There was absolutely nothing wrong with what that man said. He loves his wife. He loves himself. Good, successful men who will love and commit to you, are the prize. If the shoe was on the other foot, no one would have had a problem with her saying the same thing, and she too, would have been absolutely right. She is natural, sweet, talented, understanding, and she doesn't mind letting him know he's important and worth it. He got him one! I wish them all the best.
@famsyrk8839 - Simone Biles suffers from ADHD and depression. Even with people who don't miss their meds, every day, every hour is an unknown, because the meds only manage the illness, it does not cure it. It is a life full of emotional ups, downs, and bottoms which is why ADHD marriages fail at a rate two times that of non ADHD marriages. In a way she was desperate to find a replacement for the ex-boyfriend of 3 years who broke up with her in 2020 just before she traveled to Japan for the Olympics. As Johnathon pointed out himself, she reached out to him very late July to very early August (the Olympics ended in Aug 8th), and they met by the end of the week. Once the former boyfriend left, she was in need for someone to fill the assistance gap he once filled. Y'all giving her all this praise and don't even know even know a known public detail about her. STOP THE CAP!!
Intresting topic. When I was dating my wife, I moved to Dallas for employment reasons. She still lived in Austin. One day she decided to surprise me by driving to Dallas however her car started overheating on her way to Dallas but I didn't know that cuz we didn't have cell phones back then. Anyhow when she showed up it was almost 12:00 midnight and she had her two children with her. I was upset with her after she told me the story because she put herself and the children in a lot of danger by driving the car while it overheated. Obviously when she started on her trip the car was fine but it started overheating halfway through the trip. So what's the point of making. She was willing to do all that just to see me. Was this her being desperate? I don't know. All I have to say is that she's been mine & ive been hers for 27yrs.🙂
For the life of me I don't understand why women think that men are attracted to the same things that women are attracted to. What's important to women in a relationship aren't at the top of the list for a man. A man doesn't really care what kind of career, money, degree, or level of fame a woman has, at the end of the day these things are just bonuses. Do you see a hoard of men trying to get at Oprah??? A lot of women also think that all they have to do is look good. Looking good will get you a lot of dates and late night visits, but it certainly won't get you a husband, ESPECIALLY if the guy thinks you're for the streets. Johnathan Owens said one thing that I think a lot of women just ignored. He said that Simone brought him peace. That one statement told every man watching exactly why he asked her to marry him, and sadly was totally passed over by so many women.
Your video gave me up. I did something similar with my boyfriend who proposed to me a couple of weeks ago when I expected the least. I was willing to go an extra miles to meet him. He has tremendous potential. Sometimes it's worth to put in the efforts for a man who is husband material. It's desperate if you give 200% to a man who shows no interest and just want to clap your cheeks.
Good for you! As a guy who has been married for 27 yrs, I just want you to understand that eventually the newness will wear off and much of you life may become mundane once the children arrive. The best advice I can give you is to talk about everything NOW! You both need to understand each other’s values and how you plan to raise your children. Disagree in private and resolve it in private. Protect each other and defend each other. I not going to tell you that you both need to abandon you current friend groups, but it is wiser for both of you to seek your consul from successfully married people. Allow him to lead and use your femininity to nudge him in the direction that benefits your family. Always let him know what you are concerned about, if he is a really good guy like you’ve said, he will likely not respond to everything. He will respond to things that’s in his power to change. Men sometimes need to be alone to think! Give him that space, particularly when you are dealing with a tough issue. Understand what triggers him and protect him from those triggers, women often have to prevent a guy from destroying himself, usually because of anger. Let him work as hard as he wants, it can be lonely but it’s also very rewarding. If you bring him peace and respect (that doesn’t mean bowing down to him like he’s a damn king, it means not talking down to him or behaving as if he is not needed, men go where they are needed and desired, not where they are wanted) you do those things and you are more than 50% on your way to a successful marriage. Men are not and have never asked women to cook full course meals every freaking day. You can get away with cooking 3 days a week, 2 days worth of leftovers and 2 days take out. I’ve always been the cook in my family and I can make just about every meal in less than 1 hr and a whole bunch of simple meals in 30 mins. This idea about cleaning is really just the kitchen and bathrooms and you can always get a man to assist you in that. You can ALWAYS get a guy to run off to the grocery store for you. Never use sex as the stick, sex is the carrot and it’s also the fuel that gives a man the energy to perform for his family. It’s oil in a cars engine, it makes everything run smoothly and helps you get the best performance and longevity out of that engine. If you engine runs out of oil you car blows up and that’s very expensive to fix. Lastly, go get premarital counseling so that you both understand how to be a husband wife. If you guys don’t have strong examples in you life, it’s going to be even more important to do that. Ohhh I almost forgot, don’t purchase a luxury car, just don’t. I know how tempting it is, I completely understand that but save that for later in life, unless you are both already very stable. I hope this helps
@@mr.nyceguy7800 I’m not sure if this question was for me or the original poster, but interestingly enough my paternal grandmother’s grandparents were of the first black families freed in the state of Virginia. They lived in the Hampton Roads (Newport News, Portsmouth) area of Virginia with the last name Tynes. They were provided land, I forgot how much and many of the children went on to create fairly successful lives. Some of which would have been considered their masters children, if you can read between the lines. My grandmothers sister, Erma Tynes actually worked as a human calculator which was made famous by the movie Hidden Figures. We are not sure if she was depicted in the movie itself, but we all knew she worked there for many years. Being a teacher was one of the few careers black people were allowed to have back then and many in my family took that opportunity. We have documents back to the Spanish American war where my grandmothers grandfather was an assistant to a General and had requested to join the first group of soldiers who stepped foot on Spanish soil. It’s documented in a letter that he wrote to her that our family collected as part of our ancestral search. That is as far back as we were able to document.
Take risks! Thank you for emphasizing this. Marriage is not for the weak. There was nothing wrong with the interview, women today are So Sensitive. My Husband would tell me I saved your life, lol.
Well said! Simone said that when she sees what she wants, she goes after it. You can see that drive when she is competing in the the Olympics! She’s a very driven and successful woman. Athletes think on a completely different level. I respect that and admire that.
It’s amazing to me, that everybody is focusing on how they met, and how he initially reacted to her at their first online interaction. That was before they even met in the flesh but once they did, they were inseparable. He proposed to her, not the other way around.
Thank you for speaking on this, I felt the same and seeing such a visceral reaction and hyper focus on that one aspect of their relationship...wow. Clearly they're both very successful and confident in themselves.
Thank you again. As a black man, I have to say your videos are such a breath of fresh air, especially at this point and phase of my life. I have had my share of failed relationships and oftentimes feel like it's me that is the issue. Then I see your videos and learn that it isn't always me. I thank you just being honest and candid enough to speak (not scream, hollar, or curse) so eloquently on these topics. They do provide a better understanding of the thoughts and sometimes stresses black women today face. I wish you a safe, happy, and prosperous New Year. You still in the DMV?
This is the most balanced, objective analysis ive heard about this. Love your insight. And i agree with you: both parties should be the prize, because the winner gets the prize.v
She didn't say sh*t. All she did was regurgitate sound bites and clips for likes and views. This broad probably doesn't have an original idea in her head.
I have a off put way iff thinking. What truly is said in that quote is not always the case. Just a better way of saying this particular type of message is get to know your partner vet properly cuz knowing ya worth does what? It makes you know your self awareness all things about you. But value is all that. But if you are honest with yourself and comfortable in your own skin. This would come naturally. So you know your worth and you vet someone who shows one thing. But the switch up is crazy. Now what does that term you stated to agree with her with show. Its shows just the latter. Im just sating feel free to help me understand. I love this channeñ btw its the first time i disagree with something thats she said. I agree with this video but not that. Part with that quote.
