That alpha thing is getting out of hand. Every normal man is masculine. A lot of time, women who have been hurt by men or who had an absent father have difficulty with a man giving instruction and trusting his plan. To me, it's all about balance. Being alpha doesn't mean that you have boss your wife/girlfriend around. I mean, who likes that? But it should be clear that the man needs to have a plan and vision of where he wants to go and what he wants to accomplish and share that with her so she can add to it and modify it if necessary...
Practically three quarters of the Black women I have dated, never grew up or had a good relationship with their Black father. It most definitely is a HUGE issue within OUR community.
ive dated sistas who grew up with their dad still married to their mom, Their are two issues 1. Refusal to be submissive 2. Too much peer pressure to be the mean, obstinante, unruly headstrong one If sistas just embrace being Sensual, Submissive and Sweet they would be married alot more. Having a good father in the home is not enough, The best black women are the outliers.
@@blackwolverine1 The BEST black Dads have no bearing on how a sista turns out, unless he is a single father. All sistas will be manipulated by her mother and pressured by her peers to be the mean, rude, angry, obstinate sista they are today. An they call B-word being masculine. Since when did acting like a Beach become masculine?
@@genovasquez8361, I am receptive and cooperative but not submissive. I will marry a White woman before I will do that. I don’t hear WM or WW talking about wanting someone to be submissive. Insecure men need submissive women.
All that needs to be said....I have no sympathy for Melyssa Ford when in her prime years she could have gotten the guy that she's asking for at 40+. Looks can only carry women so far and Idk why a lot women (especially the attractive ones) don't understand this concept. Another issue for Melyssa Ford is that she seems to talk too much at times and put her foot in her mouth based off some of the comments she makes on those Joe Budden podcasts from time to time.
A fifteen year age gap isn’t even big if the younger partner is 50 imo. And who cares if a sixty-something has kids, they’re adults and off doing their own thing. I got married last year at 28 when my husband was 42 and his kid was 18 at the time and in college. So it’s not like I had to step into a mothering role. If you try to mother/parent an offspring over a certain age that isn’t yours it’s just insulting and unnecessary anyway
I had never heard of Melissa Ford so had to google who she is. I think being a Feminist woman, Black or otherwise, in her late 40's and wanting an Alpha male is very problematic. And contradictory. And unrealistic. Alpha males are not looking for equal partners. This is not a business relationship. They are looking for agreeable feminine women who will get behind them, follow their leads, and support their programs. If these men are open to getting married, then they are looking for the future mothers of their children. And that future mother doesn't look like a woman who is only a couple of years shy of 50. It really amazes me that so few Feminists seem to understand this or believe with every fiber of their being that they will magically be the exceptions.
Augh!!! this strikes a nerve and I’m only 1 min 34 sec in. This is exactly what men have been saying, women crave the very thing that they complain about. The really F’ed up part about this is that she would put a guy in jail the very min he shows that aggression. It the same mindset of some people who wants the biggest meanest dog they can find, because they want to feel in control of something so powerful that’s they command….until that very animal shows them some aggression. Now it’s a problem
I have a big cousin that recently got out of prison ,and he's a 6'5 jacked dude with dreads. He came to my job and my co workers completely lost their minds and started touching him on his arms. Watching him fight them off was interesting af! Why, because he's 100 percent institutionalized and it doesn't matter to them one bit! My boss wife said"i have 6 handsome men here working everyday, and y'all won't even give them a chance"!
Attraction can't be legislated. These modern women (and really all women) like who they like. Your best out is to be what they like, or get a passport 🛂 ✈️. They don't want their very own personal buster. They'll either share an alpha, or stay single.
I have seen ladies with good guys who had some money and the guy wasn’t ugly and she still had affairs with broke guys taking the bus! Seen it multiple times!
@@sardonumspa8113it’s cause the broke guy fucks good and is toxic. The man who is working hard and treating her right is a simp in her eyes. I see it all the time
This woman Melissa Ford has hit the Wall hard. She's unfit for a relationship. She sounds delusional. She missed her opportunity for a serious relationship. Too much baggage and trauma. Dog or cat 🐈😺
She was one of the world's hottest blak women and she no doubt interacted and mingled with celebs of different varieties and she blew it. Flo Rida was the last high value man she will ever date and she still messed that up as well.
