My grandma told me to start watching Jammidodger when I came out as non binary. 😭 Thank you for these videos, I didn't know there was a community of people like this also ❤️
Hi there! I want you to know that I live in an unaccepting environment and I still have met three other queer people so far, one of which was also genderqueer. It can be hard to find us, but we’re here for you! (Please don’t respond to this, though, I don’t like getting emails from RUclips because I’m very paranoid about people finding out about this.)
I’m a cis woman and I’d heard the gender critical arguments, but they made me uncomfortable, they didn’t feel right. I didn’t have the counter-arguments to explain why ‘gender critical’ views were wrong, I just knew that it felt wrong to me. Thank you Jamie for giving me the language and reasoning to be able to uphold what I knew in my heart of hearts to be right - that trans women are women and belong in women’s spaces, not trans men, who are men, and belong in men’s spaces (where there is adequate and justifiable reasons for having gendered spaces)
I took "gender critical" to mean what happens in the Fallout games where you take an aimed shot at an enemy's groin and manage to deal extra damage. Actually, I don't see why this shouldn't be done to the gender criticals.
Cis woman here just doing some education. Your comment at 3.20 ish really resonated with me. Just like misogyny and covert racism you KNOW when remarks are underhanded and then they weaponise you challenging it as hysteria and feign ignorance. It. Is. Maddening. This channel is lovely. Definitely gained a subscriber ❤
the argument that transwomen are taking anything away from other women by existing as women, reminds me very much of the same argument against marriage equality: that somehow, by allowing everyone to marry, hetero couples are thereby losing marriage for themselves. Marriage equality did not, as feared by some, make marriage meaningless for hetero couples. Hetero couples went right on marrying as if nothing happened.
Well I mean they are taking things... like the last pair of leggings in a certian size or some other stupid petty shit like that Which ironically also describes TERFs, stupid and petty
I have a sticker on my laptop that I feel puts it in a nice, concise way: *"equal rights for others does not mean fewer rights for you. it's not pie."*
What are you talking about? I remember how right after Obergefell v. Hodges, every straight couple was forcibly separated and ordered to await their government mandated same-gender partner. Just like how, if the Equality Act were ever passed, it would legally compel all cis people to undergo immediate HRT and bottom surgery. What? That never happened? But why would the TERFs lie to me?
they just like the idea of being the only ones able to do it. it doesn’t ruin the “sanctity” of it, it ruins the supremacist fantasy of being the only ones “worthy” of it.
Personally, I don't believe men and women actually exist at all, but then again, I haven't been outside the past year and half, so the existence of any other human seems pretty suspicious
No one has yet explained how these "women-only spaces" will be policed? How do you decide who is allowed in and who is not? Will we all be required to carry a gender I.D. card? Add to that, there are some quite macho trans-men who would be required to use women's bathrooms and allowed into other supposed "women-only spaces". Has this actually been thought-through?
Men. With guns. I'm not even kidding, their was a video of a TERF calling on armed men to "protect" womens spaces and enforce gendered norms a while back so that's how their going to enforce their safe spaces... welcoming, potentially unstable, men with loaded firearms set to shoot anyone who's a bit too masc.
the vibe i get from gcs is that they think all trans people are either fresh out of a padded cell, predators or planted by the Left and if they complain loud enough the trans community will either evaporate or dramatically reveal their true intentions like a villain 2/3rds of the way through their story arc
@@sarahts21 So just what do they want these men with guns to do? Check everyone's pants to see which bathroom they should use? Because that's even more terrifying and disgusting than whatever it is that they're afraid of!
A fun thing about gender criticals/terfs is that when they try and police the definition of woman so hard like this it ends up with gender non conforming women being harassed and all that. The bathroom stuff especially, I’ve seen videos of butch lesbians getting harassed outside of bathrooms cause of terfs. It ends up with requiring women to look some impossible “cis” standard that doesn’t exist aka you can’t look masculine, or TOO masculine whatever that means. So yes, transphobia hurts ALL women and ALL men as well :)c
An episode of body fixers showed a (cis) woman who’s in the British rugby team and has alopecia, she was almost in tears saying she’d been blocked when trying to enter a women’s public toilet because she didn’t look female enough so had gone on the program to get a wig made. It’s shocking how awfully TERFs treat ALL women. In a way, being disabled is useful when I present quite masculine and my gender is ambiguous (I’m non binary) because I can use disabled public toilets as I have a radar key.
Absolutely. It doesn’t take long until they start talking about how size or body hair makes them uncomfortable. So, if you’re an overweight, broad-shouldered, deep voiced, big-headed cis woman with a hormone imbalance that gives you excess body hair…like me…it becomes pretty clear what they think of you.
they end up accidentally enforcing those misogynistic ideas that "real" women who are worthy of respect can only look or act a certain way. the only difference is a slight shift in how and what criteria they use to judge women. this gender critical "feminism" is still hard on women, trans and cis alike, to fit into their little bubble of what they believe women are and what they look like. congratulations, you've solved nothing. In fact, you've made the problem worse.
@@FreeTheDonbas a million and one videos talking about this and yet you choose to leave a random comment because you choose to be ignorant and bigoted. You’re not allowed here with that buddy
You are all amazing, strong, kind and brilliant people. You can overcome whatever stands in your way, you have so far. You can all make it, I will always believe in you all.
Trans identifying people can preset themselves however they please. But if you're male then you will always be male, if you're female you will always be female. Don't try to claim something you are not.
@@Chris-wd6yq Now that's just denying biology. You can't claim to have always been male yet also be transgender. Isn't the point of transition? That being said, Jamie was born a female, identifies as a male.... but that will never change the fact that she is female. Deny it all you want. Her genetic code is female and will always be.
I'll never get over how "gender critical" sounds like a group that should be able being critical of the gender binary and how society shapes gender roles, instead they're just forcing their own version of gender on others 🤷🤦
IKR Some of them will unironically call themselves "gender abolitionists" and proceed to talk about what roles people should follow based on their biological sex. Uh... that's just gender in a different skin 🙄
Yeah, thb "The Gender Criticals" could be the name of some pop-punk band that makes songs about how shitty the gender binary and the associated roles are. But alas, it sadly doesnt have that meaning. -.-
They mean they either don't think gender actually exists, or they're trying to apply critical theory, a theory that only works when applied to hierarchical social classes which don't have a basis in nature, to gender. I can't tell which.
I HAtE the whole: "I had to struggle and fight for this and no one helped me. So YOU have to struggle and fight for it as well!" the whole point of previous generations fighting for things is so that future generations don't have to! ALSO I hate "othering" - when people say: "I'm not x so it's not my responsibility to fight for x rights." You don't have to be a woman to fight for women's rights and you don't have to be trans to fight for trans rights. We can create safe, fair spaces for everyone if we stop arguing and come together.
@@rileysjonger4192 I feel that transmen are forgotten because they don't neatly fit the narrative that all men are predators including transwomen. The moment you acknowledge transmen is the moment that notion that men are inherently predatorial goes out the window.
I wasn't even attracted to women before I started T (probably because I had a very unhealthy view of femininity at that point), and I've still only had romantic/sexual feelings for a single woman (who may not be a woman at all). Otherwise it's enbies and men all the way down.
"I'm not transphobic, I'm gender critical," has the same energy as: "I'm not racist, I'm a race realist." "I'm not harassing or threatening you, it's my freedom of speech." "That wasn't homicide, it was self-defense."
@@roofogato no freedom of speech is you can say anything you want unless it actively calls for or directly physically harms people you can discriminate all you want for example saying women shouldn't be allowed to vote that discrimination but it's also an opinion meaning you can say it all you want
@G K Calling women "men" is just a cowardly way to find a scapegoat, it's not what feminism is about. If you support women, do it regardless of their age, race of physical characteristics. Blaming trans women for crimes of male predators is blatant hipocrisy.
I feel like this is a good place to scream into the void of the internet... So, I had a few appontments with a psychiatrist who was supposed to help me start my transition, but two days ago, she told me I'll need to find someone else, because she doesn't have enough spots... She gave me some numbers, but as it turns out, none of them are actually qualified to help me with this specific issue. She didn't give me those specific numbers because she doesn't believe me, she gave them to me, because I have so much trauma from people telling me to keep my mouth shut about being trans, that I was barely abled to talk to her about it... I'm just extremely frustrated now, because I don't want to watch my body get even more screwed up than it already is. I finally want to start fixing this... I think I didn't get across how desperate I actually am and now I don't know what to do... Sorry, for venting, but I'm just so incredibly frustrated and crestfallen right now... doesn't help that my mother keeps purposefully misgendering me and trying to guilt trip me for something I have no control over...
@@RiveroftheWither I have a - for gender like undead without cons cannot use gender effects and have a penalty on sense gender rolls but am immune to gender subtype effects that offer a save
Gender critical: dark magic spell, increase 50% chances of dealing critical damage to an enemy with binary genders. Side effects of the spell is it has chances to make transphobe angry when the spells have no effect on non-binary folks
this is really similar to what my mom always says. she’s all about feminism, but still is kinda transphobic and homophobic and stuff. I’m non-binary (she doesn’t really understand it, and says she doesn’t believe such people really exist), though I’m still trying to understand myself and stuff, but I’m scared of coming out to her some day. Edit: Thank you everyone for your kind words. I’m sorry i didn’t reply to all of you, but it really means a lot to me, since i am not doing really well right now. Stay safe and remember that you are loved too!! Much love 💕
My mom is the same way. You are absolutely valid, and if you need to talk, I am here. My advice is, if it's not safe, don't tell her. If you do tell her, and she can't accept you, that's her problem. As for me, as soon as I am out of the house (I live with my parents) I will tell them my pronouns, and if they don't support me, I don't need them in my life. I understand that is drastic and might not be necessary for you, but please do what is safe for you. Hopefully she will try to educate herself when it comes to her own kid.
You don't have to come out to those close to you if they feel unsafe to do so. I know it sucks that you can't share that part of you with them. Your own safety comes first. If you want to come out to her, try and do so when you have a failsafe in place; ie supportive friends/family, an alternative place to live. I myself am waiting to move out of my parents' house (again) before becoming more socially vocal about my own gender identity and orientation.
Gentle reminder that you are so valid. Someone could not believe that Japan exists, but it still does. You are under no obligation to come out to anyone who you don't feel safe coming out to. That must make things at home really stressful when you can't openly be yourself- I'm sorry.
best thing about being trans is knowing my family is so supportive. worst thing about being trans is that knowing its not the case for everyone. secure a home before coming out i say
i mean, yeah, women should have access to spaces that are their own and haven’t been invaded by men. but also, trans women _ARE_ women, so they should have access to those women’s spaces, too.
good luck with that though since asking anyone in the community to draw a definite distinction of when it's ok to say "this is a man get him out of here" is impossible. I tried asking that above. Many seem to think there should be no distinction at all and that anyone of any appearance calling themselves trans should be allowed into traditionally women's only spaces and that expecting actual trans women to meet any sort of standard of trying to appear womanly is unfair to trans women. Imo, if you can't have cis men removed from women's only spaces for fear of being unfair to a trans woman when you can't even tell they're trans, they're not women's only spaces anymore.
@@KiraRagged not really. talk them for five minutes on how they see their future with a transition. you’ll realize pretty quick if they’re a cis man or a trans woman.
Did you see what happened at Wi Spa? Trust me, allowing people to self-ID not only will put women at risk but will also exclude many women that can't be in the same space with a person with male anatomy (like Muslim women), the best solution is to have male, female and neutral spaces.
@@ElusiveVulture ok. Say a female presenting woman with a d walks into the mens bathroom. Would that seems correct? What if a male presenting man walked into a womans bathroom. Would that seem correct? You di realize most trans people walk into the bathroom they know they look most like, as not to get beat up or confronted, so even if a woman still has her original genitals, why shouldnt she be let in?
My big question is what gender would transphobes call a man who was AMAB but has XX chromosomes? It's not all that common but cis people can have chromosomes that are typically opposite from their sex. Would they think he's a woman even though he's AMAB and cis? If a person like that identifies as female and transitions would she be a "real woman?" She would have the typical chromosomes and that's all that matters according to them.
@@markh.876 sex chromosomes actually make polymorphic changes rather than binary changes. Your androgen receptors and brain wiring matter a ton. Theres also people with intersex traits who simply wanted to change the way they lean
The people getting upset about others using the word "people" instead of "women" anger me, because, like Jamie, I always think, "Women are people!" Actually, probably the first time I heard "pregnant people," I didn't even notice it's an accurate phrase. When I heard someone say, "people with uteruses," the first time I was just amused (I didn't realize it was said to be more inclusive - but when I learned that was reason, I didn't get upset about it - whatever the reason, it's accurate).
I saw a post on Facebook once with VERY ANGRY person declaring that she is NOT "a person who gave birth", that she is "a mother" and I was like, "thanks, Susan. I don't think that this medical information applies to adoptive parents" and she got Big Mad because she did, indeed, give birth. 🤔
One time I said "pregnant people" to my dad and he laughed and said, "You know only woman can get pregnant, right?" And I was like, last time I checked woman are people. The funny thing is that I wasn't even trying to be inclusive. It was before I started thinking about trans people lol.
