taking time to learn things about yourself, understand yourself, LOVE yourself is extremely important. for me, i think the meaning of life is enjoying it. am i saying that once you work on yourself you won't have bad days? no. am I saying that you'll never feel like you can't do it anymore? no. what i'm simply saying is to find happiness in YOURSELF. because at the end of the day, you'll only have yourself. i've made some big, BIG mistakes in my life but was it the end of the world? no, instead they were the beginning of a journey. I think you get the message now. I'm proud to say that i have found happiness at the age of 16, and until i turn 18, i know it will stay the same. I'm turning 17 this year, and I know the goals i have for myself are in my grasp :)
I have been following you since 2019, I was 18 then. I started watching your videos on youtube and now also love listening to your podcasts and following you on Instagram. Your content really helped me a lot in the last couple of years. So I just wanted to say thank you! 💖
the way I started bursting out crying because of how comforting this is, is insane. as a teenager currently rethinking about life, this is absolutely amazing. thank you so much, words can’t describe.
I'm 18 and will turn 19 in May, I feel so lost, failed my entrance exams, and lost the love of my life 2 days ago, I feel broken, and depressed, like nothing good is going to happen to me... Ik we had no other choice, I'll never blame her for breaking up, and neither can I blame myself cuz whatever happened, happened due to some unfavourable circumstances... I still love her, and ik she feels the same. But, it's time for us to move on, but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do that, I feel like I've lost the most precious part of my life, my life revolved around her, and now that time we took out for each other feels like a void, it's as if my heart is asking me " Hey, isn't it time for her to call? Why aren't you calling and checking up on her? Why isn't she mad at you for not calling?"... My brain wants to move on but my heart wants to hold on, and ik I have to move on for both of us, cuz we both know if we text or call once, we won't ever be able to let go. It's tough, especially now that I have my 2nd entrance coming up soon. I'm totally unable to focus, her memories, our moments, and that beautiful face of hers, that is what I'm seeing as soon as I close my eyes. It's tough, I don't feel like eating or sleeping, and I also don't feel like offing myself cuz ik she would never want that. I'm totally lost and not sure about what I should do and how I should move on.
Out of all the videos I’ve watched this one is going to stick with me “you’re watching this because you care.” Throughout all these videos I’ve seen it’s never been something I really stopped to consider. Thank you.
I'm a teenager and I started crying when I watched half of this video I'm from taking medicine and I like I had get out or crying out my problems and stress for me to see the bright side even though my eyes and my Head are hurting so much I feel happy and more free than ever thanks for reading this and also live a life you want not others want you to live I hope you enjoyed my experience bye❤
As a teen, I’ve learned that there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. And it might just have more to do with the connotation of being alone. It can be seen as a bad thing to be alone, but Ive learned that being alone can be peaceful. This might just be the introvert in me, but being alone helps me have time to regulate my thoughts and do some self reflection. However, too much alone time has affected me negatively.So, in moderation, being alone can be a good thing.
This was an incredible video with a great ending, well done. Seems like you got a community full of great people too. Nothing good ever happens after 2 AM. Life isn't over yet. You don't need to produce a perfect result right away, sometimes you just need to get it done. The best don't become the best with hope; A dream isn't good enough, action needs to be present. Stand up for yourself; Fight for what you believe in, especially if it affects you. Ask yourself how you are doing, talk to someone about it. Stop overthinking. Just be you and the right people will be in your life.
As a 14 yr old I will say I am happy and am living alone. Even if you grow up u will be alone even tho u are married and living happily there will be some point where u will have to go through alone. "Being alone is fine but not lonely". And if you think you are not having a great life then you should compare your life to those orphans and those kids with disastrous diseases and always be grateful for even lil things.
Im a teen rn. I really do feel alone sometimes, but im also homeschooled and everyone is different. In public school you have a lot more social interactions but homeschool doesnt have that. Thanks for this
I m 17, and I realized after going through so much that u can't change any situation but how u look at the situation. It's about your perspective. Life isn't bad afterall. Teenage life gives us so much experience and so much lessons that we will be needing further in our adulthood. My 16 yr old self would be very happy to see how much i have improved myself, how much i learnt and still learning and how much I started to care about myself instead of hating myself. To all the teens who are suffering - It's not the end. Learn to see world in diff perspective and watch how it changes your entire life. So keep going and never give up. And phone is not the main problem, but the way we use is the problem. So limit screen timing, sleep early, wake up early. It's your life, live it fully and U aren't alone.
I find this really interesting as a teen, because I actually am listening to this after 2 am. This was supposed to be the last thing that I watched before bed, and I am really happy that I did. This is a really helpful video that gives an extra bit of guidance that I didn't know I needed.
one thing I wish everyone understood is every situation you are in, you were meant to go through, you were meant to survive it, because the person you become when you make it out of that situation is worth every second, never give up.
As a 14 year old, coming out of childhood when you still act like a child and have childish interests has been externally hard for me. Ever since I was 8 years old I had this gigantic fear of growing up, I am still trying to figure out why I was and still am so afraid of it, but I just really suck at handling change. I don’t try and take things personally but sometimes I can’t help it and I get hurt easily, I’m just a sensitive person I guess. Change has just been one of those things that holds me back from so much in life but I wanted to say thanks for helping us kids out.
watching this while im strugging a lot at the moment, really helps a lot. I was doing great but yea starting 16, everything is just downhill, some upsides but most downhill. Thank you for making this vid. My advice is that choosing urself over anyone else is not selfish, more like ur making a favour for urself. everyone needs a recharge once in a while.
I try and be nice to people and I be myself but some people just piss me off they are so rude and always negative. If you're going to feel negative than say nothing at all. Either that or talk to someone cause we all know what that's like.
Currently 16, almost turning 17 and If you feel like he just said, yeah I'm feeling like that too, so you're not alone, and hearing this makes me feel like maybe it's rlly just some weird life phase that I will get through, you can get through it too, remember to SPEAK UP, speak with your parents, family, friends, or maybe a mental health professional if you can just speak up, you're not alone, you can get through whatever is happening rn, sending lots of love to everyone out there may you guys have better days coming up and god be with you at all times ❤
i’m a teenager, but I also play hockey used to beat myself up every single time I mess up and so with my dad like he just got disappointed in me and I got really disappointed myself. I’m still kind of overcoming that I’m not gonna be the best but I still have to try it because I love this sport I struggle with a minor academic struggle. I have dyslexia, and I’ve been pitied most of my life for example, I’m a high honor roll student and I find myself being very discouraged when I don’t succeed as high
I think I’ll always feel alone, not just at this age. I actually come across as quite social and enthusiastic, but deep down I know my own voice is drowned out when I’m around other people. It’s very boring to me. I want to be around people I could talk about philosophy and my feelings and perspective on the world with, not just shallow conversations appropriate for high school social settings. And quite blatantly, people my age just do not feel and think and as much as one should, there’s a sense of disjoint between how much they’re- at least I am, taking in of the world and how little of it is processed and made into perceptions. I think they’re scared to care.