If I asked any women who is Kylian Mbappe, I bet most women would not know he happens to be a top 3 world famous soccer player, worth $200 million. I believe when he said he did not know who she was. This man was at a point in his life where he was fighting to break into the NFL which by the way its a club of only 500 men in the world. He was training, grinding and sleeping, the Olympics was an after thought.
A woman being secure in her relationship is desperate but got a man 80% of blk women want but can't smell. Yeah ok 😅 single women that stay single would only see this view of desperation cause they don't see value in blk men or respect them. Which why blk men must save themselves and go to women and places that mindset of respect is normal. Peace bro sybm
1:38 They criticize her look and hair on her wedding day they criticize and bullied her on social media because of what her husband said. That young lady has been through so much I’m honestly just happy to see her smiling. They are both young rich athletes and I wish them very well
What unites the sisterhood when it comes to relationships, is that it provides them with refuge from the biggest thing in relationships they are fearful of: being played. It encourages them to "hold on to their power" and to only relinquish it, when a man has given them everything they want, and hits everything on their checklist. However, the focus on power, prevents the insight that really everything that's motivating them is the fear of being vulnerable, the feeling of a lack of safety aka insecurity, and most of all: risk aversion. And it is ultimately, the lack of self-awareness and insight that keeps them altogether, it is also why it's so hard for them to ultimately find what they want, because even if they do get it, they are going to have to abandon the sisterhood to maintain it, and that fear of leaving the sisterhood is sometimes even stronger than the fear of being played. Simone Biles is wise enough to know that she needs to abandon ship if she wants to maintain the blessing that she has, and good for her.
Exactly! Love only happens if you take a chance. And taking the right risk and being vulnerable will lead you to a wonderful union/marriage. Facts most black women do have self esteem issues.
Simone is a Goat for a reason. And damnit, she brought that same energy to her pusuit of happiness. She's a Goat and knows it. I bet when she's competing, she goes for something she WANTS! Thats what she did. She liked the way he looked perhaps looked beyond his clumsiness with words. She's a gymnast, not an academic. And I bet, between two athletes, bedtime is 🔥🔥🔥js
Outstanding commentary. Thoughtful and brilliantly delivered. Always love your work because you really seem to put your heart into it and have a real sincerity that distinguishes you from the overwhelming majority of content creators. Keep you the outstanding work .
I'm married, and the interview was cringe to me. As a couple, when you’re talking to others, it should be enthusiastic positivity and SHORT. Her husband seemed disinterested. They need couples media training and a good PR team now.
Some black women who don't really know their value, may be desperate to find a man and get married. Then others are comfortable being single. It's a choice that a woman makes. God has a purpose for women whether they are married or not.
@@kevinc3342 I think that's a pretty clear choosing signal. Effort has to be from both sides. She showed interest, he pursued her. That's the way it should be. Not him chasing her hoping she would eventually show interest. People need to get over themselves.
* Nneka, you're beautiful and would be excellent for an interracial relationship. Stop focusing on black male/female relationship dynamics. SMH* #BlackGirlSwirl 💃🏽💍🧎💞.
Ummm🤔mmm......What red flags does this young man posess, women claim that they want a man that's • over 6 foot ✔️ • makes 6 figures ✔️ • no kids ✔️ I didn't realize that 1 of the prerequisites was that this man that has made a living believing he's the best now has to lower his self-esteem to be with you????
The man said exactly what he meant, about him being the prize. And about knowing who she was, that's at lot of people. The word is JEALOUSY. What's so hard about figuring that out. They want what she has, most couldn't get or deserve him. And, the worst part of all is the wicked, wants their marriage to fail.
Can you talk more about BW self esteem as Feminist programming pushes being defined by career, education and accomplishment please! That seems to be a big disconnect in dating. What struck me about The Pivot interview Jonathan wasn’t caught up in Oooooooh I wifed a gold medalist and Simone also seems like she genuinely turns that off and basks in simply being a beautiful wife and person. My first thought with the visceral backlash from All these BW was their anger rooted in an unspoken regard for her accomplishments in their marriage. And I’m taken a back in comprehending why SO many BW in dating try to lead with their career, their education and accomplishments when Men keep telling y’all NONE of that matters to us in picking a wife 🤷🏾♂️
Simone Biles is beautiful inside and out. Johnathan Owens saw the woman inside and married her. And she is naturally attractive. I'm glad they are together
Most likely the people who are complaining are Black single females who are relationally unsuccessful. While some people may find the man's account awkward, nothing he said was disrespectful. They apparently enjoy each other and have a lifetime to improve their relationship. Why do Black folks hate on other Black folks success?
It wasn't the Possibility. It was the Probability. Simone was Intentional in her actions. And when any of us are Intentional in regards to the way we pursue what we want/desire/need, we will experience it on some level. We make our goals "probable" when we move with Intentionality. Most people just talk. Hope or pontificate. They're not serious about their goals/desires. That's why most people prefer Possibility. Because it leaves unaccountable for your actions and inaction. And our dependence on something outside of ourselves to receive what we really want. So, we never have to be intentional or accountable. Simone was intentional about wanting a husband, who she believed would honor her to the degree she wanted. And he did. He wifed her.
Women say: They want a handsome man, with muscles, an athlethe, and taller than her ie 6 feet adjacent. He is 5ft11 she is 4ft8 They are mad the fact, he had confidence and knew he was the prize. Not because he said he was, But he is the type of GUY all these women are saying they want. He had other options(other girls) She stood out and made her self be seen and showed her valued to get him to want to committ to her, She put in the work to get the man, Most women want. They are mad that she chased him, ie approached him ie inbox first, Drove to him, and he knows his worth ie Taller, Athlethic, Handsome, Has other women who want him. They want him to bow in awe of her, pedestalize her, and lower himself or humble himself to life her up. He knows his worth, an Speaks it confidently.
@@juliatripp2010 Sistas looking for him to give praise and odes to her. If you really knew what we value as men, you would be mad. We as men dont value your accomplishments, your PHDS, We dont value your mortgages or the car you drive. We dont value your accolades or financial success, Some men will pander to tell you what you want to hear. What i like about Simone Biles She is 4'8" She is Young She is childless She as a nice body, NOT FAT Is she submissive, Is she moldable these are the only things i verbalize as her being a value, Being athlethic, Young and no kids is what i value in a woman phyisically. But as a man he doesnt have verbalize her value. Its about how they met, not about her value. An how she took intiative to been seen and worked to get him. There in lies your value. She chased the man she wanted and proved her worth. Other than that, what else is there verbalize. She showed up and showed out and was persistent to make him her man showing effort and tenacity and eagerness to please. if more women were eager to aim to please us. they would have better outcomes.
They rather her pregnant like Rihanna or Bhaad Bhabie, They want Hailey Bailey pregnant by DDG but not married. They quiet about Naomi Osaka being pregnant and Not married Cordae. Alls they care about is getting pregnant by rich men to get child support.
A good man who is on his tasks is going TO REQUIRE more from a woman he's serious about. Why? Because he knows long term he's going to have to show up and provide for her. And we have to ensure that she's as giving and invested as he will be. So this attitude that "a man had to chase me" is a failing strategy for most women. If that guy has to chase you, once he catches you he's done with you.
See here are two successful youg black people doing the right things and right away look how the hyenas, the ofans models, the single mother culture, the women that cant get a husband mad. The reason why she's a champion 🏆is because she is not afraid of hard work. She was not afraid to go after what she wanted and won. She has the ring, she has the man, she has the marriage. I hope stay married forever. DON'T HATE CONGRATULATE!!!!!
