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The only time it might be considered reasonable to touch your woman is a) if they were old friends and b) they were taking a group picture where you were all standing bgbgbg and were pulling everyone in close for the shot and everyone had their arms around each other but a complete stranger? HELL no.
You want a girl who has the common sense to immediately remove a random guys hand. She’s either a liar, incompetent or unfaithful. Either way, she’s for the streets.
Rich is absolutely right. I am the villain in this story. One time I reached a girls back and this girl has a boyfriend at that time. I stroke her back and she didn't even respond. After couple of hours, I got sober and she asked me why did I stop. I said "because I got sober and it was wrong". She said you should've continued, you are much more entertaining when you are drunk and doing those kind of stuff. Moral of the story is this: please guys, don't hesitate to move on. These kind of women don't deserve anything from you.
Your def not a villain. I been that guy in my early teens without knowing they had bfs. Soon as I learned they were with somebody , I was like I'm good. But it did show me true female nature early on. I'm Tyrone and am I not lying when I tell you some these women are Ruthless , they did things with me and slept right next to their man like nothing was wrong.
Yeah, a good boundary is to have your own apartment. Even if he does break up with her its now a pain in the ass for wither one of them to leave. Also a lot more drama, no guy needs that. If you got you own place you break it off clean , see you later.
@@TheChurlishBoor dunno why it’s bothered you enough to have to leave this stupid comment. Rich is a G. Let’s all give Rich a little simpin’ sometimes I say
She knew very well that her waist was being felt. Like Rich said, if she was paralyzed and her nervous system wasn’t working, only then would she not realize. Women will literally make up any excuse to get away with their unfaithfulness. I’m pretty sure there’s something already going on between her and the other dude who put his hands on her waist.
That dude is incredibly bold. The hand on waist thing, right in front of the BF, is almost like a trailer to the film "I'm leaving you for this guy". That is so over the top there has to be some subtext to it.
This is completely reasonable and thank you for sharing it. The last person I dated would allow shit like that all the time and then when I confronted her about she would create an argument or redirect the conversation to try and force me to apologize. I wish I had resources like this when I was younger.
LMAO! Yea, women are champions. When it comes to changing the subject or the pointing blame. Most women also have very little resistance to temptations.
My x was like this...had to have the attention of EVERY-man-in-the-room. Party, restaurant, bar, at work.....always the same. Bring it up in any way and you're "controlling".
Not making a scene is a sign of strength and self control. He should quietly and strategically manage that girlfriend out of his life. No explanations are needed.
Like most here, I have a problem with her saying she was too drunk to realize another man's hand was on her hip. I would say its time to stop drinking because you cant be trusted around men and alcohol. I think dude handled it well because no one wins fighting over a chick. The dude would not be allowed back to my place ever and I would let him and the friend that brought him know that on their way out.
Just the fact that she not only had allowed it to happen but also lied about it honestly tells me all I would need to know about her. Idgaf if it's considered harsh, it would be grounds for ending things. If you have a sit down conversation with her when she lied about it (indicating she knew clearly what it meant), she'll only sneak around and do it behind your back.
That's a deal breaker. Let her bang her secret flame. If she's willing to disrespect you so easily, she'll eventually do it to her secret flame. Definitely a fish to throw back.
Years ago I was with a woman whilst on holiday. She admitted after the fact she was married! 15 years later I see her with her husband on Facebook celebrating Valentine’s Day. I feel for that guy.
Maybe she was.... BUT don't rule out that she called an audible. You gotta second guess everything. How many times have you been shooting your shot ...and after a WHILE...she brings up her BF? Either way ...once she says she has a hubby --- you already know she is a liar, whether she is telling you the truth or not. and bro, drop her from FB!
No man should ever see another man disrespected by a woman. Expose her because men should have a code. Don't you dare say it's none of your business. As a man, it's all of our business to hold back the ongoing chaos. Step up and take your place, tell him.
Ask yourself a question: if an ugly, creepy dude was sitting next to her instead of this "friend", would this situation happen? No, she'd jump away the moment he made any move towards her. She knew and at best just let it happen.
When I was a kid in school, we would play pranks by sneaking up onto people and poking their waits, causing a jolting reaction. Getting touched in a region like is impossible not to notice. His girlfriend was definitely compliant to this guy
This happened to me a long time ago with my girlfriend at the time. I smack the dudes hand right away. Told him to get his own girlfriend. After we left, I called her out, and said next time it happens, we are done.
Any girl I have talked to in the past years would have never done this. Not even think about it. The fact she did this while you were in her presence shows the lack of respect she has for you. And the dude over there. You handled that situation well. But I'd be done with her. Cause just imagine what she's doing with her group of friends, when your not around.