Thank you! I'm a teen with no friends at the moment and this really was for me :) I'll answer the last question you asked. For me, at times, I'm happy, it could be because I accomplished something, or am genuinely in a good mood a day, but am alone as my parents work, and I don't have friends. I don't go out, but I have hobbies and interests so that's kind of why :)
Nobody truly likes me. I think I have a good personality and I am pretty kind to others. However, people never go up to me and when I go up to others they are just uncomfortable. Every crush I have had, has led to disappointment. I don’t think I am that ugly, people just treat me like it. Any advice?
Damn i'm struggulig with the same thing People always complimented me on my looks. Others say i am decent i am somewhat pretty... yet. I make the ones i love uncomfortable and all my crushed flopped... I would love to talk if you are up to it. On any platform you are the most comfy with
What I would give to tell myself when I'm older and looking back is to not worry about others. It's keeping you down and don't let them force their beliefs on you and make you feel like you have no voice
I’m only 14 years old and always asking myself if I need to fulfill wishes of other people or my wishes, I can’t really describe it. But this Video made me realise that sometimes it is good to be alone and to set focus on myself and my wellbeing. I’m really thankful to have realised that and slowly trying to find a balance between my goals and me.
thank you, I randomly saw this video and thought 'why not' and i am tryna figure out myself after trauma which is still going on but I am healing and some of these 'lessons' will stick with me, thank you, I appreciate people like you ^^
See, personally, as a teenager, I can relate to the fact that I feel alone. But I am not unhappy. And I think the reason for that is because the feeling of being alone is what's making me who I am. In an odd way, the void of alone helps me build my independence and my individuality.❤
I didn't search for this video and rn I am very happy about my life but I have to say that I think, I just fell in love. How calmly you express everything is just so relaxing and even though I don't have any problems with myself (now), I still feel understood. Thank you very much ❤
I was watching this video when he started talking about "are we feeling alone?" and out of nowhere my eyes got all watery and i started crying. But after crying my heart out i feel like i have let out all the problems all the things i went through last year and i feel better not totally but i feel a slight change after expressing my emotions. Thank you so much for making this video
In the past year, I have gone through some things a few teenagers could relate to, and I honestly thought that wouldn't be able to be like I used to before. Everyday I feel more vulnerable and lonely, and I had a really bad day yesterday. It's almost 4 am, and, I know, nothing good happens after 2 am, but this video is an just an exception. I just want thank you a LOT for this, because it REALLY came in the rightest time possible.
The way I'm watching this at 2:28 AM and just got told to go to bed made it clear to me how much i need to get back on track with my life. I'm doing homework after its supposed to be due at 2 AM.I am fixing my life this week
As a sixteen year old ...I guess I am kind of scared. I don't have many friends and often stay to myself but, I don't want to be like this forever. I love my family especially my brothers. This video reminds my of my mother trying to guide me correctly 😊
As a struggling 14yr this video helped me lift up my worries since I've been in rough troubles and This really hit the spot that I need healing and improvements. Ive realized being worried and hogging regrets from the pastt wont make u move forward It keeps u to yourcomfortzone and miss opportunities in life just because u are scared to let go and try. Speaking for the adolescents, we need more encouraging advices like this :))!
I am 66-years-old now. As I look back to fifty years ago, I was content-not happy, more on that in a moment-doing my own thing: did my homework on my own without parental supervision; took solo piano lessons; did well in speech contests and sometimes school plays. Re: happiness; like sadness it comes and goes, so I strive to be content. Wish I knew that fifty years ago. But in high school I was also pressured to be like my next oldest brother who, it turns out, peaked in high school. I regret that pressure.
I am 16 and it does feel like my life is over. Thank you for making me believe it isn't. This video was comforting in ways that I cannot even explain. Thank you so much for this.
I think that Because of depression teenagers often neglect their academics, show signs of shyness and remain isolated from society from which their social life suffers a lot , so we should always help them at this age as friends , parents etc...
I wish I had found you earlier. Seriously, the loneliness is real and the period of time I was deluded about having many friends is huge. The moment of realization was terrible. Also, I found about ADHD way after having its symptoms. The point where I couldn't find out what was wrong with me and why I wasn't the nerdy and happy person anymore was destroying. I'm going to get a diagnosis soon but now that I introspect and talk to myself and understand myself more, it's easier. I think I learnt most of the things on my own rather than getting a detailed lecture from elders. I know there are tons of people out there like me but hopefully these videos reach them for good. Thank you!
I'm still a teenager but one of the biggest pieces of advice anyone has ever given me is to put myself out there and to believe that you are good enough. I have trouble loving myself after years of being bullied but I've been getting better every day. You can never ever say the wrong thing to the right person. One mistake or chance cannot destroy your life. Only your negative mindset and acceptance of that failure can ruin things. That Dr. Seuss quote is super relevant. "Be who you are and say what you feel for those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Tell that person you like them, sign up for that club, and work harder on the things you love. All this time is still going to pass whether you do something great or not. Either you're going to be 25 years old with the life you always wanted or 25 years old still waiting for things to happen.
i don't know why i am leaving this comment but hi all the teenagers plz don't waste your time, your energy over some girl or boy ,you have hundred ways to enjoy life ,life is short so find happiness in little things trust me you will never stuck puzzled in life!
the thing about being alone but not being unhappy is that over time you get so alone that you develop something like a tolerance to being alone. its not the best situation but you've cried and felt bad about it so many times that it just doesnt affect you as much anymore
I hope u know how much u help teenagers with your videos and you just being you. as a teen who doesn't know were life is taking her right now its good to have somewhere i can come back to just learn and be happy. so thk you
I'm 18 years old and this video is so wholesome, the vibe and the peace I need in my life, I thought I was the only one in my friend group who is not experiencing overthinking, but lately, I do overthink, but I realized IT'S ONLY ME VS ME. all the scenarios in my head that is something bad is going to happen or what would happen if things go wrong, it's only up there in my head, I think I should focus more on the present and try to do my best, and I'm grateful that I realized it now to the person reading this I don't know if you can understand me but I hope you are doing ok ♥♥ FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
I'm here in the point of my life, struggling to do the things i should be doing and yet choose to do the things inside the box. But thanks to this video it made me realize that i am a fool for limiting myself. I couldn't bear anylonger my self-limiting behaviour i want to change and try new things.
i belive that even tho we feel alone , we can still be happy , because we dont feel lonely . I think thats the most important thing to do as a teen , to be alone , not to be sad or overthinking, but to find yourself , not the carrer you want to porsue latter, not a way to figure your life, because bad news you cant figure out life at 14-19, but find youserlf , how you are ,what you like , find hobbies.... I realized that at 15 (im 17 now), that you are your best companie because no one is going to understand you more than you. and to the teens younger or older than me having "life destroyers" problems , dont worry is not that deep , its gonna get worse , but thats a good thing because it means that your getting stronger and better, because thats what life is all about, have problems ,solve problems and overtake problems , and then reapeat the cicle whit a worst problem, so those life ending problems you have now , you gonna look to theme five years from now and laugh, beacause it also gets easier ( the problems get worse but you get better at solving and overtaking themes) So dont worry is never as bad as you think it is , and is never as good as you think its is
you have no clue how comforting of a person you are to a teenager who is currently in her room feeling like her life is falling apart. thank you.
well I’m glad this found you but you’re not falling apart - you’re growing
Yooo I’m also a teenager trying to keep my life together. I believe in you! Keep going and everything will be alright
@@musicfromvenus i appreciate it
Thank for this video and I really want to ask how to make this plan in the age of 16 when u don’t have much exp for it
He's so comforting
I never want to be depressed again, never want to feel alone again. I want to be mentally stable, I am working on it and I’ve came so far.
