What To Do When He's Pulling Away - Don't Text Him, Do This Instead!

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  • @JonathonAslay
    @JonathonAslay  3 месяца назад +2

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  • @christinebeames712
    @christinebeames712 3 месяца назад +20

    If a man is interested, he will go to any length to pursue you crawl over broken glass if necessary, if he doesn’t get in touch, he doesn’t want to speak to you he’s sending a message

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 3 месяца назад +1

      Exactly, based on his actions. Then others say he should say something, but if it’s early, can’t he just fade away? Or does he have to risk her potential wrath/meltdown? I was seeing someone, I knew it wasn’t going anywhere, he wasn’t pursuing anyway, and he simply never initiated contacted me again , and I was okay with that-we weren’t a long term match. (Never slept with him, good on me!) Shortly after, I met my now BF and he’s in my web 😊, and he loves it!

    • @user-kf1st7vg4q
      @user-kf1st7vg4q 3 месяца назад

      I wouldn't expect a man to crawl over broken glass. When I was younger...18...21 got to be honest I wanted to be treated like pretty woman. St my age of 48. I just want mutual respect and love.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад +1

      Indeed and that can be a blessing with men you are finished with. No contact and no response is a message.
      Character is defined in actions.
      Men that disappear and return aren't serious and are wasting your valuable time, no matter what they say.
      Patterns of behavior define how they treat people.
      Men that want it easy have no clue how to be in a healthy committed relationship.. They can also be lazy.

  • @marilynlarson9781
    @marilynlarson9781 3 месяца назад +14

    It’s so true that everyone thinks relationships “should be easy”. It is NOT easy to make one work! It takes effort, real effort to make things good.

  • @Bb-k4gd
    @Bb-k4gd 3 месяца назад +10

    True love shouldn’t be that hard, true love doesn’t hurt ❣️

    • @sherryj738
      @sherryj738 3 месяца назад +1

      True love hurts all the time

  • @BarbaraEstorga-sg1fb
    @BarbaraEstorga-sg1fb 3 месяца назад +2

    You know what I told a man one time, if a person has to cheat, they are NOT worth my time. And I refuse to be unhappy and let anyone hurt me. Been there and done that. I decided I wanted to change things in my life. For something better, to make me happy. To love myself.

  • @jazz_honey
    @jazz_honey 3 месяца назад +5

    "Most people are seeking a transactional relationship" ... goodness this is sad and depressing, but I also believe this is the average person in our society now 😓

  • @BarbaraEstorga-sg1fb
    @BarbaraEstorga-sg1fb 3 месяца назад +3

    Me personally I would pack my bags and take whats important and leave him. Cause he is not worth being heart broke over and don't waste your time. You need to think about yourself. Love yourself and be good to yourself and be strong. Put your energy into what's gonna be good to for you. And pray. You don't want someone who does not want you. Let them go. Too many men in the sea. God has someone for you. I know without a doubt you will feel better. It can be hard, but its what you make it. And I mean you can make it good. Life is short and you need someone who will respect you and love you,for you.

  • @debbiemoeller2169
    @debbiemoeller2169 3 месяца назад +5

    Your a man of true wisdom. That old saying..."Team work makes the dream work" stands true. I don't know, but if I guy I don't know well and he feeds me all the wonderful stuff we like to hear then pops in and out as far as contact...I'm out of there. I have higher standards!! Thank you for your great advice and tha lavender looks good on you!!😊👍

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker3811 3 месяца назад +7

    The best way to get his attention is to remove yours.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 месяца назад

      How so?

    • @juliefrecker3811
      @juliefrecker3811 3 месяца назад

      If he stops texting and I don’t see or hear from him in a while I don’t chase him. I let him come around@@JonathonAslay

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 3 месяца назад +2

      💯, but not to get a response from him, but rather to start the process of disconnecting.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад +1

      It's already disconnected or over with if there is no conversation or response.