Ooh, I'm pregnant and people are big mad here about "pregnant people" and inclusive language around birth and parenting and infant feeding. "Birthing person? How about MOTHER" How about trans dads have kids, how about some people are surrogates, how about some people place their babies for adoption and won't be parenting...I'm a mom, but if someone wants to call me a person, that's also ideal. I don't understand the outrage.
we define women as adult human female which means all the the caracteristics the sexual gametes give to us (that are not just having a vagina) and for our common and individual history that make us recognize issues that happen to all of us for our sex etc. its inhumanizing to say that type of things as a mentruator or uteros owner because we are not a walking womb or smth
@@kate-be3uh Except, not all women are born female and not everyone born with a female body are women. Gender is a social construct that goes beyond one's sex.
It's almost refreshing when transphobia references trans men, *almost*, if only because most of the time everyone acts like trans masculine people don't exist, because if someone mentions trans people everyone thinks of trans women. Trans women don't deserve the hate they get, or the negative attention. They're women and have the right to be in women safe spaces.
The whole calling trans women "males" thing is also kinda insane too cause by most metrics we aren't! (And that's before getting into the fact that sex doesn't define gender or experience to begin with anyway)
sex & gender are not the same thing. if we are talking about sex then male dysphorics are indeed male. They merely identify as the opposite sex. The reason they take cross-sex hormones is bc they are hormonally male, anatomically male, chromosomally male, gonadally male etc. in an attempt to feminise their male bodies.
If your sex isn't male, then your sex is female? Even though you weren't born female? Good god. Also sex does define experience. It defines which sex roles (gender) you are forced into since birth. Females and male are stereotypes for their sex. Females are discriminated against and charged less than males, hyper-sexualized, etc, that is the female experience growing up female and that is something a trans woman hasn't experienced growing up.
what metrics are those? because trans women are males for its sexual gametes its basic biology, and sex does define your gender, if you born a male you will be raised in a sociaty that tells how you have to act as a man and that is gender, gender its not a good thing and sex its not something you can change
I never actually used to notice the language change (pregnant person, person with penis, etc), which indicates to me that it's not as socially and linguistically upsetting as some of these transphobes want to claim it is. I only started to notice and appreciate it after I came out and started working with a gender affrimation clinic.
Has Jamie ever debated anyone with opposing opinions? I think it might be good for him. If your views are justified and withstand scrutiny, they will win in the end.
If a woman is anyone who was assigned female, then you're okay with trans men in women's only spaces? It feels like people really haven't thought this one out.
@@TheLadyDelirium But then you get a bearded hunk of muscle roaming among meek fragile women that he (Jamie) can abuse and dominate without consequence. Which is explicitly not looking out for the safety of women. In fact it's declaring that the gender-critical person who puts Jami in the women's prison doesn't care about keeping women safe or protected.
I recently looked up the self-ID law in my country, well, the proposed law, and why it's been voted against. Found an article from a huge, usually reputable newspaper, where a lawyer explains the "problems that especially women would face": "What if a convicted male r-pist self-ID'd as a woman and wants to serve his sentence in a woman's prison? What if corporate executives don't want to hire women, or want to avoid being fired, so they self-ID as women?" And then the article went on to say that "these concerns are barely discussed, they are immediately dismissed as transphobic". Like. Yeah. They are. They're also absolutely asinine and ridiculous. I stopped reading after these dog whistles, but from experience, I'm almost certain the words "bathrooms" and "sports" make an appearance later on. I just want unisex toilets and a neutral gender marker on my ID. But apparently that'll bring about the downfall of humankind :/
Personally I think if discussing this kind of thing can help ease fears, we should do it. A lot of transphobia seems to come from mistaken assumptions and I think we should try to educate people about how it actually works.
I am nonbinary, specifically genderfluid, and most of my friends know this. I was presenting MALE, cargo pants and overt "5-o-clock shadow" and bulky leather jacket. I literally walked into the Women's restroom at the karaoke bar I frequent, four times between 8PM and 2AM. Not a single person stopped me. The downfall of humanity isn't gonna be brought by people with a dick taking a piss. It's gonna be brought by rapists literally sitting on the Supreme Court declaring that rape isn't a crime.
okay but serious questions about the bathrooms: why is almost always the woman's bathroom that gets turned into gender neutral and men can keep theirs? I honestly couldn't care less if we would just add a third gender neutral bathroom everywhere along with men and women but I would be very against the current train of taking away female only spaces.
@@jina2521 1. Every "One person at a time" bathroom is INTRINSICALLY gender-neutral. This also means your home bathroom. Fuck off with your narrowminded ignorance. 2. The "taking away female only spaces" exists because 'Moral Guardians TM' prevent MTF from entering "women's" restrooms. FTM, at every stage of transition, can weirdly enter "Men's" bathrooms without restriction. Hell, I'm an AMAB genderfluid enby. About a year ago I entered a "Men's Room" while Femme, because it's habit. I got confronted by a guy who remarked "What? Is the woman's toilet clogged or something?" This person thought I was a genetic physiological assigned-at-birth female with a vagina, and didn't care one bit if I had to use one of the stalls to do my business. Meanwhile if I went into the woman's room, the same guy would have stopped me and I might very well have not lived past that fucking minute let alone until today.
Which just proves they aren't really feminists since you aren't a feminist if you think you're only a real woman if you're feminine the whole point of feminism is freedom of choice
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214how so? biology shows intersex are still either male or female and the claim that trans people brains are more similar to the opposite sex can also be used to argue that lesbians brains are more like the brains of straight men than straight women. And even then the general consensus is that human brains are not sexually diamorphic because the differences are trivial with so much variation and overlap that it doesn't even really make sense to call a brain male or female anyway...
Thanks for being such a non BS , trans male, continually giving us critically important, science based information. As another grandma who has children and grandchildren who have come out as non binary, I am so blessed to have a channel like Jamie’s to direct them to for healthy information. Blessings, prayers and love coming your way💕
Theyre right, a woman isnt any body with a feminine personality, they can have whatever personality they want! WOMEN DON'T OWE YOU FEMININITY. Whether they're trans, cis or whatever! (ʘᴗʘ✿)Got it buddy?
@@ginismoja2459 in a way, you sre correct. I am enby and I was always enby. A transwoman is always a woman, she was just born in a body that didn't represent her gender. I know that's probably not what you meant, but I hope it was.
Some of these are only transphobic because you know what they're trying to say.... Like yes female bodies come in all shapes and sizes with lots of overlap with the shapes and sizes of male bodies.... It's just that they don't really believe that.... They just maybe disagree with some of the restrictions that impact them personally. And also the "I'm not a vulva" is coming from somebody who thinks their vulva and uterus are one of the most defining characteristics of women....
Transgender males: Has chest binder Has masculine haircut Has boyish clothes Hips and waist: *I'm abt to end this man's whole career* (Just a joke...no hate comments please...have a nice day!)
I was at the doctors office yesterday and my doctor asked what my pronouns are. My mom shouted over me “she! It’s she.” However that’s not correct. I’m just pissed and wanted to rant into this RUclips void about that
Hey fellow human (any pronouns you go by, by the way?) I'm more than sorry that your mum is being a dick to you... Sending virtual platonic and supportive love your way
When TERFS start going all “WOULD YOU WANT A MAN IN A WOMEN’s BATHROOM” my gut is like “No. which is why someone like Jamie shouldn’t be there. But a trans woman like Summer Luk? Welcome any time.”
Transphobe: Don't put transwomen in woman's prisons. Me: Ok, don't charge them with any crime and let them all go free, That works too Transphobe: that is not...
@@FreeTheDonbas of course she belongs in a woman's jail. think a bout it you don't put a man who non-consensual sexed men in a women's jail you put him in a men's jail. You would not put a rapist in general population if they are at risk of hurting other inmates. She is a woman who was convicted of non-consensual sex and should be treated as such. i.e. in a woman's prison and protecting the inmates from hurting each other like any other non-consensual sex offender.
Thank you for this! The whole thing that got JK Rowling started on her transphobic rants was a post that said “people with a uterus.” As a nonbinary trans person I was so angry that JK was acting like people like me, trans men or intersex people don’t exist. Then she started attacking trans women in her next tweets & made her horrible essay & book. I was a huge Harry Potter fan growing up, it’s so disappointing the writer turned out to be a horrible transphobe. That’s actually what prompted me to come out as gender fluid because I wanted to show people like JK that people like me do exist. I’m trans & I’m valid. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
I had a bit of a shit day, I was thinking a lot about self harming again. Your videos never fail to make me smile and you have taught me a lot. Thank you for making these amazing videos I really appreciate you educating people and making us happier. P. S, if you see this drink plenty water and have a good day!! :) Edit: thank you so much for your kind words, you lot are awsome:)
i send you lots of love and positivity ! i'm happy that you had something to make you smile today. and i hope that tomorrow will be better ! i hope you have a great day/night and don't forget to drink neither
I wonder what they would see in me. An afab gynosexual enby. I wish I was cis, I wish I had a more common orientation. But I'm not and that's okay. (But honestly it took me way longer to accept that then I would want to admit.) Let's define people by their character, not their gender, pronouns, partner or genitals. Is it that hard?
I mean yeah, gender is a construct by society, but by and large, it has been useful. I mean once you get used to just calling every being of unknown gender "they" (which was kinda hard for me because German words have an intrinsic gender that follows no rules) it's really easy. While personality defines you more, I doubt that you'll find toilets for personalities, or your personality noted in your passport, if that is what you meant.
@@ocaradocp01 There are two possibilities: Either, he's got no life, or it's actually not a fad after all (I am clutching my pearls as I write this), or both.
It makes me giggle with sadness. I came out to my family, they were accepting on the surface. Then I was diagnosed as intersex with both male and female reproductive organs. I didn't tell them about the hamathroditeism, I just said I was intersex. They went on to use it a way to validate my femaleness 😅. So I didn't tell them that I'm a hermaphrodite. I later came to realise that unfortunately they are two faced as I like to phrase it. Accepting on the surface. But didn't like the idea I used female toilets, changing rooms and competed in sports. So I removed myself from the WhatsApp family group chat. Problem solved. Remember, family isn't genetic. I'd also like to say that non-binary, intersex and trans women do fight for womens right. Equal pay, sympathy for period pains (which I do experience due to having only female internal organs), free sanitary products, fight to feel safe in the street and not be undermined by men and to remove the idea that men can have us when they want... I don't understand why some people don't see that we undergo the exact same gender inequalitys just like any other women on the planet. Anyway, Stay safe everyone! X
@@TheBadgerSneaky Thats really interesting but at that age, would you parents not be told about this diagnosis, and therefore they would know your intersex condition?
@@umwha Thankfully no, I had cognitive, emotional and physical delays, physical ones which I kept to myself until around 19. I took testosterone to "fit in" and when to the gym to stop female characteristics from developing as I wasn't ready to tell anyone. I never had EEGs or other scans when I was younger, so no one suspected anything. If your wondering why I'm quite knowledgable, it's because I've trained as a psychologist and my brother is a doctor of medicine.
@@TheBadgerSneaky So, you have intenral female organs, but looked to have male genitalis outwardly? Okay, I get you. Dosent that mean you are simply a female with ambiguous genitalia. Correct me if im wrong but nobody actually has both sets of reproductive organs.
I can't get over the fact that the dogs sign was photoshopped. Like someone really saw a picture of what I can only assume was cute, innocent pet shaming and thought to themself "hm how can I make this fit my bigoted agenda?" Like man he probably just eats socks don't make the dog look like a transphobe
i honestly don't understand this 'human fe/male' thing? like, especially if you're on htr, your biology literally changes? so, biologically, a trans person on htr *is* literally biologically the gender they are? what am i missing? are they supposing biology=chromosomes? i just don't get their thinking ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@WolfgangDoW They're not ready for that lesson. We haven't even gotten them to acknowledge the existence of intersex people yet. Baby steps, friend. 🤣
I wonder what they think of people with XO chromosomes? What about XOY chromosomes? There are cis women with Y chromosomes, are they not women? Are the transphobes going to be forcing them to transition?
lol cross-sex hormones don't change your sex. You're just pretending not to know that. If you take aspirin bc you have high-blood pressure, do you start identifying as someone with low-blood pressure? No. The very fact that you take aspirin is proof that you have high-blood pressure, the same way that taking anti-androgens & oestrogen is proof that you are hormonally (anatomically, gonadally etc) male.
@@FreeTheDonbas i never claimed it changes your sex, it changes the biology processes in your body, hence htr changes your gender, it makes you biologically the gender associated with each hormone. unless, according to you, there's no biological difference between a 10 yr old girl and a 25 yr old woman? huh. what abt insulin? does that make a biological difference? if you can break down sugar or not? is a menopausal woman a woman if she takes hormones? your example is in no way in good faith, if you are not capable to understand that hormones alter biological processes in the body then idk what to tell you. also, why tf do y'all stalk trans positive accounts just to preach your nonsense?
Anyone saying that “we had to fight for our rights so should you” are doing such a disservice to the world. All human rights efforts overlap. It is everyone’s responsibility to ensure that they are maintained even if they aren’t apart of the group being targeted. No one wins by making a different minority the target.
Honestly, the entitlement of a bunch of straight people using the same rhetoric that was used 20 years back against lesbians and gay men, and then claiming to want to help them is beyond disgusting.