It’s a shame that voices like yours are not ruling the day. This exodus of some of our men is going to grow and my fear is it’s going to take maybe 2 or 3 decades to begin to reverse the trend. Pookie and Ray Ray, guys that are enthralled with their sexual prowess more than accomplishments, those dudes are going are not going anywhere. Mostly because they can’t afford it, others because of criminal records may prevent them from entering some countries. We are starting to lose the “Good men” who women turn to for stability in their 30’s and 40’s. No one wants to be the clean up guy. I’ve joined a few mens groups online and many of these guys are moving on with a heavy heart. It’s not easy to leave everything you’ve ever known and I’m not talking about men going overseas to find wives to bring back to the states. I’m finding that these guys are not encouraging that at all. These guys are looking to setup shop in another country and live as an expatriate and they are finding that they have the resources to do it. One of the things holding us back is, we want to make sure that there will be other black men there that we can have community with and build with. We don’t want to be there alone. I think we maybe on the precipice of a black male brain drain. It’s going to take a few more years to know for sure if this migration has legs.
Respectfully my brother this is a cop out to me. To me this is an excuse to go out with non black women. Brother, I'm a conservative Libertarian and before I got married dating was damn hard for me. I never had any issues attracting BW but there was rarely a 2nd date because I had serious conversations before any other foolery could take place. It would've probably been easier for me to find a WW with a similar mindset. But I never wanted to give up on BW and was determined to find a black wife. It was VERY frustrating at times. But eventually I found the BW I prayed for. If you want to give up and go to other races then that's on you and your choice and prerogative. But it's not because of a lack of good BW. Just as the media promotes the worst men in our community, they do the same thing to our woman. The ultimate problem is selfishness and not many of us wants to give ourselves and make sacrifices. Outside of the exotic looks of those women how do we relate as a culture to thiers??? We say they submissive and the sort but do we know how the men in thier culture moves??? I've had the pleasure of working for foreign entities and had the opportunity to see a little of thier culture and ways. A lot of it is counter to how we were raised in this country. If you're willing to change your whole mindset to adapt to that culture then go for it. On the flipside, I've met many men from other cultures that migrated to this country and has said that in 4 years they didn't know thier wives. A different woman from the woman that was born there. I know I said a lot but us as black Americans share a commonality with our women. We don't share the privileges of success that even the document of law supposedly offers its citizens. Our women share our struggles. That in tune makes our bond strong. It's just a matter of patience and when you do find a BW of substance you cherish her. But I get it, we live in a society where everything is instant and quick. No one wants to take time anymore. Outside of the exotic looks those women overseas offer, how does your American ideals matches up with thier culture.
@@dbig48d I don’t think we disagree as much as you believe. I don’t think it’s easy for anyone to become an expatriate. I’ve also listened to some of the stories of white men who had become expats and some of them struggle with it as well but I’m learning that many of them did for financial reasons. I think a lot of good brothers are worn down by a few things. The ability for women to walk away with all your resources at anytime of their choosing, use your kids as pawns and the trashing of all black men because of the actions of a few. Of course there are tons of good women of all races in the US. I work with any of them and have quite a few in my extended family. However, I’m never going to work against a brother expanding his options and I completely understand their arguments. I’ve been married for 27 years, I was 26 and she was 23, we both came from broken homes and we were adamant that we would not break ours. We struggled a bit because I was working alot and she didn’t like it at all. We got through it and we live pretty good right now even though she has been sick sense 2012. I’m able to work 100% from home to care for her. I think the financial requirements of some of our women is just unreasonable when you consider the age of the men (boys) they are requiring that of. I think most of them are actually lying about those requirements to be honest, but that is the message that men are receiving, right or wrong. I really believe that women by default should be looking for slightly older men to provide what they are looking for. 5 to 7 years I think is good. I don’t think men, including myself, should be creating families in their 20’s. That gives a guy time to mature properly and stabilize. I think we are picking our fruit too soon, if that makes sense. Brother I really appreciate this exchange with you. I wish men had a space where we could have meaningful conversations about these life issues more often and in person.
@@dbig48dwe have already be married to other cultures and people. Where are you getting this non black agenda from? That's something back women pushed to keep black in control. We live in diverse times, but we all are Children if God. Are we not? Show me where it says that God's children are supposed to hate and discriminate against one another? Using your logic of separation and unity by different appearances never has an end. Then it ultimately leads to reverse racism and discriminate thoughts, policies and slavery. We have already studied that. Now we have racist black people beginning to become diseased with the same beliefs. We all blend. Blacks depend on other races same as they depend, except we need them.
@ProblemSolver10-4 hats off and mad respect my brother. One of the BM that was a role model for me went through something similar as you. This was where I first got to see as a teenager the power and resilience of black love. His wife was stricken with a condition that caused her leg to be amputated . As I found out, the condition was so bad that she couldn't have sex because it affected her lower body. He never stepped out on her even though she said she would understand if he did. When she finally passed, that was the first time I ever seen him cry. I still remember him saying to me "I can't see my life without her". He died a couple months later. I've been blessed to be around many BM that I can tell stories about that'll counter the messages being sent today. But you have to understand that there's a Demonic attack on our marriages. And it's not just BW being influenced my friend. I don't trust a lot of the BM spaces because I believe, just like the women, Homosexuals are in the background spurring a lot of this. I've been on some BM channels and they're giving Zesty advice. This is why I'm adamant and unapologetic in attacking people that attacks black marriages. They're willingly or unwillingly promoting our disfunction. So having just a separate spaces for the genders is not the answer. Just like the Homosexuals fought for marriages we need to unapologetically protect and fight for black marriages. And married individuals like ourselves NEED to be out front in this war. Lastly, I do agree that BM are being stereotyped and marginalized right in front of us. And I do see that they have weaponized BW as a tool to aid that. But the answer is separation of the races. I know this is a hell of an undertaking because we have been conditioned to believe the WM ice is colder. That's why they throw crumbs and we fight over that instead of unifying and rebelling against them as a whole. They've convinced us that we're less than. You see it every day. BP voice becomes higher pitch when dealing with a WP. I guess a lot of us believe that will leave a favorable impression if we do that. Make us look different than the rest for some reasons. I bring this up because no one likes connecting the dots. The problem these young BM & BW are experiencing is a lack of knowledge of self and the capabilities of the enemy. The one credit I give the WM is his deception has no floor and they're brilliant in accomplishing thier agendas. They're accomplishing every goal they established with Jim Crow now than they ever could when actual laws were in place. They switched the game up and is now playing mind games. But it's working and more affective now. We allowed them access to our pain and they're using it for thier gain. All in which benefits them in the future. So you see the issues with BM isn't BW. The issue is lack of knowledge and a lot of selfishness in which WP has taught us well. This is why I say no woman overseas can be an ally to BM like BW here in America. Healing needs to start and we have to turn our backs on a lot of Sambo's in our race who's profiting off of this for thier white sumprecist friends. We have to become unapologetically black for this to happen. But just like the Homosexuals fought openly for marriage, much of our people supported this ungodly union, we need to fight and protect our marriages. Even if it means fighting a lot of our own. Because going overseas and creating another race designation doesn't do a thing to offset White Sumprecy. It weakens blackness and creates more confusion. I was always told the Devil don't thrive in absolutes, either righteous or wicked. He excels in the gray area. Our people are stuck in the gray areas my friend. Or biblically speaking, we have established ourselves in the wilderness Be blessed my brother
@@dbig48d Good morning brother, I hear that alot and understand the sentiment and frustration. However I think as the world falls apart around us, I see it as an opportunity to lead our way out of it. We have to prepare our boys to fill the void with marketable skills that can be leveraged to create businesses that support our country. WM have always played the long game and it’s time that we do the same. I’m not so concerned with BM taking control of the world ( lol, maybe I should be) right now my view is to get our sons stabilized and to prevent them from destroying their lives even before they get started. They have been seduced by the examples of rags to riches that we see in our daily lives. They are mocked by rappers and athletes because those guys have more of everything and we’ve been convinced that our only value is in the entertainment and athletic industries. Many of our young women don’t respect Blue Collar working dudes, so our boys avoid those career paths, even though those paths are shortcuts to business ownership. We already have proved that when we apply ourselves we can out perform anyone on any stage. So I think we need to focus ourselves on the long game of business ownership. I felt pretty much as you do for quite sometime, then I started thinking about the last 50 years here in America and what black people have accomplished. We have risen pretty damn quickly considering the obstacles that we’ve had to overcome. I think we have to do a few things immediately. 1) we have to stop our boys from warring with one another 2) we have to prevent them from becoming fathers before they are stable 3) we have to educate them in stable industries. Last point, we have to teach them to avoid greedy women. These women want to live a Hollywood lifestyle and chasing that at all cost is ruinous. I think we are already on our way to pushing back on the promiscuity of some of our young ladies. I understand the appeal of segregation, particularly because of the examples we saw during the reconstruction era. I do think that we need to ally with likeminded people if any race. As I read about the history of this country I’ve found that it was a small subset of WM pushing the agenda and others reluctantly fell in line. I continue to see examples today, here on RUclips of white people in particular telling the truth. We need those people, we need to absorb their knowledge and learn the inside game. My view has been to learn from anyone that has knowledge whether I like them or not. Some of us BM are going to have to sacrifice ourselves and some of our happiness to achieve our larger goals. I’m on the East coast here in Va. , you appear to be a very thoughtful dude and I’d enjoy a cigar, whiskey and meal with you at some point. BM need to talk… often
This controversy only shows us how much toxicity has infected the black community. I see a happy, supportive black couple. Instead of celebrating that, many of us have taken it upon ourselves to correct and tear them down. See these evil, miserable people for who and what they are. All skin folk ain't kin folk. Stay strong black brothers and sisters. Our love for each other is eternal. 🤎🖤🤎🖤
She's not desperate but humble, as a great champion and competitor she knows about efforts to get the prize. Meanwhile the prideful idots critizising her remain single.