  • @stephaniec5215
    @stephaniec5215 3 месяца назад +2

    If one truly embraces the truth of sovereignty, beginning with one’s glorious SELF, then one celebrates the total sovereignty of another. You can’t help it. It’s your reality. From that place, you wouldn’t text or take a thought to disturb, infringe, reduce in any way, the other’s righteous sovereign self. This is a radical shift from, ‘you need to know my love language’, ‘you need to meet my needs’, ‘you need to understand my trauma and my attachment style’, ‘I need you to clean up/share your feelings/not wear that/never gain weight/stop drinking/deal with your mother’s intrusion’/etc. Like, we cannot even conceive regarding another like that. There is no ‘problem’ to ‘solve’ by controlling another. What does that look like for a relationship’? Ooh, that’s where the treasures are! ❤️

  • @EvieSerrano657
    @EvieSerrano657 10 дней назад +1

    When a man pulls away you should address it and if he doesn’t respond just walk away

  • @julieangle9721
    @julieangle9721 3 месяца назад +8

    I dont sweat if a man pulls away, i figure if its meant to stay a union or a friendship it will play out and be long lasting, if not move on,, I'm truly ok with that, not to sound cruel, my body and instinct informs me what feels right and not forced or unnatural

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly!

    • @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf
      @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf 3 месяца назад +2

      True

    • @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf
      @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf 3 месяца назад

      But it hurts when you have not found that natural feeling from someone else. It hurts worse when you can no longer tell that person about something you used to talk about and they are the only one who would understand. Because music was your favorite thing.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад

      ​@@WandaYarbrough-mx3xf 🫂❤️

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад

      ​@@WandaYarbrough-mx3xf ❤️🫂

  • @sherriflemming3218
    @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад +4

    Men that disappear and return aren't serious. Indeed relationships require work and maintenance. from both people. Mutal respect and trust as the foundation.

  • @kayesmith8040
    @kayesmith8040 3 месяца назад +2

    Great advice, happiness is whin yourself, no person can make you happy, faith in God is a total happiness & peace, thanks for your messages of truth
    .❤

  • @tialynn1111
    @tialynn1111 3 месяца назад

    You’ve cracked the code - thank you Jonathon!!!

  • @lucypreston1483
    @lucypreston1483 3 месяца назад +1

    You ROCK, Jonathon - spot on w/relationship advice!!

  • @janiex740
    @janiex740 3 месяца назад

    Hear Hear. I'm in total agreement w what you say. Thank you for verbalizing what we ladies need to hear.

  • @kimberlywiesnergorseth6871
    @kimberlywiesnergorseth6871 3 месяца назад +3

    As always, thank you JA!!! 😘

  • @BeautiHacks
    @BeautiHacks 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you! Always great videos Jonathon!

  • @monikabennettprestwood
    @monikabennettprestwood 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you, Jonathon!

  • @colleenstewart8927
    @colleenstewart8927 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing this video!
    Sooo true teamwork,fun and recalibrating is a must.

  • @graziadelacruz-bardenheuer7150
    @graziadelacruz-bardenheuer7150 3 месяца назад +3

    best advice ever!

  • @truemorris6695
    @truemorris6695 3 месяца назад +1

    Teamwork. Yes!!!!

  • @sherrycarter8720
    @sherrycarter8720 Месяц назад

    I really love what you have to say

  • @Obtlgw
    @Obtlgw 3 месяца назад +4

    I’m
    About to pull away. He’s turned out to be a good guy and has fixed a lot of his stuff but the problem is our lifestyle expectations are not in tune. He wants to stay in the late wife’s
    House and just remodel it (too costly) and it’s not OURs in my eyes, he has adult
    Kids that are very very spoiled
    And manipulative and he doesn’t stand up
    To
    Them
    Enough, and I want to downsize and live a more simpler
    Life! So I think it’s lifestyle meshing that’s our problem. I need to pull away !! So we shall see!!!

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 3 месяца назад +1

      I think for older folks, lifestyle is huge. So is family.