What the hell!? after what happened to Cassie she says every woman wants a little fear. That’s so confusing to men, should I buy you roses or kick the cell phone out of your hand? 🤷🏾♂️
This is so sad. Our community is doomed. Even at 50, they want an apha man , but dont know how to submit. They still want to be difficult. Life is already hard. Hard working men dont need to come home to a headache. No sir
Melissa could've had any man she wanted in her prime. The woman was STUNNING. She's still attractive as an older woman. However, she has squandered her most precious resource. Her youth. She will live with that for the rest of her life.
Here is the problem. These women who say they want alpha males don’t want a man who obeys God and submits to them, while they obey God, obey the man, and submits to the man, as God commands in the Bible. They say they ultimately want a husband, but they are not willing to even begin following God’s commandments for married couple’s behaviors!
Beta... Within the context of where the term Alpha came from.. simply means second in command. The beta in the situation was the mother wolf and the alpha was the father. It was a FAMILY of wolves. Let's start with family
There are 6 personality types in general: Alpha Beta Gamma Delta Sigma Omega People generally talk about the ones they perceive as strongest and weakest, Alpha and Beta. The rarest personality type is Sigma, which Alphas tend to be frustrated by. Also, if you're 50 and still haven't figured it out, it's you.
Its quite simple actually: ON AVERAGE, women are run by emotion, men are run by logic. Women thrive on varying degrees of toxicity. You gotta keep them on their toes and guessing what happens next. You also gotta be able to put them in their place. Do NOT let her run over you. And it's critical guys keep themselves up and attractive to OTHER women. If your wife/girlfriend knows other women are checking for you, she knows she could be replaced at any time if she steps out of line, and this could stop her from being disrespectful and more submissive to him.
That is a good point She is 47 so not likely to be having any children. A alpha with as much money as Melissa Ford would require would likely want someone who would shut their career down and follow him to make a family if they were going to take her seriously for marriage. For fun she could probably easily find them willing to spend some months or a year with her as long as she is willing to share.
I never considered myself an alpha. I'm not the type of dude who needs to be the center of attention. I wouldn't consider myself a beta either. I thought it was all just bs. Then I came across a video describing sigmas and it described me to a T. The thing about it is, if you identify with sigma traits then the whole labeling of one's self seems corny but it really made me understand myself better. I used to really question if something was wrong with me. Sigmas really don't fit into any box which makes the whole thing kind of ironic.
No. They’re descriptors of a set of personality traits. There are way more than just Alpha, Beta and Sigma, but as far as most social media discussions about social hierarchy or relationship dynamics are concerned, those are the only ones people reference.
The only thing I agree with her about is that being laid back when dealing with a woman doesn’t mean that a man is a Beta. The rest of what she said is crazy! Edit:Also I think most women don’t know when they are dating/married to an Alpha man. The idea that a man that’s trying to make their woman’s life easier makes them Beta is crazy! The idea that because we treat our women with “kid gloves” while fighting the world makes us Beta’s to women is weird.
Being with an "alpha" can also be challenging because while it's a rare personality type... not every alpha really deserves to be and act like an alpha. It's just attitude and energy, but imagine if he's dumb... and you as a woman want to be submissive etc but you can't because you literary know better. Then there's the fact that such men attract women and therefore are likely to become spoiled and not appreciate women. The smart and capable alpha male who is also devoted to you is a fantasy to many women but not even many alpha men can live up to this. It's nice being lead by a dominant man if he actually knows what he's doing or if you, as a woman are not smart enough to realise that he doesn't. Otherwise it's tyranny.
It's great if you are 40 and older with a fine body but a man who has money is not looking for you because there are thousands of women with great bodies who are 10 and 20 years younger than you and will be willing to submit or submissive to your ideas and vision for a relationship....