@@justchilling7712 in spanish, it's like a sigh expression, idk. Or to express agreement or also surprise. Irl is not an actual word, it's a mouth sound. Like a blowing from desperation or resignation, or shocking, idk lol.
I'm not a vulva. I'm not a vagina. I'm not a cervix. I'm not a menstrator. I'm the trouble starter, punkin' instigator. I'm the fear addicted, a danger illustrated! I'm a firestarter, twisted firestarter!
@@ginismoja2459 LGB is nonsensical transphobia, because most trans lesbians do not have aversion to p*nises, so, from your own definition, they would be bisexual, and belong to the LGB group anyway. we define ourselves as lesbians by the same standards that we define the people who may be attracted to us as lesbians. so if straight men can like women with p*nises, so do lesbians, cis or trans. it doesn't mean they have to, it means there is the possibility, and that doesn't change their sexuality.
@@ginismoja2459 straight transwomen have been debating this issue for ages, and many men who like trans women still identify as straight, for they are attractd to trans women as women, because they have feminine bodies and they aren't attracted to men, who have masculine bodies. this same line of reason justifies lesbians who like trans women. this is how trans people identify their sexuality, and it has become the standard definition. even if you are aware of 'LGB', i still doubt you're actually a lesbian, for lesbians have better things to do.
These people really think we're arguing that men and women are personality types, when that's... honestly so far from the truth. Gender, gender identity, sex, personality, and gender presentation are all different things with different definitions and can happen with a myriad of combinations. Gender nonconformity and being trans sometimes intersect, and sometimes don't.
I'm a vulva-curator, but I'm also a man (since surgery is expensive and may not be safe for me, and a nice stand-to-pee packer is enough to sooth my bottom dysphoria/phantom limb issues. People are not their genitals! People are not just their ability to reproduce! Biological sex is complex, everyone has the complete compliment of genes to be male and female. Everyone produces both "male" and "female" hormones as they're used for more than just sex differentiation. "Sex" hormone levels fluctuate over time, even just within the course of a day. What is normal and healthy for one person may cause a hormone imbalance in another. Some healthy cisgender women have higher testosterone levels than the average cis man. These hormones play an important role in physical development, which gives us the wide variety in body shapes and sizes we find across humanity. Cis women can have broad shoulders, large hands, be taller than the male average, have Adam's apples, dark obvious body hair, a large protruding clitoral glans aka a big "clit", etc and be perfectly healthy. Cis men can be short, have tapered fingers, have wide hips, grow sparse facial and body hair, have high voices, a short penis with a separated urethra and ejaculatory duct, and still be healthy. Unfortunately we put all the weight on genitals to separate the sexes when, if you take the whole body into account, there everyone has a complex assemblage of biologically male and female traits. This is why science says that physical sex is a spectrum. Unfortunately we generally only count people with ambiguous genitals as being intersex, and try to lump everyone else into discrete categories. Another funny thing, testosterone is actually just a modified progesterone (one of the important female hormones best known for regulating menstruation in tandem with estrogen). So cis men have to produce plenty of a "female" hormone in order to have high T. Anabolic steroids can be converted in the body into estrogen, which leads to breast growth in cis men. Cis men can naturally lactate thanks to increased prolactin levels associated with frequent nipple stimulation, especially in response to continuous contact with a newborn (which triggers hormone level changes in male fathers too if they are present), though it is rare because it can be difficult to trigger thanks to the work and time involved. It can be hard for cis women post-pregnancy to lactate too despite their normal prolactin spike. Human bodies are amazing and complex. We are massively complex biological machines with incredibly complex software powerful enough to alter the physical body (eg the placebo effect). We are a beautiful intersection between nature and nurture.
At least they recognised trans men. Also im trans masc and still use the women's room and almost everytime i do i have transphobic people glaring at me despite me using the "right bathroom" by their standards
@@devent10n gender neutral. Im honestly worried about getting hate crimed if I use the men's room . i almost never pass and a lot of men carry weapons everywhere they go.
@@billmartins5545 im nonbinary but lean towards masculine technically so not a man and If i used mens spaces i could be assaulted. Im in a very conservative area . Plus I havent even come out yet, im very early in my transition . i use neutral places anytime i can but there are barely any where i live cus it triggers conservatives to see neutral bathrooms or something . trust me. I hate using them. I feel dirty and wrong when i do but id rather keep myself safe .
No explanation over how or why a trans-woman is a woman or how or why a trans-man is a man. No such explanation is given at any point in this video. Mostly it is just insulting people and calling them transphobes. And what is NOT transphobic anyway. Further no explanation is given why the term female doesn’t count to make a person as a woman. I acknowledge that if a person has a REAL penis(not the fake one from bottom surgery) that person is a man and I don’t care if I am called a transphobe for it.
Transphobes are people who refuse to call a dog a cat. You people are so desperate and dumb you think a man with a penis can be a lesbian my God! Lies lies lies
@@markh.876 Because they never said "you are a vulva" either, they said "you're a person with a vulva", which is pretty much their definition of female, so it's just saying "I'm not female, I'm female!"
It's easier to adapt everything else to fit neurology, than to adapt neurology to fit everything else. The specific function and brain activity for trans people is closer to their identified gender than the one assigned at birth. If people use biology as an excuse they ignore a major branch of it, the branch that supports trans people. When it comes to gender the neurology us what matters, because it can contradict the rest of our physical forms. It is safer and easier to change the physical representation that some one has, than it is to recreate someone's nervous system in an image that match's what terfs think they should be. A saying my psych professor would tell us is "everything psychological is also biological", there is a physical cause to being trans, and transphobia seem to ignore that. There is a physical cause for someone to be the way they are, in personality, identity, and whatever else is found in our psyche. If biology is so important to them then why are they ignoring the system of it that allows us to be who we are?
The only thing in this video that sticks out to me is: "you have to accept that you are trans." Because i am trans as well but i never wanted to be trans and i still have issues to accept that. I always think: "Life would be so much easier if i were cis". I just hope it gets better, for all people.
I... honestly am for changing "breastfeeding" to "chest feeding", even for cis women, and hear me out, because the word breast is so sexualised. I believe that the whole "breast is best" partially caught on in such a big way, because breasts are considered so "sexy". As a mother who wasn't able to breastfeed, for various reasons, I caught a lot of abuse for formula feeding. Especially when I had a woman telling me how my youngest would hate me because I had to feed him lactose free formula pretty much from birth. The phrase "chest is best" doesn't have the same "sexyness" as "breast is best", and I think people would be more willing to hear that formula is just as healthy, and sometimes the best option, if the "sexyness" was removed from the biological feeding method.
@@devent10n I definitely know that. But people aren't really catching on to the phrase. The only people who are really catching on that I know are also those who had to resort to formula, when they originally planned otherwise.
@Oshan Shan Shan honestly, that is a whole mess that isn't going to be resolved any time soon. Even the biggest breastfeeding supporters who demand that people stop sexualising breastfeeding, will still say and do other things that clearly shows they don't practice what they preach. But really, I think changing language is sometimes the best way to change thinking. If we speak about a man's chest and a woman's chest the same, maybe they will be viewed the same? A chest is a chest.
One thing I learned in history was how women have spent centuries (if not millennia) fighting to not be reduced to biological function. I wonder what Emmeline Pankhurst would make of the Gender Criticals?
@@markh.876 that isnt what they said. They said women fought to not be seen as just vagina meat, but gender criticals claim vagina meat is all that defines women
@@markh.876 Sorry for the confusion. I was meaning that people who claim to be feminists yet define womanhood by biology are actually undermining feminism and the advancement of the rights of women.
@@markh.876 If you don't mind me asking, how do you define a woman? My background and experience is more starting from individual needs and helping them build up to enjoy the full benefits of civilization, which made definitions seem a befuddlement (especially as I'd often be helping people who slipped through the cracks in definitions). But fair enough, I'm limited and its good to share experience.
@@markh.876 Sorry about that, thought it might help if we understood each other's point of view. Exactly who do you mean by these people, perhaps I could direct your inquiry to them.
I bet you also love (hate) race being defined by someone's skin color and hence their genes/biological makeup. People should just be allowed to identify as the race they want, right?
@@dr.anaB777 Actually, I'm kind of sick of the current concept of "race" and the way people use it to tear each other down. People shouldn't have to worry about it, nor should they feel pressured by it. Same with "gender". It's not about "identifying" as anything, it's about trying to escape the stress caused by societal pressures enforced by people like you. Gender dysphoria wouldn't be near as much of a problem if people like you (and I'm making assumptions about you like you did about me, here) weren't so desperate to control others. You're just as bad as the men who wish to control women's minds and bodies. You're just as bad as the people who believe having a certain skin color means you must behave a certain way. Go ahead and have your beliefs, but leave the rest of us be and quit trying to make our lives so much harder than they already are.
I'm so grateful for this channel and the education it provides. My son is trans and I'm learning so much here. Mostly I caught (and was disgusted by) the transphobic connotations in these posts but am ashamed to say there was at least one I would have missed. The cartoon woman lying on the couch wishing for a male free space, my mommy brain translated it to her wanting her bf, sons, brothers etc to give her a break, but yes now you've explained it I can see it. I'm so sorry that any of you have to deal with such negative and judgemental people. I think you are all amazing. Stay strong and true to yourself. Sending love to anybody struggling today 💖
That's part of the problem with a lot of this stuff! It seems so benign or relatable on the surface, and if you don't know the full context, it's really not something you'd have guessed. It feels kind of like a "I lock myself in the bathroom for 5 minutes to get some time where I'm not having to wrangle family members" on the surface for sure. They make propaganda this way on purpose. I'm grateful your son has a mom who clearly loves him. Too many LGBT+ kids don't have that need met, like to the point I almost called it a luxury when it's clearly a necessity. My own mother's support has been incredibly beneficial to me being a much better, happier version of myself.
Using your dog to act transphobic is the lowest of the low. It’s like they couldn’t find a person willing to hold that sign so they used a animal that can’t make a choice for themselves to do it
As a feminist-- all I can say is if someone who calls themselves a feminist can't support and stick up for ALL women, cis, trans, Asian, black, skinny, fat, disabled, etc- Do better. Like seriously.
Me (non native english speaker) reading the title "Wait I am gender critical to myself!" Me after listening to the explanation: "Oh wait again... thats just some terf stuff. I thought it was about insecure genderfluids like myself." *sad genderfluid noises*
I'm looking into gender critical stuff, and I was looking for a different perspective to get to know better about both sides, I thought that your video was a good choice because I used to watch your channel back in the day, but literally you didn't gave any arguments or logical response to the photos/phrases here...so...idk
i remember when i first came out to my mum and i was showing her trans videos and trying to explain to her why i wanted a binder and what dysphoria was and she said over and over “i don’t understand why these people cant just accept themselves as they are.” four years later she still says things like this and i still argue with her about why its bad to say those things
7:30 but that's what is happening.we're trying to use less and less the words "woman" or "mother" or "female" which really looks like erasing womanhood and just boiling every person down to their genitals and some certain function they have. "birthing person" sounds ridiculous to me and i would always prefer to call myself a pregnant woman. but what makes me a woman? to have the woman body, to have experienced womanhood, to have all these feminine experiences only women have. when can i use "woman" to describe a person? cause not all women have vaginas, not all women have periods, not all women can birth a baby. what is the point of the word "woman" these days? the definition of that word has been essentially put as "someone who feels like a woman and identifies as a woman" which can be ANYONE and we cannot question them when they say they feel like a woman. what does it feel being a woman?
@@Jaybird196 last year a woman who regretted transitioning took the UKs only gender clinic for children to court because she’s gross, which led to the courts saying under 16s can’t consent to hormone blockers and stopped them from being able to get them. But the clinic appealed and won so it’s been overturned.
@@AndersWatches Oh, okay. That's great :) ! I'm happy, for my fellow transfolk, in the UK. I wish, I'd had access to puberty blockers, when I was young.
@@AndersWatches I sympathize, with your situation *nods*. Thank you, for telling me about this, even though it isn't a U.S. thing. Transfolk everywhere seem to be in continual trouble in the world, and I want only the best for brethren/sistren. I'm sure, this news (that you mentioned) will bring a sigh of relief, to those of us in the U.K. . I just wish, that it was more.
Today I got told my pronouns are weird and that I can't expect people to change their grammar and language to include me. I usr she/they. Also, someone said I can't be lesbian because I don't look gay???
@@ginismoja2459 can you stop spread your tranaphobia? Why did you even reply to my comment ? What is wrong in your life, that you gotta spend your Wednesday being mean to strangers online? And yeah, I have seen your other comments. Kindly leave me alone.
really sorry that your comment got hijacked by a transphobe :(( it's basic human decency for people to respect your pronouns and it's not difficult at all? feels like they're just excusing their own transphobia. sorry you had to deal with this, you're super valid and you deserve to be referred to properly
@@DreameEater thank you. I got threatened to be assaulted in school for asking a girl to use my pronouns, and I am seriously scared to go back. I can't tell a teacher or my parents either, because I am not comfortable in telling them my pronouns.