Trust me ,when he met her in person and started talking to and getting to know her, he realized how beautiful on the inside she was, Just think about it, the young man Didnt know who she was. Which means he fell in love with a genuine, pleasant ,good hearted woman who let him know she was feeling him she Didnt act like it was about her! period! and every man who has ever watched her speak knows how happy he was to finally meet a sista with those qualities like hers, that good girl next door who you dont have to worry about dressing like a slut when not with her , a woman your family would love for you to marry ,and thats what hated about her by other women, shes that somewhat nerdy and simple girl with a wonderful kind personality that the other women cant understand what men see in her, and not too mention shes beautiful , it was a no brainer for the young brotha and I believe they'll be together for a loong time, theyre energy seems to match very well
A bunch of word salad is all I heard! We are the prize! A woman want all of these superficial things in men, and when they find the man that fits that criteria…they won the prize! Imagine women wanting a man to say shit the way that they want him to say it! Leave them people alone and get you a relationship!
Idk, I'm still not a fan of pursuing men because 9 out of 10 times its ends shitty for the woman.. If he likes u he'll go after u and if you're interested you'll receive it graciously.. I wouldn't encourage women to do it either
His comment about being the prize wasn't problematic. Every woman generally wants to marry up and goes about looking for the best partner she can get. By definition, if you want better than yourself, doesn't that make what you're looking for, the prize?
I didn’t like this interview at all. I met my husband in a similar way but I would neverrr talk about him the way Mr. Biles referred to his wife whether my husband was in the room or not. Jonathan didn’t sound like he appreciated Simone at all, he wasn’t proud of her, he sounded disgusted by her. Worse he looked so uncomfortable with her getting praise from the other men. That was clearly malice. I wish more older people would straighten him out, being a wife isn’t where the story ends. You have to live life together, protect each other IN PUBLIC and honor eachother in private. He majorly dropped the ball on his job as a husband in that interview. But of course everything is a joke in the black community and wives are the only ones who need to be called out when we’re not fulfilling our role🙃
He doesn't need to change anything.He's a Man not a Pet.He was Honest and straight forward.He didn't need to be Worshipping Her.Men go wrong whenever that sort of thing happens.He's stern and stoic.She chose Him.And She wasn't trying to change Him either.
YOU ARE THE ONLY SISTA THAT SEE THINGS IN PROSPECTIVE BECAUSE ALL THE WOMEN CALLING SIMONE DESPERATE ARE BABY MAMAS AND SHE'S A WIFE. AT THERE WEDDING HE WAS THE ONE CRYING NOT HER
Nothing wrong with going the extra mile for someone showing reciprocity, and for someone showing how much they want you, admire you, desire you and love you. The problem is, he talks about her chasing him, how much she did for him, how much she wanted him and he didn't feel the same or tell anything he did for her back. I've been married 15 years happily and when dating my husband we did things for each other. I cooked for him, he went to the mosque with me, he took me to my first Japanese steak house, he bought flowers, we went to museums, art galleries, skating and all sorts of fun dates and I always felt desired and so did he. On top of him claiming he didn't know her, which is just crazy, he sounded like some pretty boy Simone eventually wore down, which is embarrassing to her. Why not express anything you did for her, if he did anything at all .
I still don’t understand why it is crazy that he didn’t know who she was.. I’ve been telling people that him not knowing who she was actually worked in his favor. I don’t believe SB wanted to be famous in her relationships.
Perhaps he didn't want to appear to be a simp. BM are quick to label expressions of love towards BW as simp behavior. His immaturity may also be playing a part - not being confident in his manhood which would be unfortunate. Now if all the backlash doesn't help him breakout of it, the relationship may be doomed
they will be divorcing soon give it a couple years he wasnt intrested in her at all which is why a whole nfl player that has a car didnt drive to see her hes also insecure and downplays who she is when he knew who she was from the jump a woman should never chase a man she also complains of how she still struggles to pay bills he is a red flag
The sisterhood is so twisted they can’t recognize a healthy functioning relationship right in their laps… do better and leave those folks alone…
My wife made the first move and pursued me. We've been together 15 years with 2 beautiful kids.
I make first move too with my husband. We been together until he die
He told the truth and she acknowledged it. Desperate is something she is not. Confident is what she is.
My girl came for me, drove 4 hours, and we've been happy, its been 2 years, only one SLIGHT disagreement, and going STRONG 😊
There was absolutely nothing wrong with what that man said. He loves his wife. He loves himself. Good, successful men who will love and commit to you, are the prize. If the shoe was on the other foot, no one would have had a problem with her saying the same thing, and she too, would have been absolutely right. She is natural, sweet, talented, understanding, and she doesn't mind letting him know he's important and worth it.
He got him one!
I wish them all the best.
@famsyrk8839 -
Simone Biles suffers from ADHD and depression. Even with people who don't miss their meds, every day, every hour is an unknown, because the meds only manage the illness, it does not cure it. It is a life full of emotional ups, downs, and bottoms which is why ADHD marriages fail at a rate two times that of non ADHD marriages.
In a way she was desperate to find a replacement for the ex-boyfriend of 3 years who broke up with her in 2020 just before she traveled to Japan for the Olympics. As Johnathon pointed out himself, she reached out to him very late July to very early August (the Olympics ended in Aug 8th), and they met by the end of the week. Once the former boyfriend left, she was in need for someone to fill the assistance gap he once filled.
Y'all giving her all this praise and don't even know even know a known public detail about her. STOP THE CAP!!
Intresting topic. When I was dating my wife, I moved to Dallas for employment reasons. She still lived in Austin. One day she decided to surprise me by driving to Dallas however her car started overheating on her way to Dallas but I didn't know that cuz we didn't have cell phones back then. Anyhow when she showed up it was almost 12:00 midnight and she had her two children with her. I was upset with her after she told me the story because she put herself and the children in a lot of danger by driving the car while it overheated. Obviously when she started on her trip the car was fine but it started overheating halfway through the trip. So what's the point of making. She was willing to do all that just to see me. Was this her being desperate? I don't know. All I have to say is that she's been mine & ive been hers for 27yrs.🙂
I love the way this story ends!
For the life of me I don't understand why women think that men are attracted to the same things that women are attracted to. What's important to women in a relationship aren't at the top of the list for a man. A man doesn't really care what kind of career, money, degree, or level of fame a woman has, at the end of the day these things are just bonuses. Do you see a hoard of men trying to get at Oprah??? A lot of women also think that all they have to do is look good. Looking good will get you a lot of dates and late night visits, but it certainly won't get you a husband, ESPECIALLY if the guy thinks you're for the streets. Johnathan Owens said one thing that I think a lot of women just ignored. He said that Simone brought him peace. That one statement told every man watching exactly why he asked her to marry him, and sadly was totally passed over by so many women.
Your video gave me up. I did something similar with my boyfriend who proposed to me a couple of weeks ago when I expected the least. I was willing to go an extra miles to meet him. He has tremendous potential. Sometimes it's worth to put in the efforts for a man who is husband material. It's desperate if you give 200% to a man who shows no interest and just want to clap your cheeks.
Good for you! As a guy who has been married for 27 yrs, I just want you to understand that eventually the newness will wear off and much of you life may become mundane once the children arrive. The best advice I can give you is to talk about everything NOW! You both need to understand each other’s values and how you plan to raise your children. Disagree in private and resolve it in private. Protect each other and defend each other. I not going to tell you that you both need to abandon you current friend groups, but it is wiser for both of you to seek your consul from successfully married people. Allow him to lead and use your femininity to nudge him in the direction that benefits your family. Always let him know what you are concerned about, if he is a really good guy like you’ve said, he will likely not respond to everything. He will respond to things that’s in his power to change. Men sometimes need to be alone to think! Give him that space, particularly when you are dealing with a tough issue. Understand what triggers him and protect him from those triggers, women often have to prevent a guy from destroying himself, usually because of anger. Let him work as hard as he wants, it can be lonely but it’s also very rewarding. If you bring him peace and respect (that doesn’t mean bowing down to him like he’s a damn king, it means not talking down to him or behaving as if he is not needed, men go where they are needed and desired, not where they are wanted) you do those things and you are more than 50% on your way to a successful marriage. Men are not and have never asked women to cook full course meals every freaking day. You can get away with cooking 3 days a week, 2 days worth of leftovers and 2 days take out. I’ve always been the cook in my family and I can make just about every meal in less than 1 hr and a whole bunch of simple meals in 30 mins. This idea about cleaning is really just the kitchen and bathrooms and you can always get a man to assist you in that. You can ALWAYS get a guy to run off to the grocery store for you. Never use sex as the stick, sex is the carrot and it’s also the fuel that gives a man the energy to perform for his family. It’s oil in a cars engine, it makes everything run smoothly and helps you get the best performance and longevity out of that engine. If you engine runs out of oil you car blows up and that’s very expensive to fix. Lastly, go get premarital counseling so that you both understand how to be a husband wife. If you guys don’t have strong examples in you life, it’s going to be even more important to do that. Ohhh I almost forgot, don’t purchase a luxury car, just don’t. I know how tempting it is, I completely understand that but save that for later in life, unless you are both already very stable. I hope this helps
are you a foundational black american? ✊🏿💪🏿🇺🇲👸🏿🤴🏿
@@mr.nyceguy7800 I’m not sure if this question was for me or the original poster, but interestingly enough my paternal grandmother’s grandparents were of the first black families freed in the state of Virginia. They lived in the Hampton Roads (Newport News, Portsmouth) area of Virginia with the last name Tynes. They were provided land, I forgot how much and many of the children went on to create fairly successful lives. Some of which would have been considered their masters children, if you can read between the lines. My grandmothers sister, Erma Tynes actually worked as a human calculator which was made famous by the movie Hidden Figures. We are not sure if she was depicted in the movie itself, but we all knew she worked there for many years. Being a teacher was one of the few careers black people were allowed to have back then and many in my family took that opportunity. We have documents back to the Spanish American war where my grandmothers grandfather was an assistant to a General and had requested to join the first group of soldiers who stepped foot on Spanish soil. It’s documented in a letter that he wrote to her that our family collected as part of our ancestral search. That is as far back as we were able to document.
@@mr.nyceguy7800 Why tf does that matter?
I find it interesting how SHOCKING it is to some women that putting in EFFORT, can net you positive results.
To be in love with someone make a black women Desperate....WoW. single, miserable, angry, and 304 makes you happy good for you. God be you with you.
Lol... If love is not @ 1st. Sight "it damn show want develop six months later!
Yes a pack of fat hyenas
Don’t worry about them…misery is their desire and loneliness will be their company.
Black women being in love isn't the issue. But does Johnathan love Simone? That's why everyone is so skeptical.
@@winniediallo4118 he's married to her... It's none of yall damn business that's why y'alls relationship have high body counts
The same ones mad at Simone being married to Jonathan Owens are the same ones who rooted for Cardi and Offset to work out.
Take risks! Thank you for emphasizing this. Marriage is not for the weak. There was nothing wrong with the interview, women today are So Sensitive. My Husband would tell me I saved your life, lol.
Well said! Simone said that when she sees what she wants, she goes after it. You can see that drive when she is competing in the the Olympics! She’s a very driven and successful woman.
Athletes think on a completely different level. I respect that and admire that.
It’s amazing to me, that everybody is focusing on how they met, and how he initially reacted to her at their first online interaction. That was before they even met in the flesh but once they did, they were inseparable. He proposed to her, not the other way around.
Thank you for speaking on this, I felt the same and seeing such a visceral reaction and hyper focus on that one aspect of their relationship...wow. Clearly they're both very successful and confident in themselves.
Thank you again. As a black man, I have to say your videos are such a breath of fresh air, especially at this point and phase of my life. I have had my share of failed relationships and oftentimes feel like it's me that is the issue. Then I see your videos and learn that it isn't always me. I thank you just being honest and candid enough to speak (not scream, hollar, or curse) so eloquently on these topics. They do provide a better understanding of the thoughts and sometimes stresses black women today face. I wish you a safe, happy, and prosperous New Year.
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Thank you so much for your feedback and thoughtful words! Yes, the DMV is my permanent home. 🙂
@@nnekaonyilofor Lunch one day, my treat.
This is the most balanced, objective analysis ive heard about this. Love your insight. And i agree with you: both parties should be the prize, because the winner gets the prize.v
Until you understand your own value you can't see the value of anyone else. You said it all. You are right on point.
She didn't say sh*t. All she did was regurgitate sound bites and clips for likes and views. This broad probably doesn't have an original idea in her head.
I have a off put way iff thinking. What truly is said in that quote is not always the case. Just a better way of saying this particular type of message is get to know your partner vet properly cuz knowing ya worth does what? It makes you know your self awareness all things about you. But value is all that. But if you are honest with yourself and comfortable in your own skin. This would come naturally. So you know your worth and you vet someone who shows one thing. But the switch up is crazy. Now what does that term you stated to agree with her with show. Its shows just the latter. Im just sating feel free to help me understand. I love this channeñ btw its the first time i disagree with something thats she said. I agree with this video but not that. Part with that quote.
I agree. People need to get to know themselves and their own worth and value before getting into a relationship with someone.
If I asked any women who is Kylian Mbappe, I bet most women would not know he happens to be a top 3 world famous soccer player, worth $200 million. I believe when he said he did not know who she was. This man was at a point in his life where he was fighting to break into the NFL which by the way its a club of only 500 men in the world. He was training, grinding and sleeping, the Olympics was an after thought.
A woman being secure in her relationship is desperate but got a man 80% of blk women want but can't smell. Yeah ok 😅 single women that stay single would only see this view of desperation cause they don't see value in blk men or respect them. Which why blk men must save themselves and go to women and places that mindset of respect is normal. Peace bro sybm
Oh yes… a man can be and is a prize 🏆 too…
1:38 They criticize her look and hair on her wedding day they criticize and bullied her on social media because of what her husband said. That young lady has been through so much I’m honestly just happy to see her smiling. They are both young rich athletes and I wish them very well
What unites the sisterhood when it comes to relationships, is that it provides them with refuge from the biggest thing in relationships they are fearful of: being played.
It encourages them to "hold on to their power" and to only relinquish it, when a man has given them everything they want, and hits everything on their checklist.
However, the focus on power, prevents the insight that really everything that's motivating them is the fear of being vulnerable, the feeling of a lack of safety aka insecurity, and most of all: risk aversion.
And it is ultimately, the lack of self-awareness and insight that keeps them altogether, it is also why it's so hard for them to ultimately find what they want, because even if they do get it, they are going to have to abandon the sisterhood to maintain it, and that fear of leaving the sisterhood is sometimes even stronger than the fear of being played. Simone Biles is wise enough to know that she needs to abandon ship if she wants to maintain the blessing that she has, and good for her.
Very well said. Thank you for this! 🙏🏾
Exactly! Love only happens if you take a chance. And taking the right risk and being vulnerable will lead you to a wonderful union/marriage. Facts most black women do have self esteem issues.
Simone is a Goat for a reason. And damnit, she brought that same energy to her pusuit of happiness. She's a Goat and knows it. I bet when she's competing, she goes for something she WANTS! Thats what she did. She liked the way he looked perhaps looked beyond his clumsiness with words. She's a gymnast, not an academic. And I bet, between two athletes, bedtime is 🔥🔥🔥js
Not everything is about bedtime. Get your mind from out of the crotches for once BW
Outstanding commentary. Thoughtful and brilliantly delivered. Always love your work because you really seem to put your heart into it and have a real sincerity that distinguishes you from the overwhelming majority of content creators. Keep you the outstanding work .
I truly appreciate your feedback. It means so much. Thank you! 🙏🏾 ☺️
Women are a prize men are a catch
I'm married, and the interview was cringe to me. As a couple, when you’re talking to others, it should be enthusiastic positivity and SHORT. Her husband seemed disinterested. They need couples media training and a good PR team now.
Some black women who don't really know their value, may be desperate to find a man and get married. Then others are comfortable being single. It's a choice that a woman makes. God has a purpose for women whether they are married or not.
Sounds very dumb. Sounds like coping.
45 minutes is like driving across town in some cities. That's easy. Why are people making such a big deal of that?
It's projection - Simone Biles made a first contact and a short drive - Johnathan Owens took it from there...
@@kevinc3342 I think that's a pretty clear choosing signal. Effort has to be from both sides. She showed interest, he pursued her. That's the way it should be. Not him chasing her hoping she would eventually show interest. People need to get over themselves.
* Nneka, you're beautiful and would be excellent for an interracial relationship. Stop focusing on black male/female relationship dynamics. SMH* #BlackGirlSwirl 💃🏽💍🧎💞.
My question 🙋🏾♂️ is what's the opposite of a "PICK 👰🏾♀️👨🏾💼 ME" a lonely azz "PASS 💁🏾♀️ ME"
😅😆
Ummm🤔mmm......What red flags does this young man posess, women claim that they want a man that's
• over 6 foot ✔️
• makes 6 figures ✔️
• no kids ✔️
I didn't realize that 1 of the prerequisites was that this man that has made a living believing he's the best now has to lower his self-esteem to be with you????
The man said exactly what he meant, about him being the prize. And about knowing who she was, that's at lot of people. The word is JEALOUSY. What's so hard about figuring that out. They want what she has, most couldn't get or deserve him. And, the worst part of all is the wicked, wants their marriage to fail.
If you don’t value your humanity, you will never see someone else’s humanity. Period!!!
Simone: *married and happy*
Black women: 😒😠😡🤬
Can you talk more about BW self esteem as Feminist programming pushes being defined by career, education and accomplishment please! That seems to be a big disconnect in dating. What struck me about The Pivot interview Jonathan wasn’t caught up in Oooooooh I wifed a gold medalist and Simone also seems like she genuinely turns that off and basks in simply being a beautiful wife and person. My first thought with the visceral backlash from All these BW was their anger rooted in an unspoken regard for her accomplishments in their marriage. And I’m taken a back in comprehending why SO many BW in dating try to lead with their career, their education and accomplishments when Men keep telling y’all NONE of that matters to us in picking a wife 🤷🏾♂️
Simone Biles is beautiful inside and out. Johnathan Owens saw the woman inside and married her. And she is naturally attractive. I'm glad they are together
Most likely the people who are complaining
are Black single females who are relationally unsuccessful. While some people may find the man's account awkward, nothing he said was disrespectful. They apparently enjoy each other and have a lifetime to improve their relationship. Why do Black folks hate on other Black folks success?
It wasn't the Possibility. It was the Probability. Simone was Intentional in her actions. And when any of us are Intentional in regards to the way we pursue what we want/desire/need, we will experience it on some level. We make our goals "probable" when we move with Intentionality. Most people just talk. Hope or pontificate. They're not serious about their goals/desires. That's why most people prefer Possibility. Because it leaves unaccountable for your actions and inaction. And our dependence on something outside of ourselves to receive what we really want. So, we never have to be intentional or accountable. Simone was intentional about wanting a husband, who she believed would honor her to the degree she wanted. And he did. He wifed her.
Women say: They want a handsome man, with muscles, an athlethe, and taller than her ie 6 feet adjacent.
He is 5ft11 she is 4ft8
They are mad the fact, he had confidence and knew he was the prize. Not because he said he was, But he is the type of GUY all these women are saying they want.
He had other options(other girls) She stood out and made her self be seen and showed her valued to get him to want to committ to her,
She put in the work to get the man, Most women want.
They are mad that she chased him, ie approached him ie inbox first, Drove to him, and he knows his worth ie Taller, Athlethic, Handsome, Has other women who want him.
They want him to bow in awe of her, pedestalize her, and lower himself or humble himself to life her up.
He knows his worth, an Speaks it confidently.
All true, now if he can learn to verbalize her value too....
@@juliatripp2010 Sistas looking for him to give praise and odes to her. If you really knew what we value as men, you would be mad.
We as men dont value your accomplishments, your PHDS, We dont value your mortgages or the car you drive.
We dont value your accolades or financial success,
Some men will pander to tell you what you want to hear.
What i like about Simone Biles
She is
4'8"
She is Young
She is childless
She as a nice body, NOT FAT
Is she submissive, Is she moldable these are the only things i verbalize as her being a value, Being athlethic, Young and no kids is what i value in a woman phyisically.
But as a man he doesnt have verbalize her value. Its about how they met, not about her value. An how she took intiative to been seen and worked to get him. There in lies your value. She chased the man she wanted and proved her worth.
Other than that, what else is there verbalize. She showed up and showed out and was persistent to make him her man showing effort and tenacity and eagerness to please.
if more women were eager to aim to please us. they would have better outcomes.
@@juliatripp2010 A womans greatest value to a man, is her youth, submissive obedience and fertility.
@@juliatripp2010He doesn't need to learn anything.He's a Man not a Pet.Stop trying to control and change a Man.
@@juliatripp2010 You would know he did if you watched the full interview.
They rather her pregnant like Rihanna or Bhaad Bhabie, They want Hailey Bailey pregnant by DDG but not married.
They quiet about Naomi Osaka being pregnant and Not married Cordae.
Alls they care about is getting pregnant by rich men to get child support.
👏👏👏 Exactly. I gave pointed out in the Hallie situation the sistahood was like they can just be in love and have kids, marriage don't mean everything.
Thank you for this❤
Great Value….enjoy your content ❤
A good man who is on his tasks is going TO REQUIRE more from a woman he's serious about. Why? Because he knows long term he's going to have to show up and provide for her. And we have to ensure that she's as giving and invested as he will be. So this attitude that "a man had to chase me" is a failing strategy for most women. If that guy has to chase you, once he catches you he's done with you.
While other women get to be the damsel in distress black women have to be the knight in shining armor
Ponder on that
Bingo.
Amazing analysis. Seeing things at a deeper level 👍
His.. Opinion..His Choice...His Body ..HE .is the .Prize!...IF
.Black Women don't like it...stay.... single??🤨🤨🤨...case ...closed!..
See here are two successful youg black people doing the right things and right away look how the hyenas, the ofans models, the single mother culture, the women that cant get a husband mad. The reason why she's a champion 🏆is because she is not afraid of hard work. She was not afraid to go after what she wanted and won. She has the ring, she has the man, she has the marriage. I hope stay married forever. DON'T HATE CONGRATULATE!!!!!
It’s a shame that voices like yours are not ruling the day. This exodus of some of our men is going to grow and my fear is it’s going to take maybe 2 or 3 decades to begin to reverse the trend. Pookie and Ray Ray, guys that are enthralled with their sexual prowess more than accomplishments, those dudes are going are not going anywhere. Mostly because they can’t afford it, others because of criminal records may prevent them from entering some countries. We are starting to lose the “Good men” who women turn to for stability in their 30’s and 40’s. No one wants to be the clean up guy. I’ve joined a few mens groups online and many of these guys are moving on with a heavy heart. It’s not easy to leave everything you’ve ever known and I’m not talking about men going overseas to find wives to bring back to the states. I’m finding that these guys are not encouraging that at all. These guys are looking to setup shop in another country and live as an expatriate and they are finding that they have the resources to do it. One of the things holding us back is, we want to make sure that there will be other black men there that we can have community with and build with. We don’t want to be there alone. I think we maybe on the precipice of a black male brain drain. It’s going to take a few more years to know for sure if this migration has legs.
Respectfully my brother this is a cop out to me. To me this is an excuse to go out with non black women. Brother, I'm a conservative Libertarian and before I got married dating was damn hard for me. I never had any issues attracting BW but there was rarely a 2nd date because I had serious conversations before any other foolery could take place. It would've probably been easier for me to find a WW with a similar mindset. But I never wanted to give up on BW and was determined to find a black wife. It was VERY frustrating at times. But eventually I found the BW I prayed for.
If you want to give up and go to other races then that's on you and your choice and prerogative. But it's not because of a lack of good BW. Just as the media promotes the worst men in our community, they do the same thing to our woman. The ultimate problem is selfishness and not many of us wants to give ourselves and make sacrifices.
Outside of the exotic looks of those women how do we relate as a culture to thiers??? We say they submissive and the sort but do we know how the men in thier culture moves??? I've had the pleasure of working for foreign entities and had the opportunity to see a little of thier culture and ways. A lot of it is counter to how we were raised in this country. If you're willing to change your whole mindset to adapt to that culture then go for it. On the flipside, I've met many men from other cultures that migrated to this country and has said that in 4 years they didn't know thier wives. A different woman from the woman that was born there.
I know I said a lot but us as black Americans share a commonality with our women. We don't share the privileges of success that even the document of law supposedly offers its citizens. Our women share our struggles. That in tune makes our bond strong. It's just a matter of patience and when you do find a BW of substance you cherish her. But I get it, we live in a society where everything is instant and quick. No one wants to take time anymore. Outside of the exotic looks those women overseas offer, how does your American ideals matches up with thier culture.
@@dbig48d I don’t think we disagree as much as you believe. I don’t think it’s easy for anyone to become an expatriate. I’ve also listened to some of the stories of white men who had become expats and some of them struggle with it as well but I’m learning that many of them did for financial reasons. I think a lot of good brothers are worn down by a few things. The ability for women to walk away with all your resources at anytime of their choosing, use your kids as pawns and the trashing of all black men because of the actions of a few. Of course there are tons of good women of all races in the US. I work with any of them and have quite a few in my extended family. However, I’m never going to work against a brother expanding his options and I completely understand their arguments. I’ve been married for 27 years, I was 26 and she was 23, we both came from broken homes and we were adamant that we would not break ours. We struggled a bit because I was working alot and she didn’t like it at all. We got through it and we live pretty good right now even though she has been sick sense 2012. I’m able to work 100% from home to care for her. I think the financial requirements of some of our women is just unreasonable when you consider the age of the men (boys) they are requiring that of. I think most of them are actually lying about those requirements to be honest, but that is the message that men are receiving, right or wrong. I really believe that women by default should be looking for slightly older men to provide what they are looking for. 5 to 7 years I think is good. I don’t think men, including myself, should be creating families in their 20’s. That gives a guy time to mature properly and stabilize. I think we are picking our fruit too soon, if that makes sense. Brother I really appreciate this exchange with you. I wish men had a space where we could have meaningful conversations about these life issues more often and in person.
@@dbig48dwe have already be married to other cultures and people. Where are you getting this non black agenda from?
That's something back women pushed to keep black in control.
We live in diverse times, but we all are Children if God. Are we not? Show me where it says that God's children are supposed to hate and discriminate against one another?
Using your logic of separation and unity by different appearances never has an end.
Then it ultimately leads to reverse racism and discriminate thoughts, policies and slavery.
We have already studied that. Now we have racist black people beginning to become diseased with the same beliefs.
We all blend. Blacks depend on other races same as they depend, except we need them.
@ProblemSolver10-4 hats off and mad respect my brother. One of the BM that was a role model for me went through something similar as you. This was where I first got to see as a teenager the power and resilience of black love. His wife was stricken with a condition that caused her leg to be amputated . As I found out, the condition was so bad that she couldn't have sex because it affected her lower body. He never stepped out on her even though she said she would understand if he did. When she finally passed, that was the first time I ever seen him cry. I still remember him saying to me "I can't see my life without her". He died a couple months later. I've been blessed to be around many BM that I can tell stories about that'll counter the messages being sent today. But you have to understand that there's a Demonic attack on our marriages. And it's not just BW being influenced my friend. I don't trust a lot of the BM spaces because I believe, just like the women, Homosexuals are in the background spurring a lot of this. I've been on some BM channels and they're giving Zesty advice. This is why I'm adamant and unapologetic in attacking people that attacks black marriages. They're willingly or unwillingly promoting our disfunction. So having just a separate spaces for the genders is not the answer. Just like the Homosexuals fought for marriages we need to unapologetically protect and fight for black marriages. And married individuals like ourselves NEED to be out front in this war.
Lastly, I do agree that BM are being stereotyped and marginalized right in front of us. And I do see that they have weaponized BW as a tool to aid that. But the answer is separation of the races. I know this is a hell of an undertaking because we have been conditioned to believe the WM ice is colder. That's why they throw crumbs and we fight over that instead of unifying and rebelling against them as a whole. They've convinced us that we're less than. You see it every day. BP voice becomes higher pitch when dealing with a WP. I guess a lot of us believe that will leave a favorable impression if we do that. Make us look different than the rest for some reasons. I bring this up because no one likes connecting the dots. The problem these young BM & BW are experiencing is a lack of knowledge of self and the capabilities of the enemy. The one credit I give the WM is his deception has no floor and they're brilliant in accomplishing thier agendas. They're accomplishing every goal they established with Jim Crow now than they ever could when actual laws were in place. They switched the game up and is now playing mind games. But it's working and more affective now. We allowed them access to our pain and they're using it for thier gain. All in which benefits them in the future. So you see the issues with BM isn't BW. The issue is lack of knowledge and a lot of selfishness in which WP has taught us well. This is why I say no woman overseas can be an ally to BM like BW here in America. Healing needs to start and we have to turn our backs on a lot of Sambo's in our race who's profiting off of this for thier white sumprecist friends.
We have to become unapologetically black for this to happen. But just like the Homosexuals fought openly for marriage, much of our people supported this ungodly union, we need to fight and protect our marriages. Even if it means fighting a lot of our own. Because going overseas and creating another race designation doesn't do a thing to offset White Sumprecy. It weakens blackness and creates more confusion. I was always told the Devil don't thrive in absolutes, either righteous or wicked. He excels in the gray area. Our people are stuck in the gray areas my friend. Or biblically speaking, we have established ourselves in the wilderness
Be blessed my brother
@@dbig48d Good morning brother, I hear that alot and understand the sentiment and frustration. However I think as the world falls apart around us, I see it as an opportunity to lead our way out of it. We have to prepare our boys to fill the void with marketable skills that can be leveraged to create businesses that support our country. WM have always played the long game and it’s time that we do the same. I’m not so concerned with BM taking control of the world ( lol, maybe I should be) right now my view is to get our sons stabilized and to prevent them from destroying their lives even before they get started. They have been seduced by the examples of rags to riches that we see in our daily lives. They are mocked by rappers and athletes because those guys have more of everything and we’ve been convinced that our only value is in the entertainment and athletic industries. Many of our young women don’t respect Blue Collar working dudes, so our boys avoid those career paths, even though those paths are shortcuts to business ownership. We already have proved that when we apply ourselves we can out perform anyone on any stage. So I think we need to focus ourselves on the long game of business ownership. I felt pretty much as you do for quite sometime, then I started thinking about the last 50 years here in America and what black people have accomplished. We have risen pretty damn quickly considering the obstacles that we’ve had to overcome. I think we have to do a few things immediately. 1) we have to stop our boys from warring with one another 2) we have to prevent them from becoming fathers before they are stable 3) we have to educate them in stable industries. Last point, we have to teach them to avoid greedy women. These women want to live a Hollywood lifestyle and chasing that at all cost is ruinous. I think we are already on our way to pushing back on the promiscuity of some of our young ladies. I understand the appeal of segregation, particularly because of the examples we saw during the reconstruction era. I do think that we need to ally with likeminded people if any race. As I read about the history of this country I’ve found that it was a small subset of WM pushing the agenda and others reluctantly fell in line. I continue to see examples today, here on RUclips of white people in particular telling the truth. We need those people, we need to absorb their knowledge and learn the inside game. My view has been to learn from anyone that has knowledge whether I like them or not. Some of us BM are going to have to sacrifice ourselves and some of our happiness to achieve our larger goals. I’m on the East coast here in Va. , you appear to be a very thoughtful dude and I’d enjoy a cigar, whiskey and meal with you at some point. BM need to talk… often
This controversy only shows us how much toxicity has infected the black community.
I see a happy, supportive black couple. Instead of celebrating that, many of us have taken it upon ourselves to correct and tear them down.
See these evil, miserable people for who and what they are. All skin folk ain't kin folk.
Stay strong black brothers and sisters. Our love for each other is eternal.
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Facts!!!
FANTASTIC TAKE on this, i watched it twice.😊😊
She's not desperate but humble, as a great champion and competitor she knows about efforts to get the prize. Meanwhile the prideful idots critizising her remain single.
Join the 10 million Black Passport Bros leaving the feminist Democrats and voting for Trump 2024🎉🎉🎉
Black women will chase a Brad or Pookie but not a productive black man. It’s wild.
A M E N, Sister. My first time. I'll have my ear tu the ground.
Trust me ,when he met her in person and started talking to and getting to know her, he realized how beautiful on the inside she was, Just think about it, the young man Didnt know who she was. Which means he fell in love with a genuine, pleasant ,good hearted woman who let him know she was feeling him she Didnt act like it was about her! period! and every man who has ever watched her speak knows how happy he was to finally meet a sista with those qualities like hers, that good girl next door who you dont have to worry about dressing like a slut when not with her , a woman your family would love for you to marry ,and thats what hated about her by other women, shes that somewhat nerdy and simple girl with a wonderful kind personality that the other women cant understand what men see in her, and not too mention shes beautiful , it was a no brainer for the young brotha and I believe they'll be together for a loong time, theyre energy seems to match very well
Very well said! 🎯💯🙌🏾
A bunch of word salad is all I heard! We are the prize! A woman want all of these superficial things in men, and when they find the man that fits that criteria…they won the prize! Imagine women wanting a man to say shit the way that they want him to say it! Leave them people alone and get you a relationship!
Idk, I'm still not a fan of pursuing men because 9 out of 10 times its ends shitty for the woman.. If he likes u he'll go after u and if you're interested you'll receive it graciously.. I wouldn't encourage women to do it either
I'M MY OWN COMPETITION!!!
His comment about being the prize wasn't problematic. Every woman generally wants to marry up and goes about looking for the best partner she can get. By definition, if you want better than yourself, doesn't that make what you're looking for, the prize?
I always wanted to ask, do women know good men out there. Is this before or after they realize they might've pushed one great guy away that one time.
Nothing in life is free there is no free lunch
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I didn’t like this interview at all. I met my husband in a similar way but I would neverrr talk about him the way Mr. Biles referred to his wife whether my husband was in the room or not. Jonathan didn’t sound like he appreciated Simone at all, he wasn’t proud of her, he sounded disgusted by her. Worse he looked so uncomfortable with her getting praise from the other men. That was clearly malice. I wish more older people would straighten him out, being a wife isn’t where the story ends. You have to live life together, protect each other IN PUBLIC and honor eachother in private. He majorly dropped the ball on his job as a husband in that interview. But of course everything is a joke in the black community and wives are the only ones who need to be called out when we’re not fulfilling our role🙃
He doesn't need to change anything.He's a Man not a Pet.He was Honest and straight forward.He didn't need to be Worshipping Her.Men go wrong whenever that sort of thing happens.He's stern and stoic.She chose Him.And She wasn't trying to change Him either.
It sounds like you didn't watch the full interview if that is your take. Plus they have been telling this same story for over a year.
@@heruapocalypse2021 excuses, excuses that have nothing to do with my comment. I wonder if ya’ll will ever defend Ayesha Curry this way.
@@thedukeofmiddleville I did see the interview. Everything he said was wrong. Y’all who stay stuck in denial are weird.
@@evaphillips2102 Or we are happily married? But that is weird for the majority of...
YOU ARE THE ONLY SISTA THAT SEE THINGS IN PROSPECTIVE BECAUSE ALL THE WOMEN CALLING SIMONE DESPERATE ARE BABY MAMAS AND SHE'S A WIFE. AT THERE WEDDING HE WAS THE ONE CRYING NOT HER
Nothing wrong with going the extra mile for someone showing reciprocity, and for someone showing how much they want you, admire you, desire you and love you. The problem is, he talks about her chasing him, how much she did for him, how much she wanted him and he didn't feel the same or tell anything he did for her back. I've been married 15 years happily and when dating my husband we did things for each other. I cooked for him, he went to the mosque with me, he took me to my first Japanese steak house, he bought flowers, we went to museums, art galleries, skating and all sorts of fun dates and I always felt desired and so did he. On top of him claiming he didn't know her, which is just crazy, he sounded like some pretty boy Simone eventually wore down, which is embarrassing to her. Why not express anything you did for her, if he did anything at all .
I still don’t understand why it is crazy that he didn’t know who she was.. I’ve been telling people that him not knowing who she was actually worked in his favor. I don’t believe SB wanted to be famous in her relationships.
Perhaps he didn't want to appear to be a simp. BM are quick to label expressions of love towards BW as simp behavior. His immaturity may also be playing a part - not being confident in his manhood which would be unfortunate. Now if all the backlash doesn't help him breakout of it, the relationship may be doomed
Excellent point@@juliatripp2010
Yall still digging into this video? Misery really does love company. This is why bw will always be last by every meaningful relationship metric.
I agree with him 100%!! He is the price. No need to sugar coat it. His delivery was fine.
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they will be divorcing soon give it a couple years he wasnt intrested in her at all which is why a whole nfl player that has a car didnt drive to see her hes also insecure and downplays who she is when he knew who she was from the jump a woman should never chase a man she also complains of how she still struggles to pay bills he is a red flag