Rich you really nailed this one! MEN you REALLY need to LISTEN to your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND in these situations. I flipped off a teammate while we were drunk at a party for being a creep. One month later he was arrested for KP.
If this happened in my apartment the dude would have tasted my fist. If it was at a venue or somewhere else, I’ll probably just leave to avoid causing a scene. I won’t be surprised if his girl and the guy had a past. Men don’t just put their hands on the waist of a girl they just met
Definitely a frame issue that stems from way before this incident. He for sure hasn't set the frame of the relationship for his woman to feel so comfortable letting a man touch her in his presence, in their own house
excellent logical analysis. if she allows someone to touch her when her BF is there even if slightly inebriated that means she is accepting and enjoying attention + validation+ thrill from someone who is not her BF and she has just met. i would argue she is already gone, I would walk away.
Agreed 100%, "Give me a break" but the question remains, "A break from what"? In terms of a semi-sedated mindset (alcohol induced) the word "Inhibitor" or inhibition comes to mind. If he's spent any meaningful amount of time with her (as he sounds like he has) he instinctively knows how aware she is (or Not) of not only of her surroundings, but how her surroundings also "Make" her feel about whatever she claims she feels from one moment to the next. Especially when you also know how prideful the female species are about their spider senses. Getting to know "Anyone" should include setting boundaries so You can recognize an immediate "Deal Breaker" on the fly. The nudge of "To thine own self be True" practically insist when to call BS in a more than questionable scenario. Not knowing why you do feel however in the moment is frustrated energy that gets far too many men in trouble.
She knew and approved of it. The other guy obviously felt a connection with his girlfriend. This is why he felt the hand would be accepted and why he went through with the act.
If I need to explain to a grown woman I'm in a serious relationship with that it's not ok to allow other men to touch her in semi provoking ways, then the only 'boundary' that needs to be set is informing her I am no longer in a serious relationship with her. That saves me trouble later, or teaches her not to make the same mistake with the next guy.
You are so right! Towards the end (by me), of a 4 year relationship my guy snd I were at his sister’s wedding. Long story short, a married man, he had known all his life, grabbed me and planted a big kiss on my lips. I was so upset, and my man just stood there, beside me, and laughed!!!! My man was a passifist, so I shouldnt have been surprised. That was the beginning of the end for our relationship. Within months I left. I didn’t feel safe and secure with him.
Would you have preferred your bf hit the guy and went to jail while you went home safe to your bed? Did you call the cops on the guy for sexual assault? Because that's what it was. Did you slap the guy after the kiss? Did you consider your bf laughed because it was awkward and he tried to laugh it off (not excusing it). How much bigger or more dangerous was the guy to your bf? Where was your responsibility in handling this? You should've called the police; tons of witnesses including your bf, at a wedding. Easy sex assault charge. I agree he should've been angry but men are limited in what we can do without going to jail or risking going to jail. Especially when alcohol is involved. I bet you didn't ask yourself all those questions above.
Women know when someone lays a hand on them unless she's passed out on the floor. Definitely take his hand off your GF, escort him out of your house. Put her under pressure in front of all the people present so they can see her response. If she doesn't apologise get rid of her.
My first thought was saying something like, "Getting cozy there?" And then watch both of their reactions. My second thought was, "She's comfortable with having the guy's hand on her waist, so something is already going on".
Had something similar happen to me years ago and surprise surprise guess who she cheated on me with🤦🏽♂️. I addressed it at the time but you can't control what other people are doing when your not around, definitely a big red flag.
That would be my question too, if that is going on while you are in the same proximity, What is going on when she knows /they know you are not around??
Maybe it's just me but I think the guy asking the question is pretty smart. It takes a degree of humility and intelligence that not a lot of people have, IMHO, to be self reflective enough to take a step back and question his own perspective. I like the way he handled it and liked Richard's response to it. Something is definitely off with the encounter and he has every reason to reconsider the relationship even.
I think Rich's response is going to get the guy in trouble. He should not be negotiating boundaries with her. What she did crossed a line thar so obviously should not be crossed... and then lying about it too just put the in the coffin of that relationship. You will never be able to trust her again.
That tells me she’s comfortable with him. The type of comfort where a girl feels that she has a guy locked down and can do anything she wants on the side.
This guy handled this in the most appropriate way. He wouldn't be in the wrong for breaking up with his girl either. That's up to him. However, if he would have escalated anything more during that party, she would have turned it into a scene and he would have lost frame and she would feel better with the public support. However, now he has her in the most vulnerable position and has very little frame to repair as long as he has a stern conversation with her.
