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@TryllaTröllMaistre Fictitious Fables of Europa The fate of the universe depends on it??? I can't even talk about it. How Can anybody change anything? You can only post what they let you post. If I had a billion dollars I'd make my own Google and banish them to hell. Though as I don't I am just going to look after myself And hope to live into my 90's feeding pigeons.
Russ, your rich can't you make your own Google. I mean it's just programming. Lead the Moses we will journey with you to a internet filled with Milk & Honey.
It's not dating apps that are the problem -- it's that they're implemented in a way to make money off your loneliness instead of actually helping you find love.
Yes but apps can't help us in love, we need to make effort and it's not something that is fast this app will only allow us meet a lot of people buy that's superficial , we need to add depth to it . Everything good needs time
The problem is silly humans thinking that you need an app for everything. Get off your damn phone and go out into the real world ffs! Walk up to people and strike up conversations! Join a club and mingle. Go to a bar and crack some jokes and talk. Sure, it takes more effort, but that’s what’s needed.
@@johnjohntv1195 I don't necessarily disagree, however, a properly implemented app should be considered like a tool to help augment your game, not replace it. Consider, for example, if you could see who's actually single (and maybe read a bit about them), before approaching in real life. While you may argue that you can infer that if you're at one of the locations you've listed, I don't like going to those places, and I'm not interested in most people that do. This is just one feature that could be implemented. Could also be gamified to encourage approaching in RL, and have modes that keep things fresh. Black Mirror comes to mind, although that app was obviously also a broken dystopian mess.
The thing I find hard with dating these days is that people are very reluctant to make themselves vulnerable to each other, because the likelihood of rejection now is higher more than ever. So what happens is that games are played, people are interested but don't want to seem it, people who aren't interested string people along, your texting all the time so things like length of text, emoji usage, kisses on the end of text, reply times etc. all become tools to which we people can manipulate others emotions. It is totally fucked. I feel like it is so rare to find someone whose intentions are genuine and they are just honest about it.
I’ve stopped online dating as of 2019. The early days of dating apps were great people genuinely had a desire to meet and connect. Now, it’s mainly for validation and it’s near impossible to find someone who can hold a conversation either via text or in person. The quality of people have plummeted.
Tinder doesn’t work - as us guys will willingly downgrade just to get laid Resulting in ladies having all the choice I’ve chatted to girls only to be unmatched - she has upgraded / but likely this will result in a one night stand Hence most female profiles say ‘no one night stands ‘
@@chriswalken6129 haha I thought it's only in my country every girl writes No ONS on her profile but of course they will have ONS with the hottest and richest guys
@@roboticskits yes / you have perfectly captured why TInder does not Work It’s simply guys downgrading for one night Stands And girls, upgrading for one night stands The solution? Would require girls to realise their grade / even loosely
@@chriswalken6129 Yeah, my last experience was with a church girl, she was 4 at best! She told me she had been on about 10 tinder dates in the previous 3 month. We didn't last 2 weeks she moved on to the next! I gave up already!
Two years celibacy here and learning to be alone is the new wealth. The lockdown has taught me to find joy in myself and hone my creativity and spiritual life. I am alone, but not lonely.
The phone is just a tool but the way the social media apps have been designed is absolutely disguisting, made to condition us into schizoid bags of anxiety and loneliness
i disagree, my smart phone helped me get my diploma. I didn't have a computer and i could go to the library. if it wasn't for my phone I would had to redo a year of hard work
Every single experience I had on a dating app was a negative one. I'm now a 40yo M, never married, no kids and content to live my life alone from here on in. This world is so fake that I would rather be content in my own personal space than have to live up to someone else's false expectations of reality.
My fiancé was exactly this way and then he met me and we get married next month. I hope you are happy whether with a partner or not but if you want one I hope you find them!
It's not your fault. Women are asking for higher standards in men even more if they have multiple partners to choose so don't bother and stress yourself.
On my own i have my own life, & get to do what i feel like. With someone, it could be really a lot more fun, or~ it could be smooshing myself to fit into someone else's life, & my stuff into the extra spare half-closet. It has gotta be easier than this. I've been looking for seven years. Really? Now, i think i would just like friends, & maybe a boyfriend.
There are a lot of people on there thinking that someone else is going to heal them through love. I am for the first time in my life not wanting to date because I refuse to relive anymore of those experiences. It is a like a repeating cycle with different faces.
I hate it because I tell the interested person, that I am not looking for a fling, I'm looking for a life partner. Then I get the answer that I am being too serious and need to lighten up. I just don't understand why I should waste my time with someone if they are just looking for a fling.
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Thank you for this video. It confirms my feeling of nausea and disgust and the overall feeling "this is so.wrong" and why.I stopped online dating. My time is limited on this earth and I felt it is a waste of my time that I could use for things that uplift me and nurture me instead. Thank you Papa Russel (this is how I call you in my mind). You always hit the nail on its head.
We used date people who live within two miles of us. Or else we met someone in college. We used to be able to get to know who they were. We didn't date people who were total strangers. Others knew them or knew of them. They were not a complete mystery with pictures as old as 15 years and reputations they can hide by lying on their dating profile. It is extremely tiresome to go out with people you have nothing in common with except they like to take long walks on the beach and don't look like their pictures. There was a lot less potential rejection in the old style of dating. You already knew if the guy was a dope, a fool, a Don Juan or who his parents are and how he behaves in general. Many things were worked out before a girl or a guy looked at each and thought maybe, or "yes, he's my type of guy." And apparently it is an enormous amount of work!
I set my distance limit to within 5 miles and had a good time on dates in my neighborhood. I was also working in the neighborhood and didn’t have a car for 6 years.
From a personal experience, one good way to meet a partner is to through hobbies. I met my husband (yes, on Craigslist), when I was looking for a latin dance partner. We have been together for 13 years now.
Loneliness is actually very dangerous to our health and increases our mortality yet we act like this is all normal and okay when it's not. When it becomes so hard to even connect with people on a friendship level you just know that society is very ill.
Yes, that. I do love my solitude and spend days on end in solitude, just me and my dogs. But no matter how much we love it, there comes a point when we NEED human contact, human hugs and human conversation. But it is no where to be found anymore it seems. You're right, society is very ill. That is what my take away was from online dating!
True but it’s just reality. My own mother would slit my throat for a ham sandwich and I’ve made de connections since then. So, for people like me, you’ve got to learn to live with loneliness. Having said that, I’m blessed with an amazing life.