I changed my routines, I stepped out of my comfort zone, I do my homework and I care about how my room looks now. My hobbies are so social, me a year ago would be amazed
@@ekyx_ proud of you!!
@@sageeeE3eeEEe3eeeeEeee3eeeeeee tysm:)
Keep it up, mate!
Im still stuck in that hole brother
"nothing good ever happens after 2 am"
ur right. i finally stopped balling my eyes out around 1;48 and now it's 2;14 and I'm balling my eyes out again
I hope you’re doing better
Oh my god, this is like, so for real. So many times during the past couple years I was still up after 2 am and that’s when all the bad stuff happens. I got grounded for two months (don’t ask) at exactly 2:01 am, I lost the “love of my live” (I’m better off without that bastard) at 2:30, my favorite uncle died and I got THAT phone call at 2:05, and I failed (still don’t know how; was I tired or something?) a very important school test and got the message to retake it at, you guessed it, 2:02. And that’s why go to bed after 2 am, you won’t regret it,
I mean when you guys cannot cheer up another person - then don't even try to make them feel that this "Nothing good happens after 2am" is just useless??
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
@@skzenhabts07 that's the time I start hallucinating for not sleeping
My advice:
1. Starting over isn’t a bad thing; sometimes it’s just the thing you need in life
2. It’s not that deep, let shit go, don’t take things so personally
3. Make an effort for those who you truly care about and they will hopefully make an effort back
1. Starting over is something I have to do on compulsion without a choice and it takes up a lot of time. But really, if the journey I’m on doesn’t go my way, I will just start over. If only I could start over everything, I’d start over 2023, greatest year of my life.
2. I agree with 2 so much. It so god damn annoying when people don’t let it go, if I can’t get someone to let something go, I will leave them until they do. People need to stop taking things so damn personally.
3. I do, otherwise I’d be an annoying npc
i absolutely love this
2nd one hurt me, because it is deep and no one seems to actually understand
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
I feel like I can't start over just because I tryed to before
I know that I can start over for unlimited times but bruh my mind want me to stay in my comfort zone that it's not comfortable at all 🗿
I am at a point in my life where I have realized being a teen is so beautiful. And I’ve gone through so many things, but in the end, it’s all so worth it and this was so great hearing because seeing someone older than me reflect on life like this just makes me want to keep going even more. Thank you for sharing this and all your other work with the world
It truly is beautiful! We adapt and change through so many hard circumstances and it is really remarkable
@@joeykidneyI think its horrible (i'm 13)
@@maiaevayeah true😢
@@maiaevaI used to think it was horrible at your age too. But I am 18 now, and I’ve realized it really is beautiful. Give it time. Things do get better, I promise.
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
This is why we need social media. So many bad things happen but these videos make the internet better. I’m almost 13 and I started crying while watching this because it hit so close to my heart. This past year has been very difficult for me and I’m glad know that I’m not the only one struggling.
Hi,I'm a thirteen year old girl too,but seriously,me going through hard times as a teenager,I always felt it was a personal problem and I was the only one facing that ,and also to you ,know that you are not alone
they only recommend yt, not the social media like tiktok, snap, fb and insta its overstimulation app and it's only ruining our life
I totally relate I am in a very interesting stage in my life right now where I am trying to control my outbursts that I have and I feel so belittled by the smallest things and trying to contain that is very hard but my progress with wanting to say something about being belittled or feel like having a outburst has made progress like my parents made fun of me for my 'g' (I'm not the best writer) and I say I did try and My mom just laughs and says "no you didn't" they did mean it as a joke but i didnt find it funny (my mom has the worst timing) but hey i didnt start anything i just told myself i have made progress with my handwriting (i truly have) and just kind of let it go.
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@imsorry364 yes we will get through this!
Thank you. As a teen with no friends and no real hobbies or interests, I question every day whether this is worth it. It means a lot to hear that things get better, even if I can’t fully believe it now.
Whatever you're doing or just trying,keep going! Maybe you'll notice yomeday that you don't like sth anymore. But just try out new things, it'll pay off andthereis actually a high chance of a) finding friends who are like you and/or b) findding a passion
A year ago I was like you too don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at that time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
every day is a miracle remember~
always have a gratitude !~
this hit home... can relate
@ziadsamarjcaji6707 can you share some tips to balance all of that
As a teenager who is going through it right now: this helped. Thank you
PS: most things after 2am are bad, but I think staying up late laying next to my best friend and talking about stuff is an exception
That's true!
talking with someone you feel close to is always an exception, especially if you really need to let some things out and talk about them with someone :)
Points taken
- Stop living on hope and be more present
Being a teen feels like molting caterpillars
A Really basic contrast but it makes sense
You are born devoid of any feeling , then you expose yourself to everything around you , wherein you accumulate a lot of feelings and thoughts
Then it gets so mentally tormenting -you distance yourself and find yourself away from everything
Trying to figure out what this feeling is
While going through these dark days , worried about what's ahead and left behind
All of this , just to reach the ultimatum where you finally figure out this feeling's
Which ....sure does take time
You are reborn again as a new person
LIFE'S BEAUTIFUL
I love how you took notes 🥲
Thank you for this!! I am a teen going true the teen things, like choosing a career, finding a job, friendships, confusions, anger, not knowing how to handle stuff. This gave me the peace of mind that maybe evrithing will be okay and I will get there.
Oh my gosh it can seem so daunting but I hope this video puts some things into perspective for you and allows you to look at it from a different angle. My video next week speaks even more on that
If you want a career do something your interested in and whatever happens it is what it is
When I was 16 I thought it was the end. I got help and started therapy. I promise if youre under 18 it gets better. It really does when you are an adult. The world changes and life opens up more as you get older. Be good to yourself and others. Every storm runs out of rain.
Also you are young and don't settle or tolerate bad behaviour from people. Do not tolerate a shitty partner or best friend because they are all you have. It is better to be alone than with bad company. You will grow and find people who will treat you better and align with you more. When you get that bad feeling you need to listen to it. ALso if your friends and parents do not like someone in your life they are usually right.
I never knew that a RUclips video could help me so much, I’m a 15year old teenage girl and I dream so big in my sport and I hope to go to the Olympics, but when you said “a dream isn’t good enough ,action needs to be present” that touched me!