@@SammyLammy1D that's absolutely horrific and I'm so sorry, I really hope you can stay safe, i know how terrfying it can be to feel alone in something like this and I wish you all the best
I'm a researcher in a pediatrics department, and the new push is to replace "pregnant people" (which people hate) to "pregnant participants". It's all branding, people.
the issue, i think, is that terfs don't believe in gender identity. one of them told me explicitly that she doesn't believe me that i have a gender identity. she thinks it's imaginary. but i identify as male without having a masculine personality. those are different things. but terfs see it as something like ""identifying as tall when you're physically short"".
@Alice "why should people be categorised by a nebulous immaterial concept like ‘gender identity’" because you can just ask someone what their gender identity is and go by what they say. it's not instead of physical sex, it's in addition.
@Alice Yeah except terfs ignore how countless medical organizations have accepted and acknowledged that gender identity is a real psychological aspect of human identity. Gender is broken down into multiple things. Norms, stereotypes, expression and identity. If you wanna say the norms and stereotypes are misogynist sure id agree with you. But when it comes to expression and identity, they're not remotely.
@Alice Except medical organizations HAVE recognized dysphoria isnt a requirement to be trans. Since literally the APA writers of the DSM5 have stated not all trans people have dysphoria thus it's not a requirement to be trans? Everyone does have a gender identity. You see yourself as a woman because you're female? thats still a gender identity, it's called being cis. Long hair can cause dysphoria as society assumes long hair = woman. Gender expression != gender identity since butch trans women exist and feminine trans men exist.
@Alice Because there's such a thing as gender euphoria. Which is just feeling more comfortable as another gender. You're a cis woman so yes your gender identity correlates to your sex. It's not saying sex and gender are the same thing. "gender theory" states that they're not the same thing and aren't always connected. Dysphoria can have many causes. From one's body parts to how others in society perceive you because of something such as your appearance or voice. If someone was isolated from society and experienced dysphoria it would most likely be physical dysphoria ie. Attributes about their body, but if they are trans they'd be trans regardless of whether they're near society. Since the concept of ROGD or any form of "social contagion" in regards to trans identity has no basis in reality
@Alice Also not everyone takes medical routes of transitioning Some just take hormones Some take hormones and surgery Then you have some who just change their gender expression and maybe change legal documents Also if you aren't cis then you are trans, so are you telling me you're trans?
Which is hilarious because it’s fun sometimes to check your gender once in a while, even if you’re cis-especially after you’ve met your first trans/nb person I, a cis girl with she/they/it pronouns, feel 100% like a woman
@@FreeTheDonbas some people do feel like another age. Like agere. Some people are of multiple ethnicities, so they may feel like multiple ethicities. Also, it sounds like you're a transphobe, and you don't approve of fucking CISGENDER PEOPLE using pronouns other than their assigned sex
I'm a trans woman and I know that not all trans folks feel a need for gender affirmation surgeries but I do (for myself) and I can't wait for after my recovery to confuse the transphobes on another level 😅
Honestly watching your videos is really helping me in accepting who I am as a person. I'm still struggling on working through a lot of things and there have been some big setbacks that your positivity and care is helping with more than I realised. The biggest recent setback was an unfortunate situation where a trans man who I thought I could trust found out I identified as a woman and went off in a really nasty transphobic way calling me all sorts of things that I really don't want to repeat. That caused me a massive amount of anxiety about interacting with other lgbt people and in particular trans men, on top of pre existing ptsd which makes interacting with men very difficult in the first place and is the reason I identify as lesbian instead of bisexual. I used to feel safer around trans men (although I felt guilty for that because I was always worried it would be taken the wrong way) but after that incident I had no idea where to turn. Eventually the strange long winding path that is the Internet led me to your channel (via oz, then the click and finally one topic the most wholesome ally) and watching your videos has really helped me to rationalise and begin to work through that anxiety from the most recent event as well as long standing issues with my gender identity and sexuality. It's not the end of the road by any means and I know I still have a long and difficult journey ahead but you have really helped with a step in the right direction so for that I want to sincerely thank you
@Alice good advice, but at 26 I am struggling with chronic mental illness and the dysphoria, self loathing and other issues are a big factor in that and possibly even the main thing holding me back from recovery but has been something I have been unable to bring up with the doctors or mental health professionals due to the severe anxiety associated with it. Hobbies and interests are great and I have a number of them but chronic depression and extreme lack of motivation make them very difficult to enjoy or even actively participate in. As for friends and a support network they are nonexistent at this point, for various reasons but unfortunately linked mainly to mental health once again. Thank you for the kind words and advice but I'm afraid I've already been pushing this down and trying to ignore it for much longer than I should have and without addressing it things are going to stay the same or continue getting worse as this is eating away at me inside
It makes me laugh a bit to think about how many times these people have been in women's spaces with transgender women and didn't even know it. And how often these people forget that by their logic transmen should be allowed in women's spaces...
@TotallyRandomD No man pass as a woman irl. If a man 'got away with it', it's only bc the women were too uncomfortable with 'making a scene' by calling him out. Or (understandably so) his potentially violent reaction.
@@KM-vz1og Ah yes I totally don't pass. Must be why I can use the women's changing room at my local gym (and your excuse of fear of violence is completely moot since I've been in there when it's been with over a dozen women many of which who were stronger and taller than me)
Gender criticals do mean chromosomes but they refuse to believe there is anything other than XX and XY or that those two combinations can lead to male and female secondary characteristics in certain cases anyway.
Ikr? Biology, that thing they claim that much, actually goes against their point. Because even yes xx and xy is the majority, there's exceptions. Such as xxy or xxxy or yyx(?) Or more. So yeah. Lol And has been proven, like, there's ACTUALLY studies who showed that yes some ppl can be other kind of genes but xx or xy only.
They really are saying like "I'm a woman I'm more than just my biological parts!! >:((" And then say "trans women aren't women because they don't have these specific biological parts!!" Like make it make sense
I'm so bored of transphobia that the thing that really got me riled up about this was the misuse of the word "curator". People use this word without understanding what curation means.
we as humans gave gender names to genitals and chromosomes. And now we know that not how it works,we have to change it. hope we understand this one day❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍
On the chromosome thing, there are 5 at least. So do we make separate prisons for those people as well or do we put everyone who doesn't have XX into male prisons according to these people?
…a whole Instagram page dedicated to this? Oh no
You'd be surprised, there's plenty unfortunately
You can make an one hour video by aaall those accounts
*facepalms*
*oh no*
I second that facepalm
My grandma told me to start watching Jammidodger when I came out as non binary. 😭 Thank you for these videos, I didn't know there was a community of people like this also ❤️
Wow what an wholesome grandma. Good for you ❤️
@@antonvinther31 thank you lol💖 said shes glad people are more accepting these days
Hi there! I want you to know that I live in an unaccepting environment and I still have met three other queer people so far, one of which was also genderqueer. It can be hard to find us, but we’re here for you! (Please don’t respond to this, though, I don’t like getting emails from RUclips because I’m very paranoid about people finding out about this.)
Most Grandma's bake cookies, your grandma bakes love and acceptance and that's better than any cookie.
what a grandma!
I’m a cis woman and I’d heard the gender critical arguments, but they made me uncomfortable, they didn’t feel right. I didn’t have the counter-arguments to explain why ‘gender critical’ views were wrong, I just knew that it felt wrong to me. Thank you Jamie for giving me the language and reasoning to be able to uphold what I knew in my heart of hearts to be right - that trans women are women and belong in women’s spaces, not trans men, who are men, and belong in men’s spaces (where there is adequate and justifiable reasons for having gendered spaces)
The only good gender critical is when you can't decide what gender your dnd character should be, so you roll a D20 and it crits.
A d20 to provide a nice fairly wide set of possible genders.
I felt this.
I took "gender critical" to mean what happens in the Fallout games where you take an aimed shot at an enemy's groin and manage to deal extra damage. Actually, I don't see why this shouldn't be done to the gender criticals.
Oooooo
I love this. Beautiful 👌 Hope you don't mind if I borrow it in the future.
Cis woman here just doing some education. Your comment at 3.20 ish really resonated with me. Just like misogyny and covert racism you KNOW when remarks are underhanded and then they weaponise you challenging it as hysteria and feign ignorance.
It. Is. Maddening.
This channel is lovely. Definitely gained a subscriber ❤
the argument that transwomen are taking anything away from other women by existing as women, reminds me very much of the same argument against marriage equality: that somehow, by allowing everyone to marry, hetero couples are thereby losing marriage for themselves. Marriage equality did not, as feared by some, make marriage meaningless for hetero couples. Hetero couples went right on marrying as if nothing happened.
Well I mean they are taking things... like the last pair of leggings in a certian size or some other stupid petty shit like that
Which ironically also describes TERFs, stupid and petty
@@Ivytheherbert lol ikr
I have a sticker on my laptop that I feel puts it in a nice, concise way: *"equal rights for others does not mean fewer rights for you. it's not pie."*
What are you talking about? I remember how right after Obergefell v. Hodges, every straight couple was forcibly separated and ordered to await their government mandated same-gender partner. Just like how, if the Equality Act were ever passed, it would legally compel all cis people to undergo immediate HRT and bottom surgery. What? That never happened? But why would the TERFs lie to me?
they just like the idea of being the only ones able to do it. it doesn’t ruin the “sanctity” of it, it ruins the supremacist fantasy of being the only ones “worthy” of it.
Personally, I don't believe men and women actually exist at all, but then again, I haven't been outside the past year and half, so the existence of any other human seems pretty suspicious
But I will always believe in dogs.
There's no humans left, us robots have taken over, bow to your mechanical overlords or be vaporized.
@@sheelfjohnson dogs are just moving floof. they are very real and cute.
Gender is a social construct, so really, we don't exist.
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No one has yet explained how these "women-only spaces" will be policed?
How do you decide who is allowed in and who is not? Will we all be required to carry a gender I.D. card?
Add to that, there are some quite macho trans-men who would be required to use women's bathrooms and allowed into other supposed "women-only spaces".
Has this actually been thought-through?
I think its clear that TERFs do not think anything through...
Thinking things through isn’t what terfs do
Men. With guns. I'm not even kidding, their was a video of a TERF calling on armed men to "protect" womens spaces and enforce gendered norms a while back so that's how their going to enforce their safe spaces... welcoming, potentially unstable, men with loaded firearms set to shoot anyone who's a bit too masc.
the vibe i get from gcs is that they think all trans people are either fresh out of a padded cell, predators or planted by the Left and if they complain loud enough the trans community will either evaporate or dramatically reveal their true intentions like a villain 2/3rds of the way through their story arc
@@sarahts21 So just what do they want these men with guns to do? Check everyone's pants to see which bathroom they should use? Because that's even more terrifying and disgusting than whatever it is that they're afraid of!
A fun thing about gender criticals/terfs is that when they try and police the definition of woman so hard like this it ends up with gender non conforming women being harassed and all that. The bathroom stuff especially, I’ve seen videos of butch lesbians getting harassed outside of bathrooms cause of terfs. It ends up with requiring women to look some impossible “cis” standard that doesn’t exist aka you can’t look masculine, or TOO masculine whatever that means. So yes, transphobia hurts ALL women and ALL men as well :)c
An episode of body fixers showed a (cis) woman who’s in the British rugby team and has alopecia, she was almost in tears saying she’d been blocked when trying to enter a women’s public toilet because she didn’t look female enough so had gone on the program to get a wig made. It’s shocking how awfully TERFs treat ALL women. In a way, being disabled is useful when I present quite masculine and my gender is ambiguous (I’m non binary) because I can use disabled public toilets as I have a radar key.
Absolutely. It doesn’t take long until they start talking about how size or body hair makes them uncomfortable. So, if you’re an overweight, broad-shouldered, deep voiced, big-headed cis woman with a hormone imbalance that gives you excess body hair…like me…it becomes pretty clear what they think of you.
they end up accidentally enforcing those misogynistic ideas that "real" women who are worthy of respect can only look or act a certain way. the only difference is a slight shift in how and what criteria they use to judge women. this gender critical "feminism" is still hard on women, trans and cis alike, to fit into their little bubble of what they believe women are and what they look like. congratulations, you've solved nothing. In fact, you've made the problem worse.
When the self-ID cultists get their way female prisoners end up raped.
@@FreeTheDonbas a million and one videos talking about this and yet you choose to leave a random comment because you choose to be ignorant and bigoted. You’re not allowed here with that buddy
You are all amazing, strong, kind and brilliant people. You can overcome whatever stands in your way, you have so far. You can all make it, I will always believe in you all.
thank you ❤️ everybody have a great rest of your day
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I love you and your comments so much. You are the only cactus I'd actually hug. 💕
You make my day 🥰
Aww, thank you cactus!
‘Accept who you are’
Trans people: okay *presents themselves in a way that’s most comfortable to them*
‘Wait, not like that’
i dunno how they expected otherwise
Trans identifying people can preset themselves however they please. But if you're male then you will always be male, if you're female you will always be female. Don't try to claim something you are not.
@@mila3977 being male isn't the same as being a man though. People aren't reduced to their bodies
@@mila3977 I agree. Jamie, for instance, is male. Always has been. He never claimed to be anything he's not.
@@Chris-wd6yq Now that's just denying biology. You can't claim to have always been male yet also be transgender. Isn't the point of transition? That being said, Jamie was born a female, identifies as a male.... but that will never change the fact that she is female. Deny it all you want. Her genetic code is female and will always be.