No interest in dating...I found the Love of my life in Myself...been fabulously SINGLE for 4 years and NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! never dating again!! Hallelujah to COMPLETE FREEDOM
I agree with a lot of what you've said here Russell! As a single heterosexual guy and someone who has survived cancer its difficult meeting new people. I've been single now for about 9 years, I've used various dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble etc with no great luck. I've also tried to meet people with similar interests to me to forge a connection, however I've been mostly friend zoned :( However I'm staying positive for the future and hoping to meet someone that I can connect with on different levels.
@@x97s Yeah! I’ve been rejected before by someone I had deep feelings for, so I guess I’ve maybe thought the ‘friend zone’ is an easier way to keep friends! Good advice though! 👍
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *Sex and Culture* by Joseph Daniel Unwin *The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell *The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Men on Strike* by Helen Smith *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous Feminist's Ideology from Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook: "My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Cardi B. artist & role model for the most privilege 🦄 on the entire planet: “My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.” Isaiah 3:12 *Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road. Proverbs 31:3 Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. Ezekiel 23:20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 🕊💚🙋🏻♂️
I was content for 4 years being single. Then I decided it was time to meet someone new and I joined Tinder. Since then I feel crap and undesirable as a woman, and already met 3 scammers who thought I'd fall prey to them as a 43 year old woman. Within 3 weeks. I only met one person who was remotely interesting but he stopped talking to me. It there's no reply until the end of the day, I'm just deleting this crap.
Children learn how to love based on how their parents interact. Being alone is better than being with the wrong person, but its worth looking for a good person. She will miss out 🤷🏼♀️
@@tanyalucas4683 I agree 100%. Just seems finding the right person is difficult. I don't want my daughter to get attached to someone and it end badly again. Kinda feel like "damned if I do, damned if I dont". Thankfully she spends a lot of time around my parents who have been married for almost 40 years. So she can have ideas on what a good functioning relationship looks like
For me dating became fun when you see it as an avenue to self-exploration and exploration of others, and not just as a means to an end of 'obtaining' a relationship
"do not allow these screens to become a magnet for your time and your attention and your precious unique individual life" Wise words Russell, thank you
As an average-looking Ph.D. student in STEM, who is also a teetotaler who does not like the club or bar scene, who lives in a university town, the prospect of even meeting someone through dating apps is seeming hopeless. It is especially challenging and even depressing when you match with someone you like when they don't have the same excitement as I do in texting with them (this is by no means their fault, as everyone has their own preference). This is where I am now. I generally do not use dating apps, and I try to numb this longing for a partner through work or chores. Two weeks ago I was feeling hopeful and made the mistake of downloading a dating app and I must say never I have never felt this shitty. I hope a year from now to come back to this comment and reflect if things have changed.
Omg!! I hear you! Made the epic mistake of downloading a dating up Just before my holidays (save yourself pain, never do that 🤣). I got catfished first and then met someone and thought the conversation was going well and THEN BAM..Unmatched me and ghosted. Darned almost ruined my annual break. Lesson learned. Wishing you the best for the future. 🙏
Never felt more lonely than after using dating apps. Thanks for making this video and the suggestion on being present. Guess it always comes down to spirituality. I hope you make more videos on this topic!
The hardest part of being single in this time is having preferences as somehow theyre not allowed. We're expected to cling to the first person to show us interest since we should feel lucky someone even matched with us. I have boundries and when I let people know about them, they get offended since they dont fit what im looking for. Deal breakers exist. I shouldnt have to bend my prefrences and morals/values just to be in a relationship. Compromises are a thing but if we dont match and dont agree on fundamentals, it doesn't mean youre not a good person, it just means you're not a good match for ME.
You are very logical and mature about it- and the last line is highly relevant and important. People may need help seeing it's not a rejection- weird analogy- everyone makes such a big deal about getting into certain schools- rather than focusing on the school that matches their needs and personality. I know it feels like a jump- but it's truth.
Yeh, let's reconnect with nature Let's make sure every family can get a hectare of land for free and grow their own food, connect with earth, the plants and the animals
I've been done with dating for a while now. Everyone's got problems I don't want to deal with these days. Sometimes I get curious about people, but it doesn't usually take me long to remember why I would rather be alone. With my luck I keep running into really fucked up people who seem okay at first and I'm just tired of it. Not worth the effort I put in.
I prefer to be single rather than use dating apps. If the Universe has someone in mind for me, it'll happen naturally. I've grown so much spiritually since I've been single otherwise I'm perfectly happy and won't ever settle for less again.
What I have noticed with the younger generation they have not learned the fine art of conversation and real life, in person interaction.They should have real life places where people can meet a real person .They have lost the fun of social interaction.They look at people in bits and pieces. To much choice not enough quality 👍🙏🏼🤯
I think the concept of dating is already a construct that imposes rules and expectations over relationships. I was born and raised in a culture that didn't use the term dating. Your relationships could be formed in any place and time.
I stopped online dating, and using apps, a long time ago. After a while, it became obvious to me that I was leaning on the mere act of seeking dates online for validation. Having met most of my previous dates in natural, social gatherings, I felt that I should go back to that approach. The pandemic actually helped me become less codependent and more satisfied with being alone. Not lonely. I see online dating as too detached to be healthy. You're looking at images and text to make dating decisions. It's almost robotic. Now that society is returning to in person activities, I will stick with meeting people through social situations. I just can't look at dating as if I'm shopping for someone, as one would shop for groceries. Which is what online dating looks like to me. Great video, Russell.
Finding love, keeping love, wondering if you found the right love…this human condition is a wild ride. The endless comings and going’s, all the endings and beginnings- hold onto the center with the deepest roots- the unchanging timeless unconditional love that is your birth right. Thanks Russel for your light💕
Russell, the other problem with dating apps is that there is about 50 to 1---guy to girl---on the dating site. Here is an example: I created a fake account with an OKAY looking woman, nothing spectacular. During the first hour, I received over a hundred messages. I had so many messages that I could not answer them all. After the first hour, I had a mind-boggling 40 men ask me on a date. To boot, like I said, the woman I created the account with wasn't even good-looking.
dating apps make me want to kms honestly. i hate having that 2d image of me and other people be the first thing someone sees. i much rather like to meet people in real life, yknow its really easy to tell if you vibe with someone when you meet them in person. swiping makes me feel empty, because im reducing humans to an object. but also theres so much pressure, like, i cannot meet everyone in my city in a day, but i can go through hundreds of them online... i must say though, i met my best friend through okcupid and im really happy i did.
I don’t even get ‘likes’ on my RUclips comments. I am mostly invisible in the online world. I am glad I have friends I can call on the phone or meet in person with as I am a complete loser on social media and dating apps.