I hope you’ll make it and I hope you have all the support you need! Being supported in your age is the most important thing I think.
@@Biker_Johnny86 thank you so much I appreciate this
Wishing you luck! Hope to hear your name of tv one day 😊♥️
@@thatfriendlystranger_777 THANKSSSS
I am a teenager. I did definitely need this, as im not even a legal adult yet and in 3 years ive lost my grandmother and my mother and am now living alone.. this gave me a little hope
Being alone and being unhappy is an interesting question.
For me, I had friends, I had fun, I was happy 85% of the time because I was with them. But whenever I was allowed to really think about it, my relationships were shallow and wouldn’t last past graduation. I guess there was just this suspension of disbelief, between reality and keeping myself afloat. Believing that this was real and long lasting kept me alive, so it was okay for that short amount of time to wear rose-colored glasses. At least that’s what I think it was looking back from nineteen.
Joey, can I just say: thank you for everything you’re doing. You are so talented and I just love everything you write/film/do. Thank you for making my life a little bit brighter!
this made my day :) thank you so much
couldn't agree more!
Hi! I just recently turned 17 and i've been feeling a little overwhelmed about the adult life ahead of me. I've always been an anxious kid growing up and am still struggling to be my own authentic self (whatever that means). I can only hope that I get to be "good enough" for myself. Thank u for this vid, i really needed to hear these things. ❤❤
I hear you! and even though I may not know you personally, I do know that right away you are good enough. You are here. And that is good enough
I turned 17 recently too! I really thought life was over at this point… it seems I was wrong, this video was everything, is amazing
I'm not a teenager (28) ,but I'm watching for my inner teenager who had no one to give her advice at that time
I am 21 and pretty behind in college. While many people would be completing college by age 22, I just started. Does finishing college later matters that much? I'm very anxious about my age and I would be 23-24 when I will finish my college
Hey 😗
17 year old here👋 I do feel alone, but I don't mind it. I have always liked being alone, and feel comfortable in my own company. Yes I feel alone, but not lonely. I would say that I am generally happy, and very thankfull for that. This video inspired me to go do my homework, so I'll do that now😅
Hey. I’m 17, and I searched for this video because I don’t want to waste my teenage years. I want to go out at night and hang out with friends and live my life like a movie and actually have memories I want to be proud of. All I am allowed to do right now is go to school and go home, occasionally a family event, but that’s it, because I’m a girl, and my moms afraid of anything happening. I’ve always heard “your life isn’t over when you’re a teenager”, but, the way you talked about it, the way you explained recently how I was feeling, it made me cry. To know that someone understands and that I’m not alone is like a small sliver of hope. Thank you.
Entering my teens right now. I've got some childhood trauma, horrible mental health and puberty behind me. Getting a fresh start at a new school next year, and i think my teenage years might be some of the best years of my life. One of the rarest occasions, fulfillment, has been blooming in my life recently, i want to finally be happy and mentally stable. I'm getting closer to my family, i reunited with a friend last year, got a autism diagnosis and am finally starting to be more confident. It feels like my life is falling into place. I finally don't feel bullied, abandonded, insecure, neglected or pushed to the sidelines. I might still be lonely, but i'm used to it, loneliness was a part of my whole childhood.
its 2 am and im going straight to bed. Thank you joey. you made a difference for me today, lets just say i was at my lowest and you just made me go to bed which is what i need.
I'm a teen who didn't know I needed this. I didn't search for this but I'm glad I saw it and decided to watch it. I'm not entirely sure why, but I felt quite emotional watching this. Maybe it's because I feel like I'm alone even though I know that I'm not, and now I know that I am not the only person to feel like this. I don't know. I suppose this video was comforting in a way. Thank you.
Well I’m glad you’re here and stumbled upon this video
i can relate to u so much, I feel that im alone but i am not, it is just so confusing
This video couldn’t have come at a better time, for me. I’m nineteen years old, and the passing of time has always been something that’s scared me to my core. I don’t think I’m afraid of age, but I’m afraid of what comes with it. I turn 20 later this year, and I’ve truly.. been dreading it. My teenage years were not easy, and I think more than anybody, I can understand and empathize with people who feel- specifically- alone. I’ve gotten a lot of takes from the people in my life telling me that my twenties will be even harder than my teenage years. Obviously I can’t know what will happen, nobody can, but the anxiety and overthinking about it has made me paralyzed with fear. And that is THE worst thing you can do in the face of fear. Just yesterday night I was up, (past 2 am, I know I know-) but not on my phone, or on the internet.. I was stuck in my head. And the first video I see afterwards is a video about a man I’ve never even met, somehow.. making me feel just a little less alone. Even if he’s just stating factual information, I don’t know. It helped. I don’t claim to be some kind of emotional wizard, half the time I don’t even know WHAT I’m feeling, and I don’t know how to explain some of the emotional reactions I have to seemingly mundane things. But regardless, thanks for making this video. No, really. Thank you. It helped.
20 year old here! Let me tell you, I´m happier than I´ve been in a long while. I often look back to when i was 16-18 and go "damn, how the hell did I survive that?". It sounds dramatic, but my "teens" were geniunely a really bad time for me. I put teens between speech marks because surprisingly, now that im 20, it feels like im truly getting to "live my teen years". I finally have friends i can hang out with, I can finally enjoy doing what I like with much less pressure of people judging me. Time isn´t linear for many, and that´s fine, im tired of people pretending everyone´s experience is the same. Im tired of people saying "live your teen years", knowing damn well many of us just... can´t, or couldn´t, and acting as if there´ll never be a chance to be happy after 18. But there is! There´s many more opportunities to enjoy your life and be happy.
I'm 19 too but honestly teen years were my worst years and i never ever want to live them again. So much anxiety and overthinking..now that I'll be turing 20 i feel I'm more matured and as the reply before me says i feel like im living my teen years..I'm happy and more secure...
This 8-minute video appeared on my recommendation here in youtube after the days that I was feeling so much inside because of academics and personal problems. I find this very comforting and knowledgeable because these life lessons is something that I will look back and reflect. I'm still a teenager and I know that there are more things I will learn and experience in this world so, I thank you for this beautiful message.
i’m 21 now and about to finish up my junior year of college, and i wish i had had this video when i was in high school. these things are even going to help
my life now and for that im so grateful! stay you joey💗
One advise if give my teen self is (I’m 17 almost 18) don’t get into that toxic relationship don’t enter a relationship at all enjoy your years as a teen ur young don’t stress yourself w those things even if u feel felt out bc all ur friends are dating but ur not it’s okay just pls I’m begging u make lots of friends n try new hobbies n try to make as much memory as u can
Hi, I am 15. Going through a tough phase right now. Just teens things. But, after watching this video, I get to know that we are not alone. We all have to suffer at some point. As far as the loneliness is concerned, seeing my peers getting friends, hangouts, love things or what, I never feel I belong there. Nevertheless, with the passage of time I learn that of course we all are unique. I should be trying to fit in a bunch of something where I shouldn't be wasting my time. That's why I am addicted to be a happy loner right now. Besides, I am just average in everything. Not looker girl. This sucks. But, I have to live my life just the way I am. Still fighting. :)
I put this as background noise while i was drowning in my own thoughts i wasnt even paying attention then i suddenly heard "everyone thinks their life is over at 16" i stopped and began to cry. I felt ike someone finally heard me. I dont trust my friends anymore and my parents think little of my struggles so i feel like i dont have someone to confide in. Im 17 right now turning 18 i still havent gone out of this dark place, but hearing that im not alone and someone out there has understood and experienced what i feel, i feel a bit of hope.