I'll never get over how "gender critical" sounds like a group that should be able being critical of the gender binary and how society shapes gender roles, instead they're just forcing their own version of gender on others 🤷🤦
IKR
Some of them will unironically call themselves "gender abolitionists" and proceed to talk about what roles people should follow based on their biological sex. Uh... that's just gender in a different skin 🙄
None so vehemently enforce the patriarchy and its gender binary than the "gender critical" crowd.
Yeah, thb "The Gender Criticals" could be the name of some pop-punk band that makes songs about how shitty the gender binary and the associated roles are.
But alas, it sadly doesnt have that meaning. -.-
They mean they either don't think gender actually exists, or they're trying to apply critical theory, a theory that only works when applied to hierarchical social classes which don't have a basis in nature, to gender. I can't tell which.
@@kieransky unrelated but i actually used to be tranmasc. :) glad to see another one lol
Personally I am critical of gender critical people
Gender critical critical
@@nukiradio but the two criticals cancel out. So you're just gender.
@@vincentguttmann2231 this conversation is in critical condition
@@vincentguttmann2231 *I AM G E N D E R*
I HAtE the whole: "I had to struggle and fight for this and no one helped me. So YOU have to struggle and fight for it as well!" the whole point of previous generations fighting for things is so that future generations don't have to! ALSO I hate "othering" - when people say: "I'm not x so it's not my responsibility to fight for x rights." You don't have to be a woman to fight for women's rights and you don't have to be trans to fight for trans rights. We can create safe, fair spaces for everyone if we stop arguing and come together.
I realised that a lot of people seem to forget that us trans men can be gay or bi
People seem to completely forget that trans men exist 😥
@@rileysjonger4192 true, and when they do remember they either baby us or feel “sorry” for us like we’re confused
@@lunedez The infantalization and objectification trans men face is awful. I'm sorry y'all go through that.
Or you can be pan or demi or ace. Trans is not a sexual orientation. Trans is a sexuality.
@@rileysjonger4192 I feel that transmen are forgotten because they don't neatly fit the narrative that all men are predators including transwomen. The moment you acknowledge transmen is the moment that notion that men are inherently predatorial goes out the window.
GC's: "TRANS MEN ARE ALL JUST CONFUSED LESBIANS!!!"
Gay trans guy: "But I like men."
GC's: "VERY CONFUSED LESBIANS!!!"
Aroace trans man: I'm aroace--
TERF: C O N F U S E D ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
Seriously. There are more than a handful of gay transmen out there. For a brief time I wondered if I was one myself! (I've realized I'm agender)
I wasn't even attracted to women before I started T (probably because I had a very unhealthy view of femininity at that point), and I've still only had romantic/sexual feelings for a single woman (who may not be a woman at all).
Otherwise it's enbies and men all the way down.
Statistics show that most trans people AREN'T straight, actually. So most trans men, even if they WERE cis girls, wouldn't be lesbians.
@@yoshisarethebomb 😂
"I'm not transphobic, I'm gender critical," has the same energy as:
"I'm not racist, I'm a race realist."
"I'm not harassing or threatening you, it's my freedom of speech."
"That wasn't homicide, it was self-defense."
I made the same comment! I think this reminds me of "race realists" who are "just being honest lol"
OK 2 of those are dumb 1 it may be covered by freedom of speech and 2 it may have been self defence
freedom of speech is
your allowed to say anything UNLESS it can harm someone/is discrimination
@@roofogato no freedom of speech is you can say anything you want unless it actively calls for or directly physically harms people you can discriminate all you want for example saying women shouldn't be allowed to vote that discrimination but it's also an opinion meaning you can say it all you want
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 oo ok. im not rlly American so idk much about it lol
Cis-women having had to fight for rights is all the more reason they should be inclusive of trans women and other less privileged groups.
@G K *women who were assigned male at birth
Women have fought for their rights so why do MEN get to benefit off of them when they're the ones that oppress women in the first place
@@卵-n6e it's not about men though
@G K Calling women "men" is just a cowardly way to find a scapegoat, it's not what feminism is about. If you support women, do it regardless of their age, race of physical characteristics. Blaming trans women for crimes of male predators is blatant hipocrisy.
@@patty1181 How is it hypocritical to blame men for the problems men create..? "Transwomen" aren't oppressed the way real biological women are.
I feel like this is a good place to scream into the void of the internet...
So, I had a few appontments with a psychiatrist who was supposed to help me start my transition, but two days ago, she told me I'll need to find someone else, because she doesn't have enough spots... She gave me some numbers, but as it turns out, none of them are actually qualified to help me with this specific issue.
She didn't give me those specific numbers because she doesn't believe me, she gave them to me, because I have so much trauma from people telling me to keep my mouth shut about being trans, that I was barely abled to talk to her about it...
I'm just extremely frustrated now, because I don't want to watch my body get even more screwed up than it already is. I finally want to start fixing this...
I think I didn't get across how desperate I actually am and now I don't know what to do...
Sorry, for venting, but I'm just so incredibly frustrated and crestfallen right now... doesn't help that my mother keeps purposefully misgendering me and trying to guilt trip me for something I have no control over...
Run away. Try to work, and run away. And 0 contact with transphobic relatives.
@@eldron29-a54 Oh, running away is a terrible idea... do you know how insanely dangerus that can be?
I still always imagine gender critical as some kind of crit success on a gender chart in an rpg
Did you role a Nat 20 for your gender? Don't forget to add your CHA modifier and Will save when calculating
@@RiveroftheWither I have a - for gender like undead without cons cannot use gender effects and have a penalty on sense gender rolls but am immune to gender subtype effects that offer a save
Gender critical: dark magic spell, increase 50% chances of dealing critical damage to an enemy with binary genders.
Side effects of the spell is it has chances to make transphobe angry when the spells have no effect on non-binary folks
this is really similar to what my mom always says. she’s all about feminism, but still is kinda transphobic and homophobic and stuff. I’m non-binary (she doesn’t really understand it, and says she doesn’t believe such people really exist), though I’m still trying to understand myself and stuff, but I’m scared of coming out to her some day.
Edit: Thank you everyone for your kind words. I’m sorry i didn’t reply to all of you, but it really means a lot to me, since i am not doing really well right now. Stay safe and remember that you are loved too!! Much love 💕
My mom is the same way. You are absolutely valid, and if you need to talk, I am here. My advice is, if it's not safe, don't tell her. If you do tell her, and she can't accept you, that's her problem.
As for me, as soon as I am out of the house (I live with my parents) I will tell them my pronouns, and if they don't support me, I don't need them in my life. I understand that is drastic and might not be necessary for you, but please do what is safe for you. Hopefully she will try to educate herself when it comes to her own kid.
You don't have to come out to those close to you if they feel unsafe to do so. I know it sucks that you can't share that part of you with them. Your own safety comes first.
If you want to come out to her, try and do so when you have a failsafe in place; ie supportive friends/family, an alternative place to live. I myself am waiting to move out of my parents' house (again) before becoming more socially vocal about my own gender identity and orientation.
Gentle reminder that you are so valid. Someone could not believe that Japan exists, but it still does. You are under no obligation to come out to anyone who you don't feel safe coming out to. That must make things at home really stressful when you can't openly be yourself- I'm sorry.
there is no requirement to come out to her. ever.
if you don’t feel comfortable, then don’t come out, if you do, then you can come out.
best thing about being trans is knowing my family is so supportive. worst thing about being trans is that knowing its not the case for everyone. secure a home before coming out i say
i mean, yeah, women should have access to spaces that are their own and haven’t been invaded by men.
but also, trans women _ARE_ women, so they should have access to those women’s spaces, too.
good luck with that though since asking anyone in the community to draw a definite distinction of when it's ok to say "this is a man get him out of here" is impossible. I tried asking that above. Many seem to think there should be no distinction at all and that anyone of any appearance calling themselves trans should be allowed into traditionally women's only spaces and that expecting actual trans women to meet any sort of standard of trying to appear womanly is unfair to trans women. Imo, if you can't have cis men removed from women's only spaces for fear of being unfair to a trans woman when you can't even tell they're trans, they're not women's only spaces anymore.
@@KiraRagged not really. talk them for five minutes on how they see their future with a transition. you’ll realize pretty quick if they’re a cis man or a trans woman.
Not if they have a D
Did you see what happened at Wi Spa? Trust me, allowing people to self-ID not only will put women at risk but will also exclude many women that can't be in the same space with a person with male anatomy (like Muslim women), the best solution is to have male, female and neutral spaces.
@@ElusiveVulture ok. Say a female presenting woman with a d walks into the mens bathroom. Would that seems correct? What if a male presenting man walked into a womans bathroom. Would that seem correct? You di realize most trans people walk into the bathroom they know they look most like, as not to get beat up or confronted, so even if a woman still has her original genitals, why shouldnt she be let in?
My big question is what gender would transphobes call a man who was AMAB but has XX chromosomes? It's not all that common but cis people can have chromosomes that are typically opposite from their sex. Would they think he's a woman even though he's AMAB and cis?
If a person like that identifies as female and transitions would she be a "real woman?"
She would have the typical chromosomes and that's all that matters according to them.
Them saying 'the only thing about being a woman is being female' is making both my cis female friend and my enby ass mad lol
@@markh.876 sex chromosomes actually make polymorphic changes rather than binary changes. Your androgen receptors and brain wiring matter a ton. Theres also people with intersex traits who simply wanted to change the way they lean
@@markh.876 being a person
@@markh.876 woman: means you fully identify as a feminine gender
@@markh.876 basically, just look into yourself. i suggest looking on the LGBTQ wiki for more info if ur curious
@@markh.876 what I was saying is that not everything about a women is being a women they are people
The people getting upset about others using the word "people" instead of "women" anger me, because, like Jamie, I always think, "Women are people!" Actually, probably the first time I heard "pregnant people," I didn't even notice it's an accurate phrase. When I heard someone say, "people with uteruses," the first time I was just amused (I didn't realize it was said to be more inclusive - but when I learned that was reason, I didn't get upset about it - whatever the reason, it's accurate).
I saw a post on Facebook once with VERY ANGRY person declaring that she is NOT "a person who gave birth", that she is "a mother" and I was like, "thanks, Susan. I don't think that this medical information applies to adoptive parents" and she got Big Mad because she did, indeed, give birth. 🤔
One time I said "pregnant people" to my dad and he laughed and said, "You know only woman can get pregnant, right?" And I was like, last time I checked woman are people. The funny thing is that I wasn't even trying to be inclusive. It was before I started thinking about trans people lol.
Ooh, I'm pregnant and people are big mad here about "pregnant people" and inclusive language around birth and parenting and infant feeding. "Birthing person? How about MOTHER" How about trans dads have kids, how about some people are surrogates, how about some people place their babies for adoption and won't be parenting...I'm a mom, but if someone wants to call me a person, that's also ideal. I don't understand the outrage.
_People who self-identify as the opposite sex_
"I am more than a vagina/menstruater/etc" *goes on to define women on their body parts and nothing else*
Ah yes, no hypocrisy to see here
we define women as adult human female which means all the the caracteristics the sexual gametes give to us (that are not just having a vagina) and for our common and individual history that make us recognize issues that happen to all of us for our sex etc. its inhumanizing to say that type of things as a mentruator or uteros owner because we are not a walking womb or smth
@@kate-be3uh Except, not all women are born female and not everyone born with a female body are women. Gender is a social construct that goes beyond one's sex.
It's almost refreshing when transphobia references trans men, *almost*, if only because most of the time everyone acts like trans masculine people don't exist, because if someone mentions trans people everyone thinks of trans women.
Trans women don't deserve the hate they get, or the negative attention. They're women and have the right to be in women safe spaces.
It's almost as if they aren't "trans exclusionary", it's almost as if they are only "male exclusionary".
@@FreeTheDonbas trans men are men
@@jamesevans1176 Prove it.
@@FreeTheDonbas dude? Trans men are men, trans women are women. If you're watching this channel you should grasp that idea
@@jamesevans1176 lol so nothing you said is true, otherwise you could prove it.
The whole calling trans women "males" thing is also kinda insane too cause by most metrics we aren't! (And that's before getting into the fact that sex doesn't define gender or experience to begin with anyway)
sex & gender are not the same thing. if we are talking about sex then male dysphorics are indeed male. They merely identify as the opposite sex. The reason they take cross-sex hormones is bc they are hormonally male, anatomically male, chromosomally male, gonadally male etc. in an attempt to feminise their male bodies.
Sex does define your gender and experience. It's the whole reason people medically transition
What makes you a transwoman then?
If your sex isn't male, then your sex is female? Even though you weren't born female? Good god.
Also sex does define experience. It defines which sex roles (gender) you are forced into since birth. Females and male are stereotypes for their sex. Females are discriminated against and charged less than males, hyper-sexualized, etc, that is the female experience growing up female and that is something a trans woman hasn't experienced growing up.
what metrics are those? because trans women are males for its sexual gametes its basic biology, and sex does define your gender, if you born a male you will be raised in a sociaty that tells how you have to act as a man and that is gender, gender its not a good thing and sex its not something you can change
I never actually used to notice the language change (pregnant person, person with penis, etc), which indicates to me that it's not as socially and linguistically upsetting as some of these transphobes want to claim it is. I only started to notice and appreciate it after I came out and started working with a gender affrimation clinic.