Yeah me too. I build up social circles now. New friends at the gym, at work. When I go out for Friday drinks, I make an effort to talk to new people and listen to what the have to say. People love it when you listen to their stories, but I need to get better.
I have no idea why RB started doing these videos but they are fabulous. Thoughtful, interesting and well explained. Awesome job; so glad I stumbled onto these! 👏🏻
Russell, I already loved your thoughts & all your content, but this made me so happy to hear someone who has been through everything you have and reached the position you're in speaking about this in an enlightened way. Thank you! Much respect. 🙏💕
I don't use dating apps and never have and probably never will but I find this issue is the same even in real life friendships. And most people think you are weird if you don't use social media. This whole year has made this starkly obvious when there was an instant divide between the pro-v and the against. Which of course the apps are profiting on, offering special badges for those that have had it etc. I feel like they couldn't divide humanity further if they tried.
Russell, you are such a gem. Well done for taking the time to practice introspection and thus become the wonderful, generous human you have become today 🙏💕
I don't fit into the Instagram world. I'm not airbrushed. My life isn't perfect. I'm in therapy. I was injured by a surgeon and have to change careers. People like me, those who are suddenly disabled, those who aren't Narcissists, don't fit into the dating app scene, or on much of social media. I've found my tribe on Twitter, but I have no one in my real life that I can talk about PTSD with, or who can accept me and my life challenges. These are not things to disclose in a fledgling relationship.
I think its a combination of online gaming, porn and dating apps that put you in a real mental block when it comes to dating. Causes isolation. Speaking from experience.
My experience with online dating after 2019 has been strange, I felt like an item for sale, being scrutinized and chucked aside. The few dates I went on, the men expected sex straight away. No thanks, I will stay single and just meet someone the old fashioned way.
Honestly, these men acted like they had purchased YOU for the price of a meal. Like, seriously? They actually said such stupid stuff as, "I want to see you naked first, so i know if you're worth dating." And, "I spent money on gas to get here, so you better put out." What? What?
@@angaeltartarrose6484 that is crazy. I had an older guy, pressure me too. Saying almost the same thing. It was the second date, and he's saying that if I didn't put out he was moving on. I told him to lose my number.
@@erikafreebird6449 So you expected him to pay for your meal? If you don't have anything going for you other than sex, then men simply won't be able to value you for anything other than sex. Women need to realise this.
@@IISG93II I will also add that I have run a rescue for 19 years, before that a contracted solo singer with CBS Records, an actress, and horse trainer....I have deep interest in many things, sex comes after a friendship is established and once there is love and respect.
Been on the apps for a 2 months now, and all along have been aware that there is something emotionally not right there, but would not have been able to articulate it as you did. Thank You Russell.
This can be found to be just a belief you have internalised. Sit with yourself, and witness the belief within you. You are not it, and it is not you. You are indefinable. By realising you’re holding this belief captive rather than it holding you captive, you may release it. Do not be tricked by the mind, I wish you all the best.
Thank you so much. I welled up watching this video. I've not found anything which even comes close to unpacking how toxic this spiral can be. Thank you again.
Never met any genuine people with online dating. They all applied filters to their photos and lied about their age and their circumstances. I got over it soon, and deleted the apps and never looked back.
Dating now a days with these apps is sooo emotionally exhausting. People ghost you or you have an entirely too long conversation to never meet and it goes on and on. I'm taking a break from dating for the next few months 🤪
Been single for ages ..just me and my dog ..don't want to go on dating apps so I guess I'll continue to be talking to myself ..and my dog ..though its getting pretty depressing :/
Use the app in a conscious way. Just like money, apps are evil or soul destroying...it’s your choice how you use them. You know what serves you best. 💜🌸
My spirituality bought about my celibacy 7 years back but I've never considered myself single? No apps, detached from the nouns, people, places and things. I found my reconnection with nature and meditation with the elements purged a whole load of hidden inhibitions and found myself available yet unattainable 🤣 when you do the work you inevitably raise the bar. I'm selfish with myself I guess but trust the divine will find a way. I'm in no rush these days ✨🙏🔮 happy as a horn on a ram, enjoying my aloneness not singledom. For me there's a difference. I choose this lifestyle I thrive alone until a breeze of complimentary assistance arrives 🧘♀️
Our singleness has now been commodified. It’s been capitalized on for economic means. However, to break that cycle, we will have to become more open to and less judgmental of alternative ways of connecting and meeting. Let go of traditions and habits long enough to find new ways, ways that are more honoring of our humanity. 💕 For example, the unspoken rule is you can’t be friends with an ex. Why? If you meet someone new and they find out you’re friends with an ex, they may automatically assume you still are romantic, and also assume that means you aren’t dating material. Why? Shouldn’t the ability to maintain friendships outside of failed romantic partnerships signify a maturity not weakness? We have to start the journey into recreate what is “okay” around dating, partnership, and even marriage. Most married couples I know are equally unhappy as the singles, but unhappy marriages are socially acceptable, so married couples accept their unhappiness, it seems, rather than asking how to improve this social dynamic from within. We all need to start questioning old paradigms.
I went on 2 dating site for about 2 weeks. It was boreing and repedative and when you told people that you only wanted someone interested in a long term relationship they still went on to try and hook up for sex. So I came off them and I took a celabcy vow of my own for a year. It was a great idiea took all that bullshit off the table. I now have peace of mind and I'm doing more work on myself. Much needed.
I would find a million people to "date" on those apps, but no one who actually wanted to be a partner. I realized I needed a Ride or Die and I wasn't gonna find that by an algorythm.
Damn, you speak so much good sense Russell! All those years of reading self-help books and searching for inner meaning are starting to pay off big time. :-D
Brilliant, helpful advice, Russell. I was accumulating too many of these Tee Shirts. As you say, the surfeit of options along with advanced AI in this Age of Misinformation and Disinformation causes you to disappear down countless Quantum rabbit holes created wasted time, stress and frustration.
What no one has mentioned is the catfish to real person ratio. There are so many catfish trying to get into our wallets that one becomes jaded and then it’s hard to decipher and take real people seriously.
A good topic Russell... Meeting someone online isn't the same as meeting someone for real... Online many people fake who and what they are and have loads of people on the go.... I prefer the old fashioned simple way of dating... It's more open and honest and you can look into that person's eyes and see for yourself if their messing you around and if there is a genuine connection .... I too switch my phone off and need to cut off..... You need to do more of these chats.... People ain't getting the message... They think the solution to eternal happiness and fulfillment lies in these dating apps.... It's like gambling... It leaves a you addicted and empty.
You do realise you can do all that wih 'online dating?'Like, you go on dates and stuff. It's just a tool to actually get in contact with a range of different people.