I am 17 and looking forward to adult life, having a job , being more busy doesn't seem as bad compared to my school. I was so miserable during school. No one to talk to , no friends to hang out with and everything else, atleast when I am an adult I have the liberty to travel , hook up, achieve my goals and make my family proud. I am already tired of this world but I ll be busier and free in my adult life.
I am a teen rn and the happiness x alone part kinda hit home because I realized I do feel alone not all the time but enough where it doesn't feel great but I learned that the solution for me at least is to be content with yourself as you are when you are alone its ok to be alone everyone is alone at some point and you don't always have to be doing something I think loneliness is just part of growing up and learning to live with that is part of it and instead of centering yourself around the idea that you are alone remembering that being alone isn't a defining trait idk i just feel like if you learn to accept being lonely as part of life then it helps you focus less on it and enjoy other aspects of life more
I'm at the point where things seem to be piling up. I'm 17 and starting to balance athletics, academics, work, relationships, and personal hobbies more than ever before, while keeping my outlook positive during the offseason for my sport. I believe I put I feel alone on your survey, but that I was/am happy as a teen. I would say this is because while there is no one who completely understands me, I have stepped more into my own, and the people I surround myself and actually talk to is a smaller group. however those relationships are more meaningful, and I am more content to work in silence and be alone if no one is going to be there for me.
I'm 17 too and have felt that way as well recently. I feel like after a while of feeling lonely I just needed to move on, especially with everything else that's going on.
@@user-ze8fr9wq1t I agree. Was there a specific thing that helped you move on, or a specific moment that made you realize it was time to move on?
I believe it can be a fine line between isolating yourself and putting yourself first sometimes. I've found a certain beauty in quiet moments, and a beauty in simple moments with those I care about.
I've become more at peace with me being on my journey, and become more at peace with not trying and force things to come to pass. Is it lonely? At times absolutely. But I've also realized that if you put your purpose and passion first, show genuine care are respect towards others, aren't afraid to mess up a few times, and respect yourself, then you'll come into contact with good people sooner or later.
yes i also feel that way too
I'm 16 and I am exaclty trying my best to do all those things you mentioned in your comment 😭😭
I am almost 14 years old and am struggling with loving myself. But this video really helped me to realize that I don't need to be perfect, I just need to be me. If people don't like the way that I am, that is their problem, not mine. Thank you so much for encouraging me!
I wish I could understand to I'm 14 by bf broke up with me and now is dating my ex bff and all my friends left me and I'm trying to get back with my ex bf cuz she dumped him but I feel bad cuz idk how to ask him fir the 12th time to get back with me and he'd 15 so idk💔💔💔
I'm a teenager, that a lot of people in my school look up to and come for advice, but I am not perfect, and I also have some problems I'm facing, it's kind of hard to set aside everything you are going through to comfort someone going through a fraction of what you're experiencing. I am trying to learn a bit of psychology, and be a good role model for all, so I hope everyone acknowledges that whoever you go to as your problem solver has problems to solve of their own.
Im a teenager and enjoy life a lot! I know what job I wanna do when im older. Im doing good in school. Im learning things that I need to learn for my future job, and im really just living. I love it.
idk why i cried at the end
i really wanna thank you for touching our exact feelings and giving us a chance to shine.
I truly appreciate that this wasn’t advice on the things people tell you not to do, like bullying, or staying away from relationships when you’re so young. And this was actually just how to treat yourself the right way, with respect for yourself, and that will naturally lead to you being a better person later in life, and to those around you. I heard a quote the other day: treat yourself how you would treat your child. You wouldn’t let your child go to bed at 2:00 am, or let them eat bad food, or make bad relationships. You would be kind to them and love them no matter what!
I do know that this channel will never be what not to do because that never helped me as a kid. The best pieces of advice I related to growing up were things to do in order to help me change that negative path so that is my goal on this channel
Thanks for this video, i know im not the only one who would like to see more of these. To answer your question, im an 18 teen. I was happy even though i felt alone because i appreciated solitude. It helped me think, it helped me do things, it helped me grow! I dont think being alone only leads to crisis, it’s refreshing!
As a 18 years old teenager, I think being alone doesn't mean you can't be happy. For me, feeling alone does not mean having no friends or you spent more time with yourself. I think this feeling of being alone comes from the fact: You are alone. No one can help. They can only give you advice. In the end, you are the one who makes the decision (for example, which relationships are worth the effort, what carrier is the right one for me, taking your exams).
For me personally, this means being alone. You grow into a person who is able to make decisions for yourself. Yes, it is hard. And I think every teen is afraid of the future, but this video helped to see beonde the age of 18~20 and relax a little. So, thanks. And for everyone who just entered their teens, my advice: put your phone away when you are out with your friends
Thank you , I turned 16 like 3 months ago.
I've been growing through a hard time 'for me' lately and yeah hopefully will get better after this.
I just had a breakup yesterday and as a teen, I look to your videos for comfort. Thank you so much!
I am a Teenager myself (just 14, in fact) and I just realised how good I feel. I dont feel alone, I am happy, I care about myself... but only after someone did it first. Luckily he started at 17 years old and I began to take care of myself - working out, journaling, being myself and doing what I love - at just 13. I am so thankful for that and this person. And the tips at the end are the thongs I am working on right now, like not overthnking and waiting patiently, being myself and stop caring about others. You guys can all do it, at any age
Same
wow, when i saw this thumbnail and title in my recommended, the memory of seeing your face on my screen 10 years ago - when we were teenagers - really hit me. time was flat for a second. feeling the comradery in the realization that we (as a generation) are the new adults. Glad to see you're still here!
Joey, I just became a Teenager few days ago so I think this piece of advice is going to help me so much throughout my Teenage Years. Thank you for all the effort you put in all your videos, they are very inspiring and help us to learn something to change our life.
Happy belated birthday and welcome to the life changing years :)
@@joeykidney Thank you 😊
This video really hit. I’m 17 currently and only a few months ago I was diagnosed with ADHD after so long of struggling. Throughout my life I had thought there was no excuse for not listening or getting distracted or being really impulsive or acting in a way that was perceived by others as “weird”. Now that I understand myself better and I know that it’s an executive dysfunction and not a moral failing, I don’t feel as much need to hide myself and mask my struggles, but I still have this voice in my head saying that I need to be “perfect”. There’s a voice saying life would be so much better if I was just “perfect”. I still have this perfectionism as a result of my undiagnosed ADHD, but with progression, I believe I can be kinder to myself and take back control (with the help of strategy and medication) - it would be a massive help if society understood us more and had more sympathy though.