I must touch on a very sensitive topic but it’s appropriate to what Melyssa expressed- I wonder did Cassie Ventura have this same mindset? Now, Cassie says her father is her best friend…this is very important also her father was a musician as well so he understands the business! If her father is her best friend do you believe he would send his daughter into the fire pit like that? Cassie must have had a similar mindset to a Melyssa Ford at some point!!
She needs therapy and I always knew this. She’s a little off her rocker. Just a little bit. A lot of our people has a touch of crazy when it comes to the opposite sex.
The #1 ingredient in being an alfa male. First and foremost, being alfa doesn't mean your a man. Alfa is an energy, which can be negative or positive. Also alfa male's go by there our rules, he doesn't consider his women's perspective. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR, MS.FORD. Add least understand what you want.
Somebody that's mentally healthy really needs to talk our black women about their main issue is the absence of a healthy father figure in their life at a very very young adolescent, to mentally form her mind at the psychological conditioning to be in a healthy mindset through out the rest of her life depends on that first 5 to 10 years at minimum, that's why they are stuck in this self inflicted wounds at 18 through 29, get pregnant by the first male that cross their path and unfortunately they have given their most sacred virtue that a woman has to offer the proper man that comes along, now she wants the man of high value, meaning morally, financially, and character, and she wants him to accept that like it's normal, so we gotta stress counseling therapy to heal those issues that they confuse with alpha and beta without the proper context to the meaning of the words!!
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Whew... This alpha thing is exhausting. Melissa Ford is a very fickle woman, not a boss. Don't most good men have alpha masculine traits?
This is a great question! What do you all think…fellas?
Most men do not have alpha masculine traits.
That alpha thing is getting out of hand. Every normal man is masculine. A lot of time, women who have been hurt by men or who had an absent father have difficulty with a man giving instruction and trusting his plan. To me, it's all about balance. Being alpha doesn't mean that you have boss your wife/girlfriend around. I mean, who likes that? But it should be clear that the man needs to have a plan and vision of where he wants to go and what he wants to accomplish and share that with her so she can add to it and modify it if necessary...
@ellemoe22 YES they DO. EVERY man INHERENTLY born with SOME level or ALPHA in HIM!!!
EVERY man is BORN with SOME level of ALPHA in HIM!!!
Practically three quarters of the Black women I have dated, never grew up or had a good relationship with their Black father. It most definitely is a HUGE issue within OUR community.
ive dated sistas who grew up with their dad still married to their mom, Their are two issues
1. Refusal to be submissive
2. Too much peer pressure to be the mean, obstinante, unruly headstrong one
If sistas just embrace being Sensual, Submissive and Sweet they would be married alot more.
Having a good father in the home is not enough, The best black women are the outliers.
@@genovasquez8361 True not all Black Dad's are a monolith.
@@blackwolverine1 The BEST black Dads have no bearing on how a sista turns out, unless he is a single father. All sistas will be manipulated by her mother and pressured by her peers to be the mean, rude, angry, obstinate sista they are today. An they call B-word being masculine. Since when did acting like a Beach become masculine?
@@genovasquez8361, I am receptive and cooperative but not submissive. I will marry a White woman before I will do that. I don’t hear WM or WW talking about wanting someone to be submissive. Insecure men need submissive women.
@genovasquez8361 broken social contract of America. Black community is an easy scapegoat to a macro level problem
Melissa Ford is pushing 50, the man she wants does not want her unless he’s 65 or older and has the kids and has been divorced once or twice.
Leftover woman with high standards. 🐕
Exactly...
All that needs to be said....I have no sympathy for Melyssa Ford when in her prime years she could have gotten the guy that she's asking for at 40+. Looks can only carry women so far and Idk why a lot women (especially the attractive ones) don't understand this concept.
Another issue for Melyssa Ford is that she seems to talk too much at times and put her foot in her mouth based off some of the comments she makes on those Joe Budden podcasts from time to time.
A fifteen year age gap isn’t even big if the younger partner is 50 imo.
And who cares if a sixty-something has kids, they’re adults and off doing their own thing.