Your a 100 percent correct the exact same thing happened to me early on in a toxic relationship. I'm glad you said she would have been aware of what was going on as this was the case with me.
Yeah, but if she let it happen, it would be a red flag. Maybe she was testing the guy to see how he would react. If that's the case, might be time to go. If she's doing it intentionally, could lead to a fight somewhere down the line with another guy or the girl. It's not worth going to jail, over a girl who's not going to protect herself, or you from these sort of situations.
some women are toxic like that; they like to put the man in dangerous situation to prove her that he will defend her. ( nicki minaj comes comes to mind)
Too many men are afraid to go to jail. For what exactly ? It's not like you're gonna beat the shit out of him, or hoe slap her. Come on man. Don't accept disrespect because you're afraid of jail. I'm sure if need be you can talk your way out or keep your mouth shut and call your lawyer.
@@rosariocortez9759 Why would a man choose to go to jail? For what? That's stupid. Not accepting disrespect, means walking away from a woman who will put you in risky situations. If she's not going to clearly indicate to the other guy that she's not interested, then maybe she's encouraging it. Some men who go to jail, end up getting in fights in jail. They can end up staying longer or end up in prison. Again, for what? A man has to look out for himself first! The woman comes second.
It is not controversial to set boundaries. I did not do this, and believe it contributed to my eventual divorce. In my case we are not talking about cheating but emotional blackmail etc, Not setting boundaries for my ex's behaviour is one of my biggest regrets. I know better now.
Guy made the right move. I would have followed it up at the end of the night when we were alone with "Hand me your phone right now. I want to see what sort of messages that creep has been sending you". If she refuses kick her out. Here's the thing, the dude might not even be texting her, who knows, but if she's letting other dudes touch her like that, she's probably cheating on you with other guys. A girl that has other dudes on the go will not under any circumstances let you near her phone.
If she was drinking so much, that she didn't know the dude was touching her(doubtful), then she was drinking irresponsibly and that needs to be addressed.
red flag. you didn't act out in the moment so now don't give her the satisfaction of a scene or an argument. she knew that hand was there and was comfortable with him having that there. this one is a NEXT for me fellas.
Remember gentlemen, just because the quality of women has tanked, doesn't mean your standards should too. Hold on to your dignity and NEVER tolerate BS.
I’m a 56-year-old woman and I am can’t wrap my head around the disrespect and hate women have toward men nowadays. I think she was crap testing him. I’m trying to be polite.
I call BS on her not knowing. She played it off with blame it on the alcohol. He handled the situation well but he needs to confront her about the behavior and give a warning. If it happens again, she is for the streets.
Yup. Like the flood gates opening. LOL I had an straight alpha buddy who would complain and be overly protective of his girl even when we were completely ignoring her because we knew how he felt. It was kind of ridiculous but better be safe than sorry.
@@yishihara55527 Complaining is probably the most reasonable thing I can do at these moments. But instead, I see the bitch and the man as enemies of the state after that. I will not forget it, it will ill not forgive, and honestly, I can't fuck her after that.
@@30minutesLess Of course. Like why would anyone? There are billions of women in the world. Fuck anyone who doesn't respect you. Let them shit on some beta.
Hi,in my opinion the fact this is even happening is a statement in its self I would of told them both to leave together for all I care, and the man on the receiving end of this needs to take a hard look at himself in the mirror
If that guy was unattractive / uninteresting to her, there’s no way she would have allowed him to touch her waste. In other words, she completely allowed this to happen.
So mate guarding is now cool and chad like. Got it. IMO, his issue was not with that guy but with his girl. He should have complimented them as a couple and asked the guy to take the girl home with him.
Any woman that had genuine desire for you and has decided you're the best she can do, would never behave this way. She most definitely knew what was going on and was allowing it and by that action, giving permission. Reverse the roles to her and see how she responds, I bet it wouldn't be a happy response.
Set the boundaries and give her this one chance as a learning experience. Just on the off chance that she legitimately didn't know. If anything happens again... Gone.
2:20 - Ever seen a person who's been drinking feel a spider on their hand, during a conversation? They sweep it away and freak out afterward once they know what it is. She knew, and was allowing it for a reason. And the reason was the alibi for later, if she got caught, "Yes, we hooked up in the bathroom, but I was drunk." Add to that the ever popular, "I don't know, one thing just lead to another, it just happened." BULL...sh*t!! Good vid.