Has Jamie ever debated anyone with opposing opinions? I think it might be good for him. If your views are justified and withstand scrutiny, they will win in the end.
@1 2 "he doesn't seem well informed"... he has a PhD in transgender research...
If a woman is anyone who was assigned female, then you're okay with trans men in women's only spaces? It feels like people really haven't thought this one out.
good point but obviously these people arent ok with trans people existing at all
Most of them aren't aware that trans men even exist
Of course they are okay with that. None of the transsgender sex ofenders are female.
Jammi: does that mean I belong… in a women’s prison…? *stares into camera innocently like he didn’t just shut down their whole argument*
And to be fair, i’d feel a lot safer around trans men than women, if it comes to prison
Gender critical people would say that Jammi belongs in a women's prison, so it doesn't really shut down any argument.
@@alchemyofcolorandstyle why
@@TheLadyDelirium But then you get a bearded hunk of muscle roaming among meek fragile women that he (Jamie) can abuse and dominate without consequence.
Which is explicitly not looking out for the safety of women. In fact it's declaring that the gender-critical person who puts Jami in the women's prison doesn't care about keeping women safe or protected.
@@onijester56 would you prefer a person with a penis that can possibly be a S offender in a female prison then?
I recently looked up the self-ID law in my country, well, the proposed law, and why it's been voted against. Found an article from a huge, usually reputable newspaper, where a lawyer explains the "problems that especially women would face": "What if a convicted male r-pist self-ID'd as a woman and wants to serve his sentence in a woman's prison? What if corporate executives don't want to hire women, or want to avoid being fired, so they self-ID as women?" And then the article went on to say that "these concerns are barely discussed, they are immediately dismissed as transphobic". Like. Yeah. They are. They're also absolutely asinine and ridiculous. I stopped reading after these dog whistles, but from experience, I'm almost certain the words "bathrooms" and "sports" make an appearance later on.
I just want unisex toilets and a neutral gender marker on my ID. But apparently that'll bring about the downfall of humankind :/
Personally I think if discussing this kind of thing can help ease fears, we should do it. A lot of transphobia seems to come from mistaken assumptions and I think we should try to educate people about how it actually works.
I am nonbinary, specifically genderfluid, and most of my friends know this.
I was presenting MALE, cargo pants and overt "5-o-clock shadow" and bulky leather jacket. I literally walked into the Women's restroom at the karaoke bar I frequent, four times between 8PM and 2AM. Not a single person stopped me.
The downfall of humanity isn't gonna be brought by people with a dick taking a piss. It's gonna be brought by rapists literally sitting on the Supreme Court declaring that rape isn't a crime.
okay but serious questions about the bathrooms: why is almost always the woman's bathroom that gets turned into gender neutral and men can keep theirs? I honestly couldn't care less if we would just add a third gender neutral bathroom everywhere along with men and women but I would be very against the current train of taking away female only spaces.
@@jina2521 1. Every "One person at a time" bathroom is INTRINSICALLY gender-neutral. This also means your home bathroom. Fuck off with your narrowminded ignorance.
2. The "taking away female only spaces" exists because 'Moral Guardians TM' prevent MTF from entering "women's" restrooms. FTM, at every stage of transition, can weirdly enter "Men's" bathrooms without restriction.
Hell, I'm an AMAB genderfluid enby. About a year ago I entered a "Men's Room" while Femme, because it's habit. I got confronted by a guy who remarked "What? Is the woman's toilet clogged or something?"
This person thought I was a genetic physiological assigned-at-birth female with a vagina, and didn't care one bit if I had to use one of the stalls to do my business.
Meanwhile if I went into the woman's room, the same guy would have stopped me and I might very well have not lived past that fucking minute let alone until today.
Karen White.
I once had a terf tell me I just needed to "embrace my femininity"
Bru, I tried that for 17 years. It didn't work
Which just proves they aren't really feminists since you aren't a feminist if you think you're only a real woman if you're feminine the whole point of feminism is freedom of choice
@@ginismoja2459 where'd you get a silly idea like that from
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 biology lol
@@swivvle1185 haha nice try you do realise biology actually proves we're right
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214how so? biology shows intersex are still either male or female and the claim that trans people brains are more similar to the opposite sex can also be used to argue that lesbians brains are more like the brains of straight men than straight women. And even then the general consensus is that human brains are not sexually diamorphic because the differences are trivial with so much variation and overlap that it doesn't even really make sense to call a brain male or female anyway...
Thanks for being such a non BS , trans male, continually giving us critically important, science based information. As another grandma who has children and grandchildren who have come out as non binary, I am so blessed to have a channel like Jamie’s to direct them to for healthy information. Blessings, prayers and love coming your way💕
Aww thank you for your willingness to learn and love! 🥰
Theyre right, a woman isnt any body with a feminine personality, they can have whatever personality they want! WOMEN DON'T OWE YOU FEMININITY. Whether they're trans, cis or whatever!
(ʘᴗʘ✿)Got it buddy?
@@ginismoja2459 Nope.
@@ginismoja2459 Nope. After all, you don't know if you're actually female. Could be intersex, thus not male or female
@@ginismoja2459 Trans women are born female so yes. You’re actually right for once.
@@ginismoja2459 in a way, you sre correct. I am enby and I was always enby. A transwoman is always a woman, she was just born in a body that didn't represent her gender.
I know that's probably not what you meant, but I hope it was.
@@ginismoja2459 that is scientifically incorrect
Some of these are only transphobic because you know what they're trying to say....
Like yes female bodies come in all shapes and sizes with lots of overlap with the shapes and sizes of male bodies.... It's just that they don't really believe that.... They just maybe disagree with some of the restrictions that impact them personally.
And also the "I'm not a vulva" is coming from somebody who thinks their vulva and uterus are one of the most defining characteristics of women....
Yeah, there is some stupidity there,
"A woman Is defined as a vagina haver"
_five minutes later_
"I'm not a vagina, I'm a woman'
The irony of self-professed "feminists" treating women as nothing more than wombs with legs. Hmm, where have I heard that before?
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 If I remember correctly, I think it was the patriarchy.
Ever heard of biological sex?
@@lealsofi Ever heard of advanced biology and brain science?
Transgender males:
Has chest binder
Has masculine haircut
Has boyish clothes
Hips and waist: *I'm abt to end this man's whole career*
(Just a joke...no hate comments please...have a nice day!)
@@ginismoja2459 And you'll never be right
@@ginismoja2459 And you’ll never have an IQ higher than -10.
@@ginismoja2459 ah, your last few comments say we have a BITCH in the chat
@@ginismoja2459 someone sound the insecure alarm because we’ve got a Bitch in the chat
@@ginismoja2459 and you will never be a human being see how me saying that doesn't change the fact that you are?
"does that mean i belong in a women's prison" jamie did you take be gay do crime a little too literally
But Jamie isn't gay he's bi
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 it’s a general term
@@loki362 yes I know that the joke is I'm taking it literally
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 oh okay
I was at the doctors office yesterday and my doctor asked what my pronouns are. My mom shouted over me “she! It’s she.” However that’s not correct. I’m just pissed and wanted to rant into this RUclips void about that
I'm sorry your mom isn't supportive. Hopefully she comes around. In the meantime, sending mom love your way.
@@totallyrandomd1714 thank you very much 🥰
Good for your mother. Let's hope she can steer you away from this dangerous cult before you do irrepariable damage to yourself.
@@_Sakidora_ oof triggered snowflake here 💀
Hey fellow human (any pronouns you go by, by the way?) I'm more than sorry that your mum is being a dick to you... Sending virtual platonic and supportive love your way
When TERFS start going all “WOULD YOU WANT A MAN IN A WOMEN’s BATHROOM” my gut is like “No. which is why someone like Jamie shouldn’t be there. But a trans woman like Summer Luk? Welcome any time.”
Transphobe: Don't put transwomen in woman's prisons.
Me: Ok, don't charge them with any crime and let them all go free, That works too
Transphobe: that is not...
Committing a crime will put you in prison no matter what you are
Every male prisoner would be freed then.
@@FreeTheDonbas all the convicted men and transmen go to a men's prison
@@ericespiritu1468 Karen 'White?
@@FreeTheDonbas of course she belongs in a woman's jail. think a bout it you don't put a man who non-consensual sexed men in a women's jail you put him in a men's jail. You would not put a rapist in general population if they are at risk of hurting other inmates. She is a woman who was convicted of non-consensual sex and should be treated as such. i.e. in a woman's prison and protecting the inmates from hurting each other like any other non-consensual sex offender.
Thank you for this! The whole thing that got JK Rowling started on her transphobic rants was a post that said “people with a uterus.” As a nonbinary trans person I was so angry that JK was acting like people like me, trans men or intersex people don’t exist. Then she started attacking trans women in her next tweets & made her horrible essay & book. I was a huge Harry Potter fan growing up, it’s so disappointing the writer turned out to be a horrible transphobe. That’s actually what prompted me to come out as gender fluid because I wanted to show people like JK that people like me do exist. I’m trans & I’m valid. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
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How DARE they use Daria for their transphobia. Daria doesn't stand for that nonsense.
Yeah; if Daria was still made with the same attitude she had when she was in the show Daria, she would very neatly deconstruct transphobia.
@@iantaakalla8180 I would give just about anything for a Daria reboot
I had a bit of a shit day, I was thinking a lot about self harming again. Your videos never fail to make me smile and you have taught me a lot. Thank you for making these amazing videos I really appreciate you educating people and making us happier.
P. S, if you see this drink plenty water and have a good day!! :)
Edit: thank you so much for your kind words, you lot are awsome:)
I'm actually sick atm and relaxing at home and this made my day
Lots of love to you. Hope tomorrow is better for you!
i send you lots of love and positivity ! i'm happy that you had something to make you smile today. and i hope that tomorrow will be better !
i hope you have a great day/night and don't forget to drink neither
huge love to you! hoping tomorrow is brighter, and know that people care about you
Getting myself some much needed water, and wishing you a brighter day tomorrow 💜
I wonder what they would see in me. An afab gynosexual enby. I wish I was cis, I wish I had a more common orientation. But I'm not and that's okay. (But honestly it took me way longer to accept that then I would want to admit.) Let's define people by their character, not their gender, pronouns, partner or genitals. Is it that hard?
I mean yeah, gender is a construct by society, but by and large, it has been useful. I mean once you get used to just calling every being of unknown gender "they" (which was kinda hard for me because German words have an intrinsic gender that follows no rules) it's really easy.
While personality defines you more, I doubt that you'll find toilets for personalities, or your personality noted in your passport, if that is what you meant.
Remember: You are valid.
@Knight Chime
Claims it's a fad of little concern.
Is so concerned about it that indulges on internet drama about the subject.
Cope harder.
@@ocaradocp01 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Priceless retort!
@@ocaradocp01 There are two possibilities: Either, he's got no life, or it's actually not a fad after all (I am clutching my pearls as I write this), or both.
It makes me giggle with sadness. I came out to my family, they were accepting on the surface. Then I was diagnosed as intersex with both male and female reproductive organs. I didn't tell them about the hamathroditeism, I just said I was intersex. They went on to use it a way to validate my femaleness 😅. So I didn't tell them that I'm a hermaphrodite.
I later came to realise that unfortunately they are two faced as I like to phrase it. Accepting on the surface. But didn't like the idea I used female toilets, changing rooms and competed in sports.
So I removed myself from the WhatsApp family group chat. Problem solved.
Remember, family isn't genetic.
I'd also like to say that non-binary, intersex and trans women do fight for womens right. Equal pay, sympathy for period pains (which I do experience due to having only female internal organs), free sanitary products, fight to feel safe in the street and not be undermined by men and to remove the idea that men can have us when they want... I don't understand why some people don't see that we undergo the exact same gender inequalitys just like any other women on the planet.
Anyway,
Stay safe everyone! X
Can I ask how your family didn’t already know that had both Male and female reproductive organs?
@@umwha I was asymptomatic until the start of what was meant to be a male puberty, then it never happend.
@@TheBadgerSneaky Thats really interesting but at that age, would you parents not be told about this diagnosis, and therefore they would know your intersex condition?
@@umwha Thankfully no, I had cognitive, emotional and physical delays, physical ones which I kept to myself until around 19. I took testosterone to "fit in" and when to the gym to stop female characteristics from developing as I wasn't ready to tell anyone. I never had EEGs or other scans when I was younger, so no one suspected anything.
If your wondering why I'm quite knowledgable, it's because I've trained as a psychologist and my brother is a doctor of medicine.
@@TheBadgerSneaky So, you have intenral female organs, but looked to have male genitalis outwardly? Okay, I get you. Dosent that mean you are simply a female with ambiguous genitalia. Correct me if im wrong but nobody actually has both sets of reproductive organs.
They come from a place of hatred and fear. We come from a place of love, empathy and inclusion. I know which side I would rather be on.
@@markh.876 so you’d like to be on our side now okay
If you love someone, won't you tell them the truth?