I got married last year at 28 when my husband was 42 and his kid was 18 at the time and in college. So it’s not like I had to step into a mothering role. If you try to mother/parent an offspring over a certain age that isn’t yours it’s just insulting and unnecessary anyway
Nope, 90 cos once they know her history, their disgust will be 100.
I had never heard of Melissa Ford so had to google who she is. I think being a Feminist woman, Black or otherwise, in her late 40's and wanting an Alpha male is very problematic. And contradictory. And unrealistic. Alpha males are not looking for equal partners. This is not a business relationship. They are looking for agreeable feminine women who will get behind them, follow their leads, and support their programs. If these men are open to getting married, then they are looking for the future mothers of their children. And that future mother doesn't look like a woman who is only a couple of years shy of 50. It really amazes me that so few Feminists seem to understand this or believe with every fiber of their being that they will magically be the exceptions.
Mind boggling isn’t it?
Facts....
Well said, except Miss Ford does look like she’s anywhere near 50.
“Strong personality” means difficult.
she is looking for a man she argue with, who will stand up to her and check her, she needs a man she fears.
Yes it means a pain in the ass to deal with so why bother?
Exactly,
@@moleahy6880Exactly.
Chaotic. You have to be strong to bring her order.
I hear P Diddy is available. He fits all of her requirements in a man.
😅
Absolutely! He can alpha all on her.
And this is why lots of black women are single and lonely.
Lol u do know that single women are happier than ones that arent right? Women are not like men we dont need companionship they way yall do
Augh!!! this strikes a nerve and I’m only 1 min 34 sec in. This is exactly what men have been saying, women crave the very thing that they complain about. The really F’ed up part about this is that she would put a guy in jail the very min he shows that aggression. It the same mindset of some people who wants the biggest meanest dog they can find, because they want to feel in control of something so powerful that’s they command….until that very animal shows them some aggression. Now it’s a problem
Bro they thrive on toxicity. That's their emotional nature. A nice guy just won't do it for them.
I have a big cousin that recently got out of prison ,and he's a 6'5 jacked dude with dreads. He came to my job and my co workers completely lost their minds and started touching him on his arms. Watching him fight them off was interesting af! Why, because he's 100 percent institutionalized and it doesn't matter to them one bit! My boss wife said"i have 6 handsome men here working everyday, and y'all won't even give them a chance"!
Attraction can't be legislated. These modern women (and really all women) like who they like. Your best out is to be what they like, or get a passport 🛂 ✈️. They don't want their very own personal buster. They'll either share an alpha, or stay single.
I have seen ladies with good guys who had some money and the guy wasn’t ugly and she still had affairs with broke guys taking the bus! Seen it multiple times!
@@sardonumspa8113it’s cause the broke guy fucks good and is toxic. The man who is working hard and treating her right is a simp in her eyes. I see it all the time
Not surprising at all.
This woman Melissa Ford has hit the Wall hard. She's unfit for a relationship. She sounds delusional. She missed her opportunity for a serious relationship. Too much baggage and trauma. Dog or cat 🐈😺
Facts! I came to the same conclusion, and it wasn’t even remotely difficult…
She was one of the world's hottest blak women and she no doubt interacted and mingled with celebs of different varieties and she blew it. Flo Rida was the last high value man she will ever date and she still messed that up as well.
What the hell!? after what happened to Cassie she says every woman wants a little fear. That’s so confusing to men, should I buy you roses or kick the cell phone out of your hand? 🤷🏾♂️
😅
This is so sad. Our community is doomed. Even at 50, they want an apha man , but dont know how to submit. They still want to be difficult. Life is already hard. Hard working men dont need to come home to a headache. No sir
Melissa could've had any man she wanted in her prime. The woman was STUNNING. She's still attractive as an older woman. However, she has squandered her most precious resource. Her youth. She will live with that for the rest of her life.
Saying you want an alpha and an equal partnership is hilarious
😅 True
Here is the problem. These women who say they want alpha males don’t want a man who obeys God and submits to them, while they obey God, obey the man, and submits to the man, as God commands in the Bible. They say they ultimately want a husband, but they are not willing to even begin following God’s commandments for married couple’s behaviors!
