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WE LIVE A NARROW MARGINAL LIFE THAT INCLUDES BEING TOLD WHO WE ARE MEASURED FROM PEOPLE WHO ABSOLUTELY CANNOT COMPARE YOU TO ANYONE ELSE AND WORDS THAT DETERMINE YOUR SHAME OF EXISTENCE OR GUILT ETC WE ARE NOT ENCOURAGED TO THINK OUTSIDE OF WHAT WE DO TO OURSELVES IN LIFE WE AREN'T HELPLESS I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE JUST ARE TO AFRAID OF UNDERSTANDING WHAT WE ACTUALLY NEED WAKING UP TO THESE CAN BE CONFUSING HOWEVER ENLIGHTENING
@yeh nah The Rockefellers are the ones that introduced porn to society decades ago so they could destroy the family bond. The Rockefellers and the Rothchild's are the ones in charge of this whole reset and will do anything to destroy all of us and the connection we have to each other.
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.” ― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper.
@@waterfallwoods5450 Yes, we will all have better relationships if we let go of expectations, assumptions, projections and judgments. And... Apparently, Gurdieff only liked being with toddlers or people over 55 or so because they are typically more authentic or less egoic. Sometimes loneliness breaks down societal programming and later, if you have been on a spiritual path and experienced altered states and awakenings and dark nights of the soul, then spiritual programming. After months of isolation I question my current ideas and beliefs and even my interpretations of my spiritual experiences. More layers are peeling away.
"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape." ~ Unknown
Being lonely and being ALL ALONE are truly two different things. People have no clue how it really is maintaining stoicism as the decades life pass by without Friends or Family, you can easily end up truly alone and forgotten. Like the old people that were found dead in their house years later. Nobody missed them.. there's nothing artistic about it.. no amount of religion, art or meditation will help.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day... ‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’ People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us. The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely. If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone. When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves. Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves. This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months. One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them. But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’. And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life. So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’. But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life. People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
Aww goats are so cute! I live out in the country and was wanting to get a couple and even started researching how to care for them. But then one night, a 4mo puppy showed up at my shed door and adopted me. She barked and growled at everyone else but snuggled with me and let me pick her up. I guess I was supposed to have her instead of a couple cute goats :/
I feel like i know who i am... most of my life i spend alone and enjoy just thinking and being still with myself. But that doesn't make me mind fully healthy because i still feel so stressed and uncomfortable around others... what I'm trying to say is that people can still feel lonely when comfortable with themselves. I think we need a balance of being comfortable w ourselves alone and having healthy relationships outside of ourselves in order to feel at one with the world.
You will have to REALIZE it by experience, not intellectual knowledge. Do indeed feel the loneliness, it's very precious but it takes courage. Eventually you will celebrate that feeling. We die alone, and we do not go to god in groups, we meet the guy alone. Feeling alone and beeing alone, is really not a problem. It just doesn't fit in with western culture. Not benefecial for economy.📿🕉️ If it's difficult to dit with the feeling, try to express yourself by intuitive dance,painting,or musik or even better, all three together. Enjoy it, be playful about it. It's a call from the inside to attend to yourself. Have fun, and good luck with it.🌺💎⚛️
@P JL "Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realizing he is one with the whole universe." ~ Lao Tzu It's part of the process of enlightenment.
@Darren "Spirituality does not come from religion. It comes from our soul. We must stop confusing religion and spirituality. Religion is a set of rules, regulations, and rituals created by humans, which were supposed to help people spiritually. Due to human imperfection religion has become corrupt, political, divisive and a tool for power struggle. Spirituality is not theology or ideology. It is simply a way of life, pure and original as given by the Most High. Spirituality is a network linking us to the Most High, the universe, and each other." ~ Haile Selassie I Stop pushing religion cause I'm not the least bit interested
I’m reading Oprah and Dr Perry’s “What happened to you” and they explain how compassion fades after 6 months, so people who are traumatised lose the support over time, especially if they keep being re-traumatised or don’t have a good change to heal from an event. Then the person is more and more isolated as people pull away from someone with chronic trauma or ptsd. I’ve had chronic illness and the social economic impacts are worse than the symptoms itself. Our western culture is not available to community and connection, and “relational poverty” is rampant without local communities. I don’t know how to remedy this, I certainly don’t want to go back to dogmatic exclusionary religions for that community. We need more socio economic equality and outlets so that we can reasonably resource folks with the right talents and resources to support, rather than relying on a select few “givers” who are absolutely giving until they drop dead. Support nurturing roles, readdress the ratio of 6 supportive adults per child, elder, or sick person… we need a whole restructuring. Trying to raise your vibe or meditate to connection when you are literally socially isolated or suffering relational poverty cannot solve the problem.
Well said. What you've described resonates with much of my personal experiences. This plandem!c has rubbed salt in wounds being that local charity agencies charge impoverished immunocompromised folk to access assistance. Been using a granny cart to help get home groceries all this past year. Last Sunday the cart broke, dragged 60lbs of cat litter home over 1km, no help. We're not all in this together.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day... ‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’ People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us. The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely. If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone. When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves. Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves. This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months. One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them. But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’. And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life. So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’. But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life. People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
I enjoyed/benefited from your comment more than the vid, love R dearly though these topics are super serious and need special care in how they're talked about. I wholeheartedly agree with how you describe it. Dr. Gabor Mate says it's the response to the trauma that leaves you more harmed than the trauma itself - I've found this to be true in my life. Also Sebastian Junger talks about in Tribe that people who've been in war / seen war and been tight nit in a group, will yearn for these difficult times again when they felt such close connection and support (they get to experience the feeling that 'someone will actually defend me with their life') and can be traumatised with the loss of that connection / support when the war is over, they return home.
I can't help but feel a deep sense of sorrow toward people who were chronically lonely, who did try to reach out, and who told friends and family that they were lonely and these people ended up taking their own life. Then I feel anger because after these people died everyone around them said they never saw it coming or expressed anger toward the deceased for being so selfish. I think this is extremely common
All of my childhood and highscool friends went by the wayside over the years. Trying to make new friends is impossible. Because finding my people. People who want to spend time hanging out with me simply do not exist. So yes, I am extremely lonely. I miss having friends to lean on. I miss having friends call to check on me. And I miss having someone to talk to who genuinely cares about how I'm feeling. Not just a paid therapist.
Hi Russell. There is a massive difference between being alone and being lonely.... The worst kind of loneliness is being around the wrong people and worse still the wrong partner.... That's hell on Earth.
Not one person on here has spoken about empaths... PROBABLY EVER ONE OF YOU ARE a empath. Let's build a commune and live together, everyone! All of you seem so kind and genuine. You'z my people. We are a tribe! Peace be with you!
There's nothing I want more than to live in a self-sustaining intentional commune with like minded spiritually oriented people, away from the noise of city-living.
Russel is our modern day Allen Watts. So grateful we have someone like him in this crazy mad world to keep us reminding that we are humans, with flaws, with passions, with purpose. Even I as an atheist can relate to this search of meaning. Not a cosmological meaning but a real viceral meaning for our lives. Without a doubt Russel has helped me (and Im sure many others) with their demons. I think we can only show our gratitude by, in our turn, helping others the same way he has done to us.
That would be weird to me to feel angry, sad, or scared when you are surrounded by your own energy and emotions. I have been surrounded by outgoing people , and have been in with "popular people", but being alone is where I feel most loved and accepted.
That’s interesting. I’ve felt lonely and then spiraled down with fearful reactions to it before. I absolutely relate. I love your name! “Alien From Mars” Lol!
I felt that when you said, “Join my community,” that was when the relief set in from those horrid thoughts of ‘what community will accept me?’ So often we don’t even know which community we are like or identify with but we are all very similar on here and so I think sticking together is a fab way to start!
go church shopping. See if there is a welcoming group attached to the church. I got in the sewing group. Crocheting, hanging out, finding a good deed to do every so often
The more contemplative one is, the more focus put on creating a healthy relationship with one's self, the less there is a need to be distracted with old relationship habits, even those stemming from childhood. More true, gritty power to you, comrade!
This was super helpful! I have caught myself being addicted to distraction rather than connecting with myself so this is a wake up call for me. Thank you Russell!
I'm far too interested in too many things to care about whether or not others are present or not. Probably comes from being neglected at such a young age. So,I just see "loneliness" as a normal state of being. And usually prefer it. Because my fellow humans usually just wish to impose their wills upon me. Which isn't always a bad thing. But usually is. Especially when their will doesn't wash off,lol. In the words of some brilliant fella....silence is golden. If your vocal chords are the bottle necking between your thoughts and the outside world then I can't imagine Russell EVER being silent enough upstairs to even notice that nobody is around,lol. The boy can cram ALOT of words into a tiny space of time! But I enjoy trying to keep up,lol. Your a real hoot!
I enjoy watching/listening to your vids/podcast clips,and doing so takes away the loneliness, just letting you know you bring positivity to people's lives🙂
Weird how as a introverted, 19 year old girl I really related to Russell's explanations of his personal loneliness from time to time. Humans are really all so similar, it's talking and openining up to oneanother that helps us learn that and feel more connected.
Just love you God in you accept your different and let that be your beauty cause we all are different. Don’t try and change for anyone cause it will make you unhappy; bedsides if another person can’t love you for being yourself then that person isn’t worth dealing with. Peace begins with you. Trust the most high that he may bring light in all places and situations in your life. ❤️☘️🙏☘️❤️
@@williamoarlock8634 i do actually, trying to get out of my family's home officially kicked out. got a van cause it's the cheapest option and i'm trying to make it liveable w as little money as possible but it's hard especially since my job doesn't pay much per hour
I have reached the age of inner peace and comfort within my own body. I absolutely cherish the time I'm alone with my own thoughts and silence. A beautiful trip to a stream in the mountains surrounded by nothing but nature. Heaven on Earth 🌎
Apparently my meditation practice has become to sit outside and watch these videos in the woods of my yard and learn how to more effectively live a calmer and more morally valuable, virtuous and impactful life. With everything happening now, it's become a way to take a step back and reevaluate which direction to go.
I'm so glad there is a place on the internet I can go for content like this when I'm feeling lonely, it helps me re-calibrate. Thanks for all your work.
Having spent a long time in this state so I feel numb now. Years ago the emotional pain was too much and I tend to disassociate. After 14 years of mourning I’m tired of suffering. the consequences of my depression which makes my life unmanageable has my back against wall and desperation to start letting go and start to heal. 💜🙏
I allow my dog to tell me to stop when I start to go into “ I don’t know what to do… blah, blah and I literally look at my dog and accept that she is saying,Mom stop, don’t lose it. It works to make me stop myself at the beginning of the downward spiral.
I love being by myself. The last 20 years was a mess of to many people. High ,,pills,,,anything that would keep Me high. Then being by myself a stopped doing anything. I found me for a change. Everyone wanting something from me. Dear God it's nice to be by myself for a change in this life. Sober and clean. And when I go outside just for a walk I know that people are not going to give me the time to just walk by myself. Ugh ... Not Lonely at all. Just the opposite live me alone! Sober clean and loving me for a change.
Yeah its a natural pre condition to being a human. People are scared of it.. I have to mqke myelf social sometimes.. Maybe also extreme.. I like being alone but I do know lonelyness too, solitude it good, Lonelyness is like a scratchy feeling on the soul.. Painful indeed x
As someone who's in the process of recovery from behavioural addictions; I recognise much of my compulsive behaviour has stemmed from a deep seated feeling of loneliness at my core. I understand that now to be a desire to connect to something greater and more transcendent than my egoic self or the material world. I think that's the thing I struggle with the most when it comes to loneliness; that feeling of shame that tells me there's something intrinsically wrong with my Being! Anyhow, great video Russell, all my gratitude to you for it!!
I really glad I found this!...or shall we say, it found me!...I can relate as a recovering heroin addict - I am totally alone, and the problem is, I got used to that during my 20 year addiction. I hate AA, but now I think I'll start going back...I will join Luminary soon. I think we are close to the same age...I remember you when you were very famous...sorry, wasn't a fan...if you can be completely transformed as you are now, I am sold!...I only found you about 6 months ago; gonna be a regular listener...
7:43 "Im lonely because I'm worthless, nobody likes me, I can't trust anyone, I will spent my whole life alone" may I add "Im not good enough" This is the internal dialogue (toxic pattern) I had after being rejected, as Russel said acknowledge these feelings then slowly try to dump them, cause If you don't, your whole mental well being will be at play.
Thanks for expressing the issue so well Russell. “When I feel cut off or distracted or incapable of an authentic relationship”. This really describes a true state of loneliness. I think we can feel this if we live alone or we are in relationships that are not connecting on the same wave length. But as you said, self work and a spiritual practice of meditation can help make one work towards self love. 🌈Love the tips at the end well!
I desperately need some alone time. Nearly all the time I have is spent on helping others with their problems, which would be fine if my value to them equated to more than just a band-aid or a multi-tool. I definitely agree with creation as a coping mechanism. It's incredibly fulfilling to bring an idea you have to life.
Thank You Russell,,, Always great to Listen to you,,,,Very much Identify,, with you,,,all the Time,,, Lonliness,,, and overthinking Mind,,,,, Very much part of me,,, i try Not to,, Overthink,,,,, But get so far,,,, and Then,,, The mind,, Starts up,,,,,,,, martin,,,
All I have words for at the moment is thank you. The despair can be momentous and hearing Mr. B express having been there makes it a little easier to bear.
I tend to feel the most lonely when I am around people. Of course the isolation is an illusion-we can never be alone. I think the longing is to reunite with our greater self, for love, and bliss, and perhaps the longing for peace and beauty is also a longing to return home. In any case, we are one, your loneliness is ours, and ours yours if we must use terms of separation.
2:43 yes, face to face😢😢😢😢no more now... really... 10 sec can explain thing .. turn out..need 6 month or longer... so between, the truth lost bit by bit... finally...it’s 50%50%.....
I’ve missssseeddd youuu RUSSELL🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🥰🥰🤠🤩😇😇 I’ve got a lot of catching up to do and This podcast you so kindly and genuinely put yourself out there time and time again…… I cannot express in words how honestly i needed to LISTEN AND HEAR ALL OF THIS ONE! A million thank yous It’s amazing how much my heart mind and soul feels a little lighter…..☺️🙏🏼✌🏻
I do appreciate solitude, which is the main reason I fail to accept that I do feel lonely at times. Thanks for the insight RB, and keep doing what you're doing.
Great video ❤️❤️❤️Pretending somone else on the front of others... Doing job which we hate, competing, fearing of loosing it, being pushed by the boss, who don't respect us as living and thinking creatures. Material goods as representation of you as valuble person.. It is the core of the problem.
I'm going to say this. I don't want sympathy or attention. I just feel compelled to say this while watching this video. I'm 32. I struggled with opiate addiction for 15 years until june 18th 2018. I've been clean since and the ramifications of that addiction on my social, personal and love life was so drastic that I genuinely don't find myself tempted by those urges anywhere near as often. In March of last year, my house burned down just as Covid restrictions were being implemented in my state. Luckily, I moved in with my parents, along with my gf and child. Within a month and a half, my gf of 9 years left and i was completely blindsided by it (obviously our communucation had become non-existent without me realizing or admitting it). The next month, my father had 3 massive strokes and was placed on hospice. He passed away February 3rd of this year. My son is special needs and his speech is limited to repetitive scripted phrases mostly. Our interpersonal communication is one sided except for simple requests for food, drink, etc. The past year or so has been the most alone I've felt ever. I say all that to say thank you for this video. Genuinely.
My heart goes out to you. I had a stroke nearly two years ago and severely affected my mobility. When it comes to friendships of decades long, it has felt so isolating. Others things have happened which destroyed my family connections, so lifelong loves gone. Blessings to you and all the lonely.
@@Hazi64 Im so glad you survived! My father's mobility on his left side was compromised temporarily, but he did regain some function and feeling in the 7 months he was on hospice. My dad built custom furniture and cabinets for 45 of his 63 years. He was only 5'6 and suffered that "little man" syndrome of always having something to prove so he smiled and laughed and comforted everyone else down til the very last second. You are clearly a survivor, full of strength yourself! Blessings back!
I'm So very sorry for all that has happened in your life lately. You don't deserve that. Prayers , Good Vibes and Hugs to you my friend 💖 It's my belief that when " bad" things happen .... It clears a space for Good Stuff 💕
Thank you for you being you Russell xxx you addressed loneliness in a way that I can relate to... glad you are there/ here.... we are all with you... so you have the kids the cats and us herd...... xxx god bless xxx
"Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
The fear created by government, media, people about pandemic has definitely changed my life this past year. Now suddenly, lockdown is lifted and we can assemble again. I'm dipping my toe by going to rooftop meditation. I don't want to live in fear, but I have been affected.
I grew up in a very rural place in ND on a ranch many miles from nowhere. But the loneliest time that I ever experienced in my life was in a large city surrounded by millions of people
Russell. This is very strange to hear. People sometimes feeling lonely even been surrounded by friends. It's not ' a solution for everyone'. It's a choice sometimes. It's much deeper then you proposed- reading, meeting.
Thank you so much Russell. I am feeling very lonely, more so in a lockdown in my country. But watching your videos are helpful because I feel you are genuine
great podcast...I enjoyed it... not going to be cheeky today...a bit melancholy...The EBB of human life is not a place I enjoy...I am feeling disconnected from the great one and myself...I know it is me...lots of odd feelings simultaneously...unlike me...I have been doing my repertoires to get back to myself...made a doctor apt. to rule out physical crap...then I will work harder...change it up a bit...something came to my mind today that excites me...I have a year round spring creek on my property...have been digging some spaces for a dipping pool...today, whilst resting, a beautiful sweat lodge showed itself..so I went online and learned how to, by natives...I may be loving this idea...I can do it myself and it excites me... I am hoping the process or end product will knee jerk me back into the flow..xoxox..thank you.
I almost always love your content. This was, as usual, wonderful. Thank you Russell for the brilliant and funny way you navigate through life and for sharing your brilliance with all of us. I often think; "That is EXACTLY what I think and you express it so beautifully."
- removal from community (immigration, seeking too much materialistic wealth, colonialism legacy) - not knowing your neighbour, isolated physical living, high rise condos etc - currency as method of economy - capitalistic and competition vs bartering or exchanging services/helping each other - high divorce rates - trauma for children and future generations unhealthy emotional development
Wrong. There is no cause . I am lonely is simply a thought. We can climb inside it and have a particular experience if we wish to...or not , once we realise that we do it by choice.
Thank you sooo much Russell. This is distilled brillancy, and you're the only youtuber of your type where I agree with / resonate with everything you say. Your spiritual angles of social situations are incredibly important. Peace and love to all the eyes that see this xo
For all of those who've mentioned the desire to befriend like-minded people... look into the app/website MEETUP. It's been around for years now & I just checked - it's still very active. You can find interesting events & groups in your area. This is best for large or small cities... but it's worth checking out if you don't know where to start but really do want to get out & meet people with similar interests. It also provides the ability to start your own specific group - if you desire.
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@yeh nah The Rockefellers are the ones that introduced porn to society decades ago so they could destroy the family bond. The Rockefellers and the Rothchild's are the ones in charge of this whole reset and will do anything to destroy all of us and the connection we have to each other.
Lonely with millions in the bank?
You can start by putting the I in shit, for fuck sake if you want to serve God don't worry about offending anyone with swear words.
@@markrymanowski719 feeling lonely has nothing to do with money Mark
“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper.
deeeeeep
A wise person once told me, "Let go of expectations and you won't be disappointed."
@@waterfallwoods5450 Yes, we will all have better relationships if we let go of expectations, assumptions, projections and judgments. And... Apparently, Gurdieff only liked being with toddlers or people over 55 or so because they are typically more authentic or less egoic. Sometimes loneliness breaks down societal programming and later, if you have been on a spiritual path and experienced altered states and awakenings and dark nights of the soul, then spiritual programming. After months of isolation I question my current ideas and beliefs and even my interpretations of my spiritual experiences. More layers are peeling away.
@@luxulyandalish6483 I can relate, hugs.
@@eclecticbeing toddlers and elderly have reduced brain function - of course a charlatan like Gurdjieff would prefer their company.
"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape." ~ Unknown
Genius
Being lonely and being ALL ALONE are truly two different things. People have no clue how it really is maintaining stoicism as the decades life pass by without Friends or Family, you can easily end up truly alone and forgotten. Like the old people that were found dead in their house years later. Nobody missed them.. there's nothing artistic about it.. no amount of religion, art or meditation will help.
@@johnpittscom I politely disagree with your statement.
Love that!
@@D9xAbstract I disagree with it too but that's my life.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day...
‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’
People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us.
The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely.
If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone.
When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves.
Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves.
This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months.
One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them.
But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’.
And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life.
So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’.
But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life.
People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
Amazingly well put.
Wow so beautiful and detailed. Thank you.
That is wisdom experienced! Love and light to you. If it's a book I would be happy to read it!💫💖
Thank you piccalilli pit 💙
@@morganstokes1930 THANK YOU :-D
@@betinafrederiksen4468 - Wisdom gained through analysing a lifetime of bad decisions... :-D
I got goats 🐐💚 I know it sounds weird but they’ve brought me incredible joy. That’s what life is truly about. Finding your joy!
Aww goats are so cute! I live out in the country and was wanting to get a couple and even started researching how to care for them. But then one night, a 4mo puppy showed up at my shed door and adopted me. She barked and growled at everyone else but snuggled with me and let me pick her up. I guess I was supposed to have her instead of a couple cute goats :/
They are full on.
Goats are so much fun! God bless you and your lovely goats, my dear
"Becoming a father has helped me become a father to myself." A good one, no doubt.
Why are we lonely? Rumi says "don't be lonely the whole universe is within you". We are lonely because we do not know who we truly are.
I feel like i know who i am... most of my life i spend alone and enjoy just thinking and being still with myself. But that doesn't make me mind fully healthy because i still feel so stressed and uncomfortable around others... what I'm trying to say is that people can still feel lonely when comfortable with themselves. I think we need a balance of being comfortable w ourselves alone and having healthy relationships outside of ourselves in order to feel at one with the world.
"Do not feel lonely. The entire Universe is inside you." ~ Rumi
Love that.
You will have to REALIZE it by experience, not intellectual knowledge.
Do indeed feel the loneliness, it's very precious but it takes courage. Eventually you will celebrate that feeling.
We die alone, and we do not go to god in groups, we meet the guy alone.
Feeling alone and beeing alone, is really not a problem. It just doesn't fit in with western culture. Not benefecial for economy.📿🕉️
If it's difficult to dit with the feeling, try to express yourself by intuitive dance,painting,or musik or even
better, all three together. Enjoy it, be playful about it. It's a call from the inside to attend to yourself. Have fun, and good luck with it.🌺💎⚛️
Ohhh....so just DONT feel lonely. Right on, what useless advice to someone going through it.
@P JL "Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realizing he is one with the whole universe." ~ Lao Tzu
It's part of the process of enlightenment.
@Darren
"Spirituality does not come from religion. It comes from our soul. We must stop confusing religion and spirituality. Religion is a set of rules, regulations, and rituals created by humans, which were supposed to help people spiritually. Due to human imperfection religion has become corrupt, political, divisive and a tool for power struggle. Spirituality is not theology or ideology. It is simply a way of life, pure and original as given by the Most High. Spirituality is a network linking us to the Most High, the universe, and each other." ~ Haile Selassie I
Stop pushing religion cause I'm not the least bit interested
Because we lack closeness and healthy, meaningful relationships of all kinds.
So true.
We always beg for more and desperate fore pleasures in life sadly
Who's 'we'? Maybe that's something more recent. Friendships are more about what you contribute to the relationship than what others give back to you.
I’m reading Oprah and Dr Perry’s “What happened to you” and they explain how compassion fades after 6 months, so people who are traumatised lose the support over time, especially if they keep being re-traumatised or don’t have a good change to heal from an event. Then the person is more and more isolated as people pull away from someone with chronic trauma or ptsd. I’ve had chronic illness and the social economic impacts are worse than the symptoms itself. Our western culture is not available to community and connection, and “relational poverty” is rampant without local communities. I don’t know how to remedy this, I certainly don’t want to go back to dogmatic exclusionary religions for that community. We need more socio economic equality and outlets so that we can reasonably resource folks with the right talents and resources to support, rather than relying on a select few “givers” who are absolutely giving until they drop dead. Support nurturing roles, readdress the ratio of 6 supportive adults per child, elder, or sick person… we need a whole restructuring. Trying to raise your vibe or meditate to connection when you are literally socially isolated or suffering relational poverty cannot solve the problem.
Well said. What you've described resonates with much of my personal experiences.
This plandem!c has rubbed salt in wounds being that local charity agencies charge impoverished immunocompromised folk to access assistance.
Been using a granny cart to help get home groceries all this past year. Last Sunday the cart broke, dragged 60lbs of cat litter home over 1km, no help.
We're not all in this together.
*IM AN AUTHOR* I wrote this on loneliness the other day...
‘Loneliness is not the lack of company in one’s life. It is the lack of meaning in one’s life. People merely distract us from ourselves.’
People distract us from the lack of meaning in our life. They entertain us, they annoy us, they make us laugh, most of all they distract us. They distract us from the emptiness inside of us.
The absence of people in life does not make us lonely. The awareness of our own emptiness is what makes us lonely.
If we fill that void with meaning, with purpose, with life, we will never be lonely. We can take the company of good people. We can walk away from toxic people, not needing their company, not exposing our happiness to their pollutants in order to not feel alone.
When we feel bad about ourselves, when we have low self-esteem, when we have a lack of meaning in our lives, when we don't know who we are; we are desperate to be distracted from ourselves and made feel happy. Even if that ‘happy’ is just not feeling bad about ourselves.
Often it’s better to be annoyed by someone else than depressed about ourselves.
This is why people getting out of abusive relationships are notorious for jumping straight back into obviously unsuitable relationships. A friend of mine in Utah, America, just told me a story of two friends. Both recently out of abusive relationships, both getting married again to people they have been dating for less than three months.
One of them openly admits the partner they are marrying is financially abusive and takes advantage of them.
But being taken advantage of financially, and all the misery that brings, is better to a lot of people than sitting alone and feeling empty and without purpose. It is better than feeling ‘lonely’.
And it’s a quick fix to find an unsuitable partner. A lot quicker than filling your life with purpose and meaning. With the added advantage you can blame the partner for all the problems and misery in your life.
So, as long as you don't actually care about your happiness, it’s a real ‘win - win’.
But assuming you do care about your long-term happiness, well it’s probably best to find some meaning in life.
People with rich, fulfilling lives, full of meaning and purpose are never lonely, neither do they shun company, but they are equanimous. They can take it or leave it. They can appreciate the benefits, the joy even, of being alone. They can appreciate the beauty of silence.
I enjoyed/benefited from your comment more than the vid, love R dearly though these topics are super serious and need special care in how they're talked about. I wholeheartedly agree with how you describe it. Dr. Gabor Mate says it's the response to the trauma that leaves you more harmed than the trauma itself - I've found this to be true in my life. Also Sebastian Junger talks about in Tribe that people who've been in war / seen war and been tight nit in a group, will yearn for these difficult times again when they felt such close connection and support (they get to experience the feeling that 'someone will actually defend me with their life') and can be traumatised with the loss of that connection / support when the war is over, they return home.
@Daniel Kins _ I am not religious do ti say "grace" every day. Thankful for the food I have...
@@stephanienewton6618 - Thank you :-D
I can't help but feel a deep sense of sorrow toward people who were chronically lonely, who did try to reach out, and who told friends and family that they were lonely and these people ended up taking their own life.
Then I feel anger because after these people died everyone around them said they never saw it coming or expressed anger toward the deceased for being so selfish.
I think this is extremely common
All of my childhood and highscool friends went by the wayside over the years. Trying to make new friends is impossible. Because finding my people. People who want to spend time hanging out with me simply do not exist. So yes, I am extremely lonely. I miss having friends to lean on. I miss having friends call to check on me. And I miss having someone to talk to who genuinely cares about how I'm feeling. Not just a paid therapist.
I know how you feel. Has anything improved a year on?
Hi Russell. There is a massive difference between being alone and being lonely.... The worst kind of loneliness is being around the wrong people and worse still the wrong partner.... That's hell on Earth.
Not one person on here has spoken about empaths... PROBABLY EVER ONE OF YOU ARE a empath. Let's build a commune and live together, everyone!
All of you seem so kind and genuine. You'z my people. We are a tribe! Peace be with you!
There's nothing I want more than to live in a self-sustaining intentional commune with like minded spiritually oriented people, away from the noise of city-living.
Btw I would edit my posts but they won't always let me. I'll just sound like a idiot that Iam. Lol
❤️❤️❤️
I had two posts deleted. HEY UTUBE THANKS FOR SAVING ME FROM MY SELF! .
Roll my eyes 😠
What is one??? How do o know what I am???
I’m getting better at dealing with loneliness im happy to say
Russel is our modern day Allen Watts. So grateful we have someone like him in this crazy mad world to keep us reminding that we are humans, with flaws, with passions, with purpose. Even I as an atheist can relate to this search of meaning. Not a cosmological meaning but a real viceral meaning for our lives.
Without a doubt Russel has helped me (and Im sure many others) with their demons. I think we can only show our gratitude by, in our turn, helping others the same way he has done to us.
Watts died an alcoholic Brand got clean - big difference
To make whole, be whole
John Butler uses that phrase a lot. His videos are popular on here. I enjoy them myself.
So true. Stop chasing happiness as it's fleeting, self-contentment is lasting once you find it in yourself.
Spot on
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That would be weird to me to feel angry, sad, or scared when you are surrounded by your own energy and emotions. I have been surrounded by outgoing people , and have been in with "popular people", but being alone is where I feel most loved and accepted.
That’s interesting. I’ve felt lonely and then spiraled down with fearful reactions to it before. I absolutely relate. I love your name! “Alien From Mars” Lol!
Lovely
I wonder what that feels like..
"Lonely. Even in a crowded room". It's true but I was thinking how long 'til someone says that. Russell read my mind! 😀
I felt that when you said, “Join my community,” that was when the relief set in from those horrid thoughts of ‘what community will accept me?’ So often we don’t even know which community we are like or identify with but we are all very similar on here and so I think sticking together is a fab way to start!
I am in. No more to be said
go church shopping. See if there is a welcoming group attached to the church. I got in the sewing group. Crocheting, hanging out, finding a good deed to do every so often
Yes, it is a symptom of a bigger problem
Being a scapegoated diseased orphan social outcast, I've had to learn not to be lonely as result from always being left alone..
@Man in the Moon very good
The more contemplative one is, the more focus put on creating a healthy relationship with one's self, the less there is a need to be distracted with old relationship habits, even those stemming from childhood. More true, gritty power to you, comrade!
This was super helpful! I have caught myself being addicted to distraction rather than connecting with myself so this is a wake up call for me. Thank you Russell!
I'm far too interested in too many things to care about whether or not others are present or not. Probably comes from being neglected at such a young age. So,I just see "loneliness" as a normal state of being. And usually prefer it. Because my fellow humans usually just wish to impose their wills upon me. Which isn't always a bad thing. But usually is. Especially when their will doesn't wash off,lol.
In the words of some brilliant fella....silence is golden. If your vocal chords are the bottle necking between your thoughts and the outside world then I can't imagine Russell EVER being silent enough upstairs to even notice that nobody is around,lol. The boy can cram ALOT of words into a tiny space of time! But I enjoy trying to keep up,lol. Your a real hoot!
I enjoy watching/listening to your vids/podcast clips,and doing so takes away the loneliness, just letting you know you bring positivity to people's lives🙂
Weird how as a introverted, 19 year old girl I really related to Russell's explanations of his personal loneliness from time to time. Humans are really all so similar, it's talking and openining up to oneanother that helps us learn that and feel more connected.
Just love you God in you accept your different and let that be your beauty cause we all are different. Don’t try and change for anyone cause it will make you unhappy; bedsides if another person can’t love you for being yourself then that person isn’t worth dealing with. Peace begins with you. Trust the most high that he may bring light in all places and situations in your life. ❤️☘️🙏☘️❤️
You most likely have no financial worries like Brand as well...
@@williamoarlock8634 i do actually, trying to get out of my family's home officially kicked out. got a van cause it's the cheapest option and i'm trying to make it liveable w as little money as possible but it's hard especially since my job doesn't pay much per hour
@@an6350 Well the more I talk and learn to humans (I'm autistic which is subhuman) the more isolated and disconnected I am.
@@an6350 Also I hate the word 'introvert'. It should be 'defective' or 'social misfit'.
Being raised as an only child might have something to do with being me being a loner but not lonely.
Everyone has this fundamental loneliness.
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Not everyone, alot of people have big happy families and lots of friends. I WISH I did
I have reached the age of inner peace and comfort within my own body. I absolutely cherish the time I'm alone with my own thoughts and silence. A beautiful trip to a stream in the mountains surrounded by nothing but nature. Heaven on Earth 🌎
Apparently my meditation practice has become to sit outside and watch these videos in the woods of my yard and learn how to more effectively live a calmer and more morally valuable, virtuous and impactful life. With everything happening now, it's become a way to take a step back and reevaluate which direction to go.
I'm so glad there is a place on the internet I can go for content like this when I'm feeling lonely, it helps me re-calibrate. Thanks for all your work.
Shoutout to Ian Hanomansing and the CBC! Great post and commentary on addressing distraction and disconnection in our world today
Having spent a long time in this state so I feel numb now. Years ago the emotional pain was too much and I tend to disassociate. After 14 years of mourning I’m tired of suffering. the consequences of my depression which makes my life unmanageable has my back against wall and desperation to start letting go and start to heal. 💜🙏
Thank you Russell 😘
I allow my dog to tell me to stop when I start to go into “ I don’t know what to do… blah, blah and I literally look at my dog and accept that she is saying,Mom stop, don’t lose it. It works to make me stop myself at the beginning of the downward spiral.
Russell, you are an amazing human being, and I am so grateful you exist. Your talks take away the occasional loneliness, too. Thank you🙏❤
I love being by myself.
The last 20 years was a mess of to many people. High ,,pills,,,anything that would keep Me high. Then being by myself a stopped doing anything.
I found me for a change.
Everyone wanting something from me. Dear God it's nice to be by myself for a change in this life.
Sober and clean.
And when I go outside just for a walk I know that people are not going to give me the time to just walk by myself.
Ugh ...
Not Lonely at all.
Just the opposite live me alone!
Sober clean and loving me for a change.
Yeah its a natural pre condition to being a human. People are scared of it.. I have to mqke myelf social sometimes.. Maybe also extreme.. I like being alone but I do know lonelyness too,
solitude it good, Lonelyness is like a scratchy feeling on the soul.. Painful indeed x
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As someone who's in the process of
recovery from behavioural addictions; I recognise much of my compulsive behaviour has stemmed from a deep seated feeling of loneliness at my core. I understand that now to be a desire to connect to something greater and more transcendent than my egoic self or the material world. I think that's the thing I struggle with the most when it comes to loneliness; that feeling of shame that tells me there's something intrinsically wrong with my Being! Anyhow, great video Russell, all my gratitude to you for it!!
I really glad I found this!...or shall we say, it found me!...I can relate as a recovering heroin addict - I am totally alone, and the problem is, I got used to that during my 20 year addiction. I hate AA, but now I think I'll start going back...I will join Luminary soon. I think we are close to the same age...I remember you when you were very famous...sorry, wasn't a fan...if you can be completely transformed as you are now, I am sold!...I only found you about 6 months ago; gonna be a regular listener...
7:43 "Im lonely because I'm worthless, nobody likes me, I can't trust anyone, I will spent my whole life alone" may I add "Im not good enough"
This is the internal dialogue (toxic pattern) I had after being rejected, as Russel said acknowledge these feelings then slowly try to dump them, cause If you don't, your whole mental well being will be at play.
I find you so very easy to listen to. Great passion for so many worthy and interesting issues and great compassion for people.
Great stuff!
Wise advice. You are not alone when you are alone with your Self. You just need to become aware of the connection by being still and looking within.
Rus I cry every time I watch your videos thanks for what you do, you're letting me here at the moment...
Russell, it's really kind of you to talk about this issue and try to help people.
I think you are probably saving lives or at least helping fill the holes in peoples hearts.
I think you are good.
Thanks for expressing the issue so well Russell.
“When I feel cut off or distracted or incapable of an authentic relationship”. This really describes a true state of loneliness. I think we can feel this if we live alone or we are in relationships that are not connecting on the same wave length. But as you said, self work and a spiritual practice of meditation can help make one work towards self love. 🌈Love the tips at the end well!
your never alone when you have a mirror and a sense of hummer!
Just starting recovery. So glad to find your videos
I desperately need some alone time. Nearly all the time I have is spent on helping others with their problems, which would be fine if my value to them equated to more than just a band-aid or a multi-tool. I definitely agree with creation as a coping mechanism. It's incredibly fulfilling to bring an idea you have to life.
Yes. Your meditations are great.👌🙏
Thank You Russell,,, Always great to Listen to you,,,,Very much Identify,, with you,,,all the Time,,, Lonliness,,, and overthinking Mind,,,,, Very much part of me,,, i try Not to,, Overthink,,,,, But get so far,,,, and Then,,, The mind,, Starts up,,,,,,,, martin,,,
All I have words for at the moment is thank you. The despair can be momentous and hearing Mr. B express having been there makes it a little easier to bear.
Ok. Thank you. I'll try.
I tend to feel the most lonely when I am around people. Of course the isolation is an illusion-we can never be alone. I think the longing is to reunite with our greater self, for love, and bliss, and perhaps the longing for peace and beauty is also a longing to return home. In any case, we are one, your loneliness is ours, and ours yours if we must use terms of separation.
2:43 yes, face to face😢😢😢😢no more now... really... 10 sec can explain thing .. turn out..need 6 month or longer... so between, the truth lost bit by bit... finally...it’s 50%50%.....
Thank You
I’ve missssseeddd youuu RUSSELL🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤗💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🥰🥰🤠🤩😇😇 I’ve got a lot of catching up to do and This podcast you so kindly and genuinely put yourself out there time and time again…… I cannot express in words how honestly i needed to LISTEN AND HEAR ALL OF THIS ONE! A million thank yous
It’s amazing how much my heart mind and soul feels a little lighter…..☺️🙏🏼✌🏻
I do appreciate solitude, which is the main reason I fail to accept that I do feel lonely at times. Thanks for the insight RB, and keep doing what you're doing.
I missed the wood shed… thank you for the food for thought and the words of wisdom Russell.
Leading by example, cheers bro
Hope you get the fur babies fixed! So great you are taking care of so many animals. I would love to come to England! I'm 66 hope I can some day!
Love this! Get to know yourself! Stop accepting others' or culture's expectations as your own! What a freedom that is!
I dont know what to think anymore, i dont even know who i am or what i want
Great video ❤️❤️❤️Pretending somone else on the front of others... Doing job which we hate, competing, fearing of loosing it, being pushed by the boss, who don't respect us as living and thinking creatures. Material goods as representation of you as valuble person.. It is the core of the problem.
I'm going to say this. I don't want sympathy or attention. I just feel compelled to say this while watching this video. I'm 32. I struggled with opiate addiction for 15 years until june 18th 2018. I've been clean since and the ramifications of that addiction on my social, personal and love life was so drastic that I genuinely don't find myself tempted by those urges anywhere near as often. In March of last year, my house burned down just as Covid restrictions were being implemented in my state. Luckily, I moved in with my parents, along with my gf and child. Within a month and a half, my gf of 9 years left and i was completely blindsided by it (obviously our communucation had become non-existent without me realizing or admitting it). The next month, my father had 3 massive strokes and was placed on hospice. He passed away February 3rd of this year. My son is special needs and his speech is limited to repetitive scripted phrases mostly. Our interpersonal communication is one sided except for simple requests for food, drink, etc. The past year or so has been the most alone I've felt ever.
I say all that to say thank you for this video. Genuinely.
My heart goes out to you. I had a stroke nearly two years ago and severely affected my mobility. When it comes to friendships of decades long, it has felt so isolating. Others things have happened which destroyed my family connections, so lifelong loves gone. Blessings to you and all the lonely.
@@Hazi64 Im so glad you survived! My father's mobility on his left side was compromised temporarily, but he did regain some function and feeling in the 7 months he was on hospice. My dad built custom furniture and cabinets for 45 of his 63 years. He was only 5'6 and suffered that "little man" syndrome of always having something to prove so he smiled and laughed and comforted everyone else down til the very last second. You are clearly a survivor, full of strength yourself! Blessings back!
I'm So very sorry for all that has happened in your life lately. You don't deserve that. Prayers , Good Vibes and Hugs to you my friend 💖
It's my belief that when " bad" things happen .... It clears a space for Good Stuff 💕
Thank you for you being you Russell xxx you addressed loneliness in a way that I can relate to... glad you are there/ here.... we are all with you... so you have the kids the cats and us herd...... xxx god bless xxx
Thankyou Russell 😊
I always feel better after watching your videos from this channel. You're a constant support Russell 🙏
Reishi mushroom , mushroom of immortality, or mushroom of spirituality,changed my life, ♥️🙏
You say hello, Russell! Simple, but a good first step. 😃💙
"Many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
The fear created by government, media, people about pandemic has definitely changed my life this past year. Now suddenly, lockdown is lifted and we can assemble again. I'm dipping my toe by going to rooftop meditation. I don't want to live in fear, but I have been affected.
Same here. I have become a home body. Before the pandemic you could hardly find me at home .
I grew up in a very rural place in ND on a ranch many miles from nowhere. But the loneliest time that I ever experienced in my life was in a large city surrounded by millions of people
I am almost always alone these days. But I am never lonely. I LOVE being alone. Just as well I enjoy my own company! Lol.
Russell. This is very strange to hear. People sometimes feeling lonely even been surrounded by friends. It's not ' a solution for everyone'. It's a choice sometimes. It's much deeper then you proposed- reading, meeting.
Julia my darling when are we going out for a nice dinner?
Thank you so much Russell. I am feeling very lonely, more so in a lockdown in my country. But watching your videos are helpful because I feel you are genuine
great podcast...I enjoyed it... not going to be cheeky today...a bit melancholy...The EBB of human life is not a place I enjoy...I am feeling disconnected from the great one and myself...I know it is me...lots of odd feelings simultaneously...unlike me...I have been doing my repertoires to get back to myself...made a doctor apt. to rule out physical crap...then I will work harder...change it up a bit...something came to my mind today that excites me...I have a year round spring creek on my property...have been digging some spaces for a dipping pool...today, whilst resting, a beautiful sweat lodge showed itself..so I went online and learned how to, by natives...I may be loving this idea...I can do it myself and it excites me... I am hoping the process or end product will knee jerk me back into the flow..xoxox..thank you.
When our SOUL wakes within we are never lonely again...
I almost always love your content. This was, as usual, wonderful. Thank you Russell for the brilliant and funny way you navigate through life and for sharing your brilliance with all of us. I often think; "That is EXACTLY what I think and you express it so beautifully."
We lift each other up always
I feel alone even in company ,I’ve come to live with it and accept it
I love those talks. It helps me tremendously. Thank you
Another amazing video
- removal from community (immigration, seeking too much materialistic wealth, colonialism legacy)
- not knowing your neighbour, isolated physical living, high rise condos etc
- currency as method of economy - capitalistic and competition vs bartering or exchanging services/helping each other
- high divorce rates - trauma for children and future generations unhealthy emotional development
Wrong. There is no cause . I am lonely is simply a thought. We can climb inside it and have a particular experience if we wish to...or not , once we realise that we do it by choice.
thank you Russell
Russell, Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your videos.
Thank you very well said❤️❤️
Will be looking for your podcast!
Thanks!
Great video. Talking sense as always.
Thank you !
Thank you sooo much Russell. This is distilled brillancy, and you're the only youtuber of your type where I agree with / resonate with everything you say. Your spiritual angles of social situations are incredibly important.
Peace and love to all the eyes that see this xo
Amazing Russell !! No more words needed here.
Beautiful. Thanks
What a simple and profound approach to loneliness! Thank you Russell🙏💕
Looking through youtube videos to find a cure for my loneliness
Listening to you and Eckhart Tolle keeps me sane (whatever sane is lol) xx
For all of those who've mentioned the desire to befriend like-minded people... look into the app/website MEETUP. It's been around for years now & I just checked - it's still very active. You can find interesting events & groups in your area. This is best for large or small cities... but it's worth checking out if you don't know where to start but really do want to get out & meet people with similar interests. It also provides the ability to start your own specific group - if you desire.
This is absolutely brilliant
Raising hand ... lonely .. hopeless.. sad
Are you feeling any better these days?