GCs have gone full circle and started using "female" and "male" like incels
I can't get over the fact that the dogs sign was photoshopped. Like someone really saw a picture of what I can only assume was cute, innocent pet shaming and thought to themself "hm how can I make this fit my bigoted agenda?" Like man he probably just eats socks don't make the dog look like a transphobe
i honestly don't understand this 'human fe/male' thing? like, especially if you're on htr, your biology literally changes? so, biologically, a trans person on htr *is* literally biologically the gender they are? what am i missing? are they supposing biology=chromosomes? i just don't get their thinking ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sex is a social construct too lol
@@WolfgangDoW They're not ready for that lesson. We haven't even gotten them to acknowledge the existence of intersex people yet. Baby steps, friend. 🤣
I wonder what they think of people with XO chromosomes? What about XOY chromosomes? There are cis women with Y chromosomes, are they not women? Are the transphobes going to be forcing them to transition?
lol cross-sex hormones don't change your sex. You're just pretending not to know that. If you take aspirin bc you have high-blood pressure, do you start identifying as someone with low-blood pressure? No. The very fact that you take aspirin is proof that you have high-blood pressure, the same way that taking anti-androgens & oestrogen is proof that you are hormonally (anatomically, gonadally etc) male.
@@FreeTheDonbas i never claimed it changes your sex, it changes the biology processes in your body, hence htr changes your gender, it makes you biologically the gender associated with each hormone. unless, according to you, there's no biological difference between a 10 yr old girl and a 25 yr old woman? huh. what abt insulin? does that make a biological difference? if you can break down sugar or not? is a menopausal woman a woman if she takes hormones?
your example is in no way in good faith, if you are not capable to understand that hormones alter biological processes in the body then idk what to tell you.
also, why tf do y'all stalk trans positive accounts just to preach your nonsense?
Anyone saying that “we had to fight for our rights so should you” are doing such a disservice to the world. All human rights efforts overlap. It is everyone’s responsibility to ensure that they are maintained even if they aren’t apart of the group being targeted. No one wins by making a different minority the target.
As a lesbian, trans people don’t erase us. Stop speaking over us.
Honestly, the entitlement of a bunch of straight people using the same rhetoric that was used 20 years back against lesbians and gay men, and then claiming to want to help them is beyond disgusting.
@@justchilling7712 buf, indeed.
@@xd._.28234 what's buf mean?
@@justchilling7712 in spanish, it's like a sigh expression, idk.
Or to express agreement or also surprise.
Irl is not an actual word, it's a mouth sound. Like a blowing from desperation or resignation, or shocking, idk lol.
@@justchilling7712 is as when in english, you write
"Sigh",is not a word, is a mouth sound, you write it to show how you feel(?)
I'm not a vulva. I'm not a vagina. I'm not a cervix. I'm not a menstrator.
I'm the trouble starter, punkin' instigator.
I'm the fear addicted, a danger illustrated!
I'm a firestarter, twisted firestarter!
It's not "inclusive" language it's *accurate* language.
"Trans activism erases lesbians"
I guess I, a transgender lesbian, don't exist. Very cool.
Me a transgender lesbian: dissappears
@@ginismoja2459 i suppose you're not a lesbian. most gender crits are straight women
@@ginismoja2459 begone
@@ginismoja2459 LGB is nonsensical transphobia, because most trans lesbians do not have aversion to p*nises, so, from your own definition, they would be bisexual, and belong to the LGB group anyway. we define ourselves as lesbians by the same standards that we define the people who may be attracted to us as lesbians. so if straight men can like women with p*nises, so do lesbians, cis or trans. it doesn't mean they have to, it means there is the possibility, and that doesn't change their sexuality.
@@ginismoja2459 straight transwomen have been debating this issue for ages, and many men who like trans women still identify as straight, for they are attractd to trans women as women, because they have feminine bodies and they aren't attracted to men, who have masculine bodies. this same line of reason justifies lesbians who like trans women. this is how trans people identify their sexuality, and it has become the standard definition. even if you are aware of 'LGB', i still doubt you're actually a lesbian, for lesbians have better things to do.
5:16 So, does that mean literally no woman is a woman and at the same time every woman is a woman? I'm so confused with this one!
Ikr
In summary: a woman is born, not worn.
@@lealsofi wtf does that mean???
I’m a pansexual trans nonbinary masc. I’m not a “runaway lesbian”
Lol ikr, I'm a masc NB as well, and i confirm
So a masculine bisexual woman, nice.
These people really think we're arguing that men and women are personality types, when that's... honestly so far from the truth. Gender, gender identity, sex, personality, and gender presentation are all different things with different definitions and can happen with a myriad of combinations. Gender nonconformity and being trans sometimes intersect, and sometimes don't.
I'm a vulva-curator, but I'm also a man (since surgery is expensive and may not be safe for me, and a nice stand-to-pee packer is enough to sooth my bottom dysphoria/phantom limb issues. People are not their genitals! People are not just their ability to reproduce!
Biological sex is complex, everyone has the complete compliment of genes to be male and female. Everyone produces both "male" and "female" hormones as they're used for more than just sex differentiation. "Sex" hormone levels fluctuate over time, even just within the course of a day. What is normal and healthy for one person may cause a hormone imbalance in another. Some healthy cisgender women have higher testosterone levels than the average cis man. These hormones play an important role in physical development, which gives us the wide variety in body shapes and sizes we find across humanity. Cis women can have broad shoulders, large hands, be taller than the male average, have Adam's apples, dark obvious body hair, a large protruding clitoral glans aka a big "clit", etc and be perfectly healthy. Cis men can be short, have tapered fingers, have wide hips, grow sparse facial and body hair, have high voices, a short penis with a separated urethra and ejaculatory duct, and still be healthy. Unfortunately we put all the weight on genitals to separate the sexes when, if you take the whole body into account, there everyone has a complex assemblage of biologically male and female traits. This is why science says that physical sex is a spectrum. Unfortunately we generally only count people with ambiguous genitals as being intersex, and try to lump everyone else into discrete categories.
Another funny thing, testosterone is actually just a modified progesterone (one of the important female hormones best known for regulating menstruation in tandem with estrogen). So cis men have to produce plenty of a "female" hormone in order to have high T. Anabolic steroids can be converted in the body into estrogen, which leads to breast growth in cis men. Cis men can naturally lactate thanks to increased prolactin levels associated with frequent nipple stimulation, especially in response to continuous contact with a newborn (which triggers hormone level changes in male fathers too if they are present), though it is rare because it can be difficult to trigger thanks to the work and time involved. It can be hard for cis women post-pregnancy to lactate too despite their normal prolactin spike.
Human bodies are amazing and complex. We are massively complex biological machines with incredibly complex software powerful enough to alter the physical body (eg the placebo effect). We are a beautiful intersection between nature and nurture.
At least they recognised trans men. Also im trans masc and still use the women's room and almost everytime i do i have transphobic people glaring at me despite me using the "right bathroom" by their standards
Hang in there. I hope you'll have consistent access to either an all gender restroom or men's room (whichever you prefer) soon.
@@devent10n gender neutral. Im honestly worried about getting hate crimed if I use the men's room . i almost never pass and a lot of men carry weapons everywhere they go.
If you are trans masc why are you in womens spaces, you apparently don't see yourself as female
@@billmartins5545 im nonbinary but lean towards masculine technically so not a man and If i used mens spaces i could be assaulted. Im in a very conservative area . Plus I havent even come out yet, im very early in my transition . i use neutral places anytime i can but there are barely any where i live cus it triggers conservatives to see neutral bathrooms or something . trust me. I hate using them. I feel dirty and wrong when i do but id rather keep myself safe .
"female body" xD I'm a cis woman and got read as trans woman or guy more than once because of my build.
No explanation over how or why a trans-woman is a woman or how or why a trans-man is a man. No such explanation is given at any point in this video. Mostly it is just insulting people and calling them transphobes. And what is NOT transphobic anyway. Further no explanation is given why the term female doesn’t count to make a person as a woman. I acknowledge that if a person has a REAL penis(not the fake one from bottom surgery) that person is a man and I don’t care if I am called a transphobe for it.
There is no place for logic or critical thinking in this comment section. Thank you.
It’s so sad that I’ve seen transphobes in the comments already. Keep doing what you’re doing Jammi! As a Trans man, I appreciate you so very much 😌
yeah ive found a few of them :/ it really sucks
@@Haydennn22 I report them, as I can.
Transphobes are people who refuse to call a dog a cat. You people are so desperate and dumb you think a man with a penis can be a lesbian my God! Lies lies lies
I'm honestly so fucking tired of people who can't take any criticism or backlash whatsoever
"gender critical" "feminists": "i'm not a vulva!"
also gcfs: "i define a woman as a human with a vulva"
@@markh.876 the contradiction is that they say women aren’t just their parts but define women by their parts lmao
@@markh.876 Because they never said "you are a vulva" either, they said "you're a person with a vulva", which is pretty much their definition of female, so it's just saying "I'm not female, I'm female!"
@@markh.876 *Points at a terrapin*
Dog.
*Spider after losing a fight*
Dog.
*Person holding a manikin*
Dog.
*Wheelchair puppy*
Not a dog.
@@markh.876 female is a sex, though, and gender is a distinct construct??? correct me if I'm wrong
There is a reason discrimination against women is called SEXism. It's not due to some nebulous, innate feminine essence.
It's easier to adapt everything else to fit neurology, than to adapt neurology to fit everything else. The specific function and brain activity for trans people is closer to their identified gender than the one assigned at birth. If people use biology as an excuse they ignore a major branch of it, the branch that supports trans people. When it comes to gender the neurology us what matters, because it can contradict the rest of our physical forms. It is safer and easier to change the physical representation that some one has, than it is to recreate someone's nervous system in an image that match's what terfs think they should be.
A saying my psych professor would tell us is "everything psychological is also biological", there is a physical cause to being trans, and transphobia seem to ignore that. There is a physical cause for someone to be the way they are, in personality, identity, and whatever else is found in our psyche.
If biology is so important to them then why are they ignoring the system of it that allows us to be who we are?
The only thing in this video that sticks out to me is: "you have to accept that you are trans."
Because i am trans as well but i never wanted to be trans and i still have issues to accept that.
I always think: "Life would be so much easier if i were cis". I just hope it gets better, for all people.
I... honestly am for changing "breastfeeding" to "chest feeding", even for cis women, and hear me out, because the word breast is so sexualised. I believe that the whole "breast is best" partially caught on in such a big way, because breasts are considered so "sexy". As a mother who wasn't able to breastfeed, for various reasons, I caught a lot of abuse for formula feeding. Especially when I had a woman telling me how my youngest would hate me because I had to feed him lactose free formula pretty much from birth. The phrase "chest is best" doesn't have the same "sexyness" as "breast is best", and I think people would be more willing to hear that formula is just as healthy, and sometimes the best option, if the "sexyness" was removed from the biological feeding method.
Fed is best 💗💗
@@devent10n I definitely know that. But people aren't really catching on to the phrase. The only people who are really catching on that I know are also those who had to resort to formula, when they originally planned otherwise.
Yeah I can definitely see where you're coming from
@Oshan Shan Shan honestly, that is a whole mess that isn't going to be resolved any time soon. Even the biggest breastfeeding supporters who demand that people stop sexualising breastfeeding, will still say and do other things that clearly shows they don't practice what they preach.
But really, I think changing language is sometimes the best way to change thinking. If we speak about a man's chest and a woman's chest the same, maybe they will be viewed the same? A chest is a chest.
@Oshan Shan Shan getting people to change perceptions of words in the past has taken a very long time in most cases.
Gender critical is what happens when you roll a nat 20 on a gender attack in DND
the only valid comment in this comment section /hj
Hearing Jamie say that he accepts himself actually added 10 years to my lifespan 🙌
"transactivism erases Lesbians"
me, a trans lesbian: *guess I'll die*
Lok, ikr
One thing I learned in history was how women have spent centuries (if not millennia) fighting to not be reduced to biological function. I wonder what Emmeline Pankhurst would make of the Gender Criticals?
@@markh.876 that isnt what they said. They said women fought to not be seen as just vagina meat, but gender criticals claim vagina meat is all that defines women
@@markh.876 Sorry for the confusion. I was meaning that people who claim to be feminists yet define womanhood by biology are actually undermining feminism and the advancement of the rights of women.
@@nukiradio Thank you, I'd been concerned I'd spoken wrongly.
@@markh.876 If you don't mind me asking, how do you define a woman?
My background and experience is more starting from individual needs and helping them build up to enjoy the full benefits of civilization, which made definitions seem a befuddlement (especially as I'd often be helping people who slipped through the cracks in definitions).
But fair enough, I'm limited and its good to share experience.
@@markh.876 Sorry about that, thought it might help if we understood each other's point of view. Exactly who do you mean by these people, perhaps I could direct your inquiry to them.
I love (hate) how they refuse to just come out and say they think womanhood is solely defined by reproductive function.
I bet you also love (hate) race being defined by someone's skin color and hence their genes/biological makeup. People should just be allowed to identify as the race they want, right?
@@dr.anaB777 Actually, I'm kind of sick of the current concept of "race" and the way people use it to tear each other down. People shouldn't have to worry about it, nor should they feel pressured by it. Same with "gender". It's not about "identifying" as anything, it's about trying to escape the stress caused by societal pressures enforced by people like you. Gender dysphoria wouldn't be near as much of a problem if people like you (and I'm making assumptions about you like you did about me, here) weren't so desperate to control others.
You're just as bad as the men who wish to control women's minds and bodies. You're just as bad as the people who believe having a certain skin color means you must behave a certain way. Go ahead and have your beliefs, but leave the rest of us be and quit trying to make our lives so much harder than they already are.