Had to check my own wife when she reposted about being an alpha woman. Not here you won’t. Entrepreneur, yes, boss bi$h, no.
💯
Had to "check" my wife....🤨🤔 you couldnt have a conversation?!
@@ellemoe22he checked her ass as he should.
👏🏾Amen
@@ellemoe22some times folks need to be checked
Where do masculine women get off wanting masculine men?! Hypocrites.
Beta... Within the context of where the term Alpha came from.. simply means second in command. The beta in the situation was the mother wolf and the alpha was the father. It was a FAMILY of wolves. Let's start with family
I would argue most “boss women” are simply hurt women. They’re lacking something foundational and are overcompensating with their new “persona”
There are 6 personality types in general:
Alpha
Beta
Gamma
Delta
Sigma
Omega
People generally talk about the ones they perceive as strongest and weakest, Alpha and Beta.
The rarest personality type is Sigma, which Alphas tend to be frustrated by.
Also, if you're 50 and still haven't figured it out, it's you.
Very interesting! Thank you for this info.
Why waste time on anything emptied headed Melyssa Ford has to say or is doing. She is clearly off a bit to say the least.
Even more so since her car accident.
The entire world can literally be crumbling before our eye's and all black women can focus on making everything about them!
Preach
It’s the black woman’s superpower. The ability to be completely unrealistic & delusional.
No s#@t!!!
Its quite simple actually: ON AVERAGE, women are run by emotion, men are run by logic.
Women thrive on varying degrees of toxicity. You gotta keep them on their toes and guessing what happens next. You also gotta be able to put them in their place. Do NOT let her run over you.
And it's critical guys keep themselves up and attractive to OTHER women. If your wife/girlfriend knows other women are checking for you, she knows she could be replaced at any time if she steps out of line, and this could stop her from being disrespectful and more submissive to him.
That is a good point She is 47 so not likely to be having any children. A alpha with as much money as Melissa Ford would require would likely want someone who would shut their career down and follow him to make a family if they were going to take her seriously for marriage. For fun she could probably easily find them willing to spend some months or a year with her as long as she is willing to share.
I've been calling a sigma. For the life of me I have no idea what that means. Isn't the whole alpha/beta thing just like horoscopes for men?
I never considered myself an alpha. I'm not the type of dude who needs to be the center of attention. I wouldn't consider myself a beta either. I thought it was all just bs. Then I came across a video describing sigmas and it described me to a T. The thing about it is, if you identify with sigma traits then the whole labeling of one's self seems corny but it really made me understand myself better. I used to really question if something was wrong with me. Sigmas really don't fit into any box which makes the whole thing kind of ironic.
No. They’re descriptors of a set of personality traits. There are way more than just Alpha, Beta and Sigma, but as far as most social media discussions about social hierarchy or relationship dynamics are concerned, those are the only ones people reference.
Good content she pointed out some great points I let my man lead I have a good balance definitely takes skill but the relationship will go far.
She is not describing a leader. or a man she can follwed. she is speaking more so on a man who can forcefully dominate her.
It's easier to just get a woman raised in obedience
The only thing I agree with her about is that being laid back when dealing with a woman doesn’t mean that a man is a Beta. The rest of what she said is crazy!
Edit:Also I think most women don’t know when they are dating/married to an Alpha man. The idea that a man that’s trying to make their woman’s life easier makes them Beta is crazy! The idea that because we treat our women with “kid gloves” while fighting the world makes us Beta’s to women is weird.
It's very weird. You don't have time to fight the world and then come home and fight again.
What makes an alpha man because I hear so much mixed things
Sounds like Melissa has some self work to do.
How has this approach worked so far? Just curious.
Ask Cassie how that turned out?
Being with an "alpha" can also be challenging because while it's a rare personality type... not every alpha really deserves to be and act like an alpha. It's just attitude and energy, but imagine if he's dumb... and you as a woman want to be submissive etc but you can't because you literary know better. Then there's the fact that such men attract women and therefore are likely to become spoiled and not appreciate women. The smart and capable alpha male who is also devoted to you is a fantasy to many women but not even many alpha men can live up to this. It's nice being lead by a dominant man if he actually knows what he's doing or if you, as a woman are not smart enough to realise that he doesn't. Otherwise it's tyranny.