Welcome to dating apps where people are a commodity and you're just one click away from the perfect match.😕 Don't commit to someone because you never know who might be on next week seems to be the mantra.🤦♀️
Yes! It's a lack of spiritual connection with Atman! And even if you do find that connection with Artman, we self sabotage with small ruptures and fissures all the time. And when that happens, we're quick to seek outside "validation" as part of the repair.
I've tried them and they don't work for me at all. They end up making me feel bad and your right to bring up why are we searching for a relationship in the first place. I'm used to being alone and I'd rather be than get with a woman for the wrong reason. When the right one comes along I'm sure I'll know it.
You are the very best and by extension the team behind you. I've been centering on this point for quite a while. We can see that this point interrelates/intersects with many other aspects of what i would call the social degradation of modern society. An additional talking point would be the convenience aspect, which corresponds to the commercialization/ monetization /commodification that you spoke to... Yet shouldn't somethings be difficult? The character building aspect of rejection should not be an overlooked factor in this discussion. The very nature of our existence is one of struggle, to learn to walk, to run, to eat, to sleep, to love, to reproduce and to finally die... Its why we find such comfort in catharsis, for we find it analogous to the human condition. Once again thank you and I'm so very hopeful of the future, because of voices like yours. -Lewis Abrahms
Like someone said on a previous video, Russell should set up his own dating app within his YT community. You'd have a head start in terms of connection with other people.
Dear Russell, I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate and enjoy your videos! Please, keep going the way you do and share your perspectives and ideas with people! Unfortunately, I feel quite like in a spiral of being both loonely and belittling myself... A lot of things just don't seem to work out the way I wish... Career... Relatioships... Therefore watching your vids gives me a lot of hope. I've always been a rather optimistic man but the last relationships and years have somehow changed me... Probably I have just changed... I wish you all the best and I will keep watching your vids, thanks for your great work!!!!
@@roboticskits My understanding is that by just liking everyone the system knows you are doing that and lowers your ranking, so you might not even be shown to any women to match to.
The more opportunities/options we have, the more we are prone to repeated rejection. This causes people to feel disheartened. On the other end, there are people who don't recieve many matches or at least don't match with ppl they feel attracted to, so they feel doomed. U tend to internalize this when it happens so often.
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On my last comment's I received a message asking me to send info to an Email to be interviewed as a fan... I didn't respond..
Oh! You've a brown dog...then you are well on your way to Nirvana.
Oh Yes, Michael Hudson...I forgot...I shall deguise myself as a maintenance man to your life.
@TryllaTröllMaistre Fictitious Fables of Europa The fate of the universe depends on it???
I can't even talk about it.
How Can anybody change anything?
You can only post what they let you post.
If I had a billion dollars I'd make my own Google and banish them to hell.
Though as I don't I am just going to look after myself
And hope to live into my 90's feeding pigeons.
Russ, your rich can't you make your own Google. I mean it's just programming. Lead the Moses we will journey with you to a internet filled with Milk & Honey.
It's not dating apps that are the problem -- it's that they're implemented in a way to make money off your loneliness instead of actually helping you find love.
That’s it.
Yes but apps can't help us in love, we need to make effort and it's not something that is fast this app will only allow us meet a lot of people buy that's superficial , we need to add depth to it . Everything good needs time
The problem is silly humans thinking that you need an app for everything. Get off your damn phone and go out into the real world ffs! Walk up to people and strike up conversations! Join a club and mingle. Go to a bar and crack some jokes and talk. Sure, it takes more effort, but that’s what’s needed.
@@johnjohntv1195 I don't necessarily disagree, however, a properly implemented app should be considered like a tool to help augment your game, not replace it.
Consider, for example, if you could see who's actually single (and maybe read a bit about them), before approaching in real life. While you may argue that you can infer that if you're at one of the locations you've listed, I don't like going to those places, and I'm not interested in most people that do.
This is just one feature that could be implemented. Could also be gamified to encourage approaching in RL, and have modes that keep things fresh. Black Mirror comes to mind, although that app was obviously also a broken dystopian mess.
What is love?
I’m tired of thinking about dating 😂 If I can’t find someone the old fashion way then I’ll be single forever 💪🏻
I feel the same !
Me too
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Russell.... host a singles retreat and let us like minded folks come find our match. Then we'll create our homesteading tribe of 150 😆
I'm in!
I'm in! What an Amazon idea!
Yes!! please do. at least we have a lot in common mentally in this group of people…
You know you could set this up yourself? It would be a bit of work but it’s possible.
I'll bring my husband!
The thing I find hard with dating these days is that people are very reluctant to make themselves vulnerable to each other, because the likelihood of rejection now is higher more than ever. So what happens is that games are played, people are interested but don't want to seem it, people who aren't interested string people along, your texting all the time so things like length of text, emoji usage, kisses on the end of text, reply times etc. all become tools to which we people can manipulate others emotions. It is totally fucked. I feel like it is so rare to find someone whose intentions are genuine and they are just honest about it.
Couldn't have said it better myself! You are 100% correct!
I relate to this so much
I think so many of us feel this way
Wow this post really hit home for me. There's a complete lack of trust and willingness to be vulnerable in others and I've realized even in myself.
Very insightful-
Aldous Huxleys message in Brave New World is when everything is available, nothing has meaning.
I’ve stopped online dating as of 2019. The early days of dating apps were great people genuinely had a desire to meet and connect. Now, it’s mainly for validation and it’s near impossible to find someone who can hold a conversation either via text or in person. The quality of people have plummeted.
@Athena Adventures, completely agree, the art of conversation is dead, as is romance it's all about quick fix n gratification 🥺
I've stopped too....just a waste of time
Like everything else these days, dating is unnecessarily extremely complicated
Tinder doesn’t work - as us guys will willingly downgrade just to get laid
Resulting in ladies having all the choice
I’ve chatted to girls only to be unmatched - she has upgraded / but likely this will result in a one night stand
Hence most female profiles say ‘no one night stands ‘
@@chriswalken6129 haha I thought it's only in my country every girl writes No ONS on her profile but of course they will have ONS with the hottest and richest guys
@@roboticskits yes / you have perfectly captured why TInder does not
Work
It’s simply guys downgrading for one night Stands
And girls, upgrading for one night stands
The solution?
Would require girls to realise their grade / even loosely
@@chriswalken6129 Yeah, my last experience was with a church girl, she was 4 at best! She told me she had been on about 10 tinder dates in the previous 3 month. We didn't last 2 weeks she moved on to the next! I gave up already!