I'm so grateful for this channel and the education it provides. My son is trans and I'm learning so much here. Mostly I caught (and was disgusted by) the transphobic connotations in these posts but am ashamed to say there was at least one I would have missed. The cartoon woman lying on the couch wishing for a male free space, my mommy brain translated it to her wanting her bf, sons, brothers etc to give her a break, but yes now you've explained it I can see it. I'm so sorry that any of you have to deal with such negative and judgemental people.
I think you are all amazing. Stay strong and true to yourself. Sending love to anybody struggling today 💖
Thank you for being a supportive parent and educating yourself to help your son
That's part of the problem with a lot of this stuff! It seems so benign or relatable on the surface, and if you don't know the full context, it's really not something you'd have guessed. It feels kind of like a "I lock myself in the bathroom for 5 minutes to get some time where I'm not having to wrangle family members" on the surface for sure. They make propaganda this way on purpose.
I'm grateful your son has a mom who clearly loves him. Too many LGBT+ kids don't have that need met, like to the point I almost called it a luxury when it's clearly a necessity. My own mother's support has been incredibly beneficial to me being a much better, happier version of myself.
Using your dog to act transphobic is the lowest of the low. It’s like they couldn’t find a person willing to hold that sign so they used a animal that can’t make a choice for themselves to do it
Petition to save the poor doggy that was forced to hold a transphobic sign
You condone housing incarcerated women with violent and sexually predatory men?
@@KM-vz1og W h a t
@@KM-vz1og why do you think all trans men are predatory exactly?
@@Chiefleif91 do you mean trans women?
As a feminist-- all I can say is if someone who calls themselves a feminist can't support and stick up for ALL women, cis, trans, Asian, black, skinny, fat, disabled, etc-
Do better.
Like seriously.
Yeah. If you're gonna do sth, try to do it the best you can. Senseless ways of acting, theirs.
lol you don't even know what a woman is.
@@FreeTheDonbas you're projecting more than a teacher's computer during a powerpoint slideshow
@@lazdahuman The same way that a hen is an adult female chicken is the same way that a woman is an adult female human. Easy. Your turn.
Me (non native english speaker) reading the title "Wait I am gender critical to myself!" Me after listening to the explanation: "Oh wait again... thats just some terf stuff. I thought it was about insecure genderfluids like myself." *sad genderfluid noises*
Don’t worry, my nonbinary ass criticises my gender too
I'm looking into gender critical stuff, and I was looking for a different perspective to get to know better about both sides, I thought that your video was a good choice because I used to watch your channel back in the day, but literally you didn't gave any arguments or logical response to the photos/phrases here...so...idk
There are a few other videos he's posted that give these arguments.
@@lazdahuman I’ve watched them as well but it’s the same ☹️
i remember when i first came out to my mum and i was showing her trans videos and trying to explain to her why i wanted a binder and what dysphoria was and she said over and over “i don’t understand why these people cant just accept themselves as they are.” four years later she still says things like this and i still argue with her about why its bad to say those things
7:30 but that's what is happening.we're trying to use less and less the words "woman" or "mother" or "female" which really looks like erasing womanhood and just boiling every person down to their genitals and some certain function they have. "birthing person" sounds ridiculous to me and i would always prefer to call myself a pregnant woman. but what makes me a woman? to have the woman body, to have experienced womanhood, to have all these feminine experiences only women have. when can i use "woman" to describe a person? cause not all women have vaginas, not all women have periods, not all women can birth a baby. what is the point of the word "woman" these days? the definition of that word has been essentially put as "someone who feels like a woman and identifies as a woman" which can be ANYONE and we cannot question them when they say they feel like a woman. what does it feel being a woman?
how would you actually define woman? it hurts trying to wrap my head around this ngl
Some good news from today, Bell’s gross ruling was overturned ❤️
What happened? I'm unaware of the case. Thanks.
@@Jaybird196 last year a woman who regretted transitioning took the UKs only gender clinic for children to court because she’s gross, which led to the courts saying under 16s can’t consent to hormone blockers and stopped them from being able to get them. But the clinic appealed and won so it’s been overturned.
@@AndersWatches Oh, okay. That's great :) ! I'm happy, for my fellow transfolk, in the UK. I wish, I'd had access to puberty blockers, when I was young.
@@Jaybird196 me too, it would have saved a lot of pain and struggle
@@AndersWatches I sympathize, with your situation *nods*. Thank you, for telling me about this, even though it isn't a U.S. thing. Transfolk everywhere seem to be in continual trouble in the world, and I want only the best for brethren/sistren. I'm sure, this news (that you mentioned) will bring a sigh of relief, to those of us in the U.K. . I just wish, that it was more.
Today I got told my pronouns are weird and that I can't expect people to change their grammar and language to include me. I usr she/they.
Also, someone said I can't be lesbian because I don't look gay???
@@ginismoja2459 what is your problem? My pronouns are valid and you seriously need help if you can't accept people lmao. Have a great day/night !
@@ginismoja2459 can you stop spread your tranaphobia? Why did you even reply to my comment ? What is wrong in your life, that you gotta spend your Wednesday being mean to strangers online? And yeah, I have seen your other comments. Kindly leave me alone.
really sorry that your comment got hijacked by a transphobe :(( it's basic human decency for people to respect your pronouns and it's not difficult at all? feels like they're just excusing their own transphobia. sorry you had to deal with this, you're super valid and you deserve to be referred to properly
@@DreameEater thank you. I got threatened to be assaulted in school for asking a girl to use my pronouns, and I am seriously scared to go back. I can't tell a teacher or my parents either, because I am not comfortable in telling them my pronouns.
@@SammyLammy1D that's absolutely horrific and I'm so sorry, I really hope you can stay safe, i know how terrfying it can be to feel alone in something like this and I wish you all the best
I'm a researcher in a pediatrics department, and the new push is to replace "pregnant people" (which people hate) to "pregnant participants". It's all branding, people.
the issue, i think, is that terfs don't believe in gender identity. one of them told me explicitly that she doesn't believe me that i have a gender identity. she thinks it's imaginary. but i identify as male without having a masculine personality. those are different things. but terfs see it as something like ""identifying as tall when you're physically short"".
@Alice
"why should people be categorised by a nebulous immaterial concept like ‘gender identity’"
because you can just ask someone what their gender identity is and go by what they say. it's not instead of physical sex, it's in addition.
@Alice Yeah except terfs ignore how countless medical organizations have accepted and acknowledged that gender identity is a real psychological aspect of human identity.
Gender is broken down into multiple things. Norms, stereotypes, expression and identity. If you wanna say the norms and stereotypes are misogynist sure id agree with you. But when it comes to expression and identity, they're not remotely.
@Alice Except medical organizations HAVE recognized dysphoria isnt a requirement to be trans. Since literally the APA writers of the DSM5 have stated not all trans people have dysphoria thus it's not a requirement to be trans?
Everyone does have a gender identity. You see yourself as a woman because you're female? thats still a gender identity, it's called being cis. Long hair can cause dysphoria as society assumes long hair = woman. Gender expression != gender identity since butch trans women exist and feminine trans men exist.
@Alice Because there's such a thing as gender euphoria. Which is just feeling more comfortable as another gender.
You're a cis woman so yes your gender identity correlates to your sex. It's not saying sex and gender are the same thing. "gender theory" states that they're not the same thing and aren't always connected. Dysphoria can have many causes. From one's body parts to how others in society perceive you because of something such as your appearance or voice.
If someone was isolated from society and experienced dysphoria it would most likely be physical dysphoria ie. Attributes about their body, but if they are trans they'd be trans regardless of whether they're near society. Since the concept of ROGD or any form of "social contagion" in regards to trans identity has no basis in reality
@Alice Also not everyone takes medical routes of transitioning
Some just take hormones
Some take hormones and surgery
Then you have some who just change their gender expression and maybe change legal documents
Also if you aren't cis then you are trans, so are you telling me you're trans?
Life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Let trans people pursue happiness and be treated equally. This should not be a debate.
Which is hilarious because it’s fun sometimes to check your gender once in a while, even if you’re cis-especially after you’ve met your first trans/nb person
I, a cis girl with she/they/it pronouns, feel 100% like a woman
valid :D
im non binary person w they/she/ey/mew/rawr among other neopronouns also ur super valid, it/its pronouns r super rad
What does that feel like? Can you feel like another ethnicity or age?
@@FreeTheDonbas some people do feel like another age. Like agere. Some people are of multiple ethnicities, so they may feel like multiple ethicities.
Also, it sounds like you're a transphobe, and you don't approve of fucking CISGENDER PEOPLE using pronouns other than their assigned sex
@@anitanielsen1061 You didn't answer my first question. Wtf is "feel 100% like a woman"?
6:03 "like look at all my legal documents". You did it, champ! You showed them you're a true red blooded manly man! 😂😂😂
I'm a trans woman and I know that not all trans folks feel a need for gender affirmation surgeries but I do (for myself) and I can't wait for after my recovery to confuse the transphobes on another level 😅
Honestly watching your videos is really helping me in accepting who I am as a person. I'm still struggling on working through a lot of things and there have been some big setbacks that your positivity and care is helping with more than I realised. The biggest recent setback was an unfortunate situation where a trans man who I thought I could trust found out I identified as a woman and went off in a really nasty transphobic way calling me all sorts of things that I really don't want to repeat. That caused me a massive amount of anxiety about interacting with other lgbt people and in particular trans men, on top of pre existing ptsd which makes interacting with men very difficult in the first place and is the reason I identify as lesbian instead of bisexual. I used to feel safer around trans men (although I felt guilty for that because I was always worried it would be taken the wrong way) but after that incident I had no idea where to turn. Eventually the strange long winding path that is the Internet led me to your channel (via oz, then the click and finally one topic the most wholesome ally) and watching your videos has really helped me to rationalise and begin to work through that anxiety from the most recent event as well as long standing issues with my gender identity and sexuality. It's not the end of the road by any means and I know I still have a long and difficult journey ahead but you have really helped with a step in the right direction so for that I want to sincerely thank you
@Alice good advice, but at 26 I am struggling with chronic mental illness and the dysphoria, self loathing and other issues are a big factor in that and possibly even the main thing holding me back from recovery but has been something I have been unable to bring up with the doctors or mental health professionals due to the severe anxiety associated with it. Hobbies and interests are great and I have a number of them but chronic depression and extreme lack of motivation make them very difficult to enjoy or even actively participate in. As for friends and a support network they are nonexistent at this point, for various reasons but unfortunately linked mainly to mental health once again. Thank you for the kind words and advice but I'm afraid I've already been pushing this down and trying to ignore it for much longer than I should have and without addressing it things are going to stay the same or continue getting worse as this is eating away at me inside
It makes me laugh a bit to think about how many times these people have been in women's spaces with transgender women and didn't even know it. And how often these people forget that by their logic transmen should be allowed in women's spaces...
Like that time a trans boy won a women's boxing turnament and all the transphobes started crying eventhough this is exactly what they wanted
@TotallyRandomD No man pass as a woman irl. If a man 'got away with it', it's only bc the women were too uncomfortable with 'making a scene' by calling him out. Or (understandably so) his potentially violent reaction.
@@KM-vz1og or instead of insisting that he is a woman you could let him participate with other men (what he wanted to do) and stop fucking whining
@@KM-vz1og We aren't talking about a man trying to "pass as a woman", we are talking about transgender women who are WOMEN using women's spaces.
@@KM-vz1og Ah yes I totally don't pass. Must be why I can use the women's changing room at my local gym (and your excuse of fear of violence is completely moot since I've been in there when it's been with over a dozen women many of which who were stronger and taller than me)
Lemme say this one more time: If you exclude trans women from your feminism, then you are not a feminist
In fact, if you exclude anyone from your feminism, you're not doing it right. Feminism applies to everybody, just maybe in different ways.
@@eMorphized feminism is for women only
@@aimzoi and to help women you need to liberate men from the thing keeping them in an oppressive role.
@@eMorphized are you trolling
@@aimzoi no I'm parroting sociology. Feminism has had these breakthroughs since the start of the Third Wave.
Gender criticals do mean chromosomes but they refuse to believe there is anything other than XX and XY or that those two combinations can lead to male and female secondary characteristics in certain cases anyway.
Ikr? Biology, that thing they claim that much, actually goes against their point.
Because even yes xx and xy is the majority, there's exceptions.
Such as xxy or xxxy or yyx(?)
Or more. So yeah. Lol
And has been proven, like, there's ACTUALLY studies who showed that yes some ppl can be other kind of genes but xx or xy only.
They really are saying like "I'm a woman I'm more than just my biological parts!! >:((" And then say "trans women aren't women because they don't have these specific biological parts!!" Like make it make sense
It’s so trippy because a lot of these on first read I’m like “yeah, empowerment!” But like, the context really ruins it.
I'm so bored of transphobia that the thing that really got me riled up about this was the misuse of the word "curator". People use this word without understanding what curation means.
So glad I finished that geo homework early
we as humans gave gender names to genitals and chromosomes. And now we know that not how it works,we have to change it. hope we understand this one day❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍
On the chromosome thing, there are 5 at least. So do we make separate prisons for those people as well or do we put everyone who doesn't have XX into male prisons according to these people?