Some women think the world works differently than it does. My ex wife came home from a get together with some friends once angry because some woman she knew got angry over the fact that she was sitting in her husband's lap. She just couldn't figure out why that was a big deal and couldn't figure out why telling me about it was stupid.
How do I set boundaries when I've been too busy and in all honesty tired when she's tried to expand her's boundaries in her interest in the relationship?
First question that came into my mind was: why would she allow someone to touch her this way? In short, she doesnt value and see you as the man on her site and is subconsciously looking for further opportunities.
If you can't trust her in your home and in your presence, how can you trust her when you're not around? Removing the hand and asking the guy to leave is the right move with him. But she needs to be asked to leave as well. If she had genuine burning desire for her boyfriend, then she would've dealt with it herself, swiftly and clearly. But the fact that she was open to being touched by another guy...she needs to go.
if she is ok with another man touching her when her boyfriend is in the same room, imagine what she could do when a man flirts with her and her boyfriends is not around.
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So he only heard that song in his head. Is that your hand on my girlfriend I wish you do it again. 02-19-23
The only time it might be considered reasonable to touch your woman is a) if they were old friends and b) they were taking a group picture where you were all standing bgbgbg and were pulling everyone in close for the shot and everyone had their arms around each other but a complete stranger? HELL no.
I love how every situation and.problem can be evaluated correctly with a smooth ride around the GTA. Excellent talk as always.
You want a girl who has the common sense to immediately remove a random guys hand. She’s either a liar, incompetent or unfaithful. Either way, she’s for the streets.
FOR THE STREETS!
She for the Earth bruh
Best response. No matter which way, it doesn’t matter.
For tha streeeeeeets
Women love to play dumb
If a sub 5 touched her, she'd scream and have him thrown out of the apartment...when Chad touches her "she didn't notice tee-hee"...
A sub 5 would be in the news after pulling a move like that.
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Exactly 100% correct
She knew his hand was there. She is definitely not into her boyfriend if she let that happen.
She is lying.
Rich is absolutely right. I am the villain in this story. One time I reached a girls back and this girl has a boyfriend at that time. I stroke her back and she didn't even respond. After couple of hours, I got sober and she asked me why did I stop. I said "because I got sober and it was wrong". She said you should've continued, you are much more entertaining when you are drunk and doing those kind of stuff. Moral of the story is this: please guys, don't hesitate to move on. These kind of women don't deserve anything from you.
You're not villain bro. Otherwise you wouldn't have felt the repentance. Villain is the girl who wanted more
Show me a woman with integrity, and I'll shown you a woman who doesn't need regulating.
Your def not a villain. I been that guy in my early teens without knowing they had bfs. Soon as I learned they were with somebody , I was like I'm good. But it did show me true female nature early on. I'm Tyrone and am I not lying when I tell you some these women are Ruthless , they did things with me and slept right next to their man like nothing was wrong.
For the streets.
Women are even less loyal in 2023 than just few years back.
If your relationship doesn't have boundaries on both ends, it's not a relationship, it's adult daycare and the path to utter misery.
The wisdom of these words!!! 💯 brother 💯
Brandon this comment is extremely astute! Definitely saving it for future reference
Yeah, a good boundary is to have your own apartment. Even if he does break up with her its now a pain in the ass for wither one of them to leave. Also a lot more drama, no guy needs that. If you got you own place you break it off clean , see you later.
💯 man. How nicely you have word it 👍.
Rich your ability to rationalize is impeccable. 👌
@@TheChurlishBoor dunno why it’s bothered you enough to have to leave this stupid comment. Rich is a G. Let’s all give Rich a little simpin’ sometimes I say
@@TheChurlishBoor it would be ironic if my comment was also stupid. It wasn’t. Stop trying to use big words to sound smart.
She knew very well that her waist was being felt. Like Rich said, if she was paralyzed and her nervous system wasn’t working, only then would she not realize. Women will literally make up any excuse to get away with their unfaithfulness. I’m pretty sure there’s something already going on between her and the other dude who put his hands on her waist.
For sure! If a guy she didn't like had his hand on her, she would kick up a storm very quickly.
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Ding! 🛎
Exactly. He’s already probably been smashing it if she’s not even reacting
Sadly, you are probably right about preexisting stuff. And the fact that she did it in front of other guests suggests they knew about it too.
The only right move is replace this damaged goods. No mortgage, no children, no alimony.
That dude is incredibly bold. The hand on waist thing, right in front of the BF, is almost like a trailer to the film "I'm leaving you for this guy". That is so over the top there has to be some subtext to it.
She is making it apparent to the public she cool with it this isn't the only instance
he is not bold if he has already smashed her
Alcohol is the #1 scapegoat for women's "mistakes". I don't know any men who blame their mistakes on intoxication. Anyone else agree?