@@roboticskits we need to take up hobbies that involve ladies - yoga, dancing
Two years celibacy here and learning to be alone is the new wealth. The lockdown has taught me to find joy in myself and hone my creativity and spiritual life. I am alone, but not lonely.
I also got a new puppy, 2 birds and 5 fish. Sorted. Haha
I'm lonely
youre in denial
If these "smartphones" would've stayed mobile phones would've been much healthier for the human species
Yes, I agree with with this (she typed on her Android).
The phone is just a tool but the way the social media apps have been designed is absolutely disguisting, made to condition us into schizoid bags of anxiety and loneliness
i disagree, my smart phone helped me get my diploma. I didn't have a computer and i could go to the library. if it wasn't for my phone I would had to redo a year of hard work
Every single experience I had on a dating app was a negative one. I'm now a 40yo M, never married, no kids and content to live my life alone from here on in. This world is so fake that I would rather be content in my own personal space than have to live up to someone else's false expectations of reality.
I completely understand.
My fiancé was exactly this way and then he met me and we get married next month. I hope you are happy whether with a partner or not but if you want one I hope you find them!
It's not your fault. Women are asking for higher standards in men even more if they have multiple partners to choose so don't bother and stress yourself.
@@aronr3327 so true - you arent a PERSON to her on an app, as Russell said here "youre an OPTION"
On my own i have my own life, & get to do what i feel like. With someone, it could be really a lot more fun, or~ it could be smooshing myself to fit into someone else's life, & my stuff into the extra spare half-closet. It has gotta be easier than this. I've been looking for seven years. Really? Now, i think i would just like friends, & maybe a boyfriend.
You can be alone and NOT BE LONELY... LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY!!💖
You can like your own company and still be lonely for companionship.
@@hopefully2224 my Dogs are my best companions... loyal, loving, and honest... and for human interaction, family and friends are more than enough!!
Women are never alone. Men are never not alone.
@@marcusayoub3701 makes no sense to me... but do u!!
There are a lot of people on there thinking that someone else is going to heal them through love.
I am for the first time in my life not wanting to date because I refuse to relive anymore of those experiences. It is a like a repeating cycle with different faces.
I hate it because I tell the interested person, that I am not looking for a fling, I'm looking for a life partner. Then I get the answer that I am being too serious and need to lighten up. I just don't understand why I should waste my time with someone if they are just looking for a fling.
I hate it because I can't seem to get either a relationship OR a fling!
Being single is the new being in a relationship 😂👍
I'm single and happy and content..
@Marksman78 lol how dare you categorize me 😂 now I feel trapped 👍👍
@Marksman78 im asexual but I don't like being categorized either tbh. Im just me thats it
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Not really true though it is. This is very naive thinking, life can be brutal
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Bollox
"I don't even know if I need peanut butter anymore". Exactly! This is the correct conclusion.
Thank you for this video. It confirms my feeling of nausea and disgust and the overall feeling "this is so.wrong" and why.I stopped online dating. My time is limited on this earth and I felt it is a waste of my time that I could use for things that uplift me and nurture me instead. Thank you Papa Russel (this is how I call you in my mind). You always hit the nail on its head.
We used date people who live within two miles of us. Or else we met someone in college. We used to be able to get to know who they were. We didn't date people who were total strangers. Others knew them or knew of them. They were not a complete mystery with pictures as old as 15 years and reputations they can hide by lying on their dating profile. It is extremely tiresome to go out with people you have nothing in common with except they like to take long walks on the beach and don't look like their pictures. There was a lot less potential rejection in the old style of dating. You already knew if the guy was a dope, a fool, a Don Juan or who his parents are and how he behaves in general. Many things were worked out before a girl or a guy looked at each and thought maybe, or "yes, he's my type of guy." And apparently it is an enormous amount of work!
My thoughts exactly
Nailed it. We found attraction visually first and then learned their nature, Apps are doing the reverse.
I set my distance limit to within 5 miles and had a good time on dates in my neighborhood. I was also working in the neighborhood and didn’t have a car for 6 years.
So true, I totally agree, the old way made so much sense and was also a safe way to date someone cuz you know they are not a serial killer
As a Christian it's easier, you have common values as a foundation and vision on life ✌️
From a personal experience, one good way to meet a partner is to through hobbies. I met my husband (yes, on Craigslist), when I was looking for a latin dance partner. We have been together for 13 years now.
And you’ve even been married by Reverend Buj!
Thank you for sharing 🐱❤
That's beautiful Margaret!
Dating through dating apps sucks on a general level.
Let's use this RUclips comment section instead :)
Loneliness is actually very dangerous to our health and increases our mortality yet we act like this is all normal and okay when it's not.
When it becomes so hard to even connect with people on a friendship level you just know that society is very ill.
Yes, that. I do love my solitude and spend days on end in solitude, just me and my dogs. But no matter how much we love it, there comes a point when we NEED human contact, human hugs and human conversation. But it is no where to be found anymore it seems. You're right, society is very ill. That is what my take away was from online dating!
True but it’s just reality. My own mother would slit my throat for a ham sandwich and I’ve made de connections since then. So, for people like me, you’ve got to learn to live with loneliness. Having said that, I’m blessed with an amazing life.
No interest in dating...I found the Love of my life in Myself...been fabulously SINGLE for 4 years and NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! never dating again!! Hallelujah to COMPLETE FREEDOM
I agree with a lot of what you've said here Russell! As a single heterosexual guy and someone who has survived cancer its difficult meeting new people. I've been single now for about 9 years, I've used various dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble etc with no great luck. I've also tried to meet people with similar interests to me to forge a connection, however I've been mostly friend zoned :( However I'm staying positive for the future and hoping to meet someone that I can connect with on different levels.
Trust in Divine timing. There are heaps of single girls out there for you ❤️
The best way to avoid the friendzone is to be more direct
@@x97s Yeah! I’ve been rejected before by someone I had deep feelings for, so I guess I’ve maybe thought the ‘friend zone’ is an easier way to keep friends! Good advice though! 👍
@@amethystfeathers7324 statistically girls only fvck 20% of guys. there is nothing divine about this
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
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Isaiah 3:12
*Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road.
Proverbs 31:3
Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.
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I was content for 4 years being single. Then I decided it was time to meet someone new and I joined Tinder. Since then I feel crap and undesirable as a woman, and already met 3 scammers who thought I'd fall prey to them as a 43 year old woman. Within 3 weeks. I only met one person who was remotely interesting but he stopped talking to me. It there's no reply until the end of the day, I'm just deleting this crap.