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 3 месяца назад +3

      Aww sorry to hear this Marcie, yes a lot of old folks get stuck in their ways. Hope you find a cute little place just like you want it. You’ll be happier 🪴

    • @kimburger917
      @kimburger917 2 месяца назад +2

      I have a few thoughts. Just because he wants to stay in the house where his late wife used to reside, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. I was a widow at 39 and I think giving up the home where my late husband and I lived would be tough. He can love her and you. Just like having more than one child.
      Secondly, don’t do a “fade away”. If it isn’t working for you, just break it off

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 2 месяца назад +1

      What happened? I don’t want to offend you, but this sounds like an emotional response because you didn’t get your way…and you pointed out other ‘problems’. Sounds like a lot of pressure which doesn’t feel like the right time to take that next step. He needs time too, time to sit with having a different residence, growing your relationship to where he wants nothing more than to make you happy. Imo, you’re going to have to practice patience and grace, like the high value woman you are!

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 2 месяца назад +2

      @@kimburger917 Would you move to your partner’s house where he lived 35 years with his prior wife?… Why not be open to build something new together ?… it seems like she’s not comfortable moving into that house.
      She has dealt with other things as well … That she’s not comfortable with. Things don’t get better when living together …. They get worse.

  • @bcbodybetter
    @bcbodybetter 3 месяца назад +1

    Question:
    It's been a year since I put on my chastity belt. Haven't been on a date either. I haven't welcomed a reason to take off my belt. Being committed to me. Been listening to you and doing self love work. Prioritized my mental and physical health. I've never been healthier! Super excited to be me. Now I've attracted an old male crush/friend from 30 years ago. We are getting together Friday night. This will be our first time seeing each other in 30 years! He's the guy that got away. How, how, how!! To tame the physical attraction and keep my chastity belt on if we are still crushing from 30 years ago?! How do I say no to his happy to see me reaction...if we still have sizzle?
    Help me JA!!

  • @taghazoutmoon5031
    @taghazoutmoon5031 3 месяца назад +1

    he's been pulling away. i gave him space. he then broke up after i gave him space and asked him to move out. so giving him space and setting boundaries created break up.

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 3 месяца назад

      It sounds to me like those 2 things didn’t create the breakup. It wasn’t meant to go the distance and I bet you know why. It’s a sad time that things didn’t work out, but now you’ll eventually be available for a man who is into you and you can look at your part. 💗

    • @taghazoutmoon5031
      @taghazoutmoon5031 3 месяца назад

      @@Sunlightsam24 he always made me feel not good enough

    • @Obtlgw
      @Obtlgw 3 месяца назад +1

      Sorry to hear this and wish you all the best. Glad you set boundaries , asked him to go and are moving on with your life. Good for you.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 3 месяца назад

      You did the right thing for yourself Tag. 👍🫂

  • @annbouchard6564
    @annbouchard6564 3 месяца назад

    It's resonating.

  • @spreadthegospel6667
    @spreadthegospel6667 3 месяца назад

    Jonathon… stream or go see Someone Like You… the movie! It’s really good! Best love story EVER! (It’s the new one that’s out)

  • @annstar2793
    @annstar2793 3 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @truemorris6695
    @truemorris6695 3 месяца назад

  • @julieangle9721
    @julieangle9721 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi Jonathon, really enjoy your discussions and you make healthy suggestions but texting for me is acceptable if it's a quick convenient heads up or at work, it works for many, but I'm not going to ever deal with any man that uses his phone as our main source of communication. Too many things can be misinterpreted through texting, lol plus my ex who's been history for almost three years took his phone in the bathroom with him and when he showered, he must have been thinking he was going to miss a fart

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 месяца назад

      Texting is a form of communication, I agree...

    • @julieangle9721
      @julieangle9721 3 месяца назад

      @@JonathonAslay I love it when I can hear someone's voice and they can hear mine, love using what's naturally me instead of typing or device as you call it, thanks for feedback Jonathon 😊

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  3 месяца назад +1

      @@julieangle9721 Me too and mostly in person...

    • @julieangle9721
      @julieangle9721 3 месяца назад

      @@JonathonAslay I get it, thanks again, look forward to more 😀

    • @truemorris6695
      @truemorris6695 3 месяца назад

      We have go have the oxytocin. IN PERSON IS WHERE ITS AT!!!!!!

  • @user-kf1st7vg4q
    @user-kf1st7vg4q 3 месяца назад

    He jonathan! Can i join your mens group? 😂 if you have many men in your group you could start a dating program? Do you have any single men in the UK? 😂