As for my happiness and everything I’m going through? Everything you listed on this video. I’m not happy and I’m not going to pretend that I am. Sure, one or two notable amazing things have happened to me recently, and believe me I do not take them for granted, but even the tiniest of things affect me so much and, yes, I am miserable a lot. But I believe that I can be happier. This state of mind is not set in stone. Giving up will only leave me with no chance of improving, which is why it’s important to keep going. I also believe that one of the best things you can do is talk. A lot of people, regardless of age, but particularly young men and teenage boys, don’t talk about how they’re feeling. It’s important to talk - talking takes the weight off your shoulders and the people in your life can help you carry that weight until you can finally let it go, or become stronger, or both! There will always be people in life that support you and care for you. Talking about your issues is one of the strongest things you can do and being there for others is one of the most noble and kind hearted things you can do. Be sure to look out for others, but don’t do the mistake that I’m trying to reverse of neglecting yourself. At the end of the day, it’s your life and you need to be there to make sure that your quality of life is the best it can be. Be kind, reach out, you only get one life - don’t waste it.
I’d also like to say, your mistakes don’t define you. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE makes mistakes. It’s how we learn! If you make a mistake and you feel bad or embarrassed afterwards, that just goes to show how good of a person you are. That just goes to show that you’re a good person who never meant any harm, and you should appreciate that. Your morals are good. You are good. I’ve been making countless little mistakes recently and really beating myself up over them - don’t do that, it doesn’t help, instead say to yourself; “I’ve made a mistake,” or, “I’ve made multiple mistakes” then say “I have regrets, I have had bad moments, but so has every other human being on this planet. Even the ones that I perceive as “perfect”. Everybody feels this way, but the fact that I feel bad about these things shows that I am a good person. I forgive myself, I love myself, and I will grow from this to become the best version of myself.”
I’m just a stranger on the internet, but if you’re still reading this comment, thank you lol, but know that I love you. I don’t know who you are, what you’re going through, but you’re doing well. That’s an understatement, you’re doing exceptional. I’m proud of you and all you’ve achieved. You’re hard on yourself because you want to be better, instead, try giving yourself step by step goals to aspire to achieve. You’re a special and worthy person and you’re worth all the happiness in the world. You’re never alone in what you’re feeling. Don’t over-analyse everything - some things aren’t meant to be deep. Don’t overthink everything. You’re beautiful and you only have one life - so live it to the fullest, you’ll thank yourself later. I love you ❤❤
Thank you for making this video, Joey. You’ve brought us together and that is a special thing. Your advice will be taken into account and you are a great person for it. Thank you 🧡🧡
Reading this made me really smile, were the same age and I'll be rooting for you too. I hope that you'll be able to tell the same thing to your self as well ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Damn reading the whole thing left me with tears in my eyes. This is really sweet.
Thank you for commenting and continuing with your shared beauty to the world.
I am also 17 which is something i never imagined i would get to. (I was very suicidal well it sometimes feels like since i was born)
I have a feeling i want to continue with life since i had never even lived it to say i want to die. Anyway thank you i hope everything us far better for you now. And good luck on your journey
I am in my 20s and I feel stuck..... I just want to rest for a long period of time.... I am tired of working hard and expecting that life would change..... Now I just want to relax and want life to give me some rewards..... If you are going through the same then you are not alone kids
(For me about not finding your interests and no talents nor hobbies)don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at this time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
Well I am 18 and my best friend always tells me to give my best in everything not to try to be perfect but to be good enough and actually this helped me a lot :) So thank you for you video it was an amazing content 😌
your best friend has really good advice 😉
im turning 20 next month and man this video is honestly really great for me. i appreciate your advice. every teen can benefit from this video. keep up the great work!
Welcome to the young adult years my friend! I appreciate you for being here
maybe the reason of us being alone doesn't translate to being unhappy is because for me, I have tons of people who care for me and those that I share alot of fun and precious memories with, but being vulnerable with them about be it my suffering or feelings is so hard, that I end up feeling that they won't truly understand it, making me feel alone at the end of the day. It's so cool to not care and be cold nowadays that opening up to anyone around you (parents wouldn't ever get it) about even the smallest things affect you or how deeply you feel, they don't resonate at all with it. ^^ One of the reason why I love the safe and comforting place you've created on the internet for so many of us.
Wow that is a good perspective on it
One piece of advice that i would give to every teenager out there and even me is that.... Be true to yourself.
I am at a point of my life where i am changing mentally, socially, academically and i know it. But this change is not so easy, all my friends fell out and i am alone. But that doesn't makes me miserable because as much as people hate to be "alone" ,being alone doesn't equates to being unhappy. Remember that, you have a right to live your life to the fullest no matter people are with you or not. And, Remember
"you being alone today does not means that you will remain alone forever. "
Thank you, thank you so much. I never were so close to cry several times cause a video. I passed so much time breaking my head trying to be perfect for me and for everyone and I don’t have to be perfect, I have to be good enough.
thank you for making this video. i wish i saw this when i saw teen, i think it would help me a lot. on that note i hope it helps someone who is teen right now
my answer yo your question:
being alone doesn't mean that you're unhappy. why?
well, this is because happiness is always determined by your heart. its a Japanese quote I read in a book. its not about where you are or who you are or what you're doing that make you unhappy, its about what you make of it. I can't lie, I was once in a position where I felt like it couldn't get better but I realized that I was too drowned in the comfort of this struggling, and being happy felt like a privilege. taking time to learn things about yourself, understand yourself, LOVE yourself is extremely important. for me, i think the meaning of life is enjoying it. am i saying that once you work on yourself you won't have bad days? no. am I saying that you'll never feel like you can't do it anymore? no. what i'm simply saying is to find happiness in YOURSELF. because at the end of the day, you'll only have yourself. i've made some big, BIG mistakes in my life but was it the end of the world? no, instead they were the beginning of a journey.
I think you get the message now. I'm proud to say that i have found happiness at the age of 16, and until i turn 18, i know it will stay the same.
I'm turning 17 this year, and I know the goals i have for myself are in my grasp :)
I have been following you since 2019, I was 18 then. I started watching your videos on youtube and now also love listening to your podcasts and following you on Instagram.
Your content really helped me a lot in the last couple of years. So I just wanted to say thank you! 💖
Wow thank you for joining me on this journey!
I keep saying myself and others ,,I’m okay”. But literally right now I started crying after this one question. ,,How are you doing?”
thank you for this video. I'm 16 and this video hits my heart. Thank you again for this.
thank you for being here
the way I started bursting out crying because of how comforting this is, is insane. as a teenager currently rethinking about life, this is absolutely amazing. thank you so much, words can’t describe.