Yeah agreed hiding behind the "babe I was drunk", red flag for sure
Brock Turner comes to mind, but yeah men totally never hide behind intoxication. Fat LOL
Or they'll say that they were abused and confused and didn't know what was going on.
I was very drunk at the time.
Men use the "I was drunk" excuse all the time.
This is completely reasonable and thank you for sharing it. The last person I dated would allow shit like that all the time and then when I confronted her about she would create an argument or redirect the conversation to try and force me to apologize. I wish I had resources like this when I was younger.
LMAO! Yea, women are champions. When it comes to changing the subject or the pointing blame. Most women also have very little resistance to temptations.
Yep, she sounds like a narcissist.
You don't negotiate with women...make you statement and end the conversation.
My x was like this...had to have the attention of EVERY-man-in-the-room. Party, restaurant, bar, at work.....always the same. Bring it up in any way and you're "controlling".
@@steveburke7675 That is a sure sign of a dirtbag.
Not making a scene is a sign of strength and self control. He should quietly and strategically manage that girlfriend out of his life. No explanations are needed.
Like most here, I have a problem with her saying she was too drunk to realize another man's hand was on her hip. I would say its time to stop drinking because you cant be trusted around men and alcohol. I think dude handled it well because no one wins fighting over a chick. The dude would not be allowed back to my place ever and I would let him and the friend that brought him know that on their way out.
She gave him the excuse already. There’s no excuses. They both knew what’s going on. She likes the guy enough to feel touchy with him
The fact the guy had the audacity to try it also means she was probably giving him the eyes before this even happened
@@madams989 I bet she has already been banging him before the incident happened
Just the fact that she not only had allowed it to happen but also lied about it honestly tells me all I would need to know about her. Idgaf if it's considered harsh, it would be grounds for ending things. If you have a sit down conversation with her when she lied about it (indicating she knew clearly what it meant), she'll only sneak around and do it behind your back.
100%.....either way it's bad, wouldnt bave said a thing cuz its pointless.....take note and move on
That's a deal breaker. Let her bang her secret flame. If she's willing to disrespect you so easily, she'll eventually do it to her secret flame. Definitely a fish to throw back.
Years ago I was with a woman whilst on holiday. She admitted after the fact she was married! 15 years later I see her with her husband on Facebook celebrating Valentine’s Day. I feel for that guy.
Maybe she was.... BUT don't rule out that she called an audible. You gotta second guess everything. How many times have you been shooting your shot ...and after a WHILE...she brings up her BF? Either way ...once she says she has a hubby --- you already know she is a liar, whether she is telling you the truth or not. and bro, drop her from FB!
No man should ever see another man disrespected by a woman. Expose her because men should have a code. Don't you dare say it's none of your business. As a man, it's all of our business to hold back the ongoing chaos. Step up and take your place, tell him.
Fuck man you need to man up and tell that dude. Do you think you'd be the only one that 304 has cheated on her husband with???
Ask yourself a question: if an ugly, creepy dude was sitting next to her instead of this "friend", would this situation happen? No, she'd jump away the moment he made any move towards her. She knew and at best just let it happen.
Exactly!
Facts
Again looks win!
If you got looks or you try improve to looks you can bypass lot of things in this rigged game.
When I was a kid in school, we would play pranks by sneaking up onto people and poking their waits, causing a jolting reaction. Getting touched in a region like is impossible not to notice. His girlfriend was definitely compliant to this guy
100% She was submissive
Dudes pretty comfortable in their house.
Calling BS on the GF. Remember, it takes responsibly to recognize what's going on and to do something about it. The GF is allergic to responsibility.
All about respect and loyalty.
Something that's being eroded as each day/month/year passes.
Well said
The respect/loyalty concept is one of the things Andrew Tate gets right. How as a man do you get respect from women? "Refuse to tolerate disrespect"
Imagine the balls on the dude to put your arm around someone else’s girl at their house. I can’t believe people like that even exist.
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She knew...and she liked it.
How does she not know about it? Does she have nerve damage in her hip area like come on
She doesn't notice it because she's already been comfortable being that close with that guy
She does know. She just doesn't give the slightest shit if she emasculates you or disrespects you. Gotta go scorched earth on these poisoners.
"Hips don't lie", but girls do
This happened to me a long time ago with my girlfriend at the time. I smack the dudes hand right away. Told him to get his own girlfriend. After we left, I called her out, and said next time it happens, we are done.