Good points!
It's great if you are 40 and older with a fine body but a man who has money is not looking for you because there are thousands of women with great bodies who are 10 and 20 years younger than you and will be willing to submit or submissive to your ideas and vision for a relationship....
Just stumbled upon you. Can you do away with the music it's distracting. I like the content a lot.
Hello! Thank you for your feedback. I am sometimes torn with the music. Some ppl need it to stay focused on the message. Attention spans are so short!
I must touch on a very sensitive topic but it’s appropriate to what Melyssa expressed-
I wonder did Cassie Ventura have this same mindset?
Now, Cassie says her father is her best friend…this is very important also her father was a musician as well so he understands the business! If her father is her best friend do you believe he would send his daughter into the fire pit like that? Cassie must have had a similar mindset to a Melyssa Ford at some point!!
Very good observation.
She needs therapy and I always knew this. She’s a little off her rocker. Just a little bit. A lot of our people has a touch of crazy when it comes to the opposite sex.
When she says fear, she means respect.
She means fear, knowing he is capable of violence.
No she means fear, they wanna know that u WILL hit them
@@koreylr they dont respect you unless you hit them. the "violence" goes to what women percieve to be as ""masculine".
What if the guy she's looking for doesn't like her ❓
Alpha and beta are greek culture
"If I wasn't studying psychopaths in prison, I would study them on Wallstreet."
- Dr. Robert D. Hare
The #1 ingredient in being an alfa male. First and foremost, being alfa doesn't mean your a man. Alfa is an energy, which can be negative or positive. Also alfa male's go by there our rules, he doesn't consider his women's perspective. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR, MS.FORD. Add least understand what you want.
I think she meant to say alpha thug.
Somebody that's mentally healthy really needs to talk our black women about their main issue is the absence of a healthy father figure in their life at a very very young adolescent, to mentally form her mind at the psychological conditioning to be in a healthy mindset through out the rest of her life depends on that first 5 to 10 years at minimum, that's why they are stuck in this self inflicted wounds at 18 through 29, get pregnant by the first male that cross their path and unfortunately they have given their most sacred virtue that a woman has to offer the proper man that comes along, now she wants the man of high value, meaning morally, financially, and character, and she wants him to accept that like it's normal, so we gotta stress counseling therapy to heal those issues that they confuse with alpha and beta without the proper context to the meaning of the words!!
Very well described! ❗️🎯
I think the comments on this video are interesting, melyssa was every black man’s dream girl
Every Black Man? 🤔 I beg to differ sis Lol.
To some men back in her video vixen days well over 20 years ago.
In looks not personality mam she an 92 in that since
You should review semen retention. Only Men who are on this journey with us will ever display the “alpha” that Women want without any if the toxic thoughts about Women. This is a huge topic for your channel
*any of the toxic thoughts
Semen retention is to delustify a Man’s mind and make him sharper, more decisive, more calm yet keeps the ability to get aggressive when necessary.
It teaches us to experience emotions like sadness and anger while not becoming sad or angry. Feel emotions but do not identify with them.
Wow, this is very interesting. I have heard of this, but I don’t know much about it. I want to look into it more.
Great video, alpha men are very cut throat and if you don't know how to be submissive you're out the door. It's very little room for error.
Jesus, was she stoned!
Naw sis that's an beta male she is describing and don't know that lol😂
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You never delve into why men.....don't Marry......the "Good" women ✌️😃 interesting
Yea and she needs to be .... Not old. She needs to go sit down, she's cooked.
Too old, too silly....can get her 20 years younger with 90% less bs.....
But she’s with Joe buddens……he ain’t nothing alpha
Joe always had/has baddies though. He keeps 8.9.10s. He's a real life millionaire nug nug.
😳😳😳🙈🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂😂
She’s is smoking to much weed 😂😂😂
Black community is in pain