Same story here
I would just give up like i did
Dating in today's world sucks. At this point, I'm content with just it being my daughter and I (single parent home)
Children learn how to love based on how their parents interact. Being alone is better than being with the wrong person, but its worth looking for a good person. She will miss out 🤷🏼♀️
@@tanyalucas4683 I agree 100%. Just seems finding the right person is difficult. I don't want my daughter to get attached to someone and it end badly again. Kinda feel like "damned if I do, damned if I dont". Thankfully she spends a lot of time around my parents who have been married for almost 40 years. So she can have ideas on what a good functioning relationship looks like
It’s become a very shallow world that’s for sure
@@lauranja913 unfortunately
@Neil Watkins I guess. That's just me saying I'm a single parent. Lol I edited original comment
"Too much choice" , i can barely get a single match tbh. Its not good for the soul to be so demonstratively unwanted
too much choice is only for women and chads.
this is what normies don't get is it's not the "too much choices" fallacy. it's fem ale hyperg amy that's the problem.
For me dating became fun when you see it as an avenue to self-exploration and exploration of others, and not just as a means to an end of 'obtaining' a relationship
I agree
>an avenue of self-exploration and exploration of others
so chad coroussel?
"do not allow these screens to become a magnet for your time and your attention and your precious unique individual life" Wise words Russell, thank you
As an average-looking Ph.D. student in STEM, who is also a teetotaler who does not like the club or bar scene, who lives in a university town, the prospect of even meeting someone through dating apps is seeming hopeless. It is especially challenging and even depressing when you match with someone you like when they don't have the same excitement as I do in texting with them (this is by no means their fault, as everyone has their own preference). This is where I am now.
I generally do not use dating apps, and I try to numb this longing for a partner through work or chores. Two weeks ago I was feeling hopeful and made the mistake of downloading a dating app and I must say never I have never felt this shitty.
I hope a year from now to come back to this comment and reflect if things have changed.
Omg!! I hear you! Made the epic mistake of downloading a dating up Just before my holidays (save yourself pain, never do that 🤣). I got catfished first and then met someone and thought the conversation was going well and THEN BAM..Unmatched me and ghosted. Darned almost ruined my annual break. Lesson learned. Wishing you the best for the future. 🙏
How is live now for you?
So then talk to people at the grocery store or costco and get a lot of approaches done.
Never felt more lonely than after using dating apps. Thanks for making this video and the suggestion on being present. Guess it always comes down to spirituality. I hope you make more videos on this topic!
The hardest part of being single in this time is having preferences as somehow theyre not allowed. We're expected to cling to the first person to show us interest since we should feel lucky someone even matched with us. I have boundries and when I let people know about them, they get offended since they dont fit what im looking for. Deal breakers exist. I shouldnt have to bend my prefrences and morals/values just to be in a relationship. Compromises are a thing but if we dont match and dont agree on fundamentals, it doesn't mean youre not a good person, it just means you're not a good match for ME.
💯
dam well said. I resonated a lot with your message!
I know what you mean. I'm not making myself miserable just so I'm not alone.
I really don't understand some people's reasoning.
@Meddlecat Maybe you're walking around with your eyes closed
You are very logical and mature about it- and the last line is highly relevant and important. People may need help seeing it's not a rejection- weird analogy- everyone makes such a big deal about getting into certain schools- rather than focusing on the school that matches their needs and personality. I know it feels like a jump- but it's truth.
Yeh, let's reconnect with nature
Let's make sure every family can get a hectare of land for free and grow their own food, connect with earth, the plants and the animals
heck, i'd do okay on 5 acres
@@tun0fun Yes, I have
I hate tinder. What a terrible way to connect
Ok Cupid, too. I also tried Spiritual Singles and it was just as bad as Ok Cupid. So many creepers. 😐
Yeah it's shit, BUT meet ONE good person on it and your thoughts on it would change. It only takes one
I've been done with dating for a while now. Everyone's got problems I don't want to deal with these days. Sometimes I get curious about people, but it doesn't usually take me long to remember why I would rather be alone. With my luck I keep running into really fucked up people who seem okay at first and I'm just tired of it. Not worth the effort I put in.
I hear ya.
Same ya
I prefer to be single rather than use dating apps. If the Universe has someone in mind for me, it'll happen naturally. I've grown so much spiritually since I've been single otherwise I'm perfectly happy and won't ever settle for less again.
What I have noticed with the younger generation they have not learned the fine art of conversation and real life, in person interaction.They should have real life places where people can meet a real person .They have lost the fun of social interaction.They look at people in bits and pieces. To much choice not enough quality 👍🙏🏼🤯
I know a millennial who actually says “lol” like “loll”
@Meddlecat it is also like that the other wat around . It is both ways. Sad but true
In long lines with everyone on their phone. No one talking. Crazy.
@Meddlecat gosh, that sounds just like she's acting like guys do.
If I could stop getting ghosted, I'd be happy. I'm staying single, I'm pretty, I'm nice, I'm kind, but no one seems to want me. Its a con big time.
I feel you but maybe God is trying to protect you from bad men !!
I am waiting for #Yahweh to bring my husband.
Namaste, Russel. Your words help sort through the confusion like no one else's. You ground and uplift at the same time. And yes dating apps are toxic.
Tech is humanities downfall
I think the concept of dating is already a construct that imposes rules and expectations over relationships. I was born and raised in a culture that didn't use the term dating. Your relationships could be formed in any place and time.
Astute observation
I stopped online dating, and using apps, a long time ago. After a while, it became obvious to me that I was leaning on the mere act of seeking dates online for validation. Having met most of my previous dates in natural, social gatherings, I felt that I should go back to that approach. The pandemic actually helped me become less codependent and more satisfied with being alone. Not lonely. I see online dating as too detached to be healthy. You're looking at images and text to make dating decisions. It's almost robotic. Now that society is returning to in person activities, I will stick with meeting people through social situations. I just can't look at dating as if I'm shopping for someone, as one would shop for groceries. Which is what online dating looks like to me. Great video, Russell.
Finding love, keeping love, wondering if you found the right love…this human condition is a wild ride. The endless comings and going’s, all the endings and beginnings- hold onto the center with the deepest roots- the unchanging timeless unconditional love that is your birth right. Thanks Russel for your light💕
Just what I needed to hear. The abundance of choices is truly exhausting. Hate how we treat each other as objects. Thanks for sharing
Russell, the other problem with dating apps is that there is about 50 to 1---guy to girl---on the dating site. Here is an example: I created a fake account with an OKAY looking woman, nothing spectacular. During the first hour, I received over a hundred messages. I had so many messages that I could not answer them all. After the first hour, I had a mind-boggling 40 men ask me on a date. To boot, like I said, the woman I created the account with wasn't even good-looking.