Did it happened again? Thank you for this. Wonderful tip
I like this response
She expected a ring after a year, and I dumped her on valentines day. True story. 😄
@@alexm.handro1313 lol oh shit😆😆😆
@@alexm.handro1313 good move
This would be a pivotal "beginning of the end" event.
Any girl I have talked to in the past years would have never done this. Not even think about it. The fact she did this while you were in her presence shows the lack of respect she has for you. And the dude over there. You handled that situation well. But I'd be done with her. Cause just imagine what she's doing with her group of friends, when your not around.
She knew his hand was there.
Rich you really nailed this one! MEN you REALLY need to LISTEN to your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND in these situations. I flipped off a teammate while we were drunk at a party for being a creep. One month later he was arrested for KP.
I think he handled it properly. But definitely don’t let his gf get away with it. I would see it as a test if it was me and I would lay my foot down.
I would kick them both out of the house or say nothing and turn my back on both at the end of the day
Dump her ass
If this happened in my apartment the dude would have tasted my fist. If it was at a venue or somewhere else, I’ll probably just leave to avoid causing a scene. I won’t be surprised if his girl and the guy had a past. Men don’t just put their hands on the waist of a girl they just met
Biggest fax
Unreal. At HIS OWN apartment
That's what I was thinking... Theyve probably already done stuff together
Start swinging directly is more beta than what he did!
Agree, this is not first time they met and its not first time his hand has been on her body.
This happened to me recently. A guy held my girls hand and she said she was so drunk she didn't notice.
That's the biggest lie ever
Did you breakup?
You better dump her and replace her with someone younger and attractive. And lose no sleep over it, man.
And you still with her ????
@@johnnk3256 my opinion use her for ur needs till u find a new one. U deserve better
Definitely a frame issue that stems from way before this incident. He for sure hasn't set the frame of the relationship for his woman to feel so comfortable letting a man touch her in his presence, in their own house
excellent logical analysis. if she allows someone to touch her when her BF is there even if slightly inebriated that means she is accepting and enjoying attention + validation+ thrill from someone who is not her BF and she has just met. i would argue she is already gone, I would walk away.
Not defending her, but most women, even if they are in happy relationships, enjoy the attention they get from other men.
@@vincentthemasterofshadows5743 That is why most women nowdays are not relationship material.
@@notmarealnameboi Exactly, don't accept this. Have standards and only be with women who respect obvious relationship boundaries.
Agreed 100%, "Give me a break" but the question remains, "A break from what"? In terms of a semi-sedated mindset (alcohol induced) the word "Inhibitor" or inhibition comes to mind. If he's spent any meaningful amount of time with her (as he sounds like he has) he instinctively knows how aware she is (or Not) of not only of her surroundings, but how her surroundings also "Make" her feel about whatever she claims she feels from one moment to the next. Especially when you also know how prideful the female species are about their spider senses. Getting to know "Anyone" should include setting boundaries so You can recognize an immediate "Deal Breaker" on the fly. The nudge of "To thine own self be True" practically insist when to call BS in a more than questionable scenario. Not knowing why you do feel however in the moment is frustrated energy that gets far too many men in trouble.
Time to say bye bye to that one.
She knew and approved of it.
The other guy obviously felt a connection with his girlfriend. This is why he felt the hand would be accepted and why he went through with the act.
If I need to explain to a grown woman I'm in a serious relationship with that it's not ok to allow other men to touch her in semi provoking ways, then the only 'boundary' that needs to be set is informing her I am no longer in a serious relationship with her.
That saves me trouble later, or teaches her not to make the same mistake with the next guy.
You are so right! Towards the end (by me), of a 4 year relationship my guy snd I were at his sister’s wedding. Long story short, a married man, he had known all his life, grabbed me and planted a big kiss on my lips. I was so upset, and my man just stood there, beside me, and laughed!!!! My man was a passifist, so I shouldnt have been surprised. That was the beginning of the end for our relationship. Within months I left. I didn’t feel safe and secure with him.
You need a German Shepard, a handgun, and some counselling to get through this scary thing called life and getting kissed at parties.
Would you have preferred your bf hit the guy and went to jail while you went home safe to your bed? Did you call the cops on the guy for sexual assault? Because that's what it was. Did you slap the guy after the kiss? Did you consider your bf laughed because it was awkward and he tried to laugh it off (not excusing it). How much bigger or more dangerous was the guy to your bf? Where was your responsibility in handling this? You should've called the police; tons of witnesses including your bf, at a wedding. Easy sex assault charge.
I agree he should've been angry but men are limited in what we can do without going to jail or risking going to jail. Especially when alcohol is involved.
I bet you didn't ask yourself all those questions above.