I'm 18 and will turn 19 in May, I feel so lost, failed my entrance exams, and lost the love of my life 2 days ago, I feel broken, and depressed, like nothing good is going to happen to me... Ik we had no other choice, I'll never blame her for breaking up, and neither can I blame myself cuz whatever happened, happened due to some unfavourable circumstances... I still love her, and ik she feels the same. But, it's time for us to move on, but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do that, I feel like I've lost the most precious part of my life, my life revolved around her, and now that time we took out for each other feels like a void, it's as if my heart is asking me " Hey, isn't it time for her to call? Why aren't you calling and checking up on her? Why isn't she mad at you for not calling?"... My brain wants to move on but my heart wants to hold on, and ik I have to move on for both of us, cuz we both know if we text or call once, we won't ever be able to let go. It's tough, especially now that I have my 2nd entrance coming up soon. I'm totally unable to focus, her memories, our moments, and that beautiful face of hers, that is what I'm seeing as soon as I close my eyes. It's tough, I don't feel like eating or sleeping, and I also don't feel like offing myself cuz ik she would never want that. I'm totally lost and not sure about what I should do and how I should move on.
Out of all the videos I’ve watched this one is going to stick with me
“you’re watching this because you care.” Throughout all these videos I’ve seen it’s never been something I really stopped to consider.
Thank you.
I'm a teenager and I started crying when I watched half of this video I'm from taking medicine and I like I had get out or crying out my problems and stress for me to see the bright side even though my eyes and my Head are hurting so much I feel happy and more free than ever thanks for reading this and also live a life you want not others want you to live I hope you enjoyed my experience bye❤
As a teen, I’ve learned that there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. And it might just have more to do with the connotation of being alone. It can be seen as a bad thing to be alone, but Ive learned that being alone can be peaceful. This might just be the introvert in me, but being alone helps me have time to regulate my thoughts and do some self reflection. However, too much alone time has affected me negatively.So, in moderation, being alone can be a good thing.
This was an incredible video with a great ending, well done. Seems like you got a community full of great people too.
Nothing good ever happens after 2 AM. Life isn't over yet. You don't need to produce a perfect result right away, sometimes you just need to get it done. The best don't become the best with hope; A dream isn't good enough, action needs to be present. Stand up for yourself; Fight for what you believe in, especially if it affects you. Ask yourself how you are doing, talk to someone about it. Stop overthinking. Just be you and the right people will be in your life.
As a 14 yr old I will say I am happy and am living alone. Even if you grow up u will be alone even tho u are married and living happily there will be some point where u will have to go through alone. "Being alone is fine but not lonely". And if you think you are not having a great life then you should compare your life to those orphans and those kids with disastrous diseases and always be grateful for even lil things.
Im a teen rn. I really do feel alone sometimes, but im also homeschooled and everyone is different. In public school you have a lot more social interactions but homeschool doesnt have that. Thanks for this
I m 17, and I realized after going through so much that u can't change any situation but how u look at the situation. It's about your perspective. Life isn't bad afterall. Teenage life gives us so much experience and so much lessons that we will be needing further in our adulthood.
My 16 yr old self would be very happy to see how much i have improved myself, how much i learnt and still learning and how much I started to care about myself instead of hating myself.
To all the teens who are suffering - It's not the end. Learn to see world in diff perspective and watch how it changes your entire life. So keep going and never give up. And phone is not the main problem, but the way we use is the problem. So limit screen timing, sleep early, wake up early.
It's your life, live it fully and U aren't alone.
I find this really interesting as a teen, because I actually am listening to this after 2 am. This was supposed to be the last thing that I watched before bed, and I am really happy that I did. This is a really helpful video that gives an extra bit of guidance that I didn't know I needed.
For me, rowing has brought me happiness through working out, and improving. However, I still don't feel like I am really with people a lot.
one thing I wish everyone understood is every situation you are in, you were meant to go through, you were meant to survive it, because the person you become when you make it out of that situation is worth every second, never give up.
I'm 23 yo boy now. I wish I had someone telling me all of this when I was a teenager.
I want this video to be played in every high school on Earth ❤❤
even though this video came late to you in life - i am glad it found you
As a 14 year old, coming out of childhood when you still act like a child and have childish interests has been externally hard for me. Ever since I was 8 years old I had this gigantic fear of growing up, I am still trying to figure out why I was and still am so afraid of it, but I just really suck at handling change. I don’t try and take things personally but sometimes I can’t help it and I get hurt easily, I’m just a sensitive person I guess. Change has just been one of those things that holds me back from so much in life but I wanted to say thanks for helping us kids out.
You're still a child.
same, I'm 15 though...
You're still a child 😂
Trust me I'm 18 still feel , treated as kid 😂😂😂🔥✅
@@niravlogzz9622 ikr but we aren't treated as a child :(
watching this while im strugging a lot at the moment, really helps a lot. I was doing great but yea starting 16, everything is just downhill, some upsides but most downhill. Thank you for making this vid. My advice is that choosing urself over anyone else is not selfish, more like ur making a favour for urself. everyone needs a recharge once in a while.
I try and be nice to people and I be myself but some people just piss me off they are so rude and always negative. If you're going to feel negative than say nothing at all. Either that or talk to someone cause we all know what that's like.
Currently 16, almost turning 17 and If you feel like he just said, yeah I'm feeling like that too, so you're not alone, and hearing this makes me feel like maybe it's rlly just some weird life phase that I will get through, you can get through it too, remember to SPEAK UP, speak with your parents, family, friends, or maybe a mental health professional if you can just speak up, you're not alone, you can get through whatever is happening rn, sending lots of love to everyone out there may you guys have better days coming up and god be with you at all times ❤
i’m a teenager, but I also play hockey used to beat myself up every single time I mess up and so with my dad like he just got disappointed in me and I got really disappointed myself. I’m still kind of overcoming that I’m not gonna be the best but I still have to try it because I love this sport
I struggle with a minor academic struggle. I have dyslexia, and I’ve been pitied most of my life for example, I’m a high honor roll student and I find myself being very discouraged when I don’t succeed as high
I think I’ll always feel alone, not just at this age. I actually come across as quite social and enthusiastic, but deep down I know my own voice is drowned out when I’m around other people. It’s very boring to me. I want to be around people I could talk about philosophy and my feelings and perspective on the world with, not just shallow conversations appropriate for high school social settings. And quite blatantly, people my age just do not feel and think and as much as one should, there’s a sense of disjoint between how much they’re- at least I am, taking in of the world and how little of it is processed and made into perceptions. I think they’re scared to care.
So many good things have happened for me after 2 am I have built so many friendships and gotten into so many deep conversations after 2 am it works
Thank you! I'm a teen with no friends at the moment and this really was for me :)
I'll answer the last question you asked. For me, at times, I'm happy, it could be because I accomplished something, or am genuinely in a good mood a day, but am alone as my parents work, and I don't have friends. I don't go out, but I have hobbies and interests so that's kind of why :)
Nobody truly likes me. I think I have a good personality and I am pretty kind to others. However, people never go up to me and when I go up to others they are just uncomfortable. Every crush I have had, has led to disappointment. I don’t think I am that ugly, people just treat me like it. Any advice?
Damn i'm struggulig with the same thing
People always complimented me on my looks. Others say i am decent i am somewhat pretty... yet. I make the ones i love uncomfortable and all my crushed flopped...
I would love to talk if you are up to it. On any platform you are the most comfy with
I think maybe you should not let it bother you and accept being alone, if the people around you truly don’t see you for who you are.
What I would give to tell myself when I'm older and looking back is to not worry about others. It's keeping you down and don't let them force their beliefs on you and make you feel like you have no voice
I’m only 14 years old and always asking myself if I need to fulfill wishes of other people or my wishes, I can’t really describe it. But this Video made me realise that sometimes it is good to be alone and to set focus on myself and my wellbeing. I’m really thankful to have realised that and slowly trying to find a balance between my goals and me.
thank you, I randomly saw this video and thought 'why not' and i am tryna figure out myself after trauma which is still going on but I am healing and some of these 'lessons' will stick with me, thank you, I appreciate people like you ^^
I'm 15 and I'm going through a bunch of stuff, thank you for this :)
See, personally, as a teenager, I can relate to the fact that I feel alone. But I am not unhappy. And I think the reason for that is because the feeling of being alone is what's making me who I am. In an odd way, the void of alone helps me build my independence and my individuality.❤
I didn't search for this video and rn I am very happy about my life but I have to say that I think, I just fell in love.
How calmly you express everything is just so relaxing and even though I don't have any problems with myself (now), I still feel understood.
Thank you very much ❤
well even though you didn’t search for it - I am glad it found you and I am glad you are here
I was watching this video when he started talking about "are we feeling alone?" and out of nowhere my eyes got all watery and i started crying. But after crying my heart out i feel like i have let out all the problems all the things i went through last year and i feel better not totally but i feel a slight change after expressing my emotions. Thank you so much for making this video
In the past year, I have gone through some things a few teenagers could relate to, and I honestly thought that wouldn't be able to be like I used to before. Everyday I feel more vulnerable and lonely, and I had a really bad day yesterday. It's almost 4 am, and, I know, nothing good happens after 2 am, but this video is an just an exception. I just want thank you a LOT for this, because it REALLY came in the rightest time possible.
The way I'm watching this at 2:28 AM and just got told to go to bed made it clear to me how much i need to get back on track with my life. I'm doing homework after its supposed to be due at 2 AM.I am fixing my life this week
sometimes we need to have those 2am moments, sometimes they happen inevitably. But you are strong for what you have realized
As a sixteen year old ...I guess I am kind of scared. I don't have many friends and often stay to myself but, I don't want to be like this forever. I love my family especially my brothers. This video reminds my of my mother trying to guide me correctly 😊
As a struggling 14yr this video helped me lift up my worries since I've been in rough troubles and This really hit the spot that I need healing and improvements. Ive realized being worried and hogging regrets from the pastt wont make u move forward It keeps u to yourcomfortzone and miss opportunities in life just because u are scared to let go and try. Speaking for the adolescents, we need more encouraging advices like this :))!
I am 66-years-old now. As I look back to fifty years ago, I was content-not happy, more on that in a moment-doing my own thing: did my homework on my own without parental supervision; took solo piano lessons; did well in speech contests and sometimes school plays. Re: happiness; like sadness it comes and goes, so I strive to be content. Wish I knew that fifty years ago. But in high school I was also pressured to be like my next oldest brother who, it turns out, peaked in high school. I regret that pressure.
I am 16 and it does feel like my life is over. Thank you for making me believe it isn't. This video was comforting in ways that I cannot even explain. Thank you so much for this.
I think that Because of depression teenagers often neglect their academics, show signs of shyness and remain isolated from society from which their social life suffers a lot , so we should always help them at this age as friends , parents etc...
I wish I had found you earlier. Seriously, the loneliness is real and the period of time I was deluded about having many friends is huge. The moment of realization was terrible.
Also, I found about ADHD way after having its symptoms. The point where I couldn't find out what was wrong with me and why I wasn't the nerdy and happy person anymore was destroying. I'm going to get a diagnosis soon but now that I introspect and talk to myself and understand myself more, it's easier. I think I learnt most of the things on my own rather than getting a detailed lecture from elders. I know there are tons of people out there like me but hopefully these videos reach them for good. Thank you!
I'm still a teenager but one of the biggest pieces of advice anyone has ever given me is to put myself out there and to believe that you are good enough. I have trouble loving myself after years of being bullied but I've been getting better every day. You can never ever say the wrong thing to the right person. One mistake or chance cannot destroy your life. Only your negative mindset and acceptance of that failure can ruin things. That Dr. Seuss quote is super relevant. "Be who you are and say what you feel for those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Tell that person you like them, sign up for that club, and work harder on the things you love. All this time is still going to pass whether you do something great or not. Either you're going to be 25 years old with the life you always wanted or 25 years old still waiting for things to happen.
i don't know why i am leaving this comment but hi all the teenagers plz don't waste your time, your energy over some girl or boy ,you have hundred ways to enjoy life ,life is short so find happiness in little things trust me you will never stuck puzzled in life!
the thing about being alone but not being unhappy is that over time you get so alone that you develop something like a tolerance to being alone. its not the best situation but you've cried and felt bad about it so many times that it just doesnt affect you as much anymore
I hope u know how much u help teenagers with your videos and you just being you. as a teen who doesn't know were life is taking her right now its good to have somewhere i can come back to just learn and be happy. so thk you
I'm 18 years old and this video is so wholesome, the vibe and the peace I need in my life, I thought I was the only one in my friend group who is not experiencing overthinking, but lately, I do overthink, but I realized IT'S ONLY ME VS ME. all the scenarios in my head that is something bad is going to happen or what would happen if things go wrong, it's only up there in my head, I think I should focus more on the present and try to do my best, and I'm grateful that I realized it now
to the person reading this
I don't know if you can understand me but I hope you are doing ok ♥♥
FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
I'm here in the point of my life, struggling to do the things i should be doing and yet choose to do the things inside the box.
But thanks to this video it made me realize that i am a fool for limiting myself. I couldn't bear anylonger my self-limiting behaviour i want to change and try new things.
i belive that even tho we feel alone , we can still be happy , because we dont feel lonely .
I think thats the most important thing to do as a teen , to be alone , not to be sad or overthinking, but to find yourself , not the carrer you want to porsue latter, not a way to figure your life, because bad news you cant figure out life at 14-19, but find youserlf , how you are ,what you like , find hobbies....
I realized that at 15 (im 17 now), that you are your best companie because no one is going to understand you more than you.
and to the teens younger or older than me having "life destroyers" problems , dont worry is not that deep , its gonna get worse , but thats a good thing because it means that your getting stronger and better, because thats what life is all about, have problems ,solve problems and overtake problems , and then reapeat the cicle whit a worst problem, so those life ending problems you have now , you gonna look to theme five years from now and laugh, beacause it also gets easier ( the problems get worse but you get better at solving and overtaking themes)
So dont worry is never as bad as you think it is , and is never as good as you think its is