Yeah, one of the many female privileges feminists don't talk about.
dating apps make me want to kms honestly. i hate having that 2d image of me and other people be the first thing someone sees. i much rather like to meet people in real life, yknow its really easy to tell if you vibe with someone when you meet them in person. swiping makes me feel empty, because im reducing humans to an object. but also theres so much pressure, like, i cannot meet everyone in my city in a day, but i can go through hundreds of them online...
i must say though, i met my best friend through okcupid and im really happy i did.
“Most people are utter arse aches”. Eugene O'Neill, Hamlet.
“Other people are quite dreadful. The only possible society is oneself”. ~ Oscar Wilde, “An Ideal Husband”
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I don’t even get ‘likes’ on my RUclips comments. I am mostly invisible in the online world. I am glad I have friends I can call on the phone or meet in person with as I am a complete loser on social media and dating apps.
I see you.
As long as you have real friends in the physical world, you are not a loser at all! You seem nice. Take care.
Yeah me too. I build up social circles now. New friends at the gym, at work. When I go out for Friday drinks, I make an effort to talk to new people and listen to what the have to say. People love it when you listen to their stories, but I need to get better.
I have no idea why RB started doing these videos but they are fabulous. Thoughtful, interesting and well explained. Awesome job; so glad I stumbled onto these! 👏🏻
Russell, I already loved your thoughts & all your content, but this made me so happy to hear someone who has been through everything you have and reached the position you're in speaking about this in an enlightened way. Thank you! Much respect. 🙏💕
At least profiles with 'I've been jabbed' flags and faces wearing a nappy cuts down who you have to interact with.
We now know which people are lying to themselves
Don't they just!!! Thank you appreciate this x
I dont understand lol
It's both the covid fearing people and the anti maskers that turn me off. So goddamn divided and extreme either way.Somewhere in the middle, nuance
@I Don’t Care What You Think me too
I don't use dating apps and never have and probably never will but I find this issue is the same even in real life friendships. And most people think you are weird if you don't use social media. This whole year has made this starkly obvious when there was an instant divide between the pro-v and the against. Which of course the apps are profiting on, offering special badges for those that have had it etc. I feel like they couldn't divide humanity further if they tried.
Russell, you are such a gem. Well done for taking the time to practice introspection and thus become the wonderful, generous human you have become today 🙏💕
Even if you get into a relationship it's going to feel just as empty
Best comment so far.....
100% true
Yep
I don't fit into the Instagram world.
I'm not airbrushed.
My life isn't perfect.
I'm in therapy.
I was injured by a surgeon and have to change careers.
People like me, those who are suddenly disabled, those who aren't Narcissists, don't fit into the dating app scene, or on much of social media. I've found my tribe on Twitter, but I have no one in my real life that I can talk about PTSD with, or who can accept me and my life challenges. These are not things to disclose in a fledgling relationship.
Thank you, Russell for trying to dissect this issue. Your words bring a bit of solace amidst a broken world. ☺️
Russell has returned to form recently. This is brilliant, loved it, Always brings up new ways of seeing things
I think its a combination of online gaming, porn and dating apps that put you in a real mental block when it comes to dating. Causes isolation.
Speaking from experience.
My experience with online dating after 2019 has been strange, I felt like an item for sale, being scrutinized and chucked aside. The few dates I went on, the men expected sex straight away. No thanks, I will stay single and just meet someone the old fashioned way.
Honestly, these men acted like they had purchased YOU for the price of a meal. Like, seriously? They actually said such stupid stuff as, "I want to see you naked first, so i know if you're worth dating." And, "I spent money on gas to get here, so you better put out." What? What?
@@angaeltartarrose6484 that is crazy. I had an older guy, pressure me too. Saying almost the same thing. It was the second date, and he's saying that if I didn't put out he was moving on. I told him to lose my number.
@@erikafreebird6449 So you expected him to pay for your meal? If you don't have anything going for you other than sex, then men simply won't be able to value you for anything other than sex. Women need to realise this.
@@IISG93II we didn't go out to eat met at the park with my dogs.
@@IISG93II I will also add that I have run a rescue for 19 years, before that a contracted solo singer with CBS Records, an actress, and horse trainer....I have deep interest in many things, sex comes after a friendship is established and once there is love and respect.
Been on the apps for a 2 months now, and all along have been aware that there is something emotionally not right there, but would not have been able to articulate it as you did. Thank You Russell.
I think I've become too much of a hermit with too many strange idiosyncrasies to be a good partner for any self respecting woman.
relatable.
I know what you mean.
It sounds like you can laugh at yourself so that's something, at least!
Haha I can relate
This can be found to be just a belief you have internalised. Sit with yourself, and witness the belief within you. You are not it, and it is not you. You are indefinable. By realising you’re holding this belief captive rather than it holding you captive, you may release it. Do not be tricked by the mind, I wish you all the best.
Thank you so much. I welled up watching this video. I've not found anything which even comes close to unpacking how toxic this spiral can be. Thank you again.
Never met any genuine people with online dating. They all applied filters to their photos and lied about their age and their circumstances. I got over it soon, and deleted the apps and never looked back.
Tired of dating? I haven't had a date for about 10 years 😢😢😢😢
I’ll wait for the universe to bring someone that improves my single hood, While I enjoy life and family time.
Dating now a days with these apps is sooo emotionally exhausting. People ghost you or you have an entirely too long conversation to never meet and it goes on and on. I'm taking a break from dating for the next few months 🤪
You really hit the nail on the head Russell.
Been single for ages ..just me and my dog ..don't want to go on dating apps so I guess I'll continue to be talking to myself ..and my dog ..though its getting pretty depressing :/
A dog is like the best way to meet new people
Use the app in a conscious way. Just like money, apps are evil or soul destroying...it’s your choice how you use them. You know what serves you best. 💜🌸
My spirituality bought about my celibacy 7 years back but I've never considered myself single? No apps, detached from the nouns, people, places and things. I found my reconnection with nature and meditation with the elements purged a whole load of hidden inhibitions and found myself available yet unattainable 🤣 when you do the work you inevitably raise the bar. I'm selfish with myself I guess but trust the divine will find a way. I'm in no rush these days ✨🙏🔮 happy as a horn on a ram, enjoying my aloneness not singledom. For me there's a difference. I choose this lifestyle I thrive alone until a breeze of complimentary assistance arrives 🧘♀️
self discovery turns you into a fuking boss doesn't it :) keep raising that bar
I immediately deleted my apps as soon as the video ended. It felt like Russ was speaking straight to me!!
same wanna go on a date? lol
👊😔 fists out for my man koko. Never got a response.