Women know when someone lays a hand on them unless she's passed out on the floor. Definitely take his hand off your GF, escort him out of your house. Put her under pressure in front of all the people present so they can see her response. If she doesn't apologise get rid of her.
No get rid of her anyhow
Yeah. Next
You are the dad I never had when I was a teenager.
My first thought was saying something like, "Getting cozy there?" And then watch both of their reactions. My second thought was, "She's comfortable with having the guy's hand on her waist, so something is already going on".
Def gotta see what she's up to after this, cell phone check, follow, and post cameras until you catch her, she clearly been w this dude before
He is a Pookie Ray Ray; Yes, he's a Chad. Her boyfriend is not her first choice! March 18, 2023.
That dude crossed the boundaries she allowed it...
Had something similar happen to me years ago and surprise surprise guess who she cheated on me with🤦🏽♂️. I addressed it at the time but you can't control what other people are doing when your not around, definitely a big red flag.
You've got to fight the inclination to believe the things she tells you that you KNOW can't be true.
That would be my question too, if that is going on while you are in the same proximity, What is going on when she knows /they know you are not around??
Maybe it's just me but I think the guy asking the question is pretty smart. It takes a degree of humility and intelligence that not a lot of people have, IMHO, to be self reflective enough to take a step back and question his own perspective. I like the way he handled it and liked Richard's response to it. Something is definitely off with the encounter and he has every reason to reconsider the relationship even.
I think Rich's response is going to get the guy in trouble. He should not be negotiating boundaries with her. What she did crossed a line thar so obviously should not be crossed... and then lying about it too just put the in the coffin of that relationship. You will never be able to trust her again.
That tells me she’s comfortable with him. The type of comfort where a girl feels that she has a guy locked down and can do anything she wants on the side.
This guy handled this in the most appropriate way. He wouldn't be in the wrong for breaking up with his girl either. That's up to him. However, if he would have escalated anything more during that party, she would have turned it into a scene and he would have lost frame and she would feel better with the public support. However, now he has her in the most vulnerable position and has very little frame to repair as long as he has a stern conversation with her.
Your a 100 percent correct the exact same thing happened to me early on in a toxic relationship. I'm glad you said she would have been aware of what was going on as this was the case with me.
At this age group nothing is solid sometimes people feel different when drinking and I leave it at that 😮
Yeah, but if she let it happen, it would be a red flag. Maybe she was testing the guy to see how he would react. If that's the case, might be time to go. If she's doing it intentionally, could lead to a fight somewhere down the line with another guy or the girl. It's not worth going to jail, over a girl who's not going to protect herself, or you from these sort of situations.
some women are toxic like that; they like to put the man in dangerous situation to prove her that he will defend her. ( nicki minaj comes comes to mind)
Too many men are afraid to go to jail. For what exactly ? It's not like you're gonna beat the shit out of him, or hoe slap her. Come on man. Don't accept disrespect because you're afraid of jail. I'm sure if need be you can talk your way out or keep your mouth shut and call your lawyer.
@@rosariocortez9759 Why would a man choose to go to jail? For what? That's stupid. Not accepting disrespect, means walking away from a woman who will put you in risky situations. If she's not going to clearly indicate to the other guy that she's not interested, then maybe she's encouraging it.
Some men who go to jail, end up getting in fights in jail. They can end up staying longer or end up in prison. Again, for what?
A man has to look out for himself first! The woman comes second.
It is not controversial to set boundaries. I did not do this, and believe it contributed to my eventual divorce. In my case we are not talking about cheating but emotional blackmail etc, Not setting boundaries for my ex's behaviour is one of my biggest regrets. I know better now.
That guy's already done more than just touching. That's why they're so comfortable.
Common sense with eyes wide open… Love it
Guy made the right move. I would have followed it up at the end of the night when we were alone with "Hand me your phone right now. I want to see what sort of messages that creep has been sending you". If she refuses kick her out. Here's the thing, the dude might not even be texting her, who knows, but if she's letting other dudes touch her like that, she's probably cheating on you with other guys. A girl that has other dudes on the go will not under any circumstances let you near her phone.
This is very simple: She is cheating on him - raw and simple. Crystal clear to me.
If she was drinking so much, that she didn't know the dude was touching her(doubtful), then she was drinking irresponsibly and that needs to be addressed.
She's out. As a matter of fact they're all out!
red flag. you didn't act out in the moment so now don't give her the satisfaction of a scene or an argument. she knew that hand was there and was comfortable with him having that there. this one is a NEXT for me fellas.
The guy was very clever, he knew the risk was very low when he did the move.
Remember gentlemen, just because the quality of women has tanked, doesn't mean your standards should too. Hold on to your dignity and NEVER tolerate BS.
A BIG Red Flag!
That mysterious Kevin from sales.
I’m a 56-year-old woman and I am can’t wrap my head around the disrespect and hate women have toward men nowadays. I think she was crap testing him. I’m trying to be polite.
Thank's Rich (for every one of Your videos).
Spot on advice Rich! ...As always!
I call BS on her not knowing. She played it off with blame it on the alcohol. He handled the situation well but he needs to confront her about the behavior and give a warning. If it happens again, she is for the streets.
Shouldn't be no discussion, just leave fellas, abundance mentality
She's probably already seeing the guy. Speaking from experience.
The problem is I enjoy confrontation. Especially in these instances
Yup. Like the flood gates opening. LOL I had an straight alpha buddy who would complain and be overly protective of his girl even when we were completely ignoring her because we knew how he felt. It was kind of ridiculous but better be safe than sorry.
@@yishihara55527 Complaining is probably the most reasonable thing I can do at these moments. But instead, I see the bitch and the man as enemies of the state after that. I will not forget it, it will ill not forgive, and honestly, I can't fuck her after that.
@@30minutesLess Of course. Like why would anyone? There are billions of women in the world. Fuck anyone who doesn't respect you. Let them shit on some beta.
@@yishihara55527 And somehow, that makes us crazy narcissists who have control issues.
If she wants to act single and show other men she is available, then you should treat her that way as well.
The best predictor of future behavior is past relevant behavior. She knew and liked it. She belongs to the streets!
Hi,in my opinion the fact this is even happening is a statement in its self I would of told them both to leave together for all I care, and the man on the receiving end of this needs to take a hard look at himself in the mirror
Excellent advice
If that guy was unattractive / uninteresting to her, there’s no way she would have allowed him to touch her waste. In other words, she completely allowed this to happen.
I have learned it is better and easier to just cut them loose than make an argument about it.
I think that is her FWB before they start dating. I will not let that slide, I will not even date that kind of girl, to begin with.
So mate guarding is now cool and chad like. Got it. IMO, his issue was not with that guy but with his girl. He should have complimented them as a couple and asked the guy to take the girl home with him.
Bingo.
Any woman that had genuine desire for you and has decided you're the best she can do, would never behave this way.
She most definitely knew what was going on and was allowing it and by that action, giving permission.
Reverse the roles to her and see how she responds, I bet it wouldn't be a happy response.
Yes u should be worried just like I should of said this isn't one off, he kept it 💯 always trust your gut.
Set the boundaries and give her this one chance as a learning experience. Just on the off chance that she legitimately didn't know. If anything happens again... Gone.
SHE KNEW - SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU - DUMP HER!!! ---> My frame doesn't have a lot of give!
He handled it well. I def would have said to him wtf are you doing? Than had a convo after with her.
All you have to do is clearly communicate “we don’t do that” and that’s it. And there should be no space for objection, argument, excuses etc.
I probably would have lost my temper in that situation and told the creep to remove his hand and get out of that chair.
2:20 - Ever seen a person who's been drinking feel a spider on their hand, during a conversation? They sweep it away and freak out afterward once they know what it is.
She knew, and was allowing it for a reason. And the reason was the alibi for later, if she got caught, "Yes, we hooked up in the bathroom, but I was drunk." Add to that the ever popular, "I don't know, one thing just lead to another, it just happened." BULL...sh*t!!
Good vid.
Bye Bye. Exit stage left or put a lawyer on retainer ASAP.
Some women think the world works differently than it does. My ex wife came home from a get together with some friends once angry because some woman she knew got angry over the fact that she was sitting in her husband's lap. She just couldn't figure out why that was a big deal and couldn't figure out why telling me about it was stupid.
Lol.
Good analysis of the situation and a balanced spectrum of responses!
How do I set boundaries when I've been too busy and in all honesty tired when she's tried to expand her's boundaries in her interest in the relationship?
First question that came into my mind was: why would she allow someone to touch her this way? In short, she doesnt value and see you as the man on her site and is subconsciously looking for further opportunities.
If you can't trust her in your home and in your presence, how can you trust her when you're not around? Removing the hand and asking the guy to leave is the right move with him. But she needs to be asked to leave as well. If she had genuine burning desire for her boyfriend, then she would've dealt with it herself, swiftly and clearly. But the fact that she was open to being touched by another guy...she needs to go.
if she is ok with another man touching her when her
boyfriend is in the same room, imagine what she could do when a man flirts with her and her boyfriends is not around.