Our singleness has now been commodified. It’s been capitalized on for economic means. However, to break that cycle, we will have to become more open to and less judgmental of alternative ways of connecting and meeting. Let go of traditions and habits long enough to find new ways, ways that are more honoring of our humanity. 💕 For example, the unspoken rule is you can’t be friends with an ex. Why? If you meet someone new and they find out you’re friends with an ex, they may automatically assume you still are romantic, and also assume that means you aren’t dating material. Why? Shouldn’t the ability to maintain friendships outside of failed romantic partnerships signify a maturity not weakness? We have to start the journey into recreate what is “okay” around dating, partnership, and even marriage. Most married couples I know are equally unhappy as the singles, but unhappy marriages are socially acceptable, so married couples accept their unhappiness, it seems, rather than asking how to improve this social dynamic from within. We all need to start questioning old paradigms.
This is a brilliant post my unknown friend.
Nah, one of mine was awful so I cut her out forever. The others I am friends with and one is one of my best friends still. I guess it all depends.
Would rather meet them in person not on a dating app
I try to meet girls out and about in person. It's more authentic and if you do it properly people love it.
The Paradox of Choice
I call it the Goldilocks Effect for the current dating apparatus.
... gives whole new meaning to the phrase "stirring the porridge"
I went on 2 dating site for about 2 weeks. It was boreing and repedative and when you told people that you only wanted someone interested in a long term relationship they still went on to try and hook up for sex. So I came off them and I took a celabcy vow of my own for a year. It was a great idiea took all that bullshit off the table. I now have peace of mind and I'm doing more work on myself. Much needed.
I would find a million people to "date" on those apps, but no one who actually wanted to be a partner. I realized I needed a Ride or Die and I wasn't gonna find that by an algorythm.
Lucky! There will come a time when you won't be able to find even one person to "date", let alone a co-dependent to "ride or die" with.
@@brushstroke3733 Yeah I gave up on finding a co-dependent a long time ago. Dogs are great though. XD
So true.
Damn, you speak so much good sense Russell! All those years of reading self-help books and searching for inner meaning are starting to pay off big time. :-D
Brilliant, helpful advice, Russell. I was accumulating too many of these Tee Shirts. As you say, the surfeit of options along with advanced AI in this Age of Misinformation and Disinformation causes you to disappear down countless Quantum rabbit holes created wasted time, stress and frustration.
I will always stay away from dating apps. I’m happy to just choose myself.
What no one has mentioned is the catfish to real person ratio. There are so many catfish trying to get into our wallets that one becomes jaded and then it’s hard to decipher and take real people seriously.
Absolutely fascinating body language, Russell, - your message is deeply gestured!
A good topic Russell... Meeting someone online isn't the same as meeting someone for real... Online many people fake who and what they are and have loads of people on the go.... I prefer the old fashioned simple way of dating... It's more open and honest and you can look into that person's eyes and see for yourself if their messing you around and if there is a genuine connection .... I too switch my phone off and need to cut off..... You need to do more of these chats.... People ain't getting the message... They think the solution to eternal happiness and fulfillment lies in these dating apps.... It's like gambling... It leaves a you addicted and empty.
You do realise you can do all that wih 'online dating?'Like, you go on dates and stuff. It's just a tool to actually get in contact with a range of different people.
I had to stop using dating apps because I had so little luck (none at all) that it was completely destroying my self esteem lol. Had to just stop
Welcome to dating apps where people are a commodity and you're just one click away from the perfect match.😕
Don't commit to someone because you never know who might be on next week seems to be the mantra.🤦♀️
I’m just overwhelmed by choices.
Yes! It's a lack of spiritual connection with Atman! And even if you do find that connection with Artman, we self sabotage with small ruptures and fissures all the time. And when that happens, we're quick to seek outside "validation" as part of the repair.
I love you Russell. Thank you for everything you do
Russell thank you for this and all you do
I've tried them and they don't work for me at all. They end up making me feel bad and your right to bring up why are we searching for a relationship in the first place. I'm used to being alone and I'd rather be than get with a woman for the wrong reason. When the right one comes along I'm sure I'll know it.
Russell! Love you brother 🙏✊ hitting the nail on the head once again. Thank you.
Wow Russell, the level of substance in this 15 mins ... just amazing. Thank you
2 videos in one day!!!! Thankyou russel
You are the very best and by extension the team behind you. I've been centering on this point for quite a while. We can see that this point interrelates/intersects with many other aspects of what i would call the social degradation of modern society.
An additional talking point would be the convenience aspect, which corresponds to the commercialization/ monetization /commodification that you spoke to... Yet shouldn't somethings be difficult? The character building aspect of rejection should not be an overlooked factor in this discussion. The very nature of our existence is one of struggle, to learn to walk, to run, to eat, to sleep, to love, to reproduce and to finally die... Its why we find such comfort in catharsis, for we find it analogous to the human condition.
Once again thank you and I'm so very hopeful of the future, because of voices like yours.
-Lewis Abrahms
This doesn't apply to me
Like someone said on a previous video, Russell should set up his own dating app within his YT community. You'd have a head start in terms of connection with other people.
Ty Russell. My negative feelings all come from my job 🙃. I'm going to make a change.
I’m single and ready to mingle. It’s been two years but I’m ready
Dear Russell,
I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate and enjoy your videos! Please, keep going the way you do and share your perspectives and ideas with people!
Unfortunately, I feel quite like in a spiral of being both loonely and belittling myself...
A lot of things just don't seem to work out the way I wish...
Career... Relatioships...
Therefore watching your vids gives me a lot of hope. I've always been a rather optimistic man but the last relationships and years have somehow changed me... Probably I have just changed...
I wish you all the best and I will keep watching your vids, thanks for your great work!!!!
I needed to hear this!! Thankyou very much Russell your content is so helpful 💜
5% of women swipe “yes” versus 60% of men who swipe “yes”…. Im sure it hasnt gone to their heads…
Close my eyes and swipe right, still no match in years.
@@roboticskits My understanding is that by just liking everyone the system knows you are doing that and lowers your ranking, so you might not even be shown to any women to match to.
That's men's fault if they make themselves that cheap.
@@firehot006 nope. that's a normie cope. you swipe or not doesn't change rates
@@sirupsee4698 but it's not wombmens fault for being a eugenicist? they give all this attention to so few guys and the rest of us are left to rot
The more opportunities/options we have, the more we are prone to repeated rejection. This causes people to feel disheartened. On the other end, there are people who don't recieve many matches or at least don't match with ppl they feel attracted to, so they feel doomed. U tend to internalize this